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Apps For Raising Happy Healthy Children By Linda Burgess Chamberlain PhD MPH for the Institute for Safe Families
SHARE W e all want to be the best parents we can be This booklet helps you to recognize how things in your past such as how you were raised can help you parent or can get in the way and make it hard for you to be the kind of parent you want to be Some adults have pasts that can haunt them Parents need care and support too In this booklet you will also find strategies for both you and your children to be stronger happier and healthier This resource has phone numbers cell phone Apps ideas and websites that may be helpful to you or someone else you know who is a caregiver for children including step parents teenage parents grandparents relatives and other caring adults Every parent and adult who cares for children wants to raise happy healthy children When parents feel safe and supported in their own lives they can take better care of their children While families may have different cultural values about parenting all children need to feel safe and connected with their caregivers PHONE S APPS SHARE WITH FRIENDS LEARN MORE WEBSITES RESOURCES LIKE Parenting is hard work Even on the best of days all parents have moments when they feel frustrated disappointed or embarrassed when they can t keep it all together If parents had a difficult childhood themselves these feelings can make tough times even harder to deal with Being a single parent can be really difficult as well There are simple things a parent can do to help children and themselves do better in tough times A first step is to know how children respond to stress and to understand how stress in our own childhood may affect us as adults Parenting Helplines for Anonymous Support and Advice Parent Helpline 1 855 4A PARENT 1 855 427 2736 Boys Town National Hotline 1 800 448 3000 Child Help 1 800 4A CHILD 1 800 422 4453
SHARE W e all want to be the best parents we can be This booklet helps you to recognize how things in your past such as how you were raised can help you parent or can get in the way and make it hard for you to be the kind of parent you want to be Some adults have pasts that can haunt them Parents need care and support too In this booklet you will also find strategies for both you and your children to be stronger happier and healthier This resource has phone numbers cell phone Apps ideas and websites that may be helpful to you or someone else you know who is a caregiver for children including step parents teenage parents grandparents relatives and other caring adults Every parent and adult who cares for children wants to raise happy healthy children When parents feel safe and supported in their own lives they can take better care of their children While families may have different cultural values about parenting all children need to feel safe and connected with their caregivers PHONE S APPS SHARE WITH FRIENDS LEARN MORE WEBSITES RESOURCES LIKE Parenting is hard work Even on the best of days all parents have moments when they feel frustrated disappointed or embarrassed when they can t keep it all together If parents had a difficult childhood themselves these feelings can make tough times even harder to deal with Being a single parent can be really difficult as well There are simple things a parent can do to help children and themselves do better in tough times A first step is to know how children respond to stress and to understand how stress in our own childhood may affect us as adults Parenting Helplines for Anonymous Support and Advice Parent Helpline 1 855 4A PARENT 1 855 427 2736 Boys Town National Hotline 1 800 448 3000 Child Help 1 800 4A CHILD 1 800 422 4453
