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InsiderInsiderHOW TO LOVEA BATTEREDWOMANAUTHENTIC PARENTINGParenting carries immenseresponsibility, but toxic behaviorscan have lasting, generationalimpacts. STAR Network discussesneuro-parenting.TEEN VIOLENCE AWARENESSMONTHKathryn Marsh discusses how wecan empower young people torecognize their worth and seekrespectful, supportive partnerships.THE IMPORTANCE OFFRIENDSHIPSIn a fast-paced world where genuineconnections often feel elusive, Dr.Kimberly Horn offers guidancethrough Friends Matter, for Life. February 2025

AlwaysDear Readers,February is a month of national awareness, balancing heavy topics with the celebration oflove. In this issue, I share my experience with 5-MeO-DMT and my journey toward radical self-love, while our cover model, Nia Renee, reflects on "How to Love a Battered Woman."Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month reminds us of the urgency of addressing unhealthyrelationships among young people. In this month’s Prosecutor’s POV, Kathryn Marsh discusseshow we can empower teens to recognize their worth and seek supportive partnerships.Parenting comes with immense responsibility, and toxic behaviors—manipulation, neglect, orover-control—can have lasting generational effects. STAR Network’s Dr. Jamie Huysman andMila Stankovic explore neuro-parenting, helping parents recognize and break harmful patternsto foster healthier relationships.In a fast-paced world where true connections feel rare, Dr. Kimberly Horn’s Friends Matter,for Life offers research-backed insights on building meaningful friendships in today’s complexsocial landscape.For National Check-In Month, author and activist Paul Boskind shares his powerful journey oflosing his sight and the resilience he found through community and inner strength.Violence in America leaves lasting wounds, but as trauma educator Karen Gross explains,solutions like stronger mental health support can help mitigate its impact and create a safer,more connected society.As always, enjoy our monthly playlist—featuring songs to inspire self-love—along with my bookpicks for children and adults. Plus, don’t miss Joy Larkin's Twin Flame Reading to see whatFebruary has in store.Happy reading!Lorilee BinstockAuthentic Insider | Page 02editor's noteLorilee BinstockEditor in Chief

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Dr. Kimberly Horn Meaningful FriendshipsContributorsContributorsNia ReneeHow to Love A Battered WomanAuthentic Insider | Page 05Paul BoskindNational Check-in MonthThe Blind Man GameKaren GrossViolence in the US

in this issue202520255Meo DMt & Radical self-loveJoy's Twin Flame ReadingAuthentic Insider | Page 06Authentic ParentingTeen Dating ViolenceAIM PlaylistRecommended Bookshow to love a battered womanBy: Nia ReneeMeaningful friendshipsBy: Dr. Kimberly HornHow to Love a Battered WomanMeaningful FriendshipsAuthentic Parenting17 3225Authenticity capturedexplain violence in the USBy: Karen GrossBy: Lorilee BinstockNational check-in: The Blind ManGameBy: Paul Boskind

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By Lorilee Binstock

rauma leaves a lasting impact. For years, I carried the weight ofcomplex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), feeling unworthy oflove, joy, or healing. Trauma has a way of making you question yourvalue and disconnecting you from your inner goodness. That’s how I feltfor most of my life. But everything changed once I started working withpsychedelics. Each time I worked with these medicines, I felt moregrounded and worthy, however, old stories would creep back in. Butrecently, I experienced 5-MeO-DMT—a powerful psychedelic that didn’tjust open my mind but helped me reclaim my sense of self.What is 5-MeO-DMT?You might have heard of 5-MeO-DMT,sometimes called “The God Molecule.” It’s anaturally occurring psychedelic compoundfound in the venom of the Bufo Alvarius toad,though it can also be synthesized in labs fortherapeutic purposes. Unlike otherpsychedelics, 5-MeO-DMT is known for itsintense, ego-dissolving effects and its ability tomake you feel profoundly connected to theuniverse. The experience is often described as atotal mental and emotional reset. For traumasurvivors like me, it offers a chance to confrontand release pain while discovering a sense ofwholeness.How 5-MeO-DMT Helps People HealTrauma creates a divide between the mind andbody, trapping us in cycles of fear and self-doubt. What 5-MeO-DMT does is dissolve theego—the part of us that clings to trauma—andopens up a state of pure awareness. In thisspace, many people experience deep emotionalrelease and moments of self-compassion. Forme, it wasn’t just about letting go of the past butrealizing that I’m so much more than the storiesof unworthiness that would wash over me whenI experienced life's challenges.My Journey: From Pain to Generational HealingWhen I decided to try 5-MeO-DMT, I had one goalin mind: to find radical self-love. After years offeeling unworthy, I was ready to reconnect withmyself. The experience was unlike anything I’dimagined. I was confronted with the depth of mypain but also the incredible resilience that hadcarried me through it. It was as if I was seeing mylife in its entirety—not just the struggles but thestrength and beauty woven through it all.In that moment, I realized my healing wasn’t justfor me. It was for my family, for the generationsbefore me who couldn’t heal, and for those whocome after me. I left that session with a profoundsense of purpose and a commitment to love myselffully. My Journey with 5MeO-DMT and Radical self-Love “It was as if I wasseeing my life in itsentirety—not just thestruggles but thestrength and beautywoven through itall.”Authentic Insider | Page 13T

