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WRITING YOUR VOWShello@officiallyoaks.com • officiallyoaks.com • @officiallyoaksOFFICIALLY OAKSLuxury Professional Wedding OfficiantsPICKING JUST A FEW PROMISES TO SUM UP YOUR ENTIRE RELATIONSHIP ISDIFFICULT, BUT YOU’RE NEVER ALONE IN THIS PROCESS. AS YOU CAPTURE INWORDS WHAT IT IS THAT MAKES YOUR LOVE AND YOUR PARTNER SO SPECIAL,PLEASE FEEL WELCOME TO USE THESE PIECES OF ADVICE: Agree on tone with your partner. Do you envision your vows as humorous,sentimental, a mixture of both, or a vibe all your own?1. Agree on whether or not you want to keep your vows a secret from one anotheruntil the ceremony.In our experience, the ceremony is all the moreimpactful andemotionalif you're hearing your partner’s vows for the first time. 2. Agree on format. Typically, the bride presents her vows, followed by the groom.Will your vows be parallel in structure or completely different? Some couples do alittle of each.3. Consider sharing personal stories. Everyone loves to hear about how two peoplein love first met. Even if your friends and family have already heard your story, thisis the perfect place to retell it.4. Consider acknowledging the support you'll need from others. You've gatheredyour friends and family to celebrate your wedding, and they will be there for youjust as much during your marriage.5. Consider going for laughter.You make your significant other smile and laugh outloud throughout life, so what makes your wedding ceremony any different?6. Consider avoiding words like "always" and "never."Life’s not easy, and your vowsare your promises to one another. You don't need to promise perfection.7. Consider shortening your vows to one to two minutes.Take your time. Enjoy themoment. There’s value to making every word count.8. Don’t forget the presentation.Make a fresh copy of your vows for the ceremony,or consider reading them fromvow booksthat your officiant can hold until it's time.9. Be sure to say "I love you."10.
What did you think when you first met?When did you realize you were in love?How has your partner made your life better?What do you miss most when you are apart?How has your worldview changed since you met?Where do you see yourselves in 10, 20, and 40 years?What will keep your marriage, relationship, and friendship strong?Is there a quote from a movie, song, book, or poem that says it all?What are you most looking forward to in your married life together?What promises can you make to solidify your commitment to your partner?WRITING YOUR VOWShello@officiallyoaks.com • officiallyoaks.com • @officiallyoaksOFFICIALLY OAKSLuxury Professional Wedding OfficiantsSTILL STUCK? HERE ARE SOME QUESTIONS TO GET YOU THINKING ABOUT THESTORIES AND PROMISES YOU MIGHT WANT TO INCLUDE IN YOURPERSONALIZED VOWS:FINALLY, SOME COUPLES FORGO WRITING OR PUBLICLY READING PERSONAL VOWS. SOME WISH TO SHARE THEIR VOWS PRIVATELY. OTHERS WISH TO AVOID GETTING TOOEMOTIONAL ON THE BIG DAY. WHATEVER YOUR REASONING, HERE IS AN EXAMPLE OF ACLASSIC SET OF VOWS, SHOULD YOU CHOOSE TO FORGO WRITING YOUR OWN. “I, Luke take you Caren - to be my wedded wife - to have and to hold fromthis day forward - for better or for worse - for richer or for poorer - insickness and in health - until death do us part.”
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