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WEDDINGS by Vogue Rogue Spring 2021 I S S U E TIPS FOR STRESS FREE WEDDING PLANNING
WELCOME Intimate Micro Weddings are now in Vogue I am thrilled to share with you our very first issue of Vogue Rogue Weddings Spring 2021 magazine Many of you may have read an article about micro weddings but we think intimate micro weddings deserve more than just a one off article So we decided to produce a quarterly magazine dedicated to the art of the intimate micro wedding As you know there have been big changes in the wedding industry as a result of COVID 19 New rules about the size of gatherings left couples scrambling to save their wedding day from cancellation couples were looking for an alternative wedding option Some folks were under the impression that smaller weddings were a by product of the pandemic however I m here to tell you that while the pandemic has certainly highlighted and fast tracked the trend people were already embracing the idea of an intimate wedding Intimate micro weddings should never be thought of as an alternative or less than option But rather a deliberate choice to celebrate your wedding day in and elegant an meaningful way Big traditional weddings will never go out of style but if your looking for an exceptional wedding experience that is uniquely yours intimate and cost effective without compromise then a Micro Wedding may be right for you In this issue we have provided you with information and suggestions intended to help you weigh out your options I hope you will find it helpful when planning Your Special Day Your Way ian l l i G ce i r P Owner Principle Designer Vogue Rogue Weddings
CONTENTS 04 MICRO WEDDINGS DEFINED 05 WHAT SIZE ARE YOU 06 WHY HAVE A MICRO WEDDING 08 WHY EVERY BRIDE NEEDS A PLANNER COORDINATOR 11 WEDDING PLANNING ADVICE TO IGNORE 14 BEWARE OF WEDDING BRAIN 16 RULES FOR THE PERFECT INTIMATE WEDDING 20 TIPS FOR STRESS FREE WEDDING PLANNING 22 WEDDING TRADITIONS YESTERDAY TODAY TOMORROW
MICRO WEDDINGS DEFINED People are looking to celebrate their nuptials in a meaningful way without the endless to do lists that often accompany traditional weddings Micro weddings are the perfect solution as they are all about making it as easy as possible Also because more the one couple will be marrying in the same venue at different times of course the high cost items like venue rental and d cor are shared making it a smart and affordable option
Whether you are planning a grand event with hundreds of people or a small intimate gathering the size of your wedding will determine the amount of planning cost and time you need to invest Lets start with the size of wedding you envision Will it be a traditional wedding with over 100 guests or are you looking to experience a more intimate wedding Some of you may be asking what are the differences between Micro Intimate Traditional or a private Elopement weddings Micro weddings are different from Intimate Weddings An intimate or small wedding is generally considered to have between 30 and 60 guests A Micro Weddings has less than 20 guests Being smaller in size the wedding ceremony is usually cheaper more relaxed and shorter in length than a traditional wedding service It differs from both an elopement and an intimate wedding An Elopement Wedding is attended by just the couple marrying and two witnesses Why not have all the beauty of an intimate wedding instead of a business like ceremony at City Hall An intimate micro wedding can be celebrated just like a full wedding day with all the trimmings just on a smaller scale Are you Micro Wedding people If you answer yes to 3 or more of the following statements then you might be a candidate for an intimate micro wedding WHAT SIZE ARE YOU
WHO ARE MICRO WEDDING PEOPLE YOU RE FLEXIBLE AND LIKE TO GO WITH THE FLOW YOU VE NEVER BEEN BIG ON PLANNING YOU D RATHER HAVE A LAVISH HONEYMOON AND KEEP THE CEREMONY INTIMATE YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED RIGHT AWAY AND DON T WANT A LONG ENGAGEMENT YOU RE VERY BUSY AND DON T HAVE TIME TO PLAN A WEDDING OR OKAY EVERY DECISION WITH A VENDOR OR WEDDING COORDINATOR YOU FIND YOURSELF OVERWHELMED BY THE POTENTIAL GUEST LIST IF YOU ADHERE TO EVERYONE S WISHES YOU DAYDREAM ABOUT SIMPLY GOING DOWN TO CITY HALL BUT YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART THAT YOU STILL WANT DREAMY WEDDING PHOTOS LIKE THOSE YOU SEE ON INSTAGRAM OR PINTEREST Did you answer YES to 3 or more statements
WHY HAVE AMICRO WEDDING As soon as you say you re engaged family and friends are only too happy to help you with the wedding planning experiences They share their wedding including those things that they wished they had done differently We also thought we d throw our 2 cents in Here is our list of the pros and cons for a Micro Wedding PROS The reasons for having a small guest list vary hugely The most popular reasons are 1 You ll enjoy a more relaxed day 2 You can reduce the expense of a wedding and invest in your future build a nest egg 3 Its easy to personalize Your Day Your Way 4 You can spend more time with your guests 5 Your not restricted by timings 6 And if your the shy type there are less eyes on you
WHY EVERY BRIDE NEEDS A PLANNER COORDINATOR
Your wedding day is naturally one of the most important days of your life There are so many aspects that you need to focus on in order to bring it all together which is why this can be such a stressful period for brides Hiring a wedding planner can make this joyful time a little easier on your nerves They are also great for running interference last minute problem solving when needed Here are a few reasons why you should consider hiring a professional planner YOU VE NEVER DONE THIS BEFORE Chances are you and your fianc haven t planned a wedding before Even if you have there are always new and exciting trends venues and vendors popping up so it s never the same Some brides feel that they can plan their own weddings because they ve helped a sister or best friend plan theirs but planning your own wedding is completely different A professional wedding planner coordinator is the best person to guide you through this intricate process THE STRESS IS GETTING TO YOU Planning a wedding is harder than it looks and if you re already losing sleep over your massive to do list hiring a wedding planner coordinator can really make the entire process much more manageable and enjoyable for you You should be excited about your big day not stressed and tearful YOU RE UNSURE ABOUT THE COSTS INVOLVED If you re in the process of putting a budget together and would like some more guidance on what to expect based on your unique preferences a wedding specialist can be your guide A professional wedding planner can offer you great insights on industry norms and trends and what you can expect They will also help you stick to your budget
