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The Enneagram Institute Riso Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator RHETI v2 5 Test Taker Michaela Dotsch Email Address michaela dotsch gmail com Date of Test 2018 05 26 UTC Enneagram Type Score Type 6 The Loyalist 24 Type 9 The Peacemaker 24 Type 2 The Helper 23 Type 4 The Individualist 14 Type 5 The Investigator 13 Type 8 The Challenger 13 Type 1 The Reformer 12 Type 3 The Achiever 12 Type 7 The Enthusiast 9 Results Overview Thank you for taking the Riso Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator RHETI Version 2 5 Your scores for each of the nine Enneagram types are on the above chart and Expanded Type Descriptions for your highest scores are included in your results Your highest score was a tie between Type 6 Type 9 Type 2 Your primary Enneagram personality type is most likely the highest of these scores and almost certainly among the highest two or three 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

For additional information you may want to read How to Interpret your Results and consult our Misidentifications section for help with comparing the types You may also find it helpful to go over your test results and the personality descriptions with someone who knows you well Ultimately there is no substitute for self reflection Please carefully read the Expanded Type Descriptions of your top types and reflect on which one you identify with the most If you have not yet discovered your Instinctual Stack we offer a test that can help you do so The Instinctual Variant Questionnaire IVQ v2 0 will help you understand the role that all three Instincts play in your life Once you have discovered your Instinctual Stack you can understand your Enneagram type with even more depth and clarity If you ever have any questions or need assistance please contact support enneagraminstitute com Best Wishes The Enneagram Institute 3355 US Highway 209 Stone Ridge NY 12484 Phone 845 687 9878 Toll free in the USA 888 366 3247 Fax 845 687 7486 Normal office hours Mon Fri 9 00am 4 00pm ET Limited email support at other times 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Personality Type SIX The Loyalist The Committed Security Oriented Type Engaging Responsible Anxious and Suspicious Generally Sixes are reliable hard working organizing vigilant dutiful evaluating persevering cautious anxious believing and doubting conservative and liberal Sixes get into conflicts by being pessimistic defensive evasive negative worrying doubtful negativistic reactive suspicious and blaming At their best Sixes are courageous cooperative disciplined grounded secure faithful self expressive funny and affectionate Recognizing Sixes Type Six exemplifies the desire to create a stable safe environment to cooperate and create with others and to be adequately prepared for the various difficulties that life presents Sixes are meticulous disciplined and persevering They are good with details and they have a talent for seeing potential problems and dealing with them before problems get out of hand They organize resources prioritize tasks and see projects through Sixes are not necessarily group people but they like the feeling of belonging somewhere of being part of something greater than themselves They enjoy being of service and really want to contribute to the world They bring reliability responsibility hard work and a sense of honor to all their affairs They approach others as if to say I am here for you You can count on me 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Sixes do their best to be solid and responsible but they are often troubled by an undercurrent of doubt and anxiety In fact Sixes often seem a bit jittery and uneasy in general They live in a state of worry and then find something to worry about They often scan their surroundings for problems expecting that something negative could happen at any time Consequently they are usually careful about the management of their affairs and generally cautious in their dealings with others At the same time they are always on the lookout for someone they can trust someone they can rely on Because it takes them a while to feel confident that someone is truly on their side Sixes will sometimes test people by provoking them in some way to see how they will react Once they have decided that someone has passed the test there is almost no limit to their loyalty or to the sacrifices that Sixes will make for the sake of the trusted person Sixes know that once they make a commitment they do so 110 percent They find it difficult to leave a relationship once they have begun to trust someone and to rely on them Thus they want to be sure that they are putting their energies into someone who will be there for them consistently Once they have established a solid relationship they show their trust and affection by supporting the other person in every way they can especially by being reliable and trustworthy themselves One sign that Sixes have issues with trust is that they approach others with a sincere but cautious friendliness When Sixes are relaxed they have a natural talent for engaging people and for finding common interests They often get others to like them by joking around and bantering and through other forms of physical and social bonding They want to find things about people that are familiar and that they can relate to looking for common interests and experiences that would be the basis of trust They tend to get nervous in situations in which they do not know where others stand where there are too many unknowns too many unfamiliar elements Fundamentally Sixes are looking for someone to trust because they do not really trust themselves They do not have much faith in themselves and their own abilities so they look outside themselves to a person a job an authority figure or a belief system of some sort for guidance and security This doesn t solve their insecurity in the long run however because the more Sixes rely on others for their confidence the more self doubting and insecure they become They will keep bouncing back and forth between depending on others and trying to prove that they are tough and independent themselves Some Sixes tend to collapse into their anxiety more often feeling fearful anxious dependent and openly seeking support from others These are called phobic Sixes Other Sixes are more apt to impulsively leap into activities connected with their fears such as a person with a fear of heights who decides to take up rock climbing or a person who fears authority figures becoming a spokesperson for an antiestablishment group These are called counterphobic Sixes In truth all Sixes have both phobic and counterphobic aspects and they express their different responses in different areas of their lives A Six might be phobic around her boss for instance but behave counterphobically with her spouse 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

