25 ways to keep your children busy during vacation For a lifestyle in the know. 5 things never to keep from your spouse ring Sp ! Issue FYI’s Customer Excellence Award Interview with author and parenting expert Sora Yaroslawitz teach your children how to manage their finances Issue 16 | April 2015
25 ways  to keep your children busy during vacation For a lifestyle in the know.  5 things never to keep from your spouse ...
In This Issue 42 60 Get a handle on things 32 35 + Lamps + Chandeliers + Sconces + Breakfronts + Armoires + And More Also see our beautiful selection 5 6 Letters to the Editor 7 of porcelains, including Herend. Editor’s Note you gotta know! Contributing Writers 18 Are Your Hands Full? Meet Dr. Sora Yaroslawitz 23 8 Teaching Children About Finances 10 57 Sharpen Your Appetite! 59 Zoodle Bolognese 60 Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse 62 Clip & Save These Recipes! Magic Helpers 50 5 Minutes to Fitness 17 30 Sharpen your appetite Health Benefits of Wine 15 Power Toothbrushes Your Voice You Gotta Know Getting Your Baby to Sleep 13 26 29 Fall in Love with Life FYI Restaurant of the Month How Should I Use My Decorating Budget for My Event? 55 + Chairs 25 Ways to Keep Children Busy During Pesach Vacation 52 + Curios Are You Free? Soft Addictions That Overtake Your Life 50 + Pa i n t i n g s Make Yourself At Home… In The Kitchen 45 + Mirrors A Little Bit of Fashion 42 + Vi t r i n e s 5 Things Not to Keep from Your Spouse 39 + End tables Ask Maurice Shiny and Bright 30 718.851.4700 4514FYI Magazine 11th Ave. Brooklyn, NY 11219 2| Follow Us on Instagram @UNIKANTIK4514 FYI Magazine | 3
In This Issue  42  60  Get a handle on things 32 35    Lamps   Chandeliers   Sconces   Breakfronts   Armoires    And More ...
In This Issue 42 60 Get a handle on things 32 35 + Lamps + Chandeliers + Sconces + Breakfronts + Armoires + And More Also see our beautiful selection 5 6 Letters to the Editor 7 of porcelains, including Herend. Editor’s Note you gotta know! Contributing Writers 18 Are Your Hands Full? Meet Dr. Sora Yaroslawitz 23 8 Teaching Children About Finances 10 57 Sharpen Your Appetite! 59 Zoodle Bolognese 60 Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse 62 Clip & Save These Recipes! Magic Helpers 50 5 Minutes to Fitness 17 30 Sharpen your appetite Health Benefits of Wine 15 Power Toothbrushes Your Voice You Gotta Know Getting Your Baby to Sleep 13 26 29 Fall in Love with Life FYI Restaurant of the Month How Should I Use My Decorating Budget for My Event? 55 + Chairs 25 Ways to Keep Children Busy During Pesach Vacation 52 + Curios Are You Free? Soft Addictions That Overtake Your Life 50 + Pa i n t i n g s Make Yourself At Home… In The Kitchen 45 + Mirrors A Little Bit of Fashion 42 + Vi t r i n e s 5 Things Not to Keep from Your Spouse 39 + End tables Ask Maurice Shiny and Bright 30 718.851.4700 4514FYI Magazine 11th Ave. Brooklyn, NY 11219 2| Follow Us on Instagram @UNIKANTIK4514 FYI Magazine | 3
In This Issue  42  60  Get a handle on things 32 35    Lamps   Chandeliers   Sconces   Breakfronts   Armoires    And More ...
{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } Custom e r Excel l ence Awa r d Editor’s Note L ast week I took my daughter on our first park trip of the season (finally!). I felt like everyone there (myself included), moms and kids alike, felt happier and lighter as a result of the nice, warmer weather. At one point, a mom left the park with her three kids - noisily. Very noisily. They had everyone’s attention. • this months FYI’s Customer Excellence Award goes to • “I bought a new dining-room table and called them with an order for two expensive tablecloths. I received them in the mail, and they were gorgeous, but I had measured wrong! They didn’t fit my table at all. I called Blosseum Bleu, thinking that maybe they could fix them by adding on material. Barbara was so nice! She offered to redo the tablecloths right away, which she did!” Did you have a particularly great experience with a business lately? Her children were screaming and wailing, resisting leaving. Cool and collected, she walked out of the park with her kids lagging along at her side. They were screaming so loudly and didn’t stop until they got into the car - yet mom remained calm. I noticed some of the other mothers giving her that “I know what you’re going through” look, while others looked on in sheer pity. I wasn’t sure what to make of that situation, but I felt that the mother herself handled it all very well. I know that if it had been me, I would’ve been so worked up that it probably wouldn’t have ended nearly as well. I had the privilege of meeting renowned behavioral expert Mrs. Sora Yaroslawitz, and I learned something very enlightening about tantrums that I had never heard before. Tantrums are essential for growth. When children have a tantrum it means they have a voice. They have an opinion! This is something to be celebrated! Read more of my interview with Sora to see how to effectively deal with tantrums and other negative behaviors. I turned to you, readers, to let me know what you do with your children on vacation and long Yom Tov days. Some of you had great ideas, which we featured in the “Your Voice” column. We decided to help you out in this department, too, and we compiled 25 new and fresh ideas that will keep your kids entertained for hours! Addiction is something people usually associate with drugs and alcohol. Yet it’s actually so much more. Read Dini Harris’s article on soft addiction to learn more about it and how to deal with it. Thanks to you, we are recognizing businesses that exercise outstanding customer service. FYI’s first Customer Excellence Award is announced in these pages. Make sure to check that out as well. As always, I look forward to and appreciate your feedback. Wishing you a beautiful and relaxing Pesach, Yitty Denciger Follow me on Instagram and Facebook! @FYIMAGAZINE Email or text your submissions for entry to info@fyimagazineny.com or 516.331.1885. 4 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 5
  Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s    Custom e r Excel l ence Awa r d  Editor   s Note  L  ast week I took my daughter on o...
{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } Custom e r Excel l ence Awa r d Editor’s Note L ast week I took my daughter on our first park trip of the season (finally!). I felt like everyone there (myself included), moms and kids alike, felt happier and lighter as a result of the nice, warmer weather. At one point, a mom left the park with her three kids - noisily. Very noisily. They had everyone’s attention. • this months FYI’s Customer Excellence Award goes to • “I bought a new dining-room table and called them with an order for two expensive tablecloths. I received them in the mail, and they were gorgeous, but I had measured wrong! They didn’t fit my table at all. I called Blosseum Bleu, thinking that maybe they could fix them by adding on material. Barbara was so nice! She offered to redo the tablecloths right away, which she did!” Did you have a particularly great experience with a business lately? Her children were screaming and wailing, resisting leaving. Cool and collected, she walked out of the park with her kids lagging along at her side. They were screaming so loudly and didn’t stop until they got into the car - yet mom remained calm. I noticed some of the other mothers giving her that “I know what you’re going through” look, while others looked on in sheer pity. I wasn’t sure what to make of that situation, but I felt that the mother herself handled it all very well. I know that if it had been me, I would’ve been so worked up that it probably wouldn’t have ended nearly as well. I had the privilege of meeting renowned behavioral expert Mrs. Sora Yaroslawitz, and I learned something very enlightening about tantrums that I had never heard before. Tantrums are essential for growth. When children have a tantrum it means they have a voice. They have an opinion! This is something to be celebrated! Read more of my interview with Sora to see how to effectively deal with tantrums and other negative behaviors. I turned to you, readers, to let me know what you do with your children on vacation and long Yom Tov days. Some of you had great ideas, which we featured in the “Your Voice” column. We decided to help you out in this department, too, and we compiled 25 new and fresh ideas that will keep your kids entertained for hours! Addiction is something people usually associate with drugs and alcohol. Yet it’s actually so much more. Read Dini Harris’s article on soft addiction to learn more about it and how to deal with it. Thanks to you, we are recognizing businesses that exercise outstanding customer service. FYI’s first Customer Excellence Award is announced in these pages. Make sure to check that out as well. As always, I look forward to and appreciate your feedback. Wishing you a beautiful and relaxing Pesach, Yitty Denciger Follow me on Instagram and Facebook! @FYIMAGAZINE Email or text your submissions for entry to info@fyimagazineny.com or 516.331.1885. 4 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 5
  Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s    Custom e r Excel l ence Awa r d  Editor   s Note  L  ast week I took my daughter on o...
Letters to the Editor Contributing Writers Esty Brogna is a fun loving, free spirit and a highly admired fashionista. Check her column for the latest trends, how to dress your best, and general fashion advice. Esty can be contacted at estybrognafashion@gmail.com. Drop her a note or leave her any questions you want to see featured here. Editor Yitty Denciger Dr. David Simai is a board-certified pediatrician from the Five Towns. He is a full-time practitioner in his own private practice in Cedarhurst, New York since 2007. In addition, he is an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children’s Hospital, North-Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. He can be contacted for consultation at 516-374-2228 or via email Drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com Art & Marketing Tzivia Cohen www.sandbox-marketing.com Chanie Apfelbaum is a food blogger, recipe developer and food photographer who writes about her cooking adventures at www.busyinbrooklyn.com. She combines her love of food, family and tradition to create fun and original dishes that your whole family will enjoy. Proofreader Malka Winner managing Editor David Zilberberg Food Editor Chanie Apfelbaum Advertising Sari Reiss Wow! I just read the Purim magazine and I’m amazed at how professional your work is! It’s really a cool magazine and I like the niche it fills. Miriam Schwartzman Contributing Writers Dini Harris Nissi Unger Malka Winner Chanie Apfelbaum Dr. David Simai Maurice Stein Leah Berg Rebecca Blue Esty Brogna Suie Frenkel Reva Lieberman Chaya Guttman & Leah Davidowitz Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger Phone: 718.412.2442 website: www.fyimagazineny.com I just skimmed through your magazine and absolutely love, love, love it. One thing I can tell you is that I love the idea of the customer satisfaction award! What a positive initiative! Thanks for taking the time and energy to create positivity. M.H. Firstly, I wanted to let you know how much I enjoy your magazine. Also, I wanted to thank you for the article “Five Things to Avoid Telling Your Children”I loved it! It was clear, concise and a great reminder of the importance of my words. I was visiting my daughter in Woodmere where I read your magazine for the first time. Would you be able to send your magazine to me in Baltimore? I would appreciate it, as I found interesting information in it. Sincerely , Chavi S. I recently read your magazine and I’m hooked! I would like to request to see more information on healthy eating. Looking forward to reading the future issues! Anonymous C.K. E-mail: ads@fyimagazineny.com AD DEADLINES May Issue: April 23 June Issue: May 28 6 | FYI Magazine Published by FYI Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part in any form without prior written permission from the publisher is prohibited. The publisher reserves the right to edit all articles for clarity, space and editorial sensitivities. FYI Magazine assumes no responsibility for the content of artlices or advertisements in the publication, nor for the connect of books that are referred to or excerpted herein. Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a master’s degree in nutrition. She provides nutritional counselling in the Five Towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/illnesses. To make an appointment call Leah at 646-5301453 or email Leahbrg@gmail. com. muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Chaya and Leah are both clinical social workers in private practice with extensive experience counseling parents and children of all ages. Individual sessions are available upon request. For more information e-mail muffinsnmoms@gmail. com or call 516.340.0288. You can follow them on Instagram @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. Maurice Stein Internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn around many struggling businesses. His global client base turns to him for his ideas, resourcefulness and motivational skills, which have propelled many companies to unprecedented heights – some to the tune of a $1,000,000 in less than 12 months! He has spent the past 12 years being a coach, an adviser, a mentor, and an honest friend. He is a creative spark plug to CEOs, managers and everyday people who strive to get more out of their lives and livelihoods. www.askmaurice.com Rebecca Blue is a fitness enthusiast for over 27 years. Rebecca received her personal training/fitness instructor license from ECITS, AFAA, ISCA. She is constantly learning and studying to make sure she is always at the height of the newest trends, thoughts and theories of exercise. Her training techniques incorporate every aspect of the fitness industry, including kettle bells, TRX, kickboxing, strength training, plyometrics and more. Rebecca is available to train clients at several of the Five Towns fitness centers, or in the privacy of their homes. rblue1994@yahoo.com 516-426-9911 Surie Frenkel is a writer, speaker, certified life coach and co founder of JEWEL, a community for Jewish Empowered Woman Enriching Lives. She is passionate about empowering woman to be their best. To schedule an appointment call 718-4376600 or via email surie@jewel.community Davii Mandel and Chany Kleinberger, of Michicas, have a collective 25 years in the catering business. They bring their knowledge, experience, and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible. Phone: 845-426-0747 Reva Lieberman is a court stenographer turned professional organizer. She’s had a passion for organizing as long as she can remember. Reva provides services in Brooklyn, Queens and The Five Towns. To contact her call 347-909-0900. FYI Magazine | 7
Letters to the Editor  Contributing Writers Esty Brogna is a fun loving, free spirit and a highly admired fashionista. Che...
Letters to the Editor Contributing Writers Esty Brogna is a fun loving, free spirit and a highly admired fashionista. Check her column for the latest trends, how to dress your best, and general fashion advice. Esty can be contacted at estybrognafashion@gmail.com. Drop her a note or leave her any questions you want to see featured here. Editor Yitty Denciger Dr. David Simai is a board-certified pediatrician from the Five Towns. He is a full-time practitioner in his own private practice in Cedarhurst, New York since 2007. In addition, he is an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children’s Hospital, North-Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. He can be contacted for consultation at 516-374-2228 or via email Drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com Art & Marketing Tzivia Cohen www.sandbox-marketing.com Chanie Apfelbaum is a food blogger, recipe developer and food photographer who writes about her cooking adventures at www.busyinbrooklyn.com. She combines her love of food, family and tradition to create fun and original dishes that your whole family will enjoy. Proofreader Malka Winner managing Editor David Zilberberg Food Editor Chanie Apfelbaum Advertising Sari Reiss Wow! I just read the Purim magazine and I’m amazed at how professional your work is! It’s really a cool magazine and I like the niche it fills. Miriam Schwartzman Contributing Writers Dini Harris Nissi Unger Malka Winner Chanie Apfelbaum Dr. David Simai Maurice Stein Leah Berg Rebecca Blue Esty Brogna Suie Frenkel Reva Lieberman Chaya Guttman & Leah Davidowitz Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger Phone: 718.412.2442 website: www.fyimagazineny.com I just skimmed through your magazine and absolutely love, love, love it. One thing I can tell you is that I love the idea of the customer satisfaction award! What a positive initiative! Thanks for taking the time and energy to create positivity. M.H. Firstly, I wanted to let you know how much I enjoy your magazine. Also, I wanted to thank you for the article “Five Things to Avoid Telling Your Children”I loved it! It was clear, concise and a great reminder of the importance of my words. I was visiting my daughter in Woodmere where I read your magazine for the first time. Would you be able to send your magazine to me in Baltimore? I would appreciate it, as I found interesting information in it. Sincerely , Chavi S. I recently read your magazine and I’m hooked! I would like to request to see more information on healthy eating. Looking forward to reading the future issues! Anonymous C.K. E-mail: ads@fyimagazineny.com AD DEADLINES May Issue: April 23 June Issue: May 28 6 | FYI Magazine Published by FYI Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part in any form without prior written permission from the publisher is prohibited. The publisher reserves the right to edit all articles for clarity, space and editorial sensitivities. FYI Magazine assumes no responsibility for the content of artlices or advertisements in the publication, nor for the connect of books that are referred to or excerpted herein. Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a master’s degree in nutrition. She provides nutritional counselling in the Five Towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/illnesses. To make an appointment call Leah at 646-5301453 or email Leahbrg@gmail. com. muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Chaya and Leah are both clinical social workers in private practice with extensive experience counseling parents and children of all ages. Individual sessions are available upon request. For more information e-mail muffinsnmoms@gmail. com or call 516.340.0288. You can follow them on Instagram @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. Maurice Stein Internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn around many struggling businesses. His global client base turns to him for his ideas, resourcefulness and motivational skills, which have propelled many companies to unprecedented heights – some to the tune of a $1,000,000 in less than 12 months! He has spent the past 12 years being a coach, an adviser, a mentor, and an honest friend. He is a creative spark plug to CEOs, managers and everyday people who strive to get more out of their lives and livelihoods. www.askmaurice.com Rebecca Blue is a fitness enthusiast for over 27 years. Rebecca received her personal training/fitness instructor license from ECITS, AFAA, ISCA. She is constantly learning and studying to make sure she is always at the height of the newest trends, thoughts and theories of exercise. Her training techniques incorporate every aspect of the fitness industry, including kettle bells, TRX, kickboxing, strength training, plyometrics and more. Rebecca is available to train clients at several of the Five Towns fitness centers, or in the privacy of their homes. rblue1994@yahoo.com 516-426-9911 Surie Frenkel is a writer, speaker, certified life coach and co founder of JEWEL, a community for Jewish Empowered Woman Enriching Lives. She is passionate about empowering woman to be their best. To schedule an appointment call 718-4376600 or via email surie@jewel.community Davii Mandel and Chany Kleinberger, of Michicas, have a collective 25 years in the catering business. They bring their knowledge, experience, and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible. Phone: 845-426-0747 Reva Lieberman is a court stenographer turned professional organizer. She’s had a passion for organizing as long as she can remember. Reva provides services in Brooklyn, Queens and The Five Towns. To contact her call 347-909-0900. FYI Magazine | 7
Letters to the Editor  Contributing Writers Esty Brogna is a fun loving, free spirit and a highly admired fashionista. Che...
HOURS by: Surie Frenkel Dear Bat Sheva, I greatly enjoyed your last article about happiness. Here is my question to you: I have a 14-year-old boy and a 16-year-old girl. They are both doing well in school and with friends, thank g-d. But the problem is that they don’t value money, and I feel that as a parent it is my responsibility to teach them the importance of financial planning and the value of saving money vs. spending money. At the moment we are well off, so there is always money around in the house. They constantly buy stuff without even comparing prices. It is very obvious that they don’t appreciate the value of money and they look at money as something that’s just always available to them. I grew up in a house where there was never enough money, even for the basic things, which is why I am very happy to be in our current environment, where my kids can buy what they need without begging or waiting for months. But, on the other hand, I feel that when they get older they could end up in a lot of trouble if they don’t learn to value money. My question to you is: How do I teach them to value and appreciate money, while at the same time maintaining our current setup, in which there is money to spend? Looking forward to your insights, Bat Sheva Green 8 | FYI Magazine You are absolutely correct in taking the responsibility to teach your children the value of money seriously. Many parents forget that we are required to parent our children — not befriend them or win the popularity contest for best mom or dad. The first thing you want to do is recognize the difference between your children’s needs and wants. As parents we are responsible for providing our children with all their needs to the best of our ability. Children should not have to beg, bargain or earn their way. They are naturally dependent on their parents to provide them with their basic needs — emotional, spiritual, physical and financial. Our children’s wants are a different story. Wants and desires are their own, and they should be earned. To allow them to truly appreciate the sweetness of acquiring anything of value we must move out of the way and give them the space to earn it on their own. Our challenge as parents is to understand and differentiate between what are their true needs and wants. Needs are unique to each child. Their needs depend on many factors, such as their age, culture, maturity, intelligence and more. Once you have determined that what the child is requesting is a true need, do whatever you can to provide him with it. On the other hand, if it is a want, allow your child to earn it independently. When we jump in too quickly to provide them with their desires and wants, they can never fully experience the joy that comes with getting something that was earned through their own efforts. Obviously, the degree of input is based on the age and maturity level of each child. Ideally, we should progressively give our children independence so that by the time they reach adulthood, at approximately the age of 18, they can take full responsibility for all their needs and wants! April 6, 7, 8: 11am-6pm TICKETS $13 Gen. Admission, Ages 2+ CHOL HAMOED PESACH April 9: 10am-2:30pm at the JCM Featuring $15 Combo Admission & Show www.JCM.museum 718.907.8833 VISIT Teaching Children About Finances Dear Surie, ‫ב"ה‬ { Fa l l in Love with Li fe } { Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } 792 Eastern Parkway Brooklyn, NY to Kingston Avenue to Eastern Parkway Limited tickets available, advance purchase only. Strollers not permitted on exhibit floors. r Productio A Jeff Boye SPECIAL TE FAMILY RA n ns Admissio 6 Combo 80 = $90 $ : FYIP75 de Promo Co e or able onlin Only avail one over the ph Ultimately, this is the greatest gift parents can give their children. No monetary or physical gift you offer can possibly measure up to the gift of total independence at maturity. This is what our children truly crave. Material presents are simply a cheap substitute for what a child wants, which is to master his or her own destiny and to learn to appreciate the value of money. As parents, when we give from a place of weakness, either from guilt, fear or our own perceived immature sense of entitlement, we feel compelled to compensate by fulfilling our children’s wants. One of the most valuable lessons I received was as a child of six years old. My father was a salesman who often made overnight business trips. He didn’t feel so happy about leaving us children, and so he would come home with expensive gifts to minimize his guilty feelings. Obviously, these items were not on the list of needs that a 6-year-old had. Rather, they fell into the category of lovely imagined fantasies of a typical little girl, such as dolls, games and gadgets, way past what a girl really needs to grow into a healthy young lady. At one point I started anticipating my father’s excursions so that I would enjoy another materialistic windfall. I clearly remember the fateful day that he returned from a trip. I ran toward him to greet him, but rather than my usual, “Hi! How are you?” my welcome was “What did you buy?” My father’s face fell. He looked at me long and hard and answered, “Nothing.” My little heart experienced a deep feeling of shame. I understood, and oddly enough, felt grateful. To my father’s credit, he maintained his new policy for the next year. Zero gifts. It took a tremendous amount of courage to overcome his original mindset. He understood that this was his real parenting test. Feeding us all our fantasies and wants was only fostering an unhealthy sense of entitlement. The gift he gave me that day has eternal value as I pass it on to the next generation. To summarize: Our obligation is to provide our children with all their needs so they can focus on the business of growing into maturity without prematurely Feeding us all our fantasies and wants was only fostering an unhealthy sense of entitlement. experiencing pressures that should be reserved for adults. Yet, if we spoil our children by giving them their , they don’t have the opportunity to discover their own ability to achieve and accomplish their goals, desires and dreams. Appreciate that you have the financial ability to provide your children with all their materialistic needs without the struggle that your parents experienced. This allows you to focus with greater ease on their higher emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs. Do not get pulled in by the misguided notion that feeding them their wants will enhance their lives in any way. Use your good judgment and self-discipline to gift your child with what they truly need from you. FYI Magazine | 9
HOURS by  Surie Frenkel  Dear Bat Sheva,  I greatly enjoyed your last article about happiness. Here is my question to you ...
