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ato build an outstanding high school co-curricular life, without breaking the bank or spirit? Some would say it's impossible and the only way to have a compelling high school resume is to start early and pour thousands of dollars into fine arts classes, athletic coaches, summer college enrichment courses, consultants, and international excursions. Not so. Together we can clear a path leading to the same outcomes without the same expense. What can we say to families who, by necessity or choice, simply do not have the resources for expensive college preparation? Be cheered: with work and planning, a quality high school resume and education are available without breaking the bank. And without breaking the spirit. What do I mean by that? All too often the co-curricular life of young people becomes a set of chores that “have” to be completed whether the student wants to or not. So the student adds to all the academic and standardized test and social demands a full complement of co-curricular ones, the outcome being a young life so utterly “scheduled” by well-intentioned adults that little time remains for the student freely to choose avocations, to explore based on curiosity and whim, and yes, to experience the growth that comes from some measure of falling short and trying again. You’ve heard the marvelous expression, “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” When we freely choose an activity or job, we are invested, empowered, responsible, and much more likely to persist and excel. For some young people, it takes time to find something to believe in, what researchers have called an “identity project.” Once found, though, it is a joy to behold. Sure, the search can involve some dead ends, and the student who uses freedom to sleep or watch TV all day may need a little extra guidance; but persistence pays off if you cast the search as an adventure rather than an ordeal.Enter the holistic college admission counselor, whose hopes go something like this: “We invite to our community bright, open, and engaged students with diverse interests and backgrounds. Bring authentic curiosity and passion for both your academic and co-curricular life. Be willing to reach beyond your comfort zone to tackle challenges. Lead and team up in causes that improve your life and the lives of others. Expect much from yourself but keep a sense of humor.” How will the reserved or shy student who prefers interacting with a computer to direct contact with humans respond to this admissions exhortation? The answer is, probably not as well. It may or may not be fair, but success in college admission favors outgoing folks with a record of engaging constructively in the high school and larger community; those who seek the company of others; who relate well to adults and peers; who are confident speakers and writers. (There are, of course, limits to the power of personality.) On the other hand, almost everyone has meaningful involvements they care about, and the patient parent or counselor can coax the turtle out of its shell. I recall counseling a shy young technologist who, I learned, loves to cook. Whereupon he launched into stories about experimental recipes and family dinners and, to my delight, wrote a crackerjack essay about cooking. “Digital Chef” was born. Delicious! Just as we heard from our friends in admissions, let's consider more closely the students they review, not as first semester seniors but as first semester high school freshmen. As 14 or 15-year-olds, they have a lot to contend with. Sharing the hallways with older students, they may feel lost in the Land of the Giants. How, freshmen wonder, will they succeed and be popular? Their parents, too, may be applying more pressure now that the grades "count" for college admission. These are major challenges for a young person who may be more middle school than high school. To help, we can start simply by encouraging freshmen to consider a couple of school clubs that build on interests they already have, such as technology, math and science, languages, fine arts, community service, or social or political causes. Perhaps there is a high school film-making, entrepreneurial, or debate club; or one devoted to promoting diversity or chess. If your high school lacks appealing options, turn to civic or faith-based organizations in your community. Besides building a meaningful co-curricular life, this is great way to make friends. Parents and students alike should consult teachers, college counselors, and students and parents who have successfully navigated the shoals. Go-getters find answers more quickly than wallflowers. School newspapers, for example, are an arena where the novice can be mentored by older student journalists and a faculty sponsor, sell ads, research, or conduct interviews. After time and work, positions Bryan Director of a highschool emerge such as editorialist, business manager, photographer, fine arts or athletic columnist, layout and technology specialist, and editor-in-chief. What’s more, the budding muckraker learns teamwork, following directions, making financial ends meet, getting the facts right, writing and speaking professionally, and meeting deadlines. How much money does this deep dive into a real career cost the family or the student? Would the skills and personal qualities developed by working on the school paper be appealing to the college admission counselors described above? You bet they would. The trusty school newspaper is just one example. But first, let’s address something many parents hear from their teenager (perhaps punctuated with a slamming door): “But I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up!” Hey, plenty of grown-ups don’t know what they want to be when they grow up. I’ve heard it jokingly