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Mommy, Can I Call You In Heaven
Mommy, Can I Call You In Heaven
Books From Susan Binau Mommy, Can I Have Your PC, If You Die   Danish  Find Your Networking Style  Danish  A Dignified Pas...
Mommy, Can I Call You In Heaven  How we coped with cancer as a family  Susan Binau  1 The Caring Soul Series
Mommy, Can I Call You In Heaven  How we coped with cancer as a family by Susan Binau    2015 Susan Binau, Soul Care Group,...
This book is dedicated to all families dealing with difficult times, and to my beloved children and husband, Christina, Ma...
Foreword Susan Binau   s book is not a typical self-help book. I have read many of the cancer self-help books on the marke...
A Note From the Author The book, which was not a goodbye. In October 2006, I was diagnosed with stage three colon cancer. ...
Preface This photo taken in Denmark shows my husband, Alan, and I on our wedding day in August 2004. I was seven months pr...
family     my husband and my children, if it turns out that I have to die sooner than I would have imagined  Driving to th...
patient, and that may be why so many people have asked me how we coped as a family. My family and I coped with cancer with...
I held his hand and he nodded. I was later told by the hospice nurses that my dad seemed to be more at peace  he had the b...
Contents Foreword  vi  A Note From the Author  vii  Preface  ix  You Probably Have Cancer I Have Cancer. Taking Action  A ...
You Probably Have Cancer
Before That Day Six months before I was diagnosed with cancer, I was meeting with a friend  who is a spiritual adviser  to...
you now because you need to know what lies ahead of you. You will be going through a tough time and you will need the same...
That Day  - Wednesday, October 11, 2006  Day 1 - 9 00 am I find myself smiling as I sit in a hospital bed watching a hilar...
Now, after what seems like hours of waiting, the doctor and nurse enter the room. From the look in the doctor   s eyes, I ...
doctors and nurses walking up and down the corridor outside my room. I can tell my doctor is looking for another patient. ...
I Have Cancer.
What Now  Day 1     4 00 pm As I sit in the back of the cab, thoughts are swirling around in my head  What do I do now  Sh...
for a moment and find the strength to be around my family. I don   t know how, but I get through the evening ritual of coo...
FOR REFLECTION How will you convey the outcome of a critical medical examinationto your spouse   family  Should you perhap...
   C-word    confirmed, but it was actually worse the week before, being told that it was    probably    cancer, or that S...
wait, we pressed for a speedier response. We got the nurse   s name, lab name, or phone number and we called every day and...
While Alan drives the boys to daycare and school, I decide to call    The Cancer Hotline.    I am hoping to talk to someon...
however, should not be told over the phone     she   s too sensitive, too emotionally fragile. I want to hold her while I ...
At this age, fear is a foreign emotion, quickly replaced with something easier to handle. Five minutes later he comes back...
I   m Still My Mother   s Child Day 2     8 00 pm Right after I came home from the hospital, I asked Alan to call my paren...
something, anything, to read and to help me better understand what is happening and what to expect. I feel like    just an...
Here Comes the Hurricane Day 4 Those first few days after the diagnosis, Alan and I hold each other often, crying and shar...
Alan has made a little altar in our bedroom, where he placed my favorite Madonna, a gift from my oldest daughter. The figu...
   How can you still believe in Him, now that He   s letting you down     she asks teary-eyed. It is difficult for me to g...
It is a great relief to us to know that our daughter   s needs will be taken care of where she spends so many hours each d...
Faith, Facts and Feelings Day 8 I wake up with my heart pounding so loudly that I am sure everyone can hear it. How can I ...
FOR REFLECTION How can you be strong for someone despite not feeling it   Picking up the Vibrations Day 9 Anders has been ...
miss. The thought of not being able to see my kids grow up is almost unbearable. I still don   t know how serious my condi...
28       Make sure to inform the schools, so that teachers can also keep a close eye on the child.       If the child show...
Taking Action
Taking the Initiative Day 12 This morning, I went to an acupuncturist for the first time. She   s a tiny woman, but she ex...
result, I have decided to write a personal farewell booklet to Alan and my children. If it is my destiny to die from cance...
is important for us to be close to the kids. He has also been given the names of two Danish experts in the field. We feel ...
