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EDITOR Yitty Denciger ART & MARKETING Dr. Peretz Lock Dr. Daniel Ganz We really are as great as our Izzy Pupko PT team. COPY EDITOR Lieba Bard-Wigdor FOOD PHOTOGRAPHY Shevy Gross shevygphotography@gmail.com @shevygphotography MANAGING EDITOR Darlene Fedele ADVERTISING Rachel Lebowitz rachel@fyimagazineny.com PHONE: 718.412.2442 PA Saba Gitisetan What makes Boro Park Center Brooklyn’s de facto address for quality care? 4915 10th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219 Phone 718.851.3700 www.BoroParkCenter.net PA Andrew Weissman Tzivia Cohen Miriam Reifman 14minds.com The timeless dedication exhibited by all our board-certified doctors, nurses and therapists. We're honored to keep our respected residents living happy, while remaining invested in developing state-of-the-art rehab therapies every day. We truly are one awesome team. WEBSITE: www.fyimagazineny.com E-MAIL: ads@fyimagazineny.com AD DEADLINES December Issue: Nov. 20 FUNCTIONAL Published by FYI Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part in any form without prior written permission from the publisher is prohibited. The publisher reserves the right to edit all articles for clarity, space and editorial sensitivities. FYI Magazine assumes no responsibility for the content of articles or advertisements in the publication, nor for the connect of books that are referred to or excerpted herein. B E A U T I F U L 732.367.7515 205 CEDAR BRIDGE AVE | LAKEWOOD, NJ SALES@ICONPLUMBING.COM WWW.ICONPLUMBING.COM
EDITOR Yitty Denciger ART   MARKETING  Dr. Peretz Lock  Dr. Daniel Ganz  We really are as great as our Izzy Pupko PT  team...
EDITOR Yitty Denciger ART & MARKETING Dr. Peretz Lock Dr. Daniel Ganz We really are as great as our Izzy Pupko PT team. COPY EDITOR Lieba Bard-Wigdor FOOD PHOTOGRAPHY Shevy Gross shevygphotography@gmail.com @shevygphotography MANAGING EDITOR Darlene Fedele ADVERTISING Rachel Lebowitz rachel@fyimagazineny.com PHONE: 718.412.2442 PA Saba Gitisetan What makes Boro Park Center Brooklyn’s de facto address for quality care? 4915 10th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219 Phone 718.851.3700 www.BoroParkCenter.net PA Andrew Weissman Tzivia Cohen Miriam Reifman 14minds.com The timeless dedication exhibited by all our board-certified doctors, nurses and therapists. We're honored to keep our respected residents living happy, while remaining invested in developing state-of-the-art rehab therapies every day. We truly are one awesome team. WEBSITE: www.fyimagazineny.com E-MAIL: ads@fyimagazineny.com AD DEADLINES December Issue: Nov. 20 FUNCTIONAL Published by FYI Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part in any form without prior written permission from the publisher is prohibited. The publisher reserves the right to edit all articles for clarity, space and editorial sensitivities. FYI Magazine assumes no responsibility for the content of articles or advertisements in the publication, nor for the connect of books that are referred to or excerpted herein. B E A U T I F U L 732.367.7515 205 CEDAR BRIDGE AVE | LAKEWOOD, NJ SALES@ICONPLUMBING.COM WWW.ICONPLUMBING.COM
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contents November 2015 YOUR VOICE #JointheDiscussion 91 If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion & Beauty 16 | FASHION FINDS Fall Capsule Wardrobe 7 articles = 15 fresh fun outfits! 20 | BEAUTY 101 How to clean and care for your makeup brushes 26 | DRAB TO FAB Update your traditional spaces 84 FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE 39 | THE DOCTOR WILL SEE YOU NOW Treating a Fever without Medicine 45 | LIFE GOALS How to get yourself motivated 53 | DO-IT-YOURSELF 5 exercises to lose belly fat YOU GOTTA KNOW 18 | TRIED & TESTED The best Makeup Sticks House & Home 30 | KITCHEN CORNER Genius Space-Saving Finds 31 | BE SAFE Gadgets and systems to make your home safer. GET A HANDLE ON IT 55 | EXPERTISE 5 ways to Raise Confident Kids 65 | QUICK PICK ME UP Girl Time 68 | FOOD FIGHTS 10 ways to feed picky eaters 70 | MONEY SMARTS How To Save Money On Your Grocery Bill IN YOUR BUSINESS 55 SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE 83 | FALL FOOD Chickpea Squash Soup Kale parmesean Soup Parsnip Fennel Soup AVOIDING ACCEPTING CREDIT CARD PAYMENTS DUE TO THE HIGH PROCESSING FEES? 87 | BETTER BREAKFAST 3 Quick Breakfasts that are tastier than Cereal FEATURED 91 | GIFT GIVING The Ultimate Chanuka Gift guide, for the men, women and children in your life 96 | SKINCARE S.O.S. How to take care of your skin as you age We have changed the rules of the game. No more inflated processing costs and hidden fees. No more excuses for ever increasing charges. Accepting credit card payments should not make you cringe. With Banquest’s rock-bottom rates you will never think twice about processing a credit card payment! 100 | ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENTS Give your children what they need to succeed in school 73 | ON TOP OF THEIR GAME Two transplanted aussie sisters on their mission to change modest fashion CREDIT CARD PROCESSING ACH CHECKBY-PHONE ATM PLACEMENT & SERVICE ONLINE PAYMENT PAGES ECOMMERCE FRAUD PREVENTION 77 | ASK MAURICE Is it justifiable that I have not received a raise in 3 years? 96 855.323.8300 ext. 101 | www.banquest.com KFrisch@Banquest.com | K. Frisch, CEO
contents November 2015  YOUR VOICE  JointheDiscussion  91  If you were to write a book about your life, what would the tit...
contents November 2015 YOUR VOICE #JointheDiscussion 91 If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion & Beauty 16 | FASHION FINDS Fall Capsule Wardrobe 7 articles = 15 fresh fun outfits! 20 | BEAUTY 101 How to clean and care for your makeup brushes 26 | DRAB TO FAB Update your traditional spaces 84 FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE 39 | THE DOCTOR WILL SEE YOU NOW Treating a Fever without Medicine 45 | LIFE GOALS How to get yourself motivated 53 | DO-IT-YOURSELF 5 exercises to lose belly fat YOU GOTTA KNOW 18 | TRIED & TESTED The best Makeup Sticks House & Home 30 | KITCHEN CORNER Genius Space-Saving Finds 31 | BE SAFE Gadgets and systems to make your home safer. GET A HANDLE ON IT 55 | EXPERTISE 5 ways to Raise Confident Kids 65 | QUICK PICK ME UP Girl Time 68 | FOOD FIGHTS 10 ways to feed picky eaters 70 | MONEY SMARTS How To Save Money On Your Grocery Bill IN YOUR BUSINESS 55 SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE 83 | FALL FOOD Chickpea Squash Soup Kale parmesean Soup Parsnip Fennel Soup AVOIDING ACCEPTING CREDIT CARD PAYMENTS DUE TO THE HIGH PROCESSING FEES? 87 | BETTER BREAKFAST 3 Quick Breakfasts that are tastier than Cereal FEATURED 91 | GIFT GIVING The Ultimate Chanuka Gift guide, for the men, women and children in your life 96 | SKINCARE S.O.S. How to take care of your skin as you age We have changed the rules of the game. No more inflated processing costs and hidden fees. No more excuses for ever increasing charges. Accepting credit card payments should not make you cringe. With Banquest’s rock-bottom rates you will never think twice about processing a credit card payment! 100 | ACADEMIC ACHIEVEMENTS Give your children what they need to succeed in school 73 | ON TOP OF THEIR GAME Two transplanted aussie sisters on their mission to change modest fashion CREDIT CARD PROCESSING ACH CHECKBY-PHONE ATM PLACEMENT & SERVICE ONLINE PAYMENT PAGES ECOMMERCE FRAUD PREVENTION 77 | ASK MAURICE Is it justifiable that I have not received a raise in 3 years? 96 855.323.8300 ext. 101 | www.banquest.com KFrisch@Banquest.com | K. Frisch, CEO
contents November 2015  YOUR VOICE  JointheDiscussion  91  If you were to write a book about your life, what would the tit...
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY! ad subscription page to the magazinewith the cover and low introductory price SU BSC RIB E NOW T G E T OU O R INTROD LOW UCTOR Y RATEIT WON ’T L AST L ONG ! SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $50/YEAR! SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $3.50/MONTH! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com Visit www.fyimagazineny.com we hear you! I just wanted to let you know how very impressed I was with your awesome magazine. FYI was chockfull of useful information running the gamut of tableware, Halacha, and clothes and accessory shopping. The variety adds pizzazz and makes for an exciting read. I really enjoyed the article on the halachos of calling 311 and I learned a lot. The article on accessory shopping was very informative and useful. The idea that each color looks different with different textures helped me understand the art of matching accessories. For better or worse, I now realize the value of shlepping the gowns and clothing to the accessory store. Thanks so much for compiling such an insightful and quality magazine. Sincerely, GITTY EHRENTHAL Monsey, NY In reference to the article "How to Juggle Your Business in the Hectic Yom Tov Season," all tips were so useful and really enhanced my Yom Tov prep. Fridays and Erev Yom Tovs are really hectic around here and sometimes, as much as I prepare in advance, I still find myself huffing and puffing right before the zman. Therefore, I really appreciated the advice from Merav Levine about showering (I added putting on makeup) first thing in the morning. It is such a small thing that makes such a big difference! My fridays and Erevs are so much calmer; if I get to re-shower, it’s a bonus. I showed this article to my mom and sisters and shared with them this piece of advice. They all loved it and said that they had much calmer Erevs and appreciate your magazine very much. Thank you. R. LEBOWITZ Brooklyn, NY I really appreciated and related to the article “Am I a People Pleaser?” It has taken me years to even realize how much self-destruction this habit has cost me. Ultimately, the good I was doing for other people was not coming from a positive place, and it was making my already low self-esteem even lower, as I was always seeking approval from the recipient. And if I didn’t get any acknowledgment, I suffered tremendously. I do want to add one point which wasn’t mentioned in the article. Every time you have an urge to do something for someone, think: “Am I doing this for them to like me/see how good I am?” If this is true, say “NO” to yourself (even out loud) and if you need to, keep repeating it. Learning and practicing to say “no” to myself was what helped me change this habit. I look forward to reading your future issues. ANONYMOUS I really enjoy reading your magazine! It is full of light and refreshing content and it is easy to read. The article on organizing kids’ bedrooms was an eye-opener for me. It’s interesting when you look at the room from a child’s-eye view. After reading the article, I promptly rearranged the drawers and shelves in my kids’ rooms from bottom to top. My children have an easier time navigating their bedrooms, getting dressed and cleaning up. RACHEL Z. Woodmere, NY = SOCIAL MEDIA SIGHTINGS @sari.berko tokeepJust read #how shovyourmakeupfre v over Shabbos eryomto and LOVED it! @sarivic to ria Great m agazine ! Found before y you om tov a nd wait for the next can't issue.
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ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY! ad subscription page to the magazinewith the cover and low introductory price SU BSC RIB E NOW T G E T OU O R INTROD LOW UCTOR Y RATEIT WON ’T L AST L ONG ! SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $50/YEAR! SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $3.50/MONTH! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com Visit www.fyimagazineny.com we hear you! I just wanted to let you know how very impressed I was with your awesome magazine. FYI was chockfull of useful information running the gamut of tableware, Halacha, and clothes and accessory shopping. The variety adds pizzazz and makes for an exciting read. I really enjoyed the article on the halachos of calling 311 and I learned a lot. The article on accessory shopping was very informative and useful. The idea that each color looks different with different textures helped me understand the art of matching accessories. For better or worse, I now realize the value of shlepping the gowns and clothing to the accessory store. Thanks so much for compiling such an insightful and quality magazine. Sincerely, GITTY EHRENTHAL Monsey, NY In reference to the article "How to Juggle Your Business in the Hectic Yom Tov Season," all tips were so useful and really enhanced my Yom Tov prep. Fridays and Erev Yom Tovs are really hectic around here and sometimes, as much as I prepare in advance, I still find myself huffing and puffing right before the zman. Therefore, I really appreciated the advice from Merav Levine about showering (I added putting on makeup) first thing in the morning. It is such a small thing that makes such a big difference! My fridays and Erevs are so much calmer; if I get to re-shower, it’s a bonus. I showed this article to my mom and sisters and shared with them this piece of advice. They all loved it and said that they had much calmer Erevs and appreciate your magazine very much. Thank you. R. LEBOWITZ Brooklyn, NY I really appreciated and related to the article “Am I a People Pleaser?” It has taken me years to even realize how much self-destruction this habit has cost me. Ultimately, the good I was doing for other people was not coming from a positive place, and it was making my already low self-esteem even lower, as I was always seeking approval from the recipient. And if I didn’t get any acknowledgment, I suffered tremendously. I do want to add one point which wasn’t mentioned in the article. Every time you have an urge to do something for someone, think: “Am I doing this for them to like me/see how good I am?” If this is true, say “NO” to yourself (even out loud) and if you need to, keep repeating it. Learning and practicing to say “no” to myself was what helped me change this habit. I look forward to reading your future issues. ANONYMOUS I really enjoy reading your magazine! It is full of light and refreshing content and it is easy to read. The article on organizing kids’ bedrooms was an eye-opener for me. It’s interesting when you look at the room from a child’s-eye view. After reading the article, I promptly rearranged the drawers and shelves in my kids’ rooms from bottom to top. My children have an easier time navigating their bedrooms, getting dressed and cleaning up. RACHEL Z. Woodmere, NY = SOCIAL MEDIA SIGHTINGS @sari.berko tokeepJust read #how shovyourmakeupfre v over Shabbos eryomto and LOVED it! @sarivic to ria Great m agazine ! Found before y you om tov a nd wait for the next can't issue.
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featured contributors Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS MICHELLE DEVORAH KAHN Writer The best space saver in my home is...does my mom count? I'm horrible when it comes to organizing my stuff, but she's great at figuring it out! I keep myself motivated by…watching documentaries on people who have inspired me. Knowing that they too struggled at one time, makes me not want to give up! My favorite way to de-stress is...read my article in THIS issue!! (I cook too.) My nighttime skincare routine is…simple: remove makeup, rinse with cold water and Avene face soap, pat dry, and relax for 10 minutes with cucumber slices on my eyes. DINI KLIEN Recipe Developer/ Food Blogger The best space saver in my home is...my second fridge in the garage! I keep myself motivated by… oddly enough, Instagram keeps me motivated. When I see what other supertalented people are doing and the businesses they're creating, I'm challenged to work harder. My favorite way to de-stress is…going for a walk, and sitting at Starbucks in the outdoor table area. There, I can just breathe and relax. My nighttime skincare routine is...1.Washing my face with Cetaphil 2. Moisturizing with Cetaphil only in the winter 3. Cane + Austin Glycolic Retexture Pads all over face or sometimes only T-zone 4. Darphin Wrinkle Corrective Eye Cream for the eye area. MIRIAM W. The best space saver in my home is…my under-the-bed storage containers. Currently, they're storing my artwork from high school and college. The best space saver in my home is…space-saver bags. I use them to store clothing and/or extra towels; they take up way less space than traditional storage. I keep myself motivated by...focusing on my goals and not my problems. It's not productive to worry about obstacles; instead, I find a way to work around them. Quality RIVKY KALMAN I keep myself motivated by…“If not you, then who? If not now, when?” -Hillel Writer/Blogger My favorite way to de-stress is...watching reruns of Shark Tank on Youtube. I love seeing entrepreneurs present their ideas! My nighttime skincare routine is...simple face wipes. They’re great for removing makeup and cleansing my sensitive skin. you can feel. Certified MUA Prices you can afford. My favorite way to de-stress is…doing makeup - it’s definitely my creative outlet. Nothing relaxes me like experimenting with different techniques, testing new products, and creating different looks. My nighttime skincare routine is…washing my face with a hydrating cleanser and toner, since my skin tends to be on the dry side. Then, I apply an eye cream and night cream which repairs my skin while I sleep. 6 Shirley Ave. Somerset, NJ 08873 P: 718-499-6300 Rated #1 in all hosiery categories Available at your local hosiery store.
featured contributors Q A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH   S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS  MICHELLE DEVORAH KAHN Writer  The best space ...
featured contributors Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS MICHELLE DEVORAH KAHN Writer The best space saver in my home is...does my mom count? I'm horrible when it comes to organizing my stuff, but she's great at figuring it out! I keep myself motivated by…watching documentaries on people who have inspired me. Knowing that they too struggled at one time, makes me not want to give up! My favorite way to de-stress is...read my article in THIS issue!! (I cook too.) My nighttime skincare routine is…simple: remove makeup, rinse with cold water and Avene face soap, pat dry, and relax for 10 minutes with cucumber slices on my eyes. DINI KLIEN Recipe Developer/ Food Blogger The best space saver in my home is...my second fridge in the garage! I keep myself motivated by… oddly enough, Instagram keeps me motivated. When I see what other supertalented people are doing and the businesses they're creating, I'm challenged to work harder. My favorite way to de-stress is…going for a walk, and sitting at Starbucks in the outdoor table area. There, I can just breathe and relax. My nighttime skincare routine is...1.Washing my face with Cetaphil 2. Moisturizing with Cetaphil only in the winter 3. Cane + Austin Glycolic Retexture Pads all over face or sometimes only T-zone 4. Darphin Wrinkle Corrective Eye Cream for the eye area. MIRIAM W. The best space saver in my home is…my under-the-bed storage containers. Currently, they're storing my artwork from high school and college. The best space saver in my home is…space-saver bags. I use them to store clothing and/or extra towels; they take up way less space than traditional storage. I keep myself motivated by...focusing on my goals and not my problems. It's not productive to worry about obstacles; instead, I find a way to work around them. Quality RIVKY KALMAN I keep myself motivated by…“If not you, then who? If not now, when?” -Hillel Writer/Blogger My favorite way to de-stress is...watching reruns of Shark Tank on Youtube. I love seeing entrepreneurs present their ideas! My nighttime skincare routine is...simple face wipes. They’re great for removing makeup and cleansing my sensitive skin. you can feel. Certified MUA Prices you can afford. My favorite way to de-stress is…doing makeup - it’s definitely my creative outlet. Nothing relaxes me like experimenting with different techniques, testing new products, and creating different looks. My nighttime skincare routine is…washing my face with a hydrating cleanser and toner, since my skin tends to be on the dry side. Then, I apply an eye cream and night cream which repairs my skin while I sleep. 6 Shirley Ave. Somerset, NJ 08873 P: 718-499-6300 Rated #1 in all hosiery categories Available at your local hosiery store.
featured contributors Q A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH   S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS  MICHELLE DEVORAH KAHN Writer  The best space ...
your voice #JointheDiscussion Q: If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? C M Y “The Cancer Sandwich. I was diagnosed with cancer 10 years and ago and am doing well (I’m still receiving treatment though). I have seven kids and I am also the primary caretaker for my mother-in-law, who has Alzheimer’s. My mother also has Alzheimer’s, so I help my parents a lot as well. I feel like the sandwich generation cubed.” Anonymous New York, NY “Don’t Give Up On Me. I’ve been considered an at-risk kid from a young age. I would write my book to help mothers cope, accept and love regardless of what’s going on.” Miriam E. Lakewood, NJ “Don’t Forget About Me, or, The Secrets of A Twisted Sister.” C.B., Toronto, Ontario “Woman Warrior.” Marissa Greenblatt Far Rockaway, NY “Living with a Ticking Time Bomb.” Rivkee Appel Brooklyn, NY “From Sour Lemons to Sweet Lemonade, living a life of success despite all odds.” Y.F. Brooklyn, NY 10 | fyimagazineny.com CM MY CY CMY K Question for next month: If we would put you on a stage in front of thousands of people, and you’d have 30 seconds to relate a message to them, what would you say? Text your answer to 516-331-1885!
your voice  JointheDiscussion  Q  If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be   C  M  Y     The C...
your voice #JointheDiscussion Q: If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be? C M Y “The Cancer Sandwich. I was diagnosed with cancer 10 years and ago and am doing well (I’m still receiving treatment though). I have seven kids and I am also the primary caretaker for my mother-in-law, who has Alzheimer’s. My mother also has Alzheimer’s, so I help my parents a lot as well. I feel like the sandwich generation cubed.” Anonymous New York, NY “Don’t Give Up On Me. I’ve been considered an at-risk kid from a young age. I would write my book to help mothers cope, accept and love regardless of what’s going on.” Miriam E. Lakewood, NJ “Don’t Forget About Me, or, The Secrets of A Twisted Sister.” C.B., Toronto, Ontario “Woman Warrior.” Marissa Greenblatt Far Rockaway, NY “Living with a Ticking Time Bomb.” Rivkee Appel Brooklyn, NY “From Sour Lemons to Sweet Lemonade, living a life of success despite all odds.” Y.F. Brooklyn, NY 10 | fyimagazineny.com CM MY CY CMY K Question for next month: If we would put you on a stage in front of thousands of people, and you’d have 30 seconds to relate a message to them, what would you say? Text your answer to 516-331-1885!
your voice  JointheDiscussion  Q  If you were to write a book about your life, what would the title be   C  M  Y     The C...
There’s a new loaf in town. editor’s note Finally, a gefilte fish that’s not full of it. And will have your family asking: “Are you sure this is not Bubby’s recipe?” M ornings are usually hectic here. From dressing my daughter, (the actually dressing doesn’t take that long, but making sure her hair is done, teeth are brushed, and shoes and socks are on, can be the most time-consuming) to getting ready myself (makeup and all), and straightening the house, there isn’t much time to spare. Occasionally, I’ll even throw a load into the washer or dryer, or answer an important email. Most days, my daughter eats cereal and milk for breakfast and sometimes, she has scrambled eggs. She does often ask for macaroni and cheese, which I would love to make her, but it takes more than five minutes to cook, which we can’t afford in the morning. I’m sure a lot of you can relate. I read the “3 Quick Breakfasts that are Tastier than Cereal” with a loud “Aha!” Boy, was I excited to try these out, and what a hit they were! Definitely give that a shot. On another note, a couple of weeks ago, I experienced a burglary which left me shaken and motivated to heighten the security in my home. I promptly did research and found some effective gadgets and products that can provide peace of mind. I am sharing those with you, so you can protect yourself and your family, too! Find these items in this month’s “Magic Helper” column. Skincare is something women take very seriously and opinions, methods, and products abound. We reached out to top doctors in the field to bring you a TM Noam Gourmet Premium Quality Gefilte Fish is made with more real fish and less fillers. Our delicious recipe, is all natural and gluten-free. It’s bound to become a tradition in your home. THE KING OF KOSHER FROZEN MILIE FA • 40 S •S DISTRIBUTED BY EL EM & FFER SO well-researched article, “Antiaging skin care tips.” It reveals which products and methods are good for you and which aren’t. You’ll be glad you read this article. As the weather gets colder, soups are getting hotter (pun intended). Our recipe columnist has developed hearty and tasty fall soups that you will love. Fall and winter clothes are starting to surface in our closets as well. Betty Gulko has created a beautiful Fall Capsule Wardrobe - 7 articles of clothing which make 15 trendy and unique outfits (yes, 15!). Cold weather also means that Chanukah is around the corner! We’ve compiled the Ultimate Gift Guide for the men, women, teens, and children in your life. The products are diverse and we’re sure you'll find a few things that you’ll love. Other great reads are “How To Clean Your Makeup Brushes,” “Treating Fever Without Medicine,” “How To Raise Confident Kids,” and “5 Exercises to Lose Belly Fat.” Enjoy the rest of this issue- and keep the feedback coming! I appreciate every email, note, and social media message. Wishing you all a warm and wonderful month ahead, Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE : yitty suggests “There’s nothing like glowing, even-toned skin. This is my new favorite, as it’s perfect on the go as well.” page 18 “I was inspired by these two sisters, who started a great business helping orthodox women dress fashionably and modestly.” page 18 “This vase will upgrade any living room. Fresh and modern does it.” page 33 “Have all your makeup neatly displayed, ready for quick and easy removal. The design can be adapted to any bedroom to look like an accent piece.” page 22
There   s a new loaf in town.  editor   s note  Finally, a ge   lte    sh that   s not full of it. And will have your fami...
There’s a new loaf in town. editor’s note Finally, a gefilte fish that’s not full of it. And will have your family asking: “Are you sure this is not Bubby’s recipe?” M ornings are usually hectic here. From dressing my daughter, (the actually dressing doesn’t take that long, but making sure her hair is done, teeth are brushed, and shoes and socks are on, can be the most time-consuming) to getting ready myself (makeup and all), and straightening the house, there isn’t much time to spare. Occasionally, I’ll even throw a load into the washer or dryer, or answer an important email. Most days, my daughter eats cereal and milk for breakfast and sometimes, she has scrambled eggs. She does often ask for macaroni and cheese, which I would love to make her, but it takes more than five minutes to cook, which we can’t afford in the morning. I’m sure a lot of you can relate. I read the “3 Quick Breakfasts that are Tastier than Cereal” with a loud “Aha!” Boy, was I excited to try these out, and what a hit they were! Definitely give that a shot. On another note, a couple of weeks ago, I experienced a burglary which left me shaken and motivated to heighten the security in my home. I promptly did research and found some effective gadgets and products that can provide peace of mind. I am sharing those with you, so you can protect yourself and your family, too! Find these items in this month’s “Magic Helper” column. Skincare is something women take very seriously and opinions, methods, and products abound. We reached out to top doctors in the field to bring you a TM Noam Gourmet Premium Quality Gefilte Fish is made with more real fish and less fillers. Our delicious recipe, is all natural and gluten-free. It’s bound to become a tradition in your home. THE KING OF KOSHER FROZEN MILIE FA • 40 S •S DISTRIBUTED BY EL EM & FFER SO well-researched article, “Antiaging skin care tips.” It reveals which products and methods are good for you and which aren’t. You’ll be glad you read this article. As the weather gets colder, soups are getting hotter (pun intended). Our recipe columnist has developed hearty and tasty fall soups that you will love. Fall and winter clothes are starting to surface in our closets as well. Betty Gulko has created a beautiful Fall Capsule Wardrobe - 7 articles of clothing which make 15 trendy and unique outfits (yes, 15!). Cold weather also means that Chanukah is around the corner! We’ve compiled the Ultimate Gift Guide for the men, women, teens, and children in your life. The products are diverse and we’re sure you'll find a few things that you’ll love. Other great reads are “How To Clean Your Makeup Brushes,” “Treating Fever Without Medicine,” “How To Raise Confident Kids,” and “5 Exercises to Lose Belly Fat.” Enjoy the rest of this issue- and keep the feedback coming! I appreciate every email, note, and social media message. Wishing you all a warm and wonderful month ahead, Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE : yitty suggests “There’s nothing like glowing, even-toned skin. This is my new favorite, as it’s perfect on the go as well.” page 18 “I was inspired by these two sisters, who started a great business helping orthodox women dress fashionably and modestly.” page 18 “This vase will upgrade any living room. Fresh and modern does it.” page 33 “Have all your makeup neatly displayed, ready for quick and easy removal. The design can be adapted to any bedroom to look like an accent piece.” page 22
There   s a new loaf in town.  editor   s note  Finally, a ge   lte    sh that   s not full of it. And will have your fami...
> Make your life more beautiful! the beauty guide Fall Capsule Tip goes here WARDROBE 31 years of research and development. That’s what ensures the highest quality Judaica brought to you by Keter. 31 years ago Mr. Tenenbaum, made a decision that would change the quality of Judaica forever. Being unsatisfied with the standards of the tzitzis available before Keter existed, Mr. Tenenbaum spent hours poring over the process of manufacturing tzitzis until he became entirely familiar with the techniques and machinery used to create a most hiddur tzitis. After extensive research, he decided to get involved and build a company that will manufacture Judaica which would stand apart from all those already available; they would clearly be the most hiddur on the market. After extensive discussion with leading rabbis and after publishing a few seforim on the topic, he started manufacturing the now-famous Keter line of products. Rapidly, he became the largest supplier of tzizis worldwide for those interested in a quality product and its trademark hiddurim. Throughout the years, Mr. Tanenbaum has perfected and patented his technology to ensure that high quality goods are his final product. Keter tzitzis and taleisim have earned the respect of consumers worldwide and are preferred by the discerning customer. That’s because a Keter tzitzis or tallis is whiter and lasts longer than any other competing brand does. For those who value hiddur mitzvah, and want a tallis that is a cut above the rest, Keter is the brand to choose. In addition, Keter is the brand every Jewish mother supports since their tzitzis hold up beautifully even after they are put through the wash repeatedly. Keter understands the needs of chassanim and they provide the entire gamut of Judaica in one simple package, from the tallis bag to the challah cover. An efficient and broad minded leader, Mr. Tanenbaum knows his work is never complete. He is in touch with Rabbanim who aid him in constantly improving his products. That translates into constant quality for you, the consumer. Keter’s been the leading brand for 31 years. Want to know why? Try Keter today. 7 Pieces + 2 Pairs of shoes + 2 bags = 15 OUTFITS
  Make your life more beautiful   the beauty guide  Fall Capsule Tip goes here  WARDROBE 31 years of research and developm...
> Make your life more beautiful! the beauty guide Fall Capsule Tip goes here WARDROBE 31 years of research and development. That’s what ensures the highest quality Judaica brought to you by Keter. 31 years ago Mr. Tenenbaum, made a decision that would change the quality of Judaica forever. Being unsatisfied with the standards of the tzitzis available before Keter existed, Mr. Tenenbaum spent hours poring over the process of manufacturing tzitzis until he became entirely familiar with the techniques and machinery used to create a most hiddur tzitis. After extensive research, he decided to get involved and build a company that will manufacture Judaica which would stand apart from all those already available; they would clearly be the most hiddur on the market. After extensive discussion with leading rabbis and after publishing a few seforim on the topic, he started manufacturing the now-famous Keter line of products. Rapidly, he became the largest supplier of tzizis worldwide for those interested in a quality product and its trademark hiddurim. Throughout the years, Mr. Tanenbaum has perfected and patented his technology to ensure that high quality goods are his final product. Keter tzitzis and taleisim have earned the respect of consumers worldwide and are preferred by the discerning customer. That’s because a Keter tzitzis or tallis is whiter and lasts longer than any other competing brand does. For those who value hiddur mitzvah, and want a tallis that is a cut above the rest, Keter is the brand to choose. In addition, Keter is the brand every Jewish mother supports since their tzitzis hold up beautifully even after they are put through the wash repeatedly. Keter understands the needs of chassanim and they provide the entire gamut of Judaica in one simple package, from the tallis bag to the challah cover. An efficient and broad minded leader, Mr. Tanenbaum knows his work is never complete. He is in touch with Rabbanim who aid him in constantly improving his products. That translates into constant quality for you, the consumer. Keter’s been the leading brand for 31 years. Want to know why? Try Keter today. 7 Pieces + 2 Pairs of shoes + 2 bags = 15 OUTFITS
  Make your life more beautiful   the beauty guide  Fall Capsule Tip goes here  WARDROBE 31 years of research and developm...
the beauty guide FASHION FALL FASHION FEED 7 Pieces + 2 Pairs of shoes + 2 bags = 15 OUTFITS 8 7 Wondering how to make your capsule wardrobe work for you? See below for some fab pairings using the same items that create completely different looks! You'll be rocking a killer wardrobe all season long! #BuyLessChooseWell #MinimalistStyle 9 FASHION EDITOR: BETTY GULKO Rhinestone Beaded Fuzzy Sweater forever21.com $24.90 1 3 White Silk Bow Blouse theoutnet.com $125 2 12 10 Black Turtleneck hm.com $12.95 11 Fur Vest aritizia.com $135 Faux Suede Skirt houseoffraser.co.uk $106 Faux Leather Pleated Skirt chichwish.com $44.97 Louboutin Heels net-a-porter.com $675 15 5 Denim Button Down Skirt topshop.com $58 6 4 13 Fringe Suede Booties jane.com $35.93 14 Imitation Pearl Clutch shopbop.com $95 Black Bucket Bag katespade.com $95 16 | fyimagazineny.com 17 | fyimagazineny.com Betty Gulko is an Orthodox, freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@gmail. com. Follow her on Instagram for a daily dose of the #LifeOfaStylist @ such.a.betty!
the beauty guide  FASHION  FALL FASHION FEED 7 Pieces   2 Pairs of shoes   2 bags   15 OUTFITS  8 7  Wondering how to make...
the beauty guide FASHION FALL FASHION FEED 7 Pieces + 2 Pairs of shoes + 2 bags = 15 OUTFITS 8 7 Wondering how to make your capsule wardrobe work for you? See below for some fab pairings using the same items that create completely different looks! You'll be rocking a killer wardrobe all season long! #BuyLessChooseWell #MinimalistStyle 9 FASHION EDITOR: BETTY GULKO Rhinestone Beaded Fuzzy Sweater forever21.com $24.90 1 3 White Silk Bow Blouse theoutnet.com $125 2 12 10 Black Turtleneck hm.com $12.95 11 Fur Vest aritizia.com $135 Faux Suede Skirt houseoffraser.co.uk $106 Faux Leather Pleated Skirt chichwish.com $44.97 Louboutin Heels net-a-porter.com $675 15 5 Denim Button Down Skirt topshop.com $58 6 4 13 Fringe Suede Booties jane.com $35.93 14 Imitation Pearl Clutch shopbop.com $95 Black Bucket Bag katespade.com $95 16 | fyimagazineny.com 17 | fyimagazineny.com Betty Gulko is an Orthodox, freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@gmail. com. Follow her on Instagram for a daily dose of the #LifeOfaStylist @ such.a.betty!
the beauty guide  FASHION  FALL FASHION FEED 7 Pieces   2 Pairs of shoes   2 bags   15 OUTFITS  8 7  Wondering how to make...
the beauty guide MAKEUP Tried & Tested Makeup St icks Makeup sticks are all the rage right now. They are solid forms of highlighters, lipsticks, concealers, and blush that glide on easily to create seamless makeup. Also, these compact twist-up tubes leave no mess. Here are our favorite makeup sticks: GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANUKA GIFT THAT KEEPS GIVING! SUBSCRIBE for yourself and a friend and receive the second subscription 50% OFF! Promo code: CHANUKAH2015 ONLY $50 Best Concealer St ick: Best Foundat ion St ick: SHISEIDO STICK FOUNDATION shiseido.com, $38.99 Best Highlight ing St ick: This stick makes pores appear smaller and skin look smoother, to achieve an even-toned complexion without a caked-on appearance. Application is easy - gently glide right onto the face, like a big crayon, and add as needed. Then smudge it out with the fingertips, et voila! skin looks like it was (almost) airbrushed. NARS THE MULTIPLE LAGUNA narscosmetics.com, $39 The simplicity of this is amazing. It takes only one dab on the desired area to give you perfect highlighting and light contouring. Best of all, the color is buildable, and lasts all day. Use this to step up your makeup game; it is well worth the price! 18 | fyimagazineny.com CLE DE PEAU BEAUTE CONCEALER, nordstrom.com, $70 This concealer lives up to its reputation. One thin layer covers every area magnificently, without being greasy or filmy. Apply a dab directly on dark circles or blemishes/dark spots, then blend out by dabbing with fingertips. While this concealer is a bit on the pricy end, it is worth the investment.
the beauty guide  MAKEUP  Tried   Tested Makeup St icks  Makeup sticks are all the rage right now. They are solid forms of...
the beauty guide MAKEUP Tried & Tested Makeup St icks Makeup sticks are all the rage right now. They are solid forms of highlighters, lipsticks, concealers, and blush that glide on easily to create seamless makeup. Also, these compact twist-up tubes leave no mess. Here are our favorite makeup sticks: GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANUKA GIFT THAT KEEPS GIVING! SUBSCRIBE for yourself and a friend and receive the second subscription 50% OFF! Promo code: CHANUKAH2015 ONLY $50 Best Concealer St ick: Best Foundat ion St ick: SHISEIDO STICK FOUNDATION shiseido.com, $38.99 Best Highlight ing St ick: This stick makes pores appear smaller and skin look smoother, to achieve an even-toned complexion without a caked-on appearance. Application is easy - gently glide right onto the face, like a big crayon, and add as needed. Then smudge it out with the fingertips, et voila! skin looks like it was (almost) airbrushed. NARS THE MULTIPLE LAGUNA narscosmetics.com, $39 The simplicity of this is amazing. It takes only one dab on the desired area to give you perfect highlighting and light contouring. Best of all, the color is buildable, and lasts all day. Use this to step up your makeup game; it is well worth the price! 18 | fyimagazineny.com CLE DE PEAU BEAUTE CONCEALER, nordstrom.com, $70 This concealer lives up to its reputation. One thin layer covers every area magnificently, without being greasy or filmy. Apply a dab directly on dark circles or blemishes/dark spots, then blend out by dabbing with fingertips. While this concealer is a bit on the pricy end, it is worth the investment.
