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!!R!Table of Contents Introduction*............................................................................................................................*5!The*Online*Practicum*Experience*....................................................................................*6!Schedule*/*Agenda*.................................................................................................................*9!Proposing*Group*Reconciliation*Assistance*(GRA)*.................................................*11!Initial'Contact'..........................................................................................................................................................'11!Prepare'a'Formal'Written'Agreement'................................ ..........................................................................'12!Commitments'..........................................................................................................................................................'15!Proposal'Meeting'...................................................................................................................................................'15!Overcoming'Common'Objections'...................................................................................................................'17!Preparing*the*Organization*and*Leading*a*GRA*Team*........................................*21!Preparing'the'Organization'...............................................................................................................................'21!Leading'a'GRA'Team'.............................................................................................................................................'22!Team'Roles'and'Responsibilities'....................................................................................................................'25!Written'Agreements'for'Team'Members'....................................................................................................'26!Preparing'the'Team'..............................................................................................................................................'27!Debriefing'Sessions'...............................................................................................................................................'30!Teaching*the*Reconciliation*Seminar*.........................................................................*31!Learning'Styles'.......................................................................................................................................................'31!Appealing'to'Differing'Learning'Styles'.........................................................................................................'33!Exercise'......................................................................................................................................................................'34!Teaching'tools'.........................................................................................................................................................'34!Utilize'a'variety'of'resources'............................................................................................................................'34!Exercise'......................................................................................................................................................................'36!Application'of'Teaching'Techniques'.............................................................................................................'36!Distinguishing'Law'and'Gospel'.......................................................................................................................'37!Guide'Church'Leaders'in'Preparing'for'the'Seminar'.............................................................................'40!Plan'Your'Teaching'Schedule'...........................................................................................................................'42!Arrange'for'Alternate'Viewing'of'Seminar'.................................................................................................'43!Teaching'by'Example'...........................................................................................................................................'45!Scheduling*Interviews*......................................................................................................*47!Purpose'of'Interviews'..........................................................................................................................................'47!Organizing'the'Interviews'.................................................................................................................................'48!Assigning'Interviews'............................................................................................................................................'51!Conducting*Group*Interviews*........................................................................................*53!Assigning*Homework*between*Visits*and*Preparing*for*the*Second*Visit*.....*55!Designing'effective'assignments'.....................................................................................................................'55!Homework'for'the'Congregation'....................................................................................................................'56!Homework'for'Key'Leaders'and'Parties'......................................................................................................'58!Homework'for'the'Reconciliation'Team'......................................................................................................'58!Samples'......................................................................................................................................................................'58!

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!!B!Preparing*and*Delivering*Reports*................................................................................*61!Sources'of'Information'........................................................................................................................................'61!Analysis'and'Evaluation'......................................................................................................................................'62!Report'at'End'of'First'Visit'................................................................................................................................'63!Basic'Components'for'Final'Reports'.............................................................................................................'64!Oral'Reports'.............................................................................................................................................................'68!Written'Reports'......................................................................................................................................................'69!Appendices*.............................................................................................................................*71!Summary'of'Group'Reconciliation'Assistance'..........................................................................................'72!Assessing'Our'Current'Situation'.....................................................................................................................'73!Agreement'for'Group'Reconciliation'Assistance'.....................................................................................'74!Agreement'for'Bible'Study'Seminar'and'Consultation'..........................................................................'83!Information'Requeste d'by'the'Reconciliation'Team'..............................................................................'87!Agreement'for'Conciliation'Service'as'a'Reconciliation'Team'Member'for'Group'Reconciliation'Assistance'(GRA)'.......................................................................................................'88!GRA'Team'Observations'.....................................................................................................................................'92!Responding'to'Conflict'Biblically'at'Your'Church'....................................................................................'96!Responding'to'Conflict'Biblically'at'Your'Church'Youth'Interview'Form'.....................................'98!Who'are'the'Reconcilers'in'Your'Church?'...............................................................................................'100!Interview'Sign'Up'Shee t'...................................................................................................................................'101!Initial'Engagement'Grou p 'Meetings'...........................................................................................................'103!Ground'Rules'for'Facilitating'Difficult'Meetings'...................................................................................'104!!! !

