APeeling in October

Real stories by real business owners with real solutions for life and work. This month's stories are about biases, growth mindset, goal setting, owning your job

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October 2020

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Shannon’s

Thoughts

As the Stark’s keep telling us,

“Winter is Coming” and this winter will

be like no other before it.

As the second wave of the

Coronavirus is beginning to rise up,

governments in the Northern Hemi-

sphere are evaluating which restric-

tions to put into place to keep the

number of cases manageable for

their healthcare systems.

Many of those who found respite

from their homes in backyards, parks,

and nature trails will be spending

more time behind closed doors.

Due to a lack of socializing, we

have gotten out of the habit of calling

people to make plans for coffee, din-

ner, or going out for a fun evening.

These next few months will be hard

for a lot of our loved ones as travel-

ling for holidays and family dinners

will be put on hold.

 Takeafewmomentstogure

out how you can bring family and

friends together on a regular basis

through one of the many communica-

tion systems we have at our disposal.

It isn’t the same as being in the same

room as each other and we still will

feel we are missing the connection of

humanity in our lives.

Reaching out matters. Suicide in

young people is up and seniors who

felt isolated before the pandemic are

more isolated than ever before.

The thing about isolation and

depression is, once it gets a hold of

it makes it hard for those battling

loneliness to reach out. I know it

sounds odd. I mean if you’re lonely

pick up the phone and call someone -

easyx!

For those who suffer from de-

pression and isolation it isn’t easy to

pick up the phone. They get lost in

their own thoughts and misery. They

know people don’t want to hear about

their misery and for most, they don’t

know why they are miserable. They

don’t want to talk to people, but they

need to.

Make connection a part

of your daily routine.

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Bobby’s or Peelers are

members of the Metropolitan

Police force, which was formed

on September 29, 1829, by

Home Secretary Sir Robert

Peel who became Prime Min-

ister of Britain twice in his life-

time. His father was Sir Robert

Peel 1st Baronet and one of

the 10 richest men in the UK

in 1799, thanks to the 23 cot-

ton mills he owned around the

country. When Alice was born,

the 3rd Baronet of Peel was a

Member of Parliment, though

less impressive than his prede-

cessors.

When I was a teenager,

an aunt told me our family was

decended from a member of

Sir Robert Peel’s family. Curi-

osity sprouted while watching

the Frankenstein Chronicles,

about a Thames River Cop set

Searching for Thomas

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by Shannon Peel

You think your boss is a jerk

and then you and your family run

into him at the local coffee shop

and you are surprised to discov-

er he is funny, interesting, and

thoughtful.

You don’t understand why

your wife keeps saying she’s fat

when she really isn’t. Your best

friend is forever boasting and be-

ing confrontational with you, saying

things you know they don’t mean.

You get passed over for a promo-

tion and the guy who got it doesn’t

have the experience or skills you

do, but he is well liked by every-

one.

Life seems to be a popular-

ity contest and you have no clue

why you are left out of the running.

What is going on?

We all have blind spots, which

Cognitive Biases & Blind Spots

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by Likky Lavji

The pace of change, the un-

certainty of outcome, the complex-

ity of decision making and the am-

biguity of facts are making it harder

for leaders to make an impact.

One of the best ways to face

these interesting times with con-

dence is to take on a growth mind-

set. What is a growth mindset? Let

me illustrate with a story.

About 12 years ago, my fami-

ly and I went on vacation to a lake.

One beautiful morning, the lake

was placid. Completely still and

calm. You could see the reection

of the sky and trees perfectly in the

water.

My 4-year old picked up a

pebble and threw it in the water

and he was immediately in awe.

That rock that he threw in made

ripples that seemed to go on

A Growth Mindset

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by Shakeel Bharmal

Own It

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by Anthony Gruppo

Owning it is a mindset that

says, if something goes wrong and

others are at a disadvantage, you

own the outcome of your work. It

means that when you invest time

and resources on something that

fails, you suffer a setback because

you care about the outcome. When

you don’t own something, if it fails

it doesn’t impact you because if it

doesn’t work, so what, it didn’t hurt

you, you don’t feel any loss. Own-

ing it means when you do some-

thing wrong, it can hurt others and

hurts you too.