A Call to Love: It Starts from WithinFebruary is often seen as the month of love, butreal love—the kind that’s authentic andtransformative—has to start within. Almosteveryone has experienced some form of trauma,and without self-love, it’s hard to createmeaningful connections with others. By turninginward and cultivating love for ourselves, we laythe foundation for deeper, more fulfillingrelationships.5-MeO-DMT taught me that healing and love gohand in hand. The love I sought from others hadto begin with me. Through self-love, I’ve not onlyhealed myself but also transformed how I showup for the people around me. Love truly is themost powerful force we have—one that can healindividuals and entire generations.So, if you’re on your own healing journey, Iencourage you to take that first step towardradical self-love. Whether it’s through breathwork,therapy, meditation, or exploring psychedelics like5-MeO-DMT, know that the path to self-love isalso the path to freedom. And always remember:You are worthy of love, just as you are.Why Radical Self-Love Matters for TraumaSurvivorsRadical self-love isn’t just a buzzword—it’sessential for anyone healing from trauma.Trauma tells us we’re broken or unworthy, butself-love pushes back against that narrative. Itinvites us to honor our scars as symbols ofsurvival and to nurture the parts of ourselveswe’ve ignored for too long.For me, self-love is more than affirmations or self-care routines. It’s a deep acknowledgment of myvalue, despite everything I’ve been through. 5-MeO-DMT helped me see that. It gave me theclarity to embrace my flaws, my strengths, andthe beauty of simply being me.Authentic Insider | Page 14

“He who is notcourageous enoughto take risks willaccomplish nothing inlife.” —Muhammad AliAuthentic Insider | Page 15

Authentic Insider | Page 16 oving a battered woman is a deeplycompassionate and transformative act. Itrequires patience, understanding, and above all,respect for her journey. But true love for herstarts with a foundation that can only be builtwithin: self-love. Often, this connection isoverlooked in conversations about healing andrelationships, yet it is the most crucial steptoward a fulfilled and empowered life.A battered woman carries more than physicalscars; she carries the weight of emotional andpsychological wounds that may make herquestion her worth, her decisions, and herability to love and be loved. To love her is tohold space for these wounds, allowing her toheal in her own time and way. But for her totruly embrace love from others, she must firstbegin to rebuild the relationship with herself.The Foundation of Self-LoveSelf-love is not simply about affirmations orindulgence—it is about creating a life where shefeels safe, valued, and free to express herauthentic self. For a battered woman, thismeans redefining her sense of identity beyondthe pain of her past. Abuse often strips away aperson’s autonomy and confidence, leaving afragile sense of self in its wake.To reclaim self-love, she must firstacknowledge the pain and the circumstancesthat led her there. This is not about blamingherself but about understanding the patternsand beliefs that might have kept her inunhealthy spaces. It takes courage to facethese truths, but in doing so, she begins torecognize her resilience and strength.Written by Nia Renee, Coach & Founder of How to Love a Battered Woman LLCL

Steps Toward Self-Love 1. Forgiving Herself: Many battered womencarry guilt or shame, wondering if theysomehow caused or deserved the abuse. Thefirst step toward self-love is releasing thesethoughts and forgiving herself for the choicesshe made while trying to survive. 2. Setting Boundaries: Rebuilding self-lovemeans learning to say no and recognizing thather worth does not depend on pleasing others.Healthy boundaries protect her peace andensure she does not repeat cycles of harm. 3. Celebrating Small Wins: Every step towardhealing is an achievement. From seekingtherapy to journaling or simply getting througha tough day, celebrating progress reminds herof her strength. 4. Embracing a Support System: Self-lovedoes not mean isolating herself; it meanssurrounding herself with people who uplift,support, and respect her. These relationshipscan mirror the love she is cultivating within.is not simply aboutaffirmations orindulgence—it is aboutcreating a life whereshe feels safe, valued,and free to expressher authentic self.”“Self-Love Authentic Insider | Page 17

Authentic Insider | Page 18How Others Can Love a Battered WomanLoving a battered woman means recognizingher autonomy and letting her lead the pace ofher healing. It means not attempting to “fix”her but walking alongside her as she rebuildsher life. Patience is key, as trust may take timeto develop, especially after experiencingmanipulation or betrayal.Empathy is another essential component.Listen to her without judgment, validate herexperiences, and affirm her worth. Avoidphrases like, “Why didn’t you leave sooner?” or“You’re so strong for staying.” Instead, focuson empowering her to see her potential and thefuture she can create.The Interconnection of Love and Self-LoveWhen a battered woman begins to love herself,she creates a solid foundation for receiving andgiving love. She becomes less likely to toleraterelationships that diminish her, instead seekingconnections that affirm her value. Self-loveallows her to set the standard for how shedeserves to be treated and ensures that herrelationships enhance her life rather than takefrom it.To love a battered woman is to honor herjourney, celebrate her progress, and supporther in rediscovering herself. But above all, it isto remind her that the most important lovestory she will ever have is the one she writeswith herself.“Loving a batteredwoman meansrecognizing herautonomy andletting her lead thepace of herhealing.”.