HOURS by: Surie Frenkel Dear Bat Sheva, I greatly enjoyed your last article about happiness. Here is my question to you: I have a 14-year-old boy and a 16-year-old girl. They are both doing well in school and with friends, thank g-d. But the problem is that they don’t value money, and I feel that as a parent it is my responsibility to teach them the importance of financial planning and the value of saving money vs. spending money. At the moment we are well off, so there is always money around in the house. They constantly buy stuff without even comparing prices. It is very obvious that they don’t appreciate the value of money and they look at money as something that’s just always available to them. I grew up in a house where there was never enough money, even for the basic things, which is why I am very happy to be in our current environment, where my kids can buy what they need without begging or waiting for months. But, on the other hand, I feel that when they get older they could end up in a lot of trouble if they don’t learn to value money. My question to you is: How do I teach them to value and appreciate money, while at the same time maintaining our current setup, in which there is money to spend? Looking forward to your insights, Bat Sheva Green 8 | FYI Magazine You are absolutely correct in taking the responsibility to teach your children the value of money seriously. Many parents forget that we are required to parent our children — not befriend them or win the popularity contest for best mom or dad. The first thing you want to do is recognize the difference between your children’s needs and wants. As parents we are responsible for providing our children with all their needs to the best of our ability. Children should not have to beg, bargain or earn their way. They are naturally dependent on their parents to provide them with their basic needs — emotional, spiritual, physical and financial. Our children’s wants are a different story. Wants and desires are their own, and they should be earned. To allow them to truly appreciate the sweetness of acquiring anything of value we must move out of the way and give them the space to earn it on their own. Our challenge as parents is to understand and differentiate between what are their true needs and wants. Needs are unique to each child. Their needs depend on many factors, such as their age, culture, maturity, intelligence and more. Once you have determined that what the child is requesting is a true need, do whatever you can to provide him with it. On the other hand, if it is a want, allow your child to earn it independently. When we jump in too quickly to provide them with their desires and wants, they can never fully experience the joy that comes with getting something that was earned through their own efforts. Obviously, the degree of input is based on the age and maturity level of each child. Ideally, we should progressively give our children independence so that by the time they reach adulthood, at approximately the age of 18, they can take full responsibility for all their needs and wants! April 6, 7, 8: 11am-6pm TICKETS $13 Gen. Admission, Ages 2+ CHOL HAMOED PESACH April 9: 10am-2:30pm at the JCM Featuring $15 Combo Admission & Show www.JCM.museum 718.907.8833 VISIT Teaching Children About Finances Dear Surie, ‫ב"ה‬ { Fa l l in Love with Li fe } { Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } 792 Eastern Parkway Brooklyn, NY to Kingston Avenue to Eastern Parkway Limited tickets available, advance purchase only. Strollers not permitted on exhibit floors. r Productio A Jeff Boye SPECIAL TE FAMILY RA n ns Admissio 6 Combo 80 = $90 $ : FYIP75 de Promo Co e or able onlin Only avail one over the ph Ultimately, this is the greatest gift parents can give their children. No monetary or physical gift you offer can possibly measure up to the gift of total independence at maturity. This is what our children truly crave. Material presents are simply a cheap substitute for what a child wants, which is to master his or her own destiny and to learn to appreciate the value of money. As parents, when we give from a place of weakness, either from guilt, fear or our own perceived immature sense of entitlement, we feel compelled to compensate by fulfilling our children’s wants. One of the most valuable lessons I received was as a child of six years old. My father was a salesman who often made overnight business trips. He didn’t feel so happy about leaving us children, and so he would come home with expensive gifts to minimize his guilty feelings. Obviously, these items were not on the list of needs that a 6-year-old had. Rather, they fell into the category of lovely imagined fantasies of a typical little girl, such as dolls, games and gadgets, way past what a girl really needs to grow into a healthy young lady. At one point I started anticipating my father’s excursions so that I would enjoy another materialistic windfall. I clearly remember the fateful day that he returned from a trip. I ran toward him to greet him, but rather than my usual, “Hi! How are you?” my welcome was “What did you buy?” My father’s face fell. He looked at me long and hard and answered, “Nothing.” My little heart experienced a deep feeling of shame. I understood, and oddly enough, felt grateful. To my father’s credit, he maintained his new policy for the next year. Zero gifts. It took a tremendous amount of courage to overcome his original mindset. He understood that this was his real parenting test. Feeding us all our fantasies and wants was only fostering an unhealthy sense of entitlement. The gift he gave me that day has eternal value as I pass it on to the next generation. To summarize: Our obligation is to provide our children with all their needs so they can focus on the business of growing into maturity without prematurely Feeding us all our fantasies and wants was only fostering an unhealthy sense of entitlement. experiencing pressures that should be reserved for adults. Yet, if we spoil our children by giving them their , they don’t have the opportunity to discover their own ability to achieve and accomplish their goals, desires and dreams. Appreciate that you have the financial ability to provide your children with all their materialistic needs without the struggle that your parents experienced. This allows you to focus with greater ease on their higher emotional, intellectual and spiritual needs. Do not get pulled in by the misguided notion that feeding them their wants will enhance their lives in any way. Use your good judgment and self-discipline to gift your child with what they truly need from you. FYI Magazine | 9
HOURS by  Surie Frenkel  Dear Bat Sheva,  I greatly enjoyed your last article about happiness. Here is my question to you ...
{ Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } Getting Your Baby to Sleep By Dr. David Elazar Simai, M.D. Practicing medicine over the last decade, I have noticed certain patterns in the behavior of some parents. Reflecting back on the beginning of my career as a physician in a Chassidish neighborhood - Kiryas Yoel, Monroe - I rarely heard parents report or complain that their children had a hard time staying in their own beds. However, over Shabbos lunch with our neighbors in Monsey, I learned that some parents desperately need guidance when it comes to the “bedtime routine.” My wife and I were almost brought to tears when we heard about our hostesses’ challenging and tiring life. The firstborn boy, then three-and-a-half years old, was routinely sleeping in his parents’ bed. This issue seemed to overwhelm her and instill in her an understandable fear of raising and coping with future siblings in the family. 10 | FYI Magazine 3720 14th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11218 · 718.436.0296 FYI Magazine | 11
  Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe    Getting Your Baby to Sleep By Dr. David Elazar Simai, M.D.  Practicing medicine over the ...
{ Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } Getting Your Baby to Sleep By Dr. David Elazar Simai, M.D. Practicing medicine over the last decade, I have noticed certain patterns in the behavior of some parents. Reflecting back on the beginning of my career as a physician in a Chassidish neighborhood - Kiryas Yoel, Monroe - I rarely heard parents report or complain that their children had a hard time staying in their own beds. However, over Shabbos lunch with our neighbors in Monsey, I learned that some parents desperately need guidance when it comes to the “bedtime routine.” My wife and I were almost brought to tears when we heard about our hostesses’ challenging and tiring life. The firstborn boy, then three-and-a-half years old, was routinely sleeping in his parents’ bed. This issue seemed to overwhelm her and instill in her an understandable fear of raising and coping with future siblings in the family. 10 | FYI Magazine 3720 14th Ave, Brooklyn, NY 11218 · 718.436.0296 FYI Magazine | 11
  Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe    Getting Your Baby to Sleep By Dr. David Elazar Simai, M.D.  Practicing medicine over the ...
{ Fa l l in Love with Li fe } After starting my practice nine years ago in Cedarhurst, I quickly realized that the problem is prevalent here as well. It seems that for some first-time parents, a bedtime routine is very challenging. For this reason, I have incorporated specific questions about sleeping habits into my routine physical exams. I try to discuss and educate parents about the danger of bed-sharing with their infants. (It is believed that this is a cause of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, SIDS, dating back to the story of the two mothers fighting over their infant in front of King Solomon.) Here is some useful information I would like to share with you from the American Academy of Pediatrics. What’s the best way to get my child to go to sleep? Babies do not have regular sleep cycles until about 6 months of age. While newborns sleep about 16 to 17 hours per day, they may only sleep 1 or 2 hours at a time. As babies get older, they need less sleep. However, different babies have different sleep needs. It is normal for a 6-month-old to wake up during the night but go back to sleep after a few minutes. Here are some suggestions that may help your baby (and you) sleep better at night. 1. Keep your baby calm and quiet when you feed or change her during the night. Try not to stimulate or wake her too much. 2. Make daytime playtime. Talking and playing with your baby during the day will help lengthen her awake times. This will help her sleep for longer periods during the night. 3. Put your baby to bed when drowsy but still awake. This will help your baby learn to fall asleep on her own in her own bed. Holding or rocking her until she is completely asleep may make it hard for her to go back to sleep if she wakes up during the night. 4. Wait a few minutes before responding to your child’s fussing. See if she can fall back to sleep on her own. If she continues to cry, check on her, but don’t turn on the light, play with her, or pick her up. If she gets frantic or is unable to settle herself, consider what else might be bothering her. She may be hungry, wet or soiled, feverish, or otherwise not feeling well. 12 | FYI Magazine Toddlers and preschoolers often resist going to sleep, especially if they have older siblings who are still awake. Use the following tips to help your toddler develop good sleep habits: Health Benefits of Wine By: Leah Berg, MS, RD, CDN 1. Set up a quiet routine before bedtime to help your child understand that it will soon be time to go to sleep. Use this time to read him a story, listen to quiet music, or give him a bath. It may be tempting to play with your child before bed; however, active play may make your child too excited to sleep. 2. Be consistent. Make bedtime the same time every night. This helps your child know what to expect and helps him establish healthy sleep patterns. 3. Allow your child to take a favorite thing to bed each night. It’s okay to let your child sleep with a teddy bear, special blanket or some other favorite toy. These often help children fall asleep — especially if they wake up during the night. Make sure the object is safe. Look for ribbons, buttons or other parts that may be choking hazards. Stuffing or pellets inside stuffed toys can also be dangerous. 4. Make sure your child is comfortable. He may like to have a drink of water, a light left on or the door left slightly open. Try to handle your child’s needs before bedtime so that he doesn’t use them to avoid going to sleep. 5. Do not let your child sleep in the same bed with you. This can make it harder for him to fall asleep when he is alone. 6. Do not return to your child’s room every time he complains or calls out. Instead, try the following: a. Wait several seconds before answering and make your response time longer each time he calls. This will give him a chance to fall asleep on his own. b. Reassure your child that you are there. If you need to go into the room, do not turn on the light, play with him or stay too long. c. Move farther from your child’s bed every time you go in, until you can reassure him verbally without entering his room. d. Remind him each time he calls that it’s time to go to sleep. 7. Give it time. Helping your child develop good sleep habits can be a challenge, and it is normal to get upset when a child keeps you awake at night. Try to be understanding. A negative response by a parent can sometimes make a sleep problem worse. Once you’ve accomplished an effective bedtime routine, your quality of life will surely improve dramatically. In addition, your child will get used to an early bedtime and will perform better socially and academically. Most importantly, you will have the time to re-energize yourself and be an even better parent the following day. There are numerous foods which are synonymous with Passover, and most of them are unhealthy. However, the Passover custom of RED WINE falls into a different category. While too much alcohol can harm the body, research suggests that drinking moderate amounts of red wine each day can be good for your heart and even protect against certain cancers. Interest in red wine’s health benefits was sparked after the “French Paradox” was first noted in a study in the 1980s. The “French Paradox” refers to the relatively low incidence of heart disease in France compared with other Western countries, despite the French’s high intake of saturated fat (which is similar to our Pesach eating habits). This study created a ripple effect in the following years, leading to large amounts of research on the topic of the health benefits of red wine. Just what makes red wine healthy, though? Firstly, the alcohol found in all types of wine increases the level of HDL (good cholesterol) in the body. Additionally, alcohol has been found to reduce the formation of clots, help prevent artery damage caused by high levels of LDL (bad cholesterol), and lower blood pressure. Furthermore, certain antioxidants in red wine, called polyphenols, may help prevent heart disease by protecting the lining of arteries in the heart against damage. Specifically, a polyphenol called resveratrol is one substance in red wine that has gotten a lot of attention. Resveratrol is a key component of red wine which helps prevent damage to blood vessels, reduce LDL cholesterol (bad cholesterol), and prevent blood clots. Animal studies have shown that resveratrol may even protect against obesity and reduce insulin resistance, which lowers the risk of diabetes. Additionally, resveratrol may have cancer-fighting properties in that it protects cells from damage which leads to cancer. The resveratrol in red wine comes from the skin of the grapes used to make the wine. Because red wine is fermented with grape skins longer than white wine is, red wine contains more resveratrol. That being said, it is important to remember that one should drink red wine in moderation. For healthy adults, that means up to one 5 oz. drink per day for women and up to two 5 oz. drinks per day for men (age 65 and younger). Also, keep in mind that consuming alcohol supplies empty calories with few essential nutrients. Simply eating grapes, or drinking grape juice, can provide resveratrol without alcohol. Red and purple grape juices may have some of the same heart benefits as red wine. But when drinking red wine at the Seder table, remember that you may be improving your heart health while fulfilling your Passover obligation. L’Chaim! FYI Magazine | 13
  Fa l l in Love with Li fe    After starting my practice nine years ago in Cedarhurst, I quickly realized that the proble...
{ Fa l l in Love with Li fe } After starting my practice nine years ago in Cedarhurst, I quickly realized that the problem is prevalent here as well. It seems that for some first-time parents, a bedtime routine is very challenging. For this reason, I have incorporated specific questions about sleeping habits into my routine physical exams. I try to discuss and educate parents about the danger of bed-sharing with their infants. (It is believed that this is a cause of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, SIDS, dating back to the story of the two mothers fighting over their infant in front of King Solomon.) Here is some useful information I would like to share with you from the American Academy of Pediatrics. What’s the best way to get my child to go to sleep? Babies do not have regular sleep cycles until about 6 months of age. While newborns sleep about 16 to 17 hours per day, they may only sleep 1 or 2 hours at a time. As babies get older, they need less sleep. However, different babies have different sleep needs. It is normal for a 6-month-old to wake up during the night but go back to sleep after a few minutes. Here are some suggestions that may help your baby (and you) sleep better at night. 1. Keep your baby calm and quiet when you feed or change her during the night. Try not to stimulate or wake her too much. 2. Make daytime playtime. Talking and playing with your baby during the day will help lengthen her awake times. This will help her sleep for longer periods during the night. 3. Put your baby to bed when drowsy but still awake. This will help your baby learn to fall asleep on her own in her own bed. Holding or rocking her until she is completely asleep may make it hard for her to go back to sleep if she wakes up during the night. 4. Wait a few minutes before responding to your child’s fussing. See if she can fall back to sleep on her own. If she continues to cry, check on her, but don’t turn on the light, play with her, or pick her up. If she gets frantic or is unable to settle herself, consider what else might be bothering her. She may be hungry, wet or soiled, feverish, or otherwise not feeling well. 12 | FYI Magazine Toddlers and preschoolers often resist going to sleep, especially if they have older siblings who are still awake. Use the following tips to help your toddler develop good sleep habits: Health Benefits of Wine By: Leah Berg, MS, RD, CDN 1. Set up a quiet routine before bedtime to help your child understand that it will soon be time to go to sleep. Use this time to read him a story, listen to quiet music, or give him a bath. It may be tempting to play with your child before bed; however, active play may make your child too excited to sleep. 2. Be consistent. Make bedtime the same time every night. This helps your child know what to expect and helps him establish healthy sleep patterns. 3. Allow your child to take a favorite thing to bed each night. It’s okay to let your child sleep with a teddy bear, special blanket or some other favorite toy. These often help children fall asleep — especially if they wake up during the night. Make sure the object is safe. Look for ribbons, buttons or other parts that may be choking hazards. Stuffing or pellets inside stuffed toys can also be dangerous. 4. Make sure your child is comfortable. He may like to have a drink of water, a light left on or the door left slightly open. Try to handle your child’s needs before bedtime so that he doesn’t use them to avoid going to sleep. 5. Do not let your child sleep in the same bed with you. This can make it harder for him to fall asleep when he is alone. 6. Do not return to your child’s room every time he complains or calls out. Instead, try the following: a. Wait several seconds before answering and make your response time longer each time he calls. This will give him a chance to fall asleep on his own. b. Reassure your child that you are there. If you need to go into the room, do not turn on the light, play with him or stay too long. c. Move farther from your child’s bed every time you go in, until you can reassure him verbally without entering his room. d. Remind him each time he calls that it’s time to go to sleep. 7. Give it time. Helping your child develop good sleep habits can be a challenge, and it is normal to get upset when a child keeps you awake at night. Try to be understanding. A negative response by a parent can sometimes make a sleep problem worse. Once you’ve accomplished an effective bedtime routine, your quality of life will surely improve dramatically. In addition, your child will get used to an early bedtime and will perform better socially and academically. Most importantly, you will have the time to re-energize yourself and be an even better parent the following day. There are numerous foods which are synonymous with Passover, and most of them are unhealthy. However, the Passover custom of RED WINE falls into a different category. While too much alcohol can harm the body, research suggests that drinking moderate amounts of red wine each day can be good for your heart and even protect against certain cancers. Interest in red wine’s health benefits was sparked after the “French Paradox” was first noted in a study in the 1980s. The “French Paradox” refers to the relatively low incidence of heart disease in France compared with other Western countries, despite the French’s high intake of saturated fat (which is similar to our Pesach eating habits). This study created a ripple effect in the following years, leading to large amounts of research on the topic of the health benefits of red wine. Just what makes red wine healthy, though? Firstly, the alcohol found in all types of wine increases the level of HDL (good cholesterol) in the body. Additionally, alcohol has been found to reduce the formation of clots, help prevent artery damage caused by high levels of LDL (bad cholesterol), and lower blood pressure. Furthermore, certain antioxidants in red wine, called polyphenols, may help prevent heart disease by protecting the lining of arteries in the heart against damage. Specifically, a polyphenol called resveratrol is one substance in red wine that has gotten a lot of attention. Resveratrol is a key component of red wine which helps prevent damage to blood vessels, reduce LDL cholesterol (bad cholesterol), and prevent blood clots. Animal studies have shown that resveratrol may even protect against obesity and reduce insulin resistance, which lowers the risk of diabetes. Additionally, resveratrol may have cancer-fighting properties in that it protects cells from damage which leads to cancer. The resveratrol in red wine comes from the skin of the grapes used to make the wine. Because red wine is fermented with grape skins longer than white wine is, red wine contains more resveratrol. That being said, it is important to remember that one should drink red wine in moderation. For healthy adults, that means up to one 5 oz. drink per day for women and up to two 5 oz. drinks per day for men (age 65 and younger). Also, keep in mind that consuming alcohol supplies empty calories with few essential nutrients. Simply eating grapes, or drinking grape juice, can provide resveratrol without alcohol. Red and purple grape juices may have some of the same heart benefits as red wine. But when drinking red wine at the Seder table, remember that you may be improving your heart health while fulfilling your Passover obligation. L’Chaim! FYI Magazine | 13
  Fa l l in Love with Li fe    After starting my practice nine years ago in Cedarhurst, I quickly realized that the proble...