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MAKEUP MAKEUP C leaning brushes is one of the most crucial parts of your beauty regimen. Not washing your brushes is like not washing your face! When you’re using brushes, bits of makeup, oil, dirt, and bacteria adhere to the bristles. If your brushes aren’t cleaned properly, you will be reapplying all these germs with your next makeup application, which will result in clogged pores, unwelcome breakouts, and damaged brushes. Keep in mind that by cleaning your brushes, you will also be protecting your investment. Good quality brushes can be quite costly, and cleaning them properly will prolong their lifespan. HOW TO CLEAN YOUR MAKEUP BRUSHES Taking care of your brushes will not only prove costeffective in the long run, but will also give you a more flawless complexion. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE the beauty guide HERE’S HOW. IT’S EASY! There are two main techniques used to clean brushes: spot cleaning and deep cleaning. Spot cleaning: This method should be used every time you use your brushes. Deep cleaning: This is a more intense cleaning and should be done weekly. Keep in mind that brushes take a while to dry, so clean them after you’ve completed your makeup application, or the night before you’ll need your brushes next. SPOT CLEANING You will need: • Daily Brush CleanerI recommend using the Sephora Daily Brush Cleaner (Sephora, $8.50). It thoroughly cleans the brushes without drying them out. • Paper Towel INSTRUCTIONS: All you need to do is spray the brush cleaner onto the paper towel and swirl the brush in circular motions on the paper towel until it’s clean. Remember, you can always add more brush cleaner if you need to. DEEP CLEANING You will need: • Dish washing soap • Extra virgin olive oil • A plate • A sink • Brush guards (more on that, in a bit) INSTRUCTIONS: Mix 2:1 parts of antibacterial dish washing soap and extra virgin olive oil in a plate. The dishwashing soap will remove all the makeup, dirt, and dust. However, it will also strip the bristles of any oils and dry them out. That’s where olive oil comes in! By adding olive oil, you will recondition the hair on the brush, making it soft and fluffy once again. Next, dip the brush into the mixture you just made. Then, swirl the brush in circular motions in the palm of your hand, working up a lather. If you don’t want to get your hands dirty, you can also use the Spa Brush Cleaning Glove from Sigma Beauty (sigmabeauty.com, $39) instead of your palm. Rinse the brush under lukewarm water. Make sure the water isn’t hot, as it can damage your brushes. Also, be sure that the water reaches only the brush hairs and not the metal part of the brush between the bristles and handle (also known as the ferrule), as this can cause the glue to break apart and bristles to fall out. Once the water runs clear, squeeze out the excess water. Now it’s time to dry the brushes. Take a paper towel and blot out the excess water and wipe the brush. Don’t use a regular towel, since it will leave lint on the brushes. Always dry your brushes with bristles down. Drying your brushes with the bristles standing up will force the water to seep down, and this will loosen the glue that’s holding the bristles together. Shaping the brushes is a very important step. The best way to get the perfect shape is by using a Brush Guard (Amazon, $9.20/pack of 8). A brush guard is a stretchy mesh you slip onto the brush that keeps the fragile bristles in place while they dry. Added bonus- the brush guard 21 | fyimagazineny.com also protects the brushes against dust, dirt, and bacteria. Brush guards come in a variety of sizes to fit a multitude of different brushes. When you put the brush guard onto the brush, it should fit snugly; if it’s a loose fit, then it’s too big for the brush and you need a smaller-sized brush guard and vice versa. Once the brush guard is on, place all the brushes into a glass upside-down. Any excess moisture will drip out and the water will collect in the glass. You want to dry your brushes indoors, away from heat and direct sunlight. Once your brushes are dry, remove the brush guard and you are done! Cleaning your brushes properly has many benefits. Following these simple steps will sanitize your brushes and make them look brand new. This is how I clean my brushes – both personal and professional. Enjoy your “brand new” clean bacteria-free brushes. fyi Rivky Kalman is a professional certified makeup artist based out of NY. She is a true artist using skill and passion to make you look like the best version of yourself. Follow her on instagram @glitterandgloss365. For inquiries email glitterandgloss365@gmail.com
MAKEUP  MAKEUP  C  leaning brushes is one of the most crucial parts of your beauty regimen. Not washing your brushes is li...
MAKEUP MAKEUP C leaning brushes is one of the most crucial parts of your beauty regimen. Not washing your brushes is like not washing your face! When you’re using brushes, bits of makeup, oil, dirt, and bacteria adhere to the bristles. If your brushes aren’t cleaned properly, you will be reapplying all these germs with your next makeup application, which will result in clogged pores, unwelcome breakouts, and damaged brushes. Keep in mind that by cleaning your brushes, you will also be protecting your investment. Good quality brushes can be quite costly, and cleaning them properly will prolong their lifespan. HOW TO CLEAN YOUR MAKEUP BRUSHES Taking care of your brushes will not only prove costeffective in the long run, but will also give you a more flawless complexion. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE the beauty guide HERE’S HOW. IT’S EASY! There are two main techniques used to clean brushes: spot cleaning and deep cleaning. Spot cleaning: This method should be used every time you use your brushes. Deep cleaning: This is a more intense cleaning and should be done weekly. Keep in mind that brushes take a while to dry, so clean them after you’ve completed your makeup application, or the night before you’ll need your brushes next. SPOT CLEANING You will need: • Daily Brush CleanerI recommend using the Sephora Daily Brush Cleaner (Sephora, $8.50). It thoroughly cleans the brushes without drying them out. • Paper Towel INSTRUCTIONS: All you need to do is spray the brush cleaner onto the paper towel and swirl the brush in circular motions on the paper towel until it’s clean. Remember, you can always add more brush cleaner if you need to. DEEP CLEANING You will need: • Dish washing soap • Extra virgin olive oil • A plate • A sink • Brush guards (more on that, in a bit) INSTRUCTIONS: Mix 2:1 parts of antibacterial dish washing soap and extra virgin olive oil in a plate. The dishwashing soap will remove all the makeup, dirt, and dust. However, it will also strip the bristles of any oils and dry them out. That’s where olive oil comes in! By adding olive oil, you will recondition the hair on the brush, making it soft and fluffy once again. Next, dip the brush into the mixture you just made. Then, swirl the brush in circular motions in the palm of your hand, working up a lather. If you don’t want to get your hands dirty, you can also use the Spa Brush Cleaning Glove from Sigma Beauty (sigmabeauty.com, $39) instead of your palm. Rinse the brush under lukewarm water. Make sure the water isn’t hot, as it can damage your brushes. Also, be sure that the water reaches only the brush hairs and not the metal part of the brush between the bristles and handle (also known as the ferrule), as this can cause the glue to break apart and bristles to fall out. Once the water runs clear, squeeze out the excess water. Now it’s time to dry the brushes. Take a paper towel and blot out the excess water and wipe the brush. Don’t use a regular towel, since it will leave lint on the brushes. Always dry your brushes with bristles down. Drying your brushes with the bristles standing up will force the water to seep down, and this will loosen the glue that’s holding the bristles together. Shaping the brushes is a very important step. The best way to get the perfect shape is by using a Brush Guard (Amazon, $9.20/pack of 8). A brush guard is a stretchy mesh you slip onto the brush that keeps the fragile bristles in place while they dry. Added bonus- the brush guard 21 | fyimagazineny.com also protects the brushes against dust, dirt, and bacteria. Brush guards come in a variety of sizes to fit a multitude of different brushes. When you put the brush guard onto the brush, it should fit snugly; if it’s a loose fit, then it’s too big for the brush and you need a smaller-sized brush guard and vice versa. Once the brush guard is on, place all the brushes into a glass upside-down. Any excess moisture will drip out and the water will collect in the glass. You want to dry your brushes indoors, away from heat and direct sunlight. Once your brushes are dry, remove the brush guard and you are done! Cleaning your brushes properly has many benefits. Following these simple steps will sanitize your brushes and make them look brand new. This is how I clean my brushes – both personal and professional. Enjoy your “brand new” clean bacteria-free brushes. fyi Rivky Kalman is a professional certified makeup artist based out of NY. She is a true artist using skill and passion to make you look like the best version of yourself. Follow her on instagram @glitterandgloss365. For inquiries email glitterandgloss365@gmail.com
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the beauty guide the beauty guide diy JEWELRY DISPLAY Say goodbye to tangled necklaces and missing earrings. Choosing your accessories every day couldn’t be easier. No more searching and shuffling around in your drawer; you can have them all beautifully displayed right in front of you. This jewelry display will not only organize your jewelry and free up closet/counter space, but it will also enhance your room! You can design the background however you like to suit your style. you will need: • Large picture frame (You can repurpose an old one or buy one from the dollar store.) • Cork Roll • Glue Gun • Paint (we used 3 colors) • Wide Paint Brush • Painter’s Tape (regular tape will do as well) • Scissors • Push Pins/Thumb Tacks DISASSEMBLE THE PICTURE FRAME. You will not need the glass. Put aside the frame and cardboard. • Paint the frame to the desired color. Let it dry. • Cut the cork roll to the exact size of the cardboard of the frame. Then, glue it on using the glue gun. • Paint the cork roll with the background color (we used white). It will need at least 3 coats. Let it dry between coats. IF YOU WANT TO CREATE A DESIGN, like the gray chevron we made, trace the pattern onto the cork. Then, tape off the areas you don’t want to paint. Finally, paint the desired areas. This will need two coats. Let it dry between coats. Remove tape immediately. Allow it to dry. TO PAINT PUSH PINS, push them into a spare piece of cork. Then, paint with a paintbrush on all sides. When the cork and frame are dry, place the cork into the back of the frame as normal. Voila! You can now hang your jewelry. 22 | fyimagazineny.com 23 | fyimagazineny.com
the beauty guide  the beauty guide  diy  JEWELRY DISPLAY Say goodbye to tangled necklaces and missing earrings. Choosing y...
the beauty guide the beauty guide diy JEWELRY DISPLAY Say goodbye to tangled necklaces and missing earrings. Choosing your accessories every day couldn’t be easier. No more searching and shuffling around in your drawer; you can have them all beautifully displayed right in front of you. This jewelry display will not only organize your jewelry and free up closet/counter space, but it will also enhance your room! You can design the background however you like to suit your style. you will need: • Large picture frame (You can repurpose an old one or buy one from the dollar store.) • Cork Roll • Glue Gun • Paint (we used 3 colors) • Wide Paint Brush • Painter’s Tape (regular tape will do as well) • Scissors • Push Pins/Thumb Tacks DISASSEMBLE THE PICTURE FRAME. You will not need the glass. Put aside the frame and cardboard. • Paint the frame to the desired color. Let it dry. • Cut the cork roll to the exact size of the cardboard of the frame. Then, glue it on using the glue gun. • Paint the cork roll with the background color (we used white). It will need at least 3 coats. Let it dry between coats. IF YOU WANT TO CREATE A DESIGN, like the gray chevron we made, trace the pattern onto the cork. Then, tape off the areas you don’t want to paint. Finally, paint the desired areas. This will need two coats. Let it dry between coats. Remove tape immediately. Allow it to dry. TO PAINT PUSH PINS, push them into a spare piece of cork. Then, paint with a paintbrush on all sides. When the cork and frame are dry, place the cork into the back of the frame as normal. Voila! You can now hang your jewelry. 22 | fyimagazineny.com 23 | fyimagazineny.com
the beauty guide  the beauty guide  diy  JEWELRY DISPLAY Say goodbye to tangled necklaces and missing earrings. Choosing y...
party time the beauty guide the beauty guide You may have noticed a trend at events you have attended in the last year or so. It's a small thing that makes a big impression when done right. Station signs. Little details like this will make your buffet bounce from nice to WOW. These work especially well on buffets and with hors d'oeuvre, but there are countless creative ways to incorporate funky signage in your event. Here are some ideas from events we’ve done: 1. “Salami Bar” sign at rustic tent party on free-standing chalkboard, surrounded by flowers. 2. Hors d’ouevre passed around on a large clock tray with a sign saying, “Time to Eat.” 3. On a make-it-yourself salad bar, signs naming the dressings held by oversized clips. 4. Signs for ketchups, mustards, and other condiments in squeeze bottles tied with ribbon. 5. Large chalkboard with funky food names hung behind the buffet, in different colors of chalk. 6. Make-it-yourself name flags hung onto striped straws on chocolate milk and mini donut shots. 24 | fyimagazineny.com Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger of Michicas have a collective 25 years in the catering business. They bring their knowledge, expereince, and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible.
party time  the beauty guide  the beauty guide  You may have noticed a trend at events you have attended in the last year ...
party time the beauty guide the beauty guide You may have noticed a trend at events you have attended in the last year or so. It's a small thing that makes a big impression when done right. Station signs. Little details like this will make your buffet bounce from nice to WOW. These work especially well on buffets and with hors d'oeuvre, but there are countless creative ways to incorporate funky signage in your event. Here are some ideas from events we’ve done: 1. “Salami Bar” sign at rustic tent party on free-standing chalkboard, surrounded by flowers. 2. Hors d’ouevre passed around on a large clock tray with a sign saying, “Time to Eat.” 3. On a make-it-yourself salad bar, signs naming the dressings held by oversized clips. 4. Signs for ketchups, mustards, and other condiments in squeeze bottles tied with ribbon. 5. Large chalkboard with funky food names hung behind the buffet, in different colors of chalk. 6. Make-it-yourself name flags hung onto striped straws on chocolate milk and mini donut shots. 24 | fyimagazineny.com Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger of Michicas have a collective 25 years in the catering business. They bring their knowledge, expereince, and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible.
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HOME the beauty guide How t o UPDATE LAMPS & SHADES. Dated lamps can bring down the style of a room in a flash. A decade ago, the market was glutted with lots of cheap lamps that have not stood the test of time. Replace these unremarkable pieces with sleeker lamps for a better style statement. R UPDATE A TRADITIONAL HOME TO A MORE CONTEMPORARY LOOK Q The simplicity of contemporary form mixed with classic details leads to a look that is inspiring and eye-pleasing. This is a good way to update an older home. You don't have to get rid of all your traditional furniture. You can mix soft contemporary upholstered pieces and contemporary artwork. When done with the design principles of balance, variety, and harmony, it can have great appeal. Q INDOOR BLOOMS. Add some greenery and fresh color to your indoors to freshen up traditional space and beat the winter blues. RE-IMAGINE FURNITURE. A skirt on a sofa or chair is a traditional detail. Remove the skirt and add some simple tapered and stained wooden legs. Or tailor the skirts to avoid an old-fashioned look. Then, choose a large-scale print or more modern fabric, reupholster the piece, and voila. You will be shocked. 26 | fyimagazineny.com ADD A FEW TRANSITIONAL ACCENTS. An easy and inexpensive way to keep a traditional look new is to weave in a few transitional accents. We mix the most traditional of accents, like looking glasses, crystal water vases and silver candlesticks, with contemporary looks, like a bright orange ceramic vase. MIRRORS AND METALLICS. Mirrors create the illusion of more space, and metallic-rimmed mirrors knock the effect up a notch. They are a great way to energize old traditional space. REDUCE THE CLUTTER. “Modern” does not have to mean white walls, floors, and furnishings, and a stark environment. However, modern is clean and pared down. Delete the clutter and carefully choose the accessories, whatever style. Cutting back on ornate mismatched frames, accents, and arrangements, opens up a traditional space and makes it seem fresher and more airy. INTRODUCE COLOR! One of the simplest ways to freshen up any home is to integrate bright colors. A rich canary yellow will feel decidedly modern, while a bright, soft mint green can create a youthful, yet still traditional look. Choose your own adventure. MIX THINGS UP. There is nothing wrong with mixing styles and textures. If you have an antique dining room set, for instance, keep the beautiful mahogany table and change up the wooden chairs for more modern sleek ones. 27 | fyimagazineny.com Susan Strauss Design is well established as a leading full service design firm, founded by principal, Susan Strauss. The firm has been creating luxurious living environments for clients of the most discerning tastes for over a decade. With a well earned reputation as one of the premier firms of the East Coast, SSD's client base is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients.
HOME  the beauty guide  How t o  UPDATE LAMPS   SHADES. Dated lamps can bring down the style of a room in a flash. A decad...
HOME the beauty guide How t o UPDATE LAMPS & SHADES. Dated lamps can bring down the style of a room in a flash. A decade ago, the market was glutted with lots of cheap lamps that have not stood the test of time. Replace these unremarkable pieces with sleeker lamps for a better style statement. R UPDATE A TRADITIONAL HOME TO A MORE CONTEMPORARY LOOK Q The simplicity of contemporary form mixed with classic details leads to a look that is inspiring and eye-pleasing. This is a good way to update an older home. You don't have to get rid of all your traditional furniture. You can mix soft contemporary upholstered pieces and contemporary artwork. When done with the design principles of balance, variety, and harmony, it can have great appeal. Q INDOOR BLOOMS. Add some greenery and fresh color to your indoors to freshen up traditional space and beat the winter blues. RE-IMAGINE FURNITURE. A skirt on a sofa or chair is a traditional detail. Remove the skirt and add some simple tapered and stained wooden legs. Or tailor the skirts to avoid an old-fashioned look. Then, choose a large-scale print or more modern fabric, reupholster the piece, and voila. You will be shocked. 26 | fyimagazineny.com ADD A FEW TRANSITIONAL ACCENTS. An easy and inexpensive way to keep a traditional look new is to weave in a few transitional accents. We mix the most traditional of accents, like looking glasses, crystal water vases and silver candlesticks, with contemporary looks, like a bright orange ceramic vase. MIRRORS AND METALLICS. Mirrors create the illusion of more space, and metallic-rimmed mirrors knock the effect up a notch. They are a great way to energize old traditional space. REDUCE THE CLUTTER. “Modern” does not have to mean white walls, floors, and furnishings, and a stark environment. However, modern is clean and pared down. Delete the clutter and carefully choose the accessories, whatever style. Cutting back on ornate mismatched frames, accents, and arrangements, opens up a traditional space and makes it seem fresher and more airy. INTRODUCE COLOR! One of the simplest ways to freshen up any home is to integrate bright colors. A rich canary yellow will feel decidedly modern, while a bright, soft mint green can create a youthful, yet still traditional look. Choose your own adventure. MIX THINGS UP. There is nothing wrong with mixing styles and textures. If you have an antique dining room set, for instance, keep the beautiful mahogany table and change up the wooden chairs for more modern sleek ones. 27 | fyimagazineny.com Susan Strauss Design is well established as a leading full service design firm, founded by principal, Susan Strauss. The firm has been creating luxurious living environments for clients of the most discerning tastes for over a decade. With a well earned reputation as one of the premier firms of the East Coast, SSD's client base is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients.
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magic helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier. Home Security Gadgets 1. 3. 4. 2. 5. Don’t let a small kitchen get in your way of your decor and its functionality. 1. ALGOT WALL PANTRY, $127 | Utilizing wall space is a great way to create extra storage. This wall pantry can be fitted with decorative, yet functional baskets and bins. 2. OLOFSTORP KITCHEN CART, $249 | Need extra counter space? Use this cart when you need it, and stow it away when you don’t. Or, use it as an island and arrange and rearrange as your kitchen needs chang.e 3. UTRUSTA CORNER PULL OUT CAROUSEL, $128 | Take advantage of all of your corner cabinet space with this pull out carousel, large enough to store pots and pans. Unlike most carousels, pulling it out allows for better organization and easy access. 4. VARIERA KNIFE TRAY, $9.99 | This tray will help keep those knives steady in one place, and free up drawer space. 5. VARIERA PULL OUT CONTAINER, $8.99 | Free up under-the-sink floor space with this nifty container. You can clearly see what’s inside and easily access your cleaning supplies. 30 | fyimagazineny.com PERSONAL SECURITY DOOR STOP ALARM AMAZON.COM, $8.26 This product will help you feel safe in a strange place, like a motel room. Put the doorstopper at your door, and as soon as someone opens the door, an alarm will sound at 120 decibels. It’s an excellent product and a simple security measure. You can use it anywhere, and take it with you when you travel. FUNLUX ZMODO BULLET IP CAMERA FUNLUX.COM, $55.99 Watch your home, office, or business on your phone, wherever you are. It is easy to set up (even for those who are not tech savvy), and provides recordings that are stored in the cloud. It also has 80-foot night vision and takes clear images during the day as well. This won’t prevent break-ins, but it can give you an added sense of security. KWIKSET KEVO SMARTDOOR LOCK HOMEDEPOT.COM, $199 Your life just got easier. This lock unlocks with your smartphone - just touch the door with your smartphone in your purse or bag. Additionally, you can add and send ekeys to family members or visitors (and disable them when you want, too!) so they can have access to your home. The Kevo Lock is also incredibly secure. You can receive notifications of lock activity, deadbolt the door, and reset the system if you lose your phone. GE WINDOW ALARM HOMEDEPOT.COM, $18.95 (SET OF 4) Here’s a simple product for enormous peace of mind. This magnetic, battery-operated alarm can be used on windows or sliding doors, and will sound with a loud alarm when opened. With no wires required for installation, it’s simple for anyone to set up. FIND THESE PRODUCTS ON FYIMAGAZINENY.COM 31 | fyimagazineny.com
magic helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier.  Home Security Gadgets  1.  3.  4.  2.  5.  Don   t let a...
magic helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier. Home Security Gadgets 1. 3. 4. 2. 5. Don’t let a small kitchen get in your way of your decor and its functionality. 1. ALGOT WALL PANTRY, $127 | Utilizing wall space is a great way to create extra storage. This wall pantry can be fitted with decorative, yet functional baskets and bins. 2. OLOFSTORP KITCHEN CART, $249 | Need extra counter space? Use this cart when you need it, and stow it away when you don’t. Or, use it as an island and arrange and rearrange as your kitchen needs chang.e 3. UTRUSTA CORNER PULL OUT CAROUSEL, $128 | Take advantage of all of your corner cabinet space with this pull out carousel, large enough to store pots and pans. Unlike most carousels, pulling it out allows for better organization and easy access. 4. VARIERA KNIFE TRAY, $9.99 | This tray will help keep those knives steady in one place, and free up drawer space. 5. VARIERA PULL OUT CONTAINER, $8.99 | Free up under-the-sink floor space with this nifty container. You can clearly see what’s inside and easily access your cleaning supplies. 30 | fyimagazineny.com PERSONAL SECURITY DOOR STOP ALARM AMAZON.COM, $8.26 This product will help you feel safe in a strange place, like a motel room. Put the doorstopper at your door, and as soon as someone opens the door, an alarm will sound at 120 decibels. It’s an excellent product and a simple security measure. You can use it anywhere, and take it with you when you travel. FUNLUX ZMODO BULLET IP CAMERA FUNLUX.COM, $55.99 Watch your home, office, or business on your phone, wherever you are. It is easy to set up (even for those who are not tech savvy), and provides recordings that are stored in the cloud. It also has 80-foot night vision and takes clear images during the day as well. This won’t prevent break-ins, but it can give you an added sense of security. KWIKSET KEVO SMARTDOOR LOCK HOMEDEPOT.COM, $199 Your life just got easier. This lock unlocks with your smartphone - just touch the door with your smartphone in your purse or bag. Additionally, you can add and send ekeys to family members or visitors (and disable them when you want, too!) so they can have access to your home. The Kevo Lock is also incredibly secure. You can receive notifications of lock activity, deadbolt the door, and reset the system if you lose your phone. GE WINDOW ALARM HOMEDEPOT.COM, $18.95 (SET OF 4) Here’s a simple product for enormous peace of mind. This magnetic, battery-operated alarm can be used on windows or sliding doors, and will sound with a loud alarm when opened. With no wires required for installation, it’s simple for anyone to set up. FIND THESE PRODUCTS ON FYIMAGAZINENY.COM 31 | fyimagazineny.com
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CORK LAMP target.com, $29.99 Add a minimalist yet modern look to your living room, office or bedroom. The stylish square shape gives a contemporary feel to this organic piece of home decor. CORK PLACEMATS Ikea, $3.99 (set of 4) Talk about going beyond the call of duty! Not only are these placemats functional, they will also protect your table and reduce noise from cups and flatware (think: small children banging spoons on the table). COFFEE MUG corkcoffeemug.com, $25 Searching for the perfect travel mug? The 12-ounce CORTIÇA mug is porcelain, wrapped, and insulated with cork. Besides keeping your coffee warm, it's BPA-free and won’t break on the go. You’ll want to take it everywhere with you! TABLET CASE COVER etsy.com, $33.73 FOR LESS! GREAT DEALS UNDER $50! Green living trends have increased in all fields, including home improvement, furniture, and design. Cork has recently become the latest trend. It is eco-friendly, renewable and versatile, having uses beyond bulletin boards and wine bottles. Here are our favorite cork products, for less! 32 | fyimagazineny.com This tablet case has a smooth texture that is not only stylish, but highly functional. The compact construction gives it an unmatched durability. Lightweight and slim, it comes in a variety of colors. CERAMIC AND CORK VASE houzz.com, $45 There’s something about the white ceramic and cork on this piece that makes it so fresh and clean, it’ll brighten up any room! This modern drop vase can be used as an accent piece, and well... a vase, of course. 33 | fyimagazineny.com
CORK LAMP  target.com,  29.99 Add a minimalist yet modern look to your living room, office or bedroom. The stylish square ...
