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contents December 2015 10 | YOUR VOICE #JoinTheDiscussion If you were put on a stage in front of 1,000 people, and you had 30 seconds to relate a message, what would you say? 87 BEAUTY GUIDE 15 | DO-IT-YOURSELF Adorn your Chanuka Table with innovative centerpieces 31 SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE 83 | PARTY HEARTY with mini-bites: 24 | FASHION FINDS Winter Must-Have’s 26 | MASTER YOUR MAKEUP Top 10 Essential Makeup Brushes YOU GOTTA KNOW FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE 84 | Parmesan Stuffed Mushrooms 39 | HOW TO Determine if your child is wheezing 85 | Pita bites with Zaatar and Roasted Peppers 32 | FOR LESS Last minute Chanuka gift guide 44 | THE REAL DEAL Can I like, the child I love? 35 | TRIED & TESTED The best baby monitor for you 47 | HEALTH Have Your Latke and Eat it, too! 36 | ON OUR BOOKSHELF Our take on Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis's book, The Committed Marriage AVOIDING ACCEPTING CREDIT CARD PAYMENTS DUE TO THE HIGH PROCESSING FEES? GET A HANDLE ON IT 53 | PAMPER YOURSELF In-home spa experience 56 | PROBLEM SOLVE 5 ways to disagree, agreeably 60 | LAUNDRY ROOM RULES Clutter Conundrum Solved 68 | MOOD BOOSTER 30 ways to boost your mood this winter 86 | Polenta Cakes With Eggplant Caviar 87 | Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups 88 | SIX SUPER SPICES Health perks with good taste FEATURED 94 | FAMILY FUN Edible menorahs and 25 more ways to give your family a happier Chanukah We have changed the rules of the game. No more inflated processing costs and hidden fees. No more excuses for ever increasing charges. Accepting credit card payments should not make you cringe. With Banquest’s rock-bottom rates you will never think twice about processing a credit card payment! 98 | ROLE REVERSAL Care-giving for aging parents 102 | IT'S ONLY NATURAL An in depth look at alternative medicine IN YOUR BUSINESS CREDIT CARD PROCESSING ACH CHECKBY-PHONE ATM PLACEMENT & SERVICE ONLINE PAYMENT PAGES ECOMMERCE FRAUD PREVENTION 71 | HOW THEY DID IT Susie Fishbein author of Kosher By Design Cookbook Series 102 76 | EXPERTISE Micro Budgeting 79 | BUSINESS SMARTS Your most important marketing tool 26 855.323.8300 ext. 101 | www.banquest.com KFrisch@Banquest.com | K. Frisch, CEO
contents December 2015  10   YOUR VOICE  JoinTheDiscussion If you were put on a stage in front of 1,000 people, and you ha...
contents December 2015 10 | YOUR VOICE #JoinTheDiscussion If you were put on a stage in front of 1,000 people, and you had 30 seconds to relate a message, what would you say? 87 BEAUTY GUIDE 15 | DO-IT-YOURSELF Adorn your Chanuka Table with innovative centerpieces 31 SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE 83 | PARTY HEARTY with mini-bites: 24 | FASHION FINDS Winter Must-Have’s 26 | MASTER YOUR MAKEUP Top 10 Essential Makeup Brushes YOU GOTTA KNOW FALL IN LOVE WITH LIFE 84 | Parmesan Stuffed Mushrooms 39 | HOW TO Determine if your child is wheezing 85 | Pita bites with Zaatar and Roasted Peppers 32 | FOR LESS Last minute Chanuka gift guide 44 | THE REAL DEAL Can I like, the child I love? 35 | TRIED & TESTED The best baby monitor for you 47 | HEALTH Have Your Latke and Eat it, too! 36 | ON OUR BOOKSHELF Our take on Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis's book, The Committed Marriage AVOIDING ACCEPTING CREDIT CARD PAYMENTS DUE TO THE HIGH PROCESSING FEES? GET A HANDLE ON IT 53 | PAMPER YOURSELF In-home spa experience 56 | PROBLEM SOLVE 5 ways to disagree, agreeably 60 | LAUNDRY ROOM RULES Clutter Conundrum Solved 68 | MOOD BOOSTER 30 ways to boost your mood this winter 86 | Polenta Cakes With Eggplant Caviar 87 | Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups 88 | SIX SUPER SPICES Health perks with good taste FEATURED 94 | FAMILY FUN Edible menorahs and 25 more ways to give your family a happier Chanukah We have changed the rules of the game. No more inflated processing costs and hidden fees. No more excuses for ever increasing charges. Accepting credit card payments should not make you cringe. With Banquest’s rock-bottom rates you will never think twice about processing a credit card payment! 98 | ROLE REVERSAL Care-giving for aging parents 102 | IT'S ONLY NATURAL An in depth look at alternative medicine IN YOUR BUSINESS CREDIT CARD PROCESSING ACH CHECKBY-PHONE ATM PLACEMENT & SERVICE ONLINE PAYMENT PAGES ECOMMERCE FRAUD PREVENTION 71 | HOW THEY DID IT Susie Fishbein author of Kosher By Design Cookbook Series 102 76 | EXPERTISE Micro Budgeting 79 | BUSINESS SMARTS Your most important marketing tool 26 855.323.8300 ext. 101 | www.banquest.com KFrisch@Banquest.com | K. Frisch, CEO
contents December 2015  10   YOUR VOICE  JoinTheDiscussion If you were put on a stage in front of 1,000 people, and you ha...
we hear you! I made it my business to go through two issues of FYI on Shabbos, which I had picked up from a friend. Kol hakavod! It’s a great magazine and of real interest. I relate to the lifestyle aspect with the home design, fashion, self-development, and organizational interests. I really like that you are up-to-date and real in terms of use of technology and its application, not just in terms of layout and design. The beauty and fashion picks, and recommendations are useful and up-to-the-minute. I like the book reviews of children’s literature from both the Jewish and secular markets. I am clipping the DIY projects. The food part is for busy lives, not balabustas of yore with lots of time to spend. Your magazine incorporates the best of the world “out there” without schizophrenic tendencies that mark some of the Jewish women’s magazines on the market. It’s also hefty and has range. R.H., Five Towns, NY A I s a former teacher and parent (now grandparent b’h), I take issue with the suggestion about sending little gifts to teachers. Nice notes, however, a definite YES. They could even be part of the Mitzvah note. Example: “Chany cleaned up her toy room. We thank you for teaching her that it’s a mitzvah to help mommy.” I still sometimes send notes to my grandchildren’s teachers, especially after the Pesach Seder. Gifts, on the other hand, can be tacky and inappropriate, and sometimes misinterpreted. Shira Weiss, Brooklyn, NY learned a lot from your article on saving money while grocery shopping. I am always looking for ways to save money. However, I don’t feel comfortable shopping with coupons. I don’t know if this is something other women can relate to. Can you write more articles on saving money, without the use of coupons? Tova H., Chicago, Illinois Dr. Peretz Lock We really are as great as our = SOCIAL MEDIA SIGHTINGS Dr. Daniel Ganz Izzy Pupko PT @ rache l_wein Your ma gazine is the best ye interesti t! Full of ng tid info. A re bits and al treat! team. PA Saba Gitisetan What makes Boro Park Center Brooklyn’s de facto address for quality care? @EstyG nd y ery arou n my groc rent tha ne up at ery diffe thing to be v icked o Ip . Every I found it ut there me and azines o nd in a useful om tov ti a ical mag its. r typ light dire stra the othe en in a positive people in usband that is writt es with h sob stori a fan. I told my cover to way, no ming agazine one. ely beco time I read a m Definit y for any e first ling sorr to is was th d up fee lacha, we want th idn’t en of hatz er and d ads cov p with lo ee more! s Keep it u 4915 10th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219 Phone 718.851.3700 www.BoroParkCenter.net PA Andrew Weissman The timeless dedication exhibited by all our board-certified doctors, nurses and therapists. We're honored to keep our respected residents living happy, while remaining invested in developing state-of-the-art rehab therapies every day. We truly are one awesome team.
we hear you  I  made it my business to go through two issues of FYI on Shabbos, which I had picked up from a friend. Kol h...
we hear you! I made it my business to go through two issues of FYI on Shabbos, which I had picked up from a friend. Kol hakavod! It’s a great magazine and of real interest. I relate to the lifestyle aspect with the home design, fashion, self-development, and organizational interests. I really like that you are up-to-date and real in terms of use of technology and its application, not just in terms of layout and design. The beauty and fashion picks, and recommendations are useful and up-to-the-minute. I like the book reviews of children’s literature from both the Jewish and secular markets. I am clipping the DIY projects. The food part is for busy lives, not balabustas of yore with lots of time to spend. Your magazine incorporates the best of the world “out there” without schizophrenic tendencies that mark some of the Jewish women’s magazines on the market. It’s also hefty and has range. R.H., Five Towns, NY A I s a former teacher and parent (now grandparent b’h), I take issue with the suggestion about sending little gifts to teachers. Nice notes, however, a definite YES. They could even be part of the Mitzvah note. Example: “Chany cleaned up her toy room. We thank you for teaching her that it’s a mitzvah to help mommy.” I still sometimes send notes to my grandchildren’s teachers, especially after the Pesach Seder. Gifts, on the other hand, can be tacky and inappropriate, and sometimes misinterpreted. Shira Weiss, Brooklyn, NY learned a lot from your article on saving money while grocery shopping. I am always looking for ways to save money. However, I don’t feel comfortable shopping with coupons. I don’t know if this is something other women can relate to. Can you write more articles on saving money, without the use of coupons? Tova H., Chicago, Illinois Dr. Peretz Lock We really are as great as our = SOCIAL MEDIA SIGHTINGS Dr. Daniel Ganz Izzy Pupko PT @ rache l_wein Your ma gazine is the best ye interesti t! Full of ng tid info. A re bits and al treat! team. PA Saba Gitisetan What makes Boro Park Center Brooklyn’s de facto address for quality care? @EstyG nd y ery arou n my groc rent tha ne up at ery diffe thing to be v icked o Ip . Every I found it ut there me and azines o nd in a useful om tov ti a ical mag its. r typ light dire stra the othe en in a positive people in usband that is writt es with h sob stori a fan. I told my cover to way, no ming agazine one. ely beco time I read a m Definit y for any e first ling sorr to is was th d up fee lacha, we want th idn’t en of hatz er and d ads cov p with lo ee more! s Keep it u 4915 10th Avenue Brooklyn, NY 11219 Phone 718.851.3700 www.BoroParkCenter.net PA Andrew Weissman The timeless dedication exhibited by all our board-certified doctors, nurses and therapists. We're honored to keep our respected residents living happy, while remaining invested in developing state-of-the-art rehab therapies every day. We truly are one awesome team.
we hear you  I  made it my business to go through two issues of FYI on Shabbos, which I had picked up from a friend. Kol h...
featured contributors Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS RIVKY FOLLMAN CHANI FRIEDMAN RACHEL SEGAL Writer Photographer Writer My favorite part about Chanukah is...the parties! No, not really. I do enjoy having my kids home for vacation, though. My favorite part about Chanukah is...playing games and singing songs with my family. Okay, fine... eating donuts too. The best gift I’ve ever received was...the fifth Harry Potter book on the day it came out. A family friend got it for my eighth-grade graduation, because he knew I was obsessed with the series. The best gift I’ve ever received was...my children. I know it sounds so cliche, but it’s true! They truly brighten my life and continuously amaze me. My go-to mood booster in the winter is...making sure I get out at least once every day. A brisk walk in the freezing cold is invigorating and refreshing. A book I’m reading now is....Catch 22, which is the originator for the phrase everyone now uses. My go-to mood booster in the winter is...having hot chocolate and cookies by the window, soaking up whatever sun comes in through the clouds and snow. A book I’m reading now is....I wish I had time to read; I haven’t read a book in months! LIEBA BARD-WIGDOR Copy Editor My favorite part about Chanukah is...seeing menorahs displayed in restaurants, stores, and public areas throughout cities in Israel. My favorite part about Chanukah is...the Menorah lights on the eighth night. There’s something quite warm and beautiful about the fully lit Chanukiah. The best gift I’ve ever received was...a unicycle for my 14th birthday. It symbolized that my parents would go to all lengths to find ways to encourage and fulfill my creative wishes. The best gift I’ve ever received was...my very first laptop at the start of my first semester in college. I think the best part was my family surprising me with it! My go-to mood booster in the winter is...fresh, sweet-as-sugar strawberries (in season in Israel during the winter). My go-to mood booster in the winter is...a warm cup of tea! Sleepytime Sinus Soother by Celestial Seasonings has got to be my favorite. A book I’m reading now is....The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio (A memoir sure to inspire moms and writers everywhere). A book I’m reading now is....Ready Player One, a 2011 science fiction and dystopian novel by Ernest Cline.
featured contributors Q A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH   S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS  RIVKY FOLLMAN  CHANI FRIEDMAN  RACHEL SEGAL  ...
featured contributors Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS RIVKY FOLLMAN CHANI FRIEDMAN RACHEL SEGAL Writer Photographer Writer My favorite part about Chanukah is...the parties! No, not really. I do enjoy having my kids home for vacation, though. My favorite part about Chanukah is...playing games and singing songs with my family. Okay, fine... eating donuts too. The best gift I’ve ever received was...the fifth Harry Potter book on the day it came out. A family friend got it for my eighth-grade graduation, because he knew I was obsessed with the series. The best gift I’ve ever received was...my children. I know it sounds so cliche, but it’s true! They truly brighten my life and continuously amaze me. My go-to mood booster in the winter is...making sure I get out at least once every day. A brisk walk in the freezing cold is invigorating and refreshing. A book I’m reading now is....Catch 22, which is the originator for the phrase everyone now uses. My go-to mood booster in the winter is...having hot chocolate and cookies by the window, soaking up whatever sun comes in through the clouds and snow. A book I’m reading now is....I wish I had time to read; I haven’t read a book in months! LIEBA BARD-WIGDOR Copy Editor My favorite part about Chanukah is...seeing menorahs displayed in restaurants, stores, and public areas throughout cities in Israel. My favorite part about Chanukah is...the Menorah lights on the eighth night. There’s something quite warm and beautiful about the fully lit Chanukiah. The best gift I’ve ever received was...a unicycle for my 14th birthday. It symbolized that my parents would go to all lengths to find ways to encourage and fulfill my creative wishes. The best gift I’ve ever received was...my very first laptop at the start of my first semester in college. I think the best part was my family surprising me with it! My go-to mood booster in the winter is...fresh, sweet-as-sugar strawberries (in season in Israel during the winter). My go-to mood booster in the winter is...a warm cup of tea! Sleepytime Sinus Soother by Celestial Seasonings has got to be my favorite. A book I’m reading now is....The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio (A memoir sure to inspire moms and writers everywhere). A book I’m reading now is....Ready Player One, a 2011 science fiction and dystopian novel by Ernest Cline.
featured contributors Q A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH   S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS  RIVKY FOLLMAN  CHANI FRIEDMAN  RACHEL SEGAL  ...
PROUDLY PRESENTS hope and help to families fighting illness your voice #JoinTheDiscussion X “You are so much more powerful than you realize. It’s all about the tape playing in your head. If you can see your dreams, they are attainable. You must believe that your dreams will come true. And they will, because you’ve created an environment in which they could grow.” Chav Landau, Monsey, NY “Stay positive, remember most everything will pass, be kind and treat yourself as you would treat your best friend.” Bella Tonini, Silver Spring, MD X “The secret of living the best life is gratefulness. Be thankful for the miracle that is in every moment of your life. You will then s ubsequently live a miraculous life!” Y. K. Brooklyn, NY “If you do small things to make your loved ones’ lives easier and they do the same for you, you will all live so much better!” Sima Neiman, Cleveland, OH Q: IF YOU WERE PUT ON A STAGE IN FRONT OF 1,000 PEOPLE AND YOU HAD 30 SECONDS TO RELATE A MESSAGE, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY? “Everyone has a story. You never know what they are going through. Be nice. You have no idea what kindness can do to a person.” [ @shana_flower “Laugh more.” M.F. “Stop caring about what others are saying, doing, or wearing. Be who you truly want to be.” [ Karen Behfar, Brooklyn, NY “To love everyone unconditionally- no matter who they are, what they do, and where they come from. Especially our own children.” Avigail B., Brooklyn, NY “Forgive, let go of jealousy and resentment - it’s like taking poison, wanting the other person to die. The best revenge is success. Rise above, soar, dream, believe. Don’t compete with anyone but yourself. Always be kind and win.” [ An all new hit musical for women by women From the creators of Changed and Alexandra @fashionisha Sharon Langert, Lakewood, NJ “INSIDE EVERYONE YOU KNOW IS SOMEONE YOU DON’T.” S.G. “Don’t judge others because they sin differently than you. It’s not my quote but it speaks to me.” STARRING Rachel Hertz, Brooklyn, NY Question for next month: What would you like to accomplish in 2016? Text your answer to 516-331-1885! Cameo by Hannah Stern Original choreography by LOCATION: ING BUS LE. ILAB AVA O LL T CA E ERV RES AT! R SE YOU John Dewey High School 50 Avenue X TICKETS: $25, $36, $54, $75, $100 Hannah Stern & Maayan Davis SHOWTIMES: Motzei Shabbos, November 28 @ 8:30pm Sunday, November 29 @ 7:00pm Motzei Shabbos, December 5 @ 8:30pm Dec 6 @ 12:15pm– Chanukah Gift for All FREE CD!!! Sunday, December 6 @ 12:15pm Matinee Finale Show* *special ticket pricing and refreshments To order tickets visit: www.JEWISHTICKETS.com FOR TICKETS CALL: 718-258-0952 | FOR GROUP SALES & TRANSPORTATION CALL: 732-569-4627 TICKETS AVAILABLE AT EICHLERS BORO PARK 5004 13TH AVE & EICHLERS FLATBUSH 1401 CONEY ISLAND AVE
PROUDLY PRESENTS  hope and help to families fighting illness  your voice  JoinTheDiscussion  X    You are so much more pow...
PROUDLY PRESENTS hope and help to families fighting illness your voice #JoinTheDiscussion X “You are so much more powerful than you realize. It’s all about the tape playing in your head. If you can see your dreams, they are attainable. You must believe that your dreams will come true. And they will, because you’ve created an environment in which they could grow.” Chav Landau, Monsey, NY “Stay positive, remember most everything will pass, be kind and treat yourself as you would treat your best friend.” Bella Tonini, Silver Spring, MD X “The secret of living the best life is gratefulness. Be thankful for the miracle that is in every moment of your life. You will then s ubsequently live a miraculous life!” Y. K. Brooklyn, NY “If you do small things to make your loved ones’ lives easier and they do the same for you, you will all live so much better!” Sima Neiman, Cleveland, OH Q: IF YOU WERE PUT ON A STAGE IN FRONT OF 1,000 PEOPLE AND YOU HAD 30 SECONDS TO RELATE A MESSAGE, WHAT WOULD YOU SAY? “Everyone has a story. You never know what they are going through. Be nice. You have no idea what kindness can do to a person.” [ @shana_flower “Laugh more.” M.F. “Stop caring about what others are saying, doing, or wearing. Be who you truly want to be.” [ Karen Behfar, Brooklyn, NY “To love everyone unconditionally- no matter who they are, what they do, and where they come from. Especially our own children.” Avigail B., Brooklyn, NY “Forgive, let go of jealousy and resentment - it’s like taking poison, wanting the other person to die. The best revenge is success. Rise above, soar, dream, believe. Don’t compete with anyone but yourself. Always be kind and win.” [ An all new hit musical for women by women From the creators of Changed and Alexandra @fashionisha Sharon Langert, Lakewood, NJ “INSIDE EVERYONE YOU KNOW IS SOMEONE YOU DON’T.” S.G. “Don’t judge others because they sin differently than you. It’s not my quote but it speaks to me.” STARRING Rachel Hertz, Brooklyn, NY Question for next month: What would you like to accomplish in 2016? Text your answer to 516-331-1885! Cameo by Hannah Stern Original choreography by LOCATION: ING BUS LE. ILAB AVA O LL T CA E ERV RES AT! R SE YOU John Dewey High School 50 Avenue X TICKETS: $25, $36, $54, $75, $100 Hannah Stern & Maayan Davis SHOWTIMES: Motzei Shabbos, November 28 @ 8:30pm Sunday, November 29 @ 7:00pm Motzei Shabbos, December 5 @ 8:30pm Dec 6 @ 12:15pm– Chanukah Gift for All FREE CD!!! Sunday, December 6 @ 12:15pm Matinee Finale Show* *special ticket pricing and refreshments To order tickets visit: www.JEWISHTICKETS.com FOR TICKETS CALL: 718-258-0952 | FOR GROUP SALES & TRANSPORTATION CALL: 732-569-4627 TICKETS AVAILABLE AT EICHLERS BORO PARK 5004 13TH AVE & EICHLERS FLATBUSH 1401 CONEY ISLAND AVE
PROUDLY PRESENTS  hope and help to families fighting illness  your voice  JoinTheDiscussion  X    You are so much more pow...
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY! editor’s note I believe I was about 10 years old when I received my first-ever acupuncture treatment. My mother swears by holistic remedies, so naturally, I was exposed to this type of medicine from an early age. I had gone along with her to an appointment and she let me have a chance to feel what it’s like. These days, you couldn’t convince me to do it so quickly; however, there is something to say for alternative medicine. ad subscription page to the magazinewith the cover and low introductory price SU BSC RIB E NOW T G E T OU O R INTROD LOW UCTOR Y RATEIT WON ’T L AST L ONG ! Recently, I was dealing with a specific health issue and someone recommended that I see a kinesiologist. I went in rather skeptically, but walked out blown away. The things the practitioner could feel from my past that were coming from my body were on point! The article on alternative medicine in this issue covers many different medicines and has a very well-balanced approach. You will find it interesting and enlightening. Since Chanukah is almost here, we brought you ideas, information, and guides for just about everything! Take a look at the delicious mini-bite recipes that are perfect for a party! Additionally, items on our last-minute Chanukah gift guide are all less than $50. It couldn’t get better than that, but wait...it did! We teamed up with Hostess International to bring you the latest in innovative table decor. We also created three original and beautiful DIY Chanukah centerpieces for you. Try them out (the food, decor, and centerpieces) and when you do, send us pictures of your table! Don’t have games to play to keep your little kids or even adult SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $50/YEAR! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com company entertained? We’ve got you covered. Check out our article “Let the Games Begin,” for an endless amount of ideas that everyone will love! Susie Fischbein’s Kosher By Design series cookbooks have been best-sellers many times over; Susie herself is practically a household name. We are honored to hear about her journey in becoming an author/businesswoman. What makes people successful? What traits do they possess? You’ll need to read our comprehensive and well researched article, “The More You Know,” for the run-down. Some more of my favorite articles are: “How To Care For Elderly Parents,” “Workout and Fitness Tips for Winter,” “How To Disagree Agreeably,” and “10 Essential Makeup Brushes.” There really is so much exciting content that I’m so eager for you to read. I’m always so thrilled to hear honest feedback, and to receive kind messages from readers who are gaining from the content in the magazine. After all, our mission is to provide reliable, engaging, innovative, and informative content to help you better your life! And I couldn’t be happier to fulfill that. Wishing all of our readers a warm and bright Chanukah, : yitty suggests “Pom Poms are not just for kids anymore. Spice up your look while keeping warm.” page 15 “This book is a real eye-opener. You can save money even if you’re short on time.” page 32 “A centerpiece that’s gorgeous and functional (the kids will be ecstatic) to adorn your Chanukah table.”” page 22 “After I made these, I kept finding myself taking just one more out of my freezer. They are THAT good.”” page 86 Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY   editor   s note  I  believe I was about 10 years old when I received my f...
ENJOY THE CONVENIENCE OF MONTHLY HOME DELIVERY! editor’s note I believe I was about 10 years old when I received my first-ever acupuncture treatment. My mother swears by holistic remedies, so naturally, I was exposed to this type of medicine from an early age. I had gone along with her to an appointment and she let me have a chance to feel what it’s like. These days, you couldn’t convince me to do it so quickly; however, there is something to say for alternative medicine. ad subscription page to the magazinewith the cover and low introductory price SU BSC RIB E NOW T G E T OU O R INTROD LOW UCTOR Y RATEIT WON ’T L AST L ONG ! Recently, I was dealing with a specific health issue and someone recommended that I see a kinesiologist. I went in rather skeptically, but walked out blown away. The things the practitioner could feel from my past that were coming from my body were on point! The article on alternative medicine in this issue covers many different medicines and has a very well-balanced approach. You will find it interesting and enlightening. Since Chanukah is almost here, we brought you ideas, information, and guides for just about everything! Take a look at the delicious mini-bite recipes that are perfect for a party! Additionally, items on our last-minute Chanukah gift guide are all less than $50. It couldn’t get better than that, but wait...it did! We teamed up with Hostess International to bring you the latest in innovative table decor. We also created three original and beautiful DIY Chanukah centerpieces for you. Try them out (the food, decor, and centerpieces) and when you do, send us pictures of your table! Don’t have games to play to keep your little kids or even adult SUBSCRIBE NOW ONLINE FOR ONLY $50/YEAR! Visit www.fyimagazineny.com company entertained? We’ve got you covered. Check out our article “Let the Games Begin,” for an endless amount of ideas that everyone will love! Susie Fischbein’s Kosher By Design series cookbooks have been best-sellers many times over; Susie herself is practically a household name. We are honored to hear about her journey in becoming an author/businesswoman. What makes people successful? What traits do they possess? You’ll need to read our comprehensive and well researched article, “The More You Know,” for the run-down. Some more of my favorite articles are: “How To Care For Elderly Parents,” “Workout and Fitness Tips for Winter,” “How To Disagree Agreeably,” and “10 Essential Makeup Brushes.” There really is so much exciting content that I’m so eager for you to read. I’m always so thrilled to hear honest feedback, and to receive kind messages from readers who are gaining from the content in the magazine. After all, our mission is to provide reliable, engaging, innovative, and informative content to help you better your life! And I couldn’t be happier to fulfill that. Wishing all of our readers a warm and bright Chanukah, : yitty suggests “Pom Poms are not just for kids anymore. Spice up your look while keeping warm.” page 15 “This book is a real eye-opener. You can save money even if you’re short on time.” page 32 “A centerpiece that’s gorgeous and functional (the kids will be ecstatic) to adorn your Chanukah table.”” page 22 “After I made these, I kept finding myself taking just one more out of my freezer. They are THAT good.”” page 86 Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE
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BEAUTY GUIDE OPENER > Make your life more beautiful! the beauty guide diy CHANUKAH Fashion Must-Haves N CENTERPIECES
BEAUTY GUIDE OPENER    Make your life more beautiful   the beauty guide  diy  CHANUKAH Fashion Must-Haves N CENTERPIECES  ...
BEAUTY GUIDE OPENER > Make your life more beautiful! the beauty guide diy CHANUKAH Fashion Must-Haves N CENTERPIECES
BEAUTY GUIDE OPENER    Make your life more beautiful   the beauty guide  diy  CHANUKAH Fashion Must-Haves N CENTERPIECES  ...
2 1 Chic and classy, this centerpiece can be a great addition to an elegantlyset chanukah table. All the items here were purchased at the dollar store. you will need: Glass bowls with a narrow opening Candles Marbles Faux Flowers directions: Place the marbles in the bowls (fill halfway), put the flower and candle right at the opening; use tape to keep the flower in place if needed. light up the nights gifted menorah you will need: Glasses -You can use any glasses that you already have, or you can purchase simple cups from the dollar store. Who doesn’t love presents? Give your table the shimmer and shine it deserves with this beautiful menorah centerpiece. CHANIFRIEDMANPHOTOGRAPHY.COM candy craze This centerpiece is simple, gorgeous to look at, and functional- the children (and adults!) will love it! you will need: Two tissue boxes- Empty or full; you will still be able to use the tissues when you’re done. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE • Wrap the tissue boxes and piece of foam, as you would a gift. • Place a bow on the small box. • Arrange like a menorah and add tea lights on top. A small piece of foam/ box (for the shamash) Wrapping paper- We used two colors. Grosgrain ribbon -We used wired ribbon for the bow. Scotch Tape Scissors 9 Tea Lights Candy! -Buy any candies that you think your guests will like and fill up the glasses with it! You can stick to a theme, like we did, or do your own thing. directions: 3
2  1  Chic and classy, this centerpiece can be a great addition to an elegantlyset chanukah table. All the items here were...
2 1 Chic and classy, this centerpiece can be a great addition to an elegantlyset chanukah table. All the items here were purchased at the dollar store. you will need: Glass bowls with a narrow opening Candles Marbles Faux Flowers directions: Place the marbles in the bowls (fill halfway), put the flower and candle right at the opening; use tape to keep the flower in place if needed. light up the nights gifted menorah you will need: Glasses -You can use any glasses that you already have, or you can purchase simple cups from the dollar store. Who doesn’t love presents? Give your table the shimmer and shine it deserves with this beautiful menorah centerpiece. CHANIFRIEDMANPHOTOGRAPHY.COM candy craze This centerpiece is simple, gorgeous to look at, and functional- the children (and adults!) will love it! you will need: Two tissue boxes- Empty or full; you will still be able to use the tissues when you’re done. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE • Wrap the tissue boxes and piece of foam, as you would a gift. • Place a bow on the small box. • Arrange like a menorah and add tea lights on top. A small piece of foam/ box (for the shamash) Wrapping paper- We used two colors. Grosgrain ribbon -We used wired ribbon for the bow. Scotch Tape Scissors 9 Tea Lights Candy! -Buy any candies that you think your guests will like and fill up the glasses with it! You can stick to a theme, like we did, or do your own thing. directions: 3
2  1  Chic and classy, this centerpiece can be a great addition to an elegantlyset chanukah table. All the items here were...
the beauty guide HOME CREATE THE RUSTIC LOOK AT HOME With the exceptionally warm weather this year, we shouldn't have to let fall go. Bring in the autumn vibe with all its foliage into your home, for an upbeat refreshing Chanukah atmosphere. • PHOTOGRAPHY BY MEIR JERET @PHOTOGRAPHY_BYMEIRJERET TA K E YO U R PA R T Y U P A N OTC H ! A rustic theme is mostly natural colors and materials. But, you can make your table pop by using an accent color, like orange or teal, for your table cloth and napkins. • Use wooden spoons, trays, bowls and serving pieces (like cheeseboards) to display your doughnuts, latkes and other appetizers. • Wrap your wine bottles, and other beverages in burlap and tie it with your accent color ribbon. • Place a small mason jar with water at each table setting, instead of regular drinking glasses. Chanukah Decor Hosting Chanukah parties is a great way to spend time with family and friends, creating warm memories to last. To assist and inspire you, FYI asked Hostess International for the latest on innovative table design. Take a look at these four magnificent, yet very different ways to augment your decor and theme. Incorporate any of these looks by going big and using most of the decor, all the way from the tablecloth to the floral arrangements. Or, simply add a few accent pieces to your table decor for the same feel. Remember to have fun with it! 18 | fyimagazineny.com 19 | fyimagazineny.com
the beauty guide  HOME  CREATE THE RUSTIC LOOK AT HOME With the exceptionally warm weather this year, we shouldn t have to...
the beauty guide HOME CREATE THE RUSTIC LOOK AT HOME With the exceptionally warm weather this year, we shouldn't have to let fall go. Bring in the autumn vibe with all its foliage into your home, for an upbeat refreshing Chanukah atmosphere. • PHOTOGRAPHY BY MEIR JERET @PHOTOGRAPHY_BYMEIRJERET TA K E YO U R PA R T Y U P A N OTC H ! A rustic theme is mostly natural colors and materials. But, you can make your table pop by using an accent color, like orange or teal, for your table cloth and napkins. • Use wooden spoons, trays, bowls and serving pieces (like cheeseboards) to display your doughnuts, latkes and other appetizers. • Wrap your wine bottles, and other beverages in burlap and tie it with your accent color ribbon. • Place a small mason jar with water at each table setting, instead of regular drinking glasses. Chanukah Decor Hosting Chanukah parties is a great way to spend time with family and friends, creating warm memories to last. To assist and inspire you, FYI asked Hostess International for the latest on innovative table design. Take a look at these four magnificent, yet very different ways to augment your decor and theme. Incorporate any of these looks by going big and using most of the decor, all the way from the tablecloth to the floral arrangements. Or, simply add a few accent pieces to your table decor for the same feel. Remember to have fun with it! 18 | fyimagazineny.com 19 | fyimagazineny.com
the beauty guide  HOME  CREATE THE RUSTIC LOOK AT HOME With the exceptionally warm weather this year, we shouldn t have to...
N ON IRON • WRIN KLE FRE E • C LASSIC FIT • SLI M F I T the beauty guide CREATE THE ELEGANT LOOK AT HOME This elegant look is perfect for an upscale business party or if you are incorporating a small Simcha on Chanukah. • Using a dark table cloth with a sparkly runner will make your party table look glamorous. • Red roses are an elegant affair staple. Use them for center piece flowers, table setting accents or just scatter some petals for decoration • Look around your house for silver crystal or glass, dishes, bowls and serving trays. You will be surprised to see that you have many dishes to utilize. • To tie in the Chanukah ambiance, prepare party favors of silver dreidels and silver foiled chocolate coins at each place setting. C M Y CM MY CY CMY K C M Y CM MY CY CMY K 20 | fyimagazineny.com SLIM FIT
N ON IRON     WRIN KLE FRE E     C LASSIC FIT     SLI M F I T  the beauty guide  CREATE THE ELEGANT LOOK AT HOME This eleg...
N ON IRON • WRIN KLE FRE E • C LASSIC FIT • SLI M F I T the beauty guide CREATE THE ELEGANT LOOK AT HOME This elegant look is perfect for an upscale business party or if you are incorporating a small Simcha on Chanukah. • Using a dark table cloth with a sparkly runner will make your party table look glamorous. • Red roses are an elegant affair staple. Use them for center piece flowers, table setting accents or just scatter some petals for decoration • Look around your house for silver crystal or glass, dishes, bowls and serving trays. You will be surprised to see that you have many dishes to utilize. • To tie in the Chanukah ambiance, prepare party favors of silver dreidels and silver foiled chocolate coins at each place setting. C M Y CM MY CY CMY K C M Y CM MY CY CMY K 20 | fyimagazineny.com SLIM FIT
N ON IRON     WRIN KLE FRE E     C LASSIC FIT     SLI M F I T  the beauty guide  CREATE THE ELEGANT LOOK AT HOME This eleg...
the beauty guide HOME COLOR SCHEME First things first: decide on the right color scheme for your room or home. You can simplify the process by using a color wheel and narrowing down your choices to two color schemes. There are more, of course, but these are the most effective and provide a great place to start. color my world How to incorporate color, and bring life and vibrancy to your space. GO BOLD Step outside the box and add a burst of color to your space. An accent wall in a bright hue is a wonderful way to integrate color in any room. Another way to add some pop is by creating a color scheme with smaller accents, such as vases, picture frames, wall art, pillows, candlesticks, and lamps. The sky’s the limit and the sky is pretty high. This small step can make a significant difference in any neutral space. Stick to an accent theme of one or two shades/ hues. Too much is bound to ruin the effect. Too much for you? A more subtle approach would be a colored accent, such as a chair. This way you can still achieve a colored effect without taking a big pricey step. Colored window shades are another great way to add a touch of color to a dull area. Greenery and floral elements in a room give the space a warmer more colored feel. 22 | fyimagazineny.com REMEMBER THE LIGHTING Proper lighting is crucial when you care about your colors. Inadequate lighting can make even pretty colors in a space seem dull. Avoid this by using high-wattage bulbs in your fixtures. A little more light goes a long way. THE BLACK! An unconventional way to make all the other colors in a room pop is by adding black to a space. By adding a black element — say, a black box, lampshade, picture frame or other accent — you clarify and enhance all the other colors in the space. WHERE TO BUY: Tangerine Throw Pillow, silverferndecor.com, $23.95; Deer At Sunset 3 Piece Wall Art, wayfair.com, $59.95 OR Deer at Sunset 3 Piece Wall Art, aliexpress.com, $139.99; Ceramic Floor Vase, intoaccents.com, $57; Armless Bankers Chair, overstock.com, $115.34; Black Flask Lamp, bludot.com, $299.00 23 | fyimagazineny.com Susan Strauss Design is well established as a leading full service design firm, founded by principal, Susan Strauss. The firm has been creating luxurious living environments for clients of themost discerning tastes for over a decade. With a well earned reputation as one of the premier firms of the East Coast, SSD's client base is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients.
the beauty guide  HOME  COLOR SCHEME First things first  decide on the right color scheme for your room or home. You can s...
the beauty guide HOME COLOR SCHEME First things first: decide on the right color scheme for your room or home. You can simplify the process by using a color wheel and narrowing down your choices to two color schemes. There are more, of course, but these are the most effective and provide a great place to start. color my world How to incorporate color, and bring life and vibrancy to your space. GO BOLD Step outside the box and add a burst of color to your space. An accent wall in a bright hue is a wonderful way to integrate color in any room. Another way to add some pop is by creating a color scheme with smaller accents, such as vases, picture frames, wall art, pillows, candlesticks, and lamps. The sky’s the limit and the sky is pretty high. This small step can make a significant difference in any neutral space. Stick to an accent theme of one or two shades/ hues. Too much is bound to ruin the effect. Too much for you? A more subtle approach would be a colored accent, such as a chair. This way you can still achieve a colored effect without taking a big pricey step. Colored window shades are another great way to add a touch of color to a dull area. Greenery and floral elements in a room give the space a warmer more colored feel. 22 | fyimagazineny.com REMEMBER THE LIGHTING Proper lighting is crucial when you care about your colors. Inadequate lighting can make even pretty colors in a space seem dull. Avoid this by using high-wattage bulbs in your fixtures. A little more light goes a long way. THE BLACK! An unconventional way to make all the other colors in a room pop is by adding black to a space. By adding a black element — say, a black box, lampshade, picture frame or other accent — you clarify and enhance all the other colors in the space. WHERE TO BUY: Tangerine Throw Pillow, silverferndecor.com, $23.95; Deer At Sunset 3 Piece Wall Art, wayfair.com, $59.95 OR Deer at Sunset 3 Piece Wall Art, aliexpress.com, $139.99; Ceramic Floor Vase, intoaccents.com, $57; Armless Bankers Chair, overstock.com, $115.34; Black Flask Lamp, bludot.com, $299.00 23 | fyimagazineny.com Susan Strauss Design is well established as a leading full service design firm, founded by principal, Susan Strauss. The firm has been creating luxurious living environments for clients of themost discerning tastes for over a decade. With a well earned reputation as one of the premier firms of the East Coast, SSD's client base is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients.
the beauty guide  HOME  COLOR SCHEME First things first  decide on the right color scheme for your room or home. You can s...
