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1 Anger A Bible study on being angry and not sinning This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Anger” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.aorhope.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. References from the Large Catechism are from Theodore G. Tappert, ed., The Book of Concord: The Confessions of the Evangelical Lutheran Church, (Philadelphia, Fortress Press, 1959). Ver. 05/2021. © 2015, 2017, 2021 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.aorhope.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Anger A Bible Study Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27 Objective That we might recognize the dangers of unrighteous anger in our lives and relationships and be comforted in God’s gracious forgiveness and strength in overcoming it. As we begin, let’s first define sin. Sin is both doing what God forbids and failing to do what He commands. Everyone who makes a practice of sinning also practices lawlessness; sin is lawlessness. 1 John 3:4 For by works of the law no human being will be justified in his sight, since through the law comes knowledge of sin. Romans 3:20 Since God’s Law tells us what He wants us to do and not to do, sin is breaking God’s Law. Working with this definition of sin, would you say that being angry is sinful? Why or why not? Anger itself is an emotion common to all people. It is a natural reaction to threats, injuries, injustice, and cruel or evil treatment of self or others. Yet anger all too often is expressed in ways that are not helpful and are often harmful. Anger can devastate marriages, separate children and parents, cause division within the church, and poison other relationships. How do you personally respond to others when you are angry? Do you hold it in or let it out? We may have righteous anger when we become upset over the mistreatment of ourselves and others or when we feel compelled to rectify an unholy situation. However, much of our anger is wrongly motivated by self-interest. SO, while anger itself may not be a sin, how it is expressed may indeed be sinful. (Note the struggle described in Romans 7:15-19.) Anger may arise in an instant erupting like a volcano and raining destruction on everyone in sight. Often however, anger simmers just below the surface, sometimes for a long time. Like a corrosive acid, this kind of anger eats away at our bodies and souls. Finally, our heart should harbor no hostility or malice toward anyone in a spirit of anger and hatred. Thus you should be blameless toward all people in body and soul, especially toward him who wishes or does you evil. Large Catechism, V.188 in Theodore G. Tappert, ed., The Book of Concord: The Confessions of the Evangelical Lutheran Church (Philadelphia: Fortress Press, 1959), 390. Answer Q1 Answer Q2 – Q3

3 What does the Bible teach about anger? Read the following: Proverbs 14:17 Proverbs 15:1 Proverbs 29:22 • Can you think of a time when these words of Scripture have proven to be true in your own life? What were the results? Read the following: Ephesians 4:25-27 James 1:19-20 • What does the Apostle Paul remind us of in Ephesians 4:25? • According to Ephesians 4:26, how long are we to hold on to our anger? • What is the danger of holding on to anger that is described in the above verses? The Commandment on Protecting Life “You shall not murder” (Exodus 20:13). What Does This Mean? God commands that we should not take our own life or murder another. Instead, God calls us to protect and honor life. Anger can cause us to sin against this command. What is forbidden in this commandment? (Answers found on the last page) • Taking the _____________1 of another person. Genesis 9:6 Matthew 26:52 Proverbs 6:16-17 • Hurting or _________________2 our neighbor physically, that is to do Romans 12:19 or ____________3 anything which may ________________4, shorten, or make his or her life _________________5. • To keep ______________6 and _______________7 in our hearts against Matthew 5:22 our neighbor. 1 John 3:15 Matthew 15:19 What is required in this commandment? • We should ____________8 and _________________9 our neighbor in Romans 12:20 every bodily need. • We should be ________________10 and ______________11 and Ephesians 4:32 ____________________12 towards our neighbor. Matthew 5:5, 7 and 9 Answer Q8 – Q10 Answer Q11 – Q12 Answer Q4 – Q7

4 What is the solution? Where can we find hope to address our sinful anger? 1 Peter 2:24 Romans 8:31-39 Read Psalm 4:1-8, a Psalm of David. • According to these verses what should I do with my anger? • What distresses or angers David? (verse 2) • How does he deal with his distress/anger? (verses 1 & 2) • In verse 4 he suggests that we can be angry and not sin. How do you think that’s possible? • How can reflecting on angry feelings or thoughts be a healthy way of dealing with them? Read the following: Luke 23:34 Ephesians 4:31-32 • How might reflecting on the above verses help you deal with angry feelings or thoughts? All actions, including the words one speaks, originate in the heart. A clean heart is one that in all humility confesses sin and clings to Christ for pardon and peace. Such a heart will bring forth good fruit. With the Psalmist we say, “Create in me a clean heart, O God” (Psalm 51:10). Some Practical Application for determining if my anger is unrighteous: • With whom or what is my anger directed? Matthew 5:22 • How am I justifying my anger? (Is it selfish, and do I need to repent of something?) Matthew 7:3-5 • Whom am I trusting for vengeance? (Do I want to get back at someone?) Romans 12:18-19 • Am I cherishing (hanging on to) my anger? (Am I not willing to give it up to the Lord?) Luke 23:34 • How does my spirit compare with God’s chosen ones? (Do I have a critical, unforgiving spirit?) Colossians 3:12-13 GOD’S PROMISE The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. He will not always chide, nor will he keep his anger forever. Psalm 103:8-9 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 life 2 harming 3 say 4 destroy 5 bitter 6 anger 7 hatred 8 help 9 support 10 merciful 11 kind 12 forgiving Answer Q13 – Q19 Answer Q20

1 Authority A Bible study on authority and its role in conflict This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Authority” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Authority A Bible Study Let every person be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God… Therefore whoever resists the authorities resists what God has appointed, and those who resist will incur judgment. Romans 13:1-2 Objective That we might recognize that our attitudes toward authority really reflect our attitudes toward God. Thus, we lean on Christ’s forgiveness in order to exercise authority as God intended and respect those in authority over us, including when we disagree with those in authority. The gift of order What would happen if everyone did as he or she pleased without any restraint? In our society, we value an independent spirit. After all, such a characteristic can lead to courageous exploration. Discovery and invention result from those who break away from the norm. Some of the world’s best ideas came from people who pushed the limits. Although God wants us to be productive and provide for ourselves and our families, He does not desire us to declare ourselves independent from Him. Rather, He calls us to be dependent upon Him. Our Creator wants us to remember whose we are and that He is the ultimate source of all our provision. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5). Conflict results when our sinful nature leads us to demand what we want, when we want it, and how we want it. This can put us in conflict with those who have authority over us, especially when we disagree with their decisions. While God created us to be independent thinkers, He also calls us to respect and honor authority. Any group or society without boundaries lives in chaos. In a sinful world, that can lead to significant harm, even death. God created authority to provide order and protection in our lives. While we have much freedom to think, say, and do what we desire, we are to exercise that freedom with responsibility. If everyone lived without restraint, all would suffer. When each person declares to be his own authority, existence degrades to “every person for himself.” True freedom is lost when we live in fear for basic survival. Rejection of earthly authority is really a rejection of God’s authority. Those who disregard God-established authority set themselves up as their own gods, living as if God and His authority didn’t matter. Order governed by authority is a gift of God. I’m in control of my own destiny. It’s my life and I can do with it as I please! I don’t care what you say. I’m going to do it my way! No one can tell me what to do. Remind them to be submissive to rulers and authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good work. Titus 3:1 Answer Q01

3 What does God require regarding authority? God gives direction both for those under authority and for those with authority. This includes serving in our vocations as children and parents, wives and husbands, employees and employers, church members and pastors, citizens and governors. • In the home: o Ephesians 6:1-3. God commands children to obey their parents in the Lord. We are to honor our _____________1 and ______________2. o Ephesians 6:4. God instructs parents to exercise their authority in such a way as to not ______________3 their children to anger, but rather bring them up in the ________________4 and the instruction of the Lord. o Ephesians 5:21-33. Husbands and wives both have responsibilities toward each other. In verse 21, Christians are called to __________________5 to one another out of reverence for Christ. Husbands are called to ____________6 their wives as Christ loved the church (even to the point of dying for the church). Wives are called to _____________7 to their husbands as the church submits to Christ. • In the workplace: o Ephesians 6:5-9. Servants are called to _____________8 their earthly masters as they would Christ himself. Masters are required to exercise their ___________________9 with care since they too are subject to their ________________10 in heaven. • In the church: o 1 Thessalonians 5:12-13; Hebrews 13:17. We are called to esteem very highly in love and obey those who have authority over us in the Lord (pastors, elders, teachers, etc.), for they are keeping watch over our souls, as those who will have to give an _________________11. o 1 Peter 5:1-3. Those who serve as leaders in the church have responsibility to serve not for shameful gain, but with eagerness; not __________________12 over those in their charge, but serving as examples. (Note also Paul’s instruction to Timothy in 1 Timothy 4:12-16.) • In the community: o Romans 13:1-7. In writing to the church in Rome, which had a government that openly persecuted Christians, why does Paul direct the members to be subject to the governing authorities? What are the responsibilities of government officials? o 1 Timothy 2:1-3. What else are we called to do for our leaders? Why? Regardless of which vocations we serve, we are all called to honor and respect those in authority over us. At the same time, those given authority are to exercise that responsibility with care, applying discipline in love as God does with us. (See Hebrews 12:5-11.) When does God allow us to disregard someone in authority? Should we only submit to authorities when we agree with them? • Romans 13:1-2 • 1 Peter 2:18 When is it appropriate to disregard earthly authority? • Daniel 3:13-18 • Acts 5:27-32 Answer Q02-Q04 Answer Q05 Answer Q06-Q07 Answer Q08-Q09 Answer Q10-Q11

