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Eat Your Peas:

Diana Baumrind's Four Parenting Styles

Cameron Beckner 

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Introduction

One of the most important factors that determine how a child will develop is the parenting style the parents enforce on the child. So much of how a child learns can come from what their parents pass down onto them (i.e behavioral and societal norms). Because of the importance that parenting can have on a child in the long run, it is important for parents to recognize four parenting styles according to Diana Baumrind. This guide is meant to aid parents in showing them four distinctly different parenting styles, and their effects on children. Hopefully this guide will help reemphasize the importance of the parenting style on the child, and then from that knowledge, parents can effectively raise their children to be successful, and intelligent people.

 

This Guide will talk about Baumrings parenting styles:

  • Neglectful Parenting
  • Permissive Parenting
  • Authoritarian Parenting
  • Authoritative Parenting

These styles are defined and labeled this way based on two factors: Demandingness,  the extent that a parent controls a child's developmental behavior and maturity, and Responsiveness, the extent that a parent is understanding and accepting of the child's needs (parentingforbrain.com)

Neglectful Parenting

The first method that we will be focusing on will be that of neglectful parenting. As the title indicates, this method will be focusing on parents who have little attention for their child's behavior, or development.

 

What This Style Implies:

  • Low demandingness, Low Responsiveness
  • The parent gives little attention to the child's accomplishments or milestones.
  • The parent sees their role as a simple caregiver and nothing more. To them, their duties end after feeding them, clothing them, and providing them a house to live under.
  • Teaches the child virtually nothing about behavioral and societal norms. It is up to the child to learn those themselves.
  • The child is given complete independence to do as they please.
  • In extreme cases, neglecting a child is a form of child abuse.

 

Effects On The Child (Short/Long Term):

  •  The Child does develops slower than his/her peers due to not being taught behavioral/societal norms by the parents.
  • The Child could develop an isolated psyche due to their experience of being by themselves for long periods of time, which could last their entire lives if it is not dealt with, and even then it is not a guarantee that psyche changes.
  • The Child is more likely to be exposed to physical health problems due to the neglect of the parents.
  • The Child develops an estranged relationship with his/her parents.

Conclusion:

When it comes to helping children develop, this method should be an obvious style to stay away from.The child is disadvantaged by not being cared for and taught by his/her parents. Because of that, they are far more likely to develop slower than their peers, and are most likely not being set up for success.

The second style that we will be focusing on is that of Permissive Parenting. Just like neglectful parenting, this style does not place a high emphasis on teaching the child. This style differs in that adults show more attention to the child. However, this styles tries to convey that parent, while they are not neglectful, are not the ones in power. Its the children who have the power over the parents.

What This Style Implies:

  • Low Demandingness, High Responsiveness
  • The child may learn a few behavioral/societal norms, but the overall knowledge they sustain from the parents will be minimal at best.
  • The parent little to no demands for the child, and their development.
  • The parent enforces little to no rules for the child.
  • The parent is very lenient to the child's demands, and does not like to say no to their child.
  • Very uninvolved and non-caring of the child's social, and academic life.
  • Just like the last parenting style, the child is given virtually complete independence. 

 Effects On The Child (Short/Long Term):

  • The child may develop a difficulty for following rules, and understanding them. This could be a problem for their development both in the short and long term.
  • Could develop an egocentric mindset both as a child and an adult.
  • The child could develop an extreme impulsive behavior issue in the short and long term. Because of that, he/she could be very hard to communicate/work with in school, and in their place of employment.
  • Obivously, if he/she has impulse control problems, they will probably have trouble developing and maintaing relationships with peers.

 

 

 

Permissive Parenting 

Conclusion:

Although this style implies a slight increase in attention, and teaching of the child, this style does not meet the developmental needs for a child adaquately as their development would put them more at a disadvantage based on the reasons given, both in the short and long term. Therefore, this style of parenting should be avoided as well. Bascially, this style portrays parents of being too friendly, and not having the power to take charge of the household.

 

The third style we are going to take a look at is that of Authoritarian Parenting. While the last style portrays the parent for having not enough power, this one portrays them as having too much. This style focuses on the parents who instill too much control  over their children's development, and have an over-active role in their everyday life.

 

What This Style Implies:

  • High Demandingness, Low Responsiveness.
  • The parent controls who the child is allowed to socialize and interacts with.
  • The child's behavioral development is strictly monitored by the parents.
  • The parent demands complete and utter obedience from the child.
  • The child could be severely punished if they are disobedient, as disobedience is not tolerated under any circumstances with the parents.
  • The parent controls what the child can play with, what they can read, what they can eat, and where they can go.

 Effects On The Child (Short/Long Term):

  • Child's self esteem and confidence is most likely to be negatively affected as esteem and confidence rely on a child's independence in part.
  • The child may have trouble developing relationships with peers, as they did not develop a sense of independence.
  • Very likely the child will be socially isolated due to the fear they developed from their experience.
  • The child may instill the same control over their children in the long term.

 

Authoritarian Parenting 

Conclusion:

This style is so much more different in that parents take control of their children, and teach them rather than let them teach themselves. However, where the last style portrays the parents as being too friendly, this style portrays the parents as being too harsh.This style tries to convey that parents being too controlling puts the child at a disadvantage just  as the other two do. In order for a child to develop properly, the parent must find a balence between friendliness and discipline. Because this style contains an imbalence, ,just like the other two, it should be avoided.

Authoritative Parenting

This last style that we are going to discuss is that of Authoritative Parenting. This method is saved for last, because out of the 4 styles, this one is the most optimal style that will set up a child for a strong development, and success. The parents in this style are "firm but fair," in that they provide loving and caring support to the child while also disciplining the child and teaching them.

What This Style Implies:

  • Just like the authoritarian style, the parents maintain a reasonable level of strictness but provide more love and support to the child and their development.
  • The parents teach the children about behavioral, and societal norms.
  • The parents will instill appropriate punishment when necessary, however physical punishment is often avoided. They will also communicate to them why they are being punished.
  • The parent is patient with the child's learning.
  • They are involved in their child's academic and social life, but promote independence and developing on their own to an extent.

Effects On The Child (Short/Long Term):

  • The Child now has the opportunity to learn about behavioral and societal norms effectively.
  • Unlike the other styles, the Child receives love and support in their development, which increases the chances of them developing at the same rate as their peers.
  • The Child is more likely to maintain a stable, positive relationship with his/her parents in the long run, as well as implement the same style on his/her own children.

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Conclusion: 

This style offers the best option for parents if they wish for their child to develop properly, and be set up for future success in the outside world. The other three lack effective education from the parent that the child will need to develop and to be successful. This style provides that to the child, as well as love and support for their development. It is safe to assume that most loving parents would agree that this style is the way to go with your child.

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