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35 OCTOBER 2016 CONTENTS 06 We Hear You 08 Our Finds 10 Your Voice JoinTheDiscussion What is your biggest accomplishment 111 What s in my Travelling Classroom with Amalia Hass Beauty Guide Alopecia An Uphill Battle 35 IN SESSION My Siblings Don t Watch Their Kids 38 REAL LIFE A young woman s battle with Cystic Fibrosis 43 HOW THEY DID IT Beautifull Boutique Making Big Beautiful 47 FOCUS ON AN ORGANIZATION A Lifelong Mission The importance of Life Insurance 13 FEEL AT HOME In Your Sukkah 16 DIY Floating Glass Flower Globes 18 MAKEUP MAVEN Long Lasting Yom Tov Makeup 21 FASHION FINDS Dresses Dresses Dresses Love Your Life 27 TIPPING THE SCALE Get A Handle On It 51 MOM TIPS Activities for Yom Tov Vacation 56 TAKE A BREAK Busy Women Share Their Tips 59 MARKETING INSIGHTS How Much Should I Spend On Google Ads 61 5 WAYS TO Cut Erev Yom Tov Expenses How to not gain weight over Yom Tov Featured 66 REALITY CHECK Are there toxic chemicals in the products you use everyday 74 CHOOSING TO LOVE 18 21 31 HEALTH TALK The ins and out of adoption and why it may be the right option for you 80 THE HOSTEST WITH THE MOSTEST Being her and Being Hosted by her Sharpen Your Appetite 88 DELICIOUS YOM TOV COOKING Pistachio Pesto Salmon 90 Roasted Turkey with Asian Plum Sauce 92 Quinoa Sushi Salad 94 Overnight Pulled Beef Pull Apart Potato Rings 96 Strawberry Napolean 98 ALL THINGS KITCHEN Pots and Pans Must Haves You Gotta Know 101 ASK THE ORGANIZER Hosting Made Easy 104 YOU GOTTA KNOW 105 TRIED TESTED The best pillow for you 106 MAGIC HELPERS Ingenious products that make your day easier 108 FOR LESS Table Sukkah Decor 110 BOOK REVIEW Too Perfect When Being in Control Gets out of Control
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35 OCTOBER 2016 CONTENTS 06 We Hear You 08 Our Finds 10 Your Voice JoinTheDiscussion What is your biggest accomplishment 111 What s in my Travelling Classroom with Amalia Hass Beauty Guide Alopecia An Uphill Battle 35 IN SESSION My Siblings Don t Watch Their Kids 38 REAL LIFE A young woman s battle with Cystic Fibrosis 43 HOW THEY DID IT Beautifull Boutique Making Big Beautiful 47 FOCUS ON AN ORGANIZATION A Lifelong Mission The importance of Life Insurance 13 FEEL AT HOME In Your Sukkah 16 DIY Floating Glass Flower Globes 18 MAKEUP MAVEN Long Lasting Yom Tov Makeup 21 FASHION FINDS Dresses Dresses Dresses Love Your Life 27 TIPPING THE SCALE Get A Handle On It 51 MOM TIPS Activities for Yom Tov Vacation 56 TAKE A BREAK Busy Women Share Their Tips 59 MARKETING INSIGHTS How Much Should I Spend On Google Ads 61 5 WAYS TO Cut Erev Yom Tov Expenses How to not gain weight over Yom Tov Featured 66 REALITY CHECK Are there toxic chemicals in the products you use everyday 74 CHOOSING TO LOVE 18 21 31 HEALTH TALK The ins and out of adoption and why it may be the right option for you 80 THE HOSTEST WITH THE MOSTEST Being her and Being Hosted by her Sharpen Your Appetite 88 DELICIOUS YOM TOV COOKING Pistachio Pesto Salmon 90 Roasted Turkey with Asian Plum Sauce 92 Quinoa Sushi Salad 94 Overnight Pulled Beef Pull Apart Potato Rings 96 Strawberry Napolean 98 ALL THINGS KITCHEN Pots and Pans Must Haves You Gotta Know 101 ASK THE ORGANIZER Hosting Made Easy 104 YOU GOTTA KNOW 105 TRIED TESTED The best pillow for you 106 MAGIC HELPERS Ingenious products that make your day easier 108 FOR LESS Table Sukkah Decor 110 BOOK REVIEW Too Perfect When Being in Control Gets out of Control
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we you Tuscanini Why More Families Are SEPTEMBER 2016 LOOK GREAT IN LESS TIME MINUTE MORNING MAKEOVER A Jewish Lifestyle in the Know PROFESSIONAL ORGANIZER S TIPS FOR A BETTER SCHOOL YEAR Home schooling WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER September calls to mind children preparing their freshly starched uniforms the night before school begins happily anticipating meeting up with their friends the next day We tend to think of students lining up to board the yellow school buses PREP AHEAD chatting animatedly and comparing summer adventures New schoolbags and crisp notebooks slightly nervous teachers and New Delicious Yom Tov Recipes Gorgeous Outfits for Yom Tov REAL LIFE AN UNEXPECTED CHALLENGE BEFALLS NEWLYWEDS WHAT DOES YOUR HANDWRITING SAY ABOUT YOU mothers signal the start of a new school year N BACK TO SCHOOL ITEMS THAT GIVE BACK 56 fyimagazineny com 57 fyimagazineny com THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE INSIGHTS ON VISION RELATED LEARNING PROBLEMS BEFORE AFTER T 16 WAYS US 4 99 CAN 5 99 TO STAY IN VACATION MODE o clear the canvas we started with the walls Because the room had a fireplace our vision was to make that the focal point for the dining room First we refaced the fireplace by chiseling off the stone and framed in the surrounding wall with drywall to make a smooth surface Then we created a frame around the opening of the fireplace using noncombustible porcelain tile Finally we chose a stunning metallic silver swirl finish that set the tone for a striking contrast against the black focal wall Next we gutted the two storage closets that stood on either side of the focal wall to create space for a washing station and built in china cabinet The idea was to have no bulky furniture in the room leaving open space to add more tables for entertaining Since our goal was to create a light and airy feel for the room we mirrored the back and sides of the cabinet and used glass doors and shelves This created the look of dynamic floating shelves within the china cabinet To maintain that light and airy feel and prevent any feelings of being closed in or confined we installed clear glass French doors These served a dual purpose One was to close off the room when not in use and the other was to add texture to the black and white dining room These doors stood in two walls one leading to the kitchen and the other to the main house Brushed nickel handles were the perfect unobtrusive accent to the doors and room as a whole We then focused on the flooring To complement the black focal wall we chose to install glossy black hardwood floors We used a custom colored semi gloss finish that was a mix of brown gray and black to create a dramatic deep rich color We wanted to protect the dining room floor from heavy chair traffic and stop potential scratching so the 16 fyimagazineny com practical solution was an area rug The beautiful black rug we selected to place under the table provided a buffer between the chairs and floors plus added more elements of texture to our design The rug is constructed from individual carpet squares to make it easier to switch out if damaged or stained Lighting was a very important consideration for this room We wanted something that was different that had a little glam and was able to make just the right statement while perfectly illuminating this space We chose a gorgeous rectangle chandelier to hang in the center of the room This unique metal string wrapped item was filled with spectacular hanging crystals it was love at first sight Installed above the table it made the perfect complement We chose to do standard recessed lighting around the perimeter of the room above the washing station and in the china cabinet The room was complete and ready to use We fulfilled our goal of creating a new atmosphere without major construction Instead we changed elements of darkness and shadow into light and warmth We transformed feelings of being closed in and confined to the look and feeling of expansion and space We turned a simple and homey family room into a seemingly larger and brighter space combining functionality with a touch of elegance Through our vision and simplicity we have given this family a dining room they can now use to celebrate their most memorable and precious moments fyi invite an I talian to coffe Micky Klein is an interior designer and owner of Brin Klein Design based out of Miami Beach Florida She has residential and commercial clients throughout the US and Canada Micky strives to meet her clients needs through close attention to details Go to brinkleindesign gmail com and follow her on Instagram brinklein_design for design inspiration and tips 17 fyimagazineny com guurtp raf ktrah p Thank you for a great magazine and a great read Since I love your magazine so much I thought it might be a great idea to do a men s magazine Like newest technology gadgets tools clothing pics and great men s food ideas I think many would enjoy it I found your article on I loved reading and homeschooling to be seeing the dining enlightening My daughter room makeover and had a terrible year in the DIY project last school last year as a result month It inspired of bullying I tried talking me to make some to the bully the parents quick and easy the teachers and even the changes in my principals but to no avail I home Now it looks didn t even think of fresh and updated Chaya T homeschooling as an Keep em coming option but now I am Sarah Tenenbaum PARVE PAS YISROEL strongly considering it Anonymous C HO C O LAT E A LM O ND C R A NB ER RY A LM O ND A LM O N D D E L U X E e
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we you Tuscanini Why More Families Are SEPTEMBER 2016 LOOK GREAT IN LESS TIME MINUTE MORNING MAKEOVER A Jewish Lifestyle in the Know PROFESSIONAL ORGANIZER S TIPS FOR A BETTER SCHOOL YEAR Home schooling WRITTEN BY CHAYA ADLER September calls to mind children preparing their freshly starched uniforms the night before school begins happily anticipating meeting up with their friends the next day We tend to think of students lining up to board the yellow school buses PREP AHEAD chatting animatedly and comparing summer adventures New schoolbags and crisp notebooks slightly nervous teachers and New Delicious Yom Tov Recipes Gorgeous Outfits for Yom Tov REAL LIFE AN UNEXPECTED CHALLENGE BEFALLS NEWLYWEDS WHAT DOES YOUR HANDWRITING SAY ABOUT YOU mothers signal the start of a new school year N BACK TO SCHOOL ITEMS THAT GIVE BACK 56 fyimagazineny com 57 fyimagazineny com THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE INSIGHTS ON VISION RELATED LEARNING PROBLEMS BEFORE AFTER T 16 WAYS US 4 99 CAN 5 99 TO STAY IN VACATION MODE o clear the canvas we started with the walls Because the room had a fireplace our vision was to make that the focal point for the dining room First we refaced the fireplace by chiseling off the stone and framed in the surrounding wall with drywall to make a smooth surface Then we created a frame around the opening of the fireplace using noncombustible porcelain tile Finally we chose a stunning metallic silver swirl finish that set the tone for a striking contrast against the black focal wall Next we gutted the two storage closets that stood on either side of the focal wall to create space for a washing station and built in china cabinet The idea was to have no bulky furniture in the room leaving open space to add more tables for entertaining Since our goal was to create a light and airy feel for the room we mirrored the back and sides of the cabinet and used glass doors and shelves This created the look of dynamic floating shelves within the china cabinet To maintain that light and airy feel and prevent any feelings of being closed in or confined we installed clear glass French doors These served a dual purpose One was to close off the room when not in use and the other was to add texture to the black and white dining room These doors stood in two walls one leading to the kitchen and the other to the main house Brushed nickel handles were the perfect unobtrusive accent to the doors and room as a whole We then focused on the flooring To complement the black focal wall we chose to install glossy black hardwood floors We used a custom colored semi gloss finish that was a mix of brown gray and black to create a dramatic deep rich color We wanted to protect the dining room floor from heavy chair traffic and stop potential scratching so the 16 fyimagazineny com practical solution was an area rug The beautiful black rug we selected to place under the table provided a buffer between the chairs and floors plus added more elements of texture to our design The rug is constructed from individual carpet squares to make it easier to switch out if damaged or stained Lighting was a very important consideration for this room We wanted something that was different that had a little glam and was able to make just the right statement while perfectly illuminating this space We chose a gorgeous rectangle chandelier to hang in the center of the room This unique metal string wrapped item was filled with spectacular hanging crystals it was love at first sight Installed above the table it made the perfect complement We chose to do standard recessed lighting around the perimeter of the room above the washing station and in the china cabinet The room was complete and ready to use We fulfilled our goal of creating a new atmosphere without major construction Instead we changed elements of darkness and shadow into light and warmth We transformed feelings of being closed in and confined to the look and feeling of expansion and space We turned a simple and homey family room into a seemingly larger and brighter space combining functionality with a touch of elegance Through our vision and simplicity we have given this family a dining room they can now use to celebrate their most memorable and precious moments fyi invite an I talian to coffe Micky Klein is an interior designer and owner of Brin Klein Design based out of Miami Beach Florida She has residential and commercial clients throughout the US and Canada Micky strives to meet her clients needs through close attention to details Go to brinkleindesign gmail com and follow her on Instagram brinklein_design for design inspiration and tips 17 fyimagazineny com guurtp raf ktrah p Thank you for a great magazine and a great read Since I love your magazine so much I thought it might be a great idea to do a men s magazine Like newest technology gadgets tools clothing pics and great men s food ideas I think many would enjoy it I found your article on I loved reading and homeschooling to be seeing the dining enlightening My daughter room makeover and had a terrible year in the DIY project last school last year as a result month It inspired of bullying I tried talking me to make some to the bully the parents quick and easy the teachers and even the changes in my principals but to no avail I home Now it looks didn t even think of fresh and updated Chaya T homeschooling as an Keep em coming option but now I am Sarah Tenenbaum PARVE PAS YISROEL strongly considering it Anonymous C HO C O LAT E A LM O ND C R A NB ER RY A LM O ND A LM O N D D E L U X E e
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our WHO TO FOLLOW Instagram accounts we love now WHAT TO BUY PARDES HEARTY have an awful lot in common Ingredients shevygphotography Shevy Gross Brooklyn based family children commercial food photographer 2 Tbsp extra virgin olive oil 1 lb skinless chicken cutlets cut into bite size strips 1 package frozen Pardes Stir Fry Vegetables 3 cloves fresh garlic minced 1 2 cup soy sauce 3 Tbsp sugar Pinch of ground ginger 1 box spaghetti cooked Mommy s Asian Chicken Stir Fry Spaghetti By Sarah Lasry Add the chicken strips to the hot skillet and cook for about 1 minute 2 Add the stir fry vegetables and mix with the chicken and let cook in the pan 3 When the chicken starts turning white about 6 minutes from start add the soy sauce sugar and ginger 4 Coat all the chicken vegetable pieces well with the sauce and cover pan for about 4 minutes Uncover pan occasionally and stir making sure the chicken is not sticking to pan and the soy sauce is not burning 5 When chicken has been fully cooked turn flame to low and add the spaghetti to the chicken stir fry and soy sauce mixture Using tongs fully coat the spaghetti with the soy and chicken stir fry mixture If it seems too dry add more soy sauce to the spaghetti mixture and mix well Serve hot Serves 5 8 Directions 1 In a large skillet on med high flame heat the olive oil and garlic she_cooks_that Sarah Chana Gruskin Our Table Time Tested Recipes Memorable Meals A personal chef service serving the Lakewood and Deal communities artscroll com 31 49 Food stylist and recipe columnist Renee Muller s cookbook features her favorite dishes each vividly presented with an art quality full color photo WHERE TO PRINT all those pictures on your phone styledbyestee Sticky 9 Starting at 15 99 Photo magnets posters and more Groovebook Starting at 2 99 month Get a book of your photos monthly FreePrints Free Get completely free photos monthly just pay for shipping Estee Stern Everyone deserves to look classy Personal Commercial Stylist Available at your local supermarket For wholesale call 845 356 4133
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our WHO TO FOLLOW Instagram accounts we love now WHAT TO BUY PARDES HEARTY have an awful lot in common Ingredients shevygphotography Shevy Gross Brooklyn based family children commercial food photographer 2 Tbsp extra virgin olive oil 1 lb skinless chicken cutlets cut into bite size strips 1 package frozen Pardes Stir Fry Vegetables 3 cloves fresh garlic minced 1 2 cup soy sauce 3 Tbsp sugar Pinch of ground ginger 1 box spaghetti cooked Mommy s Asian Chicken Stir Fry Spaghetti By Sarah Lasry Add the chicken strips to the hot skillet and cook for about 1 minute 2 Add the stir fry vegetables and mix with the chicken and let cook in the pan 3 When the chicken starts turning white about 6 minutes from start add the soy sauce sugar and ginger 4 Coat all the chicken vegetable pieces well with the sauce and cover pan for about 4 minutes Uncover pan occasionally and stir making sure the chicken is not sticking to pan and the soy sauce is not burning 5 When chicken has been fully cooked turn flame to low and add the spaghetti to the chicken stir fry and soy sauce mixture Using tongs fully coat the spaghetti with the soy and chicken stir fry mixture If it seems too dry add more soy sauce to the spaghetti mixture and mix well Serve hot Serves 5 8 Directions 1 In a large skillet on med high flame heat the olive oil and garlic she_cooks_that Sarah Chana Gruskin Our Table Time Tested Recipes Memorable Meals A personal chef service serving the Lakewood and Deal communities artscroll com 31 49 Food stylist and recipe columnist Renee Muller s cookbook features her favorite dishes each vividly presented with an art quality full color photo WHERE TO PRINT all those pictures on your phone styledbyestee Sticky 9 Starting at 15 99 Photo magnets posters and more Groovebook Starting at 2 99 month Get a book of your photos monthly FreePrints Free Get completely free photos monthly just pay for shipping Estee Stern Everyone deserves to look classy Personal Commercial Stylist Available at your local supermarket For wholesale call 845 356 4133
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get your JoinTheDiscussion WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST ACCOMPLISHMENT Surviving my childhood and my trophies Faigy Hirsch My biggest accomplishment is going to sleep after a long day and feeling that I lived with Hashem and for Hashem all day M Roth Winning my first trial Michelle Hagler Helping a child with autism learn to talk and increasing their language and communication abilities Chaya Konig It s a joint accomplishment Creating a mostly functional family with my husband despite the fact that we both had highly dysfunctional upbringings Amanda Pompilli I lost 75 pounds 18 months later I saved a guy s life by giving him my kidney Hindy Messinger Graduating law school and taking and passing the CAbar while pregnant with 7 ka h Tova Leaving an abusive marriage and making sure my 5 kids were safe Shoshana Ahuva I was going to say my kids or becoming religious but as I get older my biggest accomplishment is my relationship with my husband We have been through everything together we constantly work on our relationship and it reflects on everything else Debbie Ezra Question for next month What is the sweetest thing that someone has ever done for you Text your answer to 516 331 1885 The Happy Factor WRITTEN BY RABBI DAVID MENDELSOHN w IT HAPPENED ON a typical Friday morning the streets were hustling and bustling people and cars were rushing in all directions I was also hurrying as I was coming down 15th Avenue in Brooklyn attempting to get all my errands done When I made a left turn onto 49th Street I immediately regretted it as I found myself behind a long line of parked cars A Hatzolah ambulance had stopped at the end of the block on an emergency call and was holding up the traffic It all took less than 10 minutes however the real feel as a meteorologist would say felt like an hour I made a conscious decision not to get anxious about it because as you may have figured out like I did frustration does not actually do anything to alleviate any situation Finally the patient was wheeled out on a stretcher and was quickly whisked away by Hatzolah members Relieved to be free I began inching forward in my car when I heard a knock on the back of my minivan followed by another seemingly desperate knock I rolled down my window and saw a frantic totally out of breath middle aged couple asking if I can give them a hitch I attempted to dodge their request You don t understand they said with angsts It s our daughter She is the one in the ambulance She s on the way to the hospital we ran as fast as we could to get here We just need to be with our daughter Please take us to Maimonides Hospital I signaled them to hop into my car and immediately attempted to calm them with words of hope while making every effort to get there as quickly as possible As we arrived they thanked me profusely and rushed out of my car and headed off into the emergency room As I was driving away I felt like a ray of happiness was spreading in me It seemed a bit odd as I was running late stuck in traffic and ended up taking this couple I should have felt frustrated or anxious Quite the contrary Something inside me just made me feel happy It was one of those lightbulb moments where I thought I finally got it If you want to feel happy just go help a person in need From something as mundane as holding a door for someone behind you telling one a good word to helping out a person in despair Every day as part of davening we recite Eilu Devarim where the Mishnah equates learning Torah and Gemilas Chasodim as bearing no limits on how much of these deeds one can perform Just like Torah brings happiness to one s heart so does chesed bring happiness to one s heart I came across this Chinese saying recently If you want happiness for an hour take a nap If you want happiness for a day go fishing If you want happiness for a year inherit a fortune If you want happiness for a lifetime help somebody Sukkos is here and interestingly Hashem commanded us three times to be happy throughout Sukkos For the following three reasons first we were blessed with a good new year on Rosh Hashanah and second our sins were forgiven on Yom Kippur Finally the third reason is because Sukkos is also called the harvest festival It is a time when the farmers would collect all the grain and fruit from their fields and then realize their wealth The message is clear we just need to count our blessings and we ll be able to achieve happiness and joy Troubling times though can sometimes make it difficult to live with gratitude Here s the way to jump start it Just try to do one chesed Make someone else happy and joy will come right back at you fyi