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!!3"!!Chapter 2 !Preparing the Organization and Leading a GRA Team Preparing the Organization .5N$!D!N&4$5G!HDS$7!D!F4EH!N'HH4GH$5G!G'!GM$!VUA!(E'N$778!45N&K)456!E$H4GG456!D!)$('74G8!GM$!:$DH!P$D)$E!HDS$7!GM$!F4E7G!D77465H$5G7!G'!(E$(DE$!GM$!6E'K(!F'E!4G7!DEE4%D&-!!Setup a GRA Resource Page !:M$!GRA Resource Page!Q4&&!*$!GM$!(E4HDE+!45G$EFDN$!F'E!N'55$NG456!Q4GM!GM$!6E'K(!45!GM$!VUA-!A!7DH(&$!47!D%D4&D*&$!D7!D!&45S!FE'H!GM$!GRA Team Member Practicum Resource Page-!I$!Q4&&!M$&(!+'K!6$G!GMDG!7$G!K(!4F!+'K!DE$!&$D)456!D!G$DH!F'E!A'U-!!Identify Leaders and Assign Homework !:M$!:$DH!P$D)$E!D77$77$7!QM'!GM$!S$+!&$D)$E7!DE$!45!GM$!'E6D54`DG4'5!45N&K)456!S$+!7GDFF!D5)!&D+!45)4%4)KD&78!*'DE)!H$H*$E78!N'HH4GG$$!H$H*$E78!$GN-!O$!7$5)7!GM$!(E$>%474G!HDG$E4D&!F'E!7GK)+!D5)!D57Q$E456!JK$7G4'57-!!!:M$!/4*&$!7GK)+!D5)!($E7'5D&!6K4)$!Conflict Resolution vs. Reconciliation!47!D!6E$DG!7'KEN$8!$7($N4D&&+!4F!GMDG!47!GM$!7K*_$NG!'F!GM$!7$H45DE7-!:M$!*''S!47!7HD&&!D5)!5'G!45G4H4)DG456!F'E!5'5>*''S!E$D)$E7-!@($N4F4N!E$D)4567!F'&&'Q$)!*+!D57Q$E456!7($N4F4N!JK$7G4'57!(E$(DE$7!&$D)$E7!G'!E$FEDH$!GM$4E!N'5F&4NG7!*4*&4ND&&+!D5)!N'574)$E!GM$4E!($E7'5D&!N'5GE4*KG4'57!G'!GM$!N'5F&4NG7-!!.5$!*$5$F4G!'F!GM$!GRA Resource Page!47!GMDG!4G!(E'%4)$7!F'E!GM$!D77465H$5G!D5)!)47GE4*KG4'5!'F!GM$7$!M'H$Q'ES!D77465H$5G7-!IM$5!+'K!7$G!K(!'5&45$!M'H$Q'ES!D77465H$5G7!GME'K6M!GM$!Homework Dashboard!DG!QQQ-D'EM'($-'E6dE$N'5N4&$E>M'H$Q'ES8!GM$5!GM$!6E'K(!&$D)$E7!ND5!D&&!DNN$77!GM$4E!D77465H$5G!GME'K6M!&45S7!'5!GM$!GRA Resource Page-!:M$7$!&45S7!E$JK4E$!GM$!6E'K(!H$H*$E7!G'!&'645!D5)!DE$!(E4%DG$!G'!GM$H!D5)!GM$!VUA!:$DH-!.5&+!GM$!D77465$)!45)4%4)KD&!D5)!GM$!VUA!G$DH!ND5!DNN$77!GM$!M'H$Q'ES!&45S-!!Initiate a Group Relational Health Assessment !Provide enough copies for all key leaders with a written assignment for them to complete. Don’t forget to include the costs of the books in your GRA agreement.

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!!R<!O$*E$Q7!"RX;^-!I$!MD%$!V')Z7!D77KED5N$!GMDG!5'GM456!Q4&&!7$(DEDG$!K7!FE'H!GM$!&'%$!'F!V')!45!LME47G!b$7K7!'KE!P'E)!]U'HD57!1XR1>R<^-!!• Power to live as God’s children-!9'E$'%$E8!GM$!V'7($&!$H('Q$E7!K7!G'!&4%$!F'E!LME47G!]3!,$G$E!"XR>Bk!3!L'E45GM4D57!;X"B>";k!"!,$G$E!3X3B^-!!!For the love of Christ controls us, because we have concluded this: that one has died for all, therefore all have died; and he died for all, that those who live might no longer live for themselves but for him who for their sake died and was raised. 3!L'E45GM4D57!;X"B>";8!$H(MD747!D))$)!!He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. "!,$G$E!3X3B8!$H(MD747!D))$)!!What are differences between the Law and the Gospel? The Law The Gospel !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why is it so important that you include Gospel in every teaching presentation? !IM$5!G$DNM456!G'!D!6E'K(8!E$H$H*$E!GMDG!people by nature have knowledge of the Law8!D&GM'K6M!4G!47!GD45G$)!*+!745-!I4GM!&4GG&$!G$DNM456!FE'H!@NE4(GKE$8!H'7G!($'(&$!E$N'654`$!]DG!&$D7G!G'!7'H$!('45G^!M'Q!GM$+!FD4&!G'!&4%$!K(!G'!V')Z7!7GD5)DE)7!45!($DN$HDS456-!@45N$!Q$!ND55'G!7$$!45G'!D5'GM$EZ7!M$DEG8!Q$!HK7G!*$!NDE$FK&!5'G!G'!_K)6$!QM$GM$E!'E!5'G!GM$!PDQ!MD7!)'5$!4G7!Q'ES!45!($'(&$Z7!M$DEG7-!:M$!PDQ!G$DNM$7!QMDG!V')!N'HHD5)7!K7!G'!)'!D5)!5'G!G'!)'-!!:M$!V'7($&!G$DNM$7!QMDG!V')!MD7!)'5$!D5)!N'5G45K$7!G'!)'!F'E!K7!45!b$7K7!LME47G-!:M$!PDQ!7M'Q7!K7!'KE!745!D5)!V')Z7!_K)6H$5G-!:M$!V'7($&!7M'Q7!K7!'KE!@D%4'E!D5)!GM$!6EDN$!D5)!H$EN+!'F!V')-!:M$!PDQ!47!G'!*$!(E'N&D4H$)!G'!D&&!($'(&$8!*KG!$7($N4D&&+!G'!GM'7$!QM'!)'!5'G!E$($5G-!:M$!V'7($&!47!G'!*$!(E'N&D4H$)!G'!GM'7$!QM'!DE$!E$($5GD5G!D5)!5$$)!GM$!N'HF'EG456!H$77D6$!'F!V')Z7!F'E64%$5$77-!

