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Please tell me about a specialmoment or time in your marriage?A special moment is when we hadour daughter.Does communication get betterwith time?Yes, but most things get betterwith time if you are both stillputting in the same effort. In thebeginning, it was hard because ourage gap left us thinking aboutthings differently; but as we’vegrown together, those differencesare less of an issue because wehave talked through them.Where did you meet and how?We met in church at VacationBible School. Royal was the gymteacher volunteering with theyouth, and I was in the highschoolers’ classes.What do you like most aboutbeing married?We like the camaraderie ofmarriage. We work well together.What is the one thing you have incommon that transcendseverything else?We are thrilled to operate inministry together to change lives.Please tell about a specialmoment or time in your marriage?We have had many specialmoments, but what has been mostspecial are those times when wetogether as one were ordained aspastors, then as apostles and weearned our masters and doctoraldegrees in theology together.The Bible says that marriage ishonorable in all. Drs. Kim and RoyalMcClinton understand that Godviews this sacred institution as vitaland a key component of strongfamilies. Born and raised in Chicago, Royaland Kim are Senior Pastors of Life inChrist Family Worship CenterInternational in Sauk Village, Illinois,and are passionate about changingthe lives of God’s people, inside andout.They know firsthand that marriageisn’t easy. Together they haveweathered storms that manycouples haven’t survived. Throughthe birth of kids and grandkids,health challenges and scares, thelaunch of a church and businesses,and even divorce and remarriage,these two people are a testament tothe endurance of love. They have chronicled their life andrelationship experiences in a brand-new book entitled Bare Naked andNot Ashamed: The Marriage Manual,and it’s clear from page one thattheir challenges and the lessonsthey have learned helped to lay thefoundation for this book years ago. Published by Christian FaithPublishers, the book is available onAmazon. With a wealth of experienceand education and a heart for thepeople of God, Drs. Royal andKimberly McClinton want to helpothers, specifically couples, maintainthe spark they had on their weddingday. More importantly, they want othersto avoid the pitfalls theyexperienced – including a divorceafter 20 years – so that they canknow what reconciliation,forgiveness and a new beginninglook like with God at the center ofmarriage.How long have you been married?We were married in 1986, divorcedfor 4 years in 2006 and remarried in2011. This past July, we celebrated35 years of marriage. MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 5
BIBLE VERSES THATBIBLE VERSES THATCHANGED MY MARRIAGECHANGED MY MARRIAGE1 0By Dave WillisMR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 6
2. “Now the man and his wifewere both naked, but they felt noshame.“ (Genesis 2:25)I love the idea of a “nakedmarriage”! God’s original designfor marriage was perfect and itincluded a lot of naked time,which not only points to thesexual aspect of a marriagerelationship but also the“nakedness” that needs tohappen on an emotional andspiritual level. Nakednessrepresents transparency,honesty, vulnerability and anatmosphere of seeing someonefor who they are and stillaccepting them completely.That’s vital in marriage.3. “Don’t copy the behavior andcustoms of this world, but letGod transform you into a newperson by changing the way youthink. Then you will learn to knowGod’s will for you, which is goodand pleasing and perfect.”(Romans 12:2)You don’t have to read too manymagazine covers or watchHollywood news very long torealize the world’s standards formarriage are pretty messed up.Over 30 million married individualswere recently “outed” for lookingfor an affair partner on the hacked“Ashley Madison” website. Thisverse reminds me that my life andmy marriage can’t be based onthe world’s standards. We needto allow God’s word to transformour minds and shape our thinking.The Bible has changed my life andmy marriage. Seriously. Dependingon where you are on your faithjourney, you may look at the Bible(as I do) as a love letter from Godfilled with inspiration and instructionfor life OR perhaps you just see it