YOU NEED A PUSH START On average it takes 144 hours 11 months to plan a wedding Its a production A Wedding Planner Coordinator can help you get the ball rolling so that you can start making all the important decisions They ll help bring your vision together and take care of all the vendors and suppliers who can help bring your day to life YOU RE UNDER THE IMPRESSION YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER WILL HELP WITH PLANNING Yes a photographer can give you some guidance on the timing but they definitely won t be assisting you with any other coordination or wedding planning Your photographer will be able to tell you what time to start getting ready and how much time they ll need for family shots but they won t be able to bustle your dress before you walk down the aisle or make sure that the men s boutonnieres are pinned on properly this is what your wedding planner is for
WEDDING PLANNING ADVICE TO IGNORE There s a lot of advice out there for new brides tobe and it can be difficult to decide what advice to take and what to ignore If you re feeling overwhelmed with all of the advice you ve been reading and receiving here are a few wedding planning myths that you can toss aside A TALENTED FRIEND IS EXACTLY THE SAME AS A PROFESSIONAL This is especially relevant when it comes to choosing a photographer Just because you have a friend who takes amazing holiday photos doesn t mean they re prepared or skilled to capture your wedding day
EVERY DETAIL NEEDS TO BE PERFECT If you would prefer not to drive yourself mad before your wedding day leave perfection at the door Always always have a PLAN B ready just in case you need to quickly make changes i e your venue is outdoors and now its raining what do you do who s going to move all the chairs inside You ll be in a complete panic if you haven t determined what your alternate plan is PLAN B is the just as important as PLAN A the perfect wedding Your wedding doesn t need to be Pinterest perfect in order for it to be special and memorable DIY IS THE ONLY WAY While DIY is a great way to save money it isn t always the best route Sometimes it s better to pay a professional to assist you with aspects such as your cake catering and even some of your decorating
YOU WENT TO THEIR WEDDING SO THEY SHOULD BE INVITED TO YOURS There is absolutely no rule that says you have to invite every single person that invited you to their wedding This is your day and your budget so choose your guests wisely YOU SHOULD BE ENGAGED FOR AT LEAST ONE YEAR There is no rule that says you need to wait at least 365 days before you wed Your timing should be based on your personal preferences and your lives YOU NEED A BIG BRIDAL PARTY This is your wedding and if your future husband only wants his brother at his side on his wedding day while you want all five of your best friends that s ok Just be aware that adding people to your wedding party unnecessarily racks up unnecessary costs IT S OKAY TO GO INTO DEBT TO HAVE THE PERFECT WEDDING You do not have to start your married life with mountains of debt just so that you could have a magazine worthy wedding Decide what s most important to you as a couple and allocate your budget accordingly Invest in your future lifetime together and not a big one day party that will be over in the blink of an eye
BEWARE OF WEDDING BRAIN Weddings big or small are extremely emotional The simplest and smallest detail can become a big deal Believe me I speak from experience One day over a very large glass of red wine I will tell you about my daughters wedding I thought it would be a slam dunk after all this is what I do for a living Not
I learned first hand that even the most level headed person can become unreasonable As soon as you say wedding something takes over your brain s ability to think and act rationally Scientist s can t explain it The only thing they have come up with is a diagnosis called It just doesn t make sense CONs You need to be prepared and understand that everyone has your best interest at heart and wants to be a part of your big day Don t be surprised if you encounter push back from friends or family There will be those guests who don t make the guest list and can feel hurt by your decision to have just 20 people at your big day You have to be really confident that an intimate wedding is the right decision for you otherwise you may start feeling guilty about the people who are upset by your choice Regardless of the reasons it s absolutely not something that should stop you from having an intimate wedding but it is something to be aware of
RULES FOR the PERFECT INTIMATE WEDDING
IS THE GUEST LIST BIG ENOUGH Are there more than 20 people that you would have on your dream wedding guest list Put aside the obligations you might feel to invite people s partners and extended family members If you can t narrow down your list to less than 20 a micro wedding might not be for you Don t ignore this rule as you ll regret it if you desperately wish a couple of other friends were there on the day