When you own it, you have a

can-do attitude, are discipline fo-

cused, have a hard driving attack

model, because problems give you

courage, condence, and the abil-

ity to take greater risks. You’ll try

harder to do your best because you

There are three types of goals.

Aspirational. Attainable. Achiev-

able.

When we set goals at Build

Impossible, we follow a basic for-

mat with the purpose of achieving

the impossible. The two main goal

setting methodologies are, the big

scary audacious goal and a goal

has to be believable to be achiev-

able. What we discovered from a

pragmatic and practical standpoint

is a goal needs to be both of those

things. The goal setting process

isn’t a matter of setting a goal, it is

a matter of setting a process.

Our process is broken into

three parts, 5-year, 1-year, and 90-

day goals. From there we create

RIPS, which are like KPIs to measure

Goals are Processes

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by Cameron Chell

In this article I bring together

the morning routines shared with

me on LinkedIn. Is a routine import-

ant? Discover the answer for your-

self.

How I start my day tends to

be how I spend the whole day, as

transitioning from one activity to

another is hard for me. I tend to hy-

per-focus on what I am doing and

keep doing it until it’s done, or I fall

asleep.

How we start our day affects

our mindset and mood throughout

the day it is important to have the

right routine, which I do not.

Every Morning I:

• Look at my phone

• Turn on an audio book

• Engage on LinkedIn

Morning Routine

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By Shannon Peel & Friends

I pull into the driveway and

park the van. My head is throbbing

with the beginnings of a headache.

I lean back on the seat’s headrest

and close my eyes. Just for a min-

ute. Only a minute.

Bang

“Moooom!”

My eyes shoot open. An elec-

tric shock jolts me and my heart

pounds in my chest. I feel a wave

of blood moving through my body.

I’m getting light headed and dizzy.

What the…? I turn and my son’s

face is looking at me through the

driver’s side window. I put my hand

to my chest, breath deep and push

the button to open the window.

Nothing happens. Right. I turn the

key in the ignition and put the win-

dow down.

“Aiden. You scared me.

Date Night

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By Shannon Peel

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The cries of tiny Alice Boyd

wererstheardbyherparentsJohn

and Eliza on May 9th, 1880. Con-

stableJohnBoydheldhisnewborn

daughter never knowing 93 years

later to the day, her existence could

lead to connecting his direct line to

the family of one of the richest and

most powerful men in Britain at the

time and the man who made his

‘Bobby’ career possible.

Bobby’s or Peelers are mem-

bers of the Metropolitan Police

force, which was formed on Sep-

tember 29, 1829, by Home Secre-

tary Sir Robert Peel who became

Prime Minister of Britain twice in his

lifetime. His father was Sir Robert

Peel 1st Baronet and one of the

10 richest men in the UK in 1799,

thanks to the 23 cotton mills he

owned around the country. When

Alice was born, the 3rd Baronet of

Peel was a Member of Parliment,

though less impressive than his

predecessors.

When I was a teenager, an

aunt told me our family was de-

cended from a member of Sir Rob-

ert Peel’s family. Recently, Curiosity

sproutedwhilewatchingaNetixseries

starring Sean Bean, called,The

Frankenstein Chronicles, about a

Thames River Cop set in 1928/9

when the Metropolitan police force

was a new idea being passed into

existence by Home Secretary, Sir

Robert Peel.

The predecessors of Scot-

land Yard, The Thames River Po-

lice, were kind of like a private pay

for cop organization put in place to

stop thievery along the Thames riv-

er. The series character, Sir Robert

is the Sir Robert Peel who created

the ‘Bobbies’ and became Prime

Minister of the world’s most powerful

country in the 1800s.

As I watched the show, I won-

dered if my aunt had been correct

Searching

For Thomas

Shannon Peel

and if so, which brother or cousin

were we descended from?

With today’s technolo-

gy connecting my computer with

the archives, libraries, family trees,

and nothing but time on my hands

during social distancing, I set out

to discover if there truly is a family

connection to the man character-

ized in the series.

Found:

John Boyd

Ancestry.com enables you to

plug your branch into a family tree

already built by someone else. In a

couple of days, I had 500 years of

names all coming together to create

little ol’ me.

 IdiscoveredJohnandEliza

Boyd who were one of the few city

dwellers in my tree. He was a ‘Bob-

by’ in London and she was a Buck-

ingham Palace cook.

