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Magic Words Eye Contact Introductions Conversation Guide Body Language Game Plan #3 - Art of Conversation Suzanne M. Wind
Magic Words  Eye Contact  Introductions  Conversation Guide  Body Language  Game Plan  3 - Art of Conversation Suzanne M. ...
CONTENTS • A WORD TO THE COACHES (That means you, parents!) ..............................01 • PLAYER INTRODUCTION ...........................................................................03 • THE SMART CONTRACT ............................................................................04 • LET THE GAMES BEGIN .............................................................................05 – ART • GAME PLAN #3 Review OF CONVERSATION..............................................07 a) Magic Word b) Announcing the Players c) Body Language and Tone d) Conversation 101 e) Field Map f) The Winning Play Review g) Let’s Practice h) Answers i) Ticket Tally Score Board • EXTRA BONUS............................................................................................37 • AWARD CEREMONY..................................................................................47 **Copyrighted Material
CONTENTS      A WORD TO THE COACHES  That means you, parents   ..............................01     PLAYER INTRODUCTION .....
A WORD TO THE COACHES (That Means You, Parents!) The SMART Playbook was founded by a mom of three, with a possibly impossible mission: to offer families a simple and effective game plan to teach relevant life skills for a modern world. Teaching social skills and manners in this fast-paced, tech-focused society is easier said than done. How do we get our kids back to basics without overwhelming our time? THE SOLUTION: The SMART Playbook. Written in a relatable style and chock full of games, The SMART Playbook will lead you and your child in a collaborative effort to bring manners to a new generation. Your child is the player, the book is the guide, and you are the coach. Life is the referee. 5 SMART topics to help your child succeed in life! (The topic in this book is in the arrow.) � Social Skill Basics –The principles of modern manners � Mealtime Manners – A guide to mealtime etiquette � Art of Conversation – Eloquent face-to-face conversational skills � Restaurant Behavior – The finer points of restaurant conduct � Technology Talk – Internet safety and responsible usage THE BENEFIT: The methods included in The SMART Playbook will help your child gain confidence, character, integrity and empathy in face-to-face situations and technology usage. **Copyrighted Material 01
A WORD TO THE COACHES  That Means You, Parents   The SMART Playbook was founded by a mom of three, with a possibly impossi...
HOW TO USE: Fill out the SMART contract. (This will help motivate your child to complete the lessons.) As your child completes game challenges, he or she earns tickets and you decide the prizes. As the coach, your job is to encourage your child to work on the lessons and take the challenges. When you play the family scrimmage games, reward your child with lots of tickets! THE RESULT: A happy and confident child thriving in a modern world. **Copyrighted Material 02
HOW TO USE  Fill out the SMART contract.  This will help motivate  your child to complete the lessons.  As your child comp...
THE SMART CONTRACT This is an agreement between you and your parents. Here’s your chance to ask for a cool prize in exchange for learning game-changing life skills. It’s a win-win situation. What’s a win-win situation, you might ask? It means you earn something super-cool (and of your own choosing!) by simply learning life rules and plays. Please fill this out before you begin. Date: ______________ I ______________________________agree to carefully read and complete The SMART Playbook. 1) I promise to share one fact every time I learn something new with the rest of the family. 2) I promise to share many games and activities so that my family can practice modern manners together. 3) Each time I finish a game challenge I’ll earn a ticket. My parents promise to reward me with the following (Make sure to determine how many tickets you need to win!): _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ 4) After completing this entire playbook, (besides being a Star Player) my parents agree to reward me with the following: _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ Good Luck Playing! ________________________ Player Signature ________________________ Coach Signature **Copyrighted Material 04
THE SMART CONTRACT  This is an agreement between you and your parents. Here   s your chance to ask for a cool prize in exc...
