Safety and Order

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SAFETY AND ORDER

A POWERFUL CONVERSATION BETWEEN

TISSOR AND EMMAR

Πissor began:

Emmar, think of a situation where you have been

tasked to build a road network for a new city under

construction. Forget about your engineering school training

and assume for a second you are pondering how to properly

design this network of roads, so it is effective and safe.

In your confusion, you visit your mother who you have not

seen in 2 years. While over at mum’s she notices you have

something weighing heavily on your mind.

She probes as expected of any good mother.

You are hesitant to tell her because you are thinking she is

not in the position to help you with your engineering

problems.

You continue to think hard and deep regarding how you are

going to achieve the stipulations of your project. You

understand perfectly the magnitude of the challenge that lies

ahead of you.

Roads are different from any other kind of engineering

projects. Almost all other works of engineering are designed

for static uses.

Roads are different.

They are designed to be fluid and to be used by fast moving

vehicles. The design and construction of a road must be done

right otherwise chaos through accidents and fatalities will

occur often.

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A wrong design will destroy the very thing the road is meant

to establish:

Safe and orderly movement of the people it was designed

for.

Failure to get it right will create pain and suffering for many

who make the unfortunate mistake of getting on that thing

you put together.

The more you think about it the more perplexed you become.

This project which excited you when you first receive it has

suddenly turned into an albatross hanging around your neck

as you ponder the magnitude of your responsibility.

Your mother continues to probe you until you grow weary,

so you tell her your professional troubles.

She smiles and does not utter a word.

Later that day during dinner, she begins to speak.

She enquires about the design requirements of your road

network.

You answer her.

You explain to her the most important considerations:

1. The roads must be safe in order to prevent

unnecessary accidents and deaths.

2. They must be designed to be convenient and free

flowing to minimize traffic jams.

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She looks at you with a gentle smile and says: “I cannot

believe you are overthinking something so simple.”

You look at her in amazement and wonder, “simple? What

do you mean by so simple? Do you understand what is at

stake here? Do you even understand the safety implications

and the potential for chaos if I get this wrong?”

She continues to look at you and then she continues;

I do not have any engineering background but if you

ask me how to design roads for vehicles to move safely

without chaos, I can tell you how to do it.

I can simplify it for you right now son, for I can visualize in

my mind how such a feat might easily be accomplished.

Once I explain to you, it is up to you to use your engineering

training to translate what I tell you into technical terms.

First and foremost, your roads cannot have equal

prominence.

When you have any two of your roads crossing at any given

point, you must assign greater prominence to one of them.

If you assign equal prominence to both, there will be

inevitable chaos for the vehicles which ply those roads will

crush perpetually and persistently at that intersection.

You must assign greater prominence to one of the roads so

that the vehicles which ply that road always have the right of

way when they arrive at the spot where the other road meets.

The vehicles on the other road must wait, for they ply a less

prominent road.

They must wait until the vehicles on the more prominent

road have safely passed the intersection before the vehicles

on the less prominent road can cross.

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It does not matter if the vehicle on the less prominent road

gets to the intersection first.

Even if the vehicle on the less prominent road is closer to the

intersection where the two roads meet and yet going through

the intersection risks a collision with the vehicle plying the

road assigned greater prominence, the vehicle which is

closer to the intersection must wait for the one further away

from the intersection but which travels on the road assigned

greater prominence to safely cross that intersection.

The vehicle on the prominent road even though further from

the intersection, must cross first and do so with any other

vehicles which are immediately behind them.

They must all cross safely before the vehicle which got there

first is given the opportunity to cross the same intersection.

That is one way to avoid chaos and ensure the safety of those

who ply the roads you are about to design and build.

Why would it prevent chaos?

It would because only the roads are assigned the superior and

inferior tag, not the vehicles or the people who drive those

vehicles.

