A simple game plan to teach your child all the do's and don'ts of basic social skills. Fun engaging games and challenges to engage and motivate your child.

Telephone Smarts Character First Impressions Sportsmanship Commitment Game Plan #1 - Social Skill Basics Suzanne M. Wind
Telephone Smarts  Character  First Impressions  Sportsmanship  Commitment  Game Plan  1 - Social Skill Basics Suzanne M. W...
CONTENTS A WORD TO THE COACHES (That means you, parents!) ..............................01 PLAYER INTRODUCTION ...........................................................................03 THE SMART CONTRACT ............................................................................04 LET THE GAMES BEGIN .............................................................................05 GAME PLAN #1 – SOCIAL SKILL BASICS...................................................07 a) First Impressions b) Telephone Smarts c) Host or Guest Basics d) Commitment e) Good Sportsmanship f) Winning Play Review g) Let’s Practice h) Answers i) Ticket Tally Score Board EXTRA BONUS............................................................................................37 AWARD CEREMONY..................................................................................47 **Copyrighted Material
A WORD TO THE COACHES (That Means You, Parents!) The SMART Playbook was founded by a mom of three, with a possibly impossible mission: to offer families a simple and effective game plan to teach relevant life skills for a modern world. Teaching social skills and manners in this fast-paced, tech-focused society is easier said than done. How do we get our kids back to basics without overwhelming our time? THE SOLUTION: The SMART Playbook. Written in a relatable style and chock full of games, The SMART Playbook will lead you and your child in a collaborative effort to bring manners to a new generation. Your child is the player, the book is the guide, and you are the coach. Life is the referee. 5 SMART topics to help your child succeed in life! (The topic in this book is in the arrow.) Social Skill Basics –The principles of modern manners Mealtime Manners – A guide to mealtime etiquette Art of Conversation – Eloquent face-to-face conversational skills Restaurant Behavior – The finer points of restaurant conduct Technology Talk – Internet safety and responsible usage THE BENEFIT: The methods included in The SMART Playbook will help your child gain confidence, character, integrity and empathy in face-to-face situations and technology usage. **Copyrighted Material 01
A WORD TO THE COACHES  That Means You, Parents   The SMART Playbook was founded by a mom of three, with a possibly impossi...
HOW TO USE: Fill out the SMART contract. (This will help motivate your child to complete the lessons.) As your child completes game challenges, he or she earns tickets and you decide the prizes. As the coach, your job is to encourage your child to work on the lessons and take the challenges. When you play the family scrimmage games, reward your child with lots of tickets! THE RESULT: A happy and confident child thriving in a modern world. **Copyrighted Material 02
HOW TO USE  Fill out the SMART contract.  This will help motivate  your child to complete the lessons.  As your child comp...
PLAYER INTRODUCTION Dear Player, Getting older is awesome, but there's also more expected of you. If you know the guidelines for interacting with people, growing up is so much easier. Social skills and manners are the keys to having great friends, gaining respect from adults and growing your self-confidence. Wouldn’t it be great to know the ins and outs of all the rules to guide you? The SMART Playbook lets you in on commonsense guidelines. Through games and challenges you will learn how to handle all sorts of new situations both in person and while using technology. And to top it off, you will look like a star player! Have a great time playing, and best of luck! From, Suzanne Wind, the author of The SMART Playbook Ready to get in the game yet? Accept the challenge? Fill out the SMART Contract on the next page. Then move on to earn tickets and win prizes. Ready, Set, Go! **Copyrighted Material 03
PLAYER INTRODUCTION Dear Player, Getting older is awesome, but there s also more expected of you. If you know the guidelin...
THE SMART CONTRACT This is an agreement between you and your parents. Here’s your chance to ask for a cool prize in exchange for learning game-changing life skills. It’s a win-win situation. What’s a win-win situation, you might ask? It means you earn something super-cool (and of your own choosing!) by simply learning life rules and plays. Please fill this out before you begin. Date: ______________ I ______________________________agree to carefully read and complete The SMART Playbook. 1) I promise to share one fact every time I learn something new with the rest of the family. 2) I promise to share many games and activities so that my family can practice modern manners together. 3) Each time I finish a game challenge I’ll earn a ticket. My parents promise to reward me with the following (Make sure to determine how many tickets you need to win!): _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ 4) After completing this entire playbook, (besides being a Star Player) my parents agree to reward me with the following: _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ Good Luck Playing! ________________________ Player Signature ________________________ Coach Signature **Copyrighted Material 04
THE SMART CONTRACT  This is an agreement between you and your parents. Here   s your chance to ask for a cool prize in exc...