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All All stress stress is is not not bad bad Dealing Dealing with with losses losses and and bad bad times times teaches teaches children children how how to to deal deal with with the the ups ups and and downs downs of of life life But But there there are are things things that that can can be be so so scary scary or or stressful stressful for for children children that that there there can can be be lasting lasting negative negative effects effects The The most most important important thing thing for for children children who who are are dealing dealing with with high high levels levels of of unhealthy unhealthy stress stress is is to to have have supportive supportive parparents ents and and other other caring caring adults adults who who can can help help them them cope cope The The way way aa child child is is affected affected when when something something bad bad happens happens may may not not be be obvious obvious right right away away Since Since no no two two children children are are the the same same each each child child will will have have aa different different response response When When children children can t can t let let their their feelings feelings out out or or tell tell their their own own stories stories bottled bottled up up emotions emotions often often come come out out later later as as unwanted unwanted behaviors behaviors and and problems problems such such as as temper temper tantrums tantrums and and teens teens feeling feeling like like nobody nobody cares cares about about them them When stress is severe goes on for a long time or if several bad things happen close together in time it can be harder for children to get through the bad times Signs that children are having trouble coping include t DUJOH PVU CFJOH BHHSFTTJWF PS HIUJOH XJUI PUIFS DIJMESFO t JG DVMUZ QBZJOH BUUFOUJPO t 1SPCMFNT XJUI DBMNJOH EPXO t FJOH IZQFSBDUJWF BOE JNQVMTJWF 4 3 8 5 3 4 3 03 The way a child is affected when something bad happens may not be obvious right away IJMESFO XIP BSF PWFS TUSFTTFE BSF NPSF MJLFMZ UP IBWF QIZTJDBM IFBMUI problems such as headaches stomach problems and asthma The good OFXT JT UIBU FWFSZEBZ UIJOHT UIBU QBSFOUT EP XJUI UIFJS DIJMESFO TVDI BT reading stories singing songs and giving lots of hugs can help children get through tough times fosteringresilience com Parenting tips to foster strengths in children recognize signs of trouble in children and a special section for teens on how to manage stress nctsn org Understanding children and stress DOWNLOAD A QR CODE READER APP TO ACCESS RESOURCES ON YOUR SMARTPHONE SCAN ME SCAN
anxietybc com Tough times that you had as a child can affect you as an adult in unexpected ways Feeling stressed out or sad most of the time and having panic attacks as well as using alcohol drugs tobacco or over eating to cope can be reactions to what happened when you were a child SHARE WITH FRIENDS LEARN MORE LIKE REDUCE STRESS Parenting takes a lot of energy and focus If you are feeling tired overwhelmed or are struggling with memories from your childhood it can be more difficult to understand your children s behaviors and needs If you don t feel safe it is harder to help your children feel safe When stressed parents may use forms of discipline that don t work Spanking and hitting children can cause them to act out and be more aggressive If you had hard times during your childhood it s important to know it s not your fault It s not about what s wrong with you it s about understanding what happened to you Understanding how things that happened during your childhood connect to how you feel now is an important part of healing and can prevent other problems for you and your kids Recognizing things that you keep doing but want to change and then finding healthier ways to manage that stress can help you to feel better and to be the kind of parent that you want to be Parents also need people to talk to who will listen and be there for them Advice for parents other caregivers and youth on how to manage anxiety albertafamilywellness org Videos and resources about how children s brains develop Tactical Breather Trainer App Scan to Download the Tactical Breather App in the App Store SCAN If you don t own a smartphone links to all of these websites are available online at www instituteforsafefamilies org