For those born mid 19th cen-

tury to the start of the 20th century

thereislotstondandIlearned

things which changed my idea of

what was socially acceptable at that

time. What I learned about the peo-

ple who came before me:

1. I share a birthday with my

great-grandmother Alice Boyd

2. My brother shares a birthday with

our great-great-great grandmother

JaneAnnPeel

3.JohnBoydwas‘Bobby’#139in

district T - Hammersmith

4.JohnBoyd’smomwas31andhis

dad was 23 when he was born.

5.Elizawas8yrsolderthanJohn

and they married the year after her

fatherdiedwhenJohnwas21

John Boyd Late 1800s

Sites like Ancestry.com give us

dates and places but they don’t give

us the stories.

Ever wonder why your grandpar-

ents moved to a different country

or how they met? Are you curious

about what life was like when your

mother was a teenager?

Some people want to know about

their family stories, their roots, or

how they are similar to a member

from a previous generation. The

sad thing is many of those who

came before us took their stories to

their graves. The family storytellers

share their stories, but it takes less

than a generation for those stories

to be lost or changed due to embel-

lishments and poor memories.

To help you get started with put-

ting your story down on paper, I’ve

created a 7 day challenge.

Start preserving your story for

your great-grandchildren today.

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write your story

challenge

Preserve Your Story

Stories

Eve Haas is the daughter of a German Jewish fami-

ly who took refuge in London after Hitler. Her father

reveals the family secret - that her great-great grand-

mother Emilie was married to a Prussian prince. He

then showed her the treasured leather-bound note-

book inscribed to Emilie by the prince.

The Secrets of the Notebook tells how she follows the

clues,from the London archives to West Germany and

under threat of being arrested as a spy, to an archive

in East Germany. What she unearths is a love story set

against the upheaval of the Napoleonic wars

When Jennifer Teege, a German-Nigerian woman,

happens to pluck a library book from the shelf, she has

no idea that her life will be irrevocably altered. Recog-

nizing photos of her mother and grandmother in the

book, she discovers a horrifying fact: Her grandfather

was Amon Goeth, the vicious Nazi commandant chill-

ingly depicted by Ralph Fiennes in Schindler’s List - a

man known and reviled the world over.

Although raised in an orphanage and eventually ad-

opted, Teege had some contact with her biological

mother and grandmother as a child. Yet neither re-

vealed that Teege’s grandfather was the Nazi “butcher

of Plaszów”, executed for crimes against humanity in

1946. The more Teege reads about Amon Goeth, the

more certain she becomes: If her grandfather met her -

a black woman - he would have killed her.

The Secrets of

the Notebook

Grandfather

would have

shot me

You think your boss is a jerk

and then you and your family run

into him at the local coffee shop and

you are surprised to discover he is

funny, interesting, and thoughtful.

You don’t understand why your wife

keeps saying she’s fat when she re-

ally isn’t. Your best friend is forever

boasting and being confrontational

with you, saying things you know

they don’t mean. You get passed

over for a promotion and the guy

who got it doesn’t have the experi-

ence or skills you do, but he is well

liked by everyone.

Life seems to be a popularity

contest and you have no clue why

you are left out of the running. What

is going on?

We all have blind spots, which

cause us to behave in ways others

interpret differently than we intend-

ed and in response they behave in

ways they do not intend. We do not

realize how our behaviour is com-

ing across because it is in our blind

spot.

There are a number of dif-

ferent cognitive biases which can

cause us to misinterpret the behaviours

of others. A cognitive bias is

an error in decision making due to

personal beliefs, experiences, and

assumptions. These biases are the

root cause of our blind spots.

Conrmation Bias is the ten-

dency to gravitate to facts which

conrmyouralready-heldbeliefs.

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Cognitive Biases and Blind Spots

You seek out news and stats to

back up your argument. You talk to

people who have the same opinions

as you and avoid conversations

with those who disagree with you.

You will dismiss those who don’t

agree with you as liars, fake, and

outright wrong in order to hold on to

yourpointofview.Byndingpeople

whotendtoconrmyourbeliefs,

you are able to be right no matter

what your argument is.