“What’s the world for ifyou can’t make it up theway you want it?”—Toni MorrisonAuthentic Insider | Page 19

Authentic Insider | Page 20Written by Kathryn Marsh, Prosecutor POV February is Teen Dating Violence AwarenessMonth, a time to shine a light on an issue thatoften hides in the shadows. It may seem shockingthat we need a national awareness month toaddress teen dating violence, but the statistics aresobering. One in three teens in the United Stateswill experience physical, emotional, or sexualabuse from a dating partner before they turn 18.These numbers highlight the urgency of creatingawareness and providing support for youngpeople navigating relationships.Nostalgia often paints teenage romances asinnocent and fleeting—a mix of sweet memories,fleeting heartbreaks, and a few angst-filledmoments that serve as a rite of passage intoadulthood. However, the reality for manyteenagers is far more complex. Unhealthyrelationships can develop in any context, andteens are especially vulnerable due to theirinexperience, emotional development, and peerpressure.Breakups hurt, but losing someone who doesn’t respect andappreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss.” — AnonymousThe Reality of Teen Dating ViolenceTeen dating violence doesn’t always look the waypeople might imagine. It can manifest in variousforms, including physical abuse, emotionalmanipulation, verbal threats, or even digitalharassment. A partner might use social media tomonitor or control their significant other, demandpasswords, or send constant messages to tracktheir whereabouts. Emotional abuse, such asbelittling or isolating someone from their friendsand family, is equally harmful and often harder torecognize.For victims, the effects of such relationships canbe long-lasting. They may experience anxiety,depression, and low self-esteem. In some cases,these experiences can shape how they approachfuture relationships, making it harder to buildhealthy connections.teen violenceteen violence

Why Awareness MattersAddressing teen dating violence requires morethan just identifying the problem. It starts withfostering open and honest conversations aboutwhat healthy relationships look like. Young peopleneed to understand the importance of respect,trust, and communication as the foundation forany partnership. They also need tools to recognizethe warning signs of abuse, such as excessivejealousy, controlling behaviors, or verbal put-downs.Parents, educators, and community leaders play acrucial role in these discussions. By modelinghealthy relationships and creating safe spaces fordialogue, adults can empower teens to advocatefor themselves and seek help when needed.Schools can also integrate lessons on consent,boundaries, and communication into theircurricula to provide teens with the knowledge theyneed to navigate relationships safely.Breaking the CycleBreaking the cycle of teen dating violence involvesboth prevention and intervention. Organizationsacross the country are working tirelessly toprovide resources for teens and their families.Hotlines, counseling services, and educationalprograms are all critical components of theseefforts. For example, the National Teen DatingAbuse Helpline (loveisrespect.org) offers 24/7support via phone, text, or chat, ensuring thatteens have someone to turn to at any time.It’s also essential to address the cultural factorsthat perpetuate unhealthy relationships. Media,for instance, often glamorizes toxic behaviors,such as possessiveness or control, framing themas signs of love. Challenging these narratives andpromoting positive representations of love andpartnership can help shift societal norms.Authentic Insider | Page 30Authentic Insider | Page 21A Message to TeensIf you’re a teenager reading this, know that youdeserve to be in a relationship built on mutualrespect and trust. Love should never hurt, makeyou feel small, or take away your sense ofindependence. If you’re unsure about the health ofyour relationship or you’re experiencing abuse,don’t hesitate to reach out for help. Talk to atrusted adult, counselor, or friend. Resources likeloveisrespect.org can provide guidance andsupport.Moving ForwardTeen Dating Violence Awareness Month is areminder that while breakups and heartbreaks area natural part of growing up, enduring abuseshould never be. By fostering awareness,encouraging open conversations, and equippingteens with the tools to build healthy relationships,we can create a future where no young person hasto suffer in silence. Remember, walking away fromsomeone who doesn’t respect and appreciate youisn’t a loss; it’s a step toward reclaiming yourworth and finding the love you deserve.

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Authentic Insider | Page 23“Just don’tgive up whatyou’retrying to do.Where thereis love andinspiration, I don’t thinkyou can gowrong.” —EllaFitzgerald