anxietybc com Tough times that you had as a child can affect you as an adult in unexpected ways Feeling stressed out or sad most of the time and having panic attacks as well as using alcohol drugs tobacco or over eating to cope can be reactions to what happened when you were a child SHARE WITH FRIENDS LEARN MORE LIKE REDUCE STRESS Parenting takes a lot of energy and focus If you are feeling tired overwhelmed or are struggling with memories from your childhood it can be more difficult to understand your children s behaviors and needs If you don t feel safe it is harder to help your children feel safe When stressed parents may use forms of discipline that don t work Spanking and hitting children can cause them to act out and be more aggressive If you had hard times during your childhood it s important to know it s not your fault It s not about what s wrong with you it s about understanding what happened to you Understanding how things that happened during your childhood connect to how you feel now is an important part of healing and can prevent other problems for you and your kids Recognizing things that you keep doing but want to change and then finding healthier ways to manage that stress can help you to feel better and to be the kind of parent that you want to be Parents also need people to talk to who will listen and be there for them Advice for parents other caregivers and youth on how to manage anxiety albertafamilywellness org Videos and resources about how children s brains develop Tactical Breather Trainer App Scan to Download the Tactical Breather App in the App Store SCAN If you don t own a smartphone links to all of these websites are available online at www instituteforsafefamilies org
All forms of child abuse physical sexual and emotional and neglect are very stressful for children Living in homes where adults are hurting or threatening one another is also harmful for children Information about helping families when there has been abuse neglect or other trauma can be found at www nctsn org resources audiences parents caregivers For information about how to recognize child maltreatment and prevention tips for parents go to www preventchildabuse org You can call these help lines 24 hours a day The following questions ask about some of the problems that many families experience that can be stressful for children These questions are adapted from a study called ACES which stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences Please answer the questions below about things that you and your child ren may have experienced Did you before you were 18 years old or your child live with someone who nsvrc org Sexual abuse prevention resource for parents preventchildabuse org Information on healthy development of children and how to prevent abuse before it ever happens YOUR CHILD REN Was depressed mentally ill or suicidal YES NO YES NO Served time in jail or prison YES NO YES NO Was a problem drinker or an alcoholic YES NO YES NO Used illegal street drugs or abused prescription medications YES NO YES NO Did you before you were 18 years old or has your child had any of these things happen SHARE WITH FRIENDS Child Help 1 800 4A CHILD 422 4453 Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799 SAFE 7233 Treatment Referral 1 800 662 HELP 4357 YOU LEARN MORE LIKE SCAN Had a parent or guardian who died YES NO YES NO Heard or saw someone being stabbed or shot YES NO YES NO Placed in foster care YES NO YES NO Bullied by other children YES NO YES NO Treated badly or unfairly because of something about you such as your race sexual orientation place of birth disability etc YES NO YES NO Punished or disciplined by being slapped hit or spanked YES NO YES NO Punished or disciplined by being hit with a belt paddle brush or other object YES NO YES NO If you answered yes to any of the questions above consider talking with your health care provider about how these experiences may have affected you and or your child ren