GAME PLAN=#1=-=SOCIAL SKILLS BASICS GOAL: Basic social skills teach you everyday rules that make life easier. Learn how to make good choices and how to act politely in different situations. Life Skills Required: Equipment needed: Game Directions: T icket Goal: Game Prize: _________________________ ______________________________________________ **Copyrighted Material 07
GAME PLAN  1 - SOCIAL SKILLS BASICS GOAL   Basic social skills teach you everyday rules that make life easier. Learn how t...
FIRST IMPRESSIONS A first impression is what a person thinks of you the first time he meets you. This might be the first time you go to your new friend’s house and meet her family or the first day of school when you meet your teacher. Making a good impression depends on your appearance, the way you present yourself and the way you communicate. You only get one chance to make a great first impression so make it BIG! HANDLE YOURSELF WITH GOOD MANNERS AND YOU WILL LEAVE A GOOD IMPRESSION RULE BREAKER! DON'T: A little boy goes on his first playdate. He charges inside the house and does not say hello. The first thing out of his mouth is “I MUST DESTROY!” He stays for dinner, burps at the table and screams for seconds. What type of first impression did he leave at this house? Do you think the parents were eager to have him come back and play? Probably not, right? GAME CHALLENGE # 1: Can you think of 5 great plays to make a good first impression? 1. 2. 3. 4 5. **Copyrighted Material 08
FIRST IMPRESSIONS A first impression is what a person thinks of you the first time he meets you. This might be the first t...
Posture & Confidence STAND TALL AND STRAIGHT TO LOOK CONFIDENT! Walk the Walk! GAME CHALLENGE #5: WHO LOOKS MORE CONFIDENT? Get Up and Stand Tall STAND UP TO GREET SOMEONE NEW AND IMPORTANT GAME CHALLENGE #6: The Great Balancing Act. Walk across the room balancing a book on your head. Stand up straight with your head held high and shoulders back. Challenge your siblings to see who can walk the farthest and straightest. **Copyrighted Material 12
Posture   Confidence STAND TALL AND STRAIGHT TO LOOK CONFIDENT   Walk the Walk   GAME CHALLENGE  5   WHO LOOKS MORE CONFID...
GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP "It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you play the game.” - Anonymous Always play fair and be polite. Good sportsmanship is when teammates, opponents, coaches, and officials treat each other with respect. Character PRACTICING GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP MAKES YOU A GREAT ATHLETE! You can tell a lot about someone's character by how they play sports. Character is made up of our values and our decisions. It is who we are when no one is looking. It is a trait that can help you in all parts of your life-not just sports. No matter what the score is at the end of the game, if you play with character, you win! Top SPORTSMANSHIP Plays: 1. Follow and obey the game rules. 2. Support your teammates. 3. Respect your coach and the referees. 4. Try your hardest. 5. Play to have fun. 6. Cheer for good play (your team or your opponents). 7. Shake hands after the game. And if you happen to sit out of a game, remember good sportsmanship extends to the sidelines. If you are watching, never cheer if the opponent makes a mistake. Never be tempted to shout out rude HAVING CHARACTER MEANS comments about your team's opponents or boo them! DOING THE RIGHT THING BECAUSE IT IS THE RIGHT Never try to distract a player by sneezing or shouting THING TO DO. out something as he/she is trying to concentrate. **Copyrighted Material 25
GOOD SPORTSMANSHIP  It s not whether you win or lose, it s how you play the game.    - Anonymous Always play fair and be p...
LET'S PRACTICE! SECTION 1. You make the call! Fill in the blanks with DO or DON'T. Complete this section and earn 10 tickets! 1. ______Your friend just tripped in front of a bunch of other kids. You laugh at her—after all, she just tripped. 2. ______You go to a special event without your brother and they are giving out free cookies. You say thank you and ask if you could possibly get one more for your brother who is home sick. You showed concern for your brother and wanted to try to make him feel better. 3. ______You go to shake Mrs. Anderson’s hand and she uses a soft flimsy handshake. You still shake her hand firmly and stand up tall. 4. ______You are on a crowded bus and are sitting comfortably. An elderly person walks onto the bus. Think to yourself, "Wow I am lucky that I have a seat. That's too bad that she has to stand". 5. ______Your mom walks in with her hands full of grocery bags while you are playing video games. Ignore her and continue to play the video game. After all, it's a very cool game. 6. ______The competition is about to take a penalty shot. To distract the player you begin to sneeze loudly and make disturbing noises. 7. ______You just got a present from your Aunt Peggy. You have the same sweater at home. You don't let her know and thank her so much for the lovely sweater. 8. ______You go to John’s house to play. When he’s not looking you sneak a couple of cookies from the pantry. His mom said to help yourself-might as well stuff a couple of cookies in your mouth! 9. ______You rush to go through the door but slow down when you realize someone is behind you. You decide to hold the door open and let them go first. **Copyrighted Material 28
LET S PRACTICE   SECTION 1. You make the call  Fill in the blanks with DO or DON T. Complete this section and earn 10 tick...