the beauty guide FASHION CORDUROY WINTER 2015 Fashion Must-Haves FASHION EDITOR: BETTY GULKO With ’70s nostalgia at the core of the season, corduroy is the comeback kid ruling the look as of late. It’s refreshingly stylish rather than dowdy. Create your style with everything from leather separates to chunky knits (or better, both!) for an of-the-moment take on retro. SHOP THE LOOK: Otley Cord Blazer by Unique, Topshop, $370.00 KNITTED POM POM HAT THE FLOUNCE HEM LADYLIKE LOAFERS The coolest shoes of the season are in fact bon ton with low and chunky heel, perfect to be worn from morning to evening. Use these super-comfortable stacked kitten heels to completely change up your look. Out with those pointy high heels and in with the low block heel! PATENT BOOTIES This style skirt has some serious attitude – both flirty and fun, it’s the perfect switch from that pencil skirt and can be easily transitioned from work to a night out. What can be more versatile in a skirt than this? It's time to step up your shoe game this season. No more of those boring black booties… instead, spice things up with a patented version! A high-gloss metallic boot will instantly up your style. SHOP THE LOOK: BETTY patent boot, Topshop, $60.00 SHOP THE LOOK: Sanya Flounce Hem Skirt, BCBG MaxAzria $159.60 Does this really need explaining? I mean, it's pretty much the wardrobe staple. It’s the perfect amount of edge to add to any look during those cold winter days. No-fuss dressing couldn’t be easier for the cool girl on the go with a chic biker jacket. PLAID GLOVE HAPPY Who needs long sleeves when you have these fab long gloves? This trend makes a great dramatic statement and will not leave you out in the cold. So take the opportunity to pay homage to old Hollywood - go glove or go home! SHOP THE LOOK: Long Leather Gloves, Charter Club, $100 SHOP THE LOOK: Tartan Plaid Shirt, Topshop, $58.00 Betty Gulko is an Orthodox, freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram for a daily dose of the #LifeOfaStylist @such.a.betty! 24 | fyimagazineny.com SHOP THE LOOK: Dark Red Knit Pom Pom Hat, River Island, $26.00 THE BIKER JACKET SHOP THE LOOK: Veronica Suede Loafers, Steve Madden, $129.95 Plaid, plaid, plaid, and more plaid! And not just any old plaid: the tartan specifically is the way to go. This style is a long-time recognized design for the colder seasons, and it’s just the right touch of check and color. So start to think of plaid as a way to venture outside the box this season. A headwear accessory is one of the most significant things to spice up any look for the colder season, acting as a marker of the overall style, so why not have fun with it? Being comfortably laid on the head and looking ever so chic, these hats have their place in the fave list of ladies and fashion designers. So many types to try with the beanie, but the ultimate trend… pom pom! SHOP THE LOOK: Biker Jacket, Zara, $70.00 WINTER WHITES Get all wrapped up in a coat trend that takes the most flattering moments of your mornings out onto the streets – #RobeTime. How could you possibly go wrong here? Hey, if Hermes anoints it, I’m certainly on board. Fall and winter are typically accompanied by darker colors, which is why I love a winter-white ensemble. It can work even though it’s dark and gloomy outside. If you're not feeling brave enough, try the trend with an accessory! SHOP THE LOOK: Preferred Pairing Coat in Croissant, Modcloth, $80.00 SHOP THE LOOK: Drawstring Bucket, David Jones, $89.95 WRAP COAT 25 || fyimagazineny.com 25 fyimagazineny.com
the beauty guide  FASHION CORDUROY  WINTER 2015  Fashion Must-Haves FASHION EDITOR  BETTY GULKO  With    70s nostalgia at ...
the beauty guide FASHION CORDUROY WINTER 2015 Fashion Must-Haves FASHION EDITOR: BETTY GULKO With ’70s nostalgia at the core of the season, corduroy is the comeback kid ruling the look as of late. It’s refreshingly stylish rather than dowdy. Create your style with everything from leather separates to chunky knits (or better, both!) for an of-the-moment take on retro. SHOP THE LOOK: Otley Cord Blazer by Unique, Topshop, $370.00 KNITTED POM POM HAT THE FLOUNCE HEM LADYLIKE LOAFERS The coolest shoes of the season are in fact bon ton with low and chunky heel, perfect to be worn from morning to evening. Use these super-comfortable stacked kitten heels to completely change up your look. Out with those pointy high heels and in with the low block heel! PATENT BOOTIES This style skirt has some serious attitude – both flirty and fun, it’s the perfect switch from that pencil skirt and can be easily transitioned from work to a night out. What can be more versatile in a skirt than this? It's time to step up your shoe game this season. No more of those boring black booties… instead, spice things up with a patented version! A high-gloss metallic boot will instantly up your style. SHOP THE LOOK: BETTY patent boot, Topshop, $60.00 SHOP THE LOOK: Sanya Flounce Hem Skirt, BCBG MaxAzria $159.60 Does this really need explaining? I mean, it's pretty much the wardrobe staple. It’s the perfect amount of edge to add to any look during those cold winter days. No-fuss dressing couldn’t be easier for the cool girl on the go with a chic biker jacket. PLAID GLOVE HAPPY Who needs long sleeves when you have these fab long gloves? This trend makes a great dramatic statement and will not leave you out in the cold. So take the opportunity to pay homage to old Hollywood - go glove or go home! SHOP THE LOOK: Long Leather Gloves, Charter Club, $100 SHOP THE LOOK: Tartan Plaid Shirt, Topshop, $58.00 Betty Gulko is an Orthodox, freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@gmail.com. Follow her on Instagram for a daily dose of the #LifeOfaStylist @such.a.betty! 24 | fyimagazineny.com SHOP THE LOOK: Dark Red Knit Pom Pom Hat, River Island, $26.00 THE BIKER JACKET SHOP THE LOOK: Veronica Suede Loafers, Steve Madden, $129.95 Plaid, plaid, plaid, and more plaid! And not just any old plaid: the tartan specifically is the way to go. This style is a long-time recognized design for the colder seasons, and it’s just the right touch of check and color. So start to think of plaid as a way to venture outside the box this season. A headwear accessory is one of the most significant things to spice up any look for the colder season, acting as a marker of the overall style, so why not have fun with it? Being comfortably laid on the head and looking ever so chic, these hats have their place in the fave list of ladies and fashion designers. So many types to try with the beanie, but the ultimate trend… pom pom! SHOP THE LOOK: Biker Jacket, Zara, $70.00 WINTER WHITES Get all wrapped up in a coat trend that takes the most flattering moments of your mornings out onto the streets – #RobeTime. How could you possibly go wrong here? Hey, if Hermes anoints it, I’m certainly on board. Fall and winter are typically accompanied by darker colors, which is why I love a winter-white ensemble. It can work even though it’s dark and gloomy outside. If you're not feeling brave enough, try the trend with an accessory! SHOP THE LOOK: Preferred Pairing Coat in Croissant, Modcloth, $80.00 SHOP THE LOOK: Drawstring Bucket, David Jones, $89.95 WRAP COAT 25 || fyimagazineny.com 25 fyimagazineny.com
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the beauty guide MAKEUP Top 10 e ESSENTIAL MAKEUP BRUSHES 5 3 We all put on makeup (at least some of the time), but is your technique yielding the best possible results? Do you know which brush to use for bronzer and which for blush? Do you need to own every single brush on the market? You might be doing all the right steps, but are you using the right tools? As a professional makeup artist, I get asked which brushes are essential, all the time. I have an endless number of different makeup brushes in my beauty arsenal to accommodate a variety of clients. But does the average makeup user need hundreds of brushes in her collection? The answer is no; you just need some basics. The following are brushes that are so essential, my makeup kit cannot live without them, and neither can yours: e When you want to 8 STIPPLING BRUSH create a flawless finish, this brush allows you to perfectly blend the product into your skin. That’s why it’s mostly used with liquid foundation, cream products, and body makeup. Tip: dip the brush into the foundation and buff it into the skin in circular motions. This method will seamlessly blend the foundation into your skin and create a perfect canvas. J TRY: MAC 187 DUO FIBRE FACE BRUSH, MACYS.COM, $42 2 o f 6 4 7 26 | fyimagazineny.com 9 CONTOUR BRUSH Before strobing, there was contouring. There are multiple techniques used to contour one’s face. You can use a very dense brush to get a super-chiseled “I just walked off the runway” look, 27 | fyimagazineny.com or you can use a fluffier brush to create soft shadows that will shape your face and create natural-looking cheekbones. Whatever your desired goal, there is a brush out there for you! Personally, I like combining the two styles and creating soft, yet defined cheekbones. Tip: often, less is more. You don’t need to contour if you’ll be using bronzer. J TRY: NARS “ITA” BRUSH, SEPHORA.COM, $55 g This is the perfect POWDER BRUSH brush for applying bronzer. You simply dip it into the bronzer, tap off the excess product, and trace the number “3” starting at your forehead, coming down to your cheek, and ending at your jaw. For a natural, sun-kissed effect, place some bronzer on the points of your face where the sun hits you, i.e., your nose. This is the easiest and most foolproof way of achieving that golden glow. Tip: this brush can also be used with a setting powder to set your makeup. J TRY: REAL TECHNIQUES POWDER BRUSH, TARGET. COM, $7.99 i Blush is essential to BLUSH BRUSH give your complexion color. However, no one wants to look like Madame de Pompadour, or like they stepped out of the 80’s. That’s why choosing the right blush brush is so important. You want to make sure that the brush isn’t too round or oversized so you can
the beauty guide  MAKEUP  Top 10  e  ESSENTIAL MAKEUP BRUSHES  5  3  We all put on makeup  at least some of the time , but...
the beauty guide MAKEUP Top 10 e ESSENTIAL MAKEUP BRUSHES 5 3 We all put on makeup (at least some of the time), but is your technique yielding the best possible results? Do you know which brush to use for bronzer and which for blush? Do you need to own every single brush on the market? You might be doing all the right steps, but are you using the right tools? As a professional makeup artist, I get asked which brushes are essential, all the time. I have an endless number of different makeup brushes in my beauty arsenal to accommodate a variety of clients. But does the average makeup user need hundreds of brushes in her collection? The answer is no; you just need some basics. The following are brushes that are so essential, my makeup kit cannot live without them, and neither can yours: e When you want to 8 STIPPLING BRUSH create a flawless finish, this brush allows you to perfectly blend the product into your skin. That’s why it’s mostly used with liquid foundation, cream products, and body makeup. Tip: dip the brush into the foundation and buff it into the skin in circular motions. This method will seamlessly blend the foundation into your skin and create a perfect canvas. J TRY: MAC 187 DUO FIBRE FACE BRUSH, MACYS.COM, $42 2 o f 6 4 7 26 | fyimagazineny.com 9 CONTOUR BRUSH Before strobing, there was contouring. There are multiple techniques used to contour one’s face. You can use a very dense brush to get a super-chiseled “I just walked off the runway” look, 27 | fyimagazineny.com or you can use a fluffier brush to create soft shadows that will shape your face and create natural-looking cheekbones. Whatever your desired goal, there is a brush out there for you! Personally, I like combining the two styles and creating soft, yet defined cheekbones. Tip: often, less is more. You don’t need to contour if you’ll be using bronzer. J TRY: NARS “ITA” BRUSH, SEPHORA.COM, $55 g This is the perfect POWDER BRUSH brush for applying bronzer. You simply dip it into the bronzer, tap off the excess product, and trace the number “3” starting at your forehead, coming down to your cheek, and ending at your jaw. For a natural, sun-kissed effect, place some bronzer on the points of your face where the sun hits you, i.e., your nose. This is the easiest and most foolproof way of achieving that golden glow. Tip: this brush can also be used with a setting powder to set your makeup. J TRY: REAL TECHNIQUES POWDER BRUSH, TARGET. COM, $7.99 i Blush is essential to BLUSH BRUSH give your complexion color. However, no one wants to look like Madame de Pompadour, or like they stepped out of the 80’s. That’s why choosing the right blush brush is so important. You want to make sure that the brush isn’t too round or oversized so you can
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the beauty guide achieve a more precise color application. You also want to choose a brush that has soft bristles, so the blush will blend seamlessly into your skin and give you a natural-looking wash of color. Tip: applying blush to the apples of your cheeks will give you a youthful rosy appearance. J TRY: MAC 116 BLUSH BRUSH, NORDSTROM, $35 j This brush is extremely ANGLED LINER BRUSH versatile. You can use it when applying gel eyeliner to achieve a perfect winged effect. You can also use this brush with powder eyeliner for a subtler eye look. Tip: another great way to use this brush is to fill in your brows. J TRY: MAC 266 SMALL ANGLE BRUSH, MACYS.COM, $20 k SMUDGE BRUSH This is great for creating the perfect smoky eye. First, line your upper lid with black (or any other color) liner. Then, take the smudge brush and smudge the liner upward, creating a smoky effect with the darkest color at the base of the lid, getting lighter toward your brows. Tip: when creating a smoky eye, be careful not to go overboard; it’s very easy to accidentally end up with raccoon eyes. J TRY: SIGMA E21, SIGMABEAUTY.COM, $14 9 l EYE SHADOW BLENDING BRUSH My makeup mantra is “blend blend blend and then blend some more.” Blending properly is crucial to creating a flawless makeup application. Using a blending brush will help achieve that. This brush is perfect for diffusing eyeshadow and softening any harsh lines the eyeshadow might have created. Tip: if you’re tight on time and can’t do a complete eye look, just dust an eyeshadow with a blending brush in “windshield wiper” motions in your crease to achieve that perfect wash of color. J TRY: MAC 224 TAPERED BLENDING BRUSH, MACCOSMETICS.COM, $32 SOFT DOME BRUSH This is a great tool for adding more drama and glamour to your eye look. The dense bristles will pick up more product and allow for a more precise placement. You can easily intensify and smoke out your eyeshadow on both your top and bottom lids with this brush. Tip: you can also use this brush to add an inner corner highlight. This will brighten your eyes and make them look larger and more awake. J TRY: MAKEUP GEEK SOFT DOME BRUSH, AMAZON.COM, $8 8 28 | fyimagazineny.com EYEBROW SPOOLIE Brows are all the rage, especially bold ones. Unfortunately, it’s very easy to get heavy-handed and go over the top. Fear not- we have the spoolie brush to the rescue! Brushing up and out with this brush will get rid of any extra product and soften the brow. For those of you that are already blessed with thick brows, it’s great for brushing and smoothing out unruly brow hairs. Tip: you can also use a clean disposable mascara wand instead of a spoolie. J TRY: JANE IREDALE DELUXE SPOOLIE BRUSH, JANEIREDALE.COM, $8 o BEAUTY BLENDER My personal favorite. I know this isn’t a brush, but it’s just as important as one (if not more). You can use the Beauty Blender for so many different things. First, it can be used wet or dry. Using it wet will give you sheerer coverage vs. using it dry. Second, you can use it to apply foundation, concealer, cream blush, cream highlighter, cream bronzer, cream contour, setting powder, etc. The list is endless. This little sponge packs a mean punch and blends like a dream. J TRY: THE ORIGINAL BEAUTY BLENDER, SEPHORA.COM, $20 Rivky Kalman is a professional certified makeup artist based out of NY. She is a true artist using skill and passion to make you look like the best version of yourself. Follow her on instagram @glitterandgloss365. For inquiries email glitterandgloss365@gmail.com Ingenious Products THAT WILL MAKE YOUR CHANUKAH EASIER N
the beauty guide  achieve a more precise color application. You also want to choose a brush that has soft bristles, so the...
the beauty guide achieve a more precise color application. You also want to choose a brush that has soft bristles, so the blush will blend seamlessly into your skin and give you a natural-looking wash of color. Tip: applying blush to the apples of your cheeks will give you a youthful rosy appearance. J TRY: MAC 116 BLUSH BRUSH, NORDSTROM, $35 j This brush is extremely ANGLED LINER BRUSH versatile. You can use it when applying gel eyeliner to achieve a perfect winged effect. You can also use this brush with powder eyeliner for a subtler eye look. Tip: another great way to use this brush is to fill in your brows. J TRY: MAC 266 SMALL ANGLE BRUSH, MACYS.COM, $20 k SMUDGE BRUSH This is great for creating the perfect smoky eye. First, line your upper lid with black (or any other color) liner. Then, take the smudge brush and smudge the liner upward, creating a smoky effect with the darkest color at the base of the lid, getting lighter toward your brows. Tip: when creating a smoky eye, be careful not to go overboard; it’s very easy to accidentally end up with raccoon eyes. J TRY: SIGMA E21, SIGMABEAUTY.COM, $14 9 l EYE SHADOW BLENDING BRUSH My makeup mantra is “blend blend blend and then blend some more.” Blending properly is crucial to creating a flawless makeup application. Using a blending brush will help achieve that. This brush is perfect for diffusing eyeshadow and softening any harsh lines the eyeshadow might have created. Tip: if you’re tight on time and can’t do a complete eye look, just dust an eyeshadow with a blending brush in “windshield wiper” motions in your crease to achieve that perfect wash of color. J TRY: MAC 224 TAPERED BLENDING BRUSH, MACCOSMETICS.COM, $32 SOFT DOME BRUSH This is a great tool for adding more drama and glamour to your eye look. The dense bristles will pick up more product and allow for a more precise placement. You can easily intensify and smoke out your eyeshadow on both your top and bottom lids with this brush. Tip: you can also use this brush to add an inner corner highlight. This will brighten your eyes and make them look larger and more awake. J TRY: MAKEUP GEEK SOFT DOME BRUSH, AMAZON.COM, $8 8 28 | fyimagazineny.com EYEBROW SPOOLIE Brows are all the rage, especially bold ones. Unfortunately, it’s very easy to get heavy-handed and go over the top. Fear not- we have the spoolie brush to the rescue! Brushing up and out with this brush will get rid of any extra product and soften the brow. For those of you that are already blessed with thick brows, it’s great for brushing and smoothing out unruly brow hairs. Tip: you can also use a clean disposable mascara wand instead of a spoolie. J TRY: JANE IREDALE DELUXE SPOOLIE BRUSH, JANEIREDALE.COM, $8 o BEAUTY BLENDER My personal favorite. I know this isn’t a brush, but it’s just as important as one (if not more). You can use the Beauty Blender for so many different things. First, it can be used wet or dry. Using it wet will give you sheerer coverage vs. using it dry. Second, you can use it to apply foundation, concealer, cream blush, cream highlighter, cream bronzer, cream contour, setting powder, etc. The list is endless. This little sponge packs a mean punch and blends like a dream. J TRY: THE ORIGINAL BEAUTY BLENDER, SEPHORA.COM, $20 Rivky Kalman is a professional certified makeup artist based out of NY. She is a true artist using skill and passion to make you look like the best version of yourself. Follow her on instagram @glitterandgloss365. For inquiries email glitterandgloss365@gmail.com Ingenious Products THAT WILL MAKE YOUR CHANUKAH EASIER N
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magic helpers INGENIOUS PRODUCTS THAT WILL MAKE YOUR DAY EASIER. TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN CHANUKAH GADGETS 1 AVALON AIR FRYER AIR-N-WATER.COM $109.00 Fry without oil? Is that possible? You bet it is! This amazing machine will fry and deep fry using no oil. It cooks food to a crispy golden brown, just like deep frying or pan frying. It will earn a permanent place on your counter over Chanukah. You can now have oil-less donuts, fries, battered chicken, and more. Go crazy! WEIMAN WAX REMOVER AMAZON.COM $9.00 This stuff works like a champ. Removing wax from any material (think: wood, carpet, leather, clothes) is a snap. One easy swipe and you’re done. No staining, no damage, and no harmful fumes. A definite musthave under the cupboard at all times, at least until next Chanukah! 2 3 BATTER DISPENSER THEPEPPERMILLINC.COM $9.99 The worst part about making latkes is the mess, of course. Batter Dispenser to the rescue! It releases any pourable batter directly where it's needed: just squeeze the trigger. Great for pancakes, waffles, crepes, and even cupcakes. The wide-mouth opening makes filling easy and it also has a nifty built-in stand which holds the dispenser, so you can put it down when needed. NO-BURN FABRIC FIRE RETARDANT SPRAY AMAZON.COM $18.99 Fireproof the area around your menorah to avoid disaster. Spray evenly on nearby curtains, and use the non-fabric spray for the menorah stand. Flames will not be able to spread with this spray. A small price to pay for huge peace of mind. 4 10% That’s how many olives out of every crop make it to a table as olives- in salads or other dishes. The other 90% are turned into olive oil. Only very well-maintained orchards will consistently provide high yields year after year. That’s because olive trees are alternate producers. That means that they produce a big crop one year and a smaller one the next, then a bigger crop the following year and a smaller yield the next, continuing in this pattern. And one last fact: all olives will become black olives if left on the tree. Green olives are not a different kind; they are just less ripe. 1938 2/3 Nearly 2/3 of the gift card-receiving population ends up spending more money than they received on the gift card— about 38% more. Not surprisingly, gift cards have been the number one requested item on holiday wish lists since 2007. Spending on gift cards has increased by 80% since 2003. That’s the year National Donut Day was established. It was created to celebrate the Salvation Army workers who handed free donuts to U.S. soldiers free of charge during World War I. The workers traveled abroad and set up little stations called “huts,” where they could keep the soldiers’ spirits up by providing the baked goods. In Chicago, National Donut Day still remains a fundraiser for the Salvation Army. Every year since 1938, this day is celebrated on the first Friday of June. As if we needed more excuses for eating donuts. FIND THESE PRODUCTS ON FYIMAGAZINENY.COM 30 | fyimagazineny.com 31 | fyimagazineny.com 13 Speaking of donuts, we Americans eat lots of them. Okay, does ten billion a year qualify as lots? Thought so. Before we get some letters to the editor about the spelling of “donuts,” both spellings (doughnut and donut) are acceptable these days. We can thank Dunkin’ Donuts for shortening the word and getting it to be popularly accepted. Look, there are 13 people (according to White Pages Inc.) in the U.S. who are actually named Donut! (Not kidding). And here’s what is called “donut philosophy”: Donuts will get you through times with no money better than money will get you through times with no donuts. 90% Manufacturer surveys show that 90% of all candles are purchased by — did you say women? One in five women say they use candles as decorations both inside and outside their homes. Interestingly, surveys show that both men and women consider candles to be highly appreciated and appropriate gifts for almost any occasion.
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a closer look The glow of the flame is truly mesmerizing, isn’t it? You may just find yourself entranced, unable to tear your eyes away from its radiance; however, don’t allow yourself to grow so distracted, you don’t notice the wonderful contraption that is allowing that flame to live: the candle. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER I t took different cultures many years to figure out the perfect formula for a candle that would burn nicely, provide steady light, and not melt too quickly on hot nights. In a world without electricity, candles were essential if you wanted to get anything done after sunset. Ancient Romans were the first to create candles made of tallow or animal fat, while the Chinese are credited with using whale fat and beeswax. The Indians actually used wax that was left after boiling cinnamon, while indigenous peoples of many areas would use a “candlefish,” which was exactly what it sounds like - a piece of dried fish on a stick that would burn when ignited. N During the Middle Ages, a shortage of olive oil on some continents - like Europe - meant that candles became a lot more widespread. Candle-makers, or chandlers, would go from house to house to make candles out of leftover fat. Unfortunately, beeswax candles, which smelled pleasant and burned nicely, were extremely expensive, which meant they were used exclusively by the rich and during religious ceremonies. The peasantry had to resign themselves to using tallow candles, which smelled terrible and did not burn evenly, with a wick that constantly needed to be adjusted. In fact, the smell from the tallow-producing companies was so offensive, they were banned from many European cities. N During the 18th century, whaling became a huge industry, which was quite a boon to the tallow-candle sufferers. Tallow was soon replaced by spermaceti, a waxy substance found in the sperm whale, which smelled better than tallow. It also gave a brighter light, and unlike even beeswax, it could withstand harsh summer heat. The first so-called “standard” candles were made from spermaceti. N The 19th century brought many positive changes to the candle industry. Chemists were able to isolate the burning compound of animal fat from the glycerine that gave it the awful smell, and patented stearine. Then James Young managed to 34 | fyimagazineny.com extract paraffin from oil and coal. Chandlers soon realized that introducing stearine into the paraffin would create the perfect candle, with a bright steady light, pleasant smell, and high melting point. Around the same time, Joseph Morgan invented a candle-making machine that produced candles extremely cheaply. Wicks were braided instead of being trimmed, which meant people no longer had to spend all their spare time trimming and adjusting the wicks. Life was good. N Then in 1879, the incandescent light bulb came along and made candles basically irrelevant. N Today, candles are used as gifts, décor or simply to provide romance and ambiance to the atmosphere. They have come a long way from the repulsive tallow odors of yore; they now come in all kinds of pleasant scents and colors. Certain types of candles are even used as insect repellents. N Please do not fall for the ear-wax candling myth. It has never been proven to work, and when done incorrectly, can even leave you deaf! When you look into the flame, don’t forget to take into account all the years of hard work and ingenuity that went into the candle you now often take for granted. fyi Tried & Tested BABY MONITORS Baby monitors were made so moms can have peace of mind. But there are so many, it can be confusing. Some connect to your smartphone and some detect your baby’s room temperature. Which monitor is best for you? Here are our top three results. Best Value VTECH DM221 DIGITAL AUDIO BABY MONITOR walmart.com, $34.99 A useful product at a great price. No frills includes talkback intercom radio, great reception, excellent range and audio quality. Backlit display on parent unit indicates level of sound in the baby’s room. Top Rated Ease of Use IBABY MONITOR M6 INFANT OPTICS DXR­ VIDEO BABY 8 MONITOR nordstrom, $200 Connect this camera to your phone and watch your baby in real time from anywhere! This excellent app is easy to use. The camera turns 360 degrees to view a whole room easily. Includes HD video, night vision, temperature sensor, two­ ay talk, and will w even turn on lullabies from your phone. Visual alerts when your baby cries. FIND THESE PRODUCTS ON FYIMAGAZINENY.COM 35 | fyimagazineny.com amazon.com, $95 Durable, easy­to ­ se u monitor with large area coverage. Other features include night vision, voice­ activated power­saver mode, and superior picture quality. Great for traveling. The simplicity cannot be beat.
a closer look The glow of the flame is truly mesmerizing, isn   t it  You may just find yourself entranced, unable to tear...
a closer look The glow of the flame is truly mesmerizing, isn’t it? You may just find yourself entranced, unable to tear your eyes away from its radiance; however, don’t allow yourself to grow so distracted, you don’t notice the wonderful contraption that is allowing that flame to live: the candle. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER I t took different cultures many years to figure out the perfect formula for a candle that would burn nicely, provide steady light, and not melt too quickly on hot nights. In a world without electricity, candles were essential if you wanted to get anything done after sunset. Ancient Romans were the first to create candles made of tallow or animal fat, while the Chinese are credited with using whale fat and beeswax. The Indians actually used wax that was left after boiling cinnamon, while indigenous peoples of many areas would use a “candlefish,” which was exactly what it sounds like - a piece of dried fish on a stick that would burn when ignited. N During the Middle Ages, a shortage of olive oil on some continents - like Europe - meant that candles became a lot more widespread. Candle-makers, or chandlers, would go from house to house to make candles out of leftover fat. Unfortunately, beeswax candles, which smelled pleasant and burned nicely, were extremely expensive, which meant they were used exclusively by the rich and during religious ceremonies. The peasantry had to resign themselves to using tallow candles, which smelled terrible and did not burn evenly, with a wick that constantly needed to be adjusted. In fact, the smell from the tallow-producing companies was so offensive, they were banned from many European cities. N During the 18th century, whaling became a huge industry, which was quite a boon to the tallow-candle sufferers. Tallow was soon replaced by spermaceti, a waxy substance found in the sperm whale, which smelled better than tallow. It also gave a brighter light, and unlike even beeswax, it could withstand harsh summer heat. The first so-called “standard” candles were made from spermaceti. N The 19th century brought many positive changes to the candle industry. Chemists were able to isolate the burning compound of animal fat from the glycerine that gave it the awful smell, and patented stearine. Then James Young managed to 34 | fyimagazineny.com extract paraffin from oil and coal. Chandlers soon realized that introducing stearine into the paraffin would create the perfect candle, with a bright steady light, pleasant smell, and high melting point. Around the same time, Joseph Morgan invented a candle-making machine that produced candles extremely cheaply. Wicks were braided instead of being trimmed, which meant people no longer had to spend all their spare time trimming and adjusting the wicks. Life was good. N Then in 1879, the incandescent light bulb came along and made candles basically irrelevant. N Today, candles are used as gifts, décor or simply to provide romance and ambiance to the atmosphere. They have come a long way from the repulsive tallow odors of yore; they now come in all kinds of pleasant scents and colors. Certain types of candles are even used as insect repellents. N Please do not fall for the ear-wax candling myth. It has never been proven to work, and when done incorrectly, can even leave you deaf! When you look into the flame, don’t forget to take into account all the years of hard work and ingenuity that went into the candle you now often take for granted. fyi Tried & Tested BABY MONITORS Baby monitors were made so moms can have peace of mind. But there are so many, it can be confusing. Some connect to your smartphone and some detect your baby’s room temperature. Which monitor is best for you? Here are our top three results. Best Value VTECH DM221 DIGITAL AUDIO BABY MONITOR walmart.com, $34.99 A useful product at a great price. No frills includes talkback intercom radio, great reception, excellent range and audio quality. Backlit display on parent unit indicates level of sound in the baby’s room. Top Rated Ease of Use IBABY MONITOR M6 INFANT OPTICS DXR­ VIDEO BABY 8 MONITOR nordstrom, $200 Connect this camera to your phone and watch your baby in real time from anywhere! This excellent app is easy to use. The camera turns 360 degrees to view a whole room easily. Includes HD video, night vision, temperature sensor, two­ ay talk, and will w even turn on lullabies from your phone. Visual alerts when your baby cries. FIND THESE PRODUCTS ON FYIMAGAZINENY.COM 35 | fyimagazineny.com amazon.com, $95 Durable, easy­to ­ se u monitor with large area coverage. Other features include night vision, voice­ activated power­saver mode, and superior picture quality. Great for traveling. The simplicity cannot be beat.
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ON OUR BOOKSHELF The Committed Marriage By Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis Book Review by Mattie Wiseman Mention the name “Rebbetzin Jungreis” to someone who has had the privilege of meeting their personally. Watch her face light up in the pleasure of remembrance. Rebbetzin Jungreis is both soft- spoken and a force to be reckoned with. The Rebbetzin communicates from a place of love and respect, always truthful, always genuine, guided by Torah. She speaks soul to soul, no barriers. Written in the same loving and honest tone that makes us love her so dearly, T​ e Committed h Marriage ​ s a wonderful conglomi eration of anecdotes to help guide the readers through finding and keeping their soul mate. To read how Rebbetzin Jungreis describes her marriage is to see the reflection of the dedication she and her husband A”H had for each other. She attributes all the goodness in her marriage to him. The text follows the five qualities that allow a person to live a purposeful and meaningful life, as found by Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai’s disciples. They are the following: a good eye, being a good friend, being a good neighbor, projecting the future by anticipating the consequences of one’s actions, and developing a good heart. For each of these five qualities, Rebbetzin Jungreis explains, in gentle truth, how modifying our behavior towards these qualities can only benefit and enrich our lives and marriages. The first, a good eye – this is to recognize and enjoy a partner’s positive attributes. It is so much easier to see what is wrong than to focus on what is right. Yes, explains the Rebbetzin, realistically, many faults may exist, but focusing on them does not help the marriage in any way. Being a good friend is explained second – how to actively create and build harmony and friendship in a marriage. Next is the quality of a good neighbor - respecting the other’s boundaries and needs. Being well- mannered and courteous to one another creates an environment of peace. Part of a ering actions before acting upon them. Words that come so easily to mind cannot be so easily taken back. Moments of reflection can prevent much hurt and strife. Finally, she stresses developing a good heart – demonstrating loyalty, commitment, and empathy. This entails being in the moment with a spouse, feeling what he is feeling and supporting him through that. The Rebbetzin explains how a beautiful marriage is built upon giving and selflessly wanting the best for one’s spouse. The many examples and midrashim Rebbetzin Jungreis assures us that marriage is “well worth the commitment” good marriage, explains the Rebbetzin, is actively giving and growing. Bettering yourself as a person can only benefit a marriage. Projecting the future - consid- 36 | fyimagazineny.com illustrate and bring to life her important points. A good marriage is something worth working for. Yes, marriage is work - but, she assures us, it is “well worth the commitment.” fyi 37 | fyimagazineny.com
ON OUR BOOKSHELF  The Committed Marriage By Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis Book Review by Mattie Wiseman Mention the name    Re...
ON OUR BOOKSHELF The Committed Marriage By Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis Book Review by Mattie Wiseman Mention the name “Rebbetzin Jungreis” to someone who has had the privilege of meeting their personally. Watch her face light up in the pleasure of remembrance. Rebbetzin Jungreis is both soft- spoken and a force to be reckoned with. The Rebbetzin communicates from a place of love and respect, always truthful, always genuine, guided by Torah. She speaks soul to soul, no barriers. Written in the same loving and honest tone that makes us love her so dearly, T​ e Committed h Marriage ​ s a wonderful conglomi eration of anecdotes to help guide the readers through finding and keeping their soul mate. To read how Rebbetzin Jungreis describes her marriage is to see the reflection of the dedication she and her husband A”H had for each other. She attributes all the goodness in her marriage to him. The text follows the five qualities that allow a person to live a purposeful and meaningful life, as found by Rabbi Yochanan ben Zakkai’s disciples. They are the following: a good eye, being a good friend, being a good neighbor, projecting the future by anticipating the consequences of one’s actions, and developing a good heart. For each of these five qualities, Rebbetzin Jungreis explains, in gentle truth, how modifying our behavior towards these qualities can only benefit and enrich our lives and marriages. The first, a good eye – this is to recognize and enjoy a partner’s positive attributes. It is so much easier to see what is wrong than to focus on what is right. Yes, explains the Rebbetzin, realistically, many faults may exist, but focusing on them does not help the marriage in any way. Being a good friend is explained second – how to actively create and build harmony and friendship in a marriage. Next is the quality of a good neighbor - respecting the other’s boundaries and needs. Being well- mannered and courteous to one another creates an environment of peace. Part of a ering actions before acting upon them. Words that come so easily to mind cannot be so easily taken back. Moments of reflection can prevent much hurt and strife. Finally, she stresses developing a good heart – demonstrating loyalty, commitment, and empathy. This entails being in the moment with a spouse, feeling what he is feeling and supporting him through that. The Rebbetzin explains how a beautiful marriage is built upon giving and selflessly wanting the best for one’s spouse. The many examples and midrashim Rebbetzin Jungreis assures us that marriage is “well worth the commitment” good marriage, explains the Rebbetzin, is actively giving and growing. Bettering yourself as a person can only benefit a marriage. Projecting the future - consid- 36 | fyimagazineny.com illustrate and bring to life her important points. A good marriage is something worth working for. Yes, marriage is work - but, she assures us, it is “well worth the commitment.” fyi 37 | fyimagazineny.com
ON OUR BOOKSHELF  The Committed Marriage By Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis Book Review by Mattie Wiseman Mention the name    Re...
BOOK REVIEW children’s book review Our reviews on the best children’s books, from classics to hot-new releases. fall in love with life WAITING BY KEVIN HENKINS Published By: Greenwillow Books Waiting can feel like such an agony for small children. This beautifully illustrated book lovingly shows that waiting holds its own pleasures, as five stuffed animals wait on a windowsill with a surprise at the end. This imaginative play focuses on the friendship of the characters, and prioritizing the need of socializing and interacting with peers. COUNTING LIONS BY KATIE COTTON Published By: OwlKids Books THE INVISIBLE STRING BY PATRICE KARST This glorious, oversized picture book is not only a counting book, but is also a celebration of endangered wildlife. The stunning charcoal illustrations capture the majesty of the ten animals featured. Most of the illustrations look like photographs. Readers are also encouraged to read a short poetic piece about each animal’s life. Published By: DeVorss & Company You’re never really alone; we’re all connected by an invisible string. This charming book is about being connected to everyone we love. All children experience separation anxiety or loneliness, whether it’s going to school, witnessing divorce, moving away, or even the death of a loved one. This easy-to-read and touching book offers comfort and can be read over and over and over again. 38 | fyimagazineny.com HOW TO DETERMINE if Your Child is Wheezing N
BOOK REVIEW  children   s book review Our reviews on the best children   s books, from classics to hot-new releases.  fall...
BOOK REVIEW children’s book review Our reviews on the best children’s books, from classics to hot-new releases. fall in love with life WAITING BY KEVIN HENKINS Published By: Greenwillow Books Waiting can feel like such an agony for small children. This beautifully illustrated book lovingly shows that waiting holds its own pleasures, as five stuffed animals wait on a windowsill with a surprise at the end. This imaginative play focuses on the friendship of the characters, and prioritizing the need of socializing and interacting with peers. COUNTING LIONS BY KATIE COTTON Published By: OwlKids Books THE INVISIBLE STRING BY PATRICE KARST This glorious, oversized picture book is not only a counting book, but is also a celebration of endangered wildlife. The stunning charcoal illustrations capture the majesty of the ten animals featured. Most of the illustrations look like photographs. Readers are also encouraged to read a short poetic piece about each animal’s life. Published By: DeVorss & Company You’re never really alone; we’re all connected by an invisible string. This charming book is about being connected to everyone we love. All children experience separation anxiety or loneliness, whether it’s going to school, witnessing divorce, moving away, or even the death of a loved one. This easy-to-read and touching book offers comfort and can be read over and over and over again. 38 | fyimagazineny.com HOW TO DETERMINE if Your Child is Wheezing N
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What is WHEEZING? Wheezing is a sound heard when children exhale or cough. It is a sign that their lungs are getting “tight.” The reason for this tightness is that their lungs are hyper-reactive to certain triggers - most often viral colds, but also environmental triggers such as cigarette smoke, city pollutants, dust mites, molds, perfumes, and pollen. Patients that wheeze on more than one occasion are considered “asthmatic.” WRITTEN BY DR. DAVID SIMAI CAN WHEEZING BE DANGEROUS? The answer is a resounding YES! Wheezing left unnoticed will often exacerbate to a point that a child will not be able to breathe on his own and will need medical interventions such as oxygen and medicines to relax his/her lungs. Wheezing is one of the most common reasons for hospitalization in children and unfortunately, still costs the lives of hundreds of children, despite readily available medical therapies and interventions. HOW TO SPOT A WHEEZING INFANT My main goal and teaching point in this article is help you spot wheezing infants. The reason is simple. Older children have more lung capacity and are able to sustain wheezing for longer periods than infants. In addition, the older “wheezers” will often be able to tell their parents that they are feeling tight or have chest pains. Infants, however, have very little lung capacity to spare and very non-specific ways to communicate with their parents. 40 | fyimagazineny.com TIPS TO INDICATE THAT YOUR COUGHING CHILD IS WHEEZING: 1. New Feeding issues: If your infant was feeding well to a certain point and suddenly, you notice that he can not nurse or drink from a bottle for more than a few seconds – that is a very suspicious sign that he is wheezing. Other causes of rapid breathing include congenital heart disease. So if you notice that your child struggles to nurse or drink, please alert your doctor immediately. 2. Chest Retractions: If your infant has been coughing, please fully undress him when it’s time for a diaper change. If you see that his chest goes in much deeper or faster than usual, that may signify wheezing. In order to know if your child’s breathing is changed, you should routinely examine his breathing even when he has no symptoms. In this way you will know the normal breathing pattern for your child (Some kids are born with chest formations that make their chest appear retracting – a common condition known as pectus excavatum. These kids are perfectly healthy and will very rarely need any medical intervention.) 3. Duration of cough: Unlike regular coughs caused by colds, children of all ages who wheeze have persistent coughs that can last weeks or months. The cough is usually wet (which means you will hear the sound of mucus in the cough) and a bit harsher than normal. Asthmatics are known to be “nocturnal wheezers,” which means they will often cough at night. The rule of thumb is that if your child coughs regularly two
What is WHEEZING  Wheezing is a sound heard when children exhale or cough. It is a sign that their lungs are getting    ti...