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get your JoinTheDiscussion WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST ACCOMPLISHMENT Surviving my childhood and my trophies Faigy Hirsch My biggest accomplishment is going to sleep after a long day and feeling that I lived with Hashem and for Hashem all day M Roth Winning my first trial Michelle Hagler Helping a child with autism learn to talk and increasing their language and communication abilities Chaya Konig It s a joint accomplishment Creating a mostly functional family with my husband despite the fact that we both had highly dysfunctional upbringings Amanda Pompilli I lost 75 pounds 18 months later I saved a guy s life by giving him my kidney Hindy Messinger Graduating law school and taking and passing the CAbar while pregnant with 7 ka h Tova Leaving an abusive marriage and making sure my 5 kids were safe Shoshana Ahuva I was going to say my kids or becoming religious but as I get older my biggest accomplishment is my relationship with my husband We have been through everything together we constantly work on our relationship and it reflects on everything else Debbie Ezra Question for next month What is the sweetest thing that someone has ever done for you Text your answer to 516 331 1885 The Happy Factor WRITTEN BY RABBI DAVID MENDELSOHN w IT HAPPENED ON a typical Friday morning the streets were hustling and bustling people and cars were rushing in all directions I was also hurrying as I was coming down 15th Avenue in Brooklyn attempting to get all my errands done When I made a left turn onto 49th Street I immediately regretted it as I found myself behind a long line of parked cars A Hatzolah ambulance had stopped at the end of the block on an emergency call and was holding up the traffic It all took less than 10 minutes however the real feel as a meteorologist would say felt like an hour I made a conscious decision not to get anxious about it because as you may have figured out like I did frustration does not actually do anything to alleviate any situation Finally the patient was wheeled out on a stretcher and was quickly whisked away by Hatzolah members Relieved to be free I began inching forward in my car when I heard a knock on the back of my minivan followed by another seemingly desperate knock I rolled down my window and saw a frantic totally out of breath middle aged couple asking if I can give them a hitch I attempted to dodge their request You don t understand they said with angsts It s our daughter She is the one in the ambulance She s on the way to the hospital we ran as fast as we could to get here We just need to be with our daughter Please take us to Maimonides Hospital I signaled them to hop into my car and immediately attempted to calm them with words of hope while making every effort to get there as quickly as possible As we arrived they thanked me profusely and rushed out of my car and headed off into the emergency room As I was driving away I felt like a ray of happiness was spreading in me It seemed a bit odd as I was running late stuck in traffic and ended up taking this couple I should have felt frustrated or anxious Quite the contrary Something inside me just made me feel happy It was one of those lightbulb moments where I thought I finally got it If you want to feel happy just go help a person in need From something as mundane as holding a door for someone behind you telling one a good word to helping out a person in despair Every day as part of davening we recite Eilu Devarim where the Mishnah equates learning Torah and Gemilas Chasodim as bearing no limits on how much of these deeds one can perform Just like Torah brings happiness to one s heart so does chesed bring happiness to one s heart I came across this Chinese saying recently If you want happiness for an hour take a nap If you want happiness for a day go fishing If you want happiness for a year inherit a fortune If you want happiness for a lifetime help somebody Sukkos is here and interestingly Hashem commanded us three times to be happy throughout Sukkos For the following three reasons first we were blessed with a good new year on Rosh Hashanah and second our sins were forgiven on Yom Kippur Finally the third reason is because Sukkos is also called the harvest festival It is a time when the farmers would collect all the grain and fruit from their fields and then realize their wealth The message is clear we just need to count our blessings and we ll be able to achieve happiness and joy Troubling times though can sometimes make it difficult to live with gratitude Here s the way to jump start it Just try to do one chesed Make someone else happy and joy will come right back at you fyi
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion Decor DIY editor s note T he last thing I wanted was to be alone without family over Yom Tov when we lived in London Spending some meals at acquaintances softened the loneliness a little bit When we arrived at our host on Simchas Torah night we could see the confusion on their faces It was clear that we had come for the wrong meal It turns out that we were invited for the Simchas Torah day meal we were only just about 12 hours early Realizing what had happened they invited us in as they understood I hadn t prepared for the meal The hosts were very gracious and made us feel comfortable in such an uncomfortable situation There are all kinds of mishaps that can and do happen when hosting guests or being a guest However they can be minimized Read our article on How to be a Good Host and Guest to avoid getting into common issues and making your host guest feel comfortable What will your kids be doing during the Yom Tov afternoons and on Chol Hamoed besides fight with each other of course I think we can all agree that keeping the children entertained over Yom Tov is also a dilemma We got you covered though Read our article on interactive and fun ways to keep your brood entertained Or just give them myFYI to read they ll be busy for hours Thank us later Really make yourself feel at home in your Sukkah with some table decor pieces and Sukkah decor ideas picked just for you You can also take your Sukkah Decor to the next level with our gorgeous yet easy to make Floating Glass Globes It ll add a high end contemporary feel to your sukkah with little to no effort Go on and flip through our expanded Yom Tov issue made just for you And don t forget your husbands the Wine Supplement is for them too Yitty suggests After tasting this recipe this is a must have on my Yom Tov menu page 94 Add a summery and light ambiance to your Sukkah with this modern and inexpensive table runner page 108 Feel at Home in Your SUKKAH Sukkos is my favorite time of year Not only is it when the season starts to change but for me I love creating a new theme The trick to makeup that ll stay put over two days is right here in this small bottle page 20 in my sukkah from year to year It allows me to be creative and enjoy the sukkah more You ll be happy to know that the d cor doesn t have to cost an arm and a leg You can easily make your sukkah gorgeous without spending much money editor fyimagazineny com No need for getting multiple bowls dirty with this nifty kitchen gadget page 106 FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK FYIMAGAZINE 12 fyimagazineny com Micky Klein is an interior designer and owner of Brin Klein Design based out of Miami Beach Florida She has residential and commercial clients throughout the US and Canada Micky strives to meet her clients needs through close attention to details Go to brinkleindesign gmail com and follow her on Instagram brinklein_design for design inspiration and tips
THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion          Decor         DIY  editor   s note T  he last thing I wanted, was to be alone, without f...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE Fashion Decor DIY editor s note T he last thing I wanted was to be alone without family over Yom Tov when we lived in London Spending some meals at acquaintances softened the loneliness a little bit When we arrived at our host on Simchas Torah night we could see the confusion on their faces It was clear that we had come for the wrong meal It turns out that we were invited for the Simchas Torah day meal we were only just about 12 hours early Realizing what had happened they invited us in as they understood I hadn t prepared for the meal The hosts were very gracious and made us feel comfortable in such an uncomfortable situation There are all kinds of mishaps that can and do happen when hosting guests or being a guest However they can be minimized Read our article on How to be a Good Host and Guest to avoid getting into common issues and making your host guest feel comfortable What will your kids be doing during the Yom Tov afternoons and on Chol Hamoed besides fight with each other of course I think we can all agree that keeping the children entertained over Yom Tov is also a dilemma We got you covered though Read our article on interactive and fun ways to keep your brood entertained Or just give them myFYI to read they ll be busy for hours Thank us later Really make yourself feel at home in your Sukkah with some table decor pieces and Sukkah decor ideas picked just for you You can also take your Sukkah Decor to the next level with our gorgeous yet easy to make Floating Glass Globes It ll add a high end contemporary feel to your sukkah with little to no effort Go on and flip through our expanded Yom Tov issue made just for you And don t forget your husbands the Wine Supplement is for them too Yitty suggests After tasting this recipe this is a must have on my Yom Tov menu page 94 Add a summery and light ambiance to your Sukkah with this modern and inexpensive table runner page 108 Feel at Home in Your SUKKAH Sukkos is my favorite time of year Not only is it when the season starts to change but for me I love creating a new theme The trick to makeup that ll stay put over two days is right here in this small bottle page 20 in my sukkah from year to year It allows me to be creative and enjoy the sukkah more You ll be happy to know that the d cor doesn t have to cost an arm and a leg You can easily make your sukkah gorgeous without spending much money editor fyimagazineny com No need for getting multiple bowls dirty with this nifty kitchen gadget page 106 FOLLOW ME ON INSTAGRAM AND FACEBOOK FYIMAGAZINE 12 fyimagazineny com Micky Klein is an interior designer and owner of Brin Klein Design based out of Miami Beach Florida She has residential and commercial clients throughout the US and Canada Micky strives to meet her clients needs through close attention to details Go to brinkleindesign gmail com and follow her on Instagram brinklein_design for design inspiration and tips
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE An important step is to choose a light source Whether it be a chandelier LED lighting stand up outdoor lamps etc make sure it sets the tone for your d cor It affects the entire sukkah Sukkah d cor is like decorating a home always choose a focal point In this sukkah I chose to focus on the ceiling This way no matter how I decorated the table I would always have an elegant whimsical feel in the sukkah I personally like to keep the walls clear for my kid s projects that we accumulate over the years as well as other Judaic posters so I go all out on my table scape and focal point After those were hung I filled in the empty spaces with glass test tubes and glass hanging tea light holders Each one got a white faux flower in it Finally I randomly placed some fake crystal garland on a few empty branches to complete this whimsical feel You can always add in other elements to decorate with such as feathers greenery and lanterns A great way to tie it all together is to also carry those elements onto your table For example if you use greenery on the ceiling of your sukkah place some inside your centerpiece to create balance The same goes for lanterns Place a larger scale lantern in the center of your table and smaller ones around to mirror the ceiling d cor You can also use feather chargers under the plates and a few peacock feathers in a bud vase to bring the look together When the feathers don t all match it adds interest to the table By using vases and candle sticks at different heights you create a gorgeous centerpiece Place a tray in the center filled with fresh flowers or some candles The table scape is all about preference I like to do a different color scheme for each meal Using different colored tablecloths chargers and napkin rings is the easiest way to switch it up A great trick is to use scrapbook paper as a charger It comes in hundreds of different colors and patterns Also another great way to bring some color into your sukkah is by using paper napkins in different patterns I love to do a neutral table with a pop of color from the napkins and fresh flowers All decorating items were purchased at Michael s 14 fyimagazineny com 15 fyimagazineny com
THE BEAUTY GUIDE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE An important step is to choose a light source. Whether it be a chandelier, LED lighting...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE An important step is to choose a light source Whether it be a chandelier LED lighting stand up outdoor lamps etc make sure it sets the tone for your d cor It affects the entire sukkah Sukkah d cor is like decorating a home always choose a focal point In this sukkah I chose to focus on the ceiling This way no matter how I decorated the table I would always have an elegant whimsical feel in the sukkah I personally like to keep the walls clear for my kid s projects that we accumulate over the years as well as other Judaic posters so I go all out on my table scape and focal point After those were hung I filled in the empty spaces with glass test tubes and glass hanging tea light holders Each one got a white faux flower in it Finally I randomly placed some fake crystal garland on a few empty branches to complete this whimsical feel You can always add in other elements to decorate with such as feathers greenery and lanterns A great way to tie it all together is to also carry those elements onto your table For example if you use greenery on the ceiling of your sukkah place some inside your centerpiece to create balance The same goes for lanterns Place a larger scale lantern in the center of your table and smaller ones around to mirror the ceiling d cor You can also use feather chargers under the plates and a few peacock feathers in a bud vase to bring the look together When the feathers don t all match it adds interest to the table By using vases and candle sticks at different heights you create a gorgeous centerpiece Place a tray in the center filled with fresh flowers or some candles The table scape is all about preference I like to do a different color scheme for each meal Using different colored tablecloths chargers and napkin rings is the easiest way to switch it up A great trick is to use scrapbook paper as a charger It comes in hundreds of different colors and patterns Also another great way to bring some color into your sukkah is by using paper napkins in different patterns I love to do a neutral table with a pop of color from the napkins and fresh flowers All decorating items were purchased at Michael s 14 fyimagazineny com 15 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE id y FLOATING GLASS FLOWER GLOBES Give your sukkah a rich modern high end appeal with this easy to make hanging decoration It s so simple you ll wonder how you didn t think of this yourself We chose to use fall colored flowers to give the sukkah a more rustic feel but feel free to choose whatever color matches your Sukkah 1 Cut the stems of the flowers and place them in the glass balls 2 Cut the ribbon at varying lengths and pull it through the hole on top of the ball 3 Hang over the table area in your sukkah What you ll need Hanging Glass Candle Holders Burlap Ribbon Faux Flowers We told you it was easy Abigael s House Salad with Balsamic Vinaigrette Balsamic Vinaigrette 1 4 cup BARTENUNRA Balsamic Vinegar 2 teaspoons water 11 2 teaspoons sugar 1 2 teaspoon Dijon mustard 1 garlic clove minced 1 4 teaspoon David s Kosher Salt Generous pinch of freshly ground pepper 1 2 cup BARTENUNRA Extra Virgin Olive Oil 8 1 1 1 1 2 8 1 4 1 ounces mixed baby greens mesclun ripe red beefsteak tomato seeded and cut into 3 4 inch cubes ripe yellow tomato or use an additional red tomato seeded and cut into 3 4 inch cubes cup 1 2 inch dice seedless English cucumber cup cooked garbanzo beans canned beans are fine cup sliced natural almonds toasted garlic cloves roasted and peeled cup dried currants or craisins Pareve Makes 4 servings 1 To make the vinaigrette combine the vinegar water sugar mustard garlic salt and pepper in a blender With the machine running gradually pour in the oil and blend until thickened 2 Toss the greens red and yellow tomatoes cucumber beans almonds roasted garlic and currants Add the dressing and toss again Serve immediately Courtesy of Adventures in Jewish Cooking by Jeff Nathan 16 fyimagazineny com BARTENURA Imported from Italy 17 fyimagazineny com
THE BEAUTY GUIDE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE  id y  FLOATING GLASS FLOWER GLOBES Give your sukkah a rich, modern, high-end appeal wi...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE id y FLOATING GLASS FLOWER GLOBES Give your sukkah a rich modern high end appeal with this easy to make hanging decoration It s so simple you ll wonder how you didn t think of this yourself We chose to use fall colored flowers to give the sukkah a more rustic feel but feel free to choose whatever color matches your Sukkah 1 Cut the stems of the flowers and place them in the glass balls 2 Cut the ribbon at varying lengths and pull it through the hole on top of the ball 3 Hang over the table area in your sukkah What you ll need Hanging Glass Candle Holders Burlap Ribbon Faux Flowers We told you it was easy Abigael s House Salad with Balsamic Vinaigrette Balsamic Vinaigrette 1 4 cup BARTENUNRA Balsamic Vinegar 2 teaspoons water 11 2 teaspoons sugar 1 2 teaspoon Dijon mustard 1 garlic clove minced 1 4 teaspoon David s Kosher Salt Generous pinch of freshly ground pepper 1 2 cup BARTENUNRA Extra Virgin Olive Oil 8 1 1 1 1 2 8 1 4 1 ounces mixed baby greens mesclun ripe red beefsteak tomato seeded and cut into 3 4 inch cubes ripe yellow tomato or use an additional red tomato seeded and cut into 3 4 inch cubes cup 1 2 inch dice seedless English cucumber cup cooked garbanzo beans canned beans are fine cup sliced natural almonds toasted garlic cloves roasted and peeled cup dried currants or craisins Pareve Makes 4 servings 1 To make the vinaigrette combine the vinegar water sugar mustard garlic salt and pepper in a blender With the machine running gradually pour in the oil and blend until thickened 2 Toss the greens red and yellow tomatoes cucumber beans almonds roasted garlic and currants Add the dressing and toss again Serve immediately Courtesy of Adventures in Jewish Cooking by Jeff Nathan 16 fyimagazineny com BARTENURA Imported from Italy 17 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE Long Lasting Makeup for Yom Tov E Y E B R OW S Never forget the importance of eyebrows Full eyebrows help make a person appear more youthful To keep your brows in place all Yom Tov use a brow gel like Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Gel WRITTEN BY GILA KIND MUA There are so many things to stress with Yom Tov right around the corner but makeup shouldn t be one of Eyes them I m going to give you the pro makeup artist secrets to keep your makeup glued to your face for the entire Yom Tov LASHES E Y E S H A D OW There s not much of a secret to this one Just use your favorite waterproof mascara Mine is MAC Haute and Naughty Make sure your lashes are super clean before you apply This will keep mascara in place the longest Use a cream eyeshadow all over the lid No need for an eye primer with Maybelline EyeStudio Color Tattoo This shadow will set and will stay on until you remove it Dab some all over your lid with your finger and then blend into the crease with a blending brush EYELINER My absolute favorite liner is the Estee Edit the Edgiest Kohl Shadowstick This liner stays all day even on my watery sensitive eyes When it s time to bake your face next page you will ensure it doesn t budge 18 fyimagazineny com 19 fyimagazineny com
THE BEAUTY GUIDE  THE BEAUTY GUIDE  Long Lasting  Makeup for Yom Tov  E Y E B R OW S Never forget the importance of eyebro...
THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE Long Lasting Makeup for Yom Tov E Y E B R OW S Never forget the importance of eyebrows Full eyebrows help make a person appear more youthful To keep your brows in place all Yom Tov use a brow gel like Anastasia Beverly Hills Brow Gel WRITTEN BY GILA KIND MUA There are so many things to stress with Yom Tov right around the corner but makeup shouldn t be one of Eyes them I m going to give you the pro makeup artist secrets to keep your makeup glued to your face for the entire Yom Tov LASHES E Y E S H A D OW There s not much of a secret to this one Just use your favorite waterproof mascara Mine is MAC Haute and Naughty Make sure your lashes are super clean before you apply This will keep mascara in place the longest Use a cream eyeshadow all over the lid No need for an eye primer with Maybelline EyeStudio Color Tattoo This shadow will set and will stay on until you remove it Dab some all over your lid with your finger and then blend into the crease with a blending brush EYELINER My absolute favorite liner is the Estee Edit the Edgiest Kohl Shadowstick This liner stays all day even on my watery sensitive eyes When it s time to bake your face next page you will ensure it doesn t budge 18 fyimagazineny com 19 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE FA S H I O N KATE SPADE NECKLACE Bloomingdales com BASE Always start out with a clean and moisturized face Make sure to clean off any fallout from the eyes with some cleansing water or a makeup wipe Try Boots Botanics All Bright Cleansing Wipes 298 Dressing up is one of our favorite activities but it can be extra taxing emotionally and financially when you need to worry about layering your gorgeous holiday wear with shells Here are a few of our favorite fall picks that need no additions to look fabulous and fierce like you K E E P I N G I T LO C K E D I N Now if you want to you can set your face with a regular setting spray All Nighter by Urban Decay works great But an even more amazing not mainstream way to set your makeup is by using hairspray That s right grab your favorite hairspray keep it at least 6 inches away from your face and let the mist go all over your face Make sure that it s a gentle mist and that it doesn t splutter out at you Just remember that hairspray wasn t made for the face so don t use this trick on an everyday basis or it might make you break out Face PRIMER TIME Primer does two things it makes your skin appear smoother and it helps keep makeup on longer Grab a pea size amount of primer and work it around the nose smile lines between your eyes and in the middle of your forehead Try L Oreal Paris True Match Foundation These areas are where makeup tends to settle the most Then spread the rest all around the face Here s where the secret tip comes in Take a tiny amount of powder and lightly tap it over the primer The powder will help the foundation cling to the primer Dress 1 PATTERNED KNIT MISSONI DRESS stylebop com B A K I N G YO U R FAC E That s right challah is not the only thing you re baking this Yom Tov Baking the face is a technique almost every makeup artist uses to keep her makeup bulletproof First grab your favorite setting powder not a finishing powder Take a small amount on a fluffy eyeshadow brush Before powdering blend out any under eye concealer creases Then right after blending them away lightly tap the powder onto the under eye around the nose chin and anywhere else that you get oily Now for the baking Take your beauty blender and re dampen it Then grab a lot of powder onto it and put the powder under your eyes right under your eyeliner and in a triangle shape under the eye under the area you contoured if you accidentally blended the contour too low down on your face this will also help fix it all the way to your lips and on your chin Use MAC Prep Prime Fix Finishing Mist Now let that sit and bake on your face for 5 10 minutes After the time is up grab a fluffy brush and gently brush the powder away You will notice that this technique has also highlighted your face If you want to now is the time to add some extra powder blush highlighter and bronzer 20 fyimagazineny com FINDS 469 Back to basics for those who swear by black The combinations of textures and knitted fabrics will give you that extra oomph AEROSOLES EFFORTLESS SHOOTIES macys com Gila Kind is a Certified Makeup Artist Located in Monsey NY To book an appointment email gilakindmakeup gmail com and check out her work gila_kind_makeup 89 21 fyimagazineny com
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THE BEAUTY GUIDE THE BEAUTY GUIDE FA S H I O N KATE SPADE NECKLACE Bloomingdales com BASE Always start out with a clean and moisturized face Make sure to clean off any fallout from the eyes with some cleansing water or a makeup wipe Try Boots Botanics All Bright Cleansing Wipes 298 Dressing up is one of our favorite activities but it can be extra taxing emotionally and financially when you need to worry about layering your gorgeous holiday wear with shells Here are a few of our favorite fall picks that need no additions to look fabulous and fierce like you K E E P I N G I T LO C K E D I N Now if you want to you can set your face with a regular setting spray All Nighter by Urban Decay works great But an even more amazing not mainstream way to set your makeup is by using hairspray That s right grab your favorite hairspray keep it at least 6 inches away from your face and let the mist go all over your face Make sure that it s a gentle mist and that it doesn t splutter out at you Just remember that hairspray wasn t made for the face so don t use this trick on an everyday basis or it might make you break out Face PRIMER TIME Primer does two things it makes your skin appear smoother and it helps keep makeup on longer Grab a pea size amount of primer and work it around the nose smile lines between your eyes and in the middle of your forehead Try L Oreal Paris True Match Foundation These areas are where makeup tends to settle the most Then spread the rest all around the face Here s where the secret tip comes in Take a tiny amount of powder and lightly tap it over the primer The powder will help the foundation cling to the primer Dress 1 PATTERNED KNIT MISSONI DRESS stylebop com B A K I N G YO U R FAC E That s right challah is not the only thing you re baking this Yom Tov Baking the face is a technique almost every makeup artist uses to keep her makeup bulletproof First grab your favorite setting powder not a finishing powder Take a small amount on a fluffy eyeshadow brush Before powdering blend out any under eye concealer creases Then right after blending them away lightly tap the powder onto the under eye around the nose chin and anywhere else that you get oily Now for the baking Take your beauty blender and re dampen it Then grab a lot of powder onto it and put the powder under your eyes right under your eyeliner and in a triangle shape under the eye under the area you contoured if you accidentally blended the contour too low down on your face this will also help fix it all the way to your lips and on your chin Use MAC Prep Prime Fix Finishing Mist Now let that sit and bake on your face for 5 10 minutes After the time is up grab a fluffy brush and gently brush the powder away You will notice that this technique has also highlighted your face If you want to now is the time to add some extra powder blush highlighter and bronzer 20 fyimagazineny com FINDS 469 Back to basics for those who swear by black The combinations of textures and knitted fabrics will give you that extra oomph AEROSOLES EFFORTLESS SHOOTIES macys com Gila Kind is a Certified Makeup Artist Located in Monsey NY To book an appointment email gilakindmakeup gmail com and check out her work gila_kind_makeup 89 21 fyimagazineny com
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LOVE YOUR LIFE Health In Session How They Did It Dress 7 BOTTLE GREEN FLARY DRESS zara com This one is for those extra sophisticated ladies It covers up fairly nicely and is lengthy so a taller lady will want this one The ties give it a graceful look Paired with kitten heels and a short necklace and you are all set for cocktails by 7 00 Preparing for Yom Tov can be hectic for many of us 98 GOLD CUFF baublebar com with our family and work responsibilities becoming TORTOISE SHELL NECKLACE jcrew com busier than ever Of course the highlight of this spiritual time of the year is spending time with family and friends and bonding over beautiful meals zmiros and uplifting 50 davening Realistically 44 this time of year has the 129 potential to be a disaster when it comes to our TIPPING THE SCALE NINE WEST FLATS macys com 79 Dress 6 OWL PRINT DRESS shoptiques com Animals are all the rage this season and what better dress to wear to a night time dinner than one with the official night time creature 285 TORY BURCH WEDGES neimanmarcus com How not to gain weight over Yom Tov WRITTEN BY YAEL GELLER nutritional goals Whether you are trying to lose a few pounds maintain your current weight or make a change to eat cleaner there is no doubt that lavish meals desserts and snacking can wreak havoc on your health goals
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LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE SO HOW DO WE COMBAT THIS PROBLEM This time of year is the perfect time to have an honest conversation with yourself about how your current situation makes you feel If you are at a point where you would love to lose those pounds to fit into a new dress you ve been eyeing for months you are in luck because with determination and a plan you can achieve your goals portion of protein should fit in the palm of your hand a vegetable green not starchy like potatoes or beets is two handfuls together and oil or fat should be about the size of your thumb Balancing your meals is the key to staying on track Eating out No problem at all Ask your host if you can help cook or bring anything and ask to hear her menu beforehand LET S MAKE GAINING WEIGHT OVER YOM TOV IMPOSSIBLE The biggest challenge for most of us is meals Over the course of Rosh Hashana Sukkos and Simchas Torah we have upwards of eight meals and that is not including the Shabbosim in between We tend to overcook and make as many lavish dishes as we possibly can to enhance Yom Tov for our families and guests Many times we share meals with either family or friends not knowing exactly what will be served nor whether it will be possible to watch what we eat SNACKING Now let s tackle snacking It is okay to snack If you feel hungry have a sugar craving or you do not feel equipped to say no to that piece of chocolate cake which has been calling your name for the last three days go ahead and indulge Once you do have that cake enjoy it to the fullest do not fall off the cliff of assuming your meal planning and healthful eating was MEAL PLANNING I cannot stress this enough when it comes to these holidays or even in your daily life If you plan to cook Yom Tov make a list early on and calculate how many people will be attending each meal Plan the meal accordingly with proper food groups For example a balanced meal should have a main protein a carb preferably a vegetable based carb like sweet potato squash or basmati rice and a green not starch based vegetable Dessert can be as simple as cut up fruit platters or my favorite a simple fruit cobbler with an almond crumble topping PORTION CONTROL It is sometimes difficult to estimate how much we are actually eating of each food group If you are not used to weighing your food you are in luck The easiest way to estimate a portion is to use your hands A There is currently an epidemic of obesity in the United States Obesity is defined when the Body Mass Index BMI of the individual is 30 or above The US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention CDC estimates that between 34 40 of women between the ages of 20 and 60 are considered obese based on their BMI Women are 4 more likely to be obese than their male counterparts We also have issues with our children as recent statistics show that 17 of children between the ages of 2 and 19 are obese Those aged 12 19 have the highest percentage of obesity prevalence at a whopping 20 5 28 fyimagazineny com for naught It is foolish to climb into this trap You slipped up That s okay move on to the next meal with your head held high and your previous eating plan intact You do not want to feel restricted and deprived which can ruin your Yom Tov and your mood This piece of advice is extremely critical if you want to succeed IDENTIFYING INGREDIENTS If you are just starting out and trying to get into a healthier eating mode I suggest you read the ingredients on the processed foods you buy You do not need to avoid them but be mindful that processed foods are not usually the most nutritious If you cannot pronounce the ingredients you might want to research what they actually are If you are planning to go on trips for Chol Hamoed with your family plan what foods to pack and what to buy Some staples that I take on my trips are beef jerky nut butter dried fruits nuts oats and rice cakes You can buy fruits vegetables and almond milk at almost any grocery store on your way You can do an alfresco salad with some oven roasted turkey and vegetables Just pack a sharp knife cutting board and a peeler and you are set HYDRATION The last point is water You must hydrate Our bodies are predominantly composed of water and it is used in every cell process performed There are so many different ailments aches and issues that come from dehydration including headaches upset stomach tiredness muscle cramps and a host of other issues I know what you are thinking and I hear people say they HATE water all the time Good news there are many ways to dress up your water with mint cucumber cut up citrus or other fruits like watermelon pomegranate and pineapple Recipe for Success FRUIT COBBLER Cook time 30 35 minutes Preheat oven 375 Yield 8X8 dish 4 servings 5 cups fruit of your choice frozen or fresh preferably without added stabilizers sugar corn syrup or chemicals Topping you can double the topping and save some for a later date 1 cup almond meal or flour cup coconut oil I would stay away from all soy based vegetable oils 1 teaspoon vanilla teaspoon cinnamon teaspoon nutmeg Optional replace spices with pumpkin pie spice mix 29 fyimagazineny com INSTRUCTIONS Preheat the oven to 375 degrees Grease pan with a bit of coconut oil Add fruit to the dish Combine the topping ingredients in a bowl Spread over the fruit Cook for 30 40 minutes until desired doneness OPTIONAL You can add a bit of honey to the top after the cobbler is cooked or serve with some Parve vanilla ice cream Enjoy
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  SO HOW DO WE COMBAT THIS PROBLEM  This time of year is the perfect time to have an honest ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE SO HOW DO WE COMBAT THIS PROBLEM This time of year is the perfect time to have an honest conversation with yourself about how your current situation makes you feel If you are at a point where you would love to lose those pounds to fit into a new dress you ve been eyeing for months you are in luck because with determination and a plan you can achieve your goals portion of protein should fit in the palm of your hand a vegetable green not starchy like potatoes or beets is two handfuls together and oil or fat should be about the size of your thumb Balancing your meals is the key to staying on track Eating out No problem at all Ask your host if you can help cook or bring anything and ask to hear her menu beforehand LET S MAKE GAINING WEIGHT OVER YOM TOV IMPOSSIBLE The biggest challenge for most of us is meals Over the course of Rosh Hashana Sukkos and Simchas Torah we have upwards of eight meals and that is not including the Shabbosim in between We tend to overcook and make as many lavish dishes as we possibly can to enhance Yom Tov for our families and guests Many times we share meals with either family or friends not knowing exactly what will be served nor whether it will be possible to watch what we eat SNACKING Now let s tackle snacking It is okay to snack If you feel hungry have a sugar craving or you do not feel equipped to say no to that piece of chocolate cake which has been calling your name for the last three days go ahead and indulge Once you do have that cake enjoy it to the fullest do not fall off the cliff of assuming your meal planning and healthful eating was MEAL PLANNING I cannot stress this enough when it comes to these holidays or even in your daily life If you plan to cook Yom Tov make a list early on and calculate how many people will be attending each meal Plan the meal accordingly with proper food groups For example a balanced meal should have a main protein a carb preferably a vegetable based carb like sweet potato squash or basmati rice and a green not starch based vegetable Dessert can be as simple as cut up fruit platters or my favorite a simple fruit cobbler with an almond crumble topping PORTION CONTROL It is sometimes difficult to estimate how much we are actually eating of each food group If you are not used to weighing your food you are in luck The easiest way to estimate a portion is to use your hands A There is currently an epidemic of obesity in the United States Obesity is defined when the Body Mass Index BMI of the individual is 30 or above The US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention CDC estimates that between 34 40 of women between the ages of 20 and 60 are considered obese based on their BMI Women are 4 more likely to be obese than their male counterparts We also have issues with our children as recent statistics show that 17 of children between the ages of 2 and 19 are obese Those aged 12 19 have the highest percentage of obesity prevalence at a whopping 20 5 28 fyimagazineny com for naught It is foolish to climb into this trap You slipped up That s okay move on to the next meal with your head held high and your previous eating plan intact You do not want to feel restricted and deprived which can ruin your Yom Tov and your mood This piece of advice is extremely critical if you want to succeed IDENTIFYING INGREDIENTS If you are just starting out and trying to get into a healthier eating mode I suggest you read the ingredients on the processed foods you buy You do not need to avoid them but be mindful that processed foods are not usually the most nutritious If you cannot pronounce the ingredients you might want to research what they actually are If you are planning to go on trips for Chol Hamoed with your family plan what foods to pack and what to buy Some staples that I take on my trips are beef jerky nut butter dried fruits nuts oats and rice cakes You can buy fruits vegetables and almond milk at almost any grocery store on your way You can do an alfresco salad with some oven roasted turkey and vegetables Just pack a sharp knife cutting board and a peeler and you are set HYDRATION The last point is water You must hydrate Our bodies are predominantly composed of water and it is used in every cell process performed There are so many different ailments aches and issues that come from dehydration including headaches upset stomach tiredness muscle cramps and a host of other issues I know what you are thinking and I hear people say they HATE water all the time Good news there are many ways to dress up your water with mint cucumber cut up citrus or other fruits like watermelon pomegranate and pineapple Recipe for Success FRUIT COBBLER Cook time 30 35 minutes Preheat oven 375 Yield 8X8 dish 4 servings 5 cups fruit of your choice frozen or fresh preferably without added stabilizers sugar corn syrup or chemicals Topping you can double the topping and save some for a later date 1 cup almond meal or flour cup coconut oil I would stay away from all soy based vegetable oils 1 teaspoon vanilla teaspoon cinnamon teaspoon nutmeg Optional replace spices with pumpkin pie spice mix 29 fyimagazineny com INSTRUCTIONS Preheat the oven to 375 degrees Grease pan with a bit of coconut oil Add fruit to the dish Combine the topping ingredients in a bowl Spread over the fruit Cook for 30 40 minutes until desired doneness OPTIONAL You can add a bit of honey to the top after the cobbler is cooked or serve with some Parve vanilla ice cream Enjoy