SECTION 4. Social Skills Crossword Puzzle - Earn 5 tickets! 2 1 3 4 5 6 7 8 Across 2. A promise that you need to follow through with. 7. A word used to describe someone polite, respectful and considerate. 8. A personal characteristic that says, "I am honest and I have high standards." Down 1. It is who we are when no one is looking. 3. The ability to deal with others without offending them. 4. How we stand. 5. Your job is to be respectful and follow the rules. 6. Your job is to make people feel welcome and comfortable. Words to Play: Courteous, Integrity, Tact, Commitment, Character, Posture, Host and Guest. **Copyrighted Material 32
SECTION 4. Social Skills Crossword Puzzle  - Earn 5 tickets   2  1  3  4 5  6  7  8  Across 2. A promise that you need to ...
THANK YOU DRILL Follow the guide and add your creative play! Fill in the name and replace the number with words. Use the list or come up with something original! #1 awesome gift cool present perfect gift thoughtful gift fun gift yummy cake ____________(name of the gift) ____________(be creative!) #2 play with it use it try it test it out eat it ___________(something original) #3 Name Dear ____________. 1 Thank you so much for the__________. 2 I love it! I can’t wait to__________. That was very kind of you to remember me. 3 Thanks again for__________. Hope to see you soon. Sincerely, ___________ 2-POINT CONVERSION TO TOP IT OFF: Score bonus points and add a little extra your card.... to A photo of you playing with your new toy Bake something to bring with your card A drawing A MORE CREATIVE PLAY: A techy modern thank you! Use the smartphone to create a unique thank you with your own words and personality. Create a picture with captions opening the gift and how grateful you are! Mention the gift again. Here you can the new coat holding up a thank you sign choose something from list #1 again. the new ball **Copyrighted Material
THANK YOU DRILL Follow the guide and add your creative play  Fill in the name and replace the number with words. Use the l...
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DIY Conversation Cards Perk up your family talk! Just cut out the cards. Create the family talk jar. One person picks a card and everyone can answer the same question or everyone can pick their own. Listen and take turns. SEASONS OF THE YEAR FAVORITE SPORTS PLAN A DREAM VACATION What is your favorite season? Why? Do you know an interesting fact about your favorite season? Name a fun family activity during this season? What is your favorite sport? Who is your favorite player? Who is your favorite team? What’s an interesting fact? Where would you go on a dream vacation? Who would come? What would you do? Why? What’s an interesting fact about your choice? FAVORITE CANDY EXERCISE IMPORTANT SUPERPOWERS What type of candy do you like to eat? What would happen if you ate tons of candy every day? Why should we exercise? What are some forms of exercising? How many times a week should we exercise? What is your favorite type of exercise? What is your least favorite exercise? If you could have any superpower, which would you choose? Why? ANIMAL YOUR FAVORITE THING FAME FOR 10 SECONDS If you could be an animal, what would you be and why? What is one thing you couldn’t live without? Why? If you had the attention of the world for 10 seconds, what would you say? Why? BEST HOLIDAY INTERESTING FACTS ABOUT YOU TEACH A CLASS FOR A DAY What is your favorite holiday to celebrate? Why? Name three interesting things about you? If you had to teach a class for a day, what subject would you choose? What would you do? **Copyrighted Material
DIY Conversation Cards Perk up your family talk  Just cut out the cards. Create the family talk jar. One person picks a ca...