In brief Sixes want to have security to feel supported by others to have certitude and reassurance to test the attitudes of others toward them to fight against anxiety and insecurity and to have everything be predictable as a way of defending the self from threats from the environment Sixes do not want to feel abandoned to have uncertainty to have contradictory expectations placed on them to feel pressured to have to accept new ideas rapidly to work with people who they feel are not carrying their weight or to have their security systems and beliefs questioned especially by anyone they see as an outsider Their Hidden Side Sixes seem like highly organized and responsible people and can often resemble Ones But the hidden problem is that Sixes are trying to calm their inner anxieties by trying to make their external world trouble free and predictable Of course this is ultimately an impossible task but Sixes still usually persevere in the effort to make their world safe from danger and mishaps The real source of anxiety in Sixes is internal and is perpetuated by their constantly turning thoughts In short Sixes cannot stop second guessing themselves doubting what they know and consulting what amounts to an inner committee of contrary voices Did I get the electric bill out this morning Yes I think so Good But what did I forget Oh yes I was supposed to call Maggie about lunch tomorrow She is going to be so angry with me Should I call her now or is it too late With their minds revved up in a hypervigilant state it is almost impossible for Sixes to relax so that they can perceive clearly how to attend to the actual challenges they need to address at any given time What Sixes really need is more inner quiet They need to cultivate a sense of peace and inner quiet that would allow them to see and deal with reality more clearly Relationship Issues Sixes can be confusing to others and themselves in relationships because they seem so changeable and unpredictable In one moment they feel nervous and want to be reassured that their partner is really on board with them They want to know that the other person is close and available In the next moment they can easily feel smothered or overwhelmed by their partner and want to create some distance in the relationship Moments later they are looking for reassurance that they have not gone too far in being independent In short Sixes are seeking what psychologists call optimal distance They want to keep their loved ones close enough so that they will not feel abandoned but not so close that they feel engulfed by the other person Relationship issues for Sixes include the following Testing the other person to see if he or she is going to stay Getting overcommitted causing Sixes to feel pressured and taken advantage of Either clamming up and not expressing their feelings or venting a stream of anxieties 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Alternating between feeling dependent and needy at one extreme and feeling defiant and rebellious at the other running hot or cold Easily becoming suspicious reflexively doubting the goodwill of others toward them Blaming people for the Six s own anxieties and projecting negative motivations onto others Type Compatibility To learn more about compatibility issues and relationships with other types see the Enneagram Type Combinations The Passion Angst Traditionally Fear The passion of the Six is often described as fear but fear is an organic response to a real danger in our environment All types experience fear Angst on the other hand is the emotional experience of existential fear or unspecified anxiety that comes from absence of a sense of support and guidance It is a sense of dread and despair that results in lowor high level chronic anxiety and a capacity to continually conjure worst case scenarios in the imagination Thus Sixes are habitually on the lookout for potential disasters with the result that their minds are constantly agitated Ultimately this can leave them less prepared to deal with real problems because they are making themselves fearful imagining what could go wrong The more Angst the more anxious Sixes become the more their minds become worked up and the less they are able to access the quiet inner knowing that would give them clarity about what to do The passion of type Six can also be experienced asdoubt Traditionally this was sometimes called Faithlessness Sixes seldom trust their own minds their own capacity to know when they are in the grip of doubt They second guess themselves rechecking math they are sure they did correctly going back to the house to make sure that they locked the door that they actually remember locking and so forth As we have seen Sixes are anxious to have reliable sources of support and guidance in their lives be they books friends advisors philosophies jobs or anything else But once doubt sets in Sixes fear that these very support systems will not be there for them They question even their most ardent supporters as their doubt gives way to growing suspicion or even paranoia At Their Best Healthy Sixes are able to elicit strong emotional responses from others they are engaging friendly and playful truly likable dependable people They bring a sense of trust and camaraderie to their relationships and treat everyone including themselves as an equal They are strongly committed and loyal to the people in their lives and they work hard to build stability security and prosperity in their homes jobs and communities Healthy Sixes are the foundation of any society They believe in 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

cooperation and shared goals helping to organize people and tackle problems They bring a democratic approach to their dealings with others and will fight for the powerless and disenfranchised as they would for themselves High functioning Sixes become self confident and self affirming They trust themselves and have learned self reliance and independence because they know that they are deeply grounded in the limitless support of Being Faith in this inner support and sense of guidance leads to a positive life affirming attitude often manifesting itself as outstanding courage and leadership High functioning Sixes combine a commitment being guided by their own inner knowing with a commitment to allowing themselves to be led wherever the truth takes them As a result they can become powerful influences for the greater good Personality Dynamics Variations Learn more about the Directions of Integration Security and Disintegration Stress Under Stress Six Goes to Average Three Sixes are often visibly nervous reacting with self doubt to situations and getting caught in over thinking a problem When stress escalates beyond the normal level however they jump into action and stay in action trying to deal with their anxieties by working harder If for example they feel pressured at work Sixes may spend their weekend frantically doing yard chores or obsessively reorganizing the closets as a way of discharging or avoiding feelings of inadequacy They also fear letting others know how overwhelmed they are so they may take on a false persona of competency and efficiency like average Threes Don t worry about anything I ve got this handled They focus increasingly on tasks and on being efficient while cutting off from their feelings so that they can stay functional but this can lead to major emotional problems for them and for their relationships Security Six Goes to Average Nine In situations where Sixes feel secure they begin to deal with stress by simply shutting down and becoming indifferent to their surroundings like average Nines They do not want to be disturbed or bothered by loved ones they feel that they have been working 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