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!!B=!!.5!GM$!'GM$E!MD5)8!people possess no natural knowledge of the Gospel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is divine power has granted to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of him who called us to his own glory and excellence, by which he has granted to us his precious and very great promises, so that through them you may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in the world because of sinful desire. 3!,$G$E!"XR>B!!,$G$E!GM$5!6'$7!'5!G'!7D+!GMDG!QM$5!'5$!FD4&7!G'!*$!FEK4GFK&!45!M47!LME47G4D5!QD&S8!4G!47!*$NDK7$!M$!MD7!F'E6'GG$5!GM$!$H('Q$E456!(E'H47$7!GMDG!DE$!F'K5)!45!GM$!V'7($&!GME'K6M!GM$!F'E64%$5$77!'F!7457X!!!!But if anyone does not have them, he is near-sighted and blind, and has forgotten that he has been cleansed from his past sins.!!3!,$G$E!"X<!:M$E$F'E$8!D&QD+7!*$!45G$5G4'5D&!45!(E'N&D4H456!GM$!V'7($&!45!+'KE!G$DNM456- !Guide Church Leaders in Preparing for the Seminar !LMKENM$7!45!N'5F&4NG!7GEK66&$!Q4GM!GD7S7!7KNM!D7!N'HHK54NDG4'58!7NM$)K&4568!D5)!N''E)45DG4'5-!:M$+!'FG$5!5$$)!6K4)D5N$!45!(E$(DE456!F'E!GM$!7$H45DE-!!IM$5!HDS456!DEED56$H$5G7!F'E!G$DNM456!GM$!7$H45DE! • #47NK77!GM$!G4H$!'F!GM$!7$H45DE!Q4GM!GM$!M'7G!NMKENM-! o @DGKE)D+7!'FG$5!Q'ES!Q$&&-! o @K5)D+7!HD+!*$!D5!'(G4'5-!§ /$645!Q4GM!D)K&G!@K5)D+!@NM''&!'E!Q'E7M4(-!§ L'5G45K$!45G'!GM$!DFG$E5''5-! o :Q'!'E!GME$$!$%$54567!45!D!Q$$S-! Organizations in conflict need more handholding than a typical host when making arrangements for a seminar. Take the time to keep in contact and double check arrangements.