DECODE THE DRESS CODE Match your look with the place or situation INFORMAL - Come as you are! Jeans, Shorts, Pants, Sweatpants, Skirt, Casual Dress, T-Shirt, Sweatshirt, Long Sleeve Shirt, Collared Shirt, Sweater, Polo Shirt, Athletic Uniform, Casual Shoes CASUAL - Comfortable yet presentable! Jeans, Shorts, Pants, Skirt, Casual Dress, T-Shirt, Sweatshirt, Long Sleeve Shirt, Sweater, Collared Shirt, Polo shirt, Casual Shoes CASUAL ELEGANT - Dress to impress! Dress Pants, Dress Sweater, Party Dress or Skirt, Sweater Vest, Polo Shirt, Blazer, Dress Shirt, More Formal Shoes FORMAL - Dress to impress to the max! Formal Pants & Shirts, Your Nicest Party Skirt or Dress, Blazer, Suit, Formal Shoes (When in doubt ask an adult for help!) **Copyrighted Material
DECODE THE DRESS CODE  Match your look with the place or situation INFORMAL - Come as you are   Jeans, Shorts, Pants, Swea...
TECH CODE OF CONDUCT I promise to use all technology responsibly. This includes cell phone, computer, tablet, Xbox, Wii, iPods and any website that I visit or join. Please check the following statements to show that you have read them and understand them: I will not give away personal information such as my address, phone number, school information without my parent’s consent. I will not befriend people that I have not met in real life without my parent’s consent. I will never say anything unkind toward anyone for any reason on the internet. If I see someone being mean to another person, I will tell them to stop and then tell my parents. If someone is mean to me online I will not respond. I will instead tell my parents. I am not allowed to lie about my age to join any website or to use an app. I will stay courteous, respectful and considerate while using all technology. I will never forward any photos or information written by someone else without their permission. I will never share photos where I am posing in a way that I wouldn’t in front of my parents. I will not download music, games or software without my parent’s consent. I will never use inappropriate language online. I will immediately close any pop-up boxes with the x button. I understand that people are not always who they say they are, not everyone tells the truth and there is no such thing as privacy online. I will not sign up for anything online without my parent’s consent I will always tell my parents if something makes me uncomfortable on the internet - an email, a website etc. I will take care of all my technology gadgets and remember that they are expensive. ________________________ Player Signature ________________________ Coach Signature **Copyrighted Material
TECH CODE OF CONDUCT I promise to use all technology responsibly. This includes cell phone, computer, tablet, Xbox, Wii, i...
The SMART Playbook is available at www.thesmartplaybook.com. Buy as one complete book with all five game plans (Best Value!) or by topic. Tailor your game plan to your family needs! Telephone Smarts Character First Impressions Sportsmanship Commitment Game Plan #1 - Social Skill Basics Suzanne M. Wind Internet Safety Table Setting Rule Breakers Cyberbullying Secret Codes Utensil Usage Staying Balanced Digital Manners Eating Styles Pre-dinner Prep Game Plan #5 - Technology Talk Game Plan #2 - Mealtime Manners Suzanne M. Wind Suzanne M. Wind PLAY IT SMART ! Dress Code Magic Words The Game Plan for a Happy & Confident Child Suzanne M. Wind Who's Who Ordering 101 Eye Contact Introductions Manners Challenge Foods Conversation Guide Body Language Game Plan #4 - Restaurant Behavior Suzanne M. Wind Game Plan #3 - Art of Conversation Suzanne M. Wind **Copyrighted Material
The SMART Playbook is available at www.thesmartplaybook.com. Buy as one complete book with all five game plans  Best Value...
PLAY I T SMART ! The world is changing faster than ever before. Parents and children are busier and technology has presented new challenges we must face. But with all the texting, emailing, and posting, are children developing the social skills that will be required for life-long happiness, confidence and success? The SMART Playbook introduces the basics of social skills for the modern world and is packed with more than 100 games and challenges to keep your child motived, along with how-to guides for some of the finer points of social skill development. The SMART Playbook is your child's guide to five key topics! SOCIAL SKILL BASICS MEALTIME MANNERS ART OF CONVERSATION RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR TECHNOLOGY TALK Your child is the player. You are the coach. The book is your guide. Life is the referee. ARE YOU AND YOUR CHILD READY TO GET IN THE GAME? www.thesmartplaybook.com About the author: Suzanne lives in CT with her husband and three kids. Before kids, she was an international marketing executive In New York City. With a multi-cultural background, she was raised in more than six countries with four languages. Her career and living overseas taught her the importance of knowing and using the common language of manners and social skills to being your best. Today she's a mom with a mission, inspired to communicate social skills in a modern world to a new generation.
PLAY I T  SMART   The world is changing faster than ever before. Parents and children are busier and technology has presen...