4 How can I show respect while disagreeing with someone in authority? Even if we disagree with authority, or when an authority figure requires us to do something contrary to God’s Word, we can still show honor and respect while expressing our concern. • Read Daniel 1:1-16. Although he was in captivity and the king commanded Daniel and his men to eat food that God declared unclean, how did Daniel show respect and honor to the king’s chief official? How did Daniel present his concern? What was the result of Daniel’s request? • In 1 Samuel 25, Scripture records that Nabal, a rich man, denied provision for David and his men, although David’s men had previously treated Nabal’s men well. In anger, David prepared to destroy Nabal and his household. Nabal’s wife Abigail learned about David’s plans, and she intervened with a respectful appeal. Read what she did in 1 Samuel 25:14-35. Remembering that a woman in that time had little standing in society, how did Abigail approach David to show him honor and respect? What risk did she take? What was her respectful appeal (v. 28, 30-31)? Read Romans 12:17-21. How might these verses apply to a situation where you have strong disagreements with someone, including one in authority? What might be the consequences of disobeying authority, even if we are obedient to God? If we suffer unjustly at the hands of sinful authorities, in whom should we trust? • 1 Peter 2:18-25 • 1 Peter 4:19 • Matthew 10:28 Practical Application Discuss the application of the Bible’s teaching on authority in the following situations: • Refusing to do what your boss demands when it would cause you to sin against God’s commands (discuss the potential consequences as well). • Protesting a government official or regulation, whether or not it is contrary to God’s Word. • Disobeying your parents because you disagree with their decision. • Disregarding your church’s constitution, by-laws, or policies because you believe they are outdated, irrelevant, or inconvenient. • Challenging a pastor or board of elders in the church. What if I fail to respect and honor authority? God provides guidance and hope: • 1 John 1:8-9 • James 5:16 • 1 Peter 2:24 GOD’S PROMISE For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many. Mark 10:45 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 father 2 mother 3 provoke 4 discipline 5 submit 6 love 7 submit 8 obey 9 authority 10 Master (Christ) 11 account 12 domineering In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace. Ephesians 1:7 Answer Q12-Q13 Answer Q14 Answer Q15 Answer Q16 Answer Q17

1 Bitterness A Bible study on recognizing and addressing bitterness in one’s life This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Bitterness” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2016, 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Bitterness A Bible Study Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32 Objective To recognize when bitterness begins to take root in one’s heart and to rejoice in the victory that is ours in Christ over this destructive passion. The fruit of bitterness Billy Graham writes: “Anger and bitterness (as well as hatred, jealousy and resentment, their offspring) aren’t identical, but they are closely related. Bitterness is anger gone sour, an attitude of deep discontent that poisons our souls and destroys our peace.”i When you are offended or disappointed by others and allow the hurt to germinate in your heart, bitterness and resentment may take root. Someone has said that a bitter, sour Christian is one of Satan’s greatest trophies. He thrives on bitterness and unforgiveness. How Does Murder Relate to Bitterness? Recall the Commandment, “You shall not murder” (Exodus 20:13). What does this Commandment have to do with bitterness? Discuss the deeper meaning to “murder” as described in the following verses: • Matthew 5:21-22 • 1 John 3:15 Consider Luther’s explanation of this Commandment: We should fear and love God, and so we should not endanger our neighbor’s life, nor cause him any harm, but help and befriend him in every necessity of life.ii In this Commandment our Lord forbids us to keep _____________1 and _____________2 in our hearts against our neighbor. Instead of murdering others in our hearts, our Lord calls us to a different action. What alternatives does He teach us in the following verses? • Ephesians 4:32 • Matthew 5:5, 7, 9 i Graham, Billy. The Journey: Living by Faith in an Uncertain World. (Nashville, TN: W. Publishing Group, 2006). ii The Small Catechism, The Fifth Commandment, 1. 10, in Theodore G. Tappert, ed., The Book of Concord: The Confessions of the Evangelical Lutheran Church, (Philadelphia, Fortress Press, 1959), 343. Answer Q01 Answer Q02 Answer Q03

3 In this Commandment our Lord requires us to be _______________3 and kind and ________________4 towards our neighbor. Review the narrative of Cain and Abel’s relationship in Genesis 4:3-8. • Identify when Cain’s murder of his brother began. • How can nursing our own grudges lead to murdering people in our hearts? Warnings against bitterness God’s Word warns extensively against bitterness. Read the following passages while discussing your answers to the questions. • Hebrews 12:15. What is the significance of the words “root of bitterness?” (Where do roots grow?) What is the warning given in this verse? Roots lie under the surface and do not directly manifest themselves or make themselves known. They are a source of nutrition or fuel for a plant that is on the surface. Bitterness is an underlying problem that dwells within a person. When a person tries to deny his/her hurts and frustrations, resentment may be the result. We nurse grudges deep within. This leads to bitterness. When bitterness takes root, it nourishes a murderous heart. It is a poison that feeds sinful thoughts and attitudes while undermining our spiritual health. People who cultivate a root of bitterness find it easy to get upset over things others are doing or saying. It’s like a brewing fountain that lies beneath the surface waiting to fuel anger, hatred, resentment, and other negative emotions against one’s self, others, or the circumstances around them. • Acts 8:9-13 and 18-24. What did the “gall of bitterness” produce in Simon’s life? (v. 18-23) How did Simon respond to Peter’s confrontation? (v. 24) What can we learn from Simon’s response about addressing the bitterness in our own hearts? • Romans 3:13-18. How does the Apostle Paul describe bitterness in verses 13-14? What does bitterness lead to according to the words in verses 15-17? If left unchecked, what is the ultimate result of bitterness described in verse 18? • 1 John 3:11-15 and 1 John 4:20-21. According to these verses (note 3:15 and 4:20), what passion does bitterness produce? Answer Q04 Answer Q05-Q06 Answer Q07-Q08 Answer Q09-Q11 Answer Q12-Q14 Answer Q15

4 • Proverbs 10:18. If we deny the hatred that grows in our hearts, what are we also doing? • Galatians 5:15 What will happen if we hang on to bitterness? Due to the nature of bottled-up feelings and emotions, they are not always made noticeable on the surface. But that does not mean they are not there. Such roots must be dealt with. What instruction does God provide for replacing our desire to remain bitter? • Romans 12:14-21 (note especially v. 19 and 21) • Galatians 5:16-25 (note v. 24 and 25) • Ephesians 4:31-32 (note v. 32) Hope for overcoming bitterness What is the hope expressed in each of the following verses? • Psalm 103:8-9 • Romans 5:6-11 (note v. 11) • Romans 7:15-8:1 (note v. 7:25 and 8:1) How can I overcome bitterness? Repent and believe the Gospel. Confess your sin of bitterness to God. Receive His forgiveness for you. Pray for strength through His forgiveness to overcome temptation. Careless words, anger, and bitterness originate or take root in the heart. In order to bring forth the fruits of faith and to live a life characterized by love and generosity, the heart must be cleansed. A clean heart is one that in all humility confesses sin and clings to Christ for pardon and peace. Such a heart will bring forth good fruit. With the Psalmist we pray, “Create in me a clean heart, O God” (Psalm 51:10). The ability to live as God’s forgiven children does not come from within ourselves. We are healed from our sinful bitterness and empowered to live for righteousness through the cross of Christ. GOD’S PROMISE For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 2 Corinthians 5:21 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 anger 2 hatred 3 merciful 4 forgiving He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. 1 Peter 2:24 Answer Q16-Q17 Answer Q18 Answer Q19