asan antiquated, outdated relic. Regardless of your current faith (orlack of faith), I’d encourage you toread the ten verses below, becausethey’ve had a tremendous impact onmy life, and I believe they couldprovide some encouragement toyou as well.I challenge you to apply thetimeless wisdom of these tenverses below and see whathappens. You might be amazed atjust how practical and relevant theBible is for marriage and for everyother aspect of life as well.As a quick disclaimer, these aren’tthe only ten verses of Scripture thathave shaped my marriage orimpacted my life, and they’reprobably not even the top ten; butthese are a few of the many thathave had a tremendous impact. Inno particular order…1. “Most important of all, continueto show deep love for each other,for love covers a multitude ofsins.” (1 Peter 4:8)This verse is straightforward. Wetend to overcomplicate ourrelationships, but if we’ll just loveeach other deeply, truly, selflesslyand wholeheartedly, love tends tooverpower the imperfections andflaws we all have.4. “But the man who commitsadultery is an utter fool, for hedestroys himself.” (Proverbs6:32)The Bible has a lot to say aboutadultery because it causes somuch pain and wreckage. Thisparticular verse points out thatadultery doesn’t just hurt theperson who has been “cheatedon” but it also causes great harmto the person who does thecheating. Nobody wins with anaffair.5. “I say, anyone who even looksat a woman with lust has alreadycommitted adultery with her inhis heart.” (Matthew 5:28)This is one of Jesus’ teachingsabout adultery, and He raises thestandard to include “mentalinfidelity.” Our motives, ourthoughts and our fantasies matter.We need to be mentallymonogamous as well asphysically monogamous. This issuch a high standard and itremoves the option fordestructive (yet common) thingslike porn in a marriage.6. “Don’t worry about anything;instead, pray about everything.Tell God what you need, andthank him for all he has done.”(Philippians 4:6)This clearly isn’t just goodmarriage advice, but this appliesto all parts of life. God doesn’twant us going through life worriedand anxious. He wants to give uspeace.MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 7
It sounds so simple, and yet ourselfish nature makes it socomplicated. Simply love andserve each other, and yourmarriage will transform beforeyour eyes!10. “Be kind to each other,tenderhearted, forgiving oneanother, just as God throughChrist has forgiven you.”(Ephesians 4:32)Kindness and forgiveness.Imagine what marriages couldlook like if we simply made it adaily priority to show kindnessand forgiveness to each other!7. “Submit to one another out ofreverence for Christ.”(Ephesians 5:21)“Submission” is a controversialword in Christian circles, but thisverse gives a clear and potentchallenge for us to serve oneanother out of reverence andrespect for Christ Himself. Whena husband and wife will place theneeds and desires of his/herspouse ahead of their own, themarriage will thrive.8. “For husbands, this meanslove your wives, just as Christloved the church. He gave up hislife for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)This may be the mostchallenging verse in the Bible fora husband because Jesus setsuch a high standard. He literallygave His life in a torturous deathfor His bride (the church) andthen calls us to love our wiveswith that same level of devotion. Iwant to love Ashley the wayJesus loves His church.Husbands, if we’ll do our best tofollow this one verse ofScripture, our marriages could beradically transformed in theprocess!9. “Love is patient and kind.Love is not jealous or boastfulor proud.” (1 Corinthians 13:4)This is just one small verse fromthe “Love Chapter” (1 Corinthians13), but this short verse is power-packed with practical applicationfor marriage. Love is patient andkind, so be patient and kind withyour spouse. Love is not jealousor proud, so be humble andselfless with your spouse.MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 8Mr. and Mrs.Magazine. The first ad with us isabsolutely free!!Email us email@example.com Dave Willis is a pastor andwriter who has become one ofAmerica's most trusted voices on issues related tomarriage, faith and family. Heand his wife, Ashley, are hosts of The NakedMarriage Podcast and contentcreators for XO Marriage which is the nation's largestmarriage-focused ministry.
