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BATH ILE BATH BATH BATH BATH EDITOR Yitty Denciger ART & MARKETING Tzivia Cohen sandbox-marketing.com COPY EDITOR Lieba Bard-Wigdor FOOD PHOTOGRAPHY KITCHEN KITCHEN KITCHEN KITCHEN KITCHEN KITCHEN Shevy Gross shevygphotography@gmail.com @shevygphotography MANAGING EDITOR Darlene Fedele ADVERTISING Sari Reiss PHONE: 718.412.2442 WEBSITE: www.fyimagazineny.com TILE TILE TILE TILE TILE es together.Were homehome comes together. Were your homecomes Were your homeyourhomecomes together. Were comes comes Were your yourtogether. together. I N -H T U S E I N T E R I R R D S S I G NRE R I GA A P I N I M P P E N T Y O U S E II N ITN I-RNI NORUSD -EH NNUNEEERRIO OTREERPIIPGONIGDTEM YBNYYPEAROP O T N T M O NN T M E N T M N PPPO NTMT I T BY A ENE I E HOH I S S E I T T T E I IN Y A E S S G N B E H A P P O N T N -EH- OUONEE ISIOGN S R O O RD DD EOI R E NEERREBBYT A P P O II N T M E N T U I ERI B I N S 5 3 .U T R E0CN E W5VUTU RTILE.CTH8E8VV3NNAEEE 71188.E 85. 3 23. 2 0 4 6 4 6 2 5 4 6 2 5 KITCHEN. BATH. BATH. 4 E W U N UR EU TAAA H T U 7 7 1 8 .8 5 3 08 5 0 3 2 0 0 E WC HH T .V V E .BATH. 7 6 8 N T W UET T E C H1RTAC5E N U V 0 848 2 551 ..3 2 0 0 . 4 6 2 5 TILE. E E N U0 0 W 3 2 0 N6 2AWNTRR EEC 7KITCHEN.EU3E2E 1 N.U .5 37 3 .83TILE.3KITCHEN. BATH.KITCHEN. BATH. HE E N 200 25 TILE. KITCHEN.BATH. TILE. BATH. TILE. TILE. KITCHEN.KITCHEN. E-MAIL: ads@fyimagazineny.com AD DEADLINES September Issue: August 27 ied y satisf r man Join ou s e town n fiv y Brookl! and ers custom Published by FYI Magazine. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part in any form without prior written permission from the publisher is prohibited. The publisher reserves the right to edit all articles for clarity, space and editorial sensitivities. FYI Magazine assumes no responsibility for the content of artlices or advertisements in the publication, nor for the connect of books that are referred to or excerpted herein. icon DECORATIVE HARDWARE AND PLUMBING SUPPLY 844-534-icon (4266) | 205 CEDAR BRIDGE AVENUE | LAKEWOOD, NJ SALES@ICONPLUMBING.COM | WWW.ICONPLUMBING.COM
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contents august 2015 SUKKAH NOW on the cover 22 | FASHION ACCESSORY MUST- HAVES UNDER $50 24 | 10 FOODS THAT MAKE YOU LOOK YOUNGER 60 | HOW TO REVAMP YOUR BASEMENT 80 | 6 HABITS OF HIGHLY PRODUCTIVE PEOPLE 81 | OUR BEST ONE-POT DINNERS 93 | DIET VS. EXERCISE: WHICH WORKS BETTER? 60 just ask get a handle on it 30 | LIFE LESSONS 52 | POSITIVE PARENTING Coping with Loss 32 | YOUR VOICE What kind of messages are you giving your children? What would you never allow your children to do in your home? 60 | RENOVATION REHAB 37 | QUICKFIX 64 | DIY Simple & Chic The Wine Bottle Vase Your Homemaking Problems Solved in your business 76 | OLD MONEY Ancient Businesses that Still Exist 80 | LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE 56 6 Habits of Highly Productive People sharpen your appetite 82 | CHILLI SQUASH 83 | CHICKEN CHORIZO PAELLA Back To school Safety Tips 84 | BRAISED CHICKEN 43 | BEAUTY BITS Legitimate Long Lasting Lipstick 12 | SAFETY SMARTS 85 | BEEF SLIDERS 48 | TAKE A BREAK Plan The Best Staycation Yet 17 | TRIED AND TESTED How well are you really cleaning your face? 22 | FASHION FORWARD Accessories Under $50 At Sukkah Depot, we’ve created a magnificent lineup of sturdy, long-lasting, configurable Sukkahs featuring high-end designs and super-low prices. But that’s not all. Here are 3 more great reasons to call the experts at Sukkah Depot today: Revamp Your Basement fall in love with life you gotta know 3 Reasons to buy a features 90 | SARNO’S METHOD REVISITED Real Life Stories 93 | DIET DEBATES Diet Vs. Exercise- which works better? 1 FREE EVALUATION We’ll visit your home, measure the backyard, and tell you which size Sukkah works best! 2 FREE SCHACH Order now and get a free roll of Schach with your purchase... that’s a $125 value, free! 3 FREE DELIVERY Don’t bother schlepping your Sukkah - our expert delivery crew will bring it right to your home! 96 | THE BIG CLOSET MAKEOVER Create Your Dream Closet 1.855.SUKKAH-1 // WWW.SUKKAHDEPOT.COM 3 4 7. 8 7 1 .1 4 9 1 E M A I L : 43 S U K K A H 2 0 1 5 @ G M A I L . C O M This offer expires on August 27, 2015. Must be delivered by September 10, 2015.
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contents august 2015 SUKKAH NOW on the cover 22 | FASHION ACCESSORY MUST- HAVES UNDER $50 24 | 10 FOODS THAT MAKE YOU LOOK YOUNGER 60 | HOW TO REVAMP YOUR BASEMENT 80 | 6 HABITS OF HIGHLY PRODUCTIVE PEOPLE 81 | OUR BEST ONE-POT DINNERS 93 | DIET VS. EXERCISE: WHICH WORKS BETTER? 60 just ask get a handle on it 30 | LIFE LESSONS 52 | POSITIVE PARENTING Coping with Loss 32 | YOUR VOICE What kind of messages are you giving your children? What would you never allow your children to do in your home? 60 | RENOVATION REHAB 37 | QUICKFIX 64 | DIY Simple & Chic The Wine Bottle Vase Your Homemaking Problems Solved in your business 76 | OLD MONEY Ancient Businesses that Still Exist 80 | LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE 56 6 Habits of Highly Productive People sharpen your appetite 82 | CHILLI SQUASH 83 | CHICKEN CHORIZO PAELLA Back To school Safety Tips 84 | BRAISED CHICKEN 43 | BEAUTY BITS Legitimate Long Lasting Lipstick 12 | SAFETY SMARTS 85 | BEEF SLIDERS 48 | TAKE A BREAK Plan The Best Staycation Yet 17 | TRIED AND TESTED How well are you really cleaning your face? 22 | FASHION FORWARD Accessories Under $50 At Sukkah Depot, we’ve created a magnificent lineup of sturdy, long-lasting, configurable Sukkahs featuring high-end designs and super-low prices. But that’s not all. Here are 3 more great reasons to call the experts at Sukkah Depot today: Revamp Your Basement fall in love with life you gotta know 3 Reasons to buy a features 90 | SARNO’S METHOD REVISITED Real Life Stories 93 | DIET DEBATES Diet Vs. Exercise- which works better? 1 FREE EVALUATION We’ll visit your home, measure the backyard, and tell you which size Sukkah works best! 2 FREE SCHACH Order now and get a free roll of Schach with your purchase... that’s a $125 value, free! 3 FREE DELIVERY Don’t bother schlepping your Sukkah - our expert delivery crew will bring it right to your home! 96 | THE BIG CLOSET MAKEOVER Create Your Dream Closet 1.855.SUKKAH-1 // WWW.SUKKAHDEPOT.COM 3 4 7. 8 7 1 .1 4 9 1 E M A I L : 43 S U K K A H 2 0 1 5 @ G M A I L . C O M This offer expires on August 27, 2015. Must be delivered by September 10, 2015.
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2015 update going on now editor’s note I must confess. My closet has been in quite a disarray for some time now. It’s just one of those things that I never get to. After reading Reva Lieberman’s article, “The Big Closet Makeover,” I was inspired. Four garbage bags later, my closet is looking brand-spanking new. It’s actually made a big difference in my day-to-day life and I’m happy I finally did it! Even if your closets are organized, there are many helpful tips in the article that may help keep them so. On another note, Dr. Simai wrote important back-to-school safety tips for our readers to keep in mind this season and throughout the school year. Wait? Did we just say back-to-school? You better believe it! Some of you may be letting out a sigh of relief knowing that school is almost here. For some, the sigh may be anxiety-ridden. Every new school year brings new challenges. We get that- we’re moms too. “Five Tips to Eliminate Back To School Anxiety” is your must-read if you belong to the latter group. Being that summer is almost over, some of you may still be longing for that vacation you haven’t had. Well, it’s not too late! Plan a staycation. We give you all the tips and information you need to make it your best one yet. You will probably have many more barbeques before summer is over. Leah Berg gives us a guide to a healthy BBQ and how to make it more nutritious. Speaking of food, in this issue we bring you one-pot dinners from the best in the industry. I actually made some of the recipes myself and can attest to their deliciousness. An old-time debate which we discuss in this issue is “Diet Vs Exercise, Which Works Better?” It seems that there are many varying opinions. I, for one, cannot get myself to work out and would much rather go on a strict diet. Either way, it’s definitely a must-read. One of my favorite articles in this issue is the fashion accessories for under $50! Ladies, did I mention that we got you covered? From long-lasting lipstick, the best facial brush cleansers, basement revamps, to the latest trends - you name it, we got it. Thanks again for taking the time to email your feedback. It means a lot to us and we look forward to hearing more from our readers. Enjoy the rest of your summertake it all in, planned a group night out. Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE Is your business listed? : yitty suggests Call smart list today to register your business on the app letters to the editor "Simple and chic, these will enhance your next event or accent your home." p. 64 "This bag is so convenient, it's a must-have. You can fit so many things in; it can literally act as a diaper bag." p. 22 I have to take a minute to sit down and thank you! I just picked up your magazine today for the first time and I'm loving it. I couldn't put it down! Thank you. Cindy Shine "The safety of your child will not be a concern with this nifty gadget. Another musthave on my list." p. 55 "I bought this book when my daughter first started going to school two years ago. It's something we still read often to help us get through the dayto-day goodbyes." p. 27 I would like to thank you for having this important article with the information about Dr. Sarno’s method. When I was I was only 16, I began to experience back pain. It was hard for me to get out of bed in the morning; it was hard for me to walk. I was in terrible pain. My parents took me to doctors and they said that I needed surgery. One doctor, however, told me that instead of surgery, I should try the Sarno method. At first, I didn’t heed his advice. But a while later I did pick up the book and after three weeks, I was running and able to enjoy life. R. M. Shain available for five towns boro park I bought the magazine for my wife today at Kosher West. ‎ ust wanted J to tell you how well done it is and what great content you have. Good luck with it! B.Z., Lakewood, NJ flatbush I live in Atlanta but travel with my husband to NYC twice a year. I picked up your magazine and think it is wonderful. The articles are informative, wellresearched and wellwritten. Using your article on summer makeup, I had a fun time shopping for new products! R.G. chicago I just picked up your magazine in Mountain Foods in Monticello. It’s the first time that I saw your magazine and when flipping through, I knew I would just love it. I was so excited to see that Miriam Manela wrote an article. I hope you have more articles from her in the future. She is a great OT and also great at parenting. Malkie Kahn gateshead monsey williamsburg lakewood montreal POST YOUR BUSINESS BANNER AD IN THIS SPOT ON SMARTLIST. BE SEEN BY 1000s OF SHOPPERS DAILY. kiryas yoel staten island 5 Towns Far-Rockaway bergen county seagate cleveland melbourne, australia England: golders green manchester stamford hill & more! israel & europe coming soon! Text the word SMART to 99629 for an automatic link phone 732.730.5330 www.smartlistlocal.com email banners@lionscribe.com web
2015 update going on now  editor   s note  I  must confess. My closet has been in quite a disarray for some time now. It  ...
2015 update going on now editor’s note I must confess. My closet has been in quite a disarray for some time now. It’s just one of those things that I never get to. After reading Reva Lieberman’s article, “The Big Closet Makeover,” I was inspired. Four garbage bags later, my closet is looking brand-spanking new. It’s actually made a big difference in my day-to-day life and I’m happy I finally did it! Even if your closets are organized, there are many helpful tips in the article that may help keep them so. On another note, Dr. Simai wrote important back-to-school safety tips for our readers to keep in mind this season and throughout the school year. Wait? Did we just say back-to-school? You better believe it! Some of you may be letting out a sigh of relief knowing that school is almost here. For some, the sigh may be anxiety-ridden. Every new school year brings new challenges. We get that- we’re moms too. “Five Tips to Eliminate Back To School Anxiety” is your must-read if you belong to the latter group. Being that summer is almost over, some of you may still be longing for that vacation you haven’t had. Well, it’s not too late! Plan a staycation. We give you all the tips and information you need to make it your best one yet. You will probably have many more barbeques before summer is over. Leah Berg gives us a guide to a healthy BBQ and how to make it more nutritious. Speaking of food, in this issue we bring you one-pot dinners from the best in the industry. I actually made some of the recipes myself and can attest to their deliciousness. An old-time debate which we discuss in this issue is “Diet Vs Exercise, Which Works Better?” It seems that there are many varying opinions. I, for one, cannot get myself to work out and would much rather go on a strict diet. Either way, it’s definitely a must-read. One of my favorite articles in this issue is the fashion accessories for under $50! Ladies, did I mention that we got you covered? From long-lasting lipstick, the best facial brush cleansers, basement revamps, to the latest trends - you name it, we got it. Thanks again for taking the time to email your feedback. It means a lot to us and we look forward to hearing more from our readers. Enjoy the rest of your summertake it all in, planned a group night out. Yitty Denciger editor@fyimagazineny.com FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK! @FYIMAGAZINE Is your business listed? : yitty suggests Call smart list today to register your business on the app letters to the editor "Simple and chic, these will enhance your next event or accent your home." p. 64 "This bag is so convenient, it's a must-have. You can fit so many things in; it can literally act as a diaper bag." p. 22 I have to take a minute to sit down and thank you! I just picked up your magazine today for the first time and I'm loving it. I couldn't put it down! Thank you. Cindy Shine "The safety of your child will not be a concern with this nifty gadget. Another musthave on my list." p. 55 "I bought this book when my daughter first started going to school two years ago. It's something we still read often to help us get through the dayto-day goodbyes." p. 27 I would like to thank you for having this important article with the information about Dr. Sarno’s method. When I was I was only 16, I began to experience back pain. It was hard for me to get out of bed in the morning; it was hard for me to walk. I was in terrible pain. My parents took me to doctors and they said that I needed surgery. One doctor, however, told me that instead of surgery, I should try the Sarno method. At first, I didn’t heed his advice. But a while later I did pick up the book and after three weeks, I was running and able to enjoy life. R. M. Shain available for five towns boro park I bought the magazine for my wife today at Kosher West. ‎ ust wanted J to tell you how well done it is and what great content you have. Good luck with it! B.Z., Lakewood, NJ flatbush I live in Atlanta but travel with my husband to NYC twice a year. I picked up your magazine and think it is wonderful. The articles are informative, wellresearched and wellwritten. Using your article on summer makeup, I had a fun time shopping for new products! R.G. chicago I just picked up your magazine in Mountain Foods in Monticello. It’s the first time that I saw your magazine and when flipping through, I knew I would just love it. I was so excited to see that Miriam Manela wrote an article. I hope you have more articles from her in the future. She is a great OT and also great at parenting. Malkie Kahn gateshead monsey williamsburg lakewood montreal POST YOUR BUSINESS BANNER AD IN THIS SPOT ON SMARTLIST. BE SEEN BY 1000s OF SHOPPERS DAILY. kiryas yoel staten island 5 Towns Far-Rockaway bergen county seagate cleveland melbourne, australia England: golders green manchester stamford hill & more! israel & europe coming soon! Text the word SMART to 99629 for an automatic link phone 732.730.5330 www.smartlistlocal.com email banners@lionscribe.com web
2015 update going on now  editor   s note  I  must confess. My closet has been in quite a disarray for some time now. It  ...
featured contributors Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS LEAH BERG MATTIE WISEMAN SARA ANSBACHER Nutritionist Writer The most organized part of my life is...my closets! I love opening clean, neat, organized closets each morning to get dressed!. The most organized part of my life is…my pantry. I get a weird pleasure from putting everything in its rightful place and container. The rest of the house is another story entirely. Writer The most organized part of my life is...my bookshelves. The books are in line with the edge of the shelf and arranged in order of height. The most disorganized part is…my cookbook! I have such a hard time finding the recipe that I’m looking for each time I open my cookbook! My favorite accessory is…my Eclipse Fit Clip MP3 player! It's tiny, weighs nothing and clips onto my sleeve and it helps me get through my morning run! I wish I would do more of...baking! I love baking: cookies, cakes, desserts, etc! I just wish I had more time to fit it into my schedule! The most disorganized part is...my purse- it’s a little scary. Please don’t look in there. My favorite accessory is…a polished ruby necklace I inherited from my grandmother. It’s so elegant and vintage and it makes me feel like I’m carrying a piece of her everywhere. I wish I would do more of...Davening, if we’re being honest. It makes me miss the schedule of school. The most disorganized part is.….my home office and desk. I dislike having lots of paper around and I’m constantly on a quest to scan it all and go paper-free. My favorite accessory is...my Samsung Galaxy Note 10.1 tablet which I use a lot for writing. I especially like that I can hand write on it with the stylus pen. Quality you can feel. MELINDA STRAUSS Recipe Developer/ Food Blogger The most organized part of my life is...My pantry! The most disorganized part of my life is... the linen closet. OY! Someone come clean it up for me. My favorite accessory is...my pistachio necklace that I wish I wore more often. I love pistachios! Prices you can afford. I wish I would do more of...turning off my phone and computer when I’m with my husband and kids. I wish I would do more of...traveling with my family to show the world to my children. Available at your local hosiery store Distributed by Emby Hosiery Corp. 1-800-287-6916
featured contributors Q A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH   S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS  LEAH BERG  MATTIE WISEMAN  SARA ANSBACHER  Nu...
featured contributors Q&A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH’S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS LEAH BERG MATTIE WISEMAN SARA ANSBACHER Nutritionist Writer The most organized part of my life is...my closets! I love opening clean, neat, organized closets each morning to get dressed!. The most organized part of my life is…my pantry. I get a weird pleasure from putting everything in its rightful place and container. The rest of the house is another story entirely. Writer The most organized part of my life is...my bookshelves. The books are in line with the edge of the shelf and arranged in order of height. The most disorganized part is…my cookbook! I have such a hard time finding the recipe that I’m looking for each time I open my cookbook! My favorite accessory is…my Eclipse Fit Clip MP3 player! It's tiny, weighs nothing and clips onto my sleeve and it helps me get through my morning run! I wish I would do more of...baking! I love baking: cookies, cakes, desserts, etc! I just wish I had more time to fit it into my schedule! The most disorganized part is...my purse- it’s a little scary. Please don’t look in there. My favorite accessory is…a polished ruby necklace I inherited from my grandmother. It’s so elegant and vintage and it makes me feel like I’m carrying a piece of her everywhere. I wish I would do more of...Davening, if we’re being honest. It makes me miss the schedule of school. The most disorganized part is.….my home office and desk. I dislike having lots of paper around and I’m constantly on a quest to scan it all and go paper-free. My favorite accessory is...my Samsung Galaxy Note 10.1 tablet which I use a lot for writing. I especially like that I can hand write on it with the stylus pen. Quality you can feel. MELINDA STRAUSS Recipe Developer/ Food Blogger The most organized part of my life is...My pantry! The most disorganized part of my life is... the linen closet. OY! Someone come clean it up for me. My favorite accessory is...my pistachio necklace that I wish I wore more often. I love pistachios! Prices you can afford. I wish I would do more of...turning off my phone and computer when I’m with my husband and kids. I wish I would do more of...traveling with my family to show the world to my children. Available at your local hosiery store Distributed by Emby Hosiery Corp. 1-800-287-6916
featured contributors Q A WITH FOUR OF THIS MONTH   S TALENTED CONTRIBUTORS  LEAH BERG  MATTIE WISEMAN  SARA ANSBACHER  Nu...
N O N IR O N • WR IN KLE F R E E • CL AS S IC F IT • S L IM F IT you gotta know 12 School Back to pg Safety Tips 24 That 10 Foods pg Make You Look Younger 19 C M Y CM MY CY “WHEN KIDS ARE OUT OF THEIR ROUTINE AND SCHEDULE, THERE WILL LIKELY BE THE IMPOSSIBLE TASK OF GETTING THEM TO BEHAVE.” CMY K -CREATING STRUCTURE IN UNSTRUCTURED TIME SLIM FIT
N O N IR O N     WR IN KLE F R E E     CL AS S IC F IT     S L IM F IT  you gotta know 12 School Back to pg  Safety Tips  ...
N O N IR O N • WR IN KLE F R E E • CL AS S IC F IT • S L IM F IT you gotta know 12 School Back to pg Safety Tips 24 That 10 Foods pg Make You Look Younger 19 C M Y CM MY CY “WHEN KIDS ARE OUT OF THEIR ROUTINE AND SCHEDULE, THERE WILL LIKELY BE THE IMPOSSIBLE TASK OF GETTING THEM TO BEHAVE.” CMY K -CREATING STRUCTURE IN UNSTRUCTURED TIME SLIM FIT
N O N IR O N     WR IN KLE F R E E     CL AS S IC F IT     S L IM F IT  you gotta know 12 School Back to pg  Safety Tips  ...
you gotta know you gotta know BACK TO SCHOOL SAFETY TIPS Summer vacation is almost over. With the anticipated feelings of joy from seeing the kids back in school, some parents wonder how we can help our kids be "all that they could be” in school. SCHOOL BUS l If your child’s school bus has lap/shoulder seat belts, make sure your child uses one at all times when on the bus. If the bus doesn't have them, encourage the school to buy or lease buses with lap/shoulder belts. l Wait for the bus to stop before approaching it from the curb. BACKPACK SAFETY l Choose a backpack with wide, padded shoulder straps and a padded back. l Pack light. Organize the backpack to use all of its compartments. Pack heavier items closest to the center of the back. The backpack should never weigh more than 10 to 20 percent of your child’s body weight. l Always use both shoulder straps. Slinging a backpack over one shoulder can strain muscles. l Consider a rolling backpack. This may be a good choice for students who must tote a heavy load. Remember that rolling backpacks still must be carried upstairs, and they may be difficult to roll in snow. CAR l All passengers should wear a seatbelt and/or be in an age- and size- appropriate car safety seat or booster seat. In the state of New York, children 4 years old and weighing 40lbs may graduate from their car seats and be placed in booster seats. l Do not move around on the bus. l Your child should ride in a belt-positioning booster seat until the vehicle's seat belt fits properly (usually when the child reaches about 4' 9" in height and is crossing the street. between 8 to 12 years of age). This means that the l Make sure to always remain in clear view of the child is tall enough to sit against the vehicle bus driver. Children should always board and seat back with her legs bent at the knees exit the bus at locations that provide safe TRAVELING TO and feet hanging down, as well the shoulder access to the bus or to the school building. AND FROM SCHOOL: belt lying across the middle of the chest REVIEW THESE BASIC and shoulder- not the neck or throat; the RULES WITH YOUR lap belt is low and snug across the thighs, CHILD and not the stomach. WALKING TO SCHOOL l Check to see that no other traffic is coming before l Make sure your child's walk to school is a safe route with well-trained adult crossing guards at every intersection. l Be realistic about your child's pedestrian skills. Because small children are impulsive and less cautious around traffic, carefully consider whether or not your child is ready to walk to school without adult supervision. l If your children are young or are walking to a new school, walk with them the first week to make sure they know the route and can do it safely. l Bright colored clothing will make your child more visible to drivers. l In neighborhoods with higher levels of traffic, consider starting a "walking school bus," in which an adult accompanies a group of neighborhood children walking to school. l All children under 13 years of age should ride in the rear seat of vehicles. If you must drive more children than those who can fit in the rear seats (when carpooling, for example), move the front-seat passenger’s seat as far back as possible and have the child ride in a booster seat if the seat belts do not fit properly without it. l Remember that many crashes occur while novice teen drivers are going to and from school. You should require seat belt use, limit the number of teen passengers, do not allow eating, drinking, cell phone conversations or texting to prevent driver distraction, and limit driving at night or in inclement weather. Familiarize yourself with your state’s graduated driver license law and consider the use of a parent-teen driver agreement to facilitate the early driving learning process. 13 | fyimagazineny.com
you gotta know  you gotta know  BACK TO  SCHOOL SAFETY TIPS  Summer vacation is almost over. With the anticipated feelings...
you gotta know you gotta know BACK TO SCHOOL SAFETY TIPS Summer vacation is almost over. With the anticipated feelings of joy from seeing the kids back in school, some parents wonder how we can help our kids be "all that they could be” in school. SCHOOL BUS l If your child’s school bus has lap/shoulder seat belts, make sure your child uses one at all times when on the bus. If the bus doesn't have them, encourage the school to buy or lease buses with lap/shoulder belts. l Wait for the bus to stop before approaching it from the curb. BACKPACK SAFETY l Choose a backpack with wide, padded shoulder straps and a padded back. l Pack light. Organize the backpack to use all of its compartments. Pack heavier items closest to the center of the back. The backpack should never weigh more than 10 to 20 percent of your child’s body weight. l Always use both shoulder straps. Slinging a backpack over one shoulder can strain muscles. l Consider a rolling backpack. This may be a good choice for students who must tote a heavy load. Remember that rolling backpacks still must be carried upstairs, and they may be difficult to roll in snow. CAR l All passengers should wear a seatbelt and/or be in an age- and size- appropriate car safety seat or booster seat. In the state of New York, children 4 years old and weighing 40lbs may graduate from their car seats and be placed in booster seats. l Do not move around on the bus. l Your child should ride in a belt-positioning booster seat until the vehicle's seat belt fits properly (usually when the child reaches about 4' 9" in height and is crossing the street. between 8 to 12 years of age). This means that the l Make sure to always remain in clear view of the child is tall enough to sit against the vehicle bus driver. Children should always board and seat back with her legs bent at the knees exit the bus at locations that provide safe TRAVELING TO and feet hanging down, as well the shoulder access to the bus or to the school building. AND FROM SCHOOL: belt lying across the middle of the chest REVIEW THESE BASIC and shoulder- not the neck or throat; the RULES WITH YOUR lap belt is low and snug across the thighs, CHILD and not the stomach. WALKING TO SCHOOL l Check to see that no other traffic is coming before l Make sure your child's walk to school is a safe route with well-trained adult crossing guards at every intersection. l Be realistic about your child's pedestrian skills. Because small children are impulsive and less cautious around traffic, carefully consider whether or not your child is ready to walk to school without adult supervision. l If your children are young or are walking to a new school, walk with them the first week to make sure they know the route and can do it safely. l Bright colored clothing will make your child more visible to drivers. l In neighborhoods with higher levels of traffic, consider starting a "walking school bus," in which an adult accompanies a group of neighborhood children walking to school. l All children under 13 years of age should ride in the rear seat of vehicles. If you must drive more children than those who can fit in the rear seats (when carpooling, for example), move the front-seat passenger’s seat as far back as possible and have the child ride in a booster seat if the seat belts do not fit properly without it. l Remember that many crashes occur while novice teen drivers are going to and from school. You should require seat belt use, limit the number of teen passengers, do not allow eating, drinking, cell phone conversations or texting to prevent driver distraction, and limit driving at night or in inclement weather. Familiarize yourself with your state’s graduated driver license law and consider the use of a parent-teen driver agreement to facilitate the early driving learning process. 13 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know THE ONE STOP SHOP FOR ALL YOUR REMODELING NEEDS KITCHEN · CABINETS · TILE · COUNTERTOPS · CUSTOM CLOSETS EATING DURING THE SCHOOL DAY l Most schools regularly send schedules of cafeteria menus home. With this advance information, you can plan on packing lunch on the days when your child prefers not to eat the main course. l Parents whose children are overweight should communicate with their children’s school to ensure that they do not get a "refill" of the main course, and that there is always adult supervision when school lunch is being served. l Try to get your child's school to stock healthy choices such as fresh fruit, low-fat dairy products, water and 100 percent fruit juice in the vending machines. l Snacks - if you do send snacks to school with your child, try to avoid processed foods (i.e. potato chips, wafers, super snacks and pretzels). DEVELOPING GOOD HOMEWORK AND STUDY HABITS l Create an environment that is conducive to doing homework. Youngsters need a permanent, private work space in their bedroom or another part of the home. l Set aside ample time for homework. l Establish a household rule that the TV set stays off during homework time. l Supervise computer and internet use. l Be available to answer questions and offer assistance, but never do a child's homework for her. l Take steps to help alleviate eye, neck and brain fatigue while studying. It may be helpful to close the books for a few minutes, stretch, and take a break periodically when it will not be too disruptive. If your child is struggling with a particular subject and you aren't able to help her yourself, a tutor can be a good solution. Talk it over with your child's teacher first. Do not expect your children to change their preferences overnight. If they are already used to eating the wrong snacks, try to slowly motivate and educate them to the importance of healthy eating habits. Having said that, to date, I have not found an effective way to prevent children from trading in their healthy snacks for their friend's "junk food." FREE l Juices and sodas are some of the most common causes of childhood obesity in the U.S. I strongly urge parents not to bring any soft drinks or fruit juices into their homes (Yes, even the 100% pure apple juice fortified with Vitamin C is bad for your children’s health). Each 12-ounce soft drink contains approximately 10 teaspoons of sugar and 150 calories. Drinking just one can of soda a day increases a child's risk of obesity by 60%. Restrict your child's soft drink consumption. CONSULTATION WITH DESIGNER WE WORK WITH YOUR CONTRACTORS AND INTERIOR DESIGNER BRING IN YOUR DESIGNER OR CONTRACTOR & RECEIVE 10% DISCOUNT Dr. David Simai is a board certified pediatrician in his private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. He is also an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children’s Hospital, North Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com 690 CENTRAL AVE. · CEDARHURST 1736 RICHMOND AVE. · STATEN ISLAND 516.218.2840 718.208.4273 (INSIDE CASILE TILE) WWW.INHAUSKB.C OM 14 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know THE ONE STOP SHOP FOR ALL YOUR REMODELING NEEDS KITCHEN · CABINETS · TILE · COUNTERTOPS · CUSTOM CLOSETS EATING DURING THE SCHOOL DAY l Most schools regularly send schedules of cafeteria menus home. With this advance information, you can plan on packing lunch on the days when your child prefers not to eat the main course. l Parents whose children are overweight should communicate with their children’s school to ensure that they do not get a "refill" of the main course, and that there is always adult supervision when school lunch is being served. l Try to get your child's school to stock healthy choices such as fresh fruit, low-fat dairy products, water and 100 percent fruit juice in the vending machines. l Snacks - if you do send snacks to school with your child, try to avoid processed foods (i.e. potato chips, wafers, super snacks and pretzels). DEVELOPING GOOD HOMEWORK AND STUDY HABITS l Create an environment that is conducive to doing homework. Youngsters need a permanent, private work space in their bedroom or another part of the home. l Set aside ample time for homework. l Establish a household rule that the TV set stays off during homework time. l Supervise computer and internet use. l Be available to answer questions and offer assistance, but never do a child's homework for her. l Take steps to help alleviate eye, neck and brain fatigue while studying. It may be helpful to close the books for a few minutes, stretch, and take a break periodically when it will not be too disruptive. If your child is struggling with a particular subject and you aren't able to help her yourself, a tutor can be a good solution. Talk it over with your child's teacher first. Do not expect your children to change their preferences overnight. If they are already used to eating the wrong snacks, try to slowly motivate and educate them to the importance of healthy eating habits. Having said that, to date, I have not found an effective way to prevent children from trading in their healthy snacks for their friend's "junk food." FREE l Juices and sodas are some of the most common causes of childhood obesity in the U.S. I strongly urge parents not to bring any soft drinks or fruit juices into their homes (Yes, even the 100% pure apple juice fortified with Vitamin C is bad for your children’s health). Each 12-ounce soft drink contains approximately 10 teaspoons of sugar and 150 calories. Drinking just one can of soda a day increases a child's risk of obesity by 60%. Restrict your child's soft drink consumption. CONSULTATION WITH DESIGNER WE WORK WITH YOUR CONTRACTORS AND INTERIOR DESIGNER BRING IN YOUR DESIGNER OR CONTRACTOR & RECEIVE 10% DISCOUNT Dr. David Simai is a board certified pediatrician in his private practice in Cedarhurst, NY. He is also an attending physician at LIJ-Cohen Children’s Hospital, North Shore Manhasset University Hospital and South Nassau Community Hospital. drsimaipediatrics@gmail.com 690 CENTRAL AVE. · CEDARHURST 1736 RICHMOND AVE. · STATEN ISLAND 516.218.2840 718.208.4273 (INSIDE CASILE TILE) WWW.INHAUSKB.C OM 14 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know you gotta know tried & tested your grilled food healthy and cutting down on carcinogens, “well-done” should not be part of your vocabulary. Studies have shown that grilling foods at higher temperatures leads to an increase in HCA production. Instead, allow the food to cook on the grill a little longer, but at a lower temperature. HCAs begin to form at 325°F; therefore, grill food below this temperature. To ensure the minimum cooking temperature for safe-to-eat meat, invest in a meat thermometer and make sure your burgers have an internal temperature of 160°F. healthy BBQ 101 For many, summer is synonymous with grilling. The weather is warm, we have more hours of daylight, and we spend more time outdoors trying to avoid the hot kitchen. However, research has shown that grilling meats at high heat can cause carcinogens (cancer-causing agents) heterocyclic amine (HCA) and polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAHs) to form on the surface of well-done meats. Studies have found that people who consume well-done meat—grilled, barbecued, pan fried, or broiled—on a regular basis, were 60% more likely to get pancreatic cancer. Longer time on the grill may also increase the risk of stomach, lung, and breast cancer. But don’t sell your grills just yet! Here are some tips to help you enjoy the BBQ season while keeping your dinners as healthy as possible. SPICE IT UP Studies have found that adding spices to your meats can decrease HCA formation. Certain spices are loaded with antioxidants (cancer preventing agents) which will help eliminate HCAs. One such study has found that adding thyme, sage, and garlic to a marinade can reduce the amount of total HCAs by 60% compared to the control group. Adding rosemary may be especially helpful. A recent study found that high concentrations of rosemary extracts may reduce HCAs by up to 90%. BRING ON THE ALCOHOL At your next BBQ, don’t forget the beer and wine…in your marinade! We already know that red wine is full of antioxidants, so put it into your marinade as well. A study performed by a university in Portugal has found that marinating beef in red wine for a few hours prior to grilling reduces its carcinogenic content by 40%. Similar positive effects were found for marinades containing beer too. Moreover, using wine or beer in your marinade will tenderize the meat, making it succulent and tender. TURN DOWN THE HEAT When it comes to keeping 16 | fyimagazineny.com FACIAL CLEANSERS Washing your face is part of any woman’s daily routine, but are you really getting all the dirt off? These brushes cleanse the skin better than any soap can, leaving your skin soft, with smaller pores and fewer breakouts. PIXNOR CLEANSING BRUSH, $12.99 The Good: Comes with seven different rotating heads, to use with any facial cleanser. Battery operated. GRILL VEGGIES If you just can’t get enough of the hot-offthe-grill flavor, but you want to limit your carcinogen intake, grill some vegetables. Grilled veggies do not contain carcinogens, and they are a great alternative in wraps, sandwiches, or burgers. For instance, fire up a portabella mushroom with some grilled onions on top. If you crave the grilled meat, though, try making kebabs. By using half meat or chicken and half veggies on each skewer, you can cut down on the HCA formation and intake. LESS IS MORE Although this may sound counterintuitive, marinating meat for long periods of time may actually lower the percentage of antioxidants in the marinade. A 2010 study found that marinating meat in sauce for five hours before cooking cut down the antioxidant activity in the sauce, compared with meat that was cooked after less marinating time. To play it safe, marinate your meat for fewer hours. Marinades do not actually soak deep into the meat; therefore, marinating overnight will not give you a big flavor advantage. For an extra boost of antioxidants, brush some extra sauce on the meat shortly before serving. By implementing these simple modifications into your regular BBQ routine, you can turn your summer grilling favorites into improved, healthier meals. Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a Masters degree in nutrition. She provides nutritional counseling in the five towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/illnesses. 646-530-1453/ Leahbrg@gmail.com The Bad: Device is not waterproof. If you press too hard, the brush will stop rotating. The Bottom Line: Best bang for your buck.  CLARISONIC MIA SKIN CLEANSING SYSTEM, $99 The Good: Waterproof, will automatically turn off after one minute, uses any cleanser, electric. The Bad: Expensive. May be too harsh on very sensitive skin. 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you gotta know you gotta know tried & tested your grilled food healthy and cutting down on carcinogens, “well-done” should not be part of your vocabulary. Studies have shown that grilling foods at higher temperatures leads to an increase in HCA production. Instead, allow the food to cook on the grill a little longer, but at a lower temperature. HCAs begin to form at 325°F; therefore, grill food below this temperature. To ensure the minimum cooking temperature for safe-to-eat meat, invest in a meat thermometer and make sure your burgers have an internal temperature of 160°F. healthy BBQ 101 For many, summer is synonymous with grilling. The weather is warm, we have more hours of daylight, and we spend more time outdoors trying to avoid the hot kitchen. However, research has shown that grilling meats at high heat can cause carcinogens (cancer-causing agents) heterocyclic amine (HCA) and polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAHs) to form on the surface of well-done meats. Studies have found that people who consume well-done meat—grilled, barbecued, pan fried, or broiled—on a regular basis, were 60% more likely to get pancreatic cancer. Longer time on the grill may also increase the risk of stomach, lung, and breast cancer. But don’t sell your grills just yet! Here are some tips to help you enjoy the BBQ season while keeping your dinners as healthy as possible. SPICE IT UP Studies have found that adding spices to your meats can decrease HCA formation. Certain spices are loaded with antioxidants (cancer preventing agents) which will help eliminate HCAs. One such study has found that adding thyme, sage, and garlic to a marinade can reduce the amount of total HCAs by 60% compared to the control group. Adding rosemary may be especially helpful. A recent study found that high concentrations of rosemary extracts may reduce HCAs by up to 90%. BRING ON THE ALCOHOL At your next BBQ, don’t forget the beer and wine…in your marinade! We already know that red wine is full of antioxidants, so put it into your marinade as well. A study performed by a university in Portugal has found that marinating beef in red wine for a few hours prior to grilling reduces its carcinogenic content by 40%. Similar positive effects were found for marinades containing beer too. Moreover, using wine or beer in your marinade will tenderize the meat, making it succulent and tender. TURN DOWN THE HEAT When it comes to keeping 16 | fyimagazineny.com FACIAL CLEANSERS Washing your face is part of any woman’s daily routine, but are you really getting all the dirt off? These brushes cleanse the skin better than any soap can, leaving your skin soft, with smaller pores and fewer breakouts. PIXNOR CLEANSING BRUSH, $12.99 The Good: Comes with seven different rotating heads, to use with any facial cleanser. Battery operated. GRILL VEGGIES If you just can’t get enough of the hot-offthe-grill flavor, but you want to limit your carcinogen intake, grill some vegetables. Grilled veggies do not contain carcinogens, and they are a great alternative in wraps, sandwiches, or burgers. For instance, fire up a portabella mushroom with some grilled onions on top. If you crave the grilled meat, though, try making kebabs. By using half meat or chicken and half veggies on each skewer, you can cut down on the HCA formation and intake. LESS IS MORE Although this may sound counterintuitive, marinating meat for long periods of time may actually lower the percentage of antioxidants in the marinade. A 2010 study found that marinating meat in sauce for five hours before cooking cut down the antioxidant activity in the sauce, compared with meat that was cooked after less marinating time. To play it safe, marinate your meat for fewer hours. Marinades do not actually soak deep into the meat; therefore, marinating overnight will not give you a big flavor advantage. For an extra boost of antioxidants, brush some extra sauce on the meat shortly before serving. By implementing these simple modifications into your regular BBQ routine, you can turn your summer grilling favorites into improved, healthier meals. Leah Berg is a Registered Dietitian with a Masters degree in nutrition. She provides nutritional counseling in the five towns area for children and adults addressing weight loss and various diseases/illnesses. 646-530-1453/ Leahbrg@gmail.com The Bad: Device is not waterproof. If you press too hard, the brush will stop rotating. The Bottom Line: Best bang for your buck.  CLARISONIC MIA SKIN CLEANSING SYSTEM, $99 The Good: Waterproof, will automatically turn off after one minute, uses any cleanser, electric. The Bad: Expensive. May be too harsh on very sensitive skin. The Bottom Line: The best facial cleanser for your daily skin routine.  NEUTROGENA WAVE SONIC CLEANSER, $12 The Good: Waterproof, two speeds, battery operated. The Bad: Use only Neutrogena disposable pads with this device. The Bottom Line: Perfect for travelling. Find these products at fyimagazineny.com 17 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN Millions of people have had their data stolen from government computers. This includes 21.5 million people who have undergone background checks for security clearances, in addition to the 4.2 million federal workers, both current and former, whose information was hacked recently. That’s a whopping total of 25.7 million people—almost 7% of the U.S. population. The Huffington Post reported that China is the leading suspect in the massive hacking of U.S. government computers. What did China's Foreign Ministry have to say about that? They dismissed our claim as "absurd logic." Just one more reason I’m not working for the government. One more reason to listen to your English teacher—so you don’t cost your government a lot of money one day! The U.S. News and World Report revealed that local government in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania, will be spending 4000 bucks to replace 26 signs that misspelled the word “commissioners” with only one “m.’’ 11 CREATING STRUCTURE IN UNSTRUCTURED TIME 4,000 21.5 you gotta know 1.87 Some families have kids that are well behaved - at home and even when they are out of routine. These children are appropriately quiet or talkative, inquisitive and seemingly content with their surroundings. Observing these children, you may drive by with an awestruck expression advertising your frustration that yours act on the hyper-opposite end of the spectrum. Living in 800 square feet with a husband, four children under age six, and all of their belongings (we have the hoarding genes!) is quite challenging. But any hopes of moving elsewhere in Brooklyn are slowly disappearing. At least I can tell myself that my next-door neighbors in Manhattan have it worse. The average Manhattan apartment today costs $1.87 million! W hen kids are out of their routine and schedule, it may seem impossible to get them to behave: to use their “inside” voices, to avoid whining, and to steer clear of chandelier-swinging and falling into hotel pools, intentionally or otherwise. When these things happen, instead of associating these behaviors with children being out of their normal pattern, parents may tend to pin the blame on themselves, assigning and accepting the title of “World’s Worst Parent Thus Far in Human History.” The truth? Every parent deals with this from time to time, with varying levels of difficulty. The parents who seem to have a handle on things aren’t the holders of some secret, ancient scroll of knowledge. In fact, I’ve assembled a list of tips to Google’s cars may not have drivers, but that doesn’t mean they won’t have collisions. In the past six years, Google’s fleet of self-driving cars has been involved in eleven minor accidents. Whose fault were they? Drivers in other cars, of course! That’s Google’s claim. Seven of Google’s car accidents involved being rear-ended. Two were sideswipes, and one occurred when a car with a driver rolled through a stop sign. Eight of the eleven accidents occurred on city streets. So far, Google has put out a fleet of 20 driverless cars and hopes to make the technology available to consumers by 2020. 18 | fyimagazineny.com help. 19 | fyimagazineny.com
you gotta know TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT   S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH Y...
