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ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY! contents september 2015 YOUR VOICE What is something you would like to improve on yourself/in your family for the New Year? YOU GOTTA KNOW 20 20 | FOR LESS Holiday items for under $50 24 | READING ROOM The Little Couple Navigating Life with Dwarfism ad 96 26 | CRASH COURSE What you need to know before dialing 311 subscription page to the magazinewith the cover and low introductory price SU B SC RIB E NOW T G E T OU O R INTROD LOW UCTOR Y RATEIT WON ’T L AST L ONG ! BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion & Beauty 30 | MAKEUP MANIA Your Makeup Questions Answered 34 | FASHION FINDS Fall Accessory Report House & Home 36| 8 Decorator Tricks for Small Living Rooms 41 | Sukkah Decoration DIY 44 | REVEALING Finding happiness in the right places 46 | ADVICE Am I a people pleaser? 56 | NEW COLUMN! All For One, One For All Kanfei Chaim GET A HANDLE ON IT 34 72 | GET A GRIP Dealing with a Messy Spouse 74 | TIPS TO TRY to make hosting easier 76 | QUICKFIX Change Your Life in 5 Minutes IN YOUR BUSINESS 79 | MONEYWISE Why Hate On Whole Life? 84| INSPIRATION Shira Moncharsh of Melamed Academy SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $3.50/MONTH! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com 24 FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE 88 | HOW TO Ace an interview SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Appetizer: 94 | Mini Tuna Taco Cups Main Course: 95 | /Lamb in Saffron Sauce 96 | Jeweled Chicken Side Dish: 98 | Tri Colored Carrots 99 | Simanim Salad Dessert: 100 | Puff Pastry Fruit Tart 103 | GETTING TO KNOW Your Spice Rack FEATURED 106 | SURFING SAFETY Is your identity safe? 110 | LABEL LIES? The Truth Behind Food Labels 114 | A BETTER YOU Overcoming Anxiety So It doesn’t overcome you 114
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY   contents september 2015     YOUR VOICE What is something you would like t...
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY! contents september 2015 YOUR VOICE What is something you would like to improve on yourself/in your family for the New Year? YOU GOTTA KNOW 20 20 | FOR LESS Holiday items for under $50 24 | READING ROOM The Little Couple Navigating Life with Dwarfism ad 96 26 | CRASH COURSE What you need to know before dialing 311 subscription page to the magazinewith the cover and low introductory price SU B SC RIB E NOW T G E T OU O R INTROD LOW UCTOR Y RATEIT WON ’T L AST L ONG ! BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion & Beauty 30 | MAKEUP MANIA Your Makeup Questions Answered 34 | FASHION FINDS Fall Accessory Report House & Home 36| 8 Decorator Tricks for Small Living Rooms 41 | Sukkah Decoration DIY 44 | REVEALING Finding happiness in the right places 46 | ADVICE Am I a people pleaser? 56 | NEW COLUMN! All For One, One For All Kanfei Chaim GET A HANDLE ON IT 34 72 | GET A GRIP Dealing with a Messy Spouse 74 | TIPS TO TRY to make hosting easier 76 | QUICKFIX Change Your Life in 5 Minutes IN YOUR BUSINESS 79 | MONEYWISE Why Hate On Whole Life? 84| INSPIRATION Shira Moncharsh of Melamed Academy SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $3.50/MONTH! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com 24 FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE 88 | HOW TO Ace an interview SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Appetizer: 94 | Mini Tuna Taco Cups Main Course: 95 | /Lamb in Saffron Sauce 96 | Jeweled Chicken Side Dish: 98 | Tri Colored Carrots 99 | Simanim Salad Dessert: 100 | Puff Pastry Fruit Tart 103 | GETTING TO KNOW Your Spice Rack FEATURED 106 | SURFING SAFETY Is your identity safe? 110 | LABEL LIES? The Truth Behind Food Labels 114 | A BETTER YOU Overcoming Anxiety So It doesn’t overcome you 114
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY   contents september 2015     YOUR VOICE What is something you would like t...
we hear you! 6 HABITS OF I'm a mother/grandmother of a large family ka”h and I’m writing this letter in response to Dr. Simai’s article. As a Director of a school lunch program for four years, I have a few comments concerning Dr. Simai's pointers about school day lunches and snacks. While I agree with many of his tips, I strongly disagree with the tip that parents of overweight children should not allow the school to provide additional main-dish portions to the children. This approach might cause the following negative reactions: 1. Embarrassment to the child who requests another portion. 2. Closet eating which could lead to more weight gain. The protein packed into the main dish helps the child get through the school day with reduced cravings for snacks. Regarding healthy snacks, if your overweight child eats and likes healthy snacks, there is no problem. If not, your child is likely trading, selling, or throwing away these snacks at school. For Rehab that goes the distance, go no further than a short drive over the belt. No longer a Brooklyn secret, Boro Park Center is the first choice for the ultimate in compassionate care, the most advanced rehab programs, and the very best clinical outcomes. Heimishe environment, stocked shul and shiurim Now accommodating families in our new Shabbos suite. Take the middle ground; tuck some potato chips, apple slices, or carrot sticks into the lunch box. All or nothing is too harsh for many youngsters to accept from the lunch box. Overall, it was a wonderful article with lots of good advice. D. MANDEL, Monsey, NY I’d like to say that I really enjoy reading your magazine. The content is very useful and well-informed. Please continue to include articles that men find interesting to read. Thanks! ABE R. Specialty Programs Subacute Services Resident Services 4915 10th Avenue // Brooklyn, NY 11219 // 718-851-3700 // www.BoroParkCenter.net FASHION ACCESSORY MUST-HAVES UNDER For a lifestyle in the know. $50 DIET VS. EXERCISE: WHICH WORKS BETTER? INTRODUC TOR PRICE! Y HOW TO REVAMP YOUR BASEMENT OUR BEST ONEPOT DINNERS 10 FOODS THAT MAKE YOU LOOK YOUNGER $2.99 + closet the big MAKEOVER! AUG 2015 | ISSUE 7 you gotta know you gotta know BACK TO SCHOOL SAFETY TIPS Summer vacation is almost over. With the anticipated feelings of joy from seeing the kids back in school, some parents wonder how we can help our kids be "all that they could be” in school. SCHOOL BUS l If your child’s school bus has lap/shoulder seat belts, make sure your child uses one at all times when on the bus. If the bus doesn't have them, encourage the school to buy or lease buses with lap/shoulder belts. l Wait for the bus to stop before approaching it from the curb. BACKPACK SAFETY l Choose a backpack with wide, padded shoulder straps and a padded back. l Pack light. Organize the backpack to use all of its compartments. Pack heavier items closest to the center of the back. The backpack should never weigh more than 10 to 20 percent of your child’s body weight. l Always use both shoulder straps. Slinging a backpack over one shoulder can strain muscles. l Consider a rolling backpack. This may be a good choice for students who must tote a heavy load. Remember that rolling backpacks still must be carried upstairs, and they may be difficult to roll in snow. l Do not move around on the bus. l Check to see that no other traffic is coming before crossing the street. l Make sure to always remain in clear view of the bus driver. Children should always board and exit the bus at locations that provide safe access to the bus or to the school building. WALKING TO SCHOOL CAR l All passengers should wear a seatbelt and/or be in an age- and size- appropriate car safety seat or booster seat. In the state of New York, children 4 years old and weighing 40lbs may graduate from their car seats and be placed in booster seats. l Your child should ride in a belt-positioning booster seat until the vehicle's seat belt fits properly (usually when the child reaches about 4' 9" in height and is between 8 to 12 years of age). This means that the child is tall enough to sit against the vehicle seat back with her legs bent at the knees and feet hanging down, as well the shoulder belt lying across the middle of the chest and shoulder- not the neck or throat; the lap belt is low and snug across the thighs, and not the stomach. TRAVELING TO AND FROM SCHOOL: REVIEW THESE BASIC RULES WITH YOUR CHILD l Make sure your child's walk to school is a safe route with well-trained adult crossing guards at every intersection. l Be realistic about your child's pedestrian skills. Because small children are impulsive and less cautious around traffic, carefully consider whether or not your child is ready to walk to school without adult supervision. l If your children are young or are walking to a new school, walk with them the first week to make sure they know the route and can do it safely. l Bright colored clothing will make your child more visible to drivers. l In neighborhoods with higher levels of traffic, consider starting a "walking school bus," in which an adult accompanies a group of neighborhood children walking to school. l All children under 13 years of age should ride in the rear seat of vehicles. If you must drive more children than those who can fit in the rear seats (when carpooling, for example), move the front-seat passenger’s seat as far back as possible and have the child ride in a booster seat if the seat belts do not fit properly without it. l Remember that many crashes occur while novice teen drivers are going to and from school. You should require seat belt use, limit the number of teen passengers, do not allow eating, drinking, cell phone conversations or texting to prevent driver distraction, and limit driving at night or in inclement weather. Familiarize yourself with your state’s graduated driver license law and consider the use of a parent-teen driver agreement to facilitate the early driving learning process. 13 | fyimagazineny.com = Short & Long Term Rehabilitation HIGHLY PRODUCTIVE PEOPLE SOCIAL MEDIA SIGHTINGS "My daughter's school sends out all the school supplies needed to eliminate peer pressure. I think every school should. #5WaysToEliminiteBackToSchoolAnxiety" @ABBYMORB "Bought the first issue this week! #realtalent #fyimagazine" @Y1234H
we hear you  6 HABITS OF  I m a mother grandmother of a large family ka   h and I   m writing this letter in response to D...
we hear you! 6 HABITS OF I'm a mother/grandmother of a large family ka”h and I’m writing this letter in response to Dr. Simai’s article. As a Director of a school lunch program for four years, I have a few comments concerning Dr. Simai's pointers about school day lunches and snacks. While I agree with many of his tips, I strongly disagree with the tip that parents of overweight children should not allow the school to provide additional main-dish portions to the children. This approach might cause the following negative reactions: 1. Embarrassment to the child who requests another portion. 2. Closet eating which could lead to more weight gain. The protein packed into the main dish helps the child get through the school day with reduced cravings for snacks. Regarding healthy snacks, if your overweight child eats and likes healthy snacks, there is no problem. If not, your child is likely trading, selling, or throwing away these snacks at school. For Rehab that goes the distance, go no further than a short drive over the belt. No longer a Brooklyn secret, Boro Park Center is the first choice for the ultimate in compassionate care, the most advanced rehab programs, and the very best clinical outcomes. Heimishe environment, stocked shul and shiurim Now accommodating families in our new Shabbos suite. Take the middle ground; tuck some potato chips, apple slices, or carrot sticks into the lunch box. All or nothing is too harsh for many youngsters to accept from the lunch box. Overall, it was a wonderful article with lots of good advice. D. MANDEL, Monsey, NY I’d like to say that I really enjoy reading your magazine. The content is very useful and well-informed. Please continue to include articles that men find interesting to read. Thanks! ABE R. Specialty Programs Subacute Services Resident Services 4915 10th Avenue // Brooklyn, NY 11219 // 718-851-3700 // www.BoroParkCenter.net FASHION ACCESSORY MUST-HAVES UNDER For a lifestyle in the know. $50 DIET VS. EXERCISE: WHICH WORKS BETTER? INTRODUC TOR PRICE! Y HOW TO REVAMP YOUR BASEMENT OUR BEST ONEPOT DINNERS 10 FOODS THAT MAKE YOU LOOK YOUNGER $2.99 + closet the big MAKEOVER! AUG 2015 | ISSUE 7 you gotta know you gotta know BACK TO SCHOOL SAFETY TIPS Summer vacation is almost over. With the anticipated feelings of joy from seeing the kids back in school, some parents wonder how we can help our kids be "all that they could be” in school. SCHOOL BUS l If your child’s school bus has lap/shoulder seat belts, make sure your child uses one at all times when on the bus. If the bus doesn't have them, encourage the school to buy or lease buses with lap/shoulder belts. l Wait for the bus to stop before approaching it from the curb. BACKPACK SAFETY l Choose a backpack with wide, padded shoulder straps and a padded back. l Pack light. Organize the backpack to use all of its compartments. Pack heavier items closest to the center of the back. The backpack should never weigh more than 10 to 20 percent of your child’s body weight. l Always use both shoulder straps. Slinging a backpack over one shoulder can strain muscles. l Consider a rolling backpack. This may be a good choice for students who must tote a heavy load. Remember that rolling backpacks still must be carried upstairs, and they may be difficult to roll in snow. l Do not move around on the bus. l Check to see that no other traffic is coming before crossing the street. l Make sure to always remain in clear view of the bus driver. Children should always board and exit the bus at locations that provide safe access to the bus or to the school building. WALKING TO SCHOOL CAR l All passengers should wear a seatbelt and/or be in an age- and size- appropriate car safety seat or booster seat. In the state of New York, children 4 years old and weighing 40lbs may graduate from their car seats and be placed in booster seats. l Your child should ride in a belt-positioning booster seat until the vehicle's seat belt fits properly (usually when the child reaches about 4' 9" in height and is between 8 to 12 years of age). This means that the child is tall enough to sit against the vehicle seat back with her legs bent at the knees and feet hanging down, as well the shoulder belt lying across the middle of the chest and shoulder- not the neck or throat; the lap belt is low and snug across the thighs, and not the stomach. TRAVELING TO AND FROM SCHOOL: REVIEW THESE BASIC RULES WITH YOUR CHILD l Make sure your child's walk to school is a safe route with well-trained adult crossing guards at every intersection. l Be realistic about your child's pedestrian skills. Because small children are impulsive and less cautious around traffic, carefully consider whether or not your child is ready to walk to school without adult supervision. l If your children are young or are walking to a new school, walk with them the first week to make sure they know the route and can do it safely. l Bright colored clothing will make your child more visible to drivers. l In neighborhoods with higher levels of traffic, consider starting a "walking school bus," in which an adult accompanies a group of neighborhood children walking to school. l All children under 13 years of age should ride in the rear seat of vehicles. If you must drive more children than those who can fit in the rear seats (when carpooling, for example), move the front-seat passenger’s seat as far back as possible and have the child ride in a booster seat if the seat belts do not fit properly without it. l Remember that many crashes occur while novice teen drivers are going to and from school. You should require seat belt use, limit the number of teen passengers, do not allow eating, drinking, cell phone conversations or texting to prevent driver distraction, and limit driving at night or in inclement weather. Familiarize yourself with your state’s graduated driver license law and consider the use of a parent-teen driver agreement to facilitate the early driving learning process. 13 | fyimagazineny.com = Short & Long Term Rehabilitation HIGHLY PRODUCTIVE PEOPLE SOCIAL MEDIA SIGHTINGS "My daughter's school sends out all the school supplies needed to eliminate peer pressure. I think every school should. #5WaysToEliminiteBackToSchoolAnxiety" @ABBYMORB "Bought the first issue this week! #realtalent #fyimagazine" @Y1234H
we hear you  6 HABITS OF  I m a mother grandmother of a large family ka   h and I   m writing this letter in response to D...
featured contributors There’s a new loaf in town. Finally, a gefilte fish that’s not full of it. Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS And will have your family asking: “Are you sure this is not Bubby’s recipe?” BETTY GULKO CHAYA ADLER RAIZY FRIED SABRINA OVADIA Fashion Stylist & Editor Writer Writer Recipe Developer/Blogger Something I worry about a lot is... I try to live in the moment and enjoy the journey and “ups and downs” of life. I find this quote to be so true: “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” Something I worry about is... falling behind in my daily schedule and having to put things off. New "to do's" always come up, and it's hard work keeping up! My best tip for making hosting easier is… inquiring about allergies in advance. You don't want someone to show up and not be able to eat anything, and you definitely don't want to cause any severe reactions. My favorite Sukka decoration is… anything colorful. I love colors. I find happiness in… PASSION. I put it all into my family, and share my talents with my most favorite people. My best tip for making hosting easier is… prepare courses as much as possible in advance and leave the minimum to prepare right before serving. Serving a one-course buffet style is also a great idea. My favorite Sukkah decoration is… Sukkah Stars - exquisite, shaped stars that are made with several colored-foil papers overlapping each other. My best tip for making hosting easier is...to plan in advance. Writing a menu and a list of groceries as well as estimating how much time each dish takes to prepare are crucial. Sometimes the secrets to a successful dinner are the simplest dishes that you know you can execute well! My favorite Sukkah decoration is...plastic grapes. There's something festive and fresh about bringing grapes into the sukkah. Noam Gourmet Premium Quality Gefilte Fish is made with more real fish and less fillers. Our delicious recipe, is all natural and gluten-free. It’s bound to become a tradition in your home. FFER SO THE KING OF KOSHER FROZEN MILIE FA DISTRIBUTED BY EL EM & My favorite Sukkah decoration is… my daughter’s handmade artwork. I find happiness in… accomplishing goals I set for myself and overcoming laziness when it comes to taking care of myself (i.e., working out). I find happiness in...seeing my son grow up and learn each day. •S My best tip for making hosting easier is… be organized and chop/cut anything you possibly can beforehand. TM 40 • I find happiness in… watching my family laugh together. Something I worry about a lot is… parenting my kids right. There are many grey areas in parenting and I am not always sure whether or not my reactions/ explanations are appropriate. S Something I worry about a lot is.... my daughter and how I can continue to personally grow in order to better her life in any way, shape, or form.
featured contributors  There   s a new loaf in town. Finally, a ge   lte    sh that   s not full of it.  Q A WITH FOUR OF ...
featured contributors There’s a new loaf in town. Finally, a gefilte fish that’s not full of it. Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS And will have your family asking: “Are you sure this is not Bubby’s recipe?” BETTY GULKO CHAYA ADLER RAIZY FRIED SABRINA OVADIA Fashion Stylist & Editor Writer Writer Recipe Developer/Blogger Something I worry about a lot is... I try to live in the moment and enjoy the journey and “ups and downs” of life. I find this quote to be so true: “Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” Something I worry about is... falling behind in my daily schedule and having to put things off. New "to do's" always come up, and it's hard work keeping up! My best tip for making hosting easier is… inquiring about allergies in advance. You don't want someone to show up and not be able to eat anything, and you definitely don't want to cause any severe reactions. My favorite Sukka decoration is… anything colorful. I love colors. I find happiness in… PASSION. I put it all into my family, and share my talents with my most favorite people. My best tip for making hosting easier is… prepare courses as much as possible in advance and leave the minimum to prepare right before serving. Serving a one-course buffet style is also a great idea. My favorite Sukkah decoration is… Sukkah Stars - exquisite, shaped stars that are made with several colored-foil papers overlapping each other. My best tip for making hosting easier is...to plan in advance. Writing a menu and a list of groceries as well as estimating how much time each dish takes to prepare are crucial. Sometimes the secrets to a successful dinner are the simplest dishes that you know you can execute well! My favorite Sukkah decoration is...plastic grapes. There's something festive and fresh about bringing grapes into the sukkah. Noam Gourmet Premium Quality Gefilte Fish is made with more real fish and less fillers. Our delicious recipe, is all natural and gluten-free. It’s bound to become a tradition in your home. FFER SO THE KING OF KOSHER FROZEN MILIE FA DISTRIBUTED BY EL EM & My favorite Sukkah decoration is… my daughter’s handmade artwork. I find happiness in… accomplishing goals I set for myself and overcoming laziness when it comes to taking care of myself (i.e., working out). I find happiness in...seeing my son grow up and learn each day. •S My best tip for making hosting easier is… be organized and chop/cut anything you possibly can beforehand. TM 40 • I find happiness in… watching my family laugh together. Something I worry about a lot is… parenting my kids right. There are many grey areas in parenting and I am not always sure whether or not my reactions/ explanations are appropriate. S Something I worry about a lot is.... my daughter and how I can continue to personally grow in order to better her life in any way, shape, or form.
featured contributors  There   s a new loaf in town. Finally, a ge   lte    sh that   s not full of it.  Q A WITH FOUR OF ...
your voice Join the Discussion Q: What is something you would like to improve in yourself or your family, for the New Year? A: “I want to be more positive, overall. I need to remember how much Hashem loves me.” JESICCA ZELIKOVICH Queens, New York “I used to make a gratitude list each day. It filled the entire household with positivity and I want to restart that tradition.” CHAVA LAUFER Brooklyn, New York “I want to be less cynical. Love more, hate less.” MIRIAM BRACH Brooklyn, New York “I want to have more patience with my kids, and not get so annoyed with them when they don’t listen to me.” BRUCHY SCHICK Brooklyn, New York QUESTION FOR NEXT MONTH: “Become happier with myself.” C.R. Brooklyn, New York “I want to have an hour or two of a phone-free zone when the kids come home so they can have my undivided attention.” SHEVY G. Brooklyn, New York “Love myself unconditionally.” RIVKY L. Lakewood, New Jersey “I want to stop overthinking things.” ANONYMOUS Boca Raton, Florida “I want to get more quality sleep.” SARA B. Cedarhurst, New York If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? We want to hear from you! Be featured in our next issue. Text your answer to 516.331.1885. 10 | fyimagazineny.com
your voice Join the Discussion  Q   What is something you would like to improve in yourself or your family, for the New Ye...
your voice Join the Discussion Q: What is something you would like to improve in yourself or your family, for the New Year? A: “I want to be more positive, overall. I need to remember how much Hashem loves me.” JESICCA ZELIKOVICH Queens, New York “I used to make a gratitude list each day. It filled the entire household with positivity and I want to restart that tradition.” CHAVA LAUFER Brooklyn, New York “I want to be less cynical. Love more, hate less.” MIRIAM BRACH Brooklyn, New York “I want to have more patience with my kids, and not get so annoyed with them when they don’t listen to me.” BRUCHY SCHICK Brooklyn, New York QUESTION FOR NEXT MONTH: “Become happier with myself.” C.R. Brooklyn, New York “I want to have an hour or two of a phone-free zone when the kids come home so they can have my undivided attention.” SHEVY G. Brooklyn, New York “Love myself unconditionally.” RIVKY L. Lakewood, New Jersey “I want to stop overthinking things.” ANONYMOUS Boca Raton, Florida “I want to get more quality sleep.” SARA B. Cedarhurst, New York If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? We want to hear from you! Be featured in our next issue. Text your answer to 516.331.1885. 10 | fyimagazineny.com
your voice Join the Discussion  Q   What is something you would like to improve in yourself or your family, for the New Ye...
editor’s note I tend to skip breakfast and begin eating after lunchtime. It's like my body and my “food clock” are on two different schedules. I know it's something that I should change as I'm constantly tired because I don't have enough energy to get me through to the afternoon. I've tried to diet, yet I can't get myself to eat a proper meal in the morning. The article on How to Change Your Life in 5 Minutes was a real eye opener for me. I now understand the power and patterns of habit and can, as a result, change my eating habits. I can tell you that the Chagim will not be the same this year - that's for sure! We're bringing it up a notch. From 15 Tips to Make Hosting Easier to Batya Hess's tips on keeping your makeup looking fresh, we got it covered. We've also got you covered in the recipes department. Each and every recipe we have here was created just for our readers and is absolutely delicious (you'll have to trust me on that one). We spend a lot of time with family over Yom Tov, make it an exciting bonding experience. Include your entire family in the DIY Sukkah decoration project we have featured. It's sparkly (who doesn't love sparkles), fresh and will brighten your Sukkah. Anxiety about going back to itty suggests: y school is commonplace for children and their parents. It's hard to get back to a strict routine, and we worry about what may be. Miriam Manela, who is an expert in parenting (amongst many other things), gives us useful and downto-earth tips on how to ease into this transition. Speaking of anxiety, we've brought you an informative article on the many different approaches to dealing with anxiety and worry. I think that most of us can relate to some form of worry, whether it's about our children, finances, laundry or the dinner that has to be made. Take a deep breath and read this article. It's a game changer. Don't miss the articles on How To Deal With a Messy Spouse, 8 Decorator Tricks for Small Living Rooms and The Truth Behind Food Labels. These are just a few of my favorites in this issue. Let me know what you enjoyed most! I do want to say thank you. The amount we've grown these past few months is simply unbelievable. And, I'm so thankful for that. Thanks for your support and for being part of this journey. Chag Sameach, Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE 12 | fyimagazineny.com Quality "Inspiration for you Yom Tov table starts here. Gorgeous, unique and elegant does it." you can feel. p. 38 Prices "This can go with practically any dishes and can have multiples uses for your table." you can afford. p. 20 6 Shirley Ave. Somerset, NJ 08873 P: 718-499-6300 "Go paperless with this nifty scanner. Scan your bills, receipts, and important documents and pull it up at a moments notice." p. 87 "Finally, something to prevent the entire table from getting sticky." p. 18 Rated #1 in all hosiery categories Available at your local hosiery store.
editor   s note  I  tend to skip breakfast and begin eating after lunchtime. It s like my body and my    food clock    are...
editor’s note I tend to skip breakfast and begin eating after lunchtime. It's like my body and my “food clock” are on two different schedules. I know it's something that I should change as I'm constantly tired because I don't have enough energy to get me through to the afternoon. I've tried to diet, yet I can't get myself to eat a proper meal in the morning. The article on How to Change Your Life in 5 Minutes was a real eye opener for me. I now understand the power and patterns of habit and can, as a result, change my eating habits. I can tell you that the Chagim will not be the same this year - that's for sure! We're bringing it up a notch. From 15 Tips to Make Hosting Easier to Batya Hess's tips on keeping your makeup looking fresh, we got it covered. We've also got you covered in the recipes department. Each and every recipe we have here was created just for our readers and is absolutely delicious (you'll have to trust me on that one). We spend a lot of time with family over Yom Tov, make it an exciting bonding experience. Include your entire family in the DIY Sukkah decoration project we have featured. It's sparkly (who doesn't love sparkles), fresh and will brighten your Sukkah. Anxiety about going back to itty suggests: y school is commonplace for children and their parents. It's hard to get back to a strict routine, and we worry about what may be. Miriam Manela, who is an expert in parenting (amongst many other things), gives us useful and downto-earth tips on how to ease into this transition. Speaking of anxiety, we've brought you an informative article on the many different approaches to dealing with anxiety and worry. I think that most of us can relate to some form of worry, whether it's about our children, finances, laundry or the dinner that has to be made. Take a deep breath and read this article. It's a game changer. Don't miss the articles on How To Deal With a Messy Spouse, 8 Decorator Tricks for Small Living Rooms and The Truth Behind Food Labels. These are just a few of my favorites in this issue. Let me know what you enjoyed most! I do want to say thank you. The amount we've grown these past few months is simply unbelievable. And, I'm so thankful for that. Thanks for your support and for being part of this journey. Chag Sameach, Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE 12 | fyimagazineny.com Quality "Inspiration for you Yom Tov table starts here. Gorgeous, unique and elegant does it." you can feel. p. 38 Prices "This can go with practically any dishes and can have multiples uses for your table." you can afford. p. 20 6 Shirley Ave. Somerset, NJ 08873 P: 718-499-6300 "Go paperless with this nifty scanner. Scan your bills, receipts, and important documents and pull it up at a moments notice." p. 87 "Finally, something to prevent the entire table from getting sticky." p. 18 Rated #1 in all hosiery categories Available at your local hosiery store.
editor   s note  I  tend to skip breakfast and begin eating after lunchtime. It s like my body and my    food clock    are...
We've recruited industry leaders from across the country to to teach, inspire and provide you with the tools to propel your business forward. We've added an evening event focused on the entire YOU. To nourish your mind, body, soul. To cultivate a community of sharing and support. To connect, embrace, and celebrate the many parts of your rich, multi-faceted life: businesswoman, community leader, spiritual being, mother, friend. We've curated an audience for networking and collaboration to drive your business onward. It's what we call momentum, a law of physics, the force created by all of us, as we move upward… together. Powered by: 2snapshoT of The Two-day evenT: sunday, october 18th......................3:00pm check-in Spa TreaTmenTS, eleganT dInner and neTWOrkIng WITh IndUSTrY leaderS keYnOTe: the transformative power of the Jewish woman Breakouts Include: • Enhancing Your Marriage: The Greatest return for Your Investment • The Superwoman's guide to Balance • effortless Success: do less, Stress less, accomplish more! • Is g-d on Your Calendar? nurturing Your Spiritual Self monday, october 19th.................9:00am - 5:00pm keYnOTe: embracing reality to succeed Ariela Balk, Founder, CeO of ariella and associates ariela and associates is a privately-held global manufacturer of intimate apparel, sleepwear and swimwear. ariela began her company with $15,000 and is now one of the largest female vendors in Walmart. as a successful businesswoman with a husband and eight children, she is uniquely positioned to share her experiences and help other women realize their potential. Breakout tracks Include: get moving: • How Much Am I Worth? Pricing Your Service Based Business • How Much Should I Sell For? Pricing Your Products • Leading a Winning Team • Gaining Traction: Identifying Key Areas for Growth get noticed: • Become an Instagram Master • Communicating Your Brand in a Noisy World • Ten Crucial Seconds: Crafting a Winning Elevator Pitch get growing: • Navigating Trade Shows • Getting Your Products onto Shelves in the Big Box Stores • Cold Calling, Warm Leads, Closing the Deal: Expanding Your Service Based Business • The Tipping Point: Crucial Decisions for CEO's Industry breakouts: Network with others and hear from leaders in your field addressing industry trends and how to master your market. Industries include: B2B Services, retail, Wholesale, Creative Services, healthcare, professional Services, authors and Bloggers, Food Services, and more. theanelisgroup.com This conference is all abouT momenTum, movemenT, gaining TracTion.
We ve recruited industry leaders from across the country to to teach, inspire and provide you with the tools to propel you...
We've recruited industry leaders from across the country to to teach, inspire and provide you with the tools to propel your business forward. We've added an evening event focused on the entire YOU. To nourish your mind, body, soul. To cultivate a community of sharing and support. To connect, embrace, and celebrate the many parts of your rich, multi-faceted life: businesswoman, community leader, spiritual being, mother, friend. We've curated an audience for networking and collaboration to drive your business onward. It's what we call momentum, a law of physics, the force created by all of us, as we move upward… together. Powered by: 2snapshoT of The Two-day evenT: sunday, october 18th......................3:00pm check-in Spa TreaTmenTS, eleganT dInner and neTWOrkIng WITh IndUSTrY leaderS keYnOTe: the transformative power of the Jewish woman Breakouts Include: • Enhancing Your Marriage: The Greatest return for Your Investment • The Superwoman's guide to Balance • effortless Success: do less, Stress less, accomplish more! • Is g-d on Your Calendar? nurturing Your Spiritual Self monday, october 19th.................9:00am - 5:00pm keYnOTe: embracing reality to succeed Ariela Balk, Founder, CeO of ariella and associates ariela and associates is a privately-held global manufacturer of intimate apparel, sleepwear and swimwear. ariela began her company with $15,000 and is now one of the largest female vendors in Walmart. as a successful businesswoman with a husband and eight children, she is uniquely positioned to share her experiences and help other women realize their potential. Breakout tracks Include: get moving: • How Much Am I Worth? Pricing Your Service Based Business • How Much Should I Sell For? Pricing Your Products • Leading a Winning Team • Gaining Traction: Identifying Key Areas for Growth get noticed: • Become an Instagram Master • Communicating Your Brand in a Noisy World • Ten Crucial Seconds: Crafting a Winning Elevator Pitch get growing: • Navigating Trade Shows • Getting Your Products onto Shelves in the Big Box Stores • Cold Calling, Warm Leads, Closing the Deal: Expanding Your Service Based Business • The Tipping Point: Crucial Decisions for CEO's Industry breakouts: Network with others and hear from leaders in your field addressing industry trends and how to master your market. Industries include: B2B Services, retail, Wholesale, Creative Services, healthcare, professional Services, authors and Bloggers, Food Services, and more. theanelisgroup.com This conference is all abouT momenTum, movemenT, gaining TracTion.
We ve recruited industry leaders from across the country to to teach, inspire and provide you with the tools to propel you...
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you gotta know you gotta know Ingenious products that will make your day easier. TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! 1. NORPRO HONEY DISPENSER Solve the problem of messy, sticky honey trails on your table. A handy trigger releases honey accurately from the bottom of the dispenser, then closes. A glass base catches drips. It is easy to refill, and holds a cup of honey. Stylish and sticky-free! target.com, $15.99 2. OXO CHERRY PITTER The joy of eating a bowl of pitted cherries is sublime! With this pit remover you just place the cherry on the platform and squeeze. The splash shield contains almost all the squirting juice, and it's easy to clean and store. Bonus: dishwasher safe and locks for storage! This pitter works perfectly every time. amazon.com, $12.99 45 3. COMMAND PICTURE HANGING STRIPS Here’s a new way to hang sukkah decorations with this easy on-and-off solution. To begin, press the sticker firmly onto the wall for 30 seconds and let the adhesive set for an hour. Viola! Hang your picture up and you’re good to go! Best of all, when you are ready to take the pictures down, they come off cleanly - no nail holes, cracked plaster, or sticky residue. Works on most painted, flat surfaces. lowes.com, $5 (Set of 4) 4. CALPHALON APPLE SLICER AND CORER ILLUSTRATION BY @SLYMDESIGNS The amount of apples that you will cut over Rosh Hashana calls for this nifty gadget. You won’t have to struggle and nearly cut yourself anymore. A simple push and you have eight slices (yes, sixteen)! Even better, your kids can now do the job. amazon.com, $10 18 | fyimagazineny.com As the Confederate Flag Controversy stirs up the nation, many people are disputing whether the "Stars and Bars" should be removed from courthouses and other buildings in the South. It seems plenty of people in Virginia feel close to the flag: 45% of Virginia residents want the Confederate flag to stay on state license plates. In June, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that states can regulate license plates, because they fall under the category of "government speech." Those that want the symbol removed, will bring the issue to local courts in Virginia, where the flag’s fate will be decided. 14,088 2.7 Make that 2.7 million cubic yards. That’s the amount of sediment that General Electric expects to finish removing from the bottom of the Hudson River after a six-year cleanup. That's enough to fill the Empire State building -- twice. General Electric made a deal with the Environmental Protection Agency to clean up the mess its factories upstream have made. The Hudson River is getting a new, cleaner face with places clean enough to swim in already. Slowly, its fish will be assessed so that people can find out whether it’s untainted and safe enough to eat. The river’s fish were one major reason people living alongside the river were begging the city for some cleanup. Happy fishing! 0 What’s the minimum wage good for? Pretty much nothing, it seems. In zero states (no, this is not a typo!) in the U.S., no one earning the state minimum wage can afford a market-rate one-bedroom apartment. It seems as if those earning minimum wage are not entitled to have a place to live. 4 Thankfully, road safety has become a huge issue in the United States. Crackdowns on driving while texting, drinking, or not wearing a seatbelt make our roads safer and more pleasant. But for those who are addicted to text messaging while they drive, they are welcome to do so in four states. Yes, it is still legal to text while driving in Arizona, Montana, Texas, and Missouri. Apparently, these states have not yet gotten the memo stating that texting while driving is hazardous and costs lives. “Black is the New Yellow,” reported the New York Post in March. Uber cars, which number 14,088 on the road, have now surpassed yellow cabs, of which there are 13,587. Uber, relatively “young,” has just celebrated its fourth birthday in May. Still, Uber seems to be winning the taxi wars with its competitive rates for passengers and good pay for its drivers. Uber drivers can make $85,000 a year: more than double a taxi driver’s wages at $35,000. WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN 19 | fyimagazineny.com
you gotta know  you gotta know  Ingenious products that will make your day easier.  TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT   S GOOD T...
you gotta know you gotta know Ingenious products that will make your day easier. TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! 1. NORPRO HONEY DISPENSER Solve the problem of messy, sticky honey trails on your table. A handy trigger releases honey accurately from the bottom of the dispenser, then closes. A glass base catches drips. It is easy to refill, and holds a cup of honey. Stylish and sticky-free! target.com, $15.99 2. OXO CHERRY PITTER The joy of eating a bowl of pitted cherries is sublime! With this pit remover you just place the cherry on the platform and squeeze. The splash shield contains almost all the squirting juice, and it's easy to clean and store. Bonus: dishwasher safe and locks for storage! This pitter works perfectly every time. amazon.com, $12.99 45 3. COMMAND PICTURE HANGING STRIPS Here’s a new way to hang sukkah decorations with this easy on-and-off solution. To begin, press the sticker firmly onto the wall for 30 seconds and let the adhesive set for an hour. Viola! Hang your picture up and you’re good to go! Best of all, when you are ready to take the pictures down, they come off cleanly - no nail holes, cracked plaster, or sticky residue. Works on most painted, flat surfaces. lowes.com, $5 (Set of 4) 4. CALPHALON APPLE SLICER AND CORER ILLUSTRATION BY @SLYMDESIGNS The amount of apples that you will cut over Rosh Hashana calls for this nifty gadget. You won’t have to struggle and nearly cut yourself anymore. A simple push and you have eight slices (yes, sixteen)! Even better, your kids can now do the job. amazon.com, $10 18 | fyimagazineny.com As the Confederate Flag Controversy stirs up the nation, many people are disputing whether the "Stars and Bars" should be removed from courthouses and other buildings in the South. It seems plenty of people in Virginia feel close to the flag: 45% of Virginia residents want the Confederate flag to stay on state license plates. In June, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled that states can regulate license plates, because they fall under the category of "government speech." Those that want the symbol removed, will bring the issue to local courts in Virginia, where the flag’s fate will be decided. 14,088 2.7 Make that 2.7 million cubic yards. That’s the amount of sediment that General Electric expects to finish removing from the bottom of the Hudson River after a six-year cleanup. That's enough to fill the Empire State building -- twice. General Electric made a deal with the Environmental Protection Agency to clean up the mess its factories upstream have made. The Hudson River is getting a new, cleaner face with places clean enough to swim in already. Slowly, its fish will be assessed so that people can find out whether it’s untainted and safe enough to eat. The river’s fish were one major reason people living alongside the river were begging the city for some cleanup. Happy fishing! 0 What’s the minimum wage good for? Pretty much nothing, it seems. In zero states (no, this is not a typo!) in the U.S., no one earning the state minimum wage can afford a market-rate one-bedroom apartment. It seems as if those earning minimum wage are not entitled to have a place to live. 4 Thankfully, road safety has become a huge issue in the United States. Crackdowns on driving while texting, drinking, or not wearing a seatbelt make our roads safer and more pleasant. But for those who are addicted to text messaging while they drive, they are welcome to do so in four states. Yes, it is still legal to text while driving in Arizona, Montana, Texas, and Missouri. Apparently, these states have not yet gotten the memo stating that texting while driving is hazardous and costs lives. “Black is the New Yellow,” reported the New York Post in March. Uber cars, which number 14,088 on the road, have now surpassed yellow cabs, of which there are 13,587. Uber, relatively “young,” has just celebrated its fourth birthday in May. Still, Uber seems to be winning the taxi wars with its competitive rates for passengers and good pay for its drivers. Uber drivers can make $85,000 a year: more than double a taxi driver’s wages at $35,000. WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN 19 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know you gotta know FOR LESS! bedeck your table for under $50 LIBBEY 12 OZ. CARATS GLASSES (SET OF 4) target.com, $14.99 B. SMITH LAZY SUSAN SWIRL SERVER bedbathandbeyond. com, $38.99 You can’t go wrong with these diamond-studded glass cups to give your table the glitz and sparkle it deserves. Serve your dips, salads, or sweets in these beautiful porcelain dishes. This lazy Susan will take up far less room than individual bowls spread across the table. DECORATIVE BEADED NAPKIN RINGS (SET OF 4) overstock.com, $14.99 BARDWIL PARK AVENUE TABLECLOTH (60” X 102”) macys.com, $50 It’s gorgeous, elegant, and practical. What you will most appreciate about this tablecloth is how well it washes. Just wash it, throw in the dryer for a few minutes, and it is ready to go - no ironing needed. These tablecloths come in a variety of colors and sizes, to suit all needs. Add a festive feel to your table settings with this set of beaded napkin rings. It comes in multiple colors to match your dinnerware. 13.5” REEF TEXTURED GLASS CHARGERS; wayfair.com, $18.42 Your guests’ eyes will be irresistibly drawn to your table. These stunning chargers have great detail and catch light beautifully. Chargers can serve multiple uses: serving dishes or cake platters, and much more. 20 | fyimagazineny.com 21 | fyimagazineny.com
you gotta know  you gotta know  FOR LESS  bedeck your table for under  50  LIBBEY 12 OZ. CARATS GLASSES  SET OF 4  target....
you gotta know you gotta know FOR LESS! bedeck your table for under $50 LIBBEY 12 OZ. CARATS GLASSES (SET OF 4) target.com, $14.99 B. SMITH LAZY SUSAN SWIRL SERVER bedbathandbeyond. com, $38.99 You can’t go wrong with these diamond-studded glass cups to give your table the glitz and sparkle it deserves. Serve your dips, salads, or sweets in these beautiful porcelain dishes. This lazy Susan will take up far less room than individual bowls spread across the table. DECORATIVE BEADED NAPKIN RINGS (SET OF 4) overstock.com, $14.99 BARDWIL PARK AVENUE TABLECLOTH (60” X 102”) macys.com, $50 It’s gorgeous, elegant, and practical. What you will most appreciate about this tablecloth is how well it washes. Just wash it, throw in the dryer for a few minutes, and it is ready to go - no ironing needed. These tablecloths come in a variety of colors and sizes, to suit all needs. Add a festive feel to your table settings with this set of beaded napkin rings. It comes in multiple colors to match your dinnerware. 13.5” REEF TEXTURED GLASS CHARGERS; wayfair.com, $18.42 Your guests’ eyes will be irresistibly drawn to your table. These stunning chargers have great detail and catch light beautifully. Chargers can serve multiple uses: serving dishes or cake platters, and much more. 20 | fyimagazineny.com 21 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know you gotta know TRIED & TESTED A CLOSER LOOK BEFORE HAIR GEL, PEOPLE (MOSTLY MEN) USED products like petroleum jelly, corn oil, and macassar oil (which is oil from the ylang-ylang tree) to keep their hair slicked back for all-day-long, neat hair. Well, if you really are a fan of the greasy-hair look, all those traditional products are still obtainable. Honestly, I’m not sure about the macassar oil, since I’ve never heard of it or the ylang-ylang tree before. FURTHER BACK IN HISTORY, THE ANCIENT EGYPTIANS used substances like animal fat to tame their unruly manes. Still, the common component of grease did not work particularly well to keep unruly hair in place- especially in the heat of an Egyptian summer. Are your little ones’ barelythere tresses not cooperating? Having a day when those itty bitty hairs Just. Won’t. Lie. Flat!? You know what to do: Grab a smidgen of hair gel, plop it on those impertinent locks, and smooth them back. Aah! All better. IN 1929, THE CHEMICO WORKS COMPANY in Birmingham, England produced the first hair gel which was named BrylCreem. Once this cream-in-a-tube hit the market, men created versatile hair-dos, and women soon became hair gel users as well. Chemico Works took notice of the diversified trend amongst BrylCreem users and created hair gel products for both genders. TODAY THE MARKET IS RIFE WITH HAIR GEL OPTIONS. Do you like the ‘crunchy’ look? There’s a gel for that. Do you like a smooth, touchable feel? There’s a gel for that. Or maybe the ‘wet, just-out-ofthe-shower’ look is yours? Does anyone really want to look like they just rolled out of bed? Some do! PRODUCT REVIEWS At-Home Whitening Kits Your smile is you. It’s one of the first things people see when they speak to you and is something you, your friends, and family see every day. Whitening your teeth can provide the boost to your confidence and self-esteem that comes from a great smile. HAIR GEL USERS BEWARE! Hair gels that contain a high alcohol concentration can dry out the scalp and encourage hair loss. Use a gel that contains moisturizers. Best choices are gels that contain vitamins and minerals to help enrich hair. A good product can help fight dandruff, while an inferior product can actually cause a flaky scalp. FOR BEST RESULTS, RUB THE GEL GENTLY into towel-dried, yet still slightly-damp hair. To prevent hair loss, do not use gel excessively. Be sure to wash your hair properly and do not sleep with gel on your hair. MANY HAIR GELS CONTAIN CONTROVERSIAL CHEMICALS such as petroleum-based chemicals and formaldehyde-releasing preservatives. Read the labels and do your research; there are companies who have great products that do not use these harmful chemicals. OR, GO ORGANIC AND MAKE YOUR OWN GEL! DIY natural, hair gels containing aloe vera and flax seeds abound on the internet. I cannot vouch for their reliability, but others do. Whether natural or storebought, hair gel is a great way to have fun with your hair. Crest 3D White Luxe Whitestrips ($42.99) The Good: Strips stay on securely and are comfortable to wear. You can talk and even drink water while whitening your teeth. Results within three days, full results in 14 days. The Bad: Does not whiten crevices where strips cannot reach. Causes tooth sensitivity. The Bottom Line: While you may be putting more money up front, this is the most convenient whitening system. Rembrandt Intense Stain Dissolving Strips ($24.99) The Good: Use twice daily for only 5-10 minutes. Minimal maintenance, as these strips dissolve in the mouth. Works well for sensitive teeth. The Bad: Can be difficult to remove the strip packaging. Leaves a sticky residue on teeth. The Bottom Line: Best bang for your buck. Brilliant HD Deluxe Teeth Whitening Kit ($30.99) The Good: Works instantly with the first use. Tray allows whitening gel access to crevices between teeth. Repeat use for 15 minutes every few days. The Bad: Trays take a bit of work to mold. Can’t talk easily while whitening, and causes excessive drool. The Bottom Line: This system has the most coverage yet is a little bit of a hassle while whitening. fyi WRITTEN BY RIVKY FOLLMAN 22 | fyimagazineny.com 23 | fyimagazineny.com PRODUCT RECALLS IKEA'S new repair program is considered a recall, but consumers should not return the furniture to Ikea. Instead, customers who purchased ‘Malm’ chests and dressers should order or pick up a free wall-anchoring kit for the affected chests and dressers. The Ikea recall involves about 27 million ‘Malm’ chests and dressers because of tipping or endangerment issues if not anchored to the wall. Until the wall anchoring kits are installed, consumers should move unanchored chests and dressers into storage or other areas to prevent accidents. The Malm chests were sold since 2002 and depending on the model, cost from $80 to $200. To receive a free wall-anchoring kit, visit an Ikea store, or call toll-free at 1-888-966-4532. “LIGHT UP” MZB WATCHES were sold in Kmart, Kohl’s, Walmart, and other retailers nationwide from October 2012 to June 2015 for $5 to $20. This recall was prompted by 11 reports of skin irritations or chemical burns and involves 303 styles of “Light Up” MZB watches. The watches have a flexible, plastic wristband sold in multiple colors including pink, pink with white snowflakes, green, blue, and navy blue. Consumers should immediately take the recalled watches away from children and contact MZB for a refund at 1-888-770-7085.
you gotta know  you gotta know TRIED   TESTED  A CLOSER LOOK  BEFORE HAIR GEL, PEOPLE  MOSTLY MEN  USED products like petr...
you gotta know you gotta know TRIED & TESTED A CLOSER LOOK BEFORE HAIR GEL, PEOPLE (MOSTLY MEN) USED products like petroleum jelly, corn oil, and macassar oil (which is oil from the ylang-ylang tree) to keep their hair slicked back for all-day-long, neat hair. Well, if you really are a fan of the greasy-hair look, all those traditional products are still obtainable. Honestly, I’m not sure about the macassar oil, since I’ve never heard of it or the ylang-ylang tree before. FURTHER BACK IN HISTORY, THE ANCIENT EGYPTIANS used substances like animal fat to tame their unruly manes. Still, the common component of grease did not work particularly well to keep unruly hair in place- especially in the heat of an Egyptian summer. Are your little ones’ barelythere tresses not cooperating? Having a day when those itty bitty hairs Just. Won’t. Lie. Flat!? You know what to do: Grab a smidgen of hair gel, plop it on those impertinent locks, and smooth them back. Aah! All better. IN 1929, THE CHEMICO WORKS COMPANY in Birmingham, England produced the first hair gel which was named BrylCreem. Once this cream-in-a-tube hit the market, men created versatile hair-dos, and women soon became hair gel users as well. Chemico Works took notice of the diversified trend amongst BrylCreem users and created hair gel products for both genders. TODAY THE MARKET IS RIFE WITH HAIR GEL OPTIONS. Do you like the ‘crunchy’ look? There’s a gel for that. Do you like a smooth, touchable feel? There’s a gel for that. Or maybe the ‘wet, just-out-ofthe-shower’ look is yours? Does anyone really want to look like they just rolled out of bed? Some do! PRODUCT REVIEWS At-Home Whitening Kits Your smile is you. It’s one of the first things people see when they speak to you and is something you, your friends, and family see every day. Whitening your teeth can provide the boost to your confidence and self-esteem that comes from a great smile. HAIR GEL USERS BEWARE! Hair gels that contain a high alcohol concentration can dry out the scalp and encourage hair loss. Use a gel that contains moisturizers. Best choices are gels that contain vitamins and minerals to help enrich hair. A good product can help fight dandruff, while an inferior product can actually cause a flaky scalp. FOR BEST RESULTS, RUB THE GEL GENTLY into towel-dried, yet still slightly-damp hair. To prevent hair loss, do not use gel excessively. Be sure to wash your hair properly and do not sleep with gel on your hair. MANY HAIR GELS CONTAIN CONTROVERSIAL CHEMICALS such as petroleum-based chemicals and formaldehyde-releasing preservatives. Read the labels and do your research; there are companies who have great products that do not use these harmful chemicals. OR, GO ORGANIC AND MAKE YOUR OWN GEL! DIY natural, hair gels containing aloe vera and flax seeds abound on the internet. I cannot vouch for their reliability, but others do. Whether natural or storebought, hair gel is a great way to have fun with your hair. Crest 3D White Luxe Whitestrips ($42.99) The Good: Strips stay on securely and are comfortable to wear. You can talk and even drink water while whitening your teeth. Results within three days, full results in 14 days. The Bad: Does not whiten crevices where strips cannot reach. Causes tooth sensitivity. The Bottom Line: While you may be putting more money up front, this is the most convenient whitening system. Rembrandt Intense Stain Dissolving Strips ($24.99) The Good: Use twice daily for only 5-10 minutes. Minimal maintenance, as these strips dissolve in the mouth. Works well for sensitive teeth. The Bad: Can be difficult to remove the strip packaging. Leaves a sticky residue on teeth. The Bottom Line: Best bang for your buck. Brilliant HD Deluxe Teeth Whitening Kit ($30.99) The Good: Works instantly with the first use. Tray allows whitening gel access to crevices between teeth. Repeat use for 15 minutes every few days. The Bad: Trays take a bit of work to mold. Can’t talk easily while whitening, and causes excessive drool. The Bottom Line: This system has the most coverage yet is a little bit of a hassle while whitening. fyi WRITTEN BY RIVKY FOLLMAN 22 | fyimagazineny.com 23 | fyimagazineny.com PRODUCT RECALLS IKEA'S new repair program is considered a recall, but consumers should not return the furniture to Ikea. Instead, customers who purchased ‘Malm’ chests and dressers should order or pick up a free wall-anchoring kit for the affected chests and dressers. The Ikea recall involves about 27 million ‘Malm’ chests and dressers because of tipping or endangerment issues if not anchored to the wall. Until the wall anchoring kits are installed, consumers should move unanchored chests and dressers into storage or other areas to prevent accidents. The Malm chests were sold since 2002 and depending on the model, cost from $80 to $200. To receive a free wall-anchoring kit, visit an Ikea store, or call toll-free at 1-888-966-4532. “LIGHT UP” MZB WATCHES were sold in Kmart, Kohl’s, Walmart, and other retailers nationwide from October 2012 to June 2015 for $5 to $20. This recall was prompted by 11 reports of skin irritations or chemical burns and involves 303 styles of “Light Up” MZB watches. The watches have a flexible, plastic wristband sold in multiple colors including pink, pink with white snowflakes, green, blue, and navy blue. Consumers should immediately take the recalled watches away from children and contact MZB for a refund at 1-888-770-7085.