Tempting Chocolate Day 16 Alan and I have taken an evening stroll in our neighborhood. I look up at the beautiful night sk...
and that I shouldn   t have even more burdens on my shoulders. I was torn between emotions of excitement and pressure  I w...
What happened to my energy and courage  I am normally a very positive, optimistic kind of person - are there any pieces of...
as a normal transitioning to a new life. Do I feel pain and sorrow at the thought of leaving the children behind and find ...
Plan B Day 21 My children   s well-being comes first. Nothing else matters more to me. I am so grateful that our friends a...
stories, she tells me that she used to work as a social worker, but that her passion is healing. I lie on her couch, and w...
Still Waiting Day 24 The test results from the hospital still have not arrived. Alan is enormously stressed. I don   t fee...
should count on some kind of chemotherapy, either before or after the surgery. Not even the other scary c-word can bring m...
Later today, the doctor calls back and tells us that we have to wait for the letter confirming the appointment. Wait. Grea...
incredible energy surrounding me. She calls it    the Christ healing energy.    It means that I am being looked after, she...
My Rock Day 31 I can feel Alan   s love. He has been so supportive. No matter what, he is there for me. He calls the docto...
Christina whispers to me,    Why can   t a bad person get sick instead of you  Mom, it   s just not fair     My lovely dau...
The door opens, and a nurse enters my room. With a smile, she says,    I am taking you to the surgery now - you are the fi...
tells me that they have given me as much pain medicine as they can. They don   t realize that this is worse than having la...
brings me a huge pillow that says  World   s Best Mother.    It   s from all of us,    she says fondly. It is so wonderful...
the room. Standing at her bedside, he tells her that they found cancer and that it had spread. He also explained that she ...
face, I recalled the strong and happy Dad whose love and support gave me such a nice childhood. I wish so much that he did...
he is willing to discharge me, if I can produce some gas. It is very strange to talk about bodily functions in such a comm...
The Queen of Farts Day 40 Today, I have achieved what many on this floor dream of     I passed gas. I feel like a queen. N...
Meanwhile, her father is drinking on the sly and she empties his daily bottles from various cupboards. The friend has lost...
that we are in a dilemma. My instinct is to call the municipality and report the failures that appear to be happening. Con...
Preparing for Chemo Day 49 - Morning As I enter the oncology ward for the first time, I am directed to a room where I am m...
Happy Tears Day 49     Afternoon Today, I am meeting with Randi. We are so happy to see each other. We know that we have t...
Poison in My Veins Day 58 I have chosen to go to the hospital alone. First, I get a blood test and then speak with my doct...
   If you dare bet on me surviving this thing, then I would rather continue to launch our business,    I reply. With a sig...
Two Old People on a Bench Day 66 I think about faith. Alan and I occasionally go to our church for a baptism, a wedding, C...
By no means am I the prototype of a super woman. I suppose it   s probably my inner drive that defines my path. In the mid...
dinner and there is a cheerful and warm atmosphere in the house. The children are all here. Anders seems to understand the...
Chemo Monster Day 80    I can   t and won   t do this again,    I tell Alan when he comes into our bedroom. I have spent t...
doing the right thing, or else you   ll only have yourself to blame when your children lose their mother.    Ouch. Despite...
without warning, you   re suddenly gripped by fear. We both know that this is a part of the transition and that it takes t...
A New Friend Day 111 I have to go to the hospital early to get a blood test. I   m sitting in the waiting area when the wo...
Feeling Normal Again Day 113 - Evening The first day on the job has been fantastic. I am so happy that we chose to do it. ...
is going to be a part of the leadership program that my partner and I are developing at our new company. I know now that t...
    Send positive thoughts when you wake up and say to yourself,    This is temporary, in just a moment I will be well.   ...
I felt the sadness, as if I were a mother who is watching her child experience too much pain. I can only imagine the fear ...