Overcondence Bias is a

more personalized extension of

theconrmationbias,whereyou

have a false sense of your skills,

talents, and abilities. Those who are

overcondentwillbelievetheycan

do something they’ve never done

before and if they succeed it’s be-

cause of their innate skill and if they

fail, it was bad luck and the fault of

others stopping them from doing

what they needed to do to succeed.

The Actor Observer Bias is

where you are able to excuse your

short comings, mistakes, and loss-

es due to situations in your life. You

were late to the meeting because

you had jetlag and couldn’t wake

up in time, not your fault. However,

if someone else was to do the ex-

act same thing for the exact same

reason you blame it on their inability

to be responsible. In other words,

excuses for failure only apply to you

where others were incapable, in-

competent, and irresponsible.

The False-Consensus Effect

is when someone overestimates

how many people agree with them.

They see themselves as part of a

majority regardless if the facts show

they are in the minority. They as-

sume everyone in the room agrees

with them.

Incentive-Caused Bias is

acting a certain way because the

incentives are aligned to get you to

make a certain decision or action.

Framing is when you make a

decision because of how informa-

tion is presented to you instead of

relying only on the facts. It is a reg-

ular tool of the sales professional

to create a framing bias to help you

make the decision they want you to.

The Optimism Bias is when

we tend to be too optimistic for our

own good. We overestimate the

likelihood that good things will hap-

pen to us while underestimating the

probability that negative events will

impact our lives. The opposite of

this is Pessimism Bias.

The Narrative Fallacy occurs

because stories help make sense

of things and we can relate to them.

We tell ourselves a story to helps us

feel better.

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Anchoring Bias is when we

use pre-existing data as a reference

point for all subsequent data and

it skews our decision-making pro-

cesses because we can’t see the

new data independently of what we

already learned.

Hindsight Bias is when some-

one predicts something which turns

out wrong and they change their

story to, “I knew it all along, I was

just kidding before.” It is a common

cognitive bias that involved the

tendency of people to see events,

even random ones, as more pre-

dictable than they are. The hind-

sight bias occurs for a combination

of reasons, including our ability to

“misremember” previous predic-

tions, our tendency to view events

as inevitable, and our tendency to

believe we could have foreseen

certain events.

Our memories of events tend

tobeinuencedbywhathappened

after the actual event. This is known

as, the Misinformation Effect. A

person who witnesses a car ac-

cident or crime might believe that

their recollection is crystal clear, but

researchers have found that mem-

ory is surprisingly susceptible to

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evenverysubtleinuences.

Emotions can cloud our judg-

ment and lead to poor decisions.

The Pain-Avoiding Psychological

Denial is the tendency to wish for

something to be true to the point we

cannot see the actual truth. Loss

Aversion is the tendency for people

to not take risks because they are

too scared they will lose what they

have or won’t succeed so why try.

Representative Bias happens

when people believe there is a cor-

relation between objects, people,

events because they have similar

characteristics.

The Halo Effect Bias or

Physical Attractiveness Stereo-

type is the idea that if something is

beautiful it is good or right.

When making decisions about

others, think about these cognitive

biases and how they are affecting

your behaviours due to blind spots

in your life.

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helping organizations, teams, and indi-

viduals discover the blind spots

in their lives

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The pace of change, the un-

certainty of outcome, the complexity

of decision making and the ambigu-

ity of facts are making it harder for

leaders to make an impact.

One of the best ways to face

theseinterestingtimeswithcon-

dence is to take on a growth mind-

set. What is a growth mindset? Let

me illustrate with a story.

About 12 years ago, my fami-

ly and I went on vacation to a lake.

One beautiful morning, the lake was

placid. Completely still and calm.

Youcouldseethereectionofthe

sky and trees perfectly in the water.

My 4-year old picked up a peb-

ble and threw it in the water and he

was immediately in awe. That rock

that he threw in made ripples that

seemed to go on forever. My 2 boys

and I must have spent 2 hours at

the lake that day throwing pebbles

and trying to make bigger and big-

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A Growth Mindset

ger ripples. It was a glorious day. A

memorable day.

Two years later, our family was

driving to the Oregon Coast for va-

cation. We had booked a place on

Cannon Beach. The whole drive up,

my sons couldn’t stop talking about

throwing stones into the water. They

remembered that wonderful day we

had had together and could not wait

to recreate it. So, the next morn-

ing, we headed to the beach. It was

a beautiful day but the water was

volatile. There was a wind and the

waves were crashing.