What is WHEEZING? Wheezing is a sound heard when children exhale or cough. It is a sign that their lungs are getting “tight.” The reason for this tightness is that their lungs are hyper-reactive to certain triggers - most often viral colds, but also environmental triggers such as cigarette smoke, city pollutants, dust mites, molds, perfumes, and pollen. Patients that wheeze on more than one occasion are considered “asthmatic.” WRITTEN BY DR. DAVID SIMAI CAN WHEEZING BE DANGEROUS? The answer is a resounding YES! Wheezing left unnoticed will often exacerbate to a point that a child will not be able to breathe on his own and will need medical interventions such as oxygen and medicines to relax his/her lungs. Wheezing is one of the most common reasons for hospitalization in children and unfortunately, still costs the lives of hundreds of children, despite readily available medical therapies and interventions. HOW TO SPOT A WHEEZING INFANT My main goal and teaching point in this article is help you spot wheezing infants. The reason is simple. Older children have more lung capacity and are able to sustain wheezing for longer periods than infants. In addition, the older “wheezers” will often be able to tell their parents that they are feeling tight or have chest pains. Infants, however, have very little lung capacity to spare and very non-specific ways to communicate with their parents. 40 | fyimagazineny.com TIPS TO INDICATE THAT YOUR COUGHING CHILD IS WHEEZING: 1. New Feeding issues: If your infant was feeding well to a certain point and suddenly, you notice that he can not nurse or drink from a bottle for more than a few seconds – that is a very suspicious sign that he is wheezing. Other causes of rapid breathing include congenital heart disease. So if you notice that your child struggles to nurse or drink, please alert your doctor immediately. 2. Chest Retractions: If your infant has been coughing, please fully undress him when it’s time for a diaper change. If you see that his chest goes in much deeper or faster than usual, that may signify wheezing. In order to know if your child’s breathing is changed, you should routinely examine his breathing even when he has no symptoms. In this way you will know the normal breathing pattern for your child (Some kids are born with chest formations that make their chest appear retracting – a common condition known as pectus excavatum. These kids are perfectly healthy and will very rarely need any medical intervention.) 3. Duration of cough: Unlike regular coughs caused by colds, children of all ages who wheeze have persistent coughs that can last weeks or months. The cough is usually wet (which means you will hear the sound of mucus in the cough) and a bit harsher than normal. Asthmatics are known to be “nocturnal wheezers,” which means they will often cough at night. The rule of thumb is that if your child coughs regularly two
What is WHEEZING  Wheezing is a sound heard when children exhale or cough. It is a sign that their lungs are getting    ti...
nights per week, he is probably wheezing. 4. Family history: As with other medical conditions, asthma has a strong hereditary correlation. 5. Allergies: Asthmatics are more likely to have food and environmental allergies. Food allergens that cause wheezing, such as peanuts, milk, and eggs, usually lead to life- threatening wheezing episodes. More often, asthmatics will wheeze due to environmental factors such as pollen, dust mites and cigarette smoke. Wheezing is one of the most common reasons for hospitalization in children and unfortunately, still costs the lives of hundreds of children, despite readily available medical therapies and interventions. Dr. David Simai is a board certified pediatrician in his private practice in Cedarhust, NY. He is also an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children's Hospital, North Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com 6. Colds: Viruses that cause common colds are the most common triggers of asthma. A child may have a slight fever and nasal congestion for a few days, and suddenly develop severe respiratory symptoms. The RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus) is a fall and winter type of virus that is a notorious cause of wheezing in infants. This could be severe and lifethreatening in premature infants and babies with heart or lung disease. WILL MY CHILD OUTGROW HIS ASTHMA? This is probably the most daunting question in parents’ minds. I often inform parents that most children outgrow their asthma, although it is very hard for us to tell which kids will. From my experience, however, children that do not require hospitalization for their asthma have a better chance of outgrowing it. fyi 42 | fyimagazineny.com PREVENTION Certain medicines can prevent children from wheezing. We use these medicines when a child has several episodes of asthma or persistent coughs that necessitate frequent use of albuterol (a non-steroidal muscle relaxant). The two drug classes doctors prescribe are: J INHALED STEROIDS I know many parents grimace when they hear the word “steroid.” I often remind parents that when their children have severe wheezing, they often need shots of steroids or oral steroids for a few days to prevent them from hospitalization. Giving an inhaled steroid for an entire year has the same amount of steroids as a five- day course of oral steroids. J LEUKOTRIENE INHIBITORS This class of drugs work by inhibiting the pathways leading to inflammation in the lungs. One commonly prescribed medicine in this class is known as Singulair. These drugs are not steroids. Thus far, they are believed to be safe (they have been around for approximately 15 years). However, recent studies show that they are not as effective as we once thought they were. otes Qu Positive s Affirmation that and ire nsp i “In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.” “To improve is to change, to be perfect is to change often.” -Winston Churchill “Ruminating about the past will get you nowhere. So go ahead and learn from the past whatever you can, and then put it behind you. Remember, there is nothing you can do to change it, but you can use its lessons to improve your future.” -ABRAHAM J. TWERSKI “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be a value.” -Albert Einstein “You cannot add more minutes to the day, but you can utilize each one to the fullest.” -MENACHEM MENDEL SCHNEERSON “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” 43 | fyimagazineny.com
nights per week, he is probably wheezing. 4.  Family history  As with other medical conditions, asthma has a strong heredi...
nights per week, he is probably wheezing. 4. Family history: As with other medical conditions, asthma has a strong hereditary correlation. 5. Allergies: Asthmatics are more likely to have food and environmental allergies. Food allergens that cause wheezing, such as peanuts, milk, and eggs, usually lead to life- threatening wheezing episodes. More often, asthmatics will wheeze due to environmental factors such as pollen, dust mites and cigarette smoke. Wheezing is one of the most common reasons for hospitalization in children and unfortunately, still costs the lives of hundreds of children, despite readily available medical therapies and interventions. Dr. David Simai is a board certified pediatrician in his private practice in Cedarhust, NY. He is also an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children's Hospital, North Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com 6. Colds: Viruses that cause common colds are the most common triggers of asthma. A child may have a slight fever and nasal congestion for a few days, and suddenly develop severe respiratory symptoms. The RSV (Respiratory Syncytial Virus) is a fall and winter type of virus that is a notorious cause of wheezing in infants. This could be severe and lifethreatening in premature infants and babies with heart or lung disease. WILL MY CHILD OUTGROW HIS ASTHMA? This is probably the most daunting question in parents’ minds. I often inform parents that most children outgrow their asthma, although it is very hard for us to tell which kids will. From my experience, however, children that do not require hospitalization for their asthma have a better chance of outgrowing it. fyi 42 | fyimagazineny.com PREVENTION Certain medicines can prevent children from wheezing. We use these medicines when a child has several episodes of asthma or persistent coughs that necessitate frequent use of albuterol (a non-steroidal muscle relaxant). The two drug classes doctors prescribe are: J INHALED STEROIDS I know many parents grimace when they hear the word “steroid.” I often remind parents that when their children have severe wheezing, they often need shots of steroids or oral steroids for a few days to prevent them from hospitalization. Giving an inhaled steroid for an entire year has the same amount of steroids as a five- day course of oral steroids. J LEUKOTRIENE INHIBITORS This class of drugs work by inhibiting the pathways leading to inflammation in the lungs. One commonly prescribed medicine in this class is known as Singulair. These drugs are not steroids. Thus far, they are believed to be safe (they have been around for approximately 15 years). However, recent studies show that they are not as effective as we once thought they were. otes Qu Positive s Affirmation that and ire nsp i “In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.” “To improve is to change, to be perfect is to change often.” -Winston Churchill “Ruminating about the past will get you nowhere. So go ahead and learn from the past whatever you can, and then put it behind you. Remember, there is nothing you can do to change it, but you can use its lessons to improve your future.” -ABRAHAM J. TWERSKI “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be a value.” -Albert Einstein “You cannot add more minutes to the day, but you can utilize each one to the fullest.” -MENACHEM MENDEL SCHNEERSON “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.” 43 | fyimagazineny.com
nights per week, he is probably wheezing. 4.  Family history  As with other medical conditions, asthma has a strong heredi...
DO I Q: I have five children and love all of them dearly. Four of them are easygoing and pleasant. My six-year-old daughter is very needy and emotional. Dealing with her drains a lot of my mental energy and I now have a lot of resentment towards her. She is constantly crying, feeling hurt, or literally tugging at me; it’s just impossible for me to be there for her like she wants all the time. What’s worse is that I can’t be the mother I want to be for my other children because all my energy is depleted. I feel awful saying this, but I honestly dread the sound of her school bus pulling up because it is so hard to deal with her. The worst part is the guilt for feeling like I don’t love my daughter. How can I change the situation? HER? A: ILLUSTRATIONS BY @SARAHYUD 44 | fyimagazineny.com Thank you for your question. Believe it or not, your feelings are common. As kids get older and develop unique personalities, parents can have difficulty connecting to children whose personalities are hard for them to relate to. Before you know it, cute chubby babies morph into kids and can present difficult personalities. Even a parent who has raised children before can be thrown off balance by a particular child whose behavior she’s not used to. When you find it difficult to deal with your child, it is not because you don’t love her. It is stressful for you to be with her because you love her so much, and it is so painful for you to have such negative interactions and as a result, negative feelings towards her. You really do love your daughter, or you wouldn’t be so pained by your negative feelings of not wanting to spend time with her. Would you be so bothered if your local supermarket employed a cashier that you try to avoid because he irks you? Would it eat you up if there were a particular neighbor you avoid meeting because you find her overbearing? I would imagine the answer is no, and that is because these relationships are not important to you, so you are basically indifferent. It can be so hard to stay positive when there is so much negativity surrounding your relationship with your child. After so much conflict, there are many layers of negative feelings that don’t allow you to access your loving feelings for her. Similarly, she may have trouble accessing positive feelings towards you, which propels her to invest less effort into her performance. The start of this negative cycle was probably subtle and hard to identify. The cycle repeated itself so often, that at this point, it is hard to connect to your natural feelings of love for your daughter. A difficult child is like an unpeeled orange. The orange is sweet, but there is a thick peel surrounding it. Your natural feelings of affection for your child are still there, but covered in hours and hours of hard feelings between the two of you. When your daughter disappoints you with her behavior, she feels distant from you, which results in her feeling less of a desire to please you. When her behavior is displeasing, you feel less of a drive to give her all you can. Her “peel” grows thicker over time and she feels less secure in her relationship with you. Children like pleasing their parents when they feel secure that their parents love them. How to deal with your daughter’s behavior in a way that encourages improvement is beyond the scope of this article, but let’s discuss ways to reconnect with her, in order to give you the stamina and motivation to continue giving and working with her. The most crucial part of connecting on a deep and relational level with your child is to develop empathy toward her and her experience. I used the word develop, because empathy is hard work, and you can take positive steps to develop this feeling toward your child when she is behaving in a most difficult manner. You may be thinking, “How can I feel empathy when my child is screaming that she doesn’t like the supper I made, even though I made it last week and she loved it? How can I have empathy for her when her behavior makes no sense and she has no license to feel that way?” Imagine putting yourself into your daughter’s adorable little shoes, and seeing her experience through her six-year-old eyes. When she throws a tantrum, it’s because she feels overwhelmed. It’s not because of supper. She has so many 45 | fyimagazineny.com
DO I  Q   I have five children and love all of them dearly. Four of them are easygoing and pleasant. My six-year-old daugh...
DO I Q: I have five children and love all of them dearly. Four of them are easygoing and pleasant. My six-year-old daughter is very needy and emotional. Dealing with her drains a lot of my mental energy and I now have a lot of resentment towards her. She is constantly crying, feeling hurt, or literally tugging at me; it’s just impossible for me to be there for her like she wants all the time. What’s worse is that I can’t be the mother I want to be for my other children because all my energy is depleted. I feel awful saying this, but I honestly dread the sound of her school bus pulling up because it is so hard to deal with her. The worst part is the guilt for feeling like I don’t love my daughter. How can I change the situation? HER? A: ILLUSTRATIONS BY @SARAHYUD 44 | fyimagazineny.com Thank you for your question. Believe it or not, your feelings are common. As kids get older and develop unique personalities, parents can have difficulty connecting to children whose personalities are hard for them to relate to. Before you know it, cute chubby babies morph into kids and can present difficult personalities. Even a parent who has raised children before can be thrown off balance by a particular child whose behavior she’s not used to. When you find it difficult to deal with your child, it is not because you don’t love her. It is stressful for you to be with her because you love her so much, and it is so painful for you to have such negative interactions and as a result, negative feelings towards her. You really do love your daughter, or you wouldn’t be so pained by your negative feelings of not wanting to spend time with her. Would you be so bothered if your local supermarket employed a cashier that you try to avoid because he irks you? Would it eat you up if there were a particular neighbor you avoid meeting because you find her overbearing? I would imagine the answer is no, and that is because these relationships are not important to you, so you are basically indifferent. It can be so hard to stay positive when there is so much negativity surrounding your relationship with your child. After so much conflict, there are many layers of negative feelings that don’t allow you to access your loving feelings for her. Similarly, she may have trouble accessing positive feelings towards you, which propels her to invest less effort into her performance. The start of this negative cycle was probably subtle and hard to identify. The cycle repeated itself so often, that at this point, it is hard to connect to your natural feelings of love for your daughter. A difficult child is like an unpeeled orange. The orange is sweet, but there is a thick peel surrounding it. Your natural feelings of affection for your child are still there, but covered in hours and hours of hard feelings between the two of you. When your daughter disappoints you with her behavior, she feels distant from you, which results in her feeling less of a desire to please you. When her behavior is displeasing, you feel less of a drive to give her all you can. Her “peel” grows thicker over time and she feels less secure in her relationship with you. Children like pleasing their parents when they feel secure that their parents love them. How to deal with your daughter’s behavior in a way that encourages improvement is beyond the scope of this article, but let’s discuss ways to reconnect with her, in order to give you the stamina and motivation to continue giving and working with her. The most crucial part of connecting on a deep and relational level with your child is to develop empathy toward her and her experience. I used the word develop, because empathy is hard work, and you can take positive steps to develop this feeling toward your child when she is behaving in a most difficult manner. You may be thinking, “How can I feel empathy when my child is screaming that she doesn’t like the supper I made, even though I made it last week and she loved it? How can I have empathy for her when her behavior makes no sense and she has no license to feel that way?” Imagine putting yourself into your daughter’s adorable little shoes, and seeing her experience through her six-year-old eyes. When she throws a tantrum, it’s because she feels overwhelmed. It’s not because of supper. She has so many 45 | fyimagazineny.com
DO I  Q   I have five children and love all of them dearly. Four of them are easygoing and pleasant. My six-year-old daugh...
"How can I feel empathy when my child is screaming that she doesn't like the supper I made, even though I made it last week and she loved it? How can I have empathy for her when her behavior makes no sense and she has no license to feel that way?" emotions, she literally cannot handle the physiological sensations rushing through her body. Can you empathize with the fact that your child feels so overwhelmed with emotion, it’s confusing for her? Can you imagine what it must it be like to be disliked by family members and also known as the fun spoiler? Can you imagine if your own mother was not excited to see you? Try to tune into your daughter’s experience as a misbehaving child. Put aside all the judgments and focus on what it must feel like to be her. Now you understand that it really isn’t fun to be that way, and your child is probably feeling miserable all the time. But now what? How can you separate the behavior from the essence of your child? As a mother, I’m sure you know that when kids aren’t feeling 100% well, their behavior leaves much to be desired. Yes, it’s hard to deal with a cranky kid suffering from an ear infection, but you tend to be more sympathetic and patient when you recognize that the behavior is being influenced by your child’s illness. You are able to see the behavior as a bitter peel on a sweet fruit that has no bearing on its taste. Your child is a part of you and literally has 50% of your DNA. Her behavior is separate from her and doesn’t make her less a part of you; it’s just a manifestation of her pain. When your child throws a tantrum, try reframing it as such. “My precious child who was bequeathed to me, is having a hard time emotionally regulating. I can help her through this.” Now you may be thinking, “I can have empathy for my child, and try to separate her behavior from her essence, but how do I do that when she is screaming so loud that I can’t even think about anything remotely abstract?” Okay, I’ve got to be honest: if you are going to try to do this exercise at “cranky hour,” you may as well give up now. To access love for your child, try connecting to her at times when you both are calm. This could be when she is settled in bed, in pajamas, with freshly-washed hair. Use as much sensory input as possible so your brain and your child’s brain hold on to this feeling of connection. Hold your daughter’s face in your hands (touch), look into her eyes (see), put your face close to hers so you can sniff her fruity shampoo (smell), and whisper “I love you” (hear). If it is hard for you to feel a connection, create a mental picture of your child at a time when you did feel connected to her, like when she was a newborn, or when she said “mama” for the first time. Another exercise you can do to build positive feelings for your child is by keeping a journal of how cute she actually is. Pay attention to what your daughter does that is endearing, and when you lie in bed at night, write down one sweet or good thing she did that day. You can keep it as simple as smiling when she boarded the school bus, or saying something funny. Read the journal from time to time and relive those moments of connection. By keeping a journal of good things, you are focusing more on positive feelings towards her. When you experience a connection with your child, your reality will change. Your thoughts, feelings, and actions toward her will be different. When your attitude changes, so will hers. It’s hard to act defiantly toward a mother who is so totally nuts over you. Good Luck. fyi Rocheli Sternheim is a social worker practicing in Lakewood N.J. Rocheli is passionate about helping people help themselves. 46 | fyimagazineny.com Have your LATKE and Eat it too! Waistlines beware: Chanukah is Coming! Eating oily foods on Chanukah is something we like to take very seriously. As if that isn’t hard enough, there is an endless stream of Chanukah parties to attend. “His side”, “her side”, the work party, etc., each of which is chock-full of lots of unhealthy foods. The one who can fix that is… you! Here’s a plan to make it to the end without turning into a jelly doughnut yourself. 47 | fyimagazineny.com
 How can I feel empathy when my child is screaming that she doesn t like the supper I made, even though I made it last wee...
"How can I feel empathy when my child is screaming that she doesn't like the supper I made, even though I made it last week and she loved it? How can I have empathy for her when her behavior makes no sense and she has no license to feel that way?" emotions, she literally cannot handle the physiological sensations rushing through her body. Can you empathize with the fact that your child feels so overwhelmed with emotion, it’s confusing for her? Can you imagine what it must it be like to be disliked by family members and also known as the fun spoiler? Can you imagine if your own mother was not excited to see you? Try to tune into your daughter’s experience as a misbehaving child. Put aside all the judgments and focus on what it must feel like to be her. Now you understand that it really isn’t fun to be that way, and your child is probably feeling miserable all the time. But now what? How can you separate the behavior from the essence of your child? As a mother, I’m sure you know that when kids aren’t feeling 100% well, their behavior leaves much to be desired. Yes, it’s hard to deal with a cranky kid suffering from an ear infection, but you tend to be more sympathetic and patient when you recognize that the behavior is being influenced by your child’s illness. You are able to see the behavior as a bitter peel on a sweet fruit that has no bearing on its taste. Your child is a part of you and literally has 50% of your DNA. Her behavior is separate from her and doesn’t make her less a part of you; it’s just a manifestation of her pain. When your child throws a tantrum, try reframing it as such. “My precious child who was bequeathed to me, is having a hard time emotionally regulating. I can help her through this.” Now you may be thinking, “I can have empathy for my child, and try to separate her behavior from her essence, but how do I do that when she is screaming so loud that I can’t even think about anything remotely abstract?” Okay, I’ve got to be honest: if you are going to try to do this exercise at “cranky hour,” you may as well give up now. To access love for your child, try connecting to her at times when you both are calm. This could be when she is settled in bed, in pajamas, with freshly-washed hair. Use as much sensory input as possible so your brain and your child’s brain hold on to this feeling of connection. Hold your daughter’s face in your hands (touch), look into her eyes (see), put your face close to hers so you can sniff her fruity shampoo (smell), and whisper “I love you” (hear). If it is hard for you to feel a connection, create a mental picture of your child at a time when you did feel connected to her, like when she was a newborn, or when she said “mama” for the first time. Another exercise you can do to build positive feelings for your child is by keeping a journal of how cute she actually is. Pay attention to what your daughter does that is endearing, and when you lie in bed at night, write down one sweet or good thing she did that day. You can keep it as simple as smiling when she boarded the school bus, or saying something funny. Read the journal from time to time and relive those moments of connection. By keeping a journal of good things, you are focusing more on positive feelings towards her. When you experience a connection with your child, your reality will change. Your thoughts, feelings, and actions toward her will be different. When your attitude changes, so will hers. It’s hard to act defiantly toward a mother who is so totally nuts over you. Good Luck. fyi Rocheli Sternheim is a social worker practicing in Lakewood N.J. Rocheli is passionate about helping people help themselves. 46 | fyimagazineny.com Have your LATKE and Eat it too! Waistlines beware: Chanukah is Coming! Eating oily foods on Chanukah is something we like to take very seriously. As if that isn’t hard enough, there is an endless stream of Chanukah parties to attend. “His side”, “her side”, the work party, etc., each of which is chock-full of lots of unhealthy foods. The one who can fix that is… you! Here’s a plan to make it to the end without turning into a jelly doughnut yourself. 47 | fyimagazineny.com
 How can I feel empathy when my child is screaming that she doesn t like the supper I made, even though I made it last wee...
A s a hostess, aim to include wholesome, nourishing dishes, accompanied by healthy doses of vegetables. However, if you are a guest, you will likely be faced with the enormous challenge of many tempting foods staring at you. Avoid this scenario by offering to contribute something healthful and tasty to the menu. This way, you are assured of having a desirable food option made from healthy ingredients. Another idea would be to chat it up while standing near the drinks, holding a non-caloric beverage. Much of what contributes to a meal’s nutritional score is its size. Paying close attention to the quantity of the food can go a long way towards curbing weight gain. Be mindful of amounts, and stop eating once you feel satiated. The general setup of the plate should include 50% fruits and vegetables, 25% protein, and 25% starch. Even your Chanukah “staples” can be drastically improved. First off, baking instead of frying foods will eliminate the extra fat. When frying is a necessity, skip the oil and coat the skillet with PAM® to control fat content. Alternatively, you can maintain the fried flavor while reducing fat content by using the airfryer - a relatively new invention which reduces fat content by 50%. Who says latkes must be made with potatoes? There are many healthier alternatives, including carrot or zucchini latkes. Not only does this lessen the carbo- Much of what contributes to a meal’s nutritional score is its size. hydrate content, it also is a convenient way to add more vegetables to your meal. No article about this holiday would be complete without mentioning the benefits of olive oil. Used in place of other fats, the monounsaturated fatty acid content of olive oil may aid in preventing heart disease and improving blood vessel function. Food is meant for us to enjoy, and it is okay to indulge once in 48 | fyimagazineny.com awhile. Unless contraindicated due to specific health reasons, all foods are acceptable, as long as they are consumed in moderation. One doughnut won’t make your skirts tighter. When treating yourself, take small portions, walk away from the serving dish, and savor the food. At the same time, plan on cutting down on a regular indulgence. Putting the aforementioned tips into practice will cut down on many calories, but at the end of the day, extra calories are extra calories. Physical activity is an important method of combatting potential weight gain. So grab those sneakers and go for a brisk walk or run, do an exercise video with a friend, or attend an aerobics class at the gym. Nine 1- hour moderate-paced walks will burn 3500 extra calories, which is the equivalent of one pound. This Chanukah need not be an inevitable week of weight gain. With preparation, self-control, and some key substitutions, a flavorful Chanukah fare can be enjoyed with family and friends. You can have your latke and eat it too! fyi Miriam Shonek is a registered dietitian nutritionist in the Five Towns area. Focused on providing personalized nutritional care, she assists clients in achieving weight loss goals, as well as creating diet plans for a variety of medical conditions. She can be reached via email at mshoneknutrition@gmail. com. TIPS ON HOW TO Stay Fit This Winter As the winter months creep up on us again, we need to think ahead on how to conquer the winter workout blues. A reliable plan can help get our motors running in the season where we curl up on the couch in our pajamas instead of keeping active. Our activity level drops significantly, and being indoors causes us to almost automatically crave more carbs. Therefore, our fat storage almost doubles compared to that of the summer months. Change your mindset ahead of time, and these helpful hints can be your winter fitness plan. If you're planning on working out on your own, in your home, try to just embrace the cold. Taking a brisk 20-minute walk to meet a friend on your lunch break, or a short run in the cold, will surely warm you up, get some calories burning, and boost your mood. Investing in some home equipment may serve you well on icy, snowy days. Try checking out a rowing machine, which can provide an unbelievably enjoyable and total body workout. It works all major muscle groups without any stress on the body. You can also just run up and down your steps, or try doubling up jumping jacks, jumping rope, or any high-intensity movement to get your heart rate elevated. Buy two sets of free dumbbell weights - one light, one heavier. You can perform endless exercises with these. You can also try body weight exercises that require no equipment at all. (More on that in number four.) BUDDY UP. Finding a workout partner would be your best bet. I find partner exercise a great way to get encouragement and commit to those workouts that are brutal in the cold mornings and evenings when you'd rather stay in bed. It will actually help you stay on 49 | fyimagazineny.com the bandwagon and accomplish your goals come spring. GYM WORKOUTS. Think of the gym as a warm place to be, and look forward to the warmth and great feeling you get as you finish your workout. Pack your gym bag before work and go straight after work; going home first will only make you want to stay home. NO EXCUSES. Push ups, planks , crunches, or leg lifts, are exercises that are done on the floor using just body weight. Keep in mind that you take care of your teeth every day by brushing them; so too, you should set aside some time to take care of your body, even if it’s just ten minutes a day. Start focusing on one body part a day and go from there. (In our previous FYI articles, we have covered some isometric exercises as well as free weights. fyi Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and an instructor and co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness, a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue1994@gmail.com
A  s a hostess, aim to include wholesome, nourishing dishes, accompanied by healthy doses of vegetables. However, if you a...
A s a hostess, aim to include wholesome, nourishing dishes, accompanied by healthy doses of vegetables. However, if you are a guest, you will likely be faced with the enormous challenge of many tempting foods staring at you. Avoid this scenario by offering to contribute something healthful and tasty to the menu. This way, you are assured of having a desirable food option made from healthy ingredients. Another idea would be to chat it up while standing near the drinks, holding a non-caloric beverage. Much of what contributes to a meal’s nutritional score is its size. Paying close attention to the quantity of the food can go a long way towards curbing weight gain. Be mindful of amounts, and stop eating once you feel satiated. The general setup of the plate should include 50% fruits and vegetables, 25% protein, and 25% starch. Even your Chanukah “staples” can be drastically improved. First off, baking instead of frying foods will eliminate the extra fat. When frying is a necessity, skip the oil and coat the skillet with PAM® to control fat content. Alternatively, you can maintain the fried flavor while reducing fat content by using the airfryer - a relatively new invention which reduces fat content by 50%. Who says latkes must be made with potatoes? There are many healthier alternatives, including carrot or zucchini latkes. Not only does this lessen the carbo- Much of what contributes to a meal’s nutritional score is its size. hydrate content, it also is a convenient way to add more vegetables to your meal. No article about this holiday would be complete without mentioning the benefits of olive oil. Used in place of other fats, the monounsaturated fatty acid content of olive oil may aid in preventing heart disease and improving blood vessel function. Food is meant for us to enjoy, and it is okay to indulge once in 48 | fyimagazineny.com awhile. Unless contraindicated due to specific health reasons, all foods are acceptable, as long as they are consumed in moderation. One doughnut won’t make your skirts tighter. When treating yourself, take small portions, walk away from the serving dish, and savor the food. At the same time, plan on cutting down on a regular indulgence. Putting the aforementioned tips into practice will cut down on many calories, but at the end of the day, extra calories are extra calories. Physical activity is an important method of combatting potential weight gain. So grab those sneakers and go for a brisk walk or run, do an exercise video with a friend, or attend an aerobics class at the gym. Nine 1- hour moderate-paced walks will burn 3500 extra calories, which is the equivalent of one pound. This Chanukah need not be an inevitable week of weight gain. With preparation, self-control, and some key substitutions, a flavorful Chanukah fare can be enjoyed with family and friends. You can have your latke and eat it too! fyi Miriam Shonek is a registered dietitian nutritionist in the Five Towns area. Focused on providing personalized nutritional care, she assists clients in achieving weight loss goals, as well as creating diet plans for a variety of medical conditions. She can be reached via email at mshoneknutrition@gmail. com. TIPS ON HOW TO Stay Fit This Winter As the winter months creep up on us again, we need to think ahead on how to conquer the winter workout blues. A reliable plan can help get our motors running in the season where we curl up on the couch in our pajamas instead of keeping active. Our activity level drops significantly, and being indoors causes us to almost automatically crave more carbs. Therefore, our fat storage almost doubles compared to that of the summer months. Change your mindset ahead of time, and these helpful hints can be your winter fitness plan. If you're planning on working out on your own, in your home, try to just embrace the cold. Taking a brisk 20-minute walk to meet a friend on your lunch break, or a short run in the cold, will surely warm you up, get some calories burning, and boost your mood. Investing in some home equipment may serve you well on icy, snowy days. Try checking out a rowing machine, which can provide an unbelievably enjoyable and total body workout. It works all major muscle groups without any stress on the body. You can also just run up and down your steps, or try doubling up jumping jacks, jumping rope, or any high-intensity movement to get your heart rate elevated. Buy two sets of free dumbbell weights - one light, one heavier. You can perform endless exercises with these. You can also try body weight exercises that require no equipment at all. (More on that in number four.) BUDDY UP. Finding a workout partner would be your best bet. I find partner exercise a great way to get encouragement and commit to those workouts that are brutal in the cold mornings and evenings when you'd rather stay in bed. It will actually help you stay on 49 | fyimagazineny.com the bandwagon and accomplish your goals come spring. GYM WORKOUTS. Think of the gym as a warm place to be, and look forward to the warmth and great feeling you get as you finish your workout. Pack your gym bag before work and go straight after work; going home first will only make you want to stay home. NO EXCUSES. Push ups, planks , crunches, or leg lifts, are exercises that are done on the floor using just body weight. Keep in mind that you take care of your teeth every day by brushing them; so too, you should set aside some time to take care of your body, even if it’s just ten minutes a day. Start focusing on one body part a day and go from there. (In our previous FYI articles, we have covered some isometric exercises as well as free weights. fyi Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and an instructor and co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness, a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue1994@gmail.com
A  s a hostess, aim to include wholesome, nourishing dishes, accompanied by healthy doses of vegetables. However, if you a...
THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS WHICH YOU MAY HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT AND ARE WORTH THE MENTION. THE AIM IS THAT GRADUATES OF THE PROGRAM WILL REMAIN CONNECTED TO THEIR FAMILY, THEIR ROOTS, AND THE JEWISH COMMUNITY. BUILD A CHILD, BUILD A T WORLD My Extended Family is providing incredible support and a sense of extended family to children from single-parent homes. WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY 50 | fyimagazineny.com he first of its kind, My Extended Family offers comprehensive support and care for an ever-growing population of children in the New York metro area who come from single-parent homes, either through divorce or bereavement. The aim is to cater to each child’s emotional, social, and academic needs through services that include Big Brother/ Sister mentoring, group discussions, tutoring and academic assistance, and an after-school homework club with fun activities. Membership also includes parenting classes that address the specific concerns of single parents, therapeutic activities, special Chol HaMoed trips, as well as Yom Tov, Chanukah, and Purim parties. A division of the Brooklyn-based Mayan Yisroel center, which brings affiliated Jews closer to Judaism under the leadership of Rabbi Yosef Vigler, My Extended Family was started by leader Rebbetzin Tzippy Vigler. After prompting by a friend named Shterny Blackman, who is a single mom aware of the need in the community. At the end of 2014, the organization began offering homework supervision and since then, what it provides has increased by leaps and bounds. Services are offered to kids from pre 1A Grade to 8th Grade (ages 5 to 13). “Most of the kids we encounter are basically functioning okay,” shares Assistant Clinical Director Avigail Margolis. “But a major life transition like the loss of a parent in one way or another can be frightening and can predispose a child to risky behavior like dropping out of school, losing their way, and finding comfort in destructive places, and so we act as a buffer.” According to Avigail, the organization is not condoning divorce, but when it has already happened, the aim is to soften the blow to kids, reduce the potential stress they face, and ensure a greater chance of stability. In addition to Avigail, along with Rebbetzin Vigler who coordinates the educational aspects, a professional team spearheads the organization. This includes Clinical Director Avital Arieff; Educational Coordinator Mushky Rivkin; Mayan Yisroel Operations Director Susan Lasher; and Mayan Yisroel Marketing Director Leah Hasson. There are also currently four social work interns as well as a large team of quality high school volunteers. “We try to listen to the needs of each family and to accommodate them,” relates Avigail. “This includes everything, from offering Friday night meals to taking the kids to shul on Shabbat, to pairing boys with a Torah learning partner. We also offer subsidized extra-curricular activities on a case-by-case basis and other assistance when there is a need. Once a child is under our wing, we try to do what relatives would do. Careful monitoring of each child’s progress takes place in order to make sure that they thrive.” The aim is that graduates of the program will remain connected to their family, their roots, and the Jewish community. According to Avigail, one of the best things she observes is the amount of attention each child receives. “Mostly, the children don’t want to miss out, and love attending the programs we offer. We don’t force anyone to come. We simply provide a safe, warm, and homely 51 | fyimagazineny.com environment conducive to cultivating positive relationships, and they leave with a huge smile on their face.” What makes My Extended Family so unique is the focus on the children. Though mothers are also offered a respite from their challenges and a place to befriend others in similar circumstances, the emphasis here is on the well-being of the children in a wholesome environment. The organization’s main challenge is getting enough funding, and thus fundraising events are held regularly, many involving the kids. Another challenge is getting enough male volunteers to learn with the students. My Extended Family is gaining extensive coverage in the media, as well as by word of mouth and social media. For now, its focus is on making a significant difference to local families in the Brooklyn area, but the aim is to ultimately open new centers of My Extended family, so that kids from single parent homes in other areas can also become part of an "extended family" they can call their own. fyi 718-677-0030 WWW.MAYANYISROEL.NET
THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS W...
THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS WHICH YOU MAY HAVE NEVER HEARD ABOUT AND ARE WORTH THE MENTION. THE AIM IS THAT GRADUATES OF THE PROGRAM WILL REMAIN CONNECTED TO THEIR FAMILY, THEIR ROOTS, AND THE JEWISH COMMUNITY. BUILD A CHILD, BUILD A T WORLD My Extended Family is providing incredible support and a sense of extended family to children from single-parent homes. WRITTEN BY LOREN MINSKY 50 | fyimagazineny.com he first of its kind, My Extended Family offers comprehensive support and care for an ever-growing population of children in the New York metro area who come from single-parent homes, either through divorce or bereavement. The aim is to cater to each child’s emotional, social, and academic needs through services that include Big Brother/ Sister mentoring, group discussions, tutoring and academic assistance, and an after-school homework club with fun activities. Membership also includes parenting classes that address the specific concerns of single parents, therapeutic activities, special Chol HaMoed trips, as well as Yom Tov, Chanukah, and Purim parties. A division of the Brooklyn-based Mayan Yisroel center, which brings affiliated Jews closer to Judaism under the leadership of Rabbi Yosef Vigler, My Extended Family was started by leader Rebbetzin Tzippy Vigler. After prompting by a friend named Shterny Blackman, who is a single mom aware of the need in the community. At the end of 2014, the organization began offering homework supervision and since then, what it provides has increased by leaps and bounds. Services are offered to kids from pre 1A Grade to 8th Grade (ages 5 to 13). “Most of the kids we encounter are basically functioning okay,” shares Assistant Clinical Director Avigail Margolis. “But a major life transition like the loss of a parent in one way or another can be frightening and can predispose a child to risky behavior like dropping out of school, losing their way, and finding comfort in destructive places, and so we act as a buffer.” According to Avigail, the organization is not condoning divorce, but when it has already happened, the aim is to soften the blow to kids, reduce the potential stress they face, and ensure a greater chance of stability. In addition to Avigail, along with Rebbetzin Vigler who coordinates the educational aspects, a professional team spearheads the organization. This includes Clinical Director Avital Arieff; Educational Coordinator Mushky Rivkin; Mayan Yisroel Operations Director Susan Lasher; and Mayan Yisroel Marketing Director Leah Hasson. There are also currently four social work interns as well as a large team of quality high school volunteers. “We try to listen to the needs of each family and to accommodate them,” relates Avigail. “This includes everything, from offering Friday night meals to taking the kids to shul on Shabbat, to pairing boys with a Torah learning partner. We also offer subsidized extra-curricular activities on a case-by-case basis and other assistance when there is a need. Once a child is under our wing, we try to do what relatives would do. Careful monitoring of each child’s progress takes place in order to make sure that they thrive.” The aim is that graduates of the program will remain connected to their family, their roots, and the Jewish community. According to Avigail, one of the best things she observes is the amount of attention each child receives. “Mostly, the children don’t want to miss out, and love attending the programs we offer. We don’t force anyone to come. We simply provide a safe, warm, and homely 51 | fyimagazineny.com environment conducive to cultivating positive relationships, and they leave with a huge smile on their face.” What makes My Extended Family so unique is the focus on the children. Though mothers are also offered a respite from their challenges and a place to befriend others in similar circumstances, the emphasis here is on the well-being of the children in a wholesome environment. The organization’s main challenge is getting enough funding, and thus fundraising events are held regularly, many involving the kids. Another challenge is getting enough male volunteers to learn with the students. My Extended Family is gaining extensive coverage in the media, as well as by word of mouth and social media. For now, its focus is on making a significant difference to local families in the Brooklyn area, but the aim is to ultimately open new centers of My Extended family, so that kids from single parent homes in other areas can also become part of an "extended family" they can call their own. fyi 718-677-0030 WWW.MAYANYISROEL.NET
THERE ARE MANY ORGANIZATIONS IN THE COMMUNITY THAT YOU MAY BE FAMILIAR WITH. HERE WE TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT ORGANIZATIONS W...