All forms of child abuse physical sexual and emotional and neglect are very stressful for children Living in homes where adults are hurting or threatening one another is also harmful for children Information about helping families when there has been abuse neglect or other trauma can be found at www nctsn org resources audiences parents caregivers For information about how to recognize child maltreatment and prevention tips for parents go to www preventchildabuse org You can call these help lines 24 hours a day The following questions ask about some of the problems that many families experience that can be stressful for children These questions are adapted from a study called ACES which stands for Adverse Childhood Experiences Please answer the questions below about things that you and your child ren may have experienced Did you before you were 18 years old or your child live with someone who nsvrc org Sexual abuse prevention resource for parents preventchildabuse org Information on healthy development of children and how to prevent abuse before it ever happens YOUR CHILD REN Was depressed mentally ill or suicidal YES NO YES NO Served time in jail or prison YES NO YES NO Was a problem drinker or an alcoholic YES NO YES NO Used illegal street drugs or abused prescription medications YES NO YES NO Did you before you were 18 years old or has your child had any of these things happen SHARE WITH FRIENDS Child Help 1 800 4A CHILD 422 4453 Domestic Violence Hotline 1 800 799 SAFE 7233 Treatment Referral 1 800 662 HELP 4357 YOU LEARN MORE LIKE SCAN Had a parent or guardian who died YES NO YES NO Heard or saw someone being stabbed or shot YES NO YES NO Placed in foster care YES NO YES NO Bullied by other children YES NO YES NO Treated badly or unfairly because of something about you such as your race sexual orientation place of birth disability etc YES NO YES NO Punished or disciplined by being slapped hit or spanked YES NO YES NO Punished or disciplined by being hit with a belt paddle brush or other object YES NO YES NO If you answered yes to any of the questions above consider talking with your health care provider about how these experiences may have affected you and or your child ren
There are messages and skills that you can share with your children that can strengthen them and help them do better in good times and bad times When children learn these they build connections in their brains that help them to succeed in school to behave in the ways you would expect and to become happier and healthier When parents manage stress in positive ways parents brains can change in ways that will help them to be healthier and happier too These strengths build on one another like building blocks that can help children of all ages and their adults to better deal with stress 4 3 8 5 3 4 3 03 The questions below ask about positive things that help children when times are tough Take a minute to think back to your childhood and answer these questions about yourself As a child before I was 18 years old I had someone I could talk to when I was upset or scared YES NO NOT SURE I knew that my parent s caregiver s loved me YES NO NOT SURE There was someone in my life who helped me feel important or special YES NO NOT SURE I was able to ask for help when I needed it YES NO NOT SURE I AM CONNECTED instituteforsafefamilies org Download parent booklets about positive discipline early brain development adolescent brain development and helping children exposed to violence familytlc net Steps for building stronger relationships with your children and helping them succeed HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS t 8BSN MPWJOH SFMBUJPOTIJQT XJUI ZPVS DIJMESFO CVJME B foundation that will stay with them forever