CORK LAMP target.com, $29.99 Add a minimalist yet modern look to your living room, office or bedroom. The stylish square shape gives a contemporary feel to this organic piece of home decor. CORK PLACEMATS Ikea, $3.99 (set of 4) Talk about going beyond the call of duty! Not only are these placemats functional, they will also protect your table and reduce noise from cups and flatware (think: small children banging spoons on the table). COFFEE MUG corkcoffeemug.com, $25 Searching for the perfect travel mug? The 12-ounce CORTIÇA mug is porcelain, wrapped, and insulated with cork. Besides keeping your coffee warm, it's BPA-free and won’t break on the go. You’ll want to take it everywhere with you! TABLET CASE COVER etsy.com, $33.73 FOR LESS! GREAT DEALS UNDER $50! Green living trends have increased in all fields, including home improvement, furniture, and design. Cork has recently become the latest trend. It is eco-friendly, renewable and versatile, having uses beyond bulletin boards and wine bottles. Here are our favorite cork products, for less! 32 | fyimagazineny.com This tablet case has a smooth texture that is not only stylish, but highly functional. The compact construction gives it an unmatched durability. Lightweight and slim, it comes in a variety of colors. CERAMIC AND CORK VASE houzz.com, $45 There’s something about the white ceramic and cork on this piece that makes it so fresh and clean, it’ll brighten up any room! This modern drop vase can be used as an accent piece, and well... a vase, of course. 33 | fyimagazineny.com
CORK LAMP  target.com,  29.99 Add a minimalist yet modern look to your living room, office or bedroom. The stylish square ...
a closer look TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN It was 54 years ago when the first disposable diaper from the Pampers brand shipped. Thanks to Victor Mills, a chemical engineer who was employed at Procter and Gamble and was looking for a “better” way to diaper his grandson, Pampers brand was born. And it’s been looking up since then. Today, 25 million babies in 100 different countries use the Pampers line of products, and the brand is worth $11.1 billion. Winter is most certainly just around the corner and with it, comes snow and sleet. And that is not great news for those potholes in our city. Winter increases the number of potholes as precipitation freezes in small cracks in the roads and streets, squeezing them apart to form gaps. Potholes cost New York City a small fortune. NYC paid $138 million in settlements related to damages and injuries caused by potholes in the past six years! I’m sure lots of you are familiar with the routine; work out hard, work up a sweat, reward yourself with a refreshing swig of vitamin water. Repeat the next day. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER ILLUSTRATION BY @SLYMDESIGNS This year, 165,000 students in New York State, or 20%, opted out of standardized tests. That’s four times more than last year. New York was an early adopter of Common Core-based tests, and the opt-out movement was virtually non-existent until two years ago. Along came the teachers’ union, who started a big campaign begging parents to refuse the test in support of teachers. Teachers get evaluated by student scores, and those whose students do well, receive financial rewards and raises. You and I both know that high scores do not necessarily indicate superb teachers. Nevertheless, parents took heed and began opting out, both to support teachers and to put less stress on their kids. Live in a small town with no school around for miles? Seems to be less of a problem these days. Just hire a teacher to fill you in. In 37 states, it is now legal to be a home-school teacher without ever having received a high school diploma! Vitamin Water 34 | fyimagazineny.com Or don’t. x The concept of vitamin water was dreamed up by a man named J. Darius Bikoff. Wary of an oncoming case of the sniffles and beset by thirst at the same time, he downed some mineral water and then sucked on a Vitamin C lozenge. Then, he started thinking about how much easier life would be if he could have one drink that took care of his thirst and vitamin intake at the same time! x In 2000, Vitamin Water became the most popular drink sold by his company, Glaceau. In 2007, the successful company was bought off by Coca Cola. The snappy commentary on its bottles, combined with slick advertising, a cool website, and an active social media presence, helped cultivate a solid customer base of health-conscious consumers who were glad to have a great-tasting, but healthy alternative to soft drinks. Except that Vitamin Water is NOT healthy. Sugar is the second ingredient listed, after water; this should be a dead giveaway. Even more problematic is the type of sugar used. Crystalline fructose is a highly refined form of sugar and is worse than high fructose corn syrup, with ties to obesity, diabetes, and a raised triglyceride level. x The vitamins that the drinks contain are either fat soluble, which do not get absorbed into the body through drinking, or those easily obtainable in a healthier form through good ol’ fruits ‘n veggies or supplements. x Then there is the matter of advertising. I am not talking about the totally cool ads at bus stops that allow you to charge your phone while you wait; I mean advertisements 35 | fyimagazineny.com advising the public that “flu shots are so last year,” suggesting that Vitamin Water is your best bet to fend off the flu. It’s not. Coca Cola was hit with a slew of lawsuits because of such ads. In the U.K., it was forced to withdraw an ad that branded the drink as “nutritious.” The Center for Science in the Public Interest, a consumer advocacy group, brought a class-action lawsuit that Coca Cola ended up settling; there was no payout, but the company agreed to change labels that made the drink sound healthier than it is. Perhaps because of the lawsuit, Coca Cola attempted to replace the crystalline fructose with natural sugar, but there was an immediate outcry from outraged customers who hated the new taste, and the health advocates were not placated. Faced with that response, Coca Cola changed back to crystalline fructose. Still convinced Vitamin Water has any health benefits to offer you? Here’s the statement Coca Cola presented in court: “No consumer could reasonably be misled into thinking vitamin water was a healthy beverage." So if you’re drinking for the vitamins, stick to water and supplements. If you simply enjoy the flavor, drink on - but know what you’re swallowing. fyi
a closer look TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT   S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YO...
a closer look TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN It was 54 years ago when the first disposable diaper from the Pampers brand shipped. Thanks to Victor Mills, a chemical engineer who was employed at Procter and Gamble and was looking for a “better” way to diaper his grandson, Pampers brand was born. And it’s been looking up since then. Today, 25 million babies in 100 different countries use the Pampers line of products, and the brand is worth $11.1 billion. Winter is most certainly just around the corner and with it, comes snow and sleet. And that is not great news for those potholes in our city. Winter increases the number of potholes as precipitation freezes in small cracks in the roads and streets, squeezing them apart to form gaps. Potholes cost New York City a small fortune. NYC paid $138 million in settlements related to damages and injuries caused by potholes in the past six years! I’m sure lots of you are familiar with the routine; work out hard, work up a sweat, reward yourself with a refreshing swig of vitamin water. Repeat the next day. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER ILLUSTRATION BY @SLYMDESIGNS This year, 165,000 students in New York State, or 20%, opted out of standardized tests. That’s four times more than last year. New York was an early adopter of Common Core-based tests, and the opt-out movement was virtually non-existent until two years ago. Along came the teachers’ union, who started a big campaign begging parents to refuse the test in support of teachers. Teachers get evaluated by student scores, and those whose students do well, receive financial rewards and raises. You and I both know that high scores do not necessarily indicate superb teachers. Nevertheless, parents took heed and began opting out, both to support teachers and to put less stress on their kids. Live in a small town with no school around for miles? Seems to be less of a problem these days. Just hire a teacher to fill you in. In 37 states, it is now legal to be a home-school teacher without ever having received a high school diploma! Vitamin Water 34 | fyimagazineny.com Or don’t. x The concept of vitamin water was dreamed up by a man named J. Darius Bikoff. Wary of an oncoming case of the sniffles and beset by thirst at the same time, he downed some mineral water and then sucked on a Vitamin C lozenge. Then, he started thinking about how much easier life would be if he could have one drink that took care of his thirst and vitamin intake at the same time! x In 2000, Vitamin Water became the most popular drink sold by his company, Glaceau. In 2007, the successful company was bought off by Coca Cola. The snappy commentary on its bottles, combined with slick advertising, a cool website, and an active social media presence, helped cultivate a solid customer base of health-conscious consumers who were glad to have a great-tasting, but healthy alternative to soft drinks. Except that Vitamin Water is NOT healthy. Sugar is the second ingredient listed, after water; this should be a dead giveaway. Even more problematic is the type of sugar used. Crystalline fructose is a highly refined form of sugar and is worse than high fructose corn syrup, with ties to obesity, diabetes, and a raised triglyceride level. x The vitamins that the drinks contain are either fat soluble, which do not get absorbed into the body through drinking, or those easily obtainable in a healthier form through good ol’ fruits ‘n veggies or supplements. x Then there is the matter of advertising. I am not talking about the totally cool ads at bus stops that allow you to charge your phone while you wait; I mean advertisements 35 | fyimagazineny.com advising the public that “flu shots are so last year,” suggesting that Vitamin Water is your best bet to fend off the flu. It’s not. Coca Cola was hit with a slew of lawsuits because of such ads. In the U.K., it was forced to withdraw an ad that branded the drink as “nutritious.” The Center for Science in the Public Interest, a consumer advocacy group, brought a class-action lawsuit that Coca Cola ended up settling; there was no payout, but the company agreed to change labels that made the drink sound healthier than it is. Perhaps because of the lawsuit, Coca Cola attempted to replace the crystalline fructose with natural sugar, but there was an immediate outcry from outraged customers who hated the new taste, and the health advocates were not placated. Faced with that response, Coca Cola changed back to crystalline fructose. Still convinced Vitamin Water has any health benefits to offer you? Here’s the statement Coca Cola presented in court: “No consumer could reasonably be misled into thinking vitamin water was a healthy beverage." So if you’re drinking for the vitamins, stick to water and supplements. If you simply enjoy the flavor, drink on - but know what you’re swallowing. fyi
a closer look TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT   S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YO...
children’s book review And Rachel Was His Wife We know the story of Rachel well, who gave up a life of luxury and comfort to marry Akiva, a simple Shepherd. BY MARSI TABAK BOOK REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN A Our reviews on the best children’s books, from classics to hot-new releases. nd Rachel Was His Wife has long been a treasured favorite of mine. It is rare to find such a well-written story, pulsating with life and rich characters. The most compelling aspect of this novel is its perspective. The story is told from the viewpoint of the main character, Leah. Set against the backdrop of a magical time just before the destruction of the second Beis Hamikdash, it spans her life and struggles, from youth to old age. When we meet Leah, she is young, immature, and flighty – and yet we can recognize within her someone special. She loves shopping and gossiping, she craves independence, and she abhors her chores. Innocent and full of life, her friends cover a wide range of personalities and backgrounds – from more liberal-minded ones, to her pious and earnest companion Rachel. Akiva and Rachel are a side note, interweaved within Leah’s story. What is so magnificent about this novel is watching Leah unfurl and develop slowly into a strong and holy woman through the choices she makes. As many women around her fall prey to the call of Rome’s fashion and commerce, step by step, seemingly insignificant decisions create Leah’s destiny. As her husband develops into a true Torah scholar, she raises her children to have tremendous Love of Torah, in a time when a liberal mindset is prominent. All the while, Rachel’s warm strong influence is a steady rudder, while Leah’s other friends take baby steps on different paths that eventually lead them on journeys completely separate from her own. As the friction between the Jews and Romans rise, we see Rabbi Akiva’s story through Leah’s eyes, as she struggles to comprehend the beauty Rachel finds in her 36 | fyimagazineny.com impoverished lifestyle. What starts off as pity, develops into admiration. Rachel raises her family by herself, lonely, and seemingly abandoned, yet dedicated to a cause that keeps her eyes shining and her heart strong. Rachel’s sacrifices and minimalist life keep Leah grounded and focused on life’s true meaning And when the Temple is burned to the ground, our hearts break. When Rabbi Akiva is amongst the 10 holy men tortured to death by the Romans, it is so real and devastating when brought to life through Leah’s eyes, that our hearts are torn out of our throats and we hardly dare breathe. This is not the story of Rabbi Akiva and his wife Rachel. This is the story of a positive, lifelong friendship between two women. Such a story has meaning today. Leah’s world, over 2000 years before our time, somehow becomes relatable and real. Leah is a genuine character, a fallible person struggling to become her best, developing into a wife, mother, and then grandmother before our eyes. And Rachel Was His Wife is a piece of historical fiction that is far more than history and fiction. It is a reflection of a person determined to do right in a world gone wrong. It is a powerful tale of personal triumph in the face of tragedy, and it is a story well worth reading. fyi THE WONDERFUL THINGS YOU WILL BE By: Emily Winfield Marin Published By: Random House Books This book is laced with love and wisdom. Its wonderful rhymes express the thoughts and feelings that parents have toward their children. Each child’s uniqueness is celebrated; regardless of what the future holds, one thing is constant and unwavering: the love parents have for their children. “And then I’ll look at you, And you’ll look at me, And I’ll love you, Whoever you’ve grown up to be.” That’s an assurance that we all like to hear, no matter our age. The accompanying illustrations are gorgeous and fanciful. This is a must-have picture book. THE LITTLE BOOK OF BIG FEARS By: Monica Arnaldo Published By: OwlKids Books Math, raccoons, beetles, or needles… everyone has fears, whether big or small, common or quirky. Children will see that their fears are normal, and this book may help them to be less scared. Arnaldo uses alphabetized characters to discuss different fears, and at the end, suggests that children be GUTSY and BRAVE to conquer their anxieties. Playful illustrations magnify the fears humorously, as children might imagine them. BEAR AND DUCK By: Katy Hudson Published By: Harper Collins Bear is tired of his hot fur and having to sleep all winter, so he decides to be a duck.Things go okay - until he starts trying to hatch an egg, swim quietly, and fly. This is a wonderful book about friendship, recognizing your strengths, and being happy with who you are. The clever storyline is enhanced by the cute illustrations. 37 | fyimagazineny.com
children   s book review  And Rachel Was His Wife We know the story of Rachel well, who gave up a life of luxury and comfo...
children’s book review And Rachel Was His Wife We know the story of Rachel well, who gave up a life of luxury and comfort to marry Akiva, a simple Shepherd. BY MARSI TABAK BOOK REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN A Our reviews on the best children’s books, from classics to hot-new releases. nd Rachel Was His Wife has long been a treasured favorite of mine. It is rare to find such a well-written story, pulsating with life and rich characters. The most compelling aspect of this novel is its perspective. The story is told from the viewpoint of the main character, Leah. Set against the backdrop of a magical time just before the destruction of the second Beis Hamikdash, it spans her life and struggles, from youth to old age. When we meet Leah, she is young, immature, and flighty – and yet we can recognize within her someone special. She loves shopping and gossiping, she craves independence, and she abhors her chores. Innocent and full of life, her friends cover a wide range of personalities and backgrounds – from more liberal-minded ones, to her pious and earnest companion Rachel. Akiva and Rachel are a side note, interweaved within Leah’s story. What is so magnificent about this novel is watching Leah unfurl and develop slowly into a strong and holy woman through the choices she makes. As many women around her fall prey to the call of Rome’s fashion and commerce, step by step, seemingly insignificant decisions create Leah’s destiny. As her husband develops into a true Torah scholar, she raises her children to have tremendous Love of Torah, in a time when a liberal mindset is prominent. All the while, Rachel’s warm strong influence is a steady rudder, while Leah’s other friends take baby steps on different paths that eventually lead them on journeys completely separate from her own. As the friction between the Jews and Romans rise, we see Rabbi Akiva’s story through Leah’s eyes, as she struggles to comprehend the beauty Rachel finds in her 36 | fyimagazineny.com impoverished lifestyle. What starts off as pity, develops into admiration. Rachel raises her family by herself, lonely, and seemingly abandoned, yet dedicated to a cause that keeps her eyes shining and her heart strong. Rachel’s sacrifices and minimalist life keep Leah grounded and focused on life’s true meaning And when the Temple is burned to the ground, our hearts break. When Rabbi Akiva is amongst the 10 holy men tortured to death by the Romans, it is so real and devastating when brought to life through Leah’s eyes, that our hearts are torn out of our throats and we hardly dare breathe. This is not the story of Rabbi Akiva and his wife Rachel. This is the story of a positive, lifelong friendship between two women. Such a story has meaning today. Leah’s world, over 2000 years before our time, somehow becomes relatable and real. Leah is a genuine character, a fallible person struggling to become her best, developing into a wife, mother, and then grandmother before our eyes. And Rachel Was His Wife is a piece of historical fiction that is far more than history and fiction. It is a reflection of a person determined to do right in a world gone wrong. It is a powerful tale of personal triumph in the face of tragedy, and it is a story well worth reading. fyi THE WONDERFUL THINGS YOU WILL BE By: Emily Winfield Marin Published By: Random House Books This book is laced with love and wisdom. Its wonderful rhymes express the thoughts and feelings that parents have toward their children. Each child’s uniqueness is celebrated; regardless of what the future holds, one thing is constant and unwavering: the love parents have for their children. “And then I’ll look at you, And you’ll look at me, And I’ll love you, Whoever you’ve grown up to be.” That’s an assurance that we all like to hear, no matter our age. The accompanying illustrations are gorgeous and fanciful. This is a must-have picture book. THE LITTLE BOOK OF BIG FEARS By: Monica Arnaldo Published By: OwlKids Books Math, raccoons, beetles, or needles… everyone has fears, whether big or small, common or quirky. Children will see that their fears are normal, and this book may help them to be less scared. Arnaldo uses alphabetized characters to discuss different fears, and at the end, suggests that children be GUTSY and BRAVE to conquer their anxieties. Playful illustrations magnify the fears humorously, as children might imagine them. BEAR AND DUCK By: Katy Hudson Published By: Harper Collins Bear is tired of his hot fur and having to sleep all winter, so he decides to be a duck.Things go okay - until he starts trying to hatch an egg, swim quietly, and fly. This is a wonderful book about friendship, recognizing your strengths, and being happy with who you are. The clever storyline is enhanced by the cute illustrations. 37 | fyimagazineny.com
children   s book review  And Rachel Was His Wife We know the story of Rachel well, who gave up a life of luxury and comfo...
fall in love with life Treating Fever Without Medicine Scientific studies show that children heal more quickly if their fever is not treated with medications. The fever is important in aiding our immune system in the fight against viral and bacterial illnesses. qq WRITTEN BY DR. DAVID SIMAI
fall in love with life  Treating Fever Without Medicine Scientific studies show that children heal more quickly if their f...
fall in love with life Treating Fever Without Medicine Scientific studies show that children heal more quickly if their fever is not treated with medications. The fever is important in aiding our immune system in the fight against viral and bacterial illnesses. qq WRITTEN BY DR. DAVID SIMAI
fall in love with life  Treating Fever Without Medicine Scientific studies show that children heal more quickly if their f...
A s a pediatrician, I get paged on most nights by parents worried about their children’s fever. I patiently wait for the parents to complete their presentation and proceed to ask a battery of my standard questions: 1. Is your child having difficulty breathing? 2. Did your child appear listless today or was she active, playful, and out of bed? 3. Does your child have diarrhea? 4. Are you spending time hydrating your child (or rather spending time worrying)? 5. How did you measure the temperature (oral, tympanic, axillary, or rectal approaches)? 6. I usually remember if the child in question just received an immunization at my office, but if the caller is new, I inquire whether the child was recently immunized. 40 | fyimagazineny.com Except for the rare occasions such as a very young infant that is reported to be lethargic and febrile, I usually suggest that the parents should hydrate the child as best they can, and give Tylenol or Motrin for pain, rather than treat the fever. Most children could be checked in the morning if they are still showing signs of an illness. FEVER IS OUR FRIEND Scientific studies show that children heal more quickly if their fever is not treated with medications. The fever is important in aiding our immune system in the fight against viral and bacterial illnesses. Fevers generally do not need treatment with fever-reducing medication, unless your child is uncomfortable or has a history of febrile convulsions. Even higher temperatures are not in themselves dangerous or significant unless your child has a concomitant, overwhelming pneumonia, meningitis, or a history of seizures or chronic disease. Even if your child has a history of a fever-related convulsion and you treat the fever with medication, he may still have a febrile seizure. It is more important to watch how your child is behaving. If your child is playful, with a good appetite and exhibits no signs of respiratory distress, he probably does not need any treatment. You should also talk with your pediatrician about when to treat your child’s fever and have clear guidelines. If your child has a fever above 105, or if you're febrile infant is younger than 8 weeks old, call your pediatrician immediately. These factors may signal a dangerous, invasive illness. USEFUL FEVER TREATMENT TIPS Published by the American Academy of Pediatrics: 1. Keep your child’s room and your home comfortably cool, and dress him lightly. 2. Encourage him to drink extra fluid or other liquids (water, diluted fruit juices, commercially prepared oral electrolyte solutions, gelatin, Popsicles, etc.). 3. If the room is warm or stuffy, place a fan nearby to keep cool air moving. 4. Your child does not have to stay in his room or in bed when he has a fever. He can be up and about the house, but should not run around and overexert him/herself. 5. If the fever is a symptom of a highly contagious disease (e.g., chickenpox or the flu), keep your child away from other children, elderly people, or people who may not be able to fight infection well, such as those with cancer. SPONGING In most cases, using oral acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Motrin) is the most convenient way to make your feverish child more comfortable. However, sometimes you may want to combine this with tepid sponging, or just use sponging alone. Sponging is preferred over acetaminophen or ibuprofen if: • Your child is known to be allergic to, or is unable to tolerate, antipyretic (anti-fever) drugs (a rare case). It is advisable to combine sponging with acetaminophen or ibuprofen if: • Fever is making your child extremely uncomfortable. • He is vomiting and may not be 41 | fyimagazineny.com able to keep the medication in his stomach. To sponge your child, place him/ her in a regular bath (tub or baby bath), but put only 1 to 2 inches of tepid water (85–90 degrees Fahrenheit, or 29.4–32.2 degrees Celsius) in the basin. If you do not have a bath thermometer, test the water with the back of your hand or wrist. It should feel just slightly warm. Do not use cold water, since that will be uncomfortable and may cause shivering, which can raise his temperature and make the fever worse. If your child starts to shiver, then the water is too cold; take him out of the bath in this case. Seat your child in the water—it is more comfortable than lying down. Then, using a clean washcloth or sponge, spread a film of water over his trunk, arms, and legs. The water will evaporate and cool the body. Keep the room at about 75 degrees Fahrenheit (23.9 degrees Celsius), and continue sponging him until his temperature has reached an acceptable level. Never put rubbing alcohol in the water; it can be absorbed into the skin or inhaled, which can cause serious problems, such as coma. Usually, sponging will bring down the fever by one to two degrees in 30-45 minutes. However, if your child is resisting actively, stop and let him just sit and play in the water. If being in the tub makes him more upset and uncomfortable, it is best to take him out even if his fever is unchanged. fyi Dr. David Simai is a board certified pediatrician in his private practice in Cedarhust, NY. He is also an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children's Hospital, North Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com
A  s a pediatrician, I get paged on most nights by parents worried about their children   s fever. I patiently wait for th...
A s a pediatrician, I get paged on most nights by parents worried about their children’s fever. I patiently wait for the parents to complete their presentation and proceed to ask a battery of my standard questions: 1. Is your child having difficulty breathing? 2. Did your child appear listless today or was she active, playful, and out of bed? 3. Does your child have diarrhea? 4. Are you spending time hydrating your child (or rather spending time worrying)? 5. How did you measure the temperature (oral, tympanic, axillary, or rectal approaches)? 6. I usually remember if the child in question just received an immunization at my office, but if the caller is new, I inquire whether the child was recently immunized. 40 | fyimagazineny.com Except for the rare occasions such as a very young infant that is reported to be lethargic and febrile, I usually suggest that the parents should hydrate the child as best they can, and give Tylenol or Motrin for pain, rather than treat the fever. Most children could be checked in the morning if they are still showing signs of an illness. FEVER IS OUR FRIEND Scientific studies show that children heal more quickly if their fever is not treated with medications. The fever is important in aiding our immune system in the fight against viral and bacterial illnesses. Fevers generally do not need treatment with fever-reducing medication, unless your child is uncomfortable or has a history of febrile convulsions. Even higher temperatures are not in themselves dangerous or significant unless your child has a concomitant, overwhelming pneumonia, meningitis, or a history of seizures or chronic disease. Even if your child has a history of a fever-related convulsion and you treat the fever with medication, he may still have a febrile seizure. It is more important to watch how your child is behaving. If your child is playful, with a good appetite and exhibits no signs of respiratory distress, he probably does not need any treatment. You should also talk with your pediatrician about when to treat your child’s fever and have clear guidelines. If your child has a fever above 105, or if you're febrile infant is younger than 8 weeks old, call your pediatrician immediately. These factors may signal a dangerous, invasive illness. USEFUL FEVER TREATMENT TIPS Published by the American Academy of Pediatrics: 1. Keep your child’s room and your home comfortably cool, and dress him lightly. 2. Encourage him to drink extra fluid or other liquids (water, diluted fruit juices, commercially prepared oral electrolyte solutions, gelatin, Popsicles, etc.). 3. If the room is warm or stuffy, place a fan nearby to keep cool air moving. 4. Your child does not have to stay in his room or in bed when he has a fever. He can be up and about the house, but should not run around and overexert him/herself. 5. If the fever is a symptom of a highly contagious disease (e.g., chickenpox or the flu), keep your child away from other children, elderly people, or people who may not be able to fight infection well, such as those with cancer. SPONGING In most cases, using oral acetaminophen (Tylenol) or ibuprofen (Motrin) is the most convenient way to make your feverish child more comfortable. However, sometimes you may want to combine this with tepid sponging, or just use sponging alone. Sponging is preferred over acetaminophen or ibuprofen if: • Your child is known to be allergic to, or is unable to tolerate, antipyretic (anti-fever) drugs (a rare case). It is advisable to combine sponging with acetaminophen or ibuprofen if: • Fever is making your child extremely uncomfortable. • He is vomiting and may not be 41 | fyimagazineny.com able to keep the medication in his stomach. To sponge your child, place him/ her in a regular bath (tub or baby bath), but put only 1 to 2 inches of tepid water (85–90 degrees Fahrenheit, or 29.4–32.2 degrees Celsius) in the basin. If you do not have a bath thermometer, test the water with the back of your hand or wrist. It should feel just slightly warm. Do not use cold water, since that will be uncomfortable and may cause shivering, which can raise his temperature and make the fever worse. If your child starts to shiver, then the water is too cold; take him out of the bath in this case. Seat your child in the water—it is more comfortable than lying down. Then, using a clean washcloth or sponge, spread a film of water over his trunk, arms, and legs. The water will evaporate and cool the body. Keep the room at about 75 degrees Fahrenheit (23.9 degrees Celsius), and continue sponging him until his temperature has reached an acceptable level. Never put rubbing alcohol in the water; it can be absorbed into the skin or inhaled, which can cause serious problems, such as coma. Usually, sponging will bring down the fever by one to two degrees in 30-45 minutes. However, if your child is resisting actively, stop and let him just sit and play in the water. If being in the tub makes him more upset and uncomfortable, it is best to take him out even if his fever is unchanged. fyi Dr. David Simai is a board certified pediatrician in his private practice in Cedarhust, NY. He is also an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children's Hospital, North Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com
A  s a pediatrician, I get paged on most nights by parents worried about their children   s fever. I patiently wait for th...
NUTRITION 1 otes Qu Positive i Affirmataons th t and ire nsp i “It is not what you are that holds you back, it is what you think you are not.” “If you hear a voice within you saying ‘You are not a painter’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” -Vincent Van Gogh “If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.” -Fred Devito, Fitness Expert “A comfort zone is a very nice place, but nothing ever grows there.” healthy back-to-school lunches YOUR KID WILL LOVE! We all know the scene: early mornings, rushing around, trying to get the kid(s) to eat, pack the book bag, and yes, the dreaded packing of the school lunch! This should be an easy task, yet most of us parents are frustrated trying to come up with healthy ideas on what to put in our kids’ lunch boxes. It's hard to find school lunches that are quick and easy for moms to prepare that are also healthy and tasty. So I’ve established a few tips and lists to make this process easier. “If you can dream it, you can do it.” -Walt Disney 43 | fyimagazineny.com
NUTRITION 1  otes Qu  Positive i Affirmataons th t  and  ire nsp i     It is not what you are that holds you back, it is w...
NUTRITION 1 otes Qu Positive i Affirmataons th t and ire nsp i “It is not what you are that holds you back, it is what you think you are not.” “If you hear a voice within you saying ‘You are not a painter’ then by all means paint and that voice will be silenced.” -Vincent Van Gogh “If it doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.” -Fred Devito, Fitness Expert “A comfort zone is a very nice place, but nothing ever grows there.” healthy back-to-school lunches YOUR KID WILL LOVE! We all know the scene: early mornings, rushing around, trying to get the kid(s) to eat, pack the book bag, and yes, the dreaded packing of the school lunch! This should be an easy task, yet most of us parents are frustrated trying to come up with healthy ideas on what to put in our kids’ lunch boxes. It's hard to find school lunches that are quick and easy for moms to prepare that are also healthy and tasty. So I’ve established a few tips and lists to make this process easier. “If you can dream it, you can do it.” -Walt Disney 43 | fyimagazineny.com
NUTRITION 1  otes Qu  Positive i Affirmataons th t  and  ire nsp i     It is not what you are that holds you back, it is w...
STRIVE FOR A BALANCE! Children need a healthy balance of protein, carbs, and fats for sustained energy and optimal learning. Foods such as whole grains, brown rice, fruits, and veggies, are good sources of healthy carbohydrates, which will provide energy to body and brain. Greek yogurt, cheese, eggs, and beans provide much-needed protein. Protein helps build and repair muscle to aid in your child's growth, as well as slow the absorption of the carbs, so your child feels full for a longer period of time. Healthy fats found in nuts, avocados, and wholemilk dairy products, help satisfy the appetite and maintain stamina. And of course, always remember fruits and veggies, which give an extra boost of vitamins and antioxidants to help ward off the countless germs kids encounter throughout the school day. Providing children a variety of these foods, will help ensure that they’re well-nourished and energized to learn. GET THE KIDS INVOLVED: It’s their lunch, after all. Let them choose what to eat, within your guidelines. For example, plan out the main dish, and the kids can decide what sides they’d like to accompany it. Then together, you can pre-chop and package their favorite healthy sides, so they’re ready to go for the week ahead. BE INSPIRED! Remember, you don’t have to go at it alone; there are lots of helpful resources out there for breaking free from the same-old, same-old lunches. Take a few minutes each week to go online with your kids and seek out some new ideas to make lunch not only healthy, but fun! *Always Remember: Throw in a dessert - a healthy homemade muffin, nut- free granola bar, applesauce, dried fruit, or pudding. The first step in meal planning is to make a Master List of Meals, which is simply a list of all the meals you make. No more racking your brain to think of what you should cook this week. Simply look at your Master List of Meals each time you make your weekly meal plan. As you try new recipes, add the ones your family likes to the list. Keep in mind that some children thrive on stability and don’t enjoy the fear of the unknown (not knowing what lunch (s)he’ll have that day). If that's your child, find a nutritious lunch or two that (s)he likes and don't be afraid to repeat it almost daily. Be sure to tell the child what's for lunch to ease his nerves before sending him/her off to school. Remember that sometimes, it’s all about the gear and packaging. Send your child’s lunch off in a cute, stylish lunch box, and whatever you put inside is instantly classified as cool! Add a little surprise note from mommy and you’ve won your child’s heart! fyi 44 | fyimagazineny.com HERE ARE SOME WHOLESOME LUNCH IDEAS: 1. Turkey sandwich on a whole wheat bread/roll. (When serving bread/ rolls/pasta, try to use whole grains to add extra fiber. Whole grains will keep your children's bellies fuller for longer amounts of time and will aid digestion as well. 2. Soy butter sandwich on whole wheat bread/roll- great for those who love peanut butter, but aren't allowed to bring it to school. (Beware- many schools are now nut and seed-free, so check food labels before sending lunch.) 3. Hummus and pita 4. Egg salad sandwich 5. Tuna sandwich or platter 6. Grilled cheese sandwich 7. Guacamole and pita/bread 8. Mushroom barley, vegetable, or other soup in a thermos 9. Sushi salad 10. uinoa salad Q 11. Chicken salad 12. Homemade Chicken fingers or nuggets with cut up veggies/salad 13. Greek yogurt/smoothie with fresh fruit and granola (You can freeze the yogurt to keep it cold) 14. Cheese sticks and vegetable sticks with dressing/dip 15. Cottage cheese and fresh fruit or vegetables Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s degree in Nutrition. She provides nutritional counseling in the Five Towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/ illnesses. To make an appointment with Leah, send an email to Leahbrg@gmail.com for Go it! your goals are within reach 45 | fyimagazineny.com
STRIVE FOR A BALANCE  Children need a healthy balance of protein, carbs, and fats for sustained energy and optimal learnin...
STRIVE FOR A BALANCE! Children need a healthy balance of protein, carbs, and fats for sustained energy and optimal learning. Foods such as whole grains, brown rice, fruits, and veggies, are good sources of healthy carbohydrates, which will provide energy to body and brain. Greek yogurt, cheese, eggs, and beans provide much-needed protein. Protein helps build and repair muscle to aid in your child's growth, as well as slow the absorption of the carbs, so your child feels full for a longer period of time. Healthy fats found in nuts, avocados, and wholemilk dairy products, help satisfy the appetite and maintain stamina. And of course, always remember fruits and veggies, which give an extra boost of vitamins and antioxidants to help ward off the countless germs kids encounter throughout the school day. Providing children a variety of these foods, will help ensure that they’re well-nourished and energized to learn. GET THE KIDS INVOLVED: It’s their lunch, after all. Let them choose what to eat, within your guidelines. For example, plan out the main dish, and the kids can decide what sides they’d like to accompany it. Then together, you can pre-chop and package their favorite healthy sides, so they’re ready to go for the week ahead. BE INSPIRED! Remember, you don’t have to go at it alone; there are lots of helpful resources out there for breaking free from the same-old, same-old lunches. Take a few minutes each week to go online with your kids and seek out some new ideas to make lunch not only healthy, but fun! *Always Remember: Throw in a dessert - a healthy homemade muffin, nut- free granola bar, applesauce, dried fruit, or pudding. The first step in meal planning is to make a Master List of Meals, which is simply a list of all the meals you make. No more racking your brain to think of what you should cook this week. Simply look at your Master List of Meals each time you make your weekly meal plan. As you try new recipes, add the ones your family likes to the list. Keep in mind that some children thrive on stability and don’t enjoy the fear of the unknown (not knowing what lunch (s)he’ll have that day). If that's your child, find a nutritious lunch or two that (s)he likes and don't be afraid to repeat it almost daily. Be sure to tell the child what's for lunch to ease his nerves before sending him/her off to school. Remember that sometimes, it’s all about the gear and packaging. Send your child’s lunch off in a cute, stylish lunch box, and whatever you put inside is instantly classified as cool! Add a little surprise note from mommy and you’ve won your child’s heart! fyi 44 | fyimagazineny.com HERE ARE SOME WHOLESOME LUNCH IDEAS: 1. Turkey sandwich on a whole wheat bread/roll. (When serving bread/ rolls/pasta, try to use whole grains to add extra fiber. Whole grains will keep your children's bellies fuller for longer amounts of time and will aid digestion as well. 2. Soy butter sandwich on whole wheat bread/roll- great for those who love peanut butter, but aren't allowed to bring it to school. (Beware- many schools are now nut and seed-free, so check food labels before sending lunch.) 3. Hummus and pita 4. Egg salad sandwich 5. Tuna sandwich or platter 6. Grilled cheese sandwich 7. Guacamole and pita/bread 8. Mushroom barley, vegetable, or other soup in a thermos 9. Sushi salad 10. uinoa salad Q 11. Chicken salad 12. Homemade Chicken fingers or nuggets with cut up veggies/salad 13. Greek yogurt/smoothie with fresh fruit and granola (You can freeze the yogurt to keep it cold) 14. Cheese sticks and vegetable sticks with dressing/dip 15. Cottage cheese and fresh fruit or vegetables Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a Master’s degree in Nutrition. She provides nutritional counseling in the Five Towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/ illnesses. To make an appointment with Leah, send an email to Leahbrg@gmail.com for Go it! your goals are within reach 45 | fyimagazineny.com
STRIVE FOR A BALANCE  Children need a healthy balance of protein, carbs, and fats for sustained energy and optimal learnin...