claimed that, when we ask youngsters their career plans, we’re just looking for ideas. Anyway, here’s how you can turn undecided into an asset rather than a liability. Let’s take a moment to dismiss once and for all the absurd notion that undecided means clueless. Remember that great line from J.R.R. Tolkien's: “All those who wander are not lost.” When you think about it, the undecided student is saying the following about choosing a college major and career: “I’m told by experts that I’m likely to change my college major and career direction several times anyway, so I should probably have a broad-based liberal arts education, remain flexible, and combine my talents rather than choose just one. I’ve heard that employers want multi-taskers, and besides, I’m just plain curious.” Pretty savvy youngster, eh, perhaps the type you would hire? By second semester of sophomore year, most students have a sense of whether they incline to math/science, English/history, or fine arts; perhaps they are a fun combination of two or more. Every summer presents the chance to explore college majors or careers more closely, with a job, apprenticeship, or research. (By the way, a paying job is a fine summer solution, whether scooping ice cream or selling clothing.) Consider shadowing a trusted professional in a field of interest; in return for answering phones, cleaning up the office, or reorganizing computer files, the shadow can learn more about the profession over a two-week period. I’ve seen these experiences work brilliantly, sometimes extending from two weeks to the better part of a summer, sometimes becoming paying jobs. I’ve seen fantastic college essays written about self-designed internships. All for free.What becomes of a high school student who responsibly builds a life of meaningful and enjoyable activities, who takes worthwhile risks and is resilient through setbacks, who finds an academic passion and pursues it beyond the classroom, who can manage fine without constant adult supervision? Would such a student be more likely to apply to colleges for the right reasons, choose well among the colleges that have the good judgment to offer admission, and be a splendid citizen of that learning community? What kind of adult professional would this student become? What kind of person would this student become? Strategizing for college admission doesn’t have to be a chore, nor does it have to empty your bank account. The solutions are right at our fingertips and can be a healthy, fun companion to learning and growing up.“Bring authentic curiosity and passion for both your academic and co-curricular life. Be willing to reach beyond your comfort zone to tackle challenges.”College CounselingRutledge

to build an outstanding high school co-curricular life, without breaking the bank or spirit? Some would say it's impossible and the only way to have a compelling high school resume is to start early and pour thousands of dollars into fine arts classes, athletic coaches, summer college enrichment courses, consultants, and international excursions. Not so. Together we can clear a path leading to the same outcomes without the same expense. What can we say to families who, by necessity or choice, simply do not have the resources for expensive college preparation? Be cheered: with work and planning, a quality high school resume and education are available without breaking the bank. And without breaking the spirit. What do I mean by that? All too often the co-curricular life of young people becomes a set of chores that “have” to be completed whether the student wants to or not. So the student adds to all the academic and standardized test and social demands a full complement of co-curricular ones, the outcome being a young life so utterly “scheduled” by well-intentioned adults that little time remains for the student freely to choose avocations, to explore based on curiosity and whim, and yes, to experience the growth that comes from some measure of falling short and trying again. You’ve heard the marvelous expression, “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life.” When we freely choose an activity or job, we are invested, empowered, responsible, and much more likely to persist and excel. For some young people, it takes time to find something to believe in, what researchers have called an “identity project.” Once found, though, it is a joy to behold. Sure, the search can involve some dead ends, and the student who uses freedom to sleep or watch TV all day may need a little extra guidance; but persistence pays off if you cast the search as an adventure rather than an ordeal.Enter the holistic college admission counselor, whose hopes go something like this: “We invite to our community bright, open, and engaged students with diverse interests and backgrounds. Bring authentic curiosity and passion for both your academic and co-curricular life. Be willing to reach beyond your comfort zone to tackle challenges. Lead and team up in causes that improve your life and the lives of others. Expect much from yourself but keep a sense of humor.” How will the reserved or shy student who prefers interacting with a computer to direct contact with humans respond to this admissions exhortation? The answer is, probably not as well. It may or may not be fair, but success in college admission favors outgoing folks with a record of engaging constructively in the high school and larger community; those who seek the company of others; who relate well to adults and peers; who are confident speakers and writers. (There are, of course, limits to the power of personality.) On the other hand, almost everyone has meaningful involvements they care about, and the patient parent or counselor can coax the turtle out of its shell. I recall counseling a shy young technologist who, I