you gotta know TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT’S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS, KIDS, OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF! WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN Millions of people have had their data stolen from government computers. This includes 21.5 million people who have undergone background checks for security clearances, in addition to the 4.2 million federal workers, both current and former, whose information was hacked recently. That’s a whopping total of 25.7 million people—almost 7% of the U.S. population. The Huffington Post reported that China is the leading suspect in the massive hacking of U.S. government computers. What did China's Foreign Ministry have to say about that? They dismissed our claim as "absurd logic." Just one more reason I’m not working for the government. One more reason to listen to your English teacher—so you don’t cost your government a lot of money one day! The U.S. News and World Report revealed that local government in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania, will be spending 4000 bucks to replace 26 signs that misspelled the word “commissioners” with only one “m.’’ 11 CREATING STRUCTURE IN UNSTRUCTURED TIME 4,000 21.5 you gotta know 1.87 Some families have kids that are well behaved - at home and even when they are out of routine. These children are appropriately quiet or talkative, inquisitive and seemingly content with their surroundings. Observing these children, you may drive by with an awestruck expression advertising your frustration that yours act on the hyper-opposite end of the spectrum. Living in 800 square feet with a husband, four children under age six, and all of their belongings (we have the hoarding genes!) is quite challenging. But any hopes of moving elsewhere in Brooklyn are slowly disappearing. At least I can tell myself that my next-door neighbors in Manhattan have it worse. The average Manhattan apartment today costs $1.87 million! W hen kids are out of their routine and schedule, it may seem impossible to get them to behave: to use their “inside” voices, to avoid whining, and to steer clear of chandelier-swinging and falling into hotel pools, intentionally or otherwise. When these things happen, instead of associating these behaviors with children being out of their normal pattern, parents may tend to pin the blame on themselves, assigning and accepting the title of “World’s Worst Parent Thus Far in Human History.” The truth? Every parent deals with this from time to time, with varying levels of difficulty. The parents who seem to have a handle on things aren’t the holders of some secret, ancient scroll of knowledge. In fact, I’ve assembled a list of tips to Google’s cars may not have drivers, but that doesn’t mean they won’t have collisions. In the past six years, Google’s fleet of self-driving cars has been involved in eleven minor accidents. Whose fault were they? Drivers in other cars, of course! That’s Google’s claim. Seven of Google’s car accidents involved being rear-ended. Two were sideswipes, and one occurred when a car with a driver rolled through a stop sign. Eight of the eleven accidents occurred on city streets. So far, Google has put out a fleet of 20 driverless cars and hopes to make the technology available to consumers by 2020. 18 | fyimagazineny.com help. 19 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know you gotta know 7 TRICKS FOR DEALING WITH KIDS DURING UNSTRUCTURED TIME: 1. 2. 3. 4. Create a schedule in writing, or using a picture chart. Using visuals with graphics is an easy way to convey a point, allowing children to visualize changes they would not otherwise see coming. Using popular characters or a child’s favorite subject to personalize it for him. Adorn the chart with Princesses Elsa and Anna, Spiderman, or stickers of cartoon bugs that pique a child’s interest! Prepare snacks that easily fit into a go-bag or purse. Individual bags of crunchy, sour, or tart snacks such as thick pretzel rods, dried cranberries, nuts, gum or popcorn are excellent ideas. Add in a drink that requires sucking, such as water with a sports bottle cap or a pouched juice drink with a straw. The “suck-swallow-breathe routine” will help calm and regulate your child (it can even help you!). For more ideas on helping kids regulate via their mouth, be sure to check out my book, The Parent-Child Dance, available on Amazon.com or in your local bookstore. For families with multiple kids, give a teenager the responsibility of structuring an activity when parents need quiet downtime. Long Bar Mitzvah meals, prayers, and ceremonies can prove taxing when children misbehave. What better way to learn religious history or school subjects than with trivia challenges, art projects or physical games? These can be healthy and informational to help enforce the ideas in which the adults are immersed at the same time. Incorporate “regulating” activities into your day. Blowing balloons, bubbles or whistling popular tunes can incite the reflex. Remember: breathing helps us all regulate. 5. 6. 7. book review REVIEW BY M. WISEMAN Information is key! Explain in advance what the day will be like and problem solve the “down times.” Talking about this will help prompt your child to grab a favorite book, toy, or accessory that will entertain him during this time. Stick to a night schedule. Bed time is valuable to promote intimate conversation that allows your child to decompress and can help inform him of the day ahead. Adjusting a sleep schedule can negatively affect your child like jet lag, making him cranky and unresponsive. The goal isn’t to punish or enforce this as a rule, but instead, to establish the boundary that will simultaneously benefit and teach your child about the importance of sleep and routine. Protein can pack a powerful punch. Make sure the kids eat protein throughout the day. Beef, chicken, fish or turkey, pumpkin seeds or even grape and cheese kabobs have whopping servings of protein without high amounts of calories. Protein has immediate effects that can promote focus presence, as the body uses it to make hemoglobin, helping to transport oxygen through the bloodstream and protecting a young body from disease. With the right ideas, anything is possible! With these tips in your arsenal, you can become a parent who has things under control. Whether at Shul, an appointment, or visiting family and friends, your children will be well-behaved and ready to combat unstructured times. Now it’s you who catches the awestruck glance of a mother driving by, frustrated that her children don’t act like yours. The tables have turned; now it’s your responsibility to pass the information along. Miriam Manela is the owner of Thrive, an occupational therapy practice and recently published her new book The Parent-Child Dance. Miriam is known for her exciting workshops for parents, teachers, college students and therapists. miriam@otthrive.com 20 | fyimagazineny.com A Labor of Love by Rachel Broncher A s any woman who has ever been pregnant knows, sporting a baby bump makes you become an automatic magnet for unsolicited advice. From family to friends and acquaintances, everyone knows exactly what you should be doing and how. And that, dear readers, is how I found myself in the local Judaica Shop, staring skeptically at the book in my hand, wondering….Really? My sister-in-law was the first of many to recommend this book to me. After hearing the umpteenth person rave about how wonderful A Labor of Love was, I couldn’t get it out of my head. Staring down at the author’s name – “Rachel Broncher” – I couldn’t help feeling confused and slightly unsettled. I wanted a book written by a professional, with a plethora of fancy letter combos after her name to assure me of her expertise. Rachel Broncher had none. Who was she? What did she know about birth? Well, as it turns out, an awful lot. From the first chapter, Broncher minces no words in letting us know that the reality of childbirth is very painful. “It is unlike any pain you have felt before,” she writes. Strangely enough, it is almost comforting to see it all written out bluntly. We are not being lied to like children. She has enough respect for her readers to let us know the reality. It will be painful. And that’s okay. Don’t be afraid of pain; learn how to manage it. If you’ve ever read a book written by a professional, you will understand why this author’s attitude is so refreshing. Unlike many experts, Broncher does not convince you to follow her “methods” or place your faith in some formulaic process. What she does is incredibly empowering. She puts as much control as possible back in the 21 | fyimagazineny.com “Too often, a woman will relinquish all control over the process...” hands of the woman actually giving birth. Knowledge is power. Too often, a woman will relinquish all control over the process aside from what her doctor allows. Just a simple understanding of what is going on in one’s body returns a sense of control. During birth, the author encourages us to listen to our bodies. Many women are asked to play a passive role and allow the medical profession to take over. Broncher reminds us that until the advent of modern medicine, the woman was in charge of her own birth. The reader is encouraged to do whatever she feels most comfortable and natural doing in the moment. If she wants to stand or sit, she should stand or sit. It’s your birth, Broncher says, and you control the process and outcome. The information is presented thoroughly, but the reader is allowed to make her own decisions without being pushed in any direction. Throughout the book, sound advice and information are sprinkled with positive messages of hashkafa and encouragement. One doesn’t expect an empowering book on birth would be written by a religious woman with no degree or formal birthing education. A Labor of Love is a valuable resource.
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you gotta know you gotta know 7 TRICKS FOR DEALING WITH KIDS DURING UNSTRUCTURED TIME: 1. 2. 3. 4. Create a schedule in writing, or using a picture chart. Using visuals with graphics is an easy way to convey a point, allowing children to visualize changes they would not otherwise see coming. Using popular characters or a child’s favorite subject to personalize it for him. Adorn the chart with Princesses Elsa and Anna, Spiderman, or stickers of cartoon bugs that pique a child’s interest! Prepare snacks that easily fit into a go-bag or purse. Individual bags of crunchy, sour, or tart snacks such as thick pretzel rods, dried cranberries, nuts, gum or popcorn are excellent ideas. Add in a drink that requires sucking, such as water with a sports bottle cap or a pouched juice drink with a straw. The “suck-swallow-breathe routine” will help calm and regulate your child (it can even help you!). For more ideas on helping kids regulate via their mouth, be sure to check out my book, The Parent-Child Dance, available on Amazon.com or in your local bookstore. For families with multiple kids, give a teenager the responsibility of structuring an activity when parents need quiet downtime. Long Bar Mitzvah meals, prayers, and ceremonies can prove taxing when children misbehave. What better way to learn religious history or school subjects than with trivia challenges, art projects or physical games? These can be healthy and informational to help enforce the ideas in which the adults are immersed at the same time. Incorporate “regulating” activities into your day. Blowing balloons, bubbles or whistling popular tunes can incite the reflex. Remember: breathing helps us all regulate. 5. 6. 7. book review REVIEW BY M. WISEMAN Information is key! Explain in advance what the day will be like and problem solve the “down times.” Talking about this will help prompt your child to grab a favorite book, toy, or accessory that will entertain him during this time. Stick to a night schedule. Bed time is valuable to promote intimate conversation that allows your child to decompress and can help inform him of the day ahead. Adjusting a sleep schedule can negatively affect your child like jet lag, making him cranky and unresponsive. The goal isn’t to punish or enforce this as a rule, but instead, to establish the boundary that will simultaneously benefit and teach your child about the importance of sleep and routine. Protein can pack a powerful punch. Make sure the kids eat protein throughout the day. Beef, chicken, fish or turkey, pumpkin seeds or even grape and cheese kabobs have whopping servings of protein without high amounts of calories. Protein has immediate effects that can promote focus presence, as the body uses it to make hemoglobin, helping to transport oxygen through the bloodstream and protecting a young body from disease. With the right ideas, anything is possible! With these tips in your arsenal, you can become a parent who has things under control. Whether at Shul, an appointment, or visiting family and friends, your children will be well-behaved and ready to combat unstructured times. Now it’s you who catches the awestruck glance of a mother driving by, frustrated that her children don’t act like yours. The tables have turned; now it’s your responsibility to pass the information along. Miriam Manela is the owner of Thrive, an occupational therapy practice and recently published her new book The Parent-Child Dance. Miriam is known for her exciting workshops for parents, teachers, college students and therapists. miriam@otthrive.com 20 | fyimagazineny.com A Labor of Love by Rachel Broncher A s any woman who has ever been pregnant knows, sporting a baby bump makes you become an automatic magnet for unsolicited advice. From family to friends and acquaintances, everyone knows exactly what you should be doing and how. And that, dear readers, is how I found myself in the local Judaica Shop, staring skeptically at the book in my hand, wondering….Really? My sister-in-law was the first of many to recommend this book to me. After hearing the umpteenth person rave about how wonderful A Labor of Love was, I couldn’t get it out of my head. Staring down at the author’s name – “Rachel Broncher” – I couldn’t help feeling confused and slightly unsettled. I wanted a book written by a professional, with a plethora of fancy letter combos after her name to assure me of her expertise. Rachel Broncher had none. Who was she? What did she know about birth? Well, as it turns out, an awful lot. From the first chapter, Broncher minces no words in letting us know that the reality of childbirth is very painful. “It is unlike any pain you have felt before,” she writes. Strangely enough, it is almost comforting to see it all written out bluntly. We are not being lied to like children. She has enough respect for her readers to let us know the reality. It will be painful. And that’s okay. Don’t be afraid of pain; learn how to manage it. If you’ve ever read a book written by a professional, you will understand why this author’s attitude is so refreshing. Unlike many experts, Broncher does not convince you to follow her “methods” or place your faith in some formulaic process. What she does is incredibly empowering. She puts as much control as possible back in the 21 | fyimagazineny.com “Too often, a woman will relinquish all control over the process...” hands of the woman actually giving birth. Knowledge is power. Too often, a woman will relinquish all control over the process aside from what her doctor allows. Just a simple understanding of what is going on in one’s body returns a sense of control. During birth, the author encourages us to listen to our bodies. Many women are asked to play a passive role and allow the medical profession to take over. Broncher reminds us that until the advent of modern medicine, the woman was in charge of her own birth. The reader is encouraged to do whatever she feels most comfortable and natural doing in the moment. If she wants to stand or sit, she should stand or sit. It’s your birth, Broncher says, and you control the process and outcome. The information is presented thoroughly, but the reader is allowed to make her own decisions without being pushed in any direction. Throughout the book, sound advice and information are sprinkled with positive messages of hashkafa and encouragement. One doesn’t expect an empowering book on birth would be written by a religious woman with no degree or formal birthing education. A Labor of Love is a valuable resource.
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you gotta know you gotta know Asos Pretty Mismatched Earrings Drawstring Bucket Bag asos.com | SALE $31.50 (orig $63) You will want to add this to your accessory bucket list (Yes, I did. Pun intended). This 70's trend is coming back in full swing, probably because this bag will go with pretty much any ensemble. And it has a massive advantage: it expands for all your schlepping needs so you can throw whatever you want into the bag; then it conveniently cinches at the top while retaining its shape. Seriously, you can fit a pair of shoes, a water bottle, moisturizer, and more, and you'll still look fab. Also, there’s a certain beauty in things you don’t pick on the first try. It’s a kind of challenge. You’re welcome for being introduced to your wardrobe's new best friend. asos.com | $36 You can definitely get away with mismatching, and these dainty gold earrings are perfect for it. This trend is easy but impactful - whether off in color or asymmetrical in shape or length, the beauty is found in the irregularity. You know what else I love about this? It’s the perfect way to give new life to that favorite earring whose mate you’ve lost. Or, if you're too afraid to do it yourself, you can always buy an already mismatched pair like this one. Diamond Studded Ear Cuffs Velvet Sneakers Zara.com | SALE $22.99 (orig $79.90) As the fabrics we wear get richer (think tweed, sequins), this 80's velvet trend is going to have its moment this fall. Velvet is super-soft and perfect as the weather gets colder, and there is something so luxurious and enchanting about it. If you still have reservations about velvet, and the thought of wearing a full dress in this fabric makes you shudder, try introducing velvet to your wardrobe in an accessory, like these shoes. for less GREAT DEALS UNDER $50! 22 | fyimagazineny.com Esty Adler is a fun loving, free spirit and a highly admired fashionista. Esty can be contacted at stylebyesty@gmail. com. Drop her a note or leave her any fashion questions you want answered. Baublebar.com | $34 These blue ear cuffs are so cool and funky, but at the same time so elegant. Plus, it’s so easy to pull off this trend! Not to mention that it’s the most effortless look ever. It’s brilliant. I don’t know about you, but I’ve loved this look ever since it’s made a comeback. Why? It probably has to do with its affordability, and the the fact that no piercing is required. You can wear it with your hair pulled back, or do a side part hairstyle and tuck your hair behind your cuffed ear. Be sure to keep the rest simple - its a statement piece, so just an ear cuff and a ring would be enough. Metal Collar Choker Necklace topshop.com | $32 This necklace is absolutely incredible. It’s so rich, sophisticated, striking, elegant, fashion forward, and everything you want all at the same time. Everyone's been rocking these necklaces lately, from celebrities to designers who add them to their runway shows in Paris, New York, London, and Milan. So here we are, back to chokers as a 2015 trend. It’s a style that is easy to play around with, because they instantly draw attention to the face. Plus, they look gorgeous with any outfit, even over a chunky sweater. 23 | fyimagazineny.com
you gotta know  you gotta know  Asos Pretty Mismatched Earrings  Drawstring Bucket Bag  asos.com   SALE  31.50  orig  63  ...
you gotta know you gotta know Asos Pretty Mismatched Earrings Drawstring Bucket Bag asos.com | SALE $31.50 (orig $63) You will want to add this to your accessory bucket list (Yes, I did. Pun intended). This 70's trend is coming back in full swing, probably because this bag will go with pretty much any ensemble. And it has a massive advantage: it expands for all your schlepping needs so you can throw whatever you want into the bag; then it conveniently cinches at the top while retaining its shape. Seriously, you can fit a pair of shoes, a water bottle, moisturizer, and more, and you'll still look fab. Also, there’s a certain beauty in things you don’t pick on the first try. It’s a kind of challenge. You’re welcome for being introduced to your wardrobe's new best friend. asos.com | $36 You can definitely get away with mismatching, and these dainty gold earrings are perfect for it. This trend is easy but impactful - whether off in color or asymmetrical in shape or length, the beauty is found in the irregularity. You know what else I love about this? It’s the perfect way to give new life to that favorite earring whose mate you’ve lost. Or, if you're too afraid to do it yourself, you can always buy an already mismatched pair like this one. Diamond Studded Ear Cuffs Velvet Sneakers Zara.com | SALE $22.99 (orig $79.90) As the fabrics we wear get richer (think tweed, sequins), this 80's velvet trend is going to have its moment this fall. Velvet is super-soft and perfect as the weather gets colder, and there is something so luxurious and enchanting about it. If you still have reservations about velvet, and the thought of wearing a full dress in this fabric makes you shudder, try introducing velvet to your wardrobe in an accessory, like these shoes. for less GREAT DEALS UNDER $50! 22 | fyimagazineny.com Esty Adler is a fun loving, free spirit and a highly admired fashionista. Esty can be contacted at stylebyesty@gmail. com. Drop her a note or leave her any fashion questions you want answered. Baublebar.com | $34 These blue ear cuffs are so cool and funky, but at the same time so elegant. Plus, it’s so easy to pull off this trend! Not to mention that it’s the most effortless look ever. It’s brilliant. I don’t know about you, but I’ve loved this look ever since it’s made a comeback. Why? It probably has to do with its affordability, and the the fact that no piercing is required. You can wear it with your hair pulled back, or do a side part hairstyle and tuck your hair behind your cuffed ear. Be sure to keep the rest simple - its a statement piece, so just an ear cuff and a ring would be enough. Metal Collar Choker Necklace topshop.com | $32 This necklace is absolutely incredible. It’s so rich, sophisticated, striking, elegant, fashion forward, and everything you want all at the same time. Everyone's been rocking these necklaces lately, from celebrities to designers who add them to their runway shows in Paris, New York, London, and Milan. So here we are, back to chokers as a 2015 trend. It’s a style that is easy to play around with, because they instantly draw attention to the face. Plus, they look gorgeous with any outfit, even over a chunky sweater. 23 | fyimagazineny.com
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you gotta know you gotta know 1 6 3 10 8 2 4 5 7 10 FOODS that make you look younger 1. Grapefruit is packed with vitamin C, which promotes collagen growth and prevents sagging skin. 2. Sunflower seeds are packed with Vitamin E, which gives your skin a healthy glow. 3. Studies show that eating red and orange fruits and veggies such as sweet potatoes and carrots, which contain carotenoids, will give you a darker complexion. 4. Cucumbers are loaded with essential components that aid muscle repair and prevent memory loss. 24 | fyimagazineny.com 5. Caffeine helps constrict blood vessels and gives your skin an even appearance. Drink your cuppa every day! 9 6. All kinds of beneficial compounds are packed in leafy greens. They are an integral part of hydrating your skin cells, and protecting against skin damage and wrinkles. 7. Protein, iron, and zinc are the key to strong, healthy, beautiful nails. Lean beef has it all! 8. Cut up some citrus fruit (rind included) and soak them in a pitcher of water. Drink up to take away the circles under your eyes! The anti-inflammatory compound, d-limonene, is highly beneficial. 25 | fyimagazineny.com 9. A tomato’s red pigment contains lycopene, which prevents sun damage from the inside out. 10. Keep grey hairs away! Your body requires copper to produce pigment for your hair, and Shiitake mushrooms are one of the best dietary sources.
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you gotta know you gotta know 1 6 3 10 8 2 4 5 7 10 FOODS that make you look younger 1. Grapefruit is packed with vitamin C, which promotes collagen growth and prevents sagging skin. 2. Sunflower seeds are packed with Vitamin E, which gives your skin a healthy glow. 3. Studies show that eating red and orange fruits and veggies such as sweet potatoes and carrots, which contain carotenoids, will give you a darker complexion. 4. Cucumbers are loaded with essential components that aid muscle repair and prevent memory loss. 24 | fyimagazineny.com 5. Caffeine helps constrict blood vessels and gives your skin an even appearance. Drink your cuppa every day! 9 6. All kinds of beneficial compounds are packed in leafy greens. They are an integral part of hydrating your skin cells, and protecting against skin damage and wrinkles. 7. Protein, iron, and zinc are the key to strong, healthy, beautiful nails. Lean beef has it all! 8. Cut up some citrus fruit (rind included) and soak them in a pitcher of water. Drink up to take away the circles under your eyes! The anti-inflammatory compound, d-limonene, is highly beneficial. 25 | fyimagazineny.com 9. A tomato’s red pigment contains lycopene, which prevents sun damage from the inside out. 10. Keep grey hairs away! Your body requires copper to produce pigment for your hair, and Shiitake mushrooms are one of the best dietary sources.