My boys had been collecting

rocks for days. But what happens

when you throw rocks into rough

waters? That is right, nothing. My

younger son looked at me for direc-

tion. I didn’t know what to say while

I tried to think of a back-up plan so

that the day could be salvaged.

Then he looked at me again,

with a glimmer in his eye. Some-

thing had clearly changed in his

brain. I wasn’t sure what he was

thinking, but I recognized by his fa-

cial expression that he was looking

to me for permission for something.

With a slight nod, I gave it to him.

With that cue, he ripped off his shirt,

backed up about 10 feet and ran

into the crashing waves. Of course

he was knocked down right away,

but that didn’t stop him. He did it

again and again and, within 20 min-

utes,hehadguredouthowtoride

the waves.

He was demonstrating a

growth mindset. He had created a

plan, based on his past experience,

and was ready to execute. He was

going to throw his stones and cre-

ate ripples. He was going to make

his impact. But there is a difference

between the ocean and a lake.

The weather also created different

conditions in the water. He could

have given up and decided instead

tobuildsandcastlesoryakite.

Those would have been good op-

tions. Instead, he re-assessed and

found another way to make an im-

pact in the water. In the process, he

learned a new skill, riding waves,

which he continues to enjoy to this

day.

So what to do to live a growth

mindset every day? Here are two

ideas for you.

First, recognize that taking a

xedorgrowthmindsetisachoice,

not a foregone conclusion. It re-

quires a conscious effort for most of

us.You can choose to:

Take on more challenging

goalsanddifcultproblems.

1) Be conscious about embracing

constructive criticism, no matter

howdifcultitmightbe.

2) Ask for help, when faced with an

obstacle, instead of giving up.

3) Find inspiration in a colleague’s

success. Try and learn what they

did right.

4) Learn from failure instead of be-

ing embarrassed by it.

If it all sounds uncomfortable,

you are right. It is. You will need to

cultivateyourabilitytoreecton

your own performance in real-time,

if possible.

Listen

Real Time

Reection

When I was a kid, the Bobby

Orr hockey card was coveted. He

was a legend. What you may not

know is that he was a master of re-

al-timereection.

Bobby Orr was said to have

an incredible ability to be able to be

in the game, on the ice, in the mid-

dle of the action, while at the same

time being able to jump in and out

of the stands. This ability meant he

could monitor his performance and

change his behaviour in real-time

as things shifted.

Believe it or not, this ability is

available to all of us. When we are

delivering a presentation, and we

notice the audience disengaging, or

checking their phones, we have the

abilitytoreectonwhatwearede-

livering and change our approach.

When my son jumped into

the crashing waves, over and over

again, he kept changing his speed,

his stance, his angle in an effort to

get the perfect ride. He was con-

stantlyreectingandadjusting.

When we are in the middle of

a conversation, perhaps receiving

criticism, we know when we are

getting uncomfortable. We might

even say a few defensive words.

When we hear ourselves say those

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words, we have the ability to pause

and reset our approach in the con-

versation.

It’s also important to estab-

lish even a short, daily practice

ofreection.Ideally,attheendof

the business day and ideally in the

form of handwritten notes, because

handwriting helps the brain pro-

cess. The types of questions to ask

yourself are:

1. What did I learn today?

2. What would I do differently if I

had the chance?

3. What was I doing when I felt the

most energized? Why did that

energize me?

4. What was I doing when I felt

drained? Why did that drain me?

Thissimpleactofdailyreection

is part of being fully aware of who

you are and what you have to learn

from the people and experiences

you come across in your day.

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Owning it is a mindset that

says, if something goes wrong and

others are at a disadvantage, you

own the outcome of your work. It

means that when you invest time

and resources on something that

fails, you suffer a setback because

you care about the outcome. When

you don’t own something, if it fails

it doesn’t impact you because if it

doesn’t work, so what, it didn’t hurt

you, you don’t feel any loss. Own-

ing it means when you do some-

thing wrong, it can hurt others and

hurts you too.

When you own it, you have a

can-do attitude, are discipline fo-

cused, have a hard driving attack

model, because problems give you

courage,condence,andtheability

to take greater risks. You’ll try hard-

er to do your best because you own

the outcome.