Be firm and consistent but not scary when you discipline them and give them lots of praise when they do what you want them to do You did a good job being quiet like I asked you to Good listening I appreciate that you came home on time tonight I know I can trust you t 5FMM ZPVS DIJMESFO IPX JNQPSUBOU UIFZ BSFo I ll always love you and I love you for who you are t BWF GVO UPHFUIFS o QMBZ MBVHI BOE EP UIJOHT XJUI ZPVS children that they enjoy Jake why don t we walk over to the park together so you can show me the skateboarding jump you were talking about t 5BLJOH UJNF GPS ZPVSTFMG BOE TFFJOH GSJFOET XJUIPVU ZPVS kids can help parents to be less stressed You are not being a bad parent when you take time for yourself It might even make you more patient with your children to be with friends and other people who care about you
There are messages and skills that you can share with your children that can strengthen them and help them do better in good times and bad times When children learn these they build connections in their brains that help them to succeed in school to behave in the ways you would expect and to become happier and healthier When parents manage stress in positive ways parents brains can change in ways that will help them to be healthier and happier too These strengths build on one another like building blocks that can help children of all ages and their adults to better deal with stress 4 3 8 5 3 4 3 03 The questions below ask about positive things that help children when times are tough Take a minute to think back to your childhood and answer these questions about yourself As a child before I was 18 years old I had someone I could talk to when I was upset or scared YES NO NOT SURE I knew that my parent s caregiver s loved me YES NO NOT SURE There was someone in my life who helped me feel important or special YES NO NOT SURE I was able to ask for help when I needed it YES NO NOT SURE I AM CONNECTED instituteforsafefamilies org Download parent booklets about positive discipline early brain development adolescent brain development and helping children exposed to violence familytlc net Steps for building stronger relationships with your children and helping them succeed HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS t 8BSN MPWJOH SFMBUJPOTIJQT XJUI ZPVS DIJMESFO CVJME B foundation that will stay with them forever Be firm and consistent but not scary when you discipline them and give them lots of praise when they do what you want them to do You did a good job being quiet like I asked you to Good listening I appreciate that you came home on time tonight I know I can trust you t 5FMM ZPVS DIJMESFO IPX JNQPSUBOU UIFZ BSFo I ll always love you and I love you for who you are t BWF GVO UPHFUIFS o QMBZ MBVHI BOE EP UIJOHT XJUI ZPVS children that they enjoy Jake why don t we walk over to the park together so you can show me the skateboarding jump you were talking about t 5BLJOH UJNF GPS ZPVSTFMG BOE TFFJOH GSJFOET XJUIPVU ZPVS kids can help parents to be less stressed You are not being a bad parent when you take time for yourself It might even make you more patient with your children to be with friends and other people who care about you
I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL t 8IFO ZPVS UPEEMFS BDUT PVU TUBZ DMPTF BLF TVSF IF JT TBGF GSPN IBSN BOE PGGFS QIZTJDBM DPNGPSU 3PDL IFS PS IVH IJN XIJMF TBZJOH I am right here and I love you XIJMF BMTP DPSSFDUJOH CFIBWJPS CZ TBZJOH TPNFUIJOH MJLF but you cannot hit your sister 5IJT XJMM IFMQ ZPVS DIJME UP VOMPBE EJG DVMU GFFMJOHT OE ZPV BSF TIPXJOH ZPVS DIJME UIF LJOE PG DBSJOH CFIBWJPS UIBU ZPV XBOU IJN UP MFBSO EMPATHY t 5FFOT UFMM VT UIBU UIFZ PGUFO GFFM MJLF OP POF VOEFSTUBOET PS BTLT UIFN IPX UIFZ GFFM TL ZPVS UFFO IPX TIF JT GFFMJOH BOE UFMM IFS IPX ZPV BSF GFFMJOH UPP I am frustrated with you The reason I am frustrated is that you promised you would talk to me if you needed help with your writing assignments Your teacher