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Do you find that you are constantly being pulled in all directions? The errands, cooking, and even the kids can wait for about an hour every few days, while you pamper yourself. Here, FYI suggests ways to create a relaxing spalike ambience in your own home – accessible whenever you need it. After all, happy mom, happy kids. RELAXING SOUNDS Most spas play instrumental music or the sounds of nature in the background for a soothing and uplifting feel. Put on your favorite calm music, and imagine the sound washing over each part of your body. If you’re fortunate enough to live near nature, open your windows to hear the sound of birds or the wind blowing. Flowers and plants improve the overall scent and air quality of a room, and also personalize the space. An aromatherapy essential oil burner will diffuse calming essential oils through the bathroom, or you can place essential oils and water into an empty spray bottle and then spray into the air (shake first). You may want to keep some fresh and dried herbs on hand, such as lavender, rosemary, and peppermint for calm, focus, and energy. 1. PAPAYA FACIAL From Dawn Gallagher, author of Nature’s Beauty Secrets: Recipes for Beauty Treatments from the World’s Best Spas 1 Ripe Papaya; skin and seeds removed 3 teaspoons Raw Honey 2 tablespoons Plain Yogurt BATH/ SHOWER TIME Pamper your skin, hair, and nails with simple and effective homemade treatments and masks – see the sidebar for ideas. Also, keep a stash of bath salts and soaps on hand. Before you bathe or shower, dry brush your body with a natural bristle brush in the direction of your heart, to improve circulation. Make sure you have a cozy bathrobe and slippers on hand. HYDRATION AND SNACKS Set up a drink station to await you, filled with a selection of caffeine-free herbal teas such as chamomile, and use raw honey as the sweetener. Include healthy snacks such as dried apricots, almond nuts, and high-quality dark chocolate for an instant boost. Before you go to sleep, fill glass bottles with purified water as well as cut-up lemon, ginger, mint, orange slices, cucumber or berries (preferably organic) and refrigerate. The goodness of the ingredients diffuses into the water, and makes drinking water more palatable. TRANSFORM YOUR BATHROOM 3 DIY TREATMENTS SCENTS For an instant spa feel, place a stash of soft rolled-up towels (best quality you can afford) visible on a shelf or in a gorgeous wicker basket. Simple touches like plush rugs are a pleasure during cold weather. A selection of candles will create a stunning ambience in seconds; ensure they are safely positioned and that you don’t forget about them. Like any spa in the know, opt for subtle and neutral colors where possible. Think beige, grey, white, cream, brown, aqua, mint green, and possibly a splash of your favorite color too. Depending on space, bring in a small comfortable chair or a favorite cushion. Keep countertops uncluttered, organized, and clean 54 | fyimagazineny.com MASSAGE “Self massage, when done correctly, can promote relaxation by stimulating proper blood and oxygen flow throughout the body from head to toe,” says Mindy Rosenfeld, a New York state licensed massage therapist and holistic healer, who visits clients in the New York and New Jersey area. She offers a few tips when giving oneself a mini-massage. “Lean your head back, press the base of the neck with the index and middle fingers or the thumb (whichever is more comfortable), and slowly bring the neck forward until the chin meets the chest.” According to Mindy, this gentle stretch relieves a lot of tension. “Three finger widths below the base of the toes, press into the center of the foot with the thumb, hold a few seconds and slowly release the pressure. This is incredibly relaxing,” says Mindy. She also suggests rolling your feet back and forth over a tennis ball. “For lower legs, squeeze the calf in a rocking motion as you work your way from the knee to the ankle.” BREATHING A few minutes of quietly monitoring your breath will do wonders for your general well-being. If something comes up, simply blow it away and return to your breath. Make sure to incorporate at least two minutes of this practice into your spa routine. Spa time has the power to restore you, and thus should be revered as sacred. Designate time in advance and keep your appointment for quality time with yourself. Enjoy. fyi 55 | fyimagazineny.com Mash papaya and honey, add a little yogurt until it’s a workable paste and then pat evenly around face and neck and around your eyes (or entire body). Lie back and relax for ten minutes, rinse off with warm water, tone and moisturize. 2. SHINEENHANCING COCONUT OIL MASK From www.theeverygirl.com; blogger Stephanie Sterjovski 1 tablespoon Organic Coconut Oil 1 tbsp. Organic Raw Honey Mix the ingredients together and then heat up on a stovetop in a small saucepan (heat opens hair follicles). Apply to damp hair in sections from top to bottom, focusing on ends where the most damage occurs. Put your hair up in a bun, cover with a shower cap and leave on for 30-40 minutes. Wash the mask out using shampoo and conditioner. 3. MUSCLE RELAXING SCRUB From Sophia Uliano, author of Gorgeously Green 2 cups Epsom Salts 1 ½ cups Grapeseed Oil 2 tablespoons grated Lemon zest 15 drops Lemon essential oil 15 drops Eucalyptus essential oil Mix the scrub together in a jar. Massage into damp skin, rinse off and moisturize well. Note: The mix is slippery, so use a shower mat and wash your bath or shower out well after application.
Do you find that you are constantly being pulled in all directions  The errands, cooking, and even the kids can wait for a...
Do you find that you are constantly being pulled in all directions? The errands, cooking, and even the kids can wait for about an hour every few days, while you pamper yourself. Here, FYI suggests ways to create a relaxing spalike ambience in your own home – accessible whenever you need it. After all, happy mom, happy kids. RELAXING SOUNDS Most spas play instrumental music or the sounds of nature in the background for a soothing and uplifting feel. Put on your favorite calm music, and imagine the sound washing over each part of your body. If you’re fortunate enough to live near nature, open your windows to hear the sound of birds or the wind blowing. Flowers and plants improve the overall scent and air quality of a room, and also personalize the space. An aromatherapy essential oil burner will diffuse calming essential oils through the bathroom, or you can place essential oils and water into an empty spray bottle and then spray into the air (shake first). You may want to keep some fresh and dried herbs on hand, such as lavender, rosemary, and peppermint for calm, focus, and energy. 1. PAPAYA FACIAL From Dawn Gallagher, author of Nature’s Beauty Secrets: Recipes for Beauty Treatments from the World’s Best Spas 1 Ripe Papaya; skin and seeds removed 3 teaspoons Raw Honey 2 tablespoons Plain Yogurt BATH/ SHOWER TIME Pamper your skin, hair, and nails with simple and effective homemade treatments and masks – see the sidebar for ideas. Also, keep a stash of bath salts and soaps on hand. Before you bathe or shower, dry brush your body with a natural bristle brush in the direction of your heart, to improve circulation. Make sure you have a cozy bathrobe and slippers on hand. HYDRATION AND SNACKS Set up a drink station to await you, filled with a selection of caffeine-free herbal teas such as chamomile, and use raw honey as the sweetener. Include healthy snacks such as dried apricots, almond nuts, and high-quality dark chocolate for an instant boost. Before you go to sleep, fill glass bottles with purified water as well as cut-up lemon, ginger, mint, orange slices, cucumber or berries (preferably organic) and refrigerate. The goodness of the ingredients diffuses into the water, and makes drinking water more palatable. TRANSFORM YOUR BATHROOM 3 DIY TREATMENTS SCENTS For an instant spa feel, place a stash of soft rolled-up towels (best quality you can afford) visible on a shelf or in a gorgeous wicker basket. Simple touches like plush rugs are a pleasure during cold weather. A selection of candles will create a stunning ambience in seconds; ensure they are safely positioned and that you don’t forget about them. Like any spa in the know, opt for subtle and neutral colors where possible. Think beige, grey, white, cream, brown, aqua, mint green, and possibly a splash of your favorite color too. Depending on space, bring in a small comfortable chair or a favorite cushion. Keep countertops uncluttered, organized, and clean 54 | fyimagazineny.com MASSAGE “Self massage, when done correctly, can promote relaxation by stimulating proper blood and oxygen flow throughout the body from head to toe,” says Mindy Rosenfeld, a New York state licensed massage therapist and holistic healer, who visits clients in the New York and New Jersey area. She offers a few tips when giving oneself a mini-massage. “Lean your head back, press the base of the neck with the index and middle fingers or the thumb (whichever is more comfortable), and slowly bring the neck forward until the chin meets the chest.” According to Mindy, this gentle stretch relieves a lot of tension. “Three finger widths below the base of the toes, press into the center of the foot with the thumb, hold a few seconds and slowly release the pressure. This is incredibly relaxing,” says Mindy. She also suggests rolling your feet back and forth over a tennis ball. “For lower legs, squeeze the calf in a rocking motion as you work your way from the knee to the ankle.” BREATHING A few minutes of quietly monitoring your breath will do wonders for your general well-being. If something comes up, simply blow it away and return to your breath. Make sure to incorporate at least two minutes of this practice into your spa routine. Spa time has the power to restore you, and thus should be revered as sacred. Designate time in advance and keep your appointment for quality time with yourself. Enjoy. fyi 55 | fyimagazineny.com Mash papaya and honey, add a little yogurt until it’s a workable paste and then pat evenly around face and neck and around your eyes (or entire body). Lie back and relax for ten minutes, rinse off with warm water, tone and moisturize. 2. SHINEENHANCING COCONUT OIL MASK From www.theeverygirl.com; blogger Stephanie Sterjovski 1 tablespoon Organic Coconut Oil 1 tbsp. Organic Raw Honey Mix the ingredients together and then heat up on a stovetop in a small saucepan (heat opens hair follicles). Apply to damp hair in sections from top to bottom, focusing on ends where the most damage occurs. Put your hair up in a bun, cover with a shower cap and leave on for 30-40 minutes. Wash the mask out using shampoo and conditioner. 3. MUSCLE RELAXING SCRUB From Sophia Uliano, author of Gorgeously Green 2 cups Epsom Salts 1 ½ cups Grapeseed Oil 2 tablespoons grated Lemon zest 15 drops Lemon essential oil 15 drops Eucalyptus essential oil Mix the scrub together in a jar. Massage into damp skin, rinse off and moisturize well. Note: The mix is slippery, so use a shower mat and wash your bath or shower out well after application.
Do you find that you are constantly being pulled in all directions  The errands, cooking, and even the kids can wait for a...
5 WAYS TO DISAGREE Disagreeing doesn’t make one feel warm and fuzzy on the inside. Often, people fly off the handle when things don’t go their way. Others just avoid disagreeing altogether, because confrontation makes them anxious and uncomfortable. But it doesn’t have to be that way. WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER ometimes it is absolutely necessary to say no or disagree with your spouse, your boss, a family member, or your child’s educator, and it can be done leaving both parties emotionally unharmed. The trick is to disagree without being disagreeable. Sounds like something you need to hear? Read on. 1. WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE CALM! If you know you will say something hurtful, raise your voice, or say inappropriate things, then just wait. Cooling-off periods can be anywhere from ten minutes to a year. When you are calm, approach the person with whom you are in conflict and tell her why you disagree with what she did or said. There is nothing wrong with telling anybody, especially children and spouses, “I am really angry now; could we discuss this when I am a bit calmer?” Let them know you are not ignoring them or the issue; you just need time to exercise restraint and self-control, because you don’t want to hurt them. If the disagreement occurs in a professional environment, you can ask for time to think things through. Speaking as a teacher, “Give me some time to think about it” has saved my life on more than one occasion. 56 | fyimagazineny.com AGREEABLY 2. LISTEN WELL. Make eye contact and listen to every word the disagreer is saying. Don’t interrupt; let him finish explaining his point of view or idea. If you feel like your colleague is dominating the conversation, try this: “Can I stop you right there for just a second? You said something just now that I want to comment on.” It’ll still make the other person feel heard, while letting you get a word in edgewise. 3. USE EXPRESSIONS THAT FOSTER POLITE DISAGREEMENT. Some examples are: “I am afraid I disagree…,” “I beg to differ,” “not necessarily” and “I hear your point, but…” If you need to disagree with your child, one statement I have adopted that is an all-time winner is, “I love you; however, no, you cannot…” or “I love you; however, that does not make me agree with…” 4. USE “I” STATEMENTS. Instead of criticizing the disagreer, use “I” statements to convey your feelings and point of view; i.e., “I felt resentful when you…” or “I don’t think I agree with the new policies you suggested for …” “You always ask me to help you file papers on Wednesday when I work late hours and am especially tired,” sounds very different from, “I feel very tired tonight because I worked late; can we please do this together tomorrow?” 5. DON’T MAKE IT PERSONAL; consider compromising. In every argument, premeditated or not, keep a little voice in your head that whispers, “I disagree with this person’s idea or thought, but I’m not angry, hurt, or insulted.” And remember that many disagreements end in a stalemate. The point should not be to win - rather, to clear the air and try to make yourself and others understood. If you show flexibility and generosity (yes, it isn’t easy but it is the mature thing to do) during an argument, it is highly likely that the other party will too. fyi 57 | fyimagazineny.com
5 WAYS TO  DISAGREE  Disagreeing doesn   t make one feel warm and fuzzy on the inside. Often, people fly off the handle wh...
5 WAYS TO DISAGREE Disagreeing doesn’t make one feel warm and fuzzy on the inside. Often, people fly off the handle when things don’t go their way. Others just avoid disagreeing altogether, because confrontation makes them anxious and uncomfortable. But it doesn’t have to be that way. WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER ometimes it is absolutely necessary to say no or disagree with your spouse, your boss, a family member, or your child’s educator, and it can be done leaving both parties emotionally unharmed. The trick is to disagree without being disagreeable. Sounds like something you need to hear? Read on. 1. WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE CALM! If you know you will say something hurtful, raise your voice, or say inappropriate things, then just wait. Cooling-off periods can be anywhere from ten minutes to a year. When you are calm, approach the person with whom you are in conflict and tell her why you disagree with what she did or said. There is nothing wrong with telling anybody, especially children and spouses, “I am really angry now; could we discuss this when I am a bit calmer?” Let them know you are not ignoring them or the issue; you just need time to exercise restraint and self-control, because you don’t want to hurt them. If the disagreement occurs in a professional environment, you can ask for time to think things through. Speaking as a teacher, “Give me some time to think about it” has saved my life on more than one occasion. 56 | fyimagazineny.com AGREEABLY 2. LISTEN WELL. Make eye contact and listen to every word the disagreer is saying. Don’t interrupt; let him finish explaining his point of view or idea. If you feel like your colleague is dominating the conversation, try this: “Can I stop you right there for just a second? You said something just now that I want to comment on.” It’ll still make the other person feel heard, while letting you get a word in edgewise. 3. USE EXPRESSIONS THAT FOSTER POLITE DISAGREEMENT. Some examples are: “I am afraid I disagree…,” “I beg to differ,” “not necessarily” and “I hear your point, but…” If you need to disagree with your child, one statement I have adopted that is an all-time winner is, “I love you; however, no, you cannot…” or “I love you; however, that does not make me agree with…” 4. USE “I” STATEMENTS. Instead of criticizing the disagreer, use “I” statements to convey your feelings and point of view; i.e., “I felt resentful when you…” or “I don’t think I agree with the new policies you suggested for …” “You always ask me to help you file papers on Wednesday when I work late hours and am especially tired,” sounds very different from, “I feel very tired tonight because I worked late; can we please do this together tomorrow?” 5. DON’T MAKE IT PERSONAL; consider compromising. In every argument, premeditated or not, keep a little voice in your head that whispers, “I disagree with this person’s idea or thought, but I’m not angry, hurt, or insulted.” And remember that many disagreements end in a stalemate. The point should not be to win - rather, to clear the air and try to make yourself and others understood. If you show flexibility and generosity (yes, it isn’t easy but it is the mature thing to do) during an argument, it is highly likely that the other party will too. fyi 57 | fyimagazineny.com
5 WAYS TO  DISAGREE  Disagreeing doesn   t make one feel warm and fuzzy on the inside. Often, people fly off the handle wh...
Tips for Buying Gifts for Children with Hyperactivity and/or Distractibility WRITTEN BY MIRIAM MANELA Children who display symptoms of ADHD, such as hyperactivity and/ or distractibility, often have challenges getting their homework done. These children may be very bright and quick, but may also be very easily frustrated, wild, over-reactive and have little patience. With the holidays quickly approaching, many parents are wondering what to get for their children. Here are some gift ideas that have proven very helpful in motivating them to complete their homework with less fussing and complaining and less cajoling from the parents. 1 3 4 2 1. RIPSTIK A child who has poor body awareness will likely have difficulty paying attention. The children who always have to think about where their body is and how it is moving may benefit from an activity that requires co-contraction of their muscles. With less attention focused on body awareness, they are better able to concentrate on homework. The Razor RipStik caster board is similar to a skateboard, but the wheels rotate 360 degrees. The RipStik helps to increase balance and engages a child’s core. It also helps to promote a child’s body awareness and positioning. A parent may want to incorporate academics while the child uses the RipStik. For instance, as your child moves around on the RipStik, he can practice vocabulary words, math problems, study science definitions, and explain history lessons. 2. BALANCE BOARD OR A WOBBLE BOARD A balance or wobble board offers an unsteady surface for your child to stand on while engaging in various activities. Your child can read while standing on the balance or wobble board, which is a good way to increase core strength and facilitate balance. Reading should be done at eye level, so a countertop and many tables would work nicely. Your child can even hold a book and read while standing on the board. When writing, it is ideal to put paper on a vertical surface, such as an easel or even taped on the refrigerator. Miriam Manela is the owner of Thrive, an occupational therapy practice, and recently published her new book, The Parent-Child Dance. Miriam is known for her exciting workshops for parents, teachers, college students and therapists. miriam@otthrive.com 58 | fyimagazineny.com 3. POGO STICK A pogo stick requires children to bounce on the footplates while also grasping on to the handles. Pogo sticks are a great activity for your children to increase coordination and proprioceptive input to their bodies. It helps children get out lots of energy while requiring them to co-contract muscles on the front and back of the body in order to maintain balance. Pogo sticks are great because of the rhythmic component. The child maintains a rhythm in order to keep jumping, which helps keep him grounded and focused. The pogo stick also helps children to be more attentive to detail. They can practice translating their Chumash, or Gemarah paragraphs. Schoolteachers know that rhythm can help teach translation, and that singing is helpful in remembering and understanding interpretations. The pogo stick is another form of rhythm that can help children to recall, verbalize, or memorize translations. 4. HOMEMADE STRETCHY RESISTANCE BAND From the fabric store, purchase spandex that is the width of your child’s torso and two yards long. You will need a sewing machine in order to sew the two short sides of the material together. Using the stretchy resistance band is great for a fidgety child. He can stand or sit in it and stretch against and pull at the material, which is a great way to get a lot of proprioceptive input to the body. Children who can’t seem to sit still will find this material calming and organizing. Homework can be done while they are wrapped in it. You can also be wrapped in the material along with your child and assist him with homework and/or studying (otthrive.com). Chanukah gifts that double up as being functional, are fun for the child and great for you! Win-Win! fyi 59 | fyimagazineny.com HERE ARE SOME IDEAS TO ACHIEVE SIMILAR RESULTS, WITHOUT HAVING TO PURCHASE ANYTHING. n Your child can stand on the arm of the couch while reading, or work on writing assignments taped up to the wall in front of him. n Your child can take 2-4 cushions from the couch and stand on top of them. This will create an unsteady surface similar to a balance or wobble board. n Your child can stand on one foot while doing homework or studying. Challenging balance will help your child to have more focus and attention during homework.
Tips for Buying Gifts for Children with Hyperactivity and or Distractibility WRITTEN BY MIRIAM MANELA  Children who displa...
Tips for Buying Gifts for Children with Hyperactivity and/or Distractibility WRITTEN BY MIRIAM MANELA Children who display symptoms of ADHD, such as hyperactivity and/ or distractibility, often have challenges getting their homework done. These children may be very bright and quick, but may also be very easily frustrated, wild, over-reactive and have little patience. With the holidays quickly approaching, many parents are wondering what to get for their children. Here are some gift ideas that have proven very helpful in motivating them to complete their homework with less fussing and complaining and less cajoling from the parents. 1 3 4 2 1. RIPSTIK A child who has poor body awareness will likely have difficulty paying attention. The children who always have to think about where their body is and how it is moving may benefit from an activity that requires co-contraction of their muscles. With less attention focused on body awareness, they are better able to concentrate on homework. The Razor RipStik caster board is similar to a skateboard, but the wheels rotate 360 degrees. The RipStik helps to increase balance and engages a child’s core. It also helps to promote a child’s body awareness and positioning. A parent may want to incorporate academics while the child uses the RipStik. For instance, as your child moves around on the RipStik, he can practice vocabulary words, math problems, study science definitions, and explain history lessons. 2. BALANCE BOARD OR A WOBBLE BOARD A balance or wobble board offers an unsteady surface for your child to stand on while engaging in various activities. Your child can read while standing on the balance or wobble board, which is a good way to increase core strength and facilitate balance. Reading should be done at eye level, so a countertop and many tables would work nicely. Your child can even hold a book and read while standing on the board. When writing, it is ideal to put paper on a vertical surface, such as an easel or even taped on the refrigerator. Miriam Manela is the owner of Thrive, an occupational therapy practice, and recently published her new book, The Parent-Child Dance. Miriam is known for her exciting workshops for parents, teachers, college students and therapists. miriam@otthrive.com 58 | fyimagazineny.com 3. POGO STICK A pogo stick requires children to bounce on the footplates while also grasping on to the handles. Pogo sticks are a great activity for your children to increase coordination and proprioceptive input to their bodies. It helps children get out lots of energy while requiring them to co-contract muscles on the front and back of the body in order to maintain balance. Pogo sticks are great because of the rhythmic component. The child maintains a rhythm in order to keep jumping, which helps keep him grounded and focused. The pogo stick also helps children to be more attentive to detail. They can practice translating their Chumash, or Gemarah paragraphs. Schoolteachers know that rhythm can help teach translation, and that singing is helpful in remembering and understanding interpretations. The pogo stick is another form of rhythm that can help children to recall, verbalize, or memorize translations. 4. HOMEMADE STRETCHY RESISTANCE BAND From the fabric store, purchase spandex that is the width of your child’s torso and two yards long. You will need a sewing machine in order to sew the two short sides of the material together. Using the stretchy resistance band is great for a fidgety child. He can stand or sit in it and stretch against and pull at the material, which is a great way to get a lot of proprioceptive input to the body. Children who can’t seem to sit still will find this material calming and organizing. Homework can be done while they are wrapped in it. You can also be wrapped in the material along with your child and assist him with homework and/or studying (otthrive.com). Chanukah gifts that double up as being functional, are fun for the child and great for you! Win-Win! fyi 59 | fyimagazineny.com HERE ARE SOME IDEAS TO ACHIEVE SIMILAR RESULTS, WITHOUT HAVING TO PURCHASE ANYTHING. n Your child can stand on the arm of the couch while reading, or work on writing assignments taped up to the wall in front of him. n Your child can take 2-4 cushions from the couch and stand on top of them. This will create an unsteady surface similar to a balance or wobble board. n Your child can stand on one foot while doing homework or studying. Challenging balance will help your child to have more focus and attention during homework.
Tips for Buying Gifts for Children with Hyperactivity and or Distractibility WRITTEN BY MIRIAM MANELA  Children who displa...
We’ve probably all been there. Wiping down the counters and picking the bigger piece of dust off the kitchen floor. Turning out the light and heading to bed. Passing the laundry room on the way to the bedroom; pausing, hands on hips, lips pursed to survey the clutter and wistfully imagining how it would look once straightened up. Then, yawning, turning and heading to bed, with the acrid taste of regret in your mouth. I The Well-Organized LAUNDRY ROOM 60 | fyimagazineny.com get it. It’s hard to clean a room that’s a confusing mess. However, all that jumble and disorder in your house is causing the same qualities in your mind, leading to heightened stress and frustration . In fact, out of 84% of Americans who worry about the cleanliness level in their home, 55% point to that as a source of stress in their lives. There’s a reason for that: clutter means items are hard to find, and when you cannot find what you need, that’s stressful. According to the US News and World Report, “the average American spends a full year of their life looking for lost or misplaced items.” That’s a full year you could have filled doing anything else! As a Professional Organizer with eight years of experience, I’ve heard the gamut of excuses: It’s not natural to me. I wasn’t raised this way. There is no way I can learn to be more organized! But you can. Because organization is not a matter of nature, or nurture; it is a skill, and skills can be learned, worked on, and perfected. There’s a motto I found at the container store that I found so applicable: “Live organized, love the extra time to live.” Once you have learned how to organize your room, it can maintain itself - with the help of willing family members, obviously even when you are not there to oversee and manage! You can use the time you save on the things you really enjoy and want to do. How’s that for motivation? SO LET’S GET STARTED, SHALL WE? PREPARE While today our discussion focuses on the laundry room, which is a central odds ‘n ends clutter-attracting room in many people’s homes, the concepts we discuss apply no matter which room you hit. The objective is always to create more room in people’s homes and minds by creating a way to access the item you need when you need it. Seems simplistic, but when you’re in the laundry room trying to find the Bounce and you can’t because it’s surrounded by detergents you use on “special cases” about once a year, and all the extra buttons plus somebody’s hair band with its unattached flower are lying on top of it, simplicity is much appreciated. In order to start, you need to figure out what supplies you need. When it comes to organizing clients’ homes, I find that 30% of success is finding the right bin. This is essential to helping you organize your stuff in a way that will put the most commonly-used items where you will find them immediately. They also make the laundry room look neater. Other important things you can put in: • Hooks to hang mops and brooms. • A laundry basket (If you do not have room for one, they now sell 61 | fyimagazineny.com mesh collapsible ones that are great). Personally, I love the ones on wheels. A garbage can, which many people think is not important in a laundry room, but I find crucial. Another 20% of success is the layout of the laundry room. You need to figure out how to work with what you have, but remember that it is possible to organize the room no matter what it looks like. You do not need closets or perfect drawers. Size does not matter. ORGANIZE Now we get to the actual organization. Before you start, make sure you have a garbage can ready to accept all the sacrifices you will be making. Assess the space you will tackle and do not target more than you can do in about an hour to an hour and a half. Doing too much at once will awaken the stress and frustration we are trying to get rid of. We use the “yes, no, maybe” method. Pick up each item and decide if it qualifies as a yes, no, or a maybe. I like to do this for clients, since physically holding the item can actually trigger an emotional attachment toward it and make it harder to toss. Perhaps you can get someone relatively objective to help you out with this. Ask yourself: is this taking space that could be used for something better and/ or more important? If they are yeses, organize them immediately in the bins.
We   ve probably all been there. Wiping down the counters and picking the bigger piece of dust off the kitchen floor. Turn...
We’ve probably all been there. Wiping down the counters and picking the bigger piece of dust off the kitchen floor. Turning out the light and heading to bed. Passing the laundry room on the way to the bedroom; pausing, hands on hips, lips pursed to survey the clutter and wistfully imagining how it would look once straightened up. Then, yawning, turning and heading to bed, with the acrid taste of regret in your mouth. I The Well-Organized LAUNDRY ROOM 60 | fyimagazineny.com get it. It’s hard to clean a room that’s a confusing mess. However, all that jumble and disorder in your house is causing the same qualities in your mind, leading to heightened stress and frustration . In fact, out of 84% of Americans who worry about the cleanliness level in their home, 55% point to that as a source of stress in their lives. There’s a reason for that: clutter means items are hard to find, and when you cannot find what you need, that’s stressful. According to the US News and World Report, “the average American spends a full year of their life looking for lost or misplaced items.” That’s a full year you could have filled doing anything else! As a Professional Organizer with eight years of experience, I’ve heard the gamut of excuses: It’s not natural to me. I wasn’t raised this way. There is no way I can learn to be more organized! But you can. Because organization is not a matter of nature, or nurture; it is a skill, and skills can be learned, worked on, and perfected. There’s a motto I found at the container store that I found so applicable: “Live organized, love the extra time to live.” Once you have learned how to organize your room, it can maintain itself - with the help of willing family members, obviously even when you are not there to oversee and manage! You can use the time you save on the things you really enjoy and want to do. How’s that for motivation? SO LET’S GET STARTED, SHALL WE? PREPARE While today our discussion focuses on the laundry room, which is a central odds ‘n ends clutter-attracting room in many people’s homes, the concepts we discuss apply no matter which room you hit. The objective is always to create more room in people’s homes and minds by creating a way to access the item you need when you need it. Seems simplistic, but when you’re in the laundry room trying to find the Bounce and you can’t because it’s surrounded by detergents you use on “special cases” about once a year, and all the extra buttons plus somebody’s hair band with its unattached flower are lying on top of it, simplicity is much appreciated. In order to start, you need to figure out what supplies you need. When it comes to organizing clients’ homes, I find that 30% of success is finding the right bin. This is essential to helping you organize your stuff in a way that will put the most commonly-used items where you will find them immediately. They also make the laundry room look neater. Other important things you can put in: • Hooks to hang mops and brooms. • A laundry basket (If you do not have room for one, they now sell 61 | fyimagazineny.com mesh collapsible ones that are great). Personally, I love the ones on wheels. A garbage can, which many people think is not important in a laundry room, but I find crucial. Another 20% of success is the layout of the laundry room. You need to figure out how to work with what you have, but remember that it is possible to organize the room no matter what it looks like. You do not need closets or perfect drawers. Size does not matter. ORGANIZE Now we get to the actual organization. Before you start, make sure you have a garbage can ready to accept all the sacrifices you will be making. Assess the space you will tackle and do not target more than you can do in about an hour to an hour and a half. Doing too much at once will awaken the stress and frustration we are trying to get rid of. We use the “yes, no, maybe” method. Pick up each item and decide if it qualifies as a yes, no, or a maybe. I like to do this for clients, since physically holding the item can actually trigger an emotional attachment toward it and make it harder to toss. Perhaps you can get someone relatively objective to help you out with this. Ask yourself: is this taking space that could be used for something better and/ or more important? If they are yeses, organize them immediately in the bins.
We   ve probably all been there. Wiping down the counters and picking the bigger piece of dust off the kitchen floor. Turn...
We don’t want this to turn into a two-step project, where we haphazardly throw things into bins and then have to work again to organize those. Put your bins into an assembly line. Figure out which ‘yeses’ belong together and keep them together. This obviously depends on what you keep in the laundry room and how often you use the items there. Try to have three shelves - you can easily have them installed - two on one side, and one high up on top of the washing machine. Commonly-used detergents should go together in the bin closest to you. Household cleaning detergents can go in that same bin, since you (probably) use those all the time as well. You can keep the bins organized by putting smaller bins inside the big ones. Keep specialty detergents that you don’t use as often on a higher shelf so they don’t get in the way when you need to use the others. Next are the “maybes.” Put the stuff you think you might need but haven’t used in a while either way up high or into storage. If you haven’t used it within six months, it’s time to chuck it. The “no’s” either go straight into the garbage or into the giveaway pile. Be honest with yourself; many people end up having to purge twice. If your bins are overflowing but your garbage can is not, you did not do a good job. If it’s been in the giveaway pile for too long, it’s time to throw it out. Don’t accumulate brooms or mops either. The motto in general is “If you don’t use ‘em, chuck ‘em.” Maintenance, maintenance, maintenance. A key step to maintaining your room is to label the bins. Labeling is a thirty-dollar investment that pays for itself by helping yourself and your family members commit to keeping the items in the room where they are. With the bins clearly labeled, there is simply no excuse for anyone to throw items where they don’t belong. Another part of maintenance is making sure random items do not end up there and stay forever. Take a few minutes every night to sew that button and glue gun that hair band. It’ll save you hours of work. Keep making sure that the system you’ve set up works for you. If the items are in a place that does not work, move them to a better spot and relabel. Then reevaluate within a month or so. Make a goal of everything you want to accomplish further for the room, and the steps you will need to take to see them done. For example, if you want those three shelves and need to call a handyman to put them up, write it down. Organization is a skill that not only you can learn, but your kids can, too! To show them by example and to teach them where everything belongs is to hand them an important gift that will come in handy their entire life. In addition, they will surely appreciate a less-stressed, less-frustrated mom who has more time to spend with them! Do it for you; do it for your kids. It will change your life. fyi MAINTAIN So now you have a beautifully organized, laundry room. How is it going to stay that way? Mindy Neuschloss has been a professional organizer for eight years and has changed the lives of many of her clients. She can be reached at mindythemaven@gmail.com 62 | fyimagazineny.com Homemaking Problems,Solved MINDY SUGGESTS: Sterilite Ultra Basket “My go-to baskets. These come in small, medium, and large. However, I don’t recommend the large bins as they are too deep to access anything.” WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED “The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career.” Q. I got new suede boots and wore them out in the snow and got salt stains on them. I really love these boots and would not want them to go to waste. Any way to save them? When the sidewalks are icy and salt gets put down, it’s easy to get salt stains on suede boots Take a toothbrush (of course not one you’ll use again). Rub vigorously to remove the salt buildup, then lightly apply some water with a rag, and rub with the toothbrush again to rough up the suede. Then allow it to dry. Another idea: if you get salt stains on your leather shoes or boots, mix one tablespoon of white vinegar in one cup of water. Dip a clean soft rag in the liquid, then wipe the salt stains. Allow to dry and your shoes should be good as new! Sterilite Wheeled Hamper “This sturdy hamper is my favorite. Also, the white will give the room a cleaner look.” Q. A few years ago when my family moved into a rental with stainless steel appliances, I was excited; finally I had an upgraded kitchen! Little did I realize that stainless steel and three little boys equals a LOT of fingerprints everywhere! Any tried methods of cleaning stainless steel? Simple Human Trash Can “I recommend a mid-size (10 L) rectangular can that’ll match the rectangular hampers and bins. A cover is also important to keep it from overflowing.” A. To start, clean your appliance the way you normally do. Window cleaner works. You can use plain vinegar to remove any tough spots. Now for the secret weapon. Once your stainless steel is completely clean, use Turtle Wax to keep those pesky fingerprints from coming back. Using a clean cloth or paper towel, apply the Turtle Wax in a light coat and then buff to a shine with a clean microfiber cloth. The result is a super-shiny surface that resists smudges for much longer. Touch up the cleaning and Turtle Wax every couple of weeks as needed to keep the steel looking brand new! 63 | fyimagazineny.com
We don   t want this to turn into a two-step project, where we haphazardly throw things into bins and then have to work ag...
We don’t want this to turn into a two-step project, where we haphazardly throw things into bins and then have to work again to organize those. Put your bins into an assembly line. Figure out which ‘yeses’ belong together and keep them together. This obviously depends on what you keep in the laundry room and how often you use the items there. Try to have three shelves - you can easily have them installed - two on one side, and one high up on top of the washing machine. Commonly-used detergents should go together in the bin closest to you. Household cleaning detergents can go in that same bin, since you (probably) use those all the time as well. You can keep the bins organized by putting smaller bins inside the big ones. Keep specialty detergents that you don’t use as often on a higher shelf so they don’t get in the way when you need to use the others. Next are the “maybes.” Put the stuff you think you might need but haven’t used in a while either way up high or into storage. If you haven’t used it within six months, it’s time to chuck it. The “no’s” either go straight into the garbage or into the giveaway pile. Be honest with yourself; many people end up having to purge twice. If your bins are overflowing but your garbage can is not, you did not do a good job. If it’s been in the giveaway pile for too long, it’s time to throw it out. Don’t accumulate brooms or mops either. The motto in general is “If you don’t use ‘em, chuck ‘em.” Maintenance, maintenance, maintenance. A key step to maintaining your room is to label the bins. Labeling is a thirty-dollar investment that pays for itself by helping yourself and your family members commit to keeping the items in the room where they are. With the bins clearly labeled, there is simply no excuse for anyone to throw items where they don’t belong. Another part of maintenance is making sure random items do not end up there and stay forever. Take a few minutes every night to sew that button and glue gun that hair band. It’ll save you hours of work. Keep making sure that the system you’ve set up works for you. If the items are in a place that does not work, move them to a better spot and relabel. Then reevaluate within a month or so. Make a goal of everything you want to accomplish further for the room, and the steps you will need to take to see them done. For example, if you want those three shelves and need to call a handyman to put them up, write it down. Organization is a skill that not only you can learn, but your kids can, too! To show them by example and to teach them where everything belongs is to hand them an important gift that will come in handy their entire life. In addition, they will surely appreciate a less-stressed, less-frustrated mom who has more time to spend with them! Do it for you; do it for your kids. It will change your life. fyi MAINTAIN So now you have a beautifully organized, laundry room. How is it going to stay that way? Mindy Neuschloss has been a professional organizer for eight years and has changed the lives of many of her clients. She can be reached at mindythemaven@gmail.com 62 | fyimagazineny.com Homemaking Problems,Solved MINDY SUGGESTS: Sterilite Ultra Basket “My go-to baskets. These come in small, medium, and large. However, I don’t recommend the large bins as they are too deep to access anything.” WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED “The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career.” Q. I got new suede boots and wore them out in the snow and got salt stains on them. I really love these boots and would not want them to go to waste. Any way to save them? When the sidewalks are icy and salt gets put down, it’s easy to get salt stains on suede boots Take a toothbrush (of course not one you’ll use again). Rub vigorously to remove the salt buildup, then lightly apply some water with a rag, and rub with the toothbrush again to rough up the suede. Then allow it to dry. Another idea: if you get salt stains on your leather shoes or boots, mix one tablespoon of white vinegar in one cup of water. Dip a clean soft rag in the liquid, then wipe the salt stains. Allow to dry and your shoes should be good as new! Sterilite Wheeled Hamper “This sturdy hamper is my favorite. Also, the white will give the room a cleaner look.” Q. A few years ago when my family moved into a rental with stainless steel appliances, I was excited; finally I had an upgraded kitchen! Little did I realize that stainless steel and three little boys equals a LOT of fingerprints everywhere! Any tried methods of cleaning stainless steel? Simple Human Trash Can “I recommend a mid-size (10 L) rectangular can that’ll match the rectangular hampers and bins. A cover is also important to keep it from overflowing.” A. To start, clean your appliance the way you normally do. Window cleaner works. You can use plain vinegar to remove any tough spots. Now for the secret weapon. Once your stainless steel is completely clean, use Turtle Wax to keep those pesky fingerprints from coming back. Using a clean cloth or paper towel, apply the Turtle Wax in a light coat and then buff to a shine with a clean microfiber cloth. The result is a super-shiny surface that resists smudges for much longer. Touch up the cleaning and Turtle Wax every couple of weeks as needed to keep the steel looking brand new! 63 | fyimagazineny.com
We don   t want this to turn into a two-step project, where we haphazardly throw things into bins and then have to work ag...
THE CHANUKA GIFT YOU WILL ENJOY ALL YEAR LONG! Q. Recently, I’ve heard of house fires that started from the dryer. How do I properly maintain my dryer? How often and how should I clean it? Q. After Chanukah, when the menorahs are polished and put away, I always have oil stains. Be it on a tablecloth or a shirt, how do I remove it? Grease or oil stains can be difficult to remove from clothing. Fresh grease stains can be fairly easy to remove if you act quickly. However, once heated or left to oxidize (which can happen within a matter of hours), the stains will darken in color and become difficult or even impossible to remove. To remove a fresh oil stain from your clothes, immediately cover the stain with flour or baby powder for a few hours or even overnight. Then brush off the flour or powder, and the stain should be gone. SUBS CRIBE • Fill a sink with hot water and add one cup of white vinegar. Use a clean cloth dipped in the mixture to wipe down the exterior of the dryer. • Remove lint trap and remove lint. (This should be done after every cycle you run the dryer!) • Wash the lint trap in the sink filled with hot water and vinegar, scrub it well with a washcloth, then rinse and set aside to dry. • Remove any visible lint remaining in the lint trap and use a vacuum with attachment to vacuum out the rest. Wipe any areas you can reach with the water and vinegar mixture. • Wipe down the inside of the dryer with hot water and vinegar, then repeat with just water. Dry with a clean cloth. • Pull dryer away from the wall and unplug. Vacuum any lint and dust from the area behind the dryer. Remove the dryer hose from the wall and the dryer by pinching the metal rings and pulling away. Vacuum any lint you can see, as well as the interior of the dryer hose. If you are able, attach a small broomstick or other long item and gently brush the interior of the hose to remove any remaining dust and debris. • Clean the floor under the dryer and reattach the dryer hose at both ends, testing to make sure it’s secure. Carefully replace dryer. Ta-da! You’re all done! Make sure to do this every 6-12 months. Clogged dryer vents can easily start a fire, so this is one of those cleaning tasks that is just as much about safety as cleanliness! for y friend ourself an d a secon nd receiv a e the d sub s 50% O cription FF! P rom CHAN o code: UKAH 2015 It’s fresh, exciting, informative... Newest Sensation! ONLY FOR A ONE YEAR SUBSCRIPTION (12 ISSUES) $50 64 | fyimagazineny.com $25 OFF YO U R SECO SUBS ND CRIP TION Pick one up at your local grocery store. FYI is a monthly lifestyle magazine featuring: Parenting • Organizing • Home Decor • Nutrition Fashion • Recipes • Product Reviews • Fitness & much more! CALL TODAY TO SUBSCRIBE! 718.412.2442 | fyimagazineny.com | info@fyimagazineny.com
THE CHANUKA GIFT YOU WILL ENJOY  ALL YEAR LONG   Q. Recently, I   ve heard of house fires that started from the dryer. How...