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!!B"!o :$DNM!'%$E!D!7$E4$7!'F!Q$$S7!(E4'E!G'!GM$!45G$E%4$Q7-! • AEED56$!F'E!(E'($E!$JK4(H$5G!D5)!7$G!K(!'F!E''H-!LD&&!*$F'E$!+'K!DEE4%$!G'!N'55$NG!Q4GM!GM$!($E7'5!E$7('574*&$!F'E!7$G!K(8!D5)!GM$5!NM$NS!GM$!7$G!K(!QM$5!+'K!DEE4%$!'5!YE4)D+-! o :D*&$7!D5)!NMD4E78!Q4GM!D&&!NMD4E7!FDN456!GM$!FE'5G-! o 94NE'(M'5$7-!! o ,E'_$NG'E!]F'E!,'Q$E,'45G!D5)!%4)$'!N&4(7^8!$0G$574'5!N'E)78!7NE$$58!D5)!7GD5)!F'E!+'KE!N'H(KG$E-! o @'K5)!7+7G$H!N'55$NG4'5!G'!N'H(KG$E!F'E!%4)$'!N&4(7-! o :D*&$!F'E!E$7'KEN$7! • A7S!NMKENM!G'!M'7G!&K5NM!D5)!HDS$!DEED56$H$5G7-! o ,E'%4)$!7NM$)K&$!'KG&45$!F'E!M'7G8!$7($N4D&&+!5'G456!7GDEG!D5)!$5)!G4H$8!*E$DS78!D5)!&K5NM-!/$!7KE$!G'!GD&S!Q4GM!GM$!($E7'5!(E'%4)456!E$FE$7MH$5G7!D5)!H$D&7!(E4'E!G'!+'KE!DEE4%D&-! • O$&(!+'KE!'5>74G$!N''E)45DG'E!N'574)$E!$%$E+'5$!GMDG!5$$)7!G'!*$!N'5GDNG$)-!W.:fX!This is important because many conflicted churches do not work well within their own systems and often need guidance for very basic organizational tasks.!A7S!7($N4F4ND&&+X! o Y'E!K7$!'F!E''H!QM$E$!7$H45DE!Q4&&!*$!(E$7$5G$)!]5'!Q$))4567!'E!'GM$E!H$$G4567!7NM$)K&$)^-! o A*'KG!DEED56$H$5G7!F'E!7$E%456!*E$DS7!D5)!H$D&7-! o :'!NM$NS!Q4GM!NMKENM!ND&$5)DE!F'E!D5+!N'5F&4NG7-! o :'!NM$NS!Q4GM!N'HHK54G+!ND&$5)DE!F'E!D5+!N'5F&4NG7-! o :M$!:$DH!P$D)$E!HD+!5$$)!G'!($E7'5D&&+!GD&S!Q4GM!!H'E$!GMD5!'5$!($E7'5!QM'!HD+!*$!DFF$NG$)!*+!GM$!7NM$)K&$!]$-6-8!7$NE$GDE+8!(D7G'E8!'GM$E!NMKENM!7GDFF8!($'(&$!E$7('574*&$!F'E!E$FE$7MH$5G78!($E7'5!E$7('574*&$!F'E!FDN4&4G4$7!7$G!K(8!$GN-^-! • #47NK77!M'Q!GM$!7$H45DE!Q4&&!*$!(E'H'G$)-! o ,E'%4)$!F&+$E7!'E!*K&&$G45!457$EG7!D5)!('7G$E7!G'!M$&(!(E'H'G$!GM$!7$H45DE!]*$!7KE$!G'!45N&K)$!GM$7$!N'7G7!45!+'KE!D6E$$H$5G^-! o U$H45)!($'(&$!G'!*E456!GM$4E!/4*&$7-! o A7S!F'E!GM$4E!N'(4$7!'F!*K&&$G45!D55'K5N$H$5G78!F&+$E78!Q$*!74G$!D55'K5N$H$5G78!$HD4&78!$GN-!GMDG!(E'H'G$!GM$!7$H45DE-! • U$JK4E$!E$647GEDG4'5!F'E!7$H45DE!]G'!H'54G'E!(E'6E$778!F'E!(E'%4)456!D!N'K5G!F'E!&K5NM8!G'!$5N'KED6$!'GM$E7!G'!7465!K(8!D5)!G'!(E'%4)$!D!&47G!F'E!+'KE!:$DHZ7!E$F$E$5N$^-! In a few cases, AoR discovered that the local church advertising two or even three different starting times for the seminar! Don’t assume that they will communicate clearly with one another.

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! 13!Agreement for GRA, Page 9 of 9 Acceptance of Proposal :M$!K5)$E7465$)!(DEG4$78!45!GM$4E!E$(E$7$5GDG4%$!ND(DN4G4$78!M$E$*+!D6E$$!G'!GM$!(E'%474'57!'F!GM47!A6E$$H$5G8!](D6$7!"><^8!D5)!*+!(D+H$5G!'F!GM$!jnn8nnn!)$('74G!$5N&'7$)!M$E$Q4GM8!$5G$E!45G'!GM47!A6E$$H$5G!F'E!VE'K(!U$N'5N4&4DG4'5!A7747GD5N$-!! :M47!A6E$$H$5G!47!'($5!F'E!DNN$(GD5N$!K(!G' 30 days after it is sent to the Congregation by CCS-!:M$E$DFG$E8!D!5$Q!D6E$$H$5G!Q'K&)!5$$)!G'!*$!E$JK$7G$)-!!For Christian Conciliation Service (CCS): !*+!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!! #DG$X!!!!!!!!!!!! ! ! ! ! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:4G&$!!!!!!!!For Congregation:! *+!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!! ! *+!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!,D7G'E!!! ! ! ! !!!!!!! ! !! ! ! ! !,E$74)$5G!'E!LMD4E($E7'5!!#D+!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!! ! !#D+!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!f%$-!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! !!!!!!! !f%$-!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!#DG$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!! !! #DG$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!*+!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!! ! !*+!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!@$NE$GDE+!'F!GM$!L'56E$6DG4'5! !!!!!!! ! !! !].GM$E!4F!E$JK4E$)^!mmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!#D+!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!! ! !#D+!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!f%$-!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm! !!!!!!!!!!!!!f%$-!,M'5$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!#DG$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!#DG$X!!mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!! !U$H45)$E!G'!L'56E$6DG4'5X!!f5N&'7$!)$('74G!'F!jnn8nnn8!N'(+!'F!GM$!N'57G4GKG4'5!D5)!*+&DQ78!D5)!N'(+!'F!GM$!H$$G456!H45KG$7!D5)!E$7'&KG4'5!D((E'%456!GM47!D6E$$H$5G-!!!