just called and told me that you are three assignments behind What can we do to solve this problem t IJMESFO MFBSO UP UIJOL BCPVU PUIFS QFPQMF T GFFMJOHT XIFO ZPV TIPX UIFN UIBU ZPV VOEFSTUBOE IPX UIFZ GFFM t 8BUDI GPS TJHOT UIBU UFMM ZPV IPX ZPVS DIJMESFO BSF GFFMJOH BOE BTL RVFTUJPOT TVDI BT How did you feel when Johnny started crying after you took his toy away PS Shawna what were you feeling when you shouted at me and slammed the bedroom door t YQFSUT UFBDI VT UIBU ZPV XJMM OPU TQPJM B DIJME CZ IVHHJOH BOE DBSJOH GPS UIFN XIFO UIFZ BSF DSZJOH O GBDU UIF NPSF ZPV IPME BOE IVH BOE LJTT ZPVS DIJMESFO UIF NPSF UIFZ VOEFSTUBOE UIBU ZPV DBSF BOE XJMM CF UIFSF XIFO UIFZ OFFE ZPV OE UFFOT OFFE UP LOPX UIBU ZPV MM TUJMM CF UIFSF GPS UIFN UPP PV BSF BMTP UFBDIJOH ZPVS DIJMESFO IPX UP MPWF BOE TVQQPSU PUIFST MORE GREAT RESOURCES healthychildren org This website from the American Academy of Pediatrics offers loads of information on children s physical and mental health needs parentingscience com teaching empathy tips html Parenting Science is dedicated to families who want information based on the scientific evidence Web sites listed in this booklet are for informational purposes only Endorsement is not implied
I UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL t 8IFO ZPVS UPEEMFS BDUT PVU TUBZ DMPTF BLF TVSF IF JT TBGF GSPN IBSN BOE PGGFS QIZTJDBM DPNGPSU 3PDL IFS PS IVH IJN XIJMF TBZJOH I am right here and I love you XIJMF BMTP DPSSFDUJOH CFIBWJPS CZ TBZJOH TPNFUIJOH MJLF but you cannot hit your sister 5IJT XJMM IFMQ ZPVS DIJME UP VOMPBE EJG DVMU GFFMJOHT OE ZPV BSF TIPXJOH ZPVS DIJME UIF LJOE PG DBSJOH CFIBWJPS UIBU ZPV XBOU IJN UP MFBSO EMPATHY t 5FFOT UFMM VT UIBU UIFZ PGUFO GFFM MJLF OP POF VOEFSTUBOET PS BTLT UIFN IPX UIFZ GFFM TL ZPVS UFFO IPX TIF JT GFFMJOH BOE UFMM IFS IPX ZPV BSF GFFMJOH UPP I am frustrated with you The reason I am frustrated is that you promised you would talk to me if you needed help with your writing assignments Your teacher just called and told me that you are three assignments behind What can we do to solve this problem t IJMESFO MFBSO UP UIJOL BCPVU PUIFS QFPQMF T GFFMJOHT XIFO ZPV TIPX UIFN UIBU ZPV VOEFSTUBOE IPX UIFZ GFFM t 8BUDI GPS TJHOT UIBU UFMM ZPV IPX ZPVS DIJMESFO BSF GFFMJOH BOE BTL RVFTUJPOT TVDI BT How did you feel when Johnny started crying after you took his toy away PS Shawna what were you feeling when you shouted at me and slammed the bedroom door t YQFSUT UFBDI VT UIBU ZPV XJMM OPU TQPJM B DIJME CZ IVHHJOH BOE DBSJOH GPS UIFN XIFO UIFZ BSF DSZJOH O GBDU UIF NPSF ZPV IPME BOE IVH BOE LJTT ZPVS DIJMESFO UIF NPSF UIFZ VOEFSTUBOE UIBU ZPV DBSF BOE XJMM CF UIFSF XIFO UIFZ OFFE ZPV OE UFFOT OFFE UP LOPX UIBU ZPV MM TUJMM CF UIFSF GPS UIFN UPP PV BSF BMTP UFBDIJOH ZPVS DIJMESFO IPX UP MPWF BOE TVQQPSU PUIFST MORE GREAT RESOURCES healthychildren org This website from the American Academy of Pediatrics offers loads of information on children s physical and mental health needs parentingscience com teaching empathy tips html Parenting Science is dedicated to families who want information based on the scientific evidence Web sites listed in this booklet are for informational purposes only Endorsement is not implied
I AM IN CONTROL SELF REGULATION self regulation ca Brochure PDF about how to help children identify when they are becoming over stressed and help them learn how to calm down t IJMESFO OFFE UP MFBSO UP NBOBHF UIFJS FNPUJPOT BOE IPX UIFZ CFIBWF 5IJT IFMQT UIFN UP CF BCMF QBZ BUUFOUJPO BOE EP CFUUFS XIFO UIJOHT BSF TUSFTTGVM t FMQ ZPVS DIJME UP SFDPHOJ F XIBU TUSFTTFT IFS It s scary when I hear yelling BOE XIBU JU GFFMT MJLF XIFO IF TUBSUT UP GFFM PVU PG DPOUSPM I get hot all over and make fists TL ZPVS DIJME UP UBML UP ZPV BCPVU JU t IJMESFO MFBSO IPX UP EFBM XJUI TUSFTT GSPN ZPV 1SBDUJDF XBZT UP SFEVDF TUSFTT XJUI ZPVS DIJME Let s pretend we re blowing bubbles and take some deep breaths so we can both calm down I m taking a deep breath in and blowing