THE CHANUKA GIFT YOU WILL ENJOY ALL YEAR LONG! Q. Recently, I’ve heard of house fires that started from the dryer. How do I properly maintain my dryer? How often and how should I clean it? Q. After Chanukah, when the menorahs are polished and put away, I always have oil stains. Be it on a tablecloth or a shirt, how do I remove it? Grease or oil stains can be difficult to remove from clothing. Fresh grease stains can be fairly easy to remove if you act quickly. However, once heated or left to oxidize (which can happen within a matter of hours), the stains will darken in color and become difficult or even impossible to remove. To remove a fresh oil stain from your clothes, immediately cover the stain with flour or baby powder for a few hours or even overnight. Then brush off the flour or powder, and the stain should be gone. SUBS CRIBE • Fill a sink with hot water and add one cup of white vinegar. Use a clean cloth dipped in the mixture to wipe down the exterior of the dryer. • Remove lint trap and remove lint. (This should be done after every cycle you run the dryer!) • Wash the lint trap in the sink filled with hot water and vinegar, scrub it well with a washcloth, then rinse and set aside to dry. • Remove any visible lint remaining in the lint trap and use a vacuum with attachment to vacuum out the rest. Wipe any areas you can reach with the water and vinegar mixture. • Wipe down the inside of the dryer with hot water and vinegar, then repeat with just water. Dry with a clean cloth. • Pull dryer away from the wall and unplug. Vacuum any lint and dust from the area behind the dryer. Remove the dryer hose from the wall and the dryer by pinching the metal rings and pulling away. Vacuum any lint you can see, as well as the interior of the dryer hose. If you are able, attach a small broomstick or other long item and gently brush the interior of the hose to remove any remaining dust and debris. • Clean the floor under the dryer and reattach the dryer hose at both ends, testing to make sure it’s secure. Carefully replace dryer. Ta-da! You’re all done! Make sure to do this every 6-12 months. Clogged dryer vents can easily start a fire, so this is one of those cleaning tasks that is just as much about safety as cleanliness! for y friend ourself an d a secon nd receiv a e the d sub s 50% O cription FF! P rom CHAN o code: UKAH 2015 It’s fresh, exciting, informative... Newest Sensation! ONLY FOR A ONE YEAR SUBSCRIPTION (12 ISSUES) $50 64 | fyimagazineny.com $25 OFF YO U R SECO SUBS ND CRIP TION Pick one up at your local grocery store. FYI is a monthly lifestyle magazine featuring: Parenting • Organizing • Home Decor • Nutrition Fashion • Recipes • Product Reviews • Fitness & much more! CALL TODAY TO SUBSCRIBE! 718.412.2442 | fyimagazineny.com | info@fyimagazineny.com
THE CHANUKA GIFT YOU WILL ENJOY  ALL YEAR LONG   Q. Recently, I   ve heard of house fires that started from the dryer. How...
If hearing this question sparks a myriad of excuses to suddenly pop into your head, well, you’re not alone. We get it. As busy parents with seemingly impossible tasks to complete and juggle, this question can often overwhelm us and evoke feelings of impatience. While this is understandable, it is important to note the vital role that play has in the world of parenting. “MOMMY, CAN YOU PLAY WITH ME?” 66 | fyimagazineny.com hroughout the ages, play has been an essential part of children growing up. Through play, kids learn to use their creativity, while developing their physical, cognitive and social-emotional skills. It is through this medium that babies learn to engage and interact with the world around them. With the advent of technological video and game playing, children are spending less time in traditional play, thus missing out on some key building blocks to positive social, emotional, and physical development. Parents can play an important role in encouraging play time by being readily available to become their children’s partner in play. While most parents think of play as simply a fun and recreational time for children, it can actually be a vital time for parents to bond with their kids in a stress-free and light atmosphere. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests “making play a significant part of a child’s life to nurture happiness, development, education, and parent-child bonding.” Playtime can also be used as a tool for modeling important social-emotional skills such as sharing, cooperation, compromise, anger management and frustration tolerance. For a four-year-old child who is struggling with the concept of sharing, playtime with Mom can be a useful time to gently role-play and practice this skill while the parent empathizes with the child’s difficulty. Or, for the energetic and impulsive seven-year-old, lively games with Dad can be a healthy way to release energy and practice curbing his/her impulses via careful guidance. In a similar vein, playful parenting methods can often be very effective with young children who exhibit non-cooperative and stubborn behaviors, or who are simply tired. The parent can get down to her children’s level in order to distract them from their negative feelings and round them up for a fun game instead. For example, an overwhelmed mom might choose to become the “bathtub monster” who chases and tickles uncooperative children into the bath instead of the “screaming mommy” who yells at kids to get into the bath, often to no avail. For older children, playtime can involve a quiet board game or trivia game. This is a powerful tool to promote healthy parent-child bonding, as it sets a calm and non-threatening tone that encourages open communication and sharing. If you are familiar with our work, you know we feel strongly that children learn best by example. What better way to set an example than by role-playing a situation in a playful and positive manner, all under the pretense of playing a game? Note the absence of lecturing or confrontation with the children in the examples above. Remember, play is a cherished part of childhood. With the right balance of positive discipline and play, children learn fundamental skills to grow up to be confident and well-adjusted individuals, ready to conquer the world. fyi muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Email muffinsnmoms@gmail.com for information on upcoming parenting workshops! Follow @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. 67 | fyimagazineny.com
If hearing this question sparks a myriad of excuses to suddenly pop into your head, well, you   re not alone. We get it. A...
If hearing this question sparks a myriad of excuses to suddenly pop into your head, well, you’re not alone. We get it. As busy parents with seemingly impossible tasks to complete and juggle, this question can often overwhelm us and evoke feelings of impatience. While this is understandable, it is important to note the vital role that play has in the world of parenting. “MOMMY, CAN YOU PLAY WITH ME?” 66 | fyimagazineny.com hroughout the ages, play has been an essential part of children growing up. Through play, kids learn to use their creativity, while developing their physical, cognitive and social-emotional skills. It is through this medium that babies learn to engage and interact with the world around them. With the advent of technological video and game playing, children are spending less time in traditional play, thus missing out on some key building blocks to positive social, emotional, and physical development. Parents can play an important role in encouraging play time by being readily available to become their children’s partner in play. While most parents think of play as simply a fun and recreational time for children, it can actually be a vital time for parents to bond with their kids in a stress-free and light atmosphere. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests “making play a significant part of a child’s life to nurture happiness, development, education, and parent-child bonding.” Playtime can also be used as a tool for modeling important social-emotional skills such as sharing, cooperation, compromise, anger management and frustration tolerance. For a four-year-old child who is struggling with the concept of sharing, playtime with Mom can be a useful time to gently role-play and practice this skill while the parent empathizes with the child’s difficulty. Or, for the energetic and impulsive seven-year-old, lively games with Dad can be a healthy way to release energy and practice curbing his/her impulses via careful guidance. In a similar vein, playful parenting methods can often be very effective with young children who exhibit non-cooperative and stubborn behaviors, or who are simply tired. The parent can get down to her children’s level in order to distract them from their negative feelings and round them up for a fun game instead. For example, an overwhelmed mom might choose to become the “bathtub monster” who chases and tickles uncooperative children into the bath instead of the “screaming mommy” who yells at kids to get into the bath, often to no avail. For older children, playtime can involve a quiet board game or trivia game. This is a powerful tool to promote healthy parent-child bonding, as it sets a calm and non-threatening tone that encourages open communication and sharing. If you are familiar with our work, you know we feel strongly that children learn best by example. What better way to set an example than by role-playing a situation in a playful and positive manner, all under the pretense of playing a game? Note the absence of lecturing or confrontation with the children in the examples above. Remember, play is a cherished part of childhood. With the right balance of positive discipline and play, children learn fundamental skills to grow up to be confident and well-adjusted individuals, ready to conquer the world. fyi muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Email muffinsnmoms@gmail.com for information on upcoming parenting workshops! Follow @muffinsnmoms_parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. 67 | fyimagazineny.com
If hearing this question sparks a myriad of excuses to suddenly pop into your head, well, you   re not alone. We get it. A...
H ere are some ways you can boost your mood whenever you’re feeling a bit down. 1. GO FOR A WALK. The combination of fresh air and exercise will help clear your head and make you feel a lot better. 2. MAKE THE MOST OF SUNLIGHT. One of the reasons why we can feel down in the winter is a deficiency of vitamin D – which we get mostly from sunshine. So try to spend some time outside on bright winter days to obtain some of that vital Vitamin D. 3. EAT FOODS RICH IN VITAMIN D. Oily fish, like salmon and tinned tuna, egg yolks and certain mushrooms like Portobello, all contain some vitamin D. 4. LISTEN TO UPBEAT MUSIC that makes you want to dance. 5. ESCAPE FOR A FEW HOURS WITH A GOOD BOOK. 6. EXERCISE - the endorphins will improve your mood. The onset of fall, together with the cold and darker days that accompany it, can make us feel a little low. However, there are many ways to boost our mood when the weather is gloomy. You have only to look to Denmark, where there are long dark winters; yet the Danes are considered some of the happiest people in the world. One of the ways they do it is through a concept called “hygge.” There is no direct translation for it, but it is a sense of coziness and togetherness with others that lifts the spirit. 7. EAT BRAZIL NUTS - they are the best source of the mineral selenium, which boosts your mood and prevents depression. 8. GET ENOUGH REST. Tiredness can make us feel down and also lowers our resistance to colds and bugs. 9. DECLUTTER YOUR HOME. It’s such a good feeling to get rid of things you no longer need, for a more streamlined and organised home. 10. SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS. Being together with people you care about is a great mood booster. 11. FILL YOUR HOME WITH BEAUTIFUL SCENTS. Some, like lemon, lavender and jasmine, are renowned for improving your mood. WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER 68 | fyimagazineny.com 12. BREATHE. Sometimes when we’re feeling stressed, we forget to breathe properly, adding to stress. So pause and take a few deep breaths- in and out. 13. KEEP MOVING. If you have to sit down for work, get up every half hour or so and walk around to prevent your body from feeling sluggish. 14. LIGHT CANDLES. Brighten up a gloomy evening with some candles that bring light and warmth into your home. 15. BAKE SOMETHING DELICIOUS. There’s nothing quite like the beautiful aroma of baking. 16. SET GOALS and have things to look forward to. 17. KEEP HYDRATED. Even in the winter, it is important to make sure that you drink enough. Being dehydrated can put you into an irritable mood. 18. MAKE SURE YOU EAT A NUTRITIOUS DIET. We often turn to junk food in the winter, which tends to be laden with calories and fat, but very little nutritional value. This saps our energy and causes us to put on pounds, which ends up making us feel worse. 19. MAKE FRESH SOUP. A fresh homemade soup can be the ultimate healthy comfort food. A thick soup made from fresh vegetables is packed with vitamins and nutrients. 20. DO SOMETHING GOOD FOR SOMEONE ELSE. There is no better feeling than helping others. You could cook a meal for someone who has just had a baby, call someone who might be feeling lonely, or help an elderly person with her shopping. 21. VOLUNTEER. If you have time on your hands, consider volunteering for a charity or community organisation who would welcome the help. Not only will you be giving something back to 69 | fyimagazineny.com the community, but it can also be a great way to meet new people. 22. SMILE. The simple act of smiling can make us feel better. So take a look at yourself in the mirror, and give yourself a big smile. There, don’t you feel better already? 23. TAKE UP A NEW HOBBY. Try something like photography or dressmaking and enjoy the challenge. 24. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY and go on a little outing together. It doesn’t have to be somewhere extravagant. It could be trip to the park or a visit to a museum. Just spending quality time together will do you all good. 25. THINK POSITIVELY. That alone can sometimes change your perspective. 26. HAVE SOME CHOCOLATE. Dark chocolate contains serotonin, which is a mood lifter. 27. DO SOMETHING CREATIVE like drawing, writing poetry, or playing music. It doesn’t matter how good you are- just do it for the sheer enjoyment of it. 28. COLORS CAN AFFECT OUR MOOD. So why not consider doing some redecorating or simply adding some pops of color into your home by way of accessories? Green and yellow can both make you feel happier, while blue adds a feeling of calm. 29. REDUCE YOUR SCHEDULE. Sometimes when we take on too much, we feel overwhelmed and fatigued. If this is the case, try to simplify your day wherever possible. 30. RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THAT PLANTS can reduce feelings of stress and make us feel more relaxed, so bring the outside in by having plants around your home. fyi
H  ere are some ways you can boost your mood whenever you   re feeling a bit down. 1. GO FOR A WALK. The combination of fr...
H ere are some ways you can boost your mood whenever you’re feeling a bit down. 1. GO FOR A WALK. The combination of fresh air and exercise will help clear your head and make you feel a lot better. 2. MAKE THE MOST OF SUNLIGHT. One of the reasons why we can feel down in the winter is a deficiency of vitamin D – which we get mostly from sunshine. So try to spend some time outside on bright winter days to obtain some of that vital Vitamin D. 3. EAT FOODS RICH IN VITAMIN D. Oily fish, like salmon and tinned tuna, egg yolks and certain mushrooms like Portobello, all contain some vitamin D. 4. LISTEN TO UPBEAT MUSIC that makes you want to dance. 5. ESCAPE FOR A FEW HOURS WITH A GOOD BOOK. 6. EXERCISE - the endorphins will improve your mood. The onset of fall, together with the cold and darker days that accompany it, can make us feel a little low. However, there are many ways to boost our mood when the weather is gloomy. You have only to look to Denmark, where there are long dark winters; yet the Danes are considered some of the happiest people in the world. One of the ways they do it is through a concept called “hygge.” There is no direct translation for it, but it is a sense of coziness and togetherness with others that lifts the spirit. 7. EAT BRAZIL NUTS - they are the best source of the mineral selenium, which boosts your mood and prevents depression. 8. GET ENOUGH REST. Tiredness can make us feel down and also lowers our resistance to colds and bugs. 9. DECLUTTER YOUR HOME. It’s such a good feeling to get rid of things you no longer need, for a more streamlined and organised home. 10. SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS. Being together with people you care about is a great mood booster. 11. FILL YOUR HOME WITH BEAUTIFUL SCENTS. Some, like lemon, lavender and jasmine, are renowned for improving your mood. WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER 68 | fyimagazineny.com 12. BREATHE. Sometimes when we’re feeling stressed, we forget to breathe properly, adding to stress. So pause and take a few deep breaths- in and out. 13. KEEP MOVING. If you have to sit down for work, get up every half hour or so and walk around to prevent your body from feeling sluggish. 14. LIGHT CANDLES. Brighten up a gloomy evening with some candles that bring light and warmth into your home. 15. BAKE SOMETHING DELICIOUS. There’s nothing quite like the beautiful aroma of baking. 16. SET GOALS and have things to look forward to. 17. KEEP HYDRATED. Even in the winter, it is important to make sure that you drink enough. Being dehydrated can put you into an irritable mood. 18. MAKE SURE YOU EAT A NUTRITIOUS DIET. We often turn to junk food in the winter, which tends to be laden with calories and fat, but very little nutritional value. This saps our energy and causes us to put on pounds, which ends up making us feel worse. 19. MAKE FRESH SOUP. A fresh homemade soup can be the ultimate healthy comfort food. A thick soup made from fresh vegetables is packed with vitamins and nutrients. 20. DO SOMETHING GOOD FOR SOMEONE ELSE. There is no better feeling than helping others. You could cook a meal for someone who has just had a baby, call someone who might be feeling lonely, or help an elderly person with her shopping. 21. VOLUNTEER. If you have time on your hands, consider volunteering for a charity or community organisation who would welcome the help. Not only will you be giving something back to 69 | fyimagazineny.com the community, but it can also be a great way to meet new people. 22. SMILE. The simple act of smiling can make us feel better. So take a look at yourself in the mirror, and give yourself a big smile. There, don’t you feel better already? 23. TAKE UP A NEW HOBBY. Try something like photography or dressmaking and enjoy the challenge. 24. SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY and go on a little outing together. It doesn’t have to be somewhere extravagant. It could be trip to the park or a visit to a museum. Just spending quality time together will do you all good. 25. THINK POSITIVELY. That alone can sometimes change your perspective. 26. HAVE SOME CHOCOLATE. Dark chocolate contains serotonin, which is a mood lifter. 27. DO SOMETHING CREATIVE like drawing, writing poetry, or playing music. It doesn’t matter how good you are- just do it for the sheer enjoyment of it. 28. COLORS CAN AFFECT OUR MOOD. So why not consider doing some redecorating or simply adding some pops of color into your home by way of accessories? Green and yellow can both make you feel happier, while blue adds a feeling of calm. 29. REDUCE YOUR SCHEDULE. Sometimes when we take on too much, we feel overwhelmed and fatigued. If this is the case, try to simplify your day wherever possible. 30. RESEARCH HAS SHOWN THAT PLANTS can reduce feelings of stress and make us feel more relaxed, so bring the outside in by having plants around your home. fyi
H  ere are some ways you can boost your mood whenever you   re feeling a bit down. 1. GO FOR A WALK. The combination of fr...
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Quality pg Name of First Article Goes Here you can feel. Prices pg 48 Name of First Article Goes Here you can afford. HOW THEY DID IT 6 Shirley Ave. Somerset, NJ 08873 P: 718-499-6300 Rated #1 in all hosiery categories 45 Available at your local hosiery store. SUSIE FISHBEIN is the author of Kosher by Design, a bestselling series of cookbooks that combines gourmet, yet easy-to-prepare recipes. N 76
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HAS COOKING ALWAYS BEEN A PASSION OF YOURS? She has celebrated Jewish American Heritage Month at the White House, made appearances on national television, and has been named among the most influential Jews in America. Her Kosher By Design series of eight cookbooks has sold over 480,000 copies around the world. Her latest cookbook in the series is Bringing it Home: Picture Perfect Food Inspired by My Travels. It will be published this spring. WRITTEN BY JOSEPH J. SHERMAN 72 | fyimagazineny.com SUSIE: Cooking and baking was always something I enjoyed doing. I always liked it when food looked pretty, but it was not something I ever thought I would do as a career. I have a masters degree in science, an undergraduate degree in elementary education, and I was a public school teacher for four years. I stopped working after my first child was born to become a full-time mom. I was always a very organized person, and when the day school asked if I would co-edit a cookbook, I saw how there was a need for elegant, modern Kosher books. At the time, chefs were not considered rock stars. There were traditional cookbooks, but not a lot that I could use practically. Shomer Shabbos people make a Thanksgiving dinner every week for Shabbos. I wanted to do something for the Kosher consumer- something lovely, modern and healthy. I did not want it to be necessarily traditional. WHAT WAS YOUR “BIG BREAK”? SUSIE: I got an interview with Artscroll. They had not yet done a cookbook, and they took a gamble on me and it paid off. It was like I hit the ground running with little experience. I learned a lot in the process. DO YOU IDENTIFY YOURSELF AS AN AUTHOR, BUSINESS OWNER, AND/OR ENTREPRENEUR? SUSIE: I consider myself all but an entrepreneur. I chose not to expand the use of my name. There are things that could have made me money, but I chose not to give my name to them. I suppose an entrepreneur would do it. I am more choosy- more into my name and brand. I have the trust of my audience. They will buy my book sight unseen. They know I developed and tested it, and they know me. I am careful to test the recipe in a foolproof way. WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COOKING AS A HOBBY AND AS A CAREER? SUSIE: You can’t just say “I like to cook, let me try to sell it to someone else.” If you don’t take yourself seriously, people will not take you seriously. You have to draw the line and decide if your project is a hobby or a business. I put in the time and effort that I would put into any job. I prioritize my time and say to myself, “If I was working in a law firm, how would I schedule my time?” For example, when I am on work time, I do not go out with friends to the mall, because this is something that I am willing to give up. I knew this genre was missing in the Kosher book world. Peter Lynch writes in One Up On Wall Street that he knew which stocks to pick based on what he saw around him. When he saw that his wife and kids were bringing home bags of clothes from The Gap, he knew to buy the stock. I was a Modern Orthodox woman who 73 | fyimagazineny.com loves to cook. I saw lots of traditional cookbooks, but not books for people who cooked like me. Immediately people said, “Yes, we want it, and we want more.” WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING PART OF YOUR WORK? SUSIE: How much nachas it brings to my husband, kids, and parents. Being a Jewish celebrity is a cool thing. If I was a famous lawyer, they would have no understanding of it, but they go out and people say, “She is your mother!” There are perks to being a celebrity that my kids get to enjoy. I have done cooking demonstrations as the chef on cruises, at Disney, and other cool places. I do one of those a week somewhere in the country, a food tour every February, and Europe in the summer. WHAT NEW PROJECTS ARE YOU WORKING ON? SUSIE: I lead a week-long culinary tour of Israel every February. We meet rock star chefs like chef Meir Adoni, sleep at the Waldorf, and see the cutting-edge food scene. The Kosher world has really stepped up, and some of the chefs moved from treif to Kosher. We meet sheep farmers who make their own cheese, a French pâtisserie, and guided tours of the shuk. It’s all food, all the time. CAN YOU SHARE ANY ADVICE TO WOMEN WHO ARE CURRENTLY IN THEIR OWN BUSINESS? SUSIE: Take yourself seriously and cross the line from hobby to business. Treat it as a business, and hopefully you will be rewarded. Follow your gut. Do what makes you happy. fyi
HAS COOKING ALWAYS BEEN A PASSION OF YOURS   She has celebrated Jewish American Heritage Month at the White House, made ap...
HAS COOKING ALWAYS BEEN A PASSION OF YOURS? She has celebrated Jewish American Heritage Month at the White House, made appearances on national television, and has been named among the most influential Jews in America. Her Kosher By Design series of eight cookbooks has sold over 480,000 copies around the world. Her latest cookbook in the series is Bringing it Home: Picture Perfect Food Inspired by My Travels. It will be published this spring. WRITTEN BY JOSEPH J. SHERMAN 72 | fyimagazineny.com SUSIE: Cooking and baking was always something I enjoyed doing. I always liked it when food looked pretty, but it was not something I ever thought I would do as a career. I have a masters degree in science, an undergraduate degree in elementary education, and I was a public school teacher for four years. I stopped working after my first child was born to become a full-time mom. I was always a very organized person, and when the day school asked if I would co-edit a cookbook, I saw how there was a need for elegant, modern Kosher books. At the time, chefs were not considered rock stars. There were traditional cookbooks, but not a lot that I could use practically. Shomer Shabbos people make a Thanksgiving dinner every week for Shabbos. I wanted to do something for the Kosher consumer- something lovely, modern and healthy. I did not want it to be necessarily traditional. WHAT WAS YOUR “BIG BREAK”? SUSIE: I got an interview with Artscroll. They had not yet done a cookbook, and they took a gamble on me and it paid off. It was like I hit the ground running with little experience. I learned a lot in the process. DO YOU IDENTIFY YOURSELF AS AN AUTHOR, BUSINESS OWNER, AND/OR ENTREPRENEUR? SUSIE: I consider myself all but an entrepreneur. I chose not to expand the use of my name. There are things that could have made me money, but I chose not to give my name to them. I suppose an entrepreneur would do it. I am more choosy- more into my name and brand. I have the trust of my audience. They will buy my book sight unseen. They know I developed and tested it, and they know me. I am careful to test the recipe in a foolproof way. WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COOKING AS A HOBBY AND AS A CAREER? SUSIE: You can’t just say “I like to cook, let me try to sell it to someone else.” If you don’t take yourself seriously, people will not take you seriously. You have to draw the line and decide if your project is a hobby or a business. I put in the time and effort that I would put into any job. I prioritize my time and say to myself, “If I was working in a law firm, how would I schedule my time?” For example, when I am on work time, I do not go out with friends to the mall, because this is something that I am willing to give up. I knew this genre was missing in the Kosher book world. Peter Lynch writes in One Up On Wall Street that he knew which stocks to pick based on what he saw around him. When he saw that his wife and kids were bringing home bags of clothes from The Gap, he knew to buy the stock. I was a Modern Orthodox woman who 73 | fyimagazineny.com loves to cook. I saw lots of traditional cookbooks, but not books for people who cooked like me. Immediately people said, “Yes, we want it, and we want more.” WHAT IS THE MOST REWARDING PART OF YOUR WORK? SUSIE: How much nachas it brings to my husband, kids, and parents. Being a Jewish celebrity is a cool thing. If I was a famous lawyer, they would have no understanding of it, but they go out and people say, “She is your mother!” There are perks to being a celebrity that my kids get to enjoy. I have done cooking demonstrations as the chef on cruises, at Disney, and other cool places. I do one of those a week somewhere in the country, a food tour every February, and Europe in the summer. WHAT NEW PROJECTS ARE YOU WORKING ON? SUSIE: I lead a week-long culinary tour of Israel every February. We meet rock star chefs like chef Meir Adoni, sleep at the Waldorf, and see the cutting-edge food scene. The Kosher world has really stepped up, and some of the chefs moved from treif to Kosher. We meet sheep farmers who make their own cheese, a French pâtisserie, and guided tours of the shuk. It’s all food, all the time. CAN YOU SHARE ANY ADVICE TO WOMEN WHO ARE CURRENTLY IN THEIR OWN BUSINESS? SUSIE: Take yourself seriously and cross the line from hobby to business. Treat it as a business, and hopefully you will be rewarded. Follow your gut. Do what makes you happy. fyi
HAS COOKING ALWAYS BEEN A PASSION OF YOURS   She has celebrated Jewish American Heritage Month at the White House, made ap...
9 TOOLS SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE USE TO SUCCEED IN BUSINESS I’ve seen some very successful people at their most stressful moments. Negotiating a contract with an opposing party can stress a person out, and for me, it’s always a learning experience. Over years of coaching business people during all phases of drafting, negotiating, and finally signing their contracts - I’ve come to see what makes these successful people, well, successful. Here is what I learned, and most importantly, what can be emulated by anyone and utilized as tools to carve out a path to success. 1. ENTHUSIASM. I once asked a very wealthy client: “Honestly, you already have more money than you can ever spend, so why don’t you just retire to your recliner with a sefer and a coffee and call it quits?” The man said to me: “It never was, and still isn’t about the money. What wakes me up in the morning, and what lullabies me to sleep at night, is the excitement of running my business- its constant challenges, the thrill of the roller coaster of the markets, and the feeling that I’m sitting on the top of the world waving a flag with my name on it!” Just sitting across the desk and listening to this was electrifying! 2. DISCIPLINE. Successful people stick to a set of rules which they have established for themselves based on past experiences, success- es, and failures. And they won’t budge. Recently, I offered an investment opportunity in the food industry to one of my clients. Although it seemed to me that the ROI would be huge, this client balked. I thought I had missed a rotten fish buried in the numbers, so I asked for an explanation. He told me in all honesty that the numbers did add up and it did seem like a great deal. But since he had previously invested in the food industry and suffered a huge loss due to the unpredictable nature of many components needed to ensure the shelf life of food, he was disciplining himself not to step near the food industry again. The smartest of all people, King Solomon, writes in Proverbs (16: 32): “He that ruleth his spirit [is greater] than he that taketh a city.” A word from the wise, indeed. 3. URGENCY. One of my steady clients once stated that he never writes down a phone number. “Wow!” I exclaimed, “So you have a good memory?” His reply was teachable. “When I need to call someone, that’s what I do. Right then and there. I never write down a number in order to call later, 74 | fyimagazineny.com because now is always better than later!” Successful people are instilled with a great sense of urgency, as if everything rides on them taking action now. A sense of purpose begets urgency, urgency begets action, and action begets results. 4. DECISIVENESS. There’s a saying out there: “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing.” Deciding lets a person move onto the playing field before the gate closes. Continuous contemplation hasn’t yet made a single dollar for anyone. When the time is right, successful people decide on a course of action and learn to live with the consequences, either enjoying the resultant gain or learning from the loss. Indecision is just too energy-consuming without any return on the spent energy. 5. FEARLESSNESS. Being almost deaf since childhood did not frighten Thomas Edison enough to succumb to his apparent fate. Neither did getting kicked out of school strike fear into his young heart. Had he feared to jump into his future, you’d be reading this article to the glow of an oil lantern. Inventors, venture capitalists, developers, and great business visionaries have much to fear. Their hard-earned money is on the line, with no crystal glass to look into the future and no guarantees. But FEAR does not exist in their lexicon. Never seen it, never heard of it, and never felt it. As President Roosevelt famously said in his inauguration address: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” 6. DELEGATION. A successful person knows his limits: what he can and can’t do in any given day. By hiring staff members who are smarter and more knowledgeable than himself, he lets his money work for him, so he doesn’t mess up. A client once confided in me that he actually had to learn how to delegate. He called it an “art”! He used to be his own secretary, accountant, advisor, lawyer, driver, buyer, seller, etc. Now he sources out the bulk of his work to a loyal and carefully chosen staff, and still feels like an artist. 7. ADVISABILITY. I once witnessed a lawyer tell his client: “I’ll handle your case just so I can make money off of you, but you are going to lose your case big time.” The baffled client asked in astonishment, “But did you not tell me, when we first met, that I have a decent chance at winning?” The lawyer explained:“You always assume that you are the smartest person in the room and that you cannot be taught or advised. But being as smart as you are is what puts you into your situation in the first place! Someone who cannot accept advice from smarter or more knowledgeable people, even when it seeking out and paying for their counsel, is certainly doomed to fail!” As our sages so eloquently stated: “Who is considered smart? He who is open to learn from any person!” 8. HONESTY. H-o-n-e-s-t-y contains the word “honey’” in it, and for good reason. It’s sweet and it attracts the bees. I’ve seen young people itching to make it big fast and furious, bulldozing their way over the heads, hearts, and wallets of other people, but ultimately crashing with a thud. As word spread, businessmen shied away and kept their distance. On the other hand, those businessmen who protect their good name by dealing honestly, attract the most lucrative deals and the best business people. I’ve witnessed businessmen give up claims to huge amounts of money in order to preserve their honesty and integrity, and they were always rewarded tenfold in future business 75 | fyimagazineny.com deals, often with the very same adversaries for whom they had given up the money! 9. STAMINA. Although all great people love to explain how important sleep is to them, they did not get to where they are by sleeping all through it. There’s an interesting father-and-daughter exchange recorded in the Talmud (Eiruvin 65, a): Rav Chisda’s daughter said to him, “Father, why don’t you rest up a bit?” To which he replied, “My daughter, a day will come [i.e., death] when time is of no importance, and I will then sleep all I can!” Greatness cannot be achieved without working oneself to the bone. The love and challenge of accomplishment, energizes and invigorates the restless businessman with an astounding amount of stamina and endurance. So there you have it: front row seats at the daily show of strength over weakness as successful people turn their innermost qualities into the most powerful tools to use to their advantage. fyi Beth Din Tzedek "Halishkah"​is a subsidiary of the Halachic Documents Institute. Rav Shaye L. Wachsman, Dean, can be reached at halishkah@gmail.com.
9 TOOLS SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE USE TO  SUCCEED IN BUSINESS  I   ve seen some very successful people at their most stressful mom...
9 TOOLS SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE USE TO SUCCEED IN BUSINESS I’ve seen some very successful people at their most stressful moments. Negotiating a contract with an opposing party can stress a person out, and for me, it’s always a learning experience. Over years of coaching business people during all phases of drafting, negotiating, and finally signing their contracts - I’ve come to see what makes these successful people, well, successful. Here is what I learned, and most importantly, what can be emulated by anyone and utilized as tools to carve out a path to success. 1. ENTHUSIASM. I once asked a very wealthy client: “Honestly, you already have more money than you can ever spend, so why don’t you just retire to your recliner with a sefer and a coffee and call it quits?” The man said to me: “It never was, and still isn’t about the money. What wakes me up in the morning, and what lullabies me to sleep at night, is the excitement of running my business- its constant challenges, the thrill of the roller coaster of the markets, and the feeling that I’m sitting on the top of the world waving a flag with my name on it!” Just sitting across the desk and listening to this was electrifying! 2. DISCIPLINE. Successful people stick to a set of rules which they have established for themselves based on past experiences, success- es, and failures. And they won’t budge. Recently, I offered an investment opportunity in the food industry to one of my clients. Although it seemed to me that the ROI would be huge, this client balked. I thought I had missed a rotten fish buried in the numbers, so I asked for an explanation. He told me in all honesty that the numbers did add up and it did seem like a great deal. But since he had previously invested in the food industry and suffered a huge loss due to the unpredictable nature of many components needed to ensure the shelf life of food, he was disciplining himself not to step near the food industry again. The smartest of all people, King Solomon, writes in Proverbs (16: 32): “He that ruleth his spirit [is greater] than he that taketh a city.” A word from the wise, indeed. 3. URGENCY. One of my steady clients once stated that he never writes down a phone number. “Wow!” I exclaimed, “So you have a good memory?” His reply was teachable. “When I need to call someone, that’s what I do. Right then and there. I never write down a number in order to call later, 74 | fyimagazineny.com because now is always better than later!” Successful people are instilled with a great sense of urgency, as if everything rides on them taking action now. A sense of purpose begets urgency, urgency begets action, and action begets results. 4. DECISIVENESS. There’s a saying out there: “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing; the worst thing you can do is nothing.” Deciding lets a person move onto the playing field before the gate closes. Continuous contemplation hasn’t yet made a single dollar for anyone. When the time is right, successful people decide on a course of action and learn to live with the consequences, either enjoying the resultant gain or learning from the loss. Indecision is just too energy-consuming without any return on the spent energy. 5. FEARLESSNESS. Being almost deaf since childhood did not frighten Thomas Edison enough to succumb to his apparent fate. Neither did getting kicked out of school strike fear into his young heart. Had he feared to jump into his future, you’d be reading this article to the glow of an oil lantern. Inventors, venture capitalists, developers, and great business visionaries have much to fear. Their hard-earned money is on the line, with no crystal glass to look into the future and no guarantees. But FEAR does not exist in their lexicon. Never seen it, never heard of it, and never felt it. As President Roosevelt famously said in his inauguration address: “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” 6. DELEGATION. A successful person knows his limits: what he can and can’t do in any given day. By hiring staff members who are smarter and more knowledgeable than himself, he lets his money work for him, so he doesn’t mess up. A client once confided in me that he actually had to learn how to delegate. He called it an “art”! He used to be his own secretary, accountant, advisor, lawyer, driver, buyer, seller, etc. Now he sources out the bulk of his work to a loyal and carefully chosen staff, and still feels like an artist. 7. ADVISABILITY. I once witnessed a lawyer tell his client: “I’ll handle your case just so I can make money off of you, but you are going to lose your case big time.” The baffled client asked in astonishment, “But did you not tell me, when we first met, that I have a decent chance at winning?” The lawyer explained:“You always assume that you are the smartest person in the room and that you cannot be taught or advised. But being as smart as you are is what puts you into your situation in the first place! Someone who cannot accept advice from smarter or more knowledgeable people, even when it seeking out and paying for their counsel, is certainly doomed to fail!” As our sages so eloquently stated: “Who is considered smart? He who is open to learn from any person!” 8. HONESTY. H-o-n-e-s-t-y contains the word “honey’” in it, and for good reason. It’s sweet and it attracts the bees. I’ve seen young people itching to make it big fast and furious, bulldozing their way over the heads, hearts, and wallets of other people, but ultimately crashing with a thud. As word spread, businessmen shied away and kept their distance. On the other hand, those businessmen who protect their good name by dealing honestly, attract the most lucrative deals and the best business people. I’ve witnessed businessmen give up claims to huge amounts of money in order to preserve their honesty and integrity, and they were always rewarded tenfold in future business 75 | fyimagazineny.com deals, often with the very same adversaries for whom they had given up the money! 9. STAMINA. Although all great people love to explain how important sleep is to them, they did not get to where they are by sleeping all through it. There’s an interesting father-and-daughter exchange recorded in the Talmud (Eiruvin 65, a): Rav Chisda’s daughter said to him, “Father, why don’t you rest up a bit?” To which he replied, “My daughter, a day will come [i.e., death] when time is of no importance, and I will then sleep all I can!” Greatness cannot be achieved without working oneself to the bone. The love and challenge of accomplishment, energizes and invigorates the restless businessman with an astounding amount of stamina and endurance. So there you have it: front row seats at the daily show of strength over weakness as successful people turn their innermost qualities into the most powerful tools to use to their advantage. fyi Beth Din Tzedek "Halishkah"​is a subsidiary of the Halachic Documents Institute. Rav Shaye L. Wachsman, Dean, can be reached at halishkah@gmail.com.
9 TOOLS SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE USE TO  SUCCEED IN BUSINESS  I   ve seen some very successful people at their most stressful mom...
THE BROADER SCOPE OF budgeting Budgeting is the epicenter of a sound financial plan. As our lives evolve within the confines of a properly budgeted and funded plan, eventually our retirement possibilities begin to take shape. Two prominent factors, age and dollars, are the primary determinates of such a realization. 76 | fyimagazineny.com Determining the age at which one would like to retire, and the amount of money that will be needed to make retirement feasible, are reference points to determine projected annual rates of return, and the amounts that must be contributed in order make a plan work.  In theory, this approach brings focus to your financial objectives, and moves you toward a profitable outcome. Going forward, these targets may be adjusted, but at some point, the age and dollar numbers will reach a point where retirement is desirable and doable. “I am ___ years old and I have accumulated $_________. I think I’ll retire.” But what if the decision to retire doesn’t solely hinge on these basic factors? Empirical observations and comprehensive surveys strongly suggest that “real-world” factors are much more likely to trigger a decision to retire, regardless of whether one’s financial objectives have been met over a period of time. Consequently, it might be more accurate to say many Americans won’t choose when to retire. Instead, these other non-financial issues will make the decision for them. N Employer N Spouse N Job skills N Kids N Health N Parents Furthermore, as the demographic bubble of Baby Boomers surges into retirement, it is apparent that these issues greatly impact retirement planning – and dealing with them isn’t resolved with a simple adjust- ment of the age-dollar model. For perhaps the last two decades, many underfunded Baby Boomers declared they would compensate for their current lack of savings by simply resetting the age at which they intended to retire. Their mantra: “Oh well, I guess I’ll just have to work a few years longer.” Except it turns out that many of them can’t work a few years longer. Referencing a 2013 Mature Market Institute survey, an October 13, 2013, US News & World Report declared that even people who wanted to work longer found that they could not swing it. Among the first wave of baby boomers to hit retirement age, more than half (54 percent) quit working before initially planned. The reason they are retiring? A majority of those polled say it was due to job loss or health-related issues. Hmmm. Forced early retirement would most definitely affect age and dollar calculations. That’s obvious. What is perhaps the most startling statistic from the Mature Market survey: Only 4% of those surveyed said that the primary reason they retired was because they had enough money and could afford to. If the success rate for age and dollar retirement planning is just 4%, perhaps we need to ask ourselves if our budgeting and planning is really working. 77 | fyimagazineny.com Perhaps, then, budgeting should not be looked upon as a simple roadmap of dollars. What if personal budgeting carried deeper meaning- and in turn, greater potential? If we can understand all the possible factors that can potentially bust our budgets, then a big picture budget can be better constructed. It’s also not just personal issues of health and employment status that impact your decision to retire. It’s also the conditions of those around you, particularly your family, and it often starts with your spouse. In a July 27, 2014, USA Today article, Nanci Hellmich reported on the difficulties couples encounter when their work status and financial perceptions are running on different tracks: “Most conflicts about retirement timing arise when one partner is forced to leave a job unexpectedly, because of a firing, layoff, or downsizing, and that partner wants the working partner to retire, too.” If one person still wants to work, or feels like s/he needs to, the challenge is often primarily relational, rather than financial. One partner may resent the other’s commitment to work, while the other bristles at the amount and costs of the first partner’s free time. As a psychologist commented in the article, retirement becomes a “power struggle” over whose needs and wants will prevail. And often, the compromise that follows includes a career change, or the still-working spouse opting for retirement as well. The relational factors extend to both children and aging parents. “Family & Retirement: The Elephant in the Room,” was a 2013 study conducted by Age Wave about “family interdependencies and the challenges Boomers face in balancing them with their own retirement plans.” Among the
THE BROADER SCOPE OF  budgeting Budgeting is the epicenter of a sound financial plan. As our lives evolve within the confi...
