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NOVEMBER 2 0 1 6  A Jewish Lifestyle in the Know  SECRETS TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE     ULTIMATE TIPPING GUIDE     WHAT   S YOUR...
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we 22 you NOVEMBER 2016 CONTENTS 05 We Hear You 06 Our Finds 08 Your Voice JoinTheDiscussion What s the biggest miracle that has happened to you 39 87 What s in my Fitness Studio with Rebecca Blue Beauty Guide 11 DAZZLING DECOR Cozy Fall Accessories for your home 14 DIY Rustic Candle Holders 16 FASHION FINDS Accessories Accessories Accessories Love Your Life 25 THE DOCTOR WILL SEE YOU NOW Growing up with Juvenile Arthritis 18 2 0 1 6 yom tov recipes A Jewish Lifestyle in the Know YOM TOV HOSTING MADE EASY LIVING WITH ALOPECIA GORGEOUS SUKKAH DECOR Take Our Quiz REAL LIFE When bouncing back isn t an option roll with it 62 BREAKING BARRIERS In Prenatal and Postpartum Get A Handle On It 39 TO TIP OR NOT TO TIP The ultimate tipping guide 43 TAKE A BREAK Why Adult Coloring Books are good for you 45 5 THINGS TO Make in a crock pot 47 MARKETING MAVEN Three psychological elements to improve your website Featured 50 THE SECRET TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE It s the little things that make a big difference 56 THE LICE FIGHT Don t just scratch Attack anxiety and depression Sharpen Your Appetite Trader Joe s suggestion about the pastrami lox Aron W US 4 99 CAN 5 99 Five kitchen appliances worth the space and splurge You Gotta Know 79 ASK THE ORGANIZER How to organize your life 82 BOOK REVIEW A Complaint Free World I read your article on how to be a good guest and host with interest As a very A guide to wine pairing Interviews with Wine Makers and Sommeliers frequent guest I have found myself in many of the mentioned situations and 72 Lemon Coconut Poke Cake 76 ALL THINGS KITCHEN Yet on the very next page your three nice magazine And my wife took your 70 Strawberry Apple Dump Cake 74 Chocolate Espresso Mug Cake banana in the mirror was really powerful button noses etc Oops All in all a very HOW TO APPLY MAKEUP that will stay on the entire Yom Tov sukkos special 36 PAGE WINE SUPPLEMENT only goal was very well written And the of themselves no double chin small WAYS TO KEEP YOUR KIDS ENTERTAINED OVER VACATION 69 CAKES CHEATS When your comfort food cravings kick in you ll know where to turn messages that promote being thin as the selves as they are have ultra thin images 14 37 HOW THEY DID IT accepting yourself as you are and people profiled having accepted them A young teenager s fight for every breath 31 REAL LIFE T he article about self image and not paying heed to the 3000 ultimate 29 YOUR FITNESS AGE Get to know the only Orthodox Jewish female detective OCTOBER I saw that you ran a wonderful article on alopecia this past month As a frum parent of a child with alopecia it s nice to know that it s an issue which is being addressed in the frum community Anonymous FYI s solutions were on point I do want to point out a problem with one of the tips you gave Offering to bring food to a host can be a no no for kashrus reasons Many people will not accept food into their home from other people s kitchen Although generic I have learned to offer something store bought instead Kayla L 84 FOR LESS Jackets for the entire family 86 MAGIC HELPERS Ingenious products that make your day easier 50 OOPS WE MADE A MISTAKE The following three items were not intended as recommendations by Gila Kind MUA in the October issue Boots Botanics Bright Cleansing Wipes L Oreal Paris True Match Foundation MAC Prep Prime Fix Finishing Mist 5 fyimagazineny com
we  22  you   NOVEMBER 2016  CONTENTS 05    We  Hear You  06    Our  Finds  08    Your  Voice   JoinTheDiscussion What s t...
we 22 you NOVEMBER 2016 CONTENTS 05 We Hear You 06 Our Finds 08 Your Voice JoinTheDiscussion What s the biggest miracle that has happened to you 39 87 What s in my Fitness Studio with Rebecca Blue Beauty Guide 11 DAZZLING DECOR Cozy Fall Accessories for your home 14 DIY Rustic Candle Holders 16 FASHION FINDS Accessories Accessories Accessories Love Your Life 25 THE DOCTOR WILL SEE YOU NOW Growing up with Juvenile Arthritis 18 2 0 1 6 yom tov recipes A Jewish Lifestyle in the Know YOM TOV HOSTING MADE EASY LIVING WITH ALOPECIA GORGEOUS SUKKAH DECOR Take Our Quiz REAL LIFE When bouncing back isn t an option roll with it 62 BREAKING BARRIERS In Prenatal and Postpartum Get A Handle On It 39 TO TIP OR NOT TO TIP The ultimate tipping guide 43 TAKE A BREAK Why Adult Coloring Books are good for you 45 5 THINGS TO Make in a crock pot 47 MARKETING MAVEN Three psychological elements to improve your website Featured 50 THE SECRET TO A HAPPY MARRIAGE It s the little things that make a big difference 56 THE LICE FIGHT Don t just scratch Attack anxiety and depression Sharpen Your Appetite Trader Joe s suggestion about the pastrami lox Aron W US 4 99 CAN 5 99 Five kitchen appliances worth the space and splurge You Gotta Know 79 ASK THE ORGANIZER How to organize your life 82 BOOK REVIEW A Complaint Free World I read your article on how to be a good guest and host with interest As a very A guide to wine pairing Interviews with Wine Makers and Sommeliers frequent guest I have found myself in many of the mentioned situations and 72 Lemon Coconut Poke Cake 76 ALL THINGS KITCHEN Yet on the very next page your three nice magazine And my wife took your 70 Strawberry Apple Dump Cake 74 Chocolate Espresso Mug Cake banana in the mirror was really powerful button noses etc Oops All in all a very HOW TO APPLY MAKEUP that will stay on the entire Yom Tov sukkos special 36 PAGE WINE SUPPLEMENT only goal was very well written And the of themselves no double chin small WAYS TO KEEP YOUR KIDS ENTERTAINED OVER VACATION 69 CAKES CHEATS When your comfort food cravings kick in you ll know where to turn messages that promote being thin as the selves as they are have ultra thin images 14 37 HOW THEY DID IT accepting yourself as you are and people profiled having accepted them A young teenager s fight for every breath 31 REAL LIFE T he article about self image and not paying heed to the 3000 ultimate 29 YOUR FITNESS AGE Get to know the only Orthodox Jewish female detective OCTOBER I saw that you ran a wonderful article on alopecia this past month As a frum parent of a child with alopecia it s nice to know that it s an issue which is being addressed in the frum community Anonymous FYI s solutions were on point I do want to point out a problem with one of the tips you gave Offering to bring food to a host can be a no no for kashrus reasons Many people will not accept food into their home from other people s kitchen Although generic I have learned to offer something store bought instead Kayla L 84 FOR LESS Jackets for the entire family 86 MAGIC HELPERS Ingenious products that make your day easier 50 OOPS WE MADE A MISTAKE The following three items were not intended as recommendations by Gila Kind MUA in the October issue Boots Botanics Bright Cleansing Wipes L Oreal Paris True Match Foundation MAC Prep Prime Fix Finishing Mist 5 fyimagazineny com
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our WHO TO FOLLOW get Instagram accounts we love now WHAT TO BUY I brinklein_design Interior Designer U S and Canada My work Tips and Inspirational designs had my mother in law for both days of Rosh Hashanah I cooked up a storm for two of my daughters in law from Lakewood who moved in with all their children for Yom Tov I never leave the kitchen Men have their hardships too I actually overheard two men compete over whose first night of selichos ended later Both of them then continued describing how already had a bicycle One of them even had an envy worthy mic and siren on his I used to beg my father to buy me one After a lot of convincing my father finally bought me a bike for my afikomen It was actually perfect timing since we were heading into the summer months My new bike had training wheels and was a fiery red the cheapest one available I finally felt like a big boy just like the rest of the boys When the kids on the block played follow the leader I THE TRAINING WHEELS ARE OFF raizyscookin WRITTEN BY RABBI DAVID MENDELSOHN Raizy Fried Recipe Developer writer food stylist food photographer Vintage Beanie The lightweight accessory is perfect for keeping it chic outdoors indoors and during our not so favorite hair days rutihorn com 49 WHAT TO TRY Limited Edition Delicious pumpkin spice flavored foods pzdeals Helping people save money on everyday purchases Posting daily deals sales and clearance items Pumpkin Spice Cheerios Pumpkin Spice K Cups Pumpkin Spice Brooklyn Babka stressful the following Sunday was and the difficulties they had building the sukkah one of them pointing out the added trouble he had due to his malfunctioning shlack You ve probably heard it too Women and men recounting their stresses as if it were some kind of marathon Truth be told Tishrei is a taxing month Not only is it physically demanding it is also very intense on a spiritual level As a young child I can recall being enamored with the bicycle a k a the two wheeler While I was still riding around with my plastic tricycle the older kids on the block tagged along with my new training wheels The leader of course was you guessed it The boy with the siren on his bike One Sunday I felt I was ready I asked my father to remove my training wheels To be honest I was scared but I wanted to do it anyway I put a brave face on as my father helped me start off and then I was on my own The bike began to roll without the training wheels Whew The next time I played with the neighborhood kids I made sure to let them all know of the latest development My training wheels are off My training wheels are 7 fyimagazineny com off I yelled The Hebrew name for this month is Marcheshvan The first two letters spell the word mar bitter because there are no special days i e holidays etc during this month It is interesting to note that the original name of this month was Bul which is explained as decay because the leaves begin to decay as autumn approaches The name Marcheshvan was adapted later in Babylonian times when the Jews were in the 70 year exile between the first and second temples In either case be it bitter or decay it is definitely not positive The feeling is sort of a void with little excitement especially since we are settling back into regular routine Some even prefer not to get married during this month Coming off of the great and holy Yomim Tovim having spent lots of quality family time in addition to being spiritually uplifted it almost feels as though we re falling off a cliff The month of Tishrei can be viewed as a rigorous training boot camp Just like training wheels they keep us from falling We daven for our sustenance and survival do so many mitzvos and strengthen our connection to Hashem Then when Marcheshvan comes we are ready to take on the challenges and ride on our own We inspire ourselves to perform loving kindness and fulfill mitzvos even without holidays or special occasions We may feel afraid but we still tell Our Father that we are ready
our  WHO TO FOLLOW  get  Instagram accounts we love now   WHAT TO BUY     I  brinklein_design Interior Designer U.S. and C...
our WHO TO FOLLOW get Instagram accounts we love now WHAT TO BUY I brinklein_design Interior Designer U S and Canada My work Tips and Inspirational designs had my mother in law for both days of Rosh Hashanah I cooked up a storm for two of my daughters in law from Lakewood who moved in with all their children for Yom Tov I never leave the kitchen Men have their hardships too I actually overheard two men compete over whose first night of selichos ended later Both of them then continued describing how already had a bicycle One of them even had an envy worthy mic and siren on his I used to beg my father to buy me one After a lot of convincing my father finally bought me a bike for my afikomen It was actually perfect timing since we were heading into the summer months My new bike had training wheels and was a fiery red the cheapest one available I finally felt like a big boy just like the rest of the boys When the kids on the block played follow the leader I THE TRAINING WHEELS ARE OFF raizyscookin WRITTEN BY RABBI DAVID MENDELSOHN Raizy Fried Recipe Developer writer food stylist food photographer Vintage Beanie The lightweight accessory is perfect for keeping it chic outdoors indoors and during our not so favorite hair days rutihorn com 49 WHAT TO TRY Limited Edition Delicious pumpkin spice flavored foods pzdeals Helping people save money on everyday purchases Posting daily deals sales and clearance items Pumpkin Spice Cheerios Pumpkin Spice K Cups Pumpkin Spice Brooklyn Babka stressful the following Sunday was and the difficulties they had building the sukkah one of them pointing out the added trouble he had due to his malfunctioning shlack You ve probably heard it too Women and men recounting their stresses as if it were some kind of marathon Truth be told Tishrei is a taxing month Not only is it physically demanding it is also very intense on a spiritual level As a young child I can recall being enamored with the bicycle a k a the two wheeler While I was still riding around with my plastic tricycle the older kids on the block tagged along with my new training wheels The leader of course was you guessed it The boy with the siren on his bike One Sunday I felt I was ready I asked my father to remove my training wheels To be honest I was scared but I wanted to do it anyway I put a brave face on as my father helped me start off and then I was on my own The bike began to roll without the training wheels Whew The next time I played with the neighborhood kids I made sure to let them all know of the latest development My training wheels are off My training wheels are 7 fyimagazineny com off I yelled The Hebrew name for this month is Marcheshvan The first two letters spell the word mar bitter because there are no special days i e holidays etc during this month It is interesting to note that the original name of this month was Bul which is explained as decay because the leaves begin to decay as autumn approaches The name Marcheshvan was adapted later in Babylonian times when the Jews were in the 70 year exile between the first and second temples In either case be it bitter or decay it is definitely not positive The feeling is sort of a void with little excitement especially since we are settling back into regular routine Some even prefer not to get married during this month Coming off of the great and holy Yomim Tovim having spent lots of quality family time in addition to being spiritually uplifted it almost feels as though we re falling off a cliff The month of Tishrei can be viewed as a rigorous training boot camp Just like training wheels they keep us from falling We daven for our sustenance and survival do so many mitzvos and strengthen our connection to Hashem Then when Marcheshvan comes we are ready to take on the challenges and ride on our own We inspire ourselves to perform loving kindness and fulfill mitzvos even without holidays or special occasions We may feel afraid but we still tell Our Father that we are ready
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your JoinTheDiscussion When my 12 month old daughter had surgery we were due to arrive home Friday at noon My sister who was home babysitting my other kids at the time was going to cook Shabbos for us but we got a call from her letting us know that the yeshiva I work for had delivered food for the entire Shabbos with extras as well Bruchy An older single friend now happily married swept and mopped my floors as I sat on the couch totally overwhelmed just a few days after having my first baby She did it with a smile Tziporah Wertheimer Q WHAT IS THE SWEETEST THING ANYONE HAS EVER DONE FOR YOU When we were both still living at home as singles my older brother went out and bought me an outfit My father ob m used to buy my sister My dad is a well known figure in our I was hit by a truck while crossing the street and sent out a quick facebook post to let loved ones know where I was since my calls and texts were not going through My BFF didn t see the post until 10 30pm She found me in the ER became my advocate in getting the extra medical care that I needed and even went to my house to get me fresh clothes and personal necessities I will NEVER forget that An absolutely true friend forever Cara Meyers An older single friend now happily married swept and mopped my floors as I sat on the couch totally overwhelmed just a few days after having my first baby She did it with a smile Tziporah Wertheimer and I dresses but he passed away community When he was waiting for a heart when I was only 12 I was so touched transplant everywhere I went people would that my brother thought to do this I ask how he was doing One day I opened the have still not forgotten even though mail to find a note from a high school teacher it s been over 35 years Shari Marks of mine that I hadn t seen in a number of years She sent me a letter to let me know that she was thinking of me and to ask me how I was doing through this difficult ordeal She wrote that she knows everyone is asking about my father but she is also thinking of ME I was in tears I felt so cared for It was an extremely When I was on birthright we were walking as a group on a kibbutz and I was talking to one of the guys in the group As I was talking to him I noticed some horses in the distance and got very excited I love horses I decided to run toward them when my feet got caught in a large pile of manure My difficult time for my entire family and entire boot got ruined and I had to get rid of the pair The community With a short note she made me next day this same guy that I had been talking to bought feel so loved and cared for I will never forget me a new pair of boots It was the sweetest thing ever He is her kindness Anonymous now my husband M S Question for next month What was the biggest miracle you ve ever experienced A week after my separation I was feeling miserable My brother drove two hours to come take me out to a nice restaurant for dinner He made me feel like a person again Ruchy H Text your answer to 516 331 1885 8 fyimagazineny com 9 fyimagazineny com
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your JoinTheDiscussion When my 12 month old daughter had surgery we were due to arrive home Friday at noon My sister who was home babysitting my other kids at the time was going to cook Shabbos for us but we got a call from her letting us know that the yeshiva I work for had delivered food for the entire Shabbos with extras as well Bruchy An older single friend now happily married swept and mopped my floors as I sat on the couch totally overwhelmed just a few days after having my first baby She did it with a smile Tziporah Wertheimer Q WHAT IS THE SWEETEST THING ANYONE HAS EVER DONE FOR YOU When we were both still living at home as singles my older brother went out and bought me an outfit My father ob m used to buy my sister My dad is a well known figure in our I was hit by a truck while crossing the street and sent out a quick facebook post to let loved ones know where I was since my calls and texts were not going through My BFF didn t see the post until 10 30pm She found me in the ER became my advocate in getting the extra medical care that I needed and even went to my house to get me fresh clothes and personal necessities I will NEVER forget that An absolutely true friend forever Cara Meyers An older single friend now happily married swept and mopped my floors as I sat on the couch totally overwhelmed just a few days after having my first baby She did it with a smile Tziporah Wertheimer and I dresses but he passed away community When he was waiting for a heart when I was only 12 I was so touched transplant everywhere I went people would that my brother thought to do this I ask how he was doing One day I opened the have still not forgotten even though mail to find a note from a high school teacher it s been over 35 years Shari Marks of mine that I hadn t seen in a number of years She sent me a letter to let me know that she was thinking of me and to ask me how I was doing through this difficult ordeal She wrote that she knows everyone is asking about my father but she is also thinking of ME I was in tears I felt so cared for It was an extremely When I was on birthright we were walking as a group on a kibbutz and I was talking to one of the guys in the group As I was talking to him I noticed some horses in the distance and got very excited I love horses I decided to run toward them when my feet got caught in a large pile of manure My difficult time for my entire family and entire boot got ruined and I had to get rid of the pair The community With a short note she made me next day this same guy that I had been talking to bought feel so loved and cared for I will never forget me a new pair of boots It was the sweetest thing ever He is her kindness Anonymous now my husband M S Question for next month What was the biggest miracle you ve ever experienced A week after my separation I was feeling miserable My brother drove two hours to come take me out to a nice restaurant for dinner He made me feel like a person again Ruchy H Text your answer to 516 331 1885 8 fyimagazineny com 9 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion Decor DIY editor s note W hen we started preparing for this month s magazine way back in the summer Remember then I had a hard time putting my mind into winter mode Which I may or may not still be having a hard time with I am clinging onto summer as long as I can Aren t we all We decided to focus on the fun exciting parts that colder weather brings There is something to be said about furs cozy interiors boots scarves and comfort food It s just so inviting and makes me feel warm inside After you re done with this issue you ll feel it too Accessories are everything Not just for your wardrobe but for your home as well They take everything from drab to fab Literally everything You can accessorize your outfit hairstyle and dining room to take it to the next level The good part is that it can be very inexpensive and the not sogood part is that it can be overwhelming We got our fashion editor interior designer and shaitel macher together to give you the lowdown Now you ve got options and ideas that work for you I am often unsure what to do when it comes to tipping How much do I tip the delivery guy What about the manicurist Should I tip the mailman I ve come to learn that I m not alone in this Women often find themselves in this predicament It can be very confusing and hard to remember all the rules Wouldn t a cheat sheet be super helpful Well we ve done just that The ultimate tipping guide has all the information you need You can tear it out and refer to it as needed Have you ever wanted comfort food and wanted it that minute I thought so me too Especially in the colder months and at unearthly hours well maybe that part is just me But who wants to start baking an entire cake and dirtying dishes just so they can have one small portion Or a large one we re not judging The struggle is real We ve created amazingly delicious cake cheats that take very little effort and time and the result is deliciousness that will exceed your and your craving s expectations To warmth and happiness Yitty suggests Make Your Home Bomber jackets are super trendy right now plus this color is a winner page 85 Your bathtub blockage days are over with this small yet nifty gadget page 87 FALL READY WRITTEN BY MICKY KLIEN As fall approaches it s always fun to bring the season inside This is usually the time of year that I take a me day to grab a coffee and head to HomeGoods Create the topknot without actually having to do anything at all page 23 to browse their newest inventory Fall is the perfect time to rejuvenate your home with a few embellishments Some ways to achieve this are through textures layers and earth tone colors Accessories are the perfect solution Just as people have wardrobes for different seasons your home can have accessories for each season as well Here are some must haves to editor fyimagazineny com make your home fall ready My new comfort food Two minutes and one mug is all you need page 75 FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK FYIMAGAZINE 10 fyimagazineny com GRAM CASHMERE THROW Every sofa or chair needs a cozy throw blanket that you can curl up in It also doubles as a pop of color and texture for your room RESTORATIONHARDWARE COM 199
THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion          Decor         DIY  editor   s note W  hen we started preparing for this month   s magazi...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion Decor DIY editor s note W hen we started preparing for this month s magazine way back in the summer Remember then I had a hard time putting my mind into winter mode Which I may or may not still be having a hard time with I am clinging onto summer as long as I can Aren t we all We decided to focus on the fun exciting parts that colder weather brings There is something to be said about furs cozy interiors boots scarves and comfort food It s just so inviting and makes me feel warm inside After you re done with this issue you ll feel it too Accessories are everything Not just for your wardrobe but for your home as well They take everything from drab to fab Literally everything You can accessorize your outfit hairstyle and dining room to take it to the next level The good part is that it can be very inexpensive and the not sogood part is that it can be overwhelming We got our fashion editor interior designer and shaitel macher together to give you the lowdown Now you ve got options and ideas that work for you I am often unsure what to do when it comes to tipping How much do I tip the delivery guy What about the manicurist Should I tip the mailman I ve come to learn that I m not alone in this Women often find themselves in this predicament It can be very confusing and hard to remember all the rules Wouldn t a cheat sheet be super helpful Well we ve done just that The ultimate tipping guide has all the information you need You can tear it out and refer to it as needed Have you ever wanted comfort food and wanted it that minute I thought so me too Especially in the colder months and at unearthly hours well maybe that part is just me But who wants to start baking an entire cake and dirtying dishes just so they can have one small portion Or a large one we re not judging The struggle is real We ve created amazingly delicious cake cheats that take very little effort and time and the result is deliciousness that will exceed your and your craving s expectations To warmth and happiness Yitty suggests Make Your Home Bomber jackets are super trendy right now plus this color is a winner page 85 Your bathtub blockage days are over with this small yet nifty gadget page 87 FALL READY WRITTEN BY MICKY KLIEN As fall approaches it s always fun to bring the season inside This is usually the time of year that I take a me day to grab a coffee and head to HomeGoods Create the topknot without actually having to do anything at all page 23 to browse their newest inventory Fall is the perfect time to rejuvenate your home with a few embellishments Some ways to achieve this are through textures layers and earth tone colors Accessories are the perfect solution Just as people have wardrobes for different seasons your home can have accessories for each season as well Here are some must haves to editor fyimagazineny com make your home fall ready My new comfort food Two minutes and one mug is all you need page 75 FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK FYIMAGAZINE 10 fyimagazineny com GRAM CASHMERE THROW Every sofa or chair needs a cozy throw blanket that you can curl up in It also doubles as a pop of color and texture for your room RESTORATIONHARDWARE COM 199
THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion          Decor         DIY  editor   s note W  hen we started preparing for this month   s magazi...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE VELVET BEDDING Switching your bed linens with the change of the seasons is a great way to change up the decor in a bedroom This allows for a new color scheme as well as a change of scenery without breaking the bank POTTERYBARN COM 299 THROW PILLOWS COZY RUG WOOD GRAIN CHARGER SET OF 4 Another great way to bring some fall into your home is through your table decor Chargers runners and napkin rings are just a few examples These accessories are great when hosting or just to have on your table during the week for a little added elegance SURLATABLE COM 24 To complete any space a designer will often recommend a rug Rugs are the ultimate way to bring texture and color into a room For some fall color go with a rug with dark hues One of my favorite places to shop for rugs is FLOR They create carpet squares that attach together to form into whatever pattern or shape you want They have endless options to make a rug of your own And best of all if one square gets stained you just pop it out and replace it Layered pillows with bold plaid patterns make great fall accessories I like to layer with 2 3 different sizes or a row of all the same size along the back of a sofa SWEET JOJO DESIGNS PLAID PILLOWS SET OF 2 WAYFAIR COM 47 LOOM AND MILL PLAID PILLOW WAYFAIR COM 70 FLOR COM VARIOUS PRICES WAMSUTTA BATH TOWEL Hotel bathrooms are known for their luxurious towels and rugs During the cold seasons incorporate a new bath rug and or towels to make your bathroom feel comfortable and fresh Make a little getaway in your own home PERFORATED BRASS LAMP BY NATE BERKUS I love lighting candles around the house when it s chilly outside Scented or not there are gorgeous candles that bring warmth and a source of dim lighting They create a warm relaxing atmosphere for everyone Lamps are a great way to add some light to your space You can also make it more cozy and warm indoors by turning off the main lights and only leaving some lamps on This table lamp has a dark shade making the light more dim The perforated brass base and the texture is so unique it makes this lamp a piece of art ETSY COM 13 TARGET COM 42 BIRCHWOOD CANDLE HOLDER BEDBATHANDBEYOND COM 20 MANTA NAPKIN RING SET OF 4 ZGALLERIE COM 14 COCONUT TWIG TABLE RUNNER WORLDMARKET COM 20 12 fyimagazineny com Micky Klein is an interior designer and owner of Brin Klein Design based out of Miami Beach Florida She has residential and commercial clients throughout the US and Canada Micky strives to meet her clients needs through close attention to details Go to brinkleindesign gmail com and follow her on Instagram brinklein_design for design inspiration and tips 13 fyimagazineny com
THE BEAUTY GUIDE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE  VELVET BEDDING Switching your bed linens with the change of the seasons is a great way...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE VELVET BEDDING Switching your bed linens with the change of the seasons is a great way to change up the decor in a bedroom This allows for a new color scheme as well as a change of scenery without breaking the bank POTTERYBARN COM 299 THROW PILLOWS COZY RUG WOOD GRAIN CHARGER SET OF 4 Another great way to bring some fall into your home is through your table decor Chargers runners and napkin rings are just a few examples These accessories are great when hosting or just to have on your table during the week for a little added elegance SURLATABLE COM 24 To complete any space a designer will often recommend a rug Rugs are the ultimate way to bring texture and color into a room For some fall color go with a rug with dark hues One of my favorite places to shop for rugs is FLOR They create carpet squares that attach together to form into whatever pattern or shape you want They have endless options to make a rug of your own And best of all if one square gets stained you just pop it out and replace it Layered pillows with bold plaid patterns make great fall accessories I like to layer with 2 3 different sizes or a row of all the same size along the back of a sofa SWEET JOJO DESIGNS PLAID PILLOWS SET OF 2 WAYFAIR COM 47 LOOM AND MILL PLAID PILLOW WAYFAIR COM 70 FLOR COM VARIOUS PRICES WAMSUTTA BATH TOWEL Hotel bathrooms are known for their luxurious towels and rugs During the cold seasons incorporate a new bath rug and or towels to make your bathroom feel comfortable and fresh Make a little getaway in your own home PERFORATED BRASS LAMP BY NATE BERKUS I love lighting candles around the house when it s chilly outside Scented or not there are gorgeous candles that bring warmth and a source of dim lighting They create a warm relaxing atmosphere for everyone Lamps are a great way to add some light to your space You can also make it more cozy and warm indoors by turning off the main lights and only leaving some lamps on This table lamp has a dark shade making the light more dim The perforated brass base and the texture is so unique it makes this lamp a piece of art ETSY COM 13 TARGET COM 42 BIRCHWOOD CANDLE HOLDER BEDBATHANDBEYOND COM 20 MANTA NAPKIN RING SET OF 4 ZGALLERIE COM 14 COCONUT TWIG TABLE RUNNER WORLDMARKET COM 20 12 fyimagazineny com Micky Klein is an interior designer and owner of Brin Klein Design based out of Miami Beach Florida She has residential and commercial clients throughout the US and Canada Micky strives to meet her clients needs through close attention to details Go to brinkleindesign gmail com and follow her on Instagram brinklein_design for design inspiration and tips 13 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE t i o f l d yourse RUSTIC CANDLE HOLDER Bring a rustic warm feel into your home this winter with this easy DIY It is so versatile you can practically put it in any room of your home What you ll need r n eithe a c u o Y s or e twig buy th ct n colle you ca kids h your it w m the y n famil for a fu y activit 1 Twigs Pillar Candles Glass Candle Holders Glue Gun and Sticks Cut the twigs to the desired length You can make them different lengths for a more effortless natural look 2 Glue the twigs horizontally around the glass holders 3 Put the candles into the holders 14 fyimagazineny com 15 fyimagazineny com
THE BEAUTY GUIDE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE  t i o f l d yourse RUSTIC CANDLE HOLDER  Bring a rustic warm feel into your home this ...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE t i o f l d yourse RUSTIC CANDLE HOLDER Bring a rustic warm feel into your home this winter with this easy DIY It is so versatile you can practically put it in any room of your home What you ll need r n eithe a c u o Y s or e twig buy th ct n colle you ca kids h your it w m the y n famil for a fu y activit 1 Twigs Pillar Candles Glass Candle Holders Glue Gun and Sticks Cut the twigs to the desired length You can make them different lengths for a more effortless natural look 2 Glue the twigs horizontally around the glass holders 3 Put the candles into the holders 14 fyimagazineny com 15 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE  Accessorize   repeat A gem here, a stud there, a bangle cascading your delicate wrist or a cottoncandy-c...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE Accessorize repeat A gem here a stud there a bangle cascading your delicate wrist or a cottoncandy colored clutch as arm candy it s the little things that makes a big difference Our highly trained stylists know how to take an outfit from drab to fab with the smallest of tweaks when it comes to accessorizing Here are Legendary make any meal FYI s top picks on what accessories will take your outfit to a whole new level Hats 75 WIDE BRIMMED ITALIAN WOOL FELT HAT jcrew com TED BAKER FEBEE WOOL FEDORA bloomingdales com 89 49 LION APPLIQU BEANIE rutihorn com 16 fyimagazineny com 17 fyimagazineny com THE BEAUTY GUIDE