GAME PLAN #3 - ART OF CONVERSATION GOAL: How do you start a conversation with someone you’ve never met? With a little practice, talking with anyone can be fun and interesting. Think of it as learning to play tennis. Relax, serve, and practice. Are you ready to swing a conversation with anyone? Life Skills Required: � � � � � Magic Word Review Announcing the Players Body Language & Tone Conversation 101 � Field Map Forming Questions Equipment needed: � You � Parents, siblings and friends to practice Game Directions: � � � � Take the challenges Have an adult check the box at the end of the game after you complete the challenge Cash in your tickets for the reward chosen with your coach (your parents) T icket Goal: Game Prize: _________________________ ______________________________________________ **Copyrighted Material 07
GAME PLAN  3 - ART OF CONVERSATION GOAL   How do you start a conversation with someone you   ve never met  With a little p...
Body Language & Tone Can you figure out your opponent's next move? WATCH YOUR BODY LANGUAGE WHILE Everyone can communicate messages to each other SPEAKING. without using a single word. Even when you are talking, your bodies are saying things too. In fact some say that 90% of your communicating comes from your body. This means that your body language is very important when talking. Sit up and stand tall. Watch your facial expression. Make eye contact! Watch hand movements. Too much arm waving while speaking is distracting. A few nods here and there makes you look interested. Continuous head bopping can make you look too excited. A Big Smile Your smile is a powerful tool. A big smile makes you look happy and confident. The more you smile the happier you will feel. A smile makes people want to talk to you. A smile softens your voice and makes you USE YOUR SMILE WHILE COMMUNICATING. sound warm and friendly. Always put a smile on your face while making conversation. TIME OUT! Knock Knock -Who’s there? Dewey -Dewey who? Dewey have to keep telling these jokes! The R.I.C.A Rule These eyes were meant for R.I.C.A! Why use eye contact? ESPECT - Earn respect by looking people in the eye. Eye contact shows that you know what they are saying and you understand that it is important to them. NTEREST - Eye contact tells the other person that you are interested in what they are saying. Looking down or away may be misunderstood as a lack of interest. R I WHILE TALKING, USE THE RICA RULE TO SHOW RESPECT, INTEREST, COMPREHENSION, AND APPRECIATION. **Copyrighted Material 11
Body Language   Tone Can you figure out your opponent s next move  WATCH YOUR BODY LANGUAGE WHILE Everyone can communicate...
� COMPREHEND - To comprehend means to really understand. Eye ontact shows that you understand what they are saying. PPRECIATION - A meaningful look into someone's eyes says that you really mean it. A GAME CHALLENGE #3: Let's play charades. Strike the following pose using just your body to communicate a feeling. Have your parents guess what you are trying to act out! Bored Angry Shy Happy Personal Space A comfortable conversation takes place in a comfortable place. Be aware that not everyone feels comfortable talking face to face very close. Most people prefer to be about eighteen inches away from someone when talking. That's about as long as your arm. RULE BREAKERS! DON’T frown while talking to someone. A little too close! RESPECT PERSONAL SPACE WHILE HAVING A CONVERSATION. DON’T look at the ground when you speak. DON’T cross your arms when speaking to someone-it can make you look angry. DON’T stand too close to someone while speaking. Don’t mumble when talking. Speak clearly. **Copyrighted Material 12
     COMPREHEND - To comprehend means to really understand.  Eye ontact shows that you understand what they are saying. PP...
Tone? I am happy! � things are said can be just as important as what is said. How Your tone can sometimes give a stronger message than your voice. The way you say it can actually completely WATCH YOUR TONE change the meaning of what you say. WHEN SPEAKING! GAME CHALLENGE #5: Does the voice tone affect the meaning of what is said? Say the following phrases with a different tone: I have so much homework. (happy) (sad) (surprised) I think your haircut looks great! (happy) (sad) (surprised) I love to play baseball. (happy) (sad) (bored) Volume Control Pretend that your voice is a speaker that you can turn ADJUST THE VOLUME OF up and down. Adjust the volume of your voice from YOUR VOICE DEPENDING ON THE SITUATION. soft to loud depending on the situation. Using the wrong volume can make others uncomfortable. Choose the appropriate one. GAME CHALLENGE #6: Circle the right voice volume for each situation: 1. Studying in a library 2. On the school bus 3. Talking in the lunchroom 4.Watching a movie 5. Playing outdoors Soft Soft Soft Soft Soft Normal Normal Normal Normal Normal Loud Loud Loud Loud Loud **Copyrighted Material 14
Tone   I am happy       things are said can be just as important as what is said. How Your tone can sometimes give a stron...