1 Careless Talk A Bible study on grumbling, complaining, gossip… and the solution This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Careless Talk” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. Scripture quotations are from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version® (ESV®), copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. References from the Large Catechism are from Theodore G. Tappert, ed., The Book of Concord: The Confessions of the Evangelical Lutheran Church, (Philadelphia, Fortress Press, 1959). Ver. 11/2017. © 2004, 2015, 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Careless Talk A Bible study Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted (Galatians 6:1). Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear…. Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. And walk in love, as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us, a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God (Ephesians 4:29, 5:1-2). Objective That we might take seriously the harm that our tongues may cause, receive the assurance of Christ’s forgiveness for this, and with the Spirit’s power, begin to use our tongues for the purpose of building others up. Do Words Really Have Power? Controlling our tongue is not simply one small detail among many other minor matters in living a God-pleasing life, but it is the key to controlling the whole self. It is important to control the tongue, not only to avoid hurting other people emotionally, physically, and spiritually, but also because an uncontrolled tongue can turn on the uncontrolled talker, corrupting the whole person, poisoning his or her mind and actions. We must respect the mighty power of the words we speak. Fill in the blanks (answers to blanks can be found on the last page) for these common phrases. What are your thoughts on each of these statements? “Sticks and ________1 may break your ________2 but _________3 will never _________4 you.” “Talk is _________5.” “Why can’t I say it, after all it’s the ___________6.” “I’m not gossiping!” Sometimes we defend (justify) our talk because we are not gossiping about someone else, but simply airing our complaints. What does the Bible teach about grumbling and complaining? • Philippians 2:14-15 • Philippians 4:8 • 1 Peter 2:11-12 There is nothing about a man or in a man that can do greater good or greater harm, in spiritual or temporal matters, than this smallest and weakest of his members, the tongue. Large Catechism I. 291. Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy. Proverbs 28:13 And the tongue is a fire, a world of unrighteousness. The tongue is set among our members, staining the whole body, setting on fire the entire course of life, and set on fire by hell. James 3:6 Answer Q01-Q03 Answer Q04

3 The Commandment on Use of the Tongue God’s Gift of a Good Reputation “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor” (Exodus 20:16). What Does This Mean? Bearing false witness means more than just spreading lies about our neighbor. Look up the following passages to see how the Scriptures further define God’s intent in this Commandment. What is forbidden in this Commandment? (Answers to blanks can be found on last page.) • Telling _____________________________7 about our neighbor: Proverbs 12:17-18 Proverbs 19:5 Ephesians 4:25 • Revealing ___________________8 about our neighbor: Proverbs 11:11-13 Proverbs 20:19 • Slandering or ________________9 another’s reputation: Matthew 18:15 Luke 6:37 James 3:1-12; 4:11 What is required in this commandment? • _____________________10 others when they are defamed: Proverbs 31:8-9 Ephesians 4:29 • __________________________11 of others, putting the best construction on things: Ephesians 4:29 Colossians 3:12-14 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Discussion Questions 1. How can one ascertain the truthfulness of information shared about someone else? How might Matthew 18:15 apply? 2. Give an example of how breaking a confidence hurt someone you know (maybe even you!). 3. Read Proverbs 26:20. Identify ways one can help put out the fire of gossip. 4. In Proverbs 12:18, distinguish between rash (or reckless) words and words that bring healing. 5. Identify ways in which our society encourages us to sin against this Commandment. 6. How does the use of social media (Facebook, Twitter, email, blogs, etc.) apply to this Commandment? Help! What’s the solution? From where does a person’s problem with his tongue originate? See Matthew 15:17-19. Answer Q05-07 Answer Q08-09 Answer Q10-15 Answer Q16

4 What are the dangers when we minimize or justify our sin? • 1 John 1:8, 10 • Luke 5:32 How does God deal with our sins of the tongue? • 1 John 1:9 • Proverbs 28:13 How would you answer someone who says, “Okay, so I confess my sin and receive God’s forgiveness. But where will I find the strength and wisdom to do what God commands?” • 1 Peter 2:24 • Philippians 4:13 • Ephesians 3:14-19 • 2 Corinthians 5:14, 17 All actions, including the words one speaks, originate in the heart. For a disciple to bring forth the fruits of faith, a life characterized by love and generosity, the heart must be cleansed. A clean heart is one that in all humility confesses sin and clings to Christ for pardon and peace. Such a heart will bring forth good fruit. With the psalmist we say, “Create in me a clean heart, O God” (Psalm 51:10). Some Practical Application For protecting your own heart and tongue, ask yourself: • Is what I am about to say building others up or tearing them down? • Have I shared my concerns directly with the person about whom I am saying these things? (Am I even willing to do so?!) • Have I talked directly to those responsible about these things in a way that is gentle and which brings about restoration? • How am I demonstrating my love for the person about whom I am talking? • Am I willing to pray that God will help others speak about me in similar ways? For protecting others when they talk to you: • “Before you speak any more about this other person, may I ask if you have spoken directly to him or her first?” • “Before you tell me any more, let me clarify what you intend and what we are doing. If you desire that I listen to your concern and give you godly advice on how you can go directly to the person you are talking about, and if our conversation will remain confidential, then I will be willing to visit with you on that basis. If this is not your intention, I ask that this conversation end now so that neither one of us will be guilty of sinning against God’s Commandment on bearing false witness.” GOD’S PROMISE Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy. Proverbs 28:13 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 stones 2 bones 3 words 4 hurt 5 cheap 6 truth 7 false information 8 confidences 9 hurting 10 Defending 11 Speaking well Answer Q17-19 Answer Q20

1 Confession A Bible study on confession This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Confession” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. Also coordinates with the pamphlet Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness, available from www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Confession A Bible Study If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:8-9 Objective That we might avoid words that minimize our sin, but rather express godly sorrow in our confessions. And, regardless of others’ reactions to our confessions, be comforted in God’s promise of forgiveness. Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow In our culture, we are conditioned to “apologize” when we do something wrong. We often speak about apologizing to one another. However, the word “apologize” is a poor substitute for the word “confess.” It can mean “express regret for doing something wrong.” But it can also mean “make a defense.” (The Greek term apologia from which the English word is derived means to make a reasoned argument of justification.) Note that the Bible does not use the word “apologize” when speaking about confessing wrongs (e.g., see Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:9; James 5:16). The Bible uses the word “confess.” The Greek word translated “confess” means “to say the same thing.” When we confess our sins, we say the same thing that God says – we have sinned against His commands and deserve nothing but His wrath and punishment (Romans 6:23a). When we confess our faith through the Apostles’ Creed, we also say the same thing that God says in His Word – He created us, He redeemed us, and He sanctifies us. Because unbelievers do not know what it means to confess to God and be forgiven, the unbelieving world uses the word “apologize.” But for the Christian, “confess” is a biblical term that better reflects godly contrition. Likewise, the words “I’m sorry” have multiple meanings. • What are some of the meanings of the phrase “I’m sorry?” • What qualifiers do people use to minimize their sin when saying they are sorry? Expressing godly sorrow in confession reflects true contrition – it is a fruit of repentance. However, we are so accustomed to self-justifying that our words often serve to avoid taking responsibility for our sin. Instead, our words seek to blame others or explain away our guilt. Read 2 Corinthians 7:10. The apostle Paul contrasts godly grief or sorrow with worldly grief or sorrow. • How would you distinguish godly sorrow from worldly sorrow? • What are some of the ways that an “apology” can fail to express godly sorrow? • What other words or phrases are used to minimize sin rather than take full responsibility for it? Therefore, confess your sins to one another… that you may be healed. James 5:16 Answer Q01-Q02 Answer Q03-Q05

3 Guidelines for Confession To express godly sorrow in our confession, consider the following “Guidelines for Confession”: • Go as a ________________1. o Matthew 5:23-24; 7:3-5 o Luke 15:19 o Luke 18:13-14 Jesus’ words are clear: Go! Approach those you have sinned against and confess to them. Remember that there is nothing you can do to earn their favor or their forgiveness. You humble yourself as a beggar with nothing to bring, asking for their undeserved mercy. Be sure to go to all those who have been affected – not just the person with whom you are directly in conflict. • __________2 your sin. o Numbers 5:5-7 o Psalm 32:3-5 o Psalm 51:3-4 Make no excuses. Don’t blame others. Avoid language that minimizes your confession or shifts blame (e.g., words like if or but). For example, consider saying, “I was wrong” rather than the normal, “I’m sorry,” which can mean something other than “I was wrong.” • Identify your sins according to ___________ ___________3. Indicate which Commandments or portions of Scripture you have violated. You may identify specific thoughts, words, or actions. Sins may include things you have not done (sins of omission). You may also state that your sins against the other person were also sins against God. o Sinful thoughts – Luke 6:45 o Sinful words – Ephesians 4:29 o Sinful actions – Galatians 5:19-21 o Sins of omission – such as failing to love as Christ commands – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 • Express _______________ ________ ______________4 your sin has caused. “My sin hurt you by…” or “I am sorry for how my actions hurt you when…” o Luke 15:21 If you are unsure how your behavior was hurtful, ask! (“How have my actions hurt you?”) • Commit to ______________ ________ ______________5 with God’s help. “With God’s help, I will not do this again.” o Matthew 3:8 o Romans 6:21-22 o Ephesians 4:22-24 • Be willing to __________ __________ ________________________6. With God’s forgiveness, the consequences of eternal death have been removed. However, even with forgiveness, there may be earthly consequences. Your recognition of consequences demonstrates fruit of repentance and helps communicate godly sorrow. Note that the consequences may include restitution to restore the person harmed by the sin (such as paying for damage to another’s property or paying for medical expenses). o Numbers 5:5-7 o Luke 15:19 o Luke 19:8 Answer Q06 Answer Q07 Answer Q08 Answer Q09 Answer Q10 Answer Q11

4 • Ask for _____________________7. “I ask for your forgiveness.” Don’t demand it, but ask as a beggar seeking mercy. With God, forgiveness is instantaneous, constant, and always available. But with people, it often is a process and takes time. Remember that even a perfect confession does not deserve forgiveness. Forgiveness is a gift and cannot be earned, bought, or deserved. o Genesis 50:17 o Luke 11:2-4 o Luke 18:13 • Trust in _________________ __________________________8. Whether or not the other person forgives you, remember that you are forgiven in Christ based on the promises of Holy Scripture. o Psalm 103:8-13 o Colossians 1:13-14 o Ephesians 1:4-10 While not every one of the above guidelines is necessary for a godly confession, these can help you take full responsibility for your part in a conflict and avoid denying your sin or blame-shifting.i Practical Application Reflecting on a conflict in your life, answer the following: • If you could go back and say or do something differently, what would that be? • Consider whether you have any bitterness against the other person. Read Ephesians 4:26-27. How long have you been angry? Has your bitterness become a foothold for the devil? • Reflect on your words in your conflict with the other person. Compare them to Ephesians 4:29-32. What words have you spoken to the other person that were not helpful for building up? How have you spoken about the other person with different people? • Compare your thoughts, words, and actions to what the Bible describes in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. How have you failed to love other people in this situation? • Prepare to express your confession to the other person. Use the Guidelines for Confession to write out the words you could use. GOD’S PROMISE Whatever happens with the other person, cling to God’s promise of forgiveness for you. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Psalm 32:5 i NOTE: The “Guidelines for Confession” can be found in the pamphlet Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness (available from our bookstore at www.hisaor.org). The pamphlet also contains the diagram for “The Development of an Idol” and forms for confessing and proclaiming God’s forgiveness. Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 beggar 2 Own 3 God’s Word 4 sorrow for hurt 5 changing your behavior 6 bear the consequences 7 forgiveness 8 Christ’s forgiveness David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.” And Nathan said to David, “The LORD also has put away your sin; you shall not die.” 2 Samuel 12:13 Answer Q12 Answer Q13 Answer Q14

1 Forgiveness A Bible study on forgiveness This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Forgiveness” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. Also coordinates with the pamphlet Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness, available from www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Forgiveness A Bible Study He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. 1 Peter 2:24 Objective That we remember God’s forgiveness for us so that we might forgive others as we have been forgiven in Christ. False substitutes for forgiveness Paul exhorts us: “Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Colossians 3:12-13). “Forgiving as the Lord has forgiven you” is often misunderstood, even among God’s people. Society has conditioned us to use false substitutes for the biblical words, “I forgive you as Christ has forgiven me.” Identify what is biblically false or weak in the following: • Excusing: Phrases such as That’s okay, No problem, or Don’t worry about it. o Isaiah 59:2 o Romans 6:23a • Punishing: You deserve my judgment, condemnation, and punishment. o Luke 6:37 o Romans 12:14, 17-21 • Earning: I won’t forgive you until you deserve it or earn it. o Romans 6:23b o Ephesians 2:8-9 • Recalling: I will never let you forget what you did! o Jeremiah 31:34 o 2 Corinthians 5:16-17, 21 How does God forgive me? Because we are sinners, we deserve God’s full wrath and punishment, including eternal death. Yet God forgives us so completely that we are considered holy – fully righteous in the sight of God. We who are forgiven are truly blessed (Psalm 32:1-2). Note how God forgives me: • My sins are not excused; God’s justice required _______________1. o Hebrews 9:22 o 1 John 1:7 For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 2 Corinthians 5:21 Answer Q01-Q04 Answer Q05

3 • My sins needed to be punished: Christ ___________2 the full price for my sins. o Isaiah 53:5-6 o John 19:30 • My forgiveness is _______ _________________3 upon my works. I cannot do anything to earn or deserve God’s forgiveness – it’s a free gift. o Romans 6:23b o Ephesians 2:8-10 • My past sins will not be _________________ ______4 and used against me. o Jeremiah 31:34 o Psalm 103:12 Forgive as the Lord has forgiven you In Genesis 37, Joseph was greatly sinned against by his brothers. Some sought to kill him, but instead they sold him into slavery and convinced their father that he was eaten by a wild animal. A slave in Egypt, he suffered more injustices, including imprisonment based on false accusation. Recall how Joseph forgave his brothers in Genesis 50:15-21. • If Joseph were to withhold forgiveness, what would be the implication according to verse 19? In the Lord’s Prayer, we pray, “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.” How often have we prayed those words and yet held bitterness or grudges against someone else?! • Why is it so difficult to forgive as God has forgiven us? Forgiving others as we have been forgiven is difficult. Actually, on our own strength, it is impossible! Yet God provides the strength and power to do that which we could never do on our own. Read the following verses from 2 Peter 1 in discussing these questions: • Verses 3-4: Considering our sinful nature, how can we live the life that God calls us to lead? • Verses 5-8: How would you summarize what Peter says in verses 5-8 about being effective and productive in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ? • Verse 9: What does this say about those who do not possess the qualities identified in verses 5-8? • How can you remember that you have been cleansed from your past sins? o Acts 2:38-39 o 1 Corinthians 11:23-26 o 1 John 1:7 Remembering you are forgiven is a key to living as a child of God, including forgiving others. We are enabled to do the impossible (forgiving as God forgives us) when we focus on our forgiveness in Christ. • In 1 Peter 2:24, what empowers us to die to sin and live to righteousness? • What does Paul declare in Philippians 4:13? How does this relate to forgiving others? • How can you be better prepared to announce God’s grace to those who confess sins to you? He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. 1 Peter 2:24 Answer Q06-Q08 Answer Q09-Q14 Answer Q15-Q17

4 When we forgive others, we give witness to our faith in Christ and what He has done and is doing for us. When I forgive as God has forgiven me, I am living my confession of faith. What do I demonstrate in forgiving others? • That I believe in my own ________________ _____ _________5. o 1 Peter 2:24 o 2 Corinthians 5:21 o Ephesians 4:32 • That I believe that Jesus died for the sins of _______ ____________6, including those who have sinned against me. o John 3:16 o Romans 3:23-26 • That I remember that I am a forgiven ____________ _____ ____________7, saved by His grace. o John 1:12-13 o 1 John 3:1 • That I am a _______________ ____ __________8 who loves others as God ___________ _____9. o John 13:34-35 o 1 Peter 4:8 Practical Application: Proclaiming God’s forgiveness Reflecting on a strained or broken relationship in your life, answer the following: • What grieves you the most about what has happened? • What is keeping you from forgiving the other person? • How has bitterness or unforgiveness affected you? • Does God forgive you your sins of bitterness and forgiveness? Reviewing this lesson, what Scripture passages give you comfort and assurance of God’s forgiveness for all your sins? • Has Christ died for the person who hurt you or others you care about? Reviewing this lesson, identify Bible passages that support your answer. The form Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness (available from www.hisaor.org) provides simple ways to proclaim God’s forgiveness by using Bible passages and inserting in the verse the person’s name. When you proclaim God’s forgiveness to others using His Word, you will find it easier to forgive personally. GOD’S PROMISE Regardless of how the other person may act toward you, remember God’s promise for you. There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 blood 2 paid 3 not conditional 4 brought up 5 forgiveness of sins 6 all people 7 child of God 8 disciple of Jesus 9 loves me And Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” Luke 23:34 Answer Q18-Q21 Answer Q22

1 Identity A Bible study on our identity in Christ and its relationship to conflict This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Identity” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2016 , 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Identity A Bible Study See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. 1 John 3:1 Objective That we might identify ourselves as children of God as we respond to conflict. And that as heirs of God’s heavenly promises, precious in His eyes, we may find our worth in the precious blood of Christ, not by what we do or by what others think. Who am I by nature? In the beginning, God created mankind in His own image (Genesis 1:26). Although we are made in the likeness of God (James 3:9), that image is marred by sin. Watch a young child to see what happens when she doesn’t get what she wants. What are some things she might do in response to not getting her way? Where does she learn to handle things this way? The Bible teaches who we are by nature. Discuss how the following Scripture passages describe our old identity and the consequences of this nature. By nature, I am: • A _______________1 creature. Psalm 51:5 Romans 3:23 • An ______________2 of God. Romans 5:10 • One who daily _________________3 with my sinful nature. Romans 7:14-25 • Unclean and worthless, a _______________4 who has nothing to offer God. Isaiah 64:6 Romans 3:12 1 Timothy 6:7 • Condemned to be _________________5 from God eternally. Isaiah 59:2 Romans 6:23a Who am I in Christ? Remembering who we are in Christ can make a difference in the decisions we make. When his teenage daughters began going out on their own, their father said to them as they were going out the door, “Remember who you are.” What do you think he was telling them? Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, and in sin did my mother conceive me. Psalm 51:5 We have all become like one who is unclean, and all our righteous deeds are like a polluted garment. Isaiah 64:6 Answer Q01-Q05

3 In spite of our sinful nature, we have been given a new nature as children of God. What are the benefits of this new nature, based on the passages that follow? In Christ, I am: • No longer separated from God, I have been _______________________6 by His blood. Ephesians 2:12-13 Romans 8:35-39 • A ____________7 creature through Him. 2 Corinthians 5:16-17 • Baptized into Christ, adopted into God’s family, changed from an enemy to an ___________8. Galatians 3:26-4:7 • A beloved ________________9 of God, precious in His eyes. John 1:12-13 1 John 3:1 • __________________10 and _________________11 by the precious blood of Christ. 1 John 1:7 1 Peter 1:18-19 How can I understand my worth as an individual? On my own, I am sinful and unclean, separated from God. But in Christ, I have been made a new creature, an heir of God’s heavenly promises, a child of God, cleansed and purchased by Christ’s blood. My worth is not measured by my own being or works. Neither is my value defined by what others think. My worth is found in the precious blood of Christ. I am a redeemed child of God! What difference does this worth make when you find yourself in conflict? What does my identity in Christ have to do with conflict? Conflict often catches us by surprise, leading us to react immediately without thinking. As Christians, we should anticipate conflict because we live in a world tainted by sin and people are sinful by nature. Knowing what God has done for us through Christ, the Bible teaches us to respond to conflict in ways that are dramatically different from our sinful nature. How might my identity in Christ affect the way I respond to conflict? • My identity in Christ comforts me through the _____________________12 of sins and the gift of the Holy Spirit. My sins have been washed away. Acts 2:38 Acts 22:16 • Christ gives me my ________________13 as a new creation and a child of God. 2 Corinthians 5:17 1 John 3:1 You were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot. 1 Peter 1:18-19 Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you, I give men in return for you, peoples in exchange for your life. Isaiah 43:4 Answer Q06-10 Answer Q11 Answer Q12-Q13

4 • Jesus reminds me that I am called to live not for ________________14 but rather for _______________15. 2 Corinthians 5:14-15 • As a child of God, I am enabled to walk in ________________16 of life. Romans 6:3-4 • My identity in Christ teaches me to put off my _________________17 and put on the _________________18. Ephesians 4:22-24 Because of my identity as a child of God, I am called to respond to conflict from my new nature in Christ. Applying the following verses, discuss some examples of what a difference this might make. Romans 12:9-21 Colossians 3:12-17 In conflict, who needs to be reconciled? • First, I need to be reconciled to _______________19. Psalm 51:3-5 1 John 1:8-9 • Next, I need to be reconciled to _______________20: o Someone who has something ______________________21. Matthew 5:23-24 o Someone who has _____________22 against me. Matthew 18:15 • Whether or not I need to be reconciled to someone else, I may need to help another. What is the warning for assisting someone in such a situation? Galatians 6:1-2 How should I view others in conflict? People for whom Christ has died! (John 3:16) This includes: • A brother or sister in Christ (a fellow child of God). 1 John 3:1, 23 • Someone who does not yet know Christ. 1 Peter 2:12 1 Peter 3:14-17 GOD’S PROMISE Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. 2 Corinthians 5:17 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 sinful 2 enemy 3 struggles 4 beggar 5 separated 6 brought near 7 new 8 heir 9 child 10 Cleansed 11 ransomed 12 forgiveness 13 identity 14 myself 15 Christ 16 newness 17 old self 18 new self 19 God 20 others 21 against me 22 sinned For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16, emphasis added Answer Q14-16 Answer Q17 Answer Q18-Q20 Answer Q21

1 Love Others A Bible study on showing love… even when it is hard This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Love Others” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.HisAoR.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright ©2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2016, 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Love Others A Bible Study [Jesus said,] “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35 Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11 Objective That we might understand how easy it is for us not to love others but to love ourselves, and to be strengthened by God’s forgiveness to seek to love others at all times. What does it mean to “love”? When people in western cultures hear the word “love,” they usually think of affection and emotional attachment. The Greek language used in the New Testament has three different words that are translated into the one English word “love”: • φίλος (philos) means loyalty and affection between family and friends (brotherly love). • ἔρος (eros), from which we get the English word “erotic,” means physical affection and passion. • ἀγάπε (agape) means unconditional action that serves others regardless of the circumstances. When the New Testament writers speak of God’s love towards humankind, they always use the word “agape.” The word John and Peter use (see above Scripture verses) when describing how believers are to act toward one another is also “agape.” Simply put, to love others means to think about what is best for them and then act for their benefit, no matter what the consequences might be. To love others is to act without regard for self, but to act for the good of others. Paul describes some of the actions involved in loving others in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. These well-known verses show that loving others involves action, not feelings. The problem with love like this is that, because we are sinful human beings (Psalm 51:5), we naturally act with our own interests at heart. This is normal and should not surprise anyone. However, God tells us to act toward others like He acts toward us (John 13:34). Acting the way God tells us to act is extremely hard. In fact, without the power of the Holy Spirit working in us, it is impossible for us to love others in this way. Here again we have God’s Word, by which He would encourage and teach us to do true, noble, and grand works such as gentleness, patience, and, in short, love and kindness to our enemies. Luther’s Large Catechism, 5th Commandment, Concordia: The Lutheran Confessions A Readers Edition of The Book of Concord, Concordia Publishing House, Pocket edition, © 2009.

3 What does the Bible say about loving others? Read the following selections: Philippians 2:3-4 Matthew 22:37-39 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Matthew 5:43-48 1 Peter 4:8-9 1 John 3:16 Proverbs 10:12 Galatians 5:14 • What do these Bible passages say about our attitude and actions when we love others? • Do you ever find yourself unable or unwilling to love others the way the Bible describes it? When is that most difficult? Read Leviticus 19:17-18. • What does God say our attitude toward others should be in these verses? • What does the last part of verse 18 mean when you are in conflict with someone? Read John 13:1-20. • How can you “wash the feet” of others in difficult situations? Paul tells us to imitate God in Ephesians 5:1-2. • How can we imitate God and “wash the feet” of others when they seem to be unreasonable? Read Romans 12:14. • What does this verse mean when there is a dispute in your family, work situation, neighborhood, or church? Consider 1 John 4:7-21 as you answer the following: • According to verse 7, love comes from ______________1. • In verse 11, the consequence of God loving us is we ought to ____________ __________ __________________2. • According to verse 18, we are able to turn from __________3 when we love others. • As a Christian, I love God. In verse 21, we are reminded that love for God enables me to __________ _______ ________________4. Questions for discussion and thought 1. When someone does something to me that I believe is wrong or harmful, do I normally respond with deeds of love or with some other reaction? 2. Can my feelings change because of actions I take? Or am I stuck with the feelings I have? 3. How can I love others when they need to see they have been wrong? 4. How can I love others when I know I have done something wrong to them? 5. Romans 5:8 reminds us God didn’t wait for us to become godly before Christ died for us. When is the right time to love others? You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind, and your neighbor as yourself. Luke 10:27 Answer Q01-Q02 Answer Q03-Q04 Answer Q05-Q06 Answer Q07-Q11 Answer Q12-Q16

4 What is the solution? If I have difficulty loving others in challenging situations, what can I do? Is there hope for me? • 2 Corinthians 5:17 • Psalm 39:7 If I fail to love others as God has loved me, where can I turn? • Psalm 57:1 • Psalm 42:5 When I sin against someone by failing to love them, what do I deserve? • Romans 6:23 • Ezekiel 18:20 What sins are forgiven by Jesus’ death on the cross? • 1 John 1:7-9 • 1 John 2:12 Some practical application for loving others • Am I responding to this situation out of love or out of anger, self-protection, or some other reason? • How has Christ shown His love for this person? • How can I show love to this person? • Am I afraid to love someone because of what it might cost me? • Am I able to pray that God would help me love this person? • If I am not showing love to someone, how can I correct my actions and restore the relationship? GOD’S PROMISE TO YOU! For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16 Answers to blanks on previous page. 1 God 2 love one another 3 fear 4 love my brother Answer Q17-Q20 Answer Q21