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  SO HOW DO WE COMBAT THIS PROBLEM  This time of year is the perfect time to have an honest ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE ALOPECIA AN UPHILL BATTLE WRITTEN BY CHANI MILLER When adding a drop of juice to this life sustaining beverage be aware that juice is usually high in sugar and should be used sparingly You also have the option to drink seltzer or mineral water You should aim to drink around eight to nine 8 ounce cups of water per day depending on your body weight Work your way up if this is not something you are used to It will come in handy leading up to the days when you will be in shul for many hours without food or water EXERCISE The CDC recommends 150 minutes of medium intensity exercise every week however it is understandably difficult to accomplish this with our busy lives There are many little tricks we can use to get in more steps per day and keep our bodies moving Here are a few suggestions that can make a difference If you work or live in a building try to take the stairs Even if you only take the stairs down once a day it still counts Try to keep your sitting time to a minimum and occasionally get up from long meals or davening to stretch your legs even for a few minutes Take some time out from your afternoon and go walking with a friend or by yourself and try some positive thinking Use your smartphone to count your steps Make daily challenges for yourself trying to hit at least 10 000 steps per day or more if you love a challenge Get your friends to join you on calorie and step counting apps like MyFitnessPal and compete with each other Remember all good things take time Do not take on more than you can handle at one time If you find all of the suggestions overwhelming try to incorporate one every other week Be mindful 30 fyimagazineny com of your food and activity choices You can try to adapt some of these habits into your family but many times others will be skeptical of change When others start to notice the differences you feel however they might join you on your journey to a healthier life and you can reap the benefits together fyi Yael E Geller MPH Yael Geller graduated with a Master s in Public Health from the Milken Institute of Public Health at George Washington University in August of 2015 Her primary focus during her studies was public health policy analysis health education and intervention development and implementation Her thesis explored the psychological reasoning of the rise in the antivaccination movement among parents She currently works for a nationally recognized non profit organization coordinating health education programs and writing medical education materials YaelGellerMPH gmail com It was a normal hectic morning for Miri T Well hectic until she began to brush Shira s hair With one eye on the clock she almost missed it It was the size of a quarter on top of her daughter s head an area with no hair Bald Shira were you using my razor she asked her 8 year old She already knew the answer but stood grasping at any straw that would allow her to retain a feeling of normalcy No Mommy Why Miri couldn t answer Her heart was pounding and as soon as Shira left for school she ran to her computer Google did nothing to assuage her fears Every possibility was more terrifying than the next Shira s pediatrician diagnosed the case Alopecia WHAT IS ALOPECIA It s an autoimmune disease that causes baldness sometimes in patches sometimes over the whole head It can also cause body hair to fall out It occurs when the immune system mistakenly attacks hair follicles and experts have yet to discover why Although the damage to the follicle is usually not permanent there is no cure but there are many forms of treatment Though it may affect children and adults of any age and women and men are affected equally it is most common in people younger than age 20 In this article we will meet several of these young people and their families who have dealt with the disease While some of their experiences and approaches may be similar there are also differences 31 fyimagazineny com Miri like any parent was stunned at the diagnosis of a disease she had never heard of And thus began Miri s battle to do all in her power for her young daughter The battle was waged on two fronts physical and emotional Building on the approach she was already using due to Shira s serious allergies she created an even more upbeat atmosphere in their home Hashem has many nisyonos tests and He only gives them to people he thinks are special so they can become even more special And look Hashem chose you This theme pervaded their conversations Imagine Miri s gratitude when she was able to see success For example one morning Shira wanted to skip brushing her hair since it was too painful It s okay Mommy she commented nonchalantly I don t care if it s a little messy I ll wear a headband All my friends know about it already anyways This is what Hashem gave me That s the way it is Like some girls have freckles Miri was so thankful that Shira didn t allow her condition to define her She was still her cheerful lively daughter with the same bubbly personality She was popular in the classroom and confident in everything she undertook Together they fought to eliminate the problem Today things are better Shira is a trooper Miri says in awe of what such a young child is able to do I am positive I would not be able to undergo what she has without a whole lot more grumpy complaints complete with temper tantrums Yet she takes it all in stride knowing it s something she has to go through to fix the problem We tried many treatments Some uncomfortable Some painful The
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  ALOPECIA  AN UPHILL BATTLE WRITTEN BY CHANI MILLER  When adding a drop of juice to this li...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE ALOPECIA AN UPHILL BATTLE WRITTEN BY CHANI MILLER When adding a drop of juice to this life sustaining beverage be aware that juice is usually high in sugar and should be used sparingly You also have the option to drink seltzer or mineral water You should aim to drink around eight to nine 8 ounce cups of water per day depending on your body weight Work your way up if this is not something you are used to It will come in handy leading up to the days when you will be in shul for many hours without food or water EXERCISE The CDC recommends 150 minutes of medium intensity exercise every week however it is understandably difficult to accomplish this with our busy lives There are many little tricks we can use to get in more steps per day and keep our bodies moving Here are a few suggestions that can make a difference If you work or live in a building try to take the stairs Even if you only take the stairs down once a day it still counts Try to keep your sitting time to a minimum and occasionally get up from long meals or davening to stretch your legs even for a few minutes Take some time out from your afternoon and go walking with a friend or by yourself and try some positive thinking Use your smartphone to count your steps Make daily challenges for yourself trying to hit at least 10 000 steps per day or more if you love a challenge Get your friends to join you on calorie and step counting apps like MyFitnessPal and compete with each other Remember all good things take time Do not take on more than you can handle at one time If you find all of the suggestions overwhelming try to incorporate one every other week Be mindful 30 fyimagazineny com of your food and activity choices You can try to adapt some of these habits into your family but many times others will be skeptical of change When others start to notice the differences you feel however they might join you on your journey to a healthier life and you can reap the benefits together fyi Yael E Geller MPH Yael Geller graduated with a Master s in Public Health from the Milken Institute of Public Health at George Washington University in August of 2015 Her primary focus during her studies was public health policy analysis health education and intervention development and implementation Her thesis explored the psychological reasoning of the rise in the antivaccination movement among parents She currently works for a nationally recognized non profit organization coordinating health education programs and writing medical education materials YaelGellerMPH gmail com It was a normal hectic morning for Miri T Well hectic until she began to brush Shira s hair With one eye on the clock she almost missed it It was the size of a quarter on top of her daughter s head an area with no hair Bald Shira were you using my razor she asked her 8 year old She already knew the answer but stood grasping at any straw that would allow her to retain a feeling of normalcy No Mommy Why Miri couldn t answer Her heart was pounding and as soon as Shira left for school she ran to her computer Google did nothing to assuage her fears Every possibility was more terrifying than the next Shira s pediatrician diagnosed the case Alopecia WHAT IS ALOPECIA It s an autoimmune disease that causes baldness sometimes in patches sometimes over the whole head It can also cause body hair to fall out It occurs when the immune system mistakenly attacks hair follicles and experts have yet to discover why Although the damage to the follicle is usually not permanent there is no cure but there are many forms of treatment Though it may affect children and adults of any age and women and men are affected equally it is most common in people younger than age 20 In this article we will meet several of these young people and their families who have dealt with the disease While some of their experiences and approaches may be similar there are also differences 31 fyimagazineny com Miri like any parent was stunned at the diagnosis of a disease she had never heard of And thus began Miri s battle to do all in her power for her young daughter The battle was waged on two fronts physical and emotional Building on the approach she was already using due to Shira s serious allergies she created an even more upbeat atmosphere in their home Hashem has many nisyonos tests and He only gives them to people he thinks are special so they can become even more special And look Hashem chose you This theme pervaded their conversations Imagine Miri s gratitude when she was able to see success For example one morning Shira wanted to skip brushing her hair since it was too painful It s okay Mommy she commented nonchalantly I don t care if it s a little messy I ll wear a headband All my friends know about it already anyways This is what Hashem gave me That s the way it is Like some girls have freckles Miri was so thankful that Shira didn t allow her condition to define her She was still her cheerful lively daughter with the same bubbly personality She was popular in the classroom and confident in everything she undertook Together they fought to eliminate the problem Today things are better Shira is a trooper Miri says in awe of what such a young child is able to do I am positive I would not be able to undergo what she has without a whole lot more grumpy complaints complete with temper tantrums Yet she takes it all in stride knowing it s something she has to go through to fix the problem We tried many treatments Some uncomfortable Some painful The
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  ALOPECIA  AN UPHILL BATTLE WRITTEN BY CHANI MILLER  When adding a drop of juice to this li...
LOVE YOUR LIFE worst was a period during which she received sessions of cortisone shots 12 18 shots each session I don t know which one of us was in more pain But she took it The ice cream cone 4 scoops I bought her afterwards was more for my sake than hers It was so discouraging to see one treatment after the other fail Our doctor had only one more possibility medication that would cost 1 000 per session and was not covered by insurance This was a last resort so he urged us to sign up for a trial program at one of the large hospitals in New York before we tried this last method Baruch Hashem the hospital program worked Shira s bald spot which had grown to the size of a half dollar is now growing hair The family nicknamed her Spike due to her resemblance to the pets stuffed with grass seed that grow hair Shira giggles at her nickname but in her more serious moments she confides with joy I m so happy Hashem listened to my tefillos Miri davens that Shira will never have to deal with alopecia again Every Day Hairoes LOVE YOUR LIFE dealing with alopecia within their families They believe in living with confidence bravery and understanding and their mission speaks for itself The group was founded in 2015 by Mr and Mrs Teichman of Williamsburg NY parents who knew only too well what it was like to deal with a child having alopecia With the assistance of Mr and Mrs Yoffe of Far Rockaway they decided to use their experiences to lead this support system in the effort to help others navigate through the nightmare The Teichmans first noticed some eyelashes missing from their 3 year old daughter s eyelids Threeyear olds do strange things and they assumed she had pulled the hairs out The dermatologist assured them that it was probably nothing but when the child turned six they could no longer bury their heads in the sand Small bald patches began to appear on her head Yet they were still in denial I should put a wig on my 6 year old It will grow back I m sure recounted Mrs Teichman However it didn t Traumatized their daughter refused to go to school And her parents watched with saddened hearts as the other little girls boarded the bus sporting Hairoes org is a support group led by people who have spent years 32 fyimagazineny com long thick ponytails encased in fancy bows There were no support groups and the road was a lonely one They were devastated and emotionally unable to support their daughter They began a lonely climb up a tall and treacherous mountain One neighbor also dealing with the condition advised them not to get involved with treatments I wish someone would have given me that advice she said It would have saved me a tremendous amount of money and even more importantly a great deal of emotional anguish Our hopes were raised only to be dashed over and over again It was hard for the Teichmans to adopt a do nothing policy and so they embarked on a vitamin treatment They later learned that was a big mistake Alopecia is due to the immune system attacking the hair follicle Vitamins strengthen the immune system thus enabling it to destroy even more follicles The neighbor suffering from alopecia once commented that the most liberating moment was when all of his hair finally fell out Until that time he was on an emotional roller coaster Mommy I think I see hair in this spot Oh no that spot is bald again Since alopecia comes and goes it may seem at times that a treatment has worked when actually it s only the disease easing up for a little while Using that same treatment later on gives rise to hopes that are ultimately destroyed only to be replaced by new hopes that are also destroyed in an endless cycle It was a long trip trudging up that mountain but the Teichmans eventually realized that the best treatment would be to develop their daughter s self confidence Now the girl who only a couple of short years ago refused to go to school is prancing around Great Adventures with no wig Yes they did eventually come to terms with buying one At a recent Hairoes carnival many of the 45 children had not yet purchased wigs and in unity the Teichman girl tossed hers aside full of the inner knowledge of being a great kid hair or no hair Sometimes she wears her wig to the park and sometimes she doesn t It has become almost a non issue This bright little ball of fire was runnerup at a spelling bee and stood on stage just radiating self assurance This was a tribute both to her spelling prowess and also to her parents ability to instill pride in their child The Teichmans spent 3 000 on their first wig but later discovered an entity called Hair Clubs for Kids which offers free wigs and replaced regularly Thankfully finances are one factor that does not have to be included in the equation any longer Knowing that this trial came from Hashem the Teichmans decided to use their experiences to help others With the talents Hashem had given them they created 6 CDs that are about Kibud Av V eim Later they decided to help others by filling in the gap they themselves had felt when their difficulties began So they established Hairoes where the underlying theme is We re fine In fact we re great The group offers support and sponsors many events and the Teichmans and Yoffes happily report that they receive calls daily from people who either need support or want to give it The calls come from literally all over the world One lady from Vienna asked to speak directly to the Teichmans daughter and advised Share the fact that you have a wig with your classmates Don t try to hide it Let them participate in the fun of having a wig by combing it and making braids It was excellent advice Children take their cue from the parents Mr Teichman now comments Once we were able to climb out of our pit of devastation she quickly joined us When a person has only small bald spots it pays to try treatment but he touts self confidence boosting as the best and only treatment for those that become completely bald There are some cures in the pipeline but it may be 10 20 years before they become available to the public A child who grows up with 33 fyimagazineny com the constant tension and anxiety that this next treatment MUST work or else my life will be ruined or who lives under the spectre of Who will want to marry me if I m bald may have stunted emotional growth This can result in a child who may not have the tools to face adult life regardless of any hair growth To fulfill their mission of creating support Hairoes children are given the opportunity to set up pen pals in addition to attending events Events are also created for adults A recent barbecue for men was crowded with guests from every local Jewish area in NY One middle aged man told of his experience as a child With no support he felt himself to be less than others Those around him including adults who should have offered protection rather than abuse enhanced his belief His pain still stings as he vividly recalls one week of Parshas Metzorah when his rebbe wanted to explain the different forms of tzoraas one being hair loss He was made to stand in front of the class as an example then brought from classroom to classroom as Exhibit A Hairoes is here to change that Malky Malky is another hairo She began her bout with alopecia at age 12 and needed all the help she could get Now 24 she is on the other side of the fence having made peace with the condition She has developed ways of helping others There is no real cure she says having come to the same conclusion as others Even when it seems to have disappeared it can always come back The best tool to handle it is the development of self esteem My mother was great She really built up my self confidence She made me feel like I m a great girl my appearance my intelligence my
LOVE YOUR LIFE  worst was a period during which she received sessions of cortisone shots  12-18 shots each session. I don ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE worst was a period during which she received sessions of cortisone shots 12 18 shots each session I don t know which one of us was in more pain But she took it The ice cream cone 4 scoops I bought her afterwards was more for my sake than hers It was so discouraging to see one treatment after the other fail Our doctor had only one more possibility medication that would cost 1 000 per session and was not covered by insurance This was a last resort so he urged us to sign up for a trial program at one of the large hospitals in New York before we tried this last method Baruch Hashem the hospital program worked Shira s bald spot which had grown to the size of a half dollar is now growing hair The family nicknamed her Spike due to her resemblance to the pets stuffed with grass seed that grow hair Shira giggles at her nickname but in her more serious moments she confides with joy I m so happy Hashem listened to my tefillos Miri davens that Shira will never have to deal with alopecia again Every Day Hairoes LOVE YOUR LIFE dealing with alopecia within their families They believe in living with confidence bravery and understanding and their mission speaks for itself The group was founded in 2015 by Mr and Mrs Teichman of Williamsburg NY parents who knew only too well what it was like to deal with a child having alopecia With the assistance of Mr and Mrs Yoffe of Far Rockaway they decided to use their experiences to lead this support system in the effort to help others navigate through the nightmare The Teichmans first noticed some eyelashes missing from their 3 year old daughter s eyelids Threeyear olds do strange things and they assumed she had pulled the hairs out The dermatologist assured them that it was probably nothing but when the child turned six they could no longer bury their heads in the sand Small bald patches began to appear on her head Yet they were still in denial I should put a wig on my 6 year old It will grow back I m sure recounted Mrs Teichman However it didn t Traumatized their daughter refused to go to school And her parents watched with saddened hearts as the other little girls boarded the bus sporting Hairoes org is a support group led by people who have spent years 32 fyimagazineny com long thick ponytails encased in fancy bows There were no support groups and the road was a lonely one They were devastated and emotionally unable to support their daughter They began a lonely climb up a tall and treacherous mountain One neighbor also dealing with the condition advised them not to get involved with treatments I wish someone would have given me that advice she said It would have saved me a tremendous amount of money and even more importantly a great deal of emotional anguish Our hopes were raised only to be dashed over and over again It was hard for the Teichmans to adopt a do nothing policy and so they embarked on a vitamin treatment They later learned that was a big mistake Alopecia is due to the immune system attacking the hair follicle Vitamins strengthen the immune system thus enabling it to destroy even more follicles The neighbor suffering from alopecia once commented that the most liberating moment was when all of his hair finally fell out Until that time he was on an emotional roller coaster Mommy I think I see hair in this spot Oh no that spot is bald again Since alopecia comes and goes it may seem at times that a treatment has worked when actually it s only the disease easing up for a little while Using that same treatment later on gives rise to hopes that are ultimately destroyed only to be replaced by new hopes that are also destroyed in an endless cycle It was a long trip trudging up that mountain but the Teichmans eventually realized that the best treatment would be to develop their daughter s self confidence Now the girl who only a couple of short years ago refused to go to school is prancing around Great Adventures with no wig Yes they did eventually come to terms with buying one At a recent Hairoes carnival many of the 45 children had not yet purchased wigs and in unity the Teichman girl tossed hers aside full of the inner knowledge of being a great kid hair or no hair Sometimes she wears her wig to the park and sometimes she doesn t It has become almost a non issue This bright little ball of fire was runnerup at a spelling bee and stood on stage just radiating self assurance This was a tribute both to her spelling prowess and also to her parents ability to instill pride in their child The Teichmans spent 3 000 on their first wig but later discovered an entity called Hair Clubs for Kids which offers free wigs and replaced regularly Thankfully finances are one factor that does not have to be included in the equation any longer Knowing that this trial came from Hashem the Teichmans decided to use their experiences to help others With the talents Hashem had given them they created 6 CDs that are about Kibud Av V eim Later they decided to help others by filling in the gap they themselves had felt when their difficulties began So they established Hairoes where the underlying theme is We re fine In fact we re great The group offers support and sponsors many events and the Teichmans and Yoffes happily report that they receive calls daily from people who either need support or want to give it The calls come from literally all over the world One lady from Vienna asked to speak directly to the Teichmans daughter and advised Share the fact that you have a wig with your classmates Don t try to hide it Let them participate in the fun of having a wig by combing it and making braids It was excellent advice Children take their cue from the parents Mr Teichman now comments Once we were able to climb out of our pit of devastation she quickly joined us When a person has only small bald spots it pays to try treatment but he touts self confidence boosting as the best and only treatment for those that become completely bald There are some cures in the pipeline but it may be 10 20 years before they become available to the public A child who grows up with 33 fyimagazineny com the constant tension and anxiety that this next treatment MUST work or else my life will be ruined or who lives under the spectre of Who will want to marry me if I m bald may have stunted emotional growth This can result in a child who may not have the tools to face adult life regardless of any hair growth To fulfill their mission of creating support Hairoes children are given the opportunity to set up pen pals in addition to attending events Events are also created for adults A recent barbecue for men was crowded with guests from every local Jewish area in NY One middle aged man told of his experience as a child With no support he felt himself to be less than others Those around him including adults who should have offered protection rather than abuse enhanced his belief His pain still stings as he vividly recalls one week of Parshas Metzorah when his rebbe wanted to explain the different forms of tzoraas one being hair loss He was made to stand in front of the class as an example then brought from classroom to classroom as Exhibit A Hairoes is here to change that Malky Malky is another hairo She began her bout with alopecia at age 12 and needed all the help she could get Now 24 she is on the other side of the fence having made peace with the condition She has developed ways of helping others There is no real cure she says having come to the same conclusion as others Even when it seems to have disappeared it can always come back The best tool to handle it is the development of self esteem My mother was great She really built up my self confidence She made me feel like I m a great girl my appearance my intelligence my