Parenting is one of life’s most profoundresponsibilities. While many parents strive to dotheir best, certain harmful behaviors – whetherlearned, inherited, or unintended – can causeemotional and psychological damage to theirchildren.Toxic parenting, characterized by actions such asmanipulation, neglect, or over-control, can leavelong-lasting effects that ripple throughgenerations.This article explores how parents can recognizeand overcome toxic patterns, create a nurturingenvironment, and foster genuine connectionsthat promote emotional security and personalgrowth in their children.Understanding Toxic ParentingToxic parenting goes beyond occasional mistakesor bad days. It reflects a consistent pattern ofbehaviors that undermine a child’s sense of self-worth, safety, or individuality.While some toxic behaviors may stem fromparents’ own unresolved trauma, others mightresult from societal conditioning or culturalexpectations.Children raised in such environments maystruggle with mental health issues, emotionalregulation, and the ability to form healthyrelationships.The impact of these behaviors can persist wellinto adulthood, often shaping how childreneventually parent their own families.Dr. Jamie Huysman (STAR Network founder) likesto say: “Parents shape the future, notexpectations.”Written by Dr. Jamie Huysman & Mila Stankovic, Co-Founders of STAR NetworkAuthentic Insider | Page 24The Emotional Landscape of Toxic ParentingAt its core, toxic parenting disrupts theemotional bond between parent and child.Overprotectiveness, for example, can smother achild’s ability to develop independence.Children raised in overly controlledenvironments often find it difficult to makedecisions or trust their own instincts, leavingthem vulnerable to self-doubt.On the other hand, constant criticism chips awayat a child’s self-esteem. Words meant asdiscipline or “tough love” can create a lastinginner dialogue of inadequacy and fear of failure.This emotional weight can follow children intoadulthood, affecting their relationships, careers,and sense of self-worth.Gaslighting and manipulation are perhaps themost insidious forms of toxic parenting. Bydistorting a child’s reality or undermining theirperceptions, parents create a state of confusionand emotional dependency.Over time, these children may struggle to trusttheir own feelings, perpetuating cycles of anxietyand insecurity.Even neglect, whether emotional or physical,leaves its mark. Children who feel unseen orunsupported often grow up with a deep sense ofinadequacy, believing they are unworthy of loveor attention.POV“Parents shapethe future, notexpectations.”Authentic Parenting

Authentic Insider | Page 25The journey to healthier parenting begins with self-awareness. Recognizing toxic patterns, whether inherited or unintentional, is the first step.Many parents repeat behaviors they experienced in their own upbringing, believing they are“normal.” However, acknowledging these behaviors as harmful is crucial to initiating change.Authentic parenting prioritizes respect, emotional safety, and mutual understanding. It’s notabout perfection but about creating a space where children feel valued, heard, and supported.4. Heal Your Own WoundsBreaking the cycle of toxic parenting ofteninvolves healing your past. Unresolved trauma,anxiety, or emotional struggles can unconsciouslyshape your interactions with your child. Therapy,support groups, or personal developmentpractices can be transformative in addressingthese challenges.1. Embrace Self-ReflectionTake time to evaluate your actions and theirimpact on your child. This process can beuncomfortable, as it often requiresconfronting your own emotional wounds andtriggers.Journaling, mindfulness, or speaking with atrusted therapist can provide clarity andinsight.Breaking the cycle3. Respect Boundaries and AutonomyAcknowledge that your child is an individualwith their own identity. Allow them thefreedom to make age-appropriate decisionsand learn from their experiences.2. Foster Open CommunicationChildren thrive in environments where theirvoices are heard. Active listening—withoutjudgment or immediate solutions – allowsthem to feel understood.Share your own thoughts and feelingshonestly, modeling healthy communicationand emotionaltransparency.5. Seek Support When NeededParenting can be overwhelming, and there’s noshame in seeking help. Mental healthprofessionals, parenting workshops, andcommunity support groups can provide guidanceand strategies to navigate difficult situations andcreate a healthier home environment.

Breaking the cycle of toxic parenting and healing fromits effects is not a journey you have to face by yourself.While self-reflection and intentional change arepowerful steps, external support can provide theguidance and encouragement needed to move forward.The TAR Anon Support Group is a digital peer-to-peercommunity designed for individuals dealing with orrecovering from the effects of toxic family relationships.Whether you’ve experienced the challenges of toxicparenting, unhealthy sibling dynamics, or astrained marriage, this group offers a safe andjudgment-free space to share your experiencesand find support.Healing from the wounds inflicted by toxic parentingtakes time, patience, and strength.Connecting with others who understand your journeycan help you rebuild your confidence, create healthierrelationships, and learn tools to ensure you don’t repeatthese cycles in your own family.By joining a support group like this, you can findencouragement and resources to not only recover butalso thrive as you work toward a healthier and moreauthentic future – for yourself and your children.For more information, or to join the TAR Anon SupportGroup for toxic families, consider exploring thisresource as part of your journey toward healing.Together, we can break the cycle and create a legacy oflove and emotional security.Moving Toward Authentic Parenting and FindingSupportAuthentic parenting is about nurturing a relationshiprooted in love, trust, and understanding. It’s aboutrecognizing that children are not extensions of theirparents but unique individuals with their own dreams,feelings, and perspectives.Breaking toxic patterns requires patience andcommitment. Mistakes will happen – it’s part ofthe process.The key is to acknowledge them, take accountability,and strive to do better. Over time, these small,consistent efforts create a ripple effect, fostering ahealthier and happier dynamic for generations tocome.“Authentic parentingprioritizes respect,emotional safety,and mutualunderstanding. It’snot about perfectionbut about creating aspace where childrenfeel valued, heard,and supported.”