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you gotta know you gotta know a closer look children’s book review Our reviews on the best children’s books, from classics to hot-new releases. WRITTEN BY RIVKY FOLLMAN Bubble Gum Today, bubble gum comes in all colors, flavors, shapes and sizes. The Guinness Book of World Records notes the largest bubble gum bubble at a whopping 26 inches! People love bubble gum so much that it was one of the first items to be smuggled aboard a rocket ship by an astronaut! Centuries ago, peoples of all cultures satisfied their chewing cravings by munching all sorts of tree resins, saps and bees waxes, but they were in poor taste - literally, they did not taste good. Chewing bubble gum is touted as a great way to improve memory. The spearmint variety is also an antidote for heartburn. The first commercially sold chewing gum, made by Curtis, was composed of spruce sap with added flavor. This product, however, turned out to be lacking in taste and was too brittle to be properly chewed, so Curtis and others soon turned to paraffin wax, a better alternative. Dispose of your gum properly, please! Sticking your gum on a subway seat, under a desk, or spitting it onto the street is gross as well as pollutive; gum is not naturally bio-degradable or water soluble and will not disappear on its own. Singapore alone has remained with unsullied streets after a strict ban; Oxford Street in London is said to have a quarter of a million pieces of gum stuck to its pavement. The first patent for chewing gum went to Amos Tyler, who was - believe it or not - a dentist by profession. His version included charcoal and chalk. Sounds delish, I gotta say. William Diemer was experimenting with a previous gum recipe and accidentally hit upon a new version that was less sticky, yet stretchy enough to blow bubbles with. He took five pounds of the stuff to a local grocery; when it sold out within the day, Diemer knew he’d hit on a winner. He taught salesmen how to blow bubbles and sent them around the country to teach the masses. His bubble gum, called Dubble Bubble, became an instant hit! The bright pink color that we identify with bubble gum was incidentally the only food coloring had at the time. As they say, one happy accident for a man, lots of large bubbles for mankind! Gum should not be given to children who are too young to understand that it must not be swallowed; while it will not stay in their bodies for seven years, as per the myth, it can in some cases cause blockages in the body. 26 | fyimagazineny.com Yippee Yahoo! I am Going to School By Randi Goldfarb | Published by Proactive Connections Rude Cake By Rowboat Watkins | Published by Chronicle Books The cake in this book has a problem: it’s rude! It never says “please” or “thank you,” and it cuts in line, which makes cupcakes, crumbs, and parents unhappy. This brilliantly funny book speaks about manners and teaches how important is to be polite. This story will make your kids laugh; it is filled with surprises until the end, where we learn that even the rudest (cake) can change. This beautifully illustrated book demonstrates a healthy way to handle separation anxiety for children and parents. Its engaging approach and distinctive pictures clearly describe how to achieve smoother goodbyes and celebrate being in school. Use this as a calm and reassuring tool to help your children recognize their feelings and make day-to-day goodbyes easier. Creatively weaved into the storyline are tips on how children can calm themselves down when they are upset. Ages: 2-5 Ages: 3-5 Little Miss, Big Sis By Amy Krouse Rosenthal | Published by Harper Collins A delightful tale of a little girl's anticipation of the birth of a younger sibling. This adorable book, written by New York Times bestselling author Amy Krouse Rosenthal, relates the excitement of having a brand-new baby, and the disappointment in realizing it’s not all giggles and games. Rosenthal clearly illustrates the trials and triumphs of big sisterhood, with minimal words and fun rhymes. Perfect for any Little Miss who is about to become a Big Sis! Ages: 4-8 27 | fyimagazineny.com
you gotta know  you gotta know  a closer look  children   s book review Our reviews on the best children   s books, from c...
you gotta know you gotta know a closer look children’s book review Our reviews on the best children’s books, from classics to hot-new releases. WRITTEN BY RIVKY FOLLMAN Bubble Gum Today, bubble gum comes in all colors, flavors, shapes and sizes. The Guinness Book of World Records notes the largest bubble gum bubble at a whopping 26 inches! People love bubble gum so much that it was one of the first items to be smuggled aboard a rocket ship by an astronaut! Centuries ago, peoples of all cultures satisfied their chewing cravings by munching all sorts of tree resins, saps and bees waxes, but they were in poor taste - literally, they did not taste good. Chewing bubble gum is touted as a great way to improve memory. The spearmint variety is also an antidote for heartburn. The first commercially sold chewing gum, made by Curtis, was composed of spruce sap with added flavor. This product, however, turned out to be lacking in taste and was too brittle to be properly chewed, so Curtis and others soon turned to paraffin wax, a better alternative. Dispose of your gum properly, please! Sticking your gum on a subway seat, under a desk, or spitting it onto the street is gross as well as pollutive; gum is not naturally bio-degradable or water soluble and will not disappear on its own. Singapore alone has remained with unsullied streets after a strict ban; Oxford Street in London is said to have a quarter of a million pieces of gum stuck to its pavement. The first patent for chewing gum went to Amos Tyler, who was - believe it or not - a dentist by profession. His version included charcoal and chalk. Sounds delish, I gotta say. William Diemer was experimenting with a previous gum recipe and accidentally hit upon a new version that was less sticky, yet stretchy enough to blow bubbles with. He took five pounds of the stuff to a local grocery; when it sold out within the day, Diemer knew he’d hit on a winner. He taught salesmen how to blow bubbles and sent them around the country to teach the masses. His bubble gum, called Dubble Bubble, became an instant hit! The bright pink color that we identify with bubble gum was incidentally the only food coloring had at the time. As they say, one happy accident for a man, lots of large bubbles for mankind! Gum should not be given to children who are too young to understand that it must not be swallowed; while it will not stay in their bodies for seven years, as per the myth, it can in some cases cause blockages in the body. 26 | fyimagazineny.com Yippee Yahoo! I am Going to School By Randi Goldfarb | Published by Proactive Connections Rude Cake By Rowboat Watkins | Published by Chronicle Books The cake in this book has a problem: it’s rude! It never says “please” or “thank you,” and it cuts in line, which makes cupcakes, crumbs, and parents unhappy. This brilliantly funny book speaks about manners and teaches how important is to be polite. This story will make your kids laugh; it is filled with surprises until the end, where we learn that even the rudest (cake) can change. This beautifully illustrated book demonstrates a healthy way to handle separation anxiety for children and parents. Its engaging approach and distinctive pictures clearly describe how to achieve smoother goodbyes and celebrate being in school. Use this as a calm and reassuring tool to help your children recognize their feelings and make day-to-day goodbyes easier. Creatively weaved into the storyline are tips on how children can calm themselves down when they are upset. Ages: 2-5 Ages: 3-5 Little Miss, Big Sis By Amy Krouse Rosenthal | Published by Harper Collins A delightful tale of a little girl's anticipation of the birth of a younger sibling. This adorable book, written by New York Times bestselling author Amy Krouse Rosenthal, relates the excitement of having a brand-new baby, and the disappointment in realizing it’s not all giggles and games. Rosenthal clearly illustrates the trials and triumphs of big sisterhood, with minimal words and fun rhymes. Perfect for any Little Miss who is about to become a Big Sis! Ages: 4-8 27 | fyimagazineny.com
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just ask A. Loving is a natural and vital part of Q. Dear Surie, I feel overprotective about my mother since I lost my grandparents almost 2 years ago. I loved my grandparents very much. Both of them passed away within a month, and it came as a shock to my mother as well as me. Since then, whenever my mother is out alone, I become hysterical. I constantly ask her not to go out alone, for fear of losing her. I get so worried whenever she is sick or just catches a minor cold. My dad and I were never that close. I tried telling him how I feel but he dismissed it. When my mother is out alone, I keep thinking, “What if something happens to her while she is on the road?” I imagine all possible situations and I end up having crying spells. All throughout those hours, I fail to concentrate on anything productive. Without my mother I don’t even know how I’ll go on. I can’t even imagine a second not knowing if she’s okay. I don’t know if this overprotectiveness is good or bad. - Overprotective and Afraid COPING WITH LOSS 30 | fyimagazineny.com being human. You obviously have a very warm and tight relationship with your family. Wanting to be connected in love with those we care about and feeling the loss of their physical presence is wholesome and normal. You question whether your overprotectiveness is serving a purpose or, possibly, your gut is telling you that it might actually be working against you. You are wise to give that nagging feeling the proper introspection, rather than burying and ignoring it. Let us explore the following relevant concepts that will shed some light on your question. MOURNING IS NORMAL AND HEALTHY. Elizabeth Kubler Ross in her seminal book On Death and Dying, identifies a universal process that all humans experience when faced with the death of a close relationship. She describes the 5 steps we need to go through in response to the loss. 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Depression 4. Bargaining 5. Acceptance What is especially relevant to our topic is the concept that arriving at acceptance does not necessarily mean the process is complete, because the cycle WILL repeat itself, although it does slowly wind down. With each cycle, the intensity diminishes until we are done with the mourning completely. The death you are referencing happened close to two years ago. Unless your pain is significantly reduced to a negligible point, we need to acknowledge that there is something other than the natural mourning process at work here. Jewish law reflects the natural law of human needs. We have seven just ask days of shiva, 30 days of shloshim, and a year until the first yahrzeit. Following that, we commemorate this time yearly, on the day of the yahrzeit. Mourning in excess of that is not natural and generally indicates other underlying issues. To avoid getting stuck and not moving through the cycle successfully, it is recommended that you work through the stages with a professional instead of on your own. THE LANGUAGE WE USE TO EXPRESS OURSELVES ACCURATELY GAUGES OUR INNER STATE OF MIND. Notice the words you used in posing your question: “Overprotective... become hysterical... fear of losing her... so worried when she catches cold,” etc. Using Transformational Vocabulary - that is, consciously choosing words that are positively charged - directly impacts our state of mind and conditions our subconscious to serve us well. Concern is proactive. Worry and fear are reactive. Concern means taking responsibility for an area in which we can affect change- namely our own actions and attitudes toward life. Fear is obsessing about something that is totally out of our control, like the weather, the future, or what others think, do, or feel. Concern is healthy and productive, whereas fear is unhealthy and unproductive. We often cross over from concern to fear. It's easy to miss, but it makes a world of a difference. It's wise to be vigilant in all areas in our life to notice if the fear factor is creeping in unannounced. We must swiftly take control and gently move over to concern so we can be PROACTIVE rather than REACTIVE. LIVE IN THE PRESENT, FOR THIS IS ALL WE HAVE. You have probably heard this several times. It is true. When we let go of the guilt of the past and the uncertainty of the future, even the fear of death, then and only then do we start actually living, loving and experiencing happiness. To apply this to your question: 1. Death is a part of life. We cannot separate the two. It’s okay to feel sadness and loss at the passing of our loved ones; however, by remaining imprisoned in the cycle of mourning, you don't ever allow yourself to enjoy the stage called life! 2. The word OVER in “overprotective” indicates that you have crossed over the line from concern to fear. Being lovingly protective of your mother is healthy concern, but adding the word OVER clearly demonstrates that you are unnecessarily fearful and trying to control something that is out of your hands. 3. Enjoy the moments, literally, that you have with your loved ones. We never know when their time, or ours, may come. Your relationship with your mother is precious. Your awareness that the physical connection will end one day should allow you to celebrate more deeply every minute you are privileged to be with her. It is a gift to savor while it lasts. I will add one more thought. When you are in a state of anxiety, you cannot possibly feel for anyone; rather, you are clinging to your fears and worrying how to protect yourself. Once you release your fears, your true feelings for your mother will emerge; then both of you will enjoy the caresses and rewards of pure love! Surie Frenkel is a certified life coach and co-founder of JEWEL. She is passionate about empowering women to be their best. surie@jewel.community 31 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  A.  Loving is a natural and vital part of  Q.  Dear Surie, I feel overprotective about my mother since I lost my...
just ask A. Loving is a natural and vital part of Q. Dear Surie, I feel overprotective about my mother since I lost my grandparents almost 2 years ago. I loved my grandparents very much. Both of them passed away within a month, and it came as a shock to my mother as well as me. Since then, whenever my mother is out alone, I become hysterical. I constantly ask her not to go out alone, for fear of losing her. I get so worried whenever she is sick or just catches a minor cold. My dad and I were never that close. I tried telling him how I feel but he dismissed it. When my mother is out alone, I keep thinking, “What if something happens to her while she is on the road?” I imagine all possible situations and I end up having crying spells. All throughout those hours, I fail to concentrate on anything productive. Without my mother I don’t even know how I’ll go on. I can’t even imagine a second not knowing if she’s okay. I don’t know if this overprotectiveness is good or bad. - Overprotective and Afraid COPING WITH LOSS 30 | fyimagazineny.com being human. You obviously have a very warm and tight relationship with your family. Wanting to be connected in love with those we care about and feeling the loss of their physical presence is wholesome and normal. You question whether your overprotectiveness is serving a purpose or, possibly, your gut is telling you that it might actually be working against you. You are wise to give that nagging feeling the proper introspection, rather than burying and ignoring it. Let us explore the following relevant concepts that will shed some light on your question. MOURNING IS NORMAL AND HEALTHY. Elizabeth Kubler Ross in her seminal book On Death and Dying, identifies a universal process that all humans experience when faced with the death of a close relationship. She describes the 5 steps we need to go through in response to the loss. 1. Denial 2. Anger 3. Depression 4. Bargaining 5. Acceptance What is especially relevant to our topic is the concept that arriving at acceptance does not necessarily mean the process is complete, because the cycle WILL repeat itself, although it does slowly wind down. With each cycle, the intensity diminishes until we are done with the mourning completely. The death you are referencing happened close to two years ago. Unless your pain is significantly reduced to a negligible point, we need to acknowledge that there is something other than the natural mourning process at work here. Jewish law reflects the natural law of human needs. We have seven just ask days of shiva, 30 days of shloshim, and a year until the first yahrzeit. Following that, we commemorate this time yearly, on the day of the yahrzeit. Mourning in excess of that is not natural and generally indicates other underlying issues. To avoid getting stuck and not moving through the cycle successfully, it is recommended that you work through the stages with a professional instead of on your own. THE LANGUAGE WE USE TO EXPRESS OURSELVES ACCURATELY GAUGES OUR INNER STATE OF MIND. Notice the words you used in posing your question: “Overprotective... become hysterical... fear of losing her... so worried when she catches cold,” etc. Using Transformational Vocabulary - that is, consciously choosing words that are positively charged - directly impacts our state of mind and conditions our subconscious to serve us well. Concern is proactive. Worry and fear are reactive. Concern means taking responsibility for an area in which we can affect change- namely our own actions and attitudes toward life. Fear is obsessing about something that is totally out of our control, like the weather, the future, or what others think, do, or feel. Concern is healthy and productive, whereas fear is unhealthy and unproductive. We often cross over from concern to fear. It's easy to miss, but it makes a world of a difference. It's wise to be vigilant in all areas in our life to notice if the fear factor is creeping in unannounced. We must swiftly take control and gently move over to concern so we can be PROACTIVE rather than REACTIVE. LIVE IN THE PRESENT, FOR THIS IS ALL WE HAVE. You have probably heard this several times. It is true. When we let go of the guilt of the past and the uncertainty of the future, even the fear of death, then and only then do we start actually living, loving and experiencing happiness. To apply this to your question: 1. Death is a part of life. We cannot separate the two. It’s okay to feel sadness and loss at the passing of our loved ones; however, by remaining imprisoned in the cycle of mourning, you don't ever allow yourself to enjoy the stage called life! 2. The word OVER in “overprotective” indicates that you have crossed over the line from concern to fear. Being lovingly protective of your mother is healthy concern, but adding the word OVER clearly demonstrates that you are unnecessarily fearful and trying to control something that is out of your hands. 3. Enjoy the moments, literally, that you have with your loved ones. We never know when their time, or ours, may come. Your relationship with your mother is precious. Your awareness that the physical connection will end one day should allow you to celebrate more deeply every minute you are privileged to be with her. It is a gift to savor while it lasts. I will add one more thought. When you are in a state of anxiety, you cannot possibly feel for anyone; rather, you are clinging to your fears and worrying how to protect yourself. Once you release your fears, your true feelings for your mother will emerge; then both of you will enjoy the caresses and rewards of pure love! Surie Frenkel is a certified life coach and co-founder of JEWEL. She is passionate about empowering women to be their best. surie@jewel.community 31 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  A.  Loving is a natural and vital part of  Q.  Dear Surie, I feel overprotective about my mother since I lost my...
just ask just ask your voice “I have children ranging in all ages, k”ah. I have found that what I forcefully prevented changed over the years. There may be nothing that I can truly control. Best is modeling how you want them to behave and being clear as to why you don’t want them to do it. Then reevaluate as they change and you change. Practically speaking, you can tell them all you want, but if a child wants to do some- join the discussion Q What is something you would never allow your children to do in your home? thing badly enough he will follow through regardless of your feelings.” “Rollerblading “Yelling. Shhhh must be my favorite word.” Chava Kovacs Tel Tzion, Israel “Throwing anything is a big no no! A balloon A and balls in the house is an absolute NO NO!” Devora S. Lakewood, NJ not tolerated in my home.” once cracked my Murano chandelier!” Ruchie Goldberger “Talking disrespectfully about a teacher.” Chani Czeladniki Bayswater, NY “There are two things: using a play gun and smoking.” Sima Levine Brooklyn, NY “Jumping on beds, eating in bedrooms, potty language and violence, are my biggies.” Brocha Strobel 32 | fyimagazineny.com “My children, or anyone who enters, are not allowed to make racist comments. It is Shira Pearlman Baltimore, Maryland “I try to reframe things in the positive: we color on paper, we say nice things, etc. Although I have made the statement of “There is no name calling here,” that doesn’t always work and sometimes children do name call which negates my rule.” R.W. Chicago Illinois “We have never allowed cell phones at the table during a meal! Or any other phone calls during a meal for that Question for next month: matter!” Kelly Stearns Cadillac, Michigan What is something you would like to improve on yourself or in your family for the New Year? “A die hard rule in my home is that my kids can never sleep in my bed.” Nechama Leibowitz Brooklyn, NY “I used to have rules. Then my children We want to hear from you! Be featured in our next issue. Text your answer to 516-331-1885. became teenagers.” Pearl Gluck 33 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  just ask  your voice     I have children ranging in all ages, k   ah. I have found that what I forcefully preven...
just ask just ask your voice “I have children ranging in all ages, k”ah. I have found that what I forcefully prevented changed over the years. There may be nothing that I can truly control. Best is modeling how you want them to behave and being clear as to why you don’t want them to do it. Then reevaluate as they change and you change. Practically speaking, you can tell them all you want, but if a child wants to do some- join the discussion Q What is something you would never allow your children to do in your home? thing badly enough he will follow through regardless of your feelings.” “Rollerblading “Yelling. Shhhh must be my favorite word.” Chava Kovacs Tel Tzion, Israel “Throwing anything is a big no no! A balloon A and balls in the house is an absolute NO NO!” Devora S. Lakewood, NJ not tolerated in my home.” once cracked my Murano chandelier!” Ruchie Goldberger “Talking disrespectfully about a teacher.” Chani Czeladniki Bayswater, NY “There are two things: using a play gun and smoking.” Sima Levine Brooklyn, NY “Jumping on beds, eating in bedrooms, potty language and violence, are my biggies.” Brocha Strobel 32 | fyimagazineny.com “My children, or anyone who enters, are not allowed to make racist comments. It is Shira Pearlman Baltimore, Maryland “I try to reframe things in the positive: we color on paper, we say nice things, etc. Although I have made the statement of “There is no name calling here,” that doesn’t always work and sometimes children do name call which negates my rule.” R.W. Chicago Illinois “We have never allowed cell phones at the table during a meal! Or any other phone calls during a meal for that Question for next month: matter!” Kelly Stearns Cadillac, Michigan What is something you would like to improve on yourself or in your family for the New Year? “A die hard rule in my home is that my kids can never sleep in my bed.” Nechama Leibowitz Brooklyn, NY “I used to have rules. Then my children We want to hear from you! Be featured in our next issue. Text your answer to 516-331-1885. became teenagers.” Pearl Gluck 33 | fyimagazineny.com
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just ask just ask NAVIGATING THE FINANCIAL LABYRINTH It’s increasingly difficult to avoid letting the media influence our financial decisions. For example, when the market takes a large downturn as it did in 2008, the media frenzy creates a huge whirlwind of negative synergy. Suddenly, the sky is falling and there is no escaping. The authenticity of the internet has taken a major dive in recent years. It offers few objective sources: anyone and everyone is now provided with a microphone, with little to no filter. Mainstream media has done the same. For example, a personality like Bill Maher is provided a platform by HBO, with no need by the network to provide an opposing view. Blogs are plentiful- almost all subjective opinions. Even supposedly objective sources, such as technology reviews, can be manipulated by search engine optimization to gain more eyeballs. For example, after a negative comment about a retail outlet, the retail company floods the comment section of that particular site with positive reviews that minimize the value of the one, true original review. With the sheer volume of information so great, finding time to attend to multiple views is difficult. Moreover, media outlets with clear opinions discourage viewers from seeking out alternative perspectives. For example, a fan of Fox News hears information that confirms his initial opinion on an issue. The need to listen to a counter opinion seems needless. The public is thus ill-educated and ill-informed. Even on a personal level, we’re all guilty of some embellishment. Does anyone enter a status update on Facebook that says “My wife and I had a fight last night?” Every post lauds the wonder of ourselves, our families, and our lives. Happy pictures with happy and inspirational messages. That’s not to say this wasn’t the case in pre-Internet days. I don’t recall an episode of The Brady Bunch where Mr. Brady didn’t turn to one of his children and say, “I hope you learned your lesson,” and the child meekly responds, “Yes, Dad. 34 | fyimagazineny.com 35 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  just ask  NAVIGATING THE  FINANCIAL LABYRINTH It   s increasingly difficult to avoid letting the media influence...
just ask just ask NAVIGATING THE FINANCIAL LABYRINTH It’s increasingly difficult to avoid letting the media influence our financial decisions. For example, when the market takes a large downturn as it did in 2008, the media frenzy creates a huge whirlwind of negative synergy. Suddenly, the sky is falling and there is no escaping. The authenticity of the internet has taken a major dive in recent years. It offers few objective sources: anyone and everyone is now provided with a microphone, with little to no filter. Mainstream media has done the same. For example, a personality like Bill Maher is provided a platform by HBO, with no need by the network to provide an opposing view. Blogs are plentiful- almost all subjective opinions. Even supposedly objective sources, such as technology reviews, can be manipulated by search engine optimization to gain more eyeballs. For example, after a negative comment about a retail outlet, the retail company floods the comment section of that particular site with positive reviews that minimize the value of the one, true original review. With the sheer volume of information so great, finding time to attend to multiple views is difficult. Moreover, media outlets with clear opinions discourage viewers from seeking out alternative perspectives. For example, a fan of Fox News hears information that confirms his initial opinion on an issue. The need to listen to a counter opinion seems needless. The public is thus ill-educated and ill-informed. Even on a personal level, we’re all guilty of some embellishment. Does anyone enter a status update on Facebook that says “My wife and I had a fight last night?” Every post lauds the wonder of ourselves, our families, and our lives. Happy pictures with happy and inspirational messages. That’s not to say this wasn’t the case in pre-Internet days. I don’t recall an episode of The Brady Bunch where Mr. Brady didn’t turn to one of his children and say, “I hope you learned your lesson,” and the child meekly responds, “Yes, Dad. 34 | fyimagazineny.com 35 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  just ask  NAVIGATING THE  FINANCIAL LABYRINTH It   s increasingly difficult to avoid letting the media influence...
just ask just ask Thanks for helping me out.” No screaming, no yelling, and no fighting beyond a word or two. Today, the outlets for “only good” messages have increased exponentially, and so has our propensity to consume them. In the end, finding content has become effortless, and the price for entry has dropped. How do we navigate our worlds amidst the sea of information? When there are so many dissenting opinions on so many topics, like personal planning, how can we be certain the information isn’t centered on a hook devised to line someone else’s pocket? More importantly: how can we be sure the advice and opinions displayed by the mainstream media are applicable to our own lives? We’ll probably never know. However, when it comes to personal financial planning, the mass media is certainly targeting the masses, not one’s particular financial goals. Studies show that when markets take a sizable downturn, investors are 95% more likely to sell low and shortchange their investments, thus incur- ring a large loss from which they cannot recover. We are all familiar with the mantra “buy low, sell high,” yet a large majority of American investors do the opposite. Mind blowing! Instead of short selling at a downturn, a better idea would be call upon other portions of your balance sheet to hold you afloat until the markets recover- which statistically will eventually happen, regardless of the size of the downturn. A great financial advisor should develop a financial plan strong enough to withstand all of life's curve balls. Not only stock market fluctuations, but also disability, liability, and God forbid, death. To get to where you want to go, you need a plan that works for YOU. So go out there and consume! Become smarter! And then make your own educated decisions with the help of a professional you know and trust. Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicated his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com your homemaking problems, solved “There are no perfect homemakers - just real moms, deciding what’s right for their families and working to create a warm, nurturing home for those they love.” Q. Every time I cook, the kitchen ends up a being a mess. Do you have tips on how to keep things neat or how to make less of a mess in the first place? A. If you’re trying to keep your mess a little bit in check, here are some of my best tips. Q. You know the situation: you’re measuring honey or peanut butter and it takes a lot of patience to get the thick stuff out of the jar into the measuring cup, and then again into the bowl. Any tips how to measure sticky ingredients easily and accurately? A. Simply spray your measuring cup with non-stick cooking spray before you put in the ingredient. This way the ingredient will literally just slip out! You will get that perfect amount, without having to keep on spooning. Use a garbage bowl. Instead of walking over to the trash can with handfuls of peelings and most likely dropping some in the process, use a bowl on your work counter to consolidate all your cooking waste. Line your cutting board with a flexible cutting mat. You know that thing that happens when you take your big, stocky cutting board and try to slide a bunch of chopped vegetables into a pan? Half of them go on the floor, right? I like to use a thin, flexible cutting mat on top of my cutting board. When it’s time to transfer the vegetables I pick this up, instead of the whole board, and bend it to funnel everything neatly into the pot. WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED Q. How long should I keep a kitchen sponge? Mine are like toothbrushes and I never throw them out. A. To get even more amazing visuals, follow us: Book your event at: www.michicas.com  845-426-0747  davii@michicas.com or chany@michicas.com While a sponge is excellent for wiping up messes and absorbing liquid quickly, it can also absorb harmful foodborne pathogens along the way. Yes, it’s nastier than the toilet seat and the garbage can. Replace it frequently. Your sponge may be teeming with bacteria. And while cleaning your sponge daily helps reduce the risk of food poisoning, you should consider replacing it regularly. Replace your sponge AT LEAST every few weeks, depending on the activity level in your kitchen. If your sponge starts to smell at any point—toss it out immediately. 37 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  just ask  Thanks for helping me out.    No screaming, no yelling, and no fighting beyond a word or two. Today, t...
just ask just ask Thanks for helping me out.” No screaming, no yelling, and no fighting beyond a word or two. Today, the outlets for “only good” messages have increased exponentially, and so has our propensity to consume them. In the end, finding content has become effortless, and the price for entry has dropped. How do we navigate our worlds amidst the sea of information? When there are so many dissenting opinions on so many topics, like personal planning, how can we be certain the information isn’t centered on a hook devised to line someone else’s pocket? More importantly: how can we be sure the advice and opinions displayed by the mainstream media are applicable to our own lives? We’ll probably never know. However, when it comes to personal financial planning, the mass media is certainly targeting the masses, not one’s particular financial goals. Studies show that when markets take a sizable downturn, investors are 95% more likely to sell low and shortchange their investments, thus incur- ring a large loss from which they cannot recover. We are all familiar with the mantra “buy low, sell high,” yet a large majority of American investors do the opposite. Mind blowing! Instead of short selling at a downturn, a better idea would be call upon other portions of your balance sheet to hold you afloat until the markets recover- which statistically will eventually happen, regardless of the size of the downturn. A great financial advisor should develop a financial plan strong enough to withstand all of life's curve balls. Not only stock market fluctuations, but also disability, liability, and God forbid, death. To get to where you want to go, you need a plan that works for YOU. So go out there and consume! Become smarter! And then make your own educated decisions with the help of a professional you know and trust. Josh Faizzadeh provides practical advice and guidance for success to individuals, families and small businesses. Josh dedicated his professional life to the financial well-being of his clients. josh_faizzadeh@ strategiesforwealth.com your homemaking problems, solved “There are no perfect homemakers - just real moms, deciding what’s right for their families and working to create a warm, nurturing home for those they love.” Q. Every time I cook, the kitchen ends up a being a mess. Do you have tips on how to keep things neat or how to make less of a mess in the first place? A. If you’re trying to keep your mess a little bit in check, here are some of my best tips. Q. You know the situation: you’re measuring honey or peanut butter and it takes a lot of patience to get the thick stuff out of the jar into the measuring cup, and then again into the bowl. Any tips how to measure sticky ingredients easily and accurately? A. Simply spray your measuring cup with non-stick cooking spray before you put in the ingredient. This way the ingredient will literally just slip out! You will get that perfect amount, without having to keep on spooning. Use a garbage bowl. Instead of walking over to the trash can with handfuls of peelings and most likely dropping some in the process, use a bowl on your work counter to consolidate all your cooking waste. Line your cutting board with a flexible cutting mat. You know that thing that happens when you take your big, stocky cutting board and try to slide a bunch of chopped vegetables into a pan? Half of them go on the floor, right? I like to use a thin, flexible cutting mat on top of my cutting board. When it’s time to transfer the vegetables I pick this up, instead of the whole board, and bend it to funnel everything neatly into the pot. WRITTEN BY RAIZY FRIED Q. How long should I keep a kitchen sponge? Mine are like toothbrushes and I never throw them out. A. To get even more amazing visuals, follow us: Book your event at: www.michicas.com  845-426-0747  davii@michicas.com or chany@michicas.com While a sponge is excellent for wiping up messes and absorbing liquid quickly, it can also absorb harmful foodborne pathogens along the way. Yes, it’s nastier than the toilet seat and the garbage can. Replace it frequently. Your sponge may be teeming with bacteria. And while cleaning your sponge daily helps reduce the risk of food poisoning, you should consider replacing it regularly. Replace your sponge AT LEAST every few weeks, depending on the activity level in your kitchen. If your sponge starts to smell at any point—toss it out immediately. 37 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  just ask  Thanks for helping me out.    No screaming, no yelling, and no fighting beyond a word or two. Today, t...
just ask fall in love with life Clean As You Go. As you’re working and see the sink piling up with utensils, take a break and wash them. Don’t wait until you’re done with your meal and you have an overloaded sink. Another great tip is to keep some disinfecting wipes around, for a quick swipe here and there. I find it easier to keep cleaning drops than a huge pile-up of dirt later. pg Fashion Feed Cook more slowly. This is the biggest way to minimize a mess. Being slow and deliberate in measuring and chopping, and wiping up in between each step, is probably the most effective way to cook neatly. But this is the one place I don’t usually follow my own advice; I am often trying to do too much at once. And I will definitely not give up on getting all that done! pg we face new organizational challenges. School bells ring, as do early-morning alarm clocks. How do I get my kids out of summer mode and adjust them to the regular school routine? A. The first day of school is no time for a drastic need to rise when school begins. 43 Really Longlasting? Or just another Gimmick? Q. With the start of school, adjustment of household sleep schedules. Instead, ease children back into a school year routine gradually. During the last two weeks of summer, reintroduce a school year bedtime. Begin waking late sleepers earlier and earlier, closer to the hour they’ll 41 Q. I find the back-to-school shopping for the kids extremely overwhelming and hard to keep under control. Any tips? A. August is the second-biggest sales month for clothing retailers. Back-to-school clothing sales begin as early as July! An informed shopper is a savvy shopper, so prepare before you shop. Take an afternoon and assess each child’s clothing needs. Empty drawers and closets of outgrown or worn-out clothing, and either store or donate the discards. Develop a wardrobe needs list for each child. Check for possible hand-me-downs from older siblings as you make your list. If you discuss the needs list and the family budget with your children before you shop, you’ll avoid in-the-store tantrums. It’s always better to be ahead of the game and shop earlier if you can. 38 | fyimagazineny.com
just ask  fall in love with life  Clean As You Go. As you   re working and see the sink piling up with utensils, take a br...
just ask fall in love with life Clean As You Go. As you’re working and see the sink piling up with utensils, take a break and wash them. Don’t wait until you’re done with your meal and you have an overloaded sink. Another great tip is to keep some disinfecting wipes around, for a quick swipe here and there. I find it easier to keep cleaning drops than a huge pile-up of dirt later. pg Fashion Feed Cook more slowly. This is the biggest way to minimize a mess. Being slow and deliberate in measuring and chopping, and wiping up in between each step, is probably the most effective way to cook neatly. But this is the one place I don’t usually follow my own advice; I am often trying to do too much at once. And I will definitely not give up on getting all that done! pg we face new organizational challenges. School bells ring, as do early-morning alarm clocks. How do I get my kids out of summer mode and adjust them to the regular school routine? A. The first day of school is no time for a drastic need to rise when school begins. 43 Really Longlasting? Or just another Gimmick? Q. With the start of school, adjustment of household sleep schedules. Instead, ease children back into a school year routine gradually. During the last two weeks of summer, reintroduce a school year bedtime. Begin waking late sleepers earlier and earlier, closer to the hour they’ll 41 Q. I find the back-to-school shopping for the kids extremely overwhelming and hard to keep under control. Any tips? A. August is the second-biggest sales month for clothing retailers. Back-to-school clothing sales begin as early as July! An informed shopper is a savvy shopper, so prepare before you shop. Take an afternoon and assess each child’s clothing needs. Empty drawers and closets of outgrown or worn-out clothing, and either store or donate the discards. Develop a wardrobe needs list for each child. Check for possible hand-me-downs from older siblings as you make your list. If you discuss the needs list and the family budget with your children before you shop, you’ll avoid in-the-store tantrums. It’s always better to be ahead of the game and shop earlier if you can. 38 | fyimagazineny.com
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fall in love with life fall in love with life 5 minutes to fitness FA S H I O N F E E D Thus far, we focused on upper body muscles and core muscles. This month, we are going to focus on a large muscle group of the lower body. The quadriceps, the muscle in the front of the upper legs, is composed of four muscles, hence the name “quads.” The function of this muscle is to help extend the knee. A favorite exercise of mine that works the quadriceps, amongst other assisted muscle groups like the gluteus maximus, is the reverse lunge. This is a safer option than the front lunge, and most find it easier as well. The reverse lunge allows your weight to remain on your front leg, so you feel more stable and balanced. You may even wish to combine the lunge with an upper body exercise adding weights. A favorite exercise of mine that works the quadriceps, amongst other assisted muscle groups like the gluteus maximus, is the reverse lunge. To perform the back lunge, stand straight with your legs together, chest forward, and shoulders back. While you exhale, take a large deep step back with your right leg, while your left leg is in front and becomes your supporting leg. Flex both knees. Your front knee remains over the ankle and your rear knee should be within inches from the ground, while pressing into your back toes. Exhale once more, and bring your rear right leg back to starting position next to your left. Continue and keep alternating legs. To take it up a notch, you can add weights in your hands for some resistance. FASHION EDITOR: BETTY GULKO fringe Unless you’ve been under a rock, you should already know about fringe and its influence on designers and fashionistas alike. The style has maintained a steady position as one of the top trends for the past few seasons and shows no signs of slowing down. Fringe is an easy way to add fun and texture to any of your looks, and you can incorporate it in a variety of interesting ways. Fringe can be your friend; don’t hesitate to introduce it to your wardrobe; from bags to boots, give it a whirl.  Bea Box pleat midi length scuba skater skirt, $26, boohoo.com  Mango suede fringe jacket, $119.99, mango.com Fringe can be your friend; don’t hesitate to introduce it to your wardrobe; from bags to boots, give it a whirl. Rebecca Blue is a fitness enthusiast for over 27 years. She is the co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue1994@yahoo.com  TopShop Unique patent leather skinny strap sandals, $110, topshop.com J.Brand long sleeved t-shirt, $72.96, farfetch.com 40 | fyimagazineny.com 41 | fyimagazineny.com
fall in love with life  fall in love with life  5 minutes to fitness  FA S H I O N F E E D  Thus far, we focused on upper ...
