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ALSO BY HEATHER FORBES Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control, Volume 1 Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control, Volume 1, ...
Heather T. Forbes, LCSW  Beyond Consequences Institute
Dedication      This book is dedicated to my amazing children,  Joanna and Ben I love you with all my heart. May you alway...
Table of Contents      A Note to the Reader  Part One     Creating a New Understanding Asking the Right Question  The Emot...
A Note to the Reader         Love Never Fails.    It is easy to say these three words   love never fails   without truly t...
Every moment a child is born, we need to celebrate because with the birth of every child comes a new chance for us to brea...
shift his behaviors and attitudes. This takes courage because it will take shifting to an entirely new paradigm-an entirel...
PART ONE  Creating a New Understanding
ASKING THE RIGHT QUESTION     1  CHAPTER ONE  Asking the Right Question      After reading parenting book after parenting ...
2    CREATING A NEW UNDERSTANDING  to return us back to our natural state of emotional living. This is where life exists a...
THE EMOTIONAL CORE     3  CHAPTER TWO  The Emotional Core      Cognitive and behavioral parenting approaches simply are no...
4     CREATING A NEW UNDERSTANDING  With this perspective, it is clear that children  as well as adults  transmit and rece...
THE EMOTIONAL CORE     5  level of fear than other children. It is fear at the body level created from traumatic experienc...
6     CREATING A NEW UNDERSTANDING  yet we have been parenting them from the left hemisphere. We have been giving them log...
PART TWO  Questions and Answers
12     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     13  Introduction to the Beyond Consequences Parenting Paradigm  Q     I need a quick way to expl...
14     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  Allowing a child emotional space to safely dissipate this energy will then allow him to calm...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     15  five basic feeling words  sad, mad, bad, scared, and happy. Even the youngest of children ca...
16     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  Saying something like,    Sweetheart, when you speak disrespectfully, that only tells me tha...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     17  Q     Using the Beyond Consequences approach feels like the child is     getting lots of pos...
18     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  conscious level, our mind believes that love is rejection, we then seek out relationships th...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     19  controlling and authoritative. More importantly, it drives a wedge in the relationship betwe...
20     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  In Figure C, the parent is frustrated and having a difficult time getting the child back int...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     21  The parent recognizes that the child is in an emotional state of fear  You can also use the ...
22     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     Where do we begin     The definition of discipline is    to teach.    The child who is ap...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  Q  A      23    If a child is not taught through consequences, how will he ever   learn to live in ...
24     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  beyond our primal needs whereby we can tap into the deeper levels within us that distinguish...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     25  of self-regulation so they may live productive, happy, and abundant lives in a world filled ...
26     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS  equipped as teenagers and young adults to stay regulated instead of becoming dysregulated an...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     27  angry, or inappropriate way  I am thinking your answer is    yes.    We act like this when w...
28     QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     Human beings are, at our core, relational creatures. We are designed to live, work, play ...
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS     29  Q  A    Do these theories and concepts apply to children who have not suf-   fered a trauma ...