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“No matter howhard the past,you can alwaysbegin again.” —BuddhaAuthentic Insider | Page 30

n a world where the pace of life often feelsrelentless, and genuine connections seem harder tocome by, I felt compelled to offer a guiding light.Friends Matter, for Life: Harnessing the 8 Tenets ofDynamic Friendship was born out of bothprofessional research and personal experience, aheartfelt exploration of what it truly means toconnect with others in today’s complex sociallandscape.Friendship has always fascinated me—not just as apsychologist studying human behavior but assomeone who has navigated the joys and challengesof maintaining meaningful relationships. I’ve seenfirsthand how transformative true friendships canbe, how they uplift us during our darkest momentsand enrich our lives with joy, purpose, and meaning.Yet, I’ve also seen how elusive and fragile they canfeel amidst the demands of careers, family, and theever-present distractions of the digital age.The idea for this book began with a simpleobservation: despite the universal need forconnection, many of us struggle to cultivate andsustain friendships as adults. I wanted to addressthis gap by providing a framework that anyone coulduse—whether to rekindle old friendships, nurtureexisting ones, or build new ones from the ground up.The Framework of Dynamic Friendship cameto life through years of research,conversations, and introspection. It focuseson eight essential tenets, includingvulnerability, communication, and reciprocity.Each tenet represents a crucial aspect offriendship, supported by practical exercisesdesigned to help readers take actionablesteps.One of the most powerful lessons I’ve learnedis the importance of vulnerability. Authenticconnections often start with the courage to beopen—about our struggles, our aspirations,and our imperfections. This openness buildsthe foundation for trust, something I delvedeeply into in the book. Similarly, effectivecommunication is key to fosteringunderstanding, while conflict resolution canturn challenges into opportunities for growth.Throughout the writing process, I reflected onmy own friendships and the lessons they’vetaught me. I’ve celebrated bonds that havestood the test of time and mourned the loss ofrelationships that were once central to my life.These experiences reinforced the idea thatfriendship is both a gift and a responsibility—one that requires effort, empathy, andintention.Written by Dr. Kimberly Horn, Author of Friends Matter, for LifeMeaningfulFriendshipsMeaningfulFriendshipsAuthentic Insider | Page 31I

Friends Matter, for Life is not just a guide; it’s aninvitation to embark on a journey of self-discoveryand connection. I’ve woven personal anecdotesand real-world examples into the framework tomake it relatable and actionable. My hope is thatreaders will see themselves in these stories andfeel inspired to take steps toward more fulfillingrelationships.The world is facing an epidemic of loneliness andisolation, and I believe that fostering meaningfulfriendships is part of the solution. Whether it’slearning to set healthy boundaries, appreciatingthe diverse roles that different friendships play, orfinding the courage to walk away from toxicrelationships, this book is a roadmap to a moreconnected life.As a psychologist, author, and lifelong learner, mymission is to empower people to navigate theirsocial terrain with confidence and intention. Andas someone who has witnessed the power offriendship in my own life, I’m honored to share thiswork with you.I invite you to reflect on your own friendships, toconsider the ways they shape your happiness andwell-being, and to take the steps needed tonurture them. Together, we can rediscover the joyand fulfillment that comes from meaningfulconnections—because friendships truly matter, forlife.Authentic Insider | Page 32

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Authentic Insider | Page 35Written by Karen Gross, Trauma Educator hat a violent way to start the New Year in theUS. True, nations across the globe live with dailyviolence. Seems we do as well in America, althoughwe are fighting a different kind of war. Actually, weare fighting many wars within the US.Consider the incidents within the last 36 hours inNew Orleans, Las Vegas and New York. Shootings aswell as cars used as weapons. Home made explosivesabound. Innocent people are shot and injured andkilled. The consequences were not accidental; thesewere/are intentional acts by all media accounts.AngerI get that folks are angry. Think January 6th. I get thatangry folks seek to make their voices heard. Ponderthe killing of the United Healthcare CEO in plain view.Here are my questions. Why is violence seen as theonly or optimal or available way to be seen and heardwhen one is angry? Is it strategically and morally howbest we voice our deepest concerns and angryfeelings/thoughts? Ponder school shootings. Ponderother acts of violence like in Lewiston, Maine. Andthat’s a recent starter list.Seems to me that violence rarely makes a lastingpoint with respect to resolving the underling issuesthat precipitated the horrors. Think Boston Marathon.We know this: Violence hasn’t curbed furtherviolence. It hasn’t changed views, say denying weaponaccess. Violence makes its points in red (damagingindividuals and families and communities forever) butonce the blood is cleared and cleaned, what have welearned that sticks?In sum: Violence doesn’t seem to curb the anger thatgenerated it.W