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on our bookshelf Life Is Short (No Pun Intended): Love, Laughter, and Learning to Enjoy Every Minute By Dr. Jennifer Arnold | Review by M. Wiseman H ave you ever met someone different or disabled, and wondered about their life? Not because you are nosy, but because you are inspired and want to know more about the challenges they face and rise above? Life Is Short is about Bill and Jen Klein, parents of two angelic, adopted children. Bill is a successful entrepreneur, and Jen is a pediatrician. What sets them apart, aside from their refreshingly positive outlook on life, is their height. Bill (4’) and Jen (3’2”) were born with a condition known as skeletal dysplasia (SED). Their adopted children have another form of dwarfism, known as achondroplasia. The Kleins are remarkable people, with big hearts, strong morals, degrees, and successful career paths. Life Is Short is their autobiography, following their lives through childhood heartbreak, school, and careers. It tells the story of their eventual meeting, their marriage, and the challenges they encountered attempting to have a child. The Kleins have overcome constant prejudice and lead a remarkable life together telling their life stories in turn, chapter by chapter. The story begins with details of how Bill and Jen were raised. From the beginning, their parents were determined to love them and raise them as normally as possible. The children were given chores; were loved and disciplined. They attended mainstream schools, and were expected to keep up with their homework even while absent for painful surgeries and medical treatments. Growing up, despite their parent’s best efforts, they faced bullying, never feeling completely a part of their friends’ circles. Bill, a charming and mischievous child with a stubborn backbone, used his infallible humor and people-skills to build himself up. Jen used her positive energy and focus to see her through tough times. With determination, they built lasting friendships and treasured relationships. The same attributes that got them through their formative years have continued to carry them through life. We, the readers, find ourselves cheering Jen on as she squares off against a panel of doctors who question her ability to treat patients. We follow Bill as he stubbornly sends his résumé out to over 50 different job postings, eventually landing a fantastic job. Life Is Short is a heartwarming journey behind the real life scenes of an extraordinary couple. Upon finishing the autobiography, I found myself wishing for more details, more anecdotes, and more stories. I thoroughly enjoyed the reading experience and could have welcomed a longer, more thorough read. Reading Life Is Short was a real spirit booster for me. There is nothing quite like finishing a book with a smile. Mr. and Dr. Klein have many challenges and their lives are difficult. They chose to face life head on, and live their lives as fully as possible. While not easy, their story is inspiring. fyi CHILDREN’S BOOK REVIEW FIRST GRADE DROPOUT By Audrey Vernick | Published by Clarion Books The boy in this story must drop out of school in the first grade. He did the unthinkable. In front of his whole class, he called his teacher, “Mommy”! Of course, everyone laughed. Realistically, kids’ emotions are worked into all the exaggerated, worrisome thoughts that run through the mind of a child who, literally, feels as though they are dying of embarrassment. Pen and ink and watercolor illustrations highlight the humor and richly detail the imaginative thoughts of the young boy in the midst of his struggles. Ages: 4-8 YOU’RE A CRAB! Written By: Jenny Whitehead | Published By: Henry Holt and Co. Some days, it's easy to feel friendly, or funny, or silly. But other days, it's easier to feel angry, or mean, or snappy. This imaginative and attractively-illustrated picture book helps young readers understand their emotions and the feelings associated with those emotions. Everyone gets in bad moods, and it's okay to want to be alone, but children should know that parents are always nearby with unconditional love. Ages: 4-7 years old 24 | fyimagazineny.com PINNY THE PEANUT By Rochel Burstyn Published by Feldheim Publishers Follow this lively peanut on its amusing journey from the farm to your table to help youngsters understand the importance of allergic reactions. Food allergies are hard to deal with and are an important safety issue. This amusing, clever, informative, and entertaining tale is an engaging way to spread awareness among children about living with food allergies. Ages: 4-8 25 | fyimagazineny.com
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on our bookshelf Life Is Short (No Pun Intended): Love, Laughter, and Learning to Enjoy Every Minute By Dr. Jennifer Arnold | Review by M. Wiseman H ave you ever met someone different or disabled, and wondered about their life? Not because you are nosy, but because you are inspired and want to know more about the challenges they face and rise above? Life Is Short is about Bill and Jen Klein, parents of two angelic, adopted children. Bill is a successful entrepreneur, and Jen is a pediatrician. What sets them apart, aside from their refreshingly positive outlook on life, is their height. Bill (4’) and Jen (3’2”) were born with a condition known as skeletal dysplasia (SED). Their adopted children have another form of dwarfism, known as achondroplasia. The Kleins are remarkable people, with big hearts, strong morals, degrees, and successful career paths. Life Is Short is their autobiography, following their lives through childhood heartbreak, school, and careers. It tells the story of their eventual meeting, their marriage, and the challenges they encountered attempting to have a child. The Kleins have overcome constant prejudice and lead a remarkable life together telling their life stories in turn, chapter by chapter. The story begins with details of how Bill and Jen were raised. From the beginning, their parents were determined to love them and raise them as normally as possible. The children were given chores; were loved and disciplined. They attended mainstream schools, and were expected to keep up with their homework even while absent for painful surgeries and medical treatments. Growing up, despite their parent’s best efforts, they faced bullying, never feeling completely a part of their friends’ circles. Bill, a charming and mischievous child with a stubborn backbone, used his infallible humor and people-skills to build himself up. Jen used her positive energy and focus to see her through tough times. With determination, they built lasting friendships and treasured relationships. The same attributes that got them through their formative years have continued to carry them through life. We, the readers, find ourselves cheering Jen on as she squares off against a panel of doctors who question her ability to treat patients. We follow Bill as he stubbornly sends his résumé out to over 50 different job postings, eventually landing a fantastic job. Life Is Short is a heartwarming journey behind the real life scenes of an extraordinary couple. Upon finishing the autobiography, I found myself wishing for more details, more anecdotes, and more stories. I thoroughly enjoyed the reading experience and could have welcomed a longer, more thorough read. Reading Life Is Short was a real spirit booster for me. There is nothing quite like finishing a book with a smile. Mr. and Dr. Klein have many challenges and their lives are difficult. They chose to face life head on, and live their lives as fully as possible. While not easy, their story is inspiring. fyi CHILDREN’S BOOK REVIEW FIRST GRADE DROPOUT By Audrey Vernick | Published by Clarion Books The boy in this story must drop out of school in the first grade. He did the unthinkable. In front of his whole class, he called his teacher, “Mommy”! Of course, everyone laughed. Realistically, kids’ emotions are worked into all the exaggerated, worrisome thoughts that run through the mind of a child who, literally, feels as though they are dying of embarrassment. Pen and ink and watercolor illustrations highlight the humor and richly detail the imaginative thoughts of the young boy in the midst of his struggles. Ages: 4-8 YOU’RE A CRAB! Written By: Jenny Whitehead | Published By: Henry Holt and Co. Some days, it's easy to feel friendly, or funny, or silly. But other days, it's easier to feel angry, or mean, or snappy. This imaginative and attractively-illustrated picture book helps young readers understand their emotions and the feelings associated with those emotions. Everyone gets in bad moods, and it's okay to want to be alone, but children should know that parents are always nearby with unconditional love. Ages: 4-7 years old 24 | fyimagazineny.com PINNY THE PEANUT By Rochel Burstyn Published by Feldheim Publishers Follow this lively peanut on its amusing journey from the farm to your table to help youngsters understand the importance of allergic reactions. Food allergies are hard to deal with and are an important safety issue. This amusing, clever, informative, and entertaining tale is an engaging way to spread awareness among children about living with food allergies. Ages: 4-8 25 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know you gotta know THE MORE YOU KNOW Remembering numbers is easy. So, here’s a number set to remember: 3-0-1 and 3-1-1. It’s So Easy; Why Not?! 26 | fyimagazineny.com S ince 1996, citizens in many areas in the United States and Canada acquired the ability to report non-emergency issues to their local government or municipality, by simply dialing 3-1-1. Previously, many people called the 9-1-1 emergency lines to complain about a noisy party down the road or to ask why the trash pickup skipped their block. To divert these non-emergency calls from tying up emergency lines, a secondary line, 3-1-1, was created. Although an ideal option for local governments, it did present a huge temptation for otherwise G-d fearing Jews to act on impulse in a way that may be contrary to Halacha and Torah values. Our communities are tightly stacked-up condos upon condos and buildings next to even more buildings. We are constantly bombarded with sightings of what the neighbors are up to. Naturally, grievances are bound to arise, whether perceived or real. Until the establishment of the 3-1-1 non-emergency lines, it was quite a hassle to file a report on a neighbor. Even less attractive was the requirement to submit the claim with full name disclosure, thus exposing the reporting neighbor to the wrath of the one being reported. Dialing 3-1-1 changed all that: Punch in three digits from the comfort of your phone, and you can even choose to remain anonymous. But before your fingers dance over the telephone touchpad, consider the following points: • Causing a Jew to suffer a monetary loss by way of submitting a claim to the authorities is halachically not permitted (C.M. §388). Under certain circumstances, one may report a fellow Jew, but in general, one may not do so. A neighbor who suffers monetary loss because of a report submitted by another Jew may demand restitution at a Bais Din to recover the loss from that reporter! • A Jew may not bring a claim before a non-Jewish court or civil agency, even if the objective is only to initiate a stop order against the work being done. There are many competent Jewish Batei Din who will issue summonses to appear before them in a swift and timely manner. Batei Din can also issue stop orders, if needed, and they may permit a party to enter a claim in court or with an appropriate city agency if non-compliance is determined. So, there are recourses in place for the G-d fearing Jew, and the obligation to bring forth any claim only before a Jewish court of law is unequivocally clear. WRONG TO CLAIM A RIGHT? Many 3-1-1 non-emergency-line-related grievances between neighbors concern building without proper 27 | fyimagazineny.com DOB building permits. For example, you wish to extend your front porch so that your sukkah will accommodate your growing family, but your downstairs neighbor is upset that his sunlight will be blocked in part by the new extension. Your neighbor across the street is upset, because your newly extended porch gives its users a vantage peeping point into his home and your upstairs neighbor is upset that you get to use front yard airspace without compensating him. Many itchy people with many itchy fingers. All of these example grievances are not entirely straight forward. A person may or may not have a right to claim damages due to blocking sunlight from entering a room. Nowadays, every home has window treatments, and it may be very difficult to convince a Bais Din of peeping damages. We live on crowded streets and therefore should forego the expectation of privacy. Lastly, not every condo owner enjoys airspace rights. A Bais Din would need to examine each claim on its own merits. UNDERSTAND YOUR MOTIVE Just because someone has not obtained DOB clearance to build, that does not take away any of his halachic rights of ownership to build as he pleases. Before deciding to report a grievance against a neighbor, ask yourself these questions peppered with earnest soul searching.
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you gotta know you gotta know THE MORE YOU KNOW Remembering numbers is easy. So, here’s a number set to remember: 3-0-1 and 3-1-1. It’s So Easy; Why Not?! 26 | fyimagazineny.com S ince 1996, citizens in many areas in the United States and Canada acquired the ability to report non-emergency issues to their local government or municipality, by simply dialing 3-1-1. Previously, many people called the 9-1-1 emergency lines to complain about a noisy party down the road or to ask why the trash pickup skipped their block. To divert these non-emergency calls from tying up emergency lines, a secondary line, 3-1-1, was created. Although an ideal option for local governments, it did present a huge temptation for otherwise G-d fearing Jews to act on impulse in a way that may be contrary to Halacha and Torah values. Our communities are tightly stacked-up condos upon condos and buildings next to even more buildings. We are constantly bombarded with sightings of what the neighbors are up to. Naturally, grievances are bound to arise, whether perceived or real. Until the establishment of the 3-1-1 non-emergency lines, it was quite a hassle to file a report on a neighbor. Even less attractive was the requirement to submit the claim with full name disclosure, thus exposing the reporting neighbor to the wrath of the one being reported. Dialing 3-1-1 changed all that: Punch in three digits from the comfort of your phone, and you can even choose to remain anonymous. But before your fingers dance over the telephone touchpad, consider the following points: • Causing a Jew to suffer a monetary loss by way of submitting a claim to the authorities is halachically not permitted (C.M. §388). Under certain circumstances, one may report a fellow Jew, but in general, one may not do so. A neighbor who suffers monetary loss because of a report submitted by another Jew may demand restitution at a Bais Din to recover the loss from that reporter! • A Jew may not bring a claim before a non-Jewish court or civil agency, even if the objective is only to initiate a stop order against the work being done. There are many competent Jewish Batei Din who will issue summonses to appear before them in a swift and timely manner. Batei Din can also issue stop orders, if needed, and they may permit a party to enter a claim in court or with an appropriate city agency if non-compliance is determined. So, there are recourses in place for the G-d fearing Jew, and the obligation to bring forth any claim only before a Jewish court of law is unequivocally clear. WRONG TO CLAIM A RIGHT? Many 3-1-1 non-emergency-line-related grievances between neighbors concern building without proper 27 | fyimagazineny.com DOB building permits. For example, you wish to extend your front porch so that your sukkah will accommodate your growing family, but your downstairs neighbor is upset that his sunlight will be blocked in part by the new extension. Your neighbor across the street is upset, because your newly extended porch gives its users a vantage peeping point into his home and your upstairs neighbor is upset that you get to use front yard airspace without compensating him. Many itchy people with many itchy fingers. All of these example grievances are not entirely straight forward. A person may or may not have a right to claim damages due to blocking sunlight from entering a room. Nowadays, every home has window treatments, and it may be very difficult to convince a Bais Din of peeping damages. We live on crowded streets and therefore should forego the expectation of privacy. Lastly, not every condo owner enjoys airspace rights. A Bais Din would need to examine each claim on its own merits. UNDERSTAND YOUR MOTIVE Just because someone has not obtained DOB clearance to build, that does not take away any of his halachic rights of ownership to build as he pleases. Before deciding to report a grievance against a neighbor, ask yourself these questions peppered with earnest soul searching.
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> Make your life more beautiful! you gotta know “Why?” “Why does it bother me whatever it is that neighbor X is doing?” “What is it that neighbor X is actually taking away from me by doing whatever it is he is doing?” “Am I just jealous of neighbor X?” “Am I getting back at my neighbor for something else entirely?” “Am I angry at myself for not being able to afford to do that myself?” “Am I simply trying to exert control over another human being?” Or perhaps, think deeply about this: do you see an opportunity to extort something from your neighbor in return for “granting” him your permission to do what he’s doing? “Hi, neighbor X. I see you’re preparing to build an extension here. You know that my wife is allergic to dust and I will have to report you. But, you know, if you will consider building a nice deck for me in my backyard I can probably work it out with my wife…” MY RABBI TOLD ME… A common phrase among 3-1-1 callers is “my Rabbi told me that I may/should/must call 3-1-1.” It is common practice to consult with a Rabbi for day-to-day halachic dilemmas and do as he instructs, but this line of self-justification is problematic and even laughable. Laughable because regarding monetary issues between two parties, a Rabbi may only opine on the beauty guide A COMMON PHRASE AMONG 3-1-1 CALLERS IS “MY RABBI TOLD ME THAT I MAY/SHOULD/ MUST CALL 3-1-1.” the problem if both parties present their sides of the story to him. For such a basic Halacha, a Rabbi who does opine single-sided is not worthy of the title. Although a Rabbi can dictate halachic rulings as they are codified in Halacha, a Rabbi may not seek to adjudicate a dispute without first administering a proper hearing between the parties. Problems abound because there is no way of knowing exactly what story was related to the Rabbi, and each detail of a story can affect the subsequent ruling. MAY I? So, when does Jewish Law clearly allow calling 3-1-1? If there is immediate danger to people or to property, and the matter cannot wait until a Bais Din is set up, then a person is allowed to take matters into his own hands. A snow-laden sidewalk that freezes over and is ignored by the person responsible for snow removal even after being notified about it, serves as a good example. In this example, the monetary loss to the reported person is not immediately evident, because in most cases, the city will not fine the property owner without providing an opportunity to enable him to remove the hazard. This, however, is contingent on the following two qualifiers: 28 | fyimagazineny.com a) there is simply no question whatsoever about the validity of the claim and you are 100% sure that you have clear halachic standing on the matter, and b) you proceed to bring forth your claim before a Bais Din as soon as possible. However, given the severity of the sin of reporting on another Jew, even in such a case, it is highly advisable to consult with a competent halachic authority who is knowledgeable in the monetary laws. Tip goes here NOW THAT YOU KNOW Hopefully, the message behind these numbers will be remembered as easily, too. Reb Yitzchak Luria (1534 - 1572), known as the Ariza”l, revealed, that in order to atone for the sin of reporting a fellow Jew to the authorities, one will need to fast an astronomical 301 days! Hence 3-1-1 may end up costing 3-0-1! The numerical Hebrew value of 301 is the same as the Hebrew word for fire, aish. Calling 3-1-1 without true justification is akin to playing with fire. fyi Submitted by Beis Din Tzedek “Halishkah”, a subsidiary of The Halachic Documents Institute, Brooklyn, NY and can be reached at halishkah@gmail.com. KEEP YOUR MAKEUP FRESH ALL YOM TOV! >>
  Make your life more beautiful   you gotta know     Why        Why does it bother me whatever it is that neighbor X is do...
> Make your life more beautiful! you gotta know “Why?” “Why does it bother me whatever it is that neighbor X is doing?” “What is it that neighbor X is actually taking away from me by doing whatever it is he is doing?” “Am I just jealous of neighbor X?” “Am I getting back at my neighbor for something else entirely?” “Am I angry at myself for not being able to afford to do that myself?” “Am I simply trying to exert control over another human being?” Or perhaps, think deeply about this: do you see an opportunity to extort something from your neighbor in return for “granting” him your permission to do what he’s doing? “Hi, neighbor X. I see you’re preparing to build an extension here. You know that my wife is allergic to dust and I will have to report you. But, you know, if you will consider building a nice deck for me in my backyard I can probably work it out with my wife…” MY RABBI TOLD ME… A common phrase among 3-1-1 callers is “my Rabbi told me that I may/should/must call 3-1-1.” It is common practice to consult with a Rabbi for day-to-day halachic dilemmas and do as he instructs, but this line of self-justification is problematic and even laughable. Laughable because regarding monetary issues between two parties, a Rabbi may only opine on the beauty guide A COMMON PHRASE AMONG 3-1-1 CALLERS IS “MY RABBI TOLD ME THAT I MAY/SHOULD/ MUST CALL 3-1-1.” the problem if both parties present their sides of the story to him. For such a basic Halacha, a Rabbi who does opine single-sided is not worthy of the title. Although a Rabbi can dictate halachic rulings as they are codified in Halacha, a Rabbi may not seek to adjudicate a dispute without first administering a proper hearing between the parties. Problems abound because there is no way of knowing exactly what story was related to the Rabbi, and each detail of a story can affect the subsequent ruling. MAY I? So, when does Jewish Law clearly allow calling 3-1-1? If there is immediate danger to people or to property, and the matter cannot wait until a Bais Din is set up, then a person is allowed to take matters into his own hands. A snow-laden sidewalk that freezes over and is ignored by the person responsible for snow removal even after being notified about it, serves as a good example. In this example, the monetary loss to the reported person is not immediately evident, because in most cases, the city will not fine the property owner without providing an opportunity to enable him to remove the hazard. This, however, is contingent on the following two qualifiers: 28 | fyimagazineny.com a) there is simply no question whatsoever about the validity of the claim and you are 100% sure that you have clear halachic standing on the matter, and b) you proceed to bring forth your claim before a Bais Din as soon as possible. However, given the severity of the sin of reporting on another Jew, even in such a case, it is highly advisable to consult with a competent halachic authority who is knowledgeable in the monetary laws. Tip goes here NOW THAT YOU KNOW Hopefully, the message behind these numbers will be remembered as easily, too. Reb Yitzchak Luria (1534 - 1572), known as the Ariza”l, revealed, that in order to atone for the sin of reporting a fellow Jew to the authorities, one will need to fast an astronomical 301 days! Hence 3-1-1 may end up costing 3-0-1! The numerical Hebrew value of 301 is the same as the Hebrew word for fire, aish. Calling 3-1-1 without true justification is akin to playing with fire. fyi Submitted by Beis Din Tzedek “Halishkah”, a subsidiary of The Halachic Documents Institute, Brooklyn, NY and can be reached at halishkah@gmail.com. KEEP YOUR MAKEUP FRESH ALL YOM TOV! >>
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the beauty guide the beauty guide MAKEUP look fresh all yom tov The holidays are a confusing time for us beauty-holics. We’re expected to wear our fanciest outfits, while our faces look greasy and smudged and anything but fresh and fancy! Your new shoes and dress certainly look lovely… if you can ignore the huge gap of red lipstick in the center of your mouth, that is. Here are my holiday tips and tricks to avoid looking like a hot mess! 1. Waterproof everything. Seriously. Especially your mascara and eyeliner. I absolutely love the Fairydrops Scandal Queen Mascara. It literally doesn’t budge at all, so feel free to apply plenty of mascara on your top and bottom lashes. For eyeliner, I’d play it safe with the Inglot Gel Liner. That thing can survive a war, for real. Use more eyeliner on the top lash line, and less on the bottom, because when it smudges (and it WILL smudge!), you will look exactly like a panda. 2. For foundation and concealer, your best bet is the Mac Pro Longwear range. I have two types of clients: type one that comes in saying that their makeup never lasts on them, and type two that comes in saying that their makeup never EVER lasts on them. If you’re type one, try the new Mac Pro Longwear Foundation, which is totally waterproof and only $33. It has amazing coverage, and claims to last for two days, but I’ve personally seen it last for more than three. If you’re type two, take two pumps of Mac Pro Longwear Concealer and buff it all over your face with a round-top Kabuki brush. You can thank me later! 3. Obviously, primers and setting sprays are an absolute necessity. The Benefit Stay Flawless primer is great, and the Urban Decay All Nighter Setting Spray applied under and over your makeup is a must. 4. Please don’t wear a crazy, long-lasting lipstick that will make your lips crack and peel and put you in a state of torture! I know, I know... everyone loves their Revlon Color Stay lipsticks for the holidays. My opinion is that it is better to do more on the eyes and less on the lips. It’s so much prettier to do a nice roll-on, clear gloss and focus on a gorgeous eye rather than killing your lips. Also, who wants to worry about drinking from a straw for two days? It’s just not worth the lipstick! 5. If you really want to, get individual lashes professionally applied for the holidays. It looks absolutely gorgeous, and you won’t have to worry about your eye makeup at all. 6. Blotting sheets are a must if you have oily skin, and a moisturizing face mist is a necessity if your skin gets dry. Try the Elf Blotting Sheets, and the Caudalie Organic Grape Water Moisturizing Spray. fyi Batya Hess is your local Brooklyn beauty guru! As a makeup artist and beauty blogger, she’s constantly testing out and reviewing every new beauty launch and giving product recommendations. Follow her on Instagram @makeupbatya and her blog heygirlwhatsonyourface.com. For inquiries, email batyareyz@gmail.com 30 | fyimagazineny.com 31 | fyimagazineny.com
the beauty guide  the beauty guide  MAKEUP  look fresh all yom tov The holidays are a confusing time for us beauty-holics....
the beauty guide the beauty guide MAKEUP look fresh all yom tov The holidays are a confusing time for us beauty-holics. We’re expected to wear our fanciest outfits, while our faces look greasy and smudged and anything but fresh and fancy! Your new shoes and dress certainly look lovely… if you can ignore the huge gap of red lipstick in the center of your mouth, that is. Here are my holiday tips and tricks to avoid looking like a hot mess! 1. Waterproof everything. Seriously. Especially your mascara and eyeliner. I absolutely love the Fairydrops Scandal Queen Mascara. It literally doesn’t budge at all, so feel free to apply plenty of mascara on your top and bottom lashes. For eyeliner, I’d play it safe with the Inglot Gel Liner. That thing can survive a war, for real. Use more eyeliner on the top lash line, and less on the bottom, because when it smudges (and it WILL smudge!), you will look exactly like a panda. 2. For foundation and concealer, your best bet is the Mac Pro Longwear range. I have two types of clients: type one that comes in saying that their makeup never lasts on them, and type two that comes in saying that their makeup never EVER lasts on them. If you’re type one, try the new Mac Pro Longwear Foundation, which is totally waterproof and only $33. It has amazing coverage, and claims to last for two days, but I’ve personally seen it last for more than three. If you’re type two, take two pumps of Mac Pro Longwear Concealer and buff it all over your face with a round-top Kabuki brush. You can thank me later! 3. Obviously, primers and setting sprays are an absolute necessity. The Benefit Stay Flawless primer is great, and the Urban Decay All Nighter Setting Spray applied under and over your makeup is a must. 4. Please don’t wear a crazy, long-lasting lipstick that will make your lips crack and peel and put you in a state of torture! I know, I know... everyone loves their Revlon Color Stay lipsticks for the holidays. My opinion is that it is better to do more on the eyes and less on the lips. It’s so much prettier to do a nice roll-on, clear gloss and focus on a gorgeous eye rather than killing your lips. Also, who wants to worry about drinking from a straw for two days? It’s just not worth the lipstick! 5. If you really want to, get individual lashes professionally applied for the holidays. It looks absolutely gorgeous, and you won’t have to worry about your eye makeup at all. 6. Blotting sheets are a must if you have oily skin, and a moisturizing face mist is a necessity if your skin gets dry. Try the Elf Blotting Sheets, and the Caudalie Organic Grape Water Moisturizing Spray. fyi Batya Hess is your local Brooklyn beauty guru! As a makeup artist and beauty blogger, she’s constantly testing out and reviewing every new beauty launch and giving product recommendations. Follow her on Instagram @makeupbatya and her blog heygirlwhatsonyourface.com. For inquiries, email batyareyz@gmail.com 30 | fyimagazineny.com 31 | fyimagazineny.com
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t ov ! r y o m pic ks ou on a sh i f $68 $19 PROMOTION FASHION the beauty guide Hunter Green Velvet Crop Top, Mezzo $38 White Button Down Blouse, Junee How to Successfully Shop for Accessories BY DOUBLE HEADER Burgundy Shell, Kikki Rikki $198 1. Colors may appear different in pictures than in real life. Definitely don’t rely on your memory. If you are making a gown and want to match a shell, bring a swatch of material in so we can find the perfect color match for you. Faux Fur Leather Vest; Mezzo 2. If you are looking to match accessories to outfits, like socks and headbands, bring the outfit in and our Double Header sales staff will be more than glad to assist you. $48 Black & Grey Tweed Skirt; Junee MIX & MATCH THESE OUTFIT S! 3. Every material reflects colors differently, so you may find that wool blue and cotton blue will not look exactly the same. Sometimes, it’s impossible to find the exact match for the accessory you’re looking for. Color blocking and wearing different shades of the same color are very “in” now. Have fun accessorizing by coordinating colors and shades to your outfit! 4. We love personalizing yarmulkes for your boys. It’s best if you know what style and size yarmulkes you are looking for when coming in, so that we can help you find designs that fit your taste and budget. 5. You will be amazed by our vast variety of headbands, socks, tights, yarmulkes, jewelry and more- in all shades and colors! So give yourself the time to enjoy our spacious kid friendly store and let our sales staff help you find the perfect accessory for you. $196 Floral Skirt, Mezzo LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU! 32 | fyimagazineny.com
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t ov ! r y o m pic ks ou on a sh i f $68 $19 PROMOTION FASHION the beauty guide Hunter Green Velvet Crop Top, Mezzo $38 White Button Down Blouse, Junee How to Successfully Shop for Accessories BY DOUBLE HEADER Burgundy Shell, Kikki Rikki $198 1. Colors may appear different in pictures than in real life. Definitely don’t rely on your memory. If you are making a gown and want to match a shell, bring a swatch of material in so we can find the perfect color match for you. Faux Fur Leather Vest; Mezzo 2. If you are looking to match accessories to outfits, like socks and headbands, bring the outfit in and our Double Header sales staff will be more than glad to assist you. $48 Black & Grey Tweed Skirt; Junee MIX & MATCH THESE OUTFIT S! 3. Every material reflects colors differently, so you may find that wool blue and cotton blue will not look exactly the same. Sometimes, it’s impossible to find the exact match for the accessory you’re looking for. Color blocking and wearing different shades of the same color are very “in” now. Have fun accessorizing by coordinating colors and shades to your outfit! 4. We love personalizing yarmulkes for your boys. It’s best if you know what style and size yarmulkes you are looking for when coming in, so that we can help you find designs that fit your taste and budget. 5. You will be amazed by our vast variety of headbands, socks, tights, yarmulkes, jewelry and more- in all shades and colors! So give yourself the time to enjoy our spacious kid friendly store and let our sales staff help you find the perfect accessory for you. $196 Floral Skirt, Mezzo LOOKING FORWARD TO SEEING YOU! 32 | fyimagazineny.com
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FASHION the beauty guide fall accessory report Festival Tassel Drop Earrings, $32, baublebar.com Today it’s all about adding that special something to your outfit. Attention to detail is all-important and is actually what makes the outfit. The accessories you choose will pull it all together. There really aren’t any rules, but here are some of my top trending picks for this season… Have fun! Nixon Kingston Leather, $125, Nixon.com Victorian Star Brooch, $19.50, accessorize.com Silence & Noise Mini Box Crossbody Bag, $42, silence&noise.com Brixton Tiller with Brim Hat, $60, Brixton. J. Crew Leather Envelope Clutch, $118, jcrew.com Gucci Fur-trimmed Leather Platform Mules, $995, Gucci.com Hermes Peuple Duvent Tuilly in Silk Twill, $180, hermes.com Sophia Webster Happy Thoughts Clutch, $490, sophiawebster.co.uk Betty Gulko is an Orthodox, freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@ gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram for a daily dose of the #LifeOfaStylist @such.a.betty! Topshop Muskat Fringe Suede Ankle Boots, $150, topshop.com 35 | fyimagazineny.com
FASHION  the beauty guide  fall accessory report  Festival Tassel Drop Earrings,  32, baublebar.com  Today it   s all abou...
FASHION the beauty guide fall accessory report Festival Tassel Drop Earrings, $32, baublebar.com Today it’s all about adding that special something to your outfit. Attention to detail is all-important and is actually what makes the outfit. The accessories you choose will pull it all together. There really aren’t any rules, but here are some of my top trending picks for this season… Have fun! Nixon Kingston Leather, $125, Nixon.com Victorian Star Brooch, $19.50, accessorize.com Silence & Noise Mini Box Crossbody Bag, $42, silence&noise.com Brixton Tiller with Brim Hat, $60, Brixton. J. Crew Leather Envelope Clutch, $118, jcrew.com Gucci Fur-trimmed Leather Platform Mules, $995, Gucci.com Hermes Peuple Duvent Tuilly in Silk Twill, $180, hermes.com Sophia Webster Happy Thoughts Clutch, $490, sophiawebster.co.uk Betty Gulko is an Orthodox, freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@ gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram for a daily dose of the #LifeOfaStylist @such.a.betty! Topshop Muskat Fringe Suede Ankle Boots, $150, topshop.com 35 | fyimagazineny.com
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HOME the beauty guide LAYOUT “Separate” your living space in an open floor plan, studio, or loft apartment to enlarge the room. Use rugs and/or furniture arrangement to visually divide living and dining spaces. Minimizing pattern use in a small space is a good idea; too many focal points can compete for attention. Clean and uncluttered lines with neutral colors and minimal furnishings look great. 8 DECORATOR TRICKS FOR SMALL LIVING ROOMS Decorating a living room is a challenging task, as it’s often a multi-functional room for your family. It is even trickier working with a small space! A cramped dining nook can become worthy of dinner parties with a few smart strategies. Let these ideas inspire you to create the ideal space you want to redecorate: WINDOW TREATMENTS Make full use of natural light from large windows as an unfailing space expander, and keep window treatments to a minimum. Uncovered windows allow plenty of natural light to flow freely into the room, connecting with the outdoors and creating an illusion of depth. Elaborate window treatments draw too much attention, can visually divide the room if contrasting in color, and make the room feel too enclosed. Use simple, sheer panels that blend with the color of the walls and keep them pulled back, if window coverings are preferred. WALL DÉCOR Know that, for paintings or wall hangings, less is more. Use one, larger piece rather than a grouping of smaller ones. The pattern issue with the flooring is similar to this category. Hanging multiple wall frames of different shapes and sizes creates disunity and can seem cramped. FOCAL POINT Pick a focal point. Whether your statement is a couch or unique coffee table, make one choice and let it shine! Complement your focus with the other furniture choices. No competition or clashing allowed! Susan Strauss, known for her sophisticated interiors provides us with many fun ideas how to update your space in. Susan has her own full-service Design Firm located in New Jersey. From Residential homes to restaurants and retail stores, Susan has done it all. Her wellearned reputation as one of the premiere firms on the East Coast is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients. FLOORING Select a wider-plank hardwood or larger porcelain tiles for flooring, to make a living room feel roomier. Moreover, fewer seams or grout lines are easier to keep clean and present an uncluttered look. Small patterns in a smaller room, like parquet flooring or tiny, multicolored tiles are too busy for the eye, creating a cramped feeling. 36 | fyimagazineny.com COLOR & WALLS Use light colors on the walls to make the space appear larger. Keep your paint hues and dominant furniture colors light to brighten the overall mood. Opt for lighter colored flooring as well; having a small-range color scheme, (use shades of one hue,) can give the room a polished and unified look. (Darker colors can make a room seem cozier, but absorbs light instead of it, the space feel smaller.) MIRRORS Accent mirrors, especially big ones. Mirrors make a room appear up to twice as large and give the illusion of greater depth. Select mirrored furniture such as accent tables, or a coffee table, or add a Moroccan mirror-tiled light fixture. fyi FURNITURE Opt for one larger piece to fill the space and decrease the look of clutter instead of multiple furniture pieces. Choose a delicate sofa and chairs with exposed legs for a small living room to create a sense of airiness. Avoid bulky sofas with massive armrests and backs. 37 | fyimagazineny.com
HOME  the beauty guide  LAYOUT    Separate    your living space in an open floor plan, studio, or loft apartment to enlarg...
HOME the beauty guide LAYOUT “Separate” your living space in an open floor plan, studio, or loft apartment to enlarge the room. Use rugs and/or furniture arrangement to visually divide living and dining spaces. Minimizing pattern use in a small space is a good idea; too many focal points can compete for attention. Clean and uncluttered lines with neutral colors and minimal furnishings look great. 8 DECORATOR TRICKS FOR SMALL LIVING ROOMS Decorating a living room is a challenging task, as it’s often a multi-functional room for your family. It is even trickier working with a small space! A cramped dining nook can become worthy of dinner parties with a few smart strategies. Let these ideas inspire you to create the ideal space you want to redecorate: WINDOW TREATMENTS Make full use of natural light from large windows as an unfailing space expander, and keep window treatments to a minimum. Uncovered windows allow plenty of natural light to flow freely into the room, connecting with the outdoors and creating an illusion of depth. Elaborate window treatments draw too much attention, can visually divide the room if contrasting in color, and make the room feel too enclosed. Use simple, sheer panels that blend with the color of the walls and keep them pulled back, if window coverings are preferred. WALL DÉCOR Know that, for paintings or wall hangings, less is more. Use one, larger piece rather than a grouping of smaller ones. The pattern issue with the flooring is similar to this category. Hanging multiple wall frames of different shapes and sizes creates disunity and can seem cramped. FOCAL POINT Pick a focal point. Whether your statement is a couch or unique coffee table, make one choice and let it shine! Complement your focus with the other furniture choices. No competition or clashing allowed! Susan Strauss, known for her sophisticated interiors provides us with many fun ideas how to update your space in. Susan has her own full-service Design Firm located in New Jersey. From Residential homes to restaurants and retail stores, Susan has done it all. Her wellearned reputation as one of the premiere firms on the East Coast is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients. FLOORING Select a wider-plank hardwood or larger porcelain tiles for flooring, to make a living room feel roomier. Moreover, fewer seams or grout lines are easier to keep clean and present an uncluttered look. Small patterns in a smaller room, like parquet flooring or tiny, multicolored tiles are too busy for the eye, creating a cramped feeling. 36 | fyimagazineny.com COLOR & WALLS Use light colors on the walls to make the space appear larger. Keep your paint hues and dominant furniture colors light to brighten the overall mood. Opt for lighter colored flooring as well; having a small-range color scheme, (use shades of one hue,) can give the room a polished and unified look. (Darker colors can make a room seem cozier, but absorbs light instead of it, the space feel smaller.) MIRRORS Accent mirrors, especially big ones. Mirrors make a room appear up to twice as large and give the illusion of greater depth. Select mirrored furniture such as accent tables, or a coffee table, or add a Moroccan mirror-tiled light fixture. fyi FURNITURE Opt for one larger piece to fill the space and decrease the look of clutter instead of multiple furniture pieces. Choose a delicate sofa and chairs with exposed legs for a small living room to create a sense of airiness. Avoid bulky sofas with massive armrests and backs. 37 | fyimagazineny.com
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HOME the beauty guide ƒThis year, we want a traditional, white look for the table (tablecloth & napkins) with gold accents for a celebratory and festive tone. Wooden chargers, as well as logs at the base of the apple centerpiece, provide an intimate, natural appearance to the table. ROSH HASHANA table decor �  Gold votive When hosting an event, bring the host’s passions and interests (or the current festive theme) into the decor for centerpieces and/or place cards. Apples give a lovely, traditional Rosh Hashana look. Notice the attractive, full-size cinnamon stick that holds the place card. Leaning it against the apple gives some height to the place setting and catches everyone’s eye upon entering the dining room. The green color of the apples pops by using a complimentary green-colored marker to write the names on the place cards with an accent of green ribbon to attach the cards onto the cinnamon stick. Follow through with your preferred color/theme for your table by using one common color in multiple items. The High Holidays are almost upon us and every friendly conversation is peppered with recipes, menu planning, and food talk. We’re caterers, we love food talk! But today, let’s discuss tablescapes, because people eat with their eyes first. Impress your guests as soon as they see your Yom Tov table! 38 | fyimagazineny.com Notice the attractive, full-size cinnamon stick that holds the place card. Leaning it against the apple gives some height to the place setting and catches everyone’s eye upon entering the dining room. candles match the gold, spray-painted apples in the centerpiece. Be sure to use primer on the apples first, to ensure that the glittery paint sticks well (we learned that the hard way!). fyi Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger have a collective 25 years in the catering business. Th ey bring their knowledge, experience and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible! 39 | fyimagazineny.com
HOME  the beauty guide   This year, we want a traditional,  white look for the table  tablecloth   napkins  with gold acce...