LOVE YOUR LIFE  worst was a period during which she received sessions of cortisone shots  12-18 shots each session. I don ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE SHARE THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE A WIG WITH YOUR CLASSMATES DON T TRY TO HIDE IT LET THEM PARTICIPATE IN THE FUN OF HAVING A WIG BY COMBING IT AND MAKING BRAIDS talents my aspirations all of me I currently assist at a support group called New Jersey Cap and this is the main thing I stress Don t let alopecia define you You are not alopecia You are a person a terrific person A member of the group once refused to attend an event Not because she was embarrassed or had any hang ups about the alopecia Simply because she didn t consider herself an alopecia victim Just a person who happens to have alopecia Because there are many creams used to treat alopecia Malky advises to try as many of them as needed Some will work for one person while others may not Some creams sting Some are so strong that if they inadvertently touch a part of the body that normally does not have hair hair may grow Injections can be painful Do a lot of research before trying a new treatment and make a decision based on your own personal feelings Ask Is it worth it For those who are more comfortable with natural methods it has been discovered in Sefer Ta amei Minhagim an extract of hadassim myrtle leaves sometimes works Some opt to just deal with the situation using headbands and big bows or combing existing hair over the bald spot For those who prefer it a wig may be the best option Malky in her many years of research has learned that Milano now offers a line of wigs for children Malky s advice is to use a silicone top wig that adheres very well Malky looks back on her teen years and shares I didn t hide it but I didn t advertise it either Most of my friends never knew I tried to be creative even though sometimes it got me in trouble like at camp when I would insist on wearing a baseball cap it was frowned upon as being not frum enough 34 fyimagazineny com By my senior year it was much better but I still didn t publicize it I once gave a d var Torah and discussed the mohn manna that the Jewish people complained about Here we were with the ultimate in a perfect food Yet we found fault I compared it to high school girls constantly talking about having a bad hair day without realizing how grateful they should be to have a head of hair that beautifies the face so well Only my closest friends knew how true this really was Shaindy Kleinman a well known speaker put it so well when she spoke at a Hairoes event We know that each blade of grass has a malach an angel guiding it in its growth Is it possible then that the head of a Jewish child has no malach Alopecia comes from Hashem like everything else Therefore we know it s good It s up to us to learn to use the situation and grow from it fyi in session My Siblings Don t Watch Their Kids WRITTEN BY ROCHELLI STERNHEIM If you or someone you know has alopecia there is hope To join the many events planned at Hairoes and engage in this caring and supportive community you are invited to visit Hairoes org or send an email to hairoesny gmail com Malky is happy to provide myrtle spray for anyone with alopecia but gives no guarantees on the success of the product Email her at newjerseycap gmail com Remember to visit Hairoes org or email hairoesny gmail com today They can help you See this month s issue of myFYI for an interview with Tehila Yoffe who has alopecia Q I go to my parents house I m not a helicopter parent I have for Yom Tov and it is a treat spoken to my family about this but I look forward to all year There is they don t think it s an issue There one issue that ruins my Yom Tov have already been situations where though I am always left watching children have ran out of the house all of my nieces and nephews as a result of the lack of supervision including my own kids in the afternoons while my siblings nap My siblings have a pretty relaxed Rocheli Sternheim is a licensed clinical social worker practicing in Lakewood N J Rocheli is passionate about helping people help themselves Email your questions to info fyimagazine com So I am the one that watches the kids all day which means I don t get to socialize relax or enjoy myself I attitude when it comes to am so resentful and more than the supervising their children The bother of taking over my siblings parents go to sleep or relax and parental responsibilities the anger leave their children unattended in really kills my Yom Tov and I end up the playroom and I end up being being in a bad mood How can I the caretaker of all kids I feel that impress upon my siblings the children need to be under a importance of supervising their watchful eye at all times and no children so that I can get a break 35 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  SHARE THE FACT         THAT YOU HAVE A   WIG WITH YOUR     CLASSMATES. DON   T   TRY TO HI...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE SHARE THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE A WIG WITH YOUR CLASSMATES DON T TRY TO HIDE IT LET THEM PARTICIPATE IN THE FUN OF HAVING A WIG BY COMBING IT AND MAKING BRAIDS talents my aspirations all of me I currently assist at a support group called New Jersey Cap and this is the main thing I stress Don t let alopecia define you You are not alopecia You are a person a terrific person A member of the group once refused to attend an event Not because she was embarrassed or had any hang ups about the alopecia Simply because she didn t consider herself an alopecia victim Just a person who happens to have alopecia Because there are many creams used to treat alopecia Malky advises to try as many of them as needed Some will work for one person while others may not Some creams sting Some are so strong that if they inadvertently touch a part of the body that normally does not have hair hair may grow Injections can be painful Do a lot of research before trying a new treatment and make a decision based on your own personal feelings Ask Is it worth it For those who are more comfortable with natural methods it has been discovered in Sefer Ta amei Minhagim an extract of hadassim myrtle leaves sometimes works Some opt to just deal with the situation using headbands and big bows or combing existing hair over the bald spot For those who prefer it a wig may be the best option Malky in her many years of research has learned that Milano now offers a line of wigs for children Malky s advice is to use a silicone top wig that adheres very well Malky looks back on her teen years and shares I didn t hide it but I didn t advertise it either Most of my friends never knew I tried to be creative even though sometimes it got me in trouble like at camp when I would insist on wearing a baseball cap it was frowned upon as being not frum enough 34 fyimagazineny com By my senior year it was much better but I still didn t publicize it I once gave a d var Torah and discussed the mohn manna that the Jewish people complained about Here we were with the ultimate in a perfect food Yet we found fault I compared it to high school girls constantly talking about having a bad hair day without realizing how grateful they should be to have a head of hair that beautifies the face so well Only my closest friends knew how true this really was Shaindy Kleinman a well known speaker put it so well when she spoke at a Hairoes event We know that each blade of grass has a malach an angel guiding it in its growth Is it possible then that the head of a Jewish child has no malach Alopecia comes from Hashem like everything else Therefore we know it s good It s up to us to learn to use the situation and grow from it fyi in session My Siblings Don t Watch Their Kids WRITTEN BY ROCHELLI STERNHEIM If you or someone you know has alopecia there is hope To join the many events planned at Hairoes and engage in this caring and supportive community you are invited to visit Hairoes org or send an email to hairoesny gmail com Malky is happy to provide myrtle spray for anyone with alopecia but gives no guarantees on the success of the product Email her at newjerseycap gmail com Remember to visit Hairoes org or email hairoesny gmail com today They can help you See this month s issue of myFYI for an interview with Tehila Yoffe who has alopecia Q I go to my parents house I m not a helicopter parent I have for Yom Tov and it is a treat spoken to my family about this but I look forward to all year There is they don t think it s an issue There one issue that ruins my Yom Tov have already been situations where though I am always left watching children have ran out of the house all of my nieces and nephews as a result of the lack of supervision including my own kids in the afternoons while my siblings nap My siblings have a pretty relaxed Rocheli Sternheim is a licensed clinical social worker practicing in Lakewood N J Rocheli is passionate about helping people help themselves Email your questions to info fyimagazine com So I am the one that watches the kids all day which means I don t get to socialize relax or enjoy myself I attitude when it comes to am so resentful and more than the supervising their children The bother of taking over my siblings parents go to sleep or relax and parental responsibilities the anger leave their children unattended in really kills my Yom Tov and I end up the playroom and I end up being being in a bad mood How can I the caretaker of all kids I feel that impress upon my siblings the children need to be under a importance of supervising their watchful eye at all times and no children so that I can get a break 35 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  SHARE THE FACT         THAT YOU HAVE A   WIG WITH YOUR     CLASSMATES. DON   T   TRY TO HI...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE A Recognize that you are a strong responsible good parent who is contributing to your childrens feelings of security that comes from feeling safe and taken care of Good for you that you are not just accepting and embracing an attitude of parenting that can be potentially dangerous and sticking up for what s right even though it costs you time and effort I can imagine that it s downright exhausting tending to so many children all day every day You really want to lighten your burden by somehow getting your siblings to recognize that we live in a complicated world and we need to watch our kids and that you are not being overprotective by providing basic supervision You are so frustrated that your attempts to create a fair system to address this problem has fallen on deaf ears Your question is how to influence your siblings to change and unfortunately I have no answer because the only person you can realistically change is yourself You may need to come to accept that they will not change and you will still be a responsible parent and do what you feel is right Perhaps we can shift the question to how you can have a more enjoyable Yom Tov by freeing yourself of the anger and resentment that s eating you up Doing things that take sacrifice and energy by themselves don t cause us to feel anger and resentment if we associate the sacrifice with positive results and growth Many significant and happy occasions take energy and some sacrifice Take for example giving birth marrying off a child or even preparing to go on a nice vacation They all take work time maybe sleep and some level of sacrifice We generally feel willing to sacrifice for situations we perceive as positive I m using these 36 fyimagazineny com examples to illustrate that your thoughts and feelings surrounding a particular situation greatly influence how you perceive work and sacrifice When you are spending your day watching your children plus your nieces and nephews you are probably thinking This is not fair why am I doing everyone else s job while they get to relax and socialize You feel like the victim of your family s irresponsibility Now I m not implying that what your family is doing is okay and fair I am proposing that you can help yourself feel better about the situation by shifting your perspective How about shifting your perspective from a victim of your family s unfairness to viewing yourself as a strong person who does what s right even when it is inconvenient hard and unpopular Recognize that you are a strong responsible good parent who is contributing to your childrens feelings of security that comes from feeling safe and taken care of Your siblings have nothing to do with you You are doing the right thing for your children and nieces and nephews and you can be proud of yourself Have you ever spent your entire day comforting a sad feverish child It s hard work that leaves you completely exhausted but hopefully not angry and resentful You get a good feeling from knowing that you did for your child what only a parent can do and helped your child feel loved even when in pain When you do the right thing in any role whether it be as a parent friend spouse or child you can feel good about yourself because it feels great to make good choices You made a good choice given your circumstance and you can be proud of yourself I hope that helps you have a meaningful and uplifting Yom Tov fyi If you want to fly QUOTES THAT INSPIRE you have to give up the things that weigh you IF YOU DON T LIKE YOU YOU WILL NOT GET ANYONE ELSE TO LIKE YOU Losers stop when they fail winners fail until they succeed 37 fyimagazineny com down Being happy doesn t mean that everything is perfect It means that you ve decided to look beyond the imperfections You have very little power over what feelings arise but what you choose to do with them is your responsibility
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  A   Recognize that you are a strong, responsible, good parent who is contributing to your ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE A Recognize that you are a strong responsible good parent who is contributing to your childrens feelings of security that comes from feeling safe and taken care of Good for you that you are not just accepting and embracing an attitude of parenting that can be potentially dangerous and sticking up for what s right even though it costs you time and effort I can imagine that it s downright exhausting tending to so many children all day every day You really want to lighten your burden by somehow getting your siblings to recognize that we live in a complicated world and we need to watch our kids and that you are not being overprotective by providing basic supervision You are so frustrated that your attempts to create a fair system to address this problem has fallen on deaf ears Your question is how to influence your siblings to change and unfortunately I have no answer because the only person you can realistically change is yourself You may need to come to accept that they will not change and you will still be a responsible parent and do what you feel is right Perhaps we can shift the question to how you can have a more enjoyable Yom Tov by freeing yourself of the anger and resentment that s eating you up Doing things that take sacrifice and energy by themselves don t cause us to feel anger and resentment if we associate the sacrifice with positive results and growth Many significant and happy occasions take energy and some sacrifice Take for example giving birth marrying off a child or even preparing to go on a nice vacation They all take work time maybe sleep and some level of sacrifice We generally feel willing to sacrifice for situations we perceive as positive I m using these 36 fyimagazineny com examples to illustrate that your thoughts and feelings surrounding a particular situation greatly influence how you perceive work and sacrifice When you are spending your day watching your children plus your nieces and nephews you are probably thinking This is not fair why am I doing everyone else s job while they get to relax and socialize You feel like the victim of your family s irresponsibility Now I m not implying that what your family is doing is okay and fair I am proposing that you can help yourself feel better about the situation by shifting your perspective How about shifting your perspective from a victim of your family s unfairness to viewing yourself as a strong person who does what s right even when it is inconvenient hard and unpopular Recognize that you are a strong responsible good parent who is contributing to your childrens feelings of security that comes from feeling safe and taken care of Your siblings have nothing to do with you You are doing the right thing for your children and nieces and nephews and you can be proud of yourself Have you ever spent your entire day comforting a sad feverish child It s hard work that leaves you completely exhausted but hopefully not angry and resentful You get a good feeling from knowing that you did for your child what only a parent can do and helped your child feel loved even when in pain When you do the right thing in any role whether it be as a parent friend spouse or child you can feel good about yourself because it feels great to make good choices You made a good choice given your circumstance and you can be proud of yourself I hope that helps you have a meaningful and uplifting Yom Tov fyi If you want to fly QUOTES THAT INSPIRE you have to give up the things that weigh you IF YOU DON T LIKE YOU YOU WILL NOT GET ANYONE ELSE TO LIKE YOU Losers stop when they fail winners fail until they succeed 37 fyimagazineny com down Being happy doesn t mean that everything is perfect It means that you ve decided to look beyond the imperfections You have very little power over what feelings arise but what you choose to do with them is your responsibility
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  A   Recognize that you are a strong, responsible, good parent who is contributing to your ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE real life Inspirational story 1 FOR EVERY BREATH As a child I never dreamed that I would have to budget my energy counting every breath I took These are not the thoughts of a child who runs and plays goes to school and thinks childishly about what to do when I grow up I did all of those things but with a shadow in the background that whispered of something different scary and unknown AS TOLD TO MINDY T 38 fyimagazineny com 39 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  real   life  Inspirational story 1  FOR EVERY  BREATH As a child, I never dreamed that I w...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE real life Inspirational story 1 FOR EVERY BREATH As a child I never dreamed that I would have to budget my energy counting every breath I took These are not the thoughts of a child who runs and plays goes to school and thinks childishly about what to do when I grow up I did all of those things but with a shadow in the background that whispered of something different scary and unknown AS TOLD TO MINDY T 38 fyimagazineny com 39 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  real   life  Inspirational story 1  FOR EVERY  BREATH As a child, I never dreamed that I w...