You don’t have to start off with

tough tasks, start with things you

can handle and work your way up

as your skills develop.

I’ve been sent into tough situa-

tions and if I didn’t own it, or believe

in it, or make it my own, I wasn’t

going to be successful. I’ve walked

into rooms where everyone looking

at me was struggling with perfor-

mance results and they looked to

me, hoping I’d be able to turn things

around for them. That is a great

weight. You can see it in their eyes

when you meet them. Some peo-

ple doubt you because others have

come before you and failed, they

don’t want to change, or they don’t

believe it’s possible to turn things

around. However, no matter where I

went, what type of situation I walked

into, there were always a few peo-

ple who wanted to work with me to

improve the situation and get better

results.

One time, I was faced with

a situation in Texas where it was

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so bad, I felt like I was in over

my head. When I got there, I tru-

ly doubted that I had the skill to

do what was asked of me and I

thought, “oh well, I can always go

backtondsomethingelseifthings

don’t work out.” That’s when I re-

alizedmythinkingwasawedbe-

cause I’d already started to build

my exit plan for when things failed.

So, instead of building an escape

pod, I decided to fearlessly go for-

ward, own the task set before me,

and play each day as though it was

my last to drive the team towards

the goal line. That was the one time

when owning it made the biggest

difference because I realized there

was no going back - it was get it

done or nothing. When you play a

highrisk game without a net, that’s

owning it.

If you want to own it, don’t

think about your job title, don’t

think about your role, don’t think

about your lack of authority to

make something happen, owning it

means doing the very best you can

do to get the job done. Have you

ever tried to get help from someone

only to be told, “That’s not my job”

or “I don’t have the authority to help

you.” Don’t be that person. Discover

theproblem,ndoutwhocanhelp

you solve it, and see that it gets

done. This could mean communi-

cating the desired outcome with

different departments, a supervisor,

orthepersonbesideyoutondout

what can be done, who can do it,

and then following up to ensure it

was done.

When I worked in construc-

tion, I decided I was going to shovel

more dirt, I was going to push the

wheelbarrows faster, I was going to

climb scaffolds before somebody

else did, and I decided I was going

to learn how to operate a backhoe.

I owned whatever job I could, even

if owning it was the end of a pic,

a shovel, a rake. I wasn’t going to

let the heat, the cold, or anything

stop me. I owned the ground I was

standing on, the hole I was punch-

ing into the earth, and the next chal-

lenge I was going to take on.

I never changed that mindset.

I always deliver the best I can, seek

outwaystohelpothers,andnd

challenges that will help me grow

my skills, my reputation, and my

sphereofinuence.Ibelievethe

minute you tell yourself that you will

not deliver your best every day, you

start to open yourself up to disap-

pointment and failure.

If you do the best you can,

then your chances of being suc-

cessful are higher than if you think

you don’t own it because it’s some-

body else’s problem, that my super-

visor didn’t do it right, I didn’t have

the right geographical location, or I

was put in a place that was harder

than somewhere else. I have been

in places that were harder than any-

where else. I have worked in Erie,

Pennsylvania.

Erie Pennsylvania was a very

depressed little town and and peo-

ple asked me with disbelief and

scorn in their voice, “you’re going

to Erie, Pennsylvania? Why? It’s

cold. It’s grey. It’s depressing. All

the businesses are going downhill

there.”

Guess what? I found a charm-

ing place full of great people who

supported me. Erie is a tremen-

dous community, my best friends

are from Erie, Pennsylvania. I went

there to help them turn the business

around, with the mindset that it was

my ground, my shovel, my hole,

and I have to tell you that we were

wildly successful in Erie, Pennsyl-

vania.

When I was in New York, and

people were saying, “Oh, well,

you’re in New York City, you have

every resource you can possibly

have.” Yes that’s true, but it’s also a

streetghteveryday,It’scompet-

itive and the best of the best play

here. No matter where I am, I will

tell you that owning it is a mind set,

whether I’m in Erie Pennsylvania or

New York City, or London England,

it’s the same mindset.

Anthony C Gruppo is the CEO of

Marsh Commercial in the UK, a

speaker, author, and a mentor. This

has been an excerpt of his book the

Pushers of the Possible.