fall in love with life fall in love with life 5 minutes to fitness FA S H I O N F E E D Thus far, we focused on upper body muscles and core muscles. This month, we are going to focus on a large muscle group of the lower body. The quadriceps, the muscle in the front of the upper legs, is composed of four muscles, hence the name “quads.” The function of this muscle is to help extend the knee. A favorite exercise of mine that works the quadriceps, amongst other assisted muscle groups like the gluteus maximus, is the reverse lunge. This is a safer option than the front lunge, and most find it easier as well. The reverse lunge allows your weight to remain on your front leg, so you feel more stable and balanced. You may even wish to combine the lunge with an upper body exercise adding weights. A favorite exercise of mine that works the quadriceps, amongst other assisted muscle groups like the gluteus maximus, is the reverse lunge. To perform the back lunge, stand straight with your legs together, chest forward, and shoulders back. While you exhale, take a large deep step back with your right leg, while your left leg is in front and becomes your supporting leg. Flex both knees. Your front knee remains over the ankle and your rear knee should be within inches from the ground, while pressing into your back toes. Exhale once more, and bring your rear right leg back to starting position next to your left. Continue and keep alternating legs. To take it up a notch, you can add weights in your hands for some resistance. FASHION EDITOR: BETTY GULKO fringe Unless you’ve been under a rock, you should already know about fringe and its influence on designers and fashionistas alike. The style has maintained a steady position as one of the top trends for the past few seasons and shows no signs of slowing down. Fringe is an easy way to add fun and texture to any of your looks, and you can incorporate it in a variety of interesting ways. Fringe can be your friend; don’t hesitate to introduce it to your wardrobe; from bags to boots, give it a whirl.  Bea Box pleat midi length scuba skater skirt, $26, boohoo.com  Mango suede fringe jacket, $119.99, mango.com Fringe can be your friend; don’t hesitate to introduce it to your wardrobe; from bags to boots, give it a whirl. Rebecca Blue is a fitness enthusiast for over 27 years. She is the co-owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio. rblue1994@yahoo.com  TopShop Unique patent leather skinny strap sandals, $110, topshop.com J.Brand long sleeved t-shirt, $72.96, farfetch.com 40 | fyimagazineny.com 41 | fyimagazineny.com
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fall in love with life fall in love with life e & shine sparkl Looking for a way to get that missing “oomph” in your look? Its simple! Just add some sparkle or shine! Start with just one piece of your look. Or, you can embrace it fully and go all in. While this trend has always been considered a nighttime look, try shining during the day. Why not? Oh, and while you’re at it, don’t forget to add some sparkle to your beauty routine! #Shineon  ASOS Premium foil bandage pencil skirt, $64, asos.com  Mirrored skinny strap heeled sandal, $80.00, express.com  J.Furmani fashion clutch, $50, shoebuy.com  L.K. Bennett Phoebe silk blouse, $264, johnlewis.com ...don’t forget to add some sparkle to your beauty routine! tweed Compact clutch, $60.00, charleskeith.com When you hear “tweed,” you automatically think Chanel – perhaps because Chanel was tweeding before anyone else. But recently, tweed has made its mark within a vast genre of labels. In addition to adding that scholastic sophistication to your look, its incredible versatility makes it accessible to everyone, both young and old, and it’s an easy addition to some of the other looks we previewed in the past. Think: flowy bohemian dress or that simple jean skirt … go for it! Alice + Olivia Damsel suede cap-toe pump, $155, neimanmarcus.com Lanvin fringe jacket, $2,290, shopstyle.com, 42 | fyimagazineny.com L.K. Bennett Darya tweed dress, $352, houseoffreaser.com Betty Gulko is an orthodox freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@gmail.com Follow her on Instagram @such.a.betty for a daily dose of #LifeOfaStylist! REALLY LONG LASTING The term “lip stain” gets tossed around quite a lot, doesn't it? But how many people do we all know who can prove their stains lasted all through a Yom Tov or Shabbos with messy oily food? OR JUST ANOTHER WRITTEN BY MICHAL LEVINE As a makeup artist myself, I can attest to the fact that a large quantity of those so called "lip stains" die prematurely. For the most part, that's a travesty. I've done my rounds and tried the stains as they come in and out of style. Some more expensive ones don't live up to par, and some surprisingly cheap ones will blow you away. We're all hungry for makeup tips: what lasts GIMMICK? the longest, what is the healthiest, cruelty-free, or where can I find that? The answer is simply this. Try them all! But let's be realistic; that can get majorly expensive. So here's the trick, from me to you. This is the best piece of advice a makeup artist can give you. The best doesn't mean the most expensive, though lip stains will always cost more than just your regular lipstick. I'll go through a small collection of stains with you, so you can last lip sparkle-perfect three Yom Tov days later! First off we have the best, more on the expensive side - though this completely contradicts what I just said - but still a winner by all rounds. MAKE UP FOR EVER, AQUA ROUGE This big shot can withstand nuclear bombs. Go ahead,
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fall in love with life fall in love with life e & shine sparkl Looking for a way to get that missing “oomph” in your look? Its simple! Just add some sparkle or shine! Start with just one piece of your look. Or, you can embrace it fully and go all in. While this trend has always been considered a nighttime look, try shining during the day. Why not? Oh, and while you’re at it, don’t forget to add some sparkle to your beauty routine! #Shineon  ASOS Premium foil bandage pencil skirt, $64, asos.com  Mirrored skinny strap heeled sandal, $80.00, express.com  J.Furmani fashion clutch, $50, shoebuy.com  L.K. Bennett Phoebe silk blouse, $264, johnlewis.com ...don’t forget to add some sparkle to your beauty routine! tweed Compact clutch, $60.00, charleskeith.com When you hear “tweed,” you automatically think Chanel – perhaps because Chanel was tweeding before anyone else. But recently, tweed has made its mark within a vast genre of labels. In addition to adding that scholastic sophistication to your look, its incredible versatility makes it accessible to everyone, both young and old, and it’s an easy addition to some of the other looks we previewed in the past. Think: flowy bohemian dress or that simple jean skirt … go for it! Alice + Olivia Damsel suede cap-toe pump, $155, neimanmarcus.com Lanvin fringe jacket, $2,290, shopstyle.com, 42 | fyimagazineny.com L.K. Bennett Darya tweed dress, $352, houseoffreaser.com Betty Gulko is an orthodox freelance fashion stylist based in NYC. She has been featured in the Huffington Post, E Online, and other media outlets. Her styling work has been featured in major ad campaigns. For styling or media inquiries, feel free to contact her at: bettygulko1@gmail.com Follow her on Instagram @such.a.betty for a daily dose of #LifeOfaStylist! REALLY LONG LASTING The term “lip stain” gets tossed around quite a lot, doesn't it? But how many people do we all know who can prove their stains lasted all through a Yom Tov or Shabbos with messy oily food? OR JUST ANOTHER WRITTEN BY MICHAL LEVINE As a makeup artist myself, I can attest to the fact that a large quantity of those so called "lip stains" die prematurely. For the most part, that's a travesty. I've done my rounds and tried the stains as they come in and out of style. Some more expensive ones don't live up to par, and some surprisingly cheap ones will blow you away. We're all hungry for makeup tips: what lasts GIMMICK? the longest, what is the healthiest, cruelty-free, or where can I find that? The answer is simply this. Try them all! But let's be realistic; that can get majorly expensive. So here's the trick, from me to you. This is the best piece of advice a makeup artist can give you. The best doesn't mean the most expensive, though lip stains will always cost more than just your regular lipstick. I'll go through a small collection of stains with you, so you can last lip sparkle-perfect three Yom Tov days later! First off we have the best, more on the expensive side - though this completely contradicts what I just said - but still a winner by all rounds. MAKE UP FOR EVER, AQUA ROUGE This big shot can withstand nuclear bombs. Go ahead,
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fall in love with life STILA COSMETICS, STAY ALL DAY LIQUID LIPSTICK This girl is an old-time friend. She may not have the bomb-proof resistance our Aqua Rouge has going on, but Stila has to rank in the top five. The pigment encompassed in this bottle is bright, fabulous, and true to color. It can be a little drying, can get a little wrinkly if you layer too quickly without letting each layer dry, and sometimes can flake if you eat too many greasy foods. With all that said, nothing is foolproof, or bomb-proof, but with Stila, it's pretty close. Stila may not be number 1, but she follows close behind. This stain is the most pricey at a solid $30 dollars a pop, but well worth the extra chump change. SEPHORA COLLECTION, CREAM LIP STAIN Significantly cheaper than both Makeup Forever and Stila, sitting at a solid $16. Though this product might be cheaper, it is by no means inferior. In fact, it is just as vibrant and long-lasting. The Sephora lip stain, in my humble opinion, is almost identical to Stila. If I had to jot down the differences between them, how they feel, how they dry, if they flake, the responses would be surprisingly close, or no different at all. This being the cheapest, and best value for your dollar, Sephora lip stain is really a go-getter. You may not be able to smear mud all over it, but this one can stand on her own two feet. typically goes for around $8.99 a piece. This gal is pretty and simple. She also can manage without the whole entourage team, i.e lip liner and lip balm galore. The feel is creamy and glossy, it never seems to dry completely, and it feels like you're wearing nothing at all. But when you eat, your lips will be stained when the shine wears off. And… no dry lips! You simply can't go wrong with that. This perfect mix between lipstick and lip gloss is a secure winner. KAT VON D, EVERLASTING LIQUID LIPSTICK We all know how heavy-duty Kat Von D is; her entire empire has been built on full coverage. This one speaks for itself. Kat Von D has not failed to impress us once more with her luscious liquid lipsticks ($24) that last and stay perfect for ages, and look fabulous quotes that inspire “The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.” overall. The formula is just so exquisite, and the color is absolutely spot on. These liquid lippies come in some fun and exciting colors. Don't be afraid to pop a little during the summer. It only makes for better photos, and more satisfaction while eating that ice cream at the beach. You know that the lippy will still be perfect afterwards! “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not to people or things.” Do you have makeup questions to ask our makeup expert Batya Hess? Email them to info@fyimagazineny.com or text to 516-331-1885. NYX SOFT MATTE LIP CREAM You wanted cheap, well here it is, ladies! The NYX soft matte lip cream ALBERT EINSTEIN CREDIT TO GO IN THERE rub some dirt on it, eat those greasy fries, scrub your toothbrush over it and voila, you've got yourself the same lip stain you had five minutes ago. It's truly great, and truly long lasting. This product is around $24 which may take a chunk out of your pocket - but if you're willing to shell out the big bucks, you can't go wrong. fall in love with life “Wake up with determination. Go to bed with satisfaction.” “You can’t start the next chapter of your life, if you keep rereading the last one.” “You don’t have to be great to start. You have to start to be great.” “You can do anything - if you have enthusiasm.” HENRY FORD
fall in love with life  STILA COSMETICS, STAY ALL DAY LIQUID LIPSTICK This girl is an old-time friend. She may not have th...
fall in love with life STILA COSMETICS, STAY ALL DAY LIQUID LIPSTICK This girl is an old-time friend. She may not have the bomb-proof resistance our Aqua Rouge has going on, but Stila has to rank in the top five. The pigment encompassed in this bottle is bright, fabulous, and true to color. It can be a little drying, can get a little wrinkly if you layer too quickly without letting each layer dry, and sometimes can flake if you eat too many greasy foods. With all that said, nothing is foolproof, or bomb-proof, but with Stila, it's pretty close. Stila may not be number 1, but she follows close behind. This stain is the most pricey at a solid $30 dollars a pop, but well worth the extra chump change. SEPHORA COLLECTION, CREAM LIP STAIN Significantly cheaper than both Makeup Forever and Stila, sitting at a solid $16. Though this product might be cheaper, it is by no means inferior. In fact, it is just as vibrant and long-lasting. The Sephora lip stain, in my humble opinion, is almost identical to Stila. If I had to jot down the differences between them, how they feel, how they dry, if they flake, the responses would be surprisingly close, or no different at all. This being the cheapest, and best value for your dollar, Sephora lip stain is really a go-getter. You may not be able to smear mud all over it, but this one can stand on her own two feet. typically goes for around $8.99 a piece. This gal is pretty and simple. She also can manage without the whole entourage team, i.e lip liner and lip balm galore. The feel is creamy and glossy, it never seems to dry completely, and it feels like you're wearing nothing at all. But when you eat, your lips will be stained when the shine wears off. And… no dry lips! You simply can't go wrong with that. This perfect mix between lipstick and lip gloss is a secure winner. KAT VON D, EVERLASTING LIQUID LIPSTICK We all know how heavy-duty Kat Von D is; her entire empire has been built on full coverage. This one speaks for itself. Kat Von D has not failed to impress us once more with her luscious liquid lipsticks ($24) that last and stay perfect for ages, and look fabulous quotes that inspire “The only time you should look back is to see how far you’ve come.” overall. The formula is just so exquisite, and the color is absolutely spot on. These liquid lippies come in some fun and exciting colors. Don't be afraid to pop a little during the summer. It only makes for better photos, and more satisfaction while eating that ice cream at the beach. You know that the lippy will still be perfect afterwards! “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal. Not to people or things.” Do you have makeup questions to ask our makeup expert Batya Hess? Email them to info@fyimagazineny.com or text to 516-331-1885. NYX SOFT MATTE LIP CREAM You wanted cheap, well here it is, ladies! The NYX soft matte lip cream ALBERT EINSTEIN CREDIT TO GO IN THERE rub some dirt on it, eat those greasy fries, scrub your toothbrush over it and voila, you've got yourself the same lip stain you had five minutes ago. It's truly great, and truly long lasting. This product is around $24 which may take a chunk out of your pocket - but if you're willing to shell out the big bucks, you can't go wrong. fall in love with life “Wake up with determination. Go to bed with satisfaction.” “You can’t start the next chapter of your life, if you keep rereading the last one.” “You don’t have to be great to start. You have to start to be great.” “You can do anything - if you have enthusiasm.” HENRY FORD
fall in love with life  STILA COSMETICS, STAY ALL DAY LIQUID LIPSTICK This girl is an old-time friend. She may not have th...
fall in love with life WHAT WILL MAKE YOU DANCE RATHER THAN WALK? fall in love with life The radical act is living a life based on Close your eyes for a minute and a model of personal values and preferimagine this scene: ences. We have been taught from a very You are well into your older years: early age to be practical, successful, accomplished, retired and enjoying a pragmatic and accomplished. We peaceful life. You’re sitting on your learned to follow what our head tells us rocking chair on the front porch of your rather than what our heart is screaming. country home enjoying the serenity, the We were trained to operate inside the sounds of the birds chirping and the box of what we know we can achieve, fresh air. rather than risking the uncharted In front of you is a large grassy lawn territories of what we truly desire. and the street is in the distance. Rocking the boat of this training and Suddenly, people start appearing on actually stepping out of the box requires your front lawn. More and more people fierce loyalty to what you know to be are showing up. The lawn is now full of true about yourself people. You realize and your dreams. that these people are You need to stretch all the people you’ve beyond your limits and come in contact with WHAT WILL MAKE to go for what your throughout your YOU LIVE A LIFE OF heart really desires. lifetime. ALIVENESS, What will make you A line forms and one COMMITMENT, AND sing rather than by one each person speak? What will make comes up to speak to PASSION, RATHER you dance rather than you. They begin to THAN SETTLING FOR walk? What will make thank you and to tell THE SECOND BEST you live a life of you how you’ve had YOU? aliveness, commitsuch a powerful ment, and passion, impact on their lives. rather than settling for This lasts for hours as the second best you? each person wants to Think about one thing that people thank you in person for what you have were thanking you for. Commit to one meant to them. step that will bring you closer to being Now open your eyes and think about that person. It can be saying “Good the following. Write down the answers morning” at work with a lively smile, or as they come. What were people saying “Thank you” to your spouse once thanking you for? What impact did you or twice more a day. It can be deciding have on their lives? Who did you have to to exercise or working on an art project. be to have this kind of effect on so many The main thing to remember is that you people? What parts of yourself did you are that person in the rocking chair that need to pull out of the deep resources everyone is thanking right NOW. within to become who you are? What personal values did you need to honor to Candelabra is a husband-and-wife team that become who you are? What difficult, but has mentored men and women for two rewarding decisions, did you have to decades. Our passion is being there for people, make to have such an impact? witnessing their transformation and guiding them towards better health, a more meaningIn these answers lies your inner ful career, stronger relationships and deeper wisdom. Your wisdom knows that if you life fulfillment. Book your FREE Trial Session live your life based on your personal with Bezalel or Rivka Malka at CandelabraCoaching.com values, you will achieve unlimited success. Contentment, fulfillment, and achievement are all available. You know it - you felt it. But it requires a radical act. 47 | fyimagazineny.com
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fall in love with life WHAT WILL MAKE YOU DANCE RATHER THAN WALK? fall in love with life The radical act is living a life based on Close your eyes for a minute and a model of personal values and preferimagine this scene: ences. We have been taught from a very You are well into your older years: early age to be practical, successful, accomplished, retired and enjoying a pragmatic and accomplished. We peaceful life. You’re sitting on your learned to follow what our head tells us rocking chair on the front porch of your rather than what our heart is screaming. country home enjoying the serenity, the We were trained to operate inside the sounds of the birds chirping and the box of what we know we can achieve, fresh air. rather than risking the uncharted In front of you is a large grassy lawn territories of what we truly desire. and the street is in the distance. Rocking the boat of this training and Suddenly, people start appearing on actually stepping out of the box requires your front lawn. More and more people fierce loyalty to what you know to be are showing up. The lawn is now full of true about yourself people. You realize and your dreams. that these people are You need to stretch all the people you’ve beyond your limits and come in contact with WHAT WILL MAKE to go for what your throughout your YOU LIVE A LIFE OF heart really desires. lifetime. ALIVENESS, What will make you A line forms and one COMMITMENT, AND sing rather than by one each person speak? What will make comes up to speak to PASSION, RATHER you dance rather than you. They begin to THAN SETTLING FOR walk? What will make thank you and to tell THE SECOND BEST you live a life of you how you’ve had YOU? aliveness, commitsuch a powerful ment, and passion, impact on their lives. rather than settling for This lasts for hours as the second best you? each person wants to Think about one thing that people thank you in person for what you have were thanking you for. Commit to one meant to them. step that will bring you closer to being Now open your eyes and think about that person. It can be saying “Good the following. Write down the answers morning” at work with a lively smile, or as they come. What were people saying “Thank you” to your spouse once thanking you for? What impact did you or twice more a day. It can be deciding have on their lives? Who did you have to to exercise or working on an art project. be to have this kind of effect on so many The main thing to remember is that you people? What parts of yourself did you are that person in the rocking chair that need to pull out of the deep resources everyone is thanking right NOW. within to become who you are? What personal values did you need to honor to Candelabra is a husband-and-wife team that become who you are? What difficult, but has mentored men and women for two rewarding decisions, did you have to decades. Our passion is being there for people, make to have such an impact? witnessing their transformation and guiding them towards better health, a more meaningIn these answers lies your inner ful career, stronger relationships and deeper wisdom. Your wisdom knows that if you life fulfillment. Book your FREE Trial Session live your life based on your personal with Bezalel or Rivka Malka at CandelabraCoaching.com values, you will achieve unlimited success. Contentment, fulfillment, and achievement are all available. You know it - you felt it. But it requires a radical act. 47 | fyimagazineny.com
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Just in time for spring fall in love with life take a break: HAVE A STAYCATION Metropolitan Museum of Art, NY Coney Island, NY You may not be going away this year, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take a vacation. Why not have a staycation and become a tourist in your own city? Have a leisurely day (or days!) and take time out to explore new places not far from your home. It’s all of the fun, without any of the hassle. There’s no packing and unpacking or dealing with airport security. And best of all, you get to sleep in your own comfortable bed at the end of the day. This isn’t about having a day off to do the things you usually do. So you’re not just going to go shopping at the same old mall. In fact, you aren’t going anywhere you’ve been before. Today is all about exploring and new discoveries. AHEAD OF THE CURVE WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER www.yonanewyork.com 48 | fyimagazineny.com 855-YONA-NYC
Just in time for spring  fall in love with life  take a break  HAVE A STAYCATION Metropolitan Museum of Art, NY  Coney Isl...
Just in time for spring fall in love with life take a break: HAVE A STAYCATION Metropolitan Museum of Art, NY Coney Island, NY You may not be going away this year, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take a vacation. Why not have a staycation and become a tourist in your own city? Have a leisurely day (or days!) and take time out to explore new places not far from your home. It’s all of the fun, without any of the hassle. There’s no packing and unpacking or dealing with airport security. And best of all, you get to sleep in your own comfortable bed at the end of the day. This isn’t about having a day off to do the things you usually do. So you’re not just going to go shopping at the same old mall. In fact, you aren’t going anywhere you’ve been before. Today is all about exploring and new discoveries. AHEAD OF THE CURVE WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER www.yonanewyork.com 48 | fyimagazineny.com 855-YONA-NYC
Just in time for spring  fall in love with life  take a break  HAVE A STAYCATION Metropolitan Museum of Art, NY  Coney Isl...
get a handle on it IDEAS FOR YOUR STAYCATION DAY A great way to start the morning is by going out for a leisurely breakfast. Find a good kosher cafe with a breakfast menu. If you’re on your own, bring a book or magazine (like FYI!). Enjoy being served while eating some delicious food, and having a good read. Here are suggestions of some ways you can continue your day: • Visit a museum or gallery you've never been to before. A nature walk in a state park. This is a particularly suitable activity to share with someone else. • Try a new activity, like dry slope skiing, fencing, or pottery making. • A guided bus tour. • Any afternoon matinee at the theatre. • A ferry or boat ride to visit a different area close by. You get a whole new perspective from the water and it's a relaxing way to travel. pg • A wander through the streets in an unfamiliar part of the city to see what you come across, like interesting sights and architecture, or antique and boutique shops. Take the time to really notice new things. To round off your day, go out for dinner at a restaurant. If possible, don’t go to your usual haunt. Find a restaurant that offers new or interesting cuisine like kosher Thai, Moroccan, or Indian food. Enjoy your staycation. Don't forget to take some pictures. And why not treat yourself to a few souvenirs too? 65 “Transitions are hard for everyone, and mornings are essentially a transition from slumber into action. The sudden flip from summer to back-to-school is another challenging transition.” - HOW TO GET YOUR CHILDREN OUT THE DOOR IN THE MORNING High Line Park, NY 50 | fyimagazineny.com 60 Basement Rehab CREDIT TO GO IN THERE HOW TO PLAN YOUR STAYCATION Like a proper trip, plan an outline of your day in advance. Don’t leave it to chance; otherwise, you could easily waste half the day deciding where to go. Think about what you like to do. Are you interested in sightseeing, soaking in the culture at a museum, walking the city streets, or hiking in open spaces? Find out exactly what your city and its environs have to offer. In summertime, there may be special events for tourists. The internet is a great place to find out what’s going on. If you live in a small town and you already know every street and place of interest, then consider visiting a town or city nearby. Check if it has a tourist office or online tourist guide where you can learn more about it. Another consideration is whether you prefer a solitary day to yourself or would rather share it with a friend. Treat your day like a real vacation, so strictly no work. That means no calls, checking emails, or answering messages. Let people know in advance that you’re taking a day off. This also means no running errands, or picking up the weekly groceries on your way home. Save that for another day. Today is all about a break from the mundane and routine to discover something new. • 56 5 Ways To Eliminate Back To School Anxiety A guided walking tour through an area of your city you rarely frequent. • Mystic Seaport, CT pg
get a handle on it  IDEAS FOR YOUR STAYCATION DAY A great way to start the morning is by going out for a leisurely breakfa...
get a handle on it IDEAS FOR YOUR STAYCATION DAY A great way to start the morning is by going out for a leisurely breakfast. Find a good kosher cafe with a breakfast menu. If you’re on your own, bring a book or magazine (like FYI!). Enjoy being served while eating some delicious food, and having a good read. Here are suggestions of some ways you can continue your day: • Visit a museum or gallery you've never been to before. A nature walk in a state park. This is a particularly suitable activity to share with someone else. • Try a new activity, like dry slope skiing, fencing, or pottery making. • A guided bus tour. • Any afternoon matinee at the theatre. • A ferry or boat ride to visit a different area close by. You get a whole new perspective from the water and it's a relaxing way to travel. pg • A wander through the streets in an unfamiliar part of the city to see what you come across, like interesting sights and architecture, or antique and boutique shops. Take the time to really notice new things. To round off your day, go out for dinner at a restaurant. If possible, don’t go to your usual haunt. Find a restaurant that offers new or interesting cuisine like kosher Thai, Moroccan, or Indian food. Enjoy your staycation. Don't forget to take some pictures. And why not treat yourself to a few souvenirs too? 65 “Transitions are hard for everyone, and mornings are essentially a transition from slumber into action. The sudden flip from summer to back-to-school is another challenging transition.” - HOW TO GET YOUR CHILDREN OUT THE DOOR IN THE MORNING High Line Park, NY 50 | fyimagazineny.com 60 Basement Rehab CREDIT TO GO IN THERE HOW TO PLAN YOUR STAYCATION Like a proper trip, plan an outline of your day in advance. Don’t leave it to chance; otherwise, you could easily waste half the day deciding where to go. Think about what you like to do. Are you interested in sightseeing, soaking in the culture at a museum, walking the city streets, or hiking in open spaces? Find out exactly what your city and its environs have to offer. In summertime, there may be special events for tourists. The internet is a great place to find out what’s going on. If you live in a small town and you already know every street and place of interest, then consider visiting a town or city nearby. Check if it has a tourist office or online tourist guide where you can learn more about it. Another consideration is whether you prefer a solitary day to yourself or would rather share it with a friend. Treat your day like a real vacation, so strictly no work. That means no calls, checking emails, or answering messages. Let people know in advance that you’re taking a day off. This also means no running errands, or picking up the weekly groceries on your way home. Save that for another day. Today is all about a break from the mundane and routine to discover something new. • 56 5 Ways To Eliminate Back To School Anxiety A guided walking tour through an area of your city you rarely frequent. • Mystic Seaport, CT pg
get a handle on it  IDEAS FOR YOUR STAYCATION DAY A great way to start the morning is by going out for a leisurely breakfa...
get a handle on it POSITIVE PARENTING MESSAGES "My children never misquote me. They always repeat exactly what I shouldn't have said word for word." Which parent has not experienced the humiliation of hearing her words echoed to a table full of bewildered guests? Parents of young children input messages to them constantly. The way a mom responds in a given situation models how the child will respond in similar situations. Awareness of the power our words and actions have on our children enables us to take steps to ensure that we are relating positive and constructive messages that foster strength, confidence and compassion. Let’s take a look at the mother who is aggressive by nature and instructs her child in a forceful way. She may demand answers immediately and address her child harshly. The child may in turn, present with aggression around peers, bossiness, and difficulty accepting limits or being told to wait a moment. The internal message that has been expressed to this child is “If you want something, you need to be aggressive about it. 52 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  POSITIVE PARENTING MESSAGES  My children never misquote me. They always repeat exactly what I shouldn ...
get a handle on it POSITIVE PARENTING MESSAGES "My children never misquote me. They always repeat exactly what I shouldn't have said word for word." Which parent has not experienced the humiliation of hearing her words echoed to a table full of bewildered guests? Parents of young children input messages to them constantly. The way a mom responds in a given situation models how the child will respond in similar situations. Awareness of the power our words and actions have on our children enables us to take steps to ensure that we are relating positive and constructive messages that foster strength, confidence and compassion. Let’s take a look at the mother who is aggressive by nature and instructs her child in a forceful way. She may demand answers immediately and address her child harshly. The child may in turn, present with aggression around peers, bossiness, and difficulty accepting limits or being told to wait a moment. The internal message that has been expressed to this child is “If you want something, you need to be aggressive about it. 52 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  POSITIVE PARENTING MESSAGES  My children never misquote me. They always repeat exactly what I shouldn ...
get a handle on it get a handle on it Love and support, coupled with empathy and open communication, are the vital ingredients in the recipe of your thriving child. On the flip side, a child who is raised by a non-assertive, timid, and shy mom may come to fear people and have trouble standing up for herself. She may stand back when her needs are not met, due to fear of others, especially authority. She may dread expressing herself to teachers and peers and may suffer silently in the classroom or camp setting. So where is the middle ground? What is the recipe for raising a child who has the ability to stand up for herself and for others, yet is able to display patience and kindness and navigate effectively in all life settings? Allow us to bring forth the three truths about parenting that help shape the well-adjusted, emotionally regulated child, while easing away the guilt and trepidation that come with mothering. TRUTH ONE: There is no "right way" to parent. There is no one specific or correct response to a given situation. Every parent will utilize her judgment and resources to respond to her child in a way that will benefit him best. For example, if a child needs some space after a full day of school, the mom should allow him time to unwind before demanding communication from him, or instructing him to begin homework. The opposite would apply to the child who craves hugs and attention and wants to talk after returning home. He would benefit from an emotionally available mother, ready to listen and engage. TRUTH TWO: Your child is the best parenting expert! Yes, you read this correctly. Through his actions, behaviors and words, your child demonstrates to you day after day how you can best care for him. This is why blanket statements such as "Children need two hours of this..."And "Children need a mother who is..." are dangerous. They may be accurate for many children, but not yours. Tune in to your child's emotions and respond with empathy and support, and your self-doubt may very well take a long hike. TRUTH THREE: Confident children feel like they are competent and can make a difference in the world. Give your child tasks she can master and she won't need long-winded speeches about how awesome she is, because she will know that already. She will recognize that she matters, and that her efforts result in positive changes. A mother who struggles with self-esteem must be wary of the messages that she relates about herself. A child who frequently hears "I can't do anything right " may project this onto herself when facing normal age-appropriate struggles. 54 | fyimagazineny.com When parents lie awake at night wondering, regretting, or doubting, they are questioning whether their responses contributed to their child's growth, or were harmful. Marinating in guilt about our parenting efforts, past or present, is useless and stops us from being a positive role model. We all make mistakes, raise our voices, and say and do things we regret. Displaying our emotions normalizes feelings, and apologizing to our children when needed, teaches them a valuable lesson about accountability for actions. Love and support, coupled with empathy and open communication, are the vital ingredients in the recipe of your thriving child. If you find yourself trapped in a cycle of guilt or regret, look at our three truths. muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Follow @muffinsnmoms_ parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. muffinsmoms@gmail.com magic helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier. Lekue Citrus Sprayer Turn fresh citrus fruit into juice to dress your salads, fish, and meats, and to flavor your drinks. The quality of the spray is excellent and the strainer ensures a pulp-free, clogless, pure fresh citrus juice every time. Includes two sizes, one for bigger fruits such as grapefruit and oranges, and one for smaller items like lemons and limes. It’s easy to use and will allow you to have fresh juice every time! william-sonoma.com, $15 Lunch Punch Sandwich Cutters Add pizzazz to any lunch quickly and easily! The cutters come in many different themes such as transportation, animals, and puzzles which will brighten up any little person’s school day. The Lunch Punch is designed to use most of a slice of bread; the crust is cut away, leaving an adorable shaped sandwich behind. amazon.com, $15 GizmoPal Aimed at parents with children in primary or preschool, the GizmoPal provides real-time tracking, just like Find Your iPhone or similar systems. It’s reliable, long-lasting and easy to use. From the GizmoPal app, you can call the watch, locate it, or check its battery. Children wearing the GizmoPal can click the call button to call their parents/caregivers. This is an affordable and ideal device to keep your children safe. Strap it on and let 'em play. bestbuy.com, $79.99 Mira Fitness Tracker This fitness tracker is devoted solely to women, and to delivering a simple, personal, and motivational fitness experience with style. Most women just don’t have time to spend hours at the gym, or take a yoga class three times a week. The Mira Fitness Tracker and bracelet keeps track of steps, calories, distances, and elevation. It can be worn anywhere to help busy women make the most of every healthy opportunity. mymirafit.com, $169
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  Love and support, coupled with empathy and open communication, are the vital ingre...
get a handle on it get a handle on it Love and support, coupled with empathy and open communication, are the vital ingredients in the recipe of your thriving child. On the flip side, a child who is raised by a non-assertive, timid, and shy mom may come to fear people and have trouble standing up for herself. She may stand back when her needs are not met, due to fear of others, especially authority. She may dread expressing herself to teachers and peers and may suffer silently in the classroom or camp setting. So where is the middle ground? What is the recipe for raising a child who has the ability to stand up for herself and for others, yet is able to display patience and kindness and navigate effectively in all life settings? Allow us to bring forth the three truths about parenting that help shape the well-adjusted, emotionally regulated child, while easing away the guilt and trepidation that come with mothering. TRUTH ONE: There is no "right way" to parent. There is no one specific or correct response to a given situation. Every parent will utilize her judgment and resources to respond to her child in a way that will benefit him best. For example, if a child needs some space after a full day of school, the mom should allow him time to unwind before demanding communication from him, or instructing him to begin homework. The opposite would apply to the child who craves hugs and attention and wants to talk after returning home. He would benefit from an emotionally available mother, ready to listen and engage. TRUTH TWO: Your child is the best parenting expert! Yes, you read this correctly. Through his actions, behaviors and words, your child demonstrates to you day after day how you can best care for him. This is why blanket statements such as "Children need two hours of this..."And "Children need a mother who is..." are dangerous. They may be accurate for many children, but not yours. Tune in to your child's emotions and respond with empathy and support, and your self-doubt may very well take a long hike. TRUTH THREE: Confident children feel like they are competent and can make a difference in the world. Give your child tasks she can master and she won't need long-winded speeches about how awesome she is, because she will know that already. She will recognize that she matters, and that her efforts result in positive changes. A mother who struggles with self-esteem must be wary of the messages that she relates about herself. A child who frequently hears "I can't do anything right " may project this onto herself when facing normal age-appropriate struggles. 54 | fyimagazineny.com When parents lie awake at night wondering, regretting, or doubting, they are questioning whether their responses contributed to their child's growth, or were harmful. Marinating in guilt about our parenting efforts, past or present, is useless and stops us from being a positive role model. We all make mistakes, raise our voices, and say and do things we regret. Displaying our emotions normalizes feelings, and apologizing to our children when needed, teaches them a valuable lesson about accountability for actions. Love and support, coupled with empathy and open communication, are the vital ingredients in the recipe of your thriving child. If you find yourself trapped in a cycle of guilt or regret, look at our three truths. muffins-N-moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman, LCSW, and Leah Davidowitz, LCSW. Follow @muffinsnmoms_ parenting for your daily dose of parenting tidbits and humor. muffinsmoms@gmail.com magic helpers Ingenious products that will make your day easier. Lekue Citrus Sprayer Turn fresh citrus fruit into juice to dress your salads, fish, and meats, and to flavor your drinks. The quality of the spray is excellent and the strainer ensures a pulp-free, clogless, pure fresh citrus juice every time. Includes two sizes, one for bigger fruits such as grapefruit and oranges, and one for smaller items like lemons and limes. It’s easy to use and will allow you to have fresh juice every time! william-sonoma.com, $15 Lunch Punch Sandwich Cutters Add pizzazz to any lunch quickly and easily! The cutters come in many different themes such as transportation, animals, and puzzles which will brighten up any little person’s school day. The Lunch Punch is designed to use most of a slice of bread; the crust is cut away, leaving an adorable shaped sandwich behind. amazon.com, $15 GizmoPal Aimed at parents with children in primary or preschool, the GizmoPal provides real-time tracking, just like Find Your iPhone or similar systems. It’s reliable, long-lasting and easy to use. From the GizmoPal app, you can call the watch, locate it, or check its battery. Children wearing the GizmoPal can click the call button to call their parents/caregivers. This is an affordable and ideal device to keep your children safe. Strap it on and let 'em play. bestbuy.com, $79.99 Mira Fitness Tracker This fitness tracker is devoted solely to women, and to delivering a simple, personal, and motivational fitness experience with style. Most women just don’t have time to spend hours at the gym, or take a yoga class three times a week. The Mira Fitness Tracker and bracelet keeps track of steps, calories, distances, and elevation. It can be worn anywhere to help busy women make the most of every healthy opportunity. mymirafit.com, $169
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  Love and support, coupled with empathy and open communication, are the vital ingre...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 1. REMOVE THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN 5 Ways to Help Eliminate Back To School Anxiety WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER Many children are nervous only because they don’t have answers to their worried questions. Start talking about school even before September comes around. If it’s your toddler’s first year of school, make sure to attend orientation or meet the teacher before school begins. Many elementary schools don’t offer orientation, but there is no reason you can’t give your child a preview of the building in the days before school. If your school allows you in, you can show young elementary school children their classroom, the school lunchroom, the bathroom, and other places the child may be nervous not knowing. It is also helpful to talk to your children about your own past school anxiety and feelings when you were a kid. You can also talk about the fun times. It helps them feel more “normal.” You may want the summer to stay forever, but many of you have already written a partial list of school supplies and purchased new shoes and school clothing for your children. But are they emotionally ready? Most preschool and many elementary-aged children are faced with some degree of anxiety when they begin the new school year. “Who will be my teacher? Will I make new friends? Will my new classroom be comfortable? Will I make the grade? What if I miss the bus? Are my new clothes in style?” Here are some tips to aid in making your child more comfortable as he or she transitions from the lazy dog days of the summer to the energy a new school year provides. 56 | fyimagazineny.com 2. STAY POSITIVE Thankfully, most of my kids are still too young to read this, so I can confess right here that I am also anxious every year when my children start school. Will their teachers be nice to them? Will they encounter bullying? Will they make the grade? I wait in trepidation for them to come home. I need to paste a smile on my face and try to exude calmness for their sake. A positive role model helps children be confident and positive. Be careful not to convey anxiety to your children and make sure you give them something positive to think about during the day when they are nervous. It can be a happy memory, a special dinner that will be waiting for them, or something exciting that will be happening in the future. In my home, I instituted a private trip to the ice cream store the first day of school. My son goes up a grade only after Succos, so he goes then, and my daughter gets her trip the day she begins school in September. They tell me they often think of that on the way to school or when they first meet their new teacher and are anxious. I get to hear everything the child went through that day and spend private time with him or her. Another idea that can make children feel good about themselves and look forward to school is to invest in something new that is meaningful to the child (no, not new shoes!) like a new folder or backpack or inexpensive gadget to be used at school so that your child focuses on something positive instead of his/her fears. 4. ROLE-PLAY WITH YOUR CHILD Children often feel more confident to handle new situations when they have a plan and have role-played what they will be going through. You can allow your child to play the part of her new teacher or a bullying classmate and then model the appropriate behavior to help them remain calm and focused. Discuss techniques for not losing control when upset, for dealing with a demanding teacher, and for making new friends even if they are shy. All these scenarios can be role-played 5. DISCUSS SOME SCHOOL ANXIETY THROUGH STORYTELLING 3. MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD EATS AND SLEEPS WELL While many parents relax their parenting style during the summer (just as they relax everything else), it is detrimental to your children when they enter the school year sleep-deprived and sugar-loaded. For at least an entire week before school begins, it is best for your children’s adjustment that they be well-rested, structured, and eat nutritious food so they can cope with the workload and stress that a new school year brings. 57 | fyimagazineny.com Even adults appreciate a good picture book. Start next week by gearing bedtime stories towards school-related topics. Books can trigger open and honest discussion and you may be introduced to fears you didn’t even know your child had. Two great titles for preschoolers are Owen by Kevin Henkes and I Am Absolutely Too Small for School, by Lauren Child (A Charlie and Lola Book). Elementary school-aged children may enjoy these: Mind Your Manners In School (a story compilation) and The Recess Queen by Alexis O’neill and Laura Huliska-Beith. Ask your local librarian for more.