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! 1R!Agreement for Bible Study Seminar and Consultation, Page 1 of 4 Agreement for Bible Study Seminar and Consultation AGREEMENT The Seminar Host and Seminar Presenter agree to cooperate in presenting a Conflict Resolution vs. Reconciliation Bible study seminar at the location and date indicated according to the provisions listed below under “Bible Study Seminar.” In addition, the Seminar Presenter agrees to provide consultation as described below under “Consultation.” BIBLE STUDY SEMINAR Seminar Host Seminar Presenter (hereinafter “Host” or “you”) (hereinafter “CCS” or “we”) !!!!!!!Seminar Location, and Date and Time ! CCS’s Responsibilities – CCS shall be responsible for the following arrangements: a. Providing Host with information to assist in promoting the seminar, including bulletin inserts, oral and written announcements; b. Making reservations for instructor’s travel and lodging; c. Shipping and providing all instructional materials for participants, including the seminar guide Conflict Resolution vs. Reconciliation and the pamphlet Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness; d. Providing the actual instruction for the seminar utilizing multi-media; e. Providing computer for PowerPoint and video presentations. Host’s Responsibilities – Host shall be responsible for all local arrangements for the seminar, including: a. Setting the registration fee for the seminar (Host may set fees at its discretion); b. Promoting the seminar; c. Arranging for suitable seminar facilities and equipment, subject to CCS approval, including: • chairs and tables for participants; • a high quality sound system with two wireless microphones; • a LED Projector, power cord, stand and screen for PowerPoint presentations; • 1/8” stereo plug and cord to connect instructor’s computer to Host’s sound system; d. Receiving and recording all seminar registrations, and providing all registration information (to include name, address, and email) to CCS within 30 days of the end of the seminar; e. Providing staff during the seminar to take registration, distribute materials, serve refreshments during breaks, assist at the CCS book table, and otherwise administer the seminar; f. Providing for all participants a light lunch and refreshments for breaks in morning and afternoon; Name Street City, State Zip Phone: Contact (person, email, & phone) Name Street City, State Zip Phone: Contact (person, email, & phone) Name of seminar location Date: Street Time of seminar; time of registration City, State Zip Lunch provided by host

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! 1B!Agreement for Bible Study Seminar and Consultation, Page 2 of 4 g. Arranging for any CCS materials remaining after the seminar to be shipped back to CCS’s address or another designated location on the first business day after the seminar. Boxes will be prepared for shipping by CCS (packed, taped, and labeled). Host will be reimbursed for cost of any shipping upon submission of receipts. Seminar Cancellation – If CCS cancels the seminar, it shall return whatever deposit has been paid and shall be responsible for any non-refundable, out-of-pocket expenses incurred by either Host or CCS. If Host cancels the seminar, it shall forfeit its deposit and shall be responsible for any non-refundable, out-of-pocket expenses incurred by either Host or CCS. (This would normally include items such as printing and mailing expenses and airline change fees, which cannot be refunded, but it would not include other airline ticket expenses that can be transferred to another ticket.) If a seminar is canceled due to circumstances beyond either party’s control (e.g., inclement weather, airline delays, or illness prevents the instructors from arriving on time), half of the deposit that has been paid shall be refunded, and the parties shall share equally any non-refundable, out-of-pocket expenses. Book Tables – Either Host or CCS may set up informational and/or book tables at the seminar. Host shall be responsible for setting up the tables and for providing support staff to assist at CCS tables (1 support staff for every 50 registrants). All other expenses and revenue associated with such tables shall be covered or retained by the sponsoring organization. CONSULTATION Our goal at Christian Conciliation Service (CCS) is to help guide Christians involved in conflict to remember their reconciliation with God and to reconcile with one another as children of God (2 Corinthians 5:16-21). We believe that the Bible provides thorough guidance and instruction for faith and life (2 Timothy 3:16-17). Therefore, beginning with what God has done for us through Christ, CCS bases its services on scriptural teachings rather than those of secular psychology or psychiatry. God’s Word urges his people to live in peace with each other by promoting understanding, personal responsibility, justice, and reconciliation (Rom. 12:1-21). Description of Services – CCS offers different levels of Christian reconciliation services. We provide conflict coaching, consultation and written resources to help individuals and church leaders explore ways to resolve disputes personally and privately. We also provide mediation, an