{ Fa l l in Love with Li fe } 5 Minutes to Fitness Five Minutes to Fitness By Rebecca Blue Have you ever wondered how he or she got those amazingly toned shoulders? The muscles that play a key role in helping arms look great are called the deltoids. Our shoulders give us the power to throw, punch, push, and much more. The shoulders, being an extremely dynamic joint with an incredible range of motion, must be strengthened for functional as well as aesthetic reasons, to avoid trauma (commonly to the rotator cuff, which helps to stabilize the shoulder). Focus of t he week: Two Deltoid Exercises 2 Seated Bent-Over Rear Deltoid Raise: This works the posterior delts. 1. 2. Do 3 sets of 10-15 repetitions The Seated Dumbbell Press: This targets the anterior and medial deltoid. 1. You need a chair or bench with the back inclined to 90 degrees (straight up), along with a set of medium-weight dumbbells. 2. Hoist the dumbbells to shoulder level with your palms facing away from you, and press up till they touch at the top and your elbows have a very slight bend. 3. 14 | FYI Magazine Bring the dumbbells under your legs and raise them outward until level with your body. 3. 1 Sitting at the edge of the bench, hinge over so that your chest is nearly touching your knees. Make sure that you keep looking down so that your spine stays neutral. Do 3 sets of 10-15 repetitions. FYI Magazine | 15
  Fa l l in Love with Li fe    5 Minutes to Fitness  Five Minutes to Fitness By Rebecca Blue  Have you ever wondered how h...
{ Fa l l in Love with Li fe } 5 Minutes to Fitness Five Minutes to Fitness By Rebecca Blue Have you ever wondered how he or she got those amazingly toned shoulders? The muscles that play a key role in helping arms look great are called the deltoids. Our shoulders give us the power to throw, punch, push, and much more. The shoulders, being an extremely dynamic joint with an incredible range of motion, must be strengthened for functional as well as aesthetic reasons, to avoid trauma (commonly to the rotator cuff, which helps to stabilize the shoulder). Focus of t he week: Two Deltoid Exercises 2 Seated Bent-Over Rear Deltoid Raise: This works the posterior delts. 1. 2. Do 3 sets of 10-15 repetitions The Seated Dumbbell Press: This targets the anterior and medial deltoid. 1. You need a chair or bench with the back inclined to 90 degrees (straight up), along with a set of medium-weight dumbbells. 2. Hoist the dumbbells to shoulder level with your palms facing away from you, and press up till they touch at the top and your elbows have a very slight bend. 3. 14 | FYI Magazine Bring the dumbbells under your legs and raise them outward until level with your body. 3. 1 Sitting at the edge of the bench, hinge over so that your chest is nearly touching your knees. Make sure that you keep looking down so that your spine stays neutral. Do 3 sets of 10-15 repetitions. FYI Magazine | 15
  Fa l l in Love with Li fe    5 Minutes to Fitness  Five Minutes to Fitness By Rebecca Blue  Have you ever wondered how h...
{ Fa l l in Love with Li fe } { Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } Shiny and Bright By: Malka Winner T here is a knock on the door so I run to answer it. I am five years old and staring at the German exchange student who lives across the street. We are in the era before cell phones and she is locked out of her hosts’ home. She wants to know if she can call them from our house. “Mommy!” Mommy promptly joins me at the door and ushers the thin, blonde girl inside. She stands in the kitchen, twirling the long, spiral phone cord between her fingers as she talks. Her accent is thick. She hangs up and thanks my mother for letting her make the call. “Do you want to wait here until they come back?” my mother asks. She shakes her head. “No, thank you. It’s nice today so I don’t mind sitting outside.” As she turns to leave the kitchen, she motions toward the refrigerator. “Why do you Americans all have so much stuff stuck all over your appliances?” She sweeps her hand up, then down, encompassing the mess of papers and pictures and magnets that decorate our fridge, her disdain evident. “Back home, we would never do that,” she continues, her pride seeping through the accent. “We keep everything neat. Besides, appliances are meant to be kept shiny and bright.” Her words sound harsh, but we assume that is due to her imperfect mastery of English. She thanks my mother again as we escort her to the door. Back in the kitchen, I see Mommy looking at our fridge and frowning. _____________ 16 | FYI Magazine It is nighttime and I’m supposed to be sleeping, but the rustling coming from the kitchen piques my curiosity. I rush out into the hall, toward the kitchen. My mother is standing by the refrigerator, removing all the papers, pictures, and magnets and stuffing them into a brown paper bag. “What are you doing, Mommy?” I ask, even though I know perfectly well what she is doing. Without the slightest hesitation, she pulls a magnet from that brown bag and hangs my picture on the refrigerator door. “Cleaning off the fridge,” she says. “And what are you doing?” “I need a drink,” I say, peeking at the nearly stripped fridge. It suddenly looks so big to me. “What are you doing, Mommy?” I ask, even though I know perfectly well what she is doing. I take my drink and say, “Good night,” before scampering back to my bedroom. “I am putting everything back. It belongs here,” she says. She takes out a photo of her sister’s kids and proudly sticks it in place with a ladybug magnet that I made in school. Then she takes out a drawing my brother made, labelled ‘A Boy Elephant.’ She sticks that one on the fridge too. Alphabet magnets follow. Then important notices like phone numbers, photos and drawings. Mommy is so occupied with her task she doesn’t even tell me to go back to sleep. In the morning, the undecorated fridge stands silent vigil. I am the first one up and sit in the kitchen, squinting at its blank brightness. Is it nicer this way? Mommy says nothing about the fridge, but I notice that every time she passes it she gives it a long, hard look. She is trying out this bare fridge business, ruffled by the German girl’s comment. It stands bare for two days. On the third day, I bring home a brilliantly colored painting of flowers and grass. My mother oohs and aahs at the painting. Without the slightest hesitation, she pulls a magnet from that brown bag and hangs my picture on the refrigerator door. I am content and proud. That night, I am once again in bed when I hear rustling. So I slip back out to the kitchen. I do not need to see to know. But I want to see. And I am right. Mommy is standing there holding her brown bag, putting everything back in place. Finally, the last item has been pulled from the bag and hung up and she sighs contentedly. “Doesn’t that look better?” she asks, looking proudly at the photos and drawings that almost cover the shiny doors of our fridge. I nod enthusiastically. “I don’t care how they do it in Germany,” Mommy says, and gives me a hug. “I like our way. It’s comfortable and homey. All these things make me happy.” I feel that way, too. After all, my mommy cares more about our eyes being bright and shiny than the appliances looking that way. FYI Magazine | 17
  Fa l l in Love with Li fe      Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe    Shiny and Bright By  Malka Winner  T  here is a knock on t...
{ Fa l l in Love with Li fe } { Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } Shiny and Bright By: Malka Winner T here is a knock on the door so I run to answer it. I am five years old and staring at the German exchange student who lives across the street. We are in the era before cell phones and she is locked out of her hosts’ home. She wants to know if she can call them from our house. “Mommy!” Mommy promptly joins me at the door and ushers the thin, blonde girl inside. She stands in the kitchen, twirling the long, spiral phone cord between her fingers as she talks. Her accent is thick. She hangs up and thanks my mother for letting her make the call. “Do you want to wait here until they come back?” my mother asks. She shakes her head. “No, thank you. It’s nice today so I don’t mind sitting outside.” As she turns to leave the kitchen, she motions toward the refrigerator. “Why do you Americans all have so much stuff stuck all over your appliances?” She sweeps her hand up, then down, encompassing the mess of papers and pictures and magnets that decorate our fridge, her disdain evident. “Back home, we would never do that,” she continues, her pride seeping through the accent. “We keep everything neat. Besides, appliances are meant to be kept shiny and bright.” Her words sound harsh, but we assume that is due to her imperfect mastery of English. She thanks my mother again as we escort her to the door. Back in the kitchen, I see Mommy looking at our fridge and frowning. _____________ 16 | FYI Magazine It is nighttime and I’m supposed to be sleeping, but the rustling coming from the kitchen piques my curiosity. I rush out into the hall, toward the kitchen. My mother is standing by the refrigerator, removing all the papers, pictures, and magnets and stuffing them into a brown paper bag. “What are you doing, Mommy?” I ask, even though I know perfectly well what she is doing. Without the slightest hesitation, she pulls a magnet from that brown bag and hangs my picture on the refrigerator door. “Cleaning off the fridge,” she says. “And what are you doing?” “I need a drink,” I say, peeking at the nearly stripped fridge. It suddenly looks so big to me. “What are you doing, Mommy?” I ask, even though I know perfectly well what she is doing. I take my drink and say, “Good night,” before scampering back to my bedroom. “I am putting everything back. It belongs here,” she says. She takes out a photo of her sister’s kids and proudly sticks it in place with a ladybug magnet that I made in school. Then she takes out a drawing my brother made, labelled ‘A Boy Elephant.’ She sticks that one on the fridge too. Alphabet magnets follow. Then important notices like phone numbers, photos and drawings. Mommy is so occupied with her task she doesn’t even tell me to go back to sleep. In the morning, the undecorated fridge stands silent vigil. I am the first one up and sit in the kitchen, squinting at its blank brightness. Is it nicer this way? Mommy says nothing about the fridge, but I notice that every time she passes it she gives it a long, hard look. She is trying out this bare fridge business, ruffled by the German girl’s comment. It stands bare for two days. On the third day, I bring home a brilliantly colored painting of flowers and grass. My mother oohs and aahs at the painting. Without the slightest hesitation, she pulls a magnet from that brown bag and hangs my picture on the refrigerator door. I am content and proud. That night, I am once again in bed when I hear rustling. So I slip back out to the kitchen. I do not need to see to know. But I want to see. And I am right. Mommy is standing there holding her brown bag, putting everything back in place. Finally, the last item has been pulled from the bag and hung up and she sighs contentedly. “Doesn’t that look better?” she asks, looking proudly at the photos and drawings that almost cover the shiny doors of our fridge. I nod enthusiastically. “I don’t care how they do it in Germany,” Mommy says, and gives me a hug. “I like our way. It’s comfortable and homey. All these things make me happy.” I feel that way, too. After all, my mommy cares more about our eyes being bright and shiny than the appliances looking that way. FYI Magazine | 17
  Fa l l in Love with Li fe      Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe    Shiny and Bright By  Malka Winner  T  here is a knock on t...
{ Yo u G ot ta Kn ow ! } Are Your Hands Full? Meet Dr. Sora Yaroslawitz, DSc OTR/L By Yitty Denciger Parenting is definitely very rewarding, yet it can also be very difficult. We don’t always know what to do, which can leave us feeling confused and out of control. I recently heard about Sora Yaroslawitz and I knew I had to get my hands on her new book, Are Your Hands Full. After reading it, I felt so liberated. Meeting with her was even better than reading the book, and I wanted to share that experience with you. Hi, and thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to meet with us. You have an inspiring story of how you got into the field of working with kids. Will you share it with our readers? The story started when I was a young mother of 23, and I contracted shigella at the end of the pregnancy with my second child. I was rushed into delivery and my daughter was born with viral pneumonia, as a result of asphyxiating the toxic fluids from the shigella. We were told she wasn’t going to make it. I remember how our spirits fluctuated dramatically along with her fevers. After a few weeks, she started to breathe on her own, her condition stabilized and we were allowed to take her home. But it wasn’t long before we realized that she wasn’t developing properly. After many agonizing months of doctors’ visits, our daughter was diagnosed as completely deaf, partially blind, autistic and having extremely low muscle tone. At that time, the doctors believed that she would not develop into a functioning adult, and therefore urged us to place her in a home. During the years when our daughter was an infant, society was not as accepting of special children, as it is today. Yet, I could not abandon the thought that it was my obligation to attempt to raise this baby. And so began the journey to raise my 18 | FYI Magazine daughter. One of the most significant messengers that Hashem sent to help me was a speech therapist named Adele Markwitz. She alerted me to the fact that as long as I did not develop expectations of my daughter and follow through by educating her, she would probably not perform. She proved to me that my daughter could, in fact, learn and develop by instructing me how to teach one skill at at a time. Today, due to a huge amount of siyatta dishmaya, many surgeries, thousands of hours of therapy, and a tremendous amount of hard work, our daughter is married and has three beautiful children. I was also frustrated by the fact that I could not find a single occupational therapist who dealt with behavioral issues, as well. So I went back to school and became just that. After I graduated and opened my practice, I began teaching classes for mothers on the topic of behavior management of normally developing children. Then I was asked to do a series of lectures over telephone conferences, which were later converted into MP3 CD’s. When enough people requested reading material, I decided that it was time to write. Are Your Hands Full, Volume I is a compilation of the behavior management classes for normally developing children ages 0-10. I am currently in the midst of writing Volume II, which is for normally developing adolescents ages 10-18. As the years passed, Adele introduced me to the value of tantrums, the significance of consistency in parenting, the importance of child obedience, and other concepts that are integral to behavior management. The program that I developed and published is based on her approach and caters to the typically developing child who is growing up in the frum world. Wow, that is amazing! Why did you decide to write this book? My original education was in accounting. I had no intention of becoming an occupational therapist, but as I raised my daughter, I discovered the importance of occupational therapy. FYI Magazine | 19
  Yo u G ot ta Kn ow      Are Your Hands Full  Meet Dr. Sora Yaroslawitz, DSc OTR L By Yitty Denciger  Parenting is defini...
{ Yo u G ot ta Kn ow ! } Are Your Hands Full? Meet Dr. Sora Yaroslawitz, DSc OTR/L By Yitty Denciger Parenting is definitely very rewarding, yet it can also be very difficult. We don’t always know what to do, which can leave us feeling confused and out of control. I recently heard about Sora Yaroslawitz and I knew I had to get my hands on her new book, Are Your Hands Full. After reading it, I felt so liberated. Meeting with her was even better than reading the book, and I wanted to share that experience with you. Hi, and thanks for taking time out of your busy schedule to meet with us. You have an inspiring story of how you got into the field of working with kids. Will you share it with our readers? The story started when I was a young mother of 23, and I contracted shigella at the end of the pregnancy with my second child. I was rushed into delivery and my daughter was born with viral pneumonia, as a result of asphyxiating the toxic fluids from the shigella. We were told she wasn’t going to make it. I remember how our spirits fluctuated dramatically along with her fevers. After a few weeks, she started to breathe on her own, her condition stabilized and we were allowed to take her home. But it wasn’t long before we realized that she wasn’t developing properly. After many agonizing months of doctors’ visits, our daughter was diagnosed as completely deaf, partially blind, autistic and having extremely low muscle tone. At that time, the doctors believed that she would not develop into a functioning adult, and therefore urged us to place her in a home. During the years when our daughter was an infant, society was not as accepting of special children, as it is today. Yet, I could not abandon the thought that it was my obligation to attempt to raise this baby. And so began the journey to raise my 18 | FYI Magazine daughter. One of the most significant messengers that Hashem sent to help me was a speech therapist named Adele Markwitz. She alerted me to the fact that as long as I did not develop expectations of my daughter and follow through by educating her, she would probably not perform. She proved to me that my daughter could, in fact, learn and develop by instructing me how to teach one skill at at a time. Today, due to a huge amount of siyatta dishmaya, many surgeries, thousands of hours of therapy, and a tremendous amount of hard work, our daughter is married and has three beautiful children. I was also frustrated by the fact that I could not find a single occupational therapist who dealt with behavioral issues, as well. So I went back to school and became just that. After I graduated and opened my practice, I began teaching classes for mothers on the topic of behavior management of normally developing children. Then I was asked to do a series of lectures over telephone conferences, which were later converted into MP3 CD’s. When enough people requested reading material, I decided that it was time to write. Are Your Hands Full, Volume I is a compilation of the behavior management classes for normally developing children ages 0-10. I am currently in the midst of writing Volume II, which is for normally developing adolescents ages 10-18. As the years passed, Adele introduced me to the value of tantrums, the significance of consistency in parenting, the importance of child obedience, and other concepts that are integral to behavior management. The program that I developed and published is based on her approach and caters to the typically developing child who is growing up in the frum world. Wow, that is amazing! Why did you decide to write this book? My original education was in accounting. I had no intention of becoming an occupational therapist, but as I raised my daughter, I discovered the importance of occupational therapy. FYI Magazine | 19
  Yo u G ot ta Kn ow      Are Your Hands Full  Meet Dr. Sora Yaroslawitz, DSc OTR L By Yitty Denciger  Parenting is defini...
{ Yo u G ot ta Kn ow ! } “If you are consistent with your child - that means when you say no it means no - your child will develop trust in you.” One challenge many people can relate to is that every child has different needs and behaviors. I read your book and it seems that you have one approach for all different types of childhood behaviors. How does that work? All children who develop normally follow a developmental schedule that affects behavior. For example, two year old children who are developing typically are usually prone to oppositional behaviors and tantrums. The techniques described in my program follow that schedule, so most children who develop normally will respond to my techniques in a predictable fashion. The book clearly describes children’s expected reactions to the techniques and alerts parents to behavioral deviations that might need further professional help. Your methods of disciplining are very systematic and thoughtout. Many parents cannot think rationally at the time of an event and will respond impulsively, rather than executing the planned disciplinary actions. What advice do you have? The staggered schedule of strategies is mapped out very clearly, for precisely this reason; so that parents should not have to think much when difficult parenting moments occur. The strategies are grouped into phases, and follow the schedule of how a typical child learns. It is understandable that both parents and children cannot be expected to learn entire programs all at once. If you follow the “recipe” and appropriate schedule, you will prevent impulsive reactions that are damaging to children. Additionally, I devote an entire chapter in the book to anger management. The book is also replete with validation, illustrations, vignettes, and clear instructions, which takes a lot of ambiguity out of the complicated occupation known as parenting. Every parent dreads tantrums. In your book you explain that tantrums are necessary for child-development and parents should welcome them. Do you mind elaborating? If a child has a tantrum that means he has an opinion. If you’ve raised a child with special needs, like I did, you learn to appreciate a child’s ability to think for himself. This developmental milestone in autonomy is cause to celebrate. In this program, you’ll need to appreciate children’s noise. After raising a child who is deaf, I learned to celebrate child noise. I always tell parents that if they want a clean and quiet profession, they should enter the field of computers. Parenting is a noisy and busy, profession. And you chose it — you applied for the job! If you’re worried about your own comfort, then you’re going to sacrifice on the quality of the chinuch that your child receives. Although I devote a complete chapter to ensuring that parents take care of themselves, they must never lose sight of the development of their children as top priority. There’s nothing better for a child than to tantrum during their first two to three years of life and learn that life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. In this way, when children get into the school system they are able to cope with authority and the unpredictable aspects of the classroom and school yard. A child who enters the school system and is still unable to accept authority will have difficulty coping in the educational system and ultimately with life’s challenges. Some people are afraid that if you’re too strict with disciplining your kids they’ll rebel. What is the fine line between disciplining yet, at the same time, not pushing them over the edge? This program does not encourage parents to be strict or negative. Instead, I teach you to be consistent. If you are consistent with your child - that means when you say no it means no - your child will develop trust in you. There is no need to say no all the time, and there is no need for anger or negativity while this lesson is being taught. You simply must calmly stand behind your word. Parenting is made up of positive moments and negative moments. During positive moments we heap on your love, warmth, storytelling and game playing. I find that parents don’t spend enough quality time with their children, because they are so exhausted from all the negativity, that when their child has a calm moment, they simply run the other way so they can catch their breath. Negative moments are when a parent and child disagree. The strategies outlined in the book walk a parent through those moments in a calm, non negative way. Believe it or not, after a few weeks of this approach, you will find no need for negativity, consequences, punishment, or anger. Your child will not rebel if you cultivate a solid relationship with him. The trick is to give no attention to negative moments and tons of attention during positive moments. The strategies in the book teach parents exactly how to master this skill. If you had to summarize the book in a single message, what would it be? The goal of the book is to introduce parents to a program that teaches them to fulfill the two main parenting goals, which are: • • For parents to create an environment in which children feel safe and secure. For parents to set limits that will enable children to grow into healthy and functioning adults who are ovdei Hashem. The theoretical underpinnings and practical applications of this approach are mapped out clearly in the book and on the CD’s. They can be ordered at 845.352.6101 or behaviormanagementcd@gmail.com. atisfied many s s e town n fiv rookl!y and B s r Join ou er custom icon ICON DECORATIVE HARDWARE AND PLUMBING SUPPLY DECORATIVE HARDWARE AND BRIDGE AVENUE | 844-534-icon (4266) | 205 CEDARPLUMBING SUPPLY LAKEWOOD, NJ SALES@ICONPLUMBING.COM | WWW.ICONPLUMBING.COM 732.367.7515 | 205 CEDAR BRIDGE AVENUE | LAKEWOOD, NJ | SALES@ICONPLUMB 20 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 21
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{ Yo u G ot ta Kn ow ! } “If you are consistent with your child - that means when you say no it means no - your child will develop trust in you.” One challenge many people can relate to is that every child has different needs and behaviors. I read your book and it seems that you have one approach for all different types of childhood behaviors. How does that work? All children who develop normally follow a developmental schedule that affects behavior. For example, two year old children who are developing typically are usually prone to oppositional behaviors and tantrums. The techniques described in my program follow that schedule, so most children who develop normally will respond to my techniques in a predictable fashion. The book clearly describes children’s expected reactions to the techniques and alerts parents to behavioral deviations that might need further professional help. Your methods of disciplining are very systematic and thoughtout. Many parents cannot think rationally at the time of an event and will respond impulsively, rather than executing the planned disciplinary actions. What advice do you have? The staggered schedule of strategies is mapped out very clearly, for precisely this reason; so that parents should not have to think much when difficult parenting moments occur. The strategies are grouped into phases, and follow the schedule of how a typical child learns. It is understandable that both parents and children cannot be expected to learn entire programs all at once. If you follow the “recipe” and appropriate schedule, you will prevent impulsive reactions that are damaging to children. Additionally, I devote an entire chapter in the book to anger management. The book is also replete with validation, illustrations, vignettes, and clear instructions, which takes a lot of ambiguity out of the complicated occupation known as parenting. Every parent dreads tantrums. In your book you explain that tantrums are necessary for child-development and parents should welcome them. Do you mind elaborating? If a child has a tantrum that means he has an opinion. If you’ve raised a child with special needs, like I did, you learn to appreciate a child’s ability to think for himself. This developmental milestone in autonomy is cause to celebrate. In this program, you’ll need to appreciate children’s noise. After raising a child who is deaf, I learned to celebrate child noise. I always tell parents that if they want a clean and quiet profession, they should enter the field of computers. Parenting is a noisy and busy, profession. And you chose it — you applied for the job! If you’re worried about your own comfort, then you’re going to sacrifice on the quality of the chinuch that your child receives. Although I devote a complete chapter to ensuring that parents take care of themselves, they must never lose sight of the development of their children as top priority. There’s nothing better for a child than to tantrum during their first two to three years of life and learn that life doesn’t always go the way we want it to. In this way, when children get into the school system they are able to cope with authority and the unpredictable aspects of the classroom and school yard. A child who enters the school system and is still unable to accept authority will have difficulty coping in the educational system and ultimately with life’s challenges. Some people are afraid that if you’re too strict with disciplining your kids they’ll rebel. What is the fine line between disciplining yet, at the same time, not pushing them over the edge? This program does not encourage parents to be strict or negative. Instead, I teach you to be consistent. If you are consistent with your child - that means when you say no it means no - your child will develop trust in you. There is no need to say no all the time, and there is no need for anger or negativity while this lesson is being taught. You simply must calmly stand behind your word. Parenting is made up of positive moments and negative moments. During positive moments we heap on your love, warmth, storytelling and game playing. I find that parents don’t spend enough quality time with their children, because they are so exhausted from all the negativity, that when their child has a calm moment, they simply run the other way so they can catch their breath. Negative moments are when a parent and child disagree. The strategies outlined in the book walk a parent through those moments in a calm, non negative way. Believe it or not, after a few weeks of this approach, you will find no need for negativity, consequences, punishment, or anger. Your child will not rebel if you cultivate a solid relationship with him. The trick is to give no attention to negative moments and tons of attention during positive moments. The strategies in the book teach parents exactly how to master this skill. If you had to summarize the book in a single message, what would it be? The goal of the book is to introduce parents to a program that teaches them to fulfill the two main parenting goals, which are: • • For parents to create an environment in which children feel safe and secure. For parents to set limits that will enable children to grow into healthy and functioning adults who are ovdei Hashem. The theoretical underpinnings and practical applications of this approach are mapped out clearly in the book and on the CD’s. They can be ordered at 845.352.6101 or behaviormanagementcd@gmail.com. atisfied many s s e town n fiv rookl!y and B s r Join ou er custom icon ICON DECORATIVE HARDWARE AND PLUMBING SUPPLY DECORATIVE HARDWARE AND BRIDGE AVENUE | 844-534-icon (4266) | 205 CEDARPLUMBING SUPPLY LAKEWOOD, NJ SALES@ICONPLUMBING.COM | WWW.ICONPLUMBING.COM 732.367.7515 | 205 CEDAR BRIDGE AVENUE | LAKEWOOD, NJ | SALES@ICONPLUMB 20 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 21
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THE ONE STOP SHOP FOR ALL YOUR REMODELING NEEDS w h e r e we di n e FY KITCHEN · CABINETS · TILE · COUNTERTOPS · CUSTOM CLOSETS FREE CONSULTATION WITH DESIGNER WE WORK WITH YOUR CONTRACTORS AND INTERIOR DESIGNER BRING IN YOUR DESIGNER OR CONTRACTOR & RECEIVE 10% DISCOUNT 690 CENTRAL AVE. · CEDARHURST Hapisga Steakhouse By: Sarah Lezell T here are many great meat restaurants in New York. Hapisgah, though, stands out for its amazing steaks and meats. Nestled in the heart of Queens, Hapisgah serves a plethora of different cultural styles, including Italian and Chinese - and they also have sushi. Hapisgah was very crowded when we got there. There was even a standing line. Apparently we were not the only ones that think this place is great! We were immediately seated (make reservations!) in the back and had ample space, although it was very crowded and noisy. We got started with a hummus plate, falafel balls and warm pita, which were divine. The hummus was fresh and creamy, and the falafel balls were crispy and delicious. There’s always room for sushi, especially sushi that tastes this fresh. 1736 RICHMOND AVE. · STATEN ISLAND 516.218.2840 Resta I ura of th nt e Mont h 718.208.4273 22 | FYI Magazine (INSIDE CASILE TILE) WWW.INHAUSKB.C OM FYI Magazine | 23
THE ONE STOP SHOP FOR ALL YOUR REMODELING NEEDS w h e r e we di n e  FY  KITCHEN    CABINETS    TILE    COUNTERTOPS    CUS...