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  1. REMOVE THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN  5 Ways to Help Eliminate Back To School Anxiety...
get a handle on it get a handle on it 1. REMOVE THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN 5 Ways to Help Eliminate Back To School Anxiety WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER Many children are nervous only because they don’t have answers to their worried questions. Start talking about school even before September comes around. If it’s your toddler’s first year of school, make sure to attend orientation or meet the teacher before school begins. Many elementary schools don’t offer orientation, but there is no reason you can’t give your child a preview of the building in the days before school. If your school allows you in, you can show young elementary school children their classroom, the school lunchroom, the bathroom, and other places the child may be nervous not knowing. It is also helpful to talk to your children about your own past school anxiety and feelings when you were a kid. You can also talk about the fun times. It helps them feel more “normal.” You may want the summer to stay forever, but many of you have already written a partial list of school supplies and purchased new shoes and school clothing for your children. But are they emotionally ready? Most preschool and many elementary-aged children are faced with some degree of anxiety when they begin the new school year. “Who will be my teacher? Will I make new friends? Will my new classroom be comfortable? Will I make the grade? What if I miss the bus? Are my new clothes in style?” Here are some tips to aid in making your child more comfortable as he or she transitions from the lazy dog days of the summer to the energy a new school year provides. 56 | fyimagazineny.com 2. STAY POSITIVE Thankfully, most of my kids are still too young to read this, so I can confess right here that I am also anxious every year when my children start school. Will their teachers be nice to them? Will they encounter bullying? Will they make the grade? I wait in trepidation for them to come home. I need to paste a smile on my face and try to exude calmness for their sake. A positive role model helps children be confident and positive. Be careful not to convey anxiety to your children and make sure you give them something positive to think about during the day when they are nervous. It can be a happy memory, a special dinner that will be waiting for them, or something exciting that will be happening in the future. In my home, I instituted a private trip to the ice cream store the first day of school. My son goes up a grade only after Succos, so he goes then, and my daughter gets her trip the day she begins school in September. They tell me they often think of that on the way to school or when they first meet their new teacher and are anxious. I get to hear everything the child went through that day and spend private time with him or her. Another idea that can make children feel good about themselves and look forward to school is to invest in something new that is meaningful to the child (no, not new shoes!) like a new folder or backpack or inexpensive gadget to be used at school so that your child focuses on something positive instead of his/her fears. 4. ROLE-PLAY WITH YOUR CHILD Children often feel more confident to handle new situations when they have a plan and have role-played what they will be going through. You can allow your child to play the part of her new teacher or a bullying classmate and then model the appropriate behavior to help them remain calm and focused. Discuss techniques for not losing control when upset, for dealing with a demanding teacher, and for making new friends even if they are shy. All these scenarios can be role-played 5. DISCUSS SOME SCHOOL ANXIETY THROUGH STORYTELLING 3. MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD EATS AND SLEEPS WELL While many parents relax their parenting style during the summer (just as they relax everything else), it is detrimental to your children when they enter the school year sleep-deprived and sugar-loaded. For at least an entire week before school begins, it is best for your children’s adjustment that they be well-rested, structured, and eat nutritious food so they can cope with the workload and stress that a new school year brings. 57 | fyimagazineny.com Even adults appreciate a good picture book. Start next week by gearing bedtime stories towards school-related topics. Books can trigger open and honest discussion and you may be introduced to fears you didn’t even know your child had. Two great titles for preschoolers are Owen by Kevin Henkes and I Am Absolutely Too Small for School, by Lauren Child (A Charlie and Lola Book). Elementary school-aged children may enjoy these: Mind Your Manners In School (a story compilation) and The Recess Queen by Alexis O’neill and Laura Huliska-Beith. Ask your local librarian for more.
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  1. REMOVE THE FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN  5 Ways to Help Eliminate Back To School Anxiety...
get a handle on it PARTY PLANNING: WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS When sitting down to write this month’s article, we began thinking about different topics that are relevant to both the professional event planner and the amateur taking on the task herself. Trust us; anyone who is in the party business has some pretty crazy stories to tell! We thought it would be helpful to share some informative tips we have learned from our experience. WINDY WEATHER What happens when the weather forecast is nice and sunny and you have your plans all ready for a wonderful backyard party, but the wind kicks up suddenly and things begin flying off the tables? Be creative. In a situation like this, you must think fast about ways to pin down the tablecloths, etc. Don’t give up trying to make it work. You may be able to move the entire buffet setup to a different spot having some wind blockage. EXCESSIVE RAIN & FLOODING It had been pouring rain, which caused a flood in the basement of the hall, where all of our decorating items were prepared. We put on our rain boots and waded down into six inches of water to take out, one by one, all of our tubs of decorations which were floating around in the little lake. Plan ahead but be flexible. Deliver most of your items a day in advance, to allow the possibility of moving things at the last minute. By thinking outside the box, you can make the last-minute changes necessary to rescue the event. Keep your party things in waterproof containers to protect against flooding, rain, and mold. BROKEN FREEZER We delivered our party on a Friday afternoon and promptly stashed the sorbet and ice cream in the hall freezer. We didn’t give it another thought until about 15 minutes before dessert was to be served, when we pulled out the ices to soften them. Softening they did not need! All our frozen confections were soft and slushy. Quick thinking and ingenuity will get you through something like this. We took out champagne glasses, put a scoop of sorbet and ice cream in each one, added a colorful straw and topped it with a mint leaf. We served the cake alongside the slush drink and no one was the wiser! A little pre-planning and inspiration can help you turn a crisis into a wonderful event! Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger of Michicas have a collective 25 years in the catering business. They bring their knowledge, expereince, and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible. 59 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  PARTY PLANNING  WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS  When sitting down to write this month   s article, we began th...
get a handle on it PARTY PLANNING: WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS When sitting down to write this month’s article, we began thinking about different topics that are relevant to both the professional event planner and the amateur taking on the task herself. Trust us; anyone who is in the party business has some pretty crazy stories to tell! We thought it would be helpful to share some informative tips we have learned from our experience. WINDY WEATHER What happens when the weather forecast is nice and sunny and you have your plans all ready for a wonderful backyard party, but the wind kicks up suddenly and things begin flying off the tables? Be creative. In a situation like this, you must think fast about ways to pin down the tablecloths, etc. Don’t give up trying to make it work. You may be able to move the entire buffet setup to a different spot having some wind blockage. EXCESSIVE RAIN & FLOODING It had been pouring rain, which caused a flood in the basement of the hall, where all of our decorating items were prepared. We put on our rain boots and waded down into six inches of water to take out, one by one, all of our tubs of decorations which were floating around in the little lake. Plan ahead but be flexible. Deliver most of your items a day in advance, to allow the possibility of moving things at the last minute. By thinking outside the box, you can make the last-minute changes necessary to rescue the event. Keep your party things in waterproof containers to protect against flooding, rain, and mold. BROKEN FREEZER We delivered our party on a Friday afternoon and promptly stashed the sorbet and ice cream in the hall freezer. We didn’t give it another thought until about 15 minutes before dessert was to be served, when we pulled out the ices to soften them. Softening they did not need! All our frozen confections were soft and slushy. Quick thinking and ingenuity will get you through something like this. We took out champagne glasses, put a scoop of sorbet and ice cream in each one, added a colorful straw and topped it with a mint leaf. We served the cake alongside the slush drink and no one was the wiser! A little pre-planning and inspiration can help you turn a crisis into a wonderful event! Davii Mandel & Chany Kleinberger of Michicas have a collective 25 years in the catering business. They bring their knowledge, expereince, and love of decorating & culinary arts to make sure their clients have the best experience possible. 59 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  PARTY PLANNING  WHAT TO DO IN A CRISIS  When sitting down to write this month   s article, we began th...
get a handle on it basement REHAB get a handle on it The basement is rapidly becoming a hotspot for renovation. Traditionally, this underground space has been in the same category as the attic: storage space. The upper and lower reaches of the house always seem to be the collection areas where holiday decorations, unused possessions, and oddball stuff end up gathering dust. By redoing your basement, you may double the living space of your home. It's time to say goodbye to the packrat days. This space is underneath the stairs, with a low, uneven ceiling, making this corner unfit for adult use. The project goal was to revamp the basement on a small budget to create a kid-friendly play area. The flooring used was a vinyl, which reacts well to moisture and doesn’t expand or rot. The little house was created by obtaining trimming shaped in shingle-like pieces and painting them. The little door and window were done by a contractor. Little tri-colored triangles were painted on the walls to give the room pizazz, so it looks fun and enticing. The pre-existing couch was reinvented with colorful pillows and accenting ottomans. Mission Accomplished: Happy kids- Happy parents!
get a handle on it  basement  REHAB  get a handle on it  The basement is rapidly becoming a hotspot for renovation. Tradit...
get a handle on it basement REHAB get a handle on it The basement is rapidly becoming a hotspot for renovation. Traditionally, this underground space has been in the same category as the attic: storage space. The upper and lower reaches of the house always seem to be the collection areas where holiday decorations, unused possessions, and oddball stuff end up gathering dust. By redoing your basement, you may double the living space of your home. It's time to say goodbye to the packrat days. This space is underneath the stairs, with a low, uneven ceiling, making this corner unfit for adult use. The project goal was to revamp the basement on a small budget to create a kid-friendly play area. The flooring used was a vinyl, which reacts well to moisture and doesn’t expand or rot. The little house was created by obtaining trimming shaped in shingle-like pieces and painting them. The little door and window were done by a contractor. Little tri-colored triangles were painted on the walls to give the room pizazz, so it looks fun and enticing. The pre-existing couch was reinvented with colorful pillows and accenting ottomans. Mission Accomplished: Happy kids- Happy parents!
get a handle on it  basement  REHAB  get a handle on it  The basement is rapidly becoming a hotspot for renovation. Tradit...
get a handle on it get a handle on it LET’S GET STARTED Letting a professional contractor assist will turn that finished basement space into increased home value. First things first: assess your basement space and options. Go down there and survey the situation. Do it yourself or hire a contractor? It all depends on your location and how much work needs to be done. You may need to take building codes into consideration with things like wiring, plumbing, and heating/ cooling. While a basement renovation can be a do-it-yourselfer, especially if the basement is a raw white box, you want the revamp to be done right to maximize your enjoyment. Letting a professional contractor assist will turn that finished basement space into increased home value. Clean the entire basement. If you haven't used it as living space, chances are it isn't the most pleasant place on earth. Get your hands on some cleaning supplies and clean every inch. If you have mold in your basement, it’s essential to have it professionally removed. Next, add a dehumidifier, since moisture is the number one enemy of a basement. The dehumidifier will keep things dry and also lessen the chances of mold growing back. Waterproofing is another way to keep your basement a healthy place to visit. Now that everything is clean, the fun begins! It's time to use your imagination. What do you want to turn your basement into? You can do an extra bedroom, library or playroom. Often, that family room or den just isn't comfortable once all the kids and their friends pile in. Instead of knocking out walls to expand, why not use your basement? Regardless of whether your downstairs has windows or not, it can be a phenomenal location for spending some quality family time. When making your decision, consider the size of the space as well as the number of electrical outlets available. Susan Strauss Design is well established as a leading full service design firm, founded by principal, Susan Strauss. The firm has been creating luxurious living environments for clients of the most discerning tastes for over a decade. With a well earned reputation as one of the premier firms on the East Coast, SSD’s client base is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients. 62 | fyimagazineny.com getting to know your spice cabinet Acquaint yourself with your spice rack, for each mysterious bottle can make your food - and your life- a little brighter. garlic onions parsley Surely there is no mystery behind garlic’s charming nickname of “stinking rose.” Garlic has long been used by nearly all cultures to add sharp, pungent flavor to foods. You may reach for the powdered version, but like most spices, fresh garlic is simply unbeatable. To some, the more the merrier, thus the plethora of recipes such as forty-clove garlic chicken and forty-four clove garlic soup. Garlic-infused oil is amazing, but DO NOT make your own at home; leaving garlic in oil in the fridge has been linked to cases of botulism. There are plenty of good commercial brands which are the safer choice. The same compound that makes garlic so pungent also bestows many amazing health benefits. This substance, called allicin, helps to alleviate high blood pressure and reduces bad cholesterol levels, thus improving cardiovascular health. Garlic is a natural antibiotic which has been proven to reduce the risk of several cancers, and has been used successfully to cure colds. It's also an insect repellent. Garlic works as an anticoagulant and interferes with some other medications, so let your doctor know if you eat a lot of it, especially if you are on blood thinners. You may be thinking “Onions? That’s not a spice, that’s a vegetable!” But onion powder and dried minced onion both exist. Onions come in many varieties and you can match up each type with the food you are preparing. Yellow onions go well with any savory dish and caramelize when they are cooked for a long time. Red onions are usually used raw, since the color will fade when cooked. Sweet onions are useful in desserts. White onions are often used in Mexican food. Shallots are not included in this list, because although they resemble and are related to red onions, shallots are not onions. While all onions are interchangeable, using the right one for your dish will upgrade it from good to awesome. Lately, doctors have been suggesting that you should eat one serving of onion per day. The World Health Organization acknowledges onion extracts as a great way to afford respite from a cold and cough. Onions are also helpful to prevent the buildup of fatty plaque in artery walls. In addition, they have been proven to thwart certain kinds of cancers, and may also prevent blood from clumping. Parsley is an herb that is extremely prevalent, both as a seasoning and as garnish. The two most commonly used types are the curly leaf and the flat leaf, also known as Italian parsley. Parsley has a fresh, slightly peppery and mildly bitter flavor, although flat leaf parsley tastes stronger and sweeter. Fresh or dried parsley adds flavor to any protein dish or stew; pretties up a pasta, rice, or potato dish, and jazzes up a tomato-based course. You can also mix it with other herbs- garlic, and/or butter to make a tasty dressing. Parsley can even be added to desserts for depth and sophistication. Parsley has quite a few benefits. It is chock-full of folates, Vitamin A, Beta-carotene, Vitamin C, Vitamin K, Calcium and Zeaxanthin, among other vitamins and minerals. It is rich in flavonoids, antioxidants, and healthy essential oils. It is a natural diuretic, which helps with weight loss. Parsley has also been shown to help reduce the risks of some forms of cancer, mitigate the pain and swelling that accompany arthritis, and improve the immune system to help the body fight diseases. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER 63 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  LET   S GET STARTED  Letting a professional contractor assist will turn that finis...
get a handle on it get a handle on it LET’S GET STARTED Letting a professional contractor assist will turn that finished basement space into increased home value. First things first: assess your basement space and options. Go down there and survey the situation. Do it yourself or hire a contractor? It all depends on your location and how much work needs to be done. You may need to take building codes into consideration with things like wiring, plumbing, and heating/ cooling. While a basement renovation can be a do-it-yourselfer, especially if the basement is a raw white box, you want the revamp to be done right to maximize your enjoyment. Letting a professional contractor assist will turn that finished basement space into increased home value. Clean the entire basement. If you haven't used it as living space, chances are it isn't the most pleasant place on earth. Get your hands on some cleaning supplies and clean every inch. If you have mold in your basement, it’s essential to have it professionally removed. Next, add a dehumidifier, since moisture is the number one enemy of a basement. The dehumidifier will keep things dry and also lessen the chances of mold growing back. Waterproofing is another way to keep your basement a healthy place to visit. Now that everything is clean, the fun begins! It's time to use your imagination. What do you want to turn your basement into? You can do an extra bedroom, library or playroom. Often, that family room or den just isn't comfortable once all the kids and their friends pile in. Instead of knocking out walls to expand, why not use your basement? Regardless of whether your downstairs has windows or not, it can be a phenomenal location for spending some quality family time. When making your decision, consider the size of the space as well as the number of electrical outlets available. Susan Strauss Design is well established as a leading full service design firm, founded by principal, Susan Strauss. The firm has been creating luxurious living environments for clients of the most discerning tastes for over a decade. With a well earned reputation as one of the premier firms on the East Coast, SSD’s client base is firmly built on referrals and repeat clients. 62 | fyimagazineny.com getting to know your spice cabinet Acquaint yourself with your spice rack, for each mysterious bottle can make your food - and your life- a little brighter. garlic onions parsley Surely there is no mystery behind garlic’s charming nickname of “stinking rose.” Garlic has long been used by nearly all cultures to add sharp, pungent flavor to foods. You may reach for the powdered version, but like most spices, fresh garlic is simply unbeatable. To some, the more the merrier, thus the plethora of recipes such as forty-clove garlic chicken and forty-four clove garlic soup. Garlic-infused oil is amazing, but DO NOT make your own at home; leaving garlic in oil in the fridge has been linked to cases of botulism. There are plenty of good commercial brands which are the safer choice. The same compound that makes garlic so pungent also bestows many amazing health benefits. This substance, called allicin, helps to alleviate high blood pressure and reduces bad cholesterol levels, thus improving cardiovascular health. Garlic is a natural antibiotic which has been proven to reduce the risk of several cancers, and has been used successfully to cure colds. It's also an insect repellent. Garlic works as an anticoagulant and interferes with some other medications, so let your doctor know if you eat a lot of it, especially if you are on blood thinners. You may be thinking “Onions? That’s not a spice, that’s a vegetable!” But onion powder and dried minced onion both exist. Onions come in many varieties and you can match up each type with the food you are preparing. Yellow onions go well with any savory dish and caramelize when they are cooked for a long time. Red onions are usually used raw, since the color will fade when cooked. Sweet onions are useful in desserts. White onions are often used in Mexican food. Shallots are not included in this list, because although they resemble and are related to red onions, shallots are not onions. While all onions are interchangeable, using the right one for your dish will upgrade it from good to awesome. Lately, doctors have been suggesting that you should eat one serving of onion per day. The World Health Organization acknowledges onion extracts as a great way to afford respite from a cold and cough. Onions are also helpful to prevent the buildup of fatty plaque in artery walls. In addition, they have been proven to thwart certain kinds of cancers, and may also prevent blood from clumping. Parsley is an herb that is extremely prevalent, both as a seasoning and as garnish. The two most commonly used types are the curly leaf and the flat leaf, also known as Italian parsley. Parsley has a fresh, slightly peppery and mildly bitter flavor, although flat leaf parsley tastes stronger and sweeter. Fresh or dried parsley adds flavor to any protein dish or stew; pretties up a pasta, rice, or potato dish, and jazzes up a tomato-based course. You can also mix it with other herbs- garlic, and/or butter to make a tasty dressing. Parsley can even be added to desserts for depth and sophistication. Parsley has quite a few benefits. It is chock-full of folates, Vitamin A, Beta-carotene, Vitamin C, Vitamin K, Calcium and Zeaxanthin, among other vitamins and minerals. It is rich in flavonoids, antioxidants, and healthy essential oils. It is a natural diuretic, which helps with weight loss. Parsley has also been shown to help reduce the risks of some forms of cancer, mitigate the pain and swelling that accompany arthritis, and improve the immune system to help the body fight diseases. WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER 63 | fyimagazineny.com
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get a handle on it DIY WINE BOTTLE centerpieces These elegant vases are simple yet so chic. Use them as centerpieces at your next affair or place one or two on your table to accent your home. WHAT YOU’LL NEED: Empty Wine Bottles Matte Spray Paint ($5/can) Tape Craft Glue Glitter 1 Place empty wine bottles in a sinkful of hot soapy water. Soak for 20 minutes. Remove the stickers from the bottles. You may need to use a dull knife to remove the glue. Let the bottles dry. 3 2 If you would like to make designs on the bottle, tape off the areas you don’t want spray painted. 4 Spray paint the bottles with desired colors. Apply a second coat. Let dry, then remove any tape. If you would like to put glitter on the vases, simply apply glue to the desired area and sprinkle glitter on it. Shake the bottle off, and apply more glitter. Do this all around the bottle until it’s done. 64 | fyimagazineny.com 5 get a handle on it how to get your children out the door in the morning As the clock ticks, “Why aren’t you ready yet?” sounds throughout the house, building up into a grand crescendo. Overwhelmed children dart about, looking for something or other. As their search proves futile, they slowly morph into stone. With each additional nag, these children grow concrete blocks on their feet. While not every family is witness to this phenomenon (pat yourself on the back if you don’t relate!), if this scene is slightly familiar, then it’s high time to break the pattern. The following tips present some successful strategies. WRITTEN BY D. BURACK 65 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  DIY  WINE BOTTLE centerpieces  These elegant vases are simple yet so chic. Use them as centerpieces at...
get a handle on it DIY WINE BOTTLE centerpieces These elegant vases are simple yet so chic. Use them as centerpieces at your next affair or place one or two on your table to accent your home. WHAT YOU’LL NEED: Empty Wine Bottles Matte Spray Paint ($5/can) Tape Craft Glue Glitter 1 Place empty wine bottles in a sinkful of hot soapy water. Soak for 20 minutes. Remove the stickers from the bottles. You may need to use a dull knife to remove the glue. Let the bottles dry. 3 2 If you would like to make designs on the bottle, tape off the areas you don’t want spray painted. 4 Spray paint the bottles with desired colors. Apply a second coat. Let dry, then remove any tape. If you would like to put glitter on the vases, simply apply glue to the desired area and sprinkle glitter on it. Shake the bottle off, and apply more glitter. Do this all around the bottle until it’s done. 64 | fyimagazineny.com 5 get a handle on it how to get your children out the door in the morning As the clock ticks, “Why aren’t you ready yet?” sounds throughout the house, building up into a grand crescendo. Overwhelmed children dart about, looking for something or other. As their search proves futile, they slowly morph into stone. With each additional nag, these children grow concrete blocks on their feet. While not every family is witness to this phenomenon (pat yourself on the back if you don’t relate!), if this scene is slightly familiar, then it’s high time to break the pattern. The following tips present some successful strategies. WRITTEN BY D. BURACK 65 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  DIY  WINE BOTTLE centerpieces  These elegant vases are simple yet so chic. Use them as centerpieces at...
get a handle on it get a handle on it LEARN ROUTINES BY ROTE MORNING BEGINS AT NIGHT A mug of aromatic coffee is not the secret to a smooth morning. The dawning of a new, efficient day really begins the night before. Get everyone to bed on time. Adults and children alike need adequate sleep in order to start the day with patience and energy. Lay out full outfits the night before, including accessories. Last-minute panic upon finding an empty sock drawer will thereby be avoided. This tip also applies to adults who need to exit quickly in the morning. Disappearing shoes are a constant bane. Place shoes in an obvious spot, such as the bottom of a closet or by the front door. Insert school supplies, permission slips, and homework (finished, of course!), into book bags before bed. Make lunch food in advance. To prevent the bread from getting soggy, mix the fillings beforehand and assemble sandwiches in the morning. Slice fruit and veggies at night and store them in airtight containers. Gas up the car in advance; there’s never time on the way to school. SOUND THE ALARMS Discuss and determine your family’s wake-up time, which should be inflexible and never snoozed! A rule of thumb is to allot a bit more time than you think you need, for the unexpected is a fact of life. Everyone should have his own alarm clock set for the same time. Whether it’s pink and digital or an old-fashioned steel bell, let children choose the model they want. After rolling out of bed, every family member should hit the floor knowing what to do next. Children thrive on routine. When they understand how to proceed, their sense of competency and self-worth are enhanced. Call a family brainstorming session to draft a breakdown of the morning plan. Nobody likes to be forced into action, so a schedule created through teamwork is more motivating. Encourage independence when age-appropriate. The more routine responsibilities that can be tackled without help, the smoother your morning will flow. A sample morning itinerary includes: • Wake up • Get dressed • Eat breakfast • Brush teeth, wash face, brush hair • Put on shoes and outer gear • Exit Laminate your list and post prominently! It’s a pleasant replacement for parents snapping commands. 66 | fyimagazineny.com “A MUG OF AROMATIC COFFEE IS NOT THE SECRET TO A SMOOTH MORNING. THE DAWNING OF A NEW, EFFICIENT DAY REALLY BEGINS THE NIGHT BEFORE.” KEEP BREAKFAST SIMPLE Serve up nutrition with effortless options such as whole grain cereal and milk, or fruit and yogurt. Foods that require more prep should be made ahead. SMART STEPPARENTING Research indicates it can take three years or more for a stepfamily to evolve as a unit, because the process of merging two families is so complicated. Each family has evolved over a period of time, developing a set of routines and traditions to fit their specific needs. Stepparents must deal with this challenge in their unique way. MAKE DISTRACTIONS DISAPPEAR Morning isn’t the time to read a book or put the finishing touches on an artistic masterpiece. Avoid lengthy discussions that can wait until evening. BE CREATIVE With younger children, inject some fun. Turn the process of getting ready into a race, either against the clock or other family members. Offer attractive rewards for achieving goals within set times. Transitions are hard for everyone, and mornings are essentially a transition from slumber into action. The sudden flip from summer to back-to-school is another challenging transition. Smooth this changeover by conducting a few dress rehearsals of the morning routine. Your family will breeze through their first-day jitters and the many mornings that follow! 67 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  LEARN ROUTINES BY ROTE MORNING BEGINS AT NIGHT A mug of aromatic coffee is not the...
get a handle on it get a handle on it LEARN ROUTINES BY ROTE MORNING BEGINS AT NIGHT A mug of aromatic coffee is not the secret to a smooth morning. The dawning of a new, efficient day really begins the night before. Get everyone to bed on time. Adults and children alike need adequate sleep in order to start the day with patience and energy. Lay out full outfits the night before, including accessories. Last-minute panic upon finding an empty sock drawer will thereby be avoided. This tip also applies to adults who need to exit quickly in the morning. Disappearing shoes are a constant bane. Place shoes in an obvious spot, such as the bottom of a closet or by the front door. Insert school supplies, permission slips, and homework (finished, of course!), into book bags before bed. Make lunch food in advance. To prevent the bread from getting soggy, mix the fillings beforehand and assemble sandwiches in the morning. Slice fruit and veggies at night and store them in airtight containers. Gas up the car in advance; there’s never time on the way to school. SOUND THE ALARMS Discuss and determine your family’s wake-up time, which should be inflexible and never snoozed! A rule of thumb is to allot a bit more time than you think you need, for the unexpected is a fact of life. Everyone should have his own alarm clock set for the same time. Whether it’s pink and digital or an old-fashioned steel bell, let children choose the model they want. After rolling out of bed, every family member should hit the floor knowing what to do next. Children thrive on routine. When they understand how to proceed, their sense of competency and self-worth are enhanced. Call a family brainstorming session to draft a breakdown of the morning plan. Nobody likes to be forced into action, so a schedule created through teamwork is more motivating. Encourage independence when age-appropriate. The more routine responsibilities that can be tackled without help, the smoother your morning will flow. A sample morning itinerary includes: • Wake up • Get dressed • Eat breakfast • Brush teeth, wash face, brush hair • Put on shoes and outer gear • Exit Laminate your list and post prominently! It’s a pleasant replacement for parents snapping commands. 66 | fyimagazineny.com “A MUG OF AROMATIC COFFEE IS NOT THE SECRET TO A SMOOTH MORNING. THE DAWNING OF A NEW, EFFICIENT DAY REALLY BEGINS THE NIGHT BEFORE.” KEEP BREAKFAST SIMPLE Serve up nutrition with effortless options such as whole grain cereal and milk, or fruit and yogurt. Foods that require more prep should be made ahead. SMART STEPPARENTING Research indicates it can take three years or more for a stepfamily to evolve as a unit, because the process of merging two families is so complicated. Each family has evolved over a period of time, developing a set of routines and traditions to fit their specific needs. Stepparents must deal with this challenge in their unique way. MAKE DISTRACTIONS DISAPPEAR Morning isn’t the time to read a book or put the finishing touches on an artistic masterpiece. Avoid lengthy discussions that can wait until evening. BE CREATIVE With younger children, inject some fun. Turn the process of getting ready into a race, either against the clock or other family members. Offer attractive rewards for achieving goals within set times. Transitions are hard for everyone, and mornings are essentially a transition from slumber into action. The sudden flip from summer to back-to-school is another challenging transition. Smooth this changeover by conducting a few dress rehearsals of the morning routine. Your family will breeze through their first-day jitters and the many mornings that follow! 67 | fyimagazineny.com
get a handle on it  get a handle on it  LEARN ROUTINES BY ROTE MORNING BEGINS AT NIGHT A mug of aromatic coffee is not the...
get a handle on it I ntegrating children into a healthy stepfamily may be difficult, because they have coped with the loss of a two-parent family and the inevitable upheavals. Hopefully, the children will come to accept and adjust to the “new normal.” Not surprisingly, youngsters often experience ambivalence, anger, or resentment when a parent remarries, signifying a new set of losses and changes. This article will focus on two of the many significant themes that need to be addressed in forming a successful stepfamily: one is the issue of transitions, and the other is that of establishing and solidifying new relationships. The following case example will highlight these issues:* Sarah and Eli have been remarried for two years. Eli has three children- two boys, ages 12 and 10, and a girl aged 8. Eli’s late wife, Dina, had been ill for several years, but she was home and available for the children most of the time. At one point, her condition seemed to stabilize, so when her death came, it shocked the entire family. Sarah has two children- a boy aged 12 and a daughter aged 7. She has been divorced since her daughter was born and has full custody of the children. Her husband remarried two years after the divorce and visits his children sporadically and infrequently. Sarah had been dating for many years, and her children were quite excited when they learned of her engagement. Eli’s children, on other hand, were not aware that he was planning to remarry and in fact, believed that he never would. Sarah and Eli were enthusiastic and optimistic about this new beginning, hoping the children would be thrilled to be part of a normal and expanded family. In fact, the remarriage provided them with a two- parent situation, but also presented many changes which translated into losses. Sarah’s children lost their home, their school, their friends “It is crucial for parents be aware of the transitions which children are experiencing, and the time they need to mourn their losses.” and most of all, the proximity of their grandparents. In addition, Sarah’s son lost his position as older child – having to share that with his stepbrother of the same age. Eli’s children on the other hand, felt their privacy had been invaded and no longer felt comfortable in their own home. Each of them also felt displaced and angry for having to share their father with two other children, particularly his daughter who now had a younger sister. The most painful part was having another woman come into their mother’s domain and try to make it her own. As a result of these dynamics, Eli’s sons withdrew from their step siblings, although they were respectful to Sarah. Sarah’s children felt resentful, because after facing the dramatic challenge of leaving all that was familiar to them, their step siblings seemed to reject them and be insensitive to their discomfort. Sarah and Eli’s relationship was dramatically affected by their children’s struggles. Overwhelmed by their children’s various needs, they disagreed on how to help them. Although Sarah understood the trauma Eli’s children had suffered, she was hurt by their treatment of her own offspring and their unspoken anger at her intrusion into their home. Eli was shocked and disappointed by his children’s response to his remarriage. Their complaints, coupled with his new wife’s obvious unhappiness, drained him emotionally. He worried about the stability of the marriage, but the fear of jeopardizing his relationship with his children immobilized him. 68 | fyimagazineny.com in your busıness THE FOLLOWING ARE GUIDELINES WHICH CAN BE HELPFUL TO THE NEWLY FORMED STEPFAMILY: • When two families merge, the individuality of each member must be respected. Moreover, the two families should merge in a way that ensures the integrity of each family. When former family alliances are respected, new relationships will develop over time. • Psychoeducation and counseling can provide newly remarried couples the insight and tools to address the challenges presented by the stepfamily. • In some cases, children can benefit from short-term counseling. • Parents should be aware that in order to help their children, the couple needs to solidify their own relationship through effective communication and taking meaningful time for themselves. • It is crucial for parents be aware of the transitions which children are experiencing, and the time they need to mourn their losses. In order to facilitate this process, each parent should spend time alone with his/her children, validating and encouraging emotional expression. When children are allowed to express themselves, they will gradually become more open to establishing relationships with their “steps.” pg 80 6 Habits of Highly Productive People As couples learn about the evolving stepfamily unit and gain realistic expectations, they become empowered and optimistic about the process. With a combination of courage and determination, stepparents create an atmosphere of love, trust and stability in which children thrive! pg Susan Lamm LCSW maintains a private practice and has over 15 years of experience working with step families. She can be reached at sulamm18@ gmail.com. She is also a Supervisor and Program Co-ordinator at Torah Umesorah Counterforce. 76 Ancient Businesses that Are Still Around
get a handle on it  I  ntegrating children into a healthy stepfamily may be difficult, because they have coped with the lo...