HOME the beauty guide ƒThis year, we want a traditional, white look for the table (tablecloth & napkins) with gold accents for a celebratory and festive tone. Wooden chargers, as well as logs at the base of the apple centerpiece, provide an intimate, natural appearance to the table. ROSH HASHANA table decor �  Gold votive When hosting an event, bring the host’s passions and interests (or the current festive theme) into the decor for centerpieces and/or place cards. Apples give a lovely, traditional Rosh Hashana look. Notice the attractive, full-size cinnamon stick that holds the place card. Leaning it against the apple gives some height to the place setting and catches everyone’s eye upon entering the dining room. The green color of the apples pops by using a complimentary green-colored marker to write the names on the place cards with an accent of green ribbon to attach the cards onto the cinnamon stick. Follow through with your preferred color/theme for your table by using one common color in multiple items. The High Holidays are almost upon us and every friendly conversation is peppered with recipes, menu planning, and food talk. We’re caterers, we love food talk! But today, let’s discuss tablescapes, because people eat with their eyes first. Impress your guests as soon as they see your Yom Tov table! 38 | fyimagazineny.com Notice the attractive, full-size cinnamon stick that holds the place card. Leaning it against the apple gives some height to the place setting and catches everyone’s eye upon entering the dining room. candles match the gold, spray-painted apples in the centerpiece. Be sure to use primer on the apples first, to ensure that the glittery paint sticks well (we learned that the hard way!). fyi Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger have a collective 25 years in the catering business. Th ey bring their knowledge, experience and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible! 39 | fyimagazineny.com
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HOME the beauty guide Alexis Bueno Painted Petal Canvas Wall Art, overstock.com, $191.99 ENHANCE YOUR LIVING ROOM THIS FALL Florida Swirl Grey Area Rug (4' x 6'), wayfair.com, $82.95 The Pantone Fashion Fall Color Report 2015 shows gorgeous deep shades of gray and yellow. While we stuck with the gray, we lightened the yellow just a bit. These contemporary accessories have hints of fall, but they will imbue brightness into any living room. Upton Home Dalton Mirrored Accent Table, overstock.com, $234.99 White modern soft ceramic vase, dhgate.com, $53 A simple do-ityourself project guaranteed to add sparkle and flair to your sukkah this year! r a t i o n� eco �d � sukkah Surya Toya Throw Blanket, rugstudio. com, $49.85 Bright Slashes Throw Pillow, fineartamerica.com, $40 40 | fyimagazineny.com 41 | fyimagazineny.com
HOME  the beauty guide  Alexis Bueno Painted Petal Canvas Wall Art, overstock.com,  191.99  ENHANCE YOUR LIVING       ROOM...
HOME the beauty guide Alexis Bueno Painted Petal Canvas Wall Art, overstock.com, $191.99 ENHANCE YOUR LIVING ROOM THIS FALL Florida Swirl Grey Area Rug (4' x 6'), wayfair.com, $82.95 The Pantone Fashion Fall Color Report 2015 shows gorgeous deep shades of gray and yellow. While we stuck with the gray, we lightened the yellow just a bit. These contemporary accessories have hints of fall, but they will imbue brightness into any living room. Upton Home Dalton Mirrored Accent Table, overstock.com, $234.99 White modern soft ceramic vase, dhgate.com, $53 A simple do-ityourself project guaranteed to add sparkle and flair to your sukkah this year! r a t i o n� eco �d � sukkah Surya Toya Throw Blanket, rugstudio. com, $49.85 Bright Slashes Throw Pillow, fineartamerica.com, $40 40 | fyimagazineny.com 41 | fyimagazineny.com
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DIY the beauty guide supplies • Toothpicks • Gold or silver■spray paint • Gold or silver■glitter or glitter glue fall in love with life • Foam balls, about 2-3” diameter • Glue • Scissors • String how to do i t 1. Cover your foam ball with glue and roll in glitter, coating thoroughly. Or, use glitter paint and paint it directly onto the ball, as shown here. Allow it to dry completely. 2. Stick toothpicks firmly into the ball spacing the toothpicks somewhat evenly to cover most of the ball. 3. Cut a handful of toothpicks in half, and fill in the empty spaces on the ball as much as possible without pulling out the toothpicks that are already there. You’re done when you can’t fit in anymore toothpicks without some falling out! 4. Use scissors to trim the sharp ends off the toothpicks, to leave blunt edges around the ball. 42 | fyimagazineny.com 5. Prepare a bowlful of glitter, and lay the balls out onto sheets of newspaper on the table. Use spray paint in the color of your choice, coating them evenly. While the paint is still wet, sprinkle glitter all over the ball, rotating it in your hands until the ball is nice and sparkly! 6. Cut a piece of string to the required length for hanging the ball, and make a loose knot on one end, without pulling it tight for now. Gently wrap the string around the ball, and pull the empty end of the string through the knot, creating a slipknot. Tighten the string around the ball, and hang to decorate. fyi the search for happiness >>
DIY  the beauty guide  supplies      Toothpicks      Gold or silver   spray paint      Gold or silver   glitter or glitter...
DIY the beauty guide supplies • Toothpicks • Gold or silver■spray paint • Gold or silver■glitter or glitter glue fall in love with life • Foam balls, about 2-3” diameter • Glue • Scissors • String how to do i t 1. Cover your foam ball with glue and roll in glitter, coating thoroughly. Or, use glitter paint and paint it directly onto the ball, as shown here. Allow it to dry completely. 2. Stick toothpicks firmly into the ball spacing the toothpicks somewhat evenly to cover most of the ball. 3. Cut a handful of toothpicks in half, and fill in the empty spaces on the ball as much as possible without pulling out the toothpicks that are already there. You’re done when you can’t fit in anymore toothpicks without some falling out! 4. Use scissors to trim the sharp ends off the toothpicks, to leave blunt edges around the ball. 42 | fyimagazineny.com 5. Prepare a bowlful of glitter, and lay the balls out onto sheets of newspaper on the table. Use spray paint in the color of your choice, coating them evenly. While the paint is still wet, sprinkle glitter all over the ball, rotating it in your hands until the ball is nice and sparkly! 6. Cut a piece of string to the required length for hanging the ball, and make a loose knot on one end, without pulling it tight for now. Gently wrap the string around the ball, and pull the empty end of the string through the knot, creating a slipknot. Tighten the string around the ball, and hang to decorate. fyi the search for happiness >>
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get a handle on it get a handle on it Looking for Happiness in All the Right Places WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN I recently returned from a trip to Israel, leading around 30 men and women, aged 21-30. They were on their second visit to Israel, anticipating another adventure and fun trip like they had experienced on Birthright. This trip, while it did have the traveling aspect, was filled with many classes on Jewish thought. At the end of these 10 days, a miracle happened. Most of these participants came from lavish homes in North America. They had gone to good schools, had always had plenty of food, nice things, warm showers, comfortable beds, and anything they wanted. Most of them knew a life of typical Western privilege. And, now at the age where they could readily make their own choices, how did they typically spend their time? Enjoying nights out with friends, shopping for new clothing, attending sports events, and the like. These 30 participants were able to live comfortably and enjoy their time outside of work however they pleased. Yet, when asked, many of them claimed to be deeply unhappy. Why? On the trip, we spent 10 days in typical Israeli hotels, some with bugs crawling on the sinks. We drank instant coffee instead of brewed, we sat on a nauseating bus for hours, we barely did any laundry and our clothes were dirty from hikes and THE THINGS THAT ARE TYPICALLY HARDER TO DO ARE USUALLY THE ONES WORTH FIGHTING FOR. donkeys. Instead of going shopping or to sports events, we visited the graves of holy people, caves from the past, and had classes on Torah. Yet at the end of these 10 days, the beautiful participants of the trip cried tears of joy. Their eyes sparkled as they spoke about their newfound happiness. They were afraid to leave, for fear of their new happiness staying behind. In these 10 days, a surprising new kind of joy fell upon them and they didn't quite know why. It’s interesting that the choices they were making in their lives, presumably to bring them happiness, were making them so unhappy. Yet when crammed on a bus with 30 other people, given so-so food, and taught classes on the meaning of life, their happiness emerged. One of the beautiful truths sewn into the fabric of our lives is that of dichotomy. G-d created the world in a way where what we expect is not always true. My husband has often made the statement, “If it is hard then it’s probably right.” 44 | fyimagazineny.com As human beings, we are preprogrammed with a notion that whatever is easy and readily pleasurable is good, and anything hard is not worth having; however, the remarkable dichotomy of the world is that G-d made it just the opposite. The things that are typically harder to do are usually the ones worth fighting for. Happiness is similar. We may fill our lives with the things that appear shiny and glimmering on the outside, but many times, these things lose their sheen quickly; however, it’s the things that appear a bit more boring and bland that tend to have a shining, glimmering inside. These may take longer to reach, but are usually worth the digging. So, where do we find happiness? In the moments that make our lives meaningful, around people who help us grow, with inside knowledge that teaches us truth. When we surround ourselves by these things, our lives are changed from deep within. The participants discovered this truth on the trip. They knew something deep and beautiful penetrated their hearts and they knew they had to have more. Unlike their shiny objects and their past attempts at happiness, the spiritual journey in Israel offered so much more. Inside this world of “mundaneness,” they found the wisdom of the Torah, the beauty of life and a new way to love. Herein lies a modern day miracle. fyi
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  Looking for Happiness in All the Right Places WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN  I  recently...
get a handle on it get a handle on it Looking for Happiness in All the Right Places WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN I recently returned from a trip to Israel, leading around 30 men and women, aged 21-30. They were on their second visit to Israel, anticipating another adventure and fun trip like they had experienced on Birthright. This trip, while it did have the traveling aspect, was filled with many classes on Jewish thought. At the end of these 10 days, a miracle happened. Most of these participants came from lavish homes in North America. They had gone to good schools, had always had plenty of food, nice things, warm showers, comfortable beds, and anything they wanted. Most of them knew a life of typical Western privilege. And, now at the age where they could readily make their own choices, how did they typically spend their time? Enjoying nights out with friends, shopping for new clothing, attending sports events, and the like. These 30 participants were able to live comfortably and enjoy their time outside of work however they pleased. Yet, when asked, many of them claimed to be deeply unhappy. Why? On the trip, we spent 10 days in typical Israeli hotels, some with bugs crawling on the sinks. We drank instant coffee instead of brewed, we sat on a nauseating bus for hours, we barely did any laundry and our clothes were dirty from hikes and THE THINGS THAT ARE TYPICALLY HARDER TO DO ARE USUALLY THE ONES WORTH FIGHTING FOR. donkeys. Instead of going shopping or to sports events, we visited the graves of holy people, caves from the past, and had classes on Torah. Yet at the end of these 10 days, the beautiful participants of the trip cried tears of joy. Their eyes sparkled as they spoke about their newfound happiness. They were afraid to leave, for fear of their new happiness staying behind. In these 10 days, a surprising new kind of joy fell upon them and they didn't quite know why. It’s interesting that the choices they were making in their lives, presumably to bring them happiness, were making them so unhappy. Yet when crammed on a bus with 30 other people, given so-so food, and taught classes on the meaning of life, their happiness emerged. One of the beautiful truths sewn into the fabric of our lives is that of dichotomy. G-d created the world in a way where what we expect is not always true. My husband has often made the statement, “If it is hard then it’s probably right.” 44 | fyimagazineny.com As human beings, we are preprogrammed with a notion that whatever is easy and readily pleasurable is good, and anything hard is not worth having; however, the remarkable dichotomy of the world is that G-d made it just the opposite. The things that are typically harder to do are usually the ones worth fighting for. Happiness is similar. We may fill our lives with the things that appear shiny and glimmering on the outside, but many times, these things lose their sheen quickly; however, it’s the things that appear a bit more boring and bland that tend to have a shining, glimmering inside. These may take longer to reach, but are usually worth the digging. So, where do we find happiness? In the moments that make our lives meaningful, around people who help us grow, with inside knowledge that teaches us truth. When we surround ourselves by these things, our lives are changed from deep within. The participants discovered this truth on the trip. They knew something deep and beautiful penetrated their hearts and they knew they had to have more. Unlike their shiny objects and their past attempts at happiness, the spiritual journey in Israel offered so much more. Inside this world of “mundaneness,” they found the wisdom of the Torah, the beauty of life and a new way to love. Herein lies a modern day miracle. fyi
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Q: Life Coach Surie Frenkel fall in love with life RECENTLY I noticed how many of the things I do are done to get appreciation from people around me. I dream of saying smart, or funny, or witty things at just the right time. I keep helping people on a large Facebook group and wait for the people to thank me, or just know that they’ll see how smart, funny, and helpful I am. When I talk to people and make them laugh, that is what makes me happy. It’s like all the things I do are done to be appreciated. It is an addiction. Some of my life decisions Am I a were based on the will to be seen by people in a good way. My happiness depends on the approval of others! Even writing this PEOPLE PLEASER? question is for you to think how smart I am and think of my poor situation. Can you please give me some self-help ideas and book names to overcome this addiction, and start discovering and doing what I WANT to do? Thank you very much, Shoshana A: DEAR SHOSHANA, Let me start by acknowledging you as a gifted and talented individual. The fact that you have what it takes to entertain, enlighten, or engage people is a wonderful asset. You are very wise to acknowledge that whereas doing all this is valuable, that coming from a weak, needy place loses its power to truly fulfill us. In the same way that giving money to a worthwhile cause is special, doing it solely for the honor that it brings ultimately doesn’t feed the giver at all. Your awareness, honesty, and willingness to shift to a better place are invaluable. These are the attributes that are needed to achieve an authentic state of happiness. It is quite obvious to me that the root of your pain is your disconnection from your own worthiness, or self-esteem. You have lost the ability to recharge yourself, and you therfore look to others to recharge you.
Q   Life Coach Surie Frenkel  fall in love with life  RECENTLY  I noticed how many of the things I  do are done to get app...
Q: Life Coach Surie Frenkel fall in love with life RECENTLY I noticed how many of the things I do are done to get appreciation from people around me. I dream of saying smart, or funny, or witty things at just the right time. I keep helping people on a large Facebook group and wait for the people to thank me, or just know that they’ll see how smart, funny, and helpful I am. When I talk to people and make them laugh, that is what makes me happy. It’s like all the things I do are done to be appreciated. It is an addiction. Some of my life decisions Am I a were based on the will to be seen by people in a good way. My happiness depends on the approval of others! Even writing this PEOPLE PLEASER? question is for you to think how smart I am and think of my poor situation. Can you please give me some self-help ideas and book names to overcome this addiction, and start discovering and doing what I WANT to do? Thank you very much, Shoshana A: DEAR SHOSHANA, Let me start by acknowledging you as a gifted and talented individual. The fact that you have what it takes to entertain, enlighten, or engage people is a wonderful asset. You are very wise to acknowledge that whereas doing all this is valuable, that coming from a weak, needy place loses its power to truly fulfill us. In the same way that giving money to a worthwhile cause is special, doing it solely for the honor that it brings ultimately doesn’t feed the giver at all. Your awareness, honesty, and willingness to shift to a better place are invaluable. These are the attributes that are needed to achieve an authentic state of happiness. It is quite obvious to me that the root of your pain is your disconnection from your own worthiness, or self-esteem. You have lost the ability to recharge yourself, and you therfore look to others to recharge you.
Q   Life Coach Surie Frenkel  fall in love with life  RECENTLY  I noticed how many of the things I  do are done to get app...
The need to feel worthy is normal and healthy. This is the basis of our self-image that allows us to accomplish our purpose in this world. When we doubt our worthiness, we don’t have the strength to develop our self-respect that comes through choosing to do what is right, and subsequently, to develop our self-confidence. Every human being is gifted at birth with a peace from above. You and I and every person that ever walked this planet is special and worthy simply because he is carrying within him a Godly soul. We get this worthiness for free without having to do anything to earn it. Every child knows this intuitively. Can you imagine a 2-month-old baby wondering if he has the right to wake his mother during the night because he is hungry? Of course not. Why? Because she is so in touch with her natural state of knowing that she is valuable, and so it doesn’t occur to her to think of any other possibility. What happens is that as we become more integrated in our world, we progressively ingest the messages and beliefs from our parents, family, culture, media, and the general world around us. In the best-case scenario, the message we should hear is the reinforcement of our God-given specialness. The reality is frequently otherwise. If our own parents are not sure about their own value, or when the media keeps pushing unrealistic goals, with time, we internalize these misguided messages and believe them to be the truth. The chattering that goes on quietly, yet consistently, in our minds, slowly but surely undermines our sense of self. We then seek to overcome the negativity with the positive feedback from external sources. The key to resolving this is acknowledging that we already have it; we only need to recognize it. In the same way that we have an abundance of air to breathe and still sometimes find ourselves holding our breath, all we need to do is remind ourselves that it’s all ours! One of the most wonderful gifts we can give our loved ones is the constant reminder of their specialness. When we reinforce this message constantly, the real truth, the reality of who we truly are, becomes ingrained in us. All of us are that child. If we don’t have a parent or a loved one to remind us, we can confirm it ourselves. Take a moment every morning and be mindful of the gift of life that you are receiving. HERE ARE SOME PRACTICAL TOOLS TO HELP YOU REWRITE THE PROGRAM IN YOUR BRAIN: 1. Start every morning with the awareness that you are worthy. 2. Surround yourself with people that value themselves. (An individual that has his own issues of self-esteem will subconsciously seek to pull everyone down with them.) tes uo Q ve Positins o irmatihat Aff t fall in love with life re pi ns i and 3. Listen to positive self-talk affirmations. There are programs written by professionals to help you override years of negative self-talk. It will help you create new patterns in your brain that will work for you. 4. Seeing a therapist is also a good idea and can help you immensely. Self-esteem is the basis for a healthy self-image. When you are fully connected, it becomes possible to progressively earn our self-respect by choosing wisely in every moment. This, then, gives us the infusion of strength to develop our self-confidence in all the life areas in which we need to express our purpose in this world. Shoshana, you are starting from a very good place. Denial is generally the greatest obstacle, and you have overcome that magnificently. As long as you are committed to reconnecting to your own power, be assured that you will come through and reclaim your original birthright of being special and not need anyone outside of yourself to make it so! fyi Surie Frenkel is a certified life coach and co-founder of JEWEL. She is passionate about empowering women to be their best. surie@jewel. community “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.” - GEORGE BERNARD SHAW “There is no one alive who is youer than you.” -DR. SEUSS “There is only one way to avoid criticism. Do nothing. Say nothing. Be nothing.” - ARISTOTLE “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” -ALBERT EINSTEIN “Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.” 48 | fyimagazineny.com 49 | fyimagazineny.com
The need to feel worthy is normal and healthy. This is the basis of our self-image that allows us to accomplish our purpos...
The need to feel worthy is normal and healthy. This is the basis of our self-image that allows us to accomplish our purpose in this world. When we doubt our worthiness, we don’t have the strength to develop our self-respect that comes through choosing to do what is right, and subsequently, to develop our self-confidence. Every human being is gifted at birth with a peace from above. You and I and every person that ever walked this planet is special and worthy simply because he is carrying within him a Godly soul. We get this worthiness for free without having to do anything to earn it. Every child knows this intuitively. Can you imagine a 2-month-old baby wondering if he has the right to wake his mother during the night because he is hungry? Of course not. Why? Because she is so in touch with her natural state of knowing that she is valuable, and so it doesn’t occur to her to think of any other possibility. What happens is that as we become more integrated in our world, we progressively ingest the messages and beliefs from our parents, family, culture, media, and the general world around us. In the best-case scenario, the message we should hear is the reinforcement of our God-given specialness. The reality is frequently otherwise. If our own parents are not sure about their own value, or when the media keeps pushing unrealistic goals, with time, we internalize these misguided messages and believe them to be the truth. The chattering that goes on quietly, yet consistently, in our minds, slowly but surely undermines our sense of self. We then seek to overcome the negativity with the positive feedback from external sources. The key to resolving this is acknowledging that we already have it; we only need to recognize it. In the same way that we have an abundance of air to breathe and still sometimes find ourselves holding our breath, all we need to do is remind ourselves that it’s all ours! One of the most wonderful gifts we can give our loved ones is the constant reminder of their specialness. When we reinforce this message constantly, the real truth, the reality of who we truly are, becomes ingrained in us. All of us are that child. If we don’t have a parent or a loved one to remind us, we can confirm it ourselves. Take a moment every morning and be mindful of the gift of life that you are receiving. HERE ARE SOME PRACTICAL TOOLS TO HELP YOU REWRITE THE PROGRAM IN YOUR BRAIN: 1. Start every morning with the awareness that you are worthy. 2. Surround yourself with people that value themselves. (An individual that has his own issues of self-esteem will subconsciously seek to pull everyone down with them.) tes uo Q ve Positins o irmatihat Aff t fall in love with life re pi ns i and 3. Listen to positive self-talk affirmations. There are programs written by professionals to help you override years of negative self-talk. It will help you create new patterns in your brain that will work for you. 4. Seeing a therapist is also a good idea and can help you immensely. Self-esteem is the basis for a healthy self-image. When you are fully connected, it becomes possible to progressively earn our self-respect by choosing wisely in every moment. This, then, gives us the infusion of strength to develop our self-confidence in all the life areas in which we need to express our purpose in this world. Shoshana, you are starting from a very good place. Denial is generally the greatest obstacle, and you have overcome that magnificently. As long as you are committed to reconnecting to your own power, be assured that you will come through and reclaim your original birthright of being special and not need anyone outside of yourself to make it so! fyi Surie Frenkel is a certified life coach and co-founder of JEWEL. She is passionate about empowering women to be their best. surie@jewel. community “People who say it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it.” - GEORGE BERNARD SHAW “There is no one alive who is youer than you.” -DR. SEUSS “There is only one way to avoid criticism. Do nothing. Say nothing. Be nothing.” - ARISTOTLE “Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” -ALBERT EINSTEIN “Don’t look back, you’re not going that way.” 48 | fyimagazineny.com 49 | fyimagazineny.com
The need to feel worthy is normal and healthy. This is the basis of our self-image that allows us to accomplish our purpos...
FEEL YOUR BEST get a handle on it I DENTAL IMPLANTS: what you need to know 50 | fyimagazineny.com mplants, bone grafts, crowns. To most people, these words sound scary and intimidating. But after speaking to Dr. Omid Termechi at the Center for Comprehensive Implants and Aesthetic Dentistry, you might change your mind. For over a decade, Dr. Termechi has been helping his patients regain their ability to eat, eliminate dental discomfort and rebuild their confidence so they can face the world with a smile. What are implants, and why would someone choose to have this procedure done? Dr. Termechi explains, “Although some cases are harder than others, in reality the process sounds much worse than it really is. An implant is a screw that is embedded in the bone. It supports a ‘crown,’ which replaces the tooth. Unless one is gravely ill, almost everyone is eligible for implants and many choose to do so for a variety of reasons. Some are missing teeth, either genetically or through an accident, and they want them replaced. Many times these patients are young - sixteen to eighteen years old - and this procedure allows them to gain function and provides a great cosmetic result. When I replace the front teeth of an eighteenyear-old girl, soon to be married, I’ve enhanced her quality of life. She can smile proudly.” Older patients can opt for surgical implants to act as an anchor for dentures that are uncomfortable or unpleasant to deal with. The dentures are created to “button into” the implant, holding them securely without the discomfort of creams and adhesives. This can change a patient’s life drastically, allowing them to eat normally and improving their ability to taste. “Ultimately,” notes Dr. Termechi, “teeth go through wear and tear. With time they tend to fail; they may fracture or be damaged by infection. Implants allow a person to regain what they had in their youth: healthy, strong, beautiful teeth.” All this sounds great but for many, the main question is: “Is this procedure painful?” “Most people are scared of the unknown,” Dr. Termechi agrees. “They don’t know what to expect, and so they associate the procedure with pain and discomfort. Unfortunately, anyone who has had a bad experience tends to advertise it. But in the majority of cases, patients experience successful implants, are happy with the results and just move on. You don’t hear about it. In actuality, a single implant is a short procedure. The patient misses, at most, one day of work and may need a Tylenol to follow up. For more extensive work, a patient’s pain will be managed carefully. During the procedure they are made very comfortable, either under local or general anesthetic. Afterwards, if they have any pain we can put them on a regimen of medications to keep them comfortable.” Almost every medical professional has a story to tell about dealing with a really nervous patient. When I asked Dr. Termechi what he does under those circumstances, he shared a surprising fact. “When a patient is really, really scared, it’s essentially only a management issue for me. I may prescribe a sedative to calm them, or I might call in an expert colleague to act as anesthesiologist. The necessary expertise and the implementation of the surgery remain the same. But actually, the patient does himself a great disservice when he allows himself to panic. He communicates his stress, and it affects those who are 51 | fyimagazineny.com
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FEEL YOUR BEST get a handle on it I DENTAL IMPLANTS: what you need to know 50 | fyimagazineny.com mplants, bone grafts, crowns. To most people, these words sound scary and intimidating. But after speaking to Dr. Omid Termechi at the Center for Comprehensive Implants and Aesthetic Dentistry, you might change your mind. For over a decade, Dr. Termechi has been helping his patients regain their ability to eat, eliminate dental discomfort and rebuild their confidence so they can face the world with a smile. What are implants, and why would someone choose to have this procedure done? Dr. Termechi explains, “Although some cases are harder than others, in reality the process sounds much worse than it really is. An implant is a screw that is embedded in the bone. It supports a ‘crown,’ which replaces the tooth. Unless one is gravely ill, almost everyone is eligible for implants and many choose to do so for a variety of reasons. Some are missing teeth, either genetically or through an accident, and they want them replaced. Many times these patients are young - sixteen to eighteen years old - and this procedure allows them to gain function and provides a great cosmetic result. When I replace the front teeth of an eighteenyear-old girl, soon to be married, I’ve enhanced her quality of life. She can smile proudly.” Older patients can opt for surgical implants to act as an anchor for dentures that are uncomfortable or unpleasant to deal with. The dentures are created to “button into” the implant, holding them securely without the discomfort of creams and adhesives. This can change a patient’s life drastically, allowing them to eat normally and improving their ability to taste. “Ultimately,” notes Dr. Termechi, “teeth go through wear and tear. With time they tend to fail; they may fracture or be damaged by infection. Implants allow a person to regain what they had in their youth: healthy, strong, beautiful teeth.” All this sounds great but for many, the main question is: “Is this procedure painful?” “Most people are scared of the unknown,” Dr. Termechi agrees. “They don’t know what to expect, and so they associate the procedure with pain and discomfort. Unfortunately, anyone who has had a bad experience tends to advertise it. But in the majority of cases, patients experience successful implants, are happy with the results and just move on. You don’t hear about it. In actuality, a single implant is a short procedure. The patient misses, at most, one day of work and may need a Tylenol to follow up. For more extensive work, a patient’s pain will be managed carefully. During the procedure they are made very comfortable, either under local or general anesthetic. Afterwards, if they have any pain we can put them on a regimen of medications to keep them comfortable.” Almost every medical professional has a story to tell about dealing with a really nervous patient. When I asked Dr. Termechi what he does under those circumstances, he shared a surprising fact. “When a patient is really, really scared, it’s essentially only a management issue for me. I may prescribe a sedative to calm them, or I might call in an expert colleague to act as anesthesiologist. The necessary expertise and the implementation of the surgery remain the same. But actually, the patient does himself a great disservice when he allows himself to panic. He communicates his stress, and it affects those who are 51 | fyimagazineny.com
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get a handle on it 2015 update going on now Is your business listed? Call smart list today to register your business on the app available for five towns boro park flatbush monsey williamsburg lakewood montreal POST YOUR BUSINESS BANNER AD IN THIS SPOT ON SMARTLIST. BE SEEN BY 1000s OF SHOPPERS DAILY. kiryas yoel staten island 5 Towns Far-Rockaway chicago bergen county seagate cleveland melbourne, australia England: golders green manchester stamford hill gateshead & more! israel & europe coming soon! Text the word SMART to 99629 for an automatic link phone 732.730.5330 www.smartlistlocal.com email banners@lionscribe.com FEEL YOUR BEST working with him. The atmosphere becomes unnecessarily tense for everyone. It’s something that a patient should be aware of and should try to avoid. The best thing he can do for himself is to try to relax and let us do our job.” The technology behind dental implants is already ten to fifteen years old, but techniques are always being refined and perfected. Today, talented dentists in the field of implants work with the teeth and gums, harmonizing their looks and performance. It has become less and less of an aggressive procedure and is punctuated by constant advancements. Dr. Termechi’s goal is to utilize these advancements for his patients. “It’s all about quality. My goal is that my patients be happy with the product they get from me. Properly done, an implant should last long-term. Besides patient satisfaction, my goal is to provide high-caliber work that would be approved of by my dental colleagues. If my patient ends up in another dentist’s chair, either because he’s moved or because he’s traveling, I want that dentist to be satisfied with what he sees. Top quality all around.” “Also, I don’t take shortcuts. You know, you can buy shoes from Payless and you can buy shoes from Barney’s. They’ll both work - but there’s a tremendous difference! So too in seeking expert dental care. If you see a great disparity among dentists regarding what they promise, that should arouse your curiosity. You should ask questions and do some research. A dental plan may seem to work within your budget but, in the long run, it may be a shortcut and it will cost you more. I see several patients a week who come to me for consultations after having unsuccessful implants elsewhere. Correcting a failed implant requires more time, surgery, discomfort and money. In fact, these consults become the material I use in my lectures for the ADA CELL Seminar Series. I would advise anyone interested in having implants to ask questions and research their options in order to make educated decisions. If you have the means, don’t shortchange yourself. At the end of the day, it will be more expensive.” For Dr. Termechi, the key is quality and continuity. His expertise and passion for his work ensure that his patients will leave with a big, beautiful smile. fyi FEEL YOUR BEST fall in love with life 5 MINUTES TO FITNESS The exercise of the month is "SUPERHERO." It’s very important and should be given attention at least two to three times a week. Superhero works the entire lower back region and includes the Glutes and Hamstrings. This is a great supplemental exercise to crunches and can be done at home in less than 5 minutes. On a mat, lie flat face-down, reach your arms out in front of you with your thumbs facing up towards the ceiling and extend your legs behind you. Proceed to raise your arms, chest, and legs. Simultaneously contract and hold those muscles for 3-5 seconds while keeping the spine and neck neutral. Repeat 3 sets at 12-15 repetitions. Rebecca Blue is a fitness enthusiast for over 27 years. She is the co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue1994@yahoo.com **Focus is on the Erector Spinae muscles. This group of muscles is considered the lower lumbar region of the spine, or lower back as we know it. The Erector Spinae is primarily responsible for the extension of the back and is a key component in providing strength to keep our body upright. Our lower lumbar is directly related to having a strong overall core, so we must not forget to work those muscles as hard if not harder than our abdominals. fyi A graduate of NYU School of Dentistry, Dr. Termechi served numerous residencies in Brookdale Hospital, Kingsbrook Jewish Hospital and Interfaith Medical Center. He is presently an associate clinical professor at NYU in the Department of Implants and Periodontics, and lectures nationally for the American Dental Association’s CELL Seminar Series on a variety of topics involving implants and bone grafting. His offices are located in Lawrence and Astoria. web To get even more amazing visuals, follow us: Book your event at: www.michicas.com  845-426-0747  events@michicas.com
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get a handle on it 2015 update going on now Is your business listed? Call smart list today to register your business on the app available for five towns boro park flatbush monsey williamsburg lakewood montreal POST YOUR BUSINESS BANNER AD IN THIS SPOT ON SMARTLIST. BE SEEN BY 1000s OF SHOPPERS DAILY. kiryas yoel staten island 5 Towns Far-Rockaway chicago bergen county seagate cleveland melbourne, australia England: golders green manchester stamford hill gateshead & more! israel & europe coming soon! Text the word SMART to 99629 for an automatic link phone 732.730.5330 www.smartlistlocal.com email banners@lionscribe.com FEEL YOUR BEST working with him. The atmosphere becomes unnecessarily tense for everyone. It’s something that a patient should be aware of and should try to avoid. The best thing he can do for himself is to try to relax and let us do our job.” The technology behind dental implants is already ten to fifteen years old, but techniques are always being refined and perfected. Today, talented dentists in the field of implants work with the teeth and gums, harmonizing their looks and performance. It has become less and less of an aggressive procedure and is punctuated by constant advancements. Dr. Termechi’s goal is to utilize these advancements for his patients. “It’s all about quality. My goal is that my patients be happy with the product they get from me. Properly done, an implant should last long-term. Besides patient satisfaction, my goal is to provide high-caliber work that would be approved of by my dental colleagues. If my patient ends up in another dentist’s chair, either because he’s moved or because he’s traveling, I want that dentist to be satisfied with what he sees. Top quality all around.” “Also, I don’t take shortcuts. You know, you can buy shoes from Payless and you can buy shoes from Barney’s. They’ll both work - but there’s a tremendous difference! So too in seeking expert dental care. If you see a great disparity among dentists regarding what they promise, that should arouse your curiosity. You should ask questions and do some research. A dental plan may seem to work within your budget but, in the long run, it may be a shortcut and it will cost you more. I see several patients a week who come to me for consultations after having unsuccessful implants elsewhere. Correcting a failed implant requires more time, surgery, discomfort and money. In fact, these consults become the material I use in my lectures for the ADA CELL Seminar Series. I would advise anyone interested in having implants to ask questions and research their options in order to make educated decisions. If you have the means, don’t shortchange yourself. At the end of the day, it will be more expensive.” For Dr. Termechi, the key is quality and continuity. His expertise and passion for his work ensure that his patients will leave with a big, beautiful smile. fyi FEEL YOUR BEST fall in love with life 5 MINUTES TO FITNESS The exercise of the month is "SUPERHERO." It’s very important and should be given attention at least two to three times a week. Superhero works the entire lower back region and includes the Glutes and Hamstrings. This is a great supplemental exercise to crunches and can be done at home in less than 5 minutes. On a mat, lie flat face-down, reach your arms out in front of you with your thumbs facing up towards the ceiling and extend your legs behind you. Proceed to raise your arms, chest, and legs. Simultaneously contract and hold those muscles for 3-5 seconds while keeping the spine and neck neutral. Repeat 3 sets at 12-15 repetitions. Rebecca Blue is a fitness enthusiast for over 27 years. She is the co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue1994@yahoo.com **Focus is on the Erector Spinae muscles. This group of muscles is considered the lower lumbar region of the spine, or lower back as we know it. The Erector Spinae is primarily responsible for the extension of the back and is a key component in providing strength to keep our body upright. Our lower lumbar is directly related to having a strong overall core, so we must not forget to work those muscles as hard if not harder than our abdominals. fyi A graduate of NYU School of Dentistry, Dr. Termechi served numerous residencies in Brookdale Hospital, Kingsbrook Jewish Hospital and Interfaith Medical Center. He is presently an associate clinical professor at NYU in the Department of Implants and Periodontics, and lectures nationally for the American Dental Association’s CELL Seminar Series on a variety of topics involving implants and bone grafting. His offices are located in Lawrence and Astoria. web To get even more amazing visuals, follow us: Book your event at: www.michicas.com  845-426-0747  events@michicas.com
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FEEL YOUR BEST fall in love with life Liquid Gold: W ith the New Year approaching, we find ourselves wishing each other a happy, healthy, and sweet New Year. Thinking of Rosh Hashanah brings various food-related customs to mind. The head of a fish, pomegranates, round challahs, and arguably the most famous of all dipping an apple in honey, are all associated with Rosh Hashanah. The symbolism of dipping an apple into honey promises a sweet year ahead. Honey is loaded with health and medicinal benefits, and is a natural treasure of hidden value that possesses antiseptic and antibacterial properties; however, many of honey's health claims still require further scientific studies to confirm the research. According to the National Honey Board, a tablespoon of raw (unpasteurized) honey contains 64 calories, is fat-free, cholesterol-free, and sodium-free. In spite of these benefits, never feed raw honey to infants until they are 12-months old. Spores of Clostridium botulinum bacteria - found in dirt and dust, may contaminate honey and can lead to infant botulism. The botulism bacteria produces a toxin inside the body which can cause muscle weakness and breathing problems. Raw honey consumption is safe for older adults and kids since they have a mature digestive system which can tolerate the bacterial spores. Consume honey responsibly and you may reap the numerous health benefits of this “liquid gold.” The health benefits of honey ALLEVIATES ALLERGIES: Seasonal allergy sufferers may consider adding a little local honey to their prevention regimen. Some holistic practitioners believe that honey may reduce seasonal allergies in the same preventive manner that allergy shots do. Dr. Matthew Brennecke, a naturopathic doctor from Colorado, explained that honey contains small amounts of pollen, which in minute amounts can trigger an immune response in the body that produces antibodies to the pollen. After repeated exposure to the pollen, your body builds up these antibodies, and the body becomes accustomed to their presence. This leads to reduced histamine being released by the body, resulting in a lowered allergic response. COUGH SUPPRESSANT: When it comes to a pesky cough, honey may be the all-natural cure. According to a 2012 study published in the journal Pediatrics, a persistent cough may be remedied with two teaspoons of honey. The study found that children aged 1-5, with nighttime coughs due to colds and upper respiratory infections, coughed less frequently after ingesting two teaspoons of honey 30 minutes prior to going to bed. Honey’s thick consistency helps coat the throat, while its sweet taste is believed to trigger nerve endings that protect the throat from incessant coughing. 54 | fyimagazineny.com SLEEP AID: When faced with sleepless nights, honey may be the answer you’ve been searching for. Similar to sugar, honey can cause a rise in insulin and release serotonin, a neurotransmitter that improves mood and happiness. Once tryptophan, an amino acid, enters the brain, the body converts it to serotonin and then melatonin, which help regulate the length and quality of your sleep and wake cycles. TREATING DANDRUFF: Honey can bring temporary relief to the scalp by targeting dandruff. Some research shows that applying honey diluted with 10% warm water to problem areas, and leaving it on for 3 hours before rinsing it out, led to itch-relief and reduced scaling within a week. Skin lesions healed within two weeks of regular honey-solution use and some users showed a reduction in hair loss. Also, thanks to honey’s anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties, it can also treat seborrhoeic dermatitis, which is often caused by an overgrowth of fungus on the scalp. As you dip the apples into the honey this Rosh Hashanah, be mindful of the health benefits of honey. Wishing you all a happy, healthy, and SWEET New Year. fyi Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s degree in Nutrition. She provides nutritional counseling in the Five Towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/illnesses. To make an appointment with Leah, send an email to Leahbrg@gmail.com
FEEL YOUR BEST  fall in love with life  Liquid Gold  W  ith the New Year approaching, we find ourselves wishing each other...
FEEL YOUR BEST fall in love with life Liquid Gold: W ith the New Year approaching, we find ourselves wishing each other a happy, healthy, and sweet New Year. Thinking of Rosh Hashanah brings various food-related customs to mind. The head of a fish, pomegranates, round challahs, and arguably the most famous of all dipping an apple in honey, are all associated with Rosh Hashanah. The symbolism of dipping an apple into honey promises a sweet year ahead. Honey is loaded with health and medicinal benefits, and is a natural treasure of hidden value that possesses antiseptic and antibacterial properties; however, many of honey's health claims still require further scientific studies to confirm the research. According to the National Honey Board, a tablespoon of raw (unpasteurized) honey contains 64 calories, is fat-free, cholesterol-free, and sodium-free. In spite of these benefits, never feed raw honey to infants until they are 12-months old. Spores of Clostridium botulinum bacteria - found in dirt and dust, may contaminate honey and can lead to infant botulism. The botulism bacteria produces a toxin inside the body which can cause muscle weakness and breathing problems. Raw honey consumption is safe for older adults and kids since they have a mature digestive system which can tolerate the bacterial spores. Consume honey responsibly and you may reap the numerous health benefits of this “liquid gold.” The health benefits of honey ALLEVIATES ALLERGIES: Seasonal allergy sufferers may consider adding a little local honey to their prevention regimen. Some holistic practitioners believe that honey may reduce seasonal allergies in the same preventive manner that allergy shots do. Dr. Matthew Brennecke, a naturopathic doctor from Colorado, explained that honey contains small amounts of pollen, which in minute amounts can trigger an immune response in the body that produces antibodies to the pollen. After repeated exposure to the pollen, your body builds up these antibodies, and the body becomes accustomed to their presence. This leads to reduced histamine being released by the body, resulting in a lowered allergic response. COUGH SUPPRESSANT: When it comes to a pesky cough, honey may be the all-natural cure. According to a 2012 study published in the journal Pediatrics, a persistent cough may be remedied with two teaspoons of honey. The study found that children aged 1-5, with nighttime coughs due to colds and upper respiratory infections, coughed less frequently after ingesting two teaspoons of honey 30 minutes prior to going to bed. Honey’s thick consistency helps coat the throat, while its sweet taste is believed to trigger nerve endings that protect the throat from incessant coughing. 54 | fyimagazineny.com SLEEP AID: When faced with sleepless nights, honey may be the answer you’ve been searching for. Similar to sugar, honey can cause a rise in insulin and release serotonin, a neurotransmitter that improves mood and happiness. Once tryptophan, an amino acid, enters the brain, the body converts it to serotonin and then melatonin, which help regulate the length and quality of your sleep and wake cycles. TREATING DANDRUFF: Honey can bring temporary relief to the scalp by targeting dandruff. Some research shows that applying honey diluted with 10% warm water to problem areas, and leaving it on for 3 hours before rinsing it out, led to itch-relief and reduced scaling within a week. Skin lesions healed within two weeks of regular honey-solution use and some users showed a reduction in hair loss. Also, thanks to honey’s anti-bacterial and anti-fungal properties, it can also treat seborrhoeic dermatitis, which is often caused by an overgrowth of fungus on the scalp. As you dip the apples into the honey this Rosh Hashanah, be mindful of the health benefits of honey. Wishing you all a happy, healthy, and SWEET New Year. fyi Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s degree in Nutrition. She provides nutritional counseling in the Five Towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/illnesses. To make an appointment with Leah, send an email to Leahbrg@gmail.com
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fall in love with life fall in love with life GOING THE EXTRA MILE The non-profit organization Miles for Life (Kanfei Chayim) is on a mission to get sick patients care from the best possible medical facilities through the use of donated airline miles. S THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS WHICH YOU MAY HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT AND ARE WORTH THE MENTION. tarted only three months ago, Miles for Life has already booked over 146 flights for critically ill people and family members, saving over $100,000.00 through donated air mileage. Malky Kaufman, aged 32, started the organization when a family member needed air tickets from New York to a Cleveland Clinic for her father’s life-saving heart procedure. Malky, who had British Airways miles, investigated how many air miles were needed to book the tickets. “When I discovered I could get a one-way flight to Cleveland for 4,500 points (that flight could cost $585 and only $45 for cashed-in airline miles) a light bulb went off in my head,” said Malky. “I realized that I had stumbled onto a very important service that could make a huge financial, emotional, and practical difference to a patient.” In April 2015, Malky’s husband, Kalman, founded the organization Miles for Life with Malky in the driver’s seat, and launched the worthwhile service. To start, Malky reached out to businessmen traveling nationally and overseas who demonstrated very high credit card activity linked to airline miles. In conjunction with ads WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY 56 | fyimagazineny.com 57 | fyimagazineny.com
fall in love with life  fall in love with life  GOING THE EXTRA MILE The non-profit organization Miles for Life  Kanfei Ch...
fall in love with life fall in love with life GOING THE EXTRA MILE The non-profit organization Miles for Life (Kanfei Chayim) is on a mission to get sick patients care from the best possible medical facilities through the use of donated airline miles. S THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS WHICH YOU MAY HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT AND ARE WORTH THE MENTION. tarted only three months ago, Miles for Life has already booked over 146 flights for critically ill people and family members, saving over $100,000.00 through donated air mileage. Malky Kaufman, aged 32, started the organization when a family member needed air tickets from New York to a Cleveland Clinic for her father’s life-saving heart procedure. Malky, who had British Airways miles, investigated how many air miles were needed to book the tickets. “When I discovered I could get a one-way flight to Cleveland for 4,500 points (that flight could cost $585 and only $45 for cashed-in airline miles) a light bulb went off in my head,” said Malky. “I realized that I had stumbled onto a very important service that could make a huge financial, emotional, and practical difference to a patient.” In April 2015, Malky’s husband, Kalman, founded the organization Miles for Life with Malky in the driver’s seat, and launched the worthwhile service. To start, Malky reached out to businessmen traveling nationally and overseas who demonstrated very high credit card activity linked to airline miles. In conjunction with ads WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY 56 | fyimagazineny.com 57 | fyimagazineny.com
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fall in love with life “Interactions with family members are conducted with the greatest sensitivity and attention to detail.” get a handle on it in Yiddish newspapers, Malky appeared in small classified ads to request airline mileage from patrons. “I am amazed at how quickly and generously people from across the spectrum responded.” Malky, who formerly worked in the financial field, now works around the clock to accumulate airline miles with a staff of highly experienced and compassionate booking agents. According to Malky, “Interactions with family members are conducted with the greatest sensitivity and attention to detail.” Short notice requests are one of Malky’s biggest challenges: A family that needs to fly very soon with only limited flight options, can create a scramble to find sponsors for the trip. “A trip that would take me 10-15 minutes to arrange ends up taking 4-6 hours.” Miles for Life is currently expanding their database, and raising funds for marketing. Donors can help by having their passwords on hand (to access the airline miles). So, how to make airline miles count and get involved? Simply call Miles for Life and give the booking agents your details, including airline mileage type to be entered into the secure database. No account is too small and there is no commitment necessary. As soon as a booking request comes in, the database is searched for a mileage account that matches the booking specifics. If it’s a fit, Miles for Life contacts you 58 | fyimagazineny.com and offers the opportunity to sponsor the trip. Once the necessary mileage is secured, Miles for Life books the flights. It’s that easy, and no need to give more of your time or energy than that. Malky is motivated to keep going by Divine intervention and help she has experienced every step of the way. “Once I got a call from a patient who’d been discharged and needed a flight home. I didn’t have that mileage available but immediately after I hung up the phone, a donor called in to donate exactly that amount. Within a half-hour, they were off to the airport. Another time, a patient with an extremely rare medical condition was able to see a specialist at the Mayo Clinic, and ended up discovering something potentially fatal.” “No one needs to suffer additionally because they lack the funds, mileage, and/or knowledge to book tickets to fly to the facility that could potentially save their life,” says Malky. “We consider it an honor and a privilege to assist.” fyi “Back to School”: It’s the season that instills a feeling of dread and trepidation in most children and parents alike. >>
fall in love with life     Interactions with family members are conducted with the greatest sensitivity and attention to d...
