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TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction Chapter 1: The Stories We Create Chapter 2: The Story I Own Chapter 3: Owning Your Role As the Creator of Your Story Chapter 4: Your Storyline Chapter 5: The First Draft Is Essential Chapter 6: The First Draft Is The Hardest One To Write Chapter 7: The Main Characters Chapter 8: The Main Events Chapter 9: The Places Where You Strayed Off Course Chapter 10: The Manifestation Of Unexpected Pain Chapter 11: Everyone Experiences Pain Differently Chapter 12: The Secret Power Of Revisions Chapter 13: The Transition From StoryTeller To StoryCreator Chapter 14: Your Role In The Creation Process (Assume It ’til You Become It) Chapter 15: The Life-Altering Power Of Changing Your Personal Narrative Chapter 16: Going Backward To Go Forward Chapter 17: The 10,000 Foot Perspective Chapter 18: Why You Did What You Did Chapter 19: Forgiving Yourself Chapter 20: Why They Did What They Did Chapter 21: Forgiving Them Chapter 22: Recognizing Your Resiliency Chapter 23: Unrealized Courage Chapter 24: Releasing Your Pain Chapter 25: From Self Doubt To Self Love Chapter 26: Finding Patience Chapter 27: Healing Chapter 28: How To Know Where Your Second Draft Begins Chapter 29: How Past Defeats Prepare You For Future Victories
Chapter 30: How Past Pain Prepares You For Future Happiness Chapter 31: The Shift Chapter 32: Create Your Own User’s Manual
INTRODUCTION I woke up one morning a few years ago with my forearm covered with, what appeared to be, spider bites. I thought, “What the hell could this be?” But rather than wait a few days to see if it would go away, I called the doctor for an appointment. Doctor Johnson was a 21st century country doctor minus the lab coat; a slender man in his mid 40’s wearing brown boat shoes, faded jeans and an untucked plaid shirt with a stethoscope draped around his neck. As I walked into the three bedroom home he called an office, his nurse escorted me into an exam room with Doctor Johnson following closely behind. “Martin, what seems to be the problem?” Johnson said. I held up my forearm. “I think I’ve got a bad case of spider bites.” Johnson stared at my arm, his brow furrowed. “Nope,” he said. “You’ve got a case of the shingles!” I was dumbfounded. “Shingles. How could that happen?” I asked. Johnson smiled. “Have you been under any stress lately?” “Well, I have been writing and reliving all of the painful things I’ve lived through the past twenty years. Do you think that could be the cause?” “Yep!” Johnson smiled. “That’ll do it!” I tell you this story, not because reading this book will give you shingles, but because I want you to know that I have practiced what I preach. I’ve experienced a lot of painful events and come out on the other side healed, whole and healthy, and I know you will be able to do the same. As you read The Freedom SuperGuide you will develop and/or strengthen the mental and emotional tools you need to trade the life you’re expected to live for the life you want to live. I know because that’s the life I live today, and I am no different than you.
CHAPTER 1: THE STORIES WE CREATE From our earliest memories to our current reality, our lives are a story we create, live and share with the world about who we believe we are and what we believe we’re capable of achieving. But for most of us, we’re living fictional stories based largely on our fears, criticisms and disappointments combined with the fears, criticisms, disappointments and expectations of our families, friends and society. Left unchecked, our false narratives become kryptonite for our dreams. But the great news is that we can live a new story. One of my mentors, Tony Robbins, says, “It’s in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” You can decide, right now, that you’re not only going to live a new story, you’re going to live an epic new story based on doing work you’re passionate about, that causes you to grow and makes a difference in the world. In other words, an authentic story where you spend the most creative and productive hours of your day living your purpose. From a practical standpoint, even when you decide to continue living your current story, you’re still making a decision. So if you’re gonna have to make a decision anyway, you might as well decide to create a new story and make it epic, right? Here’s a dictionary.com definition of epic: heroic; majestic; impressively great Here’s a Martin Pigg belief about EPIC: Every Person Is Capable Every person on this planet is capable of creating a heroic, majestic and impressively great story with their life if they believe they can do it. That can be a challenge when the people we’re closest to would likely encourage us to play it safe. But with a solid belief in ourselves we develop
the intestinal fortitude to follow our heart and the courage to let go of the people and opinions that don’t honor that belief. I can already hear many of you saying to yourself, “That sounds great, Martin! But how do I develop that level of belief in myself and what I’m capable of achieving?” Well, you’re in luck. Because my mission with this guide is to help you create a solid belief in yourself that will empower you to create and live an epic second draft of your life. The first, and most important, step on the path to an epic second draft story begins when we take control of our role as the narrator, and there’s a huge difference between First Draft (old story) narrators and Second Draft (epic story) narrators. Here’s the difference: •First Draft narrators are passive-voice. They allow others to dictate their circumstances and beliefs. •Second Draft narrators are active-voice. They take control of their story and apply the valuable lessons they learned from their first draft to live epic Second Draft lives. This guide will give you the mental and emotional tools to become a Second Draft narrator and actively create the story you really want to live. It’s based on the life-changing lessons I learned during the thirty months I spent writing and revising the excruciatingly painful story of my life. And it’s designed for anyone who is ready to reframe the most negatively impactful events in their life and use that newfound awareness to heal past pain and find the courage to live the life they were born to live. As you read I want you to think about your life as a story with a second draft that has not yet been written. And in order to know if you’re ready to begin the second draft, I want you to answer the following question: