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ALSO BY HEATHER FORBES  Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control, Volume 1 Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control, Volume 1,...
Heather T. Forbes, LCSW  Beyond Consequences Institute
Copyright    2008 by Heather T. Forbes Permission provided for any or all parts of this book to be reproduced for a loving...
Table of Contents      A Note to the Reader A Life-Transforming Offer  Part One     The Principles of a New Understanding ...
A Note to the Reader      This book will offer you a completely new understanding of how to love and parent your children....
We have somehow come to believe that love is not enough. In fact, there are parenting books with titles that indicate that...
Yet, quite the opposite is true. Albert Einstein said,    Any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex . ....
PART ONE  The Principles of a New Understanding
FROM RESEARCH TO LOVE     1  CHAPTER ONE  From Research to Love         The greatest science in the world, in heaven and o...
2     THE PRINCIPLES OF A NEW UNDERSTANDING  in formal peer-reviewed journal articles , but it takes away from the reader ...
FROM RESEARCH TO LOVE     3  love-based parenting model. This is where my day of research shifts. Instead of my keyword be...
4     THE PRINCIPLES OF A NEW UNDERSTANDING  The parent recognizes that there must be a disconnect between the parent and ...
LOVE-BASED PARENTING     5  CHAPTER TWO  Love-Based Parenting         Where there is great love there are always miracles....
6     THE PRINCIPLES OF A NEW UNDERSTANDING  parent is more concerned for her needs than the needs of the child, then fear...
LOVE-BASED PARENTING     7  safety, attention, acceptance, validation, tolerance, patience, kindness, and joy. Instead, th...
8     THE PRINCIPLES OF A NEW UNDERSTANDING  brain, and the neocortical brain  see Figure 2.1 . The reptilian brain is ste...
LOVE-BASED PARENTING    9  The neocortex is the third brain and in humans, the largest. Speaking, writing, planning, and r...
10     THE PRINCIPLES OF A NEW UNDERSTANDING  primate species and most of it is spent relying on parents and others to mee...
PART TWO  Seven Behaviors Rooted in Fear  Note  All of the examples given in the next seven chapters represent true storie...
46     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     47  CHAPTER SEVEN  Poor Social Skills         A man   s growth is seen in the successive choirs of ...
48     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  we are missing this piece in our life with peers our age, it can literally be painf...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     49  in acquiring the ability to do preplanning and to organize successful interactions with peers. ...
50     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  Even though Billy has been through several sessions of Social Skills Training with ...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     51  they will be returning to the table and she uses a soft tone and an endearing nickname  sweethe...
52     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  child will grow up having difficulty interacting appropriately in relationships.6 D...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     53  and our good manners at the table     Billy nods his head and sits back down to finish his dinn...
54     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  outside the home. Parenting from the Beyond Consequences paradigm, where the child ...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     55  becomes so overwhelmed that he goes into    fight    mode and attacks. Sandy was with her mom a...
56     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  creates a level of safety he does not have on his own. It is similar to the behavio...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     57  for children. Big open spaces with numerous things to explore and with other children running a...
58     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  Chart of Social Difficulties Physical Difficulties    1.  Physical proximity    a. ...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS       3. Voice    a.  Speaks too loudly or too softly, especially in relation to the distance of the ot...
60     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  Teachers can also limit the amount of space a child plays in to create safety.    J...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     61  not come from a cognitive framework. Rather, the ability to be socially connected comes from no...
62     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  these children have come over to play with Peter and that he needs to stop being ru...
POOR SOCIAL SKILLS     has the capacity to play nicely with his friends. Dad reflects about how important this interaction...
64     SEVEN BEHAVIORS ROOTED IN FEAR  Quick Reference  Social Skills  Remember that a child struggling socially         M...