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Message RebelRebelRebelWorkshop SeriesWorkshop SeriesWorkshop SeriesThe Not so SubtleThe Not so SubtleThe Not so Subtle Art of NegotiationArt of NegotiationArt of Negotiation Scene Zines!Scene Zines!

- Zine (pronounced - ZEEN)- Short, small batch, self-published formsof self expression.- Cover any topic and may include art,poetry, collage, photos, comics, tutorials,fan-fic, politics, activism, day to daythoughts, puzzles, scavenger hunts…reallyanything you want.- Made out of any material, include stamps,stickers, pieces of other publications, otherrepurposed material, anything that you’reinspired to include.- They can even be created completelydigitaly (like this one) and printed out orshared online!- To be a zine, the maker must identify thepublished product as a zine.- The only rule of zines is that there are norules.What are Zines?

- Zines have a rich history of DIY productionand distribution.- Independent and self published works havebeen around since the advent of the printingpress!- Zine-like self-publications have played akey part in many acts of resistance, inlcudingmovements like the American Revolution!- The term Zine is actually short for ‘Fanzine’which was initially popularized in the 30's and40's Sci-Fi scenes when fans who weredisappointed with the bad writing of the erabegan to make their own fan created magazines-Fanzines!- The use of Zines boomed in the 70's & 80’s punkmovements as a way to subvert the establishmentand share messages and information. And againin the 90’s feminist punk movement riot grrrl!- Traditionally Zines have been created byamateurs, generally rooted in lived experienceas opposed to traditionally accepted expertiseand ideologically constructive.A brief history

- Zines tend to represent people on thefringe and provide space for marginalizedvoices and stories that struggle to beheard within traditional publishing andmedia: you can write, print, anddistribute whatever you need to say, nopermission required. And don’t we need that right F*ing NOW!- Generally considered anti-establishmentand complicating and queering boundaries,Zines are a very Punk and Queer mediumthat challenge us to think about authorityin differing contexts.- Breaking away from dominant ways ofgenerating, assessing and distributingknowledge and ideas, allowing us tochannel our thoughts creatively into artis Queer and Punk AF!- This queer and punky medium also makesfor fun and creative ways to sharepersonal information and preferences inrelationship and kink spaces.Why are Zines important?

Let’s Talk About CONSENT!CONSENT!Clear, informed, explicit consent is crucial for EVERY scene! This istrue regardless of whether you are with a new partner or a longterm partner.For CONSENT to be authentic and valid it must adhere to specificcriteria. To help you remember you can use the acronym FRIES!F: Freely given! Each individual is consenting freely without fear of coercion,persuasion, force, and without fear of reprisals, unwantedconsequences were they to say no. This includes but is not limitedto, pouting, judgement, passive aggression, retaliatory behaviours.R: Revokable! Each individual is free to revoke their consent and put and end tothe scene at any time.I: Informed! 3 Criteria here - Disclosure of all information, Be capable ofconsenting (sober & sound mind), Voluntary in natureE: Enthusiastic / Engaged! Each individual is enthusiastic /engaged in the collaborativecreation and execution of this experience and not participatingbecause they feel obligated.S: Specific! Each individual understands and has agreed to the specifics ofwhat is and is not on the table.

Let’sCRAFTY!GetWhether you're looking to negotiate pick upWhether you're looking to negotiate pick upplay at a club or dungeon space, starting initialplay at a club or dungeon space, starting initialtalks with a new intimate partner, ortalks with a new intimate partner, orintroducing something new into an existingintroducing something new into an existingrelationship these pocket sized relationship these pocket sized Scene ZinesScene Zinesare great negotiation tools that can be givenare great negotiation tools that can be givento potential or current play partners, or evento potential or current play partners, or evenjust for yourself, as a super fun and creativejust for yourself, as a super fun and creativeway to share your desires, preferences, limits,way to share your desires, preferences, limits,concerns, aftercare needs andconcerns, aftercare needs and SAFEWORDSSAFEWORDS!!Plus it gives you a great reference to go backPlus it gives you a great reference to go backto reflect on the experience later!!to reflect on the experience later!! PUNK! PUNK!But Make it With Scene Zines!With Scene Zines!With Scene Zines!

What is a scene?What is a scene?When we talk about a scene, what we arereferring to the container within which weagree to play. It includes all the who, what,when, where, why, for how long, how we wantto feel beginning, during, and after. Though we often hear this term in connectionwith kink/BDSM or other less mainstreamrelationships, it applies to all relationships nomatter how vanilla. Scenes do not have to be about or involve sex.Scenes do not have to be about or involve kink,The word experience could easily be usedinstead.I use scene because, drawing from thatconnection to kink, it brings with it a strongexpectation and importance of NEGOTIATION!Negotiating our scenes/experiences is theFOUNDATION FOR INFORMED CONSENT!!

To Negotiate your Scene?To Negotiate your Scene?Ready for a fun new wayReady for a fun new wayNegotiationNegotiation is the foundation on is the foundation onwhich we build really great scenes!which we build really great scenes!While this conversation can takeWhile this conversation can takemany forms, personal negotiationmany forms, personal negotiationchecklists/guides are a common tool tochecklists/guides are a common tool toensure informed consent is obtainedensure informed consent is obtainedfor all the who, what, when, where,for all the who, what, when, where,why, and how of it all.why, and how of it all. Of course some feel sitting down andOf course some feel sitting down andactually writing it all down feels like workactually writing it all down feels like workand takes some of the romance, intrigue orand takes some of the romance, intrigue orfun out of it.fun out of it.But it definitely doesn’t have to beBut it definitely doesn’t have to bethat way!that way!

What do you want to put inyour container?

CONSENT - The right to say yes or no, andto change your mind at any time.1.NON_EXPLOITATION - The right to be safefrom coercion & power differentials.2.HONESTY: The right to be truthful withyourself and your partners.3.SHARED VALUES: Consider whether yourvalues are compatible with your partner’s4.PREVENTION: Information and educationabout STI’s, HIV, and unintendedpregnancy.5.PLEASURE: Giving and receiving of pleasureis prioritized!6.6 Principles of Sexual HealthFood for thought.These six sexual health principlesethical framework applies for positive,responsible, and pleasurable sexualinteractions. The principles build offeach other, but are equally important.

Hi, I’m Erin (She/Her), The Relationship Rebel!Hi, I’m Erin (She/Her), The Relationship Rebel!I am a Kink Informed Relationship Coach, in theI am a Kink Informed Relationship Coach, in theprocess of obtaining Certification in Sex &process of obtaining Certification in Sex &Relationship Coaching, Sexuality Consulting andRelationship Coaching, Sexuality Consulting andSexology through the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA).Sexology through the Sexual Health Alliance (SHA).I am Queer, Bisexual, Polyamorous, Kinky, Neuro-I am Queer, Bisexual, Polyamorous, Kinky, Neuro-Spicy, Fat and a Parent. I believe that everyone isSpicy, Fat and a Parent. I believe that everyone isdeserving of pleasure, and that access todeserving of pleasure, and that access tocomprehensive, inclusive, and intersectionalcomprehensive, inclusive, and intersectionalsexuality education, information and support is asexuality education, information and support is afundamental human right!fundamental human right! About The Relationship RebelAbout The Relationship RebelAbout The Relationship RebelScene Zines MakingScene Zines MakingScene Zines Making w/ w/ w/ The Relationship Rebel!The Relationship Rebel!The Relationship Rebel!Have feedback on the workshop?Interested in working with me? Want my Rebel Yell! Zine delivered to your inbox?Connect with me @heyrebel.coaching@gmail.comThank you for attendingThank you for attendingThank you for attending