hard and they experience virtually any kind of interaction as another source of pressure They will be pleasant one moment but can suddenly become stubbornly resistant and shut down in the next if they feel that others are demanding something of them At such times Sixes become unavailable and passive aggressive not wanting to respond to others or to move out of comforting but numbing routines Integration Six Goes to Healthy Nine As Sixes learn to trust themselves more they also become more open to life and to other people They gradually learn to relax their hypervigilance and simply be with themselves or with whatever life is presenting in the moment They gain a deeper acceptance of life s ups and downs such that they are not riddled with dread and anxiety They are inclusive and supportive of others and much more at peace Integrating Sixes are able to let their minds rest in their natural pristine state of clarity and inner quiet They are able to stop second guessing everything and let their own inner wisdom arise The result is that they are more serene grounded and joyous light and stable The Levels of Development Learn more about the nine Levels of Development Healthy Levels Level 1 At Their Best Become self affirming trusting of self and others independent yet symbiotically interdependent and cooperative as an equal Belief in self leads to true courage positive thinking leadership and rich self expression Level 2 Able to elicit strong emotional responses from others very appealing endearing lovable affectionate Trust important bonding with others forming permanent relationships and alliances Level 3 Dedicated to individuals and movements in which they deeply believe Community builders responsible reliable trustworthy Hard working and persevering sacrificing for others they create stability and security in their world bringing a cooperative spirit Average Levels Level 4 Start investing their time and energy into whatever they believe will be safe and stable Organizing and structuring they look to alliances and authorities for security and continuity Constantly vigilant anticipating problems Level 5 To resist having more demands made on them they react against others passive aggressively Become evasive indecisive cautious procrastinating and ambivalent Are highly reactive anxious and negative giving contradictory mixed signals Internal confusion makes them react unpredictably Level 6 To compensate for insecurities they become sarcastic and belligerent blaming 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

others for their problems taking a tough stance toward outsiders Highly reactive and defensive dividing people into friends and enemies while looking for threats to their own security Authoritarian while fearful of authority highly suspicious yet conspiratorial and fear instilling to silence their own fears Unhealthy Levels Level 7 Fearing that they have ruined their security they become panicky volatile and self disparaging with acute inferiority feelings Seeing themselves as defenseless they seek out a stronger authority or belief to resolve all problems Highly divisive disparaging and berating others Level 8 Feeling persecuted that others are out to get them they lash out and act irrationally bringing about what they fear Fanaticism violence Level 9 Hysterical and seeking to escape punishment they become self destructive and suicidal Alcoholism drug overdoses skid row self abasing behavior Generally corresponds to the Passive Aggressive and Paranoid personality disorders Personal Growth Recommendations for Type Sixes Sixes grow by recognizing that the only real security in life comes from within While we can work hard to build our finances to find the right friends and the right partner and to foresee every possible mishap ultimately none of the external structures that we use to give ourselves confidence will always work for us Things can and do go wrong and the supports that we rely on inevitably change Therefore growth for a Six entails finding the support of their own inner knowing It involves finding the place inside themselves that is quiet strong and capable But this cannot happen by itself Discovering these inner resources takes time and work although fortunately Sixes understand the usefulness of perseverance and dedication Sixes will know firsthand the value of discovering their inner resources when they take time to relax their constant vigilance and find faith in themselves Remember that there is nothing unusual about being anxious since everyone is anxious and much more often than you might think Learn to be more present to your anxiety to explore it and to come to terms with it Work creatively with your tensions without turning to excessive amounts of alcohol or other drugs to allay them In fact if you are present and breathing fully anxiety can be energizing a kind of tonic that can help make you more productive and aware of what you are doing You tend to get edgy and testy when you are upset or angry and can even turn on others and blame them for things you have done or brought on yourself Be aware of your pessimism it causes you dark moods and negative thought patterns that you 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

tend to project on reality When you succumb to this self doubt you can become your own worst enemy and may harm yourself more than anyone else does Sixes tend to overreact when they are under stress and feeling anxious Learn to identify what makes you overreact Also realize that almost none of the things you have feared so much has actually come true Even if things are as bad as you think your fearful thoughts weaken you and your ability to change things for the better You cannot always mange external events but you can manage your own thoughts Work on becoming more trusting There are doubtless several people in your life you can turn to who care about you and who are trustworthy If not go out of your way to find someone trustworthy and allow yourself to get close to that person This will mean risking rejection and stirring up some of your deepest fears but the risk is worth taking You have a gift for getting people to like you but you are unsure of yourself and may be afraid of making a commitment to them Therefore come down clearly on one side or the other of the fence in your relationships Let people know how you feel about them Others probably think better of you than you realize and few people are really out to get you In fact your fears tell you more about your attitudes toward others than they indicate about others attitudes toward you From Discovering Your Personality Type pp 135 144 See also Personality Types pp 216 258 Understanding the Enneagram pp 52 54 98 105 and 341 44 and The Wisdom of the Enneagram pp 233 259 Examples Krishnamurti Johannes Brahms Mark Twain Sigmund Freud J Edgar Hoover Richard Nixon Robert F Kennedy Malcolm X George H W Bush Diana Princess of Wales Prince Harry J R R Tolkien John Grisham Mike Tyson Bruce Springsteen U2 s Bono Melissa Etheridge Eminem Oliver Stone Michael Moore Spike Lee Marilyn Monroe Robert De Niro Dustin Hoffman Mark Wahlberg Woody Allen Diane Keaton Mel Gibson Sally Field Tom Hanks Meg Ryan Julia Roberts Jennifer Aniston Ellen Page Paul Rudd Sarah Jessica Parker Ben Affleck Hugh Laurie Katie Holmes David Letterman Jay Leno Ellen Degeneres Andy Rooney Katie Couric Newt Gingrich Alex Jones Infowars Rush Limbaugh Chris Rock Lewis Black Larry David Seinfeld s George Costanza Lord of the Rings Frodo Baggins 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Personality Type NINE The Peacemaker The Easygoing Self Effacing Type Receptive Reassuring Agreeable and Complacent Generally Nines are patient steady easygoing receptive relaxed unselfconscious agreeable uncomplicated contented comforting sensual and idealizing Nines get into conflicts by being emotionally unavailable complacent inattentive unaware of their own anger ineffectual passive aggressive unrealistic resigned and stubborn At their best Nines are self aware dynamic inclusive steadfast healing proactive contemplative natural imaginative serene and exuberant engaged and passionate Recognizing Nines Type Nine exemplifies the desire for wholeness peace and harmony in our world Nines are easygoing emotionally stable people They are open and unself consciously serene trusting and patient with themselves and others Their openness allows them to be at ease with life and with the natural world As a result others generally find it easy to be in their company They are genuinely good natured and refreshingly unpretentious Because of their peaceful demeanor Nines have a talent for comforting and reassuring others and are able to exert a calming healing influence in difficult or tense situations 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