FIELD MAP � Imagine a conversation is like a football field with a successful conversation equal to a TOUCHDOWN! You start with a greeting and then with each exchange, you get a first down. At the fifty-yard line, you’re halfway through the conversation, taking turns with the ball. Then as you approach the end of the conversation you head for the end zone. TOUCHDOWN! Top FIELD MAP Plays: 1. LISTEN more than you talk. Nod your head to show that you are listening and even throw in fumble words - hmm, uh-huh. 2. PREPARE with a lot of different ideas for topics and questions to talk about. 3. TAKE TURNS while speaking. GREAT CONVERSATION 4. THINK before you speak. TAKES PRACTICE. MAP OUT YOUR PLAN. 5. Use the MAGIC WORDS. RULE BREAKERS! DON'T interrupt. DON’T talk to only one person when speaking in a group. DON’T overshare too much information. DON'T brag. DON'T pretend to be listening. TOP PLAYS INCLUDE: LISTEN, PREPARE, TAKE TURNS, THINK AND USE THE MAGIC WORDS. GAME CHALLENGE #1 3: The 'After You' conversation Play. Both you and your friend start to speak at the same time. What should you do? 1. Speak a little louder and more forcefully so that your friend understands that you intend to speak first. 2. Use the 'After You' play so that your friend can go first and then you will wait to take your turn. 3. Decide to not speak at all. **Copyrighted Material 22
FIELD MAP     Imagine a conversation is like a football field with a successful conversation equal to a TOUCHDOWN  You sta...
FIELD MAP #1 � Basic Talk Training 1st DOWN - GAME START � � � � Hi What's new? How are you? My name is … 2nd DOWN - CONTINUE WITH COMMENT OR QUESTION? � � � � What are you doing? I just heard something funny. Let me tell you…. Where are you from? 3rd DOWN - TALKING � � � � � � Take turns. Both should be talking about the SAME topic. Don’t interrupt. Use the WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHY questions. LISTEN. Make positive comments. 4th DOWN - SHORT EXPLANATION TO WRAP IT UP. � � � � "I better go now…" "I didn't realize it was so late. I have to run." "Have a nice day." "Nice to see you." TOUCH DOWN = GOODBYE **Copyrighted Material 23
FIELD MAP  1      Basic  Talk Training  1st DOWN - GAME START                   Hi What s new  How are you  My name is    ...
LET'S PRACTICE! SECTION 1. You make the call! Fill in DO or DON'T. Complete this section and earn 10 tickets! 1.___________ Your friend just came to your party and gave you a gift. You grab it and give her a nod. 2.___________ Your brother apologized for breaking your new video game. You reply, “Okay, I forgive you.” 3.___________ You bump into someone in the hallway and she trips. You yell, "Hey! Watch where you are going!" 4.___________ Jane meets Joe for the first time. She smiles brightly, stands tall and introduces herself. 5.___________ Joe talks to Nicky while looking down at his feet. 6.___________ When meeting someone for the first time show interest. 7.___________ Sandy is sharing a story with a friend. “Um, Uh, Jane would like to, you know, share a like story with her class. What I'm trying to say….” 8.___________ Create a conversation Field Map in your mind when talking to someone. 9.___________ You are talking in a large group. John is talking about football. Jill doesn't really understand football. You try to include her in the conversation by explaining that he is talking about the big game last weekend. 10.___________ You are at a family dinner party. Your mom’s friend asks if you like baseball. Your response is “Yeah.” **Copyrighted Material 27
LET S PRACTICE   SECTION 1. You make the call  Fill in DO or DON T. Complete this section and earn 10 tickets  1._________...
SECTION 3. Art of Conversation Crossword Puzzle. - Earn 5 tickets! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 Across 3. Fumble words that should be avoided when talking. 4. A word used to apologize. 7. Always _____ people to each other. 8. A polite expression of one's gratitude. Down 1. Who, What, Why, Where, When 2. The ability to experience other people's emotions. 5. Show respect, interest, comprehension and appreciation when talking to someone. 6. Your_________can sometimes give a stronger message than your voice. Words to Play: Empathy, Questions, Fillers, Thanks, Sorry, Introduce, RICA, Tone **Copyrighted Material 30
SECTION 3. Art of Conversation Crossword Puzzle. - Earn 5 tickets   1 2  3  4  5  6 7  8  Across 3. Fumble words that shou...