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE Must Have Wig Accessories Bags WRITTEN BY HEILA KIRZNER Wig companies have gotten unbelievably out of the box and innovative to make shaitels look more natural comfortable and trendy Wig accessories can aid the aspiring fashionistas to stay current and on trend while simultaneously heeding the mitzvah of hair covering Below I give you the lowdown of the most popular wig accessories on the market today 198 Braided Twisted Headbands DOONEY BOURKE PEBBLE ZIP SATCHEL macys com WHAT THEY ARE Affordable hairpieces made of natural looking hair that come pre braided and twisted so you can create a variety of looks in seconds 258 250 GIGI TORTOISE CLUTCH toryburch com WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY Braids have been seen on the runway for years now and this trend does not seem to be fading any time soon Having a ready made braid at your fingertips allows you to experiment with different hairstyles without committing to a specific one until your next wash Plus if you haven t quite mastered the fishtail braid then you have an easy way to look boho chic with little effort VERA BRADLEY QUILTED MARLO SATCHEL macys com COACH NOMAD CROSSBODY Coach com 395 WHERE TO FIND IT or at braydz com Retail just her ac m l te ai sh your local email Wholesale irpieces ha nd sa chayaswig om gmail c 25 45 165 TONY EMBOSSED CROSSBODY hammitt com 22 fyimagazineny com HOW TO USE THEM Besides the aforementioned boho chic look these braids and hair twists are a perfect excuse to bring out your creative side Use one as a ponytail holder for a fun braid wrapped pony or effortlessly take your do to the next level The possibilities are endless Plus not only is it for wigs it can also be worn with hair WHAT TO LOOK FOR Most braided headbands are super shiny and as a result don t look natural Just Braydz by Chaya are individually handmade to give a natural and realistic look Ideally the braid should be as close to your wig color as possible If you have a lot of highlights in your wig it s best to find a headband that matches your base color Additionally the headband should be a good fit not too loose or tight or better yet adjustable 23 fyimagazineny com Topknot Scrunchies WHAT THEY ARE Ponytail holders covered with hair used to create an effortless topknot WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY Even ladies with two left hands will be able to create a chic and perfectlooking topknot Best of all if you do not want to ruin your wig s style or you have very thin hair only a small amount of hair is needed because it adds volume and density HOW TO USE THEM Gather your wig into a half up ponytail on the crown of your head Use the top knot scrunchie as a regular ponytail holder and make a half bun Alternatively use the top knot scrunchie with a short or thin sheitel to make a voluminous low bun WHAT TO LOOK FOR For the most natural results it should be made of human hair not synthetic otherwise it can get matted and won t blend nicely into your wig
THE BEAUTY GUIDE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE  Must-Have Wig Accessories  Bags  WRITTEN BY HEILA KIRZNER  Wig companies have gotten u...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE Must Have Wig Accessories Bags WRITTEN BY HEILA KIRZNER Wig companies have gotten unbelievably out of the box and innovative to make shaitels look more natural comfortable and trendy Wig accessories can aid the aspiring fashionistas to stay current and on trend while simultaneously heeding the mitzvah of hair covering Below I give you the lowdown of the most popular wig accessories on the market today 198 Braided Twisted Headbands DOONEY BOURKE PEBBLE ZIP SATCHEL macys com WHAT THEY ARE Affordable hairpieces made of natural looking hair that come pre braided and twisted so you can create a variety of looks in seconds 258 250 GIGI TORTOISE CLUTCH toryburch com WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY Braids have been seen on the runway for years now and this trend does not seem to be fading any time soon Having a ready made braid at your fingertips allows you to experiment with different hairstyles without committing to a specific one until your next wash Plus if you haven t quite mastered the fishtail braid then you have an easy way to look boho chic with little effort VERA BRADLEY QUILTED MARLO SATCHEL macys com COACH NOMAD CROSSBODY Coach com 395 WHERE TO FIND IT or at braydz com Retail just her ac m l te ai sh your local email Wholesale irpieces ha nd sa chayaswig om gmail c 25 45 165 TONY EMBOSSED CROSSBODY hammitt com 22 fyimagazineny com HOW TO USE THEM Besides the aforementioned boho chic look these braids and hair twists are a perfect excuse to bring out your creative side Use one as a ponytail holder for a fun braid wrapped pony or effortlessly take your do to the next level The possibilities are endless Plus not only is it for wigs it can also be worn with hair WHAT TO LOOK FOR Most braided headbands are super shiny and as a result don t look natural Just Braydz by Chaya are individually handmade to give a natural and realistic look Ideally the braid should be as close to your wig color as possible If you have a lot of highlights in your wig it s best to find a headband that matches your base color Additionally the headband should be a good fit not too loose or tight or better yet adjustable 23 fyimagazineny com Topknot Scrunchies WHAT THEY ARE Ponytail holders covered with hair used to create an effortless topknot WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY Even ladies with two left hands will be able to create a chic and perfectlooking topknot Best of all if you do not want to ruin your wig s style or you have very thin hair only a small amount of hair is needed because it adds volume and density HOW TO USE THEM Gather your wig into a half up ponytail on the crown of your head Use the top knot scrunchie as a regular ponytail holder and make a half bun Alternatively use the top knot scrunchie with a short or thin sheitel to make a voluminous low bun WHAT TO LOOK FOR For the most natural results it should be made of human hair not synthetic otherwise it can get matted and won t blend nicely into your wig
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LOVE YOUR LIFE THE BEAUTY GUIDE Health Fitness How They Did It Hair Extensions AdornA Hats Extensions by Milano Collection WHAT THEY ARE Interchangeable hat and hair systems Hair extensions of various lengths and styles are available to attach to hats of the same brand with hook and loop strips providing a lightweight and comfortable alternative to wig wearing WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY Whether it be the full or the ponytail extension AdornA is a great juxtaposition of comfort and style Attaching them to the inside of the hats reduces the extra bulk that one may get from wearing a fall or full wig under a hat Plus these hats are super cute and can be worn without the extensions as well WHERE TO FIND IT ion ornacollect Online ad r specials of fers s fo com offer ey Island 1427 Con om ro w ho K NY S J et Ave B Brea Ave om 115 N La ro w ho S LA O MIL AN 3 Call 1 888 350 650 HOW TO USE THEM Treat the extensions like you would your hair for the most natural look Braid them curl them swing them into a ponytail Just have fun WHAT TO LOOK FOR Similar to when purchasing a wig before picking out your color inquire as to whether the company prefers highlighting a darker piece or lowlighting a lighter piece AdornA is patented in the USA and other countries JACOB S LADDER A young child s inspiring journey through childhood with juvenile arthritis WRITTEN BY DEVORA HIRSCH Jacob always had a ladder with him He found it in the garbage one day when he was about 10 years old It was missing the bottom step and Lace Bands was painted in bright blue with splotches of yellow Anywhere he needed to reach he WHAT THEY ARE Hair sewn into a piece of lace that is attached to a velour wig grip A lace band can be worn with a wig or fall to give the illusion of hair growing out of your head providing a natural look would pull out his ladder He would carry it to the playground climbing to the top of the plastic overhanging umbrella to rule the WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY A lace band is in my opinion one of the most ingenious inventions regarding wigs Unfortunately a lot of women are not happy with the front of their wig and it can be quite costly to repair it A lace band is a quick fix that blends into any wig and fall Because each hair is sewn in individually the lace band is multidirectional and can be worn pulled back or parted The band can also be a better investment than adding in a lace front to a not so natural front because it can be used with multiple wigs swings and all that was going on in the park He would hide his secret stash of treats in high places At Pesach time he would generously offer to bring out his ladder for the family biennial painting HOW TO USE THEM A lace band can be worn just teased with the front layers of a wig or can even be braided or twisted with a full bang wig Turn a fall into a full wig with a lace band or wear it plain with a beanie WHAT TO LOOK FOR The lace band can look flawless and unbelievably natural if it is made correctly The lace should ideally be good quality it should have an almost light brown tinge and very small holes The knots of the hair should be tiny and you should not see any threads The hair should be sewn in a way that is not perfect mimicking a natural hairline The lace as well should be cut to suit each person s hairline For example if one has a widow s peak it s ideal that her lace band be cut in the same way 24 fyimagazineny com job and other tasks Heila Kirzner owns a full service wig parlour called The Salon She is passionate about making women feel and look beautiful and confident while simultaneously keeping an important mitzvah Keep up with her and all the latest wig and hair trends on Instagram thesalon heila
LOVE YOUR LIFE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE  Health        Fitness         How They Did It  Hair Extensions  AdornA Hats   Extensions...
LOVE YOUR LIFE THE BEAUTY GUIDE Health Fitness How They Did It Hair Extensions AdornA Hats Extensions by Milano Collection WHAT THEY ARE Interchangeable hat and hair systems Hair extensions of various lengths and styles are available to attach to hats of the same brand with hook and loop strips providing a lightweight and comfortable alternative to wig wearing WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY Whether it be the full or the ponytail extension AdornA is a great juxtaposition of comfort and style Attaching them to the inside of the hats reduces the extra bulk that one may get from wearing a fall or full wig under a hat Plus these hats are super cute and can be worn without the extensions as well WHERE TO FIND IT ion ornacollect Online ad r specials of fers s fo com offer ey Island 1427 Con om ro w ho K NY S J et Ave B Brea Ave om 115 N La ro w ho S LA O MIL AN 3 Call 1 888 350 650 HOW TO USE THEM Treat the extensions like you would your hair for the most natural look Braid them curl them swing them into a ponytail Just have fun WHAT TO LOOK FOR Similar to when purchasing a wig before picking out your color inquire as to whether the company prefers highlighting a darker piece or lowlighting a lighter piece AdornA is patented in the USA and other countries JACOB S LADDER A young child s inspiring journey through childhood with juvenile arthritis WRITTEN BY DEVORA HIRSCH Jacob always had a ladder with him He found it in the garbage one day when he was about 10 years old It was missing the bottom step and Lace Bands was painted in bright blue with splotches of yellow Anywhere he needed to reach he WHAT THEY ARE Hair sewn into a piece of lace that is attached to a velour wig grip A lace band can be worn with a wig or fall to give the illusion of hair growing out of your head providing a natural look would pull out his ladder He would carry it to the playground climbing to the top of the plastic overhanging umbrella to rule the WHY THEY ARE A GOOD ACCESSORY A lace band is in my opinion one of the most ingenious inventions regarding wigs Unfortunately a lot of women are not happy with the front of their wig and it can be quite costly to repair it A lace band is a quick fix that blends into any wig and fall Because each hair is sewn in individually the lace band is multidirectional and can be worn pulled back or parted The band can also be a better investment than adding in a lace front to a not so natural front because it can be used with multiple wigs swings and all that was going on in the park He would hide his secret stash of treats in high places At Pesach time he would generously offer to bring out his ladder for the family biennial painting HOW TO USE THEM A lace band can be worn just teased with the front layers of a wig or can even be braided or twisted with a full bang wig Turn a fall into a full wig with a lace band or wear it plain with a beanie WHAT TO LOOK FOR The lace band can look flawless and unbelievably natural if it is made correctly The lace should ideally be good quality it should have an almost light brown tinge and very small holes The knots of the hair should be tiny and you should not see any threads The hair should be sewn in a way that is not perfect mimicking a natural hairline The lace as well should be cut to suit each person s hairline For example if one has a widow s peak it s ideal that her lace band be cut in the same way 24 fyimagazineny com job and other tasks Heila Kirzner owns a full service wig parlour called The Salon She is passionate about making women feel and look beautiful and confident while simultaneously keeping an important mitzvah Keep up with her and all the latest wig and hair trends on Instagram thesalon heila
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LOVE YOUR LIFE J LOVE YOUR LIFE acob carried his ladder sturdily throughout the house missing the light fixtures only by micro units He generously offered assistance to neighbors to get balls off their lower roofs and cut down hanging tree branches The ladder was so much a part of him it became like a pet Yet there was a deeper connection than what met the eye Jacob didn t have it easy He suffered from more pain and aggravation than other kids his age If it was cold outside his knees hurt when he woke up in the morning and his fingers would get stiff to where moving them was a conscious decision He had a crick in his neck which would not disappear with a simple rolling of the head Sometimes his ankle would stiffen and he couldn t walk As a young child he hadn t learned the tools needed to properly release his frustrations Yet he knew that simple movements which came easily to other children didn t come to him He wasn t crippled or un athletic but sometimes his body just didn t function like it should have And it didn t help that sometimes his nails would turn white or he would have large 26 fyimagazineny com patches of white behind his ears and also on his arms and legs He had juvenile arthritis One Shabbos morning at the age of 10 he cried from his bed He couldn t move his legs didn t work and his arms were swollen We carried him to the emergency clinic and we were whisked off to the hospital After several EKGs and a fear of scarlet fever it was eventually determined there was nothing wrong with his heart but no one knew for sure what ailed him The doctors thought it might be related to strep of which Jacob had had a fair number of issues It was clear that he had juvenile arthritis but not what kind or why After taking him to the rheumatologist for over two years I suggested that maybe it came from Jacob s psoriasis Eureka The doctor took all the credit for finally figuring out what was wrong with him juvenile arthritis from psoriasis We finally had a name but no solution Jacob did not want to take the medicine or vitamins nor do special exercises But when his pain got worse he finally agreed to take the prescription methotrexate a drug used in chemotherapy against cancer severe psoriasis and rheumatoid arthritis The medication had to be accompanied by blood tests every three months to check his liver function The ladder gave Jacob a sense of control the power to climb higher than others the ease to see above where others weren t looking He is older now His ladder has gone to the wayside But he still feels the pain and takes medication when needed He has learned that others are not hurting him but it is his young strong athletic body that makes him unable to get up easily some mornings He has risen above many issues Jacob has been working on a different ladder the ladder of success He works hard studies takes his classes seriously and is looking ahead When he sees others getting frustrated by their own pain and inadequacies he is aware there are other tools to use He uses humor making those around him laugh and enjoy a different perspective He understands the nuances of business governments and bureaucratic agencies perhaps through all the doctors and places I needed to take him He doesn t ever have high expectations of others so he rarely gets hurt or disappointed And slowly Jacob is building up his resume his character his mentschlichkeit He knows life is like a ladder you can only go up one step at a time PSORIATIC ARTHRITIS Both juvenile idiopathic arthritis JIA and juvenile rheumatoid arthritis JRA are classification systems for chronic arthritis in children Juvenile Arthritis from Psoriasis is one of the types a child can get with the additional symptoms of psoriasis There has been some indication that young people develop psoriasis following an infection particularly strep throat Almost half of all young people with psoriasis may experience a flare up two to six weeks after an earache strep throat bronchitis tonsillitis or a respiratory infection Psoriasis is a patchy white rash that can show up on one s scalp fingernails and or on the it is more common between the ages of 11 and 12 Arthritis from psoriasis is more commonly found in adults between the ages of 30 and 50 It doesn t go away like some juvenile arthritis but it can be controlled and not necessarily cause permanent damage Psoriatic arthritis causes pain stiffness and swelling in and around the joints Regular over the counter painkillers The pain of arthritis comes and goes in waves called flares Between flares symptoms can essentially disappear limbs It doesn t have to be a strong case in order to produce the side effect of arthritis which affects 30 of psoriatic sufferers In fact children may suffer the arthritis before noticing psoriasis It is called juvenile arthritis only when it afflicts a child and it can occur at the young age of two though 27 fyimagazineny com like NSAIDs are not always effective Early recognition diagnosis and treatment of psoriatic arthritis are can help relieve pain and inflammation and help prevent progressive joint damage One difference between arthritis and general children activity pains is that it is the
LOVE YOUR LIFE  J  LOVE YOUR LIFE  acob carried his ladder sturdily throughout the house, missing the light fixtures only ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE J LOVE YOUR LIFE acob carried his ladder sturdily throughout the house missing the light fixtures only by micro units He generously offered assistance to neighbors to get balls off their lower roofs and cut down hanging tree branches The ladder was so much a part of him it became like a pet Yet there was a deeper connection than what met the eye Jacob didn t have it easy He suffered from more pain and aggravation than other kids his age If it was cold outside his knees hurt when he woke up in the morning and his fingers would get stiff to where moving them was a conscious decision He had a crick in his neck which would not disappear with a simple rolling of the head Sometimes his ankle would stiffen and he couldn t walk As a young child he hadn t learned the tools needed to properly release his frustrations Yet he knew that simple movements which came easily to other children didn t come to him He wasn t crippled or un athletic but sometimes his body just didn t function like it should have And it didn t help that sometimes his nails would turn white or he would have large 26 fyimagazineny com patches of white behind his ears and also on his arms and legs He had juvenile arthritis One Shabbos morning at the age of 10 he cried from his bed He couldn t move his legs didn t work and his arms were swollen We carried him to the emergency clinic and we were whisked off to the hospital After several EKGs and a fear of scarlet fever it was eventually determined there was nothing wrong with his heart but no one knew for sure what ailed him The doctors thought it might be related to strep of which Jacob had had a fair number of issues It was clear that he had juvenile arthritis but not what kind or why After taking him to the rheumatologist for over two years I suggested that maybe it came from Jacob s psoriasis Eureka The doctor took all the credit for finally figuring out what was wrong with him juvenile arthritis from psoriasis We finally had a name but no solution Jacob did not want to take the medicine or vitamins nor do special exercises But when his pain got worse he finally agreed to take the prescription methotrexate a drug used in chemotherapy against cancer severe psoriasis and rheumatoid arthritis The medication had to be accompanied by blood tests every three months to check his liver function The ladder gave Jacob a sense of control the power to climb higher than others the ease to see above where others weren t looking He is older now His ladder has gone to the wayside But he still feels the pain and takes medication when needed He has learned that others are not hurting him but it is his young strong athletic body that makes him unable to get up easily some mornings He has risen above many issues Jacob has been working on a different ladder the ladder of success He works hard studies takes his classes seriously and is looking ahead When he sees others getting frustrated by their own pain and inadequacies he is aware there are other tools to use He uses humor making those around him laugh and enjoy a different perspective He understands the nuances of business governments and bureaucratic agencies perhaps through all the doctors and places I needed to take him He doesn t ever have high expectations of others so he rarely gets hurt or disappointed And slowly Jacob is building up his resume his character his mentschlichkeit He knows life is like a ladder you can only go up one step at a time PSORIATIC ARTHRITIS Both juvenile idiopathic arthritis JIA and juvenile rheumatoid arthritis JRA are classification systems for chronic arthritis in children Juvenile Arthritis from Psoriasis is one of the types a child can get with the additional symptoms of psoriasis There has been some indication that young people develop psoriasis following an infection particularly strep throat Almost half of all young people with psoriasis may experience a flare up two to six weeks after an earache strep throat bronchitis tonsillitis or a respiratory infection Psoriasis is a patchy white rash that can show up on one s scalp fingernails and or on the it is more common between the ages of 11 and 12 Arthritis from psoriasis is more commonly found in adults between the ages of 30 and 50 It doesn t go away like some juvenile arthritis but it can be controlled and not necessarily cause permanent damage Psoriatic arthritis causes pain stiffness and swelling in and around the joints Regular over the counter painkillers The pain of arthritis comes and goes in waves called flares Between flares symptoms can essentially disappear limbs It doesn t have to be a strong case in order to produce the side effect of arthritis which affects 30 of psoriatic sufferers In fact children may suffer the arthritis before noticing psoriasis It is called juvenile arthritis only when it afflicts a child and it can occur at the young age of two though 27 fyimagazineny com like NSAIDs are not always effective Early recognition diagnosis and treatment of psoriatic arthritis are can help relieve pain and inflammation and help prevent progressive joint damage One difference between arthritis and general children activity pains is that it is the
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LOVE YOUR LIFE joints sometimes parallel joints that hurt rather than the muscle or tendons Secondly they hurt in the morning especially if it is cold outside Exercise is helpful and if the day is full of physical activity children generally will feel better Unlike pain caused by an injury or other illness arthritis related pain may develop slowly affecting one or more joints The pain of arthritis comes and goes in waves called flares Between flares symptoms can essentially disappear There are some blood tests that can be administered to indicate the damage and the type of arthritis but often it may not show up in the tests making diagnosis a bit awkward Management of arthritis has several forms and arthritis research does get serious money so new treatments are being found The treatment of JIA can be helpful Management may include one or all of the following areas Pharmacologic therapy with nonsteroidal anti inflammatory drugs NSAIDs diseasemodifying anti rheumatic drugs DMARDs biologic agents or intra articular and oral corticosteroids as well as other forms of care nutrition physical therapy and more Methotrexate is the first line of defense for treating children with chronic arthritis though it has to be carefully monitored with blood tests to watch for liver kidney and lung damage Inflammation from arthritis can spread to the eye causing redness and eye pain Bright lights might bother a sufferer and it is recommended to see an ophthalmologist yearly to make sure there are not unnoticed eye developments that could be avoided with early treatment fyi LOVE YOUR LIFE Psoriatic arthritis is one of the seven general types of JIA a child can suffer They include SYSTEMIC ONSET JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITIS which starts with a two week long fever where the temperature can get fairly high OLIGOARTICULAR JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITIS causes one to four joints to flare for six months or so POLYARTICULAR JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITIS causes five or more joints that are in pain for at least six months but blood tests showing proteins attacking the immune system come back negative ENTHESITIS RELATED ARTHRITIS is similar to the above but with positive blood tests UNDIFFERENTIATED ARTHRITIS hasn t a definitive pattern PSORIATIC JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITis is characterized by pain in some joints and the pitting of the fingernails or other signs of psoriasis WHAT S YOUR FITNESS AGE Are you a fitness granny or a fitness cub Take the FYI fitness age quiz to find out WRITTEN BY REBECCA BLUE T here are not many times when a woman is willing to give up the secret of her age and you are probably no exception Of course when referring to your fitness age you may actually find yourself excited to share your secret That would depend upon whether your fitness age is the same as older than or younger than your chronological age Here is your chance to find out Your fitness age can be measured in several different ways You can measure your cardiovascular endurance your body s ability to take in and utilize oxygen One way to do this is by testing your VO2 Max To do this you can take a simple 3 minute step test perform a running test or use a gas analyzer to measure your oxygen uptake Comparing your fitness ability with others the same age can also help you get an idea of how fit you are There are some people who are fitness minded and can jump up out of bed at 4 30 AM to take their 5 mile run before work while others continue hitting the snooze button and turn over thinking they ll just gym it tomorrow Which group of people do you identify with most Figuring out your personal Body Mass Index BMI by dividing your weight in kilograms by your height squared in meters weight KG height 2M BMI is yet another way to see your fit age The following is a quick guide to help you see where you stack up Underweight less than 18 5 BMI Normal weight 18 5 24 9 BMI Overweight 25 0 29 9 BMI Obese 30 0 BMI and higher For our readers we offer a non technical method of gaging your fitness age Here are some easy toanswer questions that will shed some light into just how hard you have been working on getting fit They may give you a clue as to whether you need to shape up or whether you are ready to pounce Take the quiz 28 fyimagazineny com 29 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  joints, sometimes parallel joints, that hurt, rather than the muscle or tendons. Secondly, they hurt in th...
LOVE YOUR LIFE joints sometimes parallel joints that hurt rather than the muscle or tendons Secondly they hurt in the morning especially if it is cold outside Exercise is helpful and if the day is full of physical activity children generally will feel better Unlike pain caused by an injury or other illness arthritis related pain may develop slowly affecting one or more joints The pain of arthritis comes and goes in waves called flares Between flares symptoms can essentially disappear There are some blood tests that can be administered to indicate the damage and the type of arthritis but often it may not show up in the tests making diagnosis a bit awkward Management of arthritis has several forms and arthritis research does get serious money so new treatments are being found The treatment of JIA can be helpful Management may include one or all of the following areas Pharmacologic therapy with nonsteroidal anti inflammatory drugs NSAIDs diseasemodifying anti rheumatic drugs DMARDs biologic agents or intra articular and oral corticosteroids as well as other forms of care nutrition physical therapy and more Methotrexate is the first line of defense for treating children with chronic arthritis though it has to be carefully monitored with blood tests to watch for liver kidney and lung damage Inflammation from arthritis can spread to the eye causing redness and eye pain Bright lights might bother a sufferer and it is recommended to see an ophthalmologist yearly to make sure there are not unnoticed eye developments that could be avoided with early treatment fyi LOVE YOUR LIFE Psoriatic arthritis is one of the seven general types of JIA a child can suffer They include SYSTEMIC ONSET JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITIS which starts with a two week long fever where the temperature can get fairly high OLIGOARTICULAR JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITIS causes one to four joints to flare for six months or so POLYARTICULAR JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITIS causes five or more joints that are in pain for at least six months but blood tests showing proteins attacking the immune system come back negative ENTHESITIS RELATED ARTHRITIS is similar to the above but with positive blood tests UNDIFFERENTIATED ARTHRITIS hasn t a definitive pattern PSORIATIC JUVENILE IDIOPATHIC ARTHRITis is characterized by pain in some joints and the pitting of the fingernails or other signs of psoriasis WHAT S YOUR FITNESS AGE Are you a fitness granny or a fitness cub Take the FYI fitness age quiz to find out WRITTEN BY REBECCA BLUE T here are not many times when a woman is willing to give up the secret of her age and you are probably no exception Of course when referring to your fitness age you may actually find yourself excited to share your secret That would depend upon whether your fitness age is the same as older than or younger than your chronological age Here is your chance to find out Your fitness age can be measured in several different ways You can measure your cardiovascular endurance your body s ability to take in and utilize oxygen One way to do this is by testing your VO2 Max To do this you can take a simple 3 minute step test perform a running test or use a gas analyzer to measure your oxygen uptake Comparing your fitness ability with others the same age can also help you get an idea of how fit you are There are some people who are fitness minded and can jump up out of bed at 4 30 AM to take their 5 mile run before work while others continue hitting the snooze button and turn over thinking they ll just gym it tomorrow Which group of people do you identify with most Figuring out your personal Body Mass Index BMI by dividing your weight in kilograms by your height squared in meters weight KG height 2M BMI is yet another way to see your fit age The following is a quick guide to help you see where you stack up Underweight less than 18 5 BMI Normal weight 18 5 24 9 BMI Overweight 25 0 29 9 BMI Obese 30 0 BMI and higher For our readers we offer a non technical method of gaging your fitness age Here are some easy toanswer questions that will shed some light into just how hard you have been working on getting fit They may give you a clue as to whether you need to shape up or whether you are ready to pounce Take the quiz 28 fyimagazineny com 29 fyimagazineny com
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LOVE YOUR LIFE S TART R E S U LT S 1 How long can you hold the standard plank 0 30 seconds 1 31 60 seconds 2 61 seconds 3 Total the numbers of all your answers 2 9 How many days a week do you workout A great workout means 0 1 1 Giving up once you feel it s getting tough 1 2 3 2 Having fun 2 4 7 3 Feeling sweaty and sore 3 3 8 How many pushups can you do in one minute One thing you must have in order to exercise is 0 5 1 Friends 1 6 15 2 Music 2 16 3 A Plan 3 4 7 How long does it take you to run one mile A friend wants you to join them at the gym this afternoon You already went this morning You Over 12 minutes 1 9 12 minutes 2 Less than 9 3 Dread it UGH And say no 1 You think about how you already exercised today and struggle to decide if you should go again 2 Say SURE Would love to 3 5 6 How long can you hold a wall squat 0 30 seconds 1 Sit on the floor legs straight in front of you and reach between your legs towards your toes How far can you reach 31 59 seconds 2 Past your knees 1 1 minutes 3 Fingertips touch your toes 2 Grabbing your toes 3 30 fyimagazineny com If your score is between 7 13 Oh hey Granny You have work to do and you need to get motivated Your fitness age is ancient and your body is on a fast track to the common complaints that trouble many unfit people There is good news you still can improve High Intensity Interval Training is a very effective and fast method for getting your fitness age young again If your score is between 14 18 You re getting up there Though you are on the right track you may want to think hard and fast about stepping it up Think about it this way barely a step in either direction can take you either over to Grannysville or put that magic spring in your step where you feel great Why live in the middle If your score is between 19 27 Hello roaring cub You ROCK You are well on your way to living as youthful a life as possible No matter how much fire topped cakes may mock you at least your fitness age will stay young and strong Keep an eye on your numbers and keep them above 18 and you are in for some romping good times In short if your cardiorespiratory sessions are anywhere from 3 5 times per week your resistance training is at least 2 3 times per week you stretch and work on your flexibility 5 7 times per week and watch your diet at least 70 of the time then you are probably in awesome and healthy shape On the other hand if you are not happy with your level of fitness or with the results you are getting remember that just thinking with the right attitude and plain old EXERCISE you can alter your fitness age real life THE RABBI Blow after surprising blow left the close knit Simes family of Ottawa changed forever Yet Rabbi Yehuda and Rebbetzin Shaindel take each and every day as a blessing and are grateful for every small achievement in their journey As told to M Tsibushkin Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and the co owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio rblue1994 yahoo com 31 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE S TART  R E S U LT S  1 How long can you hold the standard plank  0-30 seconds  1 31-60 seconds  2 61  seco...