DECIDE ON YOUR MUST HAVES If you go ahead with a micro wedding write a list of nonnegotiables that you want at your wedding You and your partner should each get to say three things that you won t compromise on It could be live music an amazing photographer you ve been following on Instagram a top shelf open bar an outdoor ceremony a delicious meal your dream wedding dress providing accommodation for all your guests a beautiful cake or flower installation You ll likely be working with a smaller budget so prioritize the important things CHOOSE THE APPROPRIATE VENUE A large venue saying they are happy to do small weddings may not be the right thing You do not want to feel lost in a setting that feels too big and amplifies the small numbers You need somewhere just right with plenty of space for everybody to relax but the right proportions for the intimate atmosphere to be created Because of the small number of guests your venue staff need to blend in and be unobtrusive Visit the venue meet the coordinators imagine how you want your day to flow and the atmosphere you want to create Go with your gut feeling of whether you can picture your day there
WEAR WHAT FEELS RIGHT Want a 5 000 dress Do it Want to wear a gown costing 250 Also fine The size of your wedding is no indicator of how lavish you can go with the things that matter If that s a dress go for it but if the dress doesn t matter don t feel like you re wearing anything less wedding worthy fortune just because you didn t pay a Feeling special comfortable and confident in is paramount
TIPS FOR STRESS FREE WEDDING PLANNING LEARN TO SAY NO Planning a wedding is exciting and fun but it can also be one of the busiest times of your life If you don t want to end up being a nervous wreck before your wedding day learn to prioritize and say no to any new commitments that would take away from other important wedding related tasks BECOME THE QUEEN OF ORGANIZATION The more organized you are the better your wedding planning experience will be Keep a digital copy of all your important documents contracts and information in one file on your computer so you can easily refer back to them when you need to
HAVE A LITTLE FUN There s no need for you to be a frazzled bride Take out your calendar and schedule a few fun days between all your wedding planning Make fun and laughter a priority in the weeks leading up to your wedding Sometimes it s important to come back down to earth and remember why you re choosing to marry your partner Or perhaps go out and enjoy an afternoon with the girls where you don t talk about the wedding at all MOVE YOUR BODY Exercise does wonders when you ve got a lot on your plate Sometimes you need to take a breather and focus on your health This doesn t mean that you need to schedule an hour at the gym every day either If you re strapped for time a simple 15 20 minute walk or yoga session can make all the difference to your stress and energy levels JUST BREATH Take a complete timeout from wedding planning as often as you need to Every bride deserves a relaxing soak in the tub or a heavenly hot stone massage to relieve some of the tension she might be feeling It can be difficult to make time to simply relax but do your best to find the time even if it s just 30 minutes a week
WEDDING TRADITIONS YESTERDAY TODAY TOMORROW The famous wedding recipe derives from the Old English rhyme which names the four good luck objects plus a sixpence a bride should include somewhere in her wedding outfit or carry with her on her wedding day According to Reader s Digest the rhyme came about in the Victorian era from Lancashire a county in England Most of the ingredients in the rhyme are meant to ward off the Evil Eye which according to Reader s Digest was a curse passed through a malicious glare that could make a bride infertile Something Old Was a sure way to ward off the Evil Eye and protect any future children the couple might have the Evil Eye was thought to cause infertility in the bride yikes But more generally and on a more lighthearted note something old represents continuity and contemporary couples use this as a chance to wear a sentimental piece of jewelry Have you ever wondered where todays traditions come from We thought it would be fun to highlight old wedding traditions Let s start with Something Old Something New Something Borrowed and Something Blue a Sixpence in your Shoe Something New Offers optimism for the future The couple is about to enter into a new chapter in life so walking into marriage with something new makes total sense
Something Borrowed The old fashioned superstition urged the bride to borrow the undergarments of a female friend or relative with a happy marriage and healthy kids again with the fertility thing But of course today it s all about honoring a loved one or holding onto something of sentimental value like your grandmother s wedding hair comb your mother s diamond earrings or his grandmothers lace hankie for a touch of good luck as you say your I dos Something Blue While wearing or carrying something blue was also meant to deflect that pesky Evil Eye the color blue stands for love purity and fidelity three key qualities for a solid marriage The traditional something blue was often a blue garter worn beneath the bride s white dress But you don t have to wear something blue to ward off wicked spirits Sprinkle blue clematis into the bouquet pick out a gorgeous pair of blue pumps find a powder blue bow tie or use blue ribbon to tie your invitation suites together just because you feel like it
Sixpence in Your Shoe The sixpence is the final ingredient in the old rhyme This British coin is meant to represent prosperity for the couple as they start their lives together Traditionally the father of the bride presents her with the sixpence or the penny just before she walks down the aisle as a gift of good luck Some brides make this token extra special by using a penny from the year they were born or the year they met their one and only While the Evil Eye is a thing of the past this little wedding rhyme can be an entertaining tradition to follow at your wedding in whatever way works for you Have fun with it as you put the finishing touches on your Special Day
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