informal process in which one or more mediators meet with all of the people involved in the conflict to help them arrive at a voluntary settlement of their differences. When congregations or other organizations struggle with conflict, we provide group reconciliation services, which include teaching, interviewing for gathering data and coaching, mediating a few key parties, evaluating data, and reporting findings and recommendations. Finally, we provide adjudication, a more formal process in which one or more adjudicators hear each side's arguments and render a legally binding decision. All of our services are provided according to the Rules of Procedure found in Guidelines for Christian Conciliation published by ICC-Peace. The Rules are incorporated in this agreement by reference as set forth in their entirety.2 This agreement is for teaching the seminar and consultation services only. This agreement includes twelve (12) hours of contact time for consultation time with the leadership during the same weekend as the seminar. If you decide to proceed with mediation, group reconciliation or adjudication services, we will provide you with a more detailed agreement on services, mutual expectations, and fees. Consultation – Consultation shall be arranged as follows: !2 Available at http://www.aorhope.org/rules

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! 1;!Agreement for Bible Study Seminar and Consultation, Page 3 of 4 • CCS shall provide twelve hours of consultation time meeting with leaders prior to and/or following the seminar. • CCS and the Host’s Authorized Representatives identified below will determine the schedule and identify the individuals for the consultation time prior to and following the seminar. • To support the consultation services and further equipping of the staff and leaders, this proposal includes seven copies of the book Cultivating Lifestyles of Reconciliation. These resources will supplement the consultation and provide direction for cultivating a lifestyle of reconciliation and establishing a Reconciliation Ministry for the congregation. Authorized Representatives – If you are a church or other organization, you authorize the following individuals to access consultation services (name and/or title): __________________________________ __________________________________ Name Title __________________________________ __________________________________ Name Title __________________________________ __________________________________ Name Title Not Legal Representation – Christian reconciliation services may be used to resolve legal disputes (Matthew 5:23-26; 18:15-20; 1 Corinthians 6:1-8). Even so, our reconcilers do not provide the kind of legal advice and advocacy that can be obtained through a personal attorney. We work with and for all of the people in a dispute, helping them to find a mutually satisfactory agreement. Therefore, if you are concerned about your legal rights, you should consult with an independent attorney who would be willing to accompany and advise you, if you deem it necessary, during the reconciliation process. Confidentiality is an important aspect of the reconciliation process and we will carefully guard the information you entrust to us. To ensure that you are receiving consistent counsel and support, however, we need to be able to discuss your situation with your attorney, if you have one, and with appropriate leaders of your church and/or denomination. Furthermore, we may need to divulge information to appropriate authorities if there is a clear indication that someone might otherwise be harmed (see Rules of Procedure 16 and 17). We ask that you agree not to discuss our communication with people who do not have a necessary interest in the reconciliation process. By participating in this process, you agree to treat all dealings with us in regard to this dispute as settlement negotiations, which means they will be inadmissible in a court of law or for legal discovery (Rule 16). Furthermore, you agree that you will not try to force any reconciler to divulge any information acquired during reconciliation or to testify in any legal proceeding related to this dispute. Our Commitments to You – We desire that parties be given the opportunity to tell their story in a safe environment and to lay their burden at the foot of the cross. To that end we will: • Listen with caring, compassionate concern, seeking to understand and to be supportive. • Provide you with the opportunity to tell us what is needed for healing and restoration. • Bring the Gospel to bear as we have opportunity, including confession and forgiveness. • Provide biblical coaching to help you live out your vocation as children of God in your disputes. • Keep confidences, only reporting to authorities what is appropriate or required by law (see above on confidentiality). • Make recommendations for the development of future reconciliation ministries and other support groups within the church as may be appropriate to your situation. DEPOSIT, FEES AND EXPENSES a. To reserve the date for the seminar and consultation, Host shall pay a deposit to CCS in the amount of $X,XXX (US Dollars), which is due at signing of this agreement. Deposit will be applied toward any funds due to CCS.