They make steady supportive friends who can listen uncritically to others problems as well as share their good times In work settings they can be excellent mediators able to harmonize groups and bring people together by really healing conflicts Nines can also be quite imaginative and creative and they enjoy expressing themselves in symbolic ways through music dance images or mythic stories for instance They tend to look at things holistically focusing on the ways in which seemingly unrelated ideas or events are connected and part of a greater whole Indeed Nines are drawn to anything that affirms the fundamental oneness of the world Whether they are working with concepts diverse groups of people art forms or feuding family members Nines want to bring everything and everyone back to a harmonious unity In short Nines are the eternal optimists always wanting to believe the best about other people with hope for the best for themselves They hope that every story will end with and they all lived happily ever after Healthy Nines will work hard to make things turn out that way But average Nines will leave it to luck and a prayer and they may be sorely disappointed Average Nines focus on keeping their lives pleasant and uncomplicated They idealize others and live through a handful of primary identifications usually with their family and close friends Out of fear of creating conflicts with these people average Nines hold back their own reactions and opinions and suppress themselves in many other ways Oddly Nines can be quite assertive on behalf of others and will work hard for others benefit but they can have great difficulty taking actions on their own behalf or even voicing their own real feelings To maintain the peace Nines tend not to show their upsets very much except indirectly perhaps by eating drinking or watching television too much to escape into a more pleasant and comforting world They also absorb a lot of tension and neglect even outright abuse before showing any kind of emotional response But when their anger has been held back for too long Nines can suddenly blow up seemingly out of the blue Once they have gotten something out of their system Nines hope that the storm has blown over and that things will go back to the way they were before Fearing that change and potential conflict will threaten their comfort and peace of mind average Nines become more complacent and disengaged They entrench themselves in comforting habits and routines puttering around and finding various kinds of busy work to lose themselves in But the longer they do this the more difficulty they have rousing themselves to take decisive action or to assert themselves in any meaningful way They become passive walking away from problems and brushing them under the rug Their thinking becomes hazy and ruminative mostly daydreaming about happy memories or passing time telling comforting stories They begin to tune out reality to protect themselves from anxiety often seeming oblivious and unresponsive as a result 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Average Nines use passive aggressive acts and stubbornness to resist attempts to engage them But their peace of mind is little more than an avoidance of problems a clinging to fantasies and unrealistic hopes Low functioning Nines can become fatalistic and resigned trudging through life as if nothing can be done to improve their situation Engaged in wishful thinking looking for easy magical solutions Nines keep waiting for their ship to come in but without some constructive effort on their part they may wait a long time indeed In brief Nines want to find unity and wholeness to create harmony in their environment to feel spacious and at ease to emphasize the positive to avoid conflicts and tension to resist change and preserve things as they are and to ignore whatever would upset or disturb them Nines do not want to have conflicts with loved ones to feel cut off or separated from others to be angry to be upset or disturbed to have their habits or routines interrupted to arouse themselves or to be emotionally uncomfortable or to be forced to face unpleasant realities Their Hidden Side On the surface Nines appear to be the most easy going pleasant people imaginable They go along with others wishes apparently without any desire other than to make sure everyone is at ease and happy But their hidden side is that they often suppress a huge well of anger that they conceal even from themselves Nines want to get along with others but they also want to hold on to their independence and autonomy they do not want to be messed with To the extent that they feel they cannot do the latter without endangering their connections with the important people in their lives they become resentful and enraged although they also feel that they can never let this anger out without destroying their relationships Thus for Nines to develop themselves and their potentials they must come to grips with their suppressed rage and find constructive outlets for this energy Relationship Issues People are often drawn to Nines as potential life partners for many reasons They are comforting and supportive warm and sensual They adapt well to domestic life and enjoy being with their partner And they seem to be utterly without any significant needs of their own They are uncomplicated and undemanding to the extent that others get the false notion that the Nine will meet their needs without needing anything much from them Therein lies the source of problems with Nines in relationship Of course Nines do have many personal needs but to the extent that they are not being met Nines shut down and withdraw from the other rather than risk getting into a conflict Key issues include these Going along with others or agreeing to things the Nine has no intention of complying with Becoming emotionally unavailable to others disengaging their attention or 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