1 Suffering A Bible study on suffering in conflict This Bible study coordinates with the bookmark “Suffering” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2016, 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (4 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Suffering A Bible Study For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:15-16 Objective That we might reflect on the role of suffering in conflict and find comfort and assurance in God’s promises. Suffering in conflict Conflict – the very mention of it brings to mind unpleasant memories. We associate broken relationships, angry arguments, hurtful words, and even physical confrontations with conflict. Such hardship produces pain or distress – in other words, suffering. When God created the world, He “saw everything that he had made, and behold, it was very good” (Genesis 1:31). Adam and Eve lived in harmony with their Creator. Suffering was unknown to them. When Adam and Eve first sinned, their disobedience put them in conflict with God. They were the first to experience suffering related to conflict. Review the narrative in Genesis 3. • Identify some of the suffering that Adam and Eve experienced when they first sinned. • Adam and Eve’s sin affected others. What are some of the consequences of that first conflict that we suffer today? • What hope was given to Adam and Eve in spite of their disobedience? Since that time, conflict has continued to be associated with suffering. Consider the following accounts and the suffering associated with them. • Genesis 4:8-15 (conflicts between Cain and God, and Cain and Abel) When Abel was violently murdered by his brother, how must Adam and Eve have suffered? What underlying factors gave rise to the conflict and misery? How did Cain suffer? What comfort did God provide Cain in his suffering? • Matthew 14:1-11 (the execution of John the Baptist) What conflict led Herod to execute John? Besides John, who else suffered as a result of his execution? • Luke 13:1-5 (reflection of those executed by Pilate and killed by a falling tower) What do some people believe about those who suffer such tragedies? What was Jesus’ response to this thinking? • Acts 16:16-24 (Paul and Silas imprisoned) Who benefited from the miracle in this report? What conflict resulted from the ministry of Paul and Silas? How did Paul and Silas suffer because of their good deeds? Answer Q01-Q03 Answer Q04-Q07

3 What causes suffering? Ultimately, suffering occurs because of the effects of sin in our world. Not only are human beings sinful, nature itself has been tainted by sin. Although some suffering is caused by people in conflict, we recognize a number of different circumstances that contribute to it. • Suffering can be caused by factors _______________1 to us or our ______________2. • Suffering can be a consequence of our own _____________________3. • Suffering can result because of our own _________________ __________________4. • Suffering can be produced by the sinful deeds of ________________5. • Suffering may be experienced because of _______________6 over our _______________7. Give examples of each of the above situations. Can suffering produce anything beneficial? Suffering is painful. We may question why someone must suffer, especially if it seems undeserved. We may even wonder why God does not relieve some of our suffering, even when we pray for relief. Suffering can be used by God to accomplish His purposes. While we often view life from the perspective of the here and now, God has our eternal welfare in mind. Suffering can provide opportunity for people to be drawn closer to God. This may include others who observe those who suffer. Suffering may also serve a purpose of testing and strengthening our faith. Read Romans 8:28-29. Discuss how this verse applies to suffering. Read Acts 16:25-34 (continuation of the report of Paul and Silas in prison). How did Paul and Silas respond to their suffering? Why did they respond this way? How did their response to suffering benefit others? See James 1:2-4. Discuss examples where you have seen someone benefit from their own suffering. Review 1 Peter 3:13-17 and 2 Corinthians 1:3-4. Describe a situation where a Christian’s suffering benefitted someone else. Responding to unjust suffering The individual who endured the most unjust suffering was Christ. He was sinless, God’s own son. Yet, Jesus was sent into the world in our place to take on the full punishment for our sins. Because of His suffering and death, we have been restored in our relationship with God. Peter provides instruction for the believer who suffers unjustly. Read 1 Peter 2:18-25. What is Peter’s admonition to us? (v. 18-20) How did Christ exemplify what Peter teaches? (v. 21-23) Whom did Christ trust throughout his time of suffering? (v. 23) What comfort can we find in this portion of Scripture as we endure painful experiences? (v. 23-25) For our sake he made him to be sin who knew no sin, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God. 2 Corinthians 5:21 Answer Q08-Q12 Answer Q13-Q16 Answer Q17-Q20

4 Consolation for suffering we have caused Some suffering is the result of our own sin. As we sin against God and others, we bring harm to others and create consequences for them and us. Nevertheless, we have a Savior who died for those sins and the suffering that they cause. What comfort is there for us who bring about suffering? • 1 John 1:9 • Proverbs 28:13 • Psalm 32:1-5 God’s comfort in the midst of suffering Regardless of the cause, God provides comfort for our suffering. What specific comfort can you derive from the following verses? • Psalm 46:1-3, 10 • Romans 8:18; 35-39 • Hebrews 12:2-4 • Hebrews 4:15-16 Hope and joy? Enduring pain and hardship can discourage us. The Psalmist leads us in praising God for His blessings that lead to healing, lift us out of the pit, and renew our vitality. What specific benefit from God gives us hope for these blessings? How can that benefit lead to these blessings? • Psalm 103:1-5 The Apostle Paul supports presents a radical view of suffering. Why does he take such an approach? Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God's love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us. Romans 5:1-5 GOD’S PROMISE Whatever the cause, no matter the circumstances, even if we have brought on our own suffering, our loving Savior invites us to lay our burdens at the foot of the cross. [Jesus said,] “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” Matthew 11:28 Answers to blanks on previous page. 1 unrelated 2 actions 3 foolishness 4 sinful behavior 5 others 6 persecution 7 faith Answer Q21 Answer Q22 Answer Q23

1 Fear, Cravings, & Misplaced Trust A three-part Bible study on idolatry in conflict This Bible study coordinates with five bookmarks: “Fear,” “Cravings,” “Misplaced Trust,” “Confession,” and “Forgiveness” by Ambassadors of Reconciliation. Order each in sets of 12 at www.hisaor.org. Also coordinates with the pamphlet Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness, available from www.hisaor.org. All scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®, copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. Ver. 11/2017. © 2016 , 2017 by Ambassadors of Reconciliation, P.O. Box 81662, Billings, MT 59108. 406/698-6107. www.HisAoR.org. All rights reserved. Those purchasing this Bible study by Ambassadors of Reconciliation are herein granted permission to copy this handout (12 pages) and distribute within his/her own ministry setting. This permission excludes copying and distributing for the purpose of reselling it or for any other purpose without the written permission of Ambassadors of Reconciliation.

2 Fear, Cravings, & Misplaced Trust A Bible Study Part 1 of 3: Idols Revealed in Conflict; Fear What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. James 4:1-3 Objective That we might recognize underlying idols in our conflicts so that we might confess them to God and be strengthened through His forgiveness to overcome idolatrous fears, cravings, and misplaced trust. Conflict Often Reveals the Secret Idols of Our Hearts Reflecting on the above passage from James 4, consider these people’s desires: • Emily raised her voice in exasperation: “Look, Dad, all I want is to talk with my friends. I need that new unlimited talk and text plan for my phone. All my friends have it. I just have to have it. I can’t live without it!” • Bob begged his boss: “Hey, man, I just gotta get that promotion. I’ve been working my heart out to make you look good. You owe me! My wife and I really want to buy a house, and we’re drowning in debt. If you don’t promote me, you’ll be sorry you ever knew me!” • Megan’s really upset that her professor gave her an average score on her paper. Her scholarship for next year depends on a high grade point average. She gets even by slamming him on social media, comparing him to a vampire who sucks the life out of students. What is appropriate about each person’s original desires? How is each one sinning to get what he or she wants? According to James, quarrels and fights are caused by passions at war within us. Not all desires are wrong. In fact, many desires are godly. But when our desires are elevated into demands, we cross a line. What I want conflicts with what someone else wants. I want my desires met in the time frame I determine. I want my desires fulfilled my way. • In the three examples above, who is the main focus of each person’s passion? • Read 2 Corinthians 5:14-15. How does the focus on serving ourselves first contrast with what God expects? • How does the focus on serving ourselves first relate to idolatry? We often fail to recognize when we have crossed the line from “desire” to “demand.” But others around us see it. They feel the pressure when our request becomes a requirement. Our voices might raise. Or, we may indicate through body language or choice of words that we are unhappy our desires are not being met. Others know when we have judged them for not giving us what we want. The secret idols of our hearts are revealed in conflict. Answer Q01-Q02 Answer Q03-Q05