THE ONE STOP SHOP FOR ALL YOUR REMODELING NEEDS w h e r e we di n e FY KITCHEN · CABINETS · TILE · COUNTERTOPS · CUSTOM CLOSETS FREE CONSULTATION WITH DESIGNER WE WORK WITH YOUR CONTRACTORS AND INTERIOR DESIGNER BRING IN YOUR DESIGNER OR CONTRACTOR & RECEIVE 10% DISCOUNT 690 CENTRAL AVE. · CEDARHURST Hapisga Steakhouse By: Sarah Lezell T here are many great meat restaurants in New York. Hapisgah, though, stands out for its amazing steaks and meats. Nestled in the heart of Queens, Hapisgah serves a plethora of different cultural styles, including Italian and Chinese - and they also have sushi. Hapisgah was very crowded when we got there. There was even a standing line. Apparently we were not the only ones that think this place is great! We were immediately seated (make reservations!) in the back and had ample space, although it was very crowded and noisy. We got started with a hummus plate, falafel balls and warm pita, which were divine. The hummus was fresh and creamy, and the falafel balls were crispy and delicious. There’s always room for sushi, especially sushi that tastes this fresh. 1736 RICHMOND AVE. · STATEN ISLAND 516.218.2840 Resta I ura of th nt e Mont h 718.208.4273 22 | FYI Magazine (INSIDE CASILE TILE) WWW.INHAUSKB.C OM FYI Magazine | 23
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{ Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } The manager, Moshe Lifshitz, recommended the New York Rib Steak and the Sizzling Chicken Plate. The steak came with a side of roasted tomato and rosemary potatoes. Our waitress was very happy to bring our steak back to the kitchen when we found that it was very rare instead of medium-rare, which we had requested. Nonetheless, it was superb — perfectly marbled, tasty and soft. The tomato and potatoes could have used more flavor. The mixed chicken with mushrooms is a tasty Mediterranean dish that could easily feed two people. And the French fries at Hapisgah are among the best I’ve tasted — crispy on the outside and mushy inside. I chose the hot chocolate soufflé with a scoop of ice cream for dessert. (Did I already mention that it’s my all-time favorite dessert?) One word: Amazing! I would go back just for the dessert. The middle was soft, runny and warm, and it tasted delicious. By the way, there’s also a bar in a side room, which looks like a nice place to relax. The bar has beer, wine, whiskey and other alcoholic beverages. “I would go back just for the dessert. The middle was soft, runny and warm, and it tasted delicious.” ««««« 147-25 Union Turnpike, Flushing, NY 11367 (718) 380-4449 hapisgah.com Atmosphere: The dining room is very large, mainly wooden, and a little outdated. Service: Good-natured, eager and happy to please. Sound level: High. Drinks & wine: The wine list has many well-priced bottles and is particularly strong in French wines. Prices: Most dishes $25-$35; dishes for two, $48-$56. Open: Daily for lunch and dinner. Reservations: Needed. Transform Yourself Transform yourself by stepping up to Take Shape For Life. You’ll be fueled by clinically proven Medifast Meals, encouraged by your free Personal Health Coach*, and inspired by the Habits of Health. Results will vary. Typical weight loss is 2-5 pounds per week for the first two weeks and then 1-2 lbs per week thereafter. Strictly Kosher Plans Available. Miriam Kahn, RN, BSN Certified Health Coach 516-353-7337 MKahnRN@gmail.com www.MiriamKahnRN.TSFL.com 24 | FYI Magazine FUELED BY *A Health Coach is not a substitute for a physician or qualified medical practitioner for monitoring those using Medifast Meals. FYI Magazine | 25
  Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe    The manager, Moshe Lifshitz, recommended the New York Rib Steak and the Sizzling Chicken ...
{ Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe } The manager, Moshe Lifshitz, recommended the New York Rib Steak and the Sizzling Chicken Plate. The steak came with a side of roasted tomato and rosemary potatoes. Our waitress was very happy to bring our steak back to the kitchen when we found that it was very rare instead of medium-rare, which we had requested. Nonetheless, it was superb — perfectly marbled, tasty and soft. The tomato and potatoes could have used more flavor. The mixed chicken with mushrooms is a tasty Mediterranean dish that could easily feed two people. And the French fries at Hapisgah are among the best I’ve tasted — crispy on the outside and mushy inside. I chose the hot chocolate soufflé with a scoop of ice cream for dessert. (Did I already mention that it’s my all-time favorite dessert?) One word: Amazing! I would go back just for the dessert. The middle was soft, runny and warm, and it tasted delicious. By the way, there’s also a bar in a side room, which looks like a nice place to relax. The bar has beer, wine, whiskey and other alcoholic beverages. “I would go back just for the dessert. The middle was soft, runny and warm, and it tasted delicious.” ««««« 147-25 Union Turnpike, Flushing, NY 11367 (718) 380-4449 hapisgah.com Atmosphere: The dining room is very large, mainly wooden, and a little outdated. Service: Good-natured, eager and happy to please. Sound level: High. Drinks & wine: The wine list has many well-priced bottles and is particularly strong in French wines. Prices: Most dishes $25-$35; dishes for two, $48-$56. Open: Daily for lunch and dinner. Reservations: Needed. Transform Yourself Transform yourself by stepping up to Take Shape For Life. You’ll be fueled by clinically proven Medifast Meals, encouraged by your free Personal Health Coach*, and inspired by the Habits of Health. Results will vary. Typical weight loss is 2-5 pounds per week for the first two weeks and then 1-2 lbs per week thereafter. Strictly Kosher Plans Available. Miriam Kahn, RN, BSN Certified Health Coach 516-353-7337 MKahnRN@gmail.com www.MiriamKahnRN.TSFL.com 24 | FYI Magazine FUELED BY *A Health Coach is not a substitute for a physician or qualified medical practitioner for monitoring those using Medifast Meals. FYI Magazine | 25
  Fal l i n Love w i th Li fe    The manager, Moshe Lifshitz, recommended the New York Rib Steak and the Sizzling Chicken ...
{ Yo u G ot ta Know ! } { You G ot ta Kn ow! } 3,377 You Gotta Know That’s how many patents Yoshiro Nakamatsu, or Dr. NakaMats, a prolific inventor from Japan, has filed. According to the Smithsonian, his biggest claim to fame is the floppy disk. “I became father of the apparatus in 1950,” says Dr. NakaMats, who conceived of it at the University of Tokyo while listening to Beethoven’s Symphony No. 5. By: Miriam Schwartzman Tidbits of information that’s good to know when in a conversation with your friends, kids, or even with yourself! 56 That’s how old Mr. Clean is — and guess what? He has a first name: Veritably. According to Mental Floss, the name was chosen from a “Give Mr. Clean a First Name” promotion in 1962. Not only is he hitting the golden years, and not only is he on every woman’s mind 635,236 It’s time to “Keep Calm and Get Ready for Pesach!” Easier said than done, huh? The original “Keep Calm” slogan was designed as a British government propaganda poster during World War II. While 2.5 million posters were put in reserve just in case of severe bombing or an invasion of the country, the posters were never needed — thankfully. Most were destroyed by the U.K. government. In 2000, the poster resurfaced in Barter Books, a bookstore owned by Stuart Manley and his wife, Mary, who loved the poster so much when she found it in a pile of books she had won at an auction that she framed it and hung it in the shop. Curious passersby loved the piece and asked for reprints of it … and the rest, as they say, is history. Today, the slogan is so well loved and used that an Amazon search of “Keep Calm and” will return 635, 236 items. There are countless parodies of the slogan, including “I Can’t Keep Calm, I’m Jewish!” 26 | FYI Magazine now that it’s Erev Pesach, but he’s been famous on Facebook since 2007. According to Procter & Gamble, the company that produces Mr. Clean, he is so popular that he is the subject of 40 fan-related Mr. Clean Facebook pages! 1,200 Before Pesach many people get back their long-lost items that were lying around in other people’s homes. Returning stuff to its owners is sometimes cathartic. That’s why there are 1,200 returned-rock letters at the Petrified Forest National Park in northeastern Arizona. Park visitors can’t seem to stop pocketing the bits of petrified wood (aka “rocks”) for souvenirs. When they later regret their actions, they return the rocks with a “cathartic letter.” In a book called Bad Luck, Hot Rocks, artist Ryan Thompson and co-editor Phil Orr “mined” those 1,200 letters for the most hilarious confessions and published them with photographs of the rocks. 6.5 Million, that is. Six-and-a-half million active Social Security numbers belong to people who should be 112 years old or more. The IRS claims that no death dates have been entered for all of these account SSN holders. According to CNS News, “The audit, dated March 4, 2015, concluded that SSA lacks the controls necessary to annote death information on the records of number-holders who exceed ‘maximum reasonable life expectancies.’” Thousands of these Social Security numbers are obtained on the black market or by other unscrupulous measures and are used to open bank accounts, or are used by illegal aliens to apply for work. Sen. Tom Carper (D-Del.) said that the findings were a “major problem” that wasted taxpayers’ money, encouraged identity theft and undermined faith in our government. How eloquent. IBM disputed this claim, saying its own team of engineers developed the device in 1969. In order to avoid a huge legal fracas they settled with the famed inventor in 1979. To commemorate his 1988 visit to the United States, over a dozen U.S. cities — from San Diego to Pittsburgh — celebrated Dr. NakaMats Days. He became an honorary citizen of the state of Maryland, Congress awarded him a Certificate of Special Recognition, and he even received a congratulatory letter from then-president George H.W. Bush. Dr. NakaMats’s 3,377 patents are three “times as many as Thomas Edison’s (1,093 and no longer counting),” claims the Smithsonian. How does he do all that inventing? The secret: being underwater! “If you have too much oxygen in your brain, inspiration will not strike,” he cautions. “To starve the brain of oxygen, you must dive deep and allow the water pressure to fill the brain with blood. Zeropoint-five seconds before death, I visualize an invention,” Dr. NakaMats says. Voila! He scribbles the idea on a waterproof notepad and floats upward, thereby escaping death by the skin of his ... head. I’ll stick to regular, non-near-death experiences for inspiration this Erev Pesach . FYI Magazine | 27
  Yo u G ot ta Know        You G ot ta Kn ow     3,377  You Gotta Know  That   s how many patents Yoshiro Nakamatsu, or Dr...
{ Yo u G ot ta Know ! } { You G ot ta Kn ow! } 3,377 You Gotta Know That’s how many patents Yoshiro Nakamatsu, or Dr. NakaMats, a prolific inventor from Japan, has filed. According to the Smithsonian, his biggest claim to fame is the floppy disk. “I became father of the apparatus in 1950,” says Dr. NakaMats, who conceived of it at the University of Tokyo while listening to Beethoven’s Symphony No. 5. By: Miriam Schwartzman Tidbits of information that’s good to know when in a conversation with your friends, kids, or even with yourself! 56 That’s how old Mr. Clean is — and guess what? He has a first name: Veritably. According to Mental Floss, the name was chosen from a “Give Mr. Clean a First Name” promotion in 1962. Not only is he hitting the golden years, and not only is he on every woman’s mind 635,236 It’s time to “Keep Calm and Get Ready for Pesach!” Easier said than done, huh? The original “Keep Calm” slogan was designed as a British government propaganda poster during World War II. While 2.5 million posters were put in reserve just in case of severe bombing or an invasion of the country, the posters were never needed — thankfully. Most were destroyed by the U.K. government. In 2000, the poster resurfaced in Barter Books, a bookstore owned by Stuart Manley and his wife, Mary, who loved the poster so much when she found it in a pile of books she had won at an auction that she framed it and hung it in the shop. Curious passersby loved the piece and asked for reprints of it … and the rest, as they say, is history. Today, the slogan is so well loved and used that an Amazon search of “Keep Calm and” will return 635, 236 items. There are countless parodies of the slogan, including “I Can’t Keep Calm, I’m Jewish!” 26 | FYI Magazine now that it’s Erev Pesach, but he’s been famous on Facebook since 2007. According to Procter & Gamble, the company that produces Mr. Clean, he is so popular that he is the subject of 40 fan-related Mr. Clean Facebook pages! 1,200 Before Pesach many people get back their long-lost items that were lying around in other people’s homes. Returning stuff to its owners is sometimes cathartic. That’s why there are 1,200 returned-rock letters at the Petrified Forest National Park in northeastern Arizona. Park visitors can’t seem to stop pocketing the bits of petrified wood (aka “rocks”) for souvenirs. When they later regret their actions, they return the rocks with a “cathartic letter.” In a book called Bad Luck, Hot Rocks, artist Ryan Thompson and co-editor Phil Orr “mined” those 1,200 letters for the most hilarious confessions and published them with photographs of the rocks. 6.5 Million, that is. Six-and-a-half million active Social Security numbers belong to people who should be 112 years old or more. The IRS claims that no death dates have been entered for all of these account SSN holders. According to CNS News, “The audit, dated March 4, 2015, concluded that SSA lacks the controls necessary to annote death information on the records of number-holders who exceed ‘maximum reasonable life expectancies.’” Thousands of these Social Security numbers are obtained on the black market or by other unscrupulous measures and are used to open bank accounts, or are used by illegal aliens to apply for work. Sen. Tom Carper (D-Del.) said that the findings were a “major problem” that wasted taxpayers’ money, encouraged identity theft and undermined faith in our government. How eloquent. IBM disputed this claim, saying its own team of engineers developed the device in 1969. In order to avoid a huge legal fracas they settled with the famed inventor in 1979. To commemorate his 1988 visit to the United States, over a dozen U.S. cities — from San Diego to Pittsburgh — celebrated Dr. NakaMats Days. He became an honorary citizen of the state of Maryland, Congress awarded him a Certificate of Special Recognition, and he even received a congratulatory letter from then-president George H.W. Bush. Dr. NakaMats’s 3,377 patents are three “times as many as Thomas Edison’s (1,093 and no longer counting),” claims the Smithsonian. How does he do all that inventing? The secret: being underwater! “If you have too much oxygen in your brain, inspiration will not strike,” he cautions. “To starve the brain of oxygen, you must dive deep and allow the water pressure to fill the brain with blood. Zeropoint-five seconds before death, I visualize an invention,” Dr. NakaMats says. Voila! He scribbles the idea on a waterproof notepad and floats upward, thereby escaping death by the skin of his ... head. I’ll stick to regular, non-near-death experiences for inspiration this Erev Pesach . FYI Magazine | 27
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi n g s } { You G ot ta Kn ow! } Top-Rated Product Reviews We review popular products, so that you don’t have to. Power Toothbrushes www.yttexpo.com ATT: VENDORS CORPORATE SPONSORS FEATURNG JUDAICA • HOME • FOOD • HEALTH ACCESSORIES • BUSINESS BOOTHS SELLING FAST! RESERVE YOURS NOW www.yttexpo.com Oral-B Professional Healthy Clean 5000 ($122) The Good: Five brushing modes. Doesn’t just pulsate to break up plaque, but also oscillates and rotates to sweep plaque away. The SmartGuide clock prompts you to switch areas of the mouth every 30 seconds for a total of 2 minutes of brushing. The Bad: On the expensive side. Battery only lasts 3-5 days. The Bottom Line: This Oral-B system is known to be the best electric toothbrush, hands down. Phillips Sonicare Essence ($40) The Good: Takes up very little counter space. Battery lasts 2 weeks. Cleans teeth powerfully and thoroughly. The Bad: No frills, very basic. The inside of the toothbrush is hollow, which can cause mold to grow inside. The Bottom Line: Perfect for anyone looking for a power toothbrush at a lower price without all the ‘extras’. EXPO WaterPik Water Flosser and Sonic Toothbrush ($73) Experience Experience SUN THE 5.3.15 28 | FYI Magazine CULINARY The Good: Cleans between teeth very well and washes out dirt better than any floss would. A water reservoir allows you to wash your entire mouth without a refill. Includes a sonic toothbrush with two brush heads and a water flosser with five tips. The Bad: Can overcharge/overheat if plugged in for too long. The water flosser can cause a mess if not used properly. The Bottom Line: The convenience of having the rechargeable brush and power washer contained in one unit (with a single plug) is worth the price. N OW I N O U R 2 3 R D Y E A R ! For booth info: Rivky Peretz 732.370.6061 Frumi Malchi 732.901.4499 FYI Magazine | 29
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi n g s } { You G ot ta Kn ow! } Top-Rated Product Reviews We review popular products, so that you don’t have to. Power Toothbrushes www.yttexpo.com ATT: VENDORS CORPORATE SPONSORS FEATURNG JUDAICA • HOME • FOOD • HEALTH ACCESSORIES • BUSINESS BOOTHS SELLING FAST! RESERVE YOURS NOW www.yttexpo.com Oral-B Professional Healthy Clean 5000 ($122) The Good: Five brushing modes. Doesn’t just pulsate to break up plaque, but also oscillates and rotates to sweep plaque away. The SmartGuide clock prompts you to switch areas of the mouth every 30 seconds for a total of 2 minutes of brushing. The Bad: On the expensive side. Battery only lasts 3-5 days. The Bottom Line: This Oral-B system is known to be the best electric toothbrush, hands down. Phillips Sonicare Essence ($40) The Good: Takes up very little counter space. Battery lasts 2 weeks. Cleans teeth powerfully and thoroughly. The Bad: No frills, very basic. The inside of the toothbrush is hollow, which can cause mold to grow inside. The Bottom Line: Perfect for anyone looking for a power toothbrush at a lower price without all the ‘extras’. EXPO WaterPik Water Flosser and Sonic Toothbrush ($73) Experience Experience SUN THE 5.3.15 28 | FYI Magazine CULINARY The Good: Cleans between teeth very well and washes out dirt better than any floss would. A water reservoir allows you to wash your entire mouth without a refill. Includes a sonic toothbrush with two brush heads and a water flosser with five tips. The Bad: Can overcharge/overheat if plugged in for too long. The water flosser can cause a mess if not used properly. The Bottom Line: The convenience of having the rechargeable brush and power washer contained in one unit (with a single plug) is worth the price. N OW I N O U R 2 3 R D Y E A R ! For booth info: Rivky Peretz 732.370.6061 Frumi Malchi 732.901.4499 FYI Magazine | 29
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{ Yo u G ot ta Kn ow ! } Magic Helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier. Nathan Strobe Light Just clip it onto a jacket or pocket and the bright light will increase visibility for those who enjoy running, walking, or exercising at night. It comes in cool colors and is small and lightweight, which makes for a perfect safety solution. About $10, amazon.com Jawbone Up 24 Looking for motivation to become healthier? Have a virtual coach with you at all times! The Jawbone bracelet fits on your wrist and provides the motivation you need to move more, sleep better, and improve your fitness. It tracks your steps, exercise, overall calories eaten and burned, hours slept, and quality of sleep. You will also receive an Idle Alert™ (a gentle vibration at the wrist) when you’ve been sitting too long. About $130, jawbone.com Sportline HydraCoach Water Bottle Are you drinking enough water? This ‘intelligent’ water bottle will calculate your personal hydration needs and motivate you to stay properly hydrated. Say goodbye to those headaches! About $22, amazon.com Flipbelt Gone are the days of big, bulky fanny packs. So where are you supposed to put your musthaves while exercising? Cell phone, keys, lip balm, credit cards/ID, cash, you name it and the Flipbelt can hold it. Simply put the items in the tubular pocket, flip the belt inside out, and everything gets locked in place. It fits snuggly so it doesn’t move, jiggle, or bounce. About $30, flipbelt.com Quality you can feel. Prices you can afford. Available at your local hosiery store. Enduracool Cooling Towel This towel will keep you cool for hours without making you wet! Simply snap the towel to activate the cooling properties. The cooling towel is great for walking, running, or working out at the gym! About $14, missionathletecare.com 30 | FYI Magazine Distributed by Emby Hosiery Corp. 1-800-287-6916 FYI Magazine | 31
  Yo u G ot ta Kn ow      Magic Helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier.  Nathan Strobe Light Just clip ...