Just as a child patiently awaits their turn to become an adult

and enjoy the things that only adults have access to, so the

drivers of those vehicles which ply the road assigned lesser

prominence will be patient with the understanding that if

they find themselves on the more prominent road, they will

be accorded the same courtesy they are required to accord

other vehicles when they are on the less prominent road.

Alternately, if your sense of ‘fairness’ kicks against the idea

of one road perpetually being subservient to another, you

could look into putting some kind of controls or signals at

the points where your roads meet.

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The signals you put at these points should be setup so that

they control who has the right of way at any given time.

Doing so will alternate prominence and subservience to the

roads that intersect at that point. Your control or signal

should never assign simultaneously, the right of way to

vehicles heading to the same spot otherwise they will collide

and create chaos.

It is however ok for you to assign equal prominence and

simultaneous right of way to vehicles heading towards the

same intersection from different roads as long as they are not

headed in the same direction and there is no danger of the

vehicles colliding with each other.

If you decide to use such a signal to ensure the safety and

orderliness on the roads you design, there again you must

understand that there would be times when a vehicle which

gets to the intersection first would be stopped by your signal.

That vehicle would be made to wait while another vehicle

much further away on the other road would be given access

to cross that very intersection before the vehicle which got

there first.

Whether you choose my first suggestion of irrevocably

assigning greater prominence to one road over another or

you choose to alternate prominence through the use of

signals, you will be able to achieve orderliness and safety but

what you will not achieve is perfect fairness.

For there will always arise a situation where some must wait

for those who came after them to bypass and continue on

their journey before those who got there first are given the

same access.

I know your most important considerations as you design

your roads are safety and order. If you make all roads equal

and provide all of them with simultaneous rights of way at

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any given time, you will defeat the very thing you seek to

accomplish.

Chaos will be inevitable in that situation.

Instead, find a way through your design, to provide all users

of your road a pathway to priority and prominence, while

understanding that simultaneous dominance and subjugation

will be the natural order of the roads on which they travel.

This understanding will obviate the need for anyone to

regard noncompliance of your rules, the rules you set to

govern your road network as the only path available to them

in achieving that which they seek; which is get to their

destination in a timely and orderly manner.

People will revolt when they find no clear path to their

destination. They are more likely to be compliant and follow

your rules even if those rules are not immediately beneficial

to them as long as those rules serve to allow everyone a

pathway to their destination, wherever that destination might

be.

Therefore son, another consideration you must bear in mind

as you design and build your roads is to allow vehicles which

might find themselves traveling behind a slower vehicle, the

unobstructed opportunity to pass the slower vehicle that is

ahead.

Each vehicle plying your roads will move at their own pace.

As is the natural order of all things in this world, no vehicle

will lag throughout its journey to whatever the destination is

that it journeys, neither will any vehicle stay ahead of all

other vehicles during the course of its journey.

All vehicles from the time they set off from their base

towards their destination, will find themselves lagging,

leading or in between other vehicles. It is a long road.

Many things will happen along the way. They must all

share the same road that you design even though they move

at their own pace and journey to different destinations.

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Let not the vehicle which finds itself at the front of the line

forever get in the way or prevent the vehicles behind from

bypassing, if the vehicles behind desire to move at a faster

pace.

Wherever possible, provide the vehicles behind, a lane that

will permit them to pass the slower leading vehicle. If you

cannot provide the avenue of an extra lane due to space

considerations, please understand that you must provide the

extra lane as soon as space allows you to do so.

Failure to provide the avenue of an extra lane to facilitate the

by-passing of slower leading vehicles by faster moving

vehicles from behind, will breed chaos, compromise safety,

and defeat the orderliness which you desire to achieve in the

roads you create.

Son, I hope you understand that the lives of many people will

be at stake on the roads you create.

EMOTIONS WILL BE TESTED DAILY ON THE ROADS

People will get to know themselves in ways they probably

never did. Five attributes, call them emotion discovery if you

choose, will be forged on the roads you create.