Old Southern Sweet Potato PieRecipes UseMR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 9
IngredientsDough for single-crust pie2 medium sweet potatoes (about1½ pounds), peeled and cubed1/3 cup butter, softened1/2 cup sugar2 large eggs at roomtemperature, lightly beaten3/4 cup evaporated milk1 teaspoon vanilla extract1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon1/2 teaspoon ground nutmeg1/4 teaspoon saltInstructionsPreheat oven to 425°. On a lightlyfloured surface, roll dough to a1/8-inch-thick circle; transfer to a9-inch pie plate. Trim crust to 1/2 inch beyond rimof plate; flute edge. Refrigeratewhile preparing filling.Place sweet potatoes in amedium saucepan; add water tocover. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cook, uncovered, untiltender, 13-15 minutes. Drain potatoes;return to pan. Mash until very smooth;cool to room temperature.In a bowl, cream butter and sugar.Add eggs; mix well. Add milk, twocups mashed sweet potatoes, vanilla,cinnamon, nutmeg, and salt; mix well. Pour into crust. Bake for 15 minutes.Reduce heat to 350°; bake until setor a knife inserted in the centercomes out clean, 35-40 minutes.Cool on a wire rack. Refrigerateleftovers.Helpful HintsHow do you make pie crust fromscratch?To make a single-crust pie crust fromscratch, combine 1a cup of all-purpose flour and 1/4 teaspoon ofsalt; cut in 1/3 cup of shortening (likeCrisco) until crumbly. Sprinkle with 1½-1/2 teaspoons of white vinegar. MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 10Do you refrigerate sweet potato pie?Sweet potato pies are essentiallybaked custard pies, so they should bestored in the refrigerator. After bakingyour pie, let it cool completely for twoto four hours. Loosely cover the piewith aluminum foil before refrigeratingfor up to four days.Can you freeze sweet potato pie?Yes, you can freeze sweet potatopie. Do keep in mind that the texturemay change slightly. Once your piehas completely cooled, tightly wrap itin a few layers of plastic wrap. Then, wrap in foil or place in anairtight freezer container. You canfreeze this recipe for up to threemonths. To thaw, place in therefrigerator overnight.
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How long have you beenmarried?Dez and I have been married for11 years, together for 13.Where did you meet and how?We met through a mutual friend.What do you like most aboutbeing married?The trust Dez and I built alongwith the unconditional love wegive through our relationship andfriendship.Does communication get betterwith time?Yes, with time, as we have gottento know each other more, ourcommunication has gotten allthat much better.How do you communicate loveand appreciation to yourspouse?Besides regularly telling Dez Ilove him, I also show Dezappreciation through cooking hisfavorite meals. His food tastesare pretty basic, i.e., meat andpotatoes, which is nice and easy.In addition, while on scenic ridesin the countryside, I listen to hisfavorite genre of music which ispretty eclectic…artists fromLizzo, Biggie, James Brown,Jimmy Hendrix, and Nina Simoneto James Taylor and theCarpenters.What is the one thing you havein common that transcendseverything else?The common thread throughoutour marriage is our faith and trustin God along with our relationshipwith Christ. What have you and your spousedone that was so silly that, everytime you talk about it, you fall outlaughing?What is the best piece of adviceyou ever received about marriage?Who gave it you? How did you useit?Please tell about a special momentor time in your marriage?I suffered a miscarriage during myfourth month of pregnancy. Goingthrough all the burden of pregnancywithout the benefit of a baby was lifeshattering. Not to mention the guiltand toll it took on my mental andphysical health. As a result of my miscarriage, I criedregularly and often. I felt shame andhated my body for allowing this tohappen. On top of all of that, fordays, I could not control the fluidsand grey matter that drained frommy body all day. It was horrible! ButDez was with me through it all togive support, empathy, a shoulder tocry on, rest and quiet when I neededit, and unconditional love.MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 12
THE POWER OFTHE POWER OFPRAYER IN MARRIAGEPRAYER IN MARRIAGE By Robert & SaChe' JacksMR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 13