ResolutionsI have looked at many New Year’s resolutions (mineincluded) about folks affirmatively taking steps in2025 to avoid “bad” people. A shocking number offolks are taking steps to surround themselves withgood people as an affirmative step! That’s becausewe are choosing something to better good in ourlives.Yes, we can and should create boundaries to keepout “bad” people, many of whom have behaviors orcharacters traits that cannot change. OK. I get that.Self protect. I’m trying that in my own life: bad actorsin our private lives are out.Make our small world better as we try to improve thelarger world.But that boundary creating approach doesn’t answerthe larger question about high levels of violence thatare outside our control, violence that targetsinnocent people to make a point (at least it appearsin most cases that there is some point being madethrough these destructive acts).We can block bad folks on social media. We can avoidbad people in our personal lives for the most part.We can improve workplaces. We can elect officialswho display grace and equanimity (think Carter). Wecan reward those who regularly give back to othersby volunteering in many needed contexts. We canuse legal remedies if needed.But, what resolutions will address the large scaleincreasingly omnipresent violence damagingindividuals, communities and our nation?Wishing violence away isn’t enough. Laws aren’tenough. Physical boundaries are not working wellenough. Intelligence efforts by authorities to stopattacks aren’t working well enough.But enough is enough.Consequences and SolutionsThose injured from violent attacks suffer. Families ofthose killed and injured (some with lasting medicalconsequences) struggle mightily. There is a rippleeffect on past survivors, a rekindling of earlier trauma.There are others who treat survivors: medical staff,first responders, counselors, social workers; they allstruggle; they feel hurt too. Add in that parents andcaregivers and teachers who try to explain violence toyoung people. That’s just a short list of the harmssuffered.Explain to me please what can be done (if anything) tocurb violence. What solutions exist?As we enter 2025, our world seems unsafe. Not“seems;” it is unsafe in many ways, of which violenceis but one.We are unsafe in many ways in our culture. Yes. Inaddition to grotesque violence as described andshared above, we are exposed to non-violent assaultsrepeatedly by mean, nasty, envious, troubled,narcissistic prejudiced and/or angry people who chipaway at our individual and collective wellness. Yup.Meanness abounds (and yes, to be sure, there iskindness too). Think about travel incidents. Thinkabout community incidents including meetings thatdevolve into shouting matches. I am sure readershave their own internal lists.Authentic Insider | Page 36

“It was when I realized I needed tostop trying to besomebody else and bemyself, I actuallystarted to own, accept,and love what I had.” —Tracee Ellis RossAuthentic Insider | Page 38

Authentic Insider | Page 39By Paul Boskind, Author of The Blind Man Game eaving the air-conditioned, orchid-scented lobby,I am thrust into a cacophony of honking cars andzigzagging pedestrians. The awning of thePhiladelphia Ritz Carlton, like a thick canopy, castsa sheltering shadow over the sidewalk. Sunlightbounces off the car bumpers thronging the street.Traffic fumes taint the air. I can make out thecontours of the banners suspended betweenskyscrapers, advertising tomorrow’s DemocraticNational Convention.Like a mantra, I repeat, under my breath, the hotelreceptionist’s directions from moments ago:‘Macy’s is just half a block right of the hotel. They’lldefinitely have plenty of neckties for you.’I pace myself, counting my steps as I angle thecane in front of me. My slow and deliberatemovements contrast starkly with the scurryingdress shoes and pointed elbows rushing past.Macy’s is exactly where the receptionist said itwould be. I pause in the lobby, deliberating mynext move. The familiar game of throwing darts inthe dark is about to begin. I experience a suddenflicker of irritation: How could I have forgotten tobring a tie to the DNC?I spot what I think is a counter, with a womanstanding behind it. I approach carefully.‘Ma’am. Would you point me to the men’s neckties,please?’It’s the wrong question of course. What good ispointing to me?‘Sure, over there,’ she replies. ‘Just up the escalatorsand immediately on your left.’ I try to be subtle aboutraising the cane just high enough for her to see.‘...Sorry, ma’am. Could I bother you to walk me there?’‘Absolutely!’ I sense the surprise in her voice, quicklycovered by a forced politeness. ‘Please follow me,’I pick a tie quickly, pay for it and leave.Outside, the pavements continue to bustle withpedestrians. I bring up my memory of the walk fromthe hotel and recall the step count. There’s a layer ofsweat between my palm and the cool aluminum of mycane. It’s the same way back, I tell myself, only half ablock. But the swarm of pedestrians disorientates me.Screeching car horns drive all other sounds from mymind.I set off, with the cane at its usual angle, counting thesteps, marking my progress against the buildings Ipassed on the way here. At the corner of the sidewalk,a little girl sings out, ‘Mommy, look! That man has a bigstick!’‘Hush, Sweetie,’ her mother says, ‘he’s blind.’My chest begins to burn. I don’t move, but I can feelsomething inside me coiling up. My surroundings turnfoggy. The woman and her daughter pivot and aregone, but it’s as if the mother’s words have woven aweb around me and I can’t move.He’s blind.CHECK-INCHECK-IN LPhiladelphia, Summer 2016 - The Blind Boy Cane