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! 12!Agreement for Bible Study Seminar and Consultation, Page 4 of 4 b. Host will be responsible for the following expenses related to the seminar and consultation: • $X,XXX (US Dollars) paid to CCS as a base fee for presenting the seminar, twelve hours of consultation, and seven copies of the book Cultivating Lifestyles of Reconciliation ($9.00 each for additional copies); • $14.00 (US Dollars) per seminar registrant paid to CCS as a materials fee; • $XXX per hour for consultation over the twelve hours provided within this agreement (no travel time will be charged for consultation during the same visit as the seminar; if additional trips are required, travel time will be charged at half the normal rate); • All travel, lodging, and meal expenses reasonably incurred by CCS; • All promotional and facility expenses incurred by Host, including lunch and refreshments. CONFLICT RESOLUTION The parties to this agreement are represented by Christians who believe that the Bible commands them to make every effort to live at peace and to resolve disputes with each other in private or within the Christian Church (see Matthew 18:15-20; 1 Corinthians 6:1-8). Therefore, the parties agree that any claim or dispute arising from or related to this agreement shall be settled by biblically based mediation and, if necessary, legally binding arbitration in accordance with the Rules of Procedure for Christian Conciliation of the Institute for Christian Conciliation. If the parties cannot agree on a mutually acceptable conciliator, the conciliator shall be appointed by Ambassadors of Reconciliation (www.aorhope.org). Judgment upon an arbitration award may be entered in any court otherwise having jurisdiction. The parties understand that these methods shall be the sole remedy for any controversy or claim arising out of this agreement and expressly waive their right to file a lawsuit in any civil court against one another for such disputes, except to enforce an arbitration award. Approved by: Host CCS (Christian Conciliation Service) ____________________ Date_______ ______________________Date_____ Signature Signature ________________________________________ ________________________________________ Printed Name & Title Printed Name & Title !!

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! "=B! Ground Rules for Facilitating Difficult Meetings !IM$5!&$D)456!)4FF4NK&G!H$$G4567!'E!H$$G4567!QM$E$!)4%474%$!477K$7!HD+!*$!)47NK77$)8!GM$!NMD4E($E7'5!'E!FDN4&4GDG'E!7M'K&)!$7GD*&47M!6E'K5)!EK&$7!DG!GM$!*$6455456!'F!GM$!H$$G456-!!Anticipate when a meeting will be difficult. For example: • IM$5!($'(&$!HD+!*$N'H$!$H'G4'5D&!• IM$5!D!('G$5G4D&&+!)4%474%$!477K$!Q4&&!*$!)47NK77$)!• IM$5!GM$!'E6D54`DG4'5!MD7!$0($E4$5N$)!7GE4F$!45!(E$%4'K7!H$$G4567!• IM$E$!'5$!'E!H'E$!45)4%4)KD&7!MD7!HD54(K&DG$)8!N'5GE'&&$)8!'E!45G4H4)DG$)!($'(&$!45!(E$%4'K7!H$$G4567!• IM$E$!'5$!'E!H'E$!45)4%4)KD&7!MD7!K7$)!745FK&!*$MD%4'E!45!(E$%4'K7!H$$G4567!• IM$E$!($'(&$!HD+!5$$)!6K4)D5N$!F'E!LME47G4D5!*$MD%4'E!!Begin with a Devotion OD%$!7'H$'5$!*$74)$7!GM$!NMD4E($E7'5!'E!FDN4&4GDG'E!'($5!Q4GM!D!)$%'G4'5!45N&K)456!D!/4*&$!E$D)456!D5)!(ED+$E-!:M$!)$%'G4'5!7M'K&)!45N&K)$!D!F'NK7!'5!QMDG!LME47G!MD7!)'5$!F'E!K7!]V'7($&^- !List and Describe the Ground Rules5 /$645!*+!$0(&D45456!GMDG!6E'K5)!EK&$7!GDS$5!FE'H!@NE4(GKE$!HD+!M$&(!6K4)$!GM$!H$$G456-!W$0G8!E$D)!f(M$74D57!BX3<>R3!]GM47!)'$7!5'G!E$(&DN$!GM$!)$%'G4'57^-!:M$5!4G$H4`$!GM$!F'&&'Q456!6E'K5)!EK&$7!'5!D!F&4(!NMDEG8!,'Q$E,'45G8!'E!MD5)'KG8!D))456!$0(&D5DG4'5!D7!)$7NE4*$)!'5!GM$!E46MGX!!!5 In meetings where confidential information will be presented, you may add a ground rule “Hold confidences” referencing Proverbs 11:13; 20:19; and 25:9. When explaining the ground rule, indicate specifically what is to be held confidential – e.g., issues regarding employee matters, legal issues (especially legal vulnerabilities and legal advice), who said what in discussions, etc. If someone objects to this rule of confidentiality, do not discuss any confidential inforemation during this meeting. Ground Rules • Speak respectfully • Be open & honest, but always in love • Avoid speculating on others’ motives • Avoid interrupting • Speak one time until everyone else has had an opportunity to speak Ground Rules – Difficult Meetings, Page 1 of 2 Notes for Explaining the Rules • No name calling; no “unwholesome talk” • Eph. 4:15 – “Speak the truth in love” • Remember – only God knows another’s heart. If concerned about another’s motives, ask them about their underlying interests. Do not assume or make declarations. • If you want to make a point while another is talking, take notes & wait until your turn. • Do not speak a 2nd time until everyone else has had an opportunity to speak. Avoid monopolizing the discussion.