The people who excel rather than unravel in these five

attributes I am about to talk to you about will find themselves

in a much better place and enjoy life in a much broader

perspective than what you might imagine.

The first attribute that will be forged on your roads is Self-

awareness. The drivers who use the roads you are about to

design will become more conscious of themselves and the

things which upset them.

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When a driver finds himself or herself at an intersection and

yet have to wait for another vehicle on the other road to come

from a mile away and cross that same intersection while the

signal you created to maintain order and safety makes them

wait, the first driver will become aware of their own feelings.

The first driver will suddenly become aware of what it feels

like when someone comes from behind to take from them

that which was within their grasp.

When a driver is hard pressed for time and must get to their

destination within a certain time or risk missing an important

deadline; when that driver finds herself on a stretch of road

where you do not provide an avenue for faster vehicles to

bypass slower leading vehicles, the driver who is hard

pressed for time will surely become aware of what happens

to them when they feel stuck and helpless in a situation.

There will be times when drivers consciously decide to

disregard the rules you have set in place for your roads.

These errant drivers who on their own volition, decide not to

follow the rules will create dangerous situations not just for

themselves, but all other drivers who share the same road.

When a driver operates dangerously and cuts off other

drivers, the driver who is the victim of the dangerous

circumstances created by the recalcitrant driver will

suddenly become aware of what happens to them

emotionally when others do not follow the rules and create

unnecessary inconvenience for them as a result of the bad

decisions of the undisciplined party.

As the drivers who use your roads become self-aware, they

must learn to Self-regulate themselves. Can you imagine

what will happen if a faster vehicle decides to pass the slower

vehicles ahead even though there is no avenue provided to

do so?

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What will happen if a driver gets to an intersection and is

required to wait, but insists on going through the intersection

before any other vehicle just because the first vehicle arrived

at that intersection prior to all the others?

If traveling a particular road makes a driver upset due to

circumstances which more often than not repeat themselves,

circumstances such as unnecessary traffic jams, the driver of

that vehicle must learn to use alternate routes to avoid

putting themselves through the unpleasant situations.

Being aware of things which upset them and likely to ignite

out-of-character behavior is essential, but the ability to

regulate behavior and all other things necessary to eliminate

or at the very least mitigate those unpleasant things is critical

to those who will use your roads.

Empathy will be forged on the roads which you build.

There will be times when vehicles with the right of way must

wait because another vehicle carrying a sick, infirm or

injured person needs to get to a medical facility in a timely

manner.

Interpersonal skills will be on display on the roads you

create. You will see the way people react when others upset

them on the road. Hard lessons will be learned by many.

A driver who disrespects another, only to get to their

destination and find out the driver who was disrespected just

pulled up as well and happens to be the same person who

invited the disrespectful driver for a job interview. That is

when the disrespectful driver suddenly wishes they listened

to their mother when she told them in their youth to be nice

to strangers.

You will see how drivers treat other drivers.

You will see drivers who show great courtesy and respect for

other drivers.

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Drivers who follow the rules as you have set, and who even

go the extra mile to do more than just follow your rules.

Such drivers will do everything within their power to avert

situations which might result in danger to themselves or

others, even if the rules you have set permits them the right

of way.

If these drivers have the right of way based on the rules you

have set, and yet the insistence on that right of way based on

the letter of your rules might lead to a dangerous situation

for themselves or others, they will back off in the interest of

safety rather than insist on their right.

Such users will typically not litter the roads for they respect

not only themselves, but others, so much so that they will not

knowingly do anything to make others uncomfortable.

Finally, your roads will forge Motivation in those who ply

them. Users will be motivated to find the best route to their

destinations. These drivers must motivate themselves first,

and then they must learn to motivate others to use the roads

consistently with the rules you have set.

By following the rules themselves, these drivers will

mitigate the opportunity for chaos.