withdrawing rather than dealing with issues Wanting to feel close with someone in their imagination while asserting independence in their behavior The No Talk Rule refusing to discuss the real problems Suppression control and outbursts of temper all of which are generally unrecognized and unacknowledged by the Nine Emotional collapsing as a way of stopping discussion about troubling topics Type Compatibility To learn more about compatibility issues and relationships with other types see the Enneagram Type Combinations The Passion Sloth Nines pay a price for their easygoing demeanor because much of it depends on their staying out of contact with their instinctual energies Nines do this for two reasons First much of their instinctual aliveness is used to suppress their anger and frustration with people and with themselves To experience their anger directly is extremely threatening to Nines they feel that their rage could destroy their peaceful world very quickly In order stay in their unrealistic idealized world they must constantly suppress their anger and instincts over and over again But when Nines attempt to dam those energies the result is inner numbness and general fatigue because so much of their inner resources is devoted to keeping their anger and instincts at bay Thus Nines end up becoming passive and disengaged Rousing themselves to take an active role in their lives seems difficult it will all be too much trouble becomes a constant refrain So they retreat into safe and comforting routines and the passion of sloth Understood this way sloth is not necessarily physical laziness rather it is an inner disengagement a reluctance to show up in one s life with all of one s passion immediacy and presence available The longer Nines remain in the state of sloth the more they become convinced that they can never do what it takes to engage fully in their lives At Their Best As Nines learn to assert themselves more freely they experience greater peace equanimity and contentment Their self possession enables them to have a profound effect on the world because they are truly present to themselves They are intensely alive awake exuberant and alert They have learned not to give up their power to others or withhold themselves from a fear of self assertion They become dynamic and joyful actively working for peace and healing their world as a result They have enormous dignity and a genuine serenity that comes from deeply accepting the human condition Thus high functioning Nines are extraordinarily vital self possessed and independent They understand that by being grounded in the present moment they can have both independence and connection with others it is not an either or situation Further their natural creativity and leadership can come to the fore because they are in touch with their 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

own strength and capacities People also instinctively trust healthy Nines because they will use their active influence to do what is necessary to create and sustain a truly harmonious environment one in which everyone can thrive Personality Dynamics Variations Learn more about the Directions of Integration Security and Disintegration Stress Under Stress Nine Goes to Average Six Nines attempt to avoid anxiety and conflict by detaching emotionally from active participation and by not talking about their real concerns and issues But they can only use this defense up to a point beyond which they can no longer contain their anxiety frustration and fear At such times they will begin to exhibit many of the characteristics and behaviors of average to unhealthy Sixes The usually stable easygoing Nine becomes worried testy and defensive They begin to see others as the source of their unease complaining to anyone who will listen and blaming everyone else for their distress They may also have issues with authority feeling put upon or controlled by those they see as having power over them Under prolonged stress Nines completely lose their placid demeanor and become more and more reactive and nervous They may seek help and reassurance from others but may just as quickly disparage them for dominating or overwhelming them Security Nine Goes to Average Three Nines usually feel unimportant and may feel that their own needs and viewpoints are not worth mentioning With trusted others however they may attempt to demonstrate their value desirability or even superiority in the manner of average Threes In secure situations Nines will deal with stress also by working more and by being productive even if their productivity is really busy work designed to keep awareness of more crucial problems out of awareness This busyness is the Nine s way of trying to build a sense of confidence and value Nines may also try to impress intimates with their accomplishments status or attractiveness although ironically they are usually completely unaware of how they are coming across to others 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Integration Nines Goes to Healthy Three As Nines work through their belief that they are invisible and unimportant they begin to recognize their true value They see that others really do want them to show up and share themselves fully Healthy Nines begin to understand that their very existence makes them valuable God did not make a mistake in creating them Their experience is much like the adventures of the Jimmy Stewart character in It s a Wonderful Life They see that the world would be poorer without them and that they have much to contribute to their fellow human beings They understand that the peace of mind they seek comes from fully sharing their talents intelligence and heart with the world Thus integrating Nines begin to invest time and energy in themselves to develop their talents and to feel a healthy degree of self esteem In short they learn to take pleasure in their own value and goodness The Levels of Development Learn more about the nine Levels of Development Healthy Levels Level 1 At Their Best Become self possessed feeling autonomous and fulfilled have great equanimity and contentment because they are present to themselves Paradoxically at one with self and thus able to form more profound relationships Intensely alive fully connected to self and others Level 2 Deeply receptive accepting unselfconscious emotionally stable and serene Trusting of self and others at ease with self and life innocent and simple Patient unpretentious good natured genuinely nice people Level 3 Optimistic reassuring supportive have a healing and calming influence harmonizing groups bringing people together a good mediator synthesizer and communicator Average Levels Level 4 Fear conflicts so become self effacing and accommodating idealizing others and going along with their wishes saying yes to things they do not really want to do Fall into conventional roles and expectations Use philosophies and stock sayings to deflect others Level 5 Active but disengaged unreflective and inattentive Do not want to be affected so become unresponsive and complacent walking away from problems and sweeping them under the rug Thinking becomes hazy and ruminative mostly comforting fantasies as they begin to tune out reality becoming oblivious Emotionally indolent unwillingness to exert self or to focus on problems indifference Level 6 Begin to minimize problems to appease others and to have peace at any 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