LOVE YOUR LIFE I was born with cystic fibrosis a chronic condition that affects the lungs and weakens them over time Frequent lung infections and strong coughs were the norm and at a young age I was aware that I was different I was fortunate then that I didn t know the statistics didn t dream how serious it would later become And so I was a child learning playing secretly afraid Since my symptoms weren t obvious my family preferred to keep this matter private I learned to weigh my words so that I wouldn t slip up in conversation and give away my secret to other kids who wouldn t understand Maybe I seemed shy because I was terrified to get too close and have somebody find out my secret The end of high school brings graduations goodbyes excited plans for seminary and beyond As my classmates eagerly planned their year in Eretz Yisrael my high school graduation found me looking into hospitals with my symptoms going downhill fast My pulmonologist had recommended finding another specialist any seminary plans were eclipsed by the LOVE YOUR LIFE desire to breathe and live None of my friends would have imagined this in their wildest dreams As my class scattered over various seminaries with everyone doing their own thing I felt like I was on a different planet My mother remained supportively by my side but I was so alone so scared I hadn t had major symptoms as a child but as I grew older the lung infections constant coughing and shortness of breath were becoming overwhelming I knew I had a chronic condition Wishing for a quick fix cure was unrealistic Every few weeks would find me back in Boston Hospital with yet another lung infection Did I treasure each day of life I had each moment when I breathed easily I was trapped at the mercy of my lungs with so many goals to accomplish and no way of reaching them Each time I was released from the hospital I knew I d be back soon How would I ever do anything while trapped in a hospital bed struggling to breathe The thought stung Was I wasting my time in the hospital achieving nothing and just going in circles The anxiety of test results and bad news from doctors overshadowed everything I couldn t live this way just as I couldn t live without breathing And that s when I began to refurbish both my room and more importantly my attitude I was able to walk down the hall I had the strength to sit up in a chair These were moments which I was so grateful for and never wanted to forget My hospital room slowly filled up with colorful post it notes describing one thing I thanked Hashem for each day I was hospitalized long enough to cover the walls completely with these notes of thanks and my doctors and 40 fyimagazineny com nurses would read them If I could find these sparks of kindness I knew Hashem hadn t forgotten me I could still spread positivity from my now colorful hospital room My friends had heard that I was sick They would call to see how I was but no one really knew how bad it was The next four years passed in a haze of tests oxygen and survival Slowly the disease progressed and I celebrated my 23rd birthday by receiving an oxygen tank People assured me that this was temporary just until I could breathe on my own But I never could This drove home how sick I really was functioning on limited oxygen and also made it obvious to others who hadn t known before Outside people walked ran rode by on bicycles How did they ever have the strength Somewhere in the back of my mind theoretically I knew that people with CF could need a lung transplant But when the doctors started talking about it I was shocked People dealing with this reality know that doctors don t begin to speak of a transplant unless that s the only option for survival Clearly my lungs were failing It was so sudden I had lived a basically normal childhood and had gone downhill so fast I wasn t mentally prepared to replace one lung let alone both Still I reassured myself that they were just bringing it up maybe I d need it someday in the future At least that s what I thought until I woke up one night in bed and heard them murmuring transfer helicopter I had not dreamed of this When faced with a medical recommendation of this magnitude many people consult with specialists consider it and decide if If I could find these sparks of kindness I knew Hashem hadn t forgotten me I could still spread positivity from my now colorful hospital room it s an option All that flew out the window I didn t need to decide if I would go ahead with the transplant This was my chance to live and I would grab it with both hands But that was only the beginning I spent the summer hooked up to oxygen on a plane traveling to transplant centers Finding a hospital I trusted was complicating enough but I also needed to be approved as a viable candidate for surgery It was so frustrating to wait This was my ticket to life and I wanted to just do it But unfortunately the waiting list is long and when a pair of lungs becomes available the hospital personnel consider who will receive them They think about how critically ill a candidate is how close he she is to the city where the lungs are the patient s blood type and medical history and how likely the transplant is to be successful I was placed on the waiting list of two hospitals in New York and in Pittsburgh And so began the wait They could call at any time of any day so I carried my phone everywhere which was less common than in today s era of cell phones Meanwhile I budgeted my energy I moved my clothes to the top drawer so I wouldn t need to bend down to reach them I ate simple meals because if I used energy to prepare food I had no strength left to eat it 41 fyimagazineny com Ironically my limited energy was used to exercise since I needed to gain strength to withstand the surgery I would spend my day at the pulmonary rehab center doing exercises to strengthen my lungs while my heart rate and blood pressure were monitored I needed to wear sneakers but I couldn t muster the strength to tie my laces Still I was determined I bought slip on sneakers and followed all the exercises I wanted to live We received a few calls about available lungs but they fell through It was only the 3rd call on a Thursday in August of 2009 which seemed likely to work out Still I was lucky that I waited only several weeks Hastily my mother took down all the post its which we later arranged in a notebook of gratefulness I was airlifted from Boston to the hospital in New York but once there our hopes were dashed The doctors took one look at me and shook their heads I was too fragile too sick to make it through the surgery Stay in the ICU they told me Maybe you ll get stronger and we can do it But we knew that wasn t happening This was my only hope There was no next step It was Shabbos morning I wasn t aware of anything except straining to breathe The effort was tremendous With each effort my body rose off the bed only to sink back down and struggle to take another breath It was amid all this that my mother heard the cell phone vibrating We had already received a call about lungs but she had given up on it Who could be calling us now It was Pittsburgh They had a pair of lungs Two sets of lungs within a few days the odds were impossible My mother worried whether I could
LOVE YOUR LIFE  I  was born with cystic fibrosis, a chronic condition that affects the lungs and weakens them over time. F...
LOVE YOUR LIFE I was born with cystic fibrosis a chronic condition that affects the lungs and weakens them over time Frequent lung infections and strong coughs were the norm and at a young age I was aware that I was different I was fortunate then that I didn t know the statistics didn t dream how serious it would later become And so I was a child learning playing secretly afraid Since my symptoms weren t obvious my family preferred to keep this matter private I learned to weigh my words so that I wouldn t slip up in conversation and give away my secret to other kids who wouldn t understand Maybe I seemed shy because I was terrified to get too close and have somebody find out my secret The end of high school brings graduations goodbyes excited plans for seminary and beyond As my classmates eagerly planned their year in Eretz Yisrael my high school graduation found me looking into hospitals with my symptoms going downhill fast My pulmonologist had recommended finding another specialist any seminary plans were eclipsed by the LOVE YOUR LIFE desire to breathe and live None of my friends would have imagined this in their wildest dreams As my class scattered over various seminaries with everyone doing their own thing I felt like I was on a different planet My mother remained supportively by my side but I was so alone so scared I hadn t had major symptoms as a child but as I grew older the lung infections constant coughing and shortness of breath were becoming overwhelming I knew I had a chronic condition Wishing for a quick fix cure was unrealistic Every few weeks would find me back in Boston Hospital with yet another lung infection Did I treasure each day of life I had each moment when I breathed easily I was trapped at the mercy of my lungs with so many goals to accomplish and no way of reaching them Each time I was released from the hospital I knew I d be back soon How would I ever do anything while trapped in a hospital bed struggling to breathe The thought stung Was I wasting my time in the hospital achieving nothing and just going in circles The anxiety of test results and bad news from doctors overshadowed everything I couldn t live this way just as I couldn t live without breathing And that s when I began to refurbish both my room and more importantly my attitude I was able to walk down the hall I had the strength to sit up in a chair These were moments which I was so grateful for and never wanted to forget My hospital room slowly filled up with colorful post it notes describing one thing I thanked Hashem for each day I was hospitalized long enough to cover the walls completely with these notes of thanks and my doctors and 40 fyimagazineny com nurses would read them If I could find these sparks of kindness I knew Hashem hadn t forgotten me I could still spread positivity from my now colorful hospital room My friends had heard that I was sick They would call to see how I was but no one really knew how bad it was The next four years passed in a haze of tests oxygen and survival Slowly the disease progressed and I celebrated my 23rd birthday by receiving an oxygen tank People assured me that this was temporary just until I could breathe on my own But I never could This drove home how sick I really was functioning on limited oxygen and also made it obvious to others who hadn t known before Outside people walked ran rode by on bicycles How did they ever have the strength Somewhere in the back of my mind theoretically I knew that people with CF could need a lung transplant But when the doctors started talking about it I was shocked People dealing with this reality know that doctors don t begin to speak of a transplant unless that s the only option for survival Clearly my lungs were failing It was so sudden I had lived a basically normal childhood and had gone downhill so fast I wasn t mentally prepared to replace one lung let alone both Still I reassured myself that they were just bringing it up maybe I d need it someday in the future At least that s what I thought until I woke up one night in bed and heard them murmuring transfer helicopter I had not dreamed of this When faced with a medical recommendation of this magnitude many people consult with specialists consider it and decide if If I could find these sparks of kindness I knew Hashem hadn t forgotten me I could still spread positivity from my now colorful hospital room it s an option All that flew out the window I didn t need to decide if I would go ahead with the transplant This was my chance to live and I would grab it with both hands But that was only the beginning I spent the summer hooked up to oxygen on a plane traveling to transplant centers Finding a hospital I trusted was complicating enough but I also needed to be approved as a viable candidate for surgery It was so frustrating to wait This was my ticket to life and I wanted to just do it But unfortunately the waiting list is long and when a pair of lungs becomes available the hospital personnel consider who will receive them They think about how critically ill a candidate is how close he she is to the city where the lungs are the patient s blood type and medical history and how likely the transplant is to be successful I was placed on the waiting list of two hospitals in New York and in Pittsburgh And so began the wait They could call at any time of any day so I carried my phone everywhere which was less common than in today s era of cell phones Meanwhile I budgeted my energy I moved my clothes to the top drawer so I wouldn t need to bend down to reach them I ate simple meals because if I used energy to prepare food I had no strength left to eat it 41 fyimagazineny com Ironically my limited energy was used to exercise since I needed to gain strength to withstand the surgery I would spend my day at the pulmonary rehab center doing exercises to strengthen my lungs while my heart rate and blood pressure were monitored I needed to wear sneakers but I couldn t muster the strength to tie my laces Still I was determined I bought slip on sneakers and followed all the exercises I wanted to live We received a few calls about available lungs but they fell through It was only the 3rd call on a Thursday in August of 2009 which seemed likely to work out Still I was lucky that I waited only several weeks Hastily my mother took down all the post its which we later arranged in a notebook of gratefulness I was airlifted from Boston to the hospital in New York but once there our hopes were dashed The doctors took one look at me and shook their heads I was too fragile too sick to make it through the surgery Stay in the ICU they told me Maybe you ll get stronger and we can do it But we knew that wasn t happening This was my only hope There was no next step It was Shabbos morning I wasn t aware of anything except straining to breathe The effort was tremendous With each effort my body rose off the bed only to sink back down and struggle to take another breath It was amid all this that my mother heard the cell phone vibrating We had already received a call about lungs but she had given up on it Who could be calling us now It was Pittsburgh They had a pair of lungs Two sets of lungs within a few days the odds were impossible My mother worried whether I could
LOVE YOUR LIFE  I  was born with cystic fibrosis, a chronic condition that affects the lungs and weakens them over time. F...
LOVE YOUR LIFE make it to Pittsburgh With my last strength I heaved myself off the bed Let s do it I was airlifted to Pittsburgh immediately I kept my eyes open on the plane I was scared that if they closed I couldn t open them again The pre operative prep lasted until Motzei Shabbos and I begged them to just take me in and perform the double lung transplant My family called but I couldn t speak It was Slichos night The delicate surgery lasted nine hours and both of my lungs were replaced The next thing I was aware of was my mother screaming that my cheeks were pink instead of a dull grey I would need to relearn how to walk breathe and even get used to eating again It was so symbolic to start off the new year with the miracle of new life Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur went by I wished I could daven fully but I managed to say Unisaneh Tokef I was whispering Mi yichyeh u mi yamus The words jumped out at me Who had to die so that I would have a chance to live I remained in Pittsburgh for three months It was December before I returned home to a very different life A transplant is not a miracle cure it brings many long term changes in its wake I was incomparably better I could breathe and walk and live again This was a huge milestone I had to live with the new reality of strong medications and safeguarding my health but I could breathe without giving it a second thought Four years later I was hospitalized again A friend who was visiting broached the subject carefully Rivky she began You ve been in the hospital so many times You ve learned so many lessons I wish there was a LOVE YOUR LIFE how they did it MAKING BIG BEAUTIFUL WRITTEN BY ZELDY ZILBER I met Roizy Reisman when she invited me to visit her store that carries her exclusive I wished I could daven fully but I managed to say Unisaneh Tokef I was whispering plus size line catering to women and girls Intrigued I set out to to hear more about it from Roizy herself the amazing woman behind it all Beautifull Boutique is a unique clothing line with an important mission which Roizy says is her passion in life Mi yichyeh u mi yamus The words jumped out at me Who had to die so that I would have a chance to live way for you to share them I agreed After my transplant Birchos HaShachar took on new meaning because each of them applied to something specific in my case For example when I was able to dress normally instead of living in a hospital gown saying malbish arumim was different I wanted to share my new awareness My friend encouraged me and this became my new project When my Birchas HaShachar cards were published I felt like my time in the hospital hadn t been wasted I had grown from it and I had shared my growth with others It was during 42 fyimagazineny com this time that I began to speak in schools and share my story Getting my life back was incredible and I was deeply grateful But there was more good in store for me About a year and a half ago I met my husband a special and considerate person who survived two heart transplants as a young child Our shared challenges only deepened our connection and we considered this to be another kindness sent to us from Hashem Chazal tell us Al kol neshima she adam nasheim tzarich l kaleis l borao Praise Hashem for every breath you take And I do fyi T here is such a lack of options for the plus size community I decided to change that by designing modest youthful and fashionable clothing for plus size females Roizy explains So far we ve gotten a lot of amazing feedback People come in crying telling me I m doing a tremendous mitzvah by giving dignity back to so many ladies and girls My dream was always to make a difference in people s lives Roizy tells me the warmth of empathy coming through in every word My goal is to help other women and girls that don t fit society s mold to feel good about themselves I ve had people ask me why I don t expand to include smaller sizes but I answer them that there is already so much for thin people my focus is in helping plus size people feel good with themselves It s not just a store I m running it s a movement to change the way we feel and to change the way other people perceive these wonderful women I want you to embrace who you are at whatever weight you are with whatever you are going through So if it s a movement you want to start to influence people how do you think you can do that I ask Roizy A recent study lead by Julie Lumeng M D a professor of pediatrics at the University of Michigan showed that despite normative interactions some children still experience bullying Alarmingly weight plays a significant role in determining who will become a victim When we started this study I really suspected we might find that the obesity or overweight might not 43 fyimagazineny com be the driving force Lumeng said What we found is that it didn t matter No matter how good your social skills if you were overweight or obese you were more likely to be bullied In fact the study showed that there is a 63 chance for an overweight teenage girl to experience ongoing negative peer attention while teenage boys follow closely behind with a 53 chance in becoming a victim compared to their normal weight peers These children often experience frequent and painful teasings rejections and even physical altercations all of which eat away at feelings of self worth I know how these kids feel Roizy continues Growing up I was bullied a lot and most of it came because of my weight
LOVE YOUR LIFE  make it to Pittsburgh. With my last strength I heaved myself off the bed.    Let   s do it.    I was airli...