{ Yo u G ot ta Kn ow ! } Magic Helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier. Nathan Strobe Light Just clip it onto a jacket or pocket and the bright light will increase visibility for those who enjoy running, walking, or exercising at night. It comes in cool colors and is small and lightweight, which makes for a perfect safety solution. About $10, amazon.com Jawbone Up 24 Looking for motivation to become healthier? Have a virtual coach with you at all times! The Jawbone bracelet fits on your wrist and provides the motivation you need to move more, sleep better, and improve your fitness. It tracks your steps, exercise, overall calories eaten and burned, hours slept, and quality of sleep. You will also receive an Idle Alert™ (a gentle vibration at the wrist) when you’ve been sitting too long. About $130, jawbone.com Sportline HydraCoach Water Bottle Are you drinking enough water? This ‘intelligent’ water bottle will calculate your personal hydration needs and motivate you to stay properly hydrated. Say goodbye to those headaches! About $22, amazon.com Flipbelt Gone are the days of big, bulky fanny packs. So where are you supposed to put your musthaves while exercising? Cell phone, keys, lip balm, credit cards/ID, cash, you name it and the Flipbelt can hold it. Simply put the items in the tubular pocket, flip the belt inside out, and everything gets locked in place. It fits snuggly so it doesn’t move, jiggle, or bounce. About $30, flipbelt.com Quality you can feel. Prices you can afford. Available at your local hosiery store. Enduracool Cooling Towel This towel will keep you cool for hours without making you wet! Simply snap the towel to activate the cooling properties. The cooling towel is great for walking, running, or working out at the gym! About $14, missionathletecare.com 30 | FYI Magazine Distributed by Emby Hosiery Corp. 1-800-287-6916 FYI Magazine | 31
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } Hi Sara, Thanks for asking. I would like to start by saying that the definition of “old age” has a lot to do with how you look at yourself. Some people feel old at age 30, while others feel young at age 80. If you look at the history of successful businesspeople, you will find that many of them started their businesses in what you would consider “old age.” Here are some examples: • Ray Kroc started McDonald’s at age 52. • Stephanie King founded a fair-trade retail website at age 62. • John Pemberton invented Coca-Cola at age 55. • Harland Sanders started KFC at age 65. There are hundreds of examples like these that prove that age alone is not a reason not to start business and go after your dreams. Dear Maurice, Thanks for your educational columns; keep them coming! The only reason age becomes an issue, is when you buy into the belief that you are limited because of your age. Age only becomes an issue when you buy into the belief that you are limited because of your age. For example: • If you believe that you can’t devote as much energy to a new startup as you would have when you were 35 years old, then you are old. • If you believe that you can’t do well because you were born before the computer age, and you will never be good with computers, then you are old. • If you believe that you can’t build new relationships because you are too old, then you are old. All of these are just beliefs. They are not facts. For every belief there are thousands of examples to prove it wrong. All you need is a commitment to do whatever it takes to succeed and constantly evaluate what’s working and what needs improvement. On average it takes about 12 months to get a new business off the ground, and another 12 months to make it profitable, which means that if everything goes well, you will have a profitable business by the age of 54. And even if your first business doesn’t work as planned, you can try another four businesses and still have a successful business going by the age of 64, which, according to the latest longevity numbers, will still leave you many years to enjoy your success. Be realistic with the finances when you start, and make sure that you will have enough cash flow to make it through the initial launching period. Make it a great day! Maurice B R O A D WAY K I T C H E N S I am 52 years old and have worked in corporate America for most of the last 30 years, but due to downsizing, I was laid off about four months ago. At this point in life it’s not easy for me to get another job, nor am I too excited to go back to sitting in a cubicle from 9-5. I want to do something more productive with a little more freedom than a job can give me. I have different ideas about businesses that I would like to start, and I believe some of them have a lot of potential. My question to you is: Am I too old to start a new business? Is there an age where it just does not make sense to start something from scratch? Looking forward to your answer, Sara EXCEPTIONAL KITCHEN SHOPPING EXPERIENCE. STRESS FREE. EXPERT ADVICE. 307 CENTRAL AVENUE | LAWRENCE, NEW YORK 11559 | P: 516.792.9300 32 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 33
  Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s      G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    Hi Sara, Thanks for asking. I would like to start ...
{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } Hi Sara, Thanks for asking. I would like to start by saying that the definition of “old age” has a lot to do with how you look at yourself. Some people feel old at age 30, while others feel young at age 80. If you look at the history of successful businesspeople, you will find that many of them started their businesses in what you would consider “old age.” Here are some examples: • Ray Kroc started McDonald’s at age 52. • Stephanie King founded a fair-trade retail website at age 62. • John Pemberton invented Coca-Cola at age 55. • Harland Sanders started KFC at age 65. There are hundreds of examples like these that prove that age alone is not a reason not to start business and go after your dreams. Dear Maurice, Thanks for your educational columns; keep them coming! The only reason age becomes an issue, is when you buy into the belief that you are limited because of your age. Age only becomes an issue when you buy into the belief that you are limited because of your age. For example: • If you believe that you can’t devote as much energy to a new startup as you would have when you were 35 years old, then you are old. • If you believe that you can’t do well because you were born before the computer age, and you will never be good with computers, then you are old. • If you believe that you can’t build new relationships because you are too old, then you are old. All of these are just beliefs. They are not facts. For every belief there are thousands of examples to prove it wrong. All you need is a commitment to do whatever it takes to succeed and constantly evaluate what’s working and what needs improvement. On average it takes about 12 months to get a new business off the ground, and another 12 months to make it profitable, which means that if everything goes well, you will have a profitable business by the age of 54. And even if your first business doesn’t work as planned, you can try another four businesses and still have a successful business going by the age of 64, which, according to the latest longevity numbers, will still leave you many years to enjoy your success. Be realistic with the finances when you start, and make sure that you will have enough cash flow to make it through the initial launching period. Make it a great day! Maurice B R O A D WAY K I T C H E N S I am 52 years old and have worked in corporate America for most of the last 30 years, but due to downsizing, I was laid off about four months ago. At this point in life it’s not easy for me to get another job, nor am I too excited to go back to sitting in a cubicle from 9-5. I want to do something more productive with a little more freedom than a job can give me. I have different ideas about businesses that I would like to start, and I believe some of them have a lot of potential. My question to you is: Am I too old to start a new business? Is there an age where it just does not make sense to start something from scratch? Looking forward to your answer, Sara EXCEPTIONAL KITCHEN SHOPPING EXPERIENCE. STRESS FREE. EXPERT ADVICE. 307 CENTRAL AVENUE | LAWRENCE, NEW YORK 11559 | P: 516.792.9300 32 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 33
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{ G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } 5 Things Not to Keep from Your Spouse By: Nissi Unger 34 | FYI Magazine When I got married, my mother gave me advice I thought was odd: “You don’t have to tell your husband everythingit’s not always okay to share.” I could not appreciate what she was telling me at the time. Here I was, getting married and going to share EVERYTHING with my new husband. Today, eight years later, I know better. While I love sharing things with my husband, I also know to keep quite when whatever I want to say would hurt him and not accomplish anything. It’s also not important to share hurtful or annoying things about his family members—it’s not something he has control over. But there are certain things one should never keep from their better half. FYI Magazine | 35
  G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    5 Things Not to Keep from Your Spouse By  Nissi Unger  34   FYI Magazine  When I got ma...
{ G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } 5 Things Not to Keep from Your Spouse By: Nissi Unger 34 | FYI Magazine When I got married, my mother gave me advice I thought was odd: “You don’t have to tell your husband everythingit’s not always okay to share.” I could not appreciate what she was telling me at the time. Here I was, getting married and going to share EVERYTHING with my new husband. Today, eight years later, I know better. While I love sharing things with my husband, I also know to keep quite when whatever I want to say would hurt him and not accomplish anything. It’s also not important to share hurtful or annoying things about his family members—it’s not something he has control over. But there are certain things one should never keep from their better half. FYI Magazine | 35
  G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    5 Things Not to Keep from Your Spouse By  Nissi Unger  34   FYI Magazine  When I got ma...
N ON IRON • WRIN KLE FRE E • C LASSIC FIT • SLI M F I T { Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } 3 Budget blunders and money mismanagement. For years, my husband and I joked about the eleven-dollar Coke. We were newly married and had no washing machine. It was Erev Pesach and I had been sitting for a long time in the local laundromat. I wasn’t very educated on the topic of ATMs and did not hesitate to withdraw money for a Coke- I was terribly thirsty. Because I used a credit card instead of a bank card, the fee for withdrawing three dollars was eight bucks. When I told my new husband what I had done he was not pleased at all (to put it mildly) and told me I had just incurred a huge fee on the transaction. But we laughed about it together and I have not touched an ATM machine with a ten-foot pole for eight years now. C Chances are, if you spend money outside your budget or overspend on a luxury purchase your spouse will find out anywayeven without a paper trail. M Y CM MY 4 You gave your toddler a pacifier when you had both agreed to wean him? You slapped your daughter three times this week when you were frustrated? Don’t keep it a secret— it’ll just make you feel awful twice. Discuss with your spouse ways to make you be more in control instead of losing it again. Doing so will ensure that you have his/her sympathy and support. 5 CY You broke a parenting agreement you both promised to adhere to. CMY K 3 This is something women have a hard time with more often than men. They forget that men don’t have extrasensory perception, more commonly known as ESP or mental telepathy. Generally, he wouldn’t mind doing things a bit differently. As long as the request is put respectfully and with good humor, the answer will usually be “Yes, certainly; why not?” The secret will affect him and the rest of your family. Just got a pink slip? Were diagnosed with an unpleasant or scary disease? Don’t burden yourself with the secret. It’s not your fault! You may be able to protect your spouse for about 48 hours, maybe even a week if you really know how to keep secrets. In the end, he or she will need to know anyway. You may as well share it initially so you can get your spouse’s input, encouragement, and support There’s something you want your spouse to do differently. 5 C M Y CM MY CY CMY K Any secret that keeps you in great distress. “Such secrets are damaging to your mind and body,” warns Debbie Mandel, author of Addicted to Stress. If it’s something that makes you embarrassed or afraid, if it makes your heart palpitate, your palms sweat and your mind race just thinking about it, it’s something you should certainly share with your spouse so you can work it out together. SLIM FIT 36 | FYI Magazine 37 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 37
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N ON IRON • WRIN KLE FRE E • C LASSIC FIT • SLI M F I T { Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } 3 Budget blunders and money mismanagement. For years, my husband and I joked about the eleven-dollar Coke. We were newly married and had no washing machine. It was Erev Pesach and I had been sitting for a long time in the local laundromat. I wasn’t very educated on the topic of ATMs and did not hesitate to withdraw money for a Coke- I was terribly thirsty. Because I used a credit card instead of a bank card, the fee for withdrawing three dollars was eight bucks. When I told my new husband what I had done he was not pleased at all (to put it mildly) and told me I had just incurred a huge fee on the transaction. But we laughed about it together and I have not touched an ATM machine with a ten-foot pole for eight years now. C Chances are, if you spend money outside your budget or overspend on a luxury purchase your spouse will find out anywayeven without a paper trail. M Y CM MY 4 You gave your toddler a pacifier when you had both agreed to wean him? You slapped your daughter three times this week when you were frustrated? Don’t keep it a secret— it’ll just make you feel awful twice. Discuss with your spouse ways to make you be more in control instead of losing it again. Doing so will ensure that you have his/her sympathy and support. 5 CY You broke a parenting agreement you both promised to adhere to. CMY K 3 This is something women have a hard time with more often than men. They forget that men don’t have extrasensory perception, more commonly known as ESP or mental telepathy. Generally, he wouldn’t mind doing things a bit differently. As long as the request is put respectfully and with good humor, the answer will usually be “Yes, certainly; why not?” The secret will affect him and the rest of your family. Just got a pink slip? Were diagnosed with an unpleasant or scary disease? Don’t burden yourself with the secret. It’s not your fault! You may be able to protect your spouse for about 48 hours, maybe even a week if you really know how to keep secrets. In the end, he or she will need to know anyway. You may as well share it initially so you can get your spouse’s input, encouragement, and support There’s something you want your spouse to do differently. 5 C M Y CM MY CY CMY K Any secret that keeps you in great distress. “Such secrets are damaging to your mind and body,” warns Debbie Mandel, author of Addicted to Stress. If it’s something that makes you embarrassed or afraid, if it makes your heart palpitate, your palms sweat and your mind race just thinking about it, it’s something you should certainly share with your spouse so you can work it out together. SLIM FIT 36 | FYI Magazine 37 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 37
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{ G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } A Little Bit of Fashion (and a lot-a-bit of how) by: Esty Brogna Last month we discussed Types 1 and 2 and how to determine which one you are. Types 3 and 4, your wait is over. We’re discussing you this week. Remember, this will seem like a personality test which it sort of is - but in the next issue I’ll teach you how to apply it to fashion, and you’ll never look back. Also keep in mind that some people have been taught to be another type, so some personality traits may not be true to your type. That’s why it’s important to use body language, facial expressions and facial features to figure out what type you are. Type 3- Fire Just like fire, Type 3’s have very swift, angular movement. They are masters at getting things done. Type 3’s think in order to get results. They have compartments in their brains and they figure out the most efficient way to get as many things done at once as they can. It’s almost like they have memory drawers of what they need to get done and how. Much like how they think, their personal space is compartmentalized, and they know where everything is. Their space is used in the most efficient way. Type 3’s might be known for throwing stuff away pretty quickly, but they always know where things are and are very practical about their space. Type 3’s will listen to something if they think there’s a point. Otherwise, you might even hear them say, “Get to the point!” This is especially interesting because the body shapes of this type can be triangular, rectangular or angular and even somewhat pointed. Type 3’s are very dynamic, rich personalities and can be described as swift, sure, angular and textured. Body Language It’s important for them to get things done — and their walk reflects that. They move swiftly and with determination, and they have the heaviest step of all the types. Because of their edgy nature, Type 3’s often sit in a way that forms an angle: with their shoulders shifted to the side, crosslegged or with their head slightly tilted. Their voices can be kind of raspy and edgy — definitely the most guttural of the types. The way they speak again reflects their determination to get things done and accomplished, and they might come across as a little sassy. Type 3’s doodle a lot of geometric shapes, and once they draw a shape, they tend to fill it in by compartmentalizing the space (a lot like how they think). 38 | FYI Magazine Jacket, Lord & Taylor; Shirt, Ralph Lauren; Skirt, Vika Gazinskay; Shoes, Louboutin Facial Features The features of this type tend to be textured and angled and have more depth in their facial lines. Their bone structure is usually angular and they have the most texture in their skin. They have triangular cheeks, which is very similar to apple cheeks, a Type 1 feature — but don’t get confused! Triangular cheeks have straight lines, creating an upside-down V above the mouth. Type 3 eyes come to a point on the inside and outside and often have an exotic look. Their upper lip has two distinct peaks and they have numerous smile lines. Type 3 hands also express texture in that they have lines and angles by the knuckles. FYI Magazine | 39
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{ G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } A Little Bit of Fashion (and a lot-a-bit of how) by: Esty Brogna Last month we discussed Types 1 and 2 and how to determine which one you are. Types 3 and 4, your wait is over. We’re discussing you this week. Remember, this will seem like a personality test which it sort of is - but in the next issue I’ll teach you how to apply it to fashion, and you’ll never look back. Also keep in mind that some people have been taught to be another type, so some personality traits may not be true to your type. That’s why it’s important to use body language, facial expressions and facial features to figure out what type you are. Type 3- Fire Just like fire, Type 3’s have very swift, angular movement. They are masters at getting things done. Type 3’s think in order to get results. They have compartments in their brains and they figure out the most efficient way to get as many things done at once as they can. It’s almost like they have memory drawers of what they need to get done and how. Much like how they think, their personal space is compartmentalized, and they know where everything is. Their space is used in the most efficient way. Type 3’s might be known for throwing stuff away pretty quickly, but they always know where things are and are very practical about their space. Type 3’s will listen to something if they think there’s a point. Otherwise, you might even hear them say, “Get to the point!” This is especially interesting because the body shapes of this type can be triangular, rectangular or angular and even somewhat pointed. Type 3’s are very dynamic, rich personalities and can be described as swift, sure, angular and textured. Body Language It’s important for them to get things done — and their walk reflects that. They move swiftly and with determination, and they have the heaviest step of all the types. Because of their edgy nature, Type 3’s often sit in a way that forms an angle: with their shoulders shifted to the side, crosslegged or with their head slightly tilted. Their voices can be kind of raspy and edgy — definitely the most guttural of the types. The way they speak again reflects their determination to get things done and accomplished, and they might come across as a little sassy. Type 3’s doodle a lot of geometric shapes, and once they draw a shape, they tend to fill it in by compartmentalizing the space (a lot like how they think). 38 | FYI Magazine Jacket, Lord & Taylor; Shirt, Ralph Lauren; Skirt, Vika Gazinskay; Shoes, Louboutin Facial Features The features of this type tend to be textured and angled and have more depth in their facial lines. Their bone structure is usually angular and they have the most texture in their skin. They have triangular cheeks, which is very similar to apple cheeks, a Type 1 feature — but don’t get confused! Triangular cheeks have straight lines, creating an upside-down V above the mouth. Type 3 eyes come to a point on the inside and outside and often have an exotic look. Their upper lip has two distinct peaks and they have numerous smile lines. Type 3 hands also express texture in that they have lines and angles by the knuckles. FYI Magazine | 39
  G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    A Little Bit of Fashion  and a lot-a-bit of how  by  Esty Brogna  Last month we discuss...