get a handle on it I ntegrating children into a healthy stepfamily may be difficult, because they have coped with the loss of a two-parent family and the inevitable upheavals. Hopefully, the children will come to accept and adjust to the “new normal.” Not surprisingly, youngsters often experience ambivalence, anger, or resentment when a parent remarries, signifying a new set of losses and changes. This article will focus on two of the many significant themes that need to be addressed in forming a successful stepfamily: one is the issue of transitions, and the other is that of establishing and solidifying new relationships. The following case example will highlight these issues:* Sarah and Eli have been remarried for two years. Eli has three children- two boys, ages 12 and 10, and a girl aged 8. Eli’s late wife, Dina, had been ill for several years, but she was home and available for the children most of the time. At one point, her condition seemed to stabilize, so when her death came, it shocked the entire family. Sarah has two children- a boy aged 12 and a daughter aged 7. She has been divorced since her daughter was born and has full custody of the children. Her husband remarried two years after the divorce and visits his children sporadically and infrequently. Sarah had been dating for many years, and her children were quite excited when they learned of her engagement. Eli’s children, on other hand, were not aware that he was planning to remarry and in fact, believed that he never would. Sarah and Eli were enthusiastic and optimistic about this new beginning, hoping the children would be thrilled to be part of a normal and expanded family. In fact, the remarriage provided them with a two- parent situation, but also presented many changes which translated into losses. Sarah’s children lost their home, their school, their friends “It is crucial for parents be aware of the transitions which children are experiencing, and the time they need to mourn their losses.” and most of all, the proximity of their grandparents. In addition, Sarah’s son lost his position as older child – having to share that with his stepbrother of the same age. Eli’s children on the other hand, felt their privacy had been invaded and no longer felt comfortable in their own home. Each of them also felt displaced and angry for having to share their father with two other children, particularly his daughter who now had a younger sister. The most painful part was having another woman come into their mother’s domain and try to make it her own. As a result of these dynamics, Eli’s sons withdrew from their step siblings, although they were respectful to Sarah. Sarah’s children felt resentful, because after facing the dramatic challenge of leaving all that was familiar to them, their step siblings seemed to reject them and be insensitive to their discomfort. Sarah and Eli’s relationship was dramatically affected by their children’s struggles. Overwhelmed by their children’s various needs, they disagreed on how to help them. Although Sarah understood the trauma Eli’s children had suffered, she was hurt by their treatment of her own offspring and their unspoken anger at her intrusion into their home. Eli was shocked and disappointed by his children’s response to his remarriage. Their complaints, coupled with his new wife’s obvious unhappiness, drained him emotionally. He worried about the stability of the marriage, but the fear of jeopardizing his relationship with his children immobilized him. 68 | fyimagazineny.com in your busıness THE FOLLOWING ARE GUIDELINES WHICH CAN BE HELPFUL TO THE NEWLY FORMED STEPFAMILY: • When two families merge, the individuality of each member must be respected. Moreover, the two families should merge in a way that ensures the integrity of each family. When former family alliances are respected, new relationships will develop over time. • Psychoeducation and counseling can provide newly remarried couples the insight and tools to address the challenges presented by the stepfamily. • In some cases, children can benefit from short-term counseling. • Parents should be aware that in order to help their children, the couple needs to solidify their own relationship through effective communication and taking meaningful time for themselves. • It is crucial for parents be aware of the transitions which children are experiencing, and the time they need to mourn their losses. In order to facilitate this process, each parent should spend time alone with his/her children, validating and encouraging emotional expression. When children are allowed to express themselves, they will gradually become more open to establishing relationships with their “steps.” pg 80 6 Habits of Highly Productive People As couples learn about the evolving stepfamily unit and gain realistic expectations, they become empowered and optimistic about the process. With a combination of courage and determination, stepparents create an atmosphere of love, trust and stability in which children thrive! pg Susan Lamm LCSW maintains a private practice and has over 15 years of experience working with step families. She can be reached at sulamm18@ gmail.com. She is also a Supervisor and Program Co-ordinator at Torah Umesorah Counterforce. 76 Ancient Businesses that Are Still Around
get a handle on it  I  ntegrating children into a healthy stepfamily may be difficult, because they have coped with the lo...
in your busıness ask maurice GROWING PAINS Dear Maurice, I enjoy your column; your advice last month was exactly what I needed. Thanks for sharing and keep them coming. Here is my question: I founded a business four years ago, which is growing nicely and is very profitable. My challenge is that I am always uncomfortable with my position as the founder and C.E.O of the company, I am not sure what exactly my role is and whether I am doing it right. I have a long list of things I want in my company and when I don’t see them happening, I feel frustrated, but then I want to feel good about myself and my company. On some days, I just feel lost and scared. I would greatly appreciate your input. - D. Wolfgang Dear Mrs. Wolfgang, Thanks for asking. Let me start by assuring you that your challenges are normal to most people who run businesses. There is constant confusion on how to stay motivated and focused on the important things the company needs to grow. Knowing those feelings are normal will not solve the issues, but it will change your perspective on them. Your goal shouldn’t be making the challenges disappear; they are there to help you grow and develop yourself as a stronger person, which will make you a better CEO. All business challenges are personal challenges to the people in charge; they require us to stretch and grow outside of our comfort zone. Life is about growing to the 70 | fyimagazineny.com maximum of our potential, and at the end of the day, the success of our business is not as important as the person we had to become in order to achieve that success. As a business owner, your main focus is on two areas. First, you must hold the vision for your business, having a clear view of where it’s going. Second, you must create the systems your business needs in order to achieve that vision, including hiring the right people to build and manage those systems. Your time should be spent thusly: 80% on your long-term C M Y CM MY CY CMY K
in your bus  ness  ask maurice  GROWING PAINS Dear Maurice, I enjoy your column  your advice last month was exactly what I...
in your busıness ask maurice GROWING PAINS Dear Maurice, I enjoy your column; your advice last month was exactly what I needed. Thanks for sharing and keep them coming. Here is my question: I founded a business four years ago, which is growing nicely and is very profitable. My challenge is that I am always uncomfortable with my position as the founder and C.E.O of the company, I am not sure what exactly my role is and whether I am doing it right. I have a long list of things I want in my company and when I don’t see them happening, I feel frustrated, but then I want to feel good about myself and my company. On some days, I just feel lost and scared. I would greatly appreciate your input. - D. Wolfgang Dear Mrs. Wolfgang, Thanks for asking. Let me start by assuring you that your challenges are normal to most people who run businesses. There is constant confusion on how to stay motivated and focused on the important things the company needs to grow. Knowing those feelings are normal will not solve the issues, but it will change your perspective on them. Your goal shouldn’t be making the challenges disappear; they are there to help you grow and develop yourself as a stronger person, which will make you a better CEO. All business challenges are personal challenges to the people in charge; they require us to stretch and grow outside of our comfort zone. Life is about growing to the 70 | fyimagazineny.com maximum of our potential, and at the end of the day, the success of our business is not as important as the person we had to become in order to achieve that success. As a business owner, your main focus is on two areas. First, you must hold the vision for your business, having a clear view of where it’s going. Second, you must create the systems your business needs in order to achieve that vision, including hiring the right people to build and manage those systems. Your time should be spent thusly: 80% on your long-term C M Y CM MY CY CMY K
in your bus  ness  ask maurice  GROWING PAINS Dear Maurice, I enjoy your column  your advice last month was exactly what I...
in your busıness vision, 20% on overseeing your current operation. The first thing you should do is create a list of 5 reports that you want to have daily or weekly which will give you the most important indicators on how the business is doing. These might include total sales numbers; orders placed; new customer acquisition; inventory restocking, etc. Once you have your top 5 list, sit down with your employees to discuss how they can generate and email you these reports without you having to ask for them. The fact that you occasionally feel lost and confused is great, because it keeps you aware that you can’t relax and assume the company will just keep in your busıness growing naturally. Use those feelings as a reminder to get back to your vision and focus on what it takes to get there. I also recommend you get yourself a coach or mentor with whom you can meet monthly to discuss how you are feeling and help you focus on what’s really important. Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn around many struggling businesses. askmaurice. com how they did it I A student in the heart of Israel's Start-Up Nation asked me, “Can Jewish women really become successful entrepreneurs?” I answered her, “Yes, look at Sharon Hill. If Sharon can do it, you can do it too.” Sharon Hill was a development and marketing manager at IBM for twenty years before starting her own business. Today, she is an internationally renown etiquette expert at Sharon Hill International. Sharon describes what she learned from working at IBM: “Being a minority woman, I always assumed that IBM customers would see me as just that when I walked into their offices. To my surprise, I learned that the customers’ focus was on how I could save them money, train their employees, and be the focal point for technical questions. With that knowledge, my confidence grew. Ultimately, I learned that my own self-consciousness was nothing more that negative self-talk, that those who I thought had all the answers… DIDN’T, and that being successful is all about giving 100% and forming positive relations.” GOODBYE IBM, HELLO ENTREPRENEURSHIP Sharon was a rising star at IBM. After a long series of promotions and top performance reviews, her career changed when one of IBM's vice presidents chose to cut the number of employees. Sharon explains: “My worldwide success, customer loyalty, and employee praise meant nothing. My department was cut and it was time to decide what I would do next in my life. That’s when I decided to follow my passion and start my own company. I got certified as an etiquette trainer and was off and running. To this day, I thank IBM for teaching me professionalism and giving me the business acumen needed to start my business.” SMART MONEY Many entrepreneurs and small business owners have grand ideas, but they do not plan how to use their resources effectively. When a resource like time or 73 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  vision, 20  on overseeing your current operation. The first thing you should do is create a list of 5 r...
in your busıness vision, 20% on overseeing your current operation. The first thing you should do is create a list of 5 reports that you want to have daily or weekly which will give you the most important indicators on how the business is doing. These might include total sales numbers; orders placed; new customer acquisition; inventory restocking, etc. Once you have your top 5 list, sit down with your employees to discuss how they can generate and email you these reports without you having to ask for them. The fact that you occasionally feel lost and confused is great, because it keeps you aware that you can’t relax and assume the company will just keep in your busıness growing naturally. Use those feelings as a reminder to get back to your vision and focus on what it takes to get there. I also recommend you get yourself a coach or mentor with whom you can meet monthly to discuss how you are feeling and help you focus on what’s really important. Maurice Stein is an internationally renowned success coach. His debut book, Turn Around Your Business by 5 PM, has helped turn around many struggling businesses. askmaurice. com how they did it I A student in the heart of Israel's Start-Up Nation asked me, “Can Jewish women really become successful entrepreneurs?” I answered her, “Yes, look at Sharon Hill. If Sharon can do it, you can do it too.” Sharon Hill was a development and marketing manager at IBM for twenty years before starting her own business. Today, she is an internationally renown etiquette expert at Sharon Hill International. Sharon describes what she learned from working at IBM: “Being a minority woman, I always assumed that IBM customers would see me as just that when I walked into their offices. To my surprise, I learned that the customers’ focus was on how I could save them money, train their employees, and be the focal point for technical questions. With that knowledge, my confidence grew. Ultimately, I learned that my own self-consciousness was nothing more that negative self-talk, that those who I thought had all the answers… DIDN’T, and that being successful is all about giving 100% and forming positive relations.” GOODBYE IBM, HELLO ENTREPRENEURSHIP Sharon was a rising star at IBM. After a long series of promotions and top performance reviews, her career changed when one of IBM's vice presidents chose to cut the number of employees. Sharon explains: “My worldwide success, customer loyalty, and employee praise meant nothing. My department was cut and it was time to decide what I would do next in my life. That’s when I decided to follow my passion and start my own company. I got certified as an etiquette trainer and was off and running. To this day, I thank IBM for teaching me professionalism and giving me the business acumen needed to start my business.” SMART MONEY Many entrepreneurs and small business owners have grand ideas, but they do not plan how to use their resources effectively. When a resource like time or 73 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  vision, 20  on overseeing your current operation. The first thing you should do is create a list of 5 r...
in your busıness MARKETING 2 “Many women are discouraged from starting a business because of their gender. Yet there is promising data to show that women across America are building successful businesses.” money is in abundance, it is easy to spend without thinking things through. Sharon notes, “The main challenge I faced was having so much money as my 'package' from IBM and not knowing to conserve my spending. I jumped on every marketing idea, thinking it would provide a healthy ROI. For example, I wasted money on creating slick marketing packages and sending them to all the colleges in the southeast part of the United States. I got ONE response and it never panned out into any business. I must have wasted over $3,000. I should have focused on risk analysis before going wild with my spending.” FOLLOW YOUR PASSION Building a business can be tremendously rewarding on a personal level. Creating a new product, designing a marketing campaign, and business networking provide ways for self- expression. Sharon comments, “How wonderful it is to be setting my own goals rather than working towards someone else's goals. I find it to be fulfilling, and it makes me proud to say I am the president of my own company. Actually, I own three businesses: each a result of following my passion.” MARRIED TO THE BUSINESS? As an entrepreneur in the heart of The Start-up Nation, I worked insane hours and regularly slept in the office to complete projects. Many women are concerned that starting a business can take over their lives. Sharon notes, “I’m not 'married' to my businesses, which means I can go on vacation whenever I want, take time to just relax and reflect, and network with other women to help them grow in their businesses. I have pride in business ownership. As past president of the National Association of Women Business Owners (local chapter), having my own business sets me up as a role model to many other women.” WORK FOR ESTABLISHED COMPANIES Many women may be inspired with the thought of a new product or service around which to build a business, but they do not have the experience to actually manage the business. For many, working for an established business can lead to entrepreneurship. Sharon says, “I suggest working for the established company first in order to grow your nest egg to use when ready to start your own business. Learn how the established business operates and what you can glean from the experience. The new generations of women are fearless about starting their own company with no background in established corporations. I say GO FOR IT and follow your passion. Just keep a cool head and watch your spending.” DO YOU AVOID accepting a customer’s credit card payment due to high processing fees? DO YOU WAIT for your customer to mail a check instead of accepting an immediate credit card payment? DO YOU THINK it costs 3% or more to process credit cards on large transactions? COMMANDING RESPECT Many women are discouraged from starting a business because of their gender. Yet there is promising data to show that women across America are building successful businesses. The US Chamber of Commerce Foundation notes that nearly 30% of all businesses, and one in five companies with revenues over $1 million, are women-owned. Sharon advises that “Women should know that in business, everyone is equal (depending upon the culture). Women should not defer to men or let men steal their ideas.” For example, Sharon suggests that women command respect when speaking. “Do not apologize as an opening statement. For example, how many women start a sentence with, 'Maybe I’m the only one who doesn’t understand this, but why …?' Command respect when speaking. Note I did not say DEMAND respect. There are subtle ways to command respect. If you are in a culture where opposite sexes can shake hands, the woman should extend her hands first to show poise, confidence, and professionalism. If the opposite is true and you cannot shake hands, maintain eye contact and lead the conversation by asking pertinent questions.” ANALYSIS PARALYSIS Women and men think differently, especially when responding to a new challenge. Sharon notes, “In the workforce, many women are guilty of analysis paralysis. If a man is asked if he can do a certain task, he automatically says YES, even if he does not have a clue where to get started. Women tend to want to have all their doubts assuaged before giving an answer. For example: how long will it take, who can I go to for guidance, what are the critical dates… and on and on. My advice is to say YES like men do and figure it out later.” Joseph J. Sherman is a social media expert who specializes in helping companies put their best foot forward on Wikipedia. 74 | fyimagazineny.com Looks like YOU ARE NOT PROCESSING with Banquest Payment Systems. Banquest Payment Systems has developed proprietary systems that allow you to process large transactions If you are processing large monthly volumes you must CALL US TODAY to learn about our special WITH RATES AS LOW 1.70%! LARGE VOLUME PROGRAM. CALL BANQUEST PAYMENT SYSTEMS TODAY TO STREAMLINE YOUR COLLECTIONS AND REDUCE YOUR PROCESSING COSTS. THE RESULTS ARE PRICELESS! 855.323.8300 ext. 101 | www.banquest.com KFrisch@Banquest.com | K. Frisch, CEO
in your bus  ness MARKETING 2     Many women are discouraged from starting a business because of their gender. Yet there i...
in your busıness MARKETING 2 “Many women are discouraged from starting a business because of their gender. Yet there is promising data to show that women across America are building successful businesses.” money is in abundance, it is easy to spend without thinking things through. Sharon notes, “The main challenge I faced was having so much money as my 'package' from IBM and not knowing to conserve my spending. I jumped on every marketing idea, thinking it would provide a healthy ROI. For example, I wasted money on creating slick marketing packages and sending them to all the colleges in the southeast part of the United States. I got ONE response and it never panned out into any business. I must have wasted over $3,000. I should have focused on risk analysis before going wild with my spending.” FOLLOW YOUR PASSION Building a business can be tremendously rewarding on a personal level. Creating a new product, designing a marketing campaign, and business networking provide ways for self- expression. Sharon comments, “How wonderful it is to be setting my own goals rather than working towards someone else's goals. I find it to be fulfilling, and it makes me proud to say I am the president of my own company. Actually, I own three businesses: each a result of following my passion.” MARRIED TO THE BUSINESS? As an entrepreneur in the heart of The Start-up Nation, I worked insane hours and regularly slept in the office to complete projects. Many women are concerned that starting a business can take over their lives. Sharon notes, “I’m not 'married' to my businesses, which means I can go on vacation whenever I want, take time to just relax and reflect, and network with other women to help them grow in their businesses. I have pride in business ownership. As past president of the National Association of Women Business Owners (local chapter), having my own business sets me up as a role model to many other women.” WORK FOR ESTABLISHED COMPANIES Many women may be inspired with the thought of a new product or service around which to build a business, but they do not have the experience to actually manage the business. For many, working for an established business can lead to entrepreneurship. Sharon says, “I suggest working for the established company first in order to grow your nest egg to use when ready to start your own business. Learn how the established business operates and what you can glean from the experience. The new generations of women are fearless about starting their own company with no background in established corporations. I say GO FOR IT and follow your passion. Just keep a cool head and watch your spending.” DO YOU AVOID accepting a customer’s credit card payment due to high processing fees? DO YOU WAIT for your customer to mail a check instead of accepting an immediate credit card payment? DO YOU THINK it costs 3% or more to process credit cards on large transactions? COMMANDING RESPECT Many women are discouraged from starting a business because of their gender. Yet there is promising data to show that women across America are building successful businesses. The US Chamber of Commerce Foundation notes that nearly 30% of all businesses, and one in five companies with revenues over $1 million, are women-owned. Sharon advises that “Women should know that in business, everyone is equal (depending upon the culture). Women should not defer to men or let men steal their ideas.” For example, Sharon suggests that women command respect when speaking. “Do not apologize as an opening statement. For example, how many women start a sentence with, 'Maybe I’m the only one who doesn’t understand this, but why …?' Command respect when speaking. Note I did not say DEMAND respect. There are subtle ways to command respect. If you are in a culture where opposite sexes can shake hands, the woman should extend her hands first to show poise, confidence, and professionalism. If the opposite is true and you cannot shake hands, maintain eye contact and lead the conversation by asking pertinent questions.” ANALYSIS PARALYSIS Women and men think differently, especially when responding to a new challenge. Sharon notes, “In the workforce, many women are guilty of analysis paralysis. If a man is asked if he can do a certain task, he automatically says YES, even if he does not have a clue where to get started. Women tend to want to have all their doubts assuaged before giving an answer. For example: how long will it take, who can I go to for guidance, what are the critical dates… and on and on. My advice is to say YES like men do and figure it out later.” Joseph J. Sherman is a social media expert who specializes in helping companies put their best foot forward on Wikipedia. 74 | fyimagazineny.com Looks like YOU ARE NOT PROCESSING with Banquest Payment Systems. Banquest Payment Systems has developed proprietary systems that allow you to process large transactions If you are processing large monthly volumes you must CALL US TODAY to learn about our special WITH RATES AS LOW 1.70%! LARGE VOLUME PROGRAM. CALL BANQUEST PAYMENT SYSTEMS TODAY TO STREAMLINE YOUR COLLECTIONS AND REDUCE YOUR PROCESSING COSTS. THE RESULTS ARE PRICELESS! 855.323.8300 ext. 101 | www.banquest.com KFrisch@Banquest.com | K. Frisch, CEO
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in your busıness in your busıness 7ANCIENT BROOKS BROTHERS (EST. 1818) BUSINESSES Brooks Brothers is the oldest clothing retailer in America, dating all the way back to 1818 — the same year Congress decided the United States flag should have 13 red and white stripes and 20 stars. The very first Brooks Brothers store, formerly known as D. H. Brooks & Co., opened in New York in 1849. Now, the company has more than 250 retail and factory stores in the United States as well as more than 250 locations internationally. THAT ARE STILL AROUND In today's fast-paced business world, companies seem to come and go in a matter of months (Many businesses fail within 6 months, according to a number of sources). Yet many of the big businesses we know today have been around for centuries, and some of them are even older than our nation. DIXON PENCIL COMPANY (EST. 1827) In 1827, Joseph Dixon began his business in Salem, Massachusetts with his son. Although Dixon introduced graphite pencils in 1829, people continued to write with quill pens and ink, up to the 1860s. Then, the American Civil War created a demand for a dry, clean, portable writing instrument, which led to the mass production of pencils. In 1982, the Joseph Dixon Crucible Company merged with the Bryn Mawr Corporation. Together, these companies formed the Dixon Ticonderoga Company, named after Dixon and its oldest brand-name pencil. BAKER'S CHOCOLATE (EST. 1765) The chocolate company was founded just outside Boston in 1765 by a Harvard-educated doctor named James Baker and an Irish immigrant named John Hannon. Hannon made his first recorded chocolate sale in 1772, but in 1779, Hannon journeyed to the West Indies to buy cocoa. He never returned, leaving Baker to take over the business. In 1780, the company began making its first Baker's branded chocolate, and eventually expanded its line of products. Today, the company is owned by Kraft but continues to sell a wide range of Baker's branded products. BIXLER’S JEWELERS (EST. 1785) In 1785, Revolutionary War veteran Christian Bixler III opened a small jewelry and clock-making shop at the intersection of Northampton and Bank Streets in downtown Easton, Pennsylvania. Benjamin Franklin had just introduced the world to bifocals, and George Washington was still four years away from becoming the first President of the United States. Bixler’s Jewelers has the distinction of being America’s oldest jewelers. AMES (EST. 1774) This tool company, which today makes everything from garden hoses and reels to professional hand tools, was started by a blacksmith, Captain John Ames, in Massachusetts in 1774. Its shovels were used in numerous landmark events, including the building of the Transcontinental Railroad; the installation of the Statue of Liberty; the building of the Hoover Dam; the creation of Mount Rushmore; and the construction of the interstate highway system. Today, Ames is owned by Griffon Corp., a management and holding company, and is based in Camp Hill, Pennsylvania. GROLSCH BREWERY (EST. 1615) The Grolsch brewery was founded in 1615 - ancient indeed! The town of Groenlo, where it all started, was then known as Grolle, hence the name Grolsch. The brewery was first operated by Willem Neerfeldt. Neerfeldt's son-in-law, Peter Sanford Cuyper, later took over. Grolsch was, as of February 2006, the second largest brewer in the Netherlands (after Heineken) with an annual production of 3.2 million hectoliters. The domestic market comprises 51% of total production. 76 | fyimagazineny.com JPMORGAN CHASE (EST. 1799) From 1784 through 1791, Alexander Hamilton's Bank of New York held its Federalist Party monopoly on Manhattan banking. A fellow Continental Army officer, lawyer and politician named Aaron Burr decided to give it some competition. Under the guise of providing a waterworks service, Burr created the Manhattan Company with a surreptitious clause in the charter enabling the company to perform "moneyed transactions" with its excess capital. Today, they are banking strong - all over the USA and in over 60 countries! 77 | fyimagazineny.com
in your bus  ness  in your bus  ness  7ANCIENT  BROOKS BROTHERS  EST. 1818   BUSINESSES  Brooks Brothers is the oldest clo...
in your busıness in your busıness 7ANCIENT BROOKS BROTHERS (EST. 1818) BUSINESSES Brooks Brothers is the oldest clothing retailer in America, dating all the way back to 1818 — the same year Congress decided the United States flag should have 13 red and white stripes and 20 stars. The very first Brooks Brothers store, formerly known as D. H. Brooks & Co., opened in New York in 1849. Now, the company has more than 250 retail and factory stores in the United States as well as more than 250 locations internationally. THAT ARE STILL AROUND In today's fast-paced business world, companies seem to come and go in a matter of months (Many businesses fail within 6 months, according to a number of sources). Yet many of the big businesses we know today have been around for centuries, and some of them are even older than our nation. DIXON PENCIL COMPANY (EST. 1827) In 1827, Joseph Dixon began his business in Salem, Massachusetts with his son. Although Dixon introduced graphite pencils in 1829, people continued to write with quill pens and ink, up to the 1860s. Then, the American Civil War created a demand for a dry, clean, portable writing instrument, which led to the mass production of pencils. In 1982, the Joseph Dixon Crucible Company merged with the Bryn Mawr Corporation. Together, these companies formed the Dixon Ticonderoga Company, named after Dixon and its oldest brand-name pencil. BAKER'S CHOCOLATE (EST. 1765) The chocolate company was founded just outside Boston in 1765 by a Harvard-educated doctor named James Baker and an Irish immigrant named John Hannon. Hannon made his first recorded chocolate sale in 1772, but in 1779, Hannon journeyed to the West Indies to buy cocoa. He never returned, leaving Baker to take over the business. In 1780, the company began making its first Baker's branded chocolate, and eventually expanded its line of products. Today, the company is owned by Kraft but continues to sell a wide range of Baker's branded products. BIXLER’S JEWELERS (EST. 1785) In 1785, Revolutionary War veteran Christian Bixler III opened a small jewelry and clock-making shop at the intersection of Northampton and Bank Streets in downtown Easton, Pennsylvania. Benjamin Franklin had just introduced the world to bifocals, and George Washington was still four years away from becoming the first President of the United States. Bixler’s Jewelers has the distinction of being America’s oldest jewelers. AMES (EST. 1774) This tool company, which today makes everything from garden hoses and reels to professional hand tools, was started by a blacksmith, Captain John Ames, in Massachusetts in 1774. Its shovels were used in numerous landmark events, including the building of the Transcontinental Railroad; the installation of the Statue of Liberty; the building of the Hoover Dam; the creation of Mount Rushmore; and the construction of the interstate highway system. Today, Ames is owned by Griffon Corp., a management and holding company, and is based in Camp Hill, Pennsylvania. GROLSCH BREWERY (EST. 1615) The Grolsch brewery was founded in 1615 - ancient indeed! The town of Groenlo, where it all started, was then known as Grolle, hence the name Grolsch. The brewery was first operated by Willem Neerfeldt. Neerfeldt's son-in-law, Peter Sanford Cuyper, later took over. Grolsch was, as of February 2006, the second largest brewer in the Netherlands (after Heineken) with an annual production of 3.2 million hectoliters. The domestic market comprises 51% of total production. 76 | fyimagazineny.com JPMORGAN CHASE (EST. 1799) From 1784 through 1791, Alexander Hamilton's Bank of New York held its Federalist Party monopoly on Manhattan banking. A fellow Continental Army officer, lawyer and politician named Aaron Burr decided to give it some competition. Under the guise of providing a waterworks service, Burr created the Manhattan Company with a surreptitious clause in the charter enabling the company to perform "moneyed transactions" with its excess capital. Today, they are banking strong - all over the USA and in over 60 countries! 77 | fyimagazineny.com
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ADVERTISEMENT WHEN ONLY HOME WOULD DO: BORO PARK CENTER FOR REHABILITATION & HEALTHCARE W Our care is close to The Five Towns. hat Brooklynites have already known for many years is finally being brought to the attention of Five Towns residents. Located at 4915 10th Avenue in Brooklyn, NY 11219, Boro Park Center is the premier rehabilitation and nursing facility serving all the frum Jewish communities throughout New York. Now accommodating families in our new Shabbos suite. New York’s most tight-knit Jewish communities care for one another without ever asking why. And at the Boro Park Center, we bring together families and community volunteers to share in a level of care that knows no question. This is where the hearts meet. 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Until today, particular emphasis is placed on maintaining each resident’s dignity and independence so that they return home with the tools they need to succeed. “My friends were surprised to see me walking down the street on my own.” Yossi H., a onetime Boro Park Center resident, recounts how he never expected to make a full recovery after his accident. “When you hit your head on ice at age 73, you thank God you’re alive and make peace with living at a facility for the rest of your years. But I was lucky enough to join the rehab program at Boro Park Center. My family knew what was best for me.” 4915 10th Avenue // Brooklyn, NY 11219 // 718-851-3700 // www.BoroParkCenter.net This is just one story from among hundreds. Boro Park Center continues to be the first choice of frum Jewish families throughout New York for positive clinical outcomes as much as for its staff’s warmth and for the facility’s immediate proximity. O ver the past few years, Boro Park Center has rolled out a number of programs to further its mission and to enhance its warm and nurturing environment. Two such programs include the Live Happy™ initiative that governs all services being provided on premises, and the Do Happy™ community-volunteer drive that motivates Brooklynites to bridge the generation gap and actively express their respect for the residents at Boro Park Center. These are examples of the Center’s spirited care model, because home truly is where the heart is. At Boro Park Center, home is also where first-class therapy is administered and where residents participate in daily shiurim. Home is where residents have allday access to beauty services, and where they dine on the finest glatt kosher meals that are prepared by an in-house gourmet chef under the hashgacha of Rabbi Friedlander. Home is where each room is outfitted with individually controlled heat and air conditioning, and where an emergency response system, flat linen service, daily housekeeping, dedicated phones, and flat-screen TVs are all part of the “standard package”. But perhaps the most family-favored amenities of them all are the designated family suites. As Freidy L. puts it, “Boro Park Center is as much our home as it is our father’s. Every Shabbos a different married couple stays with him.” In these private suites, family members of the Center’s residents can witness and appreciate everything that’s being done on behalf of their loved ones. F or the frum Jew that requires exceptional rehabilitative and/or nursing care, there truly is no better place to call home than Boro Park Center. Its doors are now open to families beyond Brooklyn, and its staff is eager to welcome anyone who can live a better life surrounded by compassionate caregivers, therapy specialists, and most importantly, friends and family. If you or someone you love can benefit from all of the above and more, please contact Boro Park Center for Rehabilitation and Healthcare at 718-851-5900. Because when only home would do, no one does it better than Boro Park Center. To schedule a tour or talk to admissions call 718-8515900 and ask for Kathy or Chanie.
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ADVERTISEMENT WHEN ONLY HOME WOULD DO: BORO PARK CENTER FOR REHABILITATION & HEALTHCARE W Our care is close to The Five Towns. hat Brooklynites have already known for many years is finally being brought to the attention of Five Towns residents. Located at 4915 10th Avenue in Brooklyn, NY 11219, Boro Park Center is the premier rehabilitation and nursing facility serving all the frum Jewish communities throughout New York. Now accommodating families in our new Shabbos suite. New York’s most tight-knit Jewish communities care for one another without ever asking why. And at the Boro Park Center, we bring together families and community volunteers to share in a level of care that knows no question. This is where the hearts meet. As Rachelli B. is eager to point out, Boro Park Center is the only place she ever trusts with her aging mother’s care. “Believe me, we’ve tried other facilities, but my mother never felt fully at home until she was introduced to Boro Park Center’s unbelievably devoted staff.” Now nearing her 82nd birthday, Rachelli’s mother enjoys the company of other young-at-heart community members, the personalized services of the finest caregivers in the state, and the joy of having her children and grandchildren nearby at all times. What sets Boro Park Center apart? A completely home-based approach to out-of-home rehabilitation and nursing care. Home means family, and Boro Park Center encourages –nearly enforces! – an ongoing connection between residents and their families. Unlike too many other facilities that take members of the aging community out of sight and subsequently out of mind of their loving families, Boro Park Center was founded on the ideal that family should never be too far away at any time. That’s how this 504-bed rehabilitation and skilled nursing facility originally came to be established in the heart of Boro Park. Unfazed by the complexities inherent in acquiring a property of this size in the immediate area, the Center’s founders sought only to build a second home as close to its residents’ first home as possible. The Center’s unequalled staff took shape the same way. As the founders wanted for all residents to live a healthier, happier life every day, caregivers where selected based not only on their capacity to care but also on their commitment to ensuring the highest quality of life for all residents. Until today, particular emphasis is placed on maintaining each resident’s dignity and independence so that they return home with the tools they need to succeed. “My friends were surprised to see me walking down the street on my own.” Yossi H., a onetime Boro Park Center resident, recounts how he never expected to make a full recovery after his accident. “When you hit your head on ice at age 73, you thank God you’re alive and make peace with living at a facility for the rest of your years. But I was lucky enough to join the rehab program at Boro Park Center. My family knew what was best for me.” 4915 10th Avenue // Brooklyn, NY 11219 // 718-851-3700 // www.BoroParkCenter.net This is just one story from among hundreds. Boro Park Center continues to be the first choice of frum Jewish families throughout New York for positive clinical outcomes as much as for its staff’s warmth and for the facility’s immediate proximity. O ver the past few years, Boro Park Center has rolled out a number of programs to further its mission and to enhance its warm and nurturing environment. Two such programs include the Live Happy™ initiative that governs all services being provided on premises, and the Do Happy™ community-volunteer drive that motivates Brooklynites to bridge the generation gap and actively express their respect for the residents at Boro Park Center. These are examples of the Center’s spirited care model, because home truly is where the heart is. At Boro Park Center, home is also where first-class therapy is administered and where residents participate in daily shiurim. Home is where residents have allday access to beauty services, and where they dine on the finest glatt kosher meals that are prepared by an in-house gourmet chef under the hashgacha of Rabbi Friedlander. Home is where each room is outfitted with individually controlled heat and air conditioning, and where an emergency response system, flat linen service, daily housekeeping, dedicated phones, and flat-screen TVs are all part of the “standard package”. But perhaps the most family-favored amenities of them all are the designated family suites. As Freidy L. puts it, “Boro Park Center is as much our home as it is our father’s. Every Shabbos a different married couple stays with him.” In these private suites, family members of the Center’s residents can witness and appreciate everything that’s being done on behalf of their loved ones. F or the frum Jew that requires exceptional rehabilitative and/or nursing care, there truly is no better place to call home than Boro Park Center. Its doors are now open to families beyond Brooklyn, and its staff is eager to welcome anyone who can live a better life surrounded by compassionate caregivers, therapy specialists, and most importantly, friends and family. If you or someone you love can benefit from all of the above and more, please contact Boro Park Center for Rehabilitation and Healthcare at 718-851-5900. Because when only home would do, no one does it better than Boro Park Center. To schedule a tour or talk to admissions call 718-8515900 and ask for Kathy or Chanie.