fall in love with life “Interactions with family members are conducted with the greatest sensitivity and attention to detail.” get a handle on it in Yiddish newspapers, Malky appeared in small classified ads to request airline mileage from patrons. “I am amazed at how quickly and generously people from across the spectrum responded.” Malky, who formerly worked in the financial field, now works around the clock to accumulate airline miles with a staff of highly experienced and compassionate booking agents. According to Malky, “Interactions with family members are conducted with the greatest sensitivity and attention to detail.” Short notice requests are one of Malky’s biggest challenges: A family that needs to fly very soon with only limited flight options, can create a scramble to find sponsors for the trip. “A trip that would take me 10-15 minutes to arrange ends up taking 4-6 hours.” Miles for Life is currently expanding their database, and raising funds for marketing. Donors can help by having their passwords on hand (to access the airline miles). So, how to make airline miles count and get involved? Simply call Miles for Life and give the booking agents your details, including airline mileage type to be entered into the secure database. No account is too small and there is no commitment necessary. As soon as a booking request comes in, the database is searched for a mileage account that matches the booking specifics. If it’s a fit, Miles for Life contacts you 58 | fyimagazineny.com and offers the opportunity to sponsor the trip. Once the necessary mileage is secured, Miles for Life books the flights. It’s that easy, and no need to give more of your time or energy than that. Malky is motivated to keep going by Divine intervention and help she has experienced every step of the way. “Once I got a call from a patient who’d been discharged and needed a flight home. I didn’t have that mileage available but immediately after I hung up the phone, a donor called in to donate exactly that amount. Within a half-hour, they were off to the airport. Another time, a patient with an extremely rare medical condition was able to see a specialist at the Mayo Clinic, and ended up discovering something potentially fatal.” “No one needs to suffer additionally because they lack the funds, mileage, and/or knowledge to book tickets to fly to the facility that could potentially save their life,” says Malky. “We consider it an honor and a privilege to assist.” fyi “Back to School”: It’s the season that instills a feeling of dread and trepidation in most children and parents alike. >>
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get a handle on it W hile this does not hold true for all children, it is typical for children to feel apprehensive about the transition from summer to fall for many reasons. These reasons include a general fear of change and transition, anxiety about academics, and worry about class and teacher placement. Most powerful of all fears for some children, though, is the anxiety they feel due to the coming social interaction and challenges at school. While some children have an inborn ability to navigate the choppy waters of socialization in a skillful get a handle on it manner, many children struggle in this regard. This can be understandably painful for a child to experience and for parents to witness. The good news is that social skills can be cultivated and fostered as early as preschool age. During this time, children learn many valuable lessons about social interaction, such as sharing, empathy, problem solving, emotion regulation, and positive discipline. Although children learn social skills via several outlets, parents play an especially important role in nurturing pre- 60 | fyimagazineny.com school social skills. Parents can do this by teaching their children how to handle emotions from a very young age. For example, labeling toddlers’ feelings for them can provide the skills to effectively communicate how they feel versus acting on their feelings in a negative manner (“You are feeling really angry with your brother because he won’t share his toys with you”). Talking to children about their feelings as well as your own teaches children that all feelings are normal. It also gives them models of how to regulate emotions in a way that makes them ready to cope with negative feelings such as anger and disappointment - important social skills. Another way to foster positive social skills is by building a strong and loving relationship with your child. Children who feel that they can rely on their parent(s) for emotional support no matter what, form a secure attachment which makes them more empathic and cooperative by nature, and hence more socially adaptable. Social skills are further honed when parents and children are highly responsive to each other’s social cues and communicate with each other in a positive and empathic manner. Therefore, when your child tearfully approaches you with a problem he or she is experiencing, try to remain calm, empathic, and validating no matter how trivial or insignificant you feel the problem to be. Never dismiss a child’s negative emotions, as this will not allow them to learn effective self-control or social competency. As with most parenting, preschool aged children often mimic their parents’ behaviors. Therefore, try to maintain a generally positive and warm atmosphere in the home. In addition, inspire confidence in your children by instilling a “can-do” attitude in them. Never allow your child to observe you putting yourself down in any manner, such as insinuating that you are not “good enough.” This attitude is very catchy among young children, as they are at the stage where they must achieve mastery in many ways, be it academically, socially, or physically. When children notice that their parents feel flawed, they will automatically reflect this type of attitude themselves and seek out their own flaws. On the flip side, AS WITH MOST PARENTING, PRESCHOOL AGED CHILDREN OFTEN MIMIC THEIR PARENTS’ BEHAVIORS. children take on a cheerful and positive “can-do” attitude about themselves when they observe their parents doing the same. This type of attitude helps children in the social realm, as they are better able to get along with their peers and resolve conflicts in a positive manner. Lastly, be sure to talk to your child about his or her social experiences. This should be done in a similarly validating and upbeat manner to help your child problem-solve in a positive way (i.e., “It’s very hurtful when others don’t want to play with you, isn’t it? Maybe he just wants to play by himself for a while or is feeling shy.”). By keeping the lines of communication open, you are ensuring that you are mostly “in the know” about your child’s social experiences. It also allows you to provide your child with positive social tactics that he or she might not otherwise think of by themselves. Try not to become overly involved in your child’s social problems. Instead of personalizing the issue, try to analyze the problem as an outsider. Remember that negative social experiences are part and parcel of growing up and are necessary to help your child become a positive problem solver for life. fyi muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Follow @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting humor. muffinsnmoms@gmail.com 61 | fyimagazineny.com To sum up the aforementioned ideas, here are some helpful tips to encourage positive social skills in preschool-aged children: • Teach your child emotional competence by practicing their “feelings vocabulary” with them. • Build a strong and loving relationship with your child so that they feel emotionally supported. • Validate your child’s feelings at all times, no matter how trivial. Never brush off a child’s struggle with feelings. • Model a positive and upbeat “can-do” attitude for your child. • Help your child problemsolve in a positive manner. This can be done by exploring the different reasons they may have been wronged and the positive ways they can go about making amends. • Talk to your child about his or her social experiences. • Try to remain calm and supportive when your child is distressed or overwhelmed. • Role-play effective social skills during playtime. This can be done by playing a board game to encourage sharing, taking turns, and managing disappointment and frustration. Remember that sharing is a particularly difficult skill for preschool children to master. • If needed, advocate for your child. Encourage assertive behavior, never aggression. • Never take your child’s social experiences or hurtful comments personally, as this will only cloud your judgment. Instead, use these instances as teachable moments.
get a handle on it  W  hile this does not hold true for all children, it is typical for children to feel apprehensive abou...
get a handle on it W hile this does not hold true for all children, it is typical for children to feel apprehensive about the transition from summer to fall for many reasons. These reasons include a general fear of change and transition, anxiety about academics, and worry about class and teacher placement. Most powerful of all fears for some children, though, is the anxiety they feel due to the coming social interaction and challenges at school. While some children have an inborn ability to navigate the choppy waters of socialization in a skillful get a handle on it manner, many children struggle in this regard. This can be understandably painful for a child to experience and for parents to witness. The good news is that social skills can be cultivated and fostered as early as preschool age. During this time, children learn many valuable lessons about social interaction, such as sharing, empathy, problem solving, emotion regulation, and positive discipline. Although children learn social skills via several outlets, parents play an especially important role in nurturing pre- 60 | fyimagazineny.com school social skills. Parents can do this by teaching their children how to handle emotions from a very young age. For example, labeling toddlers’ feelings for them can provide the skills to effectively communicate how they feel versus acting on their feelings in a negative manner (“You are feeling really angry with your brother because he won’t share his toys with you”). Talking to children about their feelings as well as your own teaches children that all feelings are normal. It also gives them models of how to regulate emotions in a way that makes them ready to cope with negative feelings such as anger and disappointment - important social skills. Another way to foster positive social skills is by building a strong and loving relationship with your child. Children who feel that they can rely on their parent(s) for emotional support no matter what, form a secure attachment which makes them more empathic and cooperative by nature, and hence more socially adaptable. Social skills are further honed when parents and children are highly responsive to each other’s social cues and communicate with each other in a positive and empathic manner. Therefore, when your child tearfully approaches you with a problem he or she is experiencing, try to remain calm, empathic, and validating no matter how trivial or insignificant you feel the problem to be. Never dismiss a child’s negative emotions, as this will not allow them to learn effective self-control or social competency. As with most parenting, preschool aged children often mimic their parents’ behaviors. Therefore, try to maintain a generally positive and warm atmosphere in the home. In addition, inspire confidence in your children by instilling a “can-do” attitude in them. Never allow your child to observe you putting yourself down in any manner, such as insinuating that you are not “good enough.” This attitude is very catchy among young children, as they are at the stage where they must achieve mastery in many ways, be it academically, socially, or physically. When children notice that their parents feel flawed, they will automatically reflect this type of attitude themselves and seek out their own flaws. On the flip side, AS WITH MOST PARENTING, PRESCHOOL AGED CHILDREN OFTEN MIMIC THEIR PARENTS’ BEHAVIORS. children take on a cheerful and positive “can-do” attitude about themselves when they observe their parents doing the same. This type of attitude helps children in the social realm, as they are better able to get along with their peers and resolve conflicts in a positive manner. Lastly, be sure to talk to your child about his or her social experiences. This should be done in a similarly validating and upbeat manner to help your child problem-solve in a positive way (i.e., “It’s very hurtful when others don’t want to play with you, isn’t it? Maybe he just wants to play by himself for a while or is feeling shy.”). By keeping the lines of communication open, you are ensuring that you are mostly “in the know” about your child’s social experiences. It also allows you to provide your child with positive social tactics that he or she might not otherwise think of by themselves. Try not to become overly involved in your child’s social problems. Instead of personalizing the issue, try to analyze the problem as an outsider. Remember that negative social experiences are part and parcel of growing up and are necessary to help your child become a positive problem solver for life. fyi muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Follow @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting humor. muffinsnmoms@gmail.com 61 | fyimagazineny.com To sum up the aforementioned ideas, here are some helpful tips to encourage positive social skills in preschool-aged children: • Teach your child emotional competence by practicing their “feelings vocabulary” with them. • Build a strong and loving relationship with your child so that they feel emotionally supported. • Validate your child’s feelings at all times, no matter how trivial. Never brush off a child’s struggle with feelings. • Model a positive and upbeat “can-do” attitude for your child. • Help your child problemsolve in a positive manner. This can be done by exploring the different reasons they may have been wronged and the positive ways they can go about making amends. • Talk to your child about his or her social experiences. • Try to remain calm and supportive when your child is distressed or overwhelmed. • Role-play effective social skills during playtime. This can be done by playing a board game to encourage sharing, taking turns, and managing disappointment and frustration. Remember that sharing is a particularly difficult skill for preschool children to master. • If needed, advocate for your child. Encourage assertive behavior, never aggression. • Never take your child’s social experiences or hurtful comments personally, as this will only cloud your judgment. Instead, use these instances as teachable moments.
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get a handle on it get a handle on it 5 WAYS TO AVOID I Comedian George Burns once said “Happiness is having a warm, caring, closely-knit family in another city.” It’s just so easy to get along when you are not in the proximity of your parents, in-laws, married siblings and their children or extended in-law family. It’s when you spend hours together on Yom Tov that things can begin to get sticky. But with some forethought, planning, and these tips, your family get-together this year can be smooth and memorable. DRAMA WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER OVER YOM YOV 62 | fyimagazineny.com Most people don’t think of this during the hectic pre-Yom Tov preparation. Prepare your children. Have many conversations with them: at the dinner table, while you travel and before bedtime. Tell them what is expected of them, what to do if they get into a fight with their cousins, what never to do at Grandma’s house and how to behave properly at a table full of guests. Many embarrassing scenarios (i.e. my little sister saying” Ugh! The soup has too much salt in it!”) could be avoided if children are properly prompted and prepared. Role play, story tell and have the kids ask questions about anything that may be unclear to them. away from expressing negativity, sarcasm, or any nasty comments you may be thinking (like when your nephew sweeps the cream off your dessert with his fingers). 3. Accept and Forgive. Before you walk through the door, work on eliminating past grievances against any of your family members. Make a conscious effort! Holding grudges is bound to make Yom Tov a miserable experience. Remember it’s 100% normal that every parent has her own parenting style, every child has his/her own level of self-control, and every family has its own minhagim. Don’t try to convince those at the table that your way of doing things is best. This leads to the next thing: 1. Expectations should be clearly stated: Much planning goes into each Yom Tov meal, where to place everybody and how to entertain the children. Each family has different preferences, planning styles, food menus, and of course, expectations. This tip is helpful for whoever is hosting and planning the Yom Tov meals and accommodations. Tell each child, guest, or family exactly what you expect them to contribute or would like for them to bring along (or leave at home- like that loud drum their toddler was busy banging last year). If all are told what is expected of them in advance, many misunderstandings and aggravation can be avoided. Of course, if expectations are not met, do your best to stay positive and just let things go. 4. Respect. You may not agree with your sister’s parenting methods, but you need to respect her as a person and parent. NEVER argue with a brother, sister, brother-in-law, or sister- in-law about their parenting abilities or lack thereof in front of their children. NEVER grimace or show any disrespect for your family member’s minhagim or lack of it. That is certain to get you into an argument or brawl that may turn unforgivable. 2. Communicate respectfully and openly. It’s okay to tell your sister that you don’t appreciate that she lectured/punished your kid-as long as you are smiling and respectful. You don’t have to feel bad asking your brother or sister to watch your kids if they are staying up one afternoon and you are desperately tired. You’d be amazed at how interested and helpful most of your extended family really is. Instead of hinting, nagging, or just being annoyed, be direct and honest. While that doesn’t mean you have to tell your family everything you are thinking about them, it is advisable to keep the lines of communication open. Keep 5. Be flexible and ready to sacrifice. So the meal turned out longer than you expected and your kids got rowdy? That is bound to happen when 25 people sit around the table! Your dessert wasn’t served because everyone was full? Don’t be insulted. Serve it the next day. Your sister-in-law has no room for all her children in her bedroom? Offer to take one into your kids’ room if you can! If you can exhibit calmness, flexibility, and a willingness to please all your family members, they will come that extra mile too. People relax when they feel their best interest is being kept in mind. fyi 63 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  5 WAYS TO  AVOID I  Comedian George Burns once said    Happiness is having a warm,...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 5 WAYS TO AVOID I Comedian George Burns once said “Happiness is having a warm, caring, closely-knit family in another city.” It’s just so easy to get along when you are not in the proximity of your parents, in-laws, married siblings and their children or extended in-law family. It’s when you spend hours together on Yom Tov that things can begin to get sticky. But with some forethought, planning, and these tips, your family get-together this year can be smooth and memorable. DRAMA WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER OVER YOM YOV 62 | fyimagazineny.com Most people don’t think of this during the hectic pre-Yom Tov preparation. Prepare your children. Have many conversations with them: at the dinner table, while you travel and before bedtime. Tell them what is expected of them, what to do if they get into a fight with their cousins, what never to do at Grandma’s house and how to behave properly at a table full of guests. Many embarrassing scenarios (i.e. my little sister saying” Ugh! The soup has too much salt in it!”) could be avoided if children are properly prompted and prepared. Role play, story tell and have the kids ask questions about anything that may be unclear to them. away from expressing negativity, sarcasm, or any nasty comments you may be thinking (like when your nephew sweeps the cream off your dessert with his fingers). 3. Accept and Forgive. Before you walk through the door, work on eliminating past grievances against any of your family members. Make a conscious effort! Holding grudges is bound to make Yom Tov a miserable experience. Remember it’s 100% normal that every parent has her own parenting style, every child has his/her own level of self-control, and every family has its own minhagim. Don’t try to convince those at the table that your way of doing things is best. This leads to the next thing: 1. Expectations should be clearly stated: Much planning goes into each Yom Tov meal, where to place everybody and how to entertain the children. Each family has different preferences, planning styles, food menus, and of course, expectations. This tip is helpful for whoever is hosting and planning the Yom Tov meals and accommodations. Tell each child, guest, or family exactly what you expect them to contribute or would like for them to bring along (or leave at home- like that loud drum their toddler was busy banging last year). If all are told what is expected of them in advance, many misunderstandings and aggravation can be avoided. Of course, if expectations are not met, do your best to stay positive and just let things go. 4. Respect. You may not agree with your sister’s parenting methods, but you need to respect her as a person and parent. NEVER argue with a brother, sister, brother-in-law, or sister- in-law about their parenting abilities or lack thereof in front of their children. NEVER grimace or show any disrespect for your family member’s minhagim or lack of it. That is certain to get you into an argument or brawl that may turn unforgivable. 2. Communicate respectfully and openly. It’s okay to tell your sister that you don’t appreciate that she lectured/punished your kid-as long as you are smiling and respectful. You don’t have to feel bad asking your brother or sister to watch your kids if they are staying up one afternoon and you are desperately tired. You’d be amazed at how interested and helpful most of your extended family really is. Instead of hinting, nagging, or just being annoyed, be direct and honest. While that doesn’t mean you have to tell your family everything you are thinking about them, it is advisable to keep the lines of communication open. Keep 5. Be flexible and ready to sacrifice. So the meal turned out longer than you expected and your kids got rowdy? That is bound to happen when 25 people sit around the table! Your dessert wasn’t served because everyone was full? Don’t be insulted. Serve it the next day. Your sister-in-law has no room for all her children in her bedroom? Offer to take one into your kids’ room if you can! If you can exhibit calmness, flexibility, and a willingness to please all your family members, they will come that extra mile too. People relax when they feel their best interest is being kept in mind. fyi 63 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  5 WAYS TO  AVOID I  Comedian George Burns once said    Happiness is having a warm,...
get a handle on it get a handle on it HOW TO ORGANIZE Adult furniture and organizing systems do not translate well to children’s needs. Bring it all down to your child’s level. Lower closet rods. Invest in child-size hangers YOUR KID’S BEDROOM 64 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CREDIT TO GO IN THERE Children, with their angelic faces and innocent postures, hide behind a deceiving façade of unbridled mischief, mayhem, and monkeyshines! These little people possess a penchant for big messes, and it is up to us to keep it in check. i WRITTEN BY REVA LIEBERMAN It is never too early to start teaching the fundamental basics of tidiness. You might find it easier and less complicated to do it yourself - but don’t! Teach your child the basics, and the lesson will last a lifetime. As with every other room into which we venture, the key word is DECLUTTER. Organize the room: ship-shape and spit-spot! How often have we uttered the famous words: “It’s time to clean up?!” Well, this time when you say it, mean it. And, if you follow my lead, the chore will actually be pleasant and your children will genuinely cooperate. Each room need not be a battleground; let it be a playground toward which they delightfully gravitate. Make it a game, make it fun, and see how quickly they’ll follow your lead. 65 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  HOW TO ORGANIZE  Adult furniture and organizing systems do not translate well to c...
get a handle on it get a handle on it HOW TO ORGANIZE Adult furniture and organizing systems do not translate well to children’s needs. Bring it all down to your child’s level. Lower closet rods. Invest in child-size hangers YOUR KID’S BEDROOM 64 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CREDIT TO GO IN THERE Children, with their angelic faces and innocent postures, hide behind a deceiving façade of unbridled mischief, mayhem, and monkeyshines! These little people possess a penchant for big messes, and it is up to us to keep it in check. i WRITTEN BY REVA LIEBERMAN It is never too early to start teaching the fundamental basics of tidiness. You might find it easier and less complicated to do it yourself - but don’t! Teach your child the basics, and the lesson will last a lifetime. As with every other room into which we venture, the key word is DECLUTTER. Organize the room: ship-shape and spit-spot! How often have we uttered the famous words: “It’s time to clean up?!” Well, this time when you say it, mean it. And, if you follow my lead, the chore will actually be pleasant and your children will genuinely cooperate. Each room need not be a battleground; let it be a playground toward which they delightfully gravitate. Make it a game, make it fun, and see how quickly they’ll follow your lead. 65 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  HOW TO ORGANIZE  Adult furniture and organizing systems do not translate well to c...
get a handle on it get a handle on it Your kids cannot put things away if there is no place for the stuff to go. Work with your children to choose funky shelves, cubbies, bookcases, and storage boxes. Make it functional, and make it fun! BRING THE CHILD INTO THE PROCESS Resist the urge to wade into the mess alone. Make it a learning experience. Become your child’s consultant, guide, mentor, and partner regarding the science of organization. Children definitely follow your lead. They look up to you, and they assess what behavior you are modeling. They do as you do. Teach your children organizational skills and maintenance methods and above all, inculcate them with the knowledge that cleanliness is next to Godliness. If they are involved in the effort, they are better able to comprehend the logic of maintaining an organized and neat room. The more involved the kids feel in the process, the more dedicated they will be to keeping their space and their place tidy. TAKE A CHILD’S-EYE VIEW Get down into your child’s mind and look at his room from his perspective. The view may astound you. It’s a miniature version of your room - the operative word being miniature. Adult furniture and organizing systems do not translate well to children’s needs. Bring it all down to your child’s level. Lower closet rods, and invest in child-size hangers. Colorful and uniform hangers make the closet a pleasure to look at and will encourage the child to want to keep it orderly. (Get rid of those unsightly dry cleaner-style hangers.) USE FLOOR-LEVEL CONTAINERS TO HOLD TOYS Kids are Mother Nature’s original hoarders. They prize every piece of junk and treat it as a precious heirloom to cherish and to keep forever. Where do they keep these treasures? In their rooms! Certificates, fair trophies, school event handouts, behavior stars, Midos awards, and arcade prizes going back to nursery school - they have them all. I’ve come up with a simple, yet effective plan. Give each child a medium-size container and let them fill it to the brim with their personal valuables and knickknacks. When the container is full and they decide they want to add another trinket, they must first remove items from the container to make room. This is a good way to control the clutter, keep inventory, and dispose of what they no longer want to keep. Have a laundry hamper, specifically for your child, in the room, so that dirty clothes are immediately placed in the hamper and not stuffed under the pillow. ORGANIZE BOTTOM TO TOP A well-organized children’s room offers two benefits: kids can find what they are looking for, and the room is a pleasure to look at because everything is neatly placed. Befitting a child’s shorter stature, start organizing library? Take a huge container (or even a black garbage bag) and place a selection of toys in the “library.” Store the container in an out-of-the-way place for a few months. Then, one day, reintroduce these stored playthings. Swap them. It’ll be like getting an entire batch of new toys, and your kids will be thrilled to see their “old friends.” This eliminates clutter, and the toys won’t be under foot in the room. The success of this simple rotation system is incredible. Use different containers for different toys: cars, stuffed animals, dolls, building blocks, farm sets, etc. This way, you can control how many boxes are out at one time. “When you put away your Legos, you can take out your dolls…” One primary rule to remember: make it easier to put away and more difficult to get out. This makes the cleanup activity more appealing. SECRET STORAGE SPACES You’d be amazed at how much space is available for extra storage. You just have to know where to look for them. A little enterprising effort and you can create space in an area where you thought there was none. GET THE MAXI FOR YOUR MINI from the bottom of the room and work up to the top. Most-used toys and belongings should live on lower shelves, in lower drawers, or on the floor. Higher levels are designated for less frequently used possessions. Working bottom to top, the best-loved teddy bear sits in a small rocker on the floor, while the extensive Beanie Baby collection is displayed on a shelf six feet up the wall. And don’t forget to label, label, label! AFTER A YEAR, CLEAR Teach children the one-year rule: If you haven’t used it in 12 months, chances are you never will. Throw it out, donate it to charity, sell it on eBay, or do whatever works for you. SELECT SEPARATE, STOW Kids’ rooms are usually small and often shared. Kids can’t stay organized when a closet is crammed, when the drawers are stuffed, and when their playthings cover each square inch of carpet. TO CLEAN THE ROOM, YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE ROOM It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised at how often this glaringly obvious fact is overlooked. Your kids 66 | fyimagazineny.com cannot put things away if there is no place for the stuff to go. Work with your children to choose funky shelves, cubbies, bookcases, and storage boxes. Make it functional, and make it fun! Let’s start by sorting the clothing. Out-of-season and outgrown clothing does not belong in the room - move them out. Empty the dresser and the closet, and start from scratch. Separate shorts and long pants, Shabbos outfits, and everyday clothing. Long-sleeved shirts/blouses hang together, and short-sleeved ones are in a separate section. Use dividers in sock drawers so that tube socks, anklets, knee socks, tights, etc., are in individual compartments. This way, kids won’t unfold seven pairs of tube socks until they find the specific pair of socks they want. Most kids’ dressers and night tables are filled with sundry items that probably don’t belong there (reminiscent of your kitchen drawer shamble before straightening it out). Go through each item, and ask your children if this adds to the aesthetic beauty of the room. If it isn’t pleasing to the eye, it should be placed in a memory box or toy box. Display beautiful items such as artwork, projects, and paintings that your child created. Did you ever consider the option of creating a toy • • • • • • Put bins under the bed. Hang racks over the door. Shoe bags over the door - ready-made storage space. Get a headboard with compartments. Sling a bag between the mattress and box spring for easy-to-reach favorite items. Mount shelves on empty wall space. BUILD A MAINTENANCE ROUTINE The typical and standard approach to room cleaning can exasperate, irritate, and frustrate children. This can be a breeding ground for tantrums. Children start off in a neat, clean room, they play, and suddenly, their room is an awful mess. Help children stop the vexing cycle by building maintenance routines into the family’s day. MORNING PICKUP: Child straightens the comforter, returns the pillow to the bed, and places yesterday’s clothing into the laundry hamper. EVENING PICKUP: Precedes dressing for bed and involves putting away the day’s toys. Building routines into the family’s schedule will prevent disorder and disarray from becoming overwhelming. fyi Reva Lieberman is court stenographer turned professional organizer. She's had a passion for organizing as long as she can remember. Reva provides services in Brooklyn, Queens and The Five Towns. 347-909-0900 67 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  Your kids cannot put things away if there is no place for the stuff to go. Work wi...
get a handle on it get a handle on it Your kids cannot put things away if there is no place for the stuff to go. Work with your children to choose funky shelves, cubbies, bookcases, and storage boxes. Make it functional, and make it fun! BRING THE CHILD INTO THE PROCESS Resist the urge to wade into the mess alone. Make it a learning experience. Become your child’s consultant, guide, mentor, and partner regarding the science of organization. Children definitely follow your lead. They look up to you, and they assess what behavior you are modeling. They do as you do. Teach your children organizational skills and maintenance methods and above all, inculcate them with the knowledge that cleanliness is next to Godliness. If they are involved in the effort, they are better able to comprehend the logic of maintaining an organized and neat room. The more involved the kids feel in the process, the more dedicated they will be to keeping their space and their place tidy. TAKE A CHILD’S-EYE VIEW Get down into your child’s mind and look at his room from his perspective. The view may astound you. It’s a miniature version of your room - the operative word being miniature. Adult furniture and organizing systems do not translate well to children’s needs. Bring it all down to your child’s level. Lower closet rods, and invest in child-size hangers. Colorful and uniform hangers make the closet a pleasure to look at and will encourage the child to want to keep it orderly. (Get rid of those unsightly dry cleaner-style hangers.) USE FLOOR-LEVEL CONTAINERS TO HOLD TOYS Kids are Mother Nature’s original hoarders. They prize every piece of junk and treat it as a precious heirloom to cherish and to keep forever. Where do they keep these treasures? In their rooms! Certificates, fair trophies, school event handouts, behavior stars, Midos awards, and arcade prizes going back to nursery school - they have them all. I’ve come up with a simple, yet effective plan. Give each child a medium-size container and let them fill it to the brim with their personal valuables and knickknacks. When the container is full and they decide they want to add another trinket, they must first remove items from the container to make room. This is a good way to control the clutter, keep inventory, and dispose of what they no longer want to keep. Have a laundry hamper, specifically for your child, in the room, so that dirty clothes are immediately placed in the hamper and not stuffed under the pillow. ORGANIZE BOTTOM TO TOP A well-organized children’s room offers two benefits: kids can find what they are looking for, and the room is a pleasure to look at because everything is neatly placed. Befitting a child’s shorter stature, start organizing library? Take a huge container (or even a black garbage bag) and place a selection of toys in the “library.” Store the container in an out-of-the-way place for a few months. Then, one day, reintroduce these stored playthings. Swap them. It’ll be like getting an entire batch of new toys, and your kids will be thrilled to see their “old friends.” This eliminates clutter, and the toys won’t be under foot in the room. The success of this simple rotation system is incredible. Use different containers for different toys: cars, stuffed animals, dolls, building blocks, farm sets, etc. This way, you can control how many boxes are out at one time. “When you put away your Legos, you can take out your dolls…” One primary rule to remember: make it easier to put away and more difficult to get out. This makes the cleanup activity more appealing. SECRET STORAGE SPACES You’d be amazed at how much space is available for extra storage. You just have to know where to look for them. A little enterprising effort and you can create space in an area where you thought there was none. GET THE MAXI FOR YOUR MINI from the bottom of the room and work up to the top. Most-used toys and belongings should live on lower shelves, in lower drawers, or on the floor. Higher levels are designated for less frequently used possessions. Working bottom to top, the best-loved teddy bear sits in a small rocker on the floor, while the extensive Beanie Baby collection is displayed on a shelf six feet up the wall. And don’t forget to label, label, label! AFTER A YEAR, CLEAR Teach children the one-year rule: If you haven’t used it in 12 months, chances are you never will. Throw it out, donate it to charity, sell it on eBay, or do whatever works for you. SELECT SEPARATE, STOW Kids’ rooms are usually small and often shared. Kids can’t stay organized when a closet is crammed, when the drawers are stuffed, and when their playthings cover each square inch of carpet. TO CLEAN THE ROOM, YOU HAVE TO MAKE THE ROOM It sounds obvious, but you’d be surprised at how often this glaringly obvious fact is overlooked. Your kids 66 | fyimagazineny.com cannot put things away if there is no place for the stuff to go. Work with your children to choose funky shelves, cubbies, bookcases, and storage boxes. Make it functional, and make it fun! Let’s start by sorting the clothing. Out-of-season and outgrown clothing does not belong in the room - move them out. Empty the dresser and the closet, and start from scratch. Separate shorts and long pants, Shabbos outfits, and everyday clothing. Long-sleeved shirts/blouses hang together, and short-sleeved ones are in a separate section. Use dividers in sock drawers so that tube socks, anklets, knee socks, tights, etc., are in individual compartments. This way, kids won’t unfold seven pairs of tube socks until they find the specific pair of socks they want. Most kids’ dressers and night tables are filled with sundry items that probably don’t belong there (reminiscent of your kitchen drawer shamble before straightening it out). Go through each item, and ask your children if this adds to the aesthetic beauty of the room. If it isn’t pleasing to the eye, it should be placed in a memory box or toy box. Display beautiful items such as artwork, projects, and paintings that your child created. Did you ever consider the option of creating a toy • • • • • • Put bins under the bed. Hang racks over the door. Shoe bags over the door - ready-made storage space. Get a headboard with compartments. Sling a bag between the mattress and box spring for easy-to-reach favorite items. Mount shelves on empty wall space. BUILD A MAINTENANCE ROUTINE The typical and standard approach to room cleaning can exasperate, irritate, and frustrate children. This can be a breeding ground for tantrums. Children start off in a neat, clean room, they play, and suddenly, their room is an awful mess. Help children stop the vexing cycle by building maintenance routines into the family’s day. MORNING PICKUP: Child straightens the comforter, returns the pillow to the bed, and places yesterday’s clothing into the laundry hamper. EVENING PICKUP: Precedes dressing for bed and involves putting away the day’s toys. Building routines into the family’s schedule will prevent disorder and disarray from becoming overwhelming. fyi Reva Lieberman is court stenographer turned professional organizer. She's had a passion for organizing as long as she can remember. Reva provides services in Brooklyn, Queens and The Five Towns. 347-909-0900 67 | fyimagazineny.com
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TOP 12 get a handle on it S tudents who are disappointed with their accomplishments from the previous school year will be eager to make a fresh start. Staying on top of homework, making relationships, being punctual and generally behaving well are all goals of a student looking to start off on the right track; however, this is not a matter to be taken lightly, especially if there isn’t a clear game plan involved. Parents and teachers can be the keys to fulfilling a child’s goals for success. Obviously, it is up to the student to provide a baseline of steady performance; however, there will be gaps in his concentration, endless distractions and eventual boredom once he settles in and the excitement subsides. This is where the parents and teachers can intervene and help him get back on track. The period before school starts is the best time to implement change. When Thanksgiving rolls around and the kids are in trouble again, maybe in detention for frequent lateness or failing their classes, they are too disenchanted to be interested in trying something new. Here are 12 tips to make this transition period a little easier for everyone in the family: 1 From no-hassle days to hair-yanking routines, laced-up shoes and sitting at a desk all day, transition back to school is surely tough for most kids. Anxieties, fears, and insecurities begin to arise. Children know that their schedules will change from a safe, friendly summer environment with their parents and family, to a much more social and academic-based routine. Prepare for the transition as early as possible. The earlier you accept and prepare for the transition, the better the outcome will be. So leave extra time to wake up the kids up, make and eat breakfast, and carpooling. Don’t find yourself in a hurried back- to-back schedule, even on transition days. Get up earlier so you are well prepared. 2 Work on self imposed pressure. Try to relieve some of the pressure your child is imposing on him/ herself by talking about stressful situations and possible solutions. You can be a shoulder to lean on. When your child complains about school, comfort him by saying something like, “It must be so hard for you to feel this way.” 3 Establish a consistent and simple sleep schedule on school nights. One way to help your kids deal with the transition period is to keep their homoeostatic functions running well as much as possible. Make your children well-regulated all the time by ensuring the right amount of sleep, proper diet, and hygiene to help them be their very best. 4 Get school supplies ready. Getting school supplies ready and labeled in bags a day or two before the start of the class helps let the children get ahead of the transition period. Doing it too far in advance doesn’t give them the same preparation. So if you are very organized and have it done, go over the school supplies with your children a few days before they start school. 5 Incorporate movement after school. The summer is full of gross motor play, including swimming and sports. Keep up organized movement after school. It will help children integrate their body into the new schedule and routine. You could use scooters, bikes, Rip Sticks, etc. If your child has a sensory processing disorder, incorporate games that promote sensory processing, such as start and stop activities. These could include running while changing directions, Red Light Green Light, Musical Chairs, throwing and catching, Noise and Seek, Hot and Cold, or finding objects with different textures. 6 Play with them. To help children deal with the transition from school to home quickly and efficiently, play with them 10-15 minutes a day. The activity can be something your child likes or something you both enjoy doing together like dancing to music, taking a car ride and schmoozing, or going out for ice cream. Do an activity in order to connect to your child, not just “be” with him. 7 Tell your child what to expect for the sake of his emotional well-being. Prepare your child in advance for what the school day will be like. Answer any questions he may have. This will help him sort out his expectations. 8 Try EFT for kids. To calm a child before going to school, try using EFT for kids. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a tool used by children and adults alike to overcome fears, worries, and everyday traumas, as well as build their self-esteem. Angie Muccillo’s wonderful book Tapping for Kids is well-recommended by experts. Deep pressure can also calm an anxious child. Try having your child wear a backpack with books or 69 | fyimagazineny.com water bottles in it on the way to school and home for deep pressure input into his body. 9 Make transitioning fun. Try transitioning into the car by moving in different ways such as leap frog, walking like an elephant or a monkey, or alternating between slow and fast walking. Such fun ways of transitioning can relieve the child’s stress. 10 Give your child some “hands” to calm. Give the child something to hold in his hand as he transitions from house to bus to school, such as a pet rock, bean bag, or a latex squeezable item. 11 Provide some freedom. Although starting school requires more structure, provide freedom within the structure so the child can find his way, using methods he feels comfortable with, without feeling stressed or pressured. 12 Make some changes on the homework plan. Try having the child do homework on a surface other than the table, such as taping their homework paper onto an easel, or using cool writing tools. This will make homework a little more interesting while also helping to strengthen fine motor skills. fyi Miriam Manela is the owner of Thrive, an occupational therapy practice, and recently published her new book, The Parent-Child Dance. Miriam is known for her exciting workshops for parents, teachers, college students and therapists. miriam@otthrive.com
TOP 12  get a handle on it  S  tudents who are disappointed with their accomplishments from the previous school year will ...
TOP 12 get a handle on it S tudents who are disappointed with their accomplishments from the previous school year will be eager to make a fresh start. Staying on top of homework, making relationships, being punctual and generally behaving well are all goals of a student looking to start off on the right track; however, this is not a matter to be taken lightly, especially if there isn’t a clear game plan involved. Parents and teachers can be the keys to fulfilling a child’s goals for success. Obviously, it is up to the student to provide a baseline of steady performance; however, there will be gaps in his concentration, endless distractions and eventual boredom once he settles in and the excitement subsides. This is where the parents and teachers can intervene and help him get back on track. The period before school starts is the best time to implement change. When Thanksgiving rolls around and the kids are in trouble again, maybe in detention for frequent lateness or failing their classes, they are too disenchanted to be interested in trying something new. Here are 12 tips to make this transition period a little easier for everyone in the family: 1 From no-hassle days to hair-yanking routines, laced-up shoes and sitting at a desk all day, transition back to school is surely tough for most kids. Anxieties, fears, and insecurities begin to arise. Children know that their schedules will change from a safe, friendly summer environment with their parents and family, to a much more social and academic-based routine. Prepare for the transition as early as possible. The earlier you accept and prepare for the transition, the better the outcome will be. So leave extra time to wake up the kids up, make and eat breakfast, and carpooling. Don’t find yourself in a hurried back- to-back schedule, even on transition days. Get up earlier so you are well prepared. 2 Work on self imposed pressure. Try to relieve some of the pressure your child is imposing on him/ herself by talking about stressful situations and possible solutions. You can be a shoulder to lean on. When your child complains about school, comfort him by saying something like, “It must be so hard for you to feel this way.” 3 Establish a consistent and simple sleep schedule on school nights. One way to help your kids deal with the transition period is to keep their homoeostatic functions running well as much as possible. Make your children well-regulated all the time by ensuring the right amount of sleep, proper diet, and hygiene to help them be their very best. 4 Get school supplies ready. Getting school supplies ready and labeled in bags a day or two before the start of the class helps let the children get ahead of the transition period. Doing it too far in advance doesn’t give them the same preparation. So if you are very organized and have it done, go over the school supplies with your children a few days before they start school. 5 Incorporate movement after school. The summer is full of gross motor play, including swimming and sports. Keep up organized movement after school. It will help children integrate their body into the new schedule and routine. You could use scooters, bikes, Rip Sticks, etc. If your child has a sensory processing disorder, incorporate games that promote sensory processing, such as start and stop activities. These could include running while changing directions, Red Light Green Light, Musical Chairs, throwing and catching, Noise and Seek, Hot and Cold, or finding objects with different textures. 6 Play with them. To help children deal with the transition from school to home quickly and efficiently, play with them 10-15 minutes a day. The activity can be something your child likes or something you both enjoy doing together like dancing to music, taking a car ride and schmoozing, or going out for ice cream. Do an activity in order to connect to your child, not just “be” with him. 7 Tell your child what to expect for the sake of his emotional well-being. Prepare your child in advance for what the school day will be like. Answer any questions he may have. This will help him sort out his expectations. 8 Try EFT for kids. To calm a child before going to school, try using EFT for kids. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is a tool used by children and adults alike to overcome fears, worries, and everyday traumas, as well as build their self-esteem. Angie Muccillo’s wonderful book Tapping for Kids is well-recommended by experts. Deep pressure can also calm an anxious child. Try having your child wear a backpack with books or 69 | fyimagazineny.com water bottles in it on the way to school and home for deep pressure input into his body. 9 Make transitioning fun. Try transitioning into the car by moving in different ways such as leap frog, walking like an elephant or a monkey, or alternating between slow and fast walking. Such fun ways of transitioning can relieve the child’s stress. 10 Give your child some “hands” to calm. Give the child something to hold in his hand as he transitions from house to bus to school, such as a pet rock, bean bag, or a latex squeezable item. 11 Provide some freedom. Although starting school requires more structure, provide freedom within the structure so the child can find his way, using methods he feels comfortable with, without feeling stressed or pressured. 12 Make some changes on the homework plan. Try having the child do homework on a surface other than the table, such as taping their homework paper onto an easel, or using cool writing tools. This will make homework a little more interesting while also helping to strengthen fine motor skills. fyi Miriam Manela is the owner of Thrive, an occupational therapy practice, and recently published her new book, The Parent-Child Dance. Miriam is known for her exciting workshops for parents, teachers, college students and therapists. miriam@otthrive.com
TOP 12  get a handle on it  S  tudents who are disappointed with their accomplishments from the previous school year will ...
get a handle on it your homemaking problems, solved WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED get a handle on it Q. What is the best way to remove those ugly underarm sweat marks from shirts? A. Don't let those yellow, sweat stains make you throw away your shirts. Avoid heat and bleach. Hot water or heat from the dryer sets the yellow stains. Wash the item in cold water, and allow it to air dry until the stain is gone. If the shirt is white, don’t be tempted to bleach the stain. Bleach will actually darken the stains as it reacts with the proteins in sweat. Here’s the mixture and the method: Make a paste of four tablespoons baking soda with one quarter cup of water. (Another method is to mix a cup of warm water with a scoop of OxiClean.) Scrub the paste into the armpits with an old toothbrush or fingernail brush and let it sit for an hour. Wash and dry - not with high heat. Repeat as needed. To remove stubborn stains, repeat these steps. Q. How can I store important receipts and ease the struggle of constant paper clutter? A. Stop searching high and low for important papers, such as warranties, manuals, and receipts. For low-tech users, sort papers by type and organize each subject in an accordion-style file box or folder. Purchase a container with several compartments and labeled pockets to better organize receipts and information by subject, date, or alphabetically. For tech-savvies, check out the Neat App, a digital filing system to transform, organize, and access your important information across all your devices. With the Neat App, manage important files anywhere, anytime using your Smart-phone camera to scan-in receipts, business cards, and other documents. The app’s digital filing system keeps everything organized in designated files and advanced features create expense reports, tax reports, file FSA claims, and track expenses. Low-tech or high-tech, designate an hour each month to get your paper receipts organized. Q. How can I get better prepared and organized for the Yomim Tovim? Which foods can I make in advance and which foods are best prepared fresh? A. There are plenty of dishes that can be prepared and frozen. Freezing food can be divided into three categories: food that freezes perfectly (freeing up time for last minute dishes); food that freezes well (but tastes better fresh); and food that doesn’t freeze well at all. The foods that shouldn’t be frozen must be prepared fresh or a day or two before serving. #1. Perfect for freezing: Meats (freeze gravy in a separate container), gravy, fruit compotes, many desserts such as mousse pies, baked goods, and ice cream, of course. Blended heavy soups freeze very well.. #2. Freezes well: Challah and chicken soup are both fine from the freezer, although there is nothing like having them fresh. Unbaked knishes and turnovers freeze well. Cook the filling, fill the dough, and freeze raw (place in freezer bags or freezer wrap). Some orzo or pasta recipes freeze well too. Note: Be sure to double-wrap or pack food in an air-tight freezer container to avoid freezer burn. #3. Do not freeze: Cooked fish- fresh and gefilte, potatoes, and fresh salads (prepared salad dressings keep well in the fridge). 71 | fyimagazineny.com Q. I need great, creative ideas for using leftover chicken. A. Here is a list of recipes for using leftover chicken: SOUP: Chop up leftover roasted, grilled, or baked chicken and make a pot of soup. Stir in the pre-cooked chicken towards the end of the soup cooking time and ensure that the chicken is heated thoroughly. PASTA: Add chicken to your favorite vegetarian pasta dish for a new variation. Mix with your favorite pasta sauce (pesto and marinara are great choices) for a delicious dish. SALAD: Salads are a great, quick way to use up leftover chicken. Cut chicken into bite-size pieces and toss with salad greens and a rich garlic-mayo dressing. QUESADILLAS, TACOS, or WRAPS: Think outside the tortilla wrapper, too, when it comes to flavors. Try lemon-pepper chicken or chicken teriyaki for a flavor twist on tacos. Add homemade slaw to really top it off. Yum! Q. How do I prevent my potato kugel from turning brown? A. Exposure to air discolors cut or peeled potatoes. Soaking peeled potatoes in very cold water prevents exposure to air. It is as easy as that! Keep the soaking potatoes in the refrigerator until you are ready to cook or bake them. When your oven is fully preheated, then mix your potatoes, and pop the kugel right into the oven! fyi
get a handle on it  your homemaking problems,   solved WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED  get a handle on it  Q. What is the best way...