LOVE YOUR LIFE S TART R E S U LT S 1 How long can you hold the standard plank 0 30 seconds 1 31 60 seconds 2 61 seconds 3 Total the numbers of all your answers 2 9 How many days a week do you workout A great workout means 0 1 1 Giving up once you feel it s getting tough 1 2 3 2 Having fun 2 4 7 3 Feeling sweaty and sore 3 3 8 How many pushups can you do in one minute One thing you must have in order to exercise is 0 5 1 Friends 1 6 15 2 Music 2 16 3 A Plan 3 4 7 How long does it take you to run one mile A friend wants you to join them at the gym this afternoon You already went this morning You Over 12 minutes 1 9 12 minutes 2 Less than 9 3 Dread it UGH And say no 1 You think about how you already exercised today and struggle to decide if you should go again 2 Say SURE Would love to 3 5 6 How long can you hold a wall squat 0 30 seconds 1 Sit on the floor legs straight in front of you and reach between your legs towards your toes How far can you reach 31 59 seconds 2 Past your knees 1 1 minutes 3 Fingertips touch your toes 2 Grabbing your toes 3 30 fyimagazineny com If your score is between 7 13 Oh hey Granny You have work to do and you need to get motivated Your fitness age is ancient and your body is on a fast track to the common complaints that trouble many unfit people There is good news you still can improve High Intensity Interval Training is a very effective and fast method for getting your fitness age young again If your score is between 14 18 You re getting up there Though you are on the right track you may want to think hard and fast about stepping it up Think about it this way barely a step in either direction can take you either over to Grannysville or put that magic spring in your step where you feel great Why live in the middle If your score is between 19 27 Hello roaring cub You ROCK You are well on your way to living as youthful a life as possible No matter how much fire topped cakes may mock you at least your fitness age will stay young and strong Keep an eye on your numbers and keep them above 18 and you are in for some romping good times In short if your cardiorespiratory sessions are anywhere from 3 5 times per week your resistance training is at least 2 3 times per week you stretch and work on your flexibility 5 7 times per week and watch your diet at least 70 of the time then you are probably in awesome and healthy shape On the other hand if you are not happy with your level of fitness or with the results you are getting remember that just thinking with the right attitude and plain old EXERCISE you can alter your fitness age real life THE RABBI Blow after surprising blow left the close knit Simes family of Ottawa changed forever Yet Rabbi Yehuda and Rebbetzin Shaindel take each and every day as a blessing and are grateful for every small achievement in their journey As told to M Tsibushkin Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and the co owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio rblue1994 yahoo com 31 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE S TART  R E S U LT S  1 How long can you hold the standard plank  0-30 seconds  1 31-60 seconds  2 61  seco...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE 10 PM Heavy darkness blaring sirens The children are standing bewildered on the side of the road They are all safe and accounted for Everyone except for Yehuda my husband Our plans for the foreseeable future were unceremoniously shattered one night in June of 2010 as we were driving back from a family Shabbos away Noticing that Yehuda was tired I offered to take the wheel Suddenly a deer appeared in front of our car literally trapped in the headlights Moments later we were swerving and skidding on the dark highway thereby causing our car to roll over multiple times I didn t have the strength to panic but there he was pinned into the front seat I encouraged him to come out but he said Shaindel I can t move No kidding Of course you can t move You re stuck in your seat The police will get you out They ll be here soon You re fine Neither of us imagined that he truly couldn t move and would never move again The emergency services who arrived were astounded to see the children and I get up and walk out of the car It s flattened like a tuna can they muttered uncomprehending We didn t think anybody would come out The police insisted on bringing me in my seventh month to the hospital for observation They transported me and assured me that they would watch over the children while they airlifted my husband to a trauma center It was chaotic I almost didn t realize what was happening When I tried to ask about Yehuda I thought I imagined the personnel take a deep breath and exchange glances It wasn t until much later that evening that I was told he had sustained a spinal injury Spine that relates to the nerves right Can he walk I asked hopefully They softly said No I tried to come to terms with the idea of my husband in a wheelchair unable to walk But the full picture never dawned on me He had sustained a C4C5 spinal injury severing all the nerves past his chest which usually renders the patient unable to speak as well From one day to the next he had become quadriplegic completely paralyzed from the chest down The next day my stretcher was wheeled near his so we could speak before his surgery and although had sustained a C4C5 spinal injury he spoke to me The next three month passed in a surreal daze with Yehuda in the ICU It was wondrous when my son was born healthy and perfect after a full 9 months unharmed by the accident My husband was brought from the ICU to the maternity ward 32 fyimagazineny com Neither of us imagined that he truly couldn t move and would never move again to be present at the birth That same day he was weaned from the respirator and trachea tube the timing was too incredible to be a coincidence It was Erev Rosh Hashana and it will forever be etched in my memory We had planned to spend Yom Tov near the hospital with our married siblings who came to visit My husband was carefully transported from the ICU while I was wheeled in from the maternity ward our family united in a hospital boardroom I wish I could touch that powerful feeling again We were stunned still reeling from the blow simultaneously astounded at the birth of our miraculously healthy newborn grateful for the limited function that my husband still retained The essence of a new year a new lease on life was tangible in that room The day of our son s bris was also the day Yehuda was transported to 33 fyimagazineny com rehab I can t quantify the depth of emotion during the bris that took place in the cafeteria of the rehab The hospital staff watched in awe This new life was our triumph in time a blessing in our midst of struggle Six months of rehab passed as we spent Shabbosim near the hospital bringing nosh games and the spirit of Shabbos along with us On Shabbos Chanukah Yehuda was medically cleared to come home for Shabbos Our family felt whole once again The next transition wasn t long in coming Our split level house became like a 2 bedroom apartment as our 9 children condensed daily activities into the main floor where my husband was as he couldn t navigate the stairs in a wheelchair The kids dubbed it the upside down house Then our very own neis Purim came in the form of his discharge We prepared to tackle intensive home rehabilitation by buying a new home and renovating it to be wheelchair accessible We learned to appreciate every small achievement People are eager to measure progress in dramatic fireworks of major success They would constantly inquire whether he had suddenly begun to walk again a miracle I would dream to see as well However we are grateful for every small step After intense therapy and effort Yehuda was able to lift his hand to chin level then to his lips And then he reached his eyes I watched as Yehuda recited krias shema independently for the first time since the accident It was so intimate that I couldn t observe something so private and so pure I had to avert my eyes from the undiluted kedusha that was rich in every syllable Yehuda is a devoted Rabbi with powerful capabilities and he was anguished over the loss of the
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  10 PM. Heavy darkness, blaring sirens. The children are standing bewildered on the side of...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE 10 PM Heavy darkness blaring sirens The children are standing bewildered on the side of the road They are all safe and accounted for Everyone except for Yehuda my husband Our plans for the foreseeable future were unceremoniously shattered one night in June of 2010 as we were driving back from a family Shabbos away Noticing that Yehuda was tired I offered to take the wheel Suddenly a deer appeared in front of our car literally trapped in the headlights Moments later we were swerving and skidding on the dark highway thereby causing our car to roll over multiple times I didn t have the strength to panic but there he was pinned into the front seat I encouraged him to come out but he said Shaindel I can t move No kidding Of course you can t move You re stuck in your seat The police will get you out They ll be here soon You re fine Neither of us imagined that he truly couldn t move and would never move again The emergency services who arrived were astounded to see the children and I get up and walk out of the car It s flattened like a tuna can they muttered uncomprehending We didn t think anybody would come out The police insisted on bringing me in my seventh month to the hospital for observation They transported me and assured me that they would watch over the children while they airlifted my husband to a trauma center It was chaotic I almost didn t realize what was happening When I tried to ask about Yehuda I thought I imagined the personnel take a deep breath and exchange glances It wasn t until much later that evening that I was told he had sustained a spinal injury Spine that relates to the nerves right Can he walk I asked hopefully They softly said No I tried to come to terms with the idea of my husband in a wheelchair unable to walk But the full picture never dawned on me He had sustained a C4C5 spinal injury severing all the nerves past his chest which usually renders the patient unable to speak as well From one day to the next he had become quadriplegic completely paralyzed from the chest down The next day my stretcher was wheeled near his so we could speak before his surgery and although had sustained a C4C5 spinal injury he spoke to me The next three month passed in a surreal daze with Yehuda in the ICU It was wondrous when my son was born healthy and perfect after a full 9 months unharmed by the accident My husband was brought from the ICU to the maternity ward 32 fyimagazineny com Neither of us imagined that he truly couldn t move and would never move again to be present at the birth That same day he was weaned from the respirator and trachea tube the timing was too incredible to be a coincidence It was Erev Rosh Hashana and it will forever be etched in my memory We had planned to spend Yom Tov near the hospital with our married siblings who came to visit My husband was carefully transported from the ICU while I was wheeled in from the maternity ward our family united in a hospital boardroom I wish I could touch that powerful feeling again We were stunned still reeling from the blow simultaneously astounded at the birth of our miraculously healthy newborn grateful for the limited function that my husband still retained The essence of a new year a new lease on life was tangible in that room The day of our son s bris was also the day Yehuda was transported to 33 fyimagazineny com rehab I can t quantify the depth of emotion during the bris that took place in the cafeteria of the rehab The hospital staff watched in awe This new life was our triumph in time a blessing in our midst of struggle Six months of rehab passed as we spent Shabbosim near the hospital bringing nosh games and the spirit of Shabbos along with us On Shabbos Chanukah Yehuda was medically cleared to come home for Shabbos Our family felt whole once again The next transition wasn t long in coming Our split level house became like a 2 bedroom apartment as our 9 children condensed daily activities into the main floor where my husband was as he couldn t navigate the stairs in a wheelchair The kids dubbed it the upside down house Then our very own neis Purim came in the form of his discharge We prepared to tackle intensive home rehabilitation by buying a new home and renovating it to be wheelchair accessible We learned to appreciate every small achievement People are eager to measure progress in dramatic fireworks of major success They would constantly inquire whether he had suddenly begun to walk again a miracle I would dream to see as well However we are grateful for every small step After intense therapy and effort Yehuda was able to lift his hand to chin level then to his lips And then he reached his eyes I watched as Yehuda recited krias shema independently for the first time since the accident It was so intimate that I couldn t observe something so private and so pure I had to avert my eyes from the undiluted kedusha that was rich in every syllable Yehuda is a devoted Rabbi with powerful capabilities and he was anguished over the loss of the
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  10 PM. Heavy darkness, blaring sirens. The children are standing bewildered on the side of...
LOVE YOUR LIFE opportunity to publicly teach others Yet it wasn t lost he found a way to continue his life s mission A shtender mounted onto the tray of his wheelchair enables him to learn Torah A voice computer allows him to speak and have his thoughts in Torah typed and publicized on his blog the Rolling Rabbi In his own words I named this blog Rolling Rabbi because I m just that Figuratively because I like to think of myself as one who rolls with the punches and literally because I also roll on the wheels of my power chair The wheels are a side point he always was and always will be a Rabbi having learned at Yeshiva Chafetz Chaim Rabbinical Seminary of America and received Smicha from his Rebbe Muvhak Rav A C H Leibowitz Z L He would never relinquish this privilege his goal remained unchanged It was a joyous event when his niece in Eretz Yisrael became engaged on Sukkos of 2013 I carefully planned my trip to the wedding in my mind since I would be the only family representative There was so much to arrange I knew that I had to arrange for someone to take care of the kids train the caregivers run the household coordinate his care but I wanted to present the final plan to him as a fait accompli I never got the chance though because in middle of our Sukkos meal surrounded by our extended family he casually asked me Did I tell you that I m going to the chassunah We froze forgetting to breathe as we stared at each other soup spoons halted en route to our mouths It was very quiet I finally responded somewhat shakily Uh no I guess you forgot to mention that This was not in the realm of possibility But he was serious He would attend this wedding This goal was a powerful motivator in his redoubled efforts in LOVE YOUR LIFE therapy trying to strengthen himself so he could travel He was strapped to a table in a standing position so he could exercise in his limited way The community here in Ottawa as well as in Eretz Yisrael warmed our hearts with their willingness to help We tangibly felt as though we were carried to Eretz Yisrael al kanfei nisharim It took complex medical equipment and preparation to stabilize him for the trip and enable him to breathe on the flight If we achieved this we could conquer anything Once in Israel Yehuda s childhood friend a Rosh Yeshiva in Ramat Beit Shemesh arranged for him to address the monthly We learned to appreciate every small achievement People are eager to measure progress in dramatic fireworks of major success However we are grateful for every small step 34 fyimagazineny com women s tehillim group but that day found him hospitalized with suspected pneumonia I spoke in his stead something I had never pictured myself doing The Rosh Yeshivah graciously gave me a tour of the building pointing out the lunchroom the beis medrash even a room of emergency medical equipment for a gemach At the time it was just a detail of the building but later when the doctors insisted that Yehuda could only be discharged with an oxygen tank I knew where to turn Hashem had prepared it for us It was the time of the famous snowstorm in Yerushalayim several years ago yet somehow we made it to the Kosel before we flew back Unbeknown to us Yehuda had contracted an infection unique to the Middle East which weakened him for the next few months until the day his heart stopped After an endless 5 minutes of CPR we got him back It was then that the doctors made the decision to put him back on a respirator since the effort of breathing sapped his body of strength and left him vulnerable to infection Since then he has been breathing through a respirator and receiving nourishment from a feeding tube Due to the respirator he can no longer speak Instead he uses an eye activated computer to communicate and types his blog posts which so inspires others letter by painstaking letter Since November 2015 I have been writing the blog posts on his behalf Yehuda wakes up with a smile each day This is so characteristic of him that when he doesn t smile it s a cause for alarm In general he communicates primarily through a letter board and facial expressions remaining an integral part of our conversations as a family Over the past six years of our struggle the koach and momentum have come from him We have a devoted team of caregivers who know our family well and understand our needs Once a caregiver remarked in wonder You know something you guys have every right to be miserable and no one would blame you but I have never seen such a happy home I truly believe that my kids have developed an exquisitely fine tuned sensitivity to other people as a direct result of this situation Our community has touched us with their respect for my husband greeting him warmly and vying for the privilege of 35 fyimagazineny com pushing his wheelchair A silver lining was last year when our daughter and son both became engaged One wedding was Purim time the next was several weeks later right after Pesach It was a whirlwind He walked our daughter down to the chuppah wheelchair and all and was lifted onto the platform with a special lift The emotion of that wedding cannot be encapsulated into words In our home we have become cognizant of kisses from Hashem the day to day ways that He holds our hands For the first few years as we were reeling from this blow my kids did not get sick Ever My car did not need repairs Hashem went easy on us in those respects so we could focus on the mission He has handpicked for us Our goal as a frum family is to be mechanech our children in a community where we have the opportunity to spread Torah and make a Kiddush Hashem Wheelchair or not we are traveling this path full steam ahead My children must deal with this reality yet they are nonchalant They color drawings of Abba as they know and love him with or without the wheels and speak to him about their day He remains the center of our family We are not suffering We are seeking out and grabbing onto every kernel of joy that there is every kiss from Hashem Our lives are altered but we are grateful for the gift of life itself Yehuda clearly summed it up when he declared I will never ask Hashem why this had to happen I will ask what He wants from me how to serve Him with the avoda He desires fyi Please keep Yehuda Pinchas ben Asna in your Tefillos
LOVE YOUR LIFE  opportunity to publicly teach others. Yet it wasn   t lost  he found a way to continue his life   s missio...
LOVE YOUR LIFE opportunity to publicly teach others Yet it wasn t lost he found a way to continue his life s mission A shtender mounted onto the tray of his wheelchair enables him to learn Torah A voice computer allows him to speak and have his thoughts in Torah typed and publicized on his blog the Rolling Rabbi In his own words I named this blog Rolling Rabbi because I m just that Figuratively because I like to think of myself as one who rolls with the punches and literally because I also roll on the wheels of my power chair The wheels are a side point he always was and always will be a Rabbi having learned at Yeshiva Chafetz Chaim Rabbinical Seminary of America and received Smicha from his Rebbe Muvhak Rav A C H Leibowitz Z L He would never relinquish this privilege his goal remained unchanged It was a joyous event when his niece in Eretz Yisrael became engaged on Sukkos of 2013 I carefully planned my trip to the wedding in my mind since I would be the only family representative There was so much to arrange I knew that I had to arrange for someone to take care of the kids train the caregivers run the household coordinate his care but I wanted to present the final plan to him as a fait accompli I never got the chance though because in middle of our Sukkos meal surrounded by our extended family he casually asked me Did I tell you that I m going to the chassunah We froze forgetting to breathe as we stared at each other soup spoons halted en route to our mouths It was very quiet I finally responded somewhat shakily Uh no I guess you forgot to mention that This was not in the realm of possibility But he was serious He would attend this wedding This goal was a powerful motivator in his redoubled efforts in LOVE YOUR LIFE therapy trying to strengthen himself so he could travel He was strapped to a table in a standing position so he could exercise in his limited way The community here in Ottawa as well as in Eretz Yisrael warmed our hearts with their willingness to help We tangibly felt as though we were carried to Eretz Yisrael al kanfei nisharim It took complex medical equipment and preparation to stabilize him for the trip and enable him to breathe on the flight If we achieved this we could conquer anything Once in Israel Yehuda s childhood friend a Rosh Yeshiva in Ramat Beit Shemesh arranged for him to address the monthly We learned to appreciate every small achievement People are eager to measure progress in dramatic fireworks of major success However we are grateful for every small step 34 fyimagazineny com women s tehillim group but that day found him hospitalized with suspected pneumonia I spoke in his stead something I had never pictured myself doing The Rosh Yeshivah graciously gave me a tour of the building pointing out the lunchroom the beis medrash even a room of emergency medical equipment for a gemach At the time it was just a detail of the building but later when the doctors insisted that Yehuda could only be discharged with an oxygen tank I knew where to turn Hashem had prepared it for us It was the time of the famous snowstorm in Yerushalayim several years ago yet somehow we made it to the Kosel before we flew back Unbeknown to us Yehuda had contracted an infection unique to the Middle East which weakened him for the next few months until the day his heart stopped After an endless 5 minutes of CPR we got him back It was then that the doctors made the decision to put him back on a respirator since the effort of breathing sapped his body of strength and left him vulnerable to infection Since then he has been breathing through a respirator and receiving nourishment from a feeding tube Due to the respirator he can no longer speak Instead he uses an eye activated computer to communicate and types his blog posts which so inspires others letter by painstaking letter Since November 2015 I have been writing the blog posts on his behalf Yehuda wakes up with a smile each day This is so characteristic of him that when he doesn t smile it s a cause for alarm In general he communicates primarily through a letter board and facial expressions remaining an integral part of our conversations as a family Over the past six years of our struggle the koach and momentum have come from him We have a devoted team of caregivers who know our family well and understand our needs Once a caregiver remarked in wonder You know something you guys have every right to be miserable and no one would blame you but I have never seen such a happy home I truly believe that my kids have developed an exquisitely fine tuned sensitivity to other people as a direct result of this situation Our community has touched us with their respect for my husband greeting him warmly and vying for the privilege of 35 fyimagazineny com pushing his wheelchair A silver lining was last year when our daughter and son both became engaged One wedding was Purim time the next was several weeks later right after Pesach It was a whirlwind He walked our daughter down to the chuppah wheelchair and all and was lifted onto the platform with a special lift The emotion of that wedding cannot be encapsulated into words In our home we have become cognizant of kisses from Hashem the day to day ways that He holds our hands For the first few years as we were reeling from this blow my kids did not get sick Ever My car did not need repairs Hashem went easy on us in those respects so we could focus on the mission He has handpicked for us Our goal as a frum family is to be mechanech our children in a community where we have the opportunity to spread Torah and make a Kiddush Hashem Wheelchair or not we are traveling this path full steam ahead My children must deal with this reality yet they are nonchalant They color drawings of Abba as they know and love him with or without the wheels and speak to him about their day He remains the center of our family We are not suffering We are seeking out and grabbing onto every kernel of joy that there is every kiss from Hashem Our lives are altered but we are grateful for the gift of life itself Yehuda clearly summed it up when he declared I will never ask Hashem why this had to happen I will ask what He wants from me how to serve Him with the avoda He desires fyi Please keep Yehuda Pinchas ben Asna in your Tefillos
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LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE how they did it QUOTES THAT INSPIRE Don t be pushed by your problems Be led by your dreams Go the extra mile It is never crowded WAYNE DYER IF OPPORTUNITY DOESN T KNOCK BUILD A DOOR MITCH BERLE CRACKING RALPH WALDO EMERSON Who is Meira Rivka Pelzer WRITTEN BY MICHELLE DEVORAH KAHN Advice is overrated Before you learn what others know you need to learn what YOU know HARRIET RUBIN It s not what you say or wish or hope or intend It is only what you do that counts Many people try and find themselves meaning to discover who they are and where they belong Meira Rivka Peltzer was no different She doesn t fit any molds or stereotypes She marches to the beat of a drum that she built based on knowledge and experience She is an orthodox Jew newly married and living in Mount Vernon New York She attends Fleetwood Synagogue previously under the leadership of her dear friend and mentor Rabbi Gedalyah Berger and in her free time she loves catching up with family and friends This might sound like any Orthodox woman you know however we forgot to mention that she is a convert one that had to do a lot of soul searching and Google ing to get to where she is today BRIAN TRACY 36 fyimagazineny com 37 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  how   they   did   it  QUOTES THAT  INSPIRE          Don   t  be pushed by your problems. ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE how they did it QUOTES THAT INSPIRE Don t be pushed by your problems Be led by your dreams Go the extra mile It is never crowded WAYNE DYER IF OPPORTUNITY DOESN T KNOCK BUILD A DOOR MITCH BERLE CRACKING RALPH WALDO EMERSON Who is Meira Rivka Pelzer WRITTEN BY MICHELLE DEVORAH KAHN Advice is overrated Before you learn what others know you need to learn what YOU know HARRIET RUBIN It s not what you say or wish or hope or intend It is only what you do that counts Many people try and find themselves meaning to discover who they are and where they belong Meira Rivka Peltzer was no different She doesn t fit any molds or stereotypes She marches to the beat of a drum that she built based on knowledge and experience She is an orthodox Jew newly married and living in Mount Vernon New York She attends Fleetwood Synagogue previously under the leadership of her dear friend and mentor Rabbi Gedalyah Berger and in her free time she loves catching up with family and friends This might sound like any Orthodox woman you know however we forgot to mention that she is a convert one that had to do a lot of soul searching and Google ing to get to where she is today BRIAN TRACY 36 fyimagazineny com 37 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  how   they   did   it  QUOTES THAT  INSPIRE          Don   t  be pushed by your problems. ...
GET A HANDLE ON IT LOVE YOUR LIFE H Take A Break 5 Things Marketing er infectious smile attention grabbing laugh and confident stance command your attention especially while on the job as detective with the NYPD And one more thing she is black I m not sure we have ever seen a mold for that Born Jacqueline in the Bronx to single mother Michele in the 1980s she grew up watching her mother work tirelessly at three jobs just so she could have opportunities that most young children from her neighborhood never had Although she attended a private Catholic school she explains It was for the purposes of education purely My mother wanted me to have a top notch education one that public schools in New York never offered I was never raised Catholic Never baptized at birth or had a Communion I just studied at their school There was no religious upbringing for Jacqueline no encouragement to find any kind of spiritual guidance She was instead fashioned to focus on bettering herself through education and profession After graduating from the John Jay College of Criminal Justice and interning with the local police department she knew she had found what would fulfill her dreams of professional success In 2003 she started as a policewoman working all hours of the night in Brooklyn serving arrest warrants to criminals before the crack of dawn some had to be literally chased and restrained and later excelled to the ranks of detective by 2005 Then she began to focus on her personal life She had never felt like she was at peace and she wanted answers to her questions So like any detective she began using the skills she obtained on the job to track down her true calling She knew she had to start at the source the public library Strolling through the stacks she happened to pick up a book on anthropology and she flipped through the chapters detailing different religions Hinduism Buddhism and finally Judaism When Jacqueline read the words God holds the fate of mankind in the palm of his hand her heart skipped a beat and her eyes widened Suddenly her soul felt alive But what was her fate What was concealed in G d s hands that Jacqueline craved to touch Like any young person today she turned to Google then Facebook She found many websites and groups dedicated to people looking for answers specifically in Judaism However a lot of those links were misleading even taking advantage of answer seeking souls like her After considering several Reform and Conservative organizations she reached out to an Orthodox source online as a last ditch effort toward what she assumed was impossible One kind Rabbi reached out to me online and when I told him my story my journey and my background I figured at that point he would tell me what I had already thought that a black detective from the Bronx would never be able to convert to Orthodox Judaism However he quickly shot me down He told me he knew one Orthodox Jewish woman working on the force who was from the Dominican Republic so it could be done This community was so loving helpful and supportive it made her feel like she had found a home and answers that resonated with her The road hasn t been easy Finding ways to fuse her new lifestyle with her existing profession wasn t always simple but luckily she has found support and acceptance from her peers family friends and community She has found ways to incorporate her religious ethics and values like the mitzvah of covering her hair and wearing a skirt while still maintaining her professionalism and sticking to on the job protocols Now happily married to a stop animation animator Aharon Aba Meira recalls memories from her early years as a policewoman Some of those warrants I executed were in Crown Heights Brooklyn which is where I met my husband all these years later Now walking down Kingston Avenue as a frum Jew with my Lubavitcher husband is a drastic change from those days in the NYPD Warrant Squad Meira continues working long tough hours like her mother Michele once did and attending community functions and events but she couldn t be happier I think my friends and family were happy and supportive of this crazy journey because they saw how happy I was the change in me I did too The day she fully converted and became forever known as Meira Rivka is the day she truly found herself the day she cracked her case fyi THIS COMMUNITY WAS SO LOVING HELPFUL AND SUPPORTIVE IT MADE HER FEEL LIKE SHE HAD FOUND A HOME AND ANSWERS THAT RESONATED WITH HER 38 fyimagazineny com TIP TOP TIPPING WRITTEN BY NECHAMA ELBAZ You meet a client for lunch 40 tip but wrap up the deal faster than expected With the extra time left in your lunch break you duck into the neighboring salon for a quick mani pedi 25 tip Picking the perfect shade of pink took longer than you had thought so you grab a cab 10 tip back to the office
GET A HANDLE ON IT  LOVE YOUR LIFE  H  Take A Break   5 Things   Marketing  er infectious smile, attention-grabbing laugh,...