DIY Conversation Cards Perk up your family talk! Just cut out the cards. Create the family talk jar. One person picks a card and everyone can answer the same question or everyone can pick their own. Listen and take turns. SEASONS OF THE YEAR FAVORITE SPORTS PLAN A DREAM VACATION What is your favorite season? Why? Do you know an interesting fact about your favorite season? Name a fun family activity during this season? What is your favorite sport? Who is your favorite player? Who is your favorite team? What’s an interesting fact? Where would you go on a dream vacation? Who would come? What would you do? Why? What’s an interesting fact about your choice? FAVORITE CANDY EXERCISE IMPORTANT SUPERPOWERS What type of candy do you like to eat? What would happen if you ate tons of candy every day? Why should we exercise? What are some forms of exercising? How many times a week should we exercise? What is your favorite type of exercise? What is your least favorite exercise? If you could have any superpower, which would you choose? Why? ANIMAL YOUR FAVORITE THING FAME FOR 10 SECONDS If you could be an animal, what would you be and why? What is one thing you couldn’t live without? Why? If you had the attention of the world for 10 seconds, what would you say? Why? BEST HOLIDAY INTERESTING FACTS ABOUT YOU TEACH A CLASS FOR A DAY What is your favorite holiday to celebrate? Why? Name three interesting things about you? If you had to teach a class for a day, what subject would you choose? What would you do? **Copyrighted Material
DIY Conversation Cards Perk up your family talk  Just cut out the cards. Create the family talk jar. One person picks a ca...
The SMART Playbook is available at www.thesmartplaybook.com. Buy as one complete book with all five game plans (Best Value!) or by topic. Tailor your game plan to your family needs! Telephone Smarts Character First Impressions Sportsmanship Commitment Game Plan #1 - Social Skill Basics Suzanne M. Wind Internet Safety Table Setting Rule Breakers Cyberbullying Secret Codes Utensil Usage Staying Balanced Digital Manners Eating Styles Pre-dinner Prep Game Plan #5 - Technology Talk Game Plan #2 - Mealtime Manners Suzanne M. Wind Suzanne M. Wind PLAY IT SMART ! Dress Code Magic Words The Game Plan for a Happy & Confident Child Suzanne M. Wind Who's Who Ordering 101 Eye Contact Introductions Manners Challenge Foods Conversation Guide Body Language Game Plan #4 - Restaurant Behavior Suzanne M. Wind Game Plan #3 - Art of Conversation Suzanne M. Wind **Copyrighted Material
The SMART Playbook is available at www.thesmartplaybook.com. Buy as one complete book with all five game plans  Best Value...
PLAY I T SMART ! The world is changing faster than ever before. Parents and children are busier and technology has presented new challenges we must face. But with all the texting, emailing, and posting, are children developing the social skills that will be required for life-long happiness, confidence and success? The SMART Playbook introduces the basics of social skills for the modern world and is packed with more than 100 games and challenges to keep your child motived, along with how-to guides for some of the finer points of social skill development. The SMART Playbook is your child's guide to five key topics! • SOCIAL SKILL BASICS • MEALTIME MANNERS • ART OF CONVERSATION • RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR • TECHNOLOGY TALK Your child is the player. You are the coach. The book is your guide. Life is the referee. ARE YOU AND YOUR CHILD READY TO GET IN THE GAME? www.thesmartplaybook.com About the author: Suzanne lives in CT with her husband and three kids. Before kids, she was an international marketing executive In New York City. With a multi-cultural background, she was raised in more than six countries with four languages. Her career and living overseas taught her the importance of knowing and using the common language of manners and social skills to being your best. Today she's a mom with a mission, inspired to communicate social skills in a modern world to a new generation.
PLAY I T  SMART   The world is changing faster than ever before. Parents and children are busier and technology has presen...