price Stubborn fatalistic and resigned as if nothing could be done to change anything Into wishful thinking and magical solutions Others frustrated and angry by their procrastination and unresponsiveness Unhealthy Levels Level 7 Can be highly repressed undeveloped and ineffectual Feel incapable of facing problems become obstinate dissociating self from all conflicts Neglectful and dangerous to others Level 8 Wanting to block out of awareness anything that could affect them they dissociate so much that they eventually cannot function numb depersonalized Level 9 They finally become severely disoriented and catatonic abandoning themselves turning into shattered shells Multiple personalities possible Generally corresponds to the Schizoid and Dependent personality disorders Personal Growth Recommendations for Type Nines Nines grow by recognizing that the more they seek peace of mind by turning away from conflicts and problems the greater is the likelihood that they will bring about disturbances in their lives and relationships Their avoidance of conflicts causes others to have conflicts with them Growing Nines must also remember that they will never have union with anyone else unless and until they have union with themselves If they are accommodating to a fault they will eventually lose the other person because they have never possessed themselves When they learn that self assertion is not an aggressive act but a positive thing Nines are in a position to truly bring peace and harmony to everyone in their environment It is worth examining your type s tendency to go along with others doing what they want to keep the peace and be nice Will constantly acquiescing to the wishes of others provide the kind of relationships that will really satisfy you Remember it is impossible to love others if you are not truly present to them This means that you have to be yourself that you paradoxically have to be independent so that you can really be there for others when they need you Exert yourself Force yourself to pay attention to what is going on Do not drift off or tune out people or daydream Work on focusing your attention to become an active participant in the world around you Try to become more mentally and emotionally engaged Recognize that you also have aggressions anxieties and other feelings that you must deal with Negative feelings and impulses are a part of you and they affect you emotionally and physically whether or not you acknowledge them Furthermore your negative emotions are often expressed inadvertently and get in the way of the 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

peace and harmony you want in your relationships It is best to get things out in the open first at least by allowing yourself to become aware of your feelings Although this will be very painful for you if your marriage has ended in divorce or if you are having problems with your children you must honestly examine how you have contributed to these problems Examining troubled relationships will be extremely difficult because the people involved have been close to your heart The feelings you have for others endow you with much of your identity and self esteem But if you really love others you can do no less than examine the role you have played in whatever conflicts that have arisen In the last analysis the choice is simple you must sacrifice your peace of mind in the short run for the satisfaction of genuine relationships in the long run Exercise frequently to become more aware of your body and emotions Some Nines run around doing errands and think that they are getting enough exercise Regular exercise is a healthy form of self discipline and will increase your awareness of your feelings and other sensations Developing body awareness will help teach you to concentrate and focus your attention in other areas of your life as well Exercise is also a good way to get in touch with and express some aggressions From Discovering Your Personality Type pp 164 173 See also Personality Types pp 338 75 Understanding the Enneagram pp 60 62 119 26 and 349 51 and The Wisdom of the Enneagram pp 314 40 Examples Queen Elizabeth II Princess Grace of Monaco Claude Monet Norman Rockwell Abraham Lincoln Dwight D Eisenhower Gerald Ford Ronald Reagan George W Bush John F Kennedy Jr General Colin Powell Walter Cronkite Carl Jung Carl Rogers Joseph Campbell Walt Disney Jim Henson Muppets Garrison Keillor Walter Cronkite Gloria Steinem Tony Bennett Ringo Starr Carlos Santana James Taylor Janet Jackson Jack Johnson George Lucas Ron Howard Gary Cooper Jimmy Stewart Audrey Hepburn Sophia Loren Kevin Costner Annette Bening Jeff Bridges Morgan Freeman John Goodman Matthew Broderick Whoopie Goldberg Woody Harrelson Geena Davis Jason Segel Lisa Kudrow Toby McGuire Zooey Deschanel Mister Rogers Homer and Marge Simpson 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Personality Type TWO The Helper The Caring Interpersonal Type Demonstrative Generous People Pleasing and Possessive Generally Twos are caring empathetic warm thoughtful appreciative generous other oriented tactile affectionate well intentioned and demonstrative Twos get into conflicts by being people pleasing flattering ingratiating clingy worried possessive insincere seductive selfimportant and self deceptive At their best Twos are encouraging loving self nurturing constant joyous humble forgiving gracious and compassionate Recognizing Twos Type Two exemplifies the desire to feel loved to connect with others in a heartfelt way and to be a source of benevolence and love in our world Twos are easily the most people oriented of the Enneagram types They focus on relationship and feel best about themselves when they are meaningfully engaged with others They want to share the good in their lives and genuinely enjoy supporting others with their attention and care Insofar as they can Twos make good things happen for people They will stay up late to take care of children or older folks drive across town to bring food or see to it that others get medical treatment When there is practical work to be done for others healthy Twos will be there throwing themselves into the effort heart and soul Twos are genuinely interested in other people and in the details of their lives They 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