DEAR SURIE, I’ve read and appreciated your previous answers. Perhaps you can help me. I have a few goals and I just can’t get started with them. I know I’m good and yet I suffer from so much lack of confidence. I go to sleep late and laze around all night and then I finally get some sleep, but I get up around noon each day. My house is filled with stuff I want to give away, yet I don’t. I can't seem to get myself motivated to do anything. I'm 46 and I feel like I should have more energy. -Devorah HI DEVORAH, As a woman in the prime of your life, with lots of accumulated life experience and wisdom, you are in a great position to accomplish any realistic goal that you set for yourself. How can we tap into your resources to help you achieve what you want in life? Let's break this down so we can address your concerns: • You have many GOALS, but don't seem to be accomplishing much. • You are living with lots of CLUTTER, internally and externally. •  You are lacking ENERGY as is reflected in your sleeping patterns and lack of direction. GOALS Goals are great to have. But what is the secret that makes them become a reality? The first step is to ask yourself, “Do I wish for it or do I want it?” Everyone WISHES to have a million dollars, to be the perfect weight, to establish a beautiful family, or any other perceived value. How many of us truly WANT it? What is the difference between wishing and wanting? Wishing is when I'm INTERESTED in having or being something. I would like it. Wanting is when I'm COMMITTED to having or being something. I will make it happen. Many people waste their lives and their dreams WISHING they would become rich. They run to 46 | fyimagazineny.com the corner lotto every week and keep their fingers crossed, praying and hoping that they will be the lucky one in a million. There are other people that truly WANT to achieve wealth. These people invest their time, energy, and resources to learn whatever it takes to make it happen. They make real efforts to get to where they WANT to go. They stay committed through the ups and the downs. This is true for any worthy goal, physical or spiritual, that we may set for ourselves, Having undefined goals swimming in our head is a sure way to go absolutely nowhere. Rather than motivating us, it drains us. The gap between where we dream we should be and where we actually are, deflates us and moves us further away from where we would like to be. Follow these steps to make your goals real: •  Identify and write down all the existing goals that you think you want to achieve. • Ask yourself if you want it or only wish for it. Do yourself a huge favor and cross off any goal that doesn't meet the criteria for real wanting. •  On a new sheet of paper, write only the goals that you truly want. Next to each entry, write clearly what it takes for you to achieve that goal. Review the complete list and ask yourself honestly, which one of all these goals is the most relevant, that you want enough to actually commit to making it happen. • Choose the one goal that you truly want and make a plan of action on how you will reach that goal. • Make a decision based on your actually wanting, rather than wishing for this to happen: that you are totally committed to achieving it. Now that you have gained clarity on what your primary and prioritized goals are, you are in a much better position to follow through and take action to achieve them. CLUTTER A cluttered home is a sign of a cluttered mind. Our outsides and insides are reflections of each other. Having all these wishes and desires cluttering your mind, contributes to the clutter in your physical surroundings. Once you have cleared your brain and identified your most desired goal that you are truly committed to achieving and have a plan of action, you can now tackle the job of decluttering your home as well. Make an inventory of all the stuff that is in your possession. Ask yourself these questions in relation to each item: Does this item serve you in a beneficial way? If you lost it, would you replace it? Does it have surroundings, work on clarifying your goals. One generally feeds off the other. sentimental value? Would you purchase it today with your own money? There are basically three options of what you can do with each item: USE IT if it answers the above questions in the affirmative. Example: a book on a subject that interests you, a classic coat that fits you well, a set of heirloom dishes from your grandmother, or a good pair of sunglasses. GIVE IT AWAY to someone else who will value it more. Example: clothing that your children have outgrown, an extra set of glasses that you never use, or a wig that is too short for your liking. DUMP IT if no one you know can presently use it. Example: outdated clothing, knickknacks with no intrinsic value, makeup, vitamins or food items whose expiration date is long past. A HELPFUL SUGGESTION: When you get stuck with your goals, work on decluttering your physical surroundings. When you get stuck with your physical 47 | fyimagazineny.com ENERGY Energy comes from momentum. When we are in the process of realizing our goals, we naturally create energy. Creating space in our physical surroundings by eliminating stuff, allows the energy to flow unobstructed. Sleeping late is a reflection of your lack of direction, which allows for all the clutter that obviously contributes to your loss of energy and motivation. Your present awareness and your age are now an advantage, since you can tap into all the wisdom you have acquired and utilize it to achieve the goals you really want. Designating a partner, a mentor, or a coach that is committed to your success, will ensure that you have the accountability to keep you on track for the long haul. Ultimately, remember that our direct source of energy is the One Above. fyi Surie Frenkel is a certified life coach and co-founder of JEWEL. She is passionate about empowering women to be their best. surie@jewel.community
DEAR SURIE, I   ve read and appreciated your previous answers. Perhaps you can help me. I have a few goals and I just can ...
DEAR SURIE, I’ve read and appreciated your previous answers. Perhaps you can help me. I have a few goals and I just can’t get started with them. I know I’m good and yet I suffer from so much lack of confidence. I go to sleep late and laze around all night and then I finally get some sleep, but I get up around noon each day. My house is filled with stuff I want to give away, yet I don’t. I can't seem to get myself motivated to do anything. I'm 46 and I feel like I should have more energy. -Devorah HI DEVORAH, As a woman in the prime of your life, with lots of accumulated life experience and wisdom, you are in a great position to accomplish any realistic goal that you set for yourself. How can we tap into your resources to help you achieve what you want in life? Let's break this down so we can address your concerns: • You have many GOALS, but don't seem to be accomplishing much. • You are living with lots of CLUTTER, internally and externally. •  You are lacking ENERGY as is reflected in your sleeping patterns and lack of direction. GOALS Goals are great to have. But what is the secret that makes them become a reality? The first step is to ask yourself, “Do I wish for it or do I want it?” Everyone WISHES to have a million dollars, to be the perfect weight, to establish a beautiful family, or any other perceived value. How many of us truly WANT it? What is the difference between wishing and wanting? Wishing is when I'm INTERESTED in having or being something. I would like it. Wanting is when I'm COMMITTED to having or being something. I will make it happen. Many people waste their lives and their dreams WISHING they would become rich. They run to 46 | fyimagazineny.com the corner lotto every week and keep their fingers crossed, praying and hoping that they will be the lucky one in a million. There are other people that truly WANT to achieve wealth. These people invest their time, energy, and resources to learn whatever it takes to make it happen. They make real efforts to get to where they WANT to go. They stay committed through the ups and the downs. This is true for any worthy goal, physical or spiritual, that we may set for ourselves, Having undefined goals swimming in our head is a sure way to go absolutely nowhere. Rather than motivating us, it drains us. The gap between where we dream we should be and where we actually are, deflates us and moves us further away from where we would like to be. Follow these steps to make your goals real: •  Identify and write down all the existing goals that you think you want to achieve. • Ask yourself if you want it or only wish for it. Do yourself a huge favor and cross off any goal that doesn't meet the criteria for real wanting. •  On a new sheet of paper, write only the goals that you truly want. Next to each entry, write clearly what it takes for you to achieve that goal. Review the complete list and ask yourself honestly, which one of all these goals is the most relevant, that you want enough to actually commit to making it happen. • Choose the one goal that you truly want and make a plan of action on how you will reach that goal. • Make a decision based on your actually wanting, rather than wishing for this to happen: that you are totally committed to achieving it. Now that you have gained clarity on what your primary and prioritized goals are, you are in a much better position to follow through and take action to achieve them. CLUTTER A cluttered home is a sign of a cluttered mind. Our outsides and insides are reflections of each other. Having all these wishes and desires cluttering your mind, contributes to the clutter in your physical surroundings. Once you have cleared your brain and identified your most desired goal that you are truly committed to achieving and have a plan of action, you can now tackle the job of decluttering your home as well. Make an inventory of all the stuff that is in your possession. Ask yourself these questions in relation to each item: Does this item serve you in a beneficial way? If you lost it, would you replace it? Does it have surroundings, work on clarifying your goals. One generally feeds off the other. sentimental value? Would you purchase it today with your own money? There are basically three options of what you can do with each item: USE IT if it answers the above questions in the affirmative. Example: a book on a subject that interests you, a classic coat that fits you well, a set of heirloom dishes from your grandmother, or a good pair of sunglasses. GIVE IT AWAY to someone else who will value it more. Example: clothing that your children have outgrown, an extra set of glasses that you never use, or a wig that is too short for your liking. DUMP IT if no one you know can presently use it. Example: outdated clothing, knickknacks with no intrinsic value, makeup, vitamins or food items whose expiration date is long past. A HELPFUL SUGGESTION: When you get stuck with your goals, work on decluttering your physical surroundings. When you get stuck with your physical 47 | fyimagazineny.com ENERGY Energy comes from momentum. When we are in the process of realizing our goals, we naturally create energy. Creating space in our physical surroundings by eliminating stuff, allows the energy to flow unobstructed. Sleeping late is a reflection of your lack of direction, which allows for all the clutter that obviously contributes to your loss of energy and motivation. Your present awareness and your age are now an advantage, since you can tap into all the wisdom you have acquired and utilize it to achieve the goals you really want. Designating a partner, a mentor, or a coach that is committed to your success, will ensure that you have the accountability to keep you on track for the long haul. Ultimately, remember that our direct source of energy is the One Above. fyi Surie Frenkel is a certified life coach and co-founder of JEWEL. She is passionate about empowering women to be their best. surie@jewel.community
DEAR SURIE, I   ve read and appreciated your previous answers. Perhaps you can help me. I have a few goals and I just can ...
WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN e i l tive 48 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE p osi fe 5 to have a m ys or a w In our busy lives, we may forget to notice all the precious gifts we are given each day. By developing an attitude of gratitude, we not only enhance the positivity in our lives, but we also strengthen our connection to our Creator. SAY THANK YOU To develop an attitude of gratitude, it’s a good idea to “up” your “thank you” quota. This should be done in two ways; both in quantity and quality. To become a master of gratitude, you should look for opportunities to say “Thank you.” This can be at the supermarket, in the bank, or on a service call; however, it can also mean looking in areas you might normally take for granted. If your husband offers to help put the kids to sleep, while it might be his “job” too, say “Thank you.” If your parents always call to say “Good Shabbos,” say “Thank you.” If a neighbor hosts a class in his home that you attend regularly, say “Thank you.” If you feel silly, remember that it’s not about the one receiving the thank you, it’s about the one giving it. Quantity, however, is only one way to enhance your gratitude. Quality is another. When you say “Thank you” to the person bagging your groceries in the supermarket, how much are you really thinking about what you are saying? Dwell on the fact that without her help, the process would take much longer and you would be doing more work on your own. Take it to heart, then say “Thank you.” Not only will it be more genuine, but your gratitude attitude will double. SCHEDULE GRATITUDE MOMENTS To avoid getting swept up in life without taking time to “smell the roses,” begin setting a timer on your phone. Have it go off twice a day, and in that moment, think of all the things you are grateful for. Make it specific to that moment. Many times we make sweeping statements of our gratitude, pertaining to things like family, health, etc. While these things are important, we forget to recognize the immediate gifts in our lives. By taking a minute or two throughout the day to express your gratitude, you tap into a deep and more present sensation of what you are grateful for in the moment. It might be that you are driving safely or that you are on time. It may be that you are eating and becoming nourished for the day. Whatever it is, these scheduled gratitude moments help you to find the positives in your life in the present moment. AVOID COMPLAINING OR PASSING JUDGMENT This might be an obvious one, but when we complain or pass judgment, we are allowing ourselves to internalize the negative. Instead of seeing the wonderful gifts in our lives, we are dwelling in the mucky, ugly reality of that which we don’t like. In doing so, we are developing an attitude that is the opposite of gratitude. The more we complain, the more we bring that reality into being. It is nearly impossible to be grateful for the gifts in our lives while at the same time, finding everything that’s wrong. In order to be more grateful, we have to turn off the complaint switch and tap 49 | fyimagazineny.com into our well of positivity. When we do so, we realize all the good that surrounds us and become overwhelmed with gratitude. WRITE IN A GRATITUDE JOURNAL One of the stand-by methods for promoting gratitude is to use a Gratitude Journal. Each night before bed, think of all the events of your day and look for everything you can thank Hashem for. Be as specific as possible. By actually writing down what we’re grateful for, we accomplish two things. We create a structure to our gratefulness, by making it something we do each night, but also we internalize the feeling of gratitude. Just like studying for a test, writing aids our memory. By writing out what we are grateful for, we remember longer and intensify our understanding! GET A “GRATITUDE PARTNER” Sort of like the buddy system from our earlier days, you’re less likely to “get lost” or go off track when you have a buddy looking out for you. If tackling the challenge of gratitude seems like a difficult task, look for a partner - someone who also wants to work on gratitude. Check in with each other and ask if she filled in her gratitude journal that day, kept to her gratitude moments, and said authentic “Thank you’s.” When you have a partner, you are more likely to stick to your plan. And when it’s all said and done, don’t forget to thank her too! fyi
WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN  e  i l tive 48   fyimagazineny.com  CREDIT TO GO IN THERE  p  osi  fe  5  to have a m ys or a w  ...
WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN e i l tive 48 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE p osi fe 5 to have a m ys or a w In our busy lives, we may forget to notice all the precious gifts we are given each day. By developing an attitude of gratitude, we not only enhance the positivity in our lives, but we also strengthen our connection to our Creator. SAY THANK YOU To develop an attitude of gratitude, it’s a good idea to “up” your “thank you” quota. This should be done in two ways; both in quantity and quality. To become a master of gratitude, you should look for opportunities to say “Thank you.” This can be at the supermarket, in the bank, or on a service call; however, it can also mean looking in areas you might normally take for granted. If your husband offers to help put the kids to sleep, while it might be his “job” too, say “Thank you.” If your parents always call to say “Good Shabbos,” say “Thank you.” If a neighbor hosts a class in his home that you attend regularly, say “Thank you.” If you feel silly, remember that it’s not about the one receiving the thank you, it’s about the one giving it. Quantity, however, is only one way to enhance your gratitude. Quality is another. When you say “Thank you” to the person bagging your groceries in the supermarket, how much are you really thinking about what you are saying? Dwell on the fact that without her help, the process would take much longer and you would be doing more work on your own. Take it to heart, then say “Thank you.” Not only will it be more genuine, but your gratitude attitude will double. SCHEDULE GRATITUDE MOMENTS To avoid getting swept up in life without taking time to “smell the roses,” begin setting a timer on your phone. Have it go off twice a day, and in that moment, think of all the things you are grateful for. Make it specific to that moment. Many times we make sweeping statements of our gratitude, pertaining to things like family, health, etc. While these things are important, we forget to recognize the immediate gifts in our lives. By taking a minute or two throughout the day to express your gratitude, you tap into a deep and more present sensation of what you are grateful for in the moment. It might be that you are driving safely or that you are on time. It may be that you are eating and becoming nourished for the day. Whatever it is, these scheduled gratitude moments help you to find the positives in your life in the present moment. AVOID COMPLAINING OR PASSING JUDGMENT This might be an obvious one, but when we complain or pass judgment, we are allowing ourselves to internalize the negative. Instead of seeing the wonderful gifts in our lives, we are dwelling in the mucky, ugly reality of that which we don’t like. In doing so, we are developing an attitude that is the opposite of gratitude. The more we complain, the more we bring that reality into being. It is nearly impossible to be grateful for the gifts in our lives while at the same time, finding everything that’s wrong. In order to be more grateful, we have to turn off the complaint switch and tap 49 | fyimagazineny.com into our well of positivity. When we do so, we realize all the good that surrounds us and become overwhelmed with gratitude. WRITE IN A GRATITUDE JOURNAL One of the stand-by methods for promoting gratitude is to use a Gratitude Journal. Each night before bed, think of all the events of your day and look for everything you can thank Hashem for. Be as specific as possible. By actually writing down what we’re grateful for, we accomplish two things. We create a structure to our gratefulness, by making it something we do each night, but also we internalize the feeling of gratitude. Just like studying for a test, writing aids our memory. By writing out what we are grateful for, we remember longer and intensify our understanding! GET A “GRATITUDE PARTNER” Sort of like the buddy system from our earlier days, you’re less likely to “get lost” or go off track when you have a buddy looking out for you. If tackling the challenge of gratitude seems like a difficult task, look for a partner - someone who also wants to work on gratitude. Check in with each other and ask if she filled in her gratitude journal that day, kept to her gratitude moments, and said authentic “Thank you’s.” When you have a partner, you are more likely to stick to your plan. And when it’s all said and done, don’t forget to thank her too! fyi
WRITTEN BY ASHLEY COHEN  e  i l tive 48   fyimagazineny.com  CREDIT TO GO IN THERE  p  osi  fe  5  to have a m ys or a w  ...
Lead by a deaf Rabbi and a deafblind woman, the group “sang” “Adon Olam” complete with sign language. THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS WHICH YOU MAY HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT AND ARE WORTH THE MENTION. Opening Worlds WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY Jewish Advocates for Deaf Education (JADE) brings Judaism alive for the Jewish deafblind Community. 50 | fyimagazineny.com "My friends who are deaf or hard of hearing are funny, artistic, athletic, and bright. They can do everything but hear (well),” says Yael Zelinger, who spearheads JADE, a program dedicated to raising awareness in the Jewish community about the needs of Jews who are deaf or hard of hearing. “This creates a critical barrier: communication. Think about shul, a wedding, or a lecture – Jewish life is one big social event! And that means communication.” Yael got involved with the deaf community as a teenager and then 16 years ago at The Macks Center for Jewish Education in Baltimore. “Many members of the Jewish deaf community appreciate an interpreter in group settings,” shares Yael. “Hearing people are generally unaware or feel awkward and tend to exclude deaf people unwittingly. The result is that deaf people often seek community elsewhere, like secular deaf clubs or even church. My desire to change that is why JADE resonated with me.” JADE offers free workshops to sensitize and educate people who work in Jewish organizations and interact with deaf people. She says, “I try to throw in some fun signs and convey important facts like facing the person you are talking to and not covering your mouth when speaking.” JADE encourages Jewish communal events to offer sign language or oral interpreters, and its members have established an interpreter fund to help subsidize that cost. 51 | fyimagazineny.com But everything got “exciting (and complicated)” around six years ago, when Sharon Seigal, a Jewish special educator in Las Vegas, proposed a shabbaton (weekend retreat) for adults who have both hearing and visual loss. In 2010, Yael, together with Our Way director Rabbi Lederfiend (Our Way offers resources, services, and social programs for Jews who are deaf or hard of hearing) and Dr. Sheryl Cooper, head of the Deaf Studies Department at Towson University, turned that idea into reality with the first-ever international, fully-accessible deafblind Shabbaton. Funded by a JEEP (Jewish Education Enhancement Program) grants and donations, it was a resounding success, and the Shabbaton has been a bi-annual event ever since. “Everything we know about supporting the deaf community went out the window,” reflects Yael. “I love the creative challenge of making every detail accessible and empowering for participants.” This includes brailling everything from the room numbers, menu, and schedule to featuring activities that stimulate the senses of touch, smell, and taste, like braiding challah and making matzah balls. One year, the highlight was a “tour” of Israel using a 16-foot map of Israel with the borders and important cities raised, using ropes and wooden shapes. A committee of experts is key to keep track of what communication method each participant uses and to pair him up with an appropriate SSP (sight sound provider), who may be deaf himself. The layout of each room needs to be carefully
Lead by a deaf Rabbi and a deafblind woman, the group    sang       Adon Olam    complete with sign language.  THERE ARE M...
Lead by a deaf Rabbi and a deafblind woman, the group “sang” “Adon Olam” complete with sign language. THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS WHICH YOU MAY HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT AND ARE WORTH THE MENTION. Opening Worlds WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY Jewish Advocates for Deaf Education (JADE) brings Judaism alive for the Jewish deafblind Community. 50 | fyimagazineny.com "My friends who are deaf or hard of hearing are funny, artistic, athletic, and bright. They can do everything but hear (well),” says Yael Zelinger, who spearheads JADE, a program dedicated to raising awareness in the Jewish community about the needs of Jews who are deaf or hard of hearing. “This creates a critical barrier: communication. Think about shul, a wedding, or a lecture – Jewish life is one big social event! And that means communication.” Yael got involved with the deaf community as a teenager and then 16 years ago at The Macks Center for Jewish Education in Baltimore. “Many members of the Jewish deaf community appreciate an interpreter in group settings,” shares Yael. “Hearing people are generally unaware or feel awkward and tend to exclude deaf people unwittingly. The result is that deaf people often seek community elsewhere, like secular deaf clubs or even church. My desire to change that is why JADE resonated with me.” JADE offers free workshops to sensitize and educate people who work in Jewish organizations and interact with deaf people. She says, “I try to throw in some fun signs and convey important facts like facing the person you are talking to and not covering your mouth when speaking.” JADE encourages Jewish communal events to offer sign language or oral interpreters, and its members have established an interpreter fund to help subsidize that cost. 51 | fyimagazineny.com But everything got “exciting (and complicated)” around six years ago, when Sharon Seigal, a Jewish special educator in Las Vegas, proposed a shabbaton (weekend retreat) for adults who have both hearing and visual loss. In 2010, Yael, together with Our Way director Rabbi Lederfiend (Our Way offers resources, services, and social programs for Jews who are deaf or hard of hearing) and Dr. Sheryl Cooper, head of the Deaf Studies Department at Towson University, turned that idea into reality with the first-ever international, fully-accessible deafblind Shabbaton. Funded by a JEEP (Jewish Education Enhancement Program) grants and donations, it was a resounding success, and the Shabbaton has been a bi-annual event ever since. “Everything we know about supporting the deaf community went out the window,” reflects Yael. “I love the creative challenge of making every detail accessible and empowering for participants.” This includes brailling everything from the room numbers, menu, and schedule to featuring activities that stimulate the senses of touch, smell, and taste, like braiding challah and making matzah balls. One year, the highlight was a “tour” of Israel using a 16-foot map of Israel with the borders and important cities raised, using ropes and wooden shapes. A committee of experts is key to keep track of what communication method each participant uses and to pair him up with an appropriate SSP (sight sound provider), who may be deaf himself. The layout of each room needs to be carefully
Lead by a deaf Rabbi and a deafblind woman, the group    sang       Adon Olam    complete with sign language.  THERE ARE M...
thought out. “You may need an SSP signing to a few people at close range, another tactilely (touch) signing into someone’s hands, and another repeating what’s said two feet in front of them,” Yael says. This past June, the Shabbaton chair people, a group of dedicated hearing, deaf and deafblind volunteers, came up with the idea of an interactive beginner’s minyan for Shabbat morning. Lead by a deaf Rabbi and a deafblind woman, the group “sang” “Adon Olam” complete with sign language, Hebrew and foot-stamping for rhythm. A highlight every time is when a deafblind woman holds the havdallah candle while an interpreter signs havdallah into her free hand. Amid consistent requests from participants, JADE is yearning to start a group trip to Israel that would allow them to experience Israel as only deafblind Jews can – with professional SSPs, appropriate facilities, and hands-on activities. Start-up funds are desperately needed to pay for the participants as well as two SSPs per person. “SSPs would share important information like what’s outside the bus window, what the guide is saying, what it looks and sounds like in the caves and everything in-between,” says Yael. Though SSPs may volunteer their time, flights, and hotel costs would need to be covered. “Jewish deafblind Americans would love to meet deafblind Israelis and share experiences. Together, they would feel the ancient ruins and smell the Mediterranean Sea. Café Kapish in Jaffa (a Tel Avivian café with deaf waiters) would be a must, as well as meeting the deafblind actors of the famous play "Not By Bread Alone". Like all Jews, they dream of feeling the Kotel stones, saying a personal prayer, and maybe even dancing.” fyi 5 Effective Exercises to TEN TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH A PERSON WITH HEARING LOSS 1. To get a deaf person's attention, get into her line of vision and wave your hand or tap her on the shoulder. Shouting is not helpful. 2. Face the person you are talking to and keep your face visible‎. 3. ‎ peak slowly and clearly. S 4. If you are not understood, repeat and reword your message. 5. Use gestures, facial expressions, and body language to help get your message across. 6. ‎ sk the person to repeat A what she said (even multiple times) rather than just nodding your head “politely.”‎ The holidays are over, and for many of us, all the delicious foods made an impact on our midsection. Diet is the key to cutting down on the unwanted excess, by decreasing carbohydrate intake and cutting sugars and sugary drinks. An increase of cardiovascular exercise will also help burn that belly fat. These 5 exercises should be performed in a circuit with 25 repetitions (per side) at least 4 times a week. 7. Write it down. Text and email work great! 8. Make sure your body language matches your message. For example, if you’re saying “no,” don't nod your head. THE CLASSIC BICYCLE THE VERTICAL LEG CRUNCH 9. Hire an oral or sign language interpreter for important meetings. 10. ‎n a group, only one I person should speak at a time. To Volunteer or Donate contact: JADE: 410.735.5023 yzelinger@cjebaltimore.org | CJEBALTIMORE.ORG/DEAFBLIND 52 | fyimagazineny.com Lie on your back on a mat, lace your fingers behind your head, and bring your knees to your chest. Start to lift your shoulder blade to the opposite knee while fully extending the other leg simultaneously; continue alternating. Lie on your back on a mat, with legs straight up to the ceiling, crossing the legs. Fingers are laced behind your head or crossed over the front of your chest. Lift and lower shoulder blades off the floor while contracting your abdominals. 53 | fyimagazineny.com
thought out.    You may need an SSP signing to a few people at close range, another tactilely  touch  signing into someone...
thought out. “You may need an SSP signing to a few people at close range, another tactilely (touch) signing into someone’s hands, and another repeating what’s said two feet in front of them,” Yael says. This past June, the Shabbaton chair people, a group of dedicated hearing, deaf and deafblind volunteers, came up with the idea of an interactive beginner’s minyan for Shabbat morning. Lead by a deaf Rabbi and a deafblind woman, the group “sang” “Adon Olam” complete with sign language, Hebrew and foot-stamping for rhythm. A highlight every time is when a deafblind woman holds the havdallah candle while an interpreter signs havdallah into her free hand. Amid consistent requests from participants, JADE is yearning to start a group trip to Israel that would allow them to experience Israel as only deafblind Jews can – with professional SSPs, appropriate facilities, and hands-on activities. Start-up funds are desperately needed to pay for the participants as well as two SSPs per person. “SSPs would share important information like what’s outside the bus window, what the guide is saying, what it looks and sounds like in the caves and everything in-between,” says Yael. Though SSPs may volunteer their time, flights, and hotel costs would need to be covered. “Jewish deafblind Americans would love to meet deafblind Israelis and share experiences. Together, they would feel the ancient ruins and smell the Mediterranean Sea. Café Kapish in Jaffa (a Tel Avivian café with deaf waiters) would be a must, as well as meeting the deafblind actors of the famous play "Not By Bread Alone". Like all Jews, they dream of feeling the Kotel stones, saying a personal prayer, and maybe even dancing.” fyi 5 Effective Exercises to TEN TIPS FOR EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION WITH A PERSON WITH HEARING LOSS 1. To get a deaf person's attention, get into her line of vision and wave your hand or tap her on the shoulder. Shouting is not helpful. 2. Face the person you are talking to and keep your face visible‎. 3. ‎ peak slowly and clearly. S 4. If you are not understood, repeat and reword your message. 5. Use gestures, facial expressions, and body language to help get your message across. 6. ‎ sk the person to repeat A what she said (even multiple times) rather than just nodding your head “politely.”‎ The holidays are over, and for many of us, all the delicious foods made an impact on our midsection. Diet is the key to cutting down on the unwanted excess, by decreasing carbohydrate intake and cutting sugars and sugary drinks. An increase of cardiovascular exercise will also help burn that belly fat. These 5 exercises should be performed in a circuit with 25 repetitions (per side) at least 4 times a week. 7. Write it down. Text and email work great! 8. Make sure your body language matches your message. For example, if you’re saying “no,” don't nod your head. THE CLASSIC BICYCLE THE VERTICAL LEG CRUNCH 9. Hire an oral or sign language interpreter for important meetings. 10. ‎n a group, only one I person should speak at a time. To Volunteer or Donate contact: JADE: 410.735.5023 yzelinger@cjebaltimore.org | CJEBALTIMORE.ORG/DEAFBLIND 52 | fyimagazineny.com Lie on your back on a mat, lace your fingers behind your head, and bring your knees to your chest. Start to lift your shoulder blade to the opposite knee while fully extending the other leg simultaneously; continue alternating. Lie on your back on a mat, with legs straight up to the ceiling, crossing the legs. Fingers are laced behind your head or crossed over the front of your chest. Lift and lower shoulder blades off the floor while contracting your abdominals. 53 | fyimagazineny.com
thought out.    You may need an SSP signing to a few people at close range, another tactilely  touch  signing into someone...
THE REVERSE CRUNCH THE LONG ARM CRUNCH Lying on your back with arms to the side and shoulders lifted, raise your legs up towards your head and lower slowly toward the ground, not touching down. For less stress on the lower back, knees can be bent, calves glued to hamstrings. Lying flat on your back,arms above your head, lift the upper body and lower body into a crunch position, a “V” shape. Lower and repeat. ELBOW & KNEE DROP PLANK A: Plank: On elbows, face the floor in a neutral position, where you keep your spine straight. Drop both knees to the floor without dropping your hips. Continue for 60 seconds. B: Get into a plank position on your elbows. Your spine and full body should be neutral. Hold and drop one knee at a time towards the floor, touching it down if possible, without lowering the hips and still keeping them up in that neutral position. Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and the co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness, a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue@yahoo.com 54 | fyimagazineny.com
THE REVERSE CRUNCH  THE LONG ARM CRUNCH  Lying on your back with arms to the side and shoulders lifted, raise your legs up...
THE REVERSE CRUNCH THE LONG ARM CRUNCH Lying on your back with arms to the side and shoulders lifted, raise your legs up towards your head and lower slowly toward the ground, not touching down. For less stress on the lower back, knees can be bent, calves glued to hamstrings. Lying flat on your back,arms above your head, lift the upper body and lower body into a crunch position, a “V” shape. Lower and repeat. ELBOW & KNEE DROP PLANK A: Plank: On elbows, face the floor in a neutral position, where you keep your spine straight. Drop both knees to the floor without dropping your hips. Continue for 60 seconds. B: Get into a plank position on your elbows. Your spine and full body should be neutral. Hold and drop one knee at a time towards the floor, touching it down if possible, without lowering the hips and still keeping them up in that neutral position. Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and the co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness, a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue@yahoo.com 54 | fyimagazineny.com
THE REVERSE CRUNCH  THE LONG ARM CRUNCH  Lying on your back with arms to the side and shoulders lifted, raise your legs up...
Don’t rescue or be a “helicopter” parent who hovers around her children. You may always want to protect your offspring from every bad thing on this earth, and come to their aid after every hurt. Naturally, you want them to live a life of joy and gladness—and also, confidence. WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER 1. UNDERSTAND THAT NO MATTER HOW MUCH you want to, you cannot protect your children from everything in their lives, such as their siblings’ wrath, or nasty kids at the playground. You can’t emote each time they leave their homework sheet or their snack at home. Children need to know how to get out of situations that life hands them. “Kids need to know that it's okay to fail, and that it's normal to feel sad, anxious, or angry,” says Robert Brooks, PhD, coauthor of Raising Resilient Children. The child spilled his cup of orange juice? Don’t come running with a dishrag. Let him figure out how to fix the mistake. If he fights with his siblings and friends, allow him to settle the conflict without adult intervention. Kids need to know how to solve problems without an adult taking over. This will give them a sense of pride, accomplishment, and selfworth. Of course, if a child is very young or has made a terrible mistake, it is important to discuss it once the situation has cooled down and everyone is calm. Role play, suggest, and practice for situations that may arise in the future. 2. LET THEM MAKE APPROPRIATE DECISIONS. Do not walk into a clothing store and ask your toddler if she prefers stripes or polka dots. (At a local dry goods store, I heard a mother asking her two-year old son which shirt he preferred for Shabbos!) That’s a decision she needs to know you are making. Naturally, you can’t allow your kid to choose chocolate mousse for breakfast either; however, she can choose between peanut butter or avocado, packing away the LEGOs or Clicks, or using pink shampoo versus blue. Kids need to feel in control of their lives, and making decisions makes them feel empowered. 3. GIVE SPECIFIC PRAISE. Of course, over-praising should be avoided. Anything in excess quickly turns meaningless. Even when praise is in order, use specific phrases. Instead of “Wow, that painting is beautiful,” point out what you like about it. “I love the teal paint in the artwork, or “Look, those lines are so precise; you are so great with charcoal.” Phrases like “Good job, super, big girl!” wear off fast and don’t sound genuine. They say nothing about the child’s capability or effort. “I see you packed away each toy in the proper bin. Wow, you are super organized.” That’s a lot better than just saying, “Great cleanup!” Kids remember those specific words and try to prove that what you are saying about them is true. It also builds confidence, because they know that they are good at something. 56 | fyimagazineny.com 4. LET THEM PROBLEM SOLVE. Don’t give them answers to all their problems. Do steer them towards the right solution. I remember the joy when I heard my daughter screaming and my son rushing to “the scene.” In a calm, even tone he said, “Why are you crying?” She responded, “because my paper tore.” “Wow, that’s why you need to cry? Calm down. Let’s try to fix it. Here, look- I have Scotch tape. I will glue the two pieces of paper together again.” She was hollering. He was calm, as he found and executed a solution like a real little man. I told him how much it meant to me that he cared about his sister and found a solution without getting emotional. After repeatedly warning my children and students not to break a rule, only to have them do it anyway, I often ask, “How would you punish your kid if he or she did this?” And even the really little ones come up with fascinating punishments for themselves. Brainstorm with your kids on how they can get their pencil back from the class bully, make new friends, and deal with sibling rivalry. Let them come up with answers. As they see their solutions work, they feel smart and important. 5. PRIVATE TIME. Every single child needs private time with a parent, undisturbed by anybody else, even if only for a few moments. It could be a trip to the bank, grocery or shoe store. It could be some time playing a game in the house. It could be staying home from school once a month to bake challos. It’s a time your child will never forget. Aside from making him feel important, take time to nurture his special hobbies and interests. So the kid loves to paint? Do a painting together. She loves baking? Bake some cookies. They love to talk? Just listen. Use private time and every other time to make sure they know your love is unconditional. I practice with my kids. “How much does mommy love you?” “Very very much.” “Why?” “Just plain because you are my mommy.” One of my children threw a huge tantrum and ruined my night. Just before bedtime, she managed to hiccup, “Okay, but you love me anyway, right?” She was five. She knew that no matter how horrible she had been, I still loved her. She went to bed sad but confident that she mattered and would be loved unconditionally. fyi 57 | fyimagazineny.com
Don   t rescue or be a    helicopter    parent who hovers around her children. You may always want to protect your offspri...