THE BROADER SCOPE OF budgeting Budgeting is the epicenter of a sound financial plan. As our lives evolve within the confines of a properly budgeted and funded plan, eventually our retirement possibilities begin to take shape. Two prominent factors, age and dollars, are the primary determinates of such a realization. 76 | fyimagazineny.com Determining the age at which one would like to retire, and the amount of money that will be needed to make retirement feasible, are reference points to determine projected annual rates of return, and the amounts that must be contributed in order make a plan work.  In theory, this approach brings focus to your financial objectives, and moves you toward a profitable outcome. Going forward, these targets may be adjusted, but at some point, the age and dollar numbers will reach a point where retirement is desirable and doable. “I am ___ years old and I have accumulated $_________. I think I’ll retire.” But what if the decision to retire doesn’t solely hinge on these basic factors? Empirical observations and comprehensive surveys strongly suggest that “real-world” factors are much more likely to trigger a decision to retire, regardless of whether one’s financial objectives have been met over a period of time. Consequently, it might be more accurate to say many Americans won’t choose when to retire. Instead, these other non-financial issues will make the decision for them. N Employer N Spouse N Job skills N Kids N Health N Parents Furthermore, as the demographic bubble of Baby Boomers surges into retirement, it is apparent that these issues greatly impact retirement planning – and dealing with them isn’t resolved with a simple adjust- ment of the age-dollar model. For perhaps the last two decades, many underfunded Baby Boomers declared they would compensate for their current lack of savings by simply resetting the age at which they intended to retire. Their mantra: “Oh well, I guess I’ll just have to work a few years longer.” Except it turns out that many of them can’t work a few years longer. Referencing a 2013 Mature Market Institute survey, an October 13, 2013, US News & World Report declared that even people who wanted to work longer found that they could not swing it. Among the first wave of baby boomers to hit retirement age, more than half (54 percent) quit working before initially planned. The reason they are retiring? A majority of those polled say it was due to job loss or health-related issues. Hmmm. Forced early retirement would most definitely affect age and dollar calculations. That’s obvious. What is perhaps the most startling statistic from the Mature Market survey: Only 4% of those surveyed said that the primary reason they retired was because they had enough money and could afford to. If the success rate for age and dollar retirement planning is just 4%, perhaps we need to ask ourselves if our budgeting and planning is really working. 77 | fyimagazineny.com Perhaps, then, budgeting should not be looked upon as a simple roadmap of dollars. What if personal budgeting carried deeper meaning- and in turn, greater potential? If we can understand all the possible factors that can potentially bust our budgets, then a big picture budget can be better constructed. It’s also not just personal issues of health and employment status that impact your decision to retire. It’s also the conditions of those around you, particularly your family, and it often starts with your spouse. In a July 27, 2014, USA Today article, Nanci Hellmich reported on the difficulties couples encounter when their work status and financial perceptions are running on different tracks: “Most conflicts about retirement timing arise when one partner is forced to leave a job unexpectedly, because of a firing, layoff, or downsizing, and that partner wants the working partner to retire, too.” If one person still wants to work, or feels like s/he needs to, the challenge is often primarily relational, rather than financial. One partner may resent the other’s commitment to work, while the other bristles at the amount and costs of the first partner’s free time. As a psychologist commented in the article, retirement becomes a “power struggle” over whose needs and wants will prevail. And often, the compromise that follows includes a career change, or the still-working spouse opting for retirement as well. The relational factors extend to both children and aging parents. “Family & Retirement: The Elephant in the Room,” was a 2013 study conducted by Age Wave about “family interdependencies and the challenges Boomers face in balancing them with their own retirement plans.” Among the
THE BROADER SCOPE OF  budgeting Budgeting is the epicenter of a sound financial plan. As our lives evolve within the confi...
real-world issues that were found to impact retirement: J PROVIDING FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE FOR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS. About 60% of the Boomers surveyed, stated that a member of their family is the “family bank,” someone they can turn to for financial help. The average financial assistance provided to family members during the past five years was $15,000 – and significantly higher for those with more money. J SACRIFICING RETIREMENT FOR FAMILY. HALF OF RESPONDENTS OVER AGE 50 SAID THEY WOULD MAKE MAJOR RETIREMENT SACRIFICES TO HELP FAMILY MEMBERS. Some might keep working; others said they would retire early to care for aging parents or to be near children and grandchildren. J DIVORCE, REMARRIAGE, AND BLENDED FAMILIES. For a number of sociological reasons, “gray divorces,” those which come late in life, are on the rise. The financial impact of separation is substantial: the average household income drops 40 percent for women, 25 percent for men. Subsequent remarriages create new family dynamics, and the study found nearly two in five people, age 50 and older, are now part of a blended family. And nearly one-third of Boomers with stepchildren said that the couple had different financial priorities for their own children in contrast to those of their spouse. American retirement planning and budgeting should expand beyond a simple age and dollar calculation. Besides a shift (or expansion) of the factors and products that should be considered with your financial advisor, prospective retirees may want to selectively broaden the group of people involved in their retirement discussions. Retirement isn’t just a personal decision, but often a family decision, and frequently, an extended and blended-family decision. These interdependencies need to be integrated at both, a financial and a relational level, so that the financial plans can lead to better benefits for everyone. fyi  The average financial assistance provided to family members during the past five years was $15,000 Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicated his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com 78 | fyimagazineny.com TIPS ON HOW TO BUDGET: N PAY YOURSELF FIRST: every solid budget begins with a savings strategy in mind. Generally, the recommendation is 15% of net income. In order to prevent savings getting lost in the shuffle, begin with the end in mind. Start with banking your savings, and then tackle the budget otherwise. N NEXT, FOCUS ON FIXED EXPENSES. We all have expenses we cannot control, because of obligations that must be met such as school tuition, cell phone bills, and various utility expenses. Generally, it is easy to define the exact (or close approximation) dollar amount of these expenses. Estimate these costs and move on from there. N BE SURE TO LEAVE A “SPLURGE” FUND IN YOUR BUDGET. Every so often, we’re all enticed to splurge. Rarely do these splurges feel justified; more often than not, we talk our way into a large purchase. However, after you’ve paid yourself and met your obligations, you SHOULD have a little left for a “you” purchase. The beauty of a proper budget is you can now dispense with much of the guilt or buyer’s remorse, because you know exactly what your budget for the purchase was. N FIND A TOOL YOU’RE MOST COMFORTABLE WITH. There are many budgeting tools out there, ranging from a simple spreadsheet to mint.com. Personally, I’m a huge Mint user, as they offer web-based and app iterations. Mint can pull all of your transactions and accounts automatically, so it’s easy to stay on top of the numbers in real time. CUSTOMER SERVICE: Your most important marketing tool WITH MORE THAN A DECADE in the field of marketing, I’ve met many business owners who believe the key to their success lies in a flashy marketing campaign aimed solely at drawing in new customers. All too often, they fail to recognize that a great campaign needs to be supported by the most important marketing tool for any business: customer service. 79 | fyimagazineny.com
real-world issues that were found to impact retirement  J PROVIDING FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE FOR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS. About 6...
real-world issues that were found to impact retirement: J PROVIDING FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE FOR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS. About 60% of the Boomers surveyed, stated that a member of their family is the “family bank,” someone they can turn to for financial help. The average financial assistance provided to family members during the past five years was $15,000 – and significantly higher for those with more money. J SACRIFICING RETIREMENT FOR FAMILY. HALF OF RESPONDENTS OVER AGE 50 SAID THEY WOULD MAKE MAJOR RETIREMENT SACRIFICES TO HELP FAMILY MEMBERS. Some might keep working; others said they would retire early to care for aging parents or to be near children and grandchildren. J DIVORCE, REMARRIAGE, AND BLENDED FAMILIES. For a number of sociological reasons, “gray divorces,” those which come late in life, are on the rise. The financial impact of separation is substantial: the average household income drops 40 percent for women, 25 percent for men. Subsequent remarriages create new family dynamics, and the study found nearly two in five people, age 50 and older, are now part of a blended family. And nearly one-third of Boomers with stepchildren said that the couple had different financial priorities for their own children in contrast to those of their spouse. American retirement planning and budgeting should expand beyond a simple age and dollar calculation. Besides a shift (or expansion) of the factors and products that should be considered with your financial advisor, prospective retirees may want to selectively broaden the group of people involved in their retirement discussions. Retirement isn’t just a personal decision, but often a family decision, and frequently, an extended and blended-family decision. These interdependencies need to be integrated at both, a financial and a relational level, so that the financial plans can lead to better benefits for everyone. fyi  The average financial assistance provided to family members during the past five years was $15,000 Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicated his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com 78 | fyimagazineny.com TIPS ON HOW TO BUDGET: N PAY YOURSELF FIRST: every solid budget begins with a savings strategy in mind. Generally, the recommendation is 15% of net income. In order to prevent savings getting lost in the shuffle, begin with the end in mind. Start with banking your savings, and then tackle the budget otherwise. N NEXT, FOCUS ON FIXED EXPENSES. We all have expenses we cannot control, because of obligations that must be met such as school tuition, cell phone bills, and various utility expenses. Generally, it is easy to define the exact (or close approximation) dollar amount of these expenses. Estimate these costs and move on from there. N BE SURE TO LEAVE A “SPLURGE” FUND IN YOUR BUDGET. Every so often, we’re all enticed to splurge. Rarely do these splurges feel justified; more often than not, we talk our way into a large purchase. However, after you’ve paid yourself and met your obligations, you SHOULD have a little left for a “you” purchase. The beauty of a proper budget is you can now dispense with much of the guilt or buyer’s remorse, because you know exactly what your budget for the purchase was. N FIND A TOOL YOU’RE MOST COMFORTABLE WITH. There are many budgeting tools out there, ranging from a simple spreadsheet to mint.com. Personally, I’m a huge Mint user, as they offer web-based and app iterations. Mint can pull all of your transactions and accounts automatically, so it’s easy to stay on top of the numbers in real time. CUSTOMER SERVICE: Your most important marketing tool WITH MORE THAN A DECADE in the field of marketing, I’ve met many business owners who believe the key to their success lies in a flashy marketing campaign aimed solely at drawing in new customers. All too often, they fail to recognize that a great campaign needs to be supported by the most important marketing tool for any business: customer service. 79 | fyimagazineny.com
real-world issues that were found to impact retirement  J PROVIDING FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE FOR OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS. About 6...
W hile a sophisticated marketing and advertising campaign can have a tremendous positive impact on your bottom line, it’s only as strong as the business behind it. If you’re not providing the image you advertise, you’re not likely to see the hoped-for return on investment. As Ben Franklin said, “Well done is better than well said.” Customer service is the backbone of any business. With the advent of online shopping, people are no longer limited to the local mom and pop shops. The entire world is their shopping cart, and if they’re unhappy with your product or service, they can and will go elsewhere. In today’s social-media driven society, just one bad review can cause untold damage to your brand. Those with negative experiences aren’t likely to return or send referrals. Customer retention is easier and costs less than customer acquisition. Loyal customers provide repeat business, which is crucial for every company. It’s important to remember that our customers are what make our businesses successful. As Dave Sivers of CD Baby says, “Customer service is the new marketing.” Positive customer service experiences are what drive referrals and lead to positive word of mouth, another great low-cost marketing tool. The key to building loyalty is providing a great experience, something that will make you exceptional and get people talking. Take Zappos, an online shoe company famous for its incredible customer service. Most companies try to limit the duration of service Zappos, on the other hand, doesn’t hurry its reps to complete calls. It proudly proclaims its longest-ever service call, clocking in at a whopping ten hours and 29 minutes. calls; Zappos, on the other hand, doesn’t hurry its reps to complete calls. It proudly proclaims its longest-ever service call, clocking in at a whopping ten hours and 29 minutes. Superior customer service creates loyal customers while gaining new ones. Many business owners are under the false assumption that customer service is for fixing problems. On the contrary, customer service is about preventing problems from the start. Putting the proper policies in place ahead of time can prevent most issues before they occur. But remember that when mistakes happen, it’s how you handle them that make all the difference. Work hard to stay on top of your reputation and do your best to resolve all issues in a positive manner. When things go wrong, customers may view you as the cause of their aggravation, which can make them lash out. Remember it’s not a personal attack, just frustration over the current situation. Always remember to show compassion and understanding. • Don’t argue with them; apologize and accept blame. • If you can’t solve the problem, find another way to make it up to them. A gift card, a discount, a free upgrade, an extra special service… anything that shows the value you place on their loyalty. 80 | fyimagazineny.com • The customers may not always be right; however, they should always feel like they won. Make them feel important and appreciated. Even if the issue isn’t resolved, they’ll leave satisfied, knowing you did your best. Another often forgotten aspect to customer service is your staff. Ensure all employees are welltrained on your policies. Provide them with the power to properly resolve any issues and trust them to make the right call. No one likes to wait around or hang on to speak with a manager. All customers should receive the same level of service from everyone they come in contact with throughout your company. Interestingly, many companies famous for their outstanding customer service, also have an exceptional level of employee satisfaction. So treat your employees well and in turn, they’ll treat your customers well. Good customer service consists of reliability, great communication, and generosity. Having a great customer service policy will bring in repeat business and more referrals, gain your customers’ trust, and help you stand out in your market. So make the most of that slick marketing campaign and get more value for your investment by creating an exceptional customer service experience for all your customers. fyi Chaya Teitelbaum is the Owner and Creative Director of Teitel Creative, a full-service design and marketing firm that combines knowledge and inspiration to provide custom solutions along with the highest levels of customer service in the industry. She can be reached at chaya@ teitelcreative.com. Dear Maurice, I enjoy your column and advice. Here is my question to you: I run a small business and I am currently doing about 2 million in sales. The business is growing, B”H, and I am excited about its future. But I am constantly questioning if I am doing the right things as the business owner to help the company grow, and I was wondering if you can share with me some of the best practices that you have learned from working with other successful companies. Thanks, Sara Goldberger Dear Mrs. Goldberger, Thanks for a great question; it’s one I have asked myself over the last 12 years while working with hundreds of business owners- some of them very successful and some struggling. I always try to observe and see if I can find some common denominators that they all share. Here are a few observations I think you could adopt on your way to success: FOCUS Successful business leaders have the ability to focus on what’s really important for their business, while ignoring the little things which are not really important, even if they seem urgent. They focus on the bigger pictures of the business: they focus on which projects they should start working on for the future, they know that the business field is constantly changing, and they are focused on staying ahead of the game. 81 | fyimagazineny.com
W  hile a sophisticated marketing and advertising campaign can have a tremendous positive impact on your bottom line, it  ...
W hile a sophisticated marketing and advertising campaign can have a tremendous positive impact on your bottom line, it’s only as strong as the business behind it. If you’re not providing the image you advertise, you’re not likely to see the hoped-for return on investment. As Ben Franklin said, “Well done is better than well said.” Customer service is the backbone of any business. With the advent of online shopping, people are no longer limited to the local mom and pop shops. The entire world is their shopping cart, and if they’re unhappy with your product or service, they can and will go elsewhere. In today’s social-media driven society, just one bad review can cause untold damage to your brand. Those with negative experiences aren’t likely to return or send referrals. Customer retention is easier and costs less than customer acquisition. Loyal customers provide repeat business, which is crucial for every company. It’s important to remember that our customers are what make our businesses successful. As Dave Sivers of CD Baby says, “Customer service is the new marketing.” Positive customer service experiences are what drive referrals and lead to positive word of mouth, another great low-cost marketing tool. The key to building loyalty is providing a great experience, something that will make you exceptional and get people talking. Take Zappos, an online shoe company famous for its incredible customer service. Most companies try to limit the duration of service Zappos, on the other hand, doesn’t hurry its reps to complete calls. It proudly proclaims its longest-ever service call, clocking in at a whopping ten hours and 29 minutes. calls; Zappos, on the other hand, doesn’t hurry its reps to complete calls. It proudly proclaims its longest-ever service call, clocking in at a whopping ten hours and 29 minutes. Superior customer service creates loyal customers while gaining new ones. Many business owners are under the false assumption that customer service is for fixing problems. On the contrary, customer service is about preventing problems from the start. Putting the proper policies in place ahead of time can prevent most issues before they occur. But remember that when mistakes happen, it’s how you handle them that make all the difference. Work hard to stay on top of your reputation and do your best to resolve all issues in a positive manner. When things go wrong, customers may view you as the cause of their aggravation, which can make them lash out. Remember it’s not a personal attack, just frustration over the current situation. Always remember to show compassion and understanding. • Don’t argue with them; apologize and accept blame. • If you can’t solve the problem, find another way to make it up to them. A gift card, a discount, a free upgrade, an extra special service… anything that shows the value you place on their loyalty. 80 | fyimagazineny.com • The customers may not always be right; however, they should always feel like they won. Make them feel important and appreciated. Even if the issue isn’t resolved, they’ll leave satisfied, knowing you did your best. Another often forgotten aspect to customer service is your staff. Ensure all employees are welltrained on your policies. Provide them with the power to properly resolve any issues and trust them to make the right call. No one likes to wait around or hang on to speak with a manager. All customers should receive the same level of service from everyone they come in contact with throughout your company. Interestingly, many companies famous for their outstanding customer service, also have an exceptional level of employee satisfaction. So treat your employees well and in turn, they’ll treat your customers well. Good customer service consists of reliability, great communication, and generosity. Having a great customer service policy will bring in repeat business and more referrals, gain your customers’ trust, and help you stand out in your market. So make the most of that slick marketing campaign and get more value for your investment by creating an exceptional customer service experience for all your customers. fyi Chaya Teitelbaum is the Owner and Creative Director of Teitel Creative, a full-service design and marketing firm that combines knowledge and inspiration to provide custom solutions along with the highest levels of customer service in the industry. She can be reached at chaya@ teitelcreative.com. Dear Maurice, I enjoy your column and advice. Here is my question to you: I run a small business and I am currently doing about 2 million in sales. The business is growing, B”H, and I am excited about its future. But I am constantly questioning if I am doing the right things as the business owner to help the company grow, and I was wondering if you can share with me some of the best practices that you have learned from working with other successful companies. Thanks, Sara Goldberger Dear Mrs. Goldberger, Thanks for a great question; it’s one I have asked myself over the last 12 years while working with hundreds of business owners- some of them very successful and some struggling. I always try to observe and see if I can find some common denominators that they all share. Here are a few observations I think you could adopt on your way to success: FOCUS Successful business leaders have the ability to focus on what’s really important for their business, while ignoring the little things which are not really important, even if they seem urgent. They focus on the bigger pictures of the business: they focus on which projects they should start working on for the future, they know that the business field is constantly changing, and they are focused on staying ahead of the game. 81 | fyimagazineny.com
W  hile a sophisticated marketing and advertising campaign can have a tremendous positive impact on your bottom line, it  ...
TEAM DEVELOPMENT Successful business leaders know how to find and retain the right talent: they look for people who are team players and self-motivated; they will find the team who will bring the results that the company needs to achieve, and then they get out of the way, letting the team do it the way it works for them, without micro-managing. They make each person feel important, giving them credit for their achievements while caring for them and supporting them as needed. CASH FLOW Successful business leaders are always focused on the cash flow of the business, doing their best to build up enough money reserves so they don’t have to think about covering the bank every week. It takes a lot of planning and discipline, but it’s a must if you want your business to grow and succeed. Make it a great month! Maurice To Maurice I have a very simple question for you: I just got married and my father-inlaw offered me a job in his company. I have a job now, but I am not too happy with the pay and hours. Should I take his offer? Looking forward to your answer. Moshe Tyrnaur Dear Moshe, I have a simple answer for you. Don’t do it! For the long answer, ask anyone who did. Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn many struggling businesses around. askmaurice.com Make it a great month! Maurice 82 | fyimagazineny.com mini bites FOR YOUR CHANUKAH PARTY
TEAM DEVELOPMENT Successful business leaders know how to find and retain the right talent  they look for people who are te...
TEAM DEVELOPMENT Successful business leaders know how to find and retain the right talent: they look for people who are team players and self-motivated; they will find the team who will bring the results that the company needs to achieve, and then they get out of the way, letting the team do it the way it works for them, without micro-managing. They make each person feel important, giving them credit for their achievements while caring for them and supporting them as needed. CASH FLOW Successful business leaders are always focused on the cash flow of the business, doing their best to build up enough money reserves so they don’t have to think about covering the bank every week. It takes a lot of planning and discipline, but it’s a must if you want your business to grow and succeed. Make it a great month! Maurice To Maurice I have a very simple question for you: I just got married and my father-inlaw offered me a job in his company. I have a job now, but I am not too happy with the pay and hours. Should I take his offer? Looking forward to your answer. Moshe Tyrnaur Dear Moshe, I have a simple answer for you. Don’t do it! For the long answer, ask anyone who did. Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn many struggling businesses around. askmaurice.com Make it a great month! Maurice 82 | fyimagazineny.com mini bites FOR YOUR CHANUKAH PARTY
TEAM DEVELOPMENT Successful business leaders know how to find and retain the right talent  they look for people who are te...
Stuffed Mushrooms COOKING IN HEELS | SHUSHY TURIN I’ve seen a ton of recipes for stuffed mushrooms, but I’ve never found one that I like more than the way my Step-Grandma Sue (no, I’m not making that up) has made it for years. This recipe doesn’t have a lot of cheese oozing all over, or some crazy sauce. It’s very simple, but it hits home every time. The Parmesan cheese can be left out if you would like to keep the recipe pareve. The recipe calls for seasoned breadcrumbs, but feel free to get creative and season your own. 84 | fyimagazineny.com Serves: 12 Prep Time: 30 MIN Pita Chips with Zaatar and Roasted Peppers THE BEE’S KITCHEN | SABRINA OVADIA Toasted pita chips topped with roasted peppers create a fresh, bite-sized appetizer. The unexpected addition of crumbled feta cheese and a sprinkle of zaatar add the finishing touch. 3 mini pitas, cut into 4 wedges 1/3 cup olive oil 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 red pepper 1 green pepper Salt Olive oil 1/3 cup of crumbled feta Few tablespoons of zaatar 85 | fyimagazineny.com PREHEAT the oven to 350. In a small bowl, whisk together olive oil, salt, pepper, and garlic. Brush on both sides of each pita wedge. Place on a baking sheet and bake for 12-15 minutes. Set aside. PLACE THE PEPPERS on the broiler and roast for about 5 to 6 minutes on each side, turning them often to avoid burning. When cool, peel them and cut into thin slices. TO ASSEMBLE:place first the pita chip, then the roasted peppers and the feta cheese. Top with some zaatar. PHOTOS BY @SHEVYGPHOTOGRAPHY PREHEAT the oven to 325 F LINE a baking sheet with Yields: parchment paper ABOUT 12 TAKE HALF THE STEMS from the Bake Time: mushrooms that you have set 20-25 MIN aside and using an immersion Prep Time: blender or full-size blender, pulse 10-15 MIN the mushrooms until they resemble a paste. DISCARD the remaining mush2 8-oz. cartons room stems. white mush- ADD the chopped onion, garlic, rooms, stems and oil. removed and set PULSE the blender until the aside (do not throw them out) mixture is fully integrated. ½ medium yellow ADD in the breadcrumbs until the onion, chopped mixture forms a thick paste that 1 clove garlic, you can almost roll into a ball. grated ADD in the Parmesan cheese if ¼ cup olive oil using, and season with salt and 2-3 tablespoons pepper to taste. freshly grated LAY THE MUSHROOMS on the Parmesan, plus baking sheet about an inch apart more for garnish from each other and stuff each 1- 1 ½ cups cavity with the breadcrumb seasoned mixture. breadcrumbs BAKE for 20-25 minutes or until Salt and pepper to taste the mushrooms are a deep brown Chopped parsley and the stuffing has a golden to garnish brown crust. REMOVE from the oven and allow the mushrooms to cool for 5-10 minutes before garnishing with chopped parsley, Parmesan if desired, and a little salt and PHOTOS BY SHEVIGPHOTOGRAPHY pepper.
Stuffed Mushrooms COOKING IN HEELS   SHUSHY TURIN I   ve seen a ton of recipes for stuffed mushrooms, but I   ve never fou...
Stuffed Mushrooms COOKING IN HEELS | SHUSHY TURIN I’ve seen a ton of recipes for stuffed mushrooms, but I’ve never found one that I like more than the way my Step-Grandma Sue (no, I’m not making that up) has made it for years. This recipe doesn’t have a lot of cheese oozing all over, or some crazy sauce. It’s very simple, but it hits home every time. The Parmesan cheese can be left out if you would like to keep the recipe pareve. The recipe calls for seasoned breadcrumbs, but feel free to get creative and season your own. 84 | fyimagazineny.com Serves: 12 Prep Time: 30 MIN Pita Chips with Zaatar and Roasted Peppers THE BEE’S KITCHEN | SABRINA OVADIA Toasted pita chips topped with roasted peppers create a fresh, bite-sized appetizer. The unexpected addition of crumbled feta cheese and a sprinkle of zaatar add the finishing touch. 3 mini pitas, cut into 4 wedges 1/3 cup olive oil 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 red pepper 1 green pepper Salt Olive oil 1/3 cup of crumbled feta Few tablespoons of zaatar 85 | fyimagazineny.com PREHEAT the oven to 350. In a small bowl, whisk together olive oil, salt, pepper, and garlic. Brush on both sides of each pita wedge. Place on a baking sheet and bake for 12-15 minutes. Set aside. PLACE THE PEPPERS on the broiler and roast for about 5 to 6 minutes on each side, turning them often to avoid burning. When cool, peel them and cut into thin slices. TO ASSEMBLE:place first the pita chip, then the roasted peppers and the feta cheese. Top with some zaatar. PHOTOS BY @SHEVYGPHOTOGRAPHY PREHEAT the oven to 325 F LINE a baking sheet with Yields: parchment paper ABOUT 12 TAKE HALF THE STEMS from the Bake Time: mushrooms that you have set 20-25 MIN aside and using an immersion Prep Time: blender or full-size blender, pulse 10-15 MIN the mushrooms until they resemble a paste. DISCARD the remaining mush2 8-oz. cartons room stems. white mush- ADD the chopped onion, garlic, rooms, stems and oil. removed and set PULSE the blender until the aside (do not throw them out) mixture is fully integrated. ½ medium yellow ADD in the breadcrumbs until the onion, chopped mixture forms a thick paste that 1 clove garlic, you can almost roll into a ball. grated ADD in the Parmesan cheese if ¼ cup olive oil using, and season with salt and 2-3 tablespoons pepper to taste. freshly grated LAY THE MUSHROOMS on the Parmesan, plus baking sheet about an inch apart more for garnish from each other and stuff each 1- 1 ½ cups cavity with the breadcrumb seasoned mixture. breadcrumbs BAKE for 20-25 minutes or until Salt and pepper to taste the mushrooms are a deep brown Chopped parsley and the stuffing has a golden to garnish brown crust. REMOVE from the oven and allow the mushrooms to cool for 5-10 minutes before garnishing with chopped parsley, Parmesan if desired, and a little salt and PHOTOS BY SHEVIGPHOTOGRAPHY pepper.
Stuffed Mushrooms COOKING IN HEELS   SHUSHY TURIN I   ve seen a ton of recipes for stuffed mushrooms, but I   ve never fou...
Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups KOSHER GOURMET COOKING ELIZABETH KURTZ Makes: 12 standard OR 24 mini This is my take on Reese’s peanut butter cups, but a bit lighter. Everyone asks me for this recipe because they are so good. The finished cups freeze well, wrapped tightly. Polenta Cakes topped with Eggplant Caviar Serves: 12 Prep Time: THE BEE’S KITCHEN | SABRINA OVADIA 1 HOUR Polenta cakes are the perfect party appetizer with their lightly fried, crunchy texture. Roasted eggplants bring a smoky flavor to this appetizer, and the sweetness of cherry tomatoes confit balances it all together. For the polenta cakes: 1 tube of polenta cut into 1/2 inch slices 1 cup of flour 1 cup of breadcrumbs mixed with 2 tbsp of dried cilantro 2 eggs, beaten 1 large eggplant Oil for frying Olive oil 1 teaspoon of salt 1 teaspoon of paprika 1 teaspoon of cumin 2 garlic cloves, grated Juice from half a lemon To make the polenta cakes: For the tomatoes confit: 1 cup of cherry tomatoes Salt Pepper Olive oil Fresh cilantro for garnish ADD salt, one tbsp of olive oil, lemon juice, garlic, paprika, cumin, and mix very well. SET UP a three-step process for the breading: flour, eggs and breadcrumbs. DIP first in the flour. SHAKE off the excess, then dip in the eggs, and finally into the breadcrumbs. HEAT up vegetable oil in large skillet and lightly fry the polenta cakes on both sides for about 3 to 4 minutes on each side. Set aside. To prepare the eggplant caviar: HEAT UP the broiler and broil the eggplant for a few minutes on each side. REMOVE the skin and mash with a fork. 1/2 cup margarine 3/4 cup creamy peanut butter 3/4 cup graham cracker crumbs (from 4 to 6 whole graham crackers) 1/4 cup sugar 1 cup chocolate chips 1/4 cup vanilla soy milk 1/4 cup chopped roasted peanuts 12 standard or 24 mini muffin pans, lined with paper baking cups. Elizabeth Kurtz is the creator of gourmetkoshercooking.com and columnist for the Jerusalem Post, Aish.com, and other national magazines. She is a featured chef on videos for Recipe Box TV on aol.com and yahoo.com. She is passionate about food and entertaining and loves teaching cooking classes. Her first cookbook, titled Celebrate: Food, Family, Shabbos is in stores now and contains 200 original recipes, easy enough for everyday and special enough for Shabbos or any holiday. She can be reached at ekurtz@gourmetkoshercooking.com MELT margarine in a small saucepan over medium heat. STIR IN peanut butter, graham cracker crumbs, and sugar. MIX well and remove from heat. DROP 2 tablespoons into each standard muffin cup or 1 tablespoon into each mini muffin cup. Chill for 15 minutes and up to overnight in the refrigerator. MELT chocolate chips and soy milk in a separate small saucepan over medium heat. STIR UNTIL SMOOTH. While still warm, spoon chocolate evenly over chilled peanut butter mixture. With an offset spatula or a knife, spread to cover peanut butter layer. TOP with peanuts. Place in freezer to set for at least 2 hours before serving. Make Ahead Can be prepared 2 days ahead of time. Store covered in the refrigerator, or freeze for up to 3 months. Slightly defrost in the refrigerator and serve chilled.
Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups KOSHER GOURMET COOKING ELIZABETH KURTZ  Makes   12 standard OR  24 mini  This is my take on R...
Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups KOSHER GOURMET COOKING ELIZABETH KURTZ Makes: 12 standard OR 24 mini This is my take on Reese’s peanut butter cups, but a bit lighter. Everyone asks me for this recipe because they are so good. The finished cups freeze well, wrapped tightly. Polenta Cakes topped with Eggplant Caviar Serves: 12 Prep Time: THE BEE’S KITCHEN | SABRINA OVADIA 1 HOUR Polenta cakes are the perfect party appetizer with their lightly fried, crunchy texture. Roasted eggplants bring a smoky flavor to this appetizer, and the sweetness of cherry tomatoes confit balances it all together. For the polenta cakes: 1 tube of polenta cut into 1/2 inch slices 1 cup of flour 1 cup of breadcrumbs mixed with 2 tbsp of dried cilantro 2 eggs, beaten 1 large eggplant Oil for frying Olive oil 1 teaspoon of salt 1 teaspoon of paprika 1 teaspoon of cumin 2 garlic cloves, grated Juice from half a lemon To make the polenta cakes: For the tomatoes confit: 1 cup of cherry tomatoes Salt Pepper Olive oil Fresh cilantro for garnish ADD salt, one tbsp of olive oil, lemon juice, garlic, paprika, cumin, and mix very well. SET UP a three-step process for the breading: flour, eggs and breadcrumbs. DIP first in the flour. SHAKE off the excess, then dip in the eggs, and finally into the breadcrumbs. HEAT up vegetable oil in large skillet and lightly fry the polenta cakes on both sides for about 3 to 4 minutes on each side. Set aside. To prepare the eggplant caviar: HEAT UP the broiler and broil the eggplant for a few minutes on each side. REMOVE the skin and mash with a fork. 1/2 cup margarine 3/4 cup creamy peanut butter 3/4 cup graham cracker crumbs (from 4 to 6 whole graham crackers) 1/4 cup sugar 1 cup chocolate chips 1/4 cup vanilla soy milk 1/4 cup chopped roasted peanuts 12 standard or 24 mini muffin pans, lined with paper baking cups. Elizabeth Kurtz is the creator of gourmetkoshercooking.com and columnist for the Jerusalem Post, Aish.com, and other national magazines. She is a featured chef on videos for Recipe Box TV on aol.com and yahoo.com. She is passionate about food and entertaining and loves teaching cooking classes. Her first cookbook, titled Celebrate: Food, Family, Shabbos is in stores now and contains 200 original recipes, easy enough for everyday and special enough for Shabbos or any holiday. She can be reached at ekurtz@gourmetkoshercooking.com MELT margarine in a small saucepan over medium heat. STIR IN peanut butter, graham cracker crumbs, and sugar. MIX well and remove from heat. DROP 2 tablespoons into each standard muffin cup or 1 tablespoon into each mini muffin cup. Chill for 15 minutes and up to overnight in the refrigerator. MELT chocolate chips and soy milk in a separate small saucepan over medium heat. STIR UNTIL SMOOTH. While still warm, spoon chocolate evenly over chilled peanut butter mixture. With an offset spatula or a knife, spread to cover peanut butter layer. TOP with peanuts. Place in freezer to set for at least 2 hours before serving. Make Ahead Can be prepared 2 days ahead of time. Store covered in the refrigerator, or freeze for up to 3 months. Slightly defrost in the refrigerator and serve chilled.
Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups KOSHER GOURMET COOKING ELIZABETH KURTZ  Makes   12 standard OR  24 mini  This is my take on R...
6 SUPER SPICES Health Perks with Good Taste Spices bear a long and exotic history. Early hunters and gatherers made the first marinade by wrapping their meat in leaves, bark, and seeds. Ancient Egyptian papyri sketch the medicinal uses of various spices. During Shlomo Hamelech’s reign, spices were regarded as valuable commodities, as illustrated by the Queen of Sheba’s fragrant gift to him. Later on, Indian medical writings from the 2nd century detail the health benefits of many seasonings. While contemporary science has yet to prove that any particular spice can cure disease, there’s ample evidence that many flavorings serve up an array of health bonuses. Here’s a review of six spices and what they can do for you: WRITTEN BY DEBBIE BURACK 88 | fyimagazineny.com CINNAMON Native to Southeast Asia, cinnamon bark is saturated with essential oils. While Ceylon cinnamon is the most common, its darker-colored cousin, Cassia cinnamon, is most strongly associated with health benefits. As little as 1 ½ tsp per day of this zesty seasoning is recommended. According to the Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (MSKCC), cinnamon has demonstrated antioxidant, antibacterial and anti-inflammatory properties in laboratory studies. It’s also been linked with lowering blood glucose levels in people with type 2 diabetes, and preliminary research indicates that it helps decrease lipids. GREAT GO- WITH’S: J Add ½ tsp into coffee grounds before brewing, or shake onto a steamy cup of hot cocoa. J Pass on the butter and salt, and add cinnamon to baked sweet potatoes. J Drop a cinnamon stick into the cooking water of lentils; remove before serving. J Sprinkle over sliced apples, atop oatmeal, and into pancake or French toast batter. CUMIN CHILI PEPPERS Capsaicin, a bioactive compound found in chili peppers, sets fire to more than your taste buds! Shown to enhance fat-burning capacity, this sizzlin’ spice boosts your metabolism, according to a University of Wyoming study. Capsaicin may also help you live longer. Researchers at the Chinese Academy of Medical Sciences showed that people who ate peppery foods at least six times a week had a 14% lower risk of premature death for all causes, versus people who ate spicy foods less than once a week. GREAT GO- WITH’S: J Turn any stew, burger, chili, salsa, or soup into a Cajun experience by adding chopped chili peppers. J For contemporary fusion flavor, mix into recipes with ginger or chocolate. J Zap bland foods, such as mashed avocado or air-popped popcorn, with a few shakes of cayenne pepper. 89 | fyimagazineny.com Related to the caraway family, cumin seeds boast longtime use for digestion problems. In addition, just one tablespoon of these coarse kernels fulfills 22 percent of your daily iron requirement, which helps rev your energy level and strengthen your immune system. In order to bring out their savory flavor, cumin seeds are generally toasted in a pan for a few minutes, or they can be ground into a powder. GREAT GO-WITH’S: J Toss toasted seeds with roasted vegetables and drizzle lightly with olive oil. J For a North African-inspired pilaf, mix seeds into a pot of brown rice before cooking, and add almonds and dried apricots before serving. J For a relaxing cuppa tea that will also soothe your stomach, boil seeds in water and let steep for 8-10 minutes before sipping. J Upgrade an ordinary bowl of chick peas or legumes by stirring in cumin powder.
6 SUPER SPICES Health Perks with Good Taste  Spices bear a long and exotic history. Early hunters and gatherers made the f...
6 SUPER SPICES Health Perks with Good Taste Spices bear a long and exotic history. Early hunters and gatherers made the first marinade by wrapping their meat in leaves, bark, and seeds. Ancient Egyptian papyri sketch the medicinal uses of various spices. During Shlomo Hamelech’s reign, spices were regarded as valuable commodities, as illustrated by the Queen of Sheba’s fragrant gift to him. Later on, Indian medical writings from the 2nd century detail the health benefits of many seasonings. While contemporary science has yet to prove that any particular spice can cure disease, there’s ample evidence that many flavorings serve up an array of health bonuses. Here’s a review of six spices and what they can do for you: WRITTEN BY DEBBIE BURACK 88 | fyimagazineny.com CINNAMON Native to Southeast Asia, cinnamon bark is saturated with essential oils. While Ceylon cinnamon is the most common, its darker-colored cousin, Cassia cinnamon, is most strongly associated with health benefits. As little as 1 ½ tsp per day of this zesty seasoning is recommended. According to the Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (MSKCC), cinnamon has demonstrated antioxidant, antibacterial and anti-inflammatory properties in laboratory studies. It’s also been linked with lowering blood glucose levels in people with type 2 diabetes, and preliminary research indicates that it helps decrease lipids. GREAT GO- WITH’S: J Add ½ tsp into coffee grounds before brewing, or shake onto a steamy cup of hot cocoa. J Pass on the butter and salt, and add cinnamon to baked sweet potatoes. J Drop a cinnamon stick into the cooking water of lentils; remove before serving. J Sprinkle over sliced apples, atop oatmeal, and into pancake or French toast batter. CUMIN CHILI PEPPERS Capsaicin, a bioactive compound found in chili peppers, sets fire to more than your taste buds! Shown to enhance fat-burning capacity, this sizzlin’ spice boosts your metabolism, according to a University of Wyoming study. Capsaicin may also help you live longer. Researchers at the Chinese Academy of Medical Sciences showed that people who ate peppery foods at least six times a week had a 14% lower risk of premature death for all causes, versus people who ate spicy foods less than once a week. GREAT GO- WITH’S: J Turn any stew, burger, chili, salsa, or soup into a Cajun experience by adding chopped chili peppers. J For contemporary fusion flavor, mix into recipes with ginger or chocolate. J Zap bland foods, such as mashed avocado or air-popped popcorn, with a few shakes of cayenne pepper. 89 | fyimagazineny.com Related to the caraway family, cumin seeds boast longtime use for digestion problems. In addition, just one tablespoon of these coarse kernels fulfills 22 percent of your daily iron requirement, which helps rev your energy level and strengthen your immune system. In order to bring out their savory flavor, cumin seeds are generally toasted in a pan for a few minutes, or they can be ground into a powder. GREAT GO-WITH’S: J Toss toasted seeds with roasted vegetables and drizzle lightly with olive oil. J For a North African-inspired pilaf, mix seeds into a pot of brown rice before cooking, and add almonds and dried apricots before serving. J For a relaxing cuppa tea that will also soothe your stomach, boil seeds in water and let steep for 8-10 minutes before sipping. J Upgrade an ordinary bowl of chick peas or legumes by stirring in cumin powder.