GET A HANDLE ON IT LOVE YOUR LIFE H Take A Break 5 Things Marketing er infectious smile attention grabbing laugh and confident stance command your attention especially while on the job as detective with the NYPD And one more thing she is black I m not sure we have ever seen a mold for that Born Jacqueline in the Bronx to single mother Michele in the 1980s she grew up watching her mother work tirelessly at three jobs just so she could have opportunities that most young children from her neighborhood never had Although she attended a private Catholic school she explains It was for the purposes of education purely My mother wanted me to have a top notch education one that public schools in New York never offered I was never raised Catholic Never baptized at birth or had a Communion I just studied at their school There was no religious upbringing for Jacqueline no encouragement to find any kind of spiritual guidance She was instead fashioned to focus on bettering herself through education and profession After graduating from the John Jay College of Criminal Justice and interning with the local police department she knew she had found what would fulfill her dreams of professional success In 2003 she started as a policewoman working all hours of the night in Brooklyn serving arrest warrants to criminals before the crack of dawn some had to be literally chased and restrained and later excelled to the ranks of detective by 2005 Then she began to focus on her personal life She had never felt like she was at peace and she wanted answers to her questions So like any detective she began using the skills she obtained on the job to track down her true calling She knew she had to start at the source the public library Strolling through the stacks she happened to pick up a book on anthropology and she flipped through the chapters detailing different religions Hinduism Buddhism and finally Judaism When Jacqueline read the words God holds the fate of mankind in the palm of his hand her heart skipped a beat and her eyes widened Suddenly her soul felt alive But what was her fate What was concealed in G d s hands that Jacqueline craved to touch Like any young person today she turned to Google then Facebook She found many websites and groups dedicated to people looking for answers specifically in Judaism However a lot of those links were misleading even taking advantage of answer seeking souls like her After considering several Reform and Conservative organizations she reached out to an Orthodox source online as a last ditch effort toward what she assumed was impossible One kind Rabbi reached out to me online and when I told him my story my journey and my background I figured at that point he would tell me what I had already thought that a black detective from the Bronx would never be able to convert to Orthodox Judaism However he quickly shot me down He told me he knew one Orthodox Jewish woman working on the force who was from the Dominican Republic so it could be done This community was so loving helpful and supportive it made her feel like she had found a home and answers that resonated with her The road hasn t been easy Finding ways to fuse her new lifestyle with her existing profession wasn t always simple but luckily she has found support and acceptance from her peers family friends and community She has found ways to incorporate her religious ethics and values like the mitzvah of covering her hair and wearing a skirt while still maintaining her professionalism and sticking to on the job protocols Now happily married to a stop animation animator Aharon Aba Meira recalls memories from her early years as a policewoman Some of those warrants I executed were in Crown Heights Brooklyn which is where I met my husband all these years later Now walking down Kingston Avenue as a frum Jew with my Lubavitcher husband is a drastic change from those days in the NYPD Warrant Squad Meira continues working long tough hours like her mother Michele once did and attending community functions and events but she couldn t be happier I think my friends and family were happy and supportive of this crazy journey because they saw how happy I was the change in me I did too The day she fully converted and became forever known as Meira Rivka is the day she truly found herself the day she cracked her case fyi THIS COMMUNITY WAS SO LOVING HELPFUL AND SUPPORTIVE IT MADE HER FEEL LIKE SHE HAD FOUND A HOME AND ANSWERS THAT RESONATED WITH HER 38 fyimagazineny com TIP TOP TIPPING WRITTEN BY NECHAMA ELBAZ You meet a client for lunch 40 tip but wrap up the deal faster than expected With the extra time left in your lunch break you duck into the neighboring salon for a quick mani pedi 25 tip Picking the perfect shade of pink took longer than you had thought so you grab a cab 10 tip back to the office
GET A HANDLE ON IT  LOVE YOUR LIFE  H  Take A Break   5 Things   Marketing  er infectious smile, attention-grabbing laugh,...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT HOW MUCH SHOULD I TIP For an act that is practiced so often tipping is certainly controversial I wish tipping could just be done away with says R of Chicago If it has to make things more expensive so be it But the money grubbing nature of the thing is so distasteful She finds the pressure to tip even when service is inferior impedes the ability to enjoy the service Others complain that the custom is too ambiguous and they don t know what s expected of them We ll solve that problem soon Still others find it arbitrary tipping a mover is required but tipping a plumber isn t On the flip side tipping gives some control of service quality to the recipient Service providers know they re being graded and are therefore eager to please It s also nice to be able to show appreciation directly instead of your cash being swallowed in the bowels of the business cash flow to be spat out two weeks later into the employee s paycheck But even appreciation isn t so simple When it comes to education F from Queens is appalled at the practice I don t understand how schools can allow parents to tip teachers The idea reeks of bribery Because little Dini s parents can afford to grease the wheels a little she gets preferential treatment in class So my child either suffers or I have to somehow find the way to squeeze a tip into our budget That s obscene But S of Yerushalayim is unapologetic She fully admits to bribing her children s teachers I ll stop in randomly with small gifts an iced coffee a chocolate bar doughnuts for the class on Rosh Chodesh These are my children I want to ensure they re taken care of And I really do appreciate the work the teachers put in Bassie Friedman of Crown Heights thinks she strikes the right balance It s about the relationship If I feel a teacher is doing a great job if I connect to her and speak to her a lot if she s connecting to my kids I ll give gifts throughout the year manicures a nice accessory cookies in addition to the Chanukah gift the PTA arranges In contrast I give my son s rebbeim a monetary gift with the mishloach manos on Purim and that s it I don t have a relationship with them so I just give what s accepted in my community I decided to ask some teachers how they feel I definitely have to work on myself not to treat the kids that give gifts less fairly says R of Lakewood It doesn t last long but if one parent takes the time to say thank you I m gonna have more positive feelings towards her and her kid Does it feel like a bribe S of North Miami Beach ponders the question Listen it s nice to be appreciated and I definitely feel more positively towards the kids of parents that acknowledge my work But a bribe I don t treat their kids any better because of it She pauses Ok maybe I m more patient with them but nothing more than that What s my take It doesn t really matter tipping is a fact of life So whether you re a proponent or not here s a guide to the ins and outs First a quick quiz Choose the correct statement A Tipping is a voluntary gesture meant to show gratitude B Tipping is an essential obligation and provides part of your provider s wages Answer Tipping is complicated Some industries have a tip credit 40 fyimagazineny com they re legally allowed to pay their servers a lower wage with the expectation that tips will top things off Other providers don t rely on tips but get their hands dirty for you so the gesture is appreciated Still others vary according to location So tip with discretion give according to your budget and ask if you re not sure what s expected of you Do Respect your service provider If you pre tip for better service do so graciously You can t bully me into performing requests against company code says barista Yonatan of Lakewood Some co workers would accept tips from their regulars and bring them their order before their turn in line maybe throw in some small extras they didn t pay for too They didn t last long Tip more if you require special attention or unique assistance If you re using a coupon tip on the full price of the service Ask if you re unsure what s expected of you Don t Include tax in your tip Tip the business owner even if they re providing the service If you receive exceptional service or have great rapport feel free but it s not expected Masseuse P of Detroit says she rarely receives tips when she practices at home but when working at a local physical therapy she receives between 5 20 as tip Place holiday gifts for your postal workers in your mailbox after December 25th Your recipients may have to wait but at least their gifts won t be stolen by scavengers N CATEGORIES In secular circles tips are pretty much set in stone If you re patronizing a frum service provider however the amounts may be lower as tips are typically seen as less of an expectation and more of a generous thank you Tips are also not factored in as much in employee payment structures as in their secular counterparts likely because many frum patrons don t tip Some people will tip 5 for a wash and set says the receptionist of one popular Brooklyn sheitel salon but it s not expected just appreciated BEAUTY Hair shampoo girl 3 5 hairstylist 15 Shaitel wash set 5 optional cut 5 10 optional Hair Removal 20 Manicure Pedicure 10 20 Masseuse 10 15 Other Services 15 20 FOOD Barista Takeout Fast Food Leave your change in the tip jar optional Bartender 1 drink Delivery Grocery Orders or Takeout 10 Restaurant 15 20 TRAVEL Porter airport 1 3 bag hotel 1 2 bag Wheelchair Assistance 3 5 Concierge 5 20 Hotel Housekeeper 2 5 day Room Service 15 20 Drivers bus 1 2 cab or private 10 15 Tour Guides 10 20 MAINTENANCE Furniture Appliance Delivery 5 20 cold drink coffee Mover 20 50 lunch Car Wash 2 5 Emergency Roadside Assistance 3 5 PETS Sitter 10 optional Dog Groomer 15 Dog Walker week s pay at the holidays JEWISH Mohel Halachically mohelim can t ask for payment so they have pretty set tip prices instead usually ranging from 500 1000 and set individually by the mohel Kaparos Swinger 1 5 optional Lulav Ring Maker 1 5 optional Rabbi 50 500 Mishloach Manos usually given on Purim N EVENTS WEDDINGS BAR MITZVAHS AS A GUEST Coat Check 1 item Valet 2 5 AS A HOST If your event is at a frum venue check your contract some include tips as a line item usually 100 500 depending on the scale and scope of your event others leave it to your discretion We include the tip in the contract because if we don t we never see it says the catering manager at an upscale hall in Lakewood Most people are mistaken in thinking the tip goes to the wait staff which we pay fairly they don t need tips The money actually usually goes to paying overhead costs like the secretary s and catering manager s salaries If you re celebrating at a secular venue or using some secular providers in a frum space and tips are not included in the contract use this chart HOSTING COSTS Party Planner 15 Hairstylist 15 20 Makeup Artist 15 20 Musicians 15 Photographer Videographer 100 Catering Manager 200 Chef 100 Waiters 20 each Bartender 10 Limo Driver 15 N HOLIDAYS Some individuals provide their services all year round so tips are not expected at each point of service but are expected annually December with both secular and Jewish holidays is the opportune time to give those tips Keep in mind your service providers ethnicity or religion though they may appreciate the gift at a different time of year If you d rather give a gift than money here are a few ideas toys or books for the provider s family food gifts homemade or bought depending on Kashrus preferences such as fruit chocolate or candy platters or cake and cookies pampering gifts like manicures bath sets or a massage or an accessory like a scarf or jewelry And there s always the infallible gift card CHILDCARE Childcare Education Babysitter Nanny one to two weeks pay 41 fyimagazineny com Evening babysitter One typical night s pay Rebbeim Teachers Assistants Playgroup Directors Usually collected by PTA around Chanukah 20 36 others give small gifts for Rosh Hashanah Chanukah and Purim Bus Driver and Supervisor 10 20 Camp Staff Most camps give recommendations usually 10 50 staff member for day camp 20 50 staff member for summer camp MAINTENANCE Building Superintendent 20 100 Other Building Staff 20 50 Doorman 20 100 Landscaper 20 50 Cleaning Person One week s pay you may want to give a little something around Pesach too Janitor 15 20 Newspaper Delivery 10 30 Parking Attendant 15 25 Personal Trainer 20 50 Handyman 15 40 GOVERNMENT WORKERS Legally government workers cannot receive monetary gifts that includes gift cards and can only receive non perishable gifts with a value of less than 20 You can also give perishable gifts valuing more than 20 if they share them with their co workers Garbage Recycling Collectors Mail Carriers Home Health Aide SEIT Special Educational Itinerant Teacher Occupational Physical Speech Therapists optional
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT HOW MUCH SHOULD I TIP  For an act that is practiced so often, tipping is certainly ...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT HOW MUCH SHOULD I TIP For an act that is practiced so often tipping is certainly controversial I wish tipping could just be done away with says R of Chicago If it has to make things more expensive so be it But the money grubbing nature of the thing is so distasteful She finds the pressure to tip even when service is inferior impedes the ability to enjoy the service Others complain that the custom is too ambiguous and they don t know what s expected of them We ll solve that problem soon Still others find it arbitrary tipping a mover is required but tipping a plumber isn t On the flip side tipping gives some control of service quality to the recipient Service providers know they re being graded and are therefore eager to please It s also nice to be able to show appreciation directly instead of your cash being swallowed in the bowels of the business cash flow to be spat out two weeks later into the employee s paycheck But even appreciation isn t so simple When it comes to education F from Queens is appalled at the practice I don t understand how schools can allow parents to tip teachers The idea reeks of bribery Because little Dini s parents can afford to grease the wheels a little she gets preferential treatment in class So my child either suffers or I have to somehow find the way to squeeze a tip into our budget That s obscene But S of Yerushalayim is unapologetic She fully admits to bribing her children s teachers I ll stop in randomly with small gifts an iced coffee a chocolate bar doughnuts for the class on Rosh Chodesh These are my children I want to ensure they re taken care of And I really do appreciate the work the teachers put in Bassie Friedman of Crown Heights thinks she strikes the right balance It s about the relationship If I feel a teacher is doing a great job if I connect to her and speak to her a lot if she s connecting to my kids I ll give gifts throughout the year manicures a nice accessory cookies in addition to the Chanukah gift the PTA arranges In contrast I give my son s rebbeim a monetary gift with the mishloach manos on Purim and that s it I don t have a relationship with them so I just give what s accepted in my community I decided to ask some teachers how they feel I definitely have to work on myself not to treat the kids that give gifts less fairly says R of Lakewood It doesn t last long but if one parent takes the time to say thank you I m gonna have more positive feelings towards her and her kid Does it feel like a bribe S of North Miami Beach ponders the question Listen it s nice to be appreciated and I definitely feel more positively towards the kids of parents that acknowledge my work But a bribe I don t treat their kids any better because of it She pauses Ok maybe I m more patient with them but nothing more than that What s my take It doesn t really matter tipping is a fact of life So whether you re a proponent or not here s a guide to the ins and outs First a quick quiz Choose the correct statement A Tipping is a voluntary gesture meant to show gratitude B Tipping is an essential obligation and provides part of your provider s wages Answer Tipping is complicated Some industries have a tip credit 40 fyimagazineny com they re legally allowed to pay their servers a lower wage with the expectation that tips will top things off Other providers don t rely on tips but get their hands dirty for you so the gesture is appreciated Still others vary according to location So tip with discretion give according to your budget and ask if you re not sure what s expected of you Do Respect your service provider If you pre tip for better service do so graciously You can t bully me into performing requests against company code says barista Yonatan of Lakewood Some co workers would accept tips from their regulars and bring them their order before their turn in line maybe throw in some small extras they didn t pay for too They didn t last long Tip more if you require special attention or unique assistance If you re using a coupon tip on the full price of the service Ask if you re unsure what s expected of you Don t Include tax in your tip Tip the business owner even if they re providing the service If you receive exceptional service or have great rapport feel free but it s not expected Masseuse P of Detroit says she rarely receives tips when she practices at home but when working at a local physical therapy she receives between 5 20 as tip Place holiday gifts for your postal workers in your mailbox after December 25th Your recipients may have to wait but at least their gifts won t be stolen by scavengers N CATEGORIES In secular circles tips are pretty much set in stone If you re patronizing a frum service provider however the amounts may be lower as tips are typically seen as less of an expectation and more of a generous thank you Tips are also not factored in as much in employee payment structures as in their secular counterparts likely because many frum patrons don t tip Some people will tip 5 for a wash and set says the receptionist of one popular Brooklyn sheitel salon but it s not expected just appreciated BEAUTY Hair shampoo girl 3 5 hairstylist 15 Shaitel wash set 5 optional cut 5 10 optional Hair Removal 20 Manicure Pedicure 10 20 Masseuse 10 15 Other Services 15 20 FOOD Barista Takeout Fast Food Leave your change in the tip jar optional Bartender 1 drink Delivery Grocery Orders or Takeout 10 Restaurant 15 20 TRAVEL Porter airport 1 3 bag hotel 1 2 bag Wheelchair Assistance 3 5 Concierge 5 20 Hotel Housekeeper 2 5 day Room Service 15 20 Drivers bus 1 2 cab or private 10 15 Tour Guides 10 20 MAINTENANCE Furniture Appliance Delivery 5 20 cold drink coffee Mover 20 50 lunch Car Wash 2 5 Emergency Roadside Assistance 3 5 PETS Sitter 10 optional Dog Groomer 15 Dog Walker week s pay at the holidays JEWISH Mohel Halachically mohelim can t ask for payment so they have pretty set tip prices instead usually ranging from 500 1000 and set individually by the mohel Kaparos Swinger 1 5 optional Lulav Ring Maker 1 5 optional Rabbi 50 500 Mishloach Manos usually given on Purim N EVENTS WEDDINGS BAR MITZVAHS AS A GUEST Coat Check 1 item Valet 2 5 AS A HOST If your event is at a frum venue check your contract some include tips as a line item usually 100 500 depending on the scale and scope of your event others leave it to your discretion We include the tip in the contract because if we don t we never see it says the catering manager at an upscale hall in Lakewood Most people are mistaken in thinking the tip goes to the wait staff which we pay fairly they don t need tips The money actually usually goes to paying overhead costs like the secretary s and catering manager s salaries If you re celebrating at a secular venue or using some secular providers in a frum space and tips are not included in the contract use this chart HOSTING COSTS Party Planner 15 Hairstylist 15 20 Makeup Artist 15 20 Musicians 15 Photographer Videographer 100 Catering Manager 200 Chef 100 Waiters 20 each Bartender 10 Limo Driver 15 N HOLIDAYS Some individuals provide their services all year round so tips are not expected at each point of service but are expected annually December with both secular and Jewish holidays is the opportune time to give those tips Keep in mind your service providers ethnicity or religion though they may appreciate the gift at a different time of year If you d rather give a gift than money here are a few ideas toys or books for the provider s family food gifts homemade or bought depending on Kashrus preferences such as fruit chocolate or candy platters or cake and cookies pampering gifts like manicures bath sets or a massage or an accessory like a scarf or jewelry And there s always the infallible gift card CHILDCARE Childcare Education Babysitter Nanny one to two weeks pay 41 fyimagazineny com Evening babysitter One typical night s pay Rebbeim Teachers Assistants Playgroup Directors Usually collected by PTA around Chanukah 20 36 others give small gifts for Rosh Hashanah Chanukah and Purim Bus Driver and Supervisor 10 20 Camp Staff Most camps give recommendations usually 10 50 staff member for day camp 20 50 staff member for summer camp MAINTENANCE Building Superintendent 20 100 Other Building Staff 20 50 Doorman 20 100 Landscaper 20 50 Cleaning Person One week s pay you may want to give a little something around Pesach too Janitor 15 20 Newspaper Delivery 10 30 Parking Attendant 15 25 Personal Trainer 20 50 Handyman 15 40 GOVERNMENT WORKERS Legally government workers cannot receive monetary gifts that includes gift cards and can only receive non perishable gifts with a value of less than 20 You can also give perishable gifts valuing more than 20 if they share them with their co workers Garbage Recycling Collectors Mail Carriers Home Health Aide SEIT Special Educational Itinerant Teacher Occupational Physical Speech Therapists optional
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT HOW MUCH SHOULD I TIP  For an act that is practiced so often, tipping is certainly ...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT take a break Legalities Keep these legalities in mind Mandatory gratuity must be disclosed prior to service in writing or orally In a case of great service you can always up the amount but forgoing the gratuity altogether is a tipping faux pas That tip credit law I mentioned earlier Some states allow employers to pay just 2 50 an hour if their employees receive tips So be generous if you re happy with your service Government workers like postal workers and Department of Education therapists cannot accept monetary gifts if you want to express your thanks buy a cake instead Credit card companies decline excessive charges so some scammers add insane tips to their bill The transaction is declined meal and tip together and the diner walks off with a stolen meal If you re feeling generous pull out your checkbook Tipping on the Thrift You re asked to contribute to a group collection and the amount asked is higher than you can give Be upfront and tell them how much you can contribute or opt out and send a gift instead Homemade gifts show your appreciation in a tangible way and often cost less too Just be sure to consider what your providers would enjoy and what their Kashrus standards are if you re baking something If your provider does a great job but you can only afford the minimum in his presence tell the manager or boss what a great job he did and write an appreciative note The Tipping Point You waited 15 minutes for menus you got an eye roll for the polite request to avoid tree nuts and your water glasses were empty half the meal No tip right Wrong Refusing a tip may not get the message across Your server may think you forgot or that someone else pocketed your change Instead alert the manager fyi T I P T I P H O O R AY Think you re generous in restaurants Try topping these tips 500 X 101 Aaron Collins asked family members to leave a 500 tip at a restaurant in his honor but died suddenly and didn t leave the funds His family collected donations instead and raised enough to give out 101 tips across the country in the span of three years 5 0 0 0 Greg Rubar who d been a waiter for 16 years mentioned to his diners that he d lost his car in a flood One couple whom he d been serving for eight years surprised him with a 5 000 tip to replace the car 10 000 Jessica Osburne was waiting tables at Pizza Hut and shared with a patron that she had to drop out of college due to financial difficulties The patron had just lost her husband and daughter in car accident and gifted Jessica with a 10 000 tip from the settlement enabling her to re enroll 12 000 Stacy Knutson received a tip of 12 000 Thinking it might be dirty money she reported it to the police They told her the cash smelled like drugs and threw her 1 000 for her integrity She filed a lawsuit and they quickly returned the money before the case went to court 92 3 5 0 Tracy Dalton accepted a lottery ticket in place of a tip A good decision it won her close to 200 000 which she split with her tipper He might have been inspired by the following story which took place 11 years earlier 3 0 0 0 0 0 0 Phyllis Penzo split a lottery ticket in place of giving a standard tip She and her regular patron picked out the numbers and won a cool six million dollars together The story is so crazy it inspired a film 42 fyimagazineny com MAKING A MASTERPIECE WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER I am a very lucky parent Years ago building with LEGO or coloring with colored pens and pencils were thought completely odd for anyone above age 12 Today there are some people in their 60s who own huge LEGO collections and adults all over the world have taken up coloring One day one of my kids turned to me and said Ma if you like to color so much with us just color every day Between folding loads of laundry or cooking why not In 2016 sales of adult coloring books exploded in bookstores all over the world What is it about these swirling mandalas patterns and flowers that make them so desirable THERAPEUTIC VS ART THERAPY Some people have confused adult coloring books with art therapy Here s what you need to know According to the American Art Therapy Association art therapy is a mental health profession in which the process of making and creating artwork is used to explore feelings reconcile emotional conflicts foster self awareness manage behavior and addictions develop social skills improve reality orientation reduce anxiety and increase self esteem Sounds like therapy Yes I thought so While art therapy can also be a means of personal expression it is not coloring in a book Coloring itself cannot be called art therapy because art therapy relies on the relationship between the client and the therapist says Marygrace Berberian a certified art therapist and the clinical assistant professor and program coordinator for the Graduate Art Therapy Program at NYU So what is the point While they may not fit the bill as art therapy adult coloring books do offer a host of mental health benefits Coloring definitely has therapeutic potential to reduce anxiety create focus or bring about more mindfulness says Berberian The Huffington Post reported that the prescription of adult coloring stems all the way back to the late and great psychologist Carl Jung He was always ahead of his time Jung used it thinking it would help his patients access their subconscious and new self knowledge We now know that many psychologists suggest it to patients as an alternative to meditation as a means of relaxation and as a calming tool It can help the individual focus on the act of coloring intricate pictures for hours on end vs focusing on intrusive and troubling thoughts Research has shown that people had their anxiety levels lowered while they colored mandalas which are round frames with geometric patterns inside Similar to meditating coloring also helps us to switch off our brains from other thoughts and focus only on the moment helping to alleviate free floating anxiety Berberian continues My experience has been that those participants who are more guarded find a lot of tranquility in coloring an image It feels safer and it creates containment around their process Sara Chana Radcliffe a popular 43 fyimagazineny com psychologist and author of parenting bestseller Make Yourself At Home weighs in These books offer a meditative break Like all forms of active meditation coloring also knitting crocheting painting Zen doodling gardening etc is a very healthy activity A lot of people prefer to zone out this way as opposed to sitting with eyes closed for ten minutes trying to focus on the breath That is a traditional form of meditation which many find impossible to do irritating and or frustrating of course others find it absolutely wonderful Coloring in a picture allows for creativity without pressure there is no skill required The mind and body can relax while focusing on this rhythmic activity A few minutes of down time helps prevent a build up of overwhelming stress In addition some forms of coloring help access and release subconscious material thereby providing a form of psychological healing Similarly coloring stimulates the right brain and the subconscious mind so that inspiration spiritual connectivity creative thinking and out of the box problem solving often occur There is no downside to coloring it s accessible inexpensive pleasant and good for you
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT take   a   break Legalities Keep these legalities in mind      Mandatory gratuity m...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT take a break Legalities Keep these legalities in mind Mandatory gratuity must be disclosed prior to service in writing or orally In a case of great service you can always up the amount but forgoing the gratuity altogether is a tipping faux pas That tip credit law I mentioned earlier Some states allow employers to pay just 2 50 an hour if their employees receive tips So be generous if you re happy with your service Government workers like postal workers and Department of Education therapists cannot accept monetary gifts if you want to express your thanks buy a cake instead Credit card companies decline excessive charges so some scammers add insane tips to their bill The transaction is declined meal and tip together and the diner walks off with a stolen meal If you re feeling generous pull out your checkbook Tipping on the Thrift You re asked to contribute to a group collection and the amount asked is higher than you can give Be upfront and tell them how much you can contribute or opt out and send a gift instead Homemade gifts show your appreciation in a tangible way and often cost less too Just be sure to consider what your providers would enjoy and what their Kashrus standards are if you re baking something If your provider does a great job but you can only afford the minimum in his presence tell the manager or boss what a great job he did and write an appreciative note The Tipping Point You waited 15 minutes for menus you got an eye roll for the polite request to avoid tree nuts and your water glasses were empty half the meal No tip right Wrong Refusing a tip may not get the message across Your server may think you forgot or that someone else pocketed your change Instead alert the manager fyi T I P T I P H O O R AY Think you re generous in restaurants Try topping these tips 500 X 101 Aaron Collins asked family members to leave a 500 tip at a restaurant in his honor but died suddenly and didn t leave the funds His family collected donations instead and raised enough to give out 101 tips across the country in the span of three years 5 0 0 0 Greg Rubar who d been a waiter for 16 years mentioned to his diners that he d lost his car in a flood One couple whom he d been serving for eight years surprised him with a 5 000 tip to replace the car 10 000 Jessica Osburne was waiting tables at Pizza Hut and shared with a patron that she had to drop out of college due to financial difficulties The patron had just lost her husband and daughter in car accident and gifted Jessica with a 10 000 tip from the settlement enabling her to re enroll 12 000 Stacy Knutson received a tip of 12 000 Thinking it might be dirty money she reported it to the police They told her the cash smelled like drugs and threw her 1 000 for her integrity She filed a lawsuit and they quickly returned the money before the case went to court 92 3 5 0 Tracy Dalton accepted a lottery ticket in place of a tip A good decision it won her close to 200 000 which she split with her tipper He might have been inspired by the following story which took place 11 years earlier 3 0 0 0 0 0 0 Phyllis Penzo split a lottery ticket in place of giving a standard tip She and her regular patron picked out the numbers and won a cool six million dollars together The story is so crazy it inspired a film 42 fyimagazineny com MAKING A MASTERPIECE WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER I am a very lucky parent Years ago building with LEGO or coloring with colored pens and pencils were thought completely odd for anyone above age 12 Today there are some people in their 60s who own huge LEGO collections and adults all over the world have taken up coloring One day one of my kids turned to me and said Ma if you like to color so much with us just color every day Between folding loads of laundry or cooking why not In 2016 sales of adult coloring books exploded in bookstores all over the world What is it about these swirling mandalas patterns and flowers that make them so desirable THERAPEUTIC VS ART THERAPY Some people have confused adult coloring books with art therapy Here s what you need to know According to the American Art Therapy Association art therapy is a mental health profession in which the process of making and creating artwork is used to explore feelings reconcile emotional conflicts foster self awareness manage behavior and addictions develop social skills improve reality orientation reduce anxiety and increase self esteem Sounds like therapy Yes I thought so While art therapy can also be a means of personal expression it is not coloring in a book Coloring itself cannot be called art therapy because art therapy relies on the relationship between the client and the therapist says Marygrace Berberian a certified art therapist and the clinical assistant professor and program coordinator for the Graduate Art Therapy Program at NYU So what is the point While they may not fit the bill as art therapy adult coloring books do offer a host of mental health benefits Coloring definitely has therapeutic potential to reduce anxiety create focus or bring about more mindfulness says Berberian The Huffington Post reported that the prescription of adult coloring stems all the way back to the late and great psychologist Carl Jung He was always ahead of his time Jung used it thinking it would help his patients access their subconscious and new self knowledge We now know that many psychologists suggest it to patients as an alternative to meditation as a means of relaxation and as a calming tool It can help the individual focus on the act of coloring intricate pictures for hours on end vs focusing on intrusive and troubling thoughts Research has shown that people had their anxiety levels lowered while they colored mandalas which are round frames with geometric patterns inside Similar to meditating coloring also helps us to switch off our brains from other thoughts and focus only on the moment helping to alleviate free floating anxiety Berberian continues My experience has been that those participants who are more guarded find a lot of tranquility in coloring an image It feels safer and it creates containment around their process Sara Chana Radcliffe a popular 43 fyimagazineny com psychologist and author of parenting bestseller Make Yourself At Home weighs in These books offer a meditative break Like all forms of active meditation coloring also knitting crocheting painting Zen doodling gardening etc is a very healthy activity A lot of people prefer to zone out this way as opposed to sitting with eyes closed for ten minutes trying to focus on the breath That is a traditional form of meditation which many find impossible to do irritating and or frustrating of course others find it absolutely wonderful Coloring in a picture allows for creativity without pressure there is no skill required The mind and body can relax while focusing on this rhythmic activity A few minutes of down time helps prevent a build up of overwhelming stress In addition some forms of coloring help access and release subconscious material thereby providing a form of psychological healing Similarly coloring stimulates the right brain and the subconscious mind so that inspiration spiritual connectivity creative thinking and out of the box problem solving often occur There is no downside to coloring it s accessible inexpensive pleasant and good for you
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT take   a   break Legalities Keep these legalities in mind      Mandatory gratuity m...