remember to send birthday and holiday cards long after their friends have moved away They also remember your spouse s name and the names of your children and pets plus who has which allergies and what their major was in college Twos are the first in the kitchen after a party to help out with the cleanup At the office Twos have a bowl of candy or a tin of cookies at their desk not for themselves but for anyone who drops by to chat They are constantly thinking of others and they try to do nice things so that others will think well of them Twos get into difficulty however when they begin to attend to others needs without adequately dealing with their own They can get into denial about the extent of their own needs while insisting that their only concern is taking care of others At such times Twos may develop boundary problems They disregard their own boundaries doing things for others that take them away from what they need to do for themselves and they disregard the boundaries of others doing things for others that they do not necessarily want done When others feel crowded by the Twos efforts to help and try to set boundaries with them Twos can feel hurt and insecure about the relationship and feel rejected When Twos doubt that others want them they redouble their efforts to win people over They get caught up with people pleasing and ingratiating themselves with others looking for things to do and say that will make people like them Relating with people becomes a full time job they are constantly making new friends while maintaining a network of old friends Talking about the relationship with people becomes a habit as Twos continually seek reassurance that their friendships and love lives are secure and on track They also begin to seek ways to make themselves more interesting and useful to others Thus they may pursue such interests as massage psychic readings energetic healing nutrition and other ways of being of service as a way of making people feel good about themselves and about having the Two in their life They want to have a unique place in others lives and to know privileged information about others that no one else knows They want others to regard them as their best friend and to seek them out for personal advice and to share special secrets and intimacies They may begin to wear themselves out for others giving unwanted advice and assistance and becoming martyrs to get attention and affection When Twos go too far with this kind of behavior however it ironically has the opposite effect on people driving them away rather than creating stronger relationships In brief Twos want to feel loved to have intimacy to express their feelings for others to be needed and appreciated to be close to valued friends and family to rescue potential friends and partners to get others to respond to them and to get and hold on to the love they want Twos do not want to be out of touch with loved ones to be in impersonal settings to be left out of social situations or to be in situations where there is nothing for them to give 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Their Hidden Side Although on the surface Twos appear to feel at ease with others and to be a source of emotional sustenance for the people in their lives they also suffer from well hidden feelings of rejection Twos expect people to not want them around and they often feel that they need to be extraordinarily kind and supportive to get people to accept and love them They usually try to conceal the depths of their loneliness or hurt beneath an image of concern for others focusing on others needs to help them feel better Sometimes it does but just as often Twos may feel that others are not appreciating them for their efforts thus rekindling their feelings of rejection Then they may become touchy or even openly angry revealing the extent of the disappointment they are hiding Relationship Issues Twos are the Enneagram type most focused on relationships people are where Twos focus their energies They are generous with their time and attention and really want their loved ones to be happy and well cared for Problems develop however when Twos go overboard with their efforts to be close to their loved ones often in the following areas Trying too hard to please the other selling themselves out for affection and appreciation Hovering around and not giving the other adequate space usually caused by fears of imminent abandonment Expecting mind reading from the partner and being disappointed when they fail to anticipate the Two s desires or needs Becoming possessive of the partner and jealous of his or her spending time with others Not acknowledging personal hurts needs and anger until they are becoming damaging to the relationship Type Compatibility To learn more about compatibility issues and relationships with other types see the Enneagram Type Combinations The Passion Pride Twos believe that they will be loved only if they are completely available to attend to the needs of others To the extent that they succumb to this belief they fear that others will reject them if they have needs or emotional hurts of their own When Twos find themselves unable to acknowledge the extent of their emotional needs and desires they fall into the passion of pride From this position they feel duty bound to care for others while denying that they have any significant problems themselves But of course under 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

the surface Twos really do have many problems and longings Unfortunately the more Twos deny their real emotional condition the more they tend to express themselves to others with covert aggression ulterior motives and hidden neediness This often leads to behaviors that unintentionally drive other people away At Their Best Healthy Twos are sincere and warm hearted with immense good will and enormous generosity of spirit They have an extraordinary ability to feel the feelings and needs of others Because they are so empathetic healthy Twos know others sorrows and this motivates them to go out of their way to help and support people especially in times of need They put a charitable interpretation on the behavior of others emphasizing the good in people whenever they find it But healthy Twos are able to maintain this generous approach to life because they are acknowledging their own needs and more importantly addressing them Healthy Twos do not wait around for a loving response from people in order to feel lovable They recognize their true strengths and limitations and accept them extending the support and love to themselves that they would easily offer to someone else Thus they are also able to accept others for who they are and relate to them on their own level whether the person is the president of a corporation the mailman or a delivery boy Twos see the dignity and the humanity of people and respond to that They also foster independence in others nurturing self confidence strength and new skills so that people can grow on their own They really want everyone to thrive and do not want anyone to be dependent on them physically or psychologically They are sincerely encouraging and extremely appreciative of the talents and strengths they find everywhere Healthy Twos let people know the good they see in them a quality that is particularly helpful to those who may not see much good in themselves Personality Dynamics Variations Learn more about the Directions of Integration Security and Disintegration Stress 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Under Stress Two goes to average Eight If Twos feel that their overtures of friendliness and many expressions of self sacrifice are continually thwarted or ignored they may reach a point of stress in which they begin to openly express their anger in the manner of average to unhealthy Eights Their resentment at having been rejected by others in perhaps subtle ways reaches the boiling point and they simply cannot maintain their loving attitude any longer Feeling that others are taking them from granted makes the average Two suddenly act out in an average Eight manner becoming ego centric controlling and dominating telling people what to do and when to do it This kind of behavior puts Twos in the center of things and virtually forces others to pay attention to them Bossing people around and being somewhat confrontational can be surprisingly out of character for the Two Under greater stress it can be expressed in outbursts of temper aggressive confrontation and threats of withdrawing support Security Two goes to average Four With trusted others or in situations in which Twos feel sure of themselves and their ability to be honest about their feelings they may risk expressing their neediness and darker impulses Rather than keep up the image of being selfless and above feeling wounded by the ingratitude of others they can become moody self absorbed and temperamental revealing to intimates the true depth and extent of their emotional needs self doubts and disappointments particularly with others At such times they can be extremely touchy easily hurt by statements that others would see as harmless or even positive They may also become more self indulgent giving themselves goodies that are not very good for them as a way of compensating for all of the sacrifices they feel they have been making for others Integration Two goes to healthy Four Integrating Twos become aware of how much they have denied their needs and their darker feelings and how much they have deceived themselves about their motives At Four they begin to accept themselves more completely not rejecting any aspect of themselves they find Even their destructive feelings toward others can be held compassionately They are more honest with themselves after the manner of a healthy Four and discover humor and humanity in whatever feelings and impulses they have This gives Twos the ability to see themselves objectively and without shame and with love and balance They are also able to support others from the fullness of who they really are and to have greater intimacy with them because integrating Twos are more intimate with themselves Gradually and naturally they become more authentic expressive sensitive and creative in ways that are enriching to themselves and others The Levels of Development Learn more about the nine Levels of Development Healthy Levels 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