get a handle on it your homemaking problems, solved WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED get a handle on it Q. What is the best way to remove those ugly underarm sweat marks from shirts? A. Don't let those yellow, sweat stains make you throw away your shirts. Avoid heat and bleach. Hot water or heat from the dryer sets the yellow stains. Wash the item in cold water, and allow it to air dry until the stain is gone. If the shirt is white, don’t be tempted to bleach the stain. Bleach will actually darken the stains as it reacts with the proteins in sweat. Here’s the mixture and the method: Make a paste of four tablespoons baking soda with one quarter cup of water. (Another method is to mix a cup of warm water with a scoop of OxiClean.) Scrub the paste into the armpits with an old toothbrush or fingernail brush and let it sit for an hour. Wash and dry - not with high heat. Repeat as needed. To remove stubborn stains, repeat these steps. Q. How can I store important receipts and ease the struggle of constant paper clutter? A. Stop searching high and low for important papers, such as warranties, manuals, and receipts. For low-tech users, sort papers by type and organize each subject in an accordion-style file box or folder. Purchase a container with several compartments and labeled pockets to better organize receipts and information by subject, date, or alphabetically. For tech-savvies, check out the Neat App, a digital filing system to transform, organize, and access your important information across all your devices. With the Neat App, manage important files anywhere, anytime using your Smart-phone camera to scan-in receipts, business cards, and other documents. The app’s digital filing system keeps everything organized in designated files and advanced features create expense reports, tax reports, file FSA claims, and track expenses. Low-tech or high-tech, designate an hour each month to get your paper receipts organized. Q. How can I get better prepared and organized for the Yomim Tovim? Which foods can I make in advance and which foods are best prepared fresh? A. There are plenty of dishes that can be prepared and frozen. Freezing food can be divided into three categories: food that freezes perfectly (freeing up time for last minute dishes); food that freezes well (but tastes better fresh); and food that doesn’t freeze well at all. The foods that shouldn’t be frozen must be prepared fresh or a day or two before serving. #1. Perfect for freezing: Meats (freeze gravy in a separate container), gravy, fruit compotes, many desserts such as mousse pies, baked goods, and ice cream, of course. Blended heavy soups freeze very well.. #2. Freezes well: Challah and chicken soup are both fine from the freezer, although there is nothing like having them fresh. Unbaked knishes and turnovers freeze well. Cook the filling, fill the dough, and freeze raw (place in freezer bags or freezer wrap). Some orzo or pasta recipes freeze well too. Note: Be sure to double-wrap or pack food in an air-tight freezer container to avoid freezer burn. #3. Do not freeze: Cooked fish- fresh and gefilte, potatoes, and fresh salads (prepared salad dressings keep well in the fridge). 71 | fyimagazineny.com Q. I need great, creative ideas for using leftover chicken. A. Here is a list of recipes for using leftover chicken: SOUP: Chop up leftover roasted, grilled, or baked chicken and make a pot of soup. Stir in the pre-cooked chicken towards the end of the soup cooking time and ensure that the chicken is heated thoroughly. PASTA: Add chicken to your favorite vegetarian pasta dish for a new variation. Mix with your favorite pasta sauce (pesto and marinara are great choices) for a delicious dish. SALAD: Salads are a great, quick way to use up leftover chicken. Cut chicken into bite-size pieces and toss with salad greens and a rich garlic-mayo dressing. QUESADILLAS, TACOS, or WRAPS: Think outside the tortilla wrapper, too, when it comes to flavors. Try lemon-pepper chicken or chicken teriyaki for a flavor twist on tacos. Add homemade slaw to really top it off. Yum! Q. How do I prevent my potato kugel from turning brown? A. Exposure to air discolors cut or peeled potatoes. Soaking peeled potatoes in very cold water prevents exposure to air. It is as easy as that! Keep the soaking potatoes in the refrigerator until you are ready to cook or bake them. When your oven is fully preheated, then mix your potatoes, and pop the kugel right into the oven! fyi
get a handle on it  your homemaking problems,   solved WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED  get a handle on it  Q. What is the best way...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 6 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A MESSY SPOUSE 2. RECOGNIZE GOOD BEHAVIOR. Reward your spouse with a “thank you” or a small gesture when you notice an effort made to be tidy will help bring about a positive change in behavior. Those piles of dirty clothes left on the floor just might diminish into nothingness. Be patient and consistent with your show of appreciation. 3. DESIGNATE A MESSY ZONE FOR YOUR SPOUSE. Decide which areas of the house are most important for you to stay neat and clean. Perhaps, ban chocolate wrappers and empty soda bottles from the living room. Then, loosen up and turn a blind eye to your spouse’s clutter in other, less public rooms. Know when to compromise. WRITTEN BY RACHEL SEGAL 4. DON’T BE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE. Be direct and respectful in your approach with your spouse. This will open their mind to finding a solution for an over-abundance of old newspapers on the bathroom floor. Hints may not always prompt action so discard that approach. 5. SET ASIDE TIME TO TALK. Ensure the proper focus and attention you and your spouse deserve to discuss an important issue in your relationship. Timing is everything: don’t start a talk just as your spouse is rushing off to the gym or is deep in the middle of a work project. 6. BE ON THE SAME TEAM. Discuss ways as equals to create practical solutions for your spouse’s messiness and your aversion to it. Explain your feelings and describe how finding a compromise can strengthen your relationship by alleviating stress and frustration. While it’s not fun to be frustrated about your spouse’s messiness, be aware that being the target of your frustration is also not fun. And most importantly, remember: you’re on the same team! fyi Designate a messy zone for your spouse. Decide which areas of the house are most important for you to stay neat and clean. 1. AVOID NAGGING. No one likes to be nagged. Even knowing that nagging doesn’t work, many of us resort to it anyway. Nagging reinforces negative behavior, and can wear down your relationship if your spouse constantly feels belittled. 72 | fyimagazineny.com 73 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  6 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A MESSY SPOUSE  2. RECOGNIZE GOOD BEHAVIOR. Reward your sp...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 6 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A MESSY SPOUSE 2. RECOGNIZE GOOD BEHAVIOR. Reward your spouse with a “thank you” or a small gesture when you notice an effort made to be tidy will help bring about a positive change in behavior. Those piles of dirty clothes left on the floor just might diminish into nothingness. Be patient and consistent with your show of appreciation. 3. DESIGNATE A MESSY ZONE FOR YOUR SPOUSE. Decide which areas of the house are most important for you to stay neat and clean. Perhaps, ban chocolate wrappers and empty soda bottles from the living room. Then, loosen up and turn a blind eye to your spouse’s clutter in other, less public rooms. Know when to compromise. WRITTEN BY RACHEL SEGAL 4. DON’T BE PASSIVE-AGGRESSIVE. Be direct and respectful in your approach with your spouse. This will open their mind to finding a solution for an over-abundance of old newspapers on the bathroom floor. Hints may not always prompt action so discard that approach. 5. SET ASIDE TIME TO TALK. Ensure the proper focus and attention you and your spouse deserve to discuss an important issue in your relationship. Timing is everything: don’t start a talk just as your spouse is rushing off to the gym or is deep in the middle of a work project. 6. BE ON THE SAME TEAM. Discuss ways as equals to create practical solutions for your spouse’s messiness and your aversion to it. Explain your feelings and describe how finding a compromise can strengthen your relationship by alleviating stress and frustration. While it’s not fun to be frustrated about your spouse’s messiness, be aware that being the target of your frustration is also not fun. And most importantly, remember: you’re on the same team! fyi Designate a messy zone for your spouse. Decide which areas of the house are most important for you to stay neat and clean. 1. AVOID NAGGING. No one likes to be nagged. Even knowing that nagging doesn’t work, many of us resort to it anyway. Nagging reinforces negative behavior, and can wear down your relationship if your spouse constantly feels belittled. 72 | fyimagazineny.com 73 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  6 TIPS FOR DEALING WITH A MESSY SPOUSE  2. RECOGNIZE GOOD BEHAVIOR. Reward your sp...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 11. 1. Planning is everything. Write a to-do list, a shopping list, and plan your menus in advance. Trying to prepare a dish at the eleventh hour on Erev Yom Tov, only to realize that an essential ingredient is missing and the shops are already closed, is a disaster. 2. Experimenting with new recipes at the last minute is a bad idea and a guarantee for unknown results and added stress. Use familiar dishes or test new recipes well in advance of the festivities. 6. Remember: it is okay to ask for help. Let your family contribute to the preparations. Guests will also feel more comfortable if they can help out in small ways, so let them. 7. details of food allergies or special diets (like vegetarian) to ensure suitable menu items for them. Make fridge space by clearing out all non-essentials. Challah, cake, soup, kugel, and meatballs can be frozen in advance. Simply defrost and heat up on Yom Tov. 4. ‘KISS’ or keep it simple, 8. Consider leaving a 3. Ask your guests to provide sweetie! Avoid the pressure to prepare extravagant dishes. (There are so many meals to prepare for the two days of Yom Tov.) Wholesome, tasty, simple food always works best. HOSTING MADE SIMPLE! 5. Think of your family first 15 MUST-TRY TIPS WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER 74 | fyimagazineny.com ILLUSTRATION BY @SLYMDESIGNS Yomim Tovim season is invariably a busy time that involves much preparation, cooking, and hosting guests. But don’t panic! With these tips, you will sail through those preparations with ease. Rather than stressing out, you’ll be able to relax and enjoy hosting your guests. and cook what your family likes best. Your family might not enjoy dining on exotic cuisine meant to impress guests. Prepare an extra special dish or two that you think your guests might enjoy. crock pot on a time switch to cook lunch for the second day of Yom Tov. Cut up fresh salad ingredients quickly before each meal. 9. Serve buffet-style for the main course. This will cut down your serving and prep time, and your guests will feel more comfortable taking what they like. 10. Serve iced water with slices of lemon and orange in beautiful glass carafes as a substitute for soft drinks. 75 | fyimagazineny.com Plan ahead before your guests arrive. Guests showing up at the door when you’re still running around in a panic, starts out the meal on a stressful note. Before going to shul, lay the table in advance by making sure to place any food requiring heating onto the hot plate. Make up some salad dressings while chatting to your guests. Advanced preparation means that you’ll know exactly what needs to be done and when, without forgetting anything. 12. Create a beautiful, non-floral centerpiece. For Rosh Hashana, try a long, thin, rustic wooden tray to fill with green apples. The golden rule for centerpiece is to keep it low so that guests can see each other across the table. 13. Make introductions between new-to-them guests. Think of common interests to use as conversation starters. 14. Clean smarter, not harder. If you’re hosting sleepover guests and you don’t have time to clean the whole house, focus your energy on two areas: the guest room (or wherever they’ll be sleeping) and the bathroom. Meanwhile, no one will be the wiser if you temporarily stash some clutter in your own bedroom. 15. Don’t feel like you need to enter- tain your guests every hour of the day; they’d likely be thankful for some quiet time. This is especially true for overnight guests. fyi
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  11.  1. Planning is everything.  Write a to-do list, a shopping list, and plan you...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 11. 1. Planning is everything. Write a to-do list, a shopping list, and plan your menus in advance. Trying to prepare a dish at the eleventh hour on Erev Yom Tov, only to realize that an essential ingredient is missing and the shops are already closed, is a disaster. 2. Experimenting with new recipes at the last minute is a bad idea and a guarantee for unknown results and added stress. Use familiar dishes or test new recipes well in advance of the festivities. 6. Remember: it is okay to ask for help. Let your family contribute to the preparations. Guests will also feel more comfortable if they can help out in small ways, so let them. 7. details of food allergies or special diets (like vegetarian) to ensure suitable menu items for them. Make fridge space by clearing out all non-essentials. Challah, cake, soup, kugel, and meatballs can be frozen in advance. Simply defrost and heat up on Yom Tov. 4. ‘KISS’ or keep it simple, 8. Consider leaving a 3. Ask your guests to provide sweetie! Avoid the pressure to prepare extravagant dishes. (There are so many meals to prepare for the two days of Yom Tov.) Wholesome, tasty, simple food always works best. HOSTING MADE SIMPLE! 5. Think of your family first 15 MUST-TRY TIPS WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER 74 | fyimagazineny.com ILLUSTRATION BY @SLYMDESIGNS Yomim Tovim season is invariably a busy time that involves much preparation, cooking, and hosting guests. But don’t panic! With these tips, you will sail through those preparations with ease. Rather than stressing out, you’ll be able to relax and enjoy hosting your guests. and cook what your family likes best. Your family might not enjoy dining on exotic cuisine meant to impress guests. Prepare an extra special dish or two that you think your guests might enjoy. crock pot on a time switch to cook lunch for the second day of Yom Tov. Cut up fresh salad ingredients quickly before each meal. 9. Serve buffet-style for the main course. This will cut down your serving and prep time, and your guests will feel more comfortable taking what they like. 10. Serve iced water with slices of lemon and orange in beautiful glass carafes as a substitute for soft drinks. 75 | fyimagazineny.com Plan ahead before your guests arrive. Guests showing up at the door when you’re still running around in a panic, starts out the meal on a stressful note. Before going to shul, lay the table in advance by making sure to place any food requiring heating onto the hot plate. Make up some salad dressings while chatting to your guests. Advanced preparation means that you’ll know exactly what needs to be done and when, without forgetting anything. 12. Create a beautiful, non-floral centerpiece. For Rosh Hashana, try a long, thin, rustic wooden tray to fill with green apples. The golden rule for centerpiece is to keep it low so that guests can see each other across the table. 13. Make introductions between new-to-them guests. Think of common interests to use as conversation starters. 14. Clean smarter, not harder. If you’re hosting sleepover guests and you don’t have time to clean the whole house, focus your energy on two areas: the guest room (or wherever they’ll be sleeping) and the bathroom. Meanwhile, no one will be the wiser if you temporarily stash some clutter in your own bedroom. 15. Don’t feel like you need to enter- tain your guests every hour of the day; they’d likely be thankful for some quiet time. This is especially true for overnight guests. fyi
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  11.  1. Planning is everything.  Write a to-do list, a shopping list, and plan you...
get a handle on it get a handle on it how to change your life in 5 minutes a day Rosh Hashana is that time of year when we stop and reflect on our lives. In spite of doing many good deeds over the past year, we can always do more to improve. C onsider the familiar New Year scenario of making fresh commitments, only to find yourself within a short time, falling back into the old routine. Feelings of guilt and anger at oneself abound. Binging on a box of truffles to calm guilt feelings last as long as the chocolates. Recommitting to promises made is a positive approach. After a few days though, you are back in the guilt stage and the old cycle continues. According to a Forbes study, only 8% of people keep their New Year commitments, while a whopping 77% don’t continue with these commitments past the first week of the New Year. Understanding the power of habits is the underlying secret of how to make change stick. According to experts, 40% of our daily actions aren’t based on actual decisions, but on habits. There are two parts of the brain at work: the front part is the conscious mind and the back part is the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is limited to processes of no more than five pieces of information at a time, while the subconscious mind can process 76 | fyimagazineny.com an endless amount of information. Habits are part of the subconscious mind, containing information about our tiniest, most mundane daily tasks. Without the process of habits, daily life would be very difficult. For example, consider the task of tooth brushing. Your conscious mind would have to start a fresh process and make decisions about how to get the job done. Which hand should hold the brush? Which end of the brush goes into the mouth? Where does the toothpaste go and what is the next step? Since the conscious mind can only process five steps or pieces at a time, it would take a while to recreate or complete the tooth brushing task… plus being exhausted from the decision-making ordeal. Even as a child, with the ability to create habits, your subconscious mind picked up many daily processes. You can now brush your teeth automatically while mentally compiling your grocery list, and still absentmindedly completing all the correct teeth cleaning steps. Thousands of other daily routines such as driving a car or tying shoes are absentminded, but confidently practiced habits. 77 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  how to change your life in 5 minutes a day  Rosh Hashana is that time of year when...
get a handle on it get a handle on it how to change your life in 5 minutes a day Rosh Hashana is that time of year when we stop and reflect on our lives. In spite of doing many good deeds over the past year, we can always do more to improve. C onsider the familiar New Year scenario of making fresh commitments, only to find yourself within a short time, falling back into the old routine. Feelings of guilt and anger at oneself abound. Binging on a box of truffles to calm guilt feelings last as long as the chocolates. Recommitting to promises made is a positive approach. After a few days though, you are back in the guilt stage and the old cycle continues. According to a Forbes study, only 8% of people keep their New Year commitments, while a whopping 77% don’t continue with these commitments past the first week of the New Year. Understanding the power of habits is the underlying secret of how to make change stick. According to experts, 40% of our daily actions aren’t based on actual decisions, but on habits. There are two parts of the brain at work: the front part is the conscious mind and the back part is the subconscious mind. The conscious mind is limited to processes of no more than five pieces of information at a time, while the subconscious mind can process 76 | fyimagazineny.com an endless amount of information. Habits are part of the subconscious mind, containing information about our tiniest, most mundane daily tasks. Without the process of habits, daily life would be very difficult. For example, consider the task of tooth brushing. Your conscious mind would have to start a fresh process and make decisions about how to get the job done. Which hand should hold the brush? Which end of the brush goes into the mouth? Where does the toothpaste go and what is the next step? Since the conscious mind can only process five steps or pieces at a time, it would take a while to recreate or complete the tooth brushing task… plus being exhausted from the decision-making ordeal. Even as a child, with the ability to create habits, your subconscious mind picked up many daily processes. You can now brush your teeth automatically while mentally compiling your grocery list, and still absentmindedly completing all the correct teeth cleaning steps. Thousands of other daily routines such as driving a car or tying shoes are absentminded, but confidently practiced habits. 77 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  how to change your life in 5 minutes a day  Rosh Hashana is that time of year when...
get a handle on it “A bad habit can make a person feel stuck or frustrated, because it is done without conscious thought.” HERE IS A THREE-STEP PROCESS FOR FORMING (GOOD) HABITS: • Cue. A trigger that prompts the brain into automatic mode to use a habit. • Routine. An action to accomplish repeat tasks (physical, mental, or emotional). • Reward. The satisfaction felt after accomplishing the routine. Over time, this loop becomes increasingly automatic. A habit is born out of the intertwining of cue and reward until a powerful sense of anticipation and craving emerges. Allowing the brain to focus on non-habitual tasks, while it automatically performs the routine, provides the reward. Good habits are great, providing continuity with life and everyday personal tasks. A bad habit can make a person feel stuck or frustrated, because it is done without conscious thought. Let’s review how to understand and change a bad habit once and for all. There is a three-step process to create new and improved habits to replace bad habits. Consider weight loss and making a commitment to healthier eating. Your bad habit, three-step process may resemble this: • Cue. Your brain receives a hunger cue. • Routine. Your brain instructs an automatic reaction to quickly eat cake or drink soda. • Reward. Before even attempting to make a healthy choice, your brain provides that familiar satisfied feeling from eating the quick (usually sugar/fat laden) snack. Amazon currently sells 175,000 books on weight loss to feed our quest for a logical solution to illogical habits. Now let’s replace the bad habit pattern or cycle with a healthier one. • Cue. Set the alarm on your phone to ring at lunch time. This is your new cue. • Routine. The alarm is your cue to eat a healthy lunch. • Reward. After your healthy lunch, consider how well your body feels. Repeat this pattern or cycle about 20 times (twice daily), your subconscious mind picks up the new pattern, and it happens automatically. Voilá, a new habit is born! The great effect of creating new habits is a carry-over into all other areas in life. Your confidence in controlling your habits encourages more good habits. Do the math: Spend five minutes a day practicing one new habit; and every 20 days focus on another habit; the result is 18 new habits by Rosh Hashana next year, and a life changed forever for the better. Do you have five minutes today to spare for this three-step process? Sure! fyi 78 | fyimagazineny.com in your busıness SOME HABITS TO WORK ON There are so many habitsgood and bad. Habits become second nature. Which ones really are bad habits? Let’s review a list of common habits that have room for improvement: SECRECY. Keep your most private information secret and not for sharing. But, constant secrecy can creepily become a bad habit if everything is kept secret from others. SNACKING. Avoid missing regular meals and snacking throughout the day. Create a new habit of eating three healthy meals a day. NOMOPHOBIA. Kick the habit of checking your cell phone every two minutes. Separation anxiety is just that - ‘anxiety.’ It is simply a bad habit. LATENESS. Arrive on time and stop using traffic as an excuse for arriving late. Create a better habit to change it and surprise others (and yourself) with new-found promptness. CHEATING AND LYING. Tell the truth and don’t cheat (with cards or a spouse)! It is simply not a worthwhile habit, no matter how natural it feels to a persistent cheater or liar. Pick your favorite habit to change and get to work. WHY HATE WHOLE LIFE INSURANCE? >> .
get a handle on it     A bad habit can make a person feel stuck or frustrated, because it is done without conscious though...
get a handle on it “A bad habit can make a person feel stuck or frustrated, because it is done without conscious thought.” HERE IS A THREE-STEP PROCESS FOR FORMING (GOOD) HABITS: • Cue. A trigger that prompts the brain into automatic mode to use a habit. • Routine. An action to accomplish repeat tasks (physical, mental, or emotional). • Reward. The satisfaction felt after accomplishing the routine. Over time, this loop becomes increasingly automatic. A habit is born out of the intertwining of cue and reward until a powerful sense of anticipation and craving emerges. Allowing the brain to focus on non-habitual tasks, while it automatically performs the routine, provides the reward. Good habits are great, providing continuity with life and everyday personal tasks. A bad habit can make a person feel stuck or frustrated, because it is done without conscious thought. Let’s review how to understand and change a bad habit once and for all. There is a three-step process to create new and improved habits to replace bad habits. Consider weight loss and making a commitment to healthier eating. Your bad habit, three-step process may resemble this: • Cue. Your brain receives a hunger cue. • Routine. Your brain instructs an automatic reaction to quickly eat cake or drink soda. • Reward. Before even attempting to make a healthy choice, your brain provides that familiar satisfied feeling from eating the quick (usually sugar/fat laden) snack. Amazon currently sells 175,000 books on weight loss to feed our quest for a logical solution to illogical habits. Now let’s replace the bad habit pattern or cycle with a healthier one. • Cue. Set the alarm on your phone to ring at lunch time. This is your new cue. • Routine. The alarm is your cue to eat a healthy lunch. • Reward. After your healthy lunch, consider how well your body feels. Repeat this pattern or cycle about 20 times (twice daily), your subconscious mind picks up the new pattern, and it happens automatically. Voilá, a new habit is born! The great effect of creating new habits is a carry-over into all other areas in life. Your confidence in controlling your habits encourages more good habits. Do the math: Spend five minutes a day practicing one new habit; and every 20 days focus on another habit; the result is 18 new habits by Rosh Hashana next year, and a life changed forever for the better. Do you have five minutes today to spare for this three-step process? Sure! fyi 78 | fyimagazineny.com in your busıness SOME HABITS TO WORK ON There are so many habitsgood and bad. Habits become second nature. Which ones really are bad habits? Let’s review a list of common habits that have room for improvement: SECRECY. Keep your most private information secret and not for sharing. But, constant secrecy can creepily become a bad habit if everything is kept secret from others. SNACKING. Avoid missing regular meals and snacking throughout the day. Create a new habit of eating three healthy meals a day. NOMOPHOBIA. Kick the habit of checking your cell phone every two minutes. Separation anxiety is just that - ‘anxiety.’ It is simply a bad habit. LATENESS. Arrive on time and stop using traffic as an excuse for arriving late. Create a better habit to change it and surprise others (and yourself) with new-found promptness. CHEATING AND LYING. Tell the truth and don’t cheat (with cards or a spouse)! It is simply not a worthwhile habit, no matter how natural it feels to a persistent cheater or liar. Pick your favorite habit to change and get to work. WHY HATE WHOLE LIFE INSURANCE? >> .
get a handle on it     A bad habit can make a person feel stuck or frustrated, because it is done without conscious though...
in your busıness in your busıness Q: I have recently decided to get life insurance, and a friend of mine suggested that whole life insurance is a bad investment for me. I am doing well financially, and am able to shell out a monthly payment for this. I was wondering if you can shed some light as to why I shouldn’t get whole life insurance? A: Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicates his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com What if someone told you that the problem with having an automobile is that the engine may seize up if you neglect to change the oil? Would this stop you from using a car? Would it convince you that cars are a substandard means of transportation and you’d be better off riding a bike? Through misuse, one could certainly lose money. Life insurance, and particularly whole life insurance, seems to regularly incur this type of criticism. Here’s an example: A June 18, 2012, Wall Street Journal (WSJ) article titled “Life Policies: The Whole Truth” concluded that whole life insurance - with its flexibility, guarantees, and tax advantages - could “make sense” for some consumers. This acknowledgement was immediately followed by this statistical detail: “But many buyers underestimate how difficult it can be to pay the premiums year after year, and they end up canceling their policy before they break even. In a study released in December [2011], the Society of Actuaries (SOA) found that 20% of whole life policies are terminated in the first three years, and 39% within the first ten years.” What is it about whole life premiums that buyers “underestimate”? How is it harder than making monthly mortgage or car payments “year after year”? People default on home and car loans all the time to their financial detri- 80 | fyimagazineny.com ment, but there isn’t any outcry against houses or cars. Why hate on whole life? Some might say that the WSJ article’s qualifying statement is akin to warning prospective homebuyers not to buy more house than they can afford, and then using statistics to imply that this often happens with life insurance. However, an investigation of the SOA study referenced in the article doesn’t indicate that consumers tend to miscalculate the affordability of whole life. If anything, the opposite is true. Titled “US Individual Life Insurance Persistency,” the SOA has published this report on a regular basis since the mid-1990s. “Persistency” refers to how long policies remain in force, while policies which are terminated by nonpayment of premiums, insufficient cash values, or full surrenders are considered “lapsed.” The 2011 report used data provided by 30 insurers from as far back as 1910 through to 2009 for term life, whole life, universal life, and variable life policies, and was updated in 2012. Some of the findings note that: • Overall, approximately 4% of all in-force life insurance policies lapse in a particular year. This rate has remained fairly static over the past two decades. • The annual lapse rate for all in-force whole life policies was 3.0%. For term life policies, it was 6.4%. Long-term individuals who purchase whole life policies are less likely to surrender them compared to other versions of life insurance. • The greatest lapse percentage for all types of life insurance - occurs in the first year. The 2011 report found that 11.2% of all life insurance policies lapsed in the first year. For whole life, the first-year lapse rate was 13.8%, while term life policies matched the overall average at 11.2%. Some of these numbers might seem to support the WSJ implication that “year after year” premiums are problematic - but for all life types of life insurance, not just whole life. And there are some other quirks in the stats. The SOA study breaks down lapses in several ways, including the size of the insurance benefit and the age of the policy owners. Two consistent findings: smaller insurance death benefits (under $5,000 and up to $50,000), and younger buyers (between ages 20 and 30) have much higher lapse rates, especially in early policy years. These factors distort assessments of consumer behavior, particularly for whole life. Whole life policies under $5,000 had a 24.6% lapse rate in the first year, a significant outlier compared to the first-year rates for other types of life insurance. In contrast, larger whole life policies (like the ones consumers reading the WSJ article might use for cash accumulation, estate planning, or supplemental retirement income) have first-year lapse rates well below the overall average. The lapse rate for new whole life policies between $200,000 and $500,000 was 8.2%, 27% below the first-year average for all types. For policies above $500,000, the first-year lapse rate was 6.4% - 43% below the overall average. As time goes by, the annual lapse rate drops to 1-2%, and stays there. These numbers suggest that individuals who purchase larger whole life policies which come with larger premiums are less likely to lapse them. Compared to other types of life insurance, whole life buyers are not underestimating their ability to pay premiums. Individual consumer decisions about life insurance can be hard to quantify at a macro level, but multiple studies suggest that financial setbacks and policy replacement are the most common reasons for lapses. A July 2012 white paper titled “Life Insurance Lapse Behavior,” by University of Mississippi researchers Stephen Fier and Andre Liebenberg, concluded that “voluntary lapses are related to large income shocks” such as unemployment or an unexpected expense. This was found to be particularly true for policy owners under 30 years of age. The authors also cited a 2011 LIMRA study that found “13% of survey respondents indicated they purchased life insurance to replace another life insurance policy.” Whole life insurance is a complex financial product, and one that is frequently misrepresented, even by some so-called financial experts. But, in well-managed, integrated financial programs, ongoing premiums for whole life insurance are not fraught with peril. In fact, the numbers show that informed, mature whole life policy owners are more likely to maintain their policies and realize their various benefits. Used appropriately, whole life just works. fyi Whole life insurance is a complex financial product, and one that is frequently misrepresented, even by some so-called financial experts. PRACTICAL OBSERVATIONS • THE IMPORTANCE OF EMERGENCY RESERVES. Whether it's avoiding foreclosure or keeping life insurance in force, emergency reserves are critical to withstanding financial shocks from a job loss or unexpected expense. • PAYING PREMIUMS MONTHLY IMPROVES PERSISTENCY. The SOA study found that lapse rates varied according to the mode of premium payment. Policy owners who paid premiums monthly, by automatic withdrawal from a checking or savings account, had significantly lower lapse rates; the premium was part of a monthly budget, not an irregular chunk that caught them by surprise. • OVER TIME, WHOLE LIFE POLICIES ARE HARDER TO KEEP IN FORCE. Once the routine of regular premiums is established, the steady increase in cash values tends to reinforce the benefit of ongoing deposits. Additionally, accumulated cash values and/or dividends* may be used to reduce or even replace premiums for periods of time. This can be a great benefit if income suddenly declines or an opportunity requires a higher percentage of current cash flow. 81 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  Q   I have recently decided to get life insurance, and a friend of mine suggested th...
in your busıness in your busıness Q: I have recently decided to get life insurance, and a friend of mine suggested that whole life insurance is a bad investment for me. I am doing well financially, and am able to shell out a monthly payment for this. I was wondering if you can shed some light as to why I shouldn’t get whole life insurance? A: Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicates his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com What if someone told you that the problem with having an automobile is that the engine may seize up if you neglect to change the oil? Would this stop you from using a car? Would it convince you that cars are a substandard means of transportation and you’d be better off riding a bike? Through misuse, one could certainly lose money. Life insurance, and particularly whole life insurance, seems to regularly incur this type of criticism. Here’s an example: A June 18, 2012, Wall Street Journal (WSJ) article titled “Life Policies: The Whole Truth” concluded that whole life insurance - with its flexibility, guarantees, and tax advantages - could “make sense” for some consumers. This acknowledgement was immediately followed by this statistical detail: “But many buyers underestimate how difficult it can be to pay the premiums year after year, and they end up canceling their policy before they break even. In a study released in December [2011], the Society of Actuaries (SOA) found that 20% of whole life policies are terminated in the first three years, and 39% within the first ten years.” What is it about whole life premiums that buyers “underestimate”? How is it harder than making monthly mortgage or car payments “year after year”? People default on home and car loans all the time to their financial detri- 80 | fyimagazineny.com ment, but there isn’t any outcry against houses or cars. Why hate on whole life? Some might say that the WSJ article’s qualifying statement is akin to warning prospective homebuyers not to buy more house than they can afford, and then using statistics to imply that this often happens with life insurance. However, an investigation of the SOA study referenced in the article doesn’t indicate that consumers tend to miscalculate the affordability of whole life. If anything, the opposite is true. Titled “US Individual Life Insurance Persistency,” the SOA has published this report on a regular basis since the mid-1990s. “Persistency” refers to how long policies remain in force, while policies which are terminated by nonpayment of premiums, insufficient cash values, or full surrenders are considered “lapsed.” The 2011 report used data provided by 30 insurers from as far back as 1910 through to 2009 for term life, whole life, universal life, and variable life policies, and was updated in 2012. Some of the findings note that: • Overall, approximately 4% of all in-force life insurance policies lapse in a particular year. This rate has remained fairly static over the past two decades. • The annual lapse rate for all in-force whole life policies was 3.0%. For term life policies, it was 6.4%. Long-term individuals who purchase whole life policies are less likely to surrender them compared to other versions of life insurance. • The greatest lapse percentage for all types of life insurance - occurs in the first year. The 2011 report found that 11.2% of all life insurance policies lapsed in the first year. For whole life, the first-year lapse rate was 13.8%, while term life policies matched the overall average at 11.2%. Some of these numbers might seem to support the WSJ implication that “year after year” premiums are problematic - but for all life types of life insurance, not just whole life. And there are some other quirks in the stats. The SOA study breaks down lapses in several ways, including the size of the insurance benefit and the age of the policy owners. Two consistent findings: smaller insurance death benefits (under $5,000 and up to $50,000), and younger buyers (between ages 20 and 30) have much higher lapse rates, especially in early policy years. These factors distort assessments of consumer behavior, particularly for whole life. Whole life policies under $5,000 had a 24.6% lapse rate in the first year, a significant outlier compared to the first-year rates for other types of life insurance. In contrast, larger whole life policies (like the ones consumers reading the WSJ article might use for cash accumulation, estate planning, or supplemental retirement income) have first-year lapse rates well below the overall average. The lapse rate for new whole life policies between $200,000 and $500,000 was 8.2%, 27% below the first-year average for all types. For policies above $500,000, the first-year lapse rate was 6.4% - 43% below the overall average. As time goes by, the annual lapse rate drops to 1-2%, and stays there. These numbers suggest that individuals who purchase larger whole life policies which come with larger premiums are less likely to lapse them. Compared to other types of life insurance, whole life buyers are not underestimating their ability to pay premiums. Individual consumer decisions about life insurance can be hard to quantify at a macro level, but multiple studies suggest that financial setbacks and policy replacement are the most common reasons for lapses. A July 2012 white paper titled “Life Insurance Lapse Behavior,” by University of Mississippi researchers Stephen Fier and Andre Liebenberg, concluded that “voluntary lapses are related to large income shocks” such as unemployment or an unexpected expense. This was found to be particularly true for policy owners under 30 years of age. The authors also cited a 2011 LIMRA study that found “13% of survey respondents indicated they purchased life insurance to replace another life insurance policy.” Whole life insurance is a complex financial product, and one that is frequently misrepresented, even by some so-called financial experts. But, in well-managed, integrated financial programs, ongoing premiums for whole life insurance are not fraught with peril. In fact, the numbers show that informed, mature whole life policy owners are more likely to maintain their policies and realize their various benefits. Used appropriately, whole life just works. fyi Whole life insurance is a complex financial product, and one that is frequently misrepresented, even by some so-called financial experts. PRACTICAL OBSERVATIONS • THE IMPORTANCE OF EMERGENCY RESERVES. Whether it's avoiding foreclosure or keeping life insurance in force, emergency reserves are critical to withstanding financial shocks from a job loss or unexpected expense. • PAYING PREMIUMS MONTHLY IMPROVES PERSISTENCY. The SOA study found that lapse rates varied according to the mode of premium payment. Policy owners who paid premiums monthly, by automatic withdrawal from a checking or savings account, had significantly lower lapse rates; the premium was part of a monthly budget, not an irregular chunk that caught them by surprise. • OVER TIME, WHOLE LIFE POLICIES ARE HARDER TO KEEP IN FORCE. Once the routine of regular premiums is established, the steady increase in cash values tends to reinforce the benefit of ongoing deposits. Additionally, accumulated cash values and/or dividends* may be used to reduce or even replace premiums for periods of time. This can be a great benefit if income suddenly declines or an opportunity requires a higher percentage of current cash flow. 81 | fyimagazineny.com
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in your busıness in your busıness ASK MAURICE DO YOU HAVE THE 7 REQUIRED SKILLS TO SUCCEED AS AN ENTREPRENEUR? Dear Maurice, I like your answers a lot, and I hope you can answer my question as well. I am currently working at a boring office job, and while I am making money to cover my bills I feel like I can do so much more than this. I want to start my own company and I have a few ideas for service businesses that I would like to start because I feel they have a lot of potential. My fear is that maybe I do not have what it takes to start and build a business, and I don’t want to give up my job and start a business only to find out that I don’t have what it takes. My question to you is: from your experience is there a specific skill set that a business owner needs to have in order to succeed in his new business? And if so, can you share with me what they are so I can check if I have those skills, or maybe I can learn them before I make my move? - R. Frankal Dear R. Frankal, Thanks for asking; it’s a great question that a lot of people would love to get more insight on. One of the most frustrating things as a business consultant is when I see a company where the owner doesn’t have what it takes to build and manage his/her business, because no matter how good his/her product or service is, there isn’t much chance of success without a strong leader at the top. The short answer to your question is: Yes, there are specific skills that a business owner needs in order to build a healthy business, and those skills can be learned, but it’s not easy: it takes a lot of hard work and determination to change the way you look and deal with things and acquire new skills. One of the reasons why it’s so hard to learn new skills is that you can’t get it from a class or a book. It’s like learning how to swim: you can read about it and even watch how other people do it, but at the end of the day, the only way you will learn to swim is by getting in the water and learning as you go, which is hard in the beginning, but very rewarding at the end. The good news is that you don’t have to start a business in order to learn those skills. You can start acting and thinking like an owner even while you are employed. You can practice all the skills needed to build a business while you sit at your boring office job, and after a while they will become second nature to you, preparing you to start your own business. Before we discuss the specific skills needed, it’s important to talk about the mindset of a business owner, because without the right mindset, the skills wouldn’t help you much; they need the right framework in order to be effective. 82 | fyimagazineny.com Here are the top 7 mindsets that business owners have: 1. They give up short-term comfort for long-term gains. You have to be committed to invest in the first few years of a new business, and give up a lot of your comfort in order to achieve the results you are after. Entrepreneurs are willing to live for a few years like most people wouldn’t, so they can live for the rest of their lives like most people can’t. 2. They don’t give up. Almost all businesses have some very difficult times when they start. You will get discouraged and tempted to give up. Sometimes things can get very bad, with unforeseen obstacles that can leave you scared and one inch away from total collapse, but successful business people do not give up; they never forgot the “why” that got them into this journey and they will keep going until they make it. 3. They understand that success is a team effort. You can’t succeed alone; you are going to need the help of others, as mentors and employees. You have to look at a business as the shared effort of a team, and look for help when you need it. 4. They understand that they don’t know everything. Successful business leaders listen and learn from others, and the more successful they become, the more they realize how much they don’t know. Those people, with the mindset that they know everything, usually will not succeed. 5. They focus on the strengths and then hire to balance their weaknesses. We all have strengths and weaknesses, and most people go on using both, which doesn’t get them too far. Successful business people focus on their strengths and they hire staff who are strong where they are weak, and they get out of the way. 6. They know when to start and when to stop. As you start your business, you will try a lot of new things, build new relationships, try new product lines, hire new employees, etc. As the business takes off, you will notice that some of the decisions you made were not good, and you need to find the strength to cut them off in order to free up the energy, space, and money to try new things that have a better chance of working. You have to let go of things that don’t work, regardless of how hard it is. 7. They know how to deal with fear. We all have fear, and sometimes fear is a good thing, but you can’t let it hold you back from taking the necessary steps to make your business successful. You need a mindset that “It’s okay to be afraid, but I am doing it anyway.” Now that we have the right mindset, let’s talk about specific skills that are important in order to build a successful business. • Sales. When you start a business you have to do a lot of selling: you have to sell the potential of your business to your future employees, you have to sell to your investors, and in most cases, the owner has to do actual sales in the beginning of the business. Regardless of whether you consider yourself a successful salesperson, you have to get comfortable with selling in order to succeed. • Networking. In any business, it is very important to build a network of people who can help you with advice, money, sales, etc. The bigger and stronger your network is, the more opportunities you will have. • Leadership. The ability to lead and manage other people is a must in any business. You have to learn how to find the right people, and then develop them to where they can deliver the results you need. Leadership is the ability to create a vision and then take the right steps in finding and developing the people who can help you achieve the vision. • Communication. The skill to communicate efficiently is very important when it comes to building a business. You will have to communicate with vendors, clients, banks, and employees, and you need the skill to understand others and be understood. • Knowledge. The better your skills in acquiring the right knowledge in your industry, the better you understand your market and your competition, the more chances you have to succeed. You also need general business knowledge on all aspects of running a business. • Control your mood. We all have good and bad moods. You need to learn to control your mood, staying positive and focused regardless of what happens. All of these skills can be learned and practiced while you are still at your job, preparing for the transition to start your own business. You can acquire them by reading about them, and taking action daily to practice them until they become natural to you. Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn many struggling businesses around. askmaurice.com 83 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  ASK MAURICE  DO YOU HAVE THE 7 REQUIRED SKILLS TO SUCCEED AS AN ENTREPRENEUR  Dear M...
in your busıness in your busıness ASK MAURICE DO YOU HAVE THE 7 REQUIRED SKILLS TO SUCCEED AS AN ENTREPRENEUR? Dear Maurice, I like your answers a lot, and I hope you can answer my question as well. I am currently working at a boring office job, and while I am making money to cover my bills I feel like I can do so much more than this. I want to start my own company and I have a few ideas for service businesses that I would like to start because I feel they have a lot of potential. My fear is that maybe I do not have what it takes to start and build a business, and I don’t want to give up my job and start a business only to find out that I don’t have what it takes. My question to you is: from your experience is there a specific skill set that a business owner needs to have in order to succeed in his new business? And if so, can you share with me what they are so I can check if I have those skills, or maybe I can learn them before I make my move? - R. Frankal Dear R. Frankal, Thanks for asking; it’s a great question that a lot of people would love to get more insight on. One of the most frustrating things as a business consultant is when I see a company where the owner doesn’t have what it takes to build and manage his/her business, because no matter how good his/her product or service is, there isn’t much chance of success without a strong leader at the top. The short answer to your question is: Yes, there are specific skills that a business owner needs in order to build a healthy business, and those skills can be learned, but it’s not easy: it takes a lot of hard work and determination to change the way you look and deal with things and acquire new skills. One of the reasons why it’s so hard to learn new skills is that you can’t get it from a class or a book. It’s like learning how to swim: you can read about it and even watch how other people do it, but at the end of the day, the only way you will learn to swim is by getting in the water and learning as you go, which is hard in the beginning, but very rewarding at the end. The good news is that you don’t have to start a business in order to learn those skills. You can start acting and thinking like an owner even while you are employed. You can practice all the skills needed to build a business while you sit at your boring office job, and after a while they will become second nature to you, preparing you to start your own business. Before we discuss the specific skills needed, it’s important to talk about the mindset of a business owner, because without the right mindset, the skills wouldn’t help you much; they need the right framework in order to be effective. 82 | fyimagazineny.com Here are the top 7 mindsets that business owners have: 1. They give up short-term comfort for long-term gains. You have to be committed to invest in the first few years of a new business, and give up a lot of your comfort in order to achieve the results you are after. Entrepreneurs are willing to live for a few years like most people wouldn’t, so they can live for the rest of their lives like most people can’t. 2. They don’t give up. Almost all businesses have some very difficult times when they start. You will get discouraged and tempted to give up. Sometimes things can get very bad, with unforeseen obstacles that can leave you scared and one inch away from total collapse, but successful business people do not give up; they never forgot the “why” that got them into this journey and they will keep going until they make it. 3. They understand that success is a team effort. You can’t succeed alone; you are going to need the help of others, as mentors and employees. You have to look at a business as the shared effort of a team, and look for help when you need it. 4. They understand that they don’t know everything. Successful business leaders listen and learn from others, and the more successful they become, the more they realize how much they don’t know. Those people, with the mindset that they know everything, usually will not succeed. 5. They focus on the strengths and then hire to balance their weaknesses. We all have strengths and weaknesses, and most people go on using both, which doesn’t get them too far. Successful business people focus on their strengths and they hire staff who are strong where they are weak, and they get out of the way. 6. They know when to start and when to stop. As you start your business, you will try a lot of new things, build new relationships, try new product lines, hire new employees, etc. As the business takes off, you will notice that some of the decisions you made were not good, and you need to find the strength to cut them off in order to free up the energy, space, and money to try new things that have a better chance of working. You have to let go of things that don’t work, regardless of how hard it is. 7. They know how to deal with fear. We all have fear, and sometimes fear is a good thing, but you can’t let it hold you back from taking the necessary steps to make your business successful. You need a mindset that “It’s okay to be afraid, but I am doing it anyway.” Now that we have the right mindset, let’s talk about specific skills that are important in order to build a successful business. • Sales. When you start a business you have to do a lot of selling: you have to sell the potential of your business to your future employees, you have to sell to your investors, and in most cases, the owner has to do actual sales in the beginning of the business. Regardless of whether you consider yourself a successful salesperson, you have to get comfortable with selling in order to succeed. • Networking. In any business, it is very important to build a network of people who can help you with advice, money, sales, etc. The bigger and stronger your network is, the more opportunities you will have. • Leadership. The ability to lead and manage other people is a must in any business. You have to learn how to find the right people, and then develop them to where they can deliver the results you need. Leadership is the ability to create a vision and then take the right steps in finding and developing the people who can help you achieve the vision. • Communication. The skill to communicate efficiently is very important when it comes to building a business. You will have to communicate with vendors, clients, banks, and employees, and you need the skill to understand others and be understood. • Knowledge. The better your skills in acquiring the right knowledge in your industry, the better you understand your market and your competition, the more chances you have to succeed. You also need general business knowledge on all aspects of running a business. • Control your mood. We all have good and bad moods. You need to learn to control your mood, staying positive and focused regardless of what happens. All of these skills can be learned and practiced while you are still at your job, preparing for the transition to start your own business. You can acquire them by reading about them, and taking action daily to practice them until they become natural to you. Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn many struggling businesses around. askmaurice.com 83 | fyimagazineny.com
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in your busıness in your busıness HOW THEY DID IT: A CONVERSATION WITH SHIRA MONCHARSH Shira Moncharsh is the founder and administrator of Melamed Academy, the online Yeshiva day school. Now entering its fourth year, this innovative virtual school has educated hundreds of students. 84 | fyimagazineny.com WHAT EXACTLY IS MELAMED ACADEMY? Melamed Academy is an online private school for the Torah community. Now it’s not necessary to wait for a school bus to get to your classroom. All you need is a computer, and Melamed Academy supplies kosher computers as well. As a registered nonpublic school in the State of New Jersey, Melamed Academy can serve as the student’s complete education from kindergarten through 12th grade, culminating with a recognized high school diploma. However, our activities extend beyond our own full-time students. Melamed Academy provides online courses to students in Yeshiva day schools across the United States, filling gaps for specialized teachers and empowering schools to offer more variety to their students. HOW SUCCESSFUL HAVE YOU BEEN? Boruch Hashem, Melamed Academy is constantly expanding. Now entering its fourth school year, Melamed has grown in student numbers and also in the variety of programs. We’ve added a college degree program, career training courses, and professional development for adults. In addition, we have Torah courses, GED prep, and remedial programs for school-age children. Hundreds of students have successfully learned and earned credits in our program; we’ve become the go-to place for online courses in the leading yeshivos and Bais Yaakov schools. WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO START YOUR OWN BUSINESS? This initiative started rolling in order to fill a need in the Torah community. Schools needed to find computer-based solutions to fill their teacher vacancies, and the general courses on the market weren’t tailored to their needs. Good kids were left without Jewish schools to attend. Clearly there were aspects of the system that weren’t working. It upset me to hear people complaining about a crisis that couldn’t be resolved, so I set out to prove that a solution existed. Before Melamed Academy, I had experience with other companies, some of which I founded. I’ve worked with computer programming and business software, and in print advertising, publishing, and education. I find that each skill is transferable to the next project, because every enterprise encompasses multiple components. Here, in addition to technical knowledge, I utilized my experience in marketing and sales, where you must figure out how to remove the hurdles preventing the customer from adopting your product. With online school, a clear issue was the Torah community’s rightful distrust of computers, especially with internet connectivity. So we worked hard to perfect a kosher computer at a bargain price. Now, even the best yeshivos are assured that our courses and computers meet their chinuch standards. I also worked as a magazine editor at Mishpacha, Hamodia, and Binah, so I got to know the Jewish world very well. Also, as an interviewer, I did a lot of listening. You can learn a lot when you take time to hear what people have to say about contemporary issues. After writing about the tuition crisis, I was driven to find a solution. Going beyond the tuition issue, there is a pressing problem when many students don’t even have a school to attend. Melamed Academy was founded to fill existing needs in the community. Every student now has a school; we are an option in everyone’s back pocket. People wanted an online school which fit the Torah day school standards, and was customizable according to the curricular needs of individual students and schools. We’re not a prepackaged course program; we are a unique blend that doesn’t exist anywhere else. Everyone who calls us asks, “How come I didn’t hear about you until now?” When you know that people really want your service, it’s a motivator to keep working on perfecting and advancing the model. You see that it’s really helping people. WHAT CHALLENGES DID YOU FACE STARTING MELAMED ACADEMY? An online school involves so many aspects: legal, educational, and technological expertise, besides the universal functions of operating a company. There also isn’t any downtime; we have summer students too, so >> 85 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  HOW THEY DID IT  A CONVERSATION WITH SHIRA MONCHARSH  Shira Moncharsh is the founder...