Don’t rescue or be a “helicopter” parent who hovers around her children. You may always want to protect your offspring from every bad thing on this earth, and come to their aid after every hurt. Naturally, you want them to live a life of joy and gladness—and also, confidence. WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER 1. UNDERSTAND THAT NO MATTER HOW MUCH you want to, you cannot protect your children from everything in their lives, such as their siblings’ wrath, or nasty kids at the playground. You can’t emote each time they leave their homework sheet or their snack at home. Children need to know how to get out of situations that life hands them. “Kids need to know that it's okay to fail, and that it's normal to feel sad, anxious, or angry,” says Robert Brooks, PhD, coauthor of Raising Resilient Children. The child spilled his cup of orange juice? Don’t come running with a dishrag. Let him figure out how to fix the mistake. If he fights with his siblings and friends, allow him to settle the conflict without adult intervention. Kids need to know how to solve problems without an adult taking over. This will give them a sense of pride, accomplishment, and selfworth. Of course, if a child is very young or has made a terrible mistake, it is important to discuss it once the situation has cooled down and everyone is calm. Role play, suggest, and practice for situations that may arise in the future. 2. LET THEM MAKE APPROPRIATE DECISIONS. Do not walk into a clothing store and ask your toddler if she prefers stripes or polka dots. (At a local dry goods store, I heard a mother asking her two-year old son which shirt he preferred for Shabbos!) That’s a decision she needs to know you are making. Naturally, you can’t allow your kid to choose chocolate mousse for breakfast either; however, she can choose between peanut butter or avocado, packing away the LEGOs or Clicks, or using pink shampoo versus blue. Kids need to feel in control of their lives, and making decisions makes them feel empowered. 3. GIVE SPECIFIC PRAISE. Of course, over-praising should be avoided. Anything in excess quickly turns meaningless. Even when praise is in order, use specific phrases. Instead of “Wow, that painting is beautiful,” point out what you like about it. “I love the teal paint in the artwork, or “Look, those lines are so precise; you are so great with charcoal.” Phrases like “Good job, super, big girl!” wear off fast and don’t sound genuine. They say nothing about the child’s capability or effort. “I see you packed away each toy in the proper bin. Wow, you are super organized.” That’s a lot better than just saying, “Great cleanup!” Kids remember those specific words and try to prove that what you are saying about them is true. It also builds confidence, because they know that they are good at something. 56 | fyimagazineny.com 4. LET THEM PROBLEM SOLVE. Don’t give them answers to all their problems. Do steer them towards the right solution. I remember the joy when I heard my daughter screaming and my son rushing to “the scene.” In a calm, even tone he said, “Why are you crying?” She responded, “because my paper tore.” “Wow, that’s why you need to cry? Calm down. Let’s try to fix it. Here, look- I have Scotch tape. I will glue the two pieces of paper together again.” She was hollering. He was calm, as he found and executed a solution like a real little man. I told him how much it meant to me that he cared about his sister and found a solution without getting emotional. After repeatedly warning my children and students not to break a rule, only to have them do it anyway, I often ask, “How would you punish your kid if he or she did this?” And even the really little ones come up with fascinating punishments for themselves. Brainstorm with your kids on how they can get their pencil back from the class bully, make new friends, and deal with sibling rivalry. Let them come up with answers. As they see their solutions work, they feel smart and important. 5. PRIVATE TIME. Every single child needs private time with a parent, undisturbed by anybody else, even if only for a few moments. It could be a trip to the bank, grocery or shoe store. It could be some time playing a game in the house. It could be staying home from school once a month to bake challos. It’s a time your child will never forget. Aside from making him feel important, take time to nurture his special hobbies and interests. So the kid loves to paint? Do a painting together. She loves baking? Bake some cookies. They love to talk? Just listen. Use private time and every other time to make sure they know your love is unconditional. I practice with my kids. “How much does mommy love you?” “Very very much.” “Why?” “Just plain because you are my mommy.” One of my children threw a huge tantrum and ruined my night. Just before bedtime, she managed to hiccup, “Okay, but you love me anyway, right?” She was five. She knew that no matter how horrible she had been, I still loved her. She went to bed sad but confident that she mattered and would be loved unconditionally. fyi 57 | fyimagazineny.com
Don   t rescue or be a    helicopter    parent who hovers around her children. You may always want to protect your offspri...
Y ou flashback to that sweet old lady at the grocery store this morning who told you, “They grow up so quickly” and her friend who added, “I wish I had taken more time to enjoy my children while they were young…” You think, “How can I possibly enjoy any of this? I am in survival mode!” Shuffling your little ones from place to place and making sure they are safe and hygienic is taxing. The to-do list seems to keep growing and the young ones are not the most appreciative of customers. Yet, you start to think, “Am I taking the time to enjoy these children? Am I building a loving and close connection with them?” en dr Digging through the research of what a close parent/child connection means and how it can best be achieved, we came across the following information. Parents need at least five positive interactions to each negative interaction to maintain a healthy, happy, and close relationship with their child. Yowza! How can we manage to pull that off while guiding children through their daily routine (“Two more minutes until bath time!”), saying no to bizarre requests (“No, you cannot eat your dinner under your bed!”) and correcting negative behavior (“We don’t say that word in our house.”)? CREDIT TO GO IN THERE fee lose to our ch gc il in l Ever have a day where you feel like all you’ve done was bark out orders, lecture, and yell? After an incredibly long day, youheave your achy body into bed and remember the twelve things you forgot to do. In the frenzied life of a mom, with missing shoes and days that don’t seem to end, it may seem impossible to find time to “connect” through play and laughter. Just getting through dinner is a struggle to keep calm and composed, let alone laugh and talk and enjoy each other’s company. It is so easy to forget how privileged we are to have these adorable little people in our lives, who bring joy as well as destruction wherever they go. So how can we accomplish connection and closeness while tackling the day-to-day parenting obligations? Be mindful that children of parents who are constantly making the effort to provide love and warmth, combined with guidance and discipline, will feel secure even when the parent is upset or disappointed with them at the moment. They tend to be open to the parents’ ideas and support and often talk things through with them. On the other hand, children who lack positive interactions with their parents and do not feel connected with them will resist guidance and discipline, and may act out from fear of not being loved and accepted. No parent in her right mind would choose the latter, and no parent regrets an extra moment spent playing, singing, and laughing.This time is wellspent and lays the groundwork for a future bond with our children. The next time you heave your achy body into bed after a long day, you will do so with a smile on your lips, remembering the whispers, giggles, and joyful moments. fyi muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Follow @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. muffinsmoms@gmail.com 59 | fyimagazineny.com SOME IDEAS FOR BUILDING POSITIVE INTERACTIONS THAT LEAD TO CLOSENESS ARE: • Hug. Touch. Snuggle with each child when he first wakes up. Children of all ages need physical contact! • Have alone time with each child, even if it’s just for a few minutes a day! This can mean enlisting your child to load the dishwasher with you, or bringing him along on an errand. • No matter what your child says, empathize - show him/her that you care! All emotions are okay When you acknowledge how your child feels, you strengthen your connection. • Laugh at your child’s jokes (even if they are not even remotely funny)! • Instead of constantly reminding your child (yelling?) to keep moving through the morning routine, empower him/her with a chart. Smile and point to the chart, asking him/her to tell you what he needs to do next. • When your children fight with one another, listen to both kids without taking sides, throw in a dash of humor and then help them work out a win/win solution. • When your child walks through the door at the end of the day, stash your phone in a drawer, turn down the music, and put everything else aside for a few moments. Listen to him/her intently. Show him/her how important s/he is to you. • You may be reading this wistfully and saying to yourself, “Oh, if only I had the time.” And quite possibly you won’t be able to do everything on this list every day with each child. Most of the above activities don't take much time, and they are sure to make the day go more smoothly.
Y  ou flashback to that sweet old lady at the grocery store this morning who told you,    They grow up so quickly    and h...
Y ou flashback to that sweet old lady at the grocery store this morning who told you, “They grow up so quickly” and her friend who added, “I wish I had taken more time to enjoy my children while they were young…” You think, “How can I possibly enjoy any of this? I am in survival mode!” Shuffling your little ones from place to place and making sure they are safe and hygienic is taxing. The to-do list seems to keep growing and the young ones are not the most appreciative of customers. Yet, you start to think, “Am I taking the time to enjoy these children? Am I building a loving and close connection with them?” en dr Digging through the research of what a close parent/child connection means and how it can best be achieved, we came across the following information. Parents need at least five positive interactions to each negative interaction to maintain a healthy, happy, and close relationship with their child. Yowza! How can we manage to pull that off while guiding children through their daily routine (“Two more minutes until bath time!”), saying no to bizarre requests (“No, you cannot eat your dinner under your bed!”) and correcting negative behavior (“We don’t say that word in our house.”)? CREDIT TO GO IN THERE fee lose to our ch gc il in l Ever have a day where you feel like all you’ve done was bark out orders, lecture, and yell? After an incredibly long day, youheave your achy body into bed and remember the twelve things you forgot to do. In the frenzied life of a mom, with missing shoes and days that don’t seem to end, it may seem impossible to find time to “connect” through play and laughter. Just getting through dinner is a struggle to keep calm and composed, let alone laugh and talk and enjoy each other’s company. It is so easy to forget how privileged we are to have these adorable little people in our lives, who bring joy as well as destruction wherever they go. So how can we accomplish connection and closeness while tackling the day-to-day parenting obligations? Be mindful that children of parents who are constantly making the effort to provide love and warmth, combined with guidance and discipline, will feel secure even when the parent is upset or disappointed with them at the moment. They tend to be open to the parents’ ideas and support and often talk things through with them. On the other hand, children who lack positive interactions with their parents and do not feel connected with them will resist guidance and discipline, and may act out from fear of not being loved and accepted. No parent in her right mind would choose the latter, and no parent regrets an extra moment spent playing, singing, and laughing.This time is wellspent and lays the groundwork for a future bond with our children. The next time you heave your achy body into bed after a long day, you will do so with a smile on your lips, remembering the whispers, giggles, and joyful moments. fyi muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Follow @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. muffinsmoms@gmail.com 59 | fyimagazineny.com SOME IDEAS FOR BUILDING POSITIVE INTERACTIONS THAT LEAD TO CLOSENESS ARE: • Hug. Touch. Snuggle with each child when he first wakes up. Children of all ages need physical contact! • Have alone time with each child, even if it’s just for a few minutes a day! This can mean enlisting your child to load the dishwasher with you, or bringing him along on an errand. • No matter what your child says, empathize - show him/her that you care! All emotions are okay When you acknowledge how your child feels, you strengthen your connection. • Laugh at your child’s jokes (even if they are not even remotely funny)! • Instead of constantly reminding your child (yelling?) to keep moving through the morning routine, empower him/her with a chart. Smile and point to the chart, asking him/her to tell you what he needs to do next. • When your children fight with one another, listen to both kids without taking sides, throw in a dash of humor and then help them work out a win/win solution. • When your child walks through the door at the end of the day, stash your phone in a drawer, turn down the music, and put everything else aside for a few moments. Listen to him/her intently. Show him/her how important s/he is to you. • You may be reading this wistfully and saying to yourself, “Oh, if only I had the time.” And quite possibly you won’t be able to do everything on this list every day with each child. Most of the above activities don't take much time, and they are sure to make the day go more smoothly.
Y  ou flashback to that sweet old lady at the grocery store this morning who told you,    They grow up so quickly    and h...
SUCCESSFUL & innovative 60 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CLASSROOM eing an occupational therapist for the past few years has exposed me to a variety of occupations. With opportunities to interact and deal with people from various fields, I’ve been particularly fascinated with one profession - teaching. I believe that education is the bedrock of every other vocation, because without educators, we would not have professionals. What joy compares to the satisfaction of watching students grow and contribute to the world in their area of expertise! Being a teacher is a very demanding job and many teachers are challenged by the inherent stress. Based on my experiences working with teachers and their students, I have come to see many impressive ideas and practices. The following are some tips I believe can help teachers manage the class and maximize the teacher-student relationship. GROUP SEATING Teaching requires oceans of patience! Children can be fidgety, hyperactive, and distracted. A clever way to manage a boisterous class, especially middle schoolers, is to split them up into groups of 4-5 and teach one group at a time (The other groups can meanwhile work on review or research together). This strategy empowers the children while encouraging critical thinking AND communication skills - a home run for educating the whole child! WRITE IN COLOR When teaching little ones, visual aids are critical. Write on a (smart) board using colored chalk or markers to capture their attention. To make class more interactive, allow the students to write on their own boards as well. Rust-Oleum spray allows you to turn any surface into a chalkboard, and it's a great way to inspire creativity and imagination in your classroom. CREATE A COMFORTABLE SPACE Where can students cuddle up to decompress after recess? Where can they spread out an extravagant Lego zoo? Think about what message the room sends when you enter the space. Of course, teachers of all ages need to consider appropriate safety concerns as well. MANAGE SUPPLIES For students who have a hard time staying organized at a desk, washed- out 15-oz cans stuck on hooks, attached to the side of the desk can help manage multiple supplies and prevent falling objects and unnecessary litter. LABEL IT UP A great way to keep a preschool classroom neat and organized is with labels, labels, and some more labels! Teachers could put stickers on the floor as cues to let the kids know where to go when they need something. For example, you may arrange the
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SUCCESSFUL & innovative 60 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CLASSROOM eing an occupational therapist for the past few years has exposed me to a variety of occupations. With opportunities to interact and deal with people from various fields, I’ve been particularly fascinated with one profession - teaching. I believe that education is the bedrock of every other vocation, because without educators, we would not have professionals. What joy compares to the satisfaction of watching students grow and contribute to the world in their area of expertise! Being a teacher is a very demanding job and many teachers are challenged by the inherent stress. Based on my experiences working with teachers and their students, I have come to see many impressive ideas and practices. The following are some tips I believe can help teachers manage the class and maximize the teacher-student relationship. GROUP SEATING Teaching requires oceans of patience! Children can be fidgety, hyperactive, and distracted. A clever way to manage a boisterous class, especially middle schoolers, is to split them up into groups of 4-5 and teach one group at a time (The other groups can meanwhile work on review or research together). This strategy empowers the children while encouraging critical thinking AND communication skills - a home run for educating the whole child! WRITE IN COLOR When teaching little ones, visual aids are critical. Write on a (smart) board using colored chalk or markers to capture their attention. To make class more interactive, allow the students to write on their own boards as well. Rust-Oleum spray allows you to turn any surface into a chalkboard, and it's a great way to inspire creativity and imagination in your classroom. CREATE A COMFORTABLE SPACE Where can students cuddle up to decompress after recess? Where can they spread out an extravagant Lego zoo? Think about what message the room sends when you enter the space. Of course, teachers of all ages need to consider appropriate safety concerns as well. MANAGE SUPPLIES For students who have a hard time staying organized at a desk, washed- out 15-oz cans stuck on hooks, attached to the side of the desk can help manage multiple supplies and prevent falling objects and unnecessary litter. LABEL IT UP A great way to keep a preschool classroom neat and organized is with labels, labels, and some more labels! Teachers could put stickers on the floor as cues to let the kids know where to go when they need something. For example, you may arrange the
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Homemaking Problems,Solved IDEAS FOR TEACHERS various toys on different shelves with their appropriate labeling. When items have a clear spot where they belong, the children can be expected to put them back at the end of each activity. PHONE JAIL Most adults, teens, and even kids as young as nine, have cell phones. If a teacher notices that students are distracted by their cell phone, she may introduce a system called "phone jail." At the beginning of class, all the students are asked to place their phones into a container at the front of the room before instruction begins. REWARD ACCOMPLISHMENT Make the most out of your classroom bulletin board. Hang completed assignments in a prominent place, to promote a sense of satisfaction and purpose. Post fun and easy tasks that students can do when they finish early. Added incentives are great too - like a free homework pass for the most extra credit assignments completed. This encourages children who finish faster than others to keep concentrating and keep quiet while others are still working (** beware of students who complete the intended assignment sloppily in order to join this fun competition). WORD WALL To help students remember frequently-used vocabulary, use your handy can of Rust-Oleum to create a Word Wall. As students read the story or complete assignments, they can glance at the wall as a quick reference tool. This can help improve speaking and comprehension skills in any subject area. DAILY AGENDA For focus and help with transitioning, post a daily agenda on the wall in the classroom. This includes the day’s learning objectives, assemblies, and assignments. Students will have an easier time staying on course with the day's activities. MODELS FOR SUCCESS It has been proven that students are more likely to engage in learning when they see value in what they are learning, and believe they can be successful. Instructors can have models of students’ work from past years available, which could serve as a guide of what is considered “A” work. AVOID A CONFRONTATION Having an open confrontation with a student in front of his peers is never a good idea. One of the most overwhelming negative feelings a young person can have is that of being ridiculed in public. Such feelings can have a major effect on the way he views school, learning, and life in general. When a student misbehaves, teachers should use simple verbal reprimands. Short sentences such as “We will speak about this at 10:15 during recess,” followed by an immediate resumption of the lesson, can be sufficient until you can speak with the student one on one. fyi 62 | fyimagazineny.com WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED • Take a moment to put on a smile, even if you have to fake it! • Take a few deep breaths before entering the building. • The “suck- swallowbreathe” cycle of drinking is calming. • Use affirmations – chant a positive mantra to help yourself accept the situation, at least for the moment. Q. What’s the best way to store boots without them flopping over? IN CONCLUSION, Teachers are our unsung heroes; we cherish and respect them. Teaching is much more than simply transmitting information; it is an opportunity to light a fire. It is often said that "A teacher’s reward is in heaven." While I cannot confirm that, I can attest that there are rewards on earth, when a student smiles, or when you feel satisfaction knowing that you have impacted the lives of others. Let’s remember to say “Thank you” to our educators and not to wait until Chanukah! ILLUSTRATIONS BY @SLYMDESIGNS Instructors can have models of students’ work from past years available, which could serve as a guide of what is considered “A” work. • The teacher’s tone: We are all exposed to stress in our daily lives, which can affect our mood. In our personal lives, we might react to stressful situations by shouting or hiding in a corner to indulge in self-pity. At work, however, these behaviors could seriously harm a professional reputation and productivity. If an instructor is in a combative mood because of something that happened at home, he must strive to balance his emotions properly. A. To keep tall boots from taking up more room in the closet and getting misshaped around the ankle, stuff them with cardboard/newspaper to hold them upright. Commercial products called Boot Shapers do the same job. Q. Sorting and putting away my kids’ outgrown clothes is probably my least-favorite organizing task. It’s more complicated than one might think. How should I store my children's out of season or outgrown clothes? A. Suggestion #1: Buy fewer clothes for your kids so you’ll have less to organize and store later. Suggestion #2: Limit the storage space with boxes. Since baby clothes are small, you can fit a lot into a box. Having the clothes limited and divided by size is easier than having it all in one larger box, because it doesn’t take much to become disorganized. Bulky coats 63 | fyimagazineny.com are stored separately. The storage boxes are stacked and stored in the closet. Be sure the clothes are clean before you store them, and keep the boxes in a clean, dry area, especially if you are re-purposing cardboard boxes. Keep only the clothes that are still in great condition, and nothing with permanent stains. If it doesn’t look good when it goes into the storage box, it will only look worse when you take it out later. Don’t keep more than what will fit in the box: just the best stuff and your favorites. Only keep the items that will make you smile when you open the box again, and the rest can be given away.
Homemaking Problems,Solved  IDEAS FOR TEACHERS  various toys on different shelves with their appropriate labeling. When it...
Homemaking Problems,Solved IDEAS FOR TEACHERS various toys on different shelves with their appropriate labeling. When items have a clear spot where they belong, the children can be expected to put them back at the end of each activity. PHONE JAIL Most adults, teens, and even kids as young as nine, have cell phones. If a teacher notices that students are distracted by their cell phone, she may introduce a system called "phone jail." At the beginning of class, all the students are asked to place their phones into a container at the front of the room before instruction begins. REWARD ACCOMPLISHMENT Make the most out of your classroom bulletin board. Hang completed assignments in a prominent place, to promote a sense of satisfaction and purpose. Post fun and easy tasks that students can do when they finish early. Added incentives are great too - like a free homework pass for the most extra credit assignments completed. This encourages children who finish faster than others to keep concentrating and keep quiet while others are still working (** beware of students who complete the intended assignment sloppily in order to join this fun competition). WORD WALL To help students remember frequently-used vocabulary, use your handy can of Rust-Oleum to create a Word Wall. As students read the story or complete assignments, they can glance at the wall as a quick reference tool. This can help improve speaking and comprehension skills in any subject area. DAILY AGENDA For focus and help with transitioning, post a daily agenda on the wall in the classroom. This includes the day’s learning objectives, assemblies, and assignments. Students will have an easier time staying on course with the day's activities. MODELS FOR SUCCESS It has been proven that students are more likely to engage in learning when they see value in what they are learning, and believe they can be successful. Instructors can have models of students’ work from past years available, which could serve as a guide of what is considered “A” work. AVOID A CONFRONTATION Having an open confrontation with a student in front of his peers is never a good idea. One of the most overwhelming negative feelings a young person can have is that of being ridiculed in public. Such feelings can have a major effect on the way he views school, learning, and life in general. When a student misbehaves, teachers should use simple verbal reprimands. Short sentences such as “We will speak about this at 10:15 during recess,” followed by an immediate resumption of the lesson, can be sufficient until you can speak with the student one on one. fyi 62 | fyimagazineny.com WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED • Take a moment to put on a smile, even if you have to fake it! • Take a few deep breaths before entering the building. • The “suck- swallowbreathe” cycle of drinking is calming. • Use affirmations – chant a positive mantra to help yourself accept the situation, at least for the moment. Q. What’s the best way to store boots without them flopping over? IN CONCLUSION, Teachers are our unsung heroes; we cherish and respect them. Teaching is much more than simply transmitting information; it is an opportunity to light a fire. It is often said that "A teacher’s reward is in heaven." While I cannot confirm that, I can attest that there are rewards on earth, when a student smiles, or when you feel satisfaction knowing that you have impacted the lives of others. Let’s remember to say “Thank you” to our educators and not to wait until Chanukah! ILLUSTRATIONS BY @SLYMDESIGNS Instructors can have models of students’ work from past years available, which could serve as a guide of what is considered “A” work. • The teacher’s tone: We are all exposed to stress in our daily lives, which can affect our mood. In our personal lives, we might react to stressful situations by shouting or hiding in a corner to indulge in self-pity. At work, however, these behaviors could seriously harm a professional reputation and productivity. If an instructor is in a combative mood because of something that happened at home, he must strive to balance his emotions properly. A. To keep tall boots from taking up more room in the closet and getting misshaped around the ankle, stuff them with cardboard/newspaper to hold them upright. Commercial products called Boot Shapers do the same job. Q. Sorting and putting away my kids’ outgrown clothes is probably my least-favorite organizing task. It’s more complicated than one might think. How should I store my children's out of season or outgrown clothes? A. Suggestion #1: Buy fewer clothes for your kids so you’ll have less to organize and store later. Suggestion #2: Limit the storage space with boxes. Since baby clothes are small, you can fit a lot into a box. Having the clothes limited and divided by size is easier than having it all in one larger box, because it doesn’t take much to become disorganized. Bulky coats 63 | fyimagazineny.com are stored separately. The storage boxes are stacked and stored in the closet. Be sure the clothes are clean before you store them, and keep the boxes in a clean, dry area, especially if you are re-purposing cardboard boxes. Keep only the clothes that are still in great condition, and nothing with permanent stains. If it doesn’t look good when it goes into the storage box, it will only look worse when you take it out later. Don’t keep more than what will fit in the box: just the best stuff and your favorites. Only keep the items that will make you smile when you open the box again, and the rest can be given away.
Homemaking Problems,Solved  IDEAS FOR TEACHERS  various toys on different shelves with their appropriate labeling. When it...
mg of 80 l t ime gir Q. While I try to clean out my fridge periodically, I don’t feel like I’ve got it under control. I wipe it down, clean the shelves and drawers, put the food in again, and two days later, all the food is scattered about and there are spills everywhere. Q. I have an indoor plant that has dead edges on the leaves. Is there any way to keep house plants’ leaves from turning brown on the tips and dying? A: When house plants get brown tips on their leaves, it generally indicates poor watering habits. The best way to water a houseplant is to thoroughly flush it until water runs freely out of the drainage holes. Shallow watering can cause brown tips on the leaves. But brown tips also indicate lack of humidity. Many house plants are native to jungle conditions, so if your home is very dry, you'll need to mist your plants and give them a shower every few days. Brown leaf tips can also indicate a buildup of salts from too much fertilizer or from softened water. Don't over-fertilize your houseplants, and softened water should be distilled to keep your plants happy. A. If you've taken on the daunting task of cleaning out your refrigerator, you should give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back! Here are some tips to keep your fridge organized and easier to clean: A well-organized refrigerator keeps food fresh longer and lets you grab and go faster. Before you unpack groceries, spend a second thinking about the right place for everything. Here are common-sense ways to declutter and organize your fridge: 1. The front of the middle rack, near eye-level, is prime refrigerator real estate. Put priority items there, like leftovers you want eaten soon and healthy snacks. The back of the fridge is the coldest part. Store milk and raw meat there, and it will stay fresh longer. 2. Don’t waste fridge space on food that doesn’t need to be chilled. Some examples: ketchup, vinegar, jam and mayonnaise. Put those items in the pantry. 3. Never put tomatoes in the fridge, or they’ll get mushy. Onions will soften, honey will thicken, and potatoes will turn too starchy. Keep onions and 64 | fyimagazineny.com potatoes in separate paper bags and store in a cool, dark place (a lower cabinet drawer is great). 4. Labels and bins are the way to go, especially with children (and husbands too, sometimes). Rectangular or square bins are your friends (circular ones waste space). Lazy susans or turntables can make things such as salad dressing and condiments, easy to find. 5. Invest in fridge coasters - thin pads which absorb spills and keep your fridge cleaner, longer. Cleaning your fridge will be effortless. In fact, you might get by with simply running a wet sponge through the drawer and replacing the fridge coasters. 6. To combat odors, keep an open box of baking soda in the back corner of your fridge. Vanilla extract will also keep it smelling fresh. Soak a cotton ball or paper towel, and put it on a paper plate. Wait for it to dry before removing. fyi management, laxation and stress Best used to aid in re happiness. se feelings of overall and to increa for 1 hour or : 1-2 times per week SAGE RECOMMENDED DO edicine is highly ed. WARNING: this m as need nd sore grins sult in belly laughs a addictive and will re LLE DE VO RA H KA HN WR ITT EN BY MICHE 65 | fyimagazineny.com
mg of 80 l t ime gir  Q. While I try to clean out my fridge periodically, I don   t feel like I   ve got it under control....
mg of 80 l t ime gir Q. While I try to clean out my fridge periodically, I don’t feel like I’ve got it under control. I wipe it down, clean the shelves and drawers, put the food in again, and two days later, all the food is scattered about and there are spills everywhere. Q. I have an indoor plant that has dead edges on the leaves. Is there any way to keep house plants’ leaves from turning brown on the tips and dying? A: When house plants get brown tips on their leaves, it generally indicates poor watering habits. The best way to water a houseplant is to thoroughly flush it until water runs freely out of the drainage holes. Shallow watering can cause brown tips on the leaves. But brown tips also indicate lack of humidity. Many house plants are native to jungle conditions, so if your home is very dry, you'll need to mist your plants and give them a shower every few days. Brown leaf tips can also indicate a buildup of salts from too much fertilizer or from softened water. Don't over-fertilize your houseplants, and softened water should be distilled to keep your plants happy. A. If you've taken on the daunting task of cleaning out your refrigerator, you should give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back! Here are some tips to keep your fridge organized and easier to clean: A well-organized refrigerator keeps food fresh longer and lets you grab and go faster. Before you unpack groceries, spend a second thinking about the right place for everything. Here are common-sense ways to declutter and organize your fridge: 1. The front of the middle rack, near eye-level, is prime refrigerator real estate. Put priority items there, like leftovers you want eaten soon and healthy snacks. The back of the fridge is the coldest part. Store milk and raw meat there, and it will stay fresh longer. 2. Don’t waste fridge space on food that doesn’t need to be chilled. Some examples: ketchup, vinegar, jam and mayonnaise. Put those items in the pantry. 3. Never put tomatoes in the fridge, or they’ll get mushy. Onions will soften, honey will thicken, and potatoes will turn too starchy. Keep onions and 64 | fyimagazineny.com potatoes in separate paper bags and store in a cool, dark place (a lower cabinet drawer is great). 4. Labels and bins are the way to go, especially with children (and husbands too, sometimes). Rectangular or square bins are your friends (circular ones waste space). Lazy susans or turntables can make things such as salad dressing and condiments, easy to find. 5. Invest in fridge coasters - thin pads which absorb spills and keep your fridge cleaner, longer. Cleaning your fridge will be effortless. In fact, you might get by with simply running a wet sponge through the drawer and replacing the fridge coasters. 6. To combat odors, keep an open box of baking soda in the back corner of your fridge. Vanilla extract will also keep it smelling fresh. Soak a cotton ball or paper towel, and put it on a paper plate. Wait for it to dry before removing. fyi management, laxation and stress Best used to aid in re happiness. se feelings of overall and to increa for 1 hour or : 1-2 times per week SAGE RECOMMENDED DO edicine is highly ed. WARNING: this m as need nd sore grins sult in belly laughs a addictive and will re LLE DE VO RA H KA HN WR ITT EN BY MICHE 65 | fyimagazineny.com
mg of 80 l t ime gir  Q. While I try to clean out my fridge periodically, I don   t feel like I   ve got it under control....
affects helming-ness of life e overw Logically we know th lives and st talking about our imes ju everyone, but somet e need. ruggling with is all w what we are st t’s Sunday. We must acknowledge all that lies ahead, what needs to get done - the laundry we didn't have time to complete, the dishwasher that needs to be loaded, the homework your children left till last minute and need your "help" with, the fridge that needs to be restocked, your husband’s dry cleaning that needs to be picked up, and the playroom which looks like it could use some much needed disaster relief. It’s extremely important that with all that goes on in our day-to-day lives, we make the time to take care of ourselves. Before you chuckle and utter easier said than done, let me tell you that this was written by someone who finds it difficult (understatement) to relax. Personally, I have tried everything - meditation, sleeping, massages - but nothing has worked. For some of us, "quiet time" isn’t always the answer. We crave excitement and distraction. The best medicine I have found is friends! Just spending an hour a week with friends clears my mind of all my anxieties and makes me feel more hopeful and positive. Here is what "girl time" has to offer: SUPPORT AND STRENGTH Logically we know the overwhelming-ness of life affects everyone, but sometimes just talking about our lives and what we are struggling with is all we need. Aside from getting it off your chest, you might even find that your friends are experiencing similar situations. Simply put, we know we are not alone! ASSISTANCE Often when we share our problems, we share our solutions too. You will probably walk away with some great advice and tips, and possibly be able to help your friends in the process. Knowledge is power! DISTRACTIONS Friends can be the best and the most fun distraction out there. You don't always need to just sit and talk. Go shopping, walking/jogging, have lunch, do something. It’s about putting all that emotional energy into something physical to let it out. We all know the physical and emotional benefits of physical activity, of course, but the benefit of doing it with friends is that when you are with a group of people who love and trust each other, you are 66 | fyimagazineny.com more outgoing and willing to put energy and focus into it than when you are by yourself. (Extra tip: Make it interesting. Try bowling, horseback riding, or apple picking. Something out of the ordinary!) FEEDING YOUR VIBES One of the greatest inventions in life is food. It doesn't judge us, it helps us. Plus, it loves hanging out with us at "girl time." (It’s usually the first one there!) Food, used properly, can actually calm us down. Certain foods are known to increase the level of serotonin in our bodies. This chemical is what makes us feel gratified, calm, and even sleepy. Bananas, oatmeal (not the pre-packaged high-sugar kinds), milk, cold-water fish (salmon, tuna, etc), eggs, honey, celery, and chocolate (amen to that!) all increase the production of serotonin. The best advice is to stick to healthy natural foods, not processed or chemically enhanced or high in sugar. Protein and fiber are best to leave us full, fueled, and satisfied! THE LIST GOES ON Do you really need another excuse to see your friends? Well, if you did, now you have a great one! The bottom line is, we choose our friends for a reason. They make us feel great when they are around, so they should be around more often! Girl time is not a cure for our problems, but it’s a fabulous and highly recommended treatment. I just renewed my subscription! fyi 67 | fyimagazineny.com
affects helming-ness of life e overw Logically we know th lives and st talking about our imes ju everyone, but somet e nee...
affects helming-ness of life e overw Logically we know th lives and st talking about our imes ju everyone, but somet e need. ruggling with is all w what we are st t’s Sunday. We must acknowledge all that lies ahead, what needs to get done - the laundry we didn't have time to complete, the dishwasher that needs to be loaded, the homework your children left till last minute and need your "help" with, the fridge that needs to be restocked, your husband’s dry cleaning that needs to be picked up, and the playroom which looks like it could use some much needed disaster relief. It’s extremely important that with all that goes on in our day-to-day lives, we make the time to take care of ourselves. Before you chuckle and utter easier said than done, let me tell you that this was written by someone who finds it difficult (understatement) to relax. Personally, I have tried everything - meditation, sleeping, massages - but nothing has worked. For some of us, "quiet time" isn’t always the answer. We crave excitement and distraction. The best medicine I have found is friends! Just spending an hour a week with friends clears my mind of all my anxieties and makes me feel more hopeful and positive. Here is what "girl time" has to offer: SUPPORT AND STRENGTH Logically we know the overwhelming-ness of life affects everyone, but sometimes just talking about our lives and what we are struggling with is all we need. Aside from getting it off your chest, you might even find that your friends are experiencing similar situations. Simply put, we know we are not alone! ASSISTANCE Often when we share our problems, we share our solutions too. You will probably walk away with some great advice and tips, and possibly be able to help your friends in the process. Knowledge is power! DISTRACTIONS Friends can be the best and the most fun distraction out there. You don't always need to just sit and talk. Go shopping, walking/jogging, have lunch, do something. It’s about putting all that emotional energy into something physical to let it out. We all know the physical and emotional benefits of physical activity, of course, but the benefit of doing it with friends is that when you are with a group of people who love and trust each other, you are 66 | fyimagazineny.com more outgoing and willing to put energy and focus into it than when you are by yourself. (Extra tip: Make it interesting. Try bowling, horseback riding, or apple picking. Something out of the ordinary!) FEEDING YOUR VIBES One of the greatest inventions in life is food. It doesn't judge us, it helps us. Plus, it loves hanging out with us at "girl time." (It’s usually the first one there!) Food, used properly, can actually calm us down. Certain foods are known to increase the level of serotonin in our bodies. This chemical is what makes us feel gratified, calm, and even sleepy. Bananas, oatmeal (not the pre-packaged high-sugar kinds), milk, cold-water fish (salmon, tuna, etc), eggs, honey, celery, and chocolate (amen to that!) all increase the production of serotonin. The best advice is to stick to healthy natural foods, not processed or chemically enhanced or high in sugar. Protein and fiber are best to leave us full, fueled, and satisfied! THE LIST GOES ON Do you really need another excuse to see your friends? Well, if you did, now you have a great one! The bottom line is, we choose our friends for a reason. They make us feel great when they are around, so they should be around more often! Girl time is not a cure for our problems, but it’s a fabulous and highly recommended treatment. I just renewed my subscription! fyi 67 | fyimagazineny.com
affects helming-ness of life e overw Logically we know th lives and st talking about our imes ju everyone, but somet e nee...