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in your busıness sharpen your appetıte 6 HABITS OF HIGHLY our best PRODUCTIVE ONE-POT DINNERS PEOPLE WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER Have you ever had one of those days when you seem to be constantly busy, yet when you think back on your day, it doesn’t seem like you achieved much at all? I think we can all relate to that.Then you have those super-productive people who seem able to achieve more in a day than most of us can in a week. What is their secret? Let’s discover the habits of highly productive people. 1. A DAILY PLAN Productive people plan out their day in advance. Rather than just drift aimlessly from one task to another, they know exactly what they are going to do each day. They also keep their daily “To Do” list surprisingly short. They aim to complete between five to ten tasks, giving priority to the most important ones first. They know it’s not realistic to have an endless list which they can’t possibly complete. That only leads to procrastination. 2. FOCUS ON ONE ITEM AT A TIME We often think that to get a lot done, we need to do several things at once. Productive people know that usually, the opposite is true. They try PHOTOGRAPHED BY SHEVY GROSS to give their full attention to the task at hand until it’s completed. They don’t simultaneously speak to friends or update their Facebook status while writing a crucial report. When they do multitask, they do it smartly, like loading the washing machine and putting food in the crock pot before they start work. That way, they can work while the clothes are washing and dinner is cooking all at the same time. 3. VALUE TIME People who need to get a lot done each day are conscious of not wasting time on trivial things. They know how to wrap up a meeting or telephone conversation that isn’t constructive, and how to skim emails as they clear out their inbox. They also know that spending time with family and friends, and taking time out to do things they enjoy is a valuable use of their time. 4. USE A TIMER Productive people always work with a timer. They allocate a set amount of time to complete a task before moving on to the next. Thus, they motor through their projects and the work does not become monotonous. The end result is increased productivity. 5. ELIMINATE CLUTTER Most successful people have a clear desk policy - and a clean home policy too. They abhor clutter. Everything must have its place. They know that clutter – whether on a desk 80 | fyimagazineny.com or at home – makes one feel tired and lethargic. It also wastes time because it makes objects difficult to locate. 6. HEALTH AND WELLBEING Productive people take time to look after themselves. Although they have full days, they don’t make the excuse that they’re too busy to exercise. They make the time, because they know that if they do, they will have the energy and stamina to work more efficiently in the long run. Lastly, highly productive people try to eat a healthy balanced diet, they don’t skip meals, and they stay hydrated throughout the day. They know a proper diet is essential for alertness and energy throughout the day.
in your bus  ness  sharpen your appet  te  6 HABITS OF HIGHLY  our best  PRODUCTIVE  ONE-POT DINNERS  PEOPLE WRITTEN BY SA...
in your busıness sharpen your appetıte 6 HABITS OF HIGHLY our best PRODUCTIVE ONE-POT DINNERS PEOPLE WRITTEN BY SARA ANSBACHER Have you ever had one of those days when you seem to be constantly busy, yet when you think back on your day, it doesn’t seem like you achieved much at all? I think we can all relate to that.Then you have those super-productive people who seem able to achieve more in a day than most of us can in a week. What is their secret? Let’s discover the habits of highly productive people. 1. A DAILY PLAN Productive people plan out their day in advance. Rather than just drift aimlessly from one task to another, they know exactly what they are going to do each day. They also keep their daily “To Do” list surprisingly short. They aim to complete between five to ten tasks, giving priority to the most important ones first. They know it’s not realistic to have an endless list which they can’t possibly complete. That only leads to procrastination. 2. FOCUS ON ONE ITEM AT A TIME We often think that to get a lot done, we need to do several things at once. Productive people know that usually, the opposite is true. They try PHOTOGRAPHED BY SHEVY GROSS to give their full attention to the task at hand until it’s completed. They don’t simultaneously speak to friends or update their Facebook status while writing a crucial report. When they do multitask, they do it smartly, like loading the washing machine and putting food in the crock pot before they start work. That way, they can work while the clothes are washing and dinner is cooking all at the same time. 3. VALUE TIME People who need to get a lot done each day are conscious of not wasting time on trivial things. They know how to wrap up a meeting or telephone conversation that isn’t constructive, and how to skim emails as they clear out their inbox. They also know that spending time with family and friends, and taking time out to do things they enjoy is a valuable use of their time. 4. USE A TIMER Productive people always work with a timer. They allocate a set amount of time to complete a task before moving on to the next. Thus, they motor through their projects and the work does not become monotonous. The end result is increased productivity. 5. ELIMINATE CLUTTER Most successful people have a clear desk policy - and a clean home policy too. They abhor clutter. Everything must have its place. They know that clutter – whether on a desk 80 | fyimagazineny.com or at home – makes one feel tired and lethargic. It also wastes time because it makes objects difficult to locate. 6. HEALTH AND WELLBEING Productive people take time to look after themselves. Although they have full days, they don’t make the excuse that they’re too busy to exercise. They make the time, because they know that if they do, they will have the energy and stamina to work more efficiently in the long run. Lastly, highly productive people try to eat a healthy balanced diet, they don’t skip meals, and they stay hydrated throughout the day. They know a proper diet is essential for alertness and energy throughout the day.
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sharpen your appetıte sharpen your appetıte 1 2 Meaty Spaghetti Squash Chili Chicken-Chorizo Paella Bowls MELINDA STRAUSS | KITCHEN TESTED DINI KLEIN | DINI DELIVERS Everyone loves a one-pot dinner, and this chili is perfect any time of year! The entire chili, including the spaghetti squash, cooks right inside a heavy dutch oven so you only have to wash one dish! You can certainly use any heavy large pot for this recipe, but I recommend using a dutch oven (you can get one for less than $50 at stores like Target and Walmart) because it is made of cast iron and holds heat very well for long simmers and stews. 1 teaspoon canola oil 1 pound ground meat 1 pound steak, cubed 1 large onion, diced 1 large green pepper, diced 3 cloves garlic, minced 2 tablespoon cumin 1 tablespoon chili powder 2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon oregano 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 2 cups beef stock 1 28 ounce can crushed tomatoes 1 medium spaghetti squash, sliced in half, seeds removed 1 cup fresh or frozen corn kernels 1 16 ounce can black beans, drained 1 16 ounce can kidney beans, drained 1 large handful cilantro, for garnish IN A LARGE DUTCH oven or heavy bottom pot, heat the oil over medium-high heat, then add the ground meat and cubed steak. Brown the meat until almost cooked through, around 5-8 minutes, then add the onion, green pepper, garlic, cumin, chili powder, salt, pepper, oregano, and cayenne pepper. STIR the mixture for 5 minutes, until the meat is fully cooked through and the onions and peppers are beginning to soften. Add the crushed tomatoes and beef broth and bring the chili to a boil. Lower the chili to a simmer on medium-low and place the spaghetti squash halves, skin side up, in the chili and cover the pot. Simmer the chili for 1 hour. REMOVE the cooked spaghetti squash halves from the chili and set them aside to cool slightly. ADD the corn and drained beans to the chili and stir to combine. Simmer the chili uncovered for 10 minutes (or longer if you want the chili even thicker). SPOON the chili into the spaghetti squash halves, top with cilantro to garnish and serve! This chili can be made 1-3 days ahead and reheats very well. You can also freeze it for up to 3 months. 82 | fyimagazineny.com One-pot meals happen at least once a week in my house. I cook for my clients all day and when it comes time to cook for my own family, throwing a bunch of delicious ingredients into a pot, closing the lid and opening it up to serve is all I feel like doing. This dish was a result of one of those busy days and trust me, it's delicious even if you do have the time to cook! Serving it in bowls with different toppings makes it fun for all ages, plus makes a more interactive and exciting dinner. SERVES 8-10 2 tablespoons olive oil 6 ounces chorizo (mild or spicy), small dice 1 onion, small dice 3 cloves garlic, minced 11/2 cups carrots, shredded or small dice 11/2 pound chicken boneless, skinless chicken cutlets cut into thin strips (about 2 chicken cutlets) 21/2 teaspoons salt 2 tablespoons paprika 1/4 teaspoons black pepper 2 cups jasmine rice 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock 1/4 cup kalamata olives, chopped 1 zucchini, diced Zest and juice of 1 lemon Garnish Scallions Lemons and limes Parsley or cilantro Harissa HEAT the olive oil in a large cast iron pot and sauté the chorizo until golden brown for 5 minutes. Add in the onion, garlic, and carrots, and sauté for another 5 minutes until onion is translucent and fragrant. Add the chicken and spices and sauté for another few minutes until chicken is partially cooked. ADD in remaining ingredients and mix together. Bring to a boil and immediately lower to a simmer. Cook it covered for 20-30 minutes until the rice is cooked through and all the stock has been absorbed. Serve in bowls with garnishes on the side. 83 | fyimagazineny.com
sharpen your appet  te  sharpen your appet  te  1  2  Meaty Spaghetti Squash Chili  Chicken-Chorizo Paella Bowls  MELINDA ...
sharpen your appetıte sharpen your appetıte 1 2 Meaty Spaghetti Squash Chili Chicken-Chorizo Paella Bowls MELINDA STRAUSS | KITCHEN TESTED DINI KLEIN | DINI DELIVERS Everyone loves a one-pot dinner, and this chili is perfect any time of year! The entire chili, including the spaghetti squash, cooks right inside a heavy dutch oven so you only have to wash one dish! You can certainly use any heavy large pot for this recipe, but I recommend using a dutch oven (you can get one for less than $50 at stores like Target and Walmart) because it is made of cast iron and holds heat very well for long simmers and stews. 1 teaspoon canola oil 1 pound ground meat 1 pound steak, cubed 1 large onion, diced 1 large green pepper, diced 3 cloves garlic, minced 2 tablespoon cumin 1 tablespoon chili powder 2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon oregano 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 2 cups beef stock 1 28 ounce can crushed tomatoes 1 medium spaghetti squash, sliced in half, seeds removed 1 cup fresh or frozen corn kernels 1 16 ounce can black beans, drained 1 16 ounce can kidney beans, drained 1 large handful cilantro, for garnish IN A LARGE DUTCH oven or heavy bottom pot, heat the oil over medium-high heat, then add the ground meat and cubed steak. Brown the meat until almost cooked through, around 5-8 minutes, then add the onion, green pepper, garlic, cumin, chili powder, salt, pepper, oregano, and cayenne pepper. STIR the mixture for 5 minutes, until the meat is fully cooked through and the onions and peppers are beginning to soften. Add the crushed tomatoes and beef broth and bring the chili to a boil. Lower the chili to a simmer on medium-low and place the spaghetti squash halves, skin side up, in the chili and cover the pot. Simmer the chili for 1 hour. REMOVE the cooked spaghetti squash halves from the chili and set them aside to cool slightly. ADD the corn and drained beans to the chili and stir to combine. Simmer the chili uncovered for 10 minutes (or longer if you want the chili even thicker). SPOON the chili into the spaghetti squash halves, top with cilantro to garnish and serve! This chili can be made 1-3 days ahead and reheats very well. You can also freeze it for up to 3 months. 82 | fyimagazineny.com One-pot meals happen at least once a week in my house. I cook for my clients all day and when it comes time to cook for my own family, throwing a bunch of delicious ingredients into a pot, closing the lid and opening it up to serve is all I feel like doing. This dish was a result of one of those busy days and trust me, it's delicious even if you do have the time to cook! Serving it in bowls with different toppings makes it fun for all ages, plus makes a more interactive and exciting dinner. SERVES 8-10 2 tablespoons olive oil 6 ounces chorizo (mild or spicy), small dice 1 onion, small dice 3 cloves garlic, minced 11/2 cups carrots, shredded or small dice 11/2 pound chicken boneless, skinless chicken cutlets cut into thin strips (about 2 chicken cutlets) 21/2 teaspoons salt 2 tablespoons paprika 1/4 teaspoons black pepper 2 cups jasmine rice 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock 1/4 cup kalamata olives, chopped 1 zucchini, diced Zest and juice of 1 lemon Garnish Scallions Lemons and limes Parsley or cilantro Harissa HEAT the olive oil in a large cast iron pot and sauté the chorizo until golden brown for 5 minutes. Add in the onion, garlic, and carrots, and sauté for another 5 minutes until onion is translucent and fragrant. Add the chicken and spices and sauté for another few minutes until chicken is partially cooked. ADD in remaining ingredients and mix together. Bring to a boil and immediately lower to a simmer. Cook it covered for 20-30 minutes until the rice is cooked through and all the stock has been absorbed. Serve in bowls with garnishes on the side. 83 | fyimagazineny.com
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sharpen your appetıte sharpen your appetıte 3 4 Smoky Braised Chicken & Kale Pulled Chicken Sliders CHANIE APFELBAUM | BUSY IN BROOKLYN When you think of one-pot dinners, they almost always consist of a protein and a starch - usually potatoes. While I love potatoes, they don't always love me back, so I rely on sturdy greens like collards, chard, or kale to fill me up. Braising is a great way to tenderize greens and infuse them with flavor, so you can say goodbye to that boring old salad and stick to your one-pot dinner, guilt-free! 4 1 1 2 2 2 1 2 2 bone-in chicken bottoms (skin on) bunch kale, washed well to remove dirt, stems removed and roughly chopped onion, thinly sliced in half rings cloves garlic, minced tablespoons olive oil teaspoons cumin tablespoons smoked paprika 14.5 ounc cans diced fire roasted tomatoes cups chicken or vegetable stock Salt and pepper, to taste HEAT the olive oil in a dutch oven and season chicken with salt and pepper. Sear the chicken on both sides until golden brown and set aside. If there’s a lot of fat in the pot, drain some of it. Sauté onions in the remaining fat until translucent. Add garlic and continue to sauté until fragrant. Add cumin and paprika and sauté until onions are well-coated and fragrant. Add kale, tomatoes and stock and season with salt and pepper. PLACE the chicken on top and bring the mixture to a boil. Transfer the pot to the oven and bake at 350 degrees for 1 1/2-2 hours. Slow Cooker Option: reduce stock to 1 cup and cook on low for 6 hours. Variation: Try using other greens such as collard greens or chard. SHOSHANA TURIN | COOKING IN HEELSS My family prefers eating a home-cooked meal to ordering out, but some nights, I just don’t have the time or energy to make a meal that involves a lot of prep and hands-on time (Yes, even food bloggers get tired of cooking sometimes). Still, I don’t want to shortchange myself and serve something that seems uninspired and tasteless. So when I know a night like that is about to rear its ugly head (Think school days or long boring meetings), I take out my trusty crock pot in the morning (It’s not just for cholent anymore!) and throw in a bunch of things. That way, I come home to amazing smells and a dinner that practically finished itself. This is one of my favorite crock pot recipes that make a winner dinner every time! When I’m feeling particularly tired, I’ll make a double batch and use the leftover chicken on pizza dough with some vegan cheese to make a barbeque chicken pizza! 6 chicken breast cutlets 11/2 cups barbecue sauce (bottled or use recipe to the right) Optional: 1 large sweet onion, sliced into rings 1 package hamburger or slider buns Optional: pickles, coleslaw, diced onions PLACE the chicken, BBQ sauce, and onion (if using) into a medium to large crock pot. COOK on high (5-6) for 2-3 hours or on low (2-3) for 6-8 hours REMOVE the pot from the heat and wait approximately 15 minutes for the chicken to cool down. USING two forks, pull the chicken apart until it shreds. Mix the shreds with the sauce well. SERVE on a toasted bun with chopped onion, coleslaw, or sweet pickles. 84 | fyimagazineny.com 85 | fyimagazineny.com Brown Sugar- Bourbon Barbeque Sauce Makes about 2 cups 1 cup ketchup ½ cup bourbon 3 tablespoons brown sugar 3 tablespoons dark molasses or silan 3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar 2 Tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon soy sauce 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 ½ teaspoon liquid smoke 1 teaspoon onion powder 2 cloves fresh garlic, grated ½ teaspoon ginger ½ teaspoon dried crushed red pepper ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ½ teaspoon vanilla extract BRING all ingredients to a boil over medium heat, stirring occasionally. REDUCE heat and simmer until sauce is reduced to about 2 cups, stirring oftenabout 10 minutes STORE in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks.
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sharpen your appetıte sharpen your appetıte 3 4 Smoky Braised Chicken & Kale Pulled Chicken Sliders CHANIE APFELBAUM | BUSY IN BROOKLYN When you think of one-pot dinners, they almost always consist of a protein and a starch - usually potatoes. While I love potatoes, they don't always love me back, so I rely on sturdy greens like collards, chard, or kale to fill me up. Braising is a great way to tenderize greens and infuse them with flavor, so you can say goodbye to that boring old salad and stick to your one-pot dinner, guilt-free! 4 1 1 2 2 2 1 2 2 bone-in chicken bottoms (skin on) bunch kale, washed well to remove dirt, stems removed and roughly chopped onion, thinly sliced in half rings cloves garlic, minced tablespoons olive oil teaspoons cumin tablespoons smoked paprika 14.5 ounc cans diced fire roasted tomatoes cups chicken or vegetable stock Salt and pepper, to taste HEAT the olive oil in a dutch oven and season chicken with salt and pepper. Sear the chicken on both sides until golden brown and set aside. If there’s a lot of fat in the pot, drain some of it. Sauté onions in the remaining fat until translucent. Add garlic and continue to sauté until fragrant. Add cumin and paprika and sauté until onions are well-coated and fragrant. Add kale, tomatoes and stock and season with salt and pepper. PLACE the chicken on top and bring the mixture to a boil. Transfer the pot to the oven and bake at 350 degrees for 1 1/2-2 hours. Slow Cooker Option: reduce stock to 1 cup and cook on low for 6 hours. Variation: Try using other greens such as collard greens or chard. SHOSHANA TURIN | COOKING IN HEELSS My family prefers eating a home-cooked meal to ordering out, but some nights, I just don’t have the time or energy to make a meal that involves a lot of prep and hands-on time (Yes, even food bloggers get tired of cooking sometimes). Still, I don’t want to shortchange myself and serve something that seems uninspired and tasteless. So when I know a night like that is about to rear its ugly head (Think school days or long boring meetings), I take out my trusty crock pot in the morning (It’s not just for cholent anymore!) and throw in a bunch of things. That way, I come home to amazing smells and a dinner that practically finished itself. This is one of my favorite crock pot recipes that make a winner dinner every time! When I’m feeling particularly tired, I’ll make a double batch and use the leftover chicken on pizza dough with some vegan cheese to make a barbeque chicken pizza! 6 chicken breast cutlets 11/2 cups barbecue sauce (bottled or use recipe to the right) Optional: 1 large sweet onion, sliced into rings 1 package hamburger or slider buns Optional: pickles, coleslaw, diced onions PLACE the chicken, BBQ sauce, and onion (if using) into a medium to large crock pot. COOK on high (5-6) for 2-3 hours or on low (2-3) for 6-8 hours REMOVE the pot from the heat and wait approximately 15 minutes for the chicken to cool down. USING two forks, pull the chicken apart until it shreds. Mix the shreds with the sauce well. SERVE on a toasted bun with chopped onion, coleslaw, or sweet pickles. 84 | fyimagazineny.com 85 | fyimagazineny.com Brown Sugar- Bourbon Barbeque Sauce Makes about 2 cups 1 cup ketchup ½ cup bourbon 3 tablespoons brown sugar 3 tablespoons dark molasses or silan 3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar 2 Tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon soy sauce 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 ½ teaspoon liquid smoke 1 teaspoon onion powder 2 cloves fresh garlic, grated ½ teaspoon ginger ½ teaspoon dried crushed red pepper ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ½ teaspoon vanilla extract BRING all ingredients to a boil over medium heat, stirring occasionally. REDUCE heat and simmer until sauce is reduced to about 2 cups, stirring oftenabout 10 minutes STORE in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks.
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sharpen CLIP & SAVE THESE RECIPES! your appetıte Meaty Spaghetti Squash Chili Completely Customizable Swings & Playsets RESIDENTIAL AND ECONOMY WOOD • DELUXE WOOD • SUPERIOR VINYL C O N TA C T U S TO D AY TO PL A N Y O U R S E T 516.666.8866 845.422.8566 732.746.0315 f Loads oies sor Acces& ns Add-Omize t to Cusoor Yu t Playse IN A LARGE DUTCH oven or heavy bottom pot, heat the oil over medium-high heat, then add the ground meat and cubed steak. Brown the meat until almost cooked through, around 5-8 minutes, then add the onion, green pepper, garlic, cumin, chili SETS STARTING AT 319 $ COMMERCIAL over 1000 Happy Customers SINCE 2005 info@swingitplaysets.com www.swingitplaysets.com CALL R OUR FO ON S 2015 SEA RE ROCHU B 1 teaspoon canola oil 1 pound ground meat 1 pound steak, cubed 1 large onion, diced 1 large green pepper, diced 3 cloves garlic, minced 2 tablespoon cumin 1 tablespoon chili powder 2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon oregano 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 2 cups beef stock 1 28 ounce can crushed tomatoes 1 medium spaghetti squash, sliced in half, seeds removed 1 cup fresh or frozen corn kernels 1 16 ounce can black beans, drained 1 16 ounce can kidney beans, drained 1 large handful cilantro, for garnish Chicken-Chorizo Paella Bowls 2 tablespoons olive oil 6 ounces chorizo (mild or spicy), small dice 1 onion, small dice 3 cloves garlic, minced 11/2 cups carrots, shredded or small dice 11/2 pound chicken boneless, skinless chicken cutlets cut into thin strips (about 2 chicken cutlets) 21/2 teaspoons salt 2 tablespoons paprika 1/4 teaspoons black pepper 2 cups jasmine rice 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock 1/4 cup kalamata olives, chopped 1 zucchini, diced Zest and juice of 1 lemon Garnish Scallions Lemons and limes Parsley or cilantro Harissa HEAT the olive oil in a large cast iron pot and sauté the chorizo until golden brown for 5 minutes. Add in the onion, garlic, and carrots, and sauté for another 5 minutes until onion is translucent and fragrant. Add the chicken and spices and sauté for another few minutes until chicken is partially cooked. ADD in remaining ingredients and mix together. Bring to a boil and immediately lower to a simmer. Cook it covered for 20-30 minutes until the rice is cooked through and all the stock has been absorbed. Serve in bowls with garnishes on the side. 87 | fyimagazineny.com powder, salt, pepper, oregano, and cayenne pepper. STIR the mixture for 5 minutes, until the meat is fully cooked through and the onions and peppers are beginning to soften. Add the crushed tomatoes and beef broth and bring the chili to a boil. Lower the chili to a simmer on medium-low and place the spaghetti squash halves, skin side up, in the chili and cover the pot. Simmer the chili for 1 hour. REMOVE the cooked spaghetti squash halves from the chili and set them aside to cool slightly. ADD the corn and drained beans to the chili and stir to combine. Simmer the chili uncovered for 10 minutes (or longer if you want the chili even thicker). SPOON the chili into the spaghetti squash halves, top with cilantro to garnish and serve! This chili can be made 1-3 days ahead and reheats very well. You can also freeze it for up to 3 months.
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sharpen CLIP & SAVE THESE RECIPES! your appetıte Meaty Spaghetti Squash Chili Completely Customizable Swings & Playsets RESIDENTIAL AND ECONOMY WOOD • DELUXE WOOD • SUPERIOR VINYL C O N TA C T U S TO D AY TO PL A N Y O U R S E T 516.666.8866 845.422.8566 732.746.0315 f Loads oies sor Acces& ns Add-Omize t to Cusoor Yu t Playse IN A LARGE DUTCH oven or heavy bottom pot, heat the oil over medium-high heat, then add the ground meat and cubed steak. Brown the meat until almost cooked through, around 5-8 minutes, then add the onion, green pepper, garlic, cumin, chili SETS STARTING AT 319 $ COMMERCIAL over 1000 Happy Customers SINCE 2005 info@swingitplaysets.com www.swingitplaysets.com CALL R OUR FO ON S 2015 SEA RE ROCHU B 1 teaspoon canola oil 1 pound ground meat 1 pound steak, cubed 1 large onion, diced 1 large green pepper, diced 3 cloves garlic, minced 2 tablespoon cumin 1 tablespoon chili powder 2 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 1 teaspoon oregano 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 2 cups beef stock 1 28 ounce can crushed tomatoes 1 medium spaghetti squash, sliced in half, seeds removed 1 cup fresh or frozen corn kernels 1 16 ounce can black beans, drained 1 16 ounce can kidney beans, drained 1 large handful cilantro, for garnish Chicken-Chorizo Paella Bowls 2 tablespoons olive oil 6 ounces chorizo (mild or spicy), small dice 1 onion, small dice 3 cloves garlic, minced 11/2 cups carrots, shredded or small dice 11/2 pound chicken boneless, skinless chicken cutlets cut into thin strips (about 2 chicken cutlets) 21/2 teaspoons salt 2 tablespoons paprika 1/4 teaspoons black pepper 2 cups jasmine rice 4 cups vegetable or chicken stock 1/4 cup kalamata olives, chopped 1 zucchini, diced Zest and juice of 1 lemon Garnish Scallions Lemons and limes Parsley or cilantro Harissa HEAT the olive oil in a large cast iron pot and sauté the chorizo until golden brown for 5 minutes. Add in the onion, garlic, and carrots, and sauté for another 5 minutes until onion is translucent and fragrant. Add the chicken and spices and sauté for another few minutes until chicken is partially cooked. ADD in remaining ingredients and mix together. Bring to a boil and immediately lower to a simmer. Cook it covered for 20-30 minutes until the rice is cooked through and all the stock has been absorbed. Serve in bowls with garnishes on the side. 87 | fyimagazineny.com powder, salt, pepper, oregano, and cayenne pepper. STIR the mixture for 5 minutes, until the meat is fully cooked through and the onions and peppers are beginning to soften. Add the crushed tomatoes and beef broth and bring the chili to a boil. Lower the chili to a simmer on medium-low and place the spaghetti squash halves, skin side up, in the chili and cover the pot. Simmer the chili for 1 hour. REMOVE the cooked spaghetti squash halves from the chili and set them aside to cool slightly. ADD the corn and drained beans to the chili and stir to combine. Simmer the chili uncovered for 10 minutes (or longer if you want the chili even thicker). SPOON the chili into the spaghetti squash halves, top with cilantro to garnish and serve! This chili can be made 1-3 days ahead and reheats very well. You can also freeze it for up to 3 months.
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sharpen your appetıte features Smoky Braised Chicken & Collards 4 1 1 2 2 2 1 2 2 bone-in chicken bottoms (skin on) bunch collard greens, washed well to remove dirt, stems removed and roughly chopped onion, thinly sliced in half rings cloves garlic, minced tablespoons olive oil teaspoons cumin tablespoons smoked paprika 14.5 ounc cans diced fire roasted tomatoes cups chicken or vegetable stock Salt and pepper, to taste PLACE the chicken on top and bring the mixture to a boil. Transfer the pot to the oven and bake at 350 degrees for 1 1/2-2 hours. Slow Cooker Option: reduce stock to 1 cup and cook on low for 6 hours. Variation: Try using other greens such as kale or chard. HEAT the olive oil in a dutch oven and season chicken with salt and pepper. Sear the chicken on both sides until golden brown and set aside. If there’s a lot of fat in the pot, drain some of it. Sauté onions in the remaining fat until translucent. Add garlic and continue to sauté until fragrant. Add cumin and paprika and sauté until onions are well-coated and fragrant. Add collard greens, tomatoes and stock and season with salt and pepper. Pulled Chicken Sliders THE BIG CLOSET MAKEOVER > DIET VS. EXERCISE > SARNO'S METHOD 93 96 6 chicken breast cutlets 11/2 cups barbecue sauce (bottled or use recipe to the right) Optional: 1 large sweet onion, sliced into rings 1 package hamburger or slider buns Optional: pickles, coleslaw, diced onions PLACE the chicken, BBQ sauce, and onion (if using) into a medium to large crock pot. COOK on high (5-6) for 2-3 hours or on low (2-3) for 6-8 hours REMOVE the pot from the heat and wait approximately 15 minutes for the chicken to cool down. USING two forks, pull the chicken apart until it shreds. Mix the shreds with the sauce well. SERVE on a toasted bun with chopped onion, coleslaw, or sweet pickles. 88 | fyimagazineny.com Brown Sugar- Bourbon Barbeque Sauce Makes about 2 cups 1 cup ketchup ½ cup bourbon 3 tablespoons brown sugar 3 tablespoons dark molasses or silan 3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar 2 Tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon soy sauce 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 ½ teaspoon liquid smoke 1 teaspoon onion powder 2 cloves fresh garlic, grated ½ teaspoon ginger ½ teaspoon dried crushed red pepper ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ½ teaspoon vanilla extract BRING all ingredients to a boil over medium heat, stirring occasionally. REDUCE heat and simmer until sauce is reduced to about 2 cups, stirring often- about 10 minutes STORE in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks. 90 “Reality has proven that people who exercise to lose weight but don’t cut down on their food, only lose a very small amount of weight.” - DIET VS. EXERCISE
sharpen your appet  te  features  Smoky Braised Chicken   Collards 4  1    1  2  2  2  1  2  2     bone-in chicken bottoms...
sharpen your appetıte features Smoky Braised Chicken & Collards 4 1 1 2 2 2 1 2 2 bone-in chicken bottoms (skin on) bunch collard greens, washed well to remove dirt, stems removed and roughly chopped onion, thinly sliced in half rings cloves garlic, minced tablespoons olive oil teaspoons cumin tablespoons smoked paprika 14.5 ounc cans diced fire roasted tomatoes cups chicken or vegetable stock Salt and pepper, to taste PLACE the chicken on top and bring the mixture to a boil. Transfer the pot to the oven and bake at 350 degrees for 1 1/2-2 hours. Slow Cooker Option: reduce stock to 1 cup and cook on low for 6 hours. Variation: Try using other greens such as kale or chard. HEAT the olive oil in a dutch oven and season chicken with salt and pepper. Sear the chicken on both sides until golden brown and set aside. If there’s a lot of fat in the pot, drain some of it. Sauté onions in the remaining fat until translucent. Add garlic and continue to sauté until fragrant. Add cumin and paprika and sauté until onions are well-coated and fragrant. Add collard greens, tomatoes and stock and season with salt and pepper. Pulled Chicken Sliders THE BIG CLOSET MAKEOVER > DIET VS. EXERCISE > SARNO'S METHOD 93 96 6 chicken breast cutlets 11/2 cups barbecue sauce (bottled or use recipe to the right) Optional: 1 large sweet onion, sliced into rings 1 package hamburger or slider buns Optional: pickles, coleslaw, diced onions PLACE the chicken, BBQ sauce, and onion (if using) into a medium to large crock pot. COOK on high (5-6) for 2-3 hours or on low (2-3) for 6-8 hours REMOVE the pot from the heat and wait approximately 15 minutes for the chicken to cool down. USING two forks, pull the chicken apart until it shreds. Mix the shreds with the sauce well. SERVE on a toasted bun with chopped onion, coleslaw, or sweet pickles. 88 | fyimagazineny.com Brown Sugar- Bourbon Barbeque Sauce Makes about 2 cups 1 cup ketchup ½ cup bourbon 3 tablespoons brown sugar 3 tablespoons dark molasses or silan 3 tablespoons apple cider vinegar 2 Tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 tablespoon soy sauce 1 tablespoon Dijon mustard 1 ½ teaspoon liquid smoke 1 teaspoon onion powder 2 cloves fresh garlic, grated ½ teaspoon ginger ½ teaspoon dried crushed red pepper ½ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper ½ teaspoon vanilla extract BRING all ingredients to a boil over medium heat, stirring occasionally. REDUCE heat and simmer until sauce is reduced to about 2 cups, stirring often- about 10 minutes STORE in the refrigerator for up to 2 weeks. 90 “Reality has proven that people who exercise to lose weight but don’t cut down on their food, only lose a very small amount of weight.” - DIET VS. EXERCISE
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FEATURES LAST MONTH, after we published the article about the Sarno method, we received many emails with great feedback, mainly from individuals who have used his method and were helped from chronic pain which they had struggled with for years. The fascinating thing about the Sarno method is that it is not a treatment for a specific diagnosis, but a new way of looking at sickness. Dr. Sarno likes to say that he didn't find a treatment for pain; he simply found a better diagnosis. His findings give people a better understanding of the cause for their pain, thereby allowing it to disappear. This is a topic that we definitely had to explore more in depth, so we reached out to Dr. Daniel G. Lyman, MSW, who is an expert in treating people with TMS (the term Dr. Sarno created for his approach, as explained in the previous article). CAN YOUR MIND HEAL YOUR BODY? Revisiting the Sarno Method 90 | fyimagazineny.com Thanks for taking the time to share your experience with our readers. Let me start with a simple question: What do you do? I’m a psychotherapist specializing in the treatment of chronic pain. I work with a team of therapists at the Pain Psychology Center (www.painpsychologycenter.com) in Los Angeles. The most common pains I treat are back pain, various leg pains, foot pain, headaches (migraines), Tinnitus, gastrointestinal issues, pelvic pain, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and a handful of others. There are many psychotherapists working in the pain management field, but what sets my colleagues and me apart, is that we don’t consider our work as pain management, but rather that we are working to reduce and/or eliminate the pain. How would you explain the Sarno method to a person with chronic pain who has never heard of Sarno before? The Sarno method of treating chronic pain is recognizing that psychological processes play a role in the development and the persistence of chronic pain. Your subconscious (the part of your thoughts that you’re not aware of) can play tricks on you, even though it thinks it’s helping you. The method teaches you to understand those tricks and stop buying into them. How were you first introduced to the Sarno method? In brief, I have overcome my own issues with chronic pain, and as part of my healing process (as well as part of my education to become a psychotherapist), I came across Dr. Sarno’s books. 91 | fyimagazineny.com From my understanding a lot of people are getting helped, simply by accepting the notion that their pain or suffering comes from their subconscious mind as a way of distracting them. How do you explain that in simple terminology? How can severe chronic pain or gastrointestinal issues disappear simply by reading a book and changing your perspective? The biggest element in reducing pain is having confidence that there is nothing physically wrong with you. Once people accept that the pain is a distraction and not actually something that is physically wrong with them, their fear decreases and they no longer are concerned about the pain. Turns out, when you stop worrying as much about the pain, it often times goes away! I tell all of my clients that the fastest way to get better is to get confirmation as to what is actually going on. Many people have gone to a handful of different doctors, and yet none of them can find something specific that is treatable. That right there is a strong piece of evidence that this is TMS!
FEATURES  LAST MONTH, after we published the article about  the Sarno method, we received many emails with great feedback,...