6 SUPER SPICES Health Perks with Good Taste  Spices bear a long and exotic history. Early hunters and gatherers made the f...
CLIP & SAVE Polenta Cakes topped with Eggplant Caviar T H E B E E ’ S K I TC H E N | SA B RI N A OVA D I A For the polenta cakes: OREGANO Oregano is associated with many powerful health claims, as outlined by a 2015 article in Medical News Today. With a pleasant and robust flavor, fresh or dried oregano goes easily into any meal. Packed with carvacrol, a potent antimicrobial agent, oregano slows the reproduction of normal food bacteria, thus helping to prevent food poisoning. One fascinating study showed that Himalayan oregano’s essential oil can kill the hospital superbug MRSA. Packed with vitamin K, which promotes bone growth and density, oregano has shown effectiveness against osteoporosis. It also boasts a soaring amount of antioxidants (one teaspoon contains as many antioxidants as 3 cups of spinach!), as well as proven anticancer agents. GREAT GO- WITH’S: J Stir fresh oregano into ground beef for burgers with gourmet flair. Mix dried flakes with a bit of J olive oil and red wine vinegar and drizzle over salad. J Add to scrambled eggs, or whip up an herb frittata. J Mince fresh oregano and knead a few tablespoons into bread dough for aromatic dinner rolls. Or blend into a pesto and spread on pitas. GINGER TURMERIC Derived from the rootstock of a tropical plant, turmeric has a bold golden color and a pungent flavor. Filled with active curcuminoids, turmeric displays antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, antifungal and anticancer actions, according to a 2007 report published in Advances in Experimental Medicine and Biology. Curcuminoids subdue free radicals that can damage DNA, and they impede molecules involved with the body’s inflammatory response. GREAT GO-WITH’S: J To infuse flavor and color into plain rice, add ground turmeric to the cooking water. J Rub it on chicken or fish before cooking to give a mustardy sensation. JA staple in Southeast Asian cuisine, turmeric intensifies orange soups, lentil dishes, and curries. 90 | fyimagazineny.com A piquant rhizome, ginger has been used by healers since antiquity. Greeks wrapped it in bread as a digestive treatment, Chinese sailors nibbled it to relieve seasickness, and American colonists brewed it into a cure-all tonic. Clinical trials testify to ginger’s potential to help alleviate nausea and vomiting, as reported by MSKCC. Another study showed that ginger significantly reduced knee pain in patients with osteoarthritis. GREAT GO-WITH’S: J Either ground or chopped crystallized bits add tang to sweet batters, such as banana bread, carrot muffins, or pear cobbler. J Traditionally used in Asian stir-fries, ginger adds zip to all vegetables, meat, poultry, and fish. J To brew a cup of ginger tea: grate 2 teaspoons of fresh ginger root in 1 ½ cups of tepid water. Steep for 15 minutes, sweeten with honey, and drink. H erbs and spices please your palette without adding the empty calories of sauces or syrups, or unhealthy sodium from a salt shaker. Easy to find and space-efficient to stock, they’re a worthwhile investment for boosting flavor and health. fyi SOURCES: Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. Integrative Medicine: About Herbs, Botanicals & Other Products Medical News Today: “Oregano: Health Benefits, Side Effects.” Sept. 2015 | CNN: “Spicy Foods May Help You Live Longer.” Aug. 2015 | The Washington Post: “Spices and Their Health Benefits.” Jan. 2014 | WebMD: “Spices and Herbs, Their Health Benefits.” 1 tube of polenta cut into 1/2 inch slices 1 cup of flour 1 cup of breadcrumbs mixed with 2 tbsp of dried cilantro 2 eggs, beaten 1 large eggplant Oil for frying Olive oil 1 teaspoon of salt 1 teaspoon of paprika 1 teaspoon of cumin 2 garlic cloves, grated Juice from half a lemon For the tomatoes confit: 1 cup of cherry tomatoes Salt Pepper Olive oil Fresh cilantro for garnish To make the polenta cakes: To prepare the eggplant caviar: SET UP a three-step process for the breading: flour, eggs and breadcrumbs. DIP first in the flour, SHAKE off the excess, then DIP in the eggs, and finally into the breadcrumbs. HEAT up vegetable oil in large skillet and lightly fry the polenta cakes on both sides for about 3 to 4 minutes on each side. SET ASIDE. HEAT UP the broiler and broil the eggplant for a few minutes on each side. REMOVE the skin and mash with a fork. ADD salt, one tbsp of olive oil, lemon juice, garlic, paprika, cumin, and mix very well. Pita Chips with Zaatar and Roasted Peppers T H E B E E ’ S K I TC H E N | SA B R INA OVA D IA 3 mini pitas, cut into 4 wedges 1/3 cup olive oil 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 red pepper 1 green pepper Salt Olive oil 1/3 cup of crumbled feta Few tablespoons of zaatar 91 | fyimagazineny.com PREHEAT the oven to 350. In a small bowl, whisk together olive oil, salt, pepper, and garlic. Brush on both sides of each pita wedge. Place on a baking sheet and bake for 12-15 minutes. Set aside. PLACE THE PEPPERS on the broiler and roast for about 5 to 6 minutes on each side, turning them often to avoid burning. When cool, peel them and cut into thin slices. TO ASSEMBLE:place first the pita chip, then the roasted peppers and the feta cheese. Top with some zaatar.
CLIP   SAVE  Polenta Cakes topped with Eggplant Caviar T H E B E E     S K I TC H E N   SA B RI N A OVA D I A For the pole...
CLIP & SAVE Polenta Cakes topped with Eggplant Caviar T H E B E E ’ S K I TC H E N | SA B RI N A OVA D I A For the polenta cakes: OREGANO Oregano is associated with many powerful health claims, as outlined by a 2015 article in Medical News Today. With a pleasant and robust flavor, fresh or dried oregano goes easily into any meal. Packed with carvacrol, a potent antimicrobial agent, oregano slows the reproduction of normal food bacteria, thus helping to prevent food poisoning. One fascinating study showed that Himalayan oregano’s essential oil can kill the hospital superbug MRSA. Packed with vitamin K, which promotes bone growth and density, oregano has shown effectiveness against osteoporosis. It also boasts a soaring amount of antioxidants (one teaspoon contains as many antioxidants as 3 cups of spinach!), as well as proven anticancer agents. GREAT GO- WITH’S: J Stir fresh oregano into ground beef for burgers with gourmet flair. Mix dried flakes with a bit of J olive oil and red wine vinegar and drizzle over salad. J Add to scrambled eggs, or whip up an herb frittata. J Mince fresh oregano and knead a few tablespoons into bread dough for aromatic dinner rolls. Or blend into a pesto and spread on pitas. GINGER TURMERIC Derived from the rootstock of a tropical plant, turmeric has a bold golden color and a pungent flavor. Filled with active curcuminoids, turmeric displays antioxidant, anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, antifungal and anticancer actions, according to a 2007 report published in Advances in Experimental Medicine and Biology. Curcuminoids subdue free radicals that can damage DNA, and they impede molecules involved with the body’s inflammatory response. GREAT GO-WITH’S: J To infuse flavor and color into plain rice, add ground turmeric to the cooking water. J Rub it on chicken or fish before cooking to give a mustardy sensation. JA staple in Southeast Asian cuisine, turmeric intensifies orange soups, lentil dishes, and curries. 90 | fyimagazineny.com A piquant rhizome, ginger has been used by healers since antiquity. Greeks wrapped it in bread as a digestive treatment, Chinese sailors nibbled it to relieve seasickness, and American colonists brewed it into a cure-all tonic. Clinical trials testify to ginger’s potential to help alleviate nausea and vomiting, as reported by MSKCC. Another study showed that ginger significantly reduced knee pain in patients with osteoarthritis. GREAT GO-WITH’S: J Either ground or chopped crystallized bits add tang to sweet batters, such as banana bread, carrot muffins, or pear cobbler. J Traditionally used in Asian stir-fries, ginger adds zip to all vegetables, meat, poultry, and fish. J To brew a cup of ginger tea: grate 2 teaspoons of fresh ginger root in 1 ½ cups of tepid water. Steep for 15 minutes, sweeten with honey, and drink. H erbs and spices please your palette without adding the empty calories of sauces or syrups, or unhealthy sodium from a salt shaker. Easy to find and space-efficient to stock, they’re a worthwhile investment for boosting flavor and health. fyi SOURCES: Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center. Integrative Medicine: About Herbs, Botanicals & Other Products Medical News Today: “Oregano: Health Benefits, Side Effects.” Sept. 2015 | CNN: “Spicy Foods May Help You Live Longer.” Aug. 2015 | The Washington Post: “Spices and Their Health Benefits.” Jan. 2014 | WebMD: “Spices and Herbs, Their Health Benefits.” 1 tube of polenta cut into 1/2 inch slices 1 cup of flour 1 cup of breadcrumbs mixed with 2 tbsp of dried cilantro 2 eggs, beaten 1 large eggplant Oil for frying Olive oil 1 teaspoon of salt 1 teaspoon of paprika 1 teaspoon of cumin 2 garlic cloves, grated Juice from half a lemon For the tomatoes confit: 1 cup of cherry tomatoes Salt Pepper Olive oil Fresh cilantro for garnish To make the polenta cakes: To prepare the eggplant caviar: SET UP a three-step process for the breading: flour, eggs and breadcrumbs. DIP first in the flour, SHAKE off the excess, then DIP in the eggs, and finally into the breadcrumbs. HEAT up vegetable oil in large skillet and lightly fry the polenta cakes on both sides for about 3 to 4 minutes on each side. SET ASIDE. HEAT UP the broiler and broil the eggplant for a few minutes on each side. REMOVE the skin and mash with a fork. ADD salt, one tbsp of olive oil, lemon juice, garlic, paprika, cumin, and mix very well. Pita Chips with Zaatar and Roasted Peppers T H E B E E ’ S K I TC H E N | SA B R INA OVA D IA 3 mini pitas, cut into 4 wedges 1/3 cup olive oil 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon pepper 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 red pepper 1 green pepper Salt Olive oil 1/3 cup of crumbled feta Few tablespoons of zaatar 91 | fyimagazineny.com PREHEAT the oven to 350. In a small bowl, whisk together olive oil, salt, pepper, and garlic. Brush on both sides of each pita wedge. Place on a baking sheet and bake for 12-15 minutes. Set aside. PLACE THE PEPPERS on the broiler and roast for about 5 to 6 minutes on each side, turning them often to avoid burning. When cool, peel them and cut into thin slices. TO ASSEMBLE:place first the pita chip, then the roasted peppers and the feta cheese. Top with some zaatar.
CLIP   SAVE  Polenta Cakes topped with Eggplant Caviar T H E B E E     S K I TC H E N   SA B RI N A OVA D I A For the pole...
CLIP & SAVE Stuffed Mushrooms COOK I N G I N HE E L S | S HU S H Y TU R IN 2 8-oz. cartons white mushrooms, stems removed and set aside (do not throw them out) ½ medium yellow onion, chopped 1 clove garlic, grated ¼ cup olive oil 2-3 Tbsp. freshly grated Parmesan, plus more for garnish 1- 1 ½ cups seasoned breadcrumbs Salt and pepper to taste Chopped parsley to garnish PREHEAT the oven to 325 F LINE a baking sheet with parchment paper TAKE HALF THE STEMS from the mushrooms that you have set aside and using an immersion blender or full-size blender, pulse the mushrooms until they resemble a paste. DISCARD the remaining mushroom stems. ADD the chopped onion, garlic, and oil. PULSE the blender until the mixture is fully integrated. ADD in the breadcrumbs until the mixture forms a thick paste that you can almost roll into a ball. ADD in the Parmesan cheese if using, and season with salt and pepper to taste. LAY THE MUSHROOMS on the baking sheet about an inch apart from each other and stuff each cavity with the breadcrumb mixture. BAKE for 20-25 minutes or until the mushrooms are a deep brown and the stuffing has a golden brown crust. REMOVE from the oven and allow the mushrooms to cool for 5-10 minutes before garnishing with chopped parsley, Parmesan if desired, and a little salt and pepper. We’re bringing you dozens of ways to take your Chanukah parties to the next level, from fun and original Chanukah games and activities to incredible homemade menorahs (page 94)... FYI TALKS WITH 1/2 cup margarine 3/4 cup creamy peanut butter 3/4 cup graham cracker crumbs (from 4 to 6 whole graham crackers) 1/4 cup sugar 1 cup chocolate chips 1/4 cup vanilla soy milk 1/4 cup chopped roasted peanuts 12 standard or 24 mini muffin pans, lined with paper baking cups. Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups KO S H E R G OU R M E T COOK I N G | E L I ZA B E TH KU RTZ 92 | fyimagazineny.com MELT margarine in a small saucepan over medium heat. STIR IN peanut butter, graham cracker crumbs, and sugar. MIX well and remove from heat. DROP 2 tablespoons into each standard muffin cup or 1 tablespoon into each mini muffin cup. Chill for 15 minutes and up to overnight in the refrigerator. MELT chocolate chips and soy milk in a separate small saucepan over medium heat. STIR UNTIL SMOOTH. While still warm, spoon chocolate evenly over chilled peanut butter mixture. With an offset spatula or a knife, spread to cover peanut butter layer. TOP with peanuts. Place in freezer to set for at least 2 hours before serving. Make Ahead Can be prepared 2 days ahead of time. Store covered in the refrigerator, or freeze for up to 3 months. Slightly defrost in the refrigerator and serve chilled. practitioners and learns what it really is and how it helps people (page 102)... And an in-depth look at CARE-GIVING FOR AGING PARENTS and- how to include them in the Chanukah festivities (page 98)...
CLIP   SAVE  Stuffed Mushrooms COOK I N G I N HE E L S   S HU S H Y TU R IN 2 8-oz. cartons white mushrooms, stems removed...
CLIP & SAVE Stuffed Mushrooms COOK I N G I N HE E L S | S HU S H Y TU R IN 2 8-oz. cartons white mushrooms, stems removed and set aside (do not throw them out) ½ medium yellow onion, chopped 1 clove garlic, grated ¼ cup olive oil 2-3 Tbsp. freshly grated Parmesan, plus more for garnish 1- 1 ½ cups seasoned breadcrumbs Salt and pepper to taste Chopped parsley to garnish PREHEAT the oven to 325 F LINE a baking sheet with parchment paper TAKE HALF THE STEMS from the mushrooms that you have set aside and using an immersion blender or full-size blender, pulse the mushrooms until they resemble a paste. DISCARD the remaining mushroom stems. ADD the chopped onion, garlic, and oil. PULSE the blender until the mixture is fully integrated. ADD in the breadcrumbs until the mixture forms a thick paste that you can almost roll into a ball. ADD in the Parmesan cheese if using, and season with salt and pepper to taste. LAY THE MUSHROOMS on the baking sheet about an inch apart from each other and stuff each cavity with the breadcrumb mixture. BAKE for 20-25 minutes or until the mushrooms are a deep brown and the stuffing has a golden brown crust. REMOVE from the oven and allow the mushrooms to cool for 5-10 minutes before garnishing with chopped parsley, Parmesan if desired, and a little salt and pepper. We’re bringing you dozens of ways to take your Chanukah parties to the next level, from fun and original Chanukah games and activities to incredible homemade menorahs (page 94)... FYI TALKS WITH 1/2 cup margarine 3/4 cup creamy peanut butter 3/4 cup graham cracker crumbs (from 4 to 6 whole graham crackers) 1/4 cup sugar 1 cup chocolate chips 1/4 cup vanilla soy milk 1/4 cup chopped roasted peanuts 12 standard or 24 mini muffin pans, lined with paper baking cups. Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups KO S H E R G OU R M E T COOK I N G | E L I ZA B E TH KU RTZ 92 | fyimagazineny.com MELT margarine in a small saucepan over medium heat. STIR IN peanut butter, graham cracker crumbs, and sugar. MIX well and remove from heat. DROP 2 tablespoons into each standard muffin cup or 1 tablespoon into each mini muffin cup. Chill for 15 minutes and up to overnight in the refrigerator. MELT chocolate chips and soy milk in a separate small saucepan over medium heat. STIR UNTIL SMOOTH. While still warm, spoon chocolate evenly over chilled peanut butter mixture. With an offset spatula or a knife, spread to cover peanut butter layer. TOP with peanuts. Place in freezer to set for at least 2 hours before serving. Make Ahead Can be prepared 2 days ahead of time. Store covered in the refrigerator, or freeze for up to 3 months. Slightly defrost in the refrigerator and serve chilled. practitioners and learns what it really is and how it helps people (page 102)... And an in-depth look at CARE-GIVING FOR AGING PARENTS and- how to include them in the Chanukah festivities (page 98)...
CLIP   SAVE  Stuffed Mushrooms COOK I N G I N HE E L S   S HU S H Y TU R IN 2 8-oz. cartons white mushrooms, stems removed...
Chanukah evokes images of warm, intimate family gatherings, children laughing and playing, and the crackle of frying latkes in the background. Here are some new additions to your party game repertoire that will add more zest to your Chanukah. BALLOON GRAB BAG Grab bags are a popular activity at many Chanukah parties. Triple the excitement by adding balloons to the recipe! Place each gift into a balloon and inflate it. The balloons can either be tied to the children’s legs or placed in the center of the floor. Whoever pops a balloon gets to keep the prize. (Everyone must leave the floor once they have a prize.) BOW GAME Let the Games BEGIN! Chanukah games and activities for the entire family. WRITTEN BY CHAVY HELFGOTT Relive Antiochus’ evil edicts. When each person arrives at the party, (s) he gets a pin/sticker with a jar of olive oil on it. Choose one word that is banned – i.e. menorah, latke, etc. Any guest caught saying that word loses the sticker. The last guest to remain with his sticker wins. OLIVE OIL SCAVENGER HUNT: Embark on the quest of the Chashmonaim in the Beis Hamikdash in this variation of the classic scavenger hunt! Take 10 cue cards and write a question about Chanukah on each one. The questions should be challenging enough that it will take some effort to come up with the right answer. Hide the cards around the house or neighborhood. Divide the family into two or more groups, depending on the number of people. Chanukah games and activities for the entire family. The final card will lead them to the jar with a prize inside. In another exciting variation, have the game played before Chanukah lighting, and the cue cards should lead to the actual jar of oil needed to light the menorah. (This hunt can be customized for any age and stage – even adults.) MENORAH COMPETITION Challenge your kids to make an original, creative, usable menorah out of items they find in the home. The most creative one gets an extra doughnut! (Otherwise, you can set them up making one of the several original menorah ideas below.) MARVELOUS MENORAH DESIGNS: J PLUMBER’S MENORAH Need a project to catch the interest of construction-minded boys? Let them collect pieces of pipe sections or screws and bolts from Daddy’s toolbox or a hardware shop, and use them to create a truly manly menorah. J BABY FOOD JAR MENORAH Do you have a baby at home going through the baby food stage? Put those countless empty jars to good use. Candle version: Decorate the jars lightly, glue them onto a piece of wood, and place tea lights inside. Oil Version: Decorate the jars completely and glue onto a piece of wood. Punch a hole in each lid, fill the jars with oil and slide a long wick through the hole. J ECO-FRIENDLY MENORAH Use your recycled glass bottles to create a menorah for free. Take eight glass bottles of the same height and one taller glass bottle and spray paint them in your favorite color. Stick a thick candle into the bottle necks and light! J SALT SHAKER MENORAHS Looking for an elegant look at a bargain price? Try this charming menorah made of cheap glass salt shakers from your local Walmart, 99 Cents store, or Amazing Savings. Purchase nine different salt (For all of these games, choose a Chanukah-related prize for the winner – such as extra doughnuts, latkes, or Chanukah gelt.) 95 | fyimagazineny.com
Chanukah evokes images of warm, intimate family gatherings, children laughing and playing, and the crackle of frying latke...
Chanukah evokes images of warm, intimate family gatherings, children laughing and playing, and the crackle of frying latkes in the background. Here are some new additions to your party game repertoire that will add more zest to your Chanukah. BALLOON GRAB BAG Grab bags are a popular activity at many Chanukah parties. Triple the excitement by adding balloons to the recipe! Place each gift into a balloon and inflate it. The balloons can either be tied to the children’s legs or placed in the center of the floor. Whoever pops a balloon gets to keep the prize. (Everyone must leave the floor once they have a prize.) BOW GAME Let the Games BEGIN! Chanukah games and activities for the entire family. WRITTEN BY CHAVY HELFGOTT Relive Antiochus’ evil edicts. When each person arrives at the party, (s) he gets a pin/sticker with a jar of olive oil on it. Choose one word that is banned – i.e. menorah, latke, etc. Any guest caught saying that word loses the sticker. The last guest to remain with his sticker wins. OLIVE OIL SCAVENGER HUNT: Embark on the quest of the Chashmonaim in the Beis Hamikdash in this variation of the classic scavenger hunt! Take 10 cue cards and write a question about Chanukah on each one. The questions should be challenging enough that it will take some effort to come up with the right answer. Hide the cards around the house or neighborhood. Divide the family into two or more groups, depending on the number of people. Chanukah games and activities for the entire family. The final card will lead them to the jar with a prize inside. In another exciting variation, have the game played before Chanukah lighting, and the cue cards should lead to the actual jar of oil needed to light the menorah. (This hunt can be customized for any age and stage – even adults.) MENORAH COMPETITION Challenge your kids to make an original, creative, usable menorah out of items they find in the home. The most creative one gets an extra doughnut! (Otherwise, you can set them up making one of the several original menorah ideas below.) MARVELOUS MENORAH DESIGNS: J PLUMBER’S MENORAH Need a project to catch the interest of construction-minded boys? Let them collect pieces of pipe sections or screws and bolts from Daddy’s toolbox or a hardware shop, and use them to create a truly manly menorah. J BABY FOOD JAR MENORAH Do you have a baby at home going through the baby food stage? Put those countless empty jars to good use. Candle version: Decorate the jars lightly, glue them onto a piece of wood, and place tea lights inside. Oil Version: Decorate the jars completely and glue onto a piece of wood. Punch a hole in each lid, fill the jars with oil and slide a long wick through the hole. J ECO-FRIENDLY MENORAH Use your recycled glass bottles to create a menorah for free. Take eight glass bottles of the same height and one taller glass bottle and spray paint them in your favorite color. Stick a thick candle into the bottle necks and light! J SALT SHAKER MENORAHS Looking for an elegant look at a bargain price? Try this charming menorah made of cheap glass salt shakers from your local Walmart, 99 Cents store, or Amazing Savings. Purchase nine different salt (For all of these games, choose a Chanukah-related prize for the winner – such as extra doughnuts, latkes, or Chanukah gelt.) 95 | fyimagazineny.com
Chanukah evokes images of warm, intimate family gatherings, children laughing and playing, and the crackle of frying latke...
shakers with narrow necks and a cheap sterling silver or mirrored tray. Hot glue the shakers onto the tray. These can be used as either candlesticks or oil lamps. If you’re going with candles, try this trick for some extra pizzazz – fill the shakers with water and add a drop of blue food coloring, then place the candle on top. The blue will sparkle and shine in the reflection of crystal and mirror. JUST FOR FUN MENORAHS! J EDIBLE MENORAH Baking activities are always a winner. Bake a batch of brownies and cut into long rectangles. Each family member gets one rectangle. Set up a decorating station at the table with various treats, such as licorice for candles, butterscotch chips for flames, marshmallow filling for glue, and any other candy or treat. For a healthier version, use half a celery stalk as a base, baby carrots as candles, raisins as flames, and peanut butter as glue. J PAPER TUBE MENORAH Decorate eight toilet paper tubes and one paper towel tube as desired. Glue them together. Create “flames” by inserting yellow and orange tissue paper into each “candle.” ADULT ACTIVITIES Having a more adult-centered party? No fear! Here are some fabulous ideas to make your party a smashing success. J CHANUKAH IN THE MEDIA Have everyone write newspaper headlines/breaking news alerts announcing the Chanukah events (e.g. Greeks Take the Temple!). If you’re a more tech-savvy family, you can have everyone compose messages/tweets about the event. Display all the headlines and have everyone vote for the most popular one. J NAME GAME Say the name of a Chanukah-related person, event, place, thing. The next person must say something that begins with the last letter of your word. Anyone who can’t think of an answer within thirty seconds is out. J FAMILY/FRIEND HISTORY CHARADES This game is great for get-togethers with people who know each other really well, such as immediate family or close friends. Divide the group into pairs and have everyone take turns acting out an event that occurred in the family. Whoever guesses the event first gets gelt. The pair with the most gelt at the end wins. J PAPER BAG GAME Fill paper bags with various Chanukah-related items. Decorate each bag with the first letter of the item inside the bag. Pass the bags around and have everyone mark down their guesses on a piece of paper. The first person to figure out all the bags wins. J MENORAH S’MORES BAR Delight your family and friends with this whimsical twist on s’mores! 96 | fyimagazineny.com Purchase a long plastic window box and fill with pebbles. Bury eight small Sterno cooking fuel cans in a line among the pebbles. Light the cans and set up marshmallows and skewers near the box, so that everyone can create their own custom s’mores. (Make sure the box is on a high level so children cannot reach it on their own.) CHANUKAH CARNIVAL Need to keep your kids entertained over Chanukah vacation? Have them create a Chanukah-themed carnival for the neighborhood – just be prepared to have your basement/living room turned upside- down! Here are some spectacular ideas for Chanukah-themed carnival stations. Rather than the traditional tickets, children will collect fake gelts at each booth, which they can use to purchase prizes when the carnival is over. (Thanks to BibleBeltBalabusta.com for some of these remarkably creative ideas.) J DOUGHNUT TOSS Shopping List: Cardboard box, brown bean bags Cut a small square hole in the side of a cardboard box and decorate to look like an oven. Mark a distance from the oven with masking tape. Players must throw the “doughnuts” into the oven. J FRY THE LATKES Shopping List: Two frying pans, plastic straws, cardstock paper latke cutouts Each player gets ten paper latkes. The latkes must be transferred into the pan by sucking in with a straw. The first to transfer all the latkes wins. J KNOCK DOWN THE GREEKS Shopping List: Bowling pins, balls, Frisbees, elastic strip, masking tape Decorate a Frisbee to look like a Maccabee shield and attach the elastic strip to the back. Set up the bowling pins and create “lanes” with masking tape. The players must wear their Maccabee “shields” when they knock down those Greeks. J GUESS HOW MUCH GELT Shopping list: Large jar, lots of chocolate coins Whoever makes the most accurate guess keeps all the coins! J RICE GELT HUNT Shopping List: Large bowl, rice, pennies, blindfold, paper plates Hide pennies in a bucket of rice. Each player is blindfolded and has 60 seconds to find pennies and to put them on a plate without getting any rice on the plate. The player with the most wins! J PIN THE SHAMASH ON THE MENORAH Shopping List: Large poster board, golden gift bow, pin or adhesive, party mask, Chanukah stickers Tape a large poster to a foam or cardboard backing. Draw a menorah with eight flames, leaving the shamash spot empty. Take a large golden gift bow and attach a pin or adhesive to the back. Take a regular plastic party mask and cover the eye holes with two Chanukah stickers. Wearing this mask, the children will attempt to pin the shamash onto the right spot. J FISHING FOR DREIDELS: Shopping list: Wooden skewers, cotton twine or yarn, metal washers, mini wood dreidels, magnets Tie a string to the end of a skewer (hot glue to anchor it better). Tie a Ring Magnet to the other end. Figure out what size of flat metal washer will fit snugly around the stem of the dreidel, then glue with strong glue. Place 97 | fyimagazineny.com the dreidels in a flat pan and have the children try to snag a dreidel with the magnetic “fishing rod.” J CONNECT-4, THE GELT EDITION Shopping List: Connect-4 game board, plastic “coins,” spray paint Convert a Connect 4 gameboard to use silver and gold plastic gelt pieces instead of red and black checkers. Depending on the game frame (they have evolved over the years), you may have to try different brands of gelt or hot glue pieces together to achieve the right thickness. Or, you can spray paint the pieces of a real Connect 4 set. J GELT CHECKERS Same as above, just with a checker board. J MENORAH RING TOSS Shopping List: Large, cheap menorah, plastic rings (shower rings, plastic bangles, etc.) Set up a large menorah with rings that are the right size to fit over the arms. Designate a distance from the menorah and mark it with masking tape. The goal is to throw one ring onto each arm. Extra gelt for “lighting” in the right order! T his array of creative activities and games will bring a whole new dimension to all your parties and reunions. Get ready to have the best Chanukah of your life! fyi
shakers with narrow necks and a cheap sterling silver or mirrored tray. Hot glue the shakers onto the tray. These can be u...
shakers with narrow necks and a cheap sterling silver or mirrored tray. Hot glue the shakers onto the tray. These can be used as either candlesticks or oil lamps. If you’re going with candles, try this trick for some extra pizzazz – fill the shakers with water and add a drop of blue food coloring, then place the candle on top. The blue will sparkle and shine in the reflection of crystal and mirror. JUST FOR FUN MENORAHS! J EDIBLE MENORAH Baking activities are always a winner. Bake a batch of brownies and cut into long rectangles. Each family member gets one rectangle. Set up a decorating station at the table with various treats, such as licorice for candles, butterscotch chips for flames, marshmallow filling for glue, and any other candy or treat. For a healthier version, use half a celery stalk as a base, baby carrots as candles, raisins as flames, and peanut butter as glue. J PAPER TUBE MENORAH Decorate eight toilet paper tubes and one paper towel tube as desired. Glue them together. Create “flames” by inserting yellow and orange tissue paper into each “candle.” ADULT ACTIVITIES Having a more adult-centered party? No fear! Here are some fabulous ideas to make your party a smashing success. J CHANUKAH IN THE MEDIA Have everyone write newspaper headlines/breaking news alerts announcing the Chanukah events (e.g. Greeks Take the Temple!). If you’re a more tech-savvy family, you can have everyone compose messages/tweets about the event. Display all the headlines and have everyone vote for the most popular one. J NAME GAME Say the name of a Chanukah-related person, event, place, thing. The next person must say something that begins with the last letter of your word. Anyone who can’t think of an answer within thirty seconds is out. J FAMILY/FRIEND HISTORY CHARADES This game is great for get-togethers with people who know each other really well, such as immediate family or close friends. Divide the group into pairs and have everyone take turns acting out an event that occurred in the family. Whoever guesses the event first gets gelt. The pair with the most gelt at the end wins. J PAPER BAG GAME Fill paper bags with various Chanukah-related items. Decorate each bag with the first letter of the item inside the bag. Pass the bags around and have everyone mark down their guesses on a piece of paper. The first person to figure out all the bags wins. J MENORAH S’MORES BAR Delight your family and friends with this whimsical twist on s’mores! 96 | fyimagazineny.com Purchase a long plastic window box and fill with pebbles. Bury eight small Sterno cooking fuel cans in a line among the pebbles. Light the cans and set up marshmallows and skewers near the box, so that everyone can create their own custom s’mores. (Make sure the box is on a high level so children cannot reach it on their own.) CHANUKAH CARNIVAL Need to keep your kids entertained over Chanukah vacation? Have them create a Chanukah-themed carnival for the neighborhood – just be prepared to have your basement/living room turned upside- down! Here are some spectacular ideas for Chanukah-themed carnival stations. Rather than the traditional tickets, children will collect fake gelts at each booth, which they can use to purchase prizes when the carnival is over. (Thanks to BibleBeltBalabusta.com for some of these remarkably creative ideas.) J DOUGHNUT TOSS Shopping List: Cardboard box, brown bean bags Cut a small square hole in the side of a cardboard box and decorate to look like an oven. Mark a distance from the oven with masking tape. Players must throw the “doughnuts” into the oven. J FRY THE LATKES Shopping List: Two frying pans, plastic straws, cardstock paper latke cutouts Each player gets ten paper latkes. The latkes must be transferred into the pan by sucking in with a straw. The first to transfer all the latkes wins. J KNOCK DOWN THE GREEKS Shopping List: Bowling pins, balls, Frisbees, elastic strip, masking tape Decorate a Frisbee to look like a Maccabee shield and attach the elastic strip to the back. Set up the bowling pins and create “lanes” with masking tape. The players must wear their Maccabee “shields” when they knock down those Greeks. J GUESS HOW MUCH GELT Shopping list: Large jar, lots of chocolate coins Whoever makes the most accurate guess keeps all the coins! J RICE GELT HUNT Shopping List: Large bowl, rice, pennies, blindfold, paper plates Hide pennies in a bucket of rice. Each player is blindfolded and has 60 seconds to find pennies and to put them on a plate without getting any rice on the plate. The player with the most wins! J PIN THE SHAMASH ON THE MENORAH Shopping List: Large poster board, golden gift bow, pin or adhesive, party mask, Chanukah stickers Tape a large poster to a foam or cardboard backing. Draw a menorah with eight flames, leaving the shamash spot empty. Take a large golden gift bow and attach a pin or adhesive to the back. Take a regular plastic party mask and cover the eye holes with two Chanukah stickers. Wearing this mask, the children will attempt to pin the shamash onto the right spot. J FISHING FOR DREIDELS: Shopping list: Wooden skewers, cotton twine or yarn, metal washers, mini wood dreidels, magnets Tie a string to the end of a skewer (hot glue to anchor it better). Tie a Ring Magnet to the other end. Figure out what size of flat metal washer will fit snugly around the stem of the dreidel, then glue with strong glue. Place 97 | fyimagazineny.com the dreidels in a flat pan and have the children try to snag a dreidel with the magnetic “fishing rod.” J CONNECT-4, THE GELT EDITION Shopping List: Connect-4 game board, plastic “coins,” spray paint Convert a Connect 4 gameboard to use silver and gold plastic gelt pieces instead of red and black checkers. Depending on the game frame (they have evolved over the years), you may have to try different brands of gelt or hot glue pieces together to achieve the right thickness. Or, you can spray paint the pieces of a real Connect 4 set. J GELT CHECKERS Same as above, just with a checker board. J MENORAH RING TOSS Shopping List: Large, cheap menorah, plastic rings (shower rings, plastic bangles, etc.) Set up a large menorah with rings that are the right size to fit over the arms. Designate a distance from the menorah and mark it with masking tape. The goal is to throw one ring onto each arm. Extra gelt for “lighting” in the right order! T his array of creative activities and games will bring a whole new dimension to all your parties and reunions. Get ready to have the best Chanukah of your life! fyi
shakers with narrow necks and a cheap sterling silver or mirrored tray. Hot glue the shakers onto the tray. These can be u...
CARING FOR AGING PARENTS Caring for an elderly parent may be one of the most emotionally difficult challenges we will ever experience. Fortunately, there is a wide range of elderly care options available today, as well as accessible information about them. Plus, resources and support networks abound for family members who need guidance in dealing with such a sensitive issue. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE WRITTEN BY BAILA ROSENGARTEN Some people are blessed to be able to watch their parent(s) age gracefully while living independently in their own home; however, if your aging parent is struggling physically, cognitively, or mentally, then it may be time to start making serious decisions concerning future living arrangements. Remember that such life-altering decisions don’t always need to be made under crisis-ridden circumstances. While this subject won’t make for cheerful conversation, especially if your parent is living an independent and busy life, such discussions early on will ease tension down the road. Children of elderly parents often find themselves uninformed about available elderly care options and their parents’ preferences about them. They may also feel underprepared when making decisions. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Having an honest, compassionate conversation with your parent(s) ahead of time will establish clear answers to help formulate a long-term plan for their future living arrangements. This way, children can get a full understanding of their lifestyle preferences and wishes. Naturally, an aging parent will prefer to stay in his own home for as long as possible. In fact, if circumstances allow, the first option should always be to keep the elderly parent in his or her home, according to Rivkah Szmulewicz, Director of Social Work at the Boro Park Center for Rehabilitation and Health Care in Brooklyn, New York. “Nothing is better than keeping the parent in his or her home environment. The familiarity with their surroundings helps them maintain their current level of functioning.” She explains that this option is possible when family members are available to regularly deliver or provide any services the elderly parent may need, such as medicine or food preparation, cleaning out the fridge, or even full-scale home health care. However, Szmulewicz cautions that keeping the parent in his or her own home obviously depends on each person’s mental and physical condition. “If the person just broke her hip and is living in a three-story walk-up, this arrangement obviously doesn’t work,” she says. When the parent is not physically or mentally coping on his/her own 99 | fyimagazineny.com as well as s/he once was, it is time to seek out other living options. These include live-in home care, retirement homes, assisted living facilities, and nursing homes. Let’s look at each option separately and how to choose what’s best for your parent. With live-in care, a certified home health care aide comes to live with the parent and assists with feeding, dressing, bathing, and toileting. The aide also manages daily medication and housekeeping. This option “can also give the family a sense of peace of mind that someone is there in the parent's home who is keeping their parent safe (one hopes),” says Marla Kurtz, Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist and Founder and CEO of Toronto-based Ray of Sunshine Elderly Services. How do you know if your parent is in need of this option? Marla says to look out for these signs: If a parent’s personal hygiene is in decline, or if he is physically unsafe, forgetful, or not eating. When selecting a home health care aide, Marla recommends speaking to people who have used such services before and are pleased with them, as well as physician
CARING FOR AGING PARENTS  Caring for an elderly parent may be one of the most emotionally difficult challenges we will eve...