9 Ways t o Feed Picky Eaters Most of us are familiar with the frustration when our little ones refuse to eat the food set before them, especially when it’s packed with vitamins and minerals that they need for their developing bodies and minds. The benefits of a healthy, balanced diet make it worth persevering; Below, FYI shares ten helpful ideas. 1. SNACKS Prepare cut-up fruit and vegetables to be available at all times. Be careful not to allow snacking right before a meal; there’s far higher chance of children tucking into what’s placed before them if they are hungry and know that there are no other options. 6. DISGUISE 2. PHRASING THE QUESTION When it comes to meal time, never ask your children what they want in an open-ended way. Instead, offer them a choice between two healthy options. For example, asking whether they want salad or broccoli alongside their pasta. This gives them a feeling of empowerment. 3. GET THEM INVOLVED Allow children to help prepare meals in an age-appropriate way. From a young age, kids enjoy washing fruit and vegetables and older kids enjoy peeling and cutting up softer foods. Get them involved in cutting sandwiches and omelets into shapes with cookie cutters, as well as mixing dips. This allows them to feel more in control regarding what goes into their bodies. A lot of kids enjoy the sensory experience of dipping finger foods, like vegetable crudités or homemade fish fingers, into a delicious dip. They may also look forward to eating from colorful bowls, or plates divided into sections and with festive napkins. A fun idea for a family outing is to visit a local “pick your own” farm. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CREDIT TO GO IN THERE 4. HEALTHIER ALTERNATIVES WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY realistic amount of time once a week to try new dishes or play around with existing recipes that your kids love. For example, adding neutral-tasting powerhouse foods like chia or hemp seeds to a dish they already enjoy, will provide a real boost. You can make a big difference by simply offering healthier versions of kid favorites, like french fries made from potatoes, butternut squash, and sweet potato served with homemade or organic ketchup. Try grilling or broiling foods rather than frying. Kids who love pasta may also enjoy brown rice or buckwheat noodles, and whole-wheat or spelt pasta. Where possible, buy local or organic and make sure to avoid E numbers, preservatives, and coloring. For children who eat pasta with tomato sauce, you can try blending carrots, spinach, sweet potato, zucchini, or cauliflower into the sauce. You’ll want to include enough tomatoes, Italian herbs, garlic, and olive oil to disguise the taste of vegetables. You may also need to play around with the proportions. You could also add chunks of squash or beetroot, which are slightly sweet. Other ideas include blending cauliflower into a cheese sauce for baked macaroni and cheese, or throwing in some yellow squash with the potatoes and mince in a Shepherd’s Pie. Some children don’t enjoy seeing chunks of vegetables in soup, so try blending soups instead. The options are endless. 7. SMOOTHIES & JUICES Frozen bananas, dates and other fruits, along with almond or coconut milk, make a brilliant smoothie base for hiding greens or certain boiled vegetables like beetroot. To sweeten, try cinnamon, maple syrup and/or honey. For best results, freeze the bananas when they are sweet and beginning to brown. You can also pour the smoothie mixture into ice pop molds and enjoy as a dessert. Juicing fruit and some vegetables at home makes a nutritious drink bursting with vitality. 8. DESSERTS Yes! You can even pack nutrients into cakes, cookies and muffins. Steamed and blended pumpkin and sweet potato are wonderful in apple and banana cakes. Choose recipes with raw oats, whole-wheat or spelt flour and use natural sweeteners like maple syrup or pure silan (date honey). 9. SET AN EXAMPLE 5. EXPERIMENT Though not every woman has the time or inclination to spend hours in the kitchen, it’s useful to set aside a Eat together and practice what you preach. You’ll want to encourage rather than force your kids to eat, and explain the benefits of eating healthily. Enjoy! fyi 69 | fyimagazineny.com
9 Ways t o Feed Picky Eaters  Most of us are familiar with the frustration when our little ones refuse to eat the food set...
9 Ways t o Feed Picky Eaters Most of us are familiar with the frustration when our little ones refuse to eat the food set before them, especially when it’s packed with vitamins and minerals that they need for their developing bodies and minds. The benefits of a healthy, balanced diet make it worth persevering; Below, FYI shares ten helpful ideas. 1. SNACKS Prepare cut-up fruit and vegetables to be available at all times. Be careful not to allow snacking right before a meal; there’s far higher chance of children tucking into what’s placed before them if they are hungry and know that there are no other options. 6. DISGUISE 2. PHRASING THE QUESTION When it comes to meal time, never ask your children what they want in an open-ended way. Instead, offer them a choice between two healthy options. For example, asking whether they want salad or broccoli alongside their pasta. This gives them a feeling of empowerment. 3. GET THEM INVOLVED Allow children to help prepare meals in an age-appropriate way. From a young age, kids enjoy washing fruit and vegetables and older kids enjoy peeling and cutting up softer foods. Get them involved in cutting sandwiches and omelets into shapes with cookie cutters, as well as mixing dips. This allows them to feel more in control regarding what goes into their bodies. A lot of kids enjoy the sensory experience of dipping finger foods, like vegetable crudités or homemade fish fingers, into a delicious dip. They may also look forward to eating from colorful bowls, or plates divided into sections and with festive napkins. A fun idea for a family outing is to visit a local “pick your own” farm. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE CREDIT TO GO IN THERE 4. HEALTHIER ALTERNATIVES WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY realistic amount of time once a week to try new dishes or play around with existing recipes that your kids love. For example, adding neutral-tasting powerhouse foods like chia or hemp seeds to a dish they already enjoy, will provide a real boost. You can make a big difference by simply offering healthier versions of kid favorites, like french fries made from potatoes, butternut squash, and sweet potato served with homemade or organic ketchup. Try grilling or broiling foods rather than frying. Kids who love pasta may also enjoy brown rice or buckwheat noodles, and whole-wheat or spelt pasta. Where possible, buy local or organic and make sure to avoid E numbers, preservatives, and coloring. For children who eat pasta with tomato sauce, you can try blending carrots, spinach, sweet potato, zucchini, or cauliflower into the sauce. You’ll want to include enough tomatoes, Italian herbs, garlic, and olive oil to disguise the taste of vegetables. You may also need to play around with the proportions. You could also add chunks of squash or beetroot, which are slightly sweet. Other ideas include blending cauliflower into a cheese sauce for baked macaroni and cheese, or throwing in some yellow squash with the potatoes and mince in a Shepherd’s Pie. Some children don’t enjoy seeing chunks of vegetables in soup, so try blending soups instead. The options are endless. 7. SMOOTHIES & JUICES Frozen bananas, dates and other fruits, along with almond or coconut milk, make a brilliant smoothie base for hiding greens or certain boiled vegetables like beetroot. To sweeten, try cinnamon, maple syrup and/or honey. For best results, freeze the bananas when they are sweet and beginning to brown. You can also pour the smoothie mixture into ice pop molds and enjoy as a dessert. Juicing fruit and some vegetables at home makes a nutritious drink bursting with vitality. 8. DESSERTS Yes! You can even pack nutrients into cakes, cookies and muffins. Steamed and blended pumpkin and sweet potato are wonderful in apple and banana cakes. Choose recipes with raw oats, whole-wheat or spelt flour and use natural sweeteners like maple syrup or pure silan (date honey). 9. SET AN EXAMPLE 5. EXPERIMENT Though not every woman has the time or inclination to spend hours in the kitchen, it’s useful to set aside a Eat together and practice what you preach. You’ll want to encourage rather than force your kids to eat, and explain the benefits of eating healthily. Enjoy! fyi 69 | fyimagazineny.com
9 Ways t o Feed Picky Eaters  Most of us are familiar with the frustration when our little ones refuse to eat the food set...
N ON IRON • WRIN KLE FRE E • C LASSIC FIT • SLI M F I T C M Y CM MY CY CMY K The Secret to Saving Money On Your Grocery Bill C M Y CM MY CY CMY K When it comes to saving money, the first (and most important) thing you have to know is that everything runs on sale cycles. If you understand sale cycles, you’ll be able to identify a good sale, know how much of an item to stock up on, and overall, the best way to save. T here are two types of sales cycles: monthly cycles (which in reality, may be anywhere from 4-6 weeks) and yearly cycles. Yearly cycles are when specialty items go on sale. Think about Thanksgiving, for example. You’re going to see canned pumpkin and cranberry sauce cheaper than at any other time of the year. The same concept applies with baking-related items in December. Monthly cycles are when the brands you buy all the time take turns promoting their products. If you pay attention to your local supermarket ads, you’ll almost never see competing brands being advertised at the same time. And if you do, one will be significantly cheaper than the other. The goal of understanding sale cycles is to identify the best sale price for an item and then use a coupon 70 | fyimagazineny.com SLIM FIT
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N ON IRON • WRIN KLE FRE E • C LASSIC FIT • SLI M F I T C M Y CM MY CY CMY K The Secret to Saving Money On Your Grocery Bill C M Y CM MY CY CMY K When it comes to saving money, the first (and most important) thing you have to know is that everything runs on sale cycles. If you understand sale cycles, you’ll be able to identify a good sale, know how much of an item to stock up on, and overall, the best way to save. T here are two types of sales cycles: monthly cycles (which in reality, may be anywhere from 4-6 weeks) and yearly cycles. Yearly cycles are when specialty items go on sale. Think about Thanksgiving, for example. You’re going to see canned pumpkin and cranberry sauce cheaper than at any other time of the year. The same concept applies with baking-related items in December. Monthly cycles are when the brands you buy all the time take turns promoting their products. If you pay attention to your local supermarket ads, you’ll almost never see competing brands being advertised at the same time. And if you do, one will be significantly cheaper than the other. The goal of understanding sale cycles is to identify the best sale price for an item and then use a coupon 70 | fyimagazineny.com SLIM FIT
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on top of it. Coupons are the icing on the cake. They are what make great deals even sweeter. Typically, in the first week of every month, you’ll see Proctor and Gamble items advertised in virtually every mainstream supermarket ad as well as in drugstores. For those of you who are unaware, Proctor and Gamble is the parent company of popular brands like Pampers, Dawn, Bounty, and Tide. This is when you’ll often see the lowest prices for these brands, even though they are sometimes on sale at other times too. The great thing about Proctor and Gamble is that this company also publishes its own coupon insert, distributed through the Sunday paper (also the first week of every month). Additionally, it publishes coupons on its website (pgeveryday.com) and on popular coupon websites like coupons.com. So now that you know how to shop for Proctor and Gamble products, what about other items? That’s why it’s important to start paying attention to sale cycles. If one brand is on sale one week, the competitor will have a different week. So if Proctor and Gamble items are on sale the first week, sales for a company like Colgate-Palmolive would be another week. Learning sale cycles can seem daunting, but once you start to review your local store’s weekly ads, you should be able to catch on rather quickly. Once you become familiar with sale cycles, you’ll also start to get a sense of the lowest price you’ll want to pay for an item. Take a cereal sale cycle, for example. Say a box of General Mills cereal retails for $4.99 but goes on sale once a month for $1.88. Would you rather pay the retail price or the sale price? Obviously, you’d rather pay $1.88. So that’s when the light bulb goes off. If your favorite cereals go on sale at that price approximately once every four weeks, you will want to buy enough boxes of cereal to hold you until that brand goes on sale again. So, if your family eats two boxes of cereal a week, you may consider buying up to eight boxes. Of course, you always have the option of buying a competitor’s brand during its sale week as well. The goal is to estimate how much you’ll need, so you can get the items you buy at the best price without overpaying or overbuying. WHERE TO FIND COUPONS: Coupons can be found in the Sunday paper, in the circulars (store ads) that get thrown onto your driveway, online, and through phone calls to companies. I have found that the cheapest place to get the Sunday paper is actually Dollar Tree. New subscribers may also be able to get an introductory rate as low as $1 Learning sale cycles can seem daunting, but once you start to review your local store’s weekly ads, you should be able to catch on rather quickly. Once you become familiar with sale cycles, you’ll also start to get a sense of the lowest price you’ll want to pay for an item. per issue. As for online coupons, stick to reputable websites like coupons.com, Redplum.com and SmartSource.com. On most websites, your computer can print two of each coupon. NEVER photocopy coupons; it’s highly illegal. For more information on where to find coupons and how to use them, please visit www.TheKosherCouponLady.com The Kosher Coupon Lady is a nationally-recognized sale and coupon maven. She watches sale patterns and provides people with the best deals on her website, www.TheKosherCouponLady.com. Her first book "I Don't Have Time To Save Money" is anticipated to release in December. 72 | fyimagazineny.com Sisters Revolutionize Fashion The clothes we wear say a lot about who we are, our values, and group identity. Fashion impacts how people in society see us, and to a large extent, how we ultimately see ourselves. From Manhattan's Fifth Avenue to Milan's Via Monte Napoleone, and Sydney's Oxford Street, clothes speak volumes. >>
on top of it. Coupons are the icing on the cake. They are what make great deals even sweeter. Typically, in the first week...
on top of it. Coupons are the icing on the cake. They are what make great deals even sweeter. Typically, in the first week of every month, you’ll see Proctor and Gamble items advertised in virtually every mainstream supermarket ad as well as in drugstores. For those of you who are unaware, Proctor and Gamble is the parent company of popular brands like Pampers, Dawn, Bounty, and Tide. This is when you’ll often see the lowest prices for these brands, even though they are sometimes on sale at other times too. The great thing about Proctor and Gamble is that this company also publishes its own coupon insert, distributed through the Sunday paper (also the first week of every month). Additionally, it publishes coupons on its website (pgeveryday.com) and on popular coupon websites like coupons.com. So now that you know how to shop for Proctor and Gamble products, what about other items? That’s why it’s important to start paying attention to sale cycles. If one brand is on sale one week, the competitor will have a different week. So if Proctor and Gamble items are on sale the first week, sales for a company like Colgate-Palmolive would be another week. Learning sale cycles can seem daunting, but once you start to review your local store’s weekly ads, you should be able to catch on rather quickly. Once you become familiar with sale cycles, you’ll also start to get a sense of the lowest price you’ll want to pay for an item. Take a cereal sale cycle, for example. Say a box of General Mills cereal retails for $4.99 but goes on sale once a month for $1.88. Would you rather pay the retail price or the sale price? Obviously, you’d rather pay $1.88. So that’s when the light bulb goes off. If your favorite cereals go on sale at that price approximately once every four weeks, you will want to buy enough boxes of cereal to hold you until that brand goes on sale again. So, if your family eats two boxes of cereal a week, you may consider buying up to eight boxes. Of course, you always have the option of buying a competitor’s brand during its sale week as well. The goal is to estimate how much you’ll need, so you can get the items you buy at the best price without overpaying or overbuying. WHERE TO FIND COUPONS: Coupons can be found in the Sunday paper, in the circulars (store ads) that get thrown onto your driveway, online, and through phone calls to companies. I have found that the cheapest place to get the Sunday paper is actually Dollar Tree. New subscribers may also be able to get an introductory rate as low as $1 Learning sale cycles can seem daunting, but once you start to review your local store’s weekly ads, you should be able to catch on rather quickly. Once you become familiar with sale cycles, you’ll also start to get a sense of the lowest price you’ll want to pay for an item. per issue. As for online coupons, stick to reputable websites like coupons.com, Redplum.com and SmartSource.com. On most websites, your computer can print two of each coupon. NEVER photocopy coupons; it’s highly illegal. For more information on where to find coupons and how to use them, please visit www.TheKosherCouponLady.com The Kosher Coupon Lady is a nationally-recognized sale and coupon maven. She watches sale patterns and provides people with the best deals on her website, www.TheKosherCouponLady.com. Her first book "I Don't Have Time To Save Money" is anticipated to release in December. 72 | fyimagazineny.com Sisters Revolutionize Fashion The clothes we wear say a lot about who we are, our values, and group identity. Fashion impacts how people in society see us, and to a large extent, how we ultimately see ourselves. From Manhattan's Fifth Avenue to Milan's Via Monte Napoleone, and Sydney's Oxford Street, clothes speak volumes. >>
on top of it. Coupons are the icing on the cake. They are what make great deals even sweeter. Typically, in the first week...
Two sisters are revolutionizing fashion by bringing modesty to haute couture: Simi Polonsky and Chaya Chanin (nee Gestetner) grew up with a strong sense of Judaism in Sydney, Australia. Their father had a Chabad background, and was the rabbi of a traditional shul. At the same time, they grew up in the heart of fashion and haute couture. Today, they are the Creative Directors of The FROCK NYC. Simi and Chaya fill the gaps in a typical female closet by designing and creating modest essentials. The FROCK NYC includes The Frock SWAP, Designer Consignment Shop, The Frock STYLE for Personal Stylists and The Frock BASICS, their Signature Collection made in Manhattan. Beyond simply clothing and dressing women, Simi and Chaya are building self-confidence for their clients by encouraging them to feel great while wearing modest clothes. WRITTEN BY JOSEPH J SHERMAN J WHAT WAS YOUR INSPIRATION TO START THIS BUSINESS? Simi Polonsky: “We had an existing designer consignment pop-up shop where we would always hear the frustrations of women who were searching for the right dress with this, and the right skirt with that... They struggled to find the missing piece that fit the bill. Something was always too short, too low, without sleeves, and required too much effort to make it work. We wanted to create that missing piece in every wardrobe - that didn't compromise on modesty and in particular, fashion. So we did.... Modest, fashionable wardrobe solutions that when worn alone, would enhance the wearer’s outfit with their simplicity and edge, yet layered would be transformed into something new.” J WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH WITH YOUR FASHION AND DESIGNS? Simi Polonsky: “We really want to educate the world and change the misguided notion that modest women have no sense of style and fashion. An orthodox woman who dresses modestly should not be expected to dress like she is from Fiddler on the Roof - she is smart, confident, stylish, and sophisticated.” Chaya Chanin: “We are helping them find their style from within. We try to make that process of getting dressed a whole lot easier. It's understanding and appreciating what women want and need in particular, to find what is missing in a modest woman's closet and create it!” J RELATIONSHIP BUILDING IS CRITICAL IN A SMALL BUSINESS. HOW DO YOU FORM POWERFUL RELATIONSHIPS? Chaya Chanin: “The relationships that we create with our customers is a true blessing. We are a far cry from the average cutthroat business owner that does whatever it takes to get there. Coming from Australia, we didn't know how many women from our community bond with other communities. We are blessed to have met the people we have, and more so for the relationships that have grown from our business. Being open to meeting and working with other like-minded women has opened our minds to a whole new world.” J HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL PROFESSOR JOHN DAVIS HAS ADVOCATED FAMILY UNITY AS A MAJOR FACTOR IN BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL FAMILY BUSINESS. WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE PARTNERS WITH YOUR SISTER? Chaya Chanin: “It is the best thing in the world. We can always be ourselves. We know what the other is thinking.” Simi Polonsky: “We feel blessed to be working together. We are each other’s family, our support, and we are best friends.” J EVERY BUSINESS OWNER FACES CHALLENGES. WHAT ARE SOME CHALLENGES YOU FACED OPENING YOUR BUSINESS? Simi Polonsky: “My biggest challenge is maintaining the feeling of confidence in knowing that you should be doing what you are doing. Sometimes fear and doubt can get in the way of putting one foot in front of the other - getting through those feelings is what helps us get through challenges. Trusting in Hashem and knowing that at the end of the day, nothing is in our control, is what really helps us work through the challenges.” J TO WHAT DO YOU ATTRIBUTE YOUR SUCCESS? Chaya Chanin: “We have confidence in each other, and in what we are doing. We do a lot of hard work and focus on perseverance, but most importantly: Hashem is in charge. If we are supposed to be doing what we are doing and do it well, we will.” J WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OUR READERS? Simi Polonsky: “Don't get too affected by what others may think or say about you. It's important to listen and take others’ opinions into consideration, but most importantly, it's imperative to be yourself, and have trust and confidence in yourself. Honesty and integrity are more important than designing and selling any amount of dresses.” J DO YOU HAVE A BUSINESS MENTOR OR ROLE MODEL? Chaya Chanin: “Role models are everywhere we look. We feel like it’s important to learn from the strengths as well as the mistakes of others, so we are always open to learning and gaining information as well as inspiration from others. We do have a business mentor - we wouldn't be where we are today without her.” J DID YOU TAKE A FORMAL TRAINING PROGRAM SUCH AS A COLLEGE DEGREE OR BUSINESS COURSES BEFORE STARTING YOUR BUSINESS? Simi Polonsky: “I went to fashion school for garment design and construction. All of our clothing are designed and manufactured in NYC; we work closely with manufacturers in Manhattan, which allows us to have quality control over our garments, and by working closely with our pattern makers and manufacturers, we learn more and more about the process of design, giving us the skills to constantly improve what we are doing.” fyi Joseph J Sherman is an Online Marketing Strategist based in Jerusalem. 75 | fyimagazineny.com
Two sisters are revolutionizing fashion by bringing modesty to haute couture  Simi Polonsky and Chaya Chanin  nee Gestetne...
Two sisters are revolutionizing fashion by bringing modesty to haute couture: Simi Polonsky and Chaya Chanin (nee Gestetner) grew up with a strong sense of Judaism in Sydney, Australia. Their father had a Chabad background, and was the rabbi of a traditional shul. At the same time, they grew up in the heart of fashion and haute couture. Today, they are the Creative Directors of The FROCK NYC. Simi and Chaya fill the gaps in a typical female closet by designing and creating modest essentials. The FROCK NYC includes The Frock SWAP, Designer Consignment Shop, The Frock STYLE for Personal Stylists and The Frock BASICS, their Signature Collection made in Manhattan. Beyond simply clothing and dressing women, Simi and Chaya are building self-confidence for their clients by encouraging them to feel great while wearing modest clothes. WRITTEN BY JOSEPH J SHERMAN J WHAT WAS YOUR INSPIRATION TO START THIS BUSINESS? Simi Polonsky: “We had an existing designer consignment pop-up shop where we would always hear the frustrations of women who were searching for the right dress with this, and the right skirt with that... They struggled to find the missing piece that fit the bill. Something was always too short, too low, without sleeves, and required too much effort to make it work. We wanted to create that missing piece in every wardrobe - that didn't compromise on modesty and in particular, fashion. So we did.... Modest, fashionable wardrobe solutions that when worn alone, would enhance the wearer’s outfit with their simplicity and edge, yet layered would be transformed into something new.” J WHAT DO YOU WANT TO ACCOMPLISH WITH YOUR FASHION AND DESIGNS? Simi Polonsky: “We really want to educate the world and change the misguided notion that modest women have no sense of style and fashion. An orthodox woman who dresses modestly should not be expected to dress like she is from Fiddler on the Roof - she is smart, confident, stylish, and sophisticated.” Chaya Chanin: “We are helping them find their style from within. We try to make that process of getting dressed a whole lot easier. It's understanding and appreciating what women want and need in particular, to find what is missing in a modest woman's closet and create it!” J RELATIONSHIP BUILDING IS CRITICAL IN A SMALL BUSINESS. HOW DO YOU FORM POWERFUL RELATIONSHIPS? Chaya Chanin: “The relationships that we create with our customers is a true blessing. We are a far cry from the average cutthroat business owner that does whatever it takes to get there. Coming from Australia, we didn't know how many women from our community bond with other communities. We are blessed to have met the people we have, and more so for the relationships that have grown from our business. Being open to meeting and working with other like-minded women has opened our minds to a whole new world.” J HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL PROFESSOR JOHN DAVIS HAS ADVOCATED FAMILY UNITY AS A MAJOR FACTOR IN BUILDING A SUCCESSFUL FAMILY BUSINESS. WHAT IS IT LIKE TO BE PARTNERS WITH YOUR SISTER? Chaya Chanin: “It is the best thing in the world. We can always be ourselves. We know what the other is thinking.” Simi Polonsky: “We feel blessed to be working together. We are each other’s family, our support, and we are best friends.” J EVERY BUSINESS OWNER FACES CHALLENGES. WHAT ARE SOME CHALLENGES YOU FACED OPENING YOUR BUSINESS? Simi Polonsky: “My biggest challenge is maintaining the feeling of confidence in knowing that you should be doing what you are doing. Sometimes fear and doubt can get in the way of putting one foot in front of the other - getting through those feelings is what helps us get through challenges. Trusting in Hashem and knowing that at the end of the day, nothing is in our control, is what really helps us work through the challenges.” J TO WHAT DO YOU ATTRIBUTE YOUR SUCCESS? Chaya Chanin: “We have confidence in each other, and in what we are doing. We do a lot of hard work and focus on perseverance, but most importantly: Hashem is in charge. If we are supposed to be doing what we are doing and do it well, we will.” J WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR OUR READERS? Simi Polonsky: “Don't get too affected by what others may think or say about you. It's important to listen and take others’ opinions into consideration, but most importantly, it's imperative to be yourself, and have trust and confidence in yourself. Honesty and integrity are more important than designing and selling any amount of dresses.” J DO YOU HAVE A BUSINESS MENTOR OR ROLE MODEL? Chaya Chanin: “Role models are everywhere we look. We feel like it’s important to learn from the strengths as well as the mistakes of others, so we are always open to learning and gaining information as well as inspiration from others. We do have a business mentor - we wouldn't be where we are today without her.” J DID YOU TAKE A FORMAL TRAINING PROGRAM SUCH AS A COLLEGE DEGREE OR BUSINESS COURSES BEFORE STARTING YOUR BUSINESS? Simi Polonsky: “I went to fashion school for garment design and construction. All of our clothing are designed and manufactured in NYC; we work closely with manufacturers in Manhattan, which allows us to have quality control over our garments, and by working closely with our pattern makers and manufacturers, we learn more and more about the process of design, giving us the skills to constantly improve what we are doing.” fyi Joseph J Sherman is an Online Marketing Strategist based in Jerusalem. 75 | fyimagazineny.com
Two sisters are revolutionizing fashion by bringing modesty to haute couture  Simi Polonsky and Chaya Chanin  nee Gestetne...
ASK MAURICE ARE YOU SOCIAL? YOUR CLIENTS DEFINITELY ARE. The numbers don’t lie! Facebook has over 1.19 billion users; Instagram has 200 million, and LinkedIn has 300 million users. Not sure how to get started reaching your customers on social media? We integrate our innate understanding of social media with online and traditional marketing strategies to increase brand awareness and drive revenue for your business. Our team of experts will research & position your company, engage with customers through valuable content and interaction, and promote your product or service across mutliple platforms. Contact us today to take the first step: hello@14minds.com • www.14minds.com • 516.590.0073 Dear Maurice, Thanks for your insights; I look forward to them every month. Here is my question: I have a great job as a manager of an office. The problem is that I haven’t gotten a raise in 3 years. I feel like I am getting paid less than my market value for the work I contribute to the company. I discussed this with my boss a few times over the last three years, and his answer was that he would love to give me a raise, but the company can’t afford it at the moment. I really like my job and don’t want to start looking for another job. What’s the best way to convince my boss that it’s about time to give me a raise? Looking forward to your response, An underpaid loyal manager 14MINDS collaborative marketing WHO ARE WE? 14Minds is a team of experienced marketers, collaborating on-demand with 360° marketing for small business. We’ve disrupted and re-imagined the conventional marketing agency by hiring and assigning team members as needed. The end result? You get access to leading industry experts – writers, designers, programmers, digital marketers, and business strategists – who are individually handpicked to collaborate on your project. 76 | fyimagazineny.com Dear underpaid loyal manager, Thanks for asking; this is one of the most asked questions when I work with business owners. It seems that most of them are struggling with the same issue, but from the other side of the coin. A business owner’s focus is on keeping his employees and customers happy, while at the same time being responsible for the cash flow of the company to ensure that there is always enough to pay vendors and employees. And while most business owners would love to keep raising their employees’ pay, they are afraid that they wouldn’t be able to cover the increased overhead. I am not saying this to justify the fact that you haven’t gotten a raise in three years; I am just mentioning it to give you the other side of the story - that for a business owner, it’s very hard to decide to give raises to employees, even when 77 | fyimagazineny.com
ASK MAURICE  ARE YOU SOCIAL  YOUR CLIENTS DEFINITELY ARE. The numbers don   t lie  Facebook has over 1.19 billion users  I...
ASK MAURICE ARE YOU SOCIAL? YOUR CLIENTS DEFINITELY ARE. The numbers don’t lie! Facebook has over 1.19 billion users; Instagram has 200 million, and LinkedIn has 300 million users. Not sure how to get started reaching your customers on social media? We integrate our innate understanding of social media with online and traditional marketing strategies to increase brand awareness and drive revenue for your business. Our team of experts will research & position your company, engage with customers through valuable content and interaction, and promote your product or service across mutliple platforms. Contact us today to take the first step: hello@14minds.com • www.14minds.com • 516.590.0073 Dear Maurice, Thanks for your insights; I look forward to them every month. Here is my question: I have a great job as a manager of an office. The problem is that I haven’t gotten a raise in 3 years. I feel like I am getting paid less than my market value for the work I contribute to the company. I discussed this with my boss a few times over the last three years, and his answer was that he would love to give me a raise, but the company can’t afford it at the moment. I really like my job and don’t want to start looking for another job. What’s the best way to convince my boss that it’s about time to give me a raise? Looking forward to your response, An underpaid loyal manager 14MINDS collaborative marketing WHO ARE WE? 14Minds is a team of experienced marketers, collaborating on-demand with 360° marketing for small business. We’ve disrupted and re-imagined the conventional marketing agency by hiring and assigning team members as needed. The end result? You get access to leading industry experts – writers, designers, programmers, digital marketers, and business strategists – who are individually handpicked to collaborate on your project. 76 | fyimagazineny.com Dear underpaid loyal manager, Thanks for asking; this is one of the most asked questions when I work with business owners. It seems that most of them are struggling with the same issue, but from the other side of the coin. A business owner’s focus is on keeping his employees and customers happy, while at the same time being responsible for the cash flow of the company to ensure that there is always enough to pay vendors and employees. And while most business owners would love to keep raising their employees’ pay, they are afraid that they wouldn’t be able to cover the increased overhead. I am not saying this to justify the fact that you haven’t gotten a raise in three years; I am just mentioning it to give you the other side of the story - that for a business owner, it’s very hard to decide to give raises to employees, even when 77 | fyimagazineny.com
ASK MAURICE  ARE YOU SOCIAL  YOUR CLIENTS DEFINITELY ARE. The numbers don   t lie  Facebook has over 1.19 billion users  I...