FEATURES LAST MONTH, after we published the article about the Sarno method, we received many emails with great feedback, mainly from individuals who have used his method and were helped from chronic pain which they had struggled with for years. The fascinating thing about the Sarno method is that it is not a treatment for a specific diagnosis, but a new way of looking at sickness. Dr. Sarno likes to say that he didn't find a treatment for pain; he simply found a better diagnosis. His findings give people a better understanding of the cause for their pain, thereby allowing it to disappear. This is a topic that we definitely had to explore more in depth, so we reached out to Dr. Daniel G. Lyman, MSW, who is an expert in treating people with TMS (the term Dr. Sarno created for his approach, as explained in the previous article). CAN YOUR MIND HEAL YOUR BODY? Revisiting the Sarno Method 90 | fyimagazineny.com Thanks for taking the time to share your experience with our readers. Let me start with a simple question: What do you do? I’m a psychotherapist specializing in the treatment of chronic pain. I work with a team of therapists at the Pain Psychology Center (www.painpsychologycenter.com) in Los Angeles. The most common pains I treat are back pain, various leg pains, foot pain, headaches (migraines), Tinnitus, gastrointestinal issues, pelvic pain, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and a handful of others. There are many psychotherapists working in the pain management field, but what sets my colleagues and me apart, is that we don’t consider our work as pain management, but rather that we are working to reduce and/or eliminate the pain. How would you explain the Sarno method to a person with chronic pain who has never heard of Sarno before? The Sarno method of treating chronic pain is recognizing that psychological processes play a role in the development and the persistence of chronic pain. Your subconscious (the part of your thoughts that you’re not aware of) can play tricks on you, even though it thinks it’s helping you. The method teaches you to understand those tricks and stop buying into them. How were you first introduced to the Sarno method? In brief, I have overcome my own issues with chronic pain, and as part of my healing process (as well as part of my education to become a psychotherapist), I came across Dr. Sarno’s books. 91 | fyimagazineny.com From my understanding a lot of people are getting helped, simply by accepting the notion that their pain or suffering comes from their subconscious mind as a way of distracting them. How do you explain that in simple terminology? How can severe chronic pain or gastrointestinal issues disappear simply by reading a book and changing your perspective? The biggest element in reducing pain is having confidence that there is nothing physically wrong with you. Once people accept that the pain is a distraction and not actually something that is physically wrong with them, their fear decreases and they no longer are concerned about the pain. Turns out, when you stop worrying as much about the pain, it often times goes away! I tell all of my clients that the fastest way to get better is to get confirmation as to what is actually going on. Many people have gone to a handful of different doctors, and yet none of them can find something specific that is treatable. That right there is a strong piece of evidence that this is TMS!
FEATURES  LAST MONTH, after we published the article about  the Sarno method, we received many emails with great feedback,...
FEATURES How does the medical field respond to the idea that most problems could be healed with your own brain? Interesting question. There are two parts to this that I would like to address. 1. I don’t know if I would agree with the statement that most problems can be healed with your brain, but I will say that healing of many physical ailments has a strong psychological component. That said, what I do specifically is work with people in chronic pain, which means having persistent symptoms lasting more than 3 months. 2. We work with many physicians around the country to help us clarify and diagnose whether a physical symptom is neural pathway-related or not. Honestly, most doctors that work in pain management are extremely open to the work we do because they see the same patterns we see. Many physicians recognize our work as a necessity in conjunction with theirs. We don’t view our work as being contradictory to what the traditional Western medical community is saying, but rather, we see it more as complementary to it. For those that haven’t found relief in the traditional ways, we can be of huge help. Ironically, the most resistance comes from patients who are afraid that having a neural pathway component to pain means they are crazy, which is definitely not the case: anyone can develop chronic pain. “Most doctors that work in pain management are extremely open to the work we do because they see the same patterns we see.” Many people who are first introduced to the Sarno method are not clear on how to deal with the issues that the subconscious is trying to hide. Can you clarify this part? Is there a simple process people can follow to determine which past issues are causing the pain, and how to solve those issues? This is a tough question, because Sarno is an MD, not a psychotherapist, so he understands the psychology of pain from a slightly different perspective. My personal opinion is that the largest component of chronic pain is fear. About 99.9% of the people I work with are highly fearful, and when that fear is reduced, the symptoms go away. The reason Sarno is so successful, from my perspective, is that he reduces fear in his readers. People read a Sarno book and feel that they finally found someone who understands them. They walk away feeling confident in the diagnosis and their symptoms go away. Confidence is a necessity to overcoming chronic pain. Without it, you’ll stay afraid and stay in pain. When it comes to subconscious issues that are causing pain, it’s a bit trickier. You need to push yourself to recognize that those things you don’t want to talk about are exactly the things that need to be discussed. Rule of thumb: If talking about something gives you fear or anxiety, then it needs to be talked through. Avoidance only increases fear and anxiety. Can you share a recent success story with us? This is my favorite part of the job! My favorite success story from the last year is a gentleman that I worked with over Skype. He suffered from chronic wrist pain, and was unable to type or do anything with his wrists for a very long time. This had gone on for 6 years. He’s a lawyer, which generally involves a lot of typing, so he had to use software to dictate to the computer what he wanted to type. After only 6 sessions, he was able to type again, and after 8 weeks, he sent me a video of his hands playing the guitar. He was ecstatic. One of his biggest fears was that when he had kids, he wouldn’t be able to hold them in his arms, and when the pain finally went away, he started crying as he told me that he now no longer had that fear. He did improve faster than a lot of people, but it’s not out of the ordinary for people to go from being nearly disabled to being pain free fairly quickly. That’s why I love this work – it is extremely exciting to watch people get their life back. Do you do sessions over the phone? Yes, I do sessions over the phone and over Skype. All the therapists/ coaches at the Pain Psychology Center work over Skype and phone. diet vs. Which Works Better? That's it. You've made up your mind; you're finally going to heed the advice the media has been screaming to you for years. You want to be healthy. You're going to adopt a healthy lifestyle. No more kugel, no more cake, welcome jogging- you're off to a great start. WRITTEN BY DINI HARRIS 92 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  How does the medical field respond to the idea that most problems could be healed with your own brain  Interesti...
FEATURES How does the medical field respond to the idea that most problems could be healed with your own brain? Interesting question. There are two parts to this that I would like to address. 1. I don’t know if I would agree with the statement that most problems can be healed with your brain, but I will say that healing of many physical ailments has a strong psychological component. That said, what I do specifically is work with people in chronic pain, which means having persistent symptoms lasting more than 3 months. 2. We work with many physicians around the country to help us clarify and diagnose whether a physical symptom is neural pathway-related or not. Honestly, most doctors that work in pain management are extremely open to the work we do because they see the same patterns we see. Many physicians recognize our work as a necessity in conjunction with theirs. We don’t view our work as being contradictory to what the traditional Western medical community is saying, but rather, we see it more as complementary to it. For those that haven’t found relief in the traditional ways, we can be of huge help. Ironically, the most resistance comes from patients who are afraid that having a neural pathway component to pain means they are crazy, which is definitely not the case: anyone can develop chronic pain. “Most doctors that work in pain management are extremely open to the work we do because they see the same patterns we see.” Many people who are first introduced to the Sarno method are not clear on how to deal with the issues that the subconscious is trying to hide. Can you clarify this part? Is there a simple process people can follow to determine which past issues are causing the pain, and how to solve those issues? This is a tough question, because Sarno is an MD, not a psychotherapist, so he understands the psychology of pain from a slightly different perspective. My personal opinion is that the largest component of chronic pain is fear. About 99.9% of the people I work with are highly fearful, and when that fear is reduced, the symptoms go away. The reason Sarno is so successful, from my perspective, is that he reduces fear in his readers. People read a Sarno book and feel that they finally found someone who understands them. They walk away feeling confident in the diagnosis and their symptoms go away. Confidence is a necessity to overcoming chronic pain. Without it, you’ll stay afraid and stay in pain. When it comes to subconscious issues that are causing pain, it’s a bit trickier. You need to push yourself to recognize that those things you don’t want to talk about are exactly the things that need to be discussed. Rule of thumb: If talking about something gives you fear or anxiety, then it needs to be talked through. Avoidance only increases fear and anxiety. Can you share a recent success story with us? This is my favorite part of the job! My favorite success story from the last year is a gentleman that I worked with over Skype. He suffered from chronic wrist pain, and was unable to type or do anything with his wrists for a very long time. This had gone on for 6 years. He’s a lawyer, which generally involves a lot of typing, so he had to use software to dictate to the computer what he wanted to type. After only 6 sessions, he was able to type again, and after 8 weeks, he sent me a video of his hands playing the guitar. He was ecstatic. One of his biggest fears was that when he had kids, he wouldn’t be able to hold them in his arms, and when the pain finally went away, he started crying as he told me that he now no longer had that fear. He did improve faster than a lot of people, but it’s not out of the ordinary for people to go from being nearly disabled to being pain free fairly quickly. That’s why I love this work – it is extremely exciting to watch people get their life back. Do you do sessions over the phone? Yes, I do sessions over the phone and over Skype. All the therapists/ coaches at the Pain Psychology Center work over Skype and phone. diet vs. Which Works Better? That's it. You've made up your mind; you're finally going to heed the advice the media has been screaming to you for years. You want to be healthy. You're going to adopt a healthy lifestyle. No more kugel, no more cake, welcome jogging- you're off to a great start. WRITTEN BY DINI HARRIS 92 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  How does the medical field respond to the idea that most problems could be healed with your own brain  Interesti...
FEATURES Wait. One second. Think it through before you start. Radical changes are often abandoned after a week or two. First, decide which health results you want, and then implement the changes that will generate these results – working slowly and steadily until you reach your health goals. The first thing that usually comes to mind when thinking about health is weight – often, losing it. And though the idea of losing weight is associated with looking good, it's much more than that. Carrying around extra pounds can literally cut someone's life short. Overweight people are at much higher risk of developing diabetes, high cholesterol, heart attacks and some cancers. They are also more likely to die of complications of these diseases. Overweight people also suffer from technical, but uncomfortable difficulties. Simply put, they're heavy. When individuals are heavy, it's harder for them to move around. Walking up the steps is difficult. Sitting on the floor to play with their kids is a challenge – and getting up from the floor once they've sat down is even harder. With their extra padding, heavy people are often hotter and more uncomfortable in the summer. Curbed by their physical limitations, they often miss out on good old-fashioned fun. Okay, so you've decided that losing weight is one of your weight loss goals. Don't get overwhelmed if you have a significant amount of weight to lose. Studies prove that losing even 5% of your weight can reduce the risks of disease. This can mean that losing even 10 to 15 pounds is well worth your effort. So now the big question: How should you lose this weight? Through dieting or exercise? DIET DATA Losing weight is a simple math equation. If someone burns more calories than she consumes, she will lose weight. This is true whether you increase your activity level, you burn more calories, or if you decrease your food consumption. Unfortunately, the reality is that people who exercise but don't cut down on their calories, lose only a very small amount of weight. In contrast, those who decrease their food intake, even if they don't exercise at all, can say goodbye to many pounds. Why this discrepancy between dieting and exercise? Here again, mathematics explains what happens. To lose a pound a week, a person needs to cut about 500 calories a day. It would take about an hour a day of moderate aerobic activity to burn 500 calories. Most people can't invest this much time: it takes much less effort to cut 500 calories from one's food intake. For some, swapping soda for water is enough to do the trick. Others just need to eliminate between-meal snacking. When focusing on losing weight, counting calories is not the only important thing. Eating the wrong types of calories will leave you hungry and depressed. If you live on high-calorie foods like cake and chocolate, and cut down to half a piece of cake and half a bar of chocolate, you’ll be starving by lunchtime. Instead, choose low-calorie, filling foods. For example, three cups of air-popped popcorn has the same caloric content as 1/4 cup of potato chips. You’ll feel fuller while consuming fewer calories. High-fiber foods and proteins are also healthier choices. Try eating fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, vegetables, legumes, eggs, non-fat dairy products, and even starchy vegetables like potatoes, yams, and corn. Another diet-related tip is associated with meal spacing. What you eat and when you eat it, affects your energy level. Spikes and drops in your blood sugar level parallel increases and decreases in energy. To keep your blood sugar levels at an even keel, eat about once every three hours. Obviously, if you consume 600 calories at each meal, you'll gain weight. 200 calorie snacks between breakfast, lunch, and supper should be enough to keep your energy levels even. EXERCISE Now you've decided that your health goal is losing weight. You're going to cut calories by switching your sweetened breakfast cereal for healthy oatmeal, and by eliminating your 10 o’clock coffee and cookie break. You did the math and figure that this will help you lose ten pounds over three months. But this calculation didn't figure in exercise. If you can lose weight without it, is it necessary to sweat? Perspiration isn't a necessary component of weight 94 | fyimagazineny.com FEATURES “Studies have shown that people who are fitter are at a significantly lower risk of developing dementia when they grow old.” loss, but it has its own health benefits. Exercise lowers cholesterol, increases blood flow, and also reduces stress. These three benefits are important for heart health. In addition, aerobic activity reduces blood sugar, blood pressure, and the risk of diabetes and bone fractures, while increasing muscle mass. To achieve these health benefits, you should incorporate about 150 minutes of aerobic exercise and 40 minutes of strength-training into your week. These will encourage your heart to pump more blood, strengthening it. Oh, come on! Do you really think you need more exercise? If you’re like most busy women, you probably rarely make it to the gym, but you’re on your feet most of the day. At work, you sit at your desk, but once you leave the office, you're on the go. On a typical day, you may pick your kids up from school, push them on the swings, do errands, cook supper, give baths, – it's not like you have a sedentary lifestyle. Is this really true? Check it out by wearing a pedometer, which counts how many steps a person takes during the day. The target for an average adult is 10,000 steps. You might think that you're always on the move, but the pedometer might indicate only 5,000 steps a day. Incorporate a brisk walk to increase this number and keep your body healthy. Another reason to exercise is to keep your mind sharp. First of all, for long-term benefits: Studies have shown that people who are fitter are at a significantly lower risk of developing dementia when they grow old. But there are also short-term benefits. Exercise fights depression and encourages optimal acuity. If you're feeling sleepy and uninterested in the job at hand, whether sitting at the computer or playing with the kids, do some exercise to wake your brain. Jog around the block, and take the kids with you- they'll love it! THE FINAL VERDICT So what have you decided? Will it be diet or exercise, or a combination of both? Each one has its benefits. Losing weight will make you look great and healthy; exercise will keep you feeling that way. Whatever you decide, it’s important to stick to your decision. Most studies show that no matter how much weight a person loses through diet, there's a high probability that s/he'll regain it within a year. How depressing. The key to keeping the weight off is to ensure that your dieting plan isn’t too painful and uncomfortable to maintain long-term. You're doomed to failure if you've decided to eat bean soup, a low-calorie filling food, at every single meal. The same is true of exercise. If you've decided to wake up every morning at 4:30 a.m. to jog for an hour, then go to the gym, you're bound to give up the routine when life gets a little busier. It’s much wiser to incorporate smaller changes, like switching from sweetened cereal to oatmeal, reducing the amount of snacks you eat, and walking briskly three times a week. Once you've successfully assimilated these lifestyle changes, think of others. Perhaps you can start eating whole-wheat bread instead of the processed white kind. Turn your brisk walk into a jog or walk for a longer period of time. Most of all, don't throw out the scale after you lose weight. Monitor yourself. Weigh yourself once a week or once a month. If you regain a pound or two, cut your calories to lose it again. Don't wait until you've regained five or ten pounds; then the thought of a big diet will be overwhelming and depressing. Keep your weight down, increase your exercise, and may we all merit to live long and healthy lives! 95 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  Wait. One second. Think it through before you start. Radical changes are often abandoned after a week or two. Fi...
FEATURES Wait. One second. Think it through before you start. Radical changes are often abandoned after a week or two. First, decide which health results you want, and then implement the changes that will generate these results – working slowly and steadily until you reach your health goals. The first thing that usually comes to mind when thinking about health is weight – often, losing it. And though the idea of losing weight is associated with looking good, it's much more than that. Carrying around extra pounds can literally cut someone's life short. Overweight people are at much higher risk of developing diabetes, high cholesterol, heart attacks and some cancers. They are also more likely to die of complications of these diseases. Overweight people also suffer from technical, but uncomfortable difficulties. Simply put, they're heavy. When individuals are heavy, it's harder for them to move around. Walking up the steps is difficult. Sitting on the floor to play with their kids is a challenge – and getting up from the floor once they've sat down is even harder. With their extra padding, heavy people are often hotter and more uncomfortable in the summer. Curbed by their physical limitations, they often miss out on good old-fashioned fun. Okay, so you've decided that losing weight is one of your weight loss goals. Don't get overwhelmed if you have a significant amount of weight to lose. Studies prove that losing even 5% of your weight can reduce the risks of disease. This can mean that losing even 10 to 15 pounds is well worth your effort. So now the big question: How should you lose this weight? Through dieting or exercise? DIET DATA Losing weight is a simple math equation. If someone burns more calories than she consumes, she will lose weight. This is true whether you increase your activity level, you burn more calories, or if you decrease your food consumption. Unfortunately, the reality is that people who exercise but don't cut down on their calories, lose only a very small amount of weight. In contrast, those who decrease their food intake, even if they don't exercise at all, can say goodbye to many pounds. Why this discrepancy between dieting and exercise? Here again, mathematics explains what happens. To lose a pound a week, a person needs to cut about 500 calories a day. It would take about an hour a day of moderate aerobic activity to burn 500 calories. Most people can't invest this much time: it takes much less effort to cut 500 calories from one's food intake. For some, swapping soda for water is enough to do the trick. Others just need to eliminate between-meal snacking. When focusing on losing weight, counting calories is not the only important thing. Eating the wrong types of calories will leave you hungry and depressed. If you live on high-calorie foods like cake and chocolate, and cut down to half a piece of cake and half a bar of chocolate, you’ll be starving by lunchtime. Instead, choose low-calorie, filling foods. For example, three cups of air-popped popcorn has the same caloric content as 1/4 cup of potato chips. You’ll feel fuller while consuming fewer calories. High-fiber foods and proteins are also healthier choices. Try eating fresh fruits and vegetables, whole grains, vegetables, legumes, eggs, non-fat dairy products, and even starchy vegetables like potatoes, yams, and corn. Another diet-related tip is associated with meal spacing. What you eat and when you eat it, affects your energy level. Spikes and drops in your blood sugar level parallel increases and decreases in energy. To keep your blood sugar levels at an even keel, eat about once every three hours. Obviously, if you consume 600 calories at each meal, you'll gain weight. 200 calorie snacks between breakfast, lunch, and supper should be enough to keep your energy levels even. EXERCISE Now you've decided that your health goal is losing weight. You're going to cut calories by switching your sweetened breakfast cereal for healthy oatmeal, and by eliminating your 10 o’clock coffee and cookie break. You did the math and figure that this will help you lose ten pounds over three months. But this calculation didn't figure in exercise. If you can lose weight without it, is it necessary to sweat? Perspiration isn't a necessary component of weight 94 | fyimagazineny.com FEATURES “Studies have shown that people who are fitter are at a significantly lower risk of developing dementia when they grow old.” loss, but it has its own health benefits. Exercise lowers cholesterol, increases blood flow, and also reduces stress. These three benefits are important for heart health. In addition, aerobic activity reduces blood sugar, blood pressure, and the risk of diabetes and bone fractures, while increasing muscle mass. To achieve these health benefits, you should incorporate about 150 minutes of aerobic exercise and 40 minutes of strength-training into your week. These will encourage your heart to pump more blood, strengthening it. Oh, come on! Do you really think you need more exercise? If you’re like most busy women, you probably rarely make it to the gym, but you’re on your feet most of the day. At work, you sit at your desk, but once you leave the office, you're on the go. On a typical day, you may pick your kids up from school, push them on the swings, do errands, cook supper, give baths, – it's not like you have a sedentary lifestyle. Is this really true? Check it out by wearing a pedometer, which counts how many steps a person takes during the day. The target for an average adult is 10,000 steps. You might think that you're always on the move, but the pedometer might indicate only 5,000 steps a day. Incorporate a brisk walk to increase this number and keep your body healthy. Another reason to exercise is to keep your mind sharp. First of all, for long-term benefits: Studies have shown that people who are fitter are at a significantly lower risk of developing dementia when they grow old. But there are also short-term benefits. Exercise fights depression and encourages optimal acuity. If you're feeling sleepy and uninterested in the job at hand, whether sitting at the computer or playing with the kids, do some exercise to wake your brain. Jog around the block, and take the kids with you- they'll love it! THE FINAL VERDICT So what have you decided? Will it be diet or exercise, or a combination of both? Each one has its benefits. Losing weight will make you look great and healthy; exercise will keep you feeling that way. Whatever you decide, it’s important to stick to your decision. Most studies show that no matter how much weight a person loses through diet, there's a high probability that s/he'll regain it within a year. How depressing. The key to keeping the weight off is to ensure that your dieting plan isn’t too painful and uncomfortable to maintain long-term. You're doomed to failure if you've decided to eat bean soup, a low-calorie filling food, at every single meal. The same is true of exercise. If you've decided to wake up every morning at 4:30 a.m. to jog for an hour, then go to the gym, you're bound to give up the routine when life gets a little busier. It’s much wiser to incorporate smaller changes, like switching from sweetened cereal to oatmeal, reducing the amount of snacks you eat, and walking briskly three times a week. Once you've successfully assimilated these lifestyle changes, think of others. Perhaps you can start eating whole-wheat bread instead of the processed white kind. Turn your brisk walk into a jog or walk for a longer period of time. Most of all, don't throw out the scale after you lose weight. Monitor yourself. Weigh yourself once a week or once a month. If you regain a pound or two, cut your calories to lose it again. Don't wait until you've regained five or ten pounds; then the thought of a big diet will be overwhelming and depressing. Keep your weight down, increase your exercise, and may we all merit to live long and healthy lives! 95 | fyimagazineny.com
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FEATURES FEATURES the big CLOSET makeover You don’t have to spend a fortune on custom-made or European-designed closets. Let me be your guide. I will help you streamline your closet and I will make your clothes fit…at least in your closet. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE The retro look is all the rage. Why buy vintage, when you can just open up your closet? If you are a typical female, you have a closet full of clothing and yet you have nothing to wear! Your closet needs to be upgraded and updated. Let’s unravel that irksome, frustrating, and jumbled mess. 96 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE Do sweaters and handbags fall on your head when you open your closet door? Are you tired of searching for that outfit you know you had? And what about the perfect shoes to go with that outfit? Are they hidden under a pile on the floor? 97 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  FEATURES  the big  CLOSET  makeover  You don   t have to spend a fortune on custom-made or European-designed clo...
FEATURES FEATURES the big CLOSET makeover You don’t have to spend a fortune on custom-made or European-designed closets. Let me be your guide. I will help you streamline your closet and I will make your clothes fit…at least in your closet. CREDIT TO GO IN THERE The retro look is all the rage. Why buy vintage, when you can just open up your closet? If you are a typical female, you have a closet full of clothing and yet you have nothing to wear! Your closet needs to be upgraded and updated. Let’s unravel that irksome, frustrating, and jumbled mess. 96 | fyimagazineny.com CREDIT TO GO IN THERE Do sweaters and handbags fall on your head when you open your closet door? Are you tired of searching for that outfit you know you had? And what about the perfect shoes to go with that outfit? Are they hidden under a pile on the floor? 97 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  FEATURES  the big  CLOSET  makeover  You don   t have to spend a fortune on custom-made or European-designed clo...
FEATURES FEATURES EMPTY Before you can organize, you have to empty out your entire closet and take stock of what you have hidden in the recesses. Don’t keep things in your closet that don’t belong there: photo albums, blow dryers, gift wrap, and games. As painful as this process may sound, unloading the contents of your closet will enable you to assess the inventory and liberate you from having a crowded closet of stuff you don’t need. Shoes Every woman loves shoes and most women have too many pairs! There are many ways to store shoes in your closet. Slim plastic shoe boxes stack compactly, while hanging canvas shelves offer an inexpensive option. If you have the space, a bookcase is fantastic for shoe storage. Keep shoe styles – flats, boots, pumps, stilettos, wedges, sandals, etc., consistent on each shelf and space them evenly so they don’t appear cluttered. Flip flops and tennis shoes do not require a prominent position in your closet. You can use a plate rack to store flip flops neatly. • Vacuum, dust, sweep the floor and wash the walls. You might consider hanging an air freshener in the closet, for a pleasant fragrance when you open the doors.Lavender sachets tied to hangers keep closets moth-free. If you want to make any changes, such as painting the inside a different color or adding and removing some shelves, do it now. I also recommend that you add lighting. If you don’t want to spend money on costly electrical connections, you can use battery-operated LED lights to achieve the same results. ORGANIZE Different articles of clothing require distinctive forms of hanging, stacking and storing. TIP: When organizing your closet, use every inch of space available, including vertical space, floor space, and air space. DRESSES/SKIRTS You can sort by color, by occasion, by style and then by season. Separate your seasonal items – winter and summer – and have an individualized section for each group. A coordinated dress rack is a dream come true. • DONATE OR DISCARD It might not be easy, but tossing out or donating old clothes is critical. • If it’s two sizes too small or too big- out it goes. • If you haven’t worn it in the past year- out it goes. • If it is frayed, torn, stretched or moth-eaten- out it goes. • Unworn, unwanted, unwearable- out it goes. • If you went shopping today, would you buy it? No- out it goes. When in doubt, throw it out. • paint a wall ACCESSORIZE You need the proper accessories to optimize your closet's functionality. These include an assortment of: • VALET RODS GARMENT BAGS STORAGE BINS/BOXES HANGERS SHELF DIVIDERS HANGING HOOKS SHOE TREES TIE AND BELT RACKS 98 | fyimagazineny.com Never leave clothing in dry cleaning plastic bags. The chemicals from dry cleaning attack the fibers of your clothing and cause damage. Your clothes deserve good quality hangers. Invest in appropriate styles: satin padding for delicate items, sturdy wood for tailored jackets, felt for lingerie, skirt hangers for…well, skirts. Matching hangers make your closet visually appealing. Hanger uniformity makes finding garments easier, as it keeps every article of clothing at the same level. Get rid of dry cleaner wire hangers; they get bent out of shape and are detrimental. Most dry cleaners will gladly take back your extra hangers and reuse them. Hang multiple garments by sliding soda can tabs on a hanger and get twice as much space in the closet. Another novel idea: Take a simple vertical chain purchased at your local hardware store, loop it on a hanger and voila, you can exponentially increase your hanging capability without taking up any extra space. When it comes to shoes, you should literally consider thinking outside the box. Some shoe collections are unique and beautifully crafted. Designer shoes are works of art, glamorous, and fabulous. Make them part of your home décor. Display them on shelves around your room: near your bed, or beneath your window sill. • PURGE If you are not using clear or Lucite boxes for storage, take a photo of the pair of shoes and tape it to the front of the box. • Hang a clear pocket, over-the-door shoe holder or a shoe rack behind your bedroom or closet door. This provides easy access to at least a dozen shoes. • If your closet has lots of space near the ceiling, install crown molding along the wall and hang your shoes by the heel. Your stool will come in handy now, too. • scarfs Insert pool noodles and/or magazines into boots to keep them from flopping over. I love the way scarves inexpensively dress up an outfit, taking it from drab to fab! Drape, tie, hook, loop, knot or hang them. Pashminas, wraps, satin, and silk scarves and shawls should be arranged by color and material. Make use of your empty wall space or the inside of the door. Use decorative hooks, rods, peg boards, or towel bars for hanging and/or draping your scarf collection. You can also use multi-tiered pant hangers! • Put shower curtain rings on a rod or on a hanger and loop your scarves through them. This makes them easy to see and access. Sweaters • While the most popular scarf storage solution involves hanging, there is always the option of folding and stashing your scarves in closed drawers. As long as the drawers are easily accessible, you will be able to grab your scarves at a moment’s notice. Fold your scarf and place it vertically in the drawer so you can see all your scarves with a single glance. Fold heavy sweaters and lightweight cardigans so they don’t lose shape or get stretched out on a hanger. Use a sweater folding board to make those perfect folds. It’s a good idea to color-code sweaters; the uniformity looks nice and it's easier to find a particular sweater. andbags h Reva Lieberman is a court stenographer turned professional organizer. Reva provides organizing and decorating services in NY. @ yourpersonalorganizer • Scarves can be folded into a hanging, clear pocket shoe holder. • Tension rods are an excellent way to store scarves. You might be tempted to put one into the other to save space, but you will be defeating the purpose. If you don’t see them, you won’t use them. If not stored properly, handbags can become ruined. Give them room to breathe. Line them up on an upright shelf for a clear view. Shelf dividers are terrific for extra support. There is usually a lot of “air” space above your clothing rack. Utilize this dimension to its maximum. You might invest in a slim step stool, so that you can reach higher. As with your dresses, sort your handbags and purses by season, fabric, size, and color. If you have the space, cubbies are remarkable receptacles for housing handbags. Towel racks and coat racks are also ideal for your various handbags. • Wine racks can be used to stack clutches. • If you know you won’t be using a particular bag for some time, fill it with acid-free tissue paper it so it will maintain its shape. DO NOT use newspaper; the ink may rub off and stain your bag. Use dust covers to protect your bags from dust, scratches, and exposure to direct sunlight. • Never store a handbag crammed with stuff. This might damage it and cause it to lose its shape. Empty the contents before storing. • Clean your bag before storing. If it is leather, polish it. If it is suede, brush it with a suede brush- making sure that you keep the nap going in one direction. 99 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  FEATURES  EMPTY Before you can organize, you have to empty out your entire closet and take stock of what you hav...
FEATURES FEATURES EMPTY Before you can organize, you have to empty out your entire closet and take stock of what you have hidden in the recesses. Don’t keep things in your closet that don’t belong there: photo albums, blow dryers, gift wrap, and games. As painful as this process may sound, unloading the contents of your closet will enable you to assess the inventory and liberate you from having a crowded closet of stuff you don’t need. Shoes Every woman loves shoes and most women have too many pairs! There are many ways to store shoes in your closet. Slim plastic shoe boxes stack compactly, while hanging canvas shelves offer an inexpensive option. If you have the space, a bookcase is fantastic for shoe storage. Keep shoe styles – flats, boots, pumps, stilettos, wedges, sandals, etc., consistent on each shelf and space them evenly so they don’t appear cluttered. Flip flops and tennis shoes do not require a prominent position in your closet. You can use a plate rack to store flip flops neatly. • Vacuum, dust, sweep the floor and wash the walls. You might consider hanging an air freshener in the closet, for a pleasant fragrance when you open the doors.Lavender sachets tied to hangers keep closets moth-free. If you want to make any changes, such as painting the inside a different color or adding and removing some shelves, do it now. I also recommend that you add lighting. If you don’t want to spend money on costly electrical connections, you can use battery-operated LED lights to achieve the same results. ORGANIZE Different articles of clothing require distinctive forms of hanging, stacking and storing. TIP: When organizing your closet, use every inch of space available, including vertical space, floor space, and air space. DRESSES/SKIRTS You can sort by color, by occasion, by style and then by season. Separate your seasonal items – winter and summer – and have an individualized section for each group. A coordinated dress rack is a dream come true. • DONATE OR DISCARD It might not be easy, but tossing out or donating old clothes is critical. • If it’s two sizes too small or too big- out it goes. • If you haven’t worn it in the past year- out it goes. • If it is frayed, torn, stretched or moth-eaten- out it goes. • Unworn, unwanted, unwearable- out it goes. • If you went shopping today, would you buy it? No- out it goes. When in doubt, throw it out. • paint a wall ACCESSORIZE You need the proper accessories to optimize your closet's functionality. These include an assortment of: • VALET RODS GARMENT BAGS STORAGE BINS/BOXES HANGERS SHELF DIVIDERS HANGING HOOKS SHOE TREES TIE AND BELT RACKS 98 | fyimagazineny.com Never leave clothing in dry cleaning plastic bags. The chemicals from dry cleaning attack the fibers of your clothing and cause damage. Your clothes deserve good quality hangers. Invest in appropriate styles: satin padding for delicate items, sturdy wood for tailored jackets, felt for lingerie, skirt hangers for…well, skirts. Matching hangers make your closet visually appealing. Hanger uniformity makes finding garments easier, as it keeps every article of clothing at the same level. Get rid of dry cleaner wire hangers; they get bent out of shape and are detrimental. Most dry cleaners will gladly take back your extra hangers and reuse them. Hang multiple garments by sliding soda can tabs on a hanger and get twice as much space in the closet. Another novel idea: Take a simple vertical chain purchased at your local hardware store, loop it on a hanger and voila, you can exponentially increase your hanging capability without taking up any extra space. When it comes to shoes, you should literally consider thinking outside the box. Some shoe collections are unique and beautifully crafted. Designer shoes are works of art, glamorous, and fabulous. Make them part of your home décor. Display them on shelves around your room: near your bed, or beneath your window sill. • PURGE If you are not using clear or Lucite boxes for storage, take a photo of the pair of shoes and tape it to the front of the box. • Hang a clear pocket, over-the-door shoe holder or a shoe rack behind your bedroom or closet door. This provides easy access to at least a dozen shoes. • If your closet has lots of space near the ceiling, install crown molding along the wall and hang your shoes by the heel. Your stool will come in handy now, too. • scarfs Insert pool noodles and/or magazines into boots to keep them from flopping over. I love the way scarves inexpensively dress up an outfit, taking it from drab to fab! Drape, tie, hook, loop, knot or hang them. Pashminas, wraps, satin, and silk scarves and shawls should be arranged by color and material. Make use of your empty wall space or the inside of the door. Use decorative hooks, rods, peg boards, or towel bars for hanging and/or draping your scarf collection. You can also use multi-tiered pant hangers! • Put shower curtain rings on a rod or on a hanger and loop your scarves through them. This makes them easy to see and access. Sweaters • While the most popular scarf storage solution involves hanging, there is always the option of folding and stashing your scarves in closed drawers. As long as the drawers are easily accessible, you will be able to grab your scarves at a moment’s notice. Fold your scarf and place it vertically in the drawer so you can see all your scarves with a single glance. Fold heavy sweaters and lightweight cardigans so they don’t lose shape or get stretched out on a hanger. Use a sweater folding board to make those perfect folds. It’s a good idea to color-code sweaters; the uniformity looks nice and it's easier to find a particular sweater. andbags h Reva Lieberman is a court stenographer turned professional organizer. Reva provides organizing and decorating services in NY. @ yourpersonalorganizer • Scarves can be folded into a hanging, clear pocket shoe holder. • Tension rods are an excellent way to store scarves. You might be tempted to put one into the other to save space, but you will be defeating the purpose. If you don’t see them, you won’t use them. If not stored properly, handbags can become ruined. Give them room to breathe. Line them up on an upright shelf for a clear view. Shelf dividers are terrific for extra support. There is usually a lot of “air” space above your clothing rack. Utilize this dimension to its maximum. You might invest in a slim step stool, so that you can reach higher. As with your dresses, sort your handbags and purses by season, fabric, size, and color. If you have the space, cubbies are remarkable receptacles for housing handbags. Towel racks and coat racks are also ideal for your various handbags. • Wine racks can be used to stack clutches. • If you know you won’t be using a particular bag for some time, fill it with acid-free tissue paper it so it will maintain its shape. DO NOT use newspaper; the ink may rub off and stain your bag. Use dust covers to protect your bags from dust, scratches, and exposure to direct sunlight. • Never store a handbag crammed with stuff. This might damage it and cause it to lose its shape. Empty the contents before storing. • Clean your bag before storing. If it is leather, polish it. If it is suede, brush it with a suede brush- making sure that you keep the nap going in one direction. 99 | fyimagazineny.com
FEATURES  FEATURES  EMPTY Before you can organize, you have to empty out your entire closet and take stock of what you hav...
30 YEARS OF TRUST A LIFETIME OF QUALITY
30 YEARS OF TRUST A LIFETIME OF QUALITY