3 Our inward desire to satisfy our desires at almost any cost is so much a part of our human nature that we usually are unaware of how demanding we may come across. Of course, our desires often are at odds with the desires of others. And when that happens, we find ourselves in conflict. In biblical terms, when we make such demands, we are serving the idols of our hearts. Note how Martin Luther described false gods (aka idols)i: It’s Really a First Commandment Issue Recall the First Commandment: You shall have no other gods before me (Exodus 20:3). In this Commandment, God directs us to fear, love, and trust in God above all things. How might our passions drive us to sin against this commandment? We demonstrate that we have false gods in our hearts when instead of fearing, loving, and trusting God above all things: • We __________________1 people or things more than God (called idolatrous fears).ii • We __________________2 the created more than the Creator (called cravings). • We __________________3 someone or something more than God (called misplaced trust). We sin against the First Commandment through these three idols: fear, cravings, and misplaced trust. Fear Idolatrous fears reveal themselves when we fear something or someone more than God. They are exhibited by anxiety or desperation of losing something precious. This idol may be recognized when one uses phrases such as “I’m afraid that…” or “I’m worried that…” Not all fears are idolatrous. In fact, God gave us the ability to discern danger and avoid harm. However, our reasonable apprehensions become idolatrous when we sin in order to avoid what we fear. When we respond sinfully to our fears, we exhibit that we fear someone or something more than we fear God. The following examples include reasonable apprehensions that can evolve into idolatrous fears. How might someone sin in order to protect himself against these fears? (Think of desperate actions to avoid losing something precious.) • Worry over losing a job • Fear of losing an inheritance • Anxiety over being killed in a terrorist attack List other fears that might become idolatrous. i The Large Catechism, The First Commandment, I. 2-3, in Theodore G. Tappert, ed., The Book of Concord: The Confessions of the Evangelical Lutheran Church, (Philadelphia, Fortress Press, 1959), 365. ii Answers to blanks can be found at the bottom of the last page. A god is that to which we look for all good and in which we find refuge in every time of need. To have a god is nothing else than to trust and believe him with our whole heart. As I have often said, the trust and faith of the heart alone make both God and an idol…. That to which your heart clings and entrusts itself is, I say, really your god. Answer Q06 Answer Q07

4 Read Proverbs 29:25, in which a common idolatrous fear is identified. What two fears are contrasted? Is it wrong to be concerned about what others think? Of course not! How can we build relationships with others if we don’t care how we are viewed by them? On the other hand, fear of man is revealed when we are overly concerned about what others think of us – so much so that we sin in order to gain favor with people instead of God. Identify how the following phrases reflect fear of man. Think of situations that illustrate these idols. Discuss how those fears lead to other sins. • Peer _________________4 • Co-__________________5 • People- _______________6 What do the Scriptures teach regarding fear? • Proverbs 1:7 • Proverbs 3:5-7 • Psalm 27:1, 11-14 • Psalm 96:4-5 • Matthew 10:28 What promise of God can we trust when fears threaten to overtake us? • Hebrews 13:5-6 How can you identify when fears have become idols? Ask these questions: • What do you want to preserve or avoid at almost any cost? • In this situation, what or whom do you fear most? What will you sacrifice? Note that the idols we fear demand sacrifice. False gods always demand sacrifices. Consider the following situation: Jason, a high school junior, at last is invited to one of the parties he’s heard so much about from friends. When he arrives, he notices that no adults are around. Kids are drinking alcohol and smoking pot. Soon, he is offered a drink. Although he’s a Christian and knows what’s right, he wants to impress his friends. He’s afraid that if he refuses, he’ll be labeled as a geek and never invited again. By the time he goes home, he’s driving drunk. He gets pulled over and arrested for driving under the influence. • Jason is guilty of the idol _______________________________7. • What did he sacrifice in worshipping his false god? If left unchecked, idolatry results in destruction or death of the idol and/or the person worshipping it. If Jason doesn’t repent of his fear of man, what will be the possible end results? GOD’S PROMISE Because of God’s promises to us, we can turn from idolatrous fears and trust in our Lord. But with you there is forgiveness, that you may be feared. Psalm 130:4 Answer Q08 Answer Q09 Answer Q10 Answer Q11 Answer Q12-Q14

5 Fear, Cravings, & Misplaced Trust A Bible Study Part 2 of 3: Cravings; Misplaced Trust Cravings Read the account of a young man who sought Jesus to ask about eternal life in Matthew 19:16-22. • What did the young man originally inquire of Jesus? (verse 16) • In verse 21, what was Jesus’ response to the man’s question, “What do I still lack?” • The Bible records that the young man went away sorrowful, “for he had great possessions.” Which did the young man love more – God or his wealth? What had become his false god? Cravings (also called lusts in the Bible) reveal themselves when we love something or someone more than God. They become evident when we turn our desires into demands. This idol may be recognized when someone says, “Look, all I want is …” Megan was so excited to serve with five other people on the committee responsible for the church’s flower beds. She wanted to help make the church attractive and inviting so that more people might be blessed by the Gospel message. Without consulting other committee members, she spent hours throughout the winter planning new flowers she wanted for the planting areas. However, her designs did not impress the rest of the committee. They voted to maintain what had been done before. When Megan realized her ideas would not be used, she complained to the pastor and the elders. They all referred her back to the committee. Megan griped to other members in the congregation. Using social media, she posted negative comments about the committee, the pastor, and elders. When an elder went to visit her about her slanderous comments, she yelled at him and said she was leaving the church. • What was good about Megan’s original desire? • How did her good desires turn into demands? • How did Megan sin when she didn’t get what she wanted? • What desire had become her idol? Desires in and of themselves are not idolatrous. God created us to desire good things. However, our desires become idolatrous when we sin in order to get what we want and when we want it. Our sinful demands demonstrate that we crave something or someone more than we love God and others. Consider the following desires that can transform into idolatrous demands. • I desire increased wages. • I want my children to be successful, whatever it takes! • I deserve a new car (or clothes, home, computer, etc.). • I need to satisfy my sexual feelings. In our society, two other words that describe certain kinds of cravings include _________________8 or _________________9. What are some other desires that can become cravings or lusts? Answer Q15-17 Answer Q18-21 Answer Q22-23

6 How does the Bible address desires that become idolatrous cravings? • James 4:1-3 • Exodus 20:17 • Romans 13:13-14 • Colossians 3:5 • 1 Peter 2:11 • Galatians 5:16-17 • 1 Timothy 6:6-10 What does God want to be the object of our first love? • Mark 12:30 How can you identify when desires have become idols? Ask these questions: • What do you find yourself thinking about much of the time? (Or, what consumes your thoughts?) • What unfilled desires keep you awake at night? • When a certain desire or expectation is not met, do you feel frustration, resentment, bitterness, or anger? Identify the strong desire or unmet expectation. What will you sacrifice? Note that the idols we crave demand sacrifice. False gods always demand sacrifices. Consider the situation described earlier about Megan. What did she sacrifice to fulfill her idolatrous desire? If left unchecked, idolatry results in destruction or death of the idol and/or the person worshipping it. If Megan doesn’t repent of her cravings, she may become so upset that she leaves the church and eventually loses her faith. Her idol will lead to her own destruction. GOD’S PROMISE No matter how much we sin to get what we want, we can be comforted in God’s promises to us. The blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. 1 John 1:7 Misplaced Trust When we trust someone or something more than God, we sin against the First Commandment. We trust a false god (an idol) more than God. Considering the following verses, note where our trust may be misplaced and describe how it may evidence itself. • Proverbs 3:5-7. What is contrasted with trust in the LORD (verses 5 and 7)? o “Do not lean on your own __________________.10” o “Be not _____________11 in your own eyes.” o This misplaced trust is in ________________________________.12 • Psalm 118:8-9 o This misplaced trust is in _____________.13 Answer Q24-25 Answer Q26-Q27

7 • Proverbs 11:28 o This misplaced trust is in ______________________________.14 While our trust may be misplaced in people (such as a parent, close advisor, or leader) or things (such as personal wealth, position, or power), misplaced trust is often revealed when we trust ourselves more than God. We put our faith in our own reason, judgments, and familiar ways of doing things. This kind of trust finds its roots in personal pride. Pride and arrogance are the result of declaring oneself a god. This idol can reveal itself through a prideful or condescending nature. A common outcome of this idol is gossip or slander. People often recognize that gossip is a sin against the Commandment, “You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.” But gossip is first of all a sin against the First Commandment, “You shall have no other gods.” When we gossip about someone or slander their reputation, we play “god.” We judge them according to our own ideals. We make ourselves a false god, executing our judgment by spreading damaging information about others. How do the following verses address misplaced trust? • James 4:11-12 • 1 Peter 5:5 • Hebrews 12:1-3 How can you identify the idols of misplaced trust? Ask these questions: • Have you attempted to gently restore or lovingly correct someone, or have you sinfully judged and condemned the person? (See both Galatians 6:1 and Matthew 7:1-5.) • What means have you used to eliminate the other person’s opposition or influence? (e.g., gossip) • How have you communicated to the other person what you feel they must do? • How have you threatened the other person? (Give me what I want or you will pay!) While fears and cravings require personal sacrifice, misplaced trust may call for us to sacrifice or even execute judgment upon others. We find a way to harm others’ reputations so that our own abilities or accomplishments appear greater. Consider the following situation: Jeremy and his cousin Adam both applied for the same new job. When Jeremy interviewed for the position, he made sure to describe some personal struggles of his cousin. He told the prospective employer that in high school Adam had been addicted to illegal drugs. He left out that his cousin had overcome his addiction and been drug free for the last ten years. • What was Jeremy’s sin? • Who was Jeremy trusting most of all in order to secure the new position? • What was Jeremy’s ultimate idol? GOD’S PROMISE When we recognize our misplaced trust in ourselves, other people, or things, where can we go for help? Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Matthew 11:28 Answer Q28 Answer Q29 Answer Q30-Q32