LOVE YOUR LIFE make it to Pittsburgh With my last strength I heaved myself off the bed Let s do it I was airlifted to Pittsburgh immediately I kept my eyes open on the plane I was scared that if they closed I couldn t open them again The pre operative prep lasted until Motzei Shabbos and I begged them to just take me in and perform the double lung transplant My family called but I couldn t speak It was Slichos night The delicate surgery lasted nine hours and both of my lungs were replaced The next thing I was aware of was my mother screaming that my cheeks were pink instead of a dull grey I would need to relearn how to walk breathe and even get used to eating again It was so symbolic to start off the new year with the miracle of new life Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur went by I wished I could daven fully but I managed to say Unisaneh Tokef I was whispering Mi yichyeh u mi yamus The words jumped out at me Who had to die so that I would have a chance to live I remained in Pittsburgh for three months It was December before I returned home to a very different life A transplant is not a miracle cure it brings many long term changes in its wake I was incomparably better I could breathe and walk and live again This was a huge milestone I had to live with the new reality of strong medications and safeguarding my health but I could breathe without giving it a second thought Four years later I was hospitalized again A friend who was visiting broached the subject carefully Rivky she began You ve been in the hospital so many times You ve learned so many lessons I wish there was a LOVE YOUR LIFE how they did it MAKING BIG BEAUTIFUL WRITTEN BY ZELDY ZILBER I met Roizy Reisman when she invited me to visit her store that carries her exclusive I wished I could daven fully but I managed to say Unisaneh Tokef I was whispering plus size line catering to women and girls Intrigued I set out to to hear more about it from Roizy herself the amazing woman behind it all Beautifull Boutique is a unique clothing line with an important mission which Roizy says is her passion in life Mi yichyeh u mi yamus The words jumped out at me Who had to die so that I would have a chance to live way for you to share them I agreed After my transplant Birchos HaShachar took on new meaning because each of them applied to something specific in my case For example when I was able to dress normally instead of living in a hospital gown saying malbish arumim was different I wanted to share my new awareness My friend encouraged me and this became my new project When my Birchas HaShachar cards were published I felt like my time in the hospital hadn t been wasted I had grown from it and I had shared my growth with others It was during 42 fyimagazineny com this time that I began to speak in schools and share my story Getting my life back was incredible and I was deeply grateful But there was more good in store for me About a year and a half ago I met my husband a special and considerate person who survived two heart transplants as a young child Our shared challenges only deepened our connection and we considered this to be another kindness sent to us from Hashem Chazal tell us Al kol neshima she adam nasheim tzarich l kaleis l borao Praise Hashem for every breath you take And I do fyi T here is such a lack of options for the plus size community I decided to change that by designing modest youthful and fashionable clothing for plus size females Roizy explains So far we ve gotten a lot of amazing feedback People come in crying telling me I m doing a tremendous mitzvah by giving dignity back to so many ladies and girls My dream was always to make a difference in people s lives Roizy tells me the warmth of empathy coming through in every word My goal is to help other women and girls that don t fit society s mold to feel good about themselves I ve had people ask me why I don t expand to include smaller sizes but I answer them that there is already so much for thin people my focus is in helping plus size people feel good with themselves It s not just a store I m running it s a movement to change the way we feel and to change the way other people perceive these wonderful women I want you to embrace who you are at whatever weight you are with whatever you are going through So if it s a movement you want to start to influence people how do you think you can do that I ask Roizy A recent study lead by Julie Lumeng M D a professor of pediatrics at the University of Michigan showed that despite normative interactions some children still experience bullying Alarmingly weight plays a significant role in determining who will become a victim When we started this study I really suspected we might find that the obesity or overweight might not 43 fyimagazineny com be the driving force Lumeng said What we found is that it didn t matter No matter how good your social skills if you were overweight or obese you were more likely to be bullied In fact the study showed that there is a 63 chance for an overweight teenage girl to experience ongoing negative peer attention while teenage boys follow closely behind with a 53 chance in becoming a victim compared to their normal weight peers These children often experience frequent and painful teasings rejections and even physical altercations all of which eat away at feelings of self worth I know how these kids feel Roizy continues Growing up I was bullied a lot and most of it came because of my weight
LOVE YOUR LIFE  make it to Pittsburgh. With my last strength I heaved myself off the bed.    Let   s do it.    I was airli...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE When Roizy speaks she sounds surprisingly confident considering her painful background I m from a family of nine children Roizy tells me and my parents divorced when I was 18 My childhood home life was always difficult I ate out of emotion I used to walk into stores and the salesladies would tell me right away that they didn t carry my size It was hard knowing that I was big and that I stood out The sunshine filled days of camp were especially difficult The T shirts and slinky skirts that girls her age wore just weren t available in the larger sizes Roizy required Despite spending hours searching every store in town she was never able to find age appropriate clothing It was emotionally traumatic for a teen girl with a sensitive self image to have to wear clothing made for a matronly woman I couldn t find clothing that would let me feel my age Teen girls want so badly to fit in to be dressed like their classmates in the same styles but it just wasn t available For many overweight women this sentiment is echoed loud and clear Despite youth and the natural desire for pretty things designers have typically aimed at providing small sized women with many styles and cuts of clothing while sadly neglecting the heavier segment of society Being frequently excluded from current trends these women often find shopping a dreaded routine that leaves many of them wallowing in the throes of self consciousness and negativity without even a pretty dress to hide behind It wasn t always this way though Reaching into the annals of history we find that women who packed on the pounds were especially viewed as beautiful Take the Renaissance 44 fyimagazineny com PEOPLE COME IN CRYING TELLING ME I M DOING A TREMENDOUS MITZVAH BY GIVING DIGNITY BACK TO SO MANY LADIES AND GIRLS period for instance what would now be considered plus size women were frequently painted as tokens of beauty and fertility Weight was always considered the sure fire sign of members of high society while thinness was symbolic of the starving masses Only in the early 1900s did the current mindset of thin is in begin to take 45 fyimagazineny com over in Western society In other parts of the world however bigger is still better As with everything in life a happy medium of neither under nor over weight is best for our physical health but mental health is another story That s something that ought be obtained no matter which end of the spectrum one finds herself on
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  When Roizy speaks, she sounds surprisingly confident, considering her painful background. ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE LOVE YOUR LIFE When Roizy speaks she sounds surprisingly confident considering her painful background I m from a family of nine children Roizy tells me and my parents divorced when I was 18 My childhood home life was always difficult I ate out of emotion I used to walk into stores and the salesladies would tell me right away that they didn t carry my size It was hard knowing that I was big and that I stood out The sunshine filled days of camp were especially difficult The T shirts and slinky skirts that girls her age wore just weren t available in the larger sizes Roizy required Despite spending hours searching every store in town she was never able to find age appropriate clothing It was emotionally traumatic for a teen girl with a sensitive self image to have to wear clothing made for a matronly woman I couldn t find clothing that would let me feel my age Teen girls want so badly to fit in to be dressed like their classmates in the same styles but it just wasn t available For many overweight women this sentiment is echoed loud and clear Despite youth and the natural desire for pretty things designers have typically aimed at providing small sized women with many styles and cuts of clothing while sadly neglecting the heavier segment of society Being frequently excluded from current trends these women often find shopping a dreaded routine that leaves many of them wallowing in the throes of self consciousness and negativity without even a pretty dress to hide behind It wasn t always this way though Reaching into the annals of history we find that women who packed on the pounds were especially viewed as beautiful Take the Renaissance 44 fyimagazineny com PEOPLE COME IN CRYING TELLING ME I M DOING A TREMENDOUS MITZVAH BY GIVING DIGNITY BACK TO SO MANY LADIES AND GIRLS period for instance what would now be considered plus size women were frequently painted as tokens of beauty and fertility Weight was always considered the sure fire sign of members of high society while thinness was symbolic of the starving masses Only in the early 1900s did the current mindset of thin is in begin to take 45 fyimagazineny com over in Western society In other parts of the world however bigger is still better As with everything in life a happy medium of neither under nor over weight is best for our physical health but mental health is another story That s something that ought be obtained no matter which end of the spectrum one finds herself on
LOVE YOUR LIFE  LOVE YOUR LIFE  When Roizy speaks, she sounds surprisingly confident, considering her painful background. ...
LOVE YOUR LIFE When I ask Roizy if she is now comfortable with being overweight she says Every morning you have to embrace who you are and admit that you are trying your very best Whatever reason a person is heavy whether it s because of emotional eating or a health condition we are still meant to bake and cook and eat just like other Jewish wives and we re also meant to embrace our body whatever size it is An overweight Jewish woman is still beautiful even if she isn t the size that everyone else is At a young 22 years Roizy seems to be onto something that women many years her senior often miss She tells me that despite the pain of living in a dysfunctional home and being a victim of weight related bullying she always told herself that she d be a survivor One day she knew she d be able to say that she loves herself despite the influences that forced her to have a negative self image as a child When I was in sixth grade a teacher gave me a lot of encouragement Roizy tells me when discussing the bullying that wore away at her self esteem Don t listen to the people that mock you that teacher always told her The best way to take revenge is not by fighting back but by coming out on top by being strong and stable despite what you are going through You have a message to deliver to the world When you grow up you ll have something to say that will change people Taking that message to heart Roizy developed her vision Unfortunately taking on a mindset that permeates the thoughts of billions of people is a big order Small minded mentalities are everywhere from the billboards that we try to avoid seeing to the constant discussion about diets WORKOUT HOME AFTER ALL BIG CAN BE BEAUTIFUL TOO RIGHT IT S ONLY A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE WRITTEN BY REBECCA BLUE whenever women get together to the fat jokes that are shamelessly thrown about Diet ads abound in every publication and doctors too have admitted to looking at obese clients with a disdainful eye at times Sometimes it even crosses over into the workforce I was once interviewed over the phone for a job as a secretary in a fashion designer s office Roizy tells me and it sounded like a perfect fit At the end of the conversation the designer asked me to send her a picture Well I did and she told me I was too big for the job Shocked I ask Roizy to repeat herself Did you just say she asked for a picture and declined to hire you because of your weight Yes Roizy answers She wanted a size six or less secretary to use as model for her clothing in addition to answering the phones I didn t fit the bill due to my weight A couple months later she called me back and offered me the job saying that she d hire a model and I d do the office work I took the job and realized that I loved working with fabric and creating clothing and one day I realized that I could be a catalyst for change People like myself could really benefit from youthful clothing in our sizes As a case in point Roizy mentions how a heavier girl told her that she had to search for a simcha dress Wanting to look young and beautiful 46 fyimagazineny com at her engagement party that girl had bought two of the same pricey dresses and had them sewn together because nothing ready made was available in her size But Roizy s not done yet she tells me there is a lot of work in progress She s working on creating anti bullying workshops and is prepared to speak to parents and teachers about the dangers of weight based bullying and how to protect children s self esteem She s also contemplating arranging a for charity women only fashion show that will feature plus size models Roizy Reisman has great hopes for building the self esteem of the women of this generation as well as removing the weight stigma from the minds of the next Reshaping deeply ingrained beliefs however is a hard thing to do as I can personally testify The one interaction I d had with Roizy prior to our conversation was when she approached me and invited me to her new store that caters exclusively to plus size females Feeling rather self conscious about the extra weight I carry that familiar feeling of embarrassment spread through my veins Only now while talking with Roizy do I realize there is no reason to feel this way After all big can be beautiful too right It s only a matter of perspective fyi F inally the kids are back in school and your exercise regimen is right on track and then here we go again The Yomim Tovim are back with a bang Your daily workouts are threatened by the days you will go to shul the yummy foods and the kids being home You will find yourself busy cooking and spending lots of time with your family Don t let these all good mind you distractions throw you off the bandwagon of exercise Don t make excuses Instead schedule your workouts at home Make sure you set that time aside and guard it like a junkyard pit bull until you can get back into your usual gym routine Perhaps you are thinking it s not that easy or home workouts are not effective for beginners Maybe you feel lost Are you wondering what you can do at home to get a good solid workout No worries Here are some killer home workouts that are quick and will help you keep your endurance up and pumping so you can continue on your path to getting into great shape To make life simple keep the equipment to a minimum All you will need are medium to heavy sets of dumbbells a weighted medicine ball and a step stool Make sure you alternate the workouts and remember that you can always fine tune and adjust to your individual needs Be sure to practice all workouts with enough time to cover 3 sets at 10 20 repetitions WORKOUT 1 WALK OUTS PUSHUPS Bend over at the waist and place your hands on the floor keeping your knees as straight as possible to stretch the hamstrings Walk your hands into a neutral plank position and bend your elbows into a pushup Walk your hands back to your feet and slowly come back up and repeat SQUAT AND CURL Keeping the knees over the ankles sit back into a seated position Hold your chest up and place two heavy dumbbells between your legs then stand up while you curl your arms into a bicep curl Repeat JUMP SQUATS Squat down and load your power Explode into a plyometric jump Remember that the focus is not about the height of your jump but rather the powerful explosion from your quads and glutes Repeat BENT OVER DUMBBELL LAT ROWS Hold a heavy dumbbell in each hand Hang over at the hips keeping your abs tight and your spine neutral and aligned with your head Keep your shoulders back as you bring both dumbbells close to your body in a sawing motion Remember to squeeze your shoulder blades together as you saw back Repeat JUMPING JACKS WITH A WEIGHTED MEDICINE BALL With both hands hold a medicine ball and proceed to jump and jack bringing your hands and ball straight above your head 47 fyimagazineny com then down to your chest Keep repeating in a fluid motion LATERAL RAISES Use medium dumbbells and lift them each to a lateral side Raise both at the same time to shoulder level Make sure you take it slow and control it Repeat then at the end of your set hold to isolate at the top for 20 seconds MILITARY PRESS Hold your dumbbells and flip them up so your elbows are close to the sides of your rib cage palms facing out Slowly bring the dumbbells overhead while straightening the elbows MOUNTAIN CLIMBERS Get on your hands in a pushup position and start running Touch your toe towards your chest alternating each foot PLANK SHOULDER TOUCH Once you re back into plank pushup position touch fingers to opposite shoulder Alternate while keeping your hips square and abdominals tucked in right hand to left shoulder and vice versa WORKOUT 2 WALKING LUNGES Instead of walking front lunge to the other side of the room and back shoot for at least 10 lunges each way Make sure you have good form by keeping your chest up and knees over ankles You can hold dumbbells or a medicine ball for a greater challenge STEP UP KNEE RAISES Grab a step
LOVE YOUR LIFE  When I ask Roizy if she is now comfortable with being overweight, she says,    Every morning you have to e...
LOVE YOUR LIFE When I ask Roizy if she is now comfortable with being overweight she says Every morning you have to embrace who you are and admit that you are trying your very best Whatever reason a person is heavy whether it s because of emotional eating or a health condition we are still meant to bake and cook and eat just like other Jewish wives and we re also meant to embrace our body whatever size it is An overweight Jewish woman is still beautiful even if she isn t the size that everyone else is At a young 22 years Roizy seems to be onto something that women many years her senior often miss She tells me that despite the pain of living in a dysfunctional home and being a victim of weight related bullying she always told herself that she d be a survivor One day she knew she d be able to say that she loves herself despite the influences that forced her to have a negative self image as a child When I was in sixth grade a teacher gave me a lot of encouragement Roizy tells me when discussing the bullying that wore away at her self esteem Don t listen to the people that mock you that teacher always told her The best way to take revenge is not by fighting back but by coming out on top by being strong and stable despite what you are going through You have a message to deliver to the world When you grow up you ll have something to say that will change people Taking that message to heart Roizy developed her vision Unfortunately taking on a mindset that permeates the thoughts of billions of people is a big order Small minded mentalities are everywhere from the billboards that we try to avoid seeing to the constant discussion about diets WORKOUT HOME AFTER ALL BIG CAN BE BEAUTIFUL TOO RIGHT IT S ONLY A MATTER OF PERSPECTIVE WRITTEN BY REBECCA BLUE whenever women get together to the fat jokes that are shamelessly thrown about Diet ads abound in every publication and doctors too have admitted to looking at obese clients with a disdainful eye at times Sometimes it even crosses over into the workforce I was once interviewed over the phone for a job as a secretary in a fashion designer s office Roizy tells me and it sounded like a perfect fit At the end of the conversation the designer asked me to send her a picture Well I did and she told me I was too big for the job Shocked I ask Roizy to repeat herself Did you just say she asked for a picture and declined to hire you because of your weight Yes Roizy answers She wanted a size six or less secretary to use as model for her clothing in addition to answering the phones I didn t fit the bill due to my weight A couple months later she called me back and offered me the job saying that she d hire a model and I d do the office work I took the job and realized that I loved working with fabric and creating clothing and one day I realized that I could be a catalyst for change People like myself could really benefit from youthful clothing in our sizes As a case in point Roizy mentions how a heavier girl told her that she had to search for a simcha dress Wanting to look young and beautiful 46 fyimagazineny com at her engagement party that girl had bought two of the same pricey dresses and had them sewn together because nothing ready made was available in her size But Roizy s not done yet she tells me there is a lot of work in progress She s working on creating anti bullying workshops and is prepared to speak to parents and teachers about the dangers of weight based bullying and how to protect children s self esteem She s also contemplating arranging a for charity women only fashion show that will feature plus size models Roizy Reisman has great hopes for building the self esteem of the women of this generation as well as removing the weight stigma from the minds of the next Reshaping deeply ingrained beliefs however is a hard thing to do as I can personally testify The one interaction I d had with Roizy prior to our conversation was when she approached me and invited me to her new store that caters exclusively to plus size females Feeling rather self conscious about the extra weight I carry that familiar feeling of embarrassment spread through my veins Only now while talking with Roizy do I realize there is no reason to feel this way After all big can be beautiful too right It s only a matter of perspective fyi F inally the kids are back in school and your exercise regimen is right on track and then here we go again The Yomim Tovim are back with a bang Your daily workouts are threatened by the days you will go to shul the yummy foods and the kids being home You will find yourself busy cooking and spending lots of time with your family Don t let these all good mind you distractions throw you off the bandwagon of exercise Don t make excuses Instead schedule your workouts at home Make sure you set that time aside and guard it like a junkyard pit bull until you can get back into your usual gym routine Perhaps you are thinking it s not that easy or home workouts are not effective for beginners Maybe you feel lost Are you wondering what you can do at home to get a good solid workout No worries Here are some killer home workouts that are quick and will help you keep your endurance up and pumping so you can continue on your path to getting into great shape To make life simple keep the equipment to a minimum All you will need are medium to heavy sets of dumbbells a weighted medicine ball and a step stool Make sure you alternate the workouts and remember that you can always fine tune and adjust to your individual needs Be sure to practice all workouts with enough time to cover 3 sets at 10 20 repetitions WORKOUT 1 WALK OUTS PUSHUPS Bend over at the waist and place your hands on the floor keeping your knees as straight as possible to stretch the hamstrings Walk your hands into a neutral plank position and bend your elbows into a pushup Walk your hands back to your feet and slowly come back up and repeat SQUAT AND CURL Keeping the knees over the ankles sit back into a seated position Hold your chest up and place two heavy dumbbells between your legs then stand up while you curl your arms into a bicep curl Repeat JUMP SQUATS Squat down and load your power Explode into a plyometric jump Remember that the focus is not about the height of your jump but rather the powerful explosion from your quads and glutes Repeat BENT OVER DUMBBELL LAT ROWS Hold a heavy dumbbell in each hand Hang over at the hips keeping your abs tight and your spine neutral and aligned with your head Keep your shoulders back as you bring both dumbbells close to your body in a sawing motion Remember to squeeze your shoulder blades together as you saw back Repeat JUMPING JACKS WITH A WEIGHTED MEDICINE BALL With both hands hold a medicine ball and proceed to jump and jack bringing your hands and ball straight above your head 47 fyimagazineny com then down to your chest Keep repeating in a fluid motion LATERAL RAISES Use medium dumbbells and lift them each to a lateral side Raise both at the same time to shoulder level Make sure you take it slow and control it Repeat then at the end of your set hold to isolate at the top for 20 seconds MILITARY PRESS Hold your dumbbells and flip them up so your elbows are close to the sides of your rib cage palms facing out Slowly bring the dumbbells overhead while straightening the elbows MOUNTAIN CLIMBERS Get on your hands in a pushup position and start running Touch your toe towards your chest alternating each foot PLANK SHOULDER TOUCH Once you re back into plank pushup position touch fingers to opposite shoulder Alternate while keeping your hips square and abdominals tucked in right hand to left shoulder and vice versa WORKOUT 2 WALKING LUNGES Instead of walking front lunge to the other side of the room and back shoot for at least 10 lunges each way Make sure you have good form by keeping your chest up and knees over ankles You can hold dumbbells or a medicine ball for a greater challenge STEP UP KNEE RAISES Grab a step
LOVE YOUR LIFE  When I ask Roizy if she is now comfortable with being overweight, she says,    Every morning you have to e...