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How I start my day tends to be

how I spend the whole day, as tran-

sitioning from one activity to another

is hard for me. I tend to hyper-focus

on what I am doing and keep doing

it until it’s done, or I fall asleep. Due

to the nature of my work, I usually

fall asleep before I’m done. Then I

wake up and start again.

Every Morning I:

• Look at my phone

• Turn on an audio book

• Roll outta bed

• Make coffee

• Start working

• Make more coffee

• Keep working

• Go to bed

• Check my phone

• Turn on an audio book

Whether or not you purpose-

fully created a morning routine, you

have a routine. Routines are hab-

its. The things we automatically do

without thinking every day. Those

who purposefully have a routine

that encompasses physical and

mental well-being along with pro-

ductivity will get more done in a day.

According to the Blurt Team at

the Blurt Foundation, which seeks

to increase the understanding of

depression, “Developing a daily

routine can help us to feel more in

control of everything, and help us to

make room for all that’s important.

Routine can aid our mental health.

It can help us to cope with change,

to form healthy habits, and to re-

duce our stress levels.”

 Assomeonewhondssched-

ules and lists to be constricting and

difculttomaintain,theideaofcre-

ating a routine sounds boring. In

Morning

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recognize these behaviours in others?

• Avoidance or the ostrich affect

• Untrue statements or the knee jerk affect

• Anger or the temper tantrum affect

• Freeze up or the deer in the headlights affect

• Quit or the runaway affect

These are just a few of the behaviours a person feeling fear

can exhibit which affects their effectiveness in the workplace

and world.

Many people on are afraid to engage, to post, to open them-

selves up to let others know who they are on social media.

Society is lled with fear. It’s fed by our politicians, newscast-

ers, movies, and communities.

To admit fear is to be seen as weak. Yet, everyone has fears

both rational and irrational. To discuss our fears and how

we overcome them are stories of strength which your

audience can relate to.

The more you relate to your audience the more your

stories will be woven together.

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I pull into the driveway and

park the van. My head is throbbing

with the beginnings of a headache.

I lean back on the seat’s headrest

and close my eyes. Just for a min-

ute. Only a minute.

Bang

“Moooom!”

My eyes shoot open. An elec-

tric shock jolts me and my heart

pounds in my chest. I feel a wave

of blood moving through my body.

I’m getting light headed and dizzy.

What the…? I turn and my son’s

face is looking at me through the

driver’s side window. I put my hand

to my chest, breath deep and push

the button to open the window.

Nothing happens. Right. I turn the

key in the ignition and put the win-

dow down.

“Aiden. You scared me.

What?”

“Aren’t you coming in? You’ve

been out here for almost an hour.”

An hour? I look at the time on the

dash. It’s been almost an hour since

I parked. The groceries! I panic.

Meat, frozen pizzas, milk, cheese.

I ick the switch unlocking all the

locks on the van and the back door

rises up.

“Grab some groceries and

take them into the house. Where

are your sisters?”

“Awwwwe do I have to?”

“Yes. Your sisters?”

“I don’t know. Inside.”

I grab a few bags and yell for

my three daughters to unload the

van and put the groceries away be-

cause I’m running late. They whine

while doing it. I don’t care.

“If you hadn’t fallen asleep…”

Aiden starts and I just glare at him,

daring him to continue. The boy’s

not dumb, I’ll give him that.

I have to get ready Gus will be

home soon.I run upstairs to jump

in the shower, shave, wash my hair,

the whole nine yards. I have less

than an hour to look gorgeous. Not

an easy feat at forty.

After twenty-two years, four

kids and an extra hundred lbs I am

not the slim beautiful eighteen-

year-old girl my husband married. I

know Gus still loves me. He says my

curves and stretch marks make me

that much more real and attractive

to him. More cushin for the pushin

he teases me and I try to believe

him, I do.

My husband doesn’t have an

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ounce of fat on him, thanks to good

genes and a physical labour job as

a contractor. He even still has most

of his hair. I see the women linger-

ing around him, irting with their

eyes, trying to get my husband’s

attention. He claims never to notice

because he only has eyes for me.

Ha. I just bet he didn’t notice when

Melissa Rempkin walked right into

him at church and then looked up

with puppy dog eyes.