{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } Enjoy the convenience of monthly home delivery! Jacket, Century21.com Shirt, Zara; Skirt, Zara Shoes, Steve Madden Type 4- Earth Much like Earth, Type 4’s have a very still, structured movement. They are the type that has mastered the art of perfecting things. They are very poised. In fact, most supermodels are Type 4. Because of this, we tend to see their facial features as “perfect,” which is a Type 4 strength. They love figuring out the perfect way to get things done. They don’t like when things are less than perfect or don’t meet their standards of what’s possible. Type 4 people keep their personal space pretty much — you guessed it — perfectly neat. They like open, negative space and everything put away in its proper place. In their world, everything is clean, clear and simple. They like bold lines and things ordered. If your closet is ordered by types of garments, color and season, you’re probably a Type 4. The Type 4 woman is often seen as regal, precise and structured. Shapes that describe a Type 4’s character are parallel lines and elongated ovals and rectangles. Body Language: Going with the symmetrical and perfect theme, Type 4 women walk in a very statuesque, proper and poised way. When they sit, it’s usually with proper posture and very straight backs. They’re even comfortable with both feet flat on the ground and both hands placed on their lap. They can sit still for the longest periods of time — and they stay very focused and quiet. Their voices tend to be deep, pure and clear. That’s why many Type 4 personalities do professional voice-over work and news anchorage. Just like they take things very literally, they speak very literally. They tend to be very concise, and you’ll find they use the terms “exactly” and “precisely” quite often. Type 4’s do not doodle at all because it would make their papers too messy. Facial Features: The facial features of the Type 4 express their still movement by being perfectly symmetrical. Their faces are rectangular or an elongated oval, and they often have very high cheekbones. They also have nearly perfect skin with tiny pores. Type 4 eyebrows are straight, parallel lines, and their eyes are oval. When they smile, they usually keep their lips together and the line between their lips stays straight. Their hands often have porcelain skin and long fingers. Now that you’ve hopefully figured out your type, we’ll discuss how to go about dressing for your type. Prepare to be amazed! Subscribe now online for only $3 a month! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com 40 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 41
  Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s    Enjoy the convenience of monthly home delivery   Jacket, Century21.com Shirt, Zara  S...
{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } Enjoy the convenience of monthly home delivery! Jacket, Century21.com Shirt, Zara; Skirt, Zara Shoes, Steve Madden Type 4- Earth Much like Earth, Type 4’s have a very still, structured movement. They are the type that has mastered the art of perfecting things. They are very poised. In fact, most supermodels are Type 4. Because of this, we tend to see their facial features as “perfect,” which is a Type 4 strength. They love figuring out the perfect way to get things done. They don’t like when things are less than perfect or don’t meet their standards of what’s possible. Type 4 people keep their personal space pretty much — you guessed it — perfectly neat. They like open, negative space and everything put away in its proper place. In their world, everything is clean, clear and simple. They like bold lines and things ordered. If your closet is ordered by types of garments, color and season, you’re probably a Type 4. The Type 4 woman is often seen as regal, precise and structured. Shapes that describe a Type 4’s character are parallel lines and elongated ovals and rectangles. Body Language: Going with the symmetrical and perfect theme, Type 4 women walk in a very statuesque, proper and poised way. When they sit, it’s usually with proper posture and very straight backs. They’re even comfortable with both feet flat on the ground and both hands placed on their lap. They can sit still for the longest periods of time — and they stay very focused and quiet. Their voices tend to be deep, pure and clear. That’s why many Type 4 personalities do professional voice-over work and news anchorage. Just like they take things very literally, they speak very literally. They tend to be very concise, and you’ll find they use the terms “exactly” and “precisely” quite often. Type 4’s do not doodle at all because it would make their papers too messy. Facial Features: The facial features of the Type 4 express their still movement by being perfectly symmetrical. Their faces are rectangular or an elongated oval, and they often have very high cheekbones. They also have nearly perfect skin with tiny pores. Type 4 eyebrows are straight, parallel lines, and their eyes are oval. When they smile, they usually keep their lips together and the line between their lips stays straight. Their hands often have porcelain skin and long fingers. Now that you’ve hopefully figured out your type, we’ll discuss how to go about dressing for your type. Prepare to be amazed! Subscribe now online for only $3 a month! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com 40 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 41
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } #3: Now that your cabinets and drawers are empty, consider the best way to put everything back. Arrange your tableware, cookware, flatware, and bake-ware by frequency of use. Similar items should be stored together in one area. It is advisable to group everyday glasses and dishes in one spot, whereas Shabbos dishes, specialty items, and serving pieces should be stored separately. BONUS TIP: Line drawers with plastic placemats. They are easier to install and clean than sticky contact paper. #4: Discard containers without lids and either store remaining plastic containers with the lids on them or, if you prefer, store the lids together in a separate container. The same can be done with the lids for your pots and pans. A large, clear box will hold them nicely. Another option is to store them on the inside of your cabinet doors. BONUS TIP: Store pie pans, cookie sheets, and muffin sheets vertically with wire organizers so that you don’t have to move them all every time you want just one. #1: Replenish storage bins/baskets and use them to streamline the inside of your cabinets. Transparent OXO containers, stackable drawers, and Lucite shoeboxes allow for easy accessibility. Labelling offers an easy view of your inventory. You can clearly see what you have and what you need to restock. Make Yourself At Home… In The Kitchen The Heart Of The Home Drawer dividers, Lazy Susans (rotating trays), and spice racks are great tools to make life in the kitchen easier. They come in all sizes, to fit all nooks and crannies. As far as spice racks are concerned, think outside the box. They store more than just spices. Use them for paper clips, thumbtacks, safety pins, bandages, rubber bands, loose change, and other miscellaneous items. You have all the necessary paraphernalia on hand, so let’s really get going. #2: Empty out all cabinets and drawers. Start at the top and work your way down. BY: Reva Lieberman W e leave the stress of the office and the rat race of the workplace to step into the serenity of home life! Really? What dream world do you live in? We walk into the focal point of the home, the kitchen, and find ourselves in the core of chaos, the center of pandemonium, the focal point of disaster! The kitchen can be a calm and welcoming area, but usually it’s a magnet for clutter, a chaotic shambles, and a muddled mess. The Iron Chef does not live here. The Galloping Gourmet does not call your kitchen home. Gastronomical geniuses such as Wolfgang Puck, Jacques Pepin, Bobby Flay, Julia Child, and Rachael Ray do not know what the inside of your kitchen looks like; you do! The kitchen is perhaps the most important room in the home. It’s here that we congregate for family meetings. It’s where we sit and schmooze. The kids do their homework and their school projects here. How many volcanoes have you had erupting in your kitchen? We relax with a cup of coffee while cooking up a storm. We find ourselves searching for midnight snacks and we put our feet up waiting for the kids to come home. 42 | FYI Magazine But let’s face it. When a utility drawer becomes a repository for junk, it’s time to take action. Judging from the way this kitchen looks now, The Food Network is not going to be filming here any time soon. However, with the right preparation and setup, your kitchen can be a magical place where you create the most amazing culinary sensations. So, what’s the secret? Hope? Prayer? Wishful thinking? The Genie in the Bottle? No! It’s much simpler and more down to earth than that. It’s realistic and easily attainable. I know how to do it, and I would like to share some efficient, effective and ingenious organizing solutions. These tips and tricks will get you back on track and make your kitchen the masterpiece it was meant to be. An organized kitchen saves time, money, and most importantly, your sanity. So no more procrastinating, the time for excuses has passed. It’s time to get your act together and set the ball in motion. I promise to be at your side every step of the way should you experience any pangs of distress or indecision. Let’s start at the very beginning. • Discard, distribute, or donate items that are no longer used. (We understand you have Milichig items and Fleishig items, but the pile of Treif items have got to go. You know you are not Kashering anything any time soon!) • Get rid of anything that melts. Plastic forks, spoons, spreaders, spatulas, and tongs should be replaced with heat resistant silicone. • Duplicate items are superfluous (you are allowed to use the same peeler for both potatoes and carrots). • Broken items are useless (the glass you chipped when you went into labor with your 33-year-old son is never going to be repaired). • Those weird gadgets whose function and purpose is beyond your comprehension are pathetic. (Mr. Popeil is a sadist.) • Do you need those 39 plastic cups that you brought home from reunions and Tzedaka parties? There’s a reason they call them free giveaways! • The grotesque plastic gel- atin mold in the shape of a gingerbread house must definitely go. I don’t care if your mother-in-law gave it to you. THROW IT OUT! Be decisive and tenacious. Be firm and resolute. Your singular mantra must be: PUT AWAY, GIVE AWAY, or THROW AWAY! #5: Make use of vertical space. Place hooks or pegs underneath cabinets to hold mugs above the countertop or hang a stemware rack in the same spot for wine glasses. This will free up considerable cabinet space. You can also use adhesive hooks to hang measuring cups, oven mitts, pot holders, and assorted kitchen utensils. #6: Only those appliances that are used on a daily basis should be kept out. This includes toasters, blenders, and your coffee maker. Big appliances like crock pots, slow cookers, deep fryers, double boilers, bread makers (did you really think you were going to bake fresh bread every day…), and crème brûlée caramelizers should be out of sight. When was the last time you used that shiny chrome donut maker? Exactly! #7: Clear counter clutter. Don’t allow your counters (or your kitchen table) to become a dumping ground! Use a bulletin board to store coupons, recipes, to-do lists, and takeout menus. Have a pen and notepad handy so that you can always jot down spontaneous thoughts. How many Yom Tov menus pop into your head while you are peeling potatoes on a Wednesday afternoon? #8: Stop running a marathon around your kitchen every time you want to make a cup of coffee or brew a cup of tea. Designate a coffee/tea/cocoa station near a water source/urn that includes mugs, filters, sweeteners, and stirrers. Making a hot beverage becomes a breeze with everything you need right at hand. FYI Magazine | 43
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } #3: Now that your cabinets and drawers are empty, consider the best way to put everything back. Arrange your tableware, cookware, flatware, and bake-ware by frequency of use. Similar items should be stored together in one area. It is advisable to group everyday glasses and dishes in one spot, whereas Shabbos dishes, specialty items, and serving pieces should be stored separately. BONUS TIP: Line drawers with plastic placemats. They are easier to install and clean than sticky contact paper. #4: Discard containers without lids and either store remaining plastic containers with the lids on them or, if you prefer, store the lids together in a separate container. The same can be done with the lids for your pots and pans. A large, clear box will hold them nicely. Another option is to store them on the inside of your cabinet doors. BONUS TIP: Store pie pans, cookie sheets, and muffin sheets vertically with wire organizers so that you don’t have to move them all every time you want just one. #1: Replenish storage bins/baskets and use them to streamline the inside of your cabinets. Transparent OXO containers, stackable drawers, and Lucite shoeboxes allow for easy accessibility. Labelling offers an easy view of your inventory. You can clearly see what you have and what you need to restock. Make Yourself At Home… In The Kitchen The Heart Of The Home Drawer dividers, Lazy Susans (rotating trays), and spice racks are great tools to make life in the kitchen easier. They come in all sizes, to fit all nooks and crannies. As far as spice racks are concerned, think outside the box. They store more than just spices. Use them for paper clips, thumbtacks, safety pins, bandages, rubber bands, loose change, and other miscellaneous items. You have all the necessary paraphernalia on hand, so let’s really get going. #2: Empty out all cabinets and drawers. Start at the top and work your way down. BY: Reva Lieberman W e leave the stress of the office and the rat race of the workplace to step into the serenity of home life! Really? What dream world do you live in? We walk into the focal point of the home, the kitchen, and find ourselves in the core of chaos, the center of pandemonium, the focal point of disaster! The kitchen can be a calm and welcoming area, but usually it’s a magnet for clutter, a chaotic shambles, and a muddled mess. The Iron Chef does not live here. The Galloping Gourmet does not call your kitchen home. Gastronomical geniuses such as Wolfgang Puck, Jacques Pepin, Bobby Flay, Julia Child, and Rachael Ray do not know what the inside of your kitchen looks like; you do! The kitchen is perhaps the most important room in the home. It’s here that we congregate for family meetings. It’s where we sit and schmooze. The kids do their homework and their school projects here. How many volcanoes have you had erupting in your kitchen? We relax with a cup of coffee while cooking up a storm. We find ourselves searching for midnight snacks and we put our feet up waiting for the kids to come home. 42 | FYI Magazine But let’s face it. When a utility drawer becomes a repository for junk, it’s time to take action. Judging from the way this kitchen looks now, The Food Network is not going to be filming here any time soon. However, with the right preparation and setup, your kitchen can be a magical place where you create the most amazing culinary sensations. So, what’s the secret? Hope? Prayer? Wishful thinking? The Genie in the Bottle? No! It’s much simpler and more down to earth than that. It’s realistic and easily attainable. I know how to do it, and I would like to share some efficient, effective and ingenious organizing solutions. These tips and tricks will get you back on track and make your kitchen the masterpiece it was meant to be. An organized kitchen saves time, money, and most importantly, your sanity. So no more procrastinating, the time for excuses has passed. It’s time to get your act together and set the ball in motion. I promise to be at your side every step of the way should you experience any pangs of distress or indecision. Let’s start at the very beginning. • Discard, distribute, or donate items that are no longer used. (We understand you have Milichig items and Fleishig items, but the pile of Treif items have got to go. You know you are not Kashering anything any time soon!) • Get rid of anything that melts. Plastic forks, spoons, spreaders, spatulas, and tongs should be replaced with heat resistant silicone. • Duplicate items are superfluous (you are allowed to use the same peeler for both potatoes and carrots). • Broken items are useless (the glass you chipped when you went into labor with your 33-year-old son is never going to be repaired). • Those weird gadgets whose function and purpose is beyond your comprehension are pathetic. (Mr. Popeil is a sadist.) • Do you need those 39 plastic cups that you brought home from reunions and Tzedaka parties? There’s a reason they call them free giveaways! • The grotesque plastic gel- atin mold in the shape of a gingerbread house must definitely go. I don’t care if your mother-in-law gave it to you. THROW IT OUT! Be decisive and tenacious. Be firm and resolute. Your singular mantra must be: PUT AWAY, GIVE AWAY, or THROW AWAY! #5: Make use of vertical space. Place hooks or pegs underneath cabinets to hold mugs above the countertop or hang a stemware rack in the same spot for wine glasses. This will free up considerable cabinet space. You can also use adhesive hooks to hang measuring cups, oven mitts, pot holders, and assorted kitchen utensils. #6: Only those appliances that are used on a daily basis should be kept out. This includes toasters, blenders, and your coffee maker. Big appliances like crock pots, slow cookers, deep fryers, double boilers, bread makers (did you really think you were going to bake fresh bread every day…), and crème brûlée caramelizers should be out of sight. When was the last time you used that shiny chrome donut maker? Exactly! #7: Clear counter clutter. Don’t allow your counters (or your kitchen table) to become a dumping ground! Use a bulletin board to store coupons, recipes, to-do lists, and takeout menus. Have a pen and notepad handy so that you can always jot down spontaneous thoughts. How many Yom Tov menus pop into your head while you are peeling potatoes on a Wednesday afternoon? #8: Stop running a marathon around your kitchen every time you want to make a cup of coffee or brew a cup of tea. Designate a coffee/tea/cocoa station near a water source/urn that includes mugs, filters, sweeteners, and stirrers. Making a hot beverage becomes a breeze with everything you need right at hand. FYI Magazine | 43
  Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s      G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    3  Now that your cabinets and drawers are empty, c...
{ G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } Are You F ree? Soft Addictions That Overtake Your Life By Dini Harris Excessive computer and social media usage are just two of the behaviors that have been termed “soft addictions” by Judith Wright of the Wright Leadership Institute. Soft addictions can include excessive exercising; shopping; risktaking, like bungee jumping and rappelling; gambling; and even nail-biting. As with our fictitious Rachel, these soft addictions don’t cause severe damage, but they do have a negative effect on a person’s productivity, personal time and relationships. Soft Addictions Everyone needs downtime. At the end of a stressful day, you may want to sit and relax with a cup of coffee and a good book. Other people turn to shopping to relieve their stress — finding that exclusive pocketbook on clearance gives them a temporary high. Chocolate works as a de-stresser for others. A once-in-a-while activity to help you unwind is neither a real addiction nor a soft addiction. It’s simply a legitimate way to help you deal with life’s stresses, which are often beyond your control. It’s when these activities continuously repeat themselves that they start turning into problems. The time and effort put into these meaningless habits rob us of our money, feelings, consciousness and energy. R achel would surely laugh if you told her that she’s an addict. She never drinks alcohol, wouldn’t recognize nonprescription drugs even if they were on her kitchen table, and doesn’t gamble excessively. She eats just enough to maintain her weight and always shops within her budget. What addiction could she possibly have? Rachel’s right. She’s officially clean; she doesn’t have any of the addictions classified in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. But she does check the news sites every 20 minutes, her e-mail inbox every 10, and spends at least an hour every evening updating her Facebook page. Does this time spent on the Internet drastically impact her life? Yes and no. Her 44 | FYI Magazine children have learned to wait until she gets off the computer before asking for help; she still manages to serve supper on time; and her husband works while she deals with Facebook. But, even so, if Rachel took an objective look at her overall computer usage, she would realize that she invests a lot of time in this habit — and she would certainly much rather use this chunk of time for something more worthwhile. Without our realizing it, these soft addictions take over our lives. Instead of feeling the emotions that accompany life events, we use these habits to numb our feelings and avoid relationships. Instead of going out to the park or playing Monopoly with her kids, our Rachel is busy on the computer. Instead of talking to her husband about his day, she’s on Facebook. One of her fictitious friends doesn’t like her boss. She spends her afternoons in the mall instead of finding a solution or making peace with the problem. Recognizing Soft Addictions How can you tell if a habit has turned into a soft addiction? An objective analysis of your own behaviors can help you decide where you’re holding vis-à-vis addictions. Think about it: Is the behavior you’re analyzing excessive? But often, it’s the comments that you get from other people that make you realize you have a problem. FYI Magazine | 45
  G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    Are You F ree   Soft Addictions That Overtake Your Life By Dini Harris  Excessive compu...
{ G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } Are You F ree? Soft Addictions That Overtake Your Life By Dini Harris Excessive computer and social media usage are just two of the behaviors that have been termed “soft addictions” by Judith Wright of the Wright Leadership Institute. Soft addictions can include excessive exercising; shopping; risktaking, like bungee jumping and rappelling; gambling; and even nail-biting. As with our fictitious Rachel, these soft addictions don’t cause severe damage, but they do have a negative effect on a person’s productivity, personal time and relationships. Soft Addictions Everyone needs downtime. At the end of a stressful day, you may want to sit and relax with a cup of coffee and a good book. Other people turn to shopping to relieve their stress — finding that exclusive pocketbook on clearance gives them a temporary high. Chocolate works as a de-stresser for others. A once-in-a-while activity to help you unwind is neither a real addiction nor a soft addiction. It’s simply a legitimate way to help you deal with life’s stresses, which are often beyond your control. It’s when these activities continuously repeat themselves that they start turning into problems. The time and effort put into these meaningless habits rob us of our money, feelings, consciousness and energy. R achel would surely laugh if you told her that she’s an addict. She never drinks alcohol, wouldn’t recognize nonprescription drugs even if they were on her kitchen table, and doesn’t gamble excessively. She eats just enough to maintain her weight and always shops within her budget. What addiction could she possibly have? Rachel’s right. She’s officially clean; she doesn’t have any of the addictions classified in the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. But she does check the news sites every 20 minutes, her e-mail inbox every 10, and spends at least an hour every evening updating her Facebook page. Does this time spent on the Internet drastically impact her life? Yes and no. Her 44 | FYI Magazine children have learned to wait until she gets off the computer before asking for help; she still manages to serve supper on time; and her husband works while she deals with Facebook. But, even so, if Rachel took an objective look at her overall computer usage, she would realize that she invests a lot of time in this habit — and she would certainly much rather use this chunk of time for something more worthwhile. Without our realizing it, these soft addictions take over our lives. Instead of feeling the emotions that accompany life events, we use these habits to numb our feelings and avoid relationships. Instead of going out to the park or playing Monopoly with her kids, our Rachel is busy on the computer. Instead of talking to her husband about his day, she’s on Facebook. One of her fictitious friends doesn’t like her boss. She spends her afternoons in the mall instead of finding a solution or making peace with the problem. Recognizing Soft Addictions How can you tell if a habit has turned into a soft addiction? An objective analysis of your own behaviors can help you decide where you’re holding vis-à-vis addictions. Think about it: Is the behavior you’re analyzing excessive? But often, it’s the comments that you get from other people that make you realize you have a problem. FYI Magazine | 45
  G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s    Are You F ree   Soft Addictions That Overtake Your Life By Dini Harris  Excessive compu...