GET A HANDLE ON IT TAKING CONTROL Rivkah Kaufman MS Ed LMHC claims A mindful focus on coloring and staying within the lines as well as deciding on a particular image choice of color and coloring tools etc can provide a wonderful source of distraction from anxiety depression and rumination There s also the fact that clients have a hard time with the notion that they can t control what happens to them or sometimes the circumstances of their lives But the contained universe of the coloring task can provide clients with the illusion of control and that leads to a great sense of satisfaction One therapist explained to me that she hosts a monthly group for adults who have suffered a loss At one meeting one attendee suggested they start using coloring books and colored pencils Some of the members were a bit hesitant at first I can t color do I have to stay in the lines Will it be pretty enough In the end they all joined and found it relaxing freeing and rewarding to see their own accomplishments and to have their work admired JEWISH COLORING Los Angeles community is lucky to have the very talented Rae Shagalov master calligrapher who created adult coloring books with messages of ruach and Torah based wisdom Each page joyfully infuses authentic Jewish spirituality I got in touch with Rae and reviewed her masterful coloring book Joyfully Jewish Sample coloring page above Here s her spin on coloring books for adults When the adult coloring craze hit last year I thought Let s make it Jewish Years ago when I was first learning Torah as an adult I realized that what I was learning was so profound that I wanted to take notes in a way that would draw me in to review them often and to share them with others I had just completed a course in calligraphy so I began to create GET A HANDLE ON IT COLORING 2 Artnotes in each Torah class I wrote the essential points of each class in calligraphy and I began to doodle After many years of learning Torah and chassidus by the grace of G d I ve written more than 3 000 pages of these Artnotes I used a selection of some of my best doodles and quotes to create the Joyfully Jewish coloring book Some fans who have reviewed the Joyfully Jewish Family Adult Coloring Book say that they enjoy coloring because it is relaxing meditative and therapeutic They 44 fyimagazineny com are inspired by the beautiful colors and enjoy deciding on color combinations and bringing the pages to life They enjoy playfully engaging in soul searching through meditation by using the medium of a coloring book and colored pencils Winter is setting in and with it many responsibilities and months of hard work without any major break With all the therapeutic benefits explored consider purchasing a coloring book and some pencils for some me time to restore your creativity and focus Happy doodling fyi Use These 3 Psychological Elements to Improve Your Website s Conversions WRITTEN BY BARUCH LEIFER Over the years companies have researched and studied many different behaviors of human interaction with websites to determine which elements on the site lead to better user experience and ultimately conversions Many tests have been done to find the right combinations of visual and content structures 45 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT TAKING CONTROL Rivkah Kaufman, MS. Ed, LMHC, claims   A mindful focus on coloring and staying within th...
GET A HANDLE ON IT TAKING CONTROL Rivkah Kaufman MS Ed LMHC claims A mindful focus on coloring and staying within the lines as well as deciding on a particular image choice of color and coloring tools etc can provide a wonderful source of distraction from anxiety depression and rumination There s also the fact that clients have a hard time with the notion that they can t control what happens to them or sometimes the circumstances of their lives But the contained universe of the coloring task can provide clients with the illusion of control and that leads to a great sense of satisfaction One therapist explained to me that she hosts a monthly group for adults who have suffered a loss At one meeting one attendee suggested they start using coloring books and colored pencils Some of the members were a bit hesitant at first I can t color do I have to stay in the lines Will it be pretty enough In the end they all joined and found it relaxing freeing and rewarding to see their own accomplishments and to have their work admired JEWISH COLORING Los Angeles community is lucky to have the very talented Rae Shagalov master calligrapher who created adult coloring books with messages of ruach and Torah based wisdom Each page joyfully infuses authentic Jewish spirituality I got in touch with Rae and reviewed her masterful coloring book Joyfully Jewish Sample coloring page above Here s her spin on coloring books for adults When the adult coloring craze hit last year I thought Let s make it Jewish Years ago when I was first learning Torah as an adult I realized that what I was learning was so profound that I wanted to take notes in a way that would draw me in to review them often and to share them with others I had just completed a course in calligraphy so I began to create GET A HANDLE ON IT COLORING 2 Artnotes in each Torah class I wrote the essential points of each class in calligraphy and I began to doodle After many years of learning Torah and chassidus by the grace of G d I ve written more than 3 000 pages of these Artnotes I used a selection of some of my best doodles and quotes to create the Joyfully Jewish coloring book Some fans who have reviewed the Joyfully Jewish Family Adult Coloring Book say that they enjoy coloring because it is relaxing meditative and therapeutic They 44 fyimagazineny com are inspired by the beautiful colors and enjoy deciding on color combinations and bringing the pages to life They enjoy playfully engaging in soul searching through meditation by using the medium of a coloring book and colored pencils Winter is setting in and with it many responsibilities and months of hard work without any major break With all the therapeutic benefits explored consider purchasing a coloring book and some pencils for some me time to restore your creativity and focus Happy doodling fyi Use These 3 Psychological Elements to Improve Your Website s Conversions WRITTEN BY BARUCH LEIFER Over the years companies have researched and studied many different behaviors of human interaction with websites to determine which elements on the site lead to better user experience and ultimately conversions Many tests have been done to find the right combinations of visual and content structures 45 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT TAKING CONTROL Rivkah Kaufman, MS. Ed, LMHC, claims   A mindful focus on coloring and staying within th...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT 5 five things SIMPLICITY AND SYMMETRY Our minds prefer the clear simple and orderly as opposed to the complex and complicated Actually our minds kind of turn off when something gets too complicated I guess you can call it brain overload Now imagine you spent all of that time money and effort driving qualified traffic to your site only to have people s brains shut down once they get there Brain overload Not an optimal situation Your site s structure design and content should be super simple Look at it this way if a truck driver can understand it then so can a brain surgeon but not the other way around Make sure your site s structure is clear easy to navigate and in a logical order HUMANS ARE CREATURES OF HABIT A famous principle in psychology states that humans do what they are used to doing Even if a new way of doing something would be better humans will generally choose to just go with the way they are accustomed Sure that cool icon in place of the Buy Now button makes your website stand out and look better than the competitor s site but people click Buy Now buttons more often than they click cool icons Your competition is getting clicks while you are just getting the ooh s and aah s The same goes for the Add to Cart and Checkout buttons as well as menu items such as Pricing and About Us Don t be clever and original when people expect boring and the same OPTICAL ILLUSIONS In the optical illusion above can you tell which line is longer At first glance our brains would have us think that the second line is longer but when they are measured you can see that they are actually the same length Our brains see the shorter route and would choose to take that path So how do we use this optical illusion on our website Buttons Large buttons When a user s mouse is somewhere on the webpage his brain automatically calculates the relative distance to the action buttons A large button will appear to be only 2 4 buttons worth of distance away while a small button could be 10 15 buttons worth of distance 46 fyimagazineny com Unusual Things away from the mouse Sounds ridiculous but it s true Look at all the major sites the buy now or other action buttons are large while the return refund cancel etc buttons usually not even buttons but just little links are small This illusion makes the preferred actions seem close and easy to get to while the non preferred actions seem farther away With these new tips in mind review your site to find areas of improvement Is anything unclear or too complex Does the structure flow smoothly Creating order and simplifying your site will lead to big gains off the bat Is your site too creative to the point that you are losing sales Switch gears and follow the norm of what people are accustomed to and watch the conversions soar Lastly make the good stuff big and the bad stuff small in a nutshell fyi Baruch Leifer is a professional digital marketing specialist To see how Baruch can help your business grow email baruch centsibleclicks com for a FREE consultation Or visit centsibleclicks com TO MAKE IN A Slow Cooker Crock Pot Cook N Carry 6 Quart Oval Manual Portable Slow Cooker Stainless Steel WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER amazon com 29 50 You d never believe life in the slow lane can be so much fun Try these for some comfort foods in those nasty winter days ahead Some of these make your home smell so delicious it is worth it just for that 1 BAKED POTATOES Instead of getting home from work and baking those potatoes then have them waiting for you RUB each potato with some olive oil and sprinkle kosher salt Then WRAP it in foil and seal each potato individually PLACE in Crockpot cover and cook on high for 4 5 hours or on low for 8 10 hours just until it is soft Overcooking may cause it to get soggy 47 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  5  five   things  SIMPLICITY AND SYMMETRY  Our minds prefer the clear, simple and ...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT 5 five things SIMPLICITY AND SYMMETRY Our minds prefer the clear simple and orderly as opposed to the complex and complicated Actually our minds kind of turn off when something gets too complicated I guess you can call it brain overload Now imagine you spent all of that time money and effort driving qualified traffic to your site only to have people s brains shut down once they get there Brain overload Not an optimal situation Your site s structure design and content should be super simple Look at it this way if a truck driver can understand it then so can a brain surgeon but not the other way around Make sure your site s structure is clear easy to navigate and in a logical order HUMANS ARE CREATURES OF HABIT A famous principle in psychology states that humans do what they are used to doing Even if a new way of doing something would be better humans will generally choose to just go with the way they are accustomed Sure that cool icon in place of the Buy Now button makes your website stand out and look better than the competitor s site but people click Buy Now buttons more often than they click cool icons Your competition is getting clicks while you are just getting the ooh s and aah s The same goes for the Add to Cart and Checkout buttons as well as menu items such as Pricing and About Us Don t be clever and original when people expect boring and the same OPTICAL ILLUSIONS In the optical illusion above can you tell which line is longer At first glance our brains would have us think that the second line is longer but when they are measured you can see that they are actually the same length Our brains see the shorter route and would choose to take that path So how do we use this optical illusion on our website Buttons Large buttons When a user s mouse is somewhere on the webpage his brain automatically calculates the relative distance to the action buttons A large button will appear to be only 2 4 buttons worth of distance away while a small button could be 10 15 buttons worth of distance 46 fyimagazineny com Unusual Things away from the mouse Sounds ridiculous but it s true Look at all the major sites the buy now or other action buttons are large while the return refund cancel etc buttons usually not even buttons but just little links are small This illusion makes the preferred actions seem close and easy to get to while the non preferred actions seem farther away With these new tips in mind review your site to find areas of improvement Is anything unclear or too complex Does the structure flow smoothly Creating order and simplifying your site will lead to big gains off the bat Is your site too creative to the point that you are losing sales Switch gears and follow the norm of what people are accustomed to and watch the conversions soar Lastly make the good stuff big and the bad stuff small in a nutshell fyi Baruch Leifer is a professional digital marketing specialist To see how Baruch can help your business grow email baruch centsibleclicks com for a FREE consultation Or visit centsibleclicks com TO MAKE IN A Slow Cooker Crock Pot Cook N Carry 6 Quart Oval Manual Portable Slow Cooker Stainless Steel WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER amazon com 29 50 You d never believe life in the slow lane can be so much fun Try these for some comfort foods in those nasty winter days ahead Some of these make your home smell so delicious it is worth it just for that 1 BAKED POTATOES Instead of getting home from work and baking those potatoes then have them waiting for you RUB each potato with some olive oil and sprinkle kosher salt Then WRAP it in foil and seal each potato individually PLACE in Crockpot cover and cook on high for 4 5 hours or on low for 8 10 hours just until it is soft Overcooking may cause it to get soggy 47 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  5  five   things  SIMPLICITY AND SYMMETRY  Our minds prefer the clear, simple and ...
GET A HANDLE ON IT 4 SIMMER POT Use it instead of a simmer pot and simmer your favorite smells FILL the Crockpot with water and put spices or citrus in it TURN it on low and let it go for as you long as you please Keep adding water if you need to 2 CARAMEL POPCORN SNACK MIX Not guaranteed to last This is a favorite of all who taste it Here s what you will need 1 2 cup butter 3 4 cup brown sugar 1 3 cup honey 1 teaspoon vanilla extract optional 7 cups popped popcorn 1 cup pretzels 1 1 2 cups almonds or peanuts if you prefer TURN Crockpot on high and place the butter sugar honey and vanilla in it WAIT until all melted about 20 minutes Then GENTLY STIR in the popcorn and almonds COVER and cook on high for one hour stirring every 15 20 minutes REMOVE cover and cook on low for an additional 30 minutes stirring occasionally SPREAD onto a parchment lined cookie sheet to cool for 15 minutes 3 CARAMELIZED ONIONS For the smell alone it is all worth it Besides no need to stir for an hour SLICE onions thinly and toss in the Crockpot You can fill it about full DRIZZLE oil over the top and toss until it is evenly coated Then COVER and cook on LOW for 12 hours until onions caramelize Of course they will shrink maybe even more than in a pot But they become a deep brown color and develop a sweet and intense flavor You can use this on cold rainy or snowy days just to keep your house smelling comforting or to remove the scent of fried or old food from your kitchen Some suggestions of things to simmer cinnamon orange peel lemons slices lavender dry spearmint leaves cloves or vanilla Do a mix of some of these if you prefer as well 5 BAKED APPLES PUT cup water on the bottom of the Crockpot SET your Crockpot on high and bake your apples with cinnamon and sugar for about three hours or until they are soft and begin collapsing You can CORE the apples and add chocolate in the center too for an extra comforting treat SERVE with ice cream Yum Can you make something routine seem like the highlight of your day It s the little things that matter These steps make EVERY SMALL GESTURE WORTH THE WORLD TO YOU Why suffer alone when there s a new baby in your arms The experience postpartum of should carrying not be and caring tinted by for your anxiety or child guilt HOW DO WE CHANGE IT What can be worse than a bad hair day Finding nits and lice could make it immeasurably harder Combing may be the obvious method of treatment but we ve got the tools and more 48 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT  4  SIMMER POT Use it instead of a simmer pot and simmer your favorite smells.     FILL the Crockpot wi...
GET A HANDLE ON IT 4 SIMMER POT Use it instead of a simmer pot and simmer your favorite smells FILL the Crockpot with water and put spices or citrus in it TURN it on low and let it go for as you long as you please Keep adding water if you need to 2 CARAMEL POPCORN SNACK MIX Not guaranteed to last This is a favorite of all who taste it Here s what you will need 1 2 cup butter 3 4 cup brown sugar 1 3 cup honey 1 teaspoon vanilla extract optional 7 cups popped popcorn 1 cup pretzels 1 1 2 cups almonds or peanuts if you prefer TURN Crockpot on high and place the butter sugar honey and vanilla in it WAIT until all melted about 20 minutes Then GENTLY STIR in the popcorn and almonds COVER and cook on high for one hour stirring every 15 20 minutes REMOVE cover and cook on low for an additional 30 minutes stirring occasionally SPREAD onto a parchment lined cookie sheet to cool for 15 minutes 3 CARAMELIZED ONIONS For the smell alone it is all worth it Besides no need to stir for an hour SLICE onions thinly and toss in the Crockpot You can fill it about full DRIZZLE oil over the top and toss until it is evenly coated Then COVER and cook on LOW for 12 hours until onions caramelize Of course they will shrink maybe even more than in a pot But they become a deep brown color and develop a sweet and intense flavor You can use this on cold rainy or snowy days just to keep your house smelling comforting or to remove the scent of fried or old food from your kitchen Some suggestions of things to simmer cinnamon orange peel lemons slices lavender dry spearmint leaves cloves or vanilla Do a mix of some of these if you prefer as well 5 BAKED APPLES PUT cup water on the bottom of the Crockpot SET your Crockpot on high and bake your apples with cinnamon and sugar for about three hours or until they are soft and begin collapsing You can CORE the apples and add chocolate in the center too for an extra comforting treat SERVE with ice cream Yum Can you make something routine seem like the highlight of your day It s the little things that matter These steps make EVERY SMALL GESTURE WORTH THE WORLD TO YOU Why suffer alone when there s a new baby in your arms The experience postpartum of should carrying not be and caring tinted by for your anxiety or child guilt HOW DO WE CHANGE IT What can be worse than a bad hair day Finding nits and lice could make it immeasurably harder Combing may be the obvious method of treatment but we ve got the tools and more 48 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT  4  SIMMER POT Use it instead of a simmer pot and simmer your favorite smells.     FILL the Crockpot wi...
The Secret to a Happy Marriage WRITTEN BY SARA FREED IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING Those of you that live in a major city have likely seen this phrase before Repeatedly I know that it s everywhere in New York City It is a trademark of Homeland Security that encourages you to report suspicious activity They want you on the look out They want you paying attention Stop overlooking things in your everyday life see them And when you do see something suspicious they ask that you speak up immediately 50 fyimagazineny com 51 fyimagazineny com
The Secret to a  Happy Marriage WRITTEN BY SARA FREED  IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING. Those of you that live in a ma...
The Secret to a Happy Marriage WRITTEN BY SARA FREED IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING Those of you that live in a major city have likely seen this phrase before Repeatedly I know that it s everywhere in New York City It is a trademark of Homeland Security that encourages you to report suspicious activity They want you on the look out They want you paying attention Stop overlooking things in your everyday life see them And when you do see something suspicious they ask that you speak up immediately 50 fyimagazineny com 51 fyimagazineny com
The Secret to a  Happy Marriage WRITTEN BY SARA FREED  IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING. Those of you that live in a ma...
Most of us get the importance of this If you witnessed suspicious activity you wouldn t wait You would say something immediately You would take action to protect the future of your city To protect your neighbors To protect your family And the language on their website actually makes this pretty simple It s easy to take for granted the routine moments in our everyday going to work or school the grocery store or the gas station Isn t that the truth But it doesn t have to be that way Be aware Be on the look out Really pay attention to the positive moments with your spouse see them And when you see something say something Immediately Don t wait If you wait you re likely to forget about it amidst the sea of million to do s in your mind Share your admiration for your spouse Tell them what you appreciate Let them know that they did something great and that you noticed That it matters When you do this you are taking action to protect the future of your relationship STEP UP TO THE CHALLENGE MAKE A COMMITMENT TO EXPRESSING YOUR APPRECIATION AND ADMIRATION Make a Note In the beginning it can help to jot things down You can use a little notepad a computer file or an app on your smartphone Then when it comes time to share you won t feel as pressured You will have a list to draw from if your memory fails you HERE ARE A FEW TEMPLATES TO GET YOU STARTED I appreciated it when you I noticed when you You really bring the family together when you You made my life easier when It always makes me smile when I really admire how you Thank you for I was so proud of the way you Step it Up At the start of your relationship expressing your admiration and appreciation to your partner is often easy You thank them for the small things and shower them with compliments But over time you get comfortable You settle in You forget to put into words what you love about your partner You take one another for granted If you ve fallen out of the habit of expressing your admiration and appreciation it can be hard to restart This is especially true if you are going through tough times Step up to the challenge Make a commitment to expressing your appreciation and admiration THERE ARE ONLY THREE RULES 1 You must express one appreciation or admiration each and every day 2 You must express it in person 52 fyimagazineny com I was impressed when you I love how you always You make me feel loved when 3 You must express it verbally No texting phone calls or written notes By writing it down you will also have something to refer to on days you simply haven t been paying enough attention We all have the occasional day where we are too stressed or harried to really see our partners We are too focused on simply trying to survive and meet our own needs On those days you will have a list of more general appreciations to share But this list will also serve as a reminder that you are part of a team You don t have to go it alone It will remind you of all the ways big and small that your partner contributes to your success and happiness REAPING THE REWARDS By taking up this daily practice you are also encouraging your partner to do more of what you I know many of you are cringing right now I ll be honest it will feel like homework at first The idea may even sound a little silly It may feel awkward You may feel pressured when it is your turn to say something I know because that is how I felt when I first put this into practice in my own marriage But over time it becomes a habit It is actually very easy to do And it is so enhancing to your relationship You may be surprised by how much you look forward to the time of day when you both share those thoughts The key is to actively pay attention Really see your partner and their contributions to your relationship your family and your happiness 53 fyimagazineny com love and require Your compliment rewards their positive behavior And they will naturally seek out more ways to earn that reward This is why it can be especially valuable to explain why you appreciate or admire something It made your day easier It boosted your mood It allowed you to focus on the kids When your partner understands the reasons behind your feelings it can help him or her uncover more ways to support you For example you share your appreciation that your partner helped out with the dishes You explain that it really made a difference for you at the end of a hard day with the kids Your spouse may not have realized how exhausted you feel And it may encourage him or her to continue doing the dishes in the evening or even take on additional household tasks to alleviate the burden Consider this too when listening to your spouse s admirations and appreciations Really listen Use them to become an even better partner Once the practice of sharing appreciations and admirations becomes second nature you will find it easier to embrace see something say something You will more easily notice those positive things in your relationship And you will feel empowered to put them into words
Most of us get the importance of this. If you witnessed suspicious activity, you wouldn   t wait. You would say something ...
Most of us get the importance of this If you witnessed suspicious activity you wouldn t wait You would say something immediately You would take action to protect the future of your city To protect your neighbors To protect your family And the language on their website actually makes this pretty simple It s easy to take for granted the routine moments in our everyday going to work or school the grocery store or the gas station Isn t that the truth But it doesn t have to be that way Be aware Be on the look out Really pay attention to the positive moments with your spouse see them And when you see something say something Immediately Don t wait If you wait you re likely to forget about it amidst the sea of million to do s in your mind Share your admiration for your spouse Tell them what you appreciate Let them know that they did something great and that you noticed That it matters When you do this you are taking action to protect the future of your relationship STEP UP TO THE CHALLENGE MAKE A COMMITMENT TO EXPRESSING YOUR APPRECIATION AND ADMIRATION Make a Note In the beginning it can help to jot things down You can use a little notepad a computer file or an app on your smartphone Then when it comes time to share you won t feel as pressured You will have a list to draw from if your memory fails you HERE ARE A FEW TEMPLATES TO GET YOU STARTED I appreciated it when you I noticed when you You really bring the family together when you You made my life easier when It always makes me smile when I really admire how you Thank you for I was so proud of the way you Step it Up At the start of your relationship expressing your admiration and appreciation to your partner is often easy You thank them for the small things and shower them with compliments But over time you get comfortable You settle in You forget to put into words what you love about your partner You take one another for granted If you ve fallen out of the habit of expressing your admiration and appreciation it can be hard to restart This is especially true if you are going through tough times Step up to the challenge Make a commitment to expressing your appreciation and admiration THERE ARE ONLY THREE RULES 1 You must express one appreciation or admiration each and every day 2 You must express it in person 52 fyimagazineny com I was impressed when you I love how you always You make me feel loved when 3 You must express it verbally No texting phone calls or written notes By writing it down you will also have something to refer to on days you simply haven t been paying enough attention We all have the occasional day where we are too stressed or harried to really see our partners We are too focused on simply trying to survive and meet our own needs On those days you will have a list of more general appreciations to share But this list will also serve as a reminder that you are part of a team You don t have to go it alone It will remind you of all the ways big and small that your partner contributes to your success and happiness REAPING THE REWARDS By taking up this daily practice you are also encouraging your partner to do more of what you I know many of you are cringing right now I ll be honest it will feel like homework at first The idea may even sound a little silly It may feel awkward You may feel pressured when it is your turn to say something I know because that is how I felt when I first put this into practice in my own marriage But over time it becomes a habit It is actually very easy to do And it is so enhancing to your relationship You may be surprised by how much you look forward to the time of day when you both share those thoughts The key is to actively pay attention Really see your partner and their contributions to your relationship your family and your happiness 53 fyimagazineny com love and require Your compliment rewards their positive behavior And they will naturally seek out more ways to earn that reward This is why it can be especially valuable to explain why you appreciate or admire something It made your day easier It boosted your mood It allowed you to focus on the kids When your partner understands the reasons behind your feelings it can help him or her uncover more ways to support you For example you share your appreciation that your partner helped out with the dishes You explain that it really made a difference for you at the end of a hard day with the kids Your spouse may not have realized how exhausted you feel And it may encourage him or her to continue doing the dishes in the evening or even take on additional household tasks to alleviate the burden Consider this too when listening to your spouse s admirations and appreciations Really listen Use them to become an even better partner Once the practice of sharing appreciations and admirations becomes second nature you will find it easier to embrace see something say something You will more easily notice those positive things in your relationship And you will feel empowered to put them into words
Most of us get the importance of this. If you witnessed suspicious activity, you wouldn   t wait. You would say something ...
PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE Going Solo What if your partner doesn t want to join in Then I urge you to do it alone Even if one partner takes up the practice it can have a powerful impact on a relationship I know this can make you feel incredibly vulnerable It can feel like you are giving up your power Why should I share what s so great about him when he isn t doing the same for me Why should I tell him what I appreciate when we still have so many problems to work on But this is your ego Don t let your pride get in the way of moving your relationship forward Be brave Put yourself out there Fight for a great marriage You deserve it Once you have let your walls down you may be surprised by your partner s willingness to participate too I often say it doesn t take two to tango If one gets started often the other eventually joins the dance But take up the practice without any expectations Without an ulterior motive Your only goal should be to make your partner feel valued and loved You don t want your partner to feel guilty or pressured into joining in You simply want them to feel invited to do so when and if they are ready Just know that you are investing in your joint success by taking up the practice of sharing daily admirations and appreciations You are making a space for your spouse to join you You are creating an opportunity And by changing your behavior you will change your partner s behavior You are giving them something different to react to You may be surprised by how much more effective it is to call out the things your partner does right than the things they do wrong And the FIGHT FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE YOU DESERVE IT more your partner feels valued and loved the safer they will feel to be vulnerable with you YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP I want to repeat the simple phrase here so it stays in your mind long after reading this article If you see something say something I ve seen couples in great distress turn their relationship around entirely by embracing this idea When we put the focus on catching our partner doing right we shift the way we view our entire relationship We find what we seek And we encourage what we acknowledge The more you both focus and express the positive the less power the negative has over you You can weather bigger storms You can survive greater catastrophes That s because you each will know that the other appreciates and admires you You both will feel loved and respected even at the darkest of times And isn t that the most powerful thing we can offer one another fyi Dr John Gottman founder of The Gottman Institute discovered the magic ratio for a happy marriage Five positive interactions to every one negative interaction If you dip below that range your marriage will likely experience trouble Not quite buying it I hear you Love and relationships aren t supposed to be so scientific And everyone s different right How can one magic ratio cover everyone Simple answer it doesn t Of course there are couples who break the mold But consider this By using his magic ratio Gottman was able to predict divorce with 94 accuracy In other words this is powerful information to have Now it s probably no surprise that unhappy couples have more negative than positive interactions But even stable relationships have negative interactions After all we re human We have different ideas about things We have bad days We disagree And those things can lead to arguments and yes fights Negative interactions But what you may not have realized is how the power of your positive interactions can help you survive the troubled times It is your regular positive interactions that keep you bonded to one another Positivity nourishes your relationship Think about it like a bank Each positive interaction you have is deposited into an account If you make enough positive deposits you have somewhere to draw from when things get tough These positive interactions can come in many forms They can be small and simple like smiling laughing listening and expressing concern or they can be bigger and more involved like giving gifts and doing favors for each other However a particularly powerful type of positive interaction is paying compliments One couple I work with implemented the practice of expressing an appreciation or admiration to each other daily The wife shared with me a story of how she was doing the dishes one day and her husband spent the time with her two daughters He went out of his way to bring them together for quality bonding time Afterward she thanked him She shared with him how much she appreciated that he nurtured the connection that brings their Sara Freed is a professional Jewish relationship and marriage coach based in Brooklyn New York By drawing on the wisdom of Judaism and implementing her training in the Gottman Method Sara believes that every couple can learn the necessary skills to turn a struggling relationship into a thriving relationship www sarafreed com 54 fyimagazineny com 55 fyimagazineny com family together She told him how sweet he had been with the girls But what she said next really struck a chord with me She thought about how sad it was that before she took up the practice of expressing appreciations and admirations regularly those thoughts would have gone unsaid That moment would have paid unrecognized Her spouse would never have known how meaningful his actions were to her In our hectic lives it is so easy to let these small powerful moments pass without comment But despite what we all believe from time to time your partner doesn t know what you re thinking When those admiring thoughts go unsaid your partner can feel unloved unappreciated and undervalued even when the exact opposite is true
PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE.  Going Solo What if your partner doesn   t want to join in  Then I urge you to do it alone. Even i...
PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE Going Solo What if your partner doesn t want to join in Then I urge you to do it alone Even if one partner takes up the practice it can have a powerful impact on a relationship I know this can make you feel incredibly vulnerable It can feel like you are giving up your power Why should I share what s so great about him when he isn t doing the same for me Why should I tell him what I appreciate when we still have so many problems to work on But this is your ego Don t let your pride get in the way of moving your relationship forward Be brave Put yourself out there Fight for a great marriage You deserve it Once you have let your walls down you may be surprised by your partner s willingness to participate too I often say it doesn t take two to tango If one gets started often the other eventually joins the dance But take up the practice without any expectations Without an ulterior motive Your only goal should be to make your partner feel valued and loved You don t want your partner to feel guilty or pressured into joining in You simply want them to feel invited to do so when and if they are ready Just know that you are investing in your joint success by taking up the practice of sharing daily admirations and appreciations You are making a space for your spouse to join you You are creating an opportunity And by changing your behavior you will change your partner s behavior You are giving them something different to react to You may be surprised by how much more effective it is to call out the things your partner does right than the things they do wrong And the FIGHT FOR A GREAT MARRIAGE YOU DESERVE IT more your partner feels valued and loved the safer they will feel to be vulnerable with you YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CHANGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP I want to repeat the simple phrase here so it stays in your mind long after reading this article If you see something say something I ve seen couples in great distress turn their relationship around entirely by embracing this idea When we put the focus on catching our partner doing right we shift the way we view our entire relationship We find what we seek And we encourage what we acknowledge The more you both focus and express the positive the less power the negative has over you You can weather bigger storms You can survive greater catastrophes That s because you each will know that the other appreciates and admires you You both will feel loved and respected even at the darkest of times And isn t that the most powerful thing we can offer one another fyi Dr John Gottman founder of The Gottman Institute discovered the magic ratio for a happy marriage Five positive interactions to every one negative interaction If you dip below that range your marriage will likely experience trouble Not quite buying it I hear you Love and relationships aren t supposed to be so scientific And everyone s different right How can one magic ratio cover everyone Simple answer it doesn t Of course there are couples who break the mold But consider this By using his magic ratio Gottman was able to predict divorce with 94 accuracy In other words this is powerful information to have Now it s probably no surprise that unhappy couples have more negative than positive interactions But even stable relationships have negative interactions After all we re human We have different ideas about things We have bad days We disagree And those things can lead to arguments and yes fights Negative interactions But what you may not have realized is how the power of your positive interactions can help you survive the troubled times It is your regular positive interactions that keep you bonded to one another Positivity nourishes your relationship Think about it like a bank Each positive interaction you have is deposited into an account If you make enough positive deposits you have somewhere to draw from when things get tough These positive interactions can come in many forms They can be small and simple like smiling laughing listening and expressing concern or they can be bigger and more involved like giving gifts and doing favors for each other However a particularly powerful type of positive interaction is paying compliments One couple I work with implemented the practice of expressing an appreciation or admiration to each other daily The wife shared with me a story of how she was doing the dishes one day and her husband spent the time with her two daughters He went out of his way to bring them together for quality bonding time Afterward she thanked him She shared with him how much she appreciated that he nurtured the connection that brings their Sara Freed is a professional Jewish relationship and marriage coach based in Brooklyn New York By drawing on the wisdom of Judaism and implementing her training in the Gottman Method Sara believes that every couple can learn the necessary skills to turn a struggling relationship into a thriving relationship www sarafreed com 54 fyimagazineny com 55 fyimagazineny com family together She told him how sweet he had been with the girls But what she said next really struck a chord with me She thought about how sad it was that before she took up the practice of expressing appreciations and admirations regularly those thoughts would have gone unsaid That moment would have paid unrecognized Her spouse would never have known how meaningful his actions were to her In our hectic lives it is so easy to let these small powerful moments pass without comment But despite what we all believe from time to time your partner doesn t know what you re thinking When those admiring thoughts go unsaid your partner can feel unloved unappreciated and undervalued even when the exact opposite is true
PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE.  Going Solo What if your partner doesn   t want to join in  Then I urge you to do it alone. Even i...
THE LICE FIGHT W hether you re squeamish or not I m going to go ahead and say that you absolutely would not want to deal with a lice problem in your home Yet the school year has started and close contact with other children will inevitably lead to some of them generously sharing bugs they ve picked from their friends and family Luckily for you we ve got a plethora of tips and ideas that might work if one won t another one surely will WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER 56 fyimagazineny com 57 fyimagazineny com
THE  LICE FIGHT W  hether you   re squeamish or not, I   m going to go ahead and say that you absolutely would not want to...
THE LICE FIGHT W hether you re squeamish or not I m going to go ahead and say that you absolutely would not want to deal with a lice problem in your home Yet the school year has started and close contact with other children will inevitably lead to some of them generously sharing bugs they ve picked from their friends and family Luckily for you we ve got a plethora of tips and ideas that might work if one won t another one surely will WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER 56 fyimagazineny com 57 fyimagazineny com
THE  LICE FIGHT W  hether you   re squeamish or not, I   m going to go ahead and say that you absolutely would not want to...
THE PROBLEM People have been scratching their heads over this lousy problem pardon the pun I did not come up with this one since the beginning of time and everywhere in the world and we still have not found a perfect solution Head lice or pediculosis humanis capitis have been around as long as humans have ancient tombs in Israel Egypt Peru and elsewhere have been found with mummies or bodies buried with nit combs some with lice still on them The hardy little parasites are found wherever there is a human head for them to feast on braving even the cold of Siberia To counter two myths at a time lice prefer neither dirty hair nor clean hair they just want a warm scalp that will prove to be an ample blood supply and they ignore the socio economic status of their victims Imagine that lice the true equalizers of mankind Luckily unlike their body lice relatives head lice have not been proven to transmit disease in developed countries in Ethiopia they have been spreading typhus and trench fever While they are a huge nuisance and a big pain to get rid of at least they aren t dangerous PREVENTION Lice are really small and hard to detect and the nits or eggs are even harder so the first measure of defense is to go on the offense and try to prevent them altogether The most basic preventative measure is to teach your kids to avoid head to head contact with others as this is the most common way lice are transmitted Many people mistakenly believe that lice will jump from head to head however lice cannot jump they crawl Children should also avoid sharing hair accessories and brushes and keep long hair tied back as much as possible Of course enforcing the no heads touching rule in affectionate younger kids that like to hug and tend to stand close together can be really hard which is where lice repellent comes in The experienced moms I spoke to all had their own go to that worked for their family Esther said For prevention or to stop spreading wash with shampoo conditioner and comb out thoroughly 2 3 nights a week The kids get used to this and it really doesn t take more than a few minutes per head if kept under control Combing regularly is a good idea because if you catch lice while they are still young nymphs before they mature and start laying eggs you can stop the cycle before it has begun in earnest To comb hair for lice whether to prevent them from spreading or to get rid of them you need to use a good metal nits comb the plastic ones that come with many nits medications will NOT do the trick Some combs that were recommended were the ASSY 2000 Nisska LiceMeister and the Terminator According to the CDC Many flea combs made for cats and dogs are also effective It takes a week or so before lice grow from nymphs into adults so combing once a week is a great prevention method T W said What I find efficient is when I use the detangler spray that has rosemary Use it every morning on each child and if I run out of it well I know there will be lice It prevents but once they re in it doesn t help Rochel agreed that rosemary was effective with her kids as well My girls used to have very long hair Surprisingly they never had lice The schools and preschools check the girls hair once a month and they always got a completely clean report No lice no nits One day I got fed up with the amount of time it took each morning to brush through all the long hair and cut it all into cute short bobs Surprise surprise suddenly they were catching lice I couldn t figure it out Long hair makes it easier to get lice but here they were becoming infested with their short hairstyles It took a while to figure it out When they had long hair I used to use a detangling spray from Dr Fisher Sarekal in Hebrew to make it easier to comb out the knots The spray contained rosemary which is said to prevent lice Once their hair was short it wasn t knotty anymore so I stopped using the spray Lo and behold they got lice While many women found that rosemary helped them Rivka said that she never found preventative spray to help much Chana uses neem seed oil and tea tree oil both popular among moms who try to prevent the infestation While she did not mention how to use it the most common method I ve read is to put a drop into shampoos Keep in mind though that these sprays and oils are all unregulated by the FDA and may cause irritation in some children or dryness in their hair Use with caution TACKLING THE PROBLEM HEAD ON What if prevention does not work G d forbid But it happens You move on to the next step which is actually dealing with the creepy crawlies In order to do this effectively this is what you need to know Know what to look for nits which are whitish grey tan or brownish yellow pear shaped blobs 58 fyimagazineny com IT TAKES A WEEK OR SO BEFORE LICE GROW FROM NYMPHS INTO ADULTS SO COMBING ONCE A WEEK IS A GREAT PREVENTION METHOD that are relatively the size of a grain of sand The nits will be laid as close to the scalp as possible nits that are white or more than a few inches away from the scalp have either already hatched or are not viable Dandruff or hairspray flakes are often mistaken for nits but nits are glued with lice cement if you can get it off the hair easily it isn t a nit If you found nits there may or may not be lice Do NOT treat the hair with medications meant for lice unless you are certain lice are present Once the nits are 9 10 days old they will hatch into nymphs which are a smaller cuter no really not version of adult lice The important thing about nymphs is that they cannot lay eggs if you kill them before they do you can save yourself a heap of trouble Adult head lice are a grayish white or tan color that turns to dull red when they are freshly fed off your blood Gross right It gets worse the females mate as soon as they can find a partner then spend the rest of their lives laying eggs as many as five to ten per day for the duration of their lifetime which is about thirty days Then as you can imagine those eggs hatch and turn to nymphs and the merry cycle continues One or two lice on your head can quickly become a serious infestation if it is not dealt with right away Another thing to be aware of is symptoms The basic premise is don t look for symptoms but just keep checking The most obvious one would be itching but the itching which is an allergic reaction to lice saliva may not set in for at least a week or two or possibly never About 53 of people with lice don t itch at all Once you have found lice how do you treat them There are many different ways You can go back to the old standard dousing the hair in kerosene and shaving off most of it but putting flammables in the 59 fyimagazineny com
THE PROBLEM People have been scratching their heads over this lousy problem  pardon the pun, I did not come up with this o...
THE PROBLEM People have been scratching their heads over this lousy problem pardon the pun I did not come up with this one since the beginning of time and everywhere in the world and we still have not found a perfect solution Head lice or pediculosis humanis capitis have been around as long as humans have ancient tombs in Israel Egypt Peru and elsewhere have been found with mummies or bodies buried with nit combs some with lice still on them The hardy little parasites are found wherever there is a human head for them to feast on braving even the cold of Siberia To counter two myths at a time lice prefer neither dirty hair nor clean hair they just want a warm scalp that will prove to be an ample blood supply and they ignore the socio economic status of their victims Imagine that lice the true equalizers of mankind Luckily unlike their body lice relatives head lice have not been proven to transmit disease in developed countries in Ethiopia they have been spreading typhus and trench fever While they are a huge nuisance and a big pain to get rid of at least they aren t dangerous PREVENTION Lice are really small and hard to detect and the nits or eggs are even harder so the first measure of defense is to go on the offense and try to prevent them altogether The most basic preventative measure is to teach your kids to avoid head to head contact with others as this is the most common way lice are transmitted Many people mistakenly believe that lice will jump from head to head however lice cannot jump they crawl Children should also avoid sharing hair accessories and brushes and keep long hair tied back as much as possible Of course enforcing the no heads touching rule in affectionate younger kids that like to hug and tend to stand close together can be really hard which is where lice repellent comes in The experienced moms I spoke to all had their own go to that worked for their family Esther said For prevention or to stop spreading wash with shampoo conditioner and comb out thoroughly 2 3 nights a week The kids get used to this and it really doesn t take more than a few minutes per head if kept under control Combing regularly is a good idea because if you catch lice while they are still young nymphs before they mature and start laying eggs you can stop the cycle before it has begun in earnest To comb hair for lice whether to prevent them from spreading or to get rid of them you need to use a good metal nits comb the plastic ones that come with many nits medications will NOT do the trick Some combs that were recommended were the ASSY 2000 Nisska LiceMeister and the Terminator According to the CDC Many flea combs made for cats and dogs are also effective It takes a week or so before lice grow from nymphs into adults so combing once a week is a great prevention method T W said What I find efficient is when I use the detangler spray that has rosemary Use it every morning on each child and if I run out of it well I know there will be lice It prevents but once they re in it doesn t help Rochel agreed that rosemary was effective with her kids as well My girls used to have very long hair Surprisingly they never had lice The schools and preschools check the girls hair once a month and they always got a completely clean report No lice no nits One day I got fed up with the amount of time it took each morning to brush through all the long hair and cut it all into cute short bobs Surprise surprise suddenly they were catching lice I couldn t figure it out Long hair makes it easier to get lice but here they were becoming infested with their short hairstyles It took a while to figure it out When they had long hair I used to use a detangling spray from Dr Fisher Sarekal in Hebrew to make it easier to comb out the knots The spray contained rosemary which is said to prevent lice Once their hair was short it wasn t knotty anymore so I stopped using the spray Lo and behold they got lice While many women found that rosemary helped them Rivka said that she never found preventative spray to help much Chana uses neem seed oil and tea tree oil both popular among moms who try to prevent the infestation While she did not mention how to use it the most common method I ve read is to put a drop into shampoos Keep in mind though that these sprays and oils are all unregulated by the FDA and may cause irritation in some children or dryness in their hair Use with caution TACKLING THE PROBLEM HEAD ON What if prevention does not work G d forbid But it happens You move on to the next step which is actually dealing with the creepy crawlies In order to do this effectively this is what you need to know Know what to look for nits which are whitish grey tan or brownish yellow pear shaped blobs 58 fyimagazineny com IT TAKES A WEEK OR SO BEFORE LICE GROW FROM NYMPHS INTO ADULTS SO COMBING ONCE A WEEK IS A GREAT PREVENTION METHOD that are relatively the size of a grain of sand The nits will be laid as close to the scalp as possible nits that are white or more than a few inches away from the scalp have either already hatched or are not viable Dandruff or hairspray flakes are often mistaken for nits but nits are glued with lice cement if you can get it off the hair easily it isn t a nit If you found nits there may or may not be lice Do NOT treat the hair with medications meant for lice unless you are certain lice are present Once the nits are 9 10 days old they will hatch into nymphs which are a smaller cuter no really not version of adult lice The important thing about nymphs is that they cannot lay eggs if you kill them before they do you can save yourself a heap of trouble Adult head lice are a grayish white or tan color that turns to dull red when they are freshly fed off your blood Gross right It gets worse the females mate as soon as they can find a partner then spend the rest of their lives laying eggs as many as five to ten per day for the duration of their lifetime which is about thirty days Then as you can imagine those eggs hatch and turn to nymphs and the merry cycle continues One or two lice on your head can quickly become a serious infestation if it is not dealt with right away Another thing to be aware of is symptoms The basic premise is don t look for symptoms but just keep checking The most obvious one would be itching but the itching which is an allergic reaction to lice saliva may not set in for at least a week or two or possibly never About 53 of people with lice don t itch at all Once you have found lice how do you treat them There are many different ways You can go back to the old standard dousing the hair in kerosene and shaving off most of it but putting flammables in the 59 fyimagazineny com
THE PROBLEM People have been scratching their heads over this lousy problem  pardon the pun, I did not come up with this o...
hair is always a terrible idea and I m pretty sure you re not going to go for the shaving option unless you are absolutely desperate First things first when you find lice on one kid check the rest of the family That way you can make sure everyone is treated at once There are always over the counter medications and shampoos which work for some people The problem is that lice have become immune to some of these treatments They are worth a shot but if you still find live lice in the hair a day or two later try something else Do not repeat the same treatment twice Always follow the treatment exactly as directed many need to be repeated after ten days to ensure that any nits that survived to hatch will be caught in the next onslaught Constant combing is necessary for at least an entire month to make sure the lice are truly gone TRIED AND TRUE HOME REMEDIES Don t think you can drown them in the bathtub lice can survive for up to 24 hours completely immersed in water Hardy little buggers indeed Another don t is using extremely hot water in the shower to kill the lice it may work but it can also seriously hurt your child Many women rely on home remedies instead of commercial products which they feel are full of harmful chemicals they would rather not use on their kids Someone I know recommends a solution of olive oil vinegar and alcohol dip the ASSY 2000 comb in this and run it through the hair After doing this for a few days the lice and nits should slide out Also using a hair dryer is a good alternative to hot water the lice are supposed to die from the heat claimed one mom The gentlest method is to completely slather a good quality conditioner into the hair then comb each section with a Nisska comb said Esty This method is actually the only one that everyone agrees is effective but it is painstaking work and most people prefer to do it in conjunction with other methods Tova cautions You should however work with a sheet on your lap and wash it and your clothing after a buggy session Otherwise you will shortly find a surprise in your own hair For nits alcohol dissolves the glue that makes nits adhere to the head As a preschool teacher I saw a kid with a head full of nits one day and a completely clean head the next day said Yehudit The alcohol probably helped to dry up the nits as well something many over the counter medications fail to do Use alcohol only if the person hasn t scratched his head too much causing the skin to break G from Israel had several ideas After living in Eretz Yisrael for many years I finally got this piece of advice from my Israeli neighbor She told me to put a mixture of oil and vinegar in my daughter s hair and leave it in for half an hour then after washing it out MY EXPERIENCE HAS BEEN THAT YOU CAN T PREVENT LICE BUT YOU CAN CERTAINLY GET BETTER AND CALMER ABOUT GETTING RID OF THEM 60 fyimagazineny com ANY LICE FOUND ON PILLOWS OR THE LIKE ARE OLD THEY LIVE APPROXIMATELY ONE MONTH DROPPING OFF TO DIE AND ARE NEVER ABLE TO REESTABLISH THEMSELVES BACK ONTO HAIR comb with a good quality comb This makes it much easier to get out the bugs and the eggs repeat this for a few days and there should be a remarkable difference It is super important to keep checking every few days for a while just to make sure there was nothing missed It sounds pretty yucky to put this salad dressing in someone s hair but after many products were tried this was the most effective and cheap alternative Alternatively there is a product on the Israeli market called Hedrin which suffocates the lice and the eggs without chemicals it is silicone I find that this is also incredibly effective just more expensive it costs about 40 NIS and again it must be followed up just in case something is missed Chany touted the use of margarine I can tell you what my mother did when we had lice She took margarine smeared it onto our heads and wrapped them in Saran Wrap overnight The next morning she combed us out and everything was dead and came slipping out Then it was a long bath to take all the grease out Thinking back I m amazed at my mother s dedication Many people have effectively used this method by wrapping the hair in a shower cap or Saran Wrap overnight with mayonnaise margarine coconut oil etc If you try this please be extremely careful that the plastic wrap stays off your child s face There has already been one case of suffocation that started out as a lice remedy Other cures I ve heard of are baby oil saline spray hand sanitizer and even peanut butter The good news is that you DON T have to run around your house spring cleaning As Barbra Shenkin of livinglicefree co uk wrote in a letter to Mishpacha Magazine earlier this year with regards to the fact about clothes sheets pillowcases NO NO and NO It is never necessary to wash boil or nuke them Head lice need to feed six or seven times a day by piercing the scalp and sucking the blood and will only leave their food source when they need another good food supply e g someone else s head Any lice found on pillows or the like are old they live approximately one month dropping off to die and are never able to reestablish themselves back onto hair It can happen that if active lice are removed for example by a hairbrush they can live off the hair for many hours from personal testing I ve found this to be only up to 24 hours Nevertheless after missing a couple of meals these lice will be too weak to reestablish themselves So DON T SHARE HAIRBRUSHES S ure dealing with lice sounds awfully intimidating but it really doesn t have to be As Miriam points out My experience has been that you can t prevent lice but you can certainly get better and calmer about getting rid of them I wish you all to never have to make use of these tips Now please excuse me while I go off to scratch my head I ve been uncommonly itchy since I started to research this article and the condition may have passed over to you fyi 61 fyimagazineny com
hair is always a terrible idea, and I   m pretty sure you   re not going to go for the shaving option unless you are absol...
hair is always a terrible idea and I m pretty sure you re not going to go for the shaving option unless you are absolutely desperate First things first when you find lice on one kid check the rest of the family That way you can make sure everyone is treated at once There are always over the counter medications and shampoos which work for some people The problem is that lice have become immune to some of these treatments They are worth a shot but if you still find live lice in the hair a day or two later try something else Do not repeat the same treatment twice Always follow the treatment exactly as directed many need to be repeated after ten days to ensure that any nits that survived to hatch will be caught in the next onslaught Constant combing is necessary for at least an entire month to make sure the lice are truly gone TRIED AND TRUE HOME REMEDIES Don t think you can drown them in the bathtub lice can survive for up to 24 hours completely immersed in water Hardy little buggers indeed Another don t is using extremely hot water in the shower to kill the lice it may work but it can also seriously hurt your child Many women rely on home remedies instead of commercial products which they feel are full of harmful chemicals they would rather not use on their kids Someone I know recommends a solution of olive oil vinegar and alcohol dip the ASSY 2000 comb in this and run it through the hair After doing this for a few days the lice and nits should slide out Also using a hair dryer is a good alternative to hot water the lice are supposed to die from the heat claimed one mom The gentlest method is to completely slather a good quality conditioner into the hair then comb each section with a Nisska comb said Esty This method is actually the only one that everyone agrees is effective but it is painstaking work and most people prefer to do it in conjunction with other methods Tova cautions You should however work with a sheet on your lap and wash it and your clothing after a buggy session Otherwise you will shortly find a surprise in your own hair For nits alcohol dissolves the glue that makes nits adhere to the head As a preschool teacher I saw a kid with a head full of nits one day and a completely clean head the next day said Yehudit The alcohol probably helped to dry up the nits as well something many over the counter medications fail to do Use alcohol only if the person hasn t scratched his head too much causing the skin to break G from Israel had several ideas After living in Eretz Yisrael for many years I finally got this piece of advice from my Israeli neighbor She told me to put a mixture of oil and vinegar in my daughter s hair and leave it in for half an hour then after washing it out MY EXPERIENCE HAS BEEN THAT YOU CAN T PREVENT LICE BUT YOU CAN CERTAINLY GET BETTER AND CALMER ABOUT GETTING RID OF THEM 60 fyimagazineny com ANY LICE FOUND ON PILLOWS OR THE LIKE ARE OLD THEY LIVE APPROXIMATELY ONE MONTH DROPPING OFF TO DIE AND ARE NEVER ABLE TO REESTABLISH THEMSELVES BACK ONTO HAIR comb with a good quality comb This makes it much easier to get out the bugs and the eggs repeat this for a few days and there should be a remarkable difference It is super important to keep checking every few days for a while just to make sure there was nothing missed It sounds pretty yucky to put this salad dressing in someone s hair but after many products were tried this was the most effective and cheap alternative Alternatively there is a product on the Israeli market called Hedrin which suffocates the lice and the eggs without chemicals it is silicone I find that this is also incredibly effective just more expensive it costs about 40 NIS and again it must be followed up just in case something is missed Chany touted the use of margarine I can tell you what my mother did when we had lice She took margarine smeared it onto our heads and wrapped them in Saran Wrap overnight The next morning she combed us out and everything was dead and came slipping out Then it was a long bath to take all the grease out Thinking back I m amazed at my mother s dedication Many people have effectively used this method by wrapping the hair in a shower cap or Saran Wrap overnight with mayonnaise margarine coconut oil etc If you try this please be extremely careful that the plastic wrap stays off your child s face There has already been one case of suffocation that started out as a lice remedy Other cures I ve heard of are baby oil saline spray hand sanitizer and even peanut butter The good news is that you DON T have to run around your house spring cleaning As Barbra Shenkin of livinglicefree co uk wrote in a letter to Mishpacha Magazine earlier this year with regards to the fact about clothes sheets pillowcases NO NO and NO It is never necessary to wash boil or nuke them Head lice need to feed six or seven times a day by piercing the scalp and sucking the blood and will only leave their food source when they need another good food supply e g someone else s head Any lice found on pillows or the like are old they live approximately one month dropping off to die and are never able to reestablish themselves back onto hair It can happen that if active lice are removed for example by a hairbrush they can live off the hair for many hours from personal testing I ve found this to be only up to 24 hours Nevertheless after missing a couple of meals these lice will be too weak to reestablish themselves So DON T SHARE HAIRBRUSHES S ure dealing with lice sounds awfully intimidating but it really doesn t have to be As Miriam points out My experience has been that you can t prevent lice but you can certainly get better and calmer about getting rid of them I wish you all to never have to make use of these tips Now please excuse me while I go off to scratch my head I ve been uncommonly itchy since I started to research this article and the condition may have passed over to you fyi 61 fyimagazineny com
hair is always a terrible idea, and I   m pretty sure you   re not going to go for the shaving option unless you are absol...