8 Fear, Cravings, & Misplaced Trust A Bible Study Part 3 of 3: Confession & Forgiveness Little children, keep yourselves from idols. 1 John 5:21 The temptation to worship idols does not affect only unbelievers. God’s people have been tempted to set up false gods in their hearts since mankind’s fall into sin. And through our example, we teach others around us how to fear, love, or trust in something other than the true God. Read 2 Kings 17:41. • Who was guilty of idolatry (pagans or believers)? • What was one of the lasting consequences of people worshipping false gods? • What warning does this provide for us today? We may quickly judge those who worship false gods. But it is easy for us to slide down the slippery slope of idolatry. Reasonable fears, desires, and trust can develop into the idols of our hearts. They begin to develop when we turn them into demands. Our expectations are not met. Frustration builds in our hearts. Soon we are judging those who are not giving us what we want when we want it. We look for ways to punish others. If we fail to recognize our idolatrous path and repent of our sin, the end result is death or destruction of the idol we worship and/or the person worshipping it. Remember what happened to King David. Read 2 Samuel 11iii. Then answer the following questions: • What was David’s initial desire that developed into an idol? • Note that one idol often leads to another. Identify David’s idols of: – Fears – Cravings – Misplaced Trust • How did David’s lust for Bathsheba turn into a demand? • In order to protect his fears, whom did David punish (even to the point of death)? • How is David’s development of idols similar to our own experience with temptation, sin, denial, etc.? • If David did not repent, what would the end result have been? iii In place of reading 2 Samuel 11, you may wish to utilize either a skit or video that feature three young servants in David’s kingdom who gossip about the King’s upcoming wedding and “supposed affair” with Bathsheba. Both the skit “The Latest Buzz” and video “King David’s Servants” can be ordered from the Bookstore at www.hisaor.org. The video is available on the DVD Responding to Sexual Temptation in a High Tech Society. The Development of an Idol Fear Desire Trust Demand Unmet expectations Frustrations Judge Punish End Result: Destruction or Death Answer Q33-Q35 Answer Q36-Q41

9 Stopping the Development of an Idol If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:8-9 Good news! In spite of our sin, God forgives! God’s grace empowers us to break the development of an idol through repentance. Repentance is a turning away from our sin. It comprises two parts. • The first part involves contrition over our sins leading us to _______________15 to God. • The second part is ________________16 in the Gospel – that is, for Christ’s sake our sins are forgiven and our relationship to God is restored. What are the benefits of confessing to God and others, according to the following verses? • Proverbs 28:13 • Psalm 51:1-12 • Matthew 7:3-5 • Luke 11:2-4 • James 5:16 As noted above, David remained unrepentant through the end of 2 Samuel 11. Believing he had covered up his sin, he married Bathsheba. In reality, he failed to conceal his sin before God. David deceived himself, but not God. “But the thing that David had done displeased the LORD” (2 Samuel 11:27). In spite of David’s sins, including his idolatry, God loved him. He sent the prophet Nathan to restore David. Read of this account in 2 Samuel 12:1-15iv. • How did Nathan approach David to overcome his denial and recognize his sin? • What was Nathan’s immediate response to David’s confession? (verse 13) • Although David was forgiven, he suffered some consequences. What consequences did he suffer? • What consequence was he spared? iv In place of reading 2 Samuel 12, you may wish to utilize either a skit or video that feature Nathan and David. Both the skit “Nathan & King David” and video “Nathan and David” can be ordered from the Bookstore at www.hisaor.org. The video is available on the DVD Responding to Sexual Temptation in a High Tech Society. Part 3 of 3 for this Bible study includes two personal application exercises. They may be done during class or as assignments: • A self-examination exercise applying the questions to identify personal idols (page 10). This exercise requires time for quiet personal reflection. • An exercise for applying confession and forgiveness (page 12). This exercise encourages people to work privately with a partner of their own choosing. Answer Q42-Q43 Answer Q44-Q47

10 Personal Application: Self-Examination Exercise Repentance begins with self-examination. We examine our hearts before God so that we might recognize the idols of our hearts, confess them, and receive God’s forgiveness. Consider an actual conflict from your own life. Reflect on a situation where you acted inappropriately. You may have felt: Anger Bitterness Pride Fear Intense jealousy Defensiveness Judgmental attitude With that situation in mind, ask yourself the following questions. Identity the idols you were serving: fear, cravings, or misplaced trust (it may be more than one). Indicate what or whom you sacrificed or executed to get what you wanted. Recognizing idols related to fear: • What did you want to preserve or avoid at almost any cost? • In this situation, what or whom did you fear most? Recognizing idols related to cravings: • What do you find yourself thinking about much of the time? (Or, what consumes your thoughts?) • What unfilled desires keep you awake at night? • When a certain desire or expectation is not met, do you feel frustration, resentment, bitterness, or anger? Identify the strong desire or unmet expectation. Recognizing idols related to misplaced trust (especially trusting yourself as “god,” a terrible idol, and judging others): • Have you attempted to gently restore or lovingly correct someone, or have you sinfully judged and condemned the person? (Contrast Galatians 6:1 with Matthew 7:1-5.) • What means have you used to eliminate the other person’s opposition or influence? (e.g., gossip) • How have you communicated to the other person what you feel they must do? • How have you threatened the other person? (Give me what I want or you will pay!) For your specific conflict, identify the following: • The idols you struggled with (fear, craving, or misplaced trust): • What or whom you sacrificed or executed to get what you wanted: • What will be the end result if this idolatry remains unchecked? GOD’S PROMISE As you reflect on your own idols, take comfort in God’s promise for you. I said, “I will confess my transgressions to the LORD,” and you forgave the iniquity of my sin. Psalm 32:5 Answer Q48-Q51

11 Restoration through Confession and Forgiveness He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed. 1 Peter 2:24 Considering the passage above from 1 Peter: • How are we healed? • What empowers us to overcome sin and live as God’s children? God proclaims His forgiveness to us through His Word. What comfort do you find in the following verses? • Psalm 32:1-2 • Psalm 103:12 • Jeremiah 31:34 • Luke 23:34 What difference does receiving God’s forgiveness make in our relationships with others? • Matthew 6:9-15 • Colossians 3:12-13 When someone confesses his sin against us, we have two opportunities to comfort that person. • First, we can proclaim _________________17 forgiveness. • Second, we can offer _________________18 forgiveness. Proclaiming God’s forgiveness Since healing and comfort are found in God’s Word, a powerful way to restore someone is to proclaim God’s forgiveness using Scripture. We assure one another of God’s love by reading Bible passages of God’s promises. You can personalize the promise by inserting in the verse the person’s name and personal pronouns as noted in the brackets below: [Name,] He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds[, Name,] you have been healed (1 Peter 2:24). More examples can be found in the forms Announcing God’s Grace and Proclaiming God’s Forgivenessv. Forgiving personally Because we are forgiven by God, we forgive as God has forgiven us. As Paul writes in Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Offering personal forgiveness is as simple as the following: As God through Christ has forgiven both you and me, I also forgive you your sins against me. v Order from the bookstore at www.hisaor.org. Answer Q52-Q53 Answer Q54-Q56

12 Not Just an Event For the Christian, reconciliation is meant to be a way of life, not just an event. We profess our faith in Christ as we reflect the forgiveness we have with Him by: • Remembering and rejoicing in our forgiveness (Romans 5:1-11). • Sharing our forgiveness with one another, especially: o With members of our own families; o With brothers and sisters in Christ; and o With co-workers and neighbors. Personal Application: Confession and Forgiveness One of the great privileges we have as Christians is to share Christ’s forgiveness with each other. In this exercise, you can experience confessing your sins to God in the presence of a brother or sister in Christ and hearing God’s forgiveness proclaimed to you. For this exercise, use the form Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness (available from www.hisaor.org). • Find a partner, go to a private place, and each of you confess your sins to God in one another’s presence. • Your confession may be general or specific. If you have something specific to confess, note that the form provides an opportunity for that. What is most important in this exercise is to hear God’s forgiveness proclaimed to you. • If you have also sinned against the person hearing your confession, confess your sins to that person asking him or her for personal forgiveness. • Upon hearing the other person’s confession, proclaim God’s forgiveness using words of Scripture (several are listed on the back page of Proclaiming God’s Forgiveness). • Pray for one another. • Remember that whatever is confessed in your presence remains confidential. GOD’S PROMISE God knows everything about us, including the secret idols of our hearts. Nevertheless, He loves us so much that He sacrificed His only Son that we might be reconciled with Him. Thus, we take comfort in the promises of our loving God. There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Romans 8:1 Answers to blanks on previous pages. 1 fear 2 love 3 trust 4 pressure 5 dependency 6 pleaser 7 fear of man 8 addictions 9 obsessions 10 understanding 11 wise 12 one’s own self 13 people 14 riches or personal wealth 15 confess 16 faith 17 God’s 18 personal