Heart to Heart Day 253 I have spoken to Hannah a couple of times on the phone after our first meeting at the hospital. Tod...
not feel we had any tension or uncertainty around us. In addition to speaking openly with family and friends, it is import...
I would also like to be remembered for being a giving human being who had the courage to take responsibility in the darkes...
I do not demand a lot from other people, nor feel the need to control their actions. However, one thing is certain  I woul...
   You Are Home     Day 299 Slowly, my inclination towards family intimacy has returned. My focus on the job has created a...
week off from chemo and I can   t wait to spend it outdoors, enjoying my garden in the sunshine     When I drove back home...
Lover, Not a Fighter Day 322 People often talk about    fighting    cancer. I thought I had a basic understanding of what ...
my cell phone from the hospital saying my scan and blood results from the annual oncology checkup are ready. To me, the do...
wrestled with this unanswered question for quite a few days now while my doctor is on vacation. I remember that an oncolog...
Divine Inspiration Day 463 I have never authored a book before, but suddenly I have almost two books ready for publication...
I know how difficult it is to even think about having to leave your children behind, but I will not leave without saying m...
   Hey old Paps, are you out for trouble today     My dad lightens up when he looks into my daughter   s smiling face. Chr...
no room for flexibility at his company, so it was not an option to regulate his workload. At the end of the day, he chose ...
time, we have been together and offline     no computers and no cellphones. Alan has gotten his playfulness back and enjoy...
stress    because I know that many of my friends feel the same way. I guess we are all victims of the modern lifestyle. Th...
Like Welcoming a Baby into the World Day 893 The death of Randi, Hannah and another friend, Kirsten, within the last year ...
about being pregnant or becoming a parent, and the HealthCare system has a guideline and a plan for everything concerning ...
and smiling. You cannot tell she has gone through more than 2    years of chemotherapy and is now receiving palliative car...
I can truly feel Mette   s love for her boys and for the husband whom she describes as her    soulmate for life.    When I...
assist people, especially parents and children who have a terminal illness. Our own children did not experience much suppo...
Heart Compass Day 1,067 My soul must have known for some time, but my ego has been taking over, constantly convincing me t...
for Gender Equality presented it to my business partner and me. Our company received this award for making a special attem...
A New Chapter     Three Years After My Diagnosis
Transition Steven, from my speaking agency, called me yesterday. Would I be able to    stand-in    for a speaker who had c...
that you would be stuck with me today     They laugh as I continue,    Transition, however, is something that is happening...
C O M M U N I CAT I O N    There is no way around talking and sharing how you feel. If one of you gets stuck in emotions a...
you are running away from your pain and not dealing with your illness.    I didn   t feel at all that this was true, but I...
In the end, every life tells a unique story. My goal now is to live a good story. I think of life in terms of my favorite ...
Not a    Guru    I am not a survivor guru, but I have learned a lot. I have gladly shared my personal story and what has w...
when we don   t deal with our emotions, and so forth. Well, that might be true, I don   t know. But I do know that isn   t...
Tools that work for me  Prevention I make sure to have annual health checkups, because I know that early detection saves l...
Get a second opinion It is vital to be aware of all treatment options and to feel confident and informed about your treatm...
OWN your life Only you can make decisions about treatment options, medications and what you believe will work best for you...
Where Are We Now
If you ask me whether I wish I   d never had cancer, the answer is a resounding yes. I could have lived without the fear, ...
with her. She was truly excited and asked me if their hospital ward could receive some donations. They had a challenge  th...
are reading now is number one in the Caring Soul Series, which I have launched in Florida. In 2014, when our son Anders wa...
My Family Speaks
CHRISTINA  oldest daughter, age 18 at the time of Susan   s diagnosis      Our family life has become much stronger. We no...
and also to ask your parents to involve you. The more you know, the less you have to guess. I have now found a way to cope...
continue, and fear must not take over     fear that the sickness might return or that other bad things may happen to us. I...
, M.A  Susan Binau  . Mother of Four, Published Author, and Public Speaker Susan Binau was born in 1964 in Copenhagen, Den...
Caring Soul Series  The Caring Soul Series is a collection of inspirational books based on true stories, which focus on de...