Prayer can make a weak marriagestronger and a solid marriageeven more unified. Just imaginehaving the power of Godproviding a daily shield for yourmarriage against the enemy. Luke 1:37 clearly states, “For withGod nothing shall be impossible.”You and your spouse have at yourdisposal the greatest force in theuniverse: The power of GodAlmighty directly involved inmaking your marriage and lifebetter each day! Nothing isimpossible!I believe that prayer can makethe difference between a lastingmarriage that grows and thrivesand one that fails and decays. The following are short prayers Iam sharing to help you and yourspouse build a stronger marriage. These prayers cover many areas,including unity, intimacy, honesty,forgiveness and restoration. Nomatter what phase of marriageyou are in, continue to develop aregular nightly regimen of prayerand thanksgiving. UnityLord, we come to you in prayerasking that You show favor on ourmarriage and keep us unified. We commit to stand together inlove and face whatever the worldmay bring against us, knowingYou will shield us. In Jesus' name,Amen.One of the foundations of a strong,Christian marriage is prayer. Comingtogether in prayer is a vital part ofour communication with God andgives us a united approach to speakto God together in a personal andintimate way.It is a daily habit you and yourspouse should becomeaccustomed to doing as naturally askissing each other goodnight orpreparing yourself for bed. Usingthis powerful force can not onlystrengthen your marital relationshipbut also fully empower God to workdirectly on your behalf daily.Matthew 18:19-20 clearly highlightsthe power of couples prayingtogether when Jesus said, “Again Isay unto you, that if two of you shallagree on earth as touching anythingthat they shall ask, it shall be donefor them of my Father which is inheaven.” Many times, we pray alone out ofhabit before bed, but prayingtogether for God’s favor on yourmarriage, your family and our healthoffers a direct connection to theFather to positively impact yourmarriage right now.If you are praying alone, thencontinue to pray every day in hopesthat your spouse will see yourconsistency and seek to be closerto you in a more spiritual way.Husbands and wives should standtogether before the Lord anddemonstrate their commitment anddetermination to withstand the evilinfluences of the world. IntimacyLord, we believe it’s Your purposethat husbands and wives shouldinitiate and desire intimacy in theirmarriages. We pray for personalconnection to understand andknow each other in a new anddeeper way daily. We believe ourintimacy shall become strongerand richer through Yourprotection. In Jesus' name, Amen.HonestyLord, we come before You todayto ask You to help us doeverything with absolute honestyin our marriage. Help us to not lieto each other and to admit ourmistakes and address the errorswhich can affect our marriage.Make us accountable in ouractions and transparent with eachother. In Jesus' name, Amen.ForgivenessLord, help us to forget and forgiveeach other for the words andactions which may hurt or offendour spouses. Let us rememberYou forgave us, and we shouldshow agape love to each other aswe work daily to make ourmarriages stronger. In Jesus'name, Amen.RestorationLord, we ask for Your intercessionto restore and rebuild ourmarriage. Remove the forceswhich seek to destroy ourtroubled relationship and providehealing and comfort to ourwounded hearts. We call uponYou to place a hedge ofprotection around our home andfamily. No weapon formed againstthis marriage will prosper. InJesus' name, Amen.MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 14
THE MOS T UN TAPP EDTHE MOS T UN TAPP EDSOU RCE IN M ARRI AGESOU RCE IN M ARRI AGEBy Gary ThomasMR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 15
So, the very best gift you can giveyour spouse—and yourself—is tohelp him or her find time andpassion to regularly connect withGod and to do the same yourself. That may mean joining a church orsmall group where your spouse isinspired to follow the examples ofother men or women. It may meangiving her extra time in the morningor on weekends to have someunrushed time with God while youtake care of the kids or pick up thehouse.As much as I’m a fan of marriagebooks (trust me on that one!),marriage counseling, and marriageseminars, it’s sad how often we gofor the big solution of humanadvice instead of a steady diet ofGod.He is an able source, a trustedfriend, a powerful ally, and anempathetic comforter. It is crucial ifyou want a monumental marriagethat you pursue God with a newpassion and learn the secret of lifein Christ—not as a religion, anobligation, or a guilt trip, butlearning to draw from a personal,living source who wants to loveyour spouse through you.In some of their marriage seminars,Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott haveused my book Sacred Pathways:Discover Your Soul’s Path to Godas a tool to help couples discoverhow they best connect with God.We don’t all “connect” with God inthe same way, and SacredPathways is all about learning tounderstand the way God made usso that we can craft a “quiet time”or devotional time that fits who weare.The very best gift you can give yourspouse, spiritually, is a gift that willactually serve you as much as itserves your spouse. Ask yourself,“How can I help my spouse drawcloser to God and learn to draw fromHim on a daily basis?” Anything youcan do to help your spouse drawnearer to God will bless you ten timesover.Let me speak as a husband: ninetypercent of the changes and attitudinaladjustments in my marriage haven’tcome about after my wife confrontedme. They came about after a time ofprayer when my heavenly Fatherconvicted me, reminded me that I’mmarried to His daughter, and insistedon a change.From that point on, it was about meand God even more than it was aboutme and Lisa. Nagging