in your busıness in your busıness HOW THEY DID IT: A CONVERSATION WITH SHIRA MONCHARSH Shira Moncharsh is the founder and administrator of Melamed Academy, the online Yeshiva day school. Now entering its fourth year, this innovative virtual school has educated hundreds of students. 84 | fyimagazineny.com WHAT EXACTLY IS MELAMED ACADEMY? Melamed Academy is an online private school for the Torah community. Now it’s not necessary to wait for a school bus to get to your classroom. All you need is a computer, and Melamed Academy supplies kosher computers as well. As a registered nonpublic school in the State of New Jersey, Melamed Academy can serve as the student’s complete education from kindergarten through 12th grade, culminating with a recognized high school diploma. However, our activities extend beyond our own full-time students. Melamed Academy provides online courses to students in Yeshiva day schools across the United States, filling gaps for specialized teachers and empowering schools to offer more variety to their students. HOW SUCCESSFUL HAVE YOU BEEN? Boruch Hashem, Melamed Academy is constantly expanding. Now entering its fourth school year, Melamed has grown in student numbers and also in the variety of programs. We’ve added a college degree program, career training courses, and professional development for adults. In addition, we have Torah courses, GED prep, and remedial programs for school-age children. Hundreds of students have successfully learned and earned credits in our program; we’ve become the go-to place for online courses in the leading yeshivos and Bais Yaakov schools. WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO START YOUR OWN BUSINESS? This initiative started rolling in order to fill a need in the Torah community. Schools needed to find computer-based solutions to fill their teacher vacancies, and the general courses on the market weren’t tailored to their needs. Good kids were left without Jewish schools to attend. Clearly there were aspects of the system that weren’t working. It upset me to hear people complaining about a crisis that couldn’t be resolved, so I set out to prove that a solution existed. Before Melamed Academy, I had experience with other companies, some of which I founded. I’ve worked with computer programming and business software, and in print advertising, publishing, and education. I find that each skill is transferable to the next project, because every enterprise encompasses multiple components. Here, in addition to technical knowledge, I utilized my experience in marketing and sales, where you must figure out how to remove the hurdles preventing the customer from adopting your product. With online school, a clear issue was the Torah community’s rightful distrust of computers, especially with internet connectivity. So we worked hard to perfect a kosher computer at a bargain price. Now, even the best yeshivos are assured that our courses and computers meet their chinuch standards. I also worked as a magazine editor at Mishpacha, Hamodia, and Binah, so I got to know the Jewish world very well. Also, as an interviewer, I did a lot of listening. You can learn a lot when you take time to hear what people have to say about contemporary issues. After writing about the tuition crisis, I was driven to find a solution. Going beyond the tuition issue, there is a pressing problem when many students don’t even have a school to attend. Melamed Academy was founded to fill existing needs in the community. Every student now has a school; we are an option in everyone’s back pocket. People wanted an online school which fit the Torah day school standards, and was customizable according to the curricular needs of individual students and schools. We’re not a prepackaged course program; we are a unique blend that doesn’t exist anywhere else. Everyone who calls us asks, “How come I didn’t hear about you until now?” When you know that people really want your service, it’s a motivator to keep working on perfecting and advancing the model. You see that it’s really helping people. WHAT CHALLENGES DID YOU FACE STARTING MELAMED ACADEMY? An online school involves so many aspects: legal, educational, and technological expertise, besides the universal functions of operating a company. There also isn’t any downtime; we have summer students too, so >> 85 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  HOW THEY DID IT  A CONVERSATION WITH SHIRA MONCHARSH  Shira Moncharsh is the founder...
in your busıness in your busıness it’s nonstop. You have to remember to take time to research and develop new courses, when you’re so busy maintaining what already exists. But especially with web-based products, you need to update every year. It’s definitely a challenge to develop an elevator pitch when there are many people who can’t understand what we do. That’s why we don’t have a shopping cart on the website; it’s only a catalog. It’s important to us that we actually connect with the school or private student, walk through a sample lesson together, and ensure that they understand what they’re getting. WHAT IS THE BEST PART OF OWNING AND OPERATING YOUR OWN COMPANY? I like the fast pace, not being tied down to a committee or bureaucracy involved in larger companies. When I have an idea, I can take the steps to make it happen today. I don’t need to check if it’s in my job description or if I’m stepping on someone else’s toes. I always enjoyed my jobs better when they allowed me to work with more initiative and take more responsibility. Of course, it’s always wise to hear opinions from others, especially from the users of your product. I also keep tabs on the market, and make sure I’m always keeping my courses current and geared to the community’s needs. But when you have too many people who need to share the responsibility and sign off on every decision, and also get updated about every curve along the way, it adds years to a project. For example, Melamed Academy works with a compact team of curricular designers, and we created our literature program within one year - when other companies take ten years. That company dynamic is especially important with internet-related software: the product’s lifespan is going to be limited since technology keeps being updated. You need a setup that allows you to stay agile. I like being able to hear a need and create a product for that individual. Melamed Academy isn’t creating shelf-products; we are a service company with an aim to fit comfortably into our users’ specifications. Also, I’ve seen what happens when the company owner does not really understand his product: he is open to having his opinion swayed by the last person who spoke to him. I like that I am able to stay on top of every detail. I can evaluate the work of all my employees and I know what I’m buying from suppliers. I didn’t start out that way; with my first employees, I just trusted that they’d advise me about what was best for their department, but I soon saw that it’s the recipe for becoming a pushover. I got outrageous price quotes from people wearing straight-looking faces. It could be that they meant well, and were merely misinformed. Either way, you’ll waste time and money, unless you really take the time to learn each part of your operation. MANY PEOPLE THINK THAT STARTING THEIR OWN BUSINESS IS RISKY COMPARED TO WORKING FOR AN ESTABLISHED COMPANY. WHAT DO YOU SAY? They’re right. When I speak to friends who have lost their jobs and I suggest that they consider going into business, they answer, “No I want something with a reliable paycheck.” Exactly, like the job that just got pulled out from under their secure feet. In other words, finding employment in someone else’s company has its own risks too. Everyone has to decide which risks are right for them. WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE TO WOMEN STARTING THEIR OWN BUSINESSES? Running a business is good for a high-energy person. Everything is your responsibility, and you’re not just putting in your hours. Some general business advice doesn’t work well for busy mothers, like trying to start your business on the side while keeping up your day job. Most mothers don’t have time to fit a job and a new company into their schedule. That may be good for the very beginning, but when you see a business is growing, it needs your full attention to take root. In the long run, it’s great for a woman to be a business owner: you have the flexibility to be available for your family. And for the times when you can’t be home, at least you feel you made a conscious decision, and weren’t forced to stay late due to an insistent boss. WHAT’S THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU ATTRIBUTE YOUR SUCCESS TO? We’ve had Siyata D’shmaya every step of the way. Yet we don’t get fixated on measuring accomplishment by our array of products; we take a personal interest in everyone who uses them. Our schools and students know they can trust us to advise them on their best course of action, whether that means enrolling in our program or not. We’re a nonprofit organization, not in it for the money. Each person will have his own needs; no one just gets a cookie-cutter product - we customize for reading challenges, processing challenges, and every other challenge too! The bottom line is that we respect and admire our students. They like going to a school where the necessary discipline is mixed with a lot of friendliness and support. Everyone who’s failed a course has always been able to have a successful educational experience with us. fyi 86 | fyimagazineny.com Office Gadget Must-Haves WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER Back to school means back to work for many of us. Here are some office gadget must-haves that can transform your office or home office from looking tired or cluttered into a streamlined, organized workspace - the perfect environment in which to get productive and creative. ‚CABLE LABELS Cable mess is a close second after paperwork piles as the biggest challenge in your home office: cables for your computer, printer, modem, phone, and lighting. Finding the right cable from the jumble of wires behind your desk is a classic time waster. Simply write a name on a Mark Brothers Cable Label, and then attach the label to the respective cable to easily identify the device for each cable. SCANNER„ For desks buried under a mound of paperwork, receipts, and notes, a scanner is possibly the most essential office accessory to get. If you yearn for a paperless office, this is your office gadget must-have. Scan all your documents (always keep originals of valuable documents) and save them as a portable document file (pdf). With an easily identifiable file name (that you create during the scanning process), you’ll find it so much easier to locate that essential piece of information you need. Reduce your stress and get organized at the same time. CROSS SHREDDER„ Scanning all that paperwork has just created a pile of paper ready for recycling. Of course, confidential information needs to be shredded before going into the trash bin. A cross shredder will cut paper horizontally and vertically to ensure it is almost impossible to piece documents back together. With this office gadget must-have, get peace of mind with the shred and throw out stage of paperwork reduction. STANDING DESK„ On the subject of health and wellbeing in the workspace, recent research uncovered health risks associated with sitting at a desk all day. Vary the position in which you work throughout the day to offset these health risks. At a standing desk, raise and lower the height of your desk to change your work position often, and diversify the time spent at your desk between sitting and standing. CHARGING STATION Invest in one or more charging stations to create neat areas to charge your phone, tablet, and other devices. Save power too - once your devices are fully charged, power is automatically shut off. 87 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  it   s nonstop. You have to remember to take time to research and develop new course...
in your busıness in your busıness it’s nonstop. You have to remember to take time to research and develop new courses, when you’re so busy maintaining what already exists. But especially with web-based products, you need to update every year. It’s definitely a challenge to develop an elevator pitch when there are many people who can’t understand what we do. That’s why we don’t have a shopping cart on the website; it’s only a catalog. It’s important to us that we actually connect with the school or private student, walk through a sample lesson together, and ensure that they understand what they’re getting. WHAT IS THE BEST PART OF OWNING AND OPERATING YOUR OWN COMPANY? I like the fast pace, not being tied down to a committee or bureaucracy involved in larger companies. When I have an idea, I can take the steps to make it happen today. I don’t need to check if it’s in my job description or if I’m stepping on someone else’s toes. I always enjoyed my jobs better when they allowed me to work with more initiative and take more responsibility. Of course, it’s always wise to hear opinions from others, especially from the users of your product. I also keep tabs on the market, and make sure I’m always keeping my courses current and geared to the community’s needs. But when you have too many people who need to share the responsibility and sign off on every decision, and also get updated about every curve along the way, it adds years to a project. For example, Melamed Academy works with a compact team of curricular designers, and we created our literature program within one year - when other companies take ten years. That company dynamic is especially important with internet-related software: the product’s lifespan is going to be limited since technology keeps being updated. You need a setup that allows you to stay agile. I like being able to hear a need and create a product for that individual. Melamed Academy isn’t creating shelf-products; we are a service company with an aim to fit comfortably into our users’ specifications. Also, I’ve seen what happens when the company owner does not really understand his product: he is open to having his opinion swayed by the last person who spoke to him. I like that I am able to stay on top of every detail. I can evaluate the work of all my employees and I know what I’m buying from suppliers. I didn’t start out that way; with my first employees, I just trusted that they’d advise me about what was best for their department, but I soon saw that it’s the recipe for becoming a pushover. I got outrageous price quotes from people wearing straight-looking faces. It could be that they meant well, and were merely misinformed. Either way, you’ll waste time and money, unless you really take the time to learn each part of your operation. MANY PEOPLE THINK THAT STARTING THEIR OWN BUSINESS IS RISKY COMPARED TO WORKING FOR AN ESTABLISHED COMPANY. WHAT DO YOU SAY? They’re right. When I speak to friends who have lost their jobs and I suggest that they consider going into business, they answer, “No I want something with a reliable paycheck.” Exactly, like the job that just got pulled out from under their secure feet. In other words, finding employment in someone else’s company has its own risks too. Everyone has to decide which risks are right for them. WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE TO WOMEN STARTING THEIR OWN BUSINESSES? Running a business is good for a high-energy person. Everything is your responsibility, and you’re not just putting in your hours. Some general business advice doesn’t work well for busy mothers, like trying to start your business on the side while keeping up your day job. Most mothers don’t have time to fit a job and a new company into their schedule. That may be good for the very beginning, but when you see a business is growing, it needs your full attention to take root. In the long run, it’s great for a woman to be a business owner: you have the flexibility to be available for your family. And for the times when you can’t be home, at least you feel you made a conscious decision, and weren’t forced to stay late due to an insistent boss. WHAT’S THE SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT YOU ATTRIBUTE YOUR SUCCESS TO? We’ve had Siyata D’shmaya every step of the way. Yet we don’t get fixated on measuring accomplishment by our array of products; we take a personal interest in everyone who uses them. Our schools and students know they can trust us to advise them on their best course of action, whether that means enrolling in our program or not. We’re a nonprofit organization, not in it for the money. Each person will have his own needs; no one just gets a cookie-cutter product - we customize for reading challenges, processing challenges, and every other challenge too! The bottom line is that we respect and admire our students. They like going to a school where the necessary discipline is mixed with a lot of friendliness and support. Everyone who’s failed a course has always been able to have a successful educational experience with us. fyi 86 | fyimagazineny.com Office Gadget Must-Haves WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER Back to school means back to work for many of us. Here are some office gadget must-haves that can transform your office or home office from looking tired or cluttered into a streamlined, organized workspace - the perfect environment in which to get productive and creative. ‚CABLE LABELS Cable mess is a close second after paperwork piles as the biggest challenge in your home office: cables for your computer, printer, modem, phone, and lighting. Finding the right cable from the jumble of wires behind your desk is a classic time waster. Simply write a name on a Mark Brothers Cable Label, and then attach the label to the respective cable to easily identify the device for each cable. SCANNER„ For desks buried under a mound of paperwork, receipts, and notes, a scanner is possibly the most essential office accessory to get. If you yearn for a paperless office, this is your office gadget must-have. Scan all your documents (always keep originals of valuable documents) and save them as a portable document file (pdf). With an easily identifiable file name (that you create during the scanning process), you’ll find it so much easier to locate that essential piece of information you need. Reduce your stress and get organized at the same time. CROSS SHREDDER„ Scanning all that paperwork has just created a pile of paper ready for recycling. Of course, confidential information needs to be shredded before going into the trash bin. A cross shredder will cut paper horizontally and vertically to ensure it is almost impossible to piece documents back together. With this office gadget must-have, get peace of mind with the shred and throw out stage of paperwork reduction. STANDING DESK„ On the subject of health and wellbeing in the workspace, recent research uncovered health risks associated with sitting at a desk all day. Vary the position in which you work throughout the day to offset these health risks. At a standing desk, raise and lower the height of your desk to change your work position often, and diversify the time spent at your desk between sitting and standing. CHARGING STATION Invest in one or more charging stations to create neat areas to charge your phone, tablet, and other devices. Save power too - once your devices are fully charged, power is automatically shut off. 87 | fyimagazineny.com
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in your busıness MAKE SURE IT’S A GOOD FIT Ask yourself if you understand the job description and what the job entails. The interview process involves substantial effort from all parties and you should consider honestly if this position is a good fit for you. PLAN AHEAD Do your due diligence about your prospective employer; get familiar with their products and services as well as the latest industry developments. Review the corporate website and read their blog posts, annual report, and media coverage tabs. Equally important is your curriculum vitae or CV: review, revise, and rewrite. Prepare for the interview by making notes PRACTICE YOUR ANSWERS Typical interview questions or topics can include: • Explain your strengths and weaknesses. • Why you are the best person for the job? • Why did you leave your previous position? • What job-related mistakes have you made in the past? State your strengths with confidence and humility. No one is perfect and your interviewer knows that. Share lessons learned on the job. Conduct practice interviews with family and friends and prepare a 25-second sales pitch to sell yourself. DRESS THE PART How to Ace an Interview Many of us find the prospect of an important job interview unnerving, but preparation goes a long way to ensuring success. FYI suggests nine simple yet powerful steps to guarantee you handle the interview with poise. WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY 88 | fyimagazineny.com Dress to impress in business attire: wear clean, pressed, classic but understated garments. No need to purchase an entirely new outfit. A new scarf or necktie can add some flair to boost your confidence. STAY CALM Here is a checklist for interview preparation: • Confirm the interview time, date, and location. • Plan (or practice) your route, allow extra time for traffic, parking, or transit delays. • Ensure everything you need* is ready to go. • Eat a healthy meal beforehand, clean your teeth, and have water with you (essential for a dry mouth). • Smile and be sincerely friendly to everyone you encounter - your potential co-workers - not just the interviewer you are aiming to impress. • Turn off your cellphone and breathe deeply. • Use pre-interview or waiting time by visualizing yourself shining in the interview. COME PREPARED *Take along a paper copy of your résumé, a recent photograph of yourself, your portfolio, professional references, and a list of credentials. Include your state-issued identification and, for a first job interview after college, bring your college transcripts. INTERVIEW STYLE Smile to set yourself and the interviewer at ease; make eye contact, listen attentively, and don’t interrupt; and, if you don’t understand something, ask questions. Keep your answers concise, direct, honest, and enthusiastic. “Come with a toolbox of examples of the work you’ve done,” advises Steve Fogarty, staffing partner at large independent PR Agency Waggener Edstrom (monster. com). “It is one thing to say you can do something; it’s another to give examples of things you have done.” Always focus on the positive; never bad-mouth a former employer or company. Fogarty also advocates keeping your guard up and being professional during the interview. ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS Seize this opportunity to learn even more about the company during the interview. A few well-prepared questions will impress the interviewer with your ability to take the initiative and demonstrate your quest for knowledge. FOLLOW UP Follow up the interview with a courtesy email or thank you note to remind the interviewer of your session. fyi
in your bus  ness MAKE SURE IT   S A GOOD FIT Ask yourself if you understand the job description and what the job entails....
in your busıness MAKE SURE IT’S A GOOD FIT Ask yourself if you understand the job description and what the job entails. The interview process involves substantial effort from all parties and you should consider honestly if this position is a good fit for you. PLAN AHEAD Do your due diligence about your prospective employer; get familiar with their products and services as well as the latest industry developments. Review the corporate website and read their blog posts, annual report, and media coverage tabs. Equally important is your curriculum vitae or CV: review, revise, and rewrite. Prepare for the interview by making notes PRACTICE YOUR ANSWERS Typical interview questions or topics can include: • Explain your strengths and weaknesses. • Why you are the best person for the job? • Why did you leave your previous position? • What job-related mistakes have you made in the past? State your strengths with confidence and humility. No one is perfect and your interviewer knows that. Share lessons learned on the job. Conduct practice interviews with family and friends and prepare a 25-second sales pitch to sell yourself. DRESS THE PART How to Ace an Interview Many of us find the prospect of an important job interview unnerving, but preparation goes a long way to ensuring success. FYI suggests nine simple yet powerful steps to guarantee you handle the interview with poise. WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY 88 | fyimagazineny.com Dress to impress in business attire: wear clean, pressed, classic but understated garments. No need to purchase an entirely new outfit. A new scarf or necktie can add some flair to boost your confidence. STAY CALM Here is a checklist for interview preparation: • Confirm the interview time, date, and location. • Plan (or practice) your route, allow extra time for traffic, parking, or transit delays. • Ensure everything you need* is ready to go. • Eat a healthy meal beforehand, clean your teeth, and have water with you (essential for a dry mouth). • Smile and be sincerely friendly to everyone you encounter - your potential co-workers - not just the interviewer you are aiming to impress. • Turn off your cellphone and breathe deeply. • Use pre-interview or waiting time by visualizing yourself shining in the interview. COME PREPARED *Take along a paper copy of your résumé, a recent photograph of yourself, your portfolio, professional references, and a list of credentials. Include your state-issued identification and, for a first job interview after college, bring your college transcripts. INTERVIEW STYLE Smile to set yourself and the interviewer at ease; make eye contact, listen attentively, and don’t interrupt; and, if you don’t understand something, ask questions. Keep your answers concise, direct, honest, and enthusiastic. “Come with a toolbox of examples of the work you’ve done,” advises Steve Fogarty, staffing partner at large independent PR Agency Waggener Edstrom (monster. com). “It is one thing to say you can do something; it’s another to give examples of things you have done.” Always focus on the positive; never bad-mouth a former employer or company. Fogarty also advocates keeping your guard up and being professional during the interview. ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS Seize this opportunity to learn even more about the company during the interview. A few well-prepared questions will impress the interviewer with your ability to take the initiative and demonstrate your quest for knowledge. FOLLOW UP Follow up the interview with a courtesy email or thank you note to remind the interviewer of your session. fyi
in your bus  ness MAKE SURE IT   S A GOOD FIT Ask yourself if you understand the job description and what the job entails....
in your busıness in your busıness HOW TO JUGGLE YOUR BUSINESS IN THE HECTIC YOM TOV SEASON WRITTEN BY CHAYA APPEL-FISHMAN, FOUNDER, THE JEWISH WOMAN ENTREPRENEUR Don't experiment with totally new recipes when you're slammed with major multiple days of cooking. Focus on what you know. Tried and true reduces stress and ensures a menu you can manage. LISA KUDISH ROSENBERG, MARKETING/ COMMUNICATION CONSULTANT AND REALTOR Miami, FL Yom Tov prep can be stressful on its own. In my work with The JWE, I’ve met over one thousand frum working women. Some own companies worth millions of dollars and juggle large families, others are professionals whose grueling work deadlines don’t break for Yom Tov. I’ve collected lots of advice over the years and there are four common themes to successful and happy juggling: Planning: preparation is key, collaboration: friends pitching in to help each other out, attitude: embrace the madness, don’t be a perfectionist! and delegation: assign tasks to spouses and children. Become good friends with your freezer! I'm meticulous about sealing food super well before putting it in the freezer, then defrosting it into a very hot oven. Food stays fresh tasting and you don't have the crazy rush before Yom Tov. I put two layers of foil over the pan. Then, I wrap each pan in two ziplock bags for added protection against freezer burn. Everything labeled very well along with date. MALKA FRANKEL, OWNER OF MALKADESIGNS Baltimore, MD on planning Make charts, lists, and map out all your to-dos well in advance. Take out your calendar and start backward from erev Yom Tov and write down what you’d like ready by that day. For example: Erev Yom Tov: all food cooked. Day before Yom Tov: table set, shaitel picked up. Two weeks before: cooking schedule begins (see more on creating a food schedule below). Then make a plan that correlates. CHAYA APPEL-FISHMAN Baltimore, MD Have a clear calendar mapped out as best as possible. Know that all won't go as planned, but if you section off clear times when you will be cooking/shopping/working, you will have clarity. You will be surprised by how simple yet effective this is. AVIVA DAVID, ENTREPRENEUR Cedarhurst, NY I always start with writing out menus a week or more in advance, and I make one or two things every night and freeze. I have a big calendar and I write what I am going to make every night, so I'll know what I need to have in the house for that night. HADDASAH MYERS, DIRECTOR OF EDUCATIONAL SERVICES AT A+ SOLUTIONS I create charts. My menu is first and then ingredients. Then I map out my cooking plan by day/night starting several days out. I literally map out what I'm cooking (or prepping- like chopping veggies for a dish the night before making it) on a specific day and order, so I am sure I have adequate space on my stovetop and in my ovens, and that cook time in the oven is aligned with other prep work. LISA KUDISH ROSENBERG, MARKETING/ COMMUNICATION CONSULTANT AND REALTOR Miami, FL I don't do well with marathon cooking. I start cooking AT LEAST two weeks in advance, even if it's one thing a night. I definitely double up recipes and menus, and I always try to leave NOTHING for day of Yom Tov (it's always crazy regardless!). FRUMI JANKELOVITS Brooklyn, NY You can make a calendar on ical or google calendar with reminders for things like sheitel drop off/ pickup etc., so details aren't forgotten. DR. MICHAL LEVINE Baltimore, Maryland 90 | fyimagazineny.com Bulk cooking: I make huge batches of basics and use them throughout my prep. I'll have my cleaning lady chop 10 huge onions and then I sautée them and set them aside. Why should I always slice and sauté an onion for each recipe when I can just scoop some pre-made ones from the 'pile'? DANA SICHERMAN, DIRECTOR OF DEVELOPMENT FOR THE OU'S ADVOCACY CENTER Silver Spring, MD Swapping with friends: One year, three friends coordinated. We each agreed to make three times the dish we were making and gave two to the others. That way, we ended up with three different dishes and only had to make one each. If you do this, just make sure you make large quantities so each family has enough. REBECCA BAR-SHAIN, FINANCIAL PLANNER Cleveland, OH Cleveland, OH on cooking on cleaning I grocery shop erev Yom Tov, and cook fresh Yom Tov morning. I find it much easier that way. For the night meals, which are hard to cook because of time restraints, I usually cook on erev Yom Tov, supplement with some "take out", or I cook ahead Say no to dishes: I’m not talking about just on yom tov, but the entire week before. You can’t stand a messy kitchen, you may or may not have cleaning help, but eliminate the dishes and wala, you’ve got a clear sink. CHAYA APPEL-FISHMAN Baltimore, MD Hire extra cleaning help! EVERYONE on errands Groceries: order online! Use Peapod, Shoprite, Amazon Now, or other grocery apps that let you shop online and deliver to your door. I never wait on line or spend time schlepping in groceries. (I actually order groceries from bed. Imagine that—grocery shopping in my pajamas!) Just make sure to put your order in a few days in advance so that you can get your groceries delivered on time. I love the app "wunderlist". I add things to different shopping lists from various grocery stores. Have a list of things to cook... Etc. Clothing Shopping: Avoid lines! There’s no time for that! Order online and save the time! Many companies have free shipping. Things I always forget to do are to get my kids haircuts and to cut their nails: don’t do this erev yom tov! ROIZE JACOBS Cleveland, OH 91 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  HOW TO JUGGLE YOUR BUSINESS IN THE HECTIC YOM TOV SEASON WRITTEN BY CHAYA APPEL-FISH...
in your busıness in your busıness HOW TO JUGGLE YOUR BUSINESS IN THE HECTIC YOM TOV SEASON WRITTEN BY CHAYA APPEL-FISHMAN, FOUNDER, THE JEWISH WOMAN ENTREPRENEUR Don't experiment with totally new recipes when you're slammed with major multiple days of cooking. Focus on what you know. Tried and true reduces stress and ensures a menu you can manage. LISA KUDISH ROSENBERG, MARKETING/ COMMUNICATION CONSULTANT AND REALTOR Miami, FL Yom Tov prep can be stressful on its own. In my work with The JWE, I’ve met over one thousand frum working women. Some own companies worth millions of dollars and juggle large families, others are professionals whose grueling work deadlines don’t break for Yom Tov. I’ve collected lots of advice over the years and there are four common themes to successful and happy juggling: Planning: preparation is key, collaboration: friends pitching in to help each other out, attitude: embrace the madness, don’t be a perfectionist! and delegation: assign tasks to spouses and children. Become good friends with your freezer! I'm meticulous about sealing food super well before putting it in the freezer, then defrosting it into a very hot oven. Food stays fresh tasting and you don't have the crazy rush before Yom Tov. I put two layers of foil over the pan. Then, I wrap each pan in two ziplock bags for added protection against freezer burn. Everything labeled very well along with date. MALKA FRANKEL, OWNER OF MALKADESIGNS Baltimore, MD on planning Make charts, lists, and map out all your to-dos well in advance. Take out your calendar and start backward from erev Yom Tov and write down what you’d like ready by that day. For example: Erev Yom Tov: all food cooked. Day before Yom Tov: table set, shaitel picked up. Two weeks before: cooking schedule begins (see more on creating a food schedule below). Then make a plan that correlates. CHAYA APPEL-FISHMAN Baltimore, MD Have a clear calendar mapped out as best as possible. Know that all won't go as planned, but if you section off clear times when you will be cooking/shopping/working, you will have clarity. You will be surprised by how simple yet effective this is. AVIVA DAVID, ENTREPRENEUR Cedarhurst, NY I always start with writing out menus a week or more in advance, and I make one or two things every night and freeze. I have a big calendar and I write what I am going to make every night, so I'll know what I need to have in the house for that night. HADDASAH MYERS, DIRECTOR OF EDUCATIONAL SERVICES AT A+ SOLUTIONS I create charts. My menu is first and then ingredients. Then I map out my cooking plan by day/night starting several days out. I literally map out what I'm cooking (or prepping- like chopping veggies for a dish the night before making it) on a specific day and order, so I am sure I have adequate space on my stovetop and in my ovens, and that cook time in the oven is aligned with other prep work. LISA KUDISH ROSENBERG, MARKETING/ COMMUNICATION CONSULTANT AND REALTOR Miami, FL I don't do well with marathon cooking. I start cooking AT LEAST two weeks in advance, even if it's one thing a night. I definitely double up recipes and menus, and I always try to leave NOTHING for day of Yom Tov (it's always crazy regardless!). FRUMI JANKELOVITS Brooklyn, NY You can make a calendar on ical or google calendar with reminders for things like sheitel drop off/ pickup etc., so details aren't forgotten. DR. MICHAL LEVINE Baltimore, Maryland 90 | fyimagazineny.com Bulk cooking: I make huge batches of basics and use them throughout my prep. I'll have my cleaning lady chop 10 huge onions and then I sautée them and set them aside. Why should I always slice and sauté an onion for each recipe when I can just scoop some pre-made ones from the 'pile'? DANA SICHERMAN, DIRECTOR OF DEVELOPMENT FOR THE OU'S ADVOCACY CENTER Silver Spring, MD Swapping with friends: One year, three friends coordinated. We each agreed to make three times the dish we were making and gave two to the others. That way, we ended up with three different dishes and only had to make one each. If you do this, just make sure you make large quantities so each family has enough. REBECCA BAR-SHAIN, FINANCIAL PLANNER Cleveland, OH Cleveland, OH on cooking on cleaning I grocery shop erev Yom Tov, and cook fresh Yom Tov morning. I find it much easier that way. For the night meals, which are hard to cook because of time restraints, I usually cook on erev Yom Tov, supplement with some "take out", or I cook ahead Say no to dishes: I’m not talking about just on yom tov, but the entire week before. You can’t stand a messy kitchen, you may or may not have cleaning help, but eliminate the dishes and wala, you’ve got a clear sink. CHAYA APPEL-FISHMAN Baltimore, MD Hire extra cleaning help! EVERYONE on errands Groceries: order online! Use Peapod, Shoprite, Amazon Now, or other grocery apps that let you shop online and deliver to your door. I never wait on line or spend time schlepping in groceries. (I actually order groceries from bed. Imagine that—grocery shopping in my pajamas!) Just make sure to put your order in a few days in advance so that you can get your groceries delivered on time. I love the app "wunderlist". I add things to different shopping lists from various grocery stores. Have a list of things to cook... Etc. Clothing Shopping: Avoid lines! There’s no time for that! Order online and save the time! Many companies have free shipping. Things I always forget to do are to get my kids haircuts and to cut their nails: don’t do this erev yom tov! ROIZE JACOBS Cleveland, OH 91 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  HOW TO JUGGLE YOUR BUSINESS IN THE HECTIC YOM TOV SEASON WRITTEN BY CHAYA APPEL-FISH...
in your busıness sharpen your appetıte Shower first thing in the morning. If you have time to shower again right before Yom Tov, hooray for you! You’re starting off your year extra clean. on childcare MERAV LEVINE Baltimore MD My kids don’t have school erev yom tov and I often can’t find a sitter to entertain them. I go to Amazing Savings and buy packets of fun things for my housekeeper to do with my kids. BATYA DANCYKIER, BILINGUAL SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER Lawrence, NY Child Swap: My friends and I created a "round robin" for a week. It was amazing. I took one day off from work and had a blast with my son and his friends. For the rest of the week, he was happy and busy while I was able to go to work. And it didn't cost a thing! CHANTAL MODES, MOTHER & MORAH Cleveland, OH Have lunch prepared for kids. Erev Yom Tov means food all day...I like to have a kugel in the oven, and maybe cold cuts and bread for sandwiches. In addition to pampering, I always try and exercise first thing in the early AM on Erev Yom Tov. It gives me a feeling of well-being going into the holidays, and I shower right after just in case I can’t get another one in later. Get your Sheitel done two weeks in advance (add that to your Yom Tov calendar). Some sheitel places do pickup and drop off for you. Even ones that don't advertise it might be willing to for an extra fee. Call and beg and try to get that task off your plate! Treat yourself to some new reading material, because things will settle down at some point. fyi BATYA DANCYKIER, BILINGUAL SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER Lawrence, NY on you on family Make all your ‘Good Yom Tov’ calls while commuting. Call the most important people first. Call from the train or while on the road. You don’t have time to waste, so utilize each moment. BATYA DANCYKIER, BILINGUAL SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER Lawrence, NY Make a clear list of what needs to get done and assign roles. Don’t forget to work as a team - my husband does a lot of grocery shopping. DR. MICHAL LEVINE Baltimore, Maryland 92 | fyimagazineny.com MOST COMMONLY FORGOTTEN SHOPPING ITEMS: • Stockings/ Tights • Grape Juice • Candles • Simanim • New fruit for shehechiyanu • Cut Foil • Tissues • Extra paper goods You might have a beautiful tablescape and six-course meal. You might have forgotten napkins all together and you’re using random blue checkered prints from the neighbor. This is a Yom Tov that’s all about your attitude and setting the tone for the New Year. The best thing you can bring to your home is a happy you. And you don’t need any sophisticated planning for that. Intrigued? Hear from industry leaders and meet more than 700 likeminded entrepreneurs and professionals at The JWE 2015 Business Conference. > Register at www. thejwe.org APPETIZER: Mini Tuna Taco Cups MAIN COURSE: Jeweled Chicken //Lamb in Saffron Sauce SIDE DISH: Simanim Salad //Tri Colored Carrots DESSERT: Puff Pastry Fruit Tart
in your bus  ness  sharpen your appet  te Shower first thing in the morning. If you have time to shower again right before...
in your busıness sharpen your appetıte Shower first thing in the morning. If you have time to shower again right before Yom Tov, hooray for you! You’re starting off your year extra clean. on childcare MERAV LEVINE Baltimore MD My kids don’t have school erev yom tov and I often can’t find a sitter to entertain them. I go to Amazing Savings and buy packets of fun things for my housekeeper to do with my kids. BATYA DANCYKIER, BILINGUAL SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER Lawrence, NY Child Swap: My friends and I created a "round robin" for a week. It was amazing. I took one day off from work and had a blast with my son and his friends. For the rest of the week, he was happy and busy while I was able to go to work. And it didn't cost a thing! CHANTAL MODES, MOTHER & MORAH Cleveland, OH Have lunch prepared for kids. Erev Yom Tov means food all day...I like to have a kugel in the oven, and maybe cold cuts and bread for sandwiches. In addition to pampering, I always try and exercise first thing in the early AM on Erev Yom Tov. It gives me a feeling of well-being going into the holidays, and I shower right after just in case I can’t get another one in later. Get your Sheitel done two weeks in advance (add that to your Yom Tov calendar). Some sheitel places do pickup and drop off for you. Even ones that don't advertise it might be willing to for an extra fee. Call and beg and try to get that task off your plate! Treat yourself to some new reading material, because things will settle down at some point. fyi BATYA DANCYKIER, BILINGUAL SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER Lawrence, NY on you on family Make all your ‘Good Yom Tov’ calls while commuting. Call the most important people first. Call from the train or while on the road. You don’t have time to waste, so utilize each moment. BATYA DANCYKIER, BILINGUAL SPECIAL EDUCATION TEACHER Lawrence, NY Make a clear list of what needs to get done and assign roles. Don’t forget to work as a team - my husband does a lot of grocery shopping. DR. MICHAL LEVINE Baltimore, Maryland 92 | fyimagazineny.com MOST COMMONLY FORGOTTEN SHOPPING ITEMS: • Stockings/ Tights • Grape Juice • Candles • Simanim • New fruit for shehechiyanu • Cut Foil • Tissues • Extra paper goods You might have a beautiful tablescape and six-course meal. You might have forgotten napkins all together and you’re using random blue checkered prints from the neighbor. This is a Yom Tov that’s all about your attitude and setting the tone for the New Year. The best thing you can bring to your home is a happy you. And you don’t need any sophisticated planning for that. Intrigued? Hear from industry leaders and meet more than 700 likeminded entrepreneurs and professionals at The JWE 2015 Business Conference. > Register at www. thejwe.org APPETIZER: Mini Tuna Taco Cups MAIN COURSE: Jeweled Chicken //Lamb in Saffron Sauce SIDE DISH: Simanim Salad //Tri Colored Carrots DESSERT: Puff Pastry Fruit Tart
in your bus  ness  sharpen your appet  te Shower first thing in the morning. If you have time to shower again right before...
APPETIZER sharpen your appetıte Mini Tuna Taco Cups Lamb Shoulder in Saffron Sauce MELINDA STRAUSS | KITCHEN TESTED These Mini Tuna Taco Cups are a great appetizer for the holidays! Instead of serving messy tacos that slide around the platter, these little cups made from wonton wrappers are easy to fill and almost too pretty to eat. 24 wonton wrappers olive oil cooking spray 2 x 1-pound tuna steaks salt and pepper, to taste Red Cabbage Slaw: 2 cups red cabbage, shredded 1 green apple, finely chopped 1 small jalapeño pepper, finely chopped 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 tablespoon lemon juice sharpen your appetıte MAIN SABRINA OVADIA | THE BEE’S KITCHEN 1/2 tablespoon honey 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper Avocado Crema: 1 ripe avocado 1/2 cup full-fat coconut milk 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 teaspoon salt Optional Toppings: pomegranate seeds cilantro hot sauce PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees and grease a 24-cup mini-muffin pan with olive oil cooking spray. Carefully press the wonton wrappers into the cups, then spray the wontons with more olive oil cooking spray. Transfer to the preheated oven and bake until golden brown and crispy, for around 8-10 minutes. Store the wonton cups in an airtight container for up to three days. Lamb shoulder is a traditional Moroccan dish that my mother used to make every year in honor of Rosh Hashana. This meat tastes best when cooked simply on a low heat for about an hour. The lamb is enriched with the flavor of saffron, a staple in Moroccan cuisine, and the secret to many exotic, delectable dishes. Just a pinch of this magical spice adds a burst of flavors! Prep time: 10min Cook time: 2 hours 1 lamb shoulder, bone-in 2 pounds of small yellow potatoes, peeled 6 garlic cloves, minced 1 tablespoon saffron 1 tablespoon salt 1 tablespoon pepper 2 tablespoon turmeric 3-4 bay leaves IN A LARGE POT, heat up 6 ½ cups of water and add the seasonings and spices. Mix very well. Bring the water to a boil, add the meat, cover, and cook on a medium heat for about 1 hour. AFTER AN HOUR, add the small potatoes and cook for another 10 minutes. PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees. Remove the potatoes from the pot and transfer to an ovenproof pan. Add 1/2 cup water to the ovenproof pan, place in the oven, and cook for about 45 minutes. When the meat is done, arrange it on a large platter with the potatoes placed around it. Serve warm. fyi To prepare the red cabbage slaw: COMBINE the cabbage, apple, jalapeño, apple cider vinegar, lemon juice, honey, salt, and pepper in a plastic storage bag. Zip the top and shake to combine all ingredients. This slaw can be made one day ahead so the flavors can intensify, but it can also be made fresh just before serving. To prepare the avocado crema: COMBINE the avocado, coconut milk, lemon juice, and salt in a high-speed blender and blend until smooth and creamy. Refrigerate until ready to serve, for up to two days. To prepare the tuna steaks: HEAT a skillet over medium-high heat and oil the pan with olive oil cooking spray or a drizzle of oil. Season the tuna with salt and pepper and place the tuna in the hot pan to sear the steaks. COOK the tuna on each side for 1-2 minutes per side. The tuna should be pink in the center. Thinly slice the tuna. Divide and place the sliced tuna in the bottom of each wonton cup and top with the red cabbage slaw and avocado crema. SPRINKLE the cups with sea salt and add additional toppings such as pomegranate seeds, cilantro, and hot sauce. fyi 94 | fyimagazineny.com 95 | fyimagazineny.com
APPETIZER  sharpen your appet  te  Mini Tuna Taco Cups  Lamb Shoulder in Saffron Sauce  MELINDA STRAUSS   KITCHEN TESTED  ...