LOVE YOUR LIFE stool or use your steps Step up with your right leg and lunge your left knee to lift it up Keep alternating legs every time you step down HIGH KNEES Jog in place lifting the knees high and as close to the chest as possible You can add an extra challenge by jogging up and down on the step while still lifting the knees high DIPS Use that same step stool and keep your hands behind you as you keep your feet on the floor Bend the elbows up and down to work your triceps and try to keep the elbows at 90 degrees when you lift up For a greater challenge keep your knees straight For less of a challenge bend your knees slightly TRICEP EXTENSION Standing with softly bent knees bring a heavy dumbbell behind your head and extend your arms straight up Make sure you keep your elbows as close to your head as possible WOOD CHOPS Grab a dumbbell with both hands Keep legs and hip distance apart Bring the dumbbell over your right hip and rotate it up and over to your left shoulder Do 10 on each side then alternate GLUTE BRIDGE RAISE Lie on your back feet flat with bent knees Lift and lower your hips while tightly engaging the muscles in your abdomen and glutes Bring yourself back to a neutral position on the floor Be sure not to hyperextend your hips or arch your back SINGLE LEG GLUTE RAISE Same as above only with one leg raised Think of pressing your raised foot straight up into the ceiling Repeat 10 times then switch legs SINGLE LEG GLUTE BRIDGE WITH LEG LIFT Same as above only hold your bridge this time while you lift and lower the leg Again be sure to keep your abs tight as you will be working them even more Do 10 repetitions per side Quickly do a push up and jump both feet in stand and repeat This is another great one for kids BICYCLE CRUNCHES Lying on your back bring your right elbow to left knee and vice versa Fully extend the legs and twist your spine in turn to fully work those obliques GLUTE KICK BACK Get down on your hands and knees and bring your right knee towards your chest then back up towards the ceiling all the while squeezing your glute Repeat 20 times then pulse and squeeze for 10 seconds Then switch legs WORKOUT 3 SIDE LUNGES WITH DUMBBELLS Stand feet together and hold your dumbbells then take a big step out with your right leg Laterally bend pressing your behind forward past your hip while bending the right knee and keeping the left as straight as possible Keep both feet facing forward Repeat 10 times then switch legs SKATER JUMPS Bring the right leg back behind the left then the left leg back behind the right simulating a skating motion Use the arms as well and hop from side to side SQUAT AND BACK LUNGE Squat down into a sitting position After you fully stand back up lunge one leg back at a time Repeat JUMP ROPE Use a real jump rope or imaginary to jump for 1 minute This a great one for when the kids try to distract you Throw them a rope and they will be set FRONT SHOULDER RAISES Hold medium dumbbells and slowly raise forward to shoulder level and shoulder distance Lower with control At the finish of the set hold up the dumbbells and pulse for 20 seconds UPRIGHT FLIES Hinge over at your hip with medium dumbbells in hand Bring your hands over your chest then straighten out your elbows and slowly raise them up to shoulder level while squeezing the back of the shoulders and keeping those elbows as straight as possible Repeat BURPEES Explode up and drop down on your hands and belly 48 fyimagazineny com focus on organization A LIFELONG MISSION FIRE HYDRANTS Same as above but bring your knee lateral 20 times and pulse 10 seconds Then switch legs RUSSIAN TWIST Holding a medicine ball sit on the floor and bend your knees Lean back about 10 degrees and lift your feet off the ground if possible Rotate your arms and spine to the right and then to the left touching the ball down over your hips on each side T hese are just some great ideas for your home workouts that are enormously effective and lots of fun Feel free to modify mix it up for your individual needs or even include your kids You can make it a fun daily challenge or just enjoy the team support and family connection You could create the Mom team vs the Dad team or boys against girls The options are endless and including your family will make it more likely that you will maintain your schedule with the fewest distractions Most importantly don t give up Stay motivated work hard and you will surely snap right back into your daily workout routine without any lost time fyi Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and the co owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio rblue1994 yahoo com WRITTEN BY CHANI SCHWARTZ Rosh Hashanah has just passed and we davened all we can to be inscribed in the book of life and leave the rest up to Hashem But should we T here are things in life we prefer not to think about but not thinking is even worse Life insurance is one of them Who wants to imagine life without our spouses unable to provide for their family Who wants to be the catalyst for the helpless situation where their children must hold onto difficult jobs their parents only a distant memory Nobody wants their offspring to feel bitter that their parents had money for all the extras but could not leave some concrete plan for when they were gone Enter Mr Albert Kahn As soon as I started the conversation with Mr Kahn I was struck by his humility and humble approach His message was clear from the onset I am just a messenger This is my mitzvah my contribution to the world I asked him what inspired him to take this on something that most of us prefer to shove under the rug and here is his story I was an askan for Yesomim and Almanos trying to raise money to cover their basic needs and I realized in what a dire situation they are in how painful all of this is for them Losing a loved one is beyond painful already Any additional strain is so unnecessary At one point I came across an advert about life insurance and seeing how cheap this is I thought to myself why not be proactive He then proceeded to travel to gedolim to get endorsements from them Not only did they receive him warmly but they pointed out that a life insurance policy was a necessity and part of our daily living expenses They blessed his actions adding that anyone who is involved in spreading awareness on this vital matter is guaranteed tremendous schar as well as a segula for a lengthy life As he was talking I sensed his passionate desire to ease the burden of klal yisroel He has been doing this for 15 years and has saved countless families rabbaim and kollel yungerleit from financial ruin when a loved one passed away He saved them from being humiliated taking from other charities and being at the mercy of others Mr Kahn counsels individuals goes to Askanim in all majorly populated areas across the globe and advises 49 fyimagazineny com
LOVE YOUR LIFE  stool or use your steps. Step up with your right leg and lunge your left knee to lift it up. Keep alternat...
LOVE YOUR LIFE stool or use your steps Step up with your right leg and lunge your left knee to lift it up Keep alternating legs every time you step down HIGH KNEES Jog in place lifting the knees high and as close to the chest as possible You can add an extra challenge by jogging up and down on the step while still lifting the knees high DIPS Use that same step stool and keep your hands behind you as you keep your feet on the floor Bend the elbows up and down to work your triceps and try to keep the elbows at 90 degrees when you lift up For a greater challenge keep your knees straight For less of a challenge bend your knees slightly TRICEP EXTENSION Standing with softly bent knees bring a heavy dumbbell behind your head and extend your arms straight up Make sure you keep your elbows as close to your head as possible WOOD CHOPS Grab a dumbbell with both hands Keep legs and hip distance apart Bring the dumbbell over your right hip and rotate it up and over to your left shoulder Do 10 on each side then alternate GLUTE BRIDGE RAISE Lie on your back feet flat with bent knees Lift and lower your hips while tightly engaging the muscles in your abdomen and glutes Bring yourself back to a neutral position on the floor Be sure not to hyperextend your hips or arch your back SINGLE LEG GLUTE RAISE Same as above only with one leg raised Think of pressing your raised foot straight up into the ceiling Repeat 10 times then switch legs SINGLE LEG GLUTE BRIDGE WITH LEG LIFT Same as above only hold your bridge this time while you lift and lower the leg Again be sure to keep your abs tight as you will be working them even more Do 10 repetitions per side Quickly do a push up and jump both feet in stand and repeat This is another great one for kids BICYCLE CRUNCHES Lying on your back bring your right elbow to left knee and vice versa Fully extend the legs and twist your spine in turn to fully work those obliques GLUTE KICK BACK Get down on your hands and knees and bring your right knee towards your chest then back up towards the ceiling all the while squeezing your glute Repeat 20 times then pulse and squeeze for 10 seconds Then switch legs WORKOUT 3 SIDE LUNGES WITH DUMBBELLS Stand feet together and hold your dumbbells then take a big step out with your right leg Laterally bend pressing your behind forward past your hip while bending the right knee and keeping the left as straight as possible Keep both feet facing forward Repeat 10 times then switch legs SKATER JUMPS Bring the right leg back behind the left then the left leg back behind the right simulating a skating motion Use the arms as well and hop from side to side SQUAT AND BACK LUNGE Squat down into a sitting position After you fully stand back up lunge one leg back at a time Repeat JUMP ROPE Use a real jump rope or imaginary to jump for 1 minute This a great one for when the kids try to distract you Throw them a rope and they will be set FRONT SHOULDER RAISES Hold medium dumbbells and slowly raise forward to shoulder level and shoulder distance Lower with control At the finish of the set hold up the dumbbells and pulse for 20 seconds UPRIGHT FLIES Hinge over at your hip with medium dumbbells in hand Bring your hands over your chest then straighten out your elbows and slowly raise them up to shoulder level while squeezing the back of the shoulders and keeping those elbows as straight as possible Repeat BURPEES Explode up and drop down on your hands and belly 48 fyimagazineny com focus on organization A LIFELONG MISSION FIRE HYDRANTS Same as above but bring your knee lateral 20 times and pulse 10 seconds Then switch legs RUSSIAN TWIST Holding a medicine ball sit on the floor and bend your knees Lean back about 10 degrees and lift your feet off the ground if possible Rotate your arms and spine to the right and then to the left touching the ball down over your hips on each side T hese are just some great ideas for your home workouts that are enormously effective and lots of fun Feel free to modify mix it up for your individual needs or even include your kids You can make it a fun daily challenge or just enjoy the team support and family connection You could create the Mom team vs the Dad team or boys against girls The options are endless and including your family will make it more likely that you will maintain your schedule with the fewest distractions Most importantly don t give up Stay motivated work hard and you will surely snap right back into your daily workout routine without any lost time fyi Rebecca Blue is a certified personal trainer and the co owner of Rounds Elite Fitness a unique paleo fitness studio rblue1994 yahoo com WRITTEN BY CHANI SCHWARTZ Rosh Hashanah has just passed and we davened all we can to be inscribed in the book of life and leave the rest up to Hashem But should we T here are things in life we prefer not to think about but not thinking is even worse Life insurance is one of them Who wants to imagine life without our spouses unable to provide for their family Who wants to be the catalyst for the helpless situation where their children must hold onto difficult jobs their parents only a distant memory Nobody wants their offspring to feel bitter that their parents had money for all the extras but could not leave some concrete plan for when they were gone Enter Mr Albert Kahn As soon as I started the conversation with Mr Kahn I was struck by his humility and humble approach His message was clear from the onset I am just a messenger This is my mitzvah my contribution to the world I asked him what inspired him to take this on something that most of us prefer to shove under the rug and here is his story I was an askan for Yesomim and Almanos trying to raise money to cover their basic needs and I realized in what a dire situation they are in how painful all of this is for them Losing a loved one is beyond painful already Any additional strain is so unnecessary At one point I came across an advert about life insurance and seeing how cheap this is I thought to myself why not be proactive He then proceeded to travel to gedolim to get endorsements from them Not only did they receive him warmly but they pointed out that a life insurance policy was a necessity and part of our daily living expenses They blessed his actions adding that anyone who is involved in spreading awareness on this vital matter is guaranteed tremendous schar as well as a segula for a lengthy life As he was talking I sensed his passionate desire to ease the burden of klal yisroel He has been doing this for 15 years and has saved countless families rabbaim and kollel yungerleit from financial ruin when a loved one passed away He saved them from being humiliated taking from other charities and being at the mercy of others Mr Kahn counsels individuals goes to Askanim in all majorly populated areas across the globe and advises 49 fyimagazineny com
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GET A HANDLE ON IT LOVE YOUR LIFE Take A Break Parenting Marketing them what to do before their congregation needs help Whenever he is at a social event and meets someone for the first time he asks them for five minutes of their time to explain how simple and cheap it is to ensure the future of their loved ones The typical response is I haven t gotten down to it I will think about it There is no excuse he explains Life insurance policies are cheap A cheap policy is about 100 a year and a million dollar policy is as low as 280 a year for men and 250 a year for women If you can t do that we have discreet ways of getting you a policy within your means And if some cannot afford even that he raises the money for them It is cheaper to collect 300 a year than 300 00 later on if the family stays alone Unfortunately this situation does not discriminate and as much as we believe that all our loved ones including ourselves will live until 120 what happens if we don t He also advises that a group policy can be much cheaper and one can avoid needing a medical examination to qualify For someone with a preexisting condition this might be a good plan A regular policy would require a blood test to check if you are healthy but on the side I managed to save many lives as this is an extensive blood test and many silent illnesses were discovered along the way There were several people whose lives were saved by those blood tests Mr Kahn has many stories of insurance policies that were put in place just in time One of those examples is the group policy that was offered in Beis Medrash Govoha in Lakewood Mr Kahn was the catalyst for a young woman s financial security after she lost her husband The letter above of thanks says it all Can we imagine how much anguish and potential heartache Mr Kahn has prevented by teaching people to be proactive And he is not 50 fyimagazineny com done He is taking on yet another aspect of this subject that we all prefer to be oblivious to He is pushing for wills outlining guardianship for the children There are cases unfortunately where both parents are gone What happens to the kids Of course people would assume that they can go to their grandparents but which set I have had several cases where this has ripped a family apart One case has been dragging on for five years and the grandparents are still fighting over that child Had the parents known an inkling of the pain they would put their kids through they would not hesitate to finalize a will with a competent lawyer This is his message to the world Please make sure that your family is financially covered Don t assume this will never happen to you Quoting Rabbi Pesach Krohn It s not always only the other guy you are that other guy Buy your kids a life insurance policy as a wedding gift educate them from early on Don t assume that it is nobody s business what they do with their life because if the need arises it quickly becomes the community s business Have mercy on your family because if you don t how can you expect the community to He ends off with his trademark wish If you take action I wish for you that you should never need it for yourself or your loved ones fyi ACTIVITIES FOR YOM TOV VACATION WRITTEN BY MIRIAM W As the nights start getting cooler and the crickets come out I smile in anticipation of the upcoming Yomim Tovim Oh to sit in the sukkah on a beautiful day enchanted by the sounds of song and nature Oh to lift my eyes heavenward gazing through the bamboo slats enthralled by the azure blue sky as the sunlight streams in warming the heart and soul And the nights Floating stars twinkling winking through the rustling pine It makes me wax poetic every time Ma Chavy took away my Lego mentchies again I had it first No you didn t Did too Maaaa The poem abruptly stops Yom Tov time means wondrous moments new clothing delicious food and kids home from school Whether it s toddlers or teens or a mix of the two keeping them entertained can be quite a challenge But have no fear We had a talk with four moms just like you and polled them for the best home made entertainment for kids Together we compiled a list of 14 free activities for those off school days Be it before Yom Tov on Yom Tov or Chol Hamoed these great family games will keep em busy and happy Some are good old favorites and some are new ideas that kids of all ages will enjoy with each other and make great memories Feel free to improvise and add your own twists Here are the results for your enjoyment You re welcome And as all Mommys agreed nothing absolutely nothing beats having Mommy or Daddy play along
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GET A HANDLE ON IT LOVE YOUR LIFE Take A Break Parenting Marketing them what to do before their congregation needs help Whenever he is at a social event and meets someone for the first time he asks them for five minutes of their time to explain how simple and cheap it is to ensure the future of their loved ones The typical response is I haven t gotten down to it I will think about it There is no excuse he explains Life insurance policies are cheap A cheap policy is about 100 a year and a million dollar policy is as low as 280 a year for men and 250 a year for women If you can t do that we have discreet ways of getting you a policy within your means And if some cannot afford even that he raises the money for them It is cheaper to collect 300 a year than 300 00 later on if the family stays alone Unfortunately this situation does not discriminate and as much as we believe that all our loved ones including ourselves will live until 120 what happens if we don t He also advises that a group policy can be much cheaper and one can avoid needing a medical examination to qualify For someone with a preexisting condition this might be a good plan A regular policy would require a blood test to check if you are healthy but on the side I managed to save many lives as this is an extensive blood test and many silent illnesses were discovered along the way There were several people whose lives were saved by those blood tests Mr Kahn has many stories of insurance policies that were put in place just in time One of those examples is the group policy that was offered in Beis Medrash Govoha in Lakewood Mr Kahn was the catalyst for a young woman s financial security after she lost her husband The letter above of thanks says it all Can we imagine how much anguish and potential heartache Mr Kahn has prevented by teaching people to be proactive And he is not 50 fyimagazineny com done He is taking on yet another aspect of this subject that we all prefer to be oblivious to He is pushing for wills outlining guardianship for the children There are cases unfortunately where both parents are gone What happens to the kids Of course people would assume that they can go to their grandparents but which set I have had several cases where this has ripped a family apart One case has been dragging on for five years and the grandparents are still fighting over that child Had the parents known an inkling of the pain they would put their kids through they would not hesitate to finalize a will with a competent lawyer This is his message to the world Please make sure that your family is financially covered Don t assume this will never happen to you Quoting Rabbi Pesach Krohn It s not always only the other guy you are that other guy Buy your kids a life insurance policy as a wedding gift educate them from early on Don t assume that it is nobody s business what they do with their life because if the need arises it quickly becomes the community s business Have mercy on your family because if you don t how can you expect the community to He ends off with his trademark wish If you take action I wish for you that you should never need it for yourself or your loved ones fyi ACTIVITIES FOR YOM TOV VACATION WRITTEN BY MIRIAM W As the nights start getting cooler and the crickets come out I smile in anticipation of the upcoming Yomim Tovim Oh to sit in the sukkah on a beautiful day enchanted by the sounds of song and nature Oh to lift my eyes heavenward gazing through the bamboo slats enthralled by the azure blue sky as the sunlight streams in warming the heart and soul And the nights Floating stars twinkling winking through the rustling pine It makes me wax poetic every time Ma Chavy took away my Lego mentchies again I had it first No you didn t Did too Maaaa The poem abruptly stops Yom Tov time means wondrous moments new clothing delicious food and kids home from school Whether it s toddlers or teens or a mix of the two keeping them entertained can be quite a challenge But have no fear We had a talk with four moms just like you and polled them for the best home made entertainment for kids Together we compiled a list of 14 free activities for those off school days Be it before Yom Tov on Yom Tov or Chol Hamoed these great family games will keep em busy and happy Some are good old favorites and some are new ideas that kids of all ages will enjoy with each other and make great memories Feel free to improvise and add your own twists Here are the results for your enjoyment You re welcome And as all Mommys agreed nothing absolutely nothing beats having Mommy or Daddy play along
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GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT 1 BUILD A STORY Player 1 starts a story with an interesting sentence The next player adds his sentence to the story and then it s player three s turn Keep on adding sentences spinning a long tale You just never know how the story will turn out 2 FORTUNATELY UNFORTUNATELY Similar to story building this one will have kids roaring with laughter from the sheer hilarity of the story line Start the story with the word Fortunately Continue the next sentence with the word Unfortunately Follow this pattern until the story can t get any crazier Fortunately we went to a park Unfortunately we got a flat tire on the way Fortunately we had a spare in the trunk Unfortunately a dead squirrel was nestled in the center Fortunately Abba was brave and took it out Unfortunately Ma fainted 3 FAMILY ALBUMS Kids love seeing themselves growing up Take out those baby albums your wedding album They