Authentic Insider | Page 33Here’s another of those moments when I have toturn and face what’s happened to me. Whenworking through trauma, it is essential to face ithead on rather than to try to avoid the emotionalpain.I had been trying to conceal my disability for years,but hadn’t quite realized how futile thatconcealment had become. Despite the acheballooning inside me, I place one foot in front ofthe other and make it back to the hotel.I had been confronted with the truth of mydeteriorating vision in the past, but in Philadelphia,I was outed. Hearing a stranger casually declarethat I was blind was like being strip searched. I feltnaked beneath a glaring spotlight. I could no longerhide. Years of being a closeted gay man in Texashad accustomed me to the cruel ordeal of hiding,of faking every move. But I can no longer closet myvision loss. I’m outed again, this time as a blindman. My disability is a chess match rigged againstme.Accepting my fate feels impossible. Not acceptingit seems futile. It is the unstoppable force meetingthe immovable object. Something has to give.‘The big stick’ that the little girl saw was, for a longtime, inextricably linked with the despair of myaccelerated vision loss. I signed up for training on howbest to use it with the San Antonio Lighthouse for theBlind. They called it ‘orientation and mobility training’,and it was meant to expand the scope of the cane,from merely identifying that I have a visualimpairment to becoming a navigational tool. Theytaught me how to use it to sweep back-and-forth inorder to figure out what was in my path.It didn’t really click with me, not at the beginning. Ikept thinking, I can’t do this! Why am I doing this? It isso freaking sad that I have to learn this new skill…Afterwards, I kept the cane folded and hidden on theway in and out of my building, and likewise, I’d alwaysmake sure it was out of sight when I returned to thelobby. I didn’t want the concierge to see me with it, Ididn’t want him to know that I had a disability. Butone day I said, ‘Oh, the heck with it!’ I didn’t fold it ortry to hide it. I kept on going in through the doors andacross the lobby. As well as the concierge, several ofmy neighbors were there too, but guess what?Nobody remarked on it, nobody asked me anythingabout it. I just continued on to the elevator and up tomy apartment. I thought at least that someone wouldsay, ‘Hey Paul, what’s that? Why have you got a cane?’but there was nothing. Why? Were they trying to bepolite?

Authentic Insider | Page 41It was a strange and unsettling experience.A couple of weeks later, I was at a fundraiser in aNew York City apartment.Because I was unfamiliar with the layout of theplace, I had my cane out. Next thing the elevatordoors swept open and out stepped a friend I hadnot seen in a while. ‘Hi Paul!’ she said, then ‘wait a minute, what areyou doing with that cane?’‘Oh,’ I said, ‘I guess you’ve never seen me withthis before.’ I explained that I’d only ever mether in my apartment, and because I knew thelayout, I didn’t need the cane. ‘But now I need itall the time because my vision has declined somuch.’Her approach was exactly right of course. Shedidn’t pretend not to see it, she expressedsurprise, we talked about it like normal humanbeings, then moved on to other things.That’s the way it should be, right?These days, I make full use of the cane, I’m nolonger embarrassed by or inhibited about it.Every day, I fight the disability, and my cane ismy guide. It connects me with the world aroundme, bringing me forward from powerlessnessand isolation. It’s particularly useful in airports.If I ask someone where gate C 74 is, they don’tpoint absently. The sight of the cane makeseveryone helpful and super courteous.My relationship with the cane has shifted sofundamentally that when I was asked to give akeynote speech to the San Antonio Lighthousefor the Blind, that’s what I talked about. It’s amark of how far I’ve come that I was able to turnthe experience at the crosswalk in Philadelphiainto a joke. When I reported what the motherhad said to her daughter: ‘Hush honey, he’sblind’, I didn’t talk about that sense of despair.Instead, I said that I’d thought, ‘Yeah, but he’snot hard of hearing.’CHECK-INCHECK-IN Check in with the people you care about. Don’toverlook what’s happening in their lives. Instead, offer support, be present, and shareyour genuine self with those you love.Paul Boskindphoto Credit: https://amplifypublishinggroup.com/author/paul-boskind-phd/

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As the mental health crisis reaches devastating levels post pandemic, more and more people arelooking for ways to manage their mental health. How does a childhood sexual abuse survivor, a veteran struggling with PTSD and an athletesuffering from Traumatic Brain Injuries (TBI), trauma, and addiction find effective healing andrelief? Psychedelics. A treatment that was studied and used as effective treatment for mental health disorders until itwas banned and categorized as a schedule I drug in the 1970s, psychedelics have providedmuch needed relief for thousands of people suffering from trauma and mental health issues.Regardless of the laws banning these treatments, the people who understood the power of thesemedicines feel more empowered to find ways to help others find healing through them. On thefollowing page click on the graphic to view the Proof of Concept for "Our Own PersonalRealities." An Upcoming Documentary about the Fight toBring Psychedelic Healing Back into the LightAuthentic Insider | Page 43

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“True peace is notmerely the absence oftension; it is thepresence of justice.” —Martin Luther King Jr.Authentic Insider | Page 45