I WAS HER SHE WAS ME BREAKING BARRIERS IN PRENATAL POSTPARTUM ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION WRITTEN BY NURIT SIEGAL
I WAS  HER   SHE WAS ME. BREAKING BARRIERS IN PRENATAL   POSTPARTUM ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION WRITTEN BY NURIT SIEGAL
I WAS HER SHE WAS ME BREAKING BARRIERS IN PRENATAL POSTPARTUM ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION WRITTEN BY NURIT SIEGAL
I WAS  HER   SHE WAS ME. BREAKING BARRIERS IN PRENATAL   POSTPARTUM ANXIETY AND DEPRESSION WRITTEN BY NURIT SIEGAL
was standing at the bottom of the three flights of stairs that led up to my apartment gazing hesitantly upward Every day it was the same trip but every day I hovered over the first step a little longer I grabbed a handful of grocery bags in my left hand a slightly heavier handful in my right and began my slow treacherous hike to the summit Nope It was not going to happen I had to take a break on the first landing step I texted my husband to just you know let him know what I was going through I breathed in Okay Here we go I made it to the last step but I couldn t get to the door I collapsed on the top landing and closed my eyes for a minute Maybe I could just order Chinese and eat it there Clutching the railing for balance I stood myself up to unlock the apartment and a sense of accomplishment coursed through me I let the groceries crash onto the floor and collapsed onto the couch No one told me I d feel like a mountain climber at eight months pregnant The treacherous stairs though were the least of my problems I had this paralyzing yet jittery sensation in my chest that would sometimes f lare up so unforgivingly I wouldn t be able to get up from my chair My mind was occupied with a million fears thoughts like I m going to disappoint everyone by wanting space and privacy after the baby I should be glowing and excited but instead I m miserable to be around If I can t handle pregnancy I have no chance at motherhood When I didn t know what do anymore I registered for a prenatal yoga class as an attempt to decompress There was something about being in a room full of other women who could barely touch their knees that comforted me For the last ten minutes of every session we would have a guided meditation and I would just lie there very still with my eyes fixed on the ceiling and tears rolling down my face The anxiety was like a demon inside of me It wasn t me yet it was in me and taking over and I was deeply ashamed that I wasn t strong enough to control or stop it I became religious in college and believed that my anxiety in pregnancy stemmed from my spiritual shortcomings If only I could handle stress with more emunah daven with more kavanah plan a more productive and meaningful day I could overcome this burden I would think about my holy great grandmothers and how they must have had more important things to deal with than to waste time on anxiety I would think about all of the wives of the rabbanim who were mekarev me and how well they seemed to manage a kindergarten s worth of children frequent guests and happy homes It was only my 64 fyimagazineny com first pregnancy and I could barely manage to cook kosher ramen noodles for dinner It took me a while to realize that I was far from alone After my own first experience I began hearing from friends and acquaintances about their struggles with anxiety and depression both prenatal and postpartum I was always shocked Everyone else looked so perfectly blissful to me It turns out that no matter who you are or what you ve accomplished life can feel like it s falling apart during this vulnerable time You may have to quit your job because the anxiety has stolen your ability to concentrate You may develop insomnia from racing thoughts at night or feel unable to care for your home during the day Anxiety and depression can impact your marriage as you and your husband experience tension from the growing responsibilities high expectations and unexpressed resentments It can become a sort of paralysis rendering you unable to leave the house or enjoy friends As one mother shared with me I absolutely felt alone Everyone expects you to be happy I literally couldn t keep it together I couldn t read listen to music had no interest in spending time with people no love towards my toddler Before I understood how many of us struggle I thought I was the only one who felt high maintenance and selfish during postpartum Everyone wants to see the baby and as mothers we often feel an obligation to allow everyone to visit even when we desperately need time alone to recover from emotional and physical pain I have talked to women who have had panic attacks while people sang to the baby in another room who have cried uncontrollably while a phone in their hands rang non stop who have left a room in tears while guests whispered Do you think she has postpartum depression It s happened millions of times mothers sitting on their beds in their nursing chairs locked in their bathrooms crying and panicking alone while the living room fills up with people who have come to play with the beautiful baby As one young mother confessed When the guests left I sat down on my parents basement steps and started crying so hard I could barely breathe My poor husband was like Huh What s wrong You were fine one second ago and I couldn t even answer I felt like speaking one more word would be too much effort for me 65 fyimagazineny com
was standing at the bottom of the three flights of stairs that led up to my apartment, gazing hesitantly upward. Every day...
was standing at the bottom of the three flights of stairs that led up to my apartment gazing hesitantly upward Every day it was the same trip but every day I hovered over the first step a little longer I grabbed a handful of grocery bags in my left hand a slightly heavier handful in my right and began my slow treacherous hike to the summit Nope It was not going to happen I had to take a break on the first landing step I texted my husband to just you know let him know what I was going through I breathed in Okay Here we go I made it to the last step but I couldn t get to the door I collapsed on the top landing and closed my eyes for a minute Maybe I could just order Chinese and eat it there Clutching the railing for balance I stood myself up to unlock the apartment and a sense of accomplishment coursed through me I let the groceries crash onto the floor and collapsed onto the couch No one told me I d feel like a mountain climber at eight months pregnant The treacherous stairs though were the least of my problems I had this paralyzing yet jittery sensation in my chest that would sometimes f lare up so unforgivingly I wouldn t be able to get up from my chair My mind was occupied with a million fears thoughts like I m going to disappoint everyone by wanting space and privacy after the baby I should be glowing and excited but instead I m miserable to be around If I can t handle pregnancy I have no chance at motherhood When I didn t know what do anymore I registered for a prenatal yoga class as an attempt to decompress There was something about being in a room full of other women who could barely touch their knees that comforted me For the last ten minutes of every session we would have a guided meditation and I would just lie there very still with my eyes fixed on the ceiling and tears rolling down my face The anxiety was like a demon inside of me It wasn t me yet it was in me and taking over and I was deeply ashamed that I wasn t strong enough to control or stop it I became religious in college and believed that my anxiety in pregnancy stemmed from my spiritual shortcomings If only I could handle stress with more emunah daven with more kavanah plan a more productive and meaningful day I could overcome this burden I would think about my holy great grandmothers and how they must have had more important things to deal with than to waste time on anxiety I would think about all of the wives of the rabbanim who were mekarev me and how well they seemed to manage a kindergarten s worth of children frequent guests and happy homes It was only my 64 fyimagazineny com first pregnancy and I could barely manage to cook kosher ramen noodles for dinner It took me a while to realize that I was far from alone After my own first experience I began hearing from friends and acquaintances about their struggles with anxiety and depression both prenatal and postpartum I was always shocked Everyone else looked so perfectly blissful to me It turns out that no matter who you are or what you ve accomplished life can feel like it s falling apart during this vulnerable time You may have to quit your job because the anxiety has stolen your ability to concentrate You may develop insomnia from racing thoughts at night or feel unable to care for your home during the day Anxiety and depression can impact your marriage as you and your husband experience tension from the growing responsibilities high expectations and unexpressed resentments It can become a sort of paralysis rendering you unable to leave the house or enjoy friends As one mother shared with me I absolutely felt alone Everyone expects you to be happy I literally couldn t keep it together I couldn t read listen to music had no interest in spending time with people no love towards my toddler Before I understood how many of us struggle I thought I was the only one who felt high maintenance and selfish during postpartum Everyone wants to see the baby and as mothers we often feel an obligation to allow everyone to visit even when we desperately need time alone to recover from emotional and physical pain I have talked to women who have had panic attacks while people sang to the baby in another room who have cried uncontrollably while a phone in their hands rang non stop who have left a room in tears while guests whispered Do you think she has postpartum depression It s happened millions of times mothers sitting on their beds in their nursing chairs locked in their bathrooms crying and panicking alone while the living room fills up with people who have come to play with the beautiful baby As one young mother confessed When the guests left I sat down on my parents basement steps and started crying so hard I could barely breathe My poor husband was like Huh What s wrong You were fine one second ago and I couldn t even answer I felt like speaking one more word would be too much effort for me 65 fyimagazineny com
was standing at the bottom of the three flights of stairs that led up to my apartment, gazing hesitantly upward. Every day...
e live in a society where perfectionism and absolute independence in motherhood is celebrated The United States is the only industrialized country where working mothers and fathers have no guarantee of paid leave after the birth of a baby Mothers are expected to stay at home alone to care for their newborn and any other children to make multiple trips to medical appointments and to return to work as soon as possible On top of that there is constant pressure to do everything right to have the right birth plan to be overjoyed the moment the baby is born to host family soon afterwards and to commit to breastfeeding even if it brings tremendous pain and anxiety Ruchi Koval the inspiring writer behind the blog Out of The Ortho Box put it best when she said to me Everyone giving free advice postpartum was very upsetting to me It made me feel disempowered as a woman I would have liked someone to tell me Inside of every woman is a wise intu itive person who has a lot of the answers Most of this is just what feels right to you listen to your gut It s very hard to stay attentive to ourselves and our needs when everyone expects something else from us One mother wrote to me about falling apart from all of the advice and expectations Right before I was having my in laws sleep over for Shabbos I had an appointment with a lactation consultant She told me I had to nurse feed pumped milk feed formula and pump at every feeding It was not at all sustainable That night with everyone in my apartment I broke down My baby was being held by someone else and I went to the armchair in her room and just cried The tears flowed down my cheeks All my anxiety and worry came to the forefront and I just couldn t stop crying I was still physically recovering nursing there were way too many people in my apartment I just couldn t cope There s a certain sense in society that everyone has babies and is im 66 fyimagazineny com mediately smitten That was not the case with me I think I was too overwhelmed and exhausted to feel love The pressure we feel to sacrifice ourselves often takes precedence over any instinct to rest say no or ask for space or for company When a mother of two told me that after her second baby she and her husband worked together to keep guests at bay and put away her cellphone for two weeks only checking for urgent messages I was blown away Seldom do we hear about these kinds of boundaries Instead we assume that the strongest women among us have no need to relax ask for help request privacy or take a break from the constant caring of others Whenever I would speak to a friend about the challenges of pregnancy and motherhood the conversation would interestingly turn to this particular question How were our great grandmothers so strong How did they know how to handle all of these real life responsibilities so gracefully while our generation seems incapacitated by the very same role Many of us particularly in the frum community subscribe to a notion that as women of this modern upside down world we are substantially weaker than previous generations But I would like to suggest that perhaps we ve taken this idea too far While it s absolutely true that we have been burdened with unprecedented spiritual and physical obstacles that should in no way be minimized perhaps it s possible we believe that our foremothers as well as our holiest rebbetzins of today did not suffer in the ways we do now Instead we assume they had emunah at all times that they took care of ten children with one hand and their home and the community with the other that they never felt sadness or anger in their marriages because they could always subdue those feelings for the sake of shalom bayis that depression anxiety and loneliness during and after pregnancy simply did not exist 67 fyimagazineny com
e live in a society where perfectionism and absolute independence in motherhood is celebrated. The United States is the on...
e live in a society where perfectionism and absolute independence in motherhood is celebrated The United States is the only industrialized country where working mothers and fathers have no guarantee of paid leave after the birth of a baby Mothers are expected to stay at home alone to care for their newborn and any other children to make multiple trips to medical appointments and to return to work as soon as possible On top of that there is constant pressure to do everything right to have the right birth plan to be overjoyed the moment the baby is born to host family soon afterwards and to commit to breastfeeding even if it brings tremendous pain and anxiety Ruchi Koval the inspiring writer behind the blog Out of The Ortho Box put it best when she said to me Everyone giving free advice postpartum was very upsetting to me It made me feel disempowered as a woman I would have liked someone to tell me Inside of every woman is a wise intu itive person who has a lot of the answers Most of this is just what feels right to you listen to your gut It s very hard to stay attentive to ourselves and our needs when everyone expects something else from us One mother wrote to me about falling apart from all of the advice and expectations Right before I was having my in laws sleep over for Shabbos I had an appointment with a lactation consultant She told me I had to nurse feed pumped milk feed formula and pump at every feeding It was not at all sustainable That night with everyone in my apartment I broke down My baby was being held by someone else and I went to the armchair in her room and just cried The tears flowed down my cheeks All my anxiety and worry came to the forefront and I just couldn t stop crying I was still physically recovering nursing there were way too many people in my apartment I just couldn t cope There s a certain sense in society that everyone has babies and is im 66 fyimagazineny com mediately smitten That was not the case with me I think I was too overwhelmed and exhausted to feel love The pressure we feel to sacrifice ourselves often takes precedence over any instinct to rest say no or ask for space or for company When a mother of two told me that after her second baby she and her husband worked together to keep guests at bay and put away her cellphone for two weeks only checking for urgent messages I was blown away Seldom do we hear about these kinds of boundaries Instead we assume that the strongest women among us have no need to relax ask for help request privacy or take a break from the constant caring of others Whenever I would speak to a friend about the challenges of pregnancy and motherhood the conversation would interestingly turn to this particular question How were our great grandmothers so strong How did they know how to handle all of these real life responsibilities so gracefully while our generation seems incapacitated by the very same role Many of us particularly in the frum community subscribe to a notion that as women of this modern upside down world we are substantially weaker than previous generations But I would like to suggest that perhaps we ve taken this idea too far While it s absolutely true that we have been burdened with unprecedented spiritual and physical obstacles that should in no way be minimized perhaps it s possible we believe that our foremothers as well as our holiest rebbetzins of today did not suffer in the ways we do now Instead we assume they had emunah at all times that they took care of ten children with one hand and their home and the community with the other that they never felt sadness or anger in their marriages because they could always subdue those feelings for the sake of shalom bayis that depression anxiety and loneliness during and after pregnancy simply did not exist 67 fyimagazineny com
e live in a society where perfectionism and absolute independence in motherhood is celebrated. The United States is the on...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes All Things Kitchen ut I wonder Are we missing something Does this image of our holiest women do justice to the dark personal battles they waged Are we simply imposing on them our own desire for perfection and imperviousness I asked my good friend Dr Danielle Dragon a therapist in Chicago for her thoughts on this idea of simplifying the experiences and lives of other women to the detriment of our own well being She explained As a society we frequently take a polarized view of ourselves and the world Meaning we believe our ancestors must have been complete martyrs and that our neighbor who s expecting has it totally together During times of stress and certainly during postpartum anxiety and depression this polarized view of life intensifies We use language like How is it my friend can have a perfectly prepared Shabbos meal and look immaculate and I behave like a total mess It increases our feelings of inadequacy and difference from our peers mentors and foremothers It only serves to expand an irrational system of isolating and shame based beliefs that can deepen an experience of postpartum anxiety and depression Additionally for many women therapy and or medication may be necessary to navigate this scary and confusing journey and that s okay too After my second daughter was born I desperately struggled to manage life as a mother of two I worked up the courage to talk to a very well respected rebbetzin about the helplessness I had felt in both pregnancy and in motherhood even though I knew she wouldn t be able to relate But instead of just nodding politely she told me how much she had experienced those same feelings while raising her babies She told me how much help she regularly needed from others even though it made her feel guilty She offered stories of when she felt angry or alone or when everything seemed to fall apart I was her and she was me We were both young mothers in that conversation talking about our experiences that fell short of an unrealistic fantasy of motherhood We have to redefine courage It s not self destruction and infinite sacrifice It s seeking help when you need it It s sharing your story with others when they need it We can strive to become who we want to be while encouraging one another to be okay with where we are But ignoring our pain is a recipe for isolation We all have a role in creating a healthier community We re in this together fyi 68 fyimagazineny com Cake Cheats It s that time of year The novelty of Yom Tov recipe experimentation has worn off Simple and easy is the name of the game If you are going to prepare a sweet and comforting pastry this spread is your destination Dare we say It s a piece of cake RECIPES BY CHAIA FRISHMAN
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes   All Things Kitchen  ut I wonder  Are we missing something  Does this image of our holiest ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes All Things Kitchen ut I wonder Are we missing something Does this image of our holiest women do justice to the dark personal battles they waged Are we simply imposing on them our own desire for perfection and imperviousness I asked my good friend Dr Danielle Dragon a therapist in Chicago for her thoughts on this idea of simplifying the experiences and lives of other women to the detriment of our own well being She explained As a society we frequently take a polarized view of ourselves and the world Meaning we believe our ancestors must have been complete martyrs and that our neighbor who s expecting has it totally together During times of stress and certainly during postpartum anxiety and depression this polarized view of life intensifies We use language like How is it my friend can have a perfectly prepared Shabbos meal and look immaculate and I behave like a total mess It increases our feelings of inadequacy and difference from our peers mentors and foremothers It only serves to expand an irrational system of isolating and shame based beliefs that can deepen an experience of postpartum anxiety and depression Additionally for many women therapy and or medication may be necessary to navigate this scary and confusing journey and that s okay too After my second daughter was born I desperately struggled to manage life as a mother of two I worked up the courage to talk to a very well respected rebbetzin about the helplessness I had felt in both pregnancy and in motherhood even though I knew she wouldn t be able to relate But instead of just nodding politely she told me how much she had experienced those same feelings while raising her babies She told me how much help she regularly needed from others even though it made her feel guilty She offered stories of when she felt angry or alone or when everything seemed to fall apart I was her and she was me We were both young mothers in that conversation talking about our experiences that fell short of an unrealistic fantasy of motherhood We have to redefine courage It s not self destruction and infinite sacrifice It s seeking help when you need it It s sharing your story with others when they need it We can strive to become who we want to be while encouraging one another to be okay with where we are But ignoring our pain is a recipe for isolation We all have a role in creating a healthier community We re in this together fyi 68 fyimagazineny com Cake Cheats It s that time of year The novelty of Yom Tov recipe experimentation has worn off Simple and easy is the name of the game If you are going to prepare a sweet and comforting pastry this spread is your destination Dare we say It s a piece of cake RECIPES BY CHAIA FRISHMAN
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes   All Things Kitchen  ut I wonder  Are we missing something  Does this image of our holiest ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Strawberry Apple Dump Cake Dump cake may not have the most flattering name but it is a dessert that brings raves The name cake is a bit deceptive though and some people prefer to call it a version of cobbler instead It s so easy to prepare you can train the little ones to make it Dessert is done 1 box yellow cake mix 15 25 oz 1 can 21 oz strawberry pie filling 1 can 21 oz apple pie filling 1 stick margarine melted PREHEAT oven to 350 degrees SPRAY inside of 9 13 casserole with non stick cooking spray EMPTY cans of fruit filling into bottom of baking dish and spread evenly IN A SEPARATE BOWL mix cake mix and melted margarine till crumbly Break up big crumbs POUR crumble mixture over filling in baking dish and disperse evenly BAKE for 30 minutes or until sides are hot and bubbly 70 fyimagazineny com 71 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Strawberry Apple Dump Cake Dump cake may not have the most flattering name, ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Strawberry Apple Dump Cake Dump cake may not have the most flattering name but it is a dessert that brings raves The name cake is a bit deceptive though and some people prefer to call it a version of cobbler instead It s so easy to prepare you can train the little ones to make it Dessert is done 1 box yellow cake mix 15 25 oz 1 can 21 oz strawberry pie filling 1 can 21 oz apple pie filling 1 stick margarine melted PREHEAT oven to 350 degrees SPRAY inside of 9 13 casserole with non stick cooking spray EMPTY cans of fruit filling into bottom of baking dish and spread evenly IN A SEPARATE BOWL mix cake mix and melted margarine till crumbly Break up big crumbs POUR crumble mixture over filling in baking dish and disperse evenly BAKE for 30 minutes or until sides are hot and bubbly 70 fyimagazineny com 71 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Strawberry Apple Dump Cake Dump cake may not have the most flattering name, ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Lemon Coconut Poke Cake Poke cakes are simple and fun to make This is one recipe but once you see the concept you can substitute any flavor cake and cream This one is an ironic mixture of prepared junk food but a healthy substitute for chemical filled whipped cream 1 lemon cake mix or your favorite lemon cake recipe 1 Package of lemon jello One can coconut milk Shredded coconut 1 tablespoon lemon zest CHILL a can of coconut milk in the refrigerator overnight Place mixer beaters in the refrigerator too so they will be cold when mixing TAKE THE CAN of coconut milk out of the refrigerator and carefully remove the coconut that has floated to the top PUT it in the mixer and using cold beaters mix until cream has formed REFRIGERATE until needed BAKE lemon cake in any form you like and leave to cool on counter USING a straw poke holes one inch apart in the cake and remove the cake through the straw Kind of like digging cake holes PREPARE one package of yellow jello recipe When slightly cooled pour over cooled cake SPREAD coconut cream across cake and garnish with shredded coconut and lemon zest 72 fyimagazineny com 73 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Lemon Coconut Poke Cake Poke cakes are simple and fun to make. This is one r...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Lemon Coconut Poke Cake Poke cakes are simple and fun to make This is one recipe but once you see the concept you can substitute any flavor cake and cream This one is an ironic mixture of prepared junk food but a healthy substitute for chemical filled whipped cream 1 lemon cake mix or your favorite lemon cake recipe 1 Package of lemon jello One can coconut milk Shredded coconut 1 tablespoon lemon zest CHILL a can of coconut milk in the refrigerator overnight Place mixer beaters in the refrigerator too so they will be cold when mixing TAKE THE CAN of coconut milk out of the refrigerator and carefully remove the coconut that has floated to the top PUT it in the mixer and using cold beaters mix until cream has formed REFRIGERATE until needed BAKE lemon cake in any form you like and leave to cool on counter USING a straw poke holes one inch apart in the cake and remove the cake through the straw Kind of like digging cake holes PREPARE one package of yellow jello recipe When slightly cooled pour over cooled cake SPREAD coconut cream across cake and garnish with shredded coconut and lemon zest 72 fyimagazineny com 73 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Lemon Coconut Poke Cake Poke cakes are simple and fun to make. This is one r...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Chocolate Espresso Mug Cake At 11 p m I often think about what I can eat that is sweet comforting and available at that crazy hour I want something between a chocolate bar and an ice cream sundae and I want it NOW Does less than two minutes fit the bill Oh yeah Now if only I could make this and not be affected by the espresso in the recipe 4 tablespoons flour 4 tablespoons sugar 2 tablespoons cocoa 1 teaspoon espresso powder or instant coffee teaspoon baking powder 3 tablespoons oil Pinch salt One egg room temperature teaspoon vanilla 1 tablespoon milk or water 1 teaspoon chocolate chips Whipped cream IN A LARGE microwave safe mug whisk all the dry ingredients ADD all wet ingredients except for milk and whisk well till all ingredients are evenly distributed DROP in chocolate chips SPRINKLE milk COOK in microwave for one minute and a half add some time if cake has not risen to the top It should be slightly wet but not totally raw DON T overbake Let cool SERVE with whipped cream 74 fyimagazineny com 75 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Chocolate Espresso Mug Cake At 11 p.m., I often think about what I can eat t...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Chocolate Espresso Mug Cake At 11 p m I often think about what I can eat that is sweet comforting and available at that crazy hour I want something between a chocolate bar and an ice cream sundae and I want it NOW Does less than two minutes fit the bill Oh yeah Now if only I could make this and not be affected by the espresso in the recipe 4 tablespoons flour 4 tablespoons sugar 2 tablespoons cocoa 1 teaspoon espresso powder or instant coffee teaspoon baking powder 3 tablespoons oil Pinch salt One egg room temperature teaspoon vanilla 1 tablespoon milk or water 1 teaspoon chocolate chips Whipped cream IN A LARGE microwave safe mug whisk all the dry ingredients ADD all wet ingredients except for milk and whisk well till all ingredients are evenly distributed DROP in chocolate chips SPRINKLE milk COOK in microwave for one minute and a half add some time if cake has not risen to the top It should be slightly wet but not totally raw DON T overbake Let cool SERVE with whipped cream 74 fyimagazineny com 75 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Chocolate Espresso Mug Cake At 11 p.m., I often think about what I can eat t...
COUNTERTOP APPLIANCES PART I BIG APPLIANCES FOR BIG TASKS SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Stop WAITING to LOSE WEIGHT I need to lose weight THEN my life will get better GET THIS THAT IS TOTALLY FALSE IF YOU ARE READY TO A L L T H I N G S KITCHEN WRITTEN BY PERSONAL CHEF SARA CHANA GRUSKIN If you had space for only five electrical countertop appliances in your kitchen I would tell you to choose these five Whether you re clearing out a cluttered kitchen or setting one up from scratch these appliances are endlessly useful and worth the money and space o o o o o End the overeating and dieting cycle NOW Stop distracted eating NOW Make peace with your body and food NOW Trust yourself once again NOW Learn to enjoy food as you connect to the intuitive eater within NOW THEN I CAN HELP YOU FEEL GOOD NOW AND SO MUCH MORE Mind OVE munchie Intuitive Eating Coach Rena Reiser Presents A FREE TELECONFERENCE CLASS WEDNESDAY NOV 2ND 1 00 PM EST JOIN US REGISTER FOR THE FREE CLASS 347 871 1848 www mindovermunchies com rena mindovermunchies com Intuitive Eating gives me clarity in all areas of my life not just with food KitchenAidProfessional 5 plus Series Stand Mixer bestbuy com 250 00 1 STANDING MIXER The legendary stand mixer is something an avid cook baker or chef cannot live without What is it about the stand mixer that makes it a necessity in your kitchen Standing mixers like those made by Mixmasters take mixing to a whole new level Kneading thick heavy bread doughs or mixing cake batters by hand can exhaust your arms The stand mixer is here to relieve you The average standing mixer is powered with a 400 watt motor to spare your upper arms that intense workout and also saves on food prep time These mixers are extremely versatile with many attachment options like the familiar paddle dough hook or whisk Some brands have more sophisticated attachments like a pasta maker meat grinder spiralizer and the list goes 76 fyimagazineny com The Perfect Gift on and on Attachments help you power through your toughest kitchen tasks With the purchase of a splash guard you can keep yourself clean and covered eliminating a whole lot of mess There are many options for standing mixers and there are also plenty of off brands available out there as well as the legendary Bosch which comes with rave reviews However I prefer to go with the trusted KitchenAid I grew up with it and I ve come to love all aspects of it It whips up cookie doughs and cake batters like a champ and its wide open bowl leaves me feeling less claustrophobic Additionally the user friendly assembling process makes me a die hard KitchenAid fan I m not denying that it s quite hefty but for me the pros outweigh the cons Sarah M SUBSCRIBE NOW SAVE 1O OFF OUR FULL PRICE ONLY 50 A YEAR Visit www fyimagazineny com
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COUNTERTOP APPLIANCES PART I BIG APPLIANCES FOR BIG TASKS SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Stop WAITING to LOSE WEIGHT I need to lose weight THEN my life will get better GET THIS THAT IS TOTALLY FALSE IF YOU ARE READY TO A L L T H I N G S KITCHEN WRITTEN BY PERSONAL CHEF SARA CHANA GRUSKIN If you had space for only five electrical countertop appliances in your kitchen I would tell you to choose these five Whether you re clearing out a cluttered kitchen or setting one up from scratch these appliances are endlessly useful and worth the money and space o o o o o End the overeating and dieting cycle NOW Stop distracted eating NOW Make peace with your body and food NOW Trust yourself once again NOW Learn to enjoy food as you connect to the intuitive eater within NOW THEN I CAN HELP YOU FEEL GOOD NOW AND SO MUCH MORE Mind OVE munchie Intuitive Eating Coach Rena Reiser Presents A FREE TELECONFERENCE CLASS WEDNESDAY NOV 2ND 1 00 PM EST JOIN US REGISTER FOR THE FREE CLASS 347 871 1848 www mindovermunchies com rena mindovermunchies com Intuitive Eating gives me clarity in all areas of my life not just with food KitchenAidProfessional 5 plus Series Stand Mixer bestbuy com 250 00 1 STANDING MIXER The legendary stand mixer is something an avid cook baker or chef cannot live without What is it about the stand mixer that makes it a necessity in your kitchen Standing mixers like those made by Mixmasters take mixing to a whole new level Kneading thick heavy bread doughs or mixing cake batters by hand can exhaust your arms The stand mixer is here to relieve you The average standing mixer is powered with a 400 watt motor to spare your upper arms that intense workout and also saves on food prep time These mixers are extremely versatile with many attachment options like the familiar paddle dough hook or whisk Some brands have more sophisticated attachments like a pasta maker meat grinder spiralizer and the list goes 76 fyimagazineny com The Perfect Gift on and on Attachments help you power through your toughest kitchen tasks With the purchase of a splash guard you can keep yourself clean and covered eliminating a whole lot of mess There are many options for standing mixers and there are also plenty of off brands available out there as well as the legendary Bosch which comes with rave reviews However I prefer to go with the trusted KitchenAid I grew up with it and I ve come to love all aspects of it It whips up cookie doughs and cake batters like a champ and its wide open bowl leaves me feeling less claustrophobic Additionally the user friendly assembling process makes me a die hard KitchenAid fan I m not denying that it s quite hefty but for me the pros outweigh the cons Sarah M SUBSCRIBE NOW SAVE 1O OFF OUR FULL PRICE ONLY 50 A YEAR Visit www fyimagazineny com
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YOU GOTTA KNOW SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE For Less Book Review Magic Helpers 2 FOOD PROCESSOR I have been in many kitchens and struggled with so many food processors Why are they so difficult confusing and practically impossible to assemble This can be quite frustrating for a cook There is something about a trusted brand that has proven time and time again what it s made of quality The Braun is durable and has the power to do a good job and that is why I love it It s also easy to assemble A food processor is a workhorse in all its glory It can chop slice grate blend puree emulsify what can t it do It has taken multi tasker to the next level what this one machine can accomplish is quite amazing That s why it s worth the investment Magic Mill Convection Oven Sears com 80 00 3 TOASTER OVEN MINI CONVECTION OVEN A toaster oven is a great invention more versatile than a toaster and smaller than an oven Its compact size means heating is faster and unlike your oven your house doesn t get all that extra heat It can toast your bread and cook your food It s my go to for small batches of cookies muffins and other compact offerings It is also super convenient for reheating single servings of food My personal preference is the Magic Mill Toaster Convection Braun K650 Multi Quick 600 Watt Kitchen Machine Food Processor microwave in cases of emergency but almost as soon as I ve made the decision to use it I regret it In 2016 if I were to walk into a kitchen yes mine included and discover there was no microwave I d be shocked ask the organizer Amazon com 220 00 Q I want to get more of my life organized but I don t even know where to start I feel like I m always cleaning and my house is always a mess Where do I begin Oven It has a variety of settings you can choose from toast defrost keep warm and broil but my favorite is the convection bake which uses a fan to distribute the heat evenly The oven is large enough that you can easily slide in a 9 x13 baking pan and the rack can fit up to 6 slices of bread It is truly a mini oven 4 MICROWAVE Growing up without a microwave has taught me not to be lazy and to actually cook my food the way it s required however sometimes I do secretly wish for convenience I owned a microwave Owning a microwave means you can melt butter chocolate in a pinch and thaw chicken and meats frozen soups and sauces I personally would not use a microwave as a means to cook food since a I m a chef and b the results of cooking in a microwave don t tempt me I will however confess to using a Panasonic 1 2 Cu Ft Countertop Microwave Oven amazon com 121 78 fyimagazineny com Sincerely Unorganized Mess Cuisinart Smartpower 40 oz 7 speed Dear Unorganized Mess Here are 6 suggestions to help you get through your overwhelm which we have all been through at one time or another target com 70 00 5 COUNTERTOP BAR BLENDER Even the best knife skill won t break down ice the way only blender blades can This item is a bit pricey for its sole function of making grand smoothies However if you like to have a smoothie every day you will likely get your money s worth Aside from being a smoothie maker par excellence it also works great as a dairy food processor For me it all comes down to simple assembly and practicality That is why I like the Cuisinart Bar Blender fyi WRITTEN BY ADINA FOROUZAN Sarah Chana is a personal chef based out of Lakewood New Jersey She runs her personal chef service she_cooks_that to her clients from the Lakewood Brooklyn areas and travels frequently to the many destinations her job takes her too For question regarding this column or to contact Sara Chana email shecooksthat gmail com Be sure to follow her on Instagram she_ cooks_that for recipes tips tricks and an overload of good food 79 fyimagazineny com
YOU GOTTA KNOW  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  For Less   Book Review   Magic Helpers  2. FOOD PROCESSOR I have been in many kitch...