APPETIZER sharpen your appetıte Mini Tuna Taco Cups Lamb Shoulder in Saffron Sauce MELINDA STRAUSS | KITCHEN TESTED These Mini Tuna Taco Cups are a great appetizer for the holidays! Instead of serving messy tacos that slide around the platter, these little cups made from wonton wrappers are easy to fill and almost too pretty to eat. 24 wonton wrappers olive oil cooking spray 2 x 1-pound tuna steaks salt and pepper, to taste Red Cabbage Slaw: 2 cups red cabbage, shredded 1 green apple, finely chopped 1 small jalapeño pepper, finely chopped 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 tablespoon lemon juice sharpen your appetıte MAIN SABRINA OVADIA | THE BEE’S KITCHEN 1/2 tablespoon honey 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper Avocado Crema: 1 ripe avocado 1/2 cup full-fat coconut milk 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 teaspoon salt Optional Toppings: pomegranate seeds cilantro hot sauce PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees and grease a 24-cup mini-muffin pan with olive oil cooking spray. Carefully press the wonton wrappers into the cups, then spray the wontons with more olive oil cooking spray. Transfer to the preheated oven and bake until golden brown and crispy, for around 8-10 minutes. Store the wonton cups in an airtight container for up to three days. Lamb shoulder is a traditional Moroccan dish that my mother used to make every year in honor of Rosh Hashana. This meat tastes best when cooked simply on a low heat for about an hour. The lamb is enriched with the flavor of saffron, a staple in Moroccan cuisine, and the secret to many exotic, delectable dishes. Just a pinch of this magical spice adds a burst of flavors! Prep time: 10min Cook time: 2 hours 1 lamb shoulder, bone-in 2 pounds of small yellow potatoes, peeled 6 garlic cloves, minced 1 tablespoon saffron 1 tablespoon salt 1 tablespoon pepper 2 tablespoon turmeric 3-4 bay leaves IN A LARGE POT, heat up 6 ½ cups of water and add the seasonings and spices. Mix very well. Bring the water to a boil, add the meat, cover, and cook on a medium heat for about 1 hour. AFTER AN HOUR, add the small potatoes and cook for another 10 minutes. PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees. Remove the potatoes from the pot and transfer to an ovenproof pan. Add 1/2 cup water to the ovenproof pan, place in the oven, and cook for about 45 minutes. When the meat is done, arrange it on a large platter with the potatoes placed around it. Serve warm. fyi To prepare the red cabbage slaw: COMBINE the cabbage, apple, jalapeño, apple cider vinegar, lemon juice, honey, salt, and pepper in a plastic storage bag. Zip the top and shake to combine all ingredients. This slaw can be made one day ahead so the flavors can intensify, but it can also be made fresh just before serving. To prepare the avocado crema: COMBINE the avocado, coconut milk, lemon juice, and salt in a high-speed blender and blend until smooth and creamy. Refrigerate until ready to serve, for up to two days. To prepare the tuna steaks: HEAT a skillet over medium-high heat and oil the pan with olive oil cooking spray or a drizzle of oil. Season the tuna with salt and pepper and place the tuna in the hot pan to sear the steaks. COOK the tuna on each side for 1-2 minutes per side. The tuna should be pink in the center. Thinly slice the tuna. Divide and place the sliced tuna in the bottom of each wonton cup and top with the red cabbage slaw and avocado crema. SPRINKLE the cups with sea salt and add additional toppings such as pomegranate seeds, cilantro, and hot sauce. fyi 94 | fyimagazineny.com 95 | fyimagazineny.com
APPETIZER  sharpen your appet  te  Mini Tuna Taco Cups  Lamb Shoulder in Saffron Sauce  MELINDA STRAUSS   KITCHEN TESTED  ...
sharpen your appetıte MAIN Jeweled Chicken SHUSHY TURIN | COOKING IN HEELS Making this chicken recipe for Rosh Hashana uses many Simanim such as pomegranates, figs, and dates (syrup) along with wonderfully warm spices, making it a deliciously sweet way to start the New Year. The beautiful “jeweled” fruits that garnish the chicken make a wonderful display - fit for a king! Note: if pressed for time, skip the browning the chicken step and just bake the chicken for 45 minutes before broiling. 1 chicken, cut into 8ths, or 12 drumsticks 2 tablespoons oil 1 medium yellow onion, coarsely chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced 1/4 teaspoon grated fresh ginger 3/4 cup Pom (pomegranate) juice 1/4 cup soy sauce 1 teaspoon salt, plus to taste 2 tablespoons tomato paste 2 tablespoons Silan or maple syrup 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon cardamom 1/8 teaspoon fresh nutmeg 8 dried figs 2 sprigs thyme To garnish: 1/4 cup fresh figs, quartered 1/4 cup pomegranate seeds 1/3 cup cilantro, coarsely chopped PREHEAT the oven to 450F degrees. Heat the oil on a high flame in a large, ovenproof pot that has a cover. Pat the chicken dry and season generously with salt and pepper. Lay the chicken carefully, skin side down, in the pot with oil and brown the skin, 5 - 7 minutes on each side. The goal is to sear or seal in the moisture, not to completely cook the chicken. When the skin is browned, remove it from the pan and lay it on a plate. Set aside. Do not wipe the pan clean. In a food processor or blender, add the onion, ginger, garlic, pomegranate juice, and soy sauce. Pulse the blender until the ingredients are integrated, but be sure to keep the mixture a little chunky. Pour the blender mixture into the pan and allow it to caramelize, stirring occasionally over medium flame 15-20 minutes. Then add the tomato paste, Silan, cinnamon, cardamom, nutmeg, figs, and thyme, plus 1 cup of water and bring to a boil. Add the chicken back into the pot and cover. Place in the oven for 25-30 minutes or until the chicken reaches 165F degrees using an internal thermometer. Remove the pot cover and place under the broiler for 10 minutes or until the skin turns crispy. Remove from the oven and allow the chicken to cool. Remove the dried figs and thyme sprigs from the pot and discard. Garnish with fresh figs sliced in half, pomegranate seeds, and cilantro. fyi 96 | fyimagazineny.com 97 | fyimagazineny.com
sharpen your appet  te  MAIN  Jeweled Chicken SHUSHY TURIN   COOKING IN HEELS  Making this chicken recipe for Rosh Hashana...
sharpen your appetıte MAIN Jeweled Chicken SHUSHY TURIN | COOKING IN HEELS Making this chicken recipe for Rosh Hashana uses many Simanim such as pomegranates, figs, and dates (syrup) along with wonderfully warm spices, making it a deliciously sweet way to start the New Year. The beautiful “jeweled” fruits that garnish the chicken make a wonderful display - fit for a king! Note: if pressed for time, skip the browning the chicken step and just bake the chicken for 45 minutes before broiling. 1 chicken, cut into 8ths, or 12 drumsticks 2 tablespoons oil 1 medium yellow onion, coarsely chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced 1/4 teaspoon grated fresh ginger 3/4 cup Pom (pomegranate) juice 1/4 cup soy sauce 1 teaspoon salt, plus to taste 2 tablespoons tomato paste 2 tablespoons Silan or maple syrup 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon cardamom 1/8 teaspoon fresh nutmeg 8 dried figs 2 sprigs thyme To garnish: 1/4 cup fresh figs, quartered 1/4 cup pomegranate seeds 1/3 cup cilantro, coarsely chopped PREHEAT the oven to 450F degrees. Heat the oil on a high flame in a large, ovenproof pot that has a cover. Pat the chicken dry and season generously with salt and pepper. Lay the chicken carefully, skin side down, in the pot with oil and brown the skin, 5 - 7 minutes on each side. The goal is to sear or seal in the moisture, not to completely cook the chicken. When the skin is browned, remove it from the pan and lay it on a plate. Set aside. Do not wipe the pan clean. In a food processor or blender, add the onion, ginger, garlic, pomegranate juice, and soy sauce. Pulse the blender until the ingredients are integrated, but be sure to keep the mixture a little chunky. Pour the blender mixture into the pan and allow it to caramelize, stirring occasionally over medium flame 15-20 minutes. Then add the tomato paste, Silan, cinnamon, cardamom, nutmeg, figs, and thyme, plus 1 cup of water and bring to a boil. Add the chicken back into the pot and cover. Place in the oven for 25-30 minutes or until the chicken reaches 165F degrees using an internal thermometer. Remove the pot cover and place under the broiler for 10 minutes or until the skin turns crispy. Remove from the oven and allow the chicken to cool. Remove the dried figs and thyme sprigs from the pot and discard. Garnish with fresh figs sliced in half, pomegranate seeds, and cilantro. fyi 96 | fyimagazineny.com 97 | fyimagazineny.com
sharpen your appet  te  MAIN  Jeweled Chicken SHUSHY TURIN   COOKING IN HEELS  Making this chicken recipe for Rosh Hashana...
SIDE sharpen your appetıte sharpen your appetıte SIDE Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots Simanim Salad DINI KLEIN | DINI DELIVERS NAOMI NACHMAN | THE AUSSIE GOURMET When it comes to holidays, most of us are looking for affordable, filling, beautiful dishes. This carrot dish is just that, and its unique flavors are sure to please a crowd! I love to serve the different simanim featured in my recipes throughout the meal. This salad is perfect in taste and has picture-perfect eye appeal with all its colorful ingredients. 12 large carrots, peeled and sliced 1/2 thick on an angle zest of 2 oranges and 3 tablespoons of the juice 1 3/4 teaspoon kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1/2 teaspoon coriander 2 tablespoon olive oil 3 tablespoon honey 1 tablespoon fresh tarragon, finely chopped 1/2 cup dried cherries PREHEAT oven to 420 degrees PLACE carrots in a large baking dish. Toss with zest, salt, pepper, coriander, olive oil, and honey. Roast for about 45 minutes until the carrots are soft but not mushy. Mix the carrots around occasionally while cooking. fyi 1 large Granny Smith apple, finely chopped 1/2 cup pomegranate seeds ½ cup leek - white part only, finely sliced 1 tablespoon honey 1 medium carrot, shredded 1 small yellow beet, peeled and finely shredded 3 medjool dates (about ¼ cup), pitted and finely chopped 2 tablespoons cilantro or parsley, chopped Juice of 2 limes, freshly squeezed 3 cups arugula Kosher salt, to taste 2 tablespoons avocado oil or extra virgin olive oil MIX all ingredients, except the arugula, together in a bowl and let it marinade for ½ hour. Add the arugula before serving and toss again. fyi Serves 6-8 98 | fyimagazineny.com 99 | fyimagazineny.com
SIDE  sharpen your appet  te  sharpen your appet  te  SIDE  Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots  Simanim Salad  DINI KLEIN   D...
SIDE sharpen your appetıte sharpen your appetıte SIDE Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots Simanim Salad DINI KLEIN | DINI DELIVERS NAOMI NACHMAN | THE AUSSIE GOURMET When it comes to holidays, most of us are looking for affordable, filling, beautiful dishes. This carrot dish is just that, and its unique flavors are sure to please a crowd! I love to serve the different simanim featured in my recipes throughout the meal. This salad is perfect in taste and has picture-perfect eye appeal with all its colorful ingredients. 12 large carrots, peeled and sliced 1/2 thick on an angle zest of 2 oranges and 3 tablespoons of the juice 1 3/4 teaspoon kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1/2 teaspoon coriander 2 tablespoon olive oil 3 tablespoon honey 1 tablespoon fresh tarragon, finely chopped 1/2 cup dried cherries PREHEAT oven to 420 degrees PLACE carrots in a large baking dish. Toss with zest, salt, pepper, coriander, olive oil, and honey. Roast for about 45 minutes until the carrots are soft but not mushy. Mix the carrots around occasionally while cooking. fyi 1 large Granny Smith apple, finely chopped 1/2 cup pomegranate seeds ½ cup leek - white part only, finely sliced 1 tablespoon honey 1 medium carrot, shredded 1 small yellow beet, peeled and finely shredded 3 medjool dates (about ¼ cup), pitted and finely chopped 2 tablespoons cilantro or parsley, chopped Juice of 2 limes, freshly squeezed 3 cups arugula Kosher salt, to taste 2 tablespoons avocado oil or extra virgin olive oil MIX all ingredients, except the arugula, together in a bowl and let it marinade for ½ hour. Add the arugula before serving and toss again. fyi Serves 6-8 98 | fyimagazineny.com 99 | fyimagazineny.com
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DESSERT sharpen your appetıte Puff Pastry Cream & Fruit Tart Puff Pastry: LEAH NAGEL | TRUFFLES AND TRENDS 1/2 sheet of store-bought puff pastry 1 egg, for brushing Custard-Cream: 
 1 cup soy/almond milk 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
 1 egg + 1 egg yolk 2 generous tablespoons cornstarch 1/3 cup sugar 1/3 cup non-dairy whipping cream Fruits: Any you desire (I used 2 kiwis, a few strawberries, 1 tangerine, and half a container of blueberries) Glaze: 2 tablespoons apricot preserves/jam Few drops water Yield: 6-8 slices Puff Pastry: Remove the puff pastry from the freezer 30 minutes before use. It's okay if it's still a bit frozen when you are ready to use it. PREHEAT the oven to 350 F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Roll a rolling pin over the puff pastry sheet a few times to stretch it just a bit. Using a ruler, measure a 5-inch-wide* rectangle and cut it out with a knife or pizza cutter. Next, measure out two 3/4-inch strips to use for the raised sides of the rectangle. Cut them out. PRICK the rectangle (not the strips) with a fork to prevent it from puffing up in the oven. Brush the two long edges/sides of the rectangle with a beaten egg. Place the two strips you cut out over the egg wash on the edges of the rectangle, and press to stick them on. Brush the raised edges with more egg wash (the rest of the tart will be covered with cream, so it doesn't need to be brushed with egg). Crimp the raised edges with a fork if desired. BAKE the rectangle on your prepared sheet for 22-28 minutes, or until the puff pastry is golden brown. Custard: LINE a baking sheet with plastic wrap. Combine the soymilk and vanilla extract in a small pot on the stovetop and bring to a boil. Meanwhile, mix the sugar and cornstarch in a small bowl. In a medium bowl, beat together the egg + yolk with a hand whisk. Add the sugar mixture into the beaten eggs and whisk together. ONCE the milk boils, pour 1/3 of it into the egg mixture. Whisk quickly. Pour the whole egg mixture back into the remaining milk in the pot, and return it to the flame on medium heat. Stir the mixture constantly with a wooden spoon. After about 5 minutes, the mixture will start thickening. Once the custard is thick and starts bubbling, stirring constantly, count 90 seconds and remove it from the flame. POUR the custard onto your plastic-lined sheet. Cover it with another layer of plastic wrap, pressing down onto the custard to remove any air bubbles. Place the sheet in the fridge or freezer until the custard is cool. Cream: BEAT the whipping cream in a machine with a whisk attachment until stiff. Once the custard is cool, mix it with the whipped cream. Assembly: SPREAD the custard-cream evenly onto the puff pastry rectangle (leave the raised edges clean). Chop up your desired fruits and arrange them on the tart. Brush the fruits with apricot glaze. To make the glaze, simply combine the jam and water in a small pot (or in the microwave) and stir until the mixture becomes smooth and spreadable. *Note: If you are having a larger crowd, you can always cut out a 10-inch-wide rectangle (or 15-inch-wide, etc.) from the puff pastry and double the custard ingredients and amount of fruit to top the puff pastry with. fyi sharpen your appetıte CLIP & SAVE Mini Tuna Taco Cups 24 wonton wrappers olive oil cooking spray 2 x 1-pound tuna steaks salt and pepper, to taste Red Cabbage Slaw: 2 cups red cabbage, shredded 1 green apple, finely chopped 1 small jalapeño pepper, finely chopped 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 tablespoon lemon juice 1/2 tablespoon honey 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper 1 ripe avocado 1/2 cup full-fat coconut milk 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 teaspoon salt Optional Toppings: pomegranate seeds cilantro hot sauce Avocado Crema: PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees and grease a 24-cup mini-muffin pan with olive oil cooking spray. Carefully press the wonton wrappers into the cups, then spray the wontons with more olive oil cooking spray. Transfer to the preheated oven and bake until golden brown and crispy, for around 8-10 minutes. Store the wonton cups in an airtight container for up to three days. To prepare the red cabbage slaw: COMBINE the cabbage, apple, jalapeño, apple cider vinegar, lemon juice, honey, salt, and pepper in a plastic storage bag. Zip the top and shake to combine all ingredients. This slaw can be made one day ahead so the flavors can intensify, but it can also be made fresh just before serving. To prepare the avocado crema: COMBINE the avocado, coconut milk, lemon juice, and salt in a high-speed blender and blend until smooth and creamy. Refrigerate until ready to serve, for up to two days. To prepare the tuna steaks: HEAT a skillet over medium-high heat and oil the pan with olive oil cooking spray or a drizzle of oil. Season the tuna with salt and pepper and place the tuna in the hot pan to sear the steaks. COOK the tuna on each side for 1-2 minutes per side. The tuna should be pink in the center. Thinly slice the tuna. Divide and place the sliced tuna in the bottom of each wonton cup and top with the red cabbage slaw and avocado crema. SPRINKLE the cups with sea salt and add additional toppings such as pomegranate seeds, cilantro, and hot sauce. Puff Pastry Cream & Fruit Tart Puff Pastry: 1/2 sheet of store-bought puff pastry 1 egg, for brushing Custard-Cream: 
 1 cup soy/almond milk 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
 1 egg + 1 egg yolk 2 generous tablespoons cornstarch 1/3 cup sugar 1/3 cup non-dairy whipping cream Fruits: Any you desire (I used 2 kiwis, a few strawberries, 1 tangerine, and half a container of blueberries) Glaze: 2 tablespoons apricot preserves/jam Few drops water Yield: 6-8 slices Puff Pastry: Remove the puff pastry from the freezer 30 minutes before use. It's okay if it's still a bit frozen when you are ready to use it. PREHEAT the oven to 350 F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Roll a rolling pin over the puff pastry sheet a few times to stretch it just a bit. Using a ruler, measure a 5-inchwide* rectangle and cut it out with a knife or pizza cutter. Next, measure out two 3/4-inch strips to use for the raised sides of the rectangle. Cut them out. PRICK the rectangle (not the strips) with a fork to prevent it from puffing up in the oven. Brush the two long edges/sides of the rectangle with a beaten egg. Place the two strips you cut out over the egg wash on the edges of the rectangle, and press to stick them on. Brush the raised edges with more egg wash (the rest of the tart will be covered with cream, so it doesn't need to be brushed with egg). Crimp the raised edges with a fork if desired. BAKE the rectangle on your prepared sheet for 22-28 minutes, or until the puff pastry is golden brown. 101 | fyimagazineny.com Custard: LINE a baking sheet with plastic wrap. Combine the soymilk and vanilla extract in a small pot on the stovetop and bring to a boil. Meanwhile, mix the sugar and cornstarch in a small bowl. In a medium bowl, beat together the egg + yolk with a hand whisk. Add the sugar mixture into the beaten eggs and whisk together. ONCE the milk boils, pour 1/3 of it into the egg mixture. Whisk quickly. Pour the whole egg mixture back into the remaining milk in the pot, and return it to the flame on medium heat. Stir the mixture constantly with a wooden spoon. After about 5 minutes, the mixture will start thickening. Once the custard is thick and starts bubbling, stirring constantly, count 90 seconds and remove it from the flame. POUR the custard onto your plastic-lined sheet. Cover it with another layer of plastic wrap, pressing down onto the custard to remove any air bubbles. Place the sheet in the fridge or freezer until the custard is cool. Cream: BEAT the whipping cream in a machine with a whisk attachment until stiff. Once the custard is cool, mix it with the whipped cream. Assembly: SPREAD the custard-cream evenly onto the puff pastry rectangle (leave the raised edges clean). Chop up your desired fruits and arrange them on the tart. Brush the fruits with apricot glaze. To make the glaze, simply combine the jam and water in a small pot (or in the microwave) and stir until the mixture becomes smooth and spreadable. *Note: If you are having a larger crowd, you can always cut out a 10-inch-wide rectangle (or 15-inch-wide, etc.) from the puff pastry and double the custard ingredients and amount of fruit to top the puff pastry with.
DESSERT  sharpen your appet  te  Puff Pastry Cream   Fruit Tart Puff Pastry  LEAH NAGEL   TRUFFLES AND TRENDS 1 2 sheet of...
DESSERT sharpen your appetıte Puff Pastry Cream & Fruit Tart Puff Pastry: LEAH NAGEL | TRUFFLES AND TRENDS 1/2 sheet of store-bought puff pastry 1 egg, for brushing Custard-Cream: 
 1 cup soy/almond milk 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
 1 egg + 1 egg yolk 2 generous tablespoons cornstarch 1/3 cup sugar 1/3 cup non-dairy whipping cream Fruits: Any you desire (I used 2 kiwis, a few strawberries, 1 tangerine, and half a container of blueberries) Glaze: 2 tablespoons apricot preserves/jam Few drops water Yield: 6-8 slices Puff Pastry: Remove the puff pastry from the freezer 30 minutes before use. It's okay if it's still a bit frozen when you are ready to use it. PREHEAT the oven to 350 F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Roll a rolling pin over the puff pastry sheet a few times to stretch it just a bit. Using a ruler, measure a 5-inch-wide* rectangle and cut it out with a knife or pizza cutter. Next, measure out two 3/4-inch strips to use for the raised sides of the rectangle. Cut them out. PRICK the rectangle (not the strips) with a fork to prevent it from puffing up in the oven. Brush the two long edges/sides of the rectangle with a beaten egg. Place the two strips you cut out over the egg wash on the edges of the rectangle, and press to stick them on. Brush the raised edges with more egg wash (the rest of the tart will be covered with cream, so it doesn't need to be brushed with egg). Crimp the raised edges with a fork if desired. BAKE the rectangle on your prepared sheet for 22-28 minutes, or until the puff pastry is golden brown. Custard: LINE a baking sheet with plastic wrap. Combine the soymilk and vanilla extract in a small pot on the stovetop and bring to a boil. Meanwhile, mix the sugar and cornstarch in a small bowl. In a medium bowl, beat together the egg + yolk with a hand whisk. Add the sugar mixture into the beaten eggs and whisk together. ONCE the milk boils, pour 1/3 of it into the egg mixture. Whisk quickly. Pour the whole egg mixture back into the remaining milk in the pot, and return it to the flame on medium heat. Stir the mixture constantly with a wooden spoon. After about 5 minutes, the mixture will start thickening. Once the custard is thick and starts bubbling, stirring constantly, count 90 seconds and remove it from the flame. POUR the custard onto your plastic-lined sheet. Cover it with another layer of plastic wrap, pressing down onto the custard to remove any air bubbles. Place the sheet in the fridge or freezer until the custard is cool. Cream: BEAT the whipping cream in a machine with a whisk attachment until stiff. Once the custard is cool, mix it with the whipped cream. Assembly: SPREAD the custard-cream evenly onto the puff pastry rectangle (leave the raised edges clean). Chop up your desired fruits and arrange them on the tart. Brush the fruits with apricot glaze. To make the glaze, simply combine the jam and water in a small pot (or in the microwave) and stir until the mixture becomes smooth and spreadable. *Note: If you are having a larger crowd, you can always cut out a 10-inch-wide rectangle (or 15-inch-wide, etc.) from the puff pastry and double the custard ingredients and amount of fruit to top the puff pastry with. fyi sharpen your appetıte CLIP & SAVE Mini Tuna Taco Cups 24 wonton wrappers olive oil cooking spray 2 x 1-pound tuna steaks salt and pepper, to taste Red Cabbage Slaw: 2 cups red cabbage, shredded 1 green apple, finely chopped 1 small jalapeño pepper, finely chopped 1/4 cup apple cider vinegar 2 tablespoons olive oil 1 tablespoon lemon juice 1/2 tablespoon honey 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon pepper 1 ripe avocado 1/2 cup full-fat coconut milk 2 tablespoons lemon juice 1 teaspoon salt Optional Toppings: pomegranate seeds cilantro hot sauce Avocado Crema: PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees and grease a 24-cup mini-muffin pan with olive oil cooking spray. Carefully press the wonton wrappers into the cups, then spray the wontons with more olive oil cooking spray. Transfer to the preheated oven and bake until golden brown and crispy, for around 8-10 minutes. Store the wonton cups in an airtight container for up to three days. To prepare the red cabbage slaw: COMBINE the cabbage, apple, jalapeño, apple cider vinegar, lemon juice, honey, salt, and pepper in a plastic storage bag. Zip the top and shake to combine all ingredients. This slaw can be made one day ahead so the flavors can intensify, but it can also be made fresh just before serving. To prepare the avocado crema: COMBINE the avocado, coconut milk, lemon juice, and salt in a high-speed blender and blend until smooth and creamy. Refrigerate until ready to serve, for up to two days. To prepare the tuna steaks: HEAT a skillet over medium-high heat and oil the pan with olive oil cooking spray or a drizzle of oil. Season the tuna with salt and pepper and place the tuna in the hot pan to sear the steaks. COOK the tuna on each side for 1-2 minutes per side. The tuna should be pink in the center. Thinly slice the tuna. Divide and place the sliced tuna in the bottom of each wonton cup and top with the red cabbage slaw and avocado crema. SPRINKLE the cups with sea salt and add additional toppings such as pomegranate seeds, cilantro, and hot sauce. Puff Pastry Cream & Fruit Tart Puff Pastry: 1/2 sheet of store-bought puff pastry 1 egg, for brushing Custard-Cream: 
 1 cup soy/almond milk 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
 1 egg + 1 egg yolk 2 generous tablespoons cornstarch 1/3 cup sugar 1/3 cup non-dairy whipping cream Fruits: Any you desire (I used 2 kiwis, a few strawberries, 1 tangerine, and half a container of blueberries) Glaze: 2 tablespoons apricot preserves/jam Few drops water Yield: 6-8 slices Puff Pastry: Remove the puff pastry from the freezer 30 minutes before use. It's okay if it's still a bit frozen when you are ready to use it. PREHEAT the oven to 350 F. Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Roll a rolling pin over the puff pastry sheet a few times to stretch it just a bit. Using a ruler, measure a 5-inchwide* rectangle and cut it out with a knife or pizza cutter. Next, measure out two 3/4-inch strips to use for the raised sides of the rectangle. Cut them out. PRICK the rectangle (not the strips) with a fork to prevent it from puffing up in the oven. Brush the two long edges/sides of the rectangle with a beaten egg. Place the two strips you cut out over the egg wash on the edges of the rectangle, and press to stick them on. Brush the raised edges with more egg wash (the rest of the tart will be covered with cream, so it doesn't need to be brushed with egg). Crimp the raised edges with a fork if desired. BAKE the rectangle on your prepared sheet for 22-28 minutes, or until the puff pastry is golden brown. 101 | fyimagazineny.com Custard: LINE a baking sheet with plastic wrap. Combine the soymilk and vanilla extract in a small pot on the stovetop and bring to a boil. Meanwhile, mix the sugar and cornstarch in a small bowl. In a medium bowl, beat together the egg + yolk with a hand whisk. Add the sugar mixture into the beaten eggs and whisk together. ONCE the milk boils, pour 1/3 of it into the egg mixture. Whisk quickly. Pour the whole egg mixture back into the remaining milk in the pot, and return it to the flame on medium heat. Stir the mixture constantly with a wooden spoon. After about 5 minutes, the mixture will start thickening. Once the custard is thick and starts bubbling, stirring constantly, count 90 seconds and remove it from the flame. POUR the custard onto your plastic-lined sheet. Cover it with another layer of plastic wrap, pressing down onto the custard to remove any air bubbles. Place the sheet in the fridge or freezer until the custard is cool. Cream: BEAT the whipping cream in a machine with a whisk attachment until stiff. Once the custard is cool, mix it with the whipped cream. Assembly: SPREAD the custard-cream evenly onto the puff pastry rectangle (leave the raised edges clean). Chop up your desired fruits and arrange them on the tart. Brush the fruits with apricot glaze. To make the glaze, simply combine the jam and water in a small pot (or in the microwave) and stir until the mixture becomes smooth and spreadable. *Note: If you are having a larger crowd, you can always cut out a 10-inch-wide rectangle (or 15-inch-wide, etc.) from the puff pastry and double the custard ingredients and amount of fruit to top the puff pastry with.
DESSERT  sharpen your appet  te  Puff Pastry Cream   Fruit Tart Puff Pastry  LEAH NAGEL   TRUFFLES AND TRENDS 1 2 sheet of...
sharpen your appetıte Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots 12 large carrots, peeled and sliced 1/2 thick on an angle zest of 2 oranges and 3 tablespoons of the juice 1 3/4 teaspoon kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1/2 teaspoon coriander 2 tablespoon olive oil 3 tablespoon honey 1 tablespoon fresh tarragon, finely chopped 1/2 cup dried cherries Lamb Shoulder in Saffron Sauce IN A LARGE POT, heat up 6 ½ cups of water and add the seasonings and spices. Mix very well. Bring the water to a boil, add the meat, cover, and cook on a medium heat for about 1 hour. Prep time: 10min Cook time: 2 hours 1 lamb shoulder, bone-in 2 pounds of small yellow potatoes, peeled AFTER AN HOUR, add the small potatoes and cook for another 10 minutes. 6 garlic cloves, minced 1 tablespoon saffron 1 tablespoon salt PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees. Remove the potatoes from the pot and transfer to an ovenproof pan. Add 1/2 cup water to the ovenproof pan, place in the oven, and cook for about 45 minutes. 1 tablespoon pepper 2 tablespoon turmeric 3-4 bay leaves PREHEAT oven to 420 degrees When the meat is done, arrange it on a large platter with the potatoes placed around it. Serve warm. PLACE carrots in a large baking dish. Toss with zest, salt, pepper, coriander, olive oil, and honey. Roast for about 45 minutes until the carrots are soft but not mushy. Mix the carrots around occasionally while cooking. Jeweled Chicken Note: if pressed for time, skip the browning the chicken step and just bake the chicken for 45 minutes before broiling. 1 chicken, cut into 8ths, or 12 drumsticks Simanim Salad 1 large Granny Smith apple, finely chopped 1/2 cup pomegranate seeds ½ cup leek - white part only, finely sliced 1 tablespoon honey 1 medium carrot, shredded 1 small yellow beet, peeled and finely shredded 3 medjool dates (about ¼ cup), pitted and finely chopped 2 tablespoons cilantro or parsley, chopped Juice of 2 limes, freshly squeezed 3 cups arugula Kosher salt, to taste 2 tablespoons avocado oil or extra virgin olive oil MIX all ingredients, except the arugula, together in a bowl and let it marinade for ½ hour. Add the arugula before serving and toss again. sharpen your appetıte CLIP & SAVE 2 tablespoons oil 1 medium yellow onion, coarsely chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced 1/4 teaspoon grated fresh ginger 3/4 cup Pom (pomegranate) juice 1/4 cup soy sauce 1 teaspoon salt, plus to taste 2 tablespoons tomato paste 2 tablespoons Silan or maple syrup 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon cardamom 1/8 teaspoon fresh nutmeg 8 dried figs 2 sprigs thyme To garnish: 1/4 cup fresh figs, quartered 1/4 cup pomegranate seeds 1/3 cup cilantro, coarsely chopped PREHEAT the oven to 450F degrees. Heat the oil on a high flame in a large, ovenproof pot that has a cover. Pat the chicken dry and season generously with salt and pepper. 102 | fyimagazineny.com Lay the chicken carefully, skin side down, in the pot with oil and brown the skin, 5 - 7 minutes on each side. The goal is to sear or seal in the moisture, not to completely cook the chicken. When the skin is browned, remove it from the pan and lay it on a plate. Set aside. Do not wipe the pan clean. In a food processor or blender, add the onion, ginger, garlic, pomegranate juice, and soy sauce. Pulse the blender until the ingredients are integrated, but be sure to keep the mixture a little chunky. Pour the blender mixture into the pan and allow it to caramelize, stirring occasionally over medium flame 15-20 minutes. Then add the tomato paste, Silan, cinnamon, cardamom, nutmeg, figs, and thyme, plus 1 cup of water and bring to a boil. Add the chicken back into the pot and cover. Place in the oven for 25-30 minutes or until the chicken reaches 165F degrees using an internal thermometer. Getting to Know Your Spice Cabinet SAFFRON Some people describe the delicate flavor of saffron as reminiscent of ‘musty honey’; others argue that it tastes vaguely of the sea. Saffron is the most expensive spice and food in the world, more expensive even than white truffles, caviar, and authentic balsamic vinegar. Avoid cheap substitutes of saffron. A too-good-to-be-true price may only resemble saffron in color, and not taste even remotely like saffron. The good news is that a pinch of authentic saffron goes a long way and can last a very long time if stored in a dark, cool place. Beware: use more than a pinch, and the delicate, musty-honey flavor may turn into a ‘burnt plastic’ or ‘Band-Aid’ flavor. Saffron is available in thread and powder form and can be infused into vanilla desserts and pastries. Use this spice to elevate the flavors of rice dishes, seafood entrees, and poultry and meat dishes. Saffron is also used to give that beautiful, reddish-yellow color to many foods commercially, including cheeses, baked goods, and liqueurs. Some studies on the effects of saffron claim advantages against cancer, memory loss, and depression, as well as other medicinal benefits. Always ask your doctor before selfmedicating with saffron, especially during pregnancy. Remove the pot cover and place under the broiler for 10 minutes or until the skin turns crispy. Remove from the oven and allow the chicken to cool. Remove the dried figs and thyme sprigs from the pot and discard. Garnish with fresh figs sliced in half, pomegranate seeds, and cilantro. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER 103 | fyimagazineny.com
sharpen your appet  te Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots 12 large carrots, peeled and sliced 1 2 thick on an angle zest of 2...
sharpen your appetıte Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots 12 large carrots, peeled and sliced 1/2 thick on an angle zest of 2 oranges and 3 tablespoons of the juice 1 3/4 teaspoon kosher salt 1/2 teaspoon black pepper 1/2 teaspoon coriander 2 tablespoon olive oil 3 tablespoon honey 1 tablespoon fresh tarragon, finely chopped 1/2 cup dried cherries Lamb Shoulder in Saffron Sauce IN A LARGE POT, heat up 6 ½ cups of water and add the seasonings and spices. Mix very well. Bring the water to a boil, add the meat, cover, and cook on a medium heat for about 1 hour. Prep time: 10min Cook time: 2 hours 1 lamb shoulder, bone-in 2 pounds of small yellow potatoes, peeled AFTER AN HOUR, add the small potatoes and cook for another 10 minutes. 6 garlic cloves, minced 1 tablespoon saffron 1 tablespoon salt PREHEAT the oven to 375F degrees. Remove the potatoes from the pot and transfer to an ovenproof pan. Add 1/2 cup water to the ovenproof pan, place in the oven, and cook for about 45 minutes. 1 tablespoon pepper 2 tablespoon turmeric 3-4 bay leaves PREHEAT oven to 420 degrees When the meat is done, arrange it on a large platter with the potatoes placed around it. Serve warm. PLACE carrots in a large baking dish. Toss with zest, salt, pepper, coriander, olive oil, and honey. Roast for about 45 minutes until the carrots are soft but not mushy. Mix the carrots around occasionally while cooking. Jeweled Chicken Note: if pressed for time, skip the browning the chicken step and just bake the chicken for 45 minutes before broiling. 1 chicken, cut into 8ths, or 12 drumsticks Simanim Salad 1 large Granny Smith apple, finely chopped 1/2 cup pomegranate seeds ½ cup leek - white part only, finely sliced 1 tablespoon honey 1 medium carrot, shredded 1 small yellow beet, peeled and finely shredded 3 medjool dates (about ¼ cup), pitted and finely chopped 2 tablespoons cilantro or parsley, chopped Juice of 2 limes, freshly squeezed 3 cups arugula Kosher salt, to taste 2 tablespoons avocado oil or extra virgin olive oil MIX all ingredients, except the arugula, together in a bowl and let it marinade for ½ hour. Add the arugula before serving and toss again. sharpen your appetıte CLIP & SAVE 2 tablespoons oil 1 medium yellow onion, coarsely chopped 3 cloves garlic, minced 1/4 teaspoon grated fresh ginger 3/4 cup Pom (pomegranate) juice 1/4 cup soy sauce 1 teaspoon salt, plus to taste 2 tablespoons tomato paste 2 tablespoons Silan or maple syrup 1/4 teaspoon cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon cardamom 1/8 teaspoon fresh nutmeg 8 dried figs 2 sprigs thyme To garnish: 1/4 cup fresh figs, quartered 1/4 cup pomegranate seeds 1/3 cup cilantro, coarsely chopped PREHEAT the oven to 450F degrees. Heat the oil on a high flame in a large, ovenproof pot that has a cover. Pat the chicken dry and season generously with salt and pepper. 102 | fyimagazineny.com Lay the chicken carefully, skin side down, in the pot with oil and brown the skin, 5 - 7 minutes on each side. The goal is to sear or seal in the moisture, not to completely cook the chicken. When the skin is browned, remove it from the pan and lay it on a plate. Set aside. Do not wipe the pan clean. In a food processor or blender, add the onion, ginger, garlic, pomegranate juice, and soy sauce. Pulse the blender until the ingredients are integrated, but be sure to keep the mixture a little chunky. Pour the blender mixture into the pan and allow it to caramelize, stirring occasionally over medium flame 15-20 minutes. Then add the tomato paste, Silan, cinnamon, cardamom, nutmeg, figs, and thyme, plus 1 cup of water and bring to a boil. Add the chicken back into the pot and cover. Place in the oven for 25-30 minutes or until the chicken reaches 165F degrees using an internal thermometer. Getting to Know Your Spice Cabinet SAFFRON Some people describe the delicate flavor of saffron as reminiscent of ‘musty honey’; others argue that it tastes vaguely of the sea. Saffron is the most expensive spice and food in the world, more expensive even than white truffles, caviar, and authentic balsamic vinegar. Avoid cheap substitutes of saffron. A too-good-to-be-true price may only resemble saffron in color, and not taste even remotely like saffron. The good news is that a pinch of authentic saffron goes a long way and can last a very long time if stored in a dark, cool place. Beware: use more than a pinch, and the delicate, musty-honey flavor may turn into a ‘burnt plastic’ or ‘Band-Aid’ flavor. Saffron is available in thread and powder form and can be infused into vanilla desserts and pastries. Use this spice to elevate the flavors of rice dishes, seafood entrees, and poultry and meat dishes. Saffron is also used to give that beautiful, reddish-yellow color to many foods commercially, including cheeses, baked goods, and liqueurs. Some studies on the effects of saffron claim advantages against cancer, memory loss, and depression, as well as other medicinal benefits. Always ask your doctor before selfmedicating with saffron, especially during pregnancy. Remove the pot cover and place under the broiler for 10 minutes or until the skin turns crispy. Remove from the oven and allow the chicken to cool. Remove the dried figs and thyme sprigs from the pot and discard. Garnish with fresh figs sliced in half, pomegranate seeds, and cilantro. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER 103 | fyimagazineny.com
sharpen your appet  te Orange-Tarragon Roasted Carrots 12 large carrots, peeled and sliced 1 2 thick on an angle zest of 2...
sharpen your appetıte CARDAMOM Cardamom is the world’s third, most-expensive spice by weight; however, a drop of this powerful spice packs such a punch, it can be used quite economically while still adding oomph to food. Cardamom has a very strong, sweet-ish, warmth-inducing and citrus flavor which adds depth to and enhances any food it is added to. For best results, buy whole pods and crush the seeds as necessary to ensure that the aromatic oils do not evaporate. Cardamom works well in sweet and savory dishes. Add a pinch to your morning coffee and the flavor may just blow your mind. In desserts, use cardamom wherever cinnamon works. Give vanilla desserts a more complex, sophisticated essence with cardamom spice. Remember: you want a hint of warmth, not a mouthful of fire. Even a pinch of cardamom is powerful. In traditional medicine, cardamom is used to treat a variety of illnesses. In spite of a lack of substantial scientific study, other studies do show cancer-fighting benefits. Cardamom is a great source of fiber, antioxidants, flavonoids, iron, and manganese. Chewing on cardamom pods can freshen your breath. There are four types of vanilla: Mexican, Bourbon, Tahitian, and West Indian. The FDA strictly regulates vanilla and vanilla extract; an estimated ninety-five percent of extracts contain artificial ingredients. Get your pure vanilla from a trusted source! We are all familiar with vanilla-flavored desserts, but vanilla can be used in many other dishes. Try it in a dressing for fruit salad. Use it to flavor French toast, caramel, and smoothies. In cooked and baked dishes like cookies, the taste of pure vanilla is nearly indistinguishable from the artificial version, which means you can save money by using artificial vanilla with no one being the wiser. Use only pure vanilla in cold or slightly-cooked dishes where vanilla is a main flavor, for example, in eggnog. Aside from cooking and baking uses, vanilla is also extremely popular in the perfume features VANILLA IS YOUR IDENTITY SAFE? > FOOD LABELS > BEAT ANXIETY and aromatherapy industry. Use vanilla to make your house smell fresh, simply by dabbing some onto a light bulb. It also functions as an insect repellent. Supposedly, the vanilla bean can help heal burns, but DO NOT use vanilla extract; it contains alcohol and will worsen your burn! Vanilla contains antioxidants, calcium, manganese, potassium, and magnesium, so go ahead and call your ice cream a ‘healthy snack.’ fyi 106 112 114 “We tend to assume that we know what we’re eating; after all, the FDA has strict labeling laws, right?” - THE TRUTH BEHIND FOOD LABELS
sharpen your appet  te  CARDAMOM Cardamom is the world   s third, most-expensive spice by weight  however, a drop of this ...
sharpen your appetıte CARDAMOM Cardamom is the world’s third, most-expensive spice by weight; however, a drop of this powerful spice packs such a punch, it can be used quite economically while still adding oomph to food. Cardamom has a very strong, sweet-ish, warmth-inducing and citrus flavor which adds depth to and enhances any food it is added to. For best results, buy whole pods and crush the seeds as necessary to ensure that the aromatic oils do not evaporate. Cardamom works well in sweet and savory dishes. Add a pinch to your morning coffee and the flavor may just blow your mind. In desserts, use cardamom wherever cinnamon works. Give vanilla desserts a more complex, sophisticated essence with cardamom spice. Remember: you want a hint of warmth, not a mouthful of fire. Even a pinch of cardamom is powerful. In traditional medicine, cardamom is used to treat a variety of illnesses. In spite of a lack of substantial scientific study, other studies do show cancer-fighting benefits. Cardamom is a great source of fiber, antioxidants, flavonoids, iron, and manganese. Chewing on cardamom pods can freshen your breath. There are four types of vanilla: Mexican, Bourbon, Tahitian, and West Indian. The FDA strictly regulates vanilla and vanilla extract; an estimated ninety-five percent of extracts contain artificial ingredients. Get your pure vanilla from a trusted source! We are all familiar with vanilla-flavored desserts, but vanilla can be used in many other dishes. Try it in a dressing for fruit salad. Use it to flavor French toast, caramel, and smoothies. In cooked and baked dishes like cookies, the taste of pure vanilla is nearly indistinguishable from the artificial version, which means you can save money by using artificial vanilla with no one being the wiser. Use only pure vanilla in cold or slightly-cooked dishes where vanilla is a main flavor, for example, in eggnog. Aside from cooking and baking uses, vanilla is also extremely popular in the perfume features VANILLA IS YOUR IDENTITY SAFE? > FOOD LABELS > BEAT ANXIETY and aromatherapy industry. Use vanilla to make your house smell fresh, simply by dabbing some onto a light bulb. It also functions as an insect repellent. Supposedly, the vanilla bean can help heal burns, but DO NOT use vanilla extract; it contains alcohol and will worsen your burn! Vanilla contains antioxidants, calcium, manganese, potassium, and magnesium, so go ahead and call your ice cream a ‘healthy snack.’ fyi 106 112 114 “We tend to assume that we know what we’re eating; after all, the FDA has strict labeling laws, right?” - THE TRUTH BEHIND FOOD LABELS
sharpen your appet  te  CARDAMOM Cardamom is the world   s third, most-expensive spice by weight  however, a drop of this ...
how safe is your dentity? Identity theft: Do you really have personal information that is worth stealing? You’ve heard so much discussion and you’re still a bit skeptical. So, why go through the effort to protect yourself? You need to rethink your position on this matter. Identity theft is a rising concern in the current technological era and it can change and complicate your life. At a minimum, identity theft can embarrass its victim and generate the headache and time-consuming hassle of identification replacement; in many cases it can cost the victim money; and in the extreme, identify theft can block access to life-saving medical treatment. WRITTEN BY DINI HARRIS 106 | fyimagazineny.com 107 | fyimagazineny.com
how safe is your  dentity  Identity theft  Do you really have personal information that is worth stealing  You   ve heard ...
how safe is your dentity? Identity theft: Do you really have personal information that is worth stealing? You’ve heard so much discussion and you’re still a bit skeptical. So, why go through the effort to protect yourself? You need to rethink your position on this matter. Identity theft is a rising concern in the current technological era and it can change and complicate your life. At a minimum, identity theft can embarrass its victim and generate the headache and time-consuming hassle of identification replacement; in many cases it can cost the victim money; and in the extreme, identify theft can block access to life-saving medical treatment. WRITTEN BY DINI HARRIS 106 | fyimagazineny.com 107 | fyimagazineny.com
how safe is your  dentity  Identity theft  Do you really have personal information that is worth stealing  You   ve heard ...