THERE’S NOTHING LIKE PURIM AT { Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } When Rachel’s kids start grumbling, “Why are you on the computer again, Mommy?” she should start to see how much time it takes away from them. When her husband starts threatening to put a child block on Facebook, she should recognize that her Facebook time is affecting their relationship. In contrast, an advocate of conscious living leaves his camera and iPhone in his pocket. He looks carefully around to take in new sights, inhales deeply to enjoy the aromas and listens attentively to the tour guide to learn about where he is. Soft Addictions vs. Conscious Living The pictures he sends out after he returns home will be qualitatively different from the ones sent by his busy Instagram friend. They will be accompanied by thoughtful captions and reflections about his experiences. When Mr. Instagram comes home, he will have a lot to talk about. But when Mr. Conscious Living comes home, he will have grown from his experiences. Conscious living is the opposite of soft addictions. Conscious living expresses a lifestyle of constant awareness and appreciation of everything that happens in a person’s life. Soft addictions are also the antithesis of Torah. They keep us so busy that we forget that we’re here for a higher purpose. They consume our time, the most precious gift we have. If Rachel is smart, she’ll listen and accept these comments, instead of getting angry over them. She’ll appreciate the truth they convey and make attempts to kick the soft addictions out of her life. A person with soft addictions who goes on a trip takes endless pictures, puts them up on Instagram and posts them on Facebook without first taking the time to appreciate the new sights and experiences. Kicking the Habit Getting rid of soft addictions is not easy, but it can be done. Experts suggest making a commitment to oneself — even writing out the commitment and signing it. Commitments should be gradual. Rachel can commit to turning off her Internet during the first hour after the kids come home from school and to limiting her Facebook time to a half an hour every evening. When she gets used to this change, she can commit to more Internet-free time. Other suggestions include reaching out to friends and family for support, sharing the issue you’re facing and discussing your commitment to getting rid of the bad habit. But the best way to chuck soft addictions is by replacing them with something more enriching. Enriching activities can include volunteering for chessed organizations, committing to spending quality time with friends or family members, continuing one’s education, building on a talent like singing or painting, or attending shiurim. The genuine enjoyment these activities engender encourages a person to increase the time spent on them. With time well-spent, soft addictions will eventually fall by the wayside and turn into old memories. pa r e n t i n g 1 01 The Importance of Implementing Routines and Structure By: muffins-n-moms | Chaya Guttman, LCSW and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW It’s the morning rush and your toddler is revolting against wearing clothes while the family’s lunch doesn’t seem to be packing itself. Your third-grader dashes into the bathroom just as the bus pulls up and you suddenly realize that you forgot to sign his homework. Does this sound familiar? W e all experience it: from the dreaded evening hour during which your baby cries relentlessly while you attempt to juggle dinner and homework time to the preschooler who refuses to bathe and resists his bedtime on the night you had made plans to attend an event you were looking forward to. The scenarios are unavoidable, countless, and as moms know, all part of the joys of parenting young children. Lenny Koegel 516-594-6010 www.distinctivewindowfashions.com 46 | FYI Magazine Insomuch as these moments are par for the course in child-rearing, experts agree that setting consistent routines and maintaining structure in the household is imperative for the healthy emotional development of children. Children whose lives are structured and follow routine tend to cooperate better, have an easier time adjusting to change, and be less anxious than their non-structured counterparts. The amount of change children go through in their lives is staggering. These changes can leave children feeling uncertain and anxious, and can often lead to meltdowns and/or defiance. Following daily routines helps children gain a sense of security while fostering self-discipline and independence. The need for nagging on the parents’ part is also greatly reduced, which is conducive to a healthier parent-child relationship. With consistency in this approach, the set routine will eventually become habitual and children will be better able to prevail over unanticipated change in their lives. Note that children who exhibit symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, or those who are going through an adjustment such as parental divorce or a move tend to benefit most from routines and structure. While routine setting can be relatively simple to establish, keep in mind that consistency in implementation is key to a successful outcome. Keep at it for two to three months before expecting to see measurable change in your household. At the same time, keep in mind that parenting is all about achieving a healthy balance. Remaining too rigid and not allowing room for flexibility in your child’s routine can backfire. Including your child in creating his/her schedule is a great way to bond with your child. It also gives kids the ability to own their routine and the motivation to follow through. Be sure to create a routine for each child in the family that is specific to his or her needs. Create your own routine in order to implement a schedule for an infant or toddler. FYI Magazine | 47
THERE   S NOTHING LIKE PURIM AT    Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s    When Rachel   s kids start grumbling,    Why are you...
THERE’S NOTHING LIKE PURIM AT { Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } When Rachel’s kids start grumbling, “Why are you on the computer again, Mommy?” she should start to see how much time it takes away from them. When her husband starts threatening to put a child block on Facebook, she should recognize that her Facebook time is affecting their relationship. In contrast, an advocate of conscious living leaves his camera and iPhone in his pocket. He looks carefully around to take in new sights, inhales deeply to enjoy the aromas and listens attentively to the tour guide to learn about where he is. Soft Addictions vs. Conscious Living The pictures he sends out after he returns home will be qualitatively different from the ones sent by his busy Instagram friend. They will be accompanied by thoughtful captions and reflections about his experiences. When Mr. Instagram comes home, he will have a lot to talk about. But when Mr. Conscious Living comes home, he will have grown from his experiences. Conscious living is the opposite of soft addictions. Conscious living expresses a lifestyle of constant awareness and appreciation of everything that happens in a person’s life. Soft addictions are also the antithesis of Torah. They keep us so busy that we forget that we’re here for a higher purpose. They consume our time, the most precious gift we have. If Rachel is smart, she’ll listen and accept these comments, instead of getting angry over them. She’ll appreciate the truth they convey and make attempts to kick the soft addictions out of her life. A person with soft addictions who goes on a trip takes endless pictures, puts them up on Instagram and posts them on Facebook without first taking the time to appreciate the new sights and experiences. Kicking the Habit Getting rid of soft addictions is not easy, but it can be done. Experts suggest making a commitment to oneself — even writing out the commitment and signing it. Commitments should be gradual. Rachel can commit to turning off her Internet during the first hour after the kids come home from school and to limiting her Facebook time to a half an hour every evening. When she gets used to this change, she can commit to more Internet-free time. Other suggestions include reaching out to friends and family for support, sharing the issue you’re facing and discussing your commitment to getting rid of the bad habit. But the best way to chuck soft addictions is by replacing them with something more enriching. Enriching activities can include volunteering for chessed organizations, committing to spending quality time with friends or family members, continuing one’s education, building on a talent like singing or painting, or attending shiurim. The genuine enjoyment these activities engender encourages a person to increase the time spent on them. With time well-spent, soft addictions will eventually fall by the wayside and turn into old memories. pa r e n t i n g 1 01 The Importance of Implementing Routines and Structure By: muffins-n-moms | Chaya Guttman, LCSW and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW It’s the morning rush and your toddler is revolting against wearing clothes while the family’s lunch doesn’t seem to be packing itself. Your third-grader dashes into the bathroom just as the bus pulls up and you suddenly realize that you forgot to sign his homework. Does this sound familiar? W e all experience it: from the dreaded evening hour during which your baby cries relentlessly while you attempt to juggle dinner and homework time to the preschooler who refuses to bathe and resists his bedtime on the night you had made plans to attend an event you were looking forward to. The scenarios are unavoidable, countless, and as moms know, all part of the joys of parenting young children. Lenny Koegel 516-594-6010 www.distinctivewindowfashions.com 46 | FYI Magazine Insomuch as these moments are par for the course in child-rearing, experts agree that setting consistent routines and maintaining structure in the household is imperative for the healthy emotional development of children. Children whose lives are structured and follow routine tend to cooperate better, have an easier time adjusting to change, and be less anxious than their non-structured counterparts. The amount of change children go through in their lives is staggering. These changes can leave children feeling uncertain and anxious, and can often lead to meltdowns and/or defiance. Following daily routines helps children gain a sense of security while fostering self-discipline and independence. The need for nagging on the parents’ part is also greatly reduced, which is conducive to a healthier parent-child relationship. With consistency in this approach, the set routine will eventually become habitual and children will be better able to prevail over unanticipated change in their lives. Note that children who exhibit symptoms of anxiety, ADHD, or those who are going through an adjustment such as parental divorce or a move tend to benefit most from routines and structure. While routine setting can be relatively simple to establish, keep in mind that consistency in implementation is key to a successful outcome. Keep at it for two to three months before expecting to see measurable change in your household. At the same time, keep in mind that parenting is all about achieving a healthy balance. Remaining too rigid and not allowing room for flexibility in your child’s routine can backfire. Including your child in creating his/her schedule is a great way to bond with your child. It also gives kids the ability to own their routine and the motivation to follow through. Be sure to create a routine for each child in the family that is specific to his or her needs. Create your own routine in order to implement a schedule for an infant or toddler. FYI Magazine | 47
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AIRLINE RESERVATIONS Whether it’s a vacation, a simcha, or a last minute business trip, PEYD will handle your travel plans with the service and integrity you’ve come to trust. A nine-year-old’s evening schedule would thus look something like this: 4:30-5:00 Unwind from school day 5:00-5:30 Dinner 5:30-5:45 Clear table/ clean up 5:45-7:15 Homework 7:15-7:30 Prepare backpack, snack, lunch, and clothes for following day 7:30-8:00 Shower/brush teeth/PJs 8:00-8:15 Read in bed 8:15 Snuggle time with mom/ bedtime Here are some tips for setting a routine: • • Choose a time that is the most stressful part of your day. Start small and do not attempt to revamp your entire schedule at once. Ask yourself this question: how can you cut corners to make life easier for yourself? For example, can you create less-elaborate meals? How can you prep in advance to create a more flexible environment? Two examples include cooking dinner ahead of time and setting the breakfast table the night before. • • Decide where you are willing to be more flexible (baths every second night vs. every night) and what your non-negotiables are (bedtimes, media rules). Decide to commit to these resolutions. Break down the timeframe you are working with to measurable times allotted to complete certain tasks and write them down clearly (e.g., 7:00-7:30 prep for following day - pack backpack, prepare lunch/snack. 7:30-8:00 shower, brush teeth, put on PJs). • • • For older children, have them write their own schedules and respect their requests to the best of your ability. For preschool-age children who cannot read and write, pictures depicting them doing the activities will do the trick. Post the schedule where they are able to receive visual reminders, such as on the refrigerator or in their bedrooms. Including your child in creating his/her schedule is a great way to bond with your child. It also gives kids the ability to own their routine and the motivation to follow through. www.sandbox-marketing.com With the advent of Pesach and the frequency with which we celebrate holidays in our community comes the unavoidable need to break routine and the virtual inability to maintain structure as we know it. While this is understandable, try to keep at least a few aspects of your children’s lives predictable, such as a later bedtime or set morning rituals (davening, attending shul). Remember that children who are accustomed to routines have an A I R L I N E R E S E R VAT I O N S easier time adjusting to change T R AV E L C O N C I E R G E • C R E D I T C A R D A D V I S O R Y and bouncing back once the holidays are over. Most MILEAGE importantly, the holidays are PAY W I T H P O I N T S • L U X U R Y VA C AT I O N V I L L A S a wonderful time to bond with our children and create family REDEMPTION • • B U S I N E SS T RAV E L MILEAGE BARTER B U S I N E S S & P E R S O N A L R E WA R D S M A N A G E M E N T rituals that will forever hold a special place in their hearts. CALL NOW FOR A CONSULTATION 48 | FYI Magazine 646.801.7393 • WWW.GETPEYD.COM FYI Magazine | 49
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AIRLINE RESERVATIONS Whether it’s a vacation, a simcha, or a last minute business trip, PEYD will handle your travel plans with the service and integrity you’ve come to trust. A nine-year-old’s evening schedule would thus look something like this: 4:30-5:00 Unwind from school day 5:00-5:30 Dinner 5:30-5:45 Clear table/ clean up 5:45-7:15 Homework 7:15-7:30 Prepare backpack, snack, lunch, and clothes for following day 7:30-8:00 Shower/brush teeth/PJs 8:00-8:15 Read in bed 8:15 Snuggle time with mom/ bedtime Here are some tips for setting a routine: • • Choose a time that is the most stressful part of your day. Start small and do not attempt to revamp your entire schedule at once. Ask yourself this question: how can you cut corners to make life easier for yourself? For example, can you create less-elaborate meals? How can you prep in advance to create a more flexible environment? Two examples include cooking dinner ahead of time and setting the breakfast table the night before. • • Decide where you are willing to be more flexible (baths every second night vs. every night) and what your non-negotiables are (bedtimes, media rules). Decide to commit to these resolutions. Break down the timeframe you are working with to measurable times allotted to complete certain tasks and write them down clearly (e.g., 7:00-7:30 prep for following day - pack backpack, prepare lunch/snack. 7:30-8:00 shower, brush teeth, put on PJs). • • • For older children, have them write their own schedules and respect their requests to the best of your ability. For preschool-age children who cannot read and write, pictures depicting them doing the activities will do the trick. Post the schedule where they are able to receive visual reminders, such as on the refrigerator or in their bedrooms. Including your child in creating his/her schedule is a great way to bond with your child. It also gives kids the ability to own their routine and the motivation to follow through. www.sandbox-marketing.com With the advent of Pesach and the frequency with which we celebrate holidays in our community comes the unavoidable need to break routine and the virtual inability to maintain structure as we know it. While this is understandable, try to keep at least a few aspects of your children’s lives predictable, such as a later bedtime or set morning rituals (davening, attending shul). Remember that children who are accustomed to routines have an A I R L I N E R E S E R VAT I O N S easier time adjusting to change T R AV E L C O N C I E R G E • C R E D I T C A R D A D V I S O R Y and bouncing back once the holidays are over. Most MILEAGE importantly, the holidays are PAY W I T H P O I N T S • L U X U R Y VA C AT I O N V I L L A S a wonderful time to bond with our children and create family REDEMPTION • • B U S I N E SS T RAV E L MILEAGE BARTER B U S I N E S S & P E R S O N A L R E WA R D S M A N A G E M E N T rituals that will forever hold a special place in their hearts. CALL NOW FOR A CONSULTATION 48 | FYI Magazine 646.801.7393 • WWW.GETPEYD.COM FYI Magazine | 49
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } 25 Ways to Keep Children Busy During Pesach Vacation By: Nissi Unger 1. Teach them a new song. Suggestion: Songs from Rabbi Shmuel Kunda zt”l’s tapes – they are full of action and meaning. Then let them come up with a pantomime to it that you can watch later. Giggles shall abound! 2. Fly some paper airplanes. But you have to make them first. Try the Klutz Book of Paper Airplanes as a guide and then have a contest to see who can fly them furthest. 3. While we are on the topic of Klutz, check out their website to find multiple books and activities that can get kids buzzing for hours. My personal favorites are body crayons, juggling, and fairies. Try to get a lot on eBay so you don’t overspend. 4. Use something as simple as salt to create pictures on colored paper. Use kosher or table salt to encourage kids to create scenes and mazes using just some salt and paper. (You can use other spices to add colors to any scene.) 5. There are plenty of edible paint recipes to be found on the web. Make sure you have the right ingredients in your pantry, create some paint, and have your budding artists paint on a roll of shelf paper! 6. All you need for hours of fun is a roll of painter’s tape and some die-cast cars. Create roads and highways for your kid’s toy cars all over your floor using colored tape. The tape is easily removable and leaves no residue. 7. If the weather is nice, give your kids a box of chalk and have them draw some bull’s eye targets on the pavement. Around the bull’s eye, they can draw three or four circles with a number in each circle — the number of points to be received if the sponge lands on it. Then they can try to drop wet sponges in the center and accrue points as they go along. has walls and add a layer of sugar. Then let your kids draw in the sugar with their fingers. It’s good for kids starting to learn letters, or for beginning writers. They draw in the sugar instead of sand like they would at the beach. Then they shuffle the tray to smooth the sugar and do the next letter. It’s a great sensory experience and makes them want to learn and play. 11. Boxes, boxes and more boxes are all you need for some great play. Visit www.boxplayforkids.com to browse stickers that you can purchase to turn any box into something creative. Even without stickers, most young children love to pretend play in an empty box. Save them when you get your deliveries and offer them to your kids. You will be amazed at the cavemen they will become! 12. Use half-filled seltzer bot8. Cut up colorful sponges to resemble the wood logs used in the game Jumble Tower. Then build a jumble tower out of cut-up sponges. 9. Got an active toddler? Tape the paper towel roll insert to the wall and give your toddler an assortment of things such as pom-poms, jelly beans, or age appropriate toys to drop through them. 50 | FYI Magazine 10. Take a serving tray that tles and a ball to create your own bowling alley at home. 13. For tabletop bowling, use erasers—the kind you pop onto the end of a pencil— that can stand on their own, and a marble. 14. For a game of balloon ping-pong, get some Popsicle sticks taped to 9” paper plates. All you need is a balloon to throw back and forth. 15. Are the kids bored with their LEGO sets? For a few bucks, you can purchase repositionable stickers at www.brickstix.com so that regular LEGO bricks become extraordinary! The best part is that these stickers leave no residue and can result in hours of pretend play. 16. Make your own racetrack! Cut a pool noodle in half lengthwise. Place one end of each noodle half on the stairs or on an elevated surface and the other end in a box. Then, place a marble at the top of each noodle half and have them race into the box. 17. Puzzle Hour: If you don’t have many, you can get lots of cheap puzzles on eBay. Have kids make puzzles all over the house for a full hour. You can get puzzles to match your child’s age, gender, and puzzle-making ability level. 18. Make an audiobook together with your child of his or her favorite book. Then, be amazed as they listen to it over and over again. Don’t forget those page turning signals! 19. Who doesn’t love to dance? Turn up the music and host a dance party. Each child gets to teach everyone a dance they’ve prepared. 22. Board Game Fest. Each kid gets to choose a board game and a time limit is set for each game. No winners are necessary. Set a timer, and when it rings you get on to the next game. 20. Try this when your home is not entirely Pesachdig yet. For those who have separate kitchens, this may not pose a problem at all. Cut colorful Twizzler ropes into small tidbits so they resemble large Perler beads. Create a picture on any flat surface using the licorice and then iron. It will hold together like a Perler bead creation, and kids love nibbling away! This activity does keep them busy for quite some time! 21. Have your kids help you create an easy Jell-O dessert for dinner one night. All you need is two melons of your choice cut in half—honeydew or cantaloupe. Prepare the Jell-O as per the box instructions. Pour into each melon half and refrigerate. When it has set, cut melon slices with Jell-O in them for a fun, healthy dessert. 23. If the cold weather persists, let your kids create some ice sculptures. Fill bowls and containers with water in every size and shape—7 oz. cups, plastic pickle containers, soup bowls etc. Let them stand outside for two days until they’re completely frozen. Then pour some cold water onto each container to release the block of ice. Make sure the children are wearing good gloves. Pour water on the blocks to connect them and create a fabulous ice sculpture. For color: add food coloring—just a drop to the containers before freezing them. 25. Have your kids create snazzy ice cubes to be used in their water at mealtime. This activity keeps kids busy and encourages them to give up their juice at dinner. Give each kid an ice cube tray and allow them to choose little gummi goodies to place in the center of each. Have them fill up the tray 2/3 of the way with water and drop in gummi bears or any other gummi goody. There’s an entire gamut out there, from gummi worms to gummi teeth! The next morning, you can host an ice cube sucking contest to see who can get their gummi bear out first! 24. Make some rainbow smoothies. Blend each of your favorite fruits separately with some juice or milk, e.g., kiwi, mango, blueberries, strawberries and mandarins. Then, layer your cup for a most dazzling effect. Kids can be included in shopping for the fruit, adding it to the blender with adult supervision, and then creating the masterpiece! FYI Magazine | 51