YOU GOTTA KNOW SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE For Less Book Review Magic Helpers 2 FOOD PROCESSOR I have been in many kitchens and struggled with so many food processors Why are they so difficult confusing and practically impossible to assemble This can be quite frustrating for a cook There is something about a trusted brand that has proven time and time again what it s made of quality The Braun is durable and has the power to do a good job and that is why I love it It s also easy to assemble A food processor is a workhorse in all its glory It can chop slice grate blend puree emulsify what can t it do It has taken multi tasker to the next level what this one machine can accomplish is quite amazing That s why it s worth the investment Magic Mill Convection Oven Sears com 80 00 3 TOASTER OVEN MINI CONVECTION OVEN A toaster oven is a great invention more versatile than a toaster and smaller than an oven Its compact size means heating is faster and unlike your oven your house doesn t get all that extra heat It can toast your bread and cook your food It s my go to for small batches of cookies muffins and other compact offerings It is also super convenient for reheating single servings of food My personal preference is the Magic Mill Toaster Convection Braun K650 Multi Quick 600 Watt Kitchen Machine Food Processor microwave in cases of emergency but almost as soon as I ve made the decision to use it I regret it In 2016 if I were to walk into a kitchen yes mine included and discover there was no microwave I d be shocked ask the organizer Amazon com 220 00 Q I want to get more of my life organized but I don t even know where to start I feel like I m always cleaning and my house is always a mess Where do I begin Oven It has a variety of settings you can choose from toast defrost keep warm and broil but my favorite is the convection bake which uses a fan to distribute the heat evenly The oven is large enough that you can easily slide in a 9 x13 baking pan and the rack can fit up to 6 slices of bread It is truly a mini oven 4 MICROWAVE Growing up without a microwave has taught me not to be lazy and to actually cook my food the way it s required however sometimes I do secretly wish for convenience I owned a microwave Owning a microwave means you can melt butter chocolate in a pinch and thaw chicken and meats frozen soups and sauces I personally would not use a microwave as a means to cook food since a I m a chef and b the results of cooking in a microwave don t tempt me I will however confess to using a Panasonic 1 2 Cu Ft Countertop Microwave Oven amazon com 121 78 fyimagazineny com Sincerely Unorganized Mess Cuisinart Smartpower 40 oz 7 speed Dear Unorganized Mess Here are 6 suggestions to help you get through your overwhelm which we have all been through at one time or another target com 70 00 5 COUNTERTOP BAR BLENDER Even the best knife skill won t break down ice the way only blender blades can This item is a bit pricey for its sole function of making grand smoothies However if you like to have a smoothie every day you will likely get your money s worth Aside from being a smoothie maker par excellence it also works great as a dairy food processor For me it all comes down to simple assembly and practicality That is why I like the Cuisinart Bar Blender fyi WRITTEN BY ADINA FOROUZAN Sarah Chana is a personal chef based out of Lakewood New Jersey She runs her personal chef service she_cooks_that to her clients from the Lakewood Brooklyn areas and travels frequently to the many destinations her job takes her too For question regarding this column or to contact Sara Chana email shecooksthat gmail com Be sure to follow her on Instagram she_ cooks_that for recipes tips tricks and an overload of good food 79 fyimagazineny com
YOU GOTTA KNOW  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  For Less   Book Review   Magic Helpers  2. FOOD PROCESSOR I have been in many kitch...
YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW 1 GET THE FACTS STRAIGHT CLEAN VS ORGANIZED A common misconception I find as a professional organizer is people presume clean means organized Clean does NOT mean organized Being organized means having a systematic approach and order to help one function more effectively and productively An organized home has a designated place and home for everything while being clean means it is free from dirt and grime People always ask me if my house is spotless you mean clean I tell them how it is Thank G d it is lived in and at the end of the day toys are all over the floor gasp but all of those toys have a home they belong to once they are put away Identify what you would like to achieve first is it to clean or to organize your home 2 ORGANIZE FIRST CLEAN FASTER Personally I recommend getting organized first For example it is much easier to put away clean laundry once you have room in your drawers to do so You can clean the counters and wipe off the dirt much easier once all the tchotchkes are put away in their designated places Being organized definitely speeds up the cleaning process When you have created a systematic approach and abode for the items putting things away becomes faster and easier As a result your cleanup time is pleasantly reduced Having a cleanup routine also helps a lot Adina Forouzan owner of Master My Space Professional Organizing Services has a contagious passion for organizing She ll tackle your unorganized areas and develop stress free systems that will work to meet your specific family needs Adina lives in Cleveland OH www mastermyspace com TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS KIDS OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN 5 3 DON T LET PERFECTIONISM STOP YOU You would be surprised to discover there are many perfectionists out there who are absolutely disorganized You know why Perfectionists often have an all or nothing approach They think Well if my whole kitchen house etc can t be organized then what s the point This attitude leaves the perfectionist stuck and unable to start any organizing project The key to getting past the overwhelming feelings is to start and have realistic expectations Just get the ball rolling You will be amazed at your progress 4 START HERE Identify the three areas in your home that are generating the most stress From these choose one that is affecting your functioning and productivity Tackle your top stressor from that zone For instance if the kitchen is stressing you out be specific which areas the counter the pantry or under the sink If you find you are always struggling to locate things in the pantry and cooking is dreadful start with the pantry You can deal with the other areas once you ve confronted the pantry 80 fyimagazineny com CLEAR THE CLUTTER A PREREQUISITE FOR ORGANIZING Before you begin organizing you ought to clear the clutter Purge or donate what you do not use need or love By freeing up physical space you simplify the process of designating exact homes for the objects you do use I love this step De cluttering your physical areas also frees up your mind from mental clutter a double bonus 6 HELP IS WITHIN REACH I had a client who was super clean but just could not get organized In her words Although I try to be organized it NEVER occurred to me I didn t have the right systems in place to keep in that way Setting up and maintaining the right organizational systems helps to create a less demanding home maintenance situation If you still feel stuck after all of these suggestions or the task is too much for you to undertake alone there is nothing wrong with reaching out for outside help Sometimes an accountability or support partner can help with the process Alternatively you may consider employing a professional organizer to assist you by establishing organizational systems you need to function more efficiently An organized home is less challenging to clean and keep up than a home that is disorganized Enjoy the ride Until next time Adina Forouzan fyi 41 Job loyalty is dead In the days of yesteryear people stayed at a job as long as they possibly could A survey by Payscale com reveals that 41 of Baby Boomers believe that people should stay at a job for at least five years before looking on for another role It s only 13 of millennials who would stick it out for five years before looking on There may be a good reason for that While the regular pay increase in 2015 was about 3 for someone who stayed on at their job those who switched jobs got a pay increase of between 10 20 29 Beware of slow music at the supermarket Research has shown that slow music at supermarkets slow shoppers down causing them to spend more time in the store and more money too On average stores with slow music cash in at 29 more Larger carts too are a gimmick that cause consumers to spend up to 40 more than they would when using a smaller cart To make sure you don t spend more experts suggest sticking ear buds in your ear with upbeat music to keep you going faster 1 61 Maybe this is what they meant by playing hard About 61 of CEOs take daily game breaks at work Not all employers however would allow that Recently 79 of employees were surveyed and claimed they would be a lot more productive it they would be allowed a game break every day Famous companies that allow employees to play at work are Google LinkedIn Red Bull and Nike 81 fyimagazineny com 536 There were 536 billionaires recorded in the United States in 2015 China came in as a close second in 213 Of course New York is a billionaire city with about 103 of them situated there But what are the odds of being born a billionaire in the U S 1 586 286 Just to give you an idea what are the odds of winning the Mega Millions lottery 1 258 890 850 It s more likely you will be born a billionaire than win the Mega Millions Be nice to marine turtles Only one out of every 1 000 marine turtles that are born survive their first year You can thank all of these for being a rising threat against marine turtles commercial fishing urbanization and development illegal trade of turtle shells and eggs oil spills marine debris and natural predators such as birds raccoons snakes and stray dogs
YOU GOTTA KNOW  YOU GOTTA KNOW  1  GET THE FACTS STRAIGHT. CLEAN VS. ORGANIZED. A common misconception I find as a profess...
YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW 1 GET THE FACTS STRAIGHT CLEAN VS ORGANIZED A common misconception I find as a professional organizer is people presume clean means organized Clean does NOT mean organized Being organized means having a systematic approach and order to help one function more effectively and productively An organized home has a designated place and home for everything while being clean means it is free from dirt and grime People always ask me if my house is spotless you mean clean I tell them how it is Thank G d it is lived in and at the end of the day toys are all over the floor gasp but all of those toys have a home they belong to once they are put away Identify what you would like to achieve first is it to clean or to organize your home 2 ORGANIZE FIRST CLEAN FASTER Personally I recommend getting organized first For example it is much easier to put away clean laundry once you have room in your drawers to do so You can clean the counters and wipe off the dirt much easier once all the tchotchkes are put away in their designated places Being organized definitely speeds up the cleaning process When you have created a systematic approach and abode for the items putting things away becomes faster and easier As a result your cleanup time is pleasantly reduced Having a cleanup routine also helps a lot Adina Forouzan owner of Master My Space Professional Organizing Services has a contagious passion for organizing She ll tackle your unorganized areas and develop stress free systems that will work to meet your specific family needs Adina lives in Cleveland OH www mastermyspace com TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS KIDS OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN 5 3 DON T LET PERFECTIONISM STOP YOU You would be surprised to discover there are many perfectionists out there who are absolutely disorganized You know why Perfectionists often have an all or nothing approach They think Well if my whole kitchen house etc can t be organized then what s the point This attitude leaves the perfectionist stuck and unable to start any organizing project The key to getting past the overwhelming feelings is to start and have realistic expectations Just get the ball rolling You will be amazed at your progress 4 START HERE Identify the three areas in your home that are generating the most stress From these choose one that is affecting your functioning and productivity Tackle your top stressor from that zone For instance if the kitchen is stressing you out be specific which areas the counter the pantry or under the sink If you find you are always struggling to locate things in the pantry and cooking is dreadful start with the pantry You can deal with the other areas once you ve confronted the pantry 80 fyimagazineny com CLEAR THE CLUTTER A PREREQUISITE FOR ORGANIZING Before you begin organizing you ought to clear the clutter Purge or donate what you do not use need or love By freeing up physical space you simplify the process of designating exact homes for the objects you do use I love this step De cluttering your physical areas also frees up your mind from mental clutter a double bonus 6 HELP IS WITHIN REACH I had a client who was super clean but just could not get organized In her words Although I try to be organized it NEVER occurred to me I didn t have the right systems in place to keep in that way Setting up and maintaining the right organizational systems helps to create a less demanding home maintenance situation If you still feel stuck after all of these suggestions or the task is too much for you to undertake alone there is nothing wrong with reaching out for outside help Sometimes an accountability or support partner can help with the process Alternatively you may consider employing a professional organizer to assist you by establishing organizational systems you need to function more efficiently An organized home is less challenging to clean and keep up than a home that is disorganized Enjoy the ride Until next time Adina Forouzan fyi 41 Job loyalty is dead In the days of yesteryear people stayed at a job as long as they possibly could A survey by Payscale com reveals that 41 of Baby Boomers believe that people should stay at a job for at least five years before looking on for another role It s only 13 of millennials who would stick it out for five years before looking on There may be a good reason for that While the regular pay increase in 2015 was about 3 for someone who stayed on at their job those who switched jobs got a pay increase of between 10 20 29 Beware of slow music at the supermarket Research has shown that slow music at supermarkets slow shoppers down causing them to spend more time in the store and more money too On average stores with slow music cash in at 29 more Larger carts too are a gimmick that cause consumers to spend up to 40 more than they would when using a smaller cart To make sure you don t spend more experts suggest sticking ear buds in your ear with upbeat music to keep you going faster 1 61 Maybe this is what they meant by playing hard About 61 of CEOs take daily game breaks at work Not all employers however would allow that Recently 79 of employees were surveyed and claimed they would be a lot more productive it they would be allowed a game break every day Famous companies that allow employees to play at work are Google LinkedIn Red Bull and Nike 81 fyimagazineny com 536 There were 536 billionaires recorded in the United States in 2015 China came in as a close second in 213 Of course New York is a billionaire city with about 103 of them situated there But what are the odds of being born a billionaire in the U S 1 586 286 Just to give you an idea what are the odds of winning the Mega Millions lottery 1 258 890 850 It s more likely you will be born a billionaire than win the Mega Millions Be nice to marine turtles Only one out of every 1 000 marine turtles that are born survive their first year You can thank all of these for being a rising threat against marine turtles commercial fishing urbanization and development illegal trade of turtle shells and eggs oil spills marine debris and natural predators such as birds raccoons snakes and stray dogs
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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW book review A COMPLAINT FREE WORLD WRITTEN BY WILL BOWEN REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN Be honest are you a kvetch I d consider myself an all around pretty cheerful person But reading A Complaint Free World was a big eye opener C ould you go 21 days without complaining I m talking zero zilch none I tell you folks it is HARD Scientist believe 21 days of consistent behavior breaks a habit According to the author it takes people on average 10 months to reach this milestone stretch The idea behind the concept Complaint Free World is to train ourselves to stop complaining and focus on the positive This is done using a simple rubber band and a whole bunch of willpower Each time a complaint leaves your lips you switch the rubber band to your opposite wrist and start counting the days all over again To use me as a horrible example let s just review this morning I wake up in the morning Modeh Ani stretch and stumble out of bed mumbling Oh my Gosh I m soooooo tired The day barely started and there s one complaint right out of the gate Getting dressed Oh no I can t believe the zipper broke on this skirt I just bought it Leave the house Brrr it s Freezing Then I meet a friend Hi How are you Oh you know B H can t complain Yep I can t and shouldn t but I sure did didn t I 82 fyimagazineny com possible how would you do it Reframing the problem to be theirs to solve help them find possibilities Why do we complain Will Bowen outlines in his book the 5 main reasons so we can become more self aware of our behavior patterns He also gives great tips on how to counteract this negative energy when it s killing your happy vibes GET ATTENTION Attention is a basic human need It makes us feel loved wanted and secure Some people don t know how to get attention in a healthy manner They might not know another way to start and maintain a conversation A great response to a person like this is to meet and address them with So what s going well with family etc A chronic complainer might respond with more complaint Be persistent and politely interrupt their stream with more positive focused questions about themselves REMOVE RESPONSIBILITY Some people will seek to blame other people and events to justify their own lack of effort Ex They didn t apply to school because they didn t get the paperwork in time What the complainer is hoping to accomplish with their kvetching is for people to agree with them validating their claim that indeed they are a victim They are trying to justify their inaction This sort of person is not looking for helpful suggestions when they complain and will shoot down any you make with reasons why your idea wouldn t work Don t get stuck in the But why don t you yes but game with them A good response is to ask them If it was INSPIRE ENVY When a person complains about someone else s character flaw basically they re doing a backhanded back pat If they say My coworker is messy they re saying Look at me I m so together Besides for the Lashon Hora involved this is a real ego boost The gossiper unconsciously would like you to acknowledge their superiority here A great way to shift the conversation is to compliment the person on having the opposite trait Ex My boss is so moody You re such a calm person I wish I was like that POWER Sometimes people complain to get you on their side of a conflict They want you to hear all the awful things about the other side so you will proclaim your loyalty to them They are essentially saying If it ever gets real between me and THEM here is why you should be on my side of the fight Girl don t get pulled into that drama Suggest that person has an open talk with the other person and do not involve yourself further EXCUSE POOR PERFORMANCE This person has failed spectacularly They now complain in order to deflect responsibility They ll kvetch like this It s not my fault the driver in front of me was driving like an idiot Of course my work presentation failed using such outdated equipment The best strategy is to 83 fyimagazineny com ask the person what they ll do next time they re presented with these challenges Ex You didn t wake me up in time Answer I won t always be able to wake you up what could you do to make sure you get up in case I forget L et s talk a little bit more about this no complaining rule Does this mean that we re not allowed to vent Isn t venting good for us According to Will Bowen that all depends to WHOM you are venting Research has shown time and time again that contrary to popular belief the very act of venting our aggression and anger only makes us more upset We are NOT more calm after an hour of an angry kvetchfest with our bestie over drinks We are actually more worked up Unless you know someone who can give a positive spin or a calming perspective That s the person to talk to when you re upset I really enjoyed this book The writing is fast paced full of examples and stories that illustrate its point It is purposeful and practical The only complaint I would make though it feels blasphemous to complain about this book is that the author did attempt on several occasions to promote his organization s merchandise I found that a little annoying but I just skipped right over that If you really want to move forward with a positive perspective and learn step by step how to focus on the good stuff in your life this 21 day challenge is a great launching pad for that fyi
YOU GOTTA KNOW  YOU GOTTA KNOW  book   review  A COMPLAINT FREE WORLD WRITTEN BY WILL BOWEN   REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN  Be...
YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW book review A COMPLAINT FREE WORLD WRITTEN BY WILL BOWEN REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN Be honest are you a kvetch I d consider myself an all around pretty cheerful person But reading A Complaint Free World was a big eye opener C ould you go 21 days without complaining I m talking zero zilch none I tell you folks it is HARD Scientist believe 21 days of consistent behavior breaks a habit According to the author it takes people on average 10 months to reach this milestone stretch The idea behind the concept Complaint Free World is to train ourselves to stop complaining and focus on the positive This is done using a simple rubber band and a whole bunch of willpower Each time a complaint leaves your lips you switch the rubber band to your opposite wrist and start counting the days all over again To use me as a horrible example let s just review this morning I wake up in the morning Modeh Ani stretch and stumble out of bed mumbling Oh my Gosh I m soooooo tired The day barely started and there s one complaint right out of the gate Getting dressed Oh no I can t believe the zipper broke on this skirt I just bought it Leave the house Brrr it s Freezing Then I meet a friend Hi How are you Oh you know B H can t complain Yep I can t and shouldn t but I sure did didn t I 82 fyimagazineny com possible how would you do it Reframing the problem to be theirs to solve help them find possibilities Why do we complain Will Bowen outlines in his book the 5 main reasons so we can become more self aware of our behavior patterns He also gives great tips on how to counteract this negative energy when it s killing your happy vibes GET ATTENTION Attention is a basic human need It makes us feel loved wanted and secure Some people don t know how to get attention in a healthy manner They might not know another way to start and maintain a conversation A great response to a person like this is to meet and address them with So what s going well with family etc A chronic complainer might respond with more complaint Be persistent and politely interrupt their stream with more positive focused questions about themselves REMOVE RESPONSIBILITY Some people will seek to blame other people and events to justify their own lack of effort Ex They didn t apply to school because they didn t get the paperwork in time What the complainer is hoping to accomplish with their kvetching is for people to agree with them validating their claim that indeed they are a victim They are trying to justify their inaction This sort of person is not looking for helpful suggestions when they complain and will shoot down any you make with reasons why your idea wouldn t work Don t get stuck in the But why don t you yes but game with them A good response is to ask them If it was INSPIRE ENVY When a person complains about someone else s character flaw basically they re doing a backhanded back pat If they say My coworker is messy they re saying Look at me I m so together Besides for the Lashon Hora involved this is a real ego boost The gossiper unconsciously would like you to acknowledge their superiority here A great way to shift the conversation is to compliment the person on having the opposite trait Ex My boss is so moody You re such a calm person I wish I was like that POWER Sometimes people complain to get you on their side of a conflict They want you to hear all the awful things about the other side so you will proclaim your loyalty to them They are essentially saying If it ever gets real between me and THEM here is why you should be on my side of the fight Girl don t get pulled into that drama Suggest that person has an open talk with the other person and do not involve yourself further EXCUSE POOR PERFORMANCE This person has failed spectacularly They now complain in order to deflect responsibility They ll kvetch like this It s not my fault the driver in front of me was driving like an idiot Of course my work presentation failed using such outdated equipment The best strategy is to 83 fyimagazineny com ask the person what they ll do next time they re presented with these challenges Ex You didn t wake me up in time Answer I won t always be able to wake you up what could you do to make sure you get up in case I forget L et s talk a little bit more about this no complaining rule Does this mean that we re not allowed to vent Isn t venting good for us According to Will Bowen that all depends to WHOM you are venting Research has shown time and time again that contrary to popular belief the very act of venting our aggression and anger only makes us more upset We are NOT more calm after an hour of an angry kvetchfest with our bestie over drinks We are actually more worked up Unless you know someone who can give a positive spin or a calming perspective That s the person to talk to when you re upset I really enjoyed this book The writing is fast paced full of examples and stories that illustrate its point It is purposeful and practical The only complaint I would make though it feels blasphemous to complain about this book is that the author did attempt on several occasions to promote his organization s merchandise I found that a little annoying but I just skipped right over that If you really want to move forward with a positive perspective and learn step by step how to focus on the good stuff in your life this 21 day challenge is a great launching pad for that fyi
YOU GOTTA KNOW  YOU GOTTA KNOW  book   review  A COMPLAINT FREE WORLD WRITTEN BY WILL BOWEN   REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN  Be...
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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW magic helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier TUBSHROOM Whoever the culprit might be and we re not pointing any fingers hair easily makes the Most Wanted List for drain backups This nifty little gadget can save you lots of money and time Made out of durable easy to clean silicone its mushroom shape pops into the drain of your shower or sink It allows water to flow through smoothly while ensnaring all that matted hair that can cause endless plumbing problems When the basket is full cleaning is simple just dump it out Such a clever handy little gadget to have around tubshroom com 12 99 SATECHI USB PORTABLE HUMIDIFIER Ahhhh fall A temperamental season that can t make up its mind Some days it beams its sunny face at us and other days it nips at you with an icy chill then settles into warm weather once you ve already left the house in twenty layers It comes as no surprise then that fall is the season of drippy stuffy colds Get some relief with this little humidifier you can take with you anywhere All you need is a nearby USB port and a source of water Plug it in at your office at your desk in the kitchen wherever you are you can take this guy with you It lets out a steady medium mist of humidified air to unclog your pipes helping make colds a little more manageable Amazon com 27 99 86 fyimagazineny com OXO GARLIC PEELER A chef can simply press down with a knife on a clove of garlic the next thing you know it s peeled and prepped Ha Such mad skillz definitely aren t going down in this girl s kitchen not if I value my fingers that is I take heart in knowing I must not be the only one in this predicament if such a fantastic invention is on the market You place the garlic clove into one end of the tube press down and tada A smooth peeled clove comes out the other end No more vigorously scrubbing garlicky fingers This device will save you time and sanity bedbathandbeyond com 6 99 MIGHTY MUG How clever is this A thermos that s mighty hard to knock over If you ve ever had your stomach drop as you accidentally knock your arm into a mug of coffee or tea you ll know why this is an awesome invention It is not a suction cup The base of the cup uses SmartGrip to stick to any flat clean surface Created by a team of industrial designers and engineers it sounds like magic Now you can fearlessly bring your mug near your school or work computer amazon com 28 99 what s in my FITNESS STUDIO REBECCA BLUE WRITTEN BY CHAIA FRISHMAN A native of Queens NY Rebecca Blue is no stranger to sports As a member of the YHSQ girls basketball team and an avid biker Rebecca has high energy with a destination Her innovative gym model along with her enthusiasm to help women reach their potential made for an inspiring and productive interview Grab a water bottle and meet Rebecca ALSO IN MY FITNESS ARSENAL CROSS GENERATIONAL PEER PRESSURE I started seriously working out in the gym in my late teens Some women might be intimidated by trying to increase their strength level and muscle mass but I was content to stick in my earphones and I worked on my own fitness level something I tell my clients all the time My stepson wanted to be a personal trainer at one point so we went to school together He ended up going back to college while I became a certified instructor HEALTHY OUTLET I love to sing and dance but because I felt I could never express that side of myself professionally fitness filled my artistic void It was empowering to be a good teacher helping others learn to enjoy and change their bodies while building their confidence I teach kick boxing spin toning TRX kettlebells and rowing Everyone is comfortable here It s a unique model and we have all levels of fitness INSPIRING STUDENTS There was a client in her 60s who was seriously motivated to change her life Besides dieting she decided to attend my classes regularly and we modified them for her Well she showed me she lost over 109 pounds At this point she is a regular We also have one septuagenarian who is in better shape than some of the young moms J Sneakers I live run and play in them repetition periods of high intensity and rest J TRX straps They are J Music From my iPod lightweight and a person can get a full body workout with them CD or Pandora it s the most motivational fitness tool J Interval Timer It times each workout per exercise and number of J Water Bottle You need to drink before during and after your workouts all day every day UNIQUE DESIGN With a partner I took the plunge and opened my studio I don t really use the word gym to describe the facility in Oceanside My studio Rounds Elite Fitness is one of a kind Besides the many classes 87 fyimagazineny com we offer we have a circuit that is open when there isn t a class It s a strength and endurance circuit two minutes at every station with 30 seconds of active rest between each one We have a total of 17 stations We aim to help our clients create longer and leaner muscle There is definitely a place to have body building style muscles but we want to empower women and avoid injury My method encourages weight loss and we see amazing results We are always on the floor so each member benefits from having a full time personal trainer TRANSFORMATIVE MOMENTS These two sisters walked in one day They were quite solid looking like they had been trained in power lifting but they were petite and wanted to revert back to their pre body building bodies Specifically women need to look and train like women I believe individual body types need to be understood and analyzed by a trainer who can design a program specifically for one s build A trainer needs to listen to her clients and what their goals are These women walked through the doors reporting they had heard about my studio and came in so that I could put them back where they wanted to be with longer leaner muscle tone Within three weeks they were thrilled with the results they were seeing They are now hardcore members of Rounds I also have a special client who trains privately She was very ill with severe muscle failure in her legs She didn t walk well she dragged her feet and couldn t lift her legs and fell a lot because of her immobility Over three years of hard work she was cured of her illness and she lost over 45 pounds Now she loves to exercise she has regained her balance and more importantly she couldn t feel happier When my clients are transformed I am transformed too fyi
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