a big bubble to you Now you take a big breath and blow a bubble to me t YFSDJTF IFMQT DIJMESFO UP CVSO PGG FOFSHZ BOE DBMN EPXO 5SZ TJNQMF NPWFNFOUT TVDI BT UFMMJOH ZPVS DIJME Pretend you are a squiggly wiggly piece of spaghetti now shake and wiggle until you feel all quiet inside PS JG UIJOHT TUBSU HFUUJOH IFBUFE VQ XIJMF UBMLJOH XJUI ZPVS UFFOBHFS Let s both cool down a bit Why don t you play some basketball or go for a walk and we ll talk later I CAN DO IT SELF ESTEEM t IJMESFO OFFE UP MFBSO FBSMZ UP CFMJFWF JO UIFNTFMWFT ZPV BSF UIFJS NPTU JNQPSUBOU DPO EFODF CVJMEFS t BUDI ZPVS DIJME EPJOH TPNFUIJOH HPPE BOE TBZ UIJOHT MJLF I m proud of the way you shared your toy with your brother PS You really look great today Have a good time with your friends t PVS DIJMESFO BSF OPU iCBE w BMUIPVHI TPNFUJNFT UIFJS CFIBWJPST BSF EJG DVMU 8IFO ZPV XBOU UP DIBOHF TPNFUIJOH UIBU ZPVS DIJME JT EPJOH TUBSU CZ QSBJTJOH BOE FODPVSBHJOH IJN PS FYBNQMF You did a good job listening to me when I told you to stop pinching your friend Tommy Thank you But it s not OK to hurt someone else Next time try using your words to say what is making you mad t FJOH UIF LJOE PG QBSFOU ZPV XBOU UP CF CVJMET ZPVS DPO EFODF UPP Go to kidshealth org parent emotions select Developing Child s Self Esteem for great ideas for young children teens and parents too journeyofhearts org 0OMJOF IFBMJOH QMBDF XJUI SFTPVSDFT BOE DPOUBDUT UP IFMQ BEVMUT BOE DIJMESFO EFBM XJUI MPTT BOE HSJFG Know Someone Who Needs Help 4IBSF UIJT CSPDIVSF XJUI ZPVS GSJFOET GBNJMZ PS MPWFE POFT XIP NJHIU OFFE IFMQ TVQQPSU
I AM IN CONTROL SELF REGULATION self regulation ca Brochure PDF about how to help children identify when they are becoming over stressed and help them learn how to calm down t IJMESFO OFFE UP MFBSO UP NBOBHF UIFJS FNPUJPOT BOE IPX UIFZ CFIBWF 5IJT IFMQT UIFN UP CF BCMF QBZ BUUFOUJPO BOE EP CFUUFS XIFO UIJOHT BSF TUSFTTGVM t FMQ ZPVS DIJME UP SFDPHOJ F XIBU TUSFTTFT IFS It s scary when I hear yelling BOE XIBU JU GFFMT MJLF XIFO IF TUBSUT UP GFFM PVU PG DPOUSPM I get hot all over and make fists TL ZPVS DIJME UP UBML UP ZPV BCPVU JU t IJMESFO MFBSO IPX UP EFBM XJUI TUSFTT GSPN ZPV 1SBDUJDF XBZT UP SFEVDF TUSFTT XJUI ZPVS DIJME Let s pretend we re blowing bubbles and take some deep breaths so we can both calm down I m taking a deep breath in and blowing a big bubble to you Now you take a big breath and blow a bubble to me t YFSDJTF IFMQT DIJMESFO UP CVSO PGG FOFSHZ BOE DBMN EPXO 5SZ TJNQMF NPWFNFOUT TVDI BT UFMMJOH ZPVS DIJME Pretend you are a squiggly wiggly piece of spaghetti now shake and wiggle until you feel all quiet inside PS JG UIJOHT TUBSU HFUUJOH IFBUFE VQ XIJMF UBMLJOH XJUI ZPVS UFFOBHFS Let s both cool down a bit Why don t you play some basketball or go for a walk and we ll talk later I CAN DO IT SELF ESTEEM t IJMESFO OFFE UP MFBSO FBSMZ UP CFMJFWF JO UIFNTFMWFT ZPV BSF UIFJS NPTU JNQPSUBOU DPO EFODF CVJMEFS t BUDI ZPVS DIJME EPJOH TPNFUIJOH HPPE BOE TBZ UIJOHT MJLF I m proud of the way you shared your toy with your brother PS You really look great today Have a good time with your friends t PVS DIJMESFO BSF OPU iCBE w BMUIPVHI TPNFUJNFT UIFJS CFIBWJPST BSF EJG DVMU 8IFO ZPV XBOU UP DIBOHF TPNFUIJOH UIBU ZPVS DIJME JT EPJOH TUBSU CZ QSBJTJOH BOE FODPVSBHJOH IJN PS FYBNQMF You did a good job listening to me when I told you to stop pinching your friend Tommy Thank you But it s not OK to hurt someone else Next time try using your words to say what is making you mad t FJOH UIF LJOE PG QBSFOU ZPV XBOU UP CF CVJMET ZPVS DPO EFODF UPP Go to kidshealth org parent emotions select Developing Child s Self Esteem for great ideas for young children teens and parents too journeyofhearts org 0OMJOF IFBMJOH QMBDF XJUI SFTPVSDFT BOE DPOUBDUT UP IFMQ BEVMUT BOE DIJMESFO EFBM XJUI MPTT BOE HSJFG Know Someone Who Needs Help 4IBSF UIJT CSPDIVSF XJUI ZPVS GSJFOET GBNJMZ PS MPWFE POFT XIP NJHIU OFFE IFMQ TVQQPSU
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