learned, loves to cook. Whereupon he launched into stories about experimental recipes and family dinners and, to my delight, wrote a crackerjack essay about cooking. “Digital Chef” was born. Delicious! Just as we heard from our friends in admissions, let's consider more closely the students they review, not as first semester seniors but as first semester high school freshmen. As 14 or 15-year-olds, they have a lot to contend with. Sharing the hallways with older students, they may feel lost in the Land of the Giants. How, freshmen wonder, will they succeed and be popular? Their parents, too, may be applying more pressure now that the grades "count" for college admission. These are major challenges for a young person who may be more middle school than high school. To help, we can start simply by encouraging freshmen to consider a couple of school clubs that build on interests they already have, such as technology, math and science, languages, fine arts, community service, or social or political causes. Perhaps there is a high school film-making, entrepreneurial, or debate club; or one devoted to promoting diversity or chess. If your high school lacks appealing options, turn to civic or faith-based organizations in your community. Besides building a meaningful co-curricular life, this is great way to make friends. Parents and students alike should consult teachers, college counselors, and students and parents who have successfully navigated the shoals. Go-getters find answers more quickly than wallflowers. School newspapers, for example, are an arena where the novice can be mentored by older student journalists and a faculty sponsor, sell ads, research, or conduct interviews. After time and work, positions emerge such as editorialist, business manager, photographer, fine arts or athletic columnist, layout and technology specialist, and editor-in-chief. What’s more, the budding muckraker learns teamwork, following directions, making financial ends meet, getting the facts right, writing and speaking professionally, and meeting deadlines. How much money does this deep dive into a real career cost the family or the student? Would the skills and personal qualities developed by working on the school paper be appealing to the college admission counselors described above? You bet they would. The trusty school newspaper is just one example. But first, let’s address something many parents hear from their teenager (perhaps punctuated with a slamming door): “But I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up!” Hey, plenty of grown-ups don’t know what they want to be when they grow up. I’ve heard it jokingly claimed that, when we ask youngsters their career plans, we’re just looking for ideas. Anyway, here’s how you can turn undecided into an asset rather than a liability. Let’s take a moment to dismiss once and for all the absurd notion that undecided means clueless. Remember that great line from J.R.R. Tolkien's: “All those who wander are not lost.” When you think about it, the undecided student is saying the following about choosing a college major and career: “I’m told by experts that I’m likely to change my college major and career direction several times anyway, so I should probably have a broad-based liberal arts education, remain flexible, and combine my talents rather than choose just one. I’ve heard that employers want multi-taskers, and besides, I’m just plain curious.” Pretty savvy youngster, eh, perhaps the type you would hire? By second semester of sophomore year, most students have a sense of whether they incline to math/science, English/history, or fine arts; perhaps they are a fun combination of two or more. Every summer presents the chance to explore college majors or careers more closely, with a job, apprenticeship, or research. (By the way, a paying job is a fine summer solution, whether scooping ice cream or selling clothing.) Consider shadowing a trusted professional in a field of interest; in return for answering phones, cleaning up the office, or reorganizing computer files, the shadow can learn more about the profession over a two-week period. I’ve seen these experiences work brilliantly, sometimes extending from two weeks to the better part of a summer, sometimes becoming paying jobs. I’ve seen fantastic college essays written about self-designed internships. All for free.What becomes of a high school student who responsibly builds a life of meaningful and enjoyable activities, who takes worthwhile risks and is resilient through setbacks, who finds an academic passion and pursues it beyond the classroom, who can manage fine without constant adult supervision? Would such a student be more likely to apply to colleges for the right reasons, choose well among the colleges that have the good judgment to offer admission, and be a splendid citizen of that learning community? What kind of adult professional would this student become? What kind of person would this student become? Strategizing for college admission doesn’t have to be a chore, nor does it have to empty your bank account. The solutions are right at our fingertips and can be a healthy, fun companion to learning and growing up.ABOUT: Bryan Rutledge has served as director of college counseling at Woodward Academy since July 2015. Previously, he was director of college counseling at St. John's School in Houston, TX for 19 years, and director of college guidance at Wyoming Seminary College Preparatory School, Kingston, PA, for six years. He has taught AP English, Southern Literature, Civil War history, and philosophy, all on the high school level. He holds an M.A. in philosophy from the University of Virginia and a B.A. in sociology/psychology and philosophy from Millsaps College. He oversees a staff of five college counselors and an administrative coordinator.