“Ooops sorry Gus. You sure

are a solid one aren’t you?”

I could have ripped her eyes

out and I would have too if the pas-

tor hadn’t walked by at that very

moment. I mean, I can’t have him

thinking I’m a jealous, violent, irra-

tional woman, now can I?

I get out of the shower, look

at my naked body in the mirror and

cringe. I’m plump. Round. No, not

rounded, round. My waist is larg-

er than my hips and my hips are

round. Remember in the Charlie

and the Chocolate Factory mov-

ie, when the girl eats the gum and

becomes a big fat round blue berry

and needs to be rolled out by the

umpa loompas. No, not the John-

ny Depp one, the original one, the

one made before, before I was

born. The one with, what was his

name? It’s been so long since I saw

it. Gene Something… Simmons?

Hackman? Oh I don’t know.

“Mooooom.” My son’s voice

coming through the door.

“Whaaat?”

“You forgot the nacho cheese

dip. How are we supposed to have

a movie night without the nacho

cheese dip?”

“I don’t know. You have to

make do. Now leave me alone or

give me your game system.”

I start getting dressed. Noth-

ing ts the way I want and I hate

how I look. After trying on four

dresses and a pantsuit I settle on

a black sac of a dress. It might as

well be a tent. My hair at least is

cooperating. I wished I’d had time

to go to the hairdressers this after-

noon and get it done up really nice,

but with driving the kids around,

the groceries, getting the house

cleaned up, laundry… the list is

endless.

There, that should do it.

I dig in the bathroom closet for my

makeup box. I hardly ever wear

any, there is little to no point. I rare-

ly go out and when I do, no one

cares what I look like. Lack of daily

practice is making a mess of things

and I feel like a clown. Too much

eye shadow and the lipstick is too

bright.

“Mom. Aiden is being a lit-

tle shit. You have to get him under

control.”

“Language Alexis, watch your

language.”

I turn to see my eldest daugh-

ter looking gorgeous and dressed

to the nines in a blue patterned

skirt with a matching blouse and

her hair cascading over her shoul-

ders. She’s nineteen and looks a lot

like I did when I married Gus. I look

at my slim daughter with her in-

dented waist and perky breasts and

sigh.

Just wait I think, twenty years

and you’ll look like me.

“And where do you think your

going tonight?” I ask.

“Out with Cameron.”

“Which one is Cameron?”

“The blonde with the pickup

truck. You know, he goes to the

University, he’s studying to be a

lawyer one day.”

“Oh right him. What hap-

pened to the one who’s going to

be an electrician or something? I

like him.”

“Dan? I’m seeing him tomor-

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row, and before you ask, I went out

with Richard last night.”

“How do you keep them all

straight? I can’t even imagine dat-

ing more than one man. You’re not

sleeping with them all are you?

Don’t forget you can catch diseas-

es and worse they’ll think you’re

a whore and no man has ever fall-

en in love with a whore. You really

should just pick one or else people

will think you’re a slut or some-

thing.”

She has heard me say these

things a hundred times already and

I can see from the glaze over her

eyes that she isn’t listening. Why

do I bother? I just want her to be

happy. Not like her Aunt Charlene

or worse Charlene’s new friend,

Lindsay. I wouldn’t worry so much if

she’d just nd a nice boy who is like

Gus and will take care of her, pro-

tect her. It’s a dangerous world for

girls. It just is.

“Mom. Enough. Aiden. That

little spoiled shit you call a favourite

-.”

“I do not.”

She rolls her eyes. I hate it

when she rolls her eyes.

“Everyone knows he’s your

precious little boy and that he’s an

entitled pain in the ass who at this

very moment is trying to make na-

cho cheese sauce in your kitchen

with your favourite pot. Thought

you might want to know.”

With that, she turns on her

heel and walks out the door.

Trying to make nacho cheese

sauce? Oh no, what does that

mean?

I hurry downstairs and there

is my son with cheese all over

the counter and a pot of burning

cheese on the stove.

“Oh Aiden.”

“I wanted nacho cheese

sauce. Gerry likes nacho cheese

sauce and I told him there would

be some.”

I grab the pot off the red-

hot stove element. Right then, the

smoke detector goes off and Gus

walks into the kitchen.

“Ready to go on our date?”

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