CARING FOR AGING PARENTS Caring for an elderly parent may be one of the most emotionally difficult challenges we will ever experience. Fortunately, there is a wide range of elderly care options available today, as well as accessible information about them. Plus, resources and support networks abound for family members who need guidance in dealing with such a sensitive issue. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE WRITTEN BY BAILA ROSENGARTEN Some people are blessed to be able to watch their parent(s) age gracefully while living independently in their own home; however, if your aging parent is struggling physically, cognitively, or mentally, then it may be time to start making serious decisions concerning future living arrangements. Remember that such life-altering decisions don’t always need to be made under crisis-ridden circumstances. While this subject won’t make for cheerful conversation, especially if your parent is living an independent and busy life, such discussions early on will ease tension down the road. Children of elderly parents often find themselves uninformed about available elderly care options and their parents’ preferences about them. They may also feel underprepared when making decisions. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Having an honest, compassionate conversation with your parent(s) ahead of time will establish clear answers to help formulate a long-term plan for their future living arrangements. This way, children can get a full understanding of their lifestyle preferences and wishes. Naturally, an aging parent will prefer to stay in his own home for as long as possible. In fact, if circumstances allow, the first option should always be to keep the elderly parent in his or her home, according to Rivkah Szmulewicz, Director of Social Work at the Boro Park Center for Rehabilitation and Health Care in Brooklyn, New York. “Nothing is better than keeping the parent in his or her home environment. The familiarity with their surroundings helps them maintain their current level of functioning.” She explains that this option is possible when family members are available to regularly deliver or provide any services the elderly parent may need, such as medicine or food preparation, cleaning out the fridge, or even full-scale home health care. However, Szmulewicz cautions that keeping the parent in his or her own home obviously depends on each person’s mental and physical condition. “If the person just broke her hip and is living in a three-story walk-up, this arrangement obviously doesn’t work,” she says. When the parent is not physically or mentally coping on his/her own 99 | fyimagazineny.com as well as s/he once was, it is time to seek out other living options. These include live-in home care, retirement homes, assisted living facilities, and nursing homes. Let’s look at each option separately and how to choose what’s best for your parent. With live-in care, a certified home health care aide comes to live with the parent and assists with feeding, dressing, bathing, and toileting. The aide also manages daily medication and housekeeping. This option “can also give the family a sense of peace of mind that someone is there in the parent's home who is keeping their parent safe (one hopes),” says Marla Kurtz, Certified Therapeutic Recreation Specialist and Founder and CEO of Toronto-based Ray of Sunshine Elderly Services. How do you know if your parent is in need of this option? Marla says to look out for these signs: If a parent’s personal hygiene is in decline, or if he is physically unsafe, forgetful, or not eating. When selecting a home health care aide, Marla recommends speaking to people who have used such services before and are pleased with them, as well as physician
CARING FOR AGING PARENTS  Caring for an elderly parent may be one of the most emotionally difficult challenges we will eve...
referrals. Interviewing prospective aides is also important. According to Marla, questions to ask are: Is the supervisor in close contact with his staff? What type of office management and progress notes are used? What type of people do they hire? What are the levels of training, education and certification of the health care aides? For independent living arrangements outside the home, there are retirement gated communities. Here, residents live in apartments, which usually have one or two bedrooms. On the premises, there are on-site medical services, opportunities for daily social interaction, including religious services and trips to go to the grocery store, pharmacy, and other social outings, says Marla. Meanwhile, assisted living facilities provide another option for independent living. In these facilities, your parent would live in a safe, secure, attractive, and environmentally-friendly private apartment or room within a larger complex. In such facilities, residents can usually furnish their living quarters with their own furniture and decorations, which can add a comforting element of home. Kitchenettes are often available to enable independent cooking and eating. Aides and staff at these facilities work toward maintaining the privacy of residents and encouraging an environment of autonomy and independence. Similar to the retirement gated communities, assisted living facilities also have their own basic on-site medical services, and options for communal dining and social activities. In these facilities, family visits are easy and common. Unlike retirement homes, assisted living facilities usually have units for those residents who need more support when they can no longer safely live independently. These units are in a smaller locked and secure environment, which offers a 24-hour on-site nursing staff to assist with a number of basic daily needs, such as toileting, dressing, eating, grooming, and medication management. According to Marla, moving your elderly parent into this type of unit is usually an easier transition “as it is housed in the same aesthetically familiar environment that the person was used to living in and with the same staff, dining room facility, and social opportunities, but at a much smaller scale and with people who are at the same cognitive level.” However, if your parent is in need of a higher level of round-the-clock long-term care, another option is a nursing home. Here, all of your parent’s needs will be met by the care center’s staff physicians, nurses, health care aides, dieticians, recreation therapists, social workers, etc. One can also pay for extra health services, if needed, or extra hours of private personal care on the side. Nursing homes offer single and double rooms as well as wards of three or four people in a room. Many people who choose this option usually spend the remainder of their lives in these facilities, which offer more restrictive environments. Before selecting a nursing home, Marla recommends first visiting the facility in person to meet with as many staff as possible. While there, speak with other families to ask their opinions. She also suggests preparing questions beforehand, such as: How often will you be allowed to visit your parent? What daily programs are offered and how does one access them? Are families able to participate in facility activities? How does the facility communicate with families? How accessible are the nurses 100 | fyimagazineny.com at the nursing stations? What are the facility’s security assurances, health and safety procedures, and fire and evacuation procedures? Will we be assigned to a social worker or a case manager? Additionally, be sure to get all price details, including any extra costs. Many facilities offer day visits and trial stays for the parent to see whether the facility is a right fit or to help him/her get used to it. There may also be an option of retaining your parent’s health care aide while at the facility, which may help him/her acclimate faster. Moving an elderly parent into an assisted living facility or nursing home is a tough decision for a child to make, especially if the parent erroneously believes that s/ he can take care of him or herself. As Szmulewicz cautions, “role reversal doesn’t happen overnight.” Therefore, the more decisions the elderly parent is able to make about his or her own future living arrangements, the better. But again, it all depends on the level of cognitive ability. This is why early and open communication with your parents about their future is important. Even in the best of circumstances, guilt surfaces- particularly if decisions have to be made under crisis situations. When this happens, Marla says that “one can only do the best they can with the tools they are given. Many times, it takes individuals a few weeks or months to get settled into a new institutional living environment. Love, patience, respect, and dignity can all assist with this move. Also listening to the parent’s concerns and resolving fears and anxiety will be crucial for successful transition." It is also vital that all siblings are on the same page when it comes to your parent’s best interests. “It’s not uncommon to have siblings argue about what’s best for their elderly parent,” says Szmulewicz. She explains that many facilities, including Boro Park Center, have social workers who meet with entire families on an ongoing basis. Depending on religion, members of clergy are also available for family members who need emotional or ethical guidance. According to Szmulewicz, family members of aging parents should take comfort in the amount of support and networking that exists specifically for them. “The elderly patient does not exist in a vacuum,” she says, adding that most elderly care facilities recognize there is a complicated familial system around the patient. Another way to ensure the smooth transition of an elderly parent into long-term care, whether an assisted living facility or a nursing home, is to maintain some level of family involvement with the placed parent. Szmulewicz says this can include regular visits by all family members and especially, getting the elderly parent to participate in family activities, milestones, and holidays. For instance, Shabbat dinners at Boro Park Center get quite a big turnout of visiting family members, according to Szmulewicz. Increased community and family involvement helps the elderly family members to still feel wanted. This stimulates their mental state and sustains their emotional well-being. “Remember that your parents gave you life, raised and educated you, and gave their lives over so that you can be where you are today… Try to involve them with some decision making powers and ask their opinions when you can,” says Marla. She adds that the more they feel like they are being treated independently and that their concerns are being addressed, the easier it will be for families to assist and guide their loved ones through the aging process with grace. fyi Including Grandparents in Your Chanukah Activities IF YOUR PARENTS/GRANDPARENTS ARE COGNITIVELY ALERT AND WELL, THEY CAN AND PARTICIPATE FULLY IN ALL YOUR CELEBRATIONS. n Utilize their expertise. If Bubby used to make the best latkes when the parties were in her home, make sure that she comes over earlier to make them. It’s a good idea to have all the ingredients out available and ready (pre-peel all potatoes and and even grate) to make it easier for her. n Grandparents love to help and need to feel needed. Utilize their help when deciding which decorations should go where, and they can assist with helping set the table. n Everyone can participate in chanukah games! Who doesn’t love a chanukah puzzle, quiz, art project or game? n Give them the attention, respect, and time they deserve. Ask and listen to them as they tell what Chanukah was like when they were growing up. IF YOUR PARENT’S/GRANDPARENTS ARE NOT AS COGNITIVELY ALERT: n An essential aspect is to orientate them to time and place in a respectful way. When they come in welcome them to your Chanukah party and tell them how glad and happy you are that they were able to make it. n There are plenty of things they can do to participate. They may not be able to do their entire latke recipe, but they can mix the ingredients with assistance if needed. 101 | fyimagazineny.com n If children are doing easier art projects, such as lacing objects see if they can also do it. n Speak out what the objects are around them, and what their purpose is. When they see the familiar shape of a menorah, dreidel, etc and you state how they are used there will be some sort of recognition. n Sing chanukah songs and encourage them to hum or sing along. n Setting the table may be too difficult but folding the napkins, or counting out the cutlery, will make them feel a part of the festivities. n The most important thing is to engage them. Each family member say their name and their place in the family (grandchild, daughter-in-law) and should say that they are so happy that they came. n Compliment them on their outfit, jewelry, or suit. Treat them as adults, speak to them with respect and dignity. n If the party is getting too late, let them go graciously when they need to leave.Thank them for coming and perhaps prepare a picture of all the grandchildren with the everyone’s names labelled so they can connect the name to the face. Marla Kurtz, CTRS is the President and CEO of Ray of Sunshine, a private practice, in home custom tailored one on one Therapeutic Recreation Intervention business in Canada for over eight years. Programs are available via skype, customized therapy boxes, consulting, caregiver and family education sessions. facebook:rayofsunshineelderlyserives
referrals. Interviewing prospective aides is also important. According to Marla, questions to ask are  Is the supervisor i...
referrals. Interviewing prospective aides is also important. According to Marla, questions to ask are: Is the supervisor in close contact with his staff? What type of office management and progress notes are used? What type of people do they hire? What are the levels of training, education and certification of the health care aides? For independent living arrangements outside the home, there are retirement gated communities. Here, residents live in apartments, which usually have one or two bedrooms. On the premises, there are on-site medical services, opportunities for daily social interaction, including religious services and trips to go to the grocery store, pharmacy, and other social outings, says Marla. Meanwhile, assisted living facilities provide another option for independent living. In these facilities, your parent would live in a safe, secure, attractive, and environmentally-friendly private apartment or room within a larger complex. In such facilities, residents can usually furnish their living quarters with their own furniture and decorations, which can add a comforting element of home. Kitchenettes are often available to enable independent cooking and eating. Aides and staff at these facilities work toward maintaining the privacy of residents and encouraging an environment of autonomy and independence. Similar to the retirement gated communities, assisted living facilities also have their own basic on-site medical services, and options for communal dining and social activities. In these facilities, family visits are easy and common. Unlike retirement homes, assisted living facilities usually have units for those residents who need more support when they can no longer safely live independently. These units are in a smaller locked and secure environment, which offers a 24-hour on-site nursing staff to assist with a number of basic daily needs, such as toileting, dressing, eating, grooming, and medication management. According to Marla, moving your elderly parent into this type of unit is usually an easier transition “as it is housed in the same aesthetically familiar environment that the person was used to living in and with the same staff, dining room facility, and social opportunities, but at a much smaller scale and with people who are at the same cognitive level.” However, if your parent is in need of a higher level of round-the-clock long-term care, another option is a nursing home. Here, all of your parent’s needs will be met by the care center’s staff physicians, nurses, health care aides, dieticians, recreation therapists, social workers, etc. One can also pay for extra health services, if needed, or extra hours of private personal care on the side. Nursing homes offer single and double rooms as well as wards of three or four people in a room. Many people who choose this option usually spend the remainder of their lives in these facilities, which offer more restrictive environments. Before selecting a nursing home, Marla recommends first visiting the facility in person to meet with as many staff as possible. While there, speak with other families to ask their opinions. She also suggests preparing questions beforehand, such as: How often will you be allowed to visit your parent? What daily programs are offered and how does one access them? Are families able to participate in facility activities? How does the facility communicate with families? How accessible are the nurses 100 | fyimagazineny.com at the nursing stations? What are the facility’s security assurances, health and safety procedures, and fire and evacuation procedures? Will we be assigned to a social worker or a case manager? Additionally, be sure to get all price details, including any extra costs. Many facilities offer day visits and trial stays for the parent to see whether the facility is a right fit or to help him/her get used to it. There may also be an option of retaining your parent’s health care aide while at the facility, which may help him/her acclimate faster. Moving an elderly parent into an assisted living facility or nursing home is a tough decision for a child to make, especially if the parent erroneously believes that s/ he can take care of him or herself. As Szmulewicz cautions, “role reversal doesn’t happen overnight.” Therefore, the more decisions the elderly parent is able to make about his or her own future living arrangements, the better. But again, it all depends on the level of cognitive ability. This is why early and open communication with your parents about their future is important. Even in the best of circumstances, guilt surfaces- particularly if decisions have to be made under crisis situations. When this happens, Marla says that “one can only do the best they can with the tools they are given. Many times, it takes individuals a few weeks or months to get settled into a new institutional living environment. Love, patience, respect, and dignity can all assist with this move. Also listening to the parent’s concerns and resolving fears and anxiety will be crucial for successful transition." It is also vital that all siblings are on the same page when it comes to your parent’s best interests. “It’s not uncommon to have siblings argue about what’s best for their elderly parent,” says Szmulewicz. She explains that many facilities, including Boro Park Center, have social workers who meet with entire families on an ongoing basis. Depending on religion, members of clergy are also available for family members who need emotional or ethical guidance. According to Szmulewicz, family members of aging parents should take comfort in the amount of support and networking that exists specifically for them. “The elderly patient does not exist in a vacuum,” she says, adding that most elderly care facilities recognize there is a complicated familial system around the patient. Another way to ensure the smooth transition of an elderly parent into long-term care, whether an assisted living facility or a nursing home, is to maintain some level of family involvement with the placed parent. Szmulewicz says this can include regular visits by all family members and especially, getting the elderly parent to participate in family activities, milestones, and holidays. For instance, Shabbat dinners at Boro Park Center get quite a big turnout of visiting family members, according to Szmulewicz. Increased community and family involvement helps the elderly family members to still feel wanted. This stimulates their mental state and sustains their emotional well-being. “Remember that your parents gave you life, raised and educated you, and gave their lives over so that you can be where you are today… Try to involve them with some decision making powers and ask their opinions when you can,” says Marla. She adds that the more they feel like they are being treated independently and that their concerns are being addressed, the easier it will be for families to assist and guide their loved ones through the aging process with grace. fyi Including Grandparents in Your Chanukah Activities IF YOUR PARENTS/GRANDPARENTS ARE COGNITIVELY ALERT AND WELL, THEY CAN AND PARTICIPATE FULLY IN ALL YOUR CELEBRATIONS. n Utilize their expertise. If Bubby used to make the best latkes when the parties were in her home, make sure that she comes over earlier to make them. It’s a good idea to have all the ingredients out available and ready (pre-peel all potatoes and and even grate) to make it easier for her. n Grandparents love to help and need to feel needed. Utilize their help when deciding which decorations should go where, and they can assist with helping set the table. n Everyone can participate in chanukah games! Who doesn’t love a chanukah puzzle, quiz, art project or game? n Give them the attention, respect, and time they deserve. Ask and listen to them as they tell what Chanukah was like when they were growing up. IF YOUR PARENT’S/GRANDPARENTS ARE NOT AS COGNITIVELY ALERT: n An essential aspect is to orientate them to time and place in a respectful way. When they come in welcome them to your Chanukah party and tell them how glad and happy you are that they were able to make it. n There are plenty of things they can do to participate. They may not be able to do their entire latke recipe, but they can mix the ingredients with assistance if needed. 101 | fyimagazineny.com n If children are doing easier art projects, such as lacing objects see if they can also do it. n Speak out what the objects are around them, and what their purpose is. When they see the familiar shape of a menorah, dreidel, etc and you state how they are used there will be some sort of recognition. n Sing chanukah songs and encourage them to hum or sing along. n Setting the table may be too difficult but folding the napkins, or counting out the cutlery, will make them feel a part of the festivities. n The most important thing is to engage them. Each family member say their name and their place in the family (grandchild, daughter-in-law) and should say that they are so happy that they came. n Compliment them on their outfit, jewelry, or suit. Treat them as adults, speak to them with respect and dignity. n If the party is getting too late, let them go graciously when they need to leave.Thank them for coming and perhaps prepare a picture of all the grandchildren with the everyone’s names labelled so they can connect the name to the face. Marla Kurtz, CTRS is the President and CEO of Ray of Sunshine, a private practice, in home custom tailored one on one Therapeutic Recreation Intervention business in Canada for over eight years. Programs are available via skype, customized therapy boxes, consulting, caregiver and family education sessions. facebook:rayofsunshineelderlyserives
referrals. Interviewing prospective aides is also important. According to Marla, questions to ask are  Is the supervisor i...
CURE OR QUACKERY? medicine, defines itself as a technique for balancing the flow of energy or life force — known as qi or chi (CHEE) — believed to flow through pathways (meridians) in your body. ACUPUNCTURE is said to improve the body’s functions and support the natural self-healing process by triggering specific anatomic sites--commonly referred to as acupuncture points, or acupoints. This is done by inserting fine, sterile needles into the skin. A growing number of mainstream doctors and medical institutions are including the practice of acupuncture, particularly for treatment of pain and nausea. A 2013 review by Cancer Research UK found that acupuncture could reduce vomiting and nausea among patients receiving chemotherapy. There is a growing body of research exploring whether acupuncture can also be used to treat depression, sleep disturbances and drug addiction. Rafael Marinelli is a licensed acupuncturist serving clients in New York, New Jersey, and Rockland County for the last seven years. Marinelli was raised in a home with a strong natural consciousness. His mother is a midwife and his father is a martial arts instructor; himself trained with a third degree black belt, Marinelli was drawn to Chinese culture and the methods and procedures of Chinese medicine. He earned his Master’s degree in Oriental medicine, which included the study of acupuncture and Oriental herbal medicine. Marinelli explains: “Traditional Chinese medical practitioners listen to a complaint made by the patient and do a ‘pattern differentiation.’ What pattern does this patient fit into? What channels are affected that are bringing up these symptoms? What’s out of balance? Is it fluid? Heat? Every person’s body has its own individual roadmap. One an honest look into alternatıve medicine Rachel’s son Avi was crying yet again. Frustrated at the sight of his tear-stained face and the pudgy fingers pulling at his ear, Rachel picked up the phone and dialed a new number. She didn’t call her mother, her sister, or the local pediatrician. She called a Health Kinesiology Practitioner. T he Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Alternative Medicine as, “any of various systems of healing or treating disease (as homeopathy, chiropractic, naturopathy, Ayurveda, or faith healing) that are not included in the traditional curricula taught in medical schools of the United States and Britain.” Mention alternate medicine and you’re sure to get a strong response. Proponents of traditional medicine are distrustful, but are slowly and guardedly taking interest. Those for whom alternate methods have brought success are vociferous in its praise. Yet even expert practitioners of alternate modalities warn against the danger of unlicensed, self-proclaimed “experts.” The world of alternate medicine is as complex as the human body it endeavors to treat. According to a 2011 report from the Institute of Medicine, about 100 million American adults suffer from chronic pain—that means about 40% of all adults over 18. But often, there isn’t much that traditional medicine can do to help. This may be why so many chronic pain sufferers are 102 | fyimagazineny.com drawn to explore outside options. Chana R. knew all about pain. Middle-aged and pregnant with her fifth child, she was surprised and incapacitated at the sudden development of migraine headaches. Her pain was so intense that she actually needed hospitalization. Unwilling to take strong medications and desperate for help, she turned to acupuncture for relief. “It was amazing. It was the only way I survived! It took me through the pregnancy, and kept me pain-free until after the birth, when the headaches, thankfully, dissipated.” Acupuncture, a traditional Chinese 103 | fyimagazineny.com
CURE OR QUACKERY   medicine, defines itself as a technique for balancing the flow of energy or life force     known as qi ...
CURE OR QUACKERY? medicine, defines itself as a technique for balancing the flow of energy or life force — known as qi or chi (CHEE) — believed to flow through pathways (meridians) in your body. ACUPUNCTURE is said to improve the body’s functions and support the natural self-healing process by triggering specific anatomic sites--commonly referred to as acupuncture points, or acupoints. This is done by inserting fine, sterile needles into the skin. A growing number of mainstream doctors and medical institutions are including the practice of acupuncture, particularly for treatment of pain and nausea. A 2013 review by Cancer Research UK found that acupuncture could reduce vomiting and nausea among patients receiving chemotherapy. There is a growing body of research exploring whether acupuncture can also be used to treat depression, sleep disturbances and drug addiction. Rafael Marinelli is a licensed acupuncturist serving clients in New York, New Jersey, and Rockland County for the last seven years. Marinelli was raised in a home with a strong natural consciousness. His mother is a midwife and his father is a martial arts instructor; himself trained with a third degree black belt, Marinelli was drawn to Chinese culture and the methods and procedures of Chinese medicine. He earned his Master’s degree in Oriental medicine, which included the study of acupuncture and Oriental herbal medicine. Marinelli explains: “Traditional Chinese medical practitioners listen to a complaint made by the patient and do a ‘pattern differentiation.’ What pattern does this patient fit into? What channels are affected that are bringing up these symptoms? What’s out of balance? Is it fluid? Heat? Every person’s body has its own individual roadmap. One an honest look into alternatıve medicine Rachel’s son Avi was crying yet again. Frustrated at the sight of his tear-stained face and the pudgy fingers pulling at his ear, Rachel picked up the phone and dialed a new number. She didn’t call her mother, her sister, or the local pediatrician. She called a Health Kinesiology Practitioner. T he Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines Alternative Medicine as, “any of various systems of healing or treating disease (as homeopathy, chiropractic, naturopathy, Ayurveda, or faith healing) that are not included in the traditional curricula taught in medical schools of the United States and Britain.” Mention alternate medicine and you’re sure to get a strong response. Proponents of traditional medicine are distrustful, but are slowly and guardedly taking interest. Those for whom alternate methods have brought success are vociferous in its praise. Yet even expert practitioners of alternate modalities warn against the danger of unlicensed, self-proclaimed “experts.” The world of alternate medicine is as complex as the human body it endeavors to treat. According to a 2011 report from the Institute of Medicine, about 100 million American adults suffer from chronic pain—that means about 40% of all adults over 18. But often, there isn’t much that traditional medicine can do to help. This may be why so many chronic pain sufferers are 102 | fyimagazineny.com drawn to explore outside options. Chana R. knew all about pain. Middle-aged and pregnant with her fifth child, she was surprised and incapacitated at the sudden development of migraine headaches. Her pain was so intense that she actually needed hospitalization. Unwilling to take strong medications and desperate for help, she turned to acupuncture for relief. “It was amazing. It was the only way I survived! It took me through the pregnancy, and kept me pain-free until after the birth, when the headaches, thankfully, dissipated.” Acupuncture, a traditional Chinese 103 | fyimagazineny.com
CURE OR QUACKERY   medicine, defines itself as a technique for balancing the flow of energy or life force     known as qi ...
"NOT ALL ALTERNATIVE MEDICINES ARE CREATED EQUAL." CREDIT TO GO IN THERE body will handle a virus or bacteria in a completely different way from another. The emotional and physical are linked in different ways in all of us. The licensed acupuncturist’s main goal is to get to the bottom of the symptom. There is no blanket treatment. No specified protocol like in traditional medicine. In acupuncture, the practitioner doesn’t look to cure; he looks to treat. To help the body help itself.” In one instance, Marinelli recounts an out-of-the-ordinary and remarkable recovery made by one of his patients, a small child suffering from inner ear problems. “His mother didn’t want to put him through surgery and asked me to treat him. Honestly, I was skeptical. But I trusted my training and intuition. I treated the child with acupuncture and herbs. We started seeing slow improvement and, after six months, the child’s condition cleared completely. It was an unusually successful case.” Generally, patients see improvement in about a month – some with more success, some less. Everyone’s body is different. “But be careful,” Martinelli warns, “not all alternative medicines are created equal. Chinese medicine is about 2000 years old. It’s got a ‘mesorah,’ so to speak. Some therapies are hundreds of years old, but some are very new. Do your research and make sure that the practitioner you choose is licensed. In acupuncture especially, an unlicensed practitioner can do harm.” JIN SHIN JYUTSU Are you respectful of Oriental medicine, but the thought of long, thin needles doesn’t appeal to you? Jin Shin Jyutsu (pronounced Shee-at-tzu), another method of Oriental healing, shares some basic concepts with acupuncture. Jin Shin Jyutsu works with a set of 26 points 104 | fyimagazineny.com called Safety Energy Locks, or SELs, that run along energy pathways. When a pathway becomes blocked, energy stagnates. This not only affects the local area, but has the potential to create imbalance along the entire pathway. The 26 Energy Locks are the locations on the body where energy tends to become stuck. A Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner uses both hands to hold a combination of SELs. As the SELs release, balance is restored. For over two decades, Rebecca Rosenbaum has been practicing Jin Shin Jyutsu from her home in Woodmere, New York, treating clients suffering from a variety of ailments such as injuries, allergies and illnesses. Rebecca says, “Jin Shin Jyutsu is an ancient art that focuses on the blockage of energy and restoring harmony. Pain and illness are signs of blockage. G-d created us with perfect bodies and the tools to address them. An apt analogy to understand Jin Shin Jyutsu is comparing it to water. When water flows clearly and freely everything is in sync. But what happens when the flow is restricted? The water pools and eventually stagnates. It draws all kinds of impurities. We have rivers of energy running through our bodies and if the energy flow is stopped, we have to work to alleviate the impasse, to clean up all the garbage, and let the body do what it’s supposed to do.” Rebecca was introduced to alternative medicine when she was looking to cure her own health problems. “I was always a very curious person. I was doing pre-med and I used to read medical books for fun! You could say that I worshipped at the altar of science! Then I ran into a health problem of my own. I was disappointed that all the doctors could provide were drugs; and that these drugs were harsh and often hurtful. My father recommended that I go to a chiropractor, and out of respect for him, I gave it a try. The first question the chiropractor asked was, ‘What do you eat?’ It was a real awakening for me. I thought I was eating well. But it seemed that what I was eating, though all healthful foods, were particularly bad for me. My journey to good health introduced me to the world of alternate medicine.” When a patient comes in for a consultation, Rebecca will see how s/he presents. She will feel for pulses and organ flows, and utilize her experience and intuition to get to the root of the patient’s problem. Sometimes, as in the case of an injury, one or two visits will help the patient recover. Sometimes a patient will have something that has been brewing inside for a long time, and he may need to be seen for longer. “Obviously, only G-d cures. Some things we can control and some things we can’t. Jin Shin Jyutsu is a method that can be used to strengthen someone –for example, someone with a compromised immune system or someone suffering from the effects of chemo. It can’t always reverse a condition, but many times it can. How powerful a tool it is depends on each individual, but at the very least, it is not a method that can cause any harm.” Rebecca’s first successful case was her own daughter, who was diagnosed with Lupus when she was a child. Rebecca was visiting a friend in a different city and was introduced to her neighbor, a Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner. She offered to treat Rebecca’s daughter, and the relief it afforded was so great and so immediate, Rebecca started learning the methods herself. Over the years, to the astonishment of her medical providers, Rebecca’s daughter’s condition completely reversed 105 | fyimagazineny.com itself. That recovery led Rebecca to carve out a new career, helping others as she had helped her daughter. Though her journey was winding, Rebecca’s take-away says it all: “The important thing to remember is that as long as there is life, the world is full of possibilities. You have to leave yourself open to these possibilities and to know that things can be different. Things can change.” KINESIOLOGY Change is a primary goal for Mindy Ciment. Mindy has been working as a Health Kinesiology practitioner for the past fifteen years. Kinesiology is the study of the mechanics of body movements. It is non-invasive, using muscle feedback and body awareness that can help reduce stress and pain, and improve performance at school, work, and sports. By testing a muscle’s strength, a practitioner can identify imbalances in the body and determine what the body’s healing needs are. Mindy works with families to treat various ailments, including reflux, women’s health issues, anxiety and malaise. “Kinesiology is very short and to the point. I ask questions and my hands become a mouth to the brain. I test the muscles, and when there is a weakness, it will help me define the source of the problem.” Over the last several years, children’s health issues have become more rampant. “I often see young children whose symptoms include lack of concentration and behavioral issues. They aren’t thriving and complain of general malaise. A doctor may give a blanket diagnosis and remedy – reflux, food intolerance, and so on. Certainly this might help the child. But I look deeper and test further. I may find that the issue is in the small intestine and that the child may
 NOT ALL ALTERNATIVE MEDICINES ARE CREATED EQUAL.   CREDIT TO GO IN THERE  body will handle a virus or bacteria in a compl...
"NOT ALL ALTERNATIVE MEDICINES ARE CREATED EQUAL." CREDIT TO GO IN THERE body will handle a virus or bacteria in a completely different way from another. The emotional and physical are linked in different ways in all of us. The licensed acupuncturist’s main goal is to get to the bottom of the symptom. There is no blanket treatment. No specified protocol like in traditional medicine. In acupuncture, the practitioner doesn’t look to cure; he looks to treat. To help the body help itself.” In one instance, Marinelli recounts an out-of-the-ordinary and remarkable recovery made by one of his patients, a small child suffering from inner ear problems. “His mother didn’t want to put him through surgery and asked me to treat him. Honestly, I was skeptical. But I trusted my training and intuition. I treated the child with acupuncture and herbs. We started seeing slow improvement and, after six months, the child’s condition cleared completely. It was an unusually successful case.” Generally, patients see improvement in about a month – some with more success, some less. Everyone’s body is different. “But be careful,” Martinelli warns, “not all alternative medicines are created equal. Chinese medicine is about 2000 years old. It’s got a ‘mesorah,’ so to speak. Some therapies are hundreds of years old, but some are very new. Do your research and make sure that the practitioner you choose is licensed. In acupuncture especially, an unlicensed practitioner can do harm.” JIN SHIN JYUTSU Are you respectful of Oriental medicine, but the thought of long, thin needles doesn’t appeal to you? Jin Shin Jyutsu (pronounced Shee-at-tzu), another method of Oriental healing, shares some basic concepts with acupuncture. Jin Shin Jyutsu works with a set of 26 points 104 | fyimagazineny.com called Safety Energy Locks, or SELs, that run along energy pathways. When a pathway becomes blocked, energy stagnates. This not only affects the local area, but has the potential to create imbalance along the entire pathway. The 26 Energy Locks are the locations on the body where energy tends to become stuck. A Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner uses both hands to hold a combination of SELs. As the SELs release, balance is restored. For over two decades, Rebecca Rosenbaum has been practicing Jin Shin Jyutsu from her home in Woodmere, New York, treating clients suffering from a variety of ailments such as injuries, allergies and illnesses. Rebecca says, “Jin Shin Jyutsu is an ancient art that focuses on the blockage of energy and restoring harmony. Pain and illness are signs of blockage. G-d created us with perfect bodies and the tools to address them. An apt analogy to understand Jin Shin Jyutsu is comparing it to water. When water flows clearly and freely everything is in sync. But what happens when the flow is restricted? The water pools and eventually stagnates. It draws all kinds of impurities. We have rivers of energy running through our bodies and if the energy flow is stopped, we have to work to alleviate the impasse, to clean up all the garbage, and let the body do what it’s supposed to do.” Rebecca was introduced to alternative medicine when she was looking to cure her own health problems. “I was always a very curious person. I was doing pre-med and I used to read medical books for fun! You could say that I worshipped at the altar of science! Then I ran into a health problem of my own. I was disappointed that all the doctors could provide were drugs; and that these drugs were harsh and often hurtful. My father recommended that I go to a chiropractor, and out of respect for him, I gave it a try. The first question the chiropractor asked was, ‘What do you eat?’ It was a real awakening for me. I thought I was eating well. But it seemed that what I was eating, though all healthful foods, were particularly bad for me. My journey to good health introduced me to the world of alternate medicine.” When a patient comes in for a consultation, Rebecca will see how s/he presents. She will feel for pulses and organ flows, and utilize her experience and intuition to get to the root of the patient’s problem. Sometimes, as in the case of an injury, one or two visits will help the patient recover. Sometimes a patient will have something that has been brewing inside for a long time, and he may need to be seen for longer. “Obviously, only G-d cures. Some things we can control and some things we can’t. Jin Shin Jyutsu is a method that can be used to strengthen someone –for example, someone with a compromised immune system or someone suffering from the effects of chemo. It can’t always reverse a condition, but many times it can. How powerful a tool it is depends on each individual, but at the very least, it is not a method that can cause any harm.” Rebecca’s first successful case was her own daughter, who was diagnosed with Lupus when she was a child. Rebecca was visiting a friend in a different city and was introduced to her neighbor, a Jin Shin Jyutsu practitioner. She offered to treat Rebecca’s daughter, and the relief it afforded was so great and so immediate, Rebecca started learning the methods herself. Over the years, to the astonishment of her medical providers, Rebecca’s daughter’s condition completely reversed 105 | fyimagazineny.com itself. That recovery led Rebecca to carve out a new career, helping others as she had helped her daughter. Though her journey was winding, Rebecca’s take-away says it all: “The important thing to remember is that as long as there is life, the world is full of possibilities. You have to leave yourself open to these possibilities and to know that things can be different. Things can change.” KINESIOLOGY Change is a primary goal for Mindy Ciment. Mindy has been working as a Health Kinesiology practitioner for the past fifteen years. Kinesiology is the study of the mechanics of body movements. It is non-invasive, using muscle feedback and body awareness that can help reduce stress and pain, and improve performance at school, work, and sports. By testing a muscle’s strength, a practitioner can identify imbalances in the body and determine what the body’s healing needs are. Mindy works with families to treat various ailments, including reflux, women’s health issues, anxiety and malaise. “Kinesiology is very short and to the point. I ask questions and my hands become a mouth to the brain. I test the muscles, and when there is a weakness, it will help me define the source of the problem.” Over the last several years, children’s health issues have become more rampant. “I often see young children whose symptoms include lack of concentration and behavioral issues. They aren’t thriving and complain of general malaise. A doctor may give a blanket diagnosis and remedy – reflux, food intolerance, and so on. Certainly this might help the child. But I look deeper and test further. I may find that the issue is in the small intestine and that the child may
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also benefit from staying away from certain foods. Or perhaps Lyme disease or strep has been in the system for a long time and it’s manifesting itself slowly and quietly.” “In kinesiology the physical and emotional are often intertwined. I once had a patient who was experiencing terrible stomach pain. The doctors couldn’t find the source of the pain and the patient was suffering. It turned out that when she was a child, she was the oldest in the family and her mother relied heavily on her help. She ran the house while her mother devoted herself to her work. The only time she was nurtured by her mother was when she complained of a stomach ache. Now as an adult, the source of her illness was emotional but her symptoms were real and physical. I tested her and got to the root of the problem – she never made the connection. Her brain was telling her body what to do - without her being aware of it.” CHIROPRACTIC Kinesiology is often practiced in combination with other therapeutic practices. Dr. Jason Horowitz, practicing at Forster Chiropractic, uses a blend of Chiropractic and Kinesiology to help relieve his patients of multiple ailments. Chiropractic is a form of alternative medicine, whose practitioners focus on diagnosis and treatment of mechanical disorders of the musculoskeletal system (especially the spine), believing that these disorders affect one’s overall health. On a typical day, Dr. Horowitz may treat back and neck pain, as well as stomach aches, digestive issues, coughs, colds and, infections. Dr. Horowitz often sees parents who are tired of relying on antibiotics for frequent childhood illnesses and are looking for alternatives. He encounters many problems rooted in digestion. “I would say that 75 to 80 percent of the ailments eventually connect to Through chiropractic, kinesiology, and herbal medicine, we try to treat the source of a health issue and provide a remedy that will help support the whole system. the gut. This isn’t a surprise considering all the processed foods that we eat.” Standard chiropractic treatment handles pain and compromised movement. When the spine is adjusted, motion and movement are improved, and the rest of the body is affected favorably as well. “In traditional medicine, the doctor looks for symptoms and then treats those symptoms,” Dr. Horowitz explains. “We look for the weaknesses; they lead us to the source of the symptoms. Through chiropractic, kinesiology, and herbal medicine, we try to treat the source of a health issue and provide a remedy that will help support the whole system. My advice to anyone experiencing pain is that you should be aware of what alternative therapies can do for you. One should always turn to the most conservative source first. Before resorting to surgery, other methods should be explored. I’d like to raise awareness that there are practitioners, like myself, out there doing good work and offering a helpful and legitimate skill. If I can’t help a patient, I‘ll refer him out to be seen in a more traditional setting. But too often, I’ll get a patient who could have come to me sooner and avoided unnecessary surgery. At Forster Chiropractic, we are a part of the integrated healthcare system and, though we know the limitations of our practice, it would be better all-around if we could join the process earlier in the game.” U ltimately, when experiencing a health issue, we all want the same thing – relief and continued well-being. Whatever source you choose to achieve that goal, make sure to do your homework, consult licensed practitioners, and send up a heartfelt prayer to the only real Practitioner. fyi 106 | fyimagazineny.com
also benefit from staying away from certain foods. Or perhaps Lyme disease or strep has been in the system for a long time...
also benefit from staying away from certain foods. Or perhaps Lyme disease or strep has been in the system for a long time and it’s manifesting itself slowly and quietly.” “In kinesiology the physical and emotional are often intertwined. I once had a patient who was experiencing terrible stomach pain. The doctors couldn’t find the source of the pain and the patient was suffering. It turned out that when she was a child, she was the oldest in the family and her mother relied heavily on her help. She ran the house while her mother devoted herself to her work. The only time she was nurtured by her mother was when she complained of a stomach ache. Now as an adult, the source of her illness was emotional but her symptoms were real and physical. I tested her and got to the root of the problem – she never made the connection. Her brain was telling her body what to do - without her being aware of it.” CHIROPRACTIC Kinesiology is often practiced in combination with other therapeutic practices. Dr. Jason Horowitz, practicing at Forster Chiropractic, uses a blend of Chiropractic and Kinesiology to help relieve his patients of multiple ailments. Chiropractic is a form of alternative medicine, whose practitioners focus on diagnosis and treatment of mechanical disorders of the musculoskeletal system (especially the spine), believing that these disorders affect one’s overall health. On a typical day, Dr. Horowitz may treat back and neck pain, as well as stomach aches, digestive issues, coughs, colds and, infections. Dr. Horowitz often sees parents who are tired of relying on antibiotics for frequent childhood illnesses and are looking for alternatives. He encounters many problems rooted in digestion. “I would say that 75 to 80 percent of the ailments eventually connect to Through chiropractic, kinesiology, and herbal medicine, we try to treat the source of a health issue and provide a remedy that will help support the whole system. the gut. This isn’t a surprise considering all the processed foods that we eat.” Standard chiropractic treatment handles pain and compromised movement. When the spine is adjusted, motion and movement are improved, and the rest of the body is affected favorably as well. “In traditional medicine, the doctor looks for symptoms and then treats those symptoms,” Dr. Horowitz explains. “We look for the weaknesses; they lead us to the source of the symptoms. Through chiropractic, kinesiology, and herbal medicine, we try to treat the source of a health issue and provide a remedy that will help support the whole system. My advice to anyone experiencing pain is that you should be aware of what alternative therapies can do for you. One should always turn to the most conservative source first. Before resorting to surgery, other methods should be explored. I’d like to raise awareness that there are practitioners, like myself, out there doing good work and offering a helpful and legitimate skill. If I can’t help a patient, I‘ll refer him out to be seen in a more traditional setting. But too often, I’ll get a patient who could have come to me sooner and avoided unnecessary surgery. At Forster Chiropractic, we are a part of the integrated healthcare system and, though we know the limitations of our practice, it would be better all-around if we could join the process earlier in the game.” U ltimately, when experiencing a health issue, we all want the same thing – relief and continued well-being. Whatever source you choose to achieve that goal, make sure to do your homework, consult licensed practitioners, and send up a heartfelt prayer to the only real Practitioner. fyi 106 | fyimagazineny.com
also benefit from staying away from certain foods. Or perhaps Lyme disease or strep has been in the system for a long time...
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Alluring, invigorating and refreshing. This cheerful collection of teas blends the coolness of Moroccan Nana    leaves wit...