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } 25 Ways to Keep Children Busy During Pesach Vacation By: Nissi Unger 1. Teach them a new song. Suggestion: Songs from Rabbi Shmuel Kunda zt”l’s tapes – they are full of action and meaning. Then let them come up with a pantomime to it that you can watch later. Giggles shall abound! 2. Fly some paper airplanes. But you have to make them first. Try the Klutz Book of Paper Airplanes as a guide and then have a contest to see who can fly them furthest. 3. While we are on the topic of Klutz, check out their website to find multiple books and activities that can get kids buzzing for hours. My personal favorites are body crayons, juggling, and fairies. Try to get a lot on eBay so you don’t overspend. 4. Use something as simple as salt to create pictures on colored paper. Use kosher or table salt to encourage kids to create scenes and mazes using just some salt and paper. (You can use other spices to add colors to any scene.) 5. There are plenty of edible paint recipes to be found on the web. Make sure you have the right ingredients in your pantry, create some paint, and have your budding artists paint on a roll of shelf paper! 6. All you need for hours of fun is a roll of painter’s tape and some die-cast cars. Create roads and highways for your kid’s toy cars all over your floor using colored tape. The tape is easily removable and leaves no residue. 7. If the weather is nice, give your kids a box of chalk and have them draw some bull’s eye targets on the pavement. Around the bull’s eye, they can draw three or four circles with a number in each circle — the number of points to be received if the sponge lands on it. Then they can try to drop wet sponges in the center and accrue points as they go along. has walls and add a layer of sugar. Then let your kids draw in the sugar with their fingers. It’s good for kids starting to learn letters, or for beginning writers. They draw in the sugar instead of sand like they would at the beach. Then they shuffle the tray to smooth the sugar and do the next letter. It’s a great sensory experience and makes them want to learn and play. 11. Boxes, boxes and more boxes are all you need for some great play. Visit www.boxplayforkids.com to browse stickers that you can purchase to turn any box into something creative. Even without stickers, most young children love to pretend play in an empty box. Save them when you get your deliveries and offer them to your kids. You will be amazed at the cavemen they will become! 12. Use half-filled seltzer bot8. Cut up colorful sponges to resemble the wood logs used in the game Jumble Tower. Then build a jumble tower out of cut-up sponges. 9. Got an active toddler? Tape the paper towel roll insert to the wall and give your toddler an assortment of things such as pom-poms, jelly beans, or age appropriate toys to drop through them. 50 | FYI Magazine 10. Take a serving tray that tles and a ball to create your own bowling alley at home. 13. For tabletop bowling, use erasers—the kind you pop onto the end of a pencil— that can stand on their own, and a marble. 14. For a game of balloon ping-pong, get some Popsicle sticks taped to 9” paper plates. All you need is a balloon to throw back and forth. 15. Are the kids bored with their LEGO sets? For a few bucks, you can purchase repositionable stickers at www.brickstix.com so that regular LEGO bricks become extraordinary! The best part is that these stickers leave no residue and can result in hours of pretend play. 16. Make your own racetrack! Cut a pool noodle in half lengthwise. Place one end of each noodle half on the stairs or on an elevated surface and the other end in a box. Then, place a marble at the top of each noodle half and have them race into the box. 17. Puzzle Hour: If you don’t have many, you can get lots of cheap puzzles on eBay. Have kids make puzzles all over the house for a full hour. You can get puzzles to match your child’s age, gender, and puzzle-making ability level. 18. Make an audiobook together with your child of his or her favorite book. Then, be amazed as they listen to it over and over again. Don’t forget those page turning signals! 19. Who doesn’t love to dance? Turn up the music and host a dance party. Each child gets to teach everyone a dance they’ve prepared. 22. Board Game Fest. Each kid gets to choose a board game and a time limit is set for each game. No winners are necessary. Set a timer, and when it rings you get on to the next game. 20. Try this when your home is not entirely Pesachdig yet. For those who have separate kitchens, this may not pose a problem at all. Cut colorful Twizzler ropes into small tidbits so they resemble large Perler beads. Create a picture on any flat surface using the licorice and then iron. It will hold together like a Perler bead creation, and kids love nibbling away! This activity does keep them busy for quite some time! 21. Have your kids help you create an easy Jell-O dessert for dinner one night. All you need is two melons of your choice cut in half—honeydew or cantaloupe. Prepare the Jell-O as per the box instructions. Pour into each melon half and refrigerate. When it has set, cut melon slices with Jell-O in them for a fun, healthy dessert. 23. If the cold weather persists, let your kids create some ice sculptures. Fill bowls and containers with water in every size and shape—7 oz. cups, plastic pickle containers, soup bowls etc. Let them stand outside for two days until they’re completely frozen. Then pour some cold water onto each container to release the block of ice. Make sure the children are wearing good gloves. Pour water on the blocks to connect them and create a fabulous ice sculpture. For color: add food coloring—just a drop to the containers before freezing them. 25. Have your kids create snazzy ice cubes to be used in their water at mealtime. This activity keeps kids busy and encourages them to give up their juice at dinner. Give each kid an ice cube tray and allow them to choose little gummi goodies to place in the center of each. Have them fill up the tray 2/3 of the way with water and drop in gummi bears or any other gummi goody. There’s an entire gamut out there, from gummi worms to gummi teeth! The next morning, you can host an ice cube sucking contest to see who can get their gummi bear out first! 24. Make some rainbow smoothies. Blend each of your favorite fruits separately with some juice or milk, e.g., kiwi, mango, blueberries, strawberries and mandarins. Then, layer your cup for a most dazzling effect. Kids can be included in shopping for the fruit, adding it to the blender with adult supervision, and then creating the masterpiece! FYI Magazine | 51
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { You G ot ta Kn ow! } pa rt y pl anning How Should I Use My Decorating Budget for My Event? Shot on iPhone 6 By Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger For anyone who has an event coming up, you’ll be facing this dilemma. You want to make sure your event is a reflection of you and your vision; you want to pull it off in a classy and elegant way, but don’t want to throw your money into something that may not make an impression or might just end up looking tacky. So here are the top three decor focal points: Shot with Sruly’s Creations Lighting Lighting is everything! It will totally transform the simplest room or even a room that just has the wrong coloring for your theme. From dramatic uplighting to lighted logos and patterned lighting, there are endless options. Make sure you discuss it with your caterer or event planner for your next event. COMMERCIAL PHOTOGRAPHER SEE IT LIKE NEVER BEFORE™ 53 | FYI Magazine www.SrulysCreations.com FYI Magazine | 53
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { You G ot ta Kn ow! } pa rt y pl anning How Should I Use My Decorating Budget for My Event? Shot on iPhone 6 By Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger For anyone who has an event coming up, you’ll be facing this dilemma. You want to make sure your event is a reflection of you and your vision; you want to pull it off in a classy and elegant way, but don’t want to throw your money into something that may not make an impression or might just end up looking tacky. So here are the top three decor focal points: Shot with Sruly’s Creations Lighting Lighting is everything! It will totally transform the simplest room or even a room that just has the wrong coloring for your theme. From dramatic uplighting to lighted logos and patterned lighting, there are endless options. Make sure you discuss it with your caterer or event planner for your next event. COMMERCIAL PHOTOGRAPHER SEE IT LIKE NEVER BEFORE™ 53 | FYI Magazine www.SrulysCreations.com FYI Magazine | 53
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } Your Voice A I pay my kids to babysit their siblings. A.S., Cleveland, OH On Yom Tov, they get together with cousins that they haven’t seen in a while and they play endlessly. Shevy A., Far Rockaway, NY Textured/Printed Linen & Napkins I spread out a blanket on the floor and we play library. Every kid chooses three books and cozies up on the blanket. Vacation is easier because they can color and make projects. Devora Weinfeld, Lakewood, NJ Don’t settle for the solid ivory and white cloths of the past! These new linens can literally change the entire look of your event. My son loves to wash dishes. I put a few plastic containers in the sink and let him stand on a tall stool and we wash dishes together. Chany Brach, Brooklyn, NY Centerpieces Of course, budget will be the biggest factor in determining how far you can take your centerpieces. Flowers are a timeless and classy way to dress your table. There are endless possibilities of sizes, shapes, colors and cost. We have included some different centerpiece ideas to pique your imagination. Many caterers and party planners work with florists regularly and can sometimes get you more for your money. If you don’t love flowers, branches can work really well, too. Branches are a more streamlined, simple look, but they can be very impressive while also being more cost-effective than flowers. Candles are a great way to go if you want to skip the greenery altogether. They can make a huge impression, but be generous. More is definitely more when it comes to candles. 54 | FYI Magazine Q On Yom Tov we play a lot of charades and Twenty Questions and we also pick a theme and build with Clics and Lego. On vacation days we usually go on day trips. R.D., Queens, NY How do you keep your kids busy during vacation and Yom Tov days? On vacation there’s coloring (lots), ‘helping’ to clean for Pesach, and playing outside if the weather is nice. On Yom Tov we stay with people with kids so the problem basically solves itself. Otherwise, it can be a little problematic. Rivka F., Cedarhurst, NY Question for the next issue: How do you limit the time your neighbors’ kids spend at your home? We want to hear from you! Be featured in our next issue. Text your answer to 516-331-1885. FYI Magazine | 55
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{ Ge t a H a n d l e o n Thi ng s } { G et a Ha n dl e on Thi n g s } Your Voice A I pay my kids to babysit their siblings. A.S., Cleveland, OH On Yom Tov, they get together with cousins that they haven’t seen in a while and they play endlessly. Shevy A., Far Rockaway, NY Textured/Printed Linen & Napkins I spread out a blanket on the floor and we play library. Every kid chooses three books and cozies up on the blanket. Vacation is easier because they can color and make projects. Devora Weinfeld, Lakewood, NJ Don’t settle for the solid ivory and white cloths of the past! These new linens can literally change the entire look of your event. My son loves to wash dishes. I put a few plastic containers in the sink and let him stand on a tall stool and we wash dishes together. Chany Brach, Brooklyn, NY Centerpieces Of course, budget will be the biggest factor in determining how far you can take your centerpieces. Flowers are a timeless and classy way to dress your table. There are endless possibilities of sizes, shapes, colors and cost. We have included some different centerpiece ideas to pique your imagination. Many caterers and party planners work with florists regularly and can sometimes get you more for your money. If you don’t love flowers, branches can work really well, too. Branches are a more streamlined, simple look, but they can be very impressive while also being more cost-effective than flowers. Candles are a great way to go if you want to skip the greenery altogether. They can make a huge impression, but be generous. More is definitely more when it comes to candles. 54 | FYI Magazine Q On Yom Tov we play a lot of charades and Twenty Questions and we also pick a theme and build with Clics and Lego. On vacation days we usually go on day trips. R.D., Queens, NY How do you keep your kids busy during vacation and Yom Tov days? On vacation there’s coloring (lots), ‘helping’ to clean for Pesach, and playing outside if the weather is nice. On Yom Tov we stay with people with kids so the problem basically solves itself. Otherwise, it can be a little problematic. Rivka F., Cedarhurst, NY Question for the next issue: How do you limit the time your neighbors’ kids spend at your home? We want to hear from you! Be featured in our next issue. Text your answer to 516-331-1885. FYI Magazine | 55
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{ Yo u G ot ta Know ! } Sharpen Your Appetite! with Chanie Apfelbaum D on’t you wish we could all just pass over Pesach preps, and get to the Shavuos cheesecake already? All the cleaning, shopping and prepping is definitely something I try to avoid. Instead, I offer up my cooking services to whichever family member is willing to host me! I bring along my precious brood, each with their own suitcase full of Pesach paraphernalia. And me? I just bring my cooking skills. If I don’t have to do all the Pesach prep, I’m happy to get creative in someone else’s kitchen. Instead of feeling limited, I relish the time to create everything from scratch- from homemade jams, to sauces, nut butters and ice cream. This year, I’m going to make good use of my spiralizer, for fun dishes like my quick and easy Zoodle Bolognese. And for dessert, I’ve got some great tricks up my sleeve to keep things light and healthy. Whether you’re making Pesach, or you’re helping out in someone else’s kitchen, these recipes will help you get through the holiday without packing on the pounds while you pile on the flavor. Wishing you a chag kasher v’samei’ach, Chanie 56 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 57
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{ Yo u G ot ta Know ! } Sharpen Your Appetite! with Chanie Apfelbaum D on’t you wish we could all just pass over Pesach preps, and get to the Shavuos cheesecake already? All the cleaning, shopping and prepping is definitely something I try to avoid. Instead, I offer up my cooking services to whichever family member is willing to host me! I bring along my precious brood, each with their own suitcase full of Pesach paraphernalia. And me? I just bring my cooking skills. If I don’t have to do all the Pesach prep, I’m happy to get creative in someone else’s kitchen. Instead of feeling limited, I relish the time to create everything from scratch- from homemade jams, to sauces, nut butters and ice cream. This year, I’m going to make good use of my spiralizer, for fun dishes like my quick and easy Zoodle Bolognese. And for dessert, I’ve got some great tricks up my sleeve to keep things light and healthy. Whether you’re making Pesach, or you’re helping out in someone else’s kitchen, these recipes will help you get through the holiday without packing on the pounds while you pile on the flavor. Wishing you a chag kasher v’samei’ach, Chanie 56 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 57
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{Sha r pen You r Appetite! } Fast & Fresh KITCHEN TIP: Zoodle Bolognese When I’m having a hectic day, I always turn to this quick and easy recipe for split-second Bolognese. I serve it up over pasta for homemade “hamburger helper” that my kids love! You don’t have to give up easy weeknight dinners like these just because it’s Pesach. Zucchini noodles, or zoodles, make the perfect Passover sub. Want to get the last bit of marinara sa uce out of th e jar? Add a sp lash of water , close the lid , and shake to loosen the re maining sauce. 1 pound ground beef 1 26-ounce jar Kosher for Pesach marinara sauce 2 large zucchinis 1 tablespoon olive oil Salt and pepper, to taste In a large skillet, brown the ground beef until no longer pink, breaking it up with a spatula as it cooks. Add the marinara sauce and simmer until heated through. Using a spiralizer or julienne peeler, spiralize the zucchini or peel it into julienned strips. In a separate skillet, heat the olive oil and add zucchini noodles. Stir over high heat until slightly wilted and tender, about 3-4 minutes. Season with salt and pepper. Divide the zucchini noodles into single portions and top with marinara sauce. Serve immediately. VARIATION: Try using ground chicken or turkey in place of beef. You can also add in spinach, diced carrots, mushrooms or any other veggies of your choice. Vegetti Spiralizer FYI featured in Issue 14! Zoodle Bolognese 58 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 59
 Sha r pen You r Appetite     Fast   Fresh KITCHEN TIP   Zoodle Bolognese When I   m having a hectic day, I always turn to...
{Sha r pen You r Appetite! } Fast & Fresh KITCHEN TIP: Zoodle Bolognese When I’m having a hectic day, I always turn to this quick and easy recipe for split-second Bolognese. I serve it up over pasta for homemade “hamburger helper” that my kids love! You don’t have to give up easy weeknight dinners like these just because it’s Pesach. Zucchini noodles, or zoodles, make the perfect Passover sub. Want to get the last bit of marinara sa uce out of th e jar? Add a sp lash of water , close the lid , and shake to loosen the re maining sauce. 1 pound ground beef 1 26-ounce jar Kosher for Pesach marinara sauce 2 large zucchinis 1 tablespoon olive oil Salt and pepper, to taste In a large skillet, brown the ground beef until no longer pink, breaking it up with a spatula as it cooks. Add the marinara sauce and simmer until heated through. Using a spiralizer or julienne peeler, spiralize the zucchini or peel it into julienned strips. In a separate skillet, heat the olive oil and add zucchini noodles. Stir over high heat until slightly wilted and tender, about 3-4 minutes. Season with salt and pepper. Divide the zucchini noodles into single portions and top with marinara sauce. Serve immediately. VARIATION: Try using ground chicken or turkey in place of beef. You can also add in spinach, diced carrots, mushrooms or any other veggies of your choice. Vegetti Spiralizer FYI featured in Issue 14! Zoodle Bolognese 58 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 59
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{Shar p e n Yo u r App e ti t e ! } Nutritious & Delicious Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse It seems like just about every Pesach dessert recipe calls for egg whites, egg yolks and whole eggs! When it comes to chocolate mousse, I forgo the eggs and use a surprising ingredient to get that creamy texture: avocados! I know it’s hard to believe, but avocados really do make for a rich and decadent mousse that is ultra-smooth and decadent. Just don’t tell the guests — it’s our little secret! 1/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips 2 large ripe avocados, peeled and pitted 6 tablespoons honey 1/4 cup cocoa powder 1/2 cup almond milk 1 teaspoon coffee Pinch of salt Place the chocolate chips in a small bowl set over a saucepan of simmering water. Stir until the chocolate is melted and smooth. Alternatively, melt the chocolate in the microwave. Place the melted chocolate, avocado, honey, cocoa powder, almond milk, coffee and salt in a food processor. Blend until smooth and creamy, scraping down the sides of the bowl as needed. Spoon the mousse into a Ziploc bag and snip off the corner to create a piping bag. Pipe the mousse into small bowls or cups and refrigerate for at least 3 hours. Garnish with fruit, grated chocolate or shredded coconut. NOTE: Mousse may be prepared a day or two in advance. YIELD: Approximately 6 servings, 1/2 cup each. 60 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 61
 Shar p e n Yo u r App e ti t e      Nutritious   Delicious  Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse  Secret Ingredient Chocola...
{Shar p e n Yo u r App e ti t e ! } Nutritious & Delicious Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse It seems like just about every Pesach dessert recipe calls for egg whites, egg yolks and whole eggs! When it comes to chocolate mousse, I forgo the eggs and use a surprising ingredient to get that creamy texture: avocados! I know it’s hard to believe, but avocados really do make for a rich and decadent mousse that is ultra-smooth and decadent. Just don’t tell the guests — it’s our little secret! 1/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips 2 large ripe avocados, peeled and pitted 6 tablespoons honey 1/4 cup cocoa powder 1/2 cup almond milk 1 teaspoon coffee Pinch of salt Place the chocolate chips in a small bowl set over a saucepan of simmering water. Stir until the chocolate is melted and smooth. Alternatively, melt the chocolate in the microwave. Place the melted chocolate, avocado, honey, cocoa powder, almond milk, coffee and salt in a food processor. Blend until smooth and creamy, scraping down the sides of the bowl as needed. Spoon the mousse into a Ziploc bag and snip off the corner to create a piping bag. Pipe the mousse into small bowls or cups and refrigerate for at least 3 hours. Garnish with fruit, grated chocolate or shredded coconut. NOTE: Mousse may be prepared a day or two in advance. YIELD: Approximately 6 servings, 1/2 cup each. 60 | FYI Magazine FYI Magazine | 61
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{Shar p e n Yo u r App e ti t e ! } Clip & Save These Recipes! Zoodle Bolognese 1 pound ground beef 1 26-ounce jar Kosher for Pesach marinara sauce 2 large zucchinis 1 tablespoon olive oil Because the music makes the event... Salt and pepper, to taste www.sandbox-marketing.com In a large skillet, brown the ground beef until no longer pink, breaking it up with a spatula as it cooks. Add the marinara sauce and simmer until heated through. Using a spiralizer or julienne peeler, spiralize the zucchini or peel it into julienned strips. In a separate skillet, heat the olive oil and add zucchini noodles. Stir over high heat until slightly wilted and tender, about 3-4 minutes. Season with salt and pepper. Divide the zucchini noodles into single portions and top with marinara sauce. Serve immediately. VARIATION: Try using ground chicken or turkey in place of beef. You can also add in spinach, diced carrots, mushrooms or any other veggies of your choice. Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse 1/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips 2 large ripe avocados, peeled and pitted 6 tablespoons honey 1/4 cup cocoa powder 1/2 cup almond milk 1 teaspoon coffee Pinch of salt Place the chocolate chips in a small bowl set over a saucepan of simmering water. Stir until the chocolate is melted and smooth. Alternatively, melt the chocolate in the microwave. Place the melted chocolate, avocado, honey, cocoa powder, almond milk, coffee and salt in a food processor. Blend until smooth and creamy, scraping down the sides of the bowl as needed. Spoon the mousse into a Ziploc bag and snip off the corner to create a piping bag. Pipe the mousse into small bowls or cups and refrigerate for at least 3 hours. Garnish with fruit, grated chocolate or shredded coconut. NOTE: Mousse may be prepared a day or two in advance. YIELD: Approximately 6 servings, 1/2 cup each. ORCHESTRA & PRODUCTIONS All of our customers receive our undivided attention & unparalleled professionalism, benefiting from our creativity & years of experience. Contact us to help you plan an affair you will never forget. 718.256.7200 • www.aaronteitelbaumproductions.com • aarontproductions@gmail.com 62 | FYI Magazine t tweet us @aaronteitelbaum ` facebook.com/aarontproductions ™Follow us on instagram @aaronteitelbaum FYI Magazine | 63
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{Shar p e n Yo u r App e ti t e ! } Clip & Save These Recipes! Zoodle Bolognese 1 pound ground beef 1 26-ounce jar Kosher for Pesach marinara sauce 2 large zucchinis 1 tablespoon olive oil Because the music makes the event... Salt and pepper, to taste www.sandbox-marketing.com In a large skillet, brown the ground beef until no longer pink, breaking it up with a spatula as it cooks. Add the marinara sauce and simmer until heated through. Using a spiralizer or julienne peeler, spiralize the zucchini or peel it into julienned strips. In a separate skillet, heat the olive oil and add zucchini noodles. Stir over high heat until slightly wilted and tender, about 3-4 minutes. Season with salt and pepper. Divide the zucchini noodles into single portions and top with marinara sauce. Serve immediately. VARIATION: Try using ground chicken or turkey in place of beef. You can also add in spinach, diced carrots, mushrooms or any other veggies of your choice. Secret Ingredient Chocolate Mousse 1/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips 2 large ripe avocados, peeled and pitted 6 tablespoons honey 1/4 cup cocoa powder 1/2 cup almond milk 1 teaspoon coffee Pinch of salt Place the chocolate chips in a small bowl set over a saucepan of simmering water. Stir until the chocolate is melted and smooth. Alternatively, melt the chocolate in the microwave. Place the melted chocolate, avocado, honey, cocoa powder, almond milk, coffee and salt in a food processor. Blend until smooth and creamy, scraping down the sides of the bowl as needed. Spoon the mousse into a Ziploc bag and snip off the corner to create a piping bag. Pipe the mousse into small bowls or cups and refrigerate for at least 3 hours. Garnish with fruit, grated chocolate or shredded coconut. NOTE: Mousse may be prepared a day or two in advance. YIELD: Approximately 6 servings, 1/2 cup each. ORCHESTRA & PRODUCTIONS All of our customers receive our undivided attention & unparalleled professionalism, benefiting from our creativity & years of experience. Contact us to help you plan an affair you will never forget. 718.256.7200 • www.aaronteitelbaumproductions.com • aarontproductions@gmail.com 62 | FYI Magazine t tweet us @aaronteitelbaum ` facebook.com/aarontproductions ™Follow us on instagram @aaronteitelbaum FYI Magazine | 63
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