I Identity thieves will try to access and use your personal information and electronic data. There are many simple steps to take to ensure your personal data is protected. WHAT CAN THEY STEAL? Identity theft involves a wide range of methods. Let’s start to better understand the threat of identity theft with questions concerning your personal computer: What kind of information do you keep on it? (Personal photographs, documents, passwords, etc.) Would you care if someone hacked your computer and used these family photos? Yitzchok Klein of Vocatech, an expert in telecommunication and internet security, thinks that we would prefer that our personal family pictures stay just that - personal and for family use only. We would not want to find personal photos publicly displayed on a social media page, especially without our permission. “The more well-known a person is,” says Yitzchok, “the more devastating these pictures can be. Sometimes, immoral people make an (illegal) business of hacking computers to get ahold of these pictures. Then respected community members are threatened with blackmail to avoid having the pictures made public.” Consider your email account. Would you care if someone takes and misuses the email addresses of your contacts? Well, yes!! Your friends and family are obviously more responsive to emails they receive from you than from unknown organizations or companies. With your email contacts in hand, a crook could send out a letter to them describing a “dear friend” in desperate need of tzedaka money because of her son’s medical condition - and sign it with your name. There is a good chance that your friends and family would donate to this “worthy” request. It would cause you embarrassment and anger when you found out how much money your acquaintances donated to help this non-existent friend. A WORD ON PASSWORDS Follow Yitzchok’s advice to maintain a strong password for your email account and photo accounts for services such as Snapfish to deter hackers. It is smart and simple to do. Here’s how to create a strong password: • Create a password that is at least 10 characters long. • Include combinations of numbers, letters, and characters such as ‘&.’ • Be creative. No easily guessable words - such as your name, your spouse’s name, or your children’s names. Other password tips include: • Use different passwords for each of your online accounts. If one account is hacked, the password can’t be used for your other accounts. • Avoid noting your passwords on unsecured web applications such as online calendars and to-do lists. • Keep a careful, private record of these new passwords. • Avoid using a public computer, but if you do, be sure to log out from all accounts before you leave the computer and never click on the option to save the login information. Keep your eyes open for shoulder surfers - the person sitting next to you may be noting which websites you access and what keystrokes you use to enter your passwords. KEEP YOUR COMPUTER HEALTHY Shoulder surfers can get your password by looking over your shoulder, but hackers can access information remotely from your computer by installing spyware or malware on your computer that will send them this information. Yikes! This is a call to action. Yitzchok says, “Have an anti-virus program installed and running on your computer at all times. And, once you’ve installed an anti-virus program, make sure it’s updated regularly.” Technology changes at a fast pace, and hackers and viruses are always the most knowledgeable. An outdated anti-virus program won’t protect your computer from the newest tech threats. Set these programs to automatically update on a regular basis or hire a reputable computer tech to set this up on your computer. To further protect yourself and your computer, never open a suspicious-looking email from an unfamiliar source, and take care when opening website links or other attachments. Even with preventive measures in place, malicious programs can get installed onto your computer when you open a seemingly innocuous link in an email or download software from an unsecured website. CREDIT CARD THEFT The world runs on three things: money, money, money. The most common type of identity theft involves money and credit card numbers. Simply, a dishonest person obtains someone else’s credit card number using it to pay for their own purchases. Never give out your credit card information on an insecure website. How can you tell if a website is secure? Firstly, secure web addresses have https (hypertext transfer protocol secure) in their URL or web address the “s” at the end denotes ‘secure.’ Secondly, look for a padlock icon on the bottom of the browser page or in the website address at the top of the page. This is the consumer’s assurance that the website is secure. Larger and more reputable companies generally secure 108 | fyimagazineny.com every page on their website, and encrypt your credit card information when you make a purchase or use reputable payment processors like Paypal. Stick with these trusted companies or vendors to ensure secure use of your credit card information. Getting a better deal elsewhere is just not worth the risk. Those fantastic deals and offers may not only be too-good-to-be-true, but also a thinly-disguised ploy to get your personal information. The thrill of saving a few dollars on a decorative lamp, pales when you get the shopping spree bill with your credit card number on it. Even though most credit card providers offer fraud protection and won’t hold you responsible for purchases that you didn’t authorize, you still want to avoid this unpleasant scenario. More than 15 million americans fall victim to identity fraud or stolen identity every year. Each year, with financial losses as a result of identity theft, total upwards of $50 billion. Approximately 7% of all adults have their identities misused with each instance, resulting in approximately $3,500 in losses. send that email requesting your account details. Even worse, thieves can use your personal information to open new accounts. To open new credit card accounts or to take out an auto loan, can be as simple as knowing a person’s name, social security number, and date of birth. Imagine the damage caused if someone uses your personal information to take out a mortgage in your name! SHRED IT BEFORE SHEDDING There is one last, simple low-tech, but very important tool in the fight against identity theft: the shredder. Your bank statements, direct-deposit wage stubs, and other paperwork provide thieves with a wealth of information to use in their quest to access your identity, bank accounts, and credit line. Shred all this paperIDENTITY THEFT work before throwing it out into the Close to 100 million Treat your social security number as additional Americans public garbage bin. a very valuable commodity. Illegal Mentioned earlier, although rare, at have their personal immigrants in the country need the deepest, darkest end of identity identifying social security numbers in order to theft is the potential cause of a work legally. Your illegal cleaning information placed at victim’s early death through medical lady might be using your social identity theft. risk of identity theft security number - without you Criminals steal a person’s informaeach year, when realizing it. tion to take out or join an insurance records maintained in plan for which they are ineligible. Who cares if someone else uses your social security number? The IRS, Perhaps Mr. Undocumented Immigovernment and for one. If Mr. Illegal Immigrant earns grant can’t get medical care because corporate databases $20,000 in wages using your social of his illegal status. With the aid of are lost or stolen. security number, the IRS is going to that stolen, medical identification, demand tax payments from you. when he gets sick, his illness is Watch out for “phishing” (fishing) scams that try to get treated using the victim’s medical records. Then, when your social security number and other personal informathe victim tries to obtain medical care, their request is tion. These scams might arrive as legitimate-looking denied because of this now recorded, pre-existing emails - seeming to originate from a bank or other condition or because of insurance caps. This is a potenfinancial institution that may ask you to send them tially fatal situation that is not easily remedied in a personal information for your current bank account. timely manner. Keep private details private. Only online crooks ask for Here is another great tip for the serious threat that we your maiden name, children’s names, birth date, or place all agree is identity theft: Reread this article, note the of birth. Your financial institutions legitimately have various tips provided, and implement them without this confidential information on file to verify the delay to protect your personal information from falling identity of account holders and do not ask for confirmainto criminal hands. fyi tion of these details via email. With this information, a thief can access your accounts. A quick phone call to your bank will probably confirm that the bank did not 109 | fyimagazineny.com
I  Identity thieves will try to access and use your personal information and electronic data. There are many simple steps ...
I Identity thieves will try to access and use your personal information and electronic data. There are many simple steps to take to ensure your personal data is protected. WHAT CAN THEY STEAL? Identity theft involves a wide range of methods. Let’s start to better understand the threat of identity theft with questions concerning your personal computer: What kind of information do you keep on it? (Personal photographs, documents, passwords, etc.) Would you care if someone hacked your computer and used these family photos? Yitzchok Klein of Vocatech, an expert in telecommunication and internet security, thinks that we would prefer that our personal family pictures stay just that - personal and for family use only. We would not want to find personal photos publicly displayed on a social media page, especially without our permission. “The more well-known a person is,” says Yitzchok, “the more devastating these pictures can be. Sometimes, immoral people make an (illegal) business of hacking computers to get ahold of these pictures. Then respected community members are threatened with blackmail to avoid having the pictures made public.” Consider your email account. Would you care if someone takes and misuses the email addresses of your contacts? Well, yes!! Your friends and family are obviously more responsive to emails they receive from you than from unknown organizations or companies. With your email contacts in hand, a crook could send out a letter to them describing a “dear friend” in desperate need of tzedaka money because of her son’s medical condition - and sign it with your name. There is a good chance that your friends and family would donate to this “worthy” request. It would cause you embarrassment and anger when you found out how much money your acquaintances donated to help this non-existent friend. A WORD ON PASSWORDS Follow Yitzchok’s advice to maintain a strong password for your email account and photo accounts for services such as Snapfish to deter hackers. It is smart and simple to do. Here’s how to create a strong password: • Create a password that is at least 10 characters long. • Include combinations of numbers, letters, and characters such as ‘&.’ • Be creative. No easily guessable words - such as your name, your spouse’s name, or your children’s names. Other password tips include: • Use different passwords for each of your online accounts. If one account is hacked, the password can’t be used for your other accounts. • Avoid noting your passwords on unsecured web applications such as online calendars and to-do lists. • Keep a careful, private record of these new passwords. • Avoid using a public computer, but if you do, be sure to log out from all accounts before you leave the computer and never click on the option to save the login information. Keep your eyes open for shoulder surfers - the person sitting next to you may be noting which websites you access and what keystrokes you use to enter your passwords. KEEP YOUR COMPUTER HEALTHY Shoulder surfers can get your password by looking over your shoulder, but hackers can access information remotely from your computer by installing spyware or malware on your computer that will send them this information. Yikes! This is a call to action. Yitzchok says, “Have an anti-virus program installed and running on your computer at all times. And, once you’ve installed an anti-virus program, make sure it’s updated regularly.” Technology changes at a fast pace, and hackers and viruses are always the most knowledgeable. An outdated anti-virus program won’t protect your computer from the newest tech threats. Set these programs to automatically update on a regular basis or hire a reputable computer tech to set this up on your computer. To further protect yourself and your computer, never open a suspicious-looking email from an unfamiliar source, and take care when opening website links or other attachments. Even with preventive measures in place, malicious programs can get installed onto your computer when you open a seemingly innocuous link in an email or download software from an unsecured website. CREDIT CARD THEFT The world runs on three things: money, money, money. The most common type of identity theft involves money and credit card numbers. Simply, a dishonest person obtains someone else’s credit card number using it to pay for their own purchases. Never give out your credit card information on an insecure website. How can you tell if a website is secure? Firstly, secure web addresses have https (hypertext transfer protocol secure) in their URL or web address the “s” at the end denotes ‘secure.’ Secondly, look for a padlock icon on the bottom of the browser page or in the website address at the top of the page. This is the consumer’s assurance that the website is secure. Larger and more reputable companies generally secure 108 | fyimagazineny.com every page on their website, and encrypt your credit card information when you make a purchase or use reputable payment processors like Paypal. Stick with these trusted companies or vendors to ensure secure use of your credit card information. Getting a better deal elsewhere is just not worth the risk. Those fantastic deals and offers may not only be too-good-to-be-true, but also a thinly-disguised ploy to get your personal information. The thrill of saving a few dollars on a decorative lamp, pales when you get the shopping spree bill with your credit card number on it. Even though most credit card providers offer fraud protection and won’t hold you responsible for purchases that you didn’t authorize, you still want to avoid this unpleasant scenario. More than 15 million americans fall victim to identity fraud or stolen identity every year. Each year, with financial losses as a result of identity theft, total upwards of $50 billion. Approximately 7% of all adults have their identities misused with each instance, resulting in approximately $3,500 in losses. send that email requesting your account details. Even worse, thieves can use your personal information to open new accounts. To open new credit card accounts or to take out an auto loan, can be as simple as knowing a person’s name, social security number, and date of birth. Imagine the damage caused if someone uses your personal information to take out a mortgage in your name! SHRED IT BEFORE SHEDDING There is one last, simple low-tech, but very important tool in the fight against identity theft: the shredder. Your bank statements, direct-deposit wage stubs, and other paperwork provide thieves with a wealth of information to use in their quest to access your identity, bank accounts, and credit line. Shred all this paperIDENTITY THEFT work before throwing it out into the Close to 100 million Treat your social security number as additional Americans public garbage bin. a very valuable commodity. Illegal Mentioned earlier, although rare, at have their personal immigrants in the country need the deepest, darkest end of identity identifying social security numbers in order to theft is the potential cause of a work legally. Your illegal cleaning information placed at victim’s early death through medical lady might be using your social identity theft. risk of identity theft security number - without you Criminals steal a person’s informaeach year, when realizing it. tion to take out or join an insurance records maintained in plan for which they are ineligible. Who cares if someone else uses your social security number? The IRS, Perhaps Mr. Undocumented Immigovernment and for one. If Mr. Illegal Immigrant earns grant can’t get medical care because corporate databases $20,000 in wages using your social of his illegal status. With the aid of are lost or stolen. security number, the IRS is going to that stolen, medical identification, demand tax payments from you. when he gets sick, his illness is Watch out for “phishing” (fishing) scams that try to get treated using the victim’s medical records. Then, when your social security number and other personal informathe victim tries to obtain medical care, their request is tion. These scams might arrive as legitimate-looking denied because of this now recorded, pre-existing emails - seeming to originate from a bank or other condition or because of insurance caps. This is a potenfinancial institution that may ask you to send them tially fatal situation that is not easily remedied in a personal information for your current bank account. timely manner. Keep private details private. Only online crooks ask for Here is another great tip for the serious threat that we your maiden name, children’s names, birth date, or place all agree is identity theft: Reread this article, note the of birth. Your financial institutions legitimately have various tips provided, and implement them without this confidential information on file to verify the delay to protect your personal information from falling identity of account holders and do not ask for confirmainto criminal hands. fyi tion of these details via email. With this information, a thief can access your accounts. A quick phone call to your bank will probably confirm that the bank did not 109 | fyimagazineny.com
I  Identity thieves will try to access and use your personal information and electronic data. There are many simple steps ...
OUT OF 53 OF BEN & JERRY’S “All Natural” flavors, 48 contain fake vanilla, alkalized cocoa, corn syrup, and partially hydrogenated soybean oil. Milk has no iron. Yet the nutrition facts of a leading cereal brand state that the cereal’s iron content jumps from 10% to 15% when milk is added. THE TRUTH BEHIND FOOD LABELS Welcome to the world of food labeling. The vast majority of US citizens depend on commercial farms, factories, and supermarkets to provide them with food. And since the Nutrition Labeling and Education Act in 1990, we depend on these companies to tell us what’s in our food. WRITTEN BY CHAVY HELFGOTT MIGHTY MULTIGRAIN Small Batch Bread is labeled as “made with whole grains,” yet the first ingredient is white flour. 110 | fyimagazineny.com We tend to assume we know what we’re eating- after all, the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) has strict labeling laws, right? Wrong. There are two reasons we don’t really know what we’re eating - meaningless labels and inconsistencies in food labeling criteria. Ever since eating whole grains became the fad, marketing teams for food companies have found ways to slap the label “heart healthy whole grains” onto every product possible, such as Kix, Trix, and Cinnamon Toast Crunch.
OUT OF 53 OF BEN   JERRY   S    All Natural    flavors, 48 contain fake vanilla, alkalized cocoa, corn syrup, and partiall...
OUT OF 53 OF BEN & JERRY’S “All Natural” flavors, 48 contain fake vanilla, alkalized cocoa, corn syrup, and partially hydrogenated soybean oil. Milk has no iron. Yet the nutrition facts of a leading cereal brand state that the cereal’s iron content jumps from 10% to 15% when milk is added. THE TRUTH BEHIND FOOD LABELS Welcome to the world of food labeling. The vast majority of US citizens depend on commercial farms, factories, and supermarkets to provide them with food. And since the Nutrition Labeling and Education Act in 1990, we depend on these companies to tell us what’s in our food. WRITTEN BY CHAVY HELFGOTT MIGHTY MULTIGRAIN Small Batch Bread is labeled as “made with whole grains,” yet the first ingredient is white flour. 110 | fyimagazineny.com We tend to assume we know what we’re eating- after all, the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) has strict labeling laws, right? Wrong. There are two reasons we don’t really know what we’re eating - meaningless labels and inconsistencies in food labeling criteria. Ever since eating whole grains became the fad, marketing teams for food companies have found ways to slap the label “heart healthy whole grains” onto every product possible, such as Kix, Trix, and Cinnamon Toast Crunch.
OUT OF 53 OF BEN   JERRY   S    All Natural    flavors, 48 contain fake vanilla, alkalized cocoa, corn syrup, and partiall...
Are they lying? No. These cereals do contain some kind of whole grain. But mostly, they contain sugar and other ingredients that are bad for you. The “heart healthy whole grains” label gives consumers the impression that these foods are healthy - and it is perfectly legal, because the product does contain some whole grain. But that label causes many consumers to overlook the truth - that the product is chock full of junk. Like the “heart healthy whole grains” claim, there are many other claims that are legally permitted and allow food companies to hide behind a false veneer of nutrition. So while the companies can’t lie about the actual ingredients, they can manipulate you into thinking that the product is a lot healthier than it really is. Let’s explore some of these deceiving labels. NO SUGAR ADDED The less processed something is, the less likely it is that it contains harmful ingredients. Don’t fool yourself. If you want to be healthy, eat real food. Hey, that’s pretty clear cut, no? “No sugar added” means there’s no extra sugar. Right. But what does “extra sugar” mean? Now that’s another question entirely. If ice cream or juice has the label “no sugar added,” all it means is that after the product was first made, no extra sugar was added. One minute…after the product was first made… but what if the product was first made with sugar, which is definitely the case with ice cream and juice? That’s right. It’s a meaningless label, because the original recipe may contain lots and lots of sugar. The juice might have slightly less sugar than other juices from companies that add even more sugar after the original production, but the label makes it sound as if the product contains only natural sugar, which is far from the truth. ALL NATURAL According to the USDA, “meat, poultry and egg products labeled as ‘natural’ must be minimally processed and contain no artificial ingredients.” But guess what? The criteria of the label “all natural” apply only to meat or eggs - all other food products are not subject to any standards or regulations by the FDA. Aha. Now it’s easier to understand how Cheetos can be advertised as “all natural.” Because Frito-lay, the manufacturer of Cheetos, decided that “all natural” means “no preservatives, no artificial flavors and no artificial colors” - nothing to do with how processed the food is, or if it contains any artificial ingredients. Since there are no FDA regulations on this product, each company is free to make its own decision about what constitutes “all natural.” ORGANIC Officially, organic products are those grown without the use of pesticides, synthetic fertilizers, sewage sludge, GMOs (genetically modified organisms), or ionizing radiation. In animals, it means that they did not take antibiotics or growth hormones. But here’s something you probably didn’t know: “Made with Organic Ingredients” does not mean the product is entirely organic. It means that it was made with at least 70% organic ingredients, and that the other 30% may have GMOs. If you didn’t know that, you would think that any product with this label is made entirely with organic ingredients. Here’s the truth: only an item labeled “100% organic” is 100% organic. If it says “Organic,”it’s 95% organic, and if it’s “made with organic ingredients,” it may only be 70% organic. And organic does not mean healthy! You can buy an organic cookie, and it may be better than a cookie stuffed with pesticides and other chemicals, but it isn’t healthy by far. Yet 112 | fyimagazineny.com the cookie company, looking to lure as many consumers as possible, will put the label “organic” in bright, bold letters to fool you into thinking it’s actually good for you. NO ADDED HORMONES GENETICALLY MODIFIED ORGANISMS (GMO’S): WHAT DOES THIS TERM MEAN & ARE GMO’S SAFE? When shopping at your grocery, you may come across products labeled as “GMO free.” Is this another meaningless label? Or are GMOs actually harmful? This is one of the most heated discussions in the health food industry in recent years. Genetically Modified Organisms have been in use in the US since the 1990s. They are seeds Now, what could be wrong with that label? Nothing. Except it’s pointless. Because according to the USDA, bovine growth hormones used on cows have absolutely no effect on humans. So “no added hormones” really equals “no added benefits.” and plants that have undergone some kind of genetic manipulation in MADE WITH REAL FRUIT/CONTAINS REAL FRUIT JUICE of this article; however, there is a lot of hype on both sides of the a lab before being planted. This does not mean they are injected with anything - it means the scientists splice part of the gene of one organism with another in order to pass on favorable traits. Benefits the scientists seek are insect resistance (to decrease the need for pesticides), increased nutrition, faster or bigger growth, or increased durability - i.e., apples that don’t bruise, potatoes that don’t brown. The debate about whether or not GMOs are safe is beyond the scope debate. One thing is certain: marketing slogans regarding food are meaningless. When looking into the debate, make sure you’re reading Yes, it’s true that fruit snack or fruit the facts, not the watchwords. juice does have some real fruit in it, but how much? There is no law regarding how much real fruit must be in a Again - just another marketing trick to get you to product with this label. So that fruit snack could have choose that brand over another brand. just one grape or one drop of orange juice, and bear the label “made with real fruit.” LIGHTLY SWEETENED The solution? Look at the ingredient list. Another empty label. The FDA has no official regulations MULTIGRAIN for this term, so the company can add 100 grams of Sounds healthy, right? sugar and still call it “lightly sweetened.” It means nothing, except that there is more than one THE SOLUTION TO ALL OF THE ABOVE? type of grain, something which has no proven health Take a close look at the ingredients and nutrition labels. benefits (unless they are whole grains). They’ll tell you a lot more than the flashy marketing ZERO TRANS FATS slogans splashed across the carton. We all know that trans fats are bad for our health, so this But sometimes, even the ingredient list and nutrition label will make us grab the product fast. But is it a labels aren’t enough. With each year, food processing trustworthy label? methods and technology become more and more Not really. complicated and advanced. Some of the ingredients on According to the USDA, any food with less than .5 the list are things you’ve never heard of. The scientific grams of trans fat per serving does not have to list that it opinion on the safety and health of various ingredients has trans fats. So if you have a box of cookies and each changes from day to day. Companies are desperate to cookie has less than .5 grams of fat, it’s officially trans sell their products and raise their profits. And despite fat free. Yet if you eat 6 cookies, you’ve consumed 3 the new strict labeling laws recently passed by the grams of trans fats, every one of which is unsafe. USDA, it is very difficult to know what you’re really The best way to know if it’s really trans fat free? Check putting into your mouth. to see if the ingredient lists any “partially hydrogenated” So the best advice is: As much as possible, eat unprooils. If it does - it’s got some trans fat. cessed foods that don’t even have a nutrition label. The less processed something is, the less likely it is FAT FREE that it contains harmful ingredients. Don’t fool yourself. Ever seen a carton of 100% orange juice labeled “fat free?” If you want to be healthy, eat real food. fyi The label is true - but every other carton of orange juice in the world is fat free, because oranges don’t have fat. 113 | fyimagazineny.com
Are they lying  No. These cereals do contain some kind of whole grain. But mostly, they contain sugar and other ingredient...
Are they lying? No. These cereals do contain some kind of whole grain. But mostly, they contain sugar and other ingredients that are bad for you. The “heart healthy whole grains” label gives consumers the impression that these foods are healthy - and it is perfectly legal, because the product does contain some whole grain. But that label causes many consumers to overlook the truth - that the product is chock full of junk. Like the “heart healthy whole grains” claim, there are many other claims that are legally permitted and allow food companies to hide behind a false veneer of nutrition. So while the companies can’t lie about the actual ingredients, they can manipulate you into thinking that the product is a lot healthier than it really is. Let’s explore some of these deceiving labels. NO SUGAR ADDED The less processed something is, the less likely it is that it contains harmful ingredients. Don’t fool yourself. If you want to be healthy, eat real food. Hey, that’s pretty clear cut, no? “No sugar added” means there’s no extra sugar. Right. But what does “extra sugar” mean? Now that’s another question entirely. If ice cream or juice has the label “no sugar added,” all it means is that after the product was first made, no extra sugar was added. One minute…after the product was first made… but what if the product was first made with sugar, which is definitely the case with ice cream and juice? That’s right. It’s a meaningless label, because the original recipe may contain lots and lots of sugar. The juice might have slightly less sugar than other juices from companies that add even more sugar after the original production, but the label makes it sound as if the product contains only natural sugar, which is far from the truth. ALL NATURAL According to the USDA, “meat, poultry and egg products labeled as ‘natural’ must be minimally processed and contain no artificial ingredients.” But guess what? The criteria of the label “all natural” apply only to meat or eggs - all other food products are not subject to any standards or regulations by the FDA. Aha. Now it’s easier to understand how Cheetos can be advertised as “all natural.” Because Frito-lay, the manufacturer of Cheetos, decided that “all natural” means “no preservatives, no artificial flavors and no artificial colors” - nothing to do with how processed the food is, or if it contains any artificial ingredients. Since there are no FDA regulations on this product, each company is free to make its own decision about what constitutes “all natural.” ORGANIC Officially, organic products are those grown without the use of pesticides, synthetic fertilizers, sewage sludge, GMOs (genetically modified organisms), or ionizing radiation. In animals, it means that they did not take antibiotics or growth hormones. But here’s something you probably didn’t know: “Made with Organic Ingredients” does not mean the product is entirely organic. It means that it was made with at least 70% organic ingredients, and that the other 30% may have GMOs. If you didn’t know that, you would think that any product with this label is made entirely with organic ingredients. Here’s the truth: only an item labeled “100% organic” is 100% organic. If it says “Organic,”it’s 95% organic, and if it’s “made with organic ingredients,” it may only be 70% organic. And organic does not mean healthy! You can buy an organic cookie, and it may be better than a cookie stuffed with pesticides and other chemicals, but it isn’t healthy by far. Yet 112 | fyimagazineny.com the cookie company, looking to lure as many consumers as possible, will put the label “organic” in bright, bold letters to fool you into thinking it’s actually good for you. NO ADDED HORMONES GENETICALLY MODIFIED ORGANISMS (GMO’S): WHAT DOES THIS TERM MEAN & ARE GMO’S SAFE? When shopping at your grocery, you may come across products labeled as “GMO free.” Is this another meaningless label? Or are GMOs actually harmful? This is one of the most heated discussions in the health food industry in recent years. Genetically Modified Organisms have been in use in the US since the 1990s. They are seeds Now, what could be wrong with that label? Nothing. Except it’s pointless. Because according to the USDA, bovine growth hormones used on cows have absolutely no effect on humans. So “no added hormones” really equals “no added benefits.” and plants that have undergone some kind of genetic manipulation in MADE WITH REAL FRUIT/CONTAINS REAL FRUIT JUICE of this article; however, there is a lot of hype on both sides of the a lab before being planted. This does not mean they are injected with anything - it means the scientists splice part of the gene of one organism with another in order to pass on favorable traits. Benefits the scientists seek are insect resistance (to decrease the need for pesticides), increased nutrition, faster or bigger growth, or increased durability - i.e., apples that don’t bruise, potatoes that don’t brown. The debate about whether or not GMOs are safe is beyond the scope debate. One thing is certain: marketing slogans regarding food are meaningless. When looking into the debate, make sure you’re reading Yes, it’s true that fruit snack or fruit the facts, not the watchwords. juice does have some real fruit in it, but how much? There is no law regarding how much real fruit must be in a Again - just another marketing trick to get you to product with this label. So that fruit snack could have choose that brand over another brand. just one grape or one drop of orange juice, and bear the label “made with real fruit.” LIGHTLY SWEETENED The solution? Look at the ingredient list. Another empty label. The FDA has no official regulations MULTIGRAIN for this term, so the company can add 100 grams of Sounds healthy, right? sugar and still call it “lightly sweetened.” It means nothing, except that there is more than one THE SOLUTION TO ALL OF THE ABOVE? type of grain, something which has no proven health Take a close look at the ingredients and nutrition labels. benefits (unless they are whole grains). They’ll tell you a lot more than the flashy marketing ZERO TRANS FATS slogans splashed across the carton. We all know that trans fats are bad for our health, so this But sometimes, even the ingredient list and nutrition label will make us grab the product fast. But is it a labels aren’t enough. With each year, food processing trustworthy label? methods and technology become more and more Not really. complicated and advanced. Some of the ingredients on According to the USDA, any food with less than .5 the list are things you’ve never heard of. The scientific grams of trans fat per serving does not have to list that it opinion on the safety and health of various ingredients has trans fats. So if you have a box of cookies and each changes from day to day. Companies are desperate to cookie has less than .5 grams of fat, it’s officially trans sell their products and raise their profits. And despite fat free. Yet if you eat 6 cookies, you’ve consumed 3 the new strict labeling laws recently passed by the grams of trans fats, every one of which is unsafe. USDA, it is very difficult to know what you’re really The best way to know if it’s really trans fat free? Check putting into your mouth. to see if the ingredient lists any “partially hydrogenated” So the best advice is: As much as possible, eat unprooils. If it does - it’s got some trans fat. cessed foods that don’t even have a nutrition label. The less processed something is, the less likely it is FAT FREE that it contains harmful ingredients. Don’t fool yourself. Ever seen a carton of 100% orange juice labeled “fat free?” If you want to be healthy, eat real food. fyi The label is true - but every other carton of orange juice in the world is fat free, because oranges don’t have fat. 113 | fyimagazineny.com
Are they lying  No. These cereals do contain some kind of whole grain. But mostly, they contain sugar and other ingredient...
anxıety you overcoming so it doesn’t overcome WRITTEN BY D. BURACK Within reasonable limits, common anxiety is healthy and helpful. With correct channeling and monitoring, anxiety can motivates us to take action. It drives us to prepare for crucial meetings, study for difficult exams, and arrive on time for a job interview. Anxiety has developed a bad rap, but it’s far from an indomitable force of evil. So why are we up in arms about it? 114 | fyimagazineny.com WHEN ANXIETY TAKES OVER Normal anxiety, shaped by reasonable worries and fears, energizes us to cope with danger by releasing adrenaline and cortisol. Whether you’re fleeing a lion in the jungle or rushing out the door in the morning, these hormones help you cope with stress. For some people though, anxiety grows into a mammoth beast that always blocks their way. Do you constantly snap at everyone? Do you wake up countless times throughout the night? Do you combat pounding headaches every day, or unexplained feelings of nausea? Signs of overwhelming anxiety include persistent irritability and worrying, insomnia, trouble concentrating, and an overriding sense of dread. Physical symptoms can also appear, such as heart palpitations, headaches, sweating, and stomach problems. When anxiety is ignored, people may retreat socially, and develop phobias or obsessive-compulsive behavior. WORRY WON’T SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM People who battle constant anxiety often rationalize that planning for worst-case scenarios leads them to the best solutions. There is a misconception that anxiety is constructive. In his book, “The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You”, Robert L. Leahy, PhD, explains how this premise is false. Leahy stresses that if you’re always worried, the first step is to acknowledge that you have a problem. With this admission, you’ve won half the battle. So what’s the second half? Locate the root of your problems. If you’re fretting over something you can change, then take control. But if your worries stem from something out of your control, then it’s time to banish your anxiety. Worry . Here’s an overview of some of the anxiety treatments and remedies available. MIND CONTROL Thinking the worst? Banish the thought! Of course, simply telling yourself “Don’t worry, be happy” only goes so far. It’s impossible to instantly replace pessimism with bubbly cheer. Thought control, formally known as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), refers to the process of exchanging anxious thoughts with productive, healthy ones. A type of talk therapy, CBT is regarded as one of the most successful methods of psychotherapy for generalized anxiety disorder. In a nutshell, CBT encourages you to confront your dreadful thoughts head-on and examine all the details that frighten you. The next step is to retrain your brain to view these thoughts as theory and not fact. This new point of view is often enough to banish your anxiety. 115 | fyimagazineny.com
anx  ety you overcoming so it doesn   t overcome WRITTEN BY D. BURACK  Within reasonable limits, common anxiety is healthy...
anxıety you overcoming so it doesn’t overcome WRITTEN BY D. BURACK Within reasonable limits, common anxiety is healthy and helpful. With correct channeling and monitoring, anxiety can motivates us to take action. It drives us to prepare for crucial meetings, study for difficult exams, and arrive on time for a job interview. Anxiety has developed a bad rap, but it’s far from an indomitable force of evil. So why are we up in arms about it? 114 | fyimagazineny.com WHEN ANXIETY TAKES OVER Normal anxiety, shaped by reasonable worries and fears, energizes us to cope with danger by releasing adrenaline and cortisol. Whether you’re fleeing a lion in the jungle or rushing out the door in the morning, these hormones help you cope with stress. For some people though, anxiety grows into a mammoth beast that always blocks their way. Do you constantly snap at everyone? Do you wake up countless times throughout the night? Do you combat pounding headaches every day, or unexplained feelings of nausea? Signs of overwhelming anxiety include persistent irritability and worrying, insomnia, trouble concentrating, and an overriding sense of dread. Physical symptoms can also appear, such as heart palpitations, headaches, sweating, and stomach problems. When anxiety is ignored, people may retreat socially, and develop phobias or obsessive-compulsive behavior. WORRY WON’T SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM People who battle constant anxiety often rationalize that planning for worst-case scenarios leads them to the best solutions. There is a misconception that anxiety is constructive. In his book, “The Worry Cure: Seven Steps to Stop Worry from Stopping You”, Robert L. Leahy, PhD, explains how this premise is false. Leahy stresses that if you’re always worried, the first step is to acknowledge that you have a problem. With this admission, you’ve won half the battle. So what’s the second half? Locate the root of your problems. If you’re fretting over something you can change, then take control. But if your worries stem from something out of your control, then it’s time to banish your anxiety. Worry . Here’s an overview of some of the anxiety treatments and remedies available. MIND CONTROL Thinking the worst? Banish the thought! Of course, simply telling yourself “Don’t worry, be happy” only goes so far. It’s impossible to instantly replace pessimism with bubbly cheer. Thought control, formally known as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), refers to the process of exchanging anxious thoughts with productive, healthy ones. A type of talk therapy, CBT is regarded as one of the most successful methods of psychotherapy for generalized anxiety disorder. In a nutshell, CBT encourages you to confront your dreadful thoughts head-on and examine all the details that frighten you. The next step is to retrain your brain to view these thoughts as theory and not fact. This new point of view is often enough to banish your anxiety. 115 | fyimagazineny.com
anx  ety you overcoming so it doesn   t overcome WRITTEN BY D. BURACK  Within reasonable limits, common anxiety is healthy...
CONVENTIONAL MEDICATION Prescription medications, often used alongside psychotherapy, are very effective when taken responsibly. Depending upon the drug, some aim to cure the problem while others are preventive. Medications include antidepressants, beta-blockers, antihistamines, and specific anti-anxiety drugs. It is important to note that it frequently takes some trial and error before pinpointing the correct medication. The potential downsides related to the medications include addiction and unpleasant side effects. Some drugs are therefore prescribed for the short-term or on an as-needed basis only. If you sense that anxiety is taking over your life and you aren’t finding success with any independent or alternative treatment efforts, don’t hesitate to ask your physician about medication. ACUPUNCTURE Acupuncture offers a quick, proven way to sap stress. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) states optimistically that acupuncture tends to reduce anxiety symptoms within the first few visits, versus other therapies that can take months to produce results. Originating as a Chinese practice, very thin and short needles are inserted with minimal discomfort at specific body points in order to manipulate energy flow. Researchers from Georgetown University examined the unique effects of acupuncture and found that it curbs the body’s production of stress hormones. The researchers intriguing results were published in the Journal of Endocrinology, in April 2013. DIET The word diet alone is enough to provoke anxiety (sorry!). Yet the effects of nutrition on your mood can be noteworthy. Here are some guidelines to use in your quest for relaxation. CARBOHYDRATES: Carb lovers take heart! Comforting carbs push up levels of serotonin, a brain chemical associated with calmness. Complex carbs take longer to digest and help stabilize blood sugar levels and are, therefore, your best choice. Think oatmeal, or a fresh whole-grain bread roll. CUPPA TEA: In a research study, black tea drinkers had lower cortisol levels after a stressful situation than people who drank other liquids. According to the American Botanical Council, green tea contains the beneficial amino acid L-theanine, linked with suppressing high blood pressure and anxiety. CRUNCHY AND CHEWY: Crunching carrots and celery sticks can blast away tension that’s settled into a clenched jaw. Chewing gum has a similar effect. FATTY FISH: Naturally fatty fish, such as tuna and salmon, are packed with healthy Omega-3s, which help prevent stress hormones from spiking. WARM MILK: Experts aren’t sure if it’s due to the enzyme tryptophan, the protein lactium, or the potassium content, but regardless, this is a respected, oldschool way to ease into bedtime. CITRUS FRUIT: Studies suggest that vitamin C can tame levels of adrenaline and cortisol while helping to normalize blood pressure after strenuous tasks. GET ON THE MOVE! There is indeed a solid bond between body and mind. Get your body in shape and you’ll buff your brain too. According to the ADAA, a short, aerobic workout is enough to reap anti-anxiety benefits. Aerobic exercise jumpstarts the production of endorphins, which are nicknamed feel-good brain chemicals. Exercise can instantly shatter a heavy mood and put you on a path to open your mind and think more positively. Any type of physical activity does the trick, as long as you get your heart pumping. Drew Ramsey, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital, and of Columbia University, blogs, “Twenty-one minutes: That’s about how long it takes for exercise to reliably reduce anxiety… in any activity that gets heart rate up, anything you like.” Go for a brisk walk, smile a lot, and watch others smile back at you! NOW YOU ARE GETTING SLEEPY… Do you see a swaying, vintage pocket watch when you think of hypnosis? In 2014, The British Psychological Society officially declared hypnosis to be a proven therapy for relieving stress and anxiety. Yet, the type of hypnosis referred to in this medical news report bears scant resemblance to the stage shows of yesteryear with hypnotized volunteers behaving in wacky ways. Effective hypnosis eases a patient into a mental state where he or she is receptive to positive affirmations, as described in the book “Mindshift,” by psychologist and hypnotherapist Marty Lerman, Ph.D. The hypnotherapist works to access the subconscious, where negative thoughts can be rejected in favor of beneficial suggestions. Lerman asserts that the patient enters a trancelike state similar to being mentally absorbed in any activity. Be aware though that hypnosis doesn’t always take hold, and only about three-fourths of human subjects can be hypnotized successfully. 116 | fyimagazineny.com NUTRITIONAL AND HERBAL SUPPLEMENTS While every health food store claims to be jammed with stress-busting products, some supplements deserve more attention than others. Let’s review a couple of herbal supplements that are noteworthy. Valerian root is reputed to be a strong, calming sedative. It is frequently used as a sleep aid, so don’t take it when you need to be alert. Chamomile supplements contain Matricaria recutita, a compound that binds to the same brain receptors as drugs like Valium. A study at UPENN Medical Center found that patients with generalized anxiety disorder who took chamomile supplements for eight weeks, reported a reduction of anxiety symptoms. While guzzling a cold beer won’t dilute stress in the long term, extracts and tinctures of hops (Humulus lupulus flowers, used mainly in brewing beer) are recognized to contain a compound that has a bold, tranquilizing effect. OUR NATURAL BIOLOGY HAS A SWITCH THAT AUTOMATICALLY SHUTS DOWN RESPONSES TO STRESS WHEN THE RISK IS GONE. AROMATHERAPY Our sense of smell is a pathway to the brain. With aromatherapy, the aromatic molecules of plant materials traverse the blood flowing through your brain, affecting moods and guiding the body into a more tranquil state. The simplest way to practice aromatherapy is to add a few drops of a favorite essential oil into a diffuser. Popular mind-calming scents are lavender, geranium, rose, and jasmine oils. NOT A BADGE OF HONOR Chronic anxiety is not a badge of honor to be worn proudly. Our natural biology has a switch that automatically shuts down responses to stress when the risk is gone. It is unnatural and damaging to leave your anxiety mode open and running. As anxiety weaves its way persistently through the entire body, it makes sense that many people find relief through a combination of holistic therapies. The specific treatment protocol doesn’t matter as long as it helps. In past decades, seeking help for anxiety carried a stigma. Nowadays, knowing about the detrimental effects of chronic anxiety, the stigma should be attached to not seeking treatment. fyi CHEAT SHEET: BEHAVIORS TO HELP CONTROL ANXIETY Breathe. Inhale and exhale deeply and slowly. Trust. Put your trust in Hashem and feel that there is a higher power from above that controls everything. Declare recess. Step away from stress to clear your head. Do yoga or get a therapeutic massage. Move around. Physical activity strengthens your body and your mind. Listen to music. Hum a tune or listen to your favorite songs. Listening to music causes a biochemical reaction that decreases anxious feelings. Laugh. Think thoughts that make you grin and chuckle. Laughter relieves stress instantly and increases blood flow, which decreases circulatory stress. Eat and drink well. Reach for nutritious items, complex carbs, protein, and fresh veggies, to boost your energy and promote calm vibes. Green, black, and chamomile tea are also linked with reducing stress. Get to bed early. Anxiety is tiring. Your body needs extra sleep in order to cope well under stress. Light up. Aromatherapy candles with pleasant, calming scents are a great way to create a peaceful environment. Draw a picture. Express yourself. Just doodle or sketch a portrait. Crafting artwork lowers stress. Call a friend. Don’t hold in or hide your anxiety. Speak to a friend or therapist to get your problems off your chest. 117 | fyimagazineny.com
CONVENTIONAL MEDICATION Prescription medications, often used alongside psychotherapy, are very effective when taken respon...
CONVENTIONAL MEDICATION Prescription medications, often used alongside psychotherapy, are very effective when taken responsibly. Depending upon the drug, some aim to cure the problem while others are preventive. Medications include antidepressants, beta-blockers, antihistamines, and specific anti-anxiety drugs. It is important to note that it frequently takes some trial and error before pinpointing the correct medication. The potential downsides related to the medications include addiction and unpleasant side effects. Some drugs are therefore prescribed for the short-term or on an as-needed basis only. If you sense that anxiety is taking over your life and you aren’t finding success with any independent or alternative treatment efforts, don’t hesitate to ask your physician about medication. ACUPUNCTURE Acupuncture offers a quick, proven way to sap stress. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) states optimistically that acupuncture tends to reduce anxiety symptoms within the first few visits, versus other therapies that can take months to produce results. Originating as a Chinese practice, very thin and short needles are inserted with minimal discomfort at specific body points in order to manipulate energy flow. Researchers from Georgetown University examined the unique effects of acupuncture and found that it curbs the body’s production of stress hormones. The researchers intriguing results were published in the Journal of Endocrinology, in April 2013. DIET The word diet alone is enough to provoke anxiety (sorry!). Yet the effects of nutrition on your mood can be noteworthy. Here are some guidelines to use in your quest for relaxation. CARBOHYDRATES: Carb lovers take heart! Comforting carbs push up levels of serotonin, a brain chemical associated with calmness. Complex carbs take longer to digest and help stabilize blood sugar levels and are, therefore, your best choice. Think oatmeal, or a fresh whole-grain bread roll. CUPPA TEA: In a research study, black tea drinkers had lower cortisol levels after a stressful situation than people who drank other liquids. According to the American Botanical Council, green tea contains the beneficial amino acid L-theanine, linked with suppressing high blood pressure and anxiety. CRUNCHY AND CHEWY: Crunching carrots and celery sticks can blast away tension that’s settled into a clenched jaw. Chewing gum has a similar effect. FATTY FISH: Naturally fatty fish, such as tuna and salmon, are packed with healthy Omega-3s, which help prevent stress hormones from spiking. WARM MILK: Experts aren’t sure if it’s due to the enzyme tryptophan, the protein lactium, or the potassium content, but regardless, this is a respected, oldschool way to ease into bedtime. CITRUS FRUIT: Studies suggest that vitamin C can tame levels of adrenaline and cortisol while helping to normalize blood pressure after strenuous tasks. GET ON THE MOVE! There is indeed a solid bond between body and mind. Get your body in shape and you’ll buff your brain too. According to the ADAA, a short, aerobic workout is enough to reap anti-anxiety benefits. Aerobic exercise jumpstarts the production of endorphins, which are nicknamed feel-good brain chemicals. Exercise can instantly shatter a heavy mood and put you on a path to open your mind and think more positively. Any type of physical activity does the trick, as long as you get your heart pumping. Drew Ramsey, MD, Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at New York Presbyterian Hospital, and of Columbia University, blogs, “Twenty-one minutes: That’s about how long it takes for exercise to reliably reduce anxiety… in any activity that gets heart rate up, anything you like.” Go for a brisk walk, smile a lot, and watch others smile back at you! NOW YOU ARE GETTING SLEEPY… Do you see a swaying, vintage pocket watch when you think of hypnosis? In 2014, The British Psychological Society officially declared hypnosis to be a proven therapy for relieving stress and anxiety. Yet, the type of hypnosis referred to in this medical news report bears scant resemblance to the stage shows of yesteryear with hypnotized volunteers behaving in wacky ways. Effective hypnosis eases a patient into a mental state where he or she is receptive to positive affirmations, as described in the book “Mindshift,” by psychologist and hypnotherapist Marty Lerman, Ph.D. The hypnotherapist works to access the subconscious, where negative thoughts can be rejected in favor of beneficial suggestions. Lerman asserts that the patient enters a trancelike state similar to being mentally absorbed in any activity. Be aware though that hypnosis doesn’t always take hold, and only about three-fourths of human subjects can be hypnotized successfully. 116 | fyimagazineny.com NUTRITIONAL AND HERBAL SUPPLEMENTS While every health food store claims to be jammed with stress-busting products, some supplements deserve more attention than others. Let’s review a couple of herbal supplements that are noteworthy. Valerian root is reputed to be a strong, calming sedative. It is frequently used as a sleep aid, so don’t take it when you need to be alert. Chamomile supplements contain Matricaria recutita, a compound that binds to the same brain receptors as drugs like Valium. A study at UPENN Medical Center found that patients with generalized anxiety disorder who took chamomile supplements for eight weeks, reported a reduction of anxiety symptoms. While guzzling a cold beer won’t dilute stress in the long term, extracts and tinctures of hops (Humulus lupulus flowers, used mainly in brewing beer) are recognized to contain a compound that has a bold, tranquilizing effect. OUR NATURAL BIOLOGY HAS A SWITCH THAT AUTOMATICALLY SHUTS DOWN RESPONSES TO STRESS WHEN THE RISK IS GONE. AROMATHERAPY Our sense of smell is a pathway to the brain. With aromatherapy, the aromatic molecules of plant materials traverse the blood flowing through your brain, affecting moods and guiding the body into a more tranquil state. The simplest way to practice aromatherapy is to add a few drops of a favorite essential oil into a diffuser. Popular mind-calming scents are lavender, geranium, rose, and jasmine oils. NOT A BADGE OF HONOR Chronic anxiety is not a badge of honor to be worn proudly. Our natural biology has a switch that automatically shuts down responses to stress when the risk is gone. It is unnatural and damaging to leave your anxiety mode open and running. As anxiety weaves its way persistently through the entire body, it makes sense that many people find relief through a combination of holistic therapies. The specific treatment protocol doesn’t matter as long as it helps. In past decades, seeking help for anxiety carried a stigma. Nowadays, knowing about the detrimental effects of chronic anxiety, the stigma should be attached to not seeking treatment. fyi CHEAT SHEET: BEHAVIORS TO HELP CONTROL ANXIETY Breathe. Inhale and exhale deeply and slowly. Trust. Put your trust in Hashem and feel that there is a higher power from above that controls everything. Declare recess. Step away from stress to clear your head. Do yoga or get a therapeutic massage. Move around. Physical activity strengthens your body and your mind. Listen to music. Hum a tune or listen to your favorite songs. Listening to music causes a biochemical reaction that decreases anxious feelings. Laugh. Think thoughts that make you grin and chuckle. Laughter relieves stress instantly and increases blood flow, which decreases circulatory stress. Eat and drink well. Reach for nutritious items, complex carbs, protein, and fresh veggies, to boost your energy and promote calm vibes. Green, black, and chamomile tea are also linked with reducing stress. Get to bed early. Anxiety is tiring. Your body needs extra sleep in order to cope well under stress. Light up. Aromatherapy candles with pleasant, calming scents are a great way to create a peaceful environment. Draw a picture. Express yourself. Just doodle or sketch a portrait. Crafting artwork lowers stress. Call a friend. Don’t hold in or hide your anxiety. Speak to a friend or therapist to get your problems off your chest. 117 | fyimagazineny.com
CONVENTIONAL MEDICATION Prescription medications, often used alongside psychotherapy, are very effective when taken respon...
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