doesn’t work. Inthe history of marriage, you won’t findone relationship dramatically impactedin a positive way by frequent nagging.But Holy Spirit conviction? That works.Men, why wouldn’t you want your wifeto meet regularly with God, knowingHe will be your advocate if your wifegets too busy or distracted or simplystarts to lose her zeal to be fullyengaged in your marriage?Here’s what I’ve found: the less Ireceive from God, the more I demandof my wife. The more I receive from God(worshiping, praying, studying HisWord, opening my heart to Hismoment-by-moment life-givingpresence), the more I am able to lovemy wife, the more zealous I am toexcel as a husband, and the more Ihave an attitude of serving my wifeinstead of demanding from my wife. You might be a “traditionalist”who will meet God mosteffectively with time-honoredrituals and practices. You mightbe an “intellectual” and will findyour heart most awakened whenyou learn new concepts or truthsabout God. Perhaps you’re a naturalist—whomeets God best outdoors—or asensate, who enjoys bringing allfive senses into play when youworship. There are several otherpathways, nine total.Understanding your owntemperament will help you write aself “prescription” to meet withGod and receive from God onyour own more intentionally. Andunderstanding your spouse’stemperament will assist you ingiving them the time and placethey need to surrender theirhearts and minds to God.Giving your spouse time toconnect with God andencouraging them to pursue Himmore and more is one of the mostgracious, loving, and wise thingsyou can do as a spouse.Your marriage will be betterserved when God becomes abigger and bigger influence inyour life. He will help you loveothers (including each other)more. He will help you lay asidethe petty sins and motivations thatbring down so many marriages. Hewill supply more patience,gentleness, courage, humility, andgenerosity—all of which willgreatly bless your union.(Continued on Page 17)MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 16
Sadly, God’s presence is the greatestuntapped source of strength inmarriage. Too many couples settle fora once-a-week (or less) churchservice, a perfunctory personal“prayer” time, and leave it at that—just enough to not feel too guiltyabout it, but never enough to drawreal power from it.If you take the time to meet with Godregularly you will find, as I have, thatyou crave it more and more,particularly when you feel free tocraft a time with God that fits who youare.As you seek to draw ever closer toeach other, recognize that the mostpowerful way to do that is to firstdraw ever closer to God and let Himprovide the grace, motivation, andlove that will lead you to a fulfillingmarriage.Gary Thomas is a bestselling authorand international speaker whoseministry brings people closer to Christand closer to others. He unites thestudy of Scripture, church history, andthe Christian classics to fosterspiritual growth and deeperrelationships within the Christiancommunity.Marriage rates in the UnitedStates have been declining inrecent years. According to datafrom the National Center forHealth Statistics, nationalmarriage rates decreased from6.9 to 6.1 marriages per 1,000people from 2017 to 2019,which is the lowest raterecorded so far.While there are many potentialreasons for this, it’s clear thatmany people still want to marry.But since long-lasting marriagesare becoming more and morerare, how can couples ensurethat theirs will be a happy one? Every couple is different, and sois their relationship. So, there’sno one-size-fits-all magicformula for a happily ever after.However, there are some keyelements to a long-term,healthy partnership. Below arethe three most important ones:Commitment: Commitment ismore than just wanting to staytogether for a long time. It’s theact of choosing your partner forlife and promising to go throughall of its ups and downstogether. And while there may be plentyof fish in the sea, being marriedmeans you are wholeheartedlyinvested in making therelationship last, casting awayany doubts that this is just atemporary experiment.MR. & MRS. MAGAZINE | 17Love: While most couples startout their relationships being inlove, sustaining that feeling foreach other takes effort,sacrifice, and generosity. Truelove means putting your partnerfirst and giving of yourselfwithout expecting anything inreturn. It also helps you toaccept each other for who youare, flaws and all, and to forgiveeach other when you fall short.Respect: Expressing love, nomatter how heartfelt, doesn’tmean much if marriage partnersdon’t respect each other.Respecting your partner fortheir qualities, thoughts, andcapabilities means that you notonly accept, but also admireyour differences. Respect canalso help you listen to eachother’s opinions and overcomechallenges and disagreements.Of course, while these are themost important things in amarriage, there are plenty ofother elements to keeping amarriage happy, includingpatience, communication,intimacy, trust, empathy, andhumor.WHAT ARE THE THREE MOSTIMPORTANT THINGS IN A MARRIAGE?
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