ASK MAURICE Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn many struggling businesses around. askmaurice.com he feels they deserve it, because at the end of the day/week, he must cover all of his expenses and make sure the company can handle its constantly increasing overhead. This causes a lot of stress on the owner, and when the employees ask for a raise, he will naturally try to push it off, because of his fear that he can’t afford it. That being said, let’s get back to your question on how to ask for a raise. The best way to ask for a raise is to help your boss justify it by showing him the responsibilities you currently have in the company, and if possible, by taking on new responsibilities which will increase the sales/ profits of the company, thereby justifying him investing more money in you to help him get those results. Most employees ask for a raise either because they are not making enough money to pay their bills, or because they’ve been with the company for a long time and they feel that because of their longevity, they deserve more. However, neither of those are legitimate reasons for an employer to give you a raise, even though it is standard in the business world to give employees raises every year. Most business owners will try to give a small raise every 12 months, but if you want more than that, you have to justify it. The right way to ask for a raise is to think about your responsibilities and contributions to the company, how they affect the bottom line, and then present them to your boss in a professional way, showing him your 78 | fyimagazineny.com value in actual profit to the company. For example, if you can show that you created a system for order processing or for customer service that saves 2 hours a day for the staff, you can prove that you saved the company a lot of money. For 3 staff members getting paid $18 per hour, if will be 250 days per year x 3 employees x 2 hours per day x $18 per hour = $27,000 savings per year. If you can create a list of accomplishments and their value to the company, it will take the conversation to a different level from just asking for a raise. Another thing you can do is set a goal that you will accomplish for the company and ask for a raise or bonus if you achieve it. For example, you can offer to increase sales from existing customers or decrease the overtime hours that your staff is putting in - anything that would increase the company’s profits. As a result, you would like to get a pay increase or bonus. In most cases, you can get more by doing this than by simply asking for a raise. If all of this doesn’t work, it’s probably time to find out how much you are really worth by getting a job offer from another company, which will give you an indication on how much your market value is. Once you get that, you can then decide if you want to use that as a negotiation tool to ask for a raise. fyi IRA $ LTCI $ $ ANNUITY $ COLLEGE FUND PERSONAL FINANCE: Which buckets are right for you? One of the biggest challenges in designing financial programs for individuals, is their individuality. People have different skills, needs, interests, objectives, and current circumstances; personalized financial planning is a micro issue. And every plan is unique. 79 | fyimagazineny.com
ASK MAURICE  Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM...
ASK MAURICE Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn many struggling businesses around. askmaurice.com he feels they deserve it, because at the end of the day/week, he must cover all of his expenses and make sure the company can handle its constantly increasing overhead. This causes a lot of stress on the owner, and when the employees ask for a raise, he will naturally try to push it off, because of his fear that he can’t afford it. That being said, let’s get back to your question on how to ask for a raise. The best way to ask for a raise is to help your boss justify it by showing him the responsibilities you currently have in the company, and if possible, by taking on new responsibilities which will increase the sales/ profits of the company, thereby justifying him investing more money in you to help him get those results. Most employees ask for a raise either because they are not making enough money to pay their bills, or because they’ve been with the company for a long time and they feel that because of their longevity, they deserve more. However, neither of those are legitimate reasons for an employer to give you a raise, even though it is standard in the business world to give employees raises every year. Most business owners will try to give a small raise every 12 months, but if you want more than that, you have to justify it. The right way to ask for a raise is to think about your responsibilities and contributions to the company, how they affect the bottom line, and then present them to your boss in a professional way, showing him your 78 | fyimagazineny.com value in actual profit to the company. For example, if you can show that you created a system for order processing or for customer service that saves 2 hours a day for the staff, you can prove that you saved the company a lot of money. For 3 staff members getting paid $18 per hour, if will be 250 days per year x 3 employees x 2 hours per day x $18 per hour = $27,000 savings per year. If you can create a list of accomplishments and their value to the company, it will take the conversation to a different level from just asking for a raise. Another thing you can do is set a goal that you will accomplish for the company and ask for a raise or bonus if you achieve it. For example, you can offer to increase sales from existing customers or decrease the overtime hours that your staff is putting in - anything that would increase the company’s profits. As a result, you would like to get a pay increase or bonus. In most cases, you can get more by doing this than by simply asking for a raise. If all of this doesn’t work, it’s probably time to find out how much you are really worth by getting a job offer from another company, which will give you an indication on how much your market value is. Once you get that, you can then decide if you want to use that as a negotiation tool to ask for a raise. fyi IRA $ LTCI $ $ ANNUITY $ COLLEGE FUND PERSONAL FINANCE: Which buckets are right for you? One of the biggest challenges in designing financial programs for individuals, is their individuality. People have different skills, needs, interests, objectives, and current circumstances; personalized financial planning is a micro issue. And every plan is unique. 79 | fyimagazineny.com
ASK MAURICE  Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM...
n contrast, governments and financial corporations operate on a macro scale. Their financial perspectives, issues, and strategies are quite different from individuals’. Institutions don’t interface with individuals in a one-on-one format; their relationships are shaped by demographics and transactions with large numbers of people. So how do institutions shape their programs, products, and services to respond to individual needs and preferences? Governments use statistics to classify groups of citizens, then address the perceived needs of the group. In some instances, this results in a change in tax policies (allowing or eliminating deductions), or the creation of new programs (IRAs, Pell Grants, etc.). The ability to use these benefits may be prohibited by income levels or some other broad metric, which narrows the range of citizens who can benefit from these changes. But though it is narrowed down, the approach is decidedly macro. The macro response to individuality by financial institutions is to offer more options, and recommend participation in everything, or at least as many things as your budget allows. Instead of saying only a subset of Americans are eligible for a special plan, they attempt to make many financial products and services available to everyone. You could call this a “bucket approach” to personal finance – because that’s what the financial institutions call it. The bucket approach seems simple: if you can cover all the financial bases – for insurance, retirement, healthcare, etc. – you should be safe. But the bucket approach is often impractical and inefficient for most Americans. Unless one has unlimited resources, it is hard to fully fund everything. In fact, Americans today have less real income available for meeting long-term financial objectives than 10 years ago. According to The Wall Street Journal, on September 16, 2014, the Census Bureau reported that the 2013 median household income of $51,939 was 8% below its pre-recession level. Following the same track, a July 2014 survey published in USA Today determined that “living the American Dream” required an annual income of at least $130,000. If the median income is $51,939, and the American Dream requires $130,000, do you think there will be enough money to fill every bucket? The American Dream scenario consists of only two 80 | fyimagazineny.com savings components: a maximum contribution of $17,500 to a 401(k) and $5,000 allocated to two accounts for college savings. But if these two financial deposits consume almost 25% of one’s after-tax income, what’s left to ensure human life value, finance a home remodeling, plan for long-term care, build emergency cash reserves, and leave an inheritance? And if you can’t fill all the buckets, which ones will have to be neglected? Further, what happens if USA Today’s hypothetical family of four has to relocate because of a job loss, decides to start a business, or includes children who don’t want a college education? It might be cost-prohibitive to liquidate either the 401(k) or the college savings accounts. Given the wide range of unknowns and the likelihood of change, it’s probable that narrowly focused financial decisions (i.e. “buckets” of narrowly focused financial products or strategies) will inevitably deliver less-than-optimal results. Is “better than nothing” a good measuring stick? Promoters of the bucket approach to personal finance will often concede its drawbacks; however, they contend that the value of the bucket approach is motivating people to take action, and doing something is better than doing nothing. There is psychological satisfaction in taking action to address a concern; in most circumstances, being proactive is better than doing nothing. Most of the time, any decision to save or insure, will yield positive results. However, what if doing “something” gets in the way of doing something better? Psychologically and financially, someone who has filled his life insurance bucket with term insurance and his retirement bucket with a 401(k) may not be receptive to considering alternatives. “I’m all set. I’ve got the buckets!” Having a lot of buckets (or even a few buckets selected haphazardly) and attempting to fill most of them is not really a coordinated plan. It’s just a bunch of buckets. The successful use of financial instruments comes not from simply owning these products, but in determining which ones are selected, and how they fit within the parameters of your current circumstances and objectives. Not every product is suitable for every person. You can’t expect that having a lot of buckets will in itself, lead to financial success. Additionally, many buckets come with restrictions on contributions and/or distributions; you can only add so much, and you can withdraw only under certain circumstances. So even if the particular bucket delivers some benefit, its value is finite; you may not be able to get more of what’s good for you. A “Better” Bucket Method: financial progress doesn’t require a lot of buckets. You need the right ones, filled to the brim, with the option to pour over into other buckets as future circumstances permit. One or two large, multi-purpose accumulation buckets, whose use can be determined at a later date, are usually more efficient and valuable than multiple, narrowly focused and underfunded accounts. The essence of efficient planning is not striving for higher returns, but eliminating actions that deliver minimal benefits. The savings that result from your financial decisions should directly and indirectly boost overall performance. Consult your professional resources to identify the buckets appropriate for your situation, and determine ways to maximize their value. You probably can’t fill them all, but you should fill the ones that deliver the greatest benefits. fyi Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicated his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com 81 | fyimagazineny.com COLLEGE FUND LTCI IRA ANNUITY College funding? Fill a 529 bucket Worried that end-of-life expenses might impoverish a surviving spouse? Try a LongTerm-Care bucket Concerned about retirement? Here’s a bucket called IRA Want guaranteed income for life? Find an annuity bucket to supplement Social Security
n contrast, governments and financial corporations operate on a macro scale. Their financial perspectives, issues, and str...
n contrast, governments and financial corporations operate on a macro scale. Their financial perspectives, issues, and strategies are quite different from individuals’. Institutions don’t interface with individuals in a one-on-one format; their relationships are shaped by demographics and transactions with large numbers of people. So how do institutions shape their programs, products, and services to respond to individual needs and preferences? Governments use statistics to classify groups of citizens, then address the perceived needs of the group. In some instances, this results in a change in tax policies (allowing or eliminating deductions), or the creation of new programs (IRAs, Pell Grants, etc.). The ability to use these benefits may be prohibited by income levels or some other broad metric, which narrows the range of citizens who can benefit from these changes. But though it is narrowed down, the approach is decidedly macro. The macro response to individuality by financial institutions is to offer more options, and recommend participation in everything, or at least as many things as your budget allows. Instead of saying only a subset of Americans are eligible for a special plan, they attempt to make many financial products and services available to everyone. You could call this a “bucket approach” to personal finance – because that’s what the financial institutions call it. The bucket approach seems simple: if you can cover all the financial bases – for insurance, retirement, healthcare, etc. – you should be safe. But the bucket approach is often impractical and inefficient for most Americans. Unless one has unlimited resources, it is hard to fully fund everything. In fact, Americans today have less real income available for meeting long-term financial objectives than 10 years ago. According to The Wall Street Journal, on September 16, 2014, the Census Bureau reported that the 2013 median household income of $51,939 was 8% below its pre-recession level. Following the same track, a July 2014 survey published in USA Today determined that “living the American Dream” required an annual income of at least $130,000. If the median income is $51,939, and the American Dream requires $130,000, do you think there will be enough money to fill every bucket? The American Dream scenario consists of only two 80 | fyimagazineny.com savings components: a maximum contribution of $17,500 to a 401(k) and $5,000 allocated to two accounts for college savings. But if these two financial deposits consume almost 25% of one’s after-tax income, what’s left to ensure human life value, finance a home remodeling, plan for long-term care, build emergency cash reserves, and leave an inheritance? And if you can’t fill all the buckets, which ones will have to be neglected? Further, what happens if USA Today’s hypothetical family of four has to relocate because of a job loss, decides to start a business, or includes children who don’t want a college education? It might be cost-prohibitive to liquidate either the 401(k) or the college savings accounts. Given the wide range of unknowns and the likelihood of change, it’s probable that narrowly focused financial decisions (i.e. “buckets” of narrowly focused financial products or strategies) will inevitably deliver less-than-optimal results. Is “better than nothing” a good measuring stick? Promoters of the bucket approach to personal finance will often concede its drawbacks; however, they contend that the value of the bucket approach is motivating people to take action, and doing something is better than doing nothing. There is psychological satisfaction in taking action to address a concern; in most circumstances, being proactive is better than doing nothing. Most of the time, any decision to save or insure, will yield positive results. However, what if doing “something” gets in the way of doing something better? Psychologically and financially, someone who has filled his life insurance bucket with term insurance and his retirement bucket with a 401(k) may not be receptive to considering alternatives. “I’m all set. I’ve got the buckets!” Having a lot of buckets (or even a few buckets selected haphazardly) and attempting to fill most of them is not really a coordinated plan. It’s just a bunch of buckets. The successful use of financial instruments comes not from simply owning these products, but in determining which ones are selected, and how they fit within the parameters of your current circumstances and objectives. Not every product is suitable for every person. You can’t expect that having a lot of buckets will in itself, lead to financial success. Additionally, many buckets come with restrictions on contributions and/or distributions; you can only add so much, and you can withdraw only under certain circumstances. So even if the particular bucket delivers some benefit, its value is finite; you may not be able to get more of what’s good for you. A “Better” Bucket Method: financial progress doesn’t require a lot of buckets. You need the right ones, filled to the brim, with the option to pour over into other buckets as future circumstances permit. One or two large, multi-purpose accumulation buckets, whose use can be determined at a later date, are usually more efficient and valuable than multiple, narrowly focused and underfunded accounts. The essence of efficient planning is not striving for higher returns, but eliminating actions that deliver minimal benefits. The savings that result from your financial decisions should directly and indirectly boost overall performance. Consult your professional resources to identify the buckets appropriate for your situation, and determine ways to maximize their value. You probably can’t fill them all, but you should fill the ones that deliver the greatest benefits. fyi Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicated his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com 81 | fyimagazineny.com COLLEGE FUND LTCI IRA ANNUITY College funding? Fill a 529 bucket Worried that end-of-life expenses might impoverish a surviving spouse? Try a LongTerm-Care bucket Concerned about retirement? Here’s a bucket called IRA Want guaranteed income for life? Find an annuity bucket to supplement Social Security
n contrast, governments and financial corporations operate on a macro scale. Their financial perspectives, issues, and str...
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Kale Parmesan Soup Butternut Squash and Chickpea Soup COOKING IN HEELS | SHOSHANA TURIN To me, this recipe is equivalent to stone soup, where you take basically nothing and make something incredible! I absolutely love Parmesan cheese. I think it takes any dish to a whole new level - I'm talking about the real one, not the grated one that comes in a bottle. Here, we see a whole new face of Parmesan where its beautiful deep flavor pairs perfectly with the sweet caramel onions and the crunchy kale. Prepare to surprise yourself by seeing how something so simple can be so delicious! THE BEE’S KITCHEN | SABRINA OVADIA This recipe features very few ingredients and constitutes one of my fall favorite soups. Butternut squash combined with chickpeas creates the perfect creamy soup for a cold winter night. The taste is enhanced by cinnamon, which brings the final touch. 1 can chickpeas 1 teaspoon salt and pepper 2 tablespoons cinnamon 1 teaspoon turmeric 1 teaspoon olive oil IN A LARGE POT, heat the olive oil. Saute the butternut squash and the chickpeas for a few minutes, and cover with water. ADD THE SPICES and let simmer for about 45 min. ONCE IT'S READY, put everything in a food processor and pulse until everything is liquid. SPRINKLE some extra cinnamon on top. 84 | fyimagazineny.com 2 large onions, diced 6 cloves garlic, peeled and diced 12 cups water 1 8-oz block of Parmesan cheese PHOTOS BY SHEVY GROSS 1 butternut squash, peeled and cut in small chunks 2 cans white beans, drained and rinsed 1 bunch kale (preferably dinosaur), cut into ribbons IN A LARGE POT, sauté the onions and some salt to taste over medium heat until light brown, for about 10 minutes. Add the garlic and continue to sauté until the onions are golden. Please keep a watchful eye. Burnt onions will impart a flavor to the soup that just doesn't work here. POUR IN the water. TIE THE PARMESAN in a cheesecloth and add it to the soup. BRING THE SOUP to a boil and then lower the heat to a simmer. Allow it to simmer for at least an hour. The broth should be a creamy white-beige color. REMOVE the Parmesan and add in the beans and kale. Simmer for 10 minutes or until the beans and kale are warmed through. SPRINKLE WITH salt and pepper to taste (Do not skip this step; it really brings out the wonderful depth of the soup). Serve with a toasted baguette and a sprinkle of Parmesan on top if desired Salt and freshly-grated black pepper to taste 85 | fyimagazineny.com
Kale Parmesan Soup  Butternut Squash and Chickpea Soup  COOKING IN HEELS   SHOSHANA TURIN To me, this recipe is equivalent...
Kale Parmesan Soup Butternut Squash and Chickpea Soup COOKING IN HEELS | SHOSHANA TURIN To me, this recipe is equivalent to stone soup, where you take basically nothing and make something incredible! I absolutely love Parmesan cheese. I think it takes any dish to a whole new level - I'm talking about the real one, not the grated one that comes in a bottle. Here, we see a whole new face of Parmesan where its beautiful deep flavor pairs perfectly with the sweet caramel onions and the crunchy kale. Prepare to surprise yourself by seeing how something so simple can be so delicious! THE BEE’S KITCHEN | SABRINA OVADIA This recipe features very few ingredients and constitutes one of my fall favorite soups. Butternut squash combined with chickpeas creates the perfect creamy soup for a cold winter night. The taste is enhanced by cinnamon, which brings the final touch. 1 can chickpeas 1 teaspoon salt and pepper 2 tablespoons cinnamon 1 teaspoon turmeric 1 teaspoon olive oil IN A LARGE POT, heat the olive oil. Saute the butternut squash and the chickpeas for a few minutes, and cover with water. ADD THE SPICES and let simmer for about 45 min. ONCE IT'S READY, put everything in a food processor and pulse until everything is liquid. SPRINKLE some extra cinnamon on top. 84 | fyimagazineny.com 2 large onions, diced 6 cloves garlic, peeled and diced 12 cups water 1 8-oz block of Parmesan cheese PHOTOS BY SHEVY GROSS 1 butternut squash, peeled and cut in small chunks 2 cans white beans, drained and rinsed 1 bunch kale (preferably dinosaur), cut into ribbons IN A LARGE POT, sauté the onions and some salt to taste over medium heat until light brown, for about 10 minutes. Add the garlic and continue to sauté until the onions are golden. Please keep a watchful eye. Burnt onions will impart a flavor to the soup that just doesn't work here. POUR IN the water. TIE THE PARMESAN in a cheesecloth and add it to the soup. BRING THE SOUP to a boil and then lower the heat to a simmer. Allow it to simmer for at least an hour. The broth should be a creamy white-beige color. REMOVE the Parmesan and add in the beans and kale. Simmer for 10 minutes or until the beans and kale are warmed through. SPRINKLE WITH salt and pepper to taste (Do not skip this step; it really brings out the wonderful depth of the soup). Serve with a toasted baguette and a sprinkle of Parmesan on top if desired Salt and freshly-grated black pepper to taste 85 | fyimagazineny.com
Kale Parmesan Soup  Butternut Squash and Chickpea Soup  COOKING IN HEELS   SHOSHANA TURIN To me, this recipe is equivalent...
3 Quick Breakfasts THAT ARE TASTIER THAN CEREAL Creamy Asparagus-Basil Soup DINI DELIVERS | DINI KLEIN Breakfast has long been revered as the most important meal of the day and nothing is quicker than a bowl of cereal. We get that mornings are hectic; that’s why all these recipes are super-quick, or can be prepared the night before. When I make soup, I want to throw a few simple ingredients into a pot, cover it, and eat it shortly after. This soup is fresh, beautifully colored, easy to make, and requires only 5 ingredients. Frozen peas can be subbed for the asparagus for an equally delicious flavor. It's a winner every time! 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock What’s better than a guilt-free healthy muffin (or two) with coffee, to start your day? Made with no flour or oil, and packed with oats, yogurt and bananas, these muffins make a deliciously healthy breakfast or snack! These stay fresh in an air-tight container for up to a week. 2 pounds asparagus, cut into 1-inch pieces 1 cup plain or vanilla Greek yogurt 1 cup fresh chopped basil 2 ripe bananas salt and pepper to taste 2 eggs 3 tablespoons olive oil 1 large onion, diced 2 cups rolled oats (old fashioned or quick-cooking) IN A LARGE POT, heat the olive oil on medium-high heat and sauté onion until translucent. ADD THE STOCK , a asparagus, and basil. BRING TO A BOIL, cover, and simmer for another 20 minutes. USING AN immersion blender, puree soup until smooth and creamy. SEASON with salt and pepper to taste. 86 | fyimagazineny.com ¼ cup brown sugar 1 ½ teaspoon baking powder ½ teaspoon baking soda ½ cup chocolate chips (mini or regular) 1. Banana Oat Greek Yogurt Muffins PREHEAT oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit. Prepare muffin tins by spraying well with cooking spray. ADD all ingredients except chocolate chips to a blender or food processer and blend on high till the oats are broken down and batter is smooth and creamy. Stir in chocolate chips with spoon. POUR the batter into the prepared muffin tins, filling each about ¾ full. BAKE for 15-20 minutes until the tops of your muffins are set and toothpick inserted comes out clean. ALLOW muffins to cool in pan for 10 minutes before removing. YIELD: 12 MUFFINS
3 Quick Breakfasts  THAT ARE TASTIER THAN CEREAL Creamy Asparagus-Basil Soup DINI DELIVERS   DINI KLEIN  Breakfast has lon...
3 Quick Breakfasts THAT ARE TASTIER THAN CEREAL Creamy Asparagus-Basil Soup DINI DELIVERS | DINI KLEIN Breakfast has long been revered as the most important meal of the day and nothing is quicker than a bowl of cereal. We get that mornings are hectic; that’s why all these recipes are super-quick, or can be prepared the night before. When I make soup, I want to throw a few simple ingredients into a pot, cover it, and eat it shortly after. This soup is fresh, beautifully colored, easy to make, and requires only 5 ingredients. Frozen peas can be subbed for the asparagus for an equally delicious flavor. It's a winner every time! 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock What’s better than a guilt-free healthy muffin (or two) with coffee, to start your day? Made with no flour or oil, and packed with oats, yogurt and bananas, these muffins make a deliciously healthy breakfast or snack! These stay fresh in an air-tight container for up to a week. 2 pounds asparagus, cut into 1-inch pieces 1 cup plain or vanilla Greek yogurt 1 cup fresh chopped basil 2 ripe bananas salt and pepper to taste 2 eggs 3 tablespoons olive oil 1 large onion, diced 2 cups rolled oats (old fashioned or quick-cooking) IN A LARGE POT, heat the olive oil on medium-high heat and sauté onion until translucent. ADD THE STOCK , a asparagus, and basil. BRING TO A BOIL, cover, and simmer for another 20 minutes. USING AN immersion blender, puree soup until smooth and creamy. SEASON with salt and pepper to taste. 86 | fyimagazineny.com ¼ cup brown sugar 1 ½ teaspoon baking powder ½ teaspoon baking soda ½ cup chocolate chips (mini or regular) 1. Banana Oat Greek Yogurt Muffins PREHEAT oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit. Prepare muffin tins by spraying well with cooking spray. ADD all ingredients except chocolate chips to a blender or food processer and blend on high till the oats are broken down and batter is smooth and creamy. Stir in chocolate chips with spoon. POUR the batter into the prepared muffin tins, filling each about ¾ full. BAKE for 15-20 minutes until the tops of your muffins are set and toothpick inserted comes out clean. ALLOW muffins to cool in pan for 10 minutes before removing. YIELD: 12 MUFFINS
3 Quick Breakfasts  THAT ARE TASTIER THAN CEREAL Creamy Asparagus-Basil Soup DINI DELIVERS   DINI KLEIN  Breakfast has lon...
CLIP & SAVE 3. Creamsicle Smoothie Smoothies are king. Now you’ll have a quick, grab-ngo breakfast in the morning. This smoothie is protein-packed, filling, and absolutely delicious! 1 ½ cups (frozen) mango chunks ½ cup milk 1 cup vanilla Greek yogurt ¾ cup orange juice 2. Fluffy Chocolate Chip Pancakes Pancakes are always a treat when fresh off the griddle, but if refrigerated correctly, they are great a day or two later as well. Store the ready pancakes in a large plastic container in the fridge. Reheat them in the morning, in the oven or microwave, or enjoy at room temperature. And don’t forget your favorite maple syrup drizzled on top! 1 ½ cups flour 1 Teaspoon salt 1 Tablespoon white sugar 3 Tablespoons butter, melted 1 ¼ cups milk 1 egg ½ cup mini chocolate chips IN A large bowl, sift together the flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar. Make a well in the center and pour in the milk, egg and melted butter; mix until smooth. Once the batter is smooth, add in chocolate chips. HEAT a lightly oiled griddle or frying pan over medium high heat. POUR or scoop the batter onto the griddle, using approximately 1/4 cup for each pancake. BROWN on both sides and serve hot. YIELDS: APPROX 8 SERVINGS SIMPLY place all ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth and creamy. YIELDS: 2 SERVINGS 1 butternut squash, IN A LARGE POT, heat peeled and cut in the olive oil. Saute the small chunks butternut squash and the chickpeas for a few 1 can chickpeas minutes, and cover with 1 teaspoon salt and water. pepper ADD THE SPICES and let Butternut Squash and Chickpea Soup 2 tablespoons simmer for about 45 min. cinnamon ONCE IT'S READY, put everything in a food 1 teaspoon processor and pulse until turmeric everything is liquid. 1 teaspoon olive oil SPRINKLE some extra cinnamon on top. Kale Parmesan Soup 2 large onions, diced 6 cloves garlic, peeled and diced 12 cups water 1 8-oz block of Parmesan cheese 2 cans white beans, drained and rinsed 1 bunch kale (preferably dinosaur), cut into ribbons Salt and freshly-grated black pepper to taste IN A LARGE POT, sauté the onions and some salt to taste over medium heat until light brown, for about 10 minutes. Add the garlic and continue to sauté until the onions are golden. Please keep a watchful eye. Burnt onions will impart a flavor to the soup that just doesn't work here. POUR IN the water. TIE THE PARMESAN in a cheesecloth and add it to the soup. BRING THE SOUP to a boil and then lower the heat to a simmer. Allow it to simmer for at least an hour. The broth should be a creamy white-beige color. REMOVE the Parmesan and add in the beans and kale. SIMMER FOR 10 MINUTEs or until the beans and kale are warmed through. SPRINKLE WITH salt and pepper to taste (Do not skip this step; it really brings out the wonderful depth of the soup). Serve with a toasted baguette and a sprinkle of Parmesan on top if desired 3 tablespoons olive oil 1 large onion, diced 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock 2 pounds asparagus, cut into 1-inch pieces 1 cup fresh chopped basil salt and pepper to taste Creamy Asparagus-basil soup 89 | fyimagazineny.com IN A LARGE POT, heat the olive oil on medium-high heat and sauté onion until translucent. ADD THE STOCK, a asparagus, and basil. BRING TO A BOIL, cover, and simmer for another 20 minutes. USING AN immersion blender, puree soup until smooth and creamy. SEASON with salt and pepper to taste.
CLIP   SAVE  3. Creamsicle Smoothie Smoothies are king. Now you   ll have a quick, grab-ngo breakfast in the morning. This...
CLIP & SAVE 3. Creamsicle Smoothie Smoothies are king. Now you’ll have a quick, grab-ngo breakfast in the morning. This smoothie is protein-packed, filling, and absolutely delicious! 1 ½ cups (frozen) mango chunks ½ cup milk 1 cup vanilla Greek yogurt ¾ cup orange juice 2. Fluffy Chocolate Chip Pancakes Pancakes are always a treat when fresh off the griddle, but if refrigerated correctly, they are great a day or two later as well. Store the ready pancakes in a large plastic container in the fridge. Reheat them in the morning, in the oven or microwave, or enjoy at room temperature. And don’t forget your favorite maple syrup drizzled on top! 1 ½ cups flour 1 Teaspoon salt 1 Tablespoon white sugar 3 Tablespoons butter, melted 1 ¼ cups milk 1 egg ½ cup mini chocolate chips IN A large bowl, sift together the flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar. Make a well in the center and pour in the milk, egg and melted butter; mix until smooth. Once the batter is smooth, add in chocolate chips. HEAT a lightly oiled griddle or frying pan over medium high heat. POUR or scoop the batter onto the griddle, using approximately 1/4 cup for each pancake. BROWN on both sides and serve hot. YIELDS: APPROX 8 SERVINGS SIMPLY place all ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth and creamy. YIELDS: 2 SERVINGS 1 butternut squash, IN A LARGE POT, heat peeled and cut in the olive oil. Saute the small chunks butternut squash and the chickpeas for a few 1 can chickpeas minutes, and cover with 1 teaspoon salt and water. pepper ADD THE SPICES and let Butternut Squash and Chickpea Soup 2 tablespoons simmer for about 45 min. cinnamon ONCE IT'S READY, put everything in a food 1 teaspoon processor and pulse until turmeric everything is liquid. 1 teaspoon olive oil SPRINKLE some extra cinnamon on top. Kale Parmesan Soup 2 large onions, diced 6 cloves garlic, peeled and diced 12 cups water 1 8-oz block of Parmesan cheese 2 cans white beans, drained and rinsed 1 bunch kale (preferably dinosaur), cut into ribbons Salt and freshly-grated black pepper to taste IN A LARGE POT, sauté the onions and some salt to taste over medium heat until light brown, for about 10 minutes. Add the garlic and continue to sauté until the onions are golden. Please keep a watchful eye. Burnt onions will impart a flavor to the soup that just doesn't work here. POUR IN the water. TIE THE PARMESAN in a cheesecloth and add it to the soup. BRING THE SOUP to a boil and then lower the heat to a simmer. Allow it to simmer for at least an hour. The broth should be a creamy white-beige color. REMOVE the Parmesan and add in the beans and kale. SIMMER FOR 10 MINUTEs or until the beans and kale are warmed through. SPRINKLE WITH salt and pepper to taste (Do not skip this step; it really brings out the wonderful depth of the soup). Serve with a toasted baguette and a sprinkle of Parmesan on top if desired 3 tablespoons olive oil 1 large onion, diced 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock 2 pounds asparagus, cut into 1-inch pieces 1 cup fresh chopped basil salt and pepper to taste Creamy Asparagus-basil soup 89 | fyimagazineny.com IN A LARGE POT, heat the olive oil on medium-high heat and sauté onion until translucent. ADD THE STOCK, a asparagus, and basil. BRING TO A BOIL, cover, and simmer for another 20 minutes. USING AN immersion blender, puree soup until smooth and creamy. SEASON with salt and pepper to taste.
CLIP   SAVE  3. Creamsicle Smoothie Smoothies are king. Now you   ll have a quick, grab-ngo breakfast in the morning. This...
CLIP & SAVE Creamsicle Smoothie 1 ½ cups (frozen) mango chunks ½ cup milk DIRECTIONS: Simply place all ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth and creamy. 1 cup vanilla Greek yogurt ¾ cup orange juice YIELD: 2 SERVINGS Banana Oat Greek Yogurt Muffins 1 cup plain or vanilla Greek yogurt 2 ripe bananas 2 eggs 2 cups rolled oats (old fashioned or quick-cooking) ¼ cup brown sugar 1 ½ teaspoon baking powder ½ teaspoon baking soda ½ cup chocolate chips (mini or regular) DIRECTIONS: Preheat oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit. Prepare muffin tins by spraying well with cooking spray. Add all ingredients except chocolate chips to a blender or food processer and blend on high till the oats are broken down and batter is smooth and creamy. Stir in chocolate chips with spoon. Pour the batter into the prepared muffin tins, filling each about ¾ full. Bake for 15-20 minutes until the tops of your muffins are set and toothpick inserted comes out clean. Allow muffins to cool in pan for 10 minutes before removing. YIELD: 12 MUFFINS Fluffy Chocolate Chip Pancakes 1 ½ cups flour 1 tsp. salt 1 Tbsp. white sugar 3 Tbsp. butter, melted 1 ¼ cups milk 1 egg ½ cup mini chocolate chips 90 | fyimagazineny.com DIRECTIONS: In a large bowl, sift together the flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar. Make a well in the center and pour in the milk, egg and melted butter; mix until smooth. Once the batter is smooth, add in chocolate chips. Heat a lightly oiled griddle or frying pan over medium high heat. Pour or scoop the batter onto the griddle, using approximately 1/4 cup for each pancake. Brown on both sides and serve hot. YIELD: APPROX 8 SERVINGS Gift GUIDE The Ultimate Chanukah Early-bird It pays to be a little early with Chanukah gift shopping. You can search for the best prices and get what each person will appreciate. We’ve brought you our top-rated Chanukah gifts for the men, women, and children in your life.
CLIP   SAVE  Creamsicle Smoothie  1    cups  frozen  mango chunks    cup milk  DIRECTIONS  Simply place all ingredients in...
CLIP & SAVE Creamsicle Smoothie 1 ½ cups (frozen) mango chunks ½ cup milk DIRECTIONS: Simply place all ingredients in a blender and blend until smooth and creamy. 1 cup vanilla Greek yogurt ¾ cup orange juice YIELD: 2 SERVINGS Banana Oat Greek Yogurt Muffins 1 cup plain or vanilla Greek yogurt 2 ripe bananas 2 eggs 2 cups rolled oats (old fashioned or quick-cooking) ¼ cup brown sugar 1 ½ teaspoon baking powder ½ teaspoon baking soda ½ cup chocolate chips (mini or regular) DIRECTIONS: Preheat oven to 400 degrees Fahrenheit. Prepare muffin tins by spraying well with cooking spray. Add all ingredients except chocolate chips to a blender or food processer and blend on high till the oats are broken down and batter is smooth and creamy. Stir in chocolate chips with spoon. Pour the batter into the prepared muffin tins, filling each about ¾ full. Bake for 15-20 minutes until the tops of your muffins are set and toothpick inserted comes out clean. Allow muffins to cool in pan for 10 minutes before removing. YIELD: 12 MUFFINS Fluffy Chocolate Chip Pancakes 1 ½ cups flour 1 tsp. salt 1 Tbsp. white sugar 3 Tbsp. butter, melted 1 ¼ cups milk 1 egg ½ cup mini chocolate chips 90 | fyimagazineny.com DIRECTIONS: In a large bowl, sift together the flour, baking powder, salt, and sugar. Make a well in the center and pour in the milk, egg and melted butter; mix until smooth. Once the batter is smooth, add in chocolate chips. Heat a lightly oiled griddle or frying pan over medium high heat. Pour or scoop the batter onto the griddle, using approximately 1/4 cup for each pancake. Brown on both sides and serve hot. YIELD: APPROX 8 SERVINGS Gift GUIDE The Ultimate Chanukah Early-bird It pays to be a little early with Chanukah gift shopping. You can search for the best prices and get what each person will appreciate. We’ve brought you our top-rated Chanukah gifts for the men, women, and children in your life.