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! "=;!Get agreement on ground rules • AFG$E!E$%4$Q456!GM$!6E'K5)!EK&$78!GM$!&$D)$E!5$$)7!G'!D7S!F'E!D6E$$H$5GX! “If there is anyone who cannot agree to these ground rules, which are based on Scripture, please raise your objections at this time.” • TF!5'!'*_$NG4'57!DE$!ED47$)!]QM4NM!47!H'7G!&4S$&+^8!HDS$!GM$!F'&&'Q456!7GDG$H$5GX!!! [@45N$!T!M$DE!5'!'*_$NG4'57!G'!GM$7$!6E'K5)!EK&$78!Q$!Q4&&!D77KH$!GMDG!$%$E+'5$!MD7!D6E$$)!G'!GM$H!D5)!Q$!MD%$!D&&!*'K5)!'KE7$&%$7!G'!GM$7$!EK&$7-!A5+'5$!QM'!)47EK(G7!GM$!H$$G456!*+!%4'&DG456!GM$!6E'K5)!EK&$7!DFG$E!*$456!E$H45)$)!'5N$!Q4&&!*$!D7S$)!G'!&$D%$!GM$!H$$G456-\! • TF!GM$E$!DE$!H45'E!'*_$NG4'578!HDS$!D)_K7GH$5G7!D7!5$$)$)-!:M$5!E$7GDG$!GM$!7GDG$H$5G!D*'%$8!Q4GM!GM$!F'&&'Q456!D)_K7GH$5G8!“Since I hear no additional objections…”! • TF!GM$E$!DE$!HD_'E!'*_$NG4'57!]QM4NM!47!EDE$^8!45)4NDG$!GMDG!GM$!6E'K(!Q4&&!F'&&'Q!Robert’s Rules of Order!D5)!D7S!F'E!D!H'G4'5!G'!D)'(G!GM$!6E'K5)!EK&$7X! “The chairperson requests a motion to adopt these ground rules for our meeting with the stipulation that anyone who disrupts the meeting by violating the ground rules after being reminded will be asked to leave the meeting.” o Y'&&'Q456!D((E'%D&!'F!GM$!H'G4'58!HDS$!GM$!7GDG$H$5GX [ANN'E)456!G'!GM$!Q47M$7!'F!GM47!6E'K(8!GM$7$!7MD&&!7$E%$!D7!'KE!6E'K5)!EK&$7-!A5+'5$!QM'!N'5G45K$7!G'!)47EK(G!GM$!H$$G456!DFG$E!*$456!E$H45)$)!'5N$!Q4&&!*$!D7S$)!G'!&$D%$!GM$!H$$G456-\!! Pray for God’s blessing on the meeting. • AFG$E!GM$!F45D&!7GDG$H$5G8!&$D)!GM$!6E'K(!45!(ED+$E-!a'K!HD+!K7$!GM$!F'&&'Q456X! “Almighty God and Lord, as You have called us to labor in Your vineyard, so grant us now Your presence. Enlighten and guide us by Your Word that in all matters of deliberation we may always consider the best interests of Your Church and this congregation [school, district, etc.]. Let Your Holy Spirit rule and direct our hearts that, in the spirit of Christian love, we may present and discuss matters and be kindly disposed toward one another, to the end that all we say and do may please You; through Jesus Christ, our Lord. Amen” ],ED+$E!"R<8!(-!R=C8!Lutheran Service Book, L,O8!3==2^-!!Hold people accountable. :M$!&$D)$E!7M'K&)!M'&)!($'(&$!DNN'K5GD*&$!G'!GM$!6E'K5)!EK&$7-!TF!D!($E7'5!MD7!*$$5!E$H45)$)!D*'KG!GM$!EK&$7!*KG!N'5G45K$7!G'!%4'&DG$!6E'K5)!EK&$7!D5)!)47EK(G!GM$!H$$G4568!GM$!&$D)$E!7M'K&)!D7S!GM$!'FF$5)$E!G'!&$D%$!GM$!H$$G456!($E!GM$!6E'K(Z7!N'HH4GH$5G!G'!6E'K5)!EK&$7-!TF!D!($E7'5!E$FK7$7!G'!&$D%$!DFG$E!*$456!D7S$)86!Roberts Rules of Order!45)4NDG$!GMDG!D!($E7'5!HD+!*$!(M+74ND&&+!E$H'%$)-!TF!GM47!*$N'H$7!G''!)47EK(G4%$8!GM$!&$D)$E!HD+!D7S!F'E!D!H'G4'5!G'!7K7($5)!'E!$5)!GM$!H$$G456!K5G4&!7KNM!D!G4H$!GMDG!GM$!H$$G456!ND5!*$!M$&)!45!D!V')>(&$D7456!HD55$E-!!6 This may happen in rare circumstances. In such cases, it may be because the person is being affected by drugs, alcohol, or mental illness. When there is a refusal to abide by the agreed-upon rules including leaving the meeting, the best option may be to suspend or end the meeting until another time. Then the individual’s disruptive behavior can be addressed privately before the meeting continues. Ground Rules – Difficult Meetings, Page 2 of 2