"Girl on Fire" - Alicia Keys"Truth Hurts" - Lizzo"Love Myself" By Hailee Steinfeld“Born This Way" - Lady Gaga"Confident" - Demi Lovato"Scars to Your Beautiful" - Alessia Cara"I Am Enough" - Daphne Willis"Me, Myself and I" - Beyoncé"Unpretty" - TLC"Good as Hell" - Lizzo"Beautiful" - Christina Aguilera"Stronger (What Doesn't Kill You)" - Kelly Clarkson"Golden" - Jill Scott"Just Fine" - Mary J. Blige"Who Says" - Selena Gomez & The SceneSELF-LOVE PLAYLIST 2025Music has the unique ability to upliftand inspire, making it a powerful toolfor self-love. Listening to songs thatcelebrate individuality and resilience canremind us of our inherent worth andhelp us reconnect with ourselves. Theseself-love anthems provide comfortduring tough times, boost confidence,and encourage self-acceptance. Whetheryou’re looking to reflect, heal, or simplyfeel empowered, this playlist serves as areminder that you are enough just asyou are. Love Songs to YourselfLove Songs to YourselfMUSICMUSICMUSICMUSIC

Authentic Insider | Page 47Discover a joyful reminder of the ways that every child is unique andspecial, from the beloved creator of The Dot, Happy Dreamer, and NewYork Times bestseller, The Word Collector. Here, Reynolds remindsreaders to "be your own work of art." To be patient, persistent, and true.Because there is one, and only one, YOU.In the tradition of books like Oh, the Places You'll Go! and I Wish YouMore comes a wholly original, inspirational celebration of individualityas only Peter H. Reynolds can create!*I am a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.An empowering book that celebrates a child's ability to be anythingthey aspire to be. Each page references a well-known Black figure andis paired with the positive affirmation of “I can be”. An amazing toolfor parents to foster confidence and self-esteem and for educators inteaching Black history to early learners. This book motivates childrento be their very best selves!High on energy and imagination, this ode to self-esteem encourages kids toappreciate everything about themselves—inside and out. Messy hair?Beaver breath? So what!Here's a little girl who knows what really matters. At once silly and serious,Karen Beaumont's joyous rhyming text and David Catrow's vibrantillustrations unite in a book that is sassy, soulful . . . and straight from theheart.

Dr. Paul Boskind, a successful psychologist and LGBTQ+ advocate, thought hehad everything under control. Diagnosed with a blinding retinal disorder attwenty-one, he defied the odds, building a fulfilling life. But years earlier thanexpected, his vision began to fade.The Blind Man Game is Paul’s poignant journey of self-discovery as henavigates the emotional turmoil of losing his sight and sense of self. With hisfuture uncertain, Paul must draw on his expertise and inner strength toconfront grief, fear, and a world no longer designed for him.Envision yourself in the midst of life’s hustle and bustle—juggling workcommitments, family obligations, and never-ending to-do lists. While you longfor meaningful friendships that go beyond the surface, the path to forging andsustaining such connections often feels like a maze with unforeseen challengesand constant diversions. But you’re not alone.In a world where connections often feel fleeting and relationships constantlyevolve, the significance of friendships cannot be overstated. Yet, the journey ofestablishing and maintaining adult friendships can be challenging. Navigatingthis intimate and sometimes uncharted territory, Dr. Kimberly Horn offers arich tapestry of insights, research-backed strategies, and real-life anecdoteswhich will resonate with anyone seeking meaningful bonds.A nurse is someone who delivers direct patient care and acts as an advocateand health educator for patients and families. To most, this sounds like morethan just tender loving care. To others it may create fear causing them tostruggle and ignore their inherent healing power of self-love. You see, noteveryone realizes that a deep love for themselves is essential to the healingprocess from within . . . a most radical concept. *I am a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.Authentic Insider | Page 48Mental Health Books (for adults)

February brings a wide variety of emotions. Some may feel bittersweet about letting goof a situation, while others might experience a surge of creativity, working on a projector embracing a new idea. This month is also a time for self-discovery, with many settingintentions for the new year and holding onto faith for a bright future. Remaining hopefuland focusing on positivity is key advice for navigating these emotions.On the other hand, some people might feel guilt but will work through it by focusing ontheir life purpose and engaging in inner work. A separate message suggests good luck forsome this year, while others might feel like they have unfinished business with asituation. Creative endeavors, especially in music, could also take center stage forcertain individuals.For those who are single or feeling lonely, February, the month of Valentine’s Day, canstir feelings of sadness or isolation. However, it’s a reminder to prioritize self-love andrecognize the importance of love in all its forms. Some may experience significantchanges, such as moving, or receive unexpected communication symbolized by a“message in a bottle.” Ultimately, many will seek peace or strive to bring moretranquility into their lives.Another message indicates that some may feel regretful or foolish about a past decision.However, letting go of the past or a failed investment can lead to growth. Someone maychoose to hold on to a relationship, with justice being served and commitments beingstrengthened—whether to themselves or others. The advice here is to treat others as youwish to be treated. Many are tired of stress and seeking balance, making it crucial to findjoy through fun activities and maintaining a healthy work-life balance.About JoyAbout JoyJoy is a Narcissistic AbuseSurvivor who has made it herlife's work to help others throughlife coaching. She is also a healer,earth angel and psychic medium.If you would like coachingservices from Joy and/or getyour own personal reading,please scan the barcode belowwith your smartphone camera.READINGSPersonalINFOCoachingAuthentic Insider | Page 44