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KEEP FACE! ANTI-AGING SKIN CARE TIPS WRITTEN BY DEBBIE BURRACK WITH EACH PASSING YEAR, most women notice that their skin loses luster. As you pass into your 30's and 40's, your face may feel rough and dry, as oil glands secrete less moisture. Ruddy patches, fine wrinkles and pimply bumps may also make their debuts. Take heart: while nobody escapes the grand ticking clock, you can control some of the effects of aging on your skin. Many factors have the greatest impact on how facial skin ages. While genetics are to blame for 20-30%, the rest is determined primarily by environ mental agents, such as stress, diet, smoking, and sun exposure. Proper lifestyle choices can help your skin glow against the tests of time. Eat nutritiously (yes, junk food has a bad effect!), reduce stress to reduce worry lines, don’t smoke, and protect your skin from the sun. SHUN THE SUN Hands-down, all contemporary, responsible reports about proper skin care begin by shouting out the importance of sunscreen. According to a 2013 scientific study, it is estimated that 80% of skin changes due to aging are the result of exposure to ultraviolet light. As the sun’s rays blaze upon you, UV light damages skin fibers called elastin. Over time this causes skin to wrinkle, stretch and sag, bruise more easily and heal more slowly. Keep in mind that sun damage is cumulative. Even if it doesn’t appear in the short term, it will emerge later in life. With no way to completely reverse the impact, it’s much easier to prevent unsightly effects than to erase them later. ❡ Experts at the American Academy of Dermatology (AAD) advise everyone to apply a thick layer of broad spectrum, water-resistant sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or more. When outdoors, reapply 96 | fyimagazineny.com every two hours. Is the sunscreen contained in your makeup and moisturizer good enough? Eve Finkelstein, MB, BS, FACD, Dermatologist and Dermatologic Surgeon in Israel, says not to count on it. Finkelstein explains, “Even when makeup and creams contain 30 SPF sunscreen, people generally don’t apply a thick enough layer for it to be effective. That’s why I always recommend purchasing a good broad-spectrum, oil-free sunscreen, which blocks UVA and UVB rays… and oil-free
KEEP FACE   ANTI-AGING SKIN CARE TIPS WRITTEN BY DEBBIE BURRACK  WITH EACH PASSING YEAR, most women notice that their skin...
KEEP FACE! ANTI-AGING SKIN CARE TIPS WRITTEN BY DEBBIE BURRACK WITH EACH PASSING YEAR, most women notice that their skin loses luster. As you pass into your 30's and 40's, your face may feel rough and dry, as oil glands secrete less moisture. Ruddy patches, fine wrinkles and pimply bumps may also make their debuts. Take heart: while nobody escapes the grand ticking clock, you can control some of the effects of aging on your skin. Many factors have the greatest impact on how facial skin ages. While genetics are to blame for 20-30%, the rest is determined primarily by environ mental agents, such as stress, diet, smoking, and sun exposure. Proper lifestyle choices can help your skin glow against the tests of time. Eat nutritiously (yes, junk food has a bad effect!), reduce stress to reduce worry lines, don’t smoke, and protect your skin from the sun. SHUN THE SUN Hands-down, all contemporary, responsible reports about proper skin care begin by shouting out the importance of sunscreen. According to a 2013 scientific study, it is estimated that 80% of skin changes due to aging are the result of exposure to ultraviolet light. As the sun’s rays blaze upon you, UV light damages skin fibers called elastin. Over time this causes skin to wrinkle, stretch and sag, bruise more easily and heal more slowly. Keep in mind that sun damage is cumulative. Even if it doesn’t appear in the short term, it will emerge later in life. With no way to completely reverse the impact, it’s much easier to prevent unsightly effects than to erase them later. ❡ Experts at the American Academy of Dermatology (AAD) advise everyone to apply a thick layer of broad spectrum, water-resistant sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or more. When outdoors, reapply 96 | fyimagazineny.com every two hours. Is the sunscreen contained in your makeup and moisturizer good enough? Eve Finkelstein, MB, BS, FACD, Dermatologist and Dermatologic Surgeon in Israel, says not to count on it. Finkelstein explains, “Even when makeup and creams contain 30 SPF sunscreen, people generally don’t apply a thick enough layer for it to be effective. That’s why I always recommend purchasing a good broad-spectrum, oil-free sunscreen, which blocks UVA and UVB rays… and oil-free
KEEP FACE   ANTI-AGING SKIN CARE TIPS WRITTEN BY DEBBIE BURRACK  WITH EACH PASSING YEAR, most women notice that their skin...
helps avoid acne.” KEEPING CLEAN If sunscreen is your first line of defense, cleaning your skin properly is the second tactic. What’s the best soap to lather up? Dermatologists assert that it doesn’t matter whether you’re a department store diva or a drugstore deal addict. Plain plastic pump or sculpted glass bottle, the same basic ingredients are inside most soap. Finkelstein admits that she uses one no-frills cleanser for body and face. “When it comes to cleaning power, expensive soaps simply do a better job at cleaning out your pocket!” she adds. A general guideline is to avoid bar soaps on your face, as they often contain harsh ingredients that can dehydrate and irritate, such as sodium lauryl sulfate. Liquid or foaming cleansers are preferred. AAD recommendations stress the importance of knowing your skin type. If you have oily skin, buy cleansers made for oily skin, and the same obviously goes for dry or sensitive skin. TO SCRUB OR NOT TO SCRUB? Hang your fancy pouf out to dry! Use a soft washcloth if you must, but simple fingertips are even better. According to Nanette Silverberg, MD, a dermatology professor at Columbia University, the friction of scrubbing skin strips away your natural, glowing moisture. Silver- berg advises gently rubbing on an exfoliating cleanser with your fingers. Aging and sun damage cause the stratum corneum, the outermost layer of skin cells, to stop dividing and shedding normally. Instead, these cells stick stubbornly and fog up the luscious gleam of your skin. Regular, gentle exfoliation, no more than twice a week, can help cast these dead cells aside. It generates a more even, radiant look and allows moisturizers to penetrate deeper. The key word here is “gentle,” as your goal is not to strip away layers of healthy, protective cells. REJUVENATE WITH MOISTURE Although your body was designed with its own mechanism to keep skin naturally welloiled, these gears slow down as you get older. Moisturizer is needed to fortify dry skin and help prevent further transdermal water loss. After sunscreen, the AAD cites moisturizer as the most effective anti-aging tool. It plumps up the skin, temporarily reducing lines and wrinkles. In fact, dermatologists claim that classic moisturizers are really the “secret ingredients” in many costly anti-aging products! It’s tricky to choose a moisturizer from the plethora of products on the market, ranging from old-fashioned petroleum jelly to perfumed, designer compounds. Knowing the basic jargon is helpful: emollients soothe skin, and humectants hold in moisture. By definition, a good, rich moisturizer offers a combo of emollients and humectants, which work together to replenish the body’s natural moisture barrier. Finkelstein advises that how you feel should guide you to the moisturizer that’s right for you. Pick what appeals to you and hone in on the sensation. Does it feel too heavy? Does it leave your skin supple and smooth, or greasy and uncomfortable? There is no ultimate cream. In addition to hydrating with a regular lotion, eye creams are a good investment, says dermatologist Patricia Farris, MD, clinical associate professor at Tulane University School of Medicine. Your eyes are encircled by very thin and delicate skin, and eye creams are formulated to target this area. With more oil than facial creams, they also contain beneficial ingredients such as neuropeptides to stimulate collagen production, and caffeine to boost circulation and reduce puffy bags and dark circles. CHEMICAL PEELS While they’ve received a lot of recent attention, 98 | fyimagazineny.com chemical peels with alpha hydroxy acids (AHA) have been around since antiquity, with historical accounts of Cleopatra bathing in lactic acid. Derived from milk and fruit sugars, the most common AHAs are lactic acid and glycolic acid. Able to penetrate deep, AHAs unglue dead skin cells and make room for skin to regenerate. After a few months of daily use, many users report reduced wrinkling, lightening of brown spots, and smoother skin. AHA use is not risk-free. These potent acids eradicate the protective outermost skin cells. Sun sensitivity and skin irritation have been reported. FDA studies also demonstrate that AHAs cause UV sensitivity; however, this seems to disappear within a week after discontinuing use. Therefore, FDA guidelines strongly recommend topical application of sunscreen while using AHA products. Are higher concentrations of alpha hydroxy acids more effective? Yes, but the concentration level also determines who’s allowed to use it. J In home skin care products, AHAs work best in a concentration of 5-8%. Yet cosmetic labels are not required to display precise concentration. To make a smart guess, purchase products with alpha hydroxy acid listed as the second or third ingredient. J Above 10%, AHA solutions cannot be sold to retail consumers. J Trained cosmetologists are allowed to work with 20-30% concentration treatments, which often help remove fine wrinkles after only a few applications. J Medical doctors can use products with a 50-70% concentration. These treatments erase fine lines and superficial scarring with long- lasting effects, visible up to 5 years later. Be forewarned that treatments at this strength have more extreme possible side effects, with severe redness, oozing, and flaking skin for up to a month later. ANTI-AGING SERUMS Water-based and lighter than most moisturizers, serums boast a super quantity of active ingredients. Retinoids, vitamin A derivatives found naturally in the skin, are the primary basis of many anti-aging serums. WHAT’S ON YOUR FACE? Learn how to read and understand product labels. Here’s a guide to popular skin care ingredients and what they do: CERAMIDES: Lipids that help skin retain moisture. According to Yale dermatologist Jeffrey Dover, MD, retinoids step up the turnover of skin cells, help retain collagen, and may also build new collagen. The most effective anti-aging serums, such as Retin-A, are acquired only through a prescription. Yet, over-the-counter products with retinols, a weaker form, have demonstrated positive results in scientific studies. A 2008 study by the University of Michigan discovered that topical retinol use helped diminish wrinkles and lighten brown spots (Note: a physician should be consulted before using any retinol-based products, as they may not be safe prior to or during pregnancy). There’s ample support for layering retinols beneath moisturizer in your skincare routine. However, with so many active ingredients, serums GLYCOLIC ACID, LACTIC ACID, SALICYLIC ACID OR MALIC ACID: Good components to look for in gentle exfoliators. are generally expensive. The good news is that only tiny amounts are applied, so a 1-ounce container should last a while. The bad news is that shelf-life is short. Finkelstein explains that retinols oxidize quickly, so keep an eye on the expiration date. ACNE AT ANY AGE Not the exclusive blight of adolescence, acne is also common among adult women. According to Dr. David Bank, president of New York State Society of Dermatology, nearly 30 million adult women in the United States suffer from adult acne, with pesky red blemishes that tend to appear on the lower face and jaw line. Toners with salicylic acid (beta hydroxy acid) are praised for cleaning acne-prone skin and preventing breakouts of nasty blackheads and whiteheads. Salicylic acid LANOLIN AND MINERAL OIL: Helps skin maintain water absorbed during bathing. found in anti-aging creams, helps even out skin texture by improving elasticity. NIACINAMIDE: DIMETHICONE: NEUROPEPTIDES: HYALURONIC ACID: RETINOLS OR RETINYL PROPIONATES: Vitamin A Helps the skin retain water; often used in anti-aging creams to GLYCERIN: temporarily plump skin Plant-based oil that and make wrinkles less draws water to the apparent. skin. derivatives with proven anti-aging results. BE REALISTIC No serum or moisturizer can turn back the clock. Modest anti-aging results can be achieved from some products, when used alongside sunscreen. Yet, no treatment will trap your skin in a time warp of youth. Beauty lies in our view on aging, and the marks of life etched on your face should be seen as glorious emblems of experience. As Mark Twain expressed, “Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.” fyi SIRTUIN: A protein SHEA BUTTER: A hydrating ingredient well suited for thin, delicate skin. Attracts moisture to the skin and helps keep it there. permeates and unclogs pores and eliminates dead cells. To treat adult acne, Bank recommends using warm or hot compresses on pimples several times a day. This will kill the offensive bacteria and decrease swelling. Anti-inflammatory that helps renew the outer layer of skin. Gentle stimulants for elastin and collagen production, often found in eye creams. 99 | fyimagazineny.com Vitamins C and E: Aid in collagen production and help protect skin and reduce dark undereye circles.
helps avoid acne.    KEEPING CLEAN If sunscreen is your first line of defense, cleaning your skin properly is the second t...
helps avoid acne.” KEEPING CLEAN If sunscreen is your first line of defense, cleaning your skin properly is the second tactic. What’s the best soap to lather up? Dermatologists assert that it doesn’t matter whether you’re a department store diva or a drugstore deal addict. Plain plastic pump or sculpted glass bottle, the same basic ingredients are inside most soap. Finkelstein admits that she uses one no-frills cleanser for body and face. “When it comes to cleaning power, expensive soaps simply do a better job at cleaning out your pocket!” she adds. A general guideline is to avoid bar soaps on your face, as they often contain harsh ingredients that can dehydrate and irritate, such as sodium lauryl sulfate. Liquid or foaming cleansers are preferred. AAD recommendations stress the importance of knowing your skin type. If you have oily skin, buy cleansers made for oily skin, and the same obviously goes for dry or sensitive skin. TO SCRUB OR NOT TO SCRUB? Hang your fancy pouf out to dry! Use a soft washcloth if you must, but simple fingertips are even better. According to Nanette Silverberg, MD, a dermatology professor at Columbia University, the friction of scrubbing skin strips away your natural, glowing moisture. Silver- berg advises gently rubbing on an exfoliating cleanser with your fingers. Aging and sun damage cause the stratum corneum, the outermost layer of skin cells, to stop dividing and shedding normally. Instead, these cells stick stubbornly and fog up the luscious gleam of your skin. Regular, gentle exfoliation, no more than twice a week, can help cast these dead cells aside. It generates a more even, radiant look and allows moisturizers to penetrate deeper. The key word here is “gentle,” as your goal is not to strip away layers of healthy, protective cells. REJUVENATE WITH MOISTURE Although your body was designed with its own mechanism to keep skin naturally welloiled, these gears slow down as you get older. Moisturizer is needed to fortify dry skin and help prevent further transdermal water loss. After sunscreen, the AAD cites moisturizer as the most effective anti-aging tool. It plumps up the skin, temporarily reducing lines and wrinkles. In fact, dermatologists claim that classic moisturizers are really the “secret ingredients” in many costly anti-aging products! It’s tricky to choose a moisturizer from the plethora of products on the market, ranging from old-fashioned petroleum jelly to perfumed, designer compounds. Knowing the basic jargon is helpful: emollients soothe skin, and humectants hold in moisture. By definition, a good, rich moisturizer offers a combo of emollients and humectants, which work together to replenish the body’s natural moisture barrier. Finkelstein advises that how you feel should guide you to the moisturizer that’s right for you. Pick what appeals to you and hone in on the sensation. Does it feel too heavy? Does it leave your skin supple and smooth, or greasy and uncomfortable? There is no ultimate cream. In addition to hydrating with a regular lotion, eye creams are a good investment, says dermatologist Patricia Farris, MD, clinical associate professor at Tulane University School of Medicine. Your eyes are encircled by very thin and delicate skin, and eye creams are formulated to target this area. With more oil than facial creams, they also contain beneficial ingredients such as neuropeptides to stimulate collagen production, and caffeine to boost circulation and reduce puffy bags and dark circles. CHEMICAL PEELS While they’ve received a lot of recent attention, 98 | fyimagazineny.com chemical peels with alpha hydroxy acids (AHA) have been around since antiquity, with historical accounts of Cleopatra bathing in lactic acid. Derived from milk and fruit sugars, the most common AHAs are lactic acid and glycolic acid. Able to penetrate deep, AHAs unglue dead skin cells and make room for skin to regenerate. After a few months of daily use, many users report reduced wrinkling, lightening of brown spots, and smoother skin. AHA use is not risk-free. These potent acids eradicate the protective outermost skin cells. Sun sensitivity and skin irritation have been reported. FDA studies also demonstrate that AHAs cause UV sensitivity; however, this seems to disappear within a week after discontinuing use. Therefore, FDA guidelines strongly recommend topical application of sunscreen while using AHA products. Are higher concentrations of alpha hydroxy acids more effective? Yes, but the concentration level also determines who’s allowed to use it. J In home skin care products, AHAs work best in a concentration of 5-8%. Yet cosmetic labels are not required to display precise concentration. To make a smart guess, purchase products with alpha hydroxy acid listed as the second or third ingredient. J Above 10%, AHA solutions cannot be sold to retail consumers. J Trained cosmetologists are allowed to work with 20-30% concentration treatments, which often help remove fine wrinkles after only a few applications. J Medical doctors can use products with a 50-70% concentration. These treatments erase fine lines and superficial scarring with long- lasting effects, visible up to 5 years later. Be forewarned that treatments at this strength have more extreme possible side effects, with severe redness, oozing, and flaking skin for up to a month later. ANTI-AGING SERUMS Water-based and lighter than most moisturizers, serums boast a super quantity of active ingredients. Retinoids, vitamin A derivatives found naturally in the skin, are the primary basis of many anti-aging serums. WHAT’S ON YOUR FACE? Learn how to read and understand product labels. Here’s a guide to popular skin care ingredients and what they do: CERAMIDES: Lipids that help skin retain moisture. According to Yale dermatologist Jeffrey Dover, MD, retinoids step up the turnover of skin cells, help retain collagen, and may also build new collagen. The most effective anti-aging serums, such as Retin-A, are acquired only through a prescription. Yet, over-the-counter products with retinols, a weaker form, have demonstrated positive results in scientific studies. A 2008 study by the University of Michigan discovered that topical retinol use helped diminish wrinkles and lighten brown spots (Note: a physician should be consulted before using any retinol-based products, as they may not be safe prior to or during pregnancy). There’s ample support for layering retinols beneath moisturizer in your skincare routine. However, with so many active ingredients, serums GLYCOLIC ACID, LACTIC ACID, SALICYLIC ACID OR MALIC ACID: Good components to look for in gentle exfoliators. are generally expensive. The good news is that only tiny amounts are applied, so a 1-ounce container should last a while. The bad news is that shelf-life is short. Finkelstein explains that retinols oxidize quickly, so keep an eye on the expiration date. ACNE AT ANY AGE Not the exclusive blight of adolescence, acne is also common among adult women. According to Dr. David Bank, president of New York State Society of Dermatology, nearly 30 million adult women in the United States suffer from adult acne, with pesky red blemishes that tend to appear on the lower face and jaw line. Toners with salicylic acid (beta hydroxy acid) are praised for cleaning acne-prone skin and preventing breakouts of nasty blackheads and whiteheads. Salicylic acid LANOLIN AND MINERAL OIL: Helps skin maintain water absorbed during bathing. found in anti-aging creams, helps even out skin texture by improving elasticity. NIACINAMIDE: DIMETHICONE: NEUROPEPTIDES: HYALURONIC ACID: RETINOLS OR RETINYL PROPIONATES: Vitamin A Helps the skin retain water; often used in anti-aging creams to GLYCERIN: temporarily plump skin Plant-based oil that and make wrinkles less draws water to the apparent. skin. derivatives with proven anti-aging results. BE REALISTIC No serum or moisturizer can turn back the clock. Modest anti-aging results can be achieved from some products, when used alongside sunscreen. Yet, no treatment will trap your skin in a time warp of youth. Beauty lies in our view on aging, and the marks of life etched on your face should be seen as glorious emblems of experience. As Mark Twain expressed, “Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been.” fyi SIRTUIN: A protein SHEA BUTTER: A hydrating ingredient well suited for thin, delicate skin. Attracts moisture to the skin and helps keep it there. permeates and unclogs pores and eliminates dead cells. To treat adult acne, Bank recommends using warm or hot compresses on pimples several times a day. This will kill the offensive bacteria and decrease swelling. Anti-inflammatory that helps renew the outer layer of skin. Gentle stimulants for elastin and collagen production, often found in eye creams. 99 | fyimagazineny.com Vitamins C and E: Aid in collagen production and help protect skin and reduce dark undereye circles.
helps avoid acne.    KEEPING CLEAN If sunscreen is your first line of defense, cleaning your skin properly is the second t...
Help Your Child Attain Academic ACHIEVEMENT WRITTEN BY BARBARA PENN Though I graduated many years ago, the memories of chiming school bells and the smell of overcooked school lunch mingled with lemon-scented floor cleaner, still elicit feelings of unease, likely associated with the anxiety of those school years. But even parents are not completely free of school-related jitters. As our children’s academic schedules begin to pick up momentum, many of us are faced with concerns of another nature: Will our children excel academically? Can we, as parents, really make a difference in their academic achievements? What type of educational role can we fill in order to ensure that our children reach their maximum academic potential? 101 | fyimagazineny.com
Help Your Child Attain Academic  ACHIEVEMENT WRITTEN BY BARBARA PENN  Though I graduated many years ago, the memories of c...
Help Your Child Attain Academic ACHIEVEMENT WRITTEN BY BARBARA PENN Though I graduated many years ago, the memories of chiming school bells and the smell of overcooked school lunch mingled with lemon-scented floor cleaner, still elicit feelings of unease, likely associated with the anxiety of those school years. But even parents are not completely free of school-related jitters. As our children’s academic schedules begin to pick up momentum, many of us are faced with concerns of another nature: Will our children excel academically? Can we, as parents, really make a difference in their academic achievements? What type of educational role can we fill in order to ensure that our children reach their maximum academic potential? 101 | fyimagazineny.com
Help Your Child Attain Academic  ACHIEVEMENT WRITTEN BY BARBARA PENN  Though I graduated many years ago, the memories of c...
will be able to shed the worries of the day. Encourage outdoor activities and exercise. Free play and exercise are vital for the development of little minds. J Create a Workable Sleep Schedule Sleep is fuel for the brain's engine. Set up a consistent, workable bedtime that will foster fresh and eager children instead of groggy, foggy-brained students. J Become a HealthConscientious Individual Create a healthy menu for your family and stick to it. School snacks that are high in sugars, caffeine, and additives, are better at creating restless children and gross dental bills than settled students and attractive grades. (Pack them school lunches they'll look forward to eating. Hiding a surprise snack, note, or treat, will help them anticipate a new day at school!) ¬ HAPPIER KIDS MAKE BETTER STUDENTS The NASP Communique, a psychology journal dedicated to the student, quoted a study conducted in 2005 which found that students who exhibited more happiness, exceeded their peers in terms of “appropriate classroom behavior, higher school grades, better peer and teacher relationships, better physical health, and greater participation in the classroom” (Hubner, Scott. “Students and Their Schooling: Does Happiness Matter?”, NASP Communique,Volume 39, Issue 2). The study expounds on something we may not have previously put our finger on: Aim for happy kids, and you'll also get better students. By nurturing kids in a healthy environment, you will be paving the way for their academic success. Encourage Relaxation, Exercise and Play Time “Children will be children” is a useful motto with which to broach this topic. No matter how driven you are by nature, or how conscientious you were as a student, remember that kids should be given the liberty to behave as children do. Resist the urge to nag your kid about his school work or school-related behavior as soon as he crosses over the door step. Instead, aim to create an environment where your child BRIDGING THE GAP: HOMEWORK AS A LEARNING EXPERIENCE If your child perceives his parents as being on one side of the world and school on the opposite end, then becoming involved in his education creates the bridge that connects both worlds. The middleschool.com website, which is dedicated to creating successful students, states that parental involvement in a child’s classroom education is the most important determinant of student success. Specifically, Bridging the Gap by Ferdi Serim and Kristen Hammond credits involvement in a child’s homework assignments as one of the main variables in academic success. Your intimate knowledge and unique perspective of your child can be a major advantage toward the academic goal. Because you know him best, you can give your child the individualized attention that his teacher cannot, and tailor 102 | fyimagazineny.com the lessons to his unique way of thinking and learning. If a child struggles in a classroom because he doesn't understand the teacher's perspective of the subject matter, you can help him apply new concepts to more familiar areas of his life, or to something that particularly interests him.You know his mental strengths, so review the lessons for him in a way that focuses on those abilities. For example, if your child loves baseball and is struggling with his times tables, you can make that concept come to life by applying it to baseball, like multiplying bats with balls. If your child retains information better when it’s absorbed in song form, you can help him put his spelling words into rhymes. J Creating a Homework Environment Set up a time and place for homework that will be most conducive for your child's performance. While some children may prefer studying in an informal environment, most will appreciate a more rigid time and place to complete their work. Create a designated spot that is clutter-free and pleasant to work in. J Help Your Child Stay Organized Avoid last-minute distress and unnecessary confusion by helping your child stay on top of his school papers and homework directions. Help your kid arrange his folders and loose leaf at the beginning of the year, so both of you always have the necessary work papers available and know what is expected. BRIDGING THE GAP: PARTNER UP WITH TEACHERS Serim and Hammond say that another factor in building a bridge between a child’s home and school life is to become an active partner with your child’s teacher. Teachers commonly complain that only on PTA night do parents finally grasp some important things that should have been discussed long before then. Many teachers are happy, willing, and available for parents to discuss their child's unique needs and progress. Early in the year, reach out to your child's educator and let him know you're interested in hearing about your child's development throughout the school year. J Show Appreciation and Respect Consider the famous quote by Paul Leo, "Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them." Children will naturally mirror the behavior they see at home. When children see that we value a respectful and appreciative attitude toward the teacher, they will likely aim to improve their own relationship with the teacher and value the lessons she offers. Therefore, even if you are not particularly fond of a specific teacher, don't allow that feeling to leak out to your child. If you say anything negative about the teacher in front of your child, he will value that educator less. Besides the regular Chanukah and Purim gifts, send your child to school with small gifts and thank-you cards for the teacher to randomly to show your genuine appreciation for her. INSTILL YOUR CHILD WITH VALUES CONDUCIVE TO SUCCESS Research and common sense both indicate that a child will mimic his parent’s value system and behavior patterns. Parents who are addicted to 103 | fyimagazineny.com drugs, alcohol, or negative behaviors, are likely to have children that will do the same. Likewise, few couch potato parents have driven children, and driven parents will demonstrate that value to their offspring. If we show our children that we value their education and appreciate effort, diligence, and drive, then they will likely appreciate those things as well. Showing your child that you value the effort he makes toward his educational goals is more effective than preaching or pushing him to get A’s and B’s. One way to do this is through dinnertime conversation: ask him what he learned that day and share what you yourself learned. Instead of focusing on grades, praise hard work, diligence, and a well-done report; this can create a ripple effect, greatly influencing your child’s perspective towards learning. J Empowering them for a Life of Success Is academic success merely a product of one's IQ? A horticultural science class study performed in 2011 found that a healthy self-esteem was directly correlated with a high level of academic performance. While children who have a low sense of self often develop mental blocks toward subjects they are fearful of approaching, children raised with a can-do attitude are not afraid to tackle a daunting concept. Their sense of self-worth empowers them to approach the subject with an open and ready mind. Though many of us are concerned about our children's academic success, we needn’t play the role of helpless observer or worry with our hands tied. By viewing ourselves as our children's primary educators, we will ensure success within and beyond the four walls of the classroom. fyi
will be able to shed the worries of the day. Encourage outdoor activities and exercise. Free play and exercise are vital f...
will be able to shed the worries of the day. Encourage outdoor activities and exercise. Free play and exercise are vital for the development of little minds. J Create a Workable Sleep Schedule Sleep is fuel for the brain's engine. Set up a consistent, workable bedtime that will foster fresh and eager children instead of groggy, foggy-brained students. J Become a HealthConscientious Individual Create a healthy menu for your family and stick to it. School snacks that are high in sugars, caffeine, and additives, are better at creating restless children and gross dental bills than settled students and attractive grades. (Pack them school lunches they'll look forward to eating. Hiding a surprise snack, note, or treat, will help them anticipate a new day at school!) ¬ HAPPIER KIDS MAKE BETTER STUDENTS The NASP Communique, a psychology journal dedicated to the student, quoted a study conducted in 2005 which found that students who exhibited more happiness, exceeded their peers in terms of “appropriate classroom behavior, higher school grades, better peer and teacher relationships, better physical health, and greater participation in the classroom” (Hubner, Scott. “Students and Their Schooling: Does Happiness Matter?”, NASP Communique,Volume 39, Issue 2). The study expounds on something we may not have previously put our finger on: Aim for happy kids, and you'll also get better students. By nurturing kids in a healthy environment, you will be paving the way for their academic success. Encourage Relaxation, Exercise and Play Time “Children will be children” is a useful motto with which to broach this topic. No matter how driven you are by nature, or how conscientious you were as a student, remember that kids should be given the liberty to behave as children do. Resist the urge to nag your kid about his school work or school-related behavior as soon as he crosses over the door step. Instead, aim to create an environment where your child BRIDGING THE GAP: HOMEWORK AS A LEARNING EXPERIENCE If your child perceives his parents as being on one side of the world and school on the opposite end, then becoming involved in his education creates the bridge that connects both worlds. The middleschool.com website, which is dedicated to creating successful students, states that parental involvement in a child’s classroom education is the most important determinant of student success. Specifically, Bridging the Gap by Ferdi Serim and Kristen Hammond credits involvement in a child’s homework assignments as one of the main variables in academic success. Your intimate knowledge and unique perspective of your child can be a major advantage toward the academic goal. Because you know him best, you can give your child the individualized attention that his teacher cannot, and tailor 102 | fyimagazineny.com the lessons to his unique way of thinking and learning. If a child struggles in a classroom because he doesn't understand the teacher's perspective of the subject matter, you can help him apply new concepts to more familiar areas of his life, or to something that particularly interests him.You know his mental strengths, so review the lessons for him in a way that focuses on those abilities. For example, if your child loves baseball and is struggling with his times tables, you can make that concept come to life by applying it to baseball, like multiplying bats with balls. If your child retains information better when it’s absorbed in song form, you can help him put his spelling words into rhymes. J Creating a Homework Environment Set up a time and place for homework that will be most conducive for your child's performance. While some children may prefer studying in an informal environment, most will appreciate a more rigid time and place to complete their work. Create a designated spot that is clutter-free and pleasant to work in. J Help Your Child Stay Organized Avoid last-minute distress and unnecessary confusion by helping your child stay on top of his school papers and homework directions. Help your kid arrange his folders and loose leaf at the beginning of the year, so both of you always have the necessary work papers available and know what is expected. BRIDGING THE GAP: PARTNER UP WITH TEACHERS Serim and Hammond say that another factor in building a bridge between a child’s home and school life is to become an active partner with your child’s teacher. Teachers commonly complain that only on PTA night do parents finally grasp some important things that should have been discussed long before then. Many teachers are happy, willing, and available for parents to discuss their child's unique needs and progress. Early in the year, reach out to your child's educator and let him know you're interested in hearing about your child's development throughout the school year. J Show Appreciation and Respect Consider the famous quote by Paul Leo, "Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them." Children will naturally mirror the behavior they see at home. When children see that we value a respectful and appreciative attitude toward the teacher, they will likely aim to improve their own relationship with the teacher and value the lessons she offers. Therefore, even if you are not particularly fond of a specific teacher, don't allow that feeling to leak out to your child. If you say anything negative about the teacher in front of your child, he will value that educator less. Besides the regular Chanukah and Purim gifts, send your child to school with small gifts and thank-you cards for the teacher to randomly to show your genuine appreciation for her. INSTILL YOUR CHILD WITH VALUES CONDUCIVE TO SUCCESS Research and common sense both indicate that a child will mimic his parent’s value system and behavior patterns. Parents who are addicted to 103 | fyimagazineny.com drugs, alcohol, or negative behaviors, are likely to have children that will do the same. Likewise, few couch potato parents have driven children, and driven parents will demonstrate that value to their offspring. If we show our children that we value their education and appreciate effort, diligence, and drive, then they will likely appreciate those things as well. Showing your child that you value the effort he makes toward his educational goals is more effective than preaching or pushing him to get A’s and B’s. One way to do this is through dinnertime conversation: ask him what he learned that day and share what you yourself learned. Instead of focusing on grades, praise hard work, diligence, and a well-done report; this can create a ripple effect, greatly influencing your child’s perspective towards learning. J Empowering them for a Life of Success Is academic success merely a product of one's IQ? A horticultural science class study performed in 2011 found that a healthy self-esteem was directly correlated with a high level of academic performance. While children who have a low sense of self often develop mental blocks toward subjects they are fearful of approaching, children raised with a can-do attitude are not afraid to tackle a daunting concept. Their sense of self-worth empowers them to approach the subject with an open and ready mind. Though many of us are concerned about our children's academic success, we needn’t play the role of helpless observer or worry with our hands tied. By viewing ourselves as our children's primary educators, we will ensure success within and beyond the four walls of the classroom. fyi
will be able to shed the worries of the day. Encourage outdoor activities and exercise. Free play and exercise are vital f...
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