Level 1 At Their Best Become deeply unselfish humble and altruistic giving unconditional love to self and others Feel it is a privilege to be in the lives of others Level 2 Empathetic compassionate feeling for others Caring and concerned about their needs Thoughtful warm hearted forgiving and sincere Level 3 Encouraging and appreciative able to see the good in others Service is important but takes care of self too they are nurturing generous and giving a truly loving person Average Levels Level 4 Want to be closer to others so start people pleasing becoming overly friendly emotionally demonstrative and full of good intentions about everything Give seductive attention approval strokes flattery Love is their supreme value and they talk about it constantly Level 5 Become overly intimate and intrusive they need to be needed so they hover meddle and control in the name of love Want others to depend on them give but expect a return send double messages Enveloping and possessive the codependent selfsacrificial person who cannot do enough for others wearing themselves out for everyone creating needs for themselves to fulfill Level 6 Increasingly self important and self satisfied feel they are indispensable although they overrate their efforts in others behalf Hypochondria becoming a martyr for others Overbearing patronizing presumptuous Unhealthy Levels Level 7 Can be manipulative and self serving instilling guilt by telling others how much they owe them and make them suffer Abuse food and medication to stuff feelings and get sympathy Undermine people making belittling disparaging remarks Extremely selfdeceptive about their motives and how aggressive and or selfish their behavior is Level 8 Domineering and coercive feel entitled to get anything they want from others the repayment of old debts money sexual favors Level 9 Able to excuse and rationalize what they do since they feel abused and victimized by others and are bitterly resentful and angry Somatization of their aggressions results in chronic health problems as they vindicate themselves by falling apart and burdening others Generally corresponds to the Histrionic Personality Disorder and Factitious Disorder Personal Growth Recommendations for Type Twos Twos grow by recognizing that caring for themselves and caring for others is not an 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

either or proposition They can care for others effectively only when they are also caring for themselves and recognizing their own needs Further they come to understand that they can achieve real love and intimacy with others only if they truly have love and intimacy with themselves For Twos this means acknowledging their real feelings even if they are not pretty or pleasant and expressing their needs as they arise It also entails recognizing when they are tired lonely or overextended By paying attention to their own feelings and inner states Twos naturally grow into finding a balance between taking care of themselves and their natural inclination to help others Once grounded and clear about their motives they are able to abide in the fullness of their hearts and to share this with others First and foremost remember that if you are not addressing your own needs it is highly unlikely that you will be able to meet anyone else s needs without problems underlying resentments and continual frustration Further you will be less able to respond to people in a balanced way if you have not gotten adequate rest and taken care of yourself properly It is not selfish to make sure that you are okay before attending to others needs it is simply common sense Try to become more conscious of your own motives when you decide to help someone While doing good things for people is certainly an admirable trait when you do so because you expect the other person to appreciate you or do something nice for you in return you are setting yourself up for disappointments Your type has a real danger of falling into unconscious codependent patterns with loved ones and they almost never bring you what you really want While there are many things you might want to do for people it is often better to ask them what they really need first You are gifted at accurately intuiting others feelings and needs but that does not necessarily mean that they want those needs remedied by you in the way you have in mind Communicate your intentions and be willing to accept a no thank you Someone deciding that they do not want your particular offer of help does not mean that they dislike you or are rejecting you Resist the temptation to call attention to yourself and your good works After you have done something for others do not remind them about it Let it be either they will remember your kindness themselves and thank you in their own way or they will not Your calling attention to what you have done for them only puts people on the spot and makes them feel uneasy It will not satisfy anyone or improve your relationships Learn to recognize the affection and good wishes of others even when these are not in terms that you are familiar with Although others may not express their feelings in a way that you want they may be letting you know in other ways how much they care about you If you can recognize what others are giving you you will rest more easily in the knowledge that you really are loved Love is always available but only to the degree that we are present and therefore receptive to it 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved

From Discovering Your Personality Type pp 97 105 See also Personality Types pp 5994 Understanding the Enneagram pp 40 42 74 79 and 332 334 and The Wisdom of the Enneagram p 125 150 Examples Paramahansa Yogananda Pope John XXIII Guru Ammaji The Hugging Saint Byron Katie Bishop Desmond Tutu Eleanor Roosevelt Nancy Reagan Monica Lewinsky Ann Landers Mary Kay Ash Mary Kay Cosmetics Leo Buscaglia Richard Simmons Luciano Pavarotti John Denver Lionel Richie Stevie Wonder Barry Manilow Dolly Parton Josh Groban Music of Journey Bobby McFerrin Kenny G Paula Abdul Priscilla Presley Elizabeth Taylor Danny Thomas Martin Sheen Jennifer Tilly Danny Glover Richard Thomas John Boy Walton Juliette Binoche Arsenio Hall Timothy Treadwell Grizzly Man Melanie Hamilton Wilkes Gone with the Wind Eve Harrington All About Eve Dr McCoy Star Trek 2003 2017 The Enneagram Institute All Rights Reserved