HOW DO I TELL MY KIDS
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HOW DO I TELL MY KIDS  A Booklet about HIV Disclosure in the Family  TABLE OF CONTENTS  Why should I tell my children   Wh...
It was during the holidays and my son and I were talking about life and our family and he asked me why I have to take medi...
INTRODUCTION  This booklet is for adults who are thinking about telling their children that someone in the family is livin...
WHY SHOULD I TELL MY CHILDREN   Telling children about HIV in the family is a difficult decision. Parents worry about how ...
to or  Sometimes when children do not have enough information, their imaginations can run wild. Telling them may reduce an...
Other positive feelings that parents have expressed about telling children are        Issues can be dealt with as a family...
WHAT DO PARENTS WORRY ABOUT   Parents sometimes fear what a child   s response to the news will be. Many parents talk abou...
You don   t have the fear of secrets. It gives more confidence as we are all in this together.  Here are some of the thing...
WHAT DO I NEED TO THINK ABOUT BEFORE TELLING MY CHILDREN   Remember that talking about HIV with your children is a process...
There are a number of stages in the disclosure process  1.  Acceptance  Coming to terms with your HIV diagnosis and coming...
WHAT   S THE BEST AGE TO TELL MY CHILDREN   Parents usually struggle with when and how to tell children about HIV. It is h...
Parents often think and plan what to say ahead of time. This will help you feel less anxious for when the time is right to...
HOW DO I TELL THEM  WHAT SHOULD I SAY   When it comes to disclosing about HIV in the family to children, a few things shou...
Children   s concerns can be expressed in words and in their behavior. Children worry about different things at different ...
Children react to things very differently. Some parents anticipate a child   s reactions to be much worse than the actual ...
AGES AND STAGES The following are some general guidelines to follow when talking to children according to their age and st...
How will my child respond  At this age children are easy to distract and won   t be able to understand complex information...
What do children 8 - 12 worry about        What is wrong with them  It must be bad if they have to take pills every day.  ...
I have a certain kind of virus bug in my body. I   m lucky that I have very good doctors and medications and that keep me ...
13-18 YEAR OLDS  Youth at this age are generally ready to receive clear information about HIV. They may also ask more ques...
How do I tell my teenager        Say you have a health issue and name that as HIV        Explain what HIV means and check ...
How to respond to some common questions Children are curious at each age and stage of their development. They may ask ques...
Some responses can make children feel uncomfortable and shut down discussion. Try to avoid the following responses        ...
PRIVACY AND CONFIDENTIALITY IN A DIGITAL AGE  In today   s world, information can be shared quickly, easily and often anon...
IN CONCLUSION Here are some things to consider before disclosing to children        Talk to someone who can help. It might...
If and when you decide to tell   28        Try to be as relaxed and present as possible when you talk to your child. Stayi...
      Remember that your child will need someone to talk to about this other than you. Maybe it   s an older sibling, a pe...
RESOURCES Each province and territory has an HIV information hotline that may also help you and answer your questions. The...
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