By themselves following the rules and promoting

orderliness, other users of the road will be more inclined to

do the same and follow the rules. Therefore, a vehicle which

is at the front of the road and yet finds itself unable to move

fast enough in a stretch where there is no extra lane for the

vehicles behind to pass, the slower vehicle in the front must

learn to pull to the side and let the faster vehicles get by from

behind.

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Doing so will diminish the stirring of a negative kind of

motivation in the drivers of the lagging vehicles.

Motivation which might lead the vehicles in the back to

flout the rules with the view of doing the necessary to give

themselves a chance to address being stuck perpetually

behind the slow vehicle which is ahead of them and which

is holding them back.

After you have designed your roads and put in place a

workable system to prevent chaos and promote safety, there

are some matters that will arise which I want to touch on

briefly.

These matters are not intrinsic to your work and what is

within your control. The only reason I bring this up is to open

your eyes hopefully to understand one thing:

The purpose of your road is to provide a safe passage for

drivers to maneuver their vehicles safely from one point of

origin to another point. A destination.

Vehicles are going to join and exit your network of roads at

different times. Same road, but each vehicle has a different

path they must travel.

Some will travel longer than others.

Some will join the road very briefly and quickly exit.

Others will travel for what seems like eternity.

To each their own destination.

That is the beauty of what you are about to build; provide an

avenue for people to get to their destinations.

As long as the users of your road get to their destination alive

and well, your mission is accomplished.

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Now, an interesting thing that will happen on your roads;

some cars will break down and will have to rely on a tow

truck to get them to their destination. No one wants to have

to rely on a tow truck but there again, if a tow truck is how

someone gets to their destination, so be it.

They arrived home and that is what matters.

Some people will not have access to tow trucks when they

experience vehicular break downs.

Such people will call friends or family to help get them to

their destination.

As long as it works out and they get to where they need to

go; that is all that matters.

Some people will experience minor accidents. The vehicles

they drive will experience damage, part of their vehicles may

hang about loosely, the vehicle may develop a crackling

sound which is very uncomfortable, but if the driver

manages to get to their destination, that is all that matters.

Destruction of the vehicle is not destruction of the driver.

Some drivers will get home sooner than they anticipated.

Others will take longer to get to their destination than they

originally anticipated.

Sometimes drivers will get lost and lose their bearings.

Home is home as long as the drivers eventually get there.

Never mind the time it took for them to get there.

Rejoice when you get there.

Expectedly or unexpectedly.

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FUEL STATION OWNERS

There will be times when vehicles need to veer off the road

to recharge.

This is where fuel station operators come into the picture.

The job of the fuel station operator is to help the drivers of

the vehicles to get to their destination in one piece, wherever

that destination might be.

All drivers will be safe once they get home.

This is where it gets interesting:

Two cars veer off the road to recharge.

The two cars look exactly the same.

They are almost indistinguishable.

They have the same color, same shape, same design.

Everything about them looks the same except the fuel

needed to keep their engines running.

One vehicle is designed to consume petrol.

The other one is designed to consume diesel.

Why?

It is none of your business.

It is a befuddling sight I must admit, but any questions you

have regarding the unusual spectacle need to be directed to

the engineer who built the cars.

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Only the engineer knows what went through their mind

when they decided to build similar cars with different fuel

specifications.

If you are the fuel station owner, your job is to provide the

fuel the cars need so they might get to their destinations in

one piece.

Your job is not to arrogate unto yourself the authority to

determine what fuel the vehicles need. If you want to provide

only one kind of fuel, fine.

End it there. It is your prerogative to do so.

Do not create problems for those whose vehicles are not

designed to consume the fuel you offer. Doing so is

wickedness, for you hamper the safe passage of the very

people you established your business to help.

In matters like that, you do yourself a great disservice by

bothering the drivers of the vehicles. If you cannot help them

fill their tanks and get to their destination, please do not get

in the way.

For if you insist that both cars consume petrol because of

their likeness, or you insist both consume diesel because that

is what you expect to see, you err greatly.

Get out of the fuel business if you cannot help motorists get

to their destinations in one piece.

I know not one fuel station owner who ever designed a road;

why act as though you know where all roads lead?

HYPOCRITES!!!!!!!!!!

You know not where they are headed and where home is for

those traveling, so stop getting in their way.

You have no clue why they left home in the first place and

why they journey on the road so do not act as one who knows

all things for you know not a thing!

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LOVE, by serving them and show courtesy and your work is

done!

Just as the work of a fuel service owner is important, it is just

as crucial to understand many other professions work in the

service of those who ply the road.

Times will arise when fire service personnel will be required

to travel the road to take care of an emergency. In times like

that, do not point fingers at the fire service for running red

lights or traveling faster than the speed limit of the road

stipulates.

Shut up.

You do not work in the fire service.

Stop reminding everyone regarding the speed limits and stop

signs.

Concentrate on following the letter of the rules yourself.

Leave others alone.

Nurses, teachers, politicians, businesswomen and men, all

manner of people will use the road.

Let not the nurse point fingers at the doctors, let not the

doctors point fingers at the teachers. Let the teachers not

point fingers at the businesspeople.

To each, their own responsibility and tactics.

Just because you have not been educated or trained to

understand another’s profession; just because you are not

trained to skillfully use a surgical knife to do good instead of

harm; just because you have not been granted the training to

walk into fire and walk out unscathed does not mean you

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throw stones at those to whom that training and abilities have

been granted.

Do that which your skill and training permit you to do and

keep quiet on matters on which you only have a cursory

understanding if any at all so that all may get home safe at

the end of a hard day’s work.

For if the doctor stops performing surgery and instead is

worried about how the businesswoman is conducting her

business; if the teacher stops teaching and instead worries

about how the nurse is attending to the sick; if the driver

takes their eyes off the road and instead gets fixated by the

gardener on the side of the road, chaos will be inevitable.

No one gets home safely.

Many have made the error of thinking they are protecting

safety and order by pursuing and enforcing meaningless

traditions only to propagate chaos in that which they seek to

protect.

The only people that should be taken off the road are those

under the influence of intoxicants; drunk and unfit drivers;

those who blatantly disregard safety and order by over

speeding, as well as those who run through intersections for

no justifiable reason when they are required to stop.

Such drivers have no business driving on the road for they

endanger not only themselves, but all others who share the

road with them.

That is it.

Choice of vehicle or type of fuel should never be a reason to

eliminate or prevent a driver from getting to their

destination.

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It is ok to specify lanes for types of vehicles depending on

capacity and speed requirements as long as those

specifications do not hamper but instead serve to help

facilitate all vehicles to get home.

May your roads not only make those who use them safe, but

may they teach Self-awareness, Self-regulation, Empathy,

Interpersonal Skills and Motivation to all who use them.

And with that, your mother, the woman with no engineering

background, gives you her two cents on how to proceed with

your deep engineering dilemma.

The dilemma which has plagued you for many days.

“What do you tell her after she concludes? What are your

thoughts Emmar?”

The man with PI inscribed on his hands asked me.

“Of course I will thank her profusely. I will, on my own

accord, award her an engineering degree.” I continued

jokingly. “I am yet to come across a professor who broke it

down so cogently, so I will thank her and let her know how

impressed I am with her deep insight on the matter,” I added.

“What about apologizing to her for discounting and taking

her wisdom for granted, and refusing to listen to her advice

anytime she has freely offered it?” Πissor asked.

I could sense he was up to some mischief based on the smirk

on his face, so I just stared at him and decided not to utter a

word.

“Do you have a bathroom I can use for a minute?” He

asked.

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“The door on your right is the bathroom. Please help

yourself,” I replied while pointing to the door.

As he made his way through the door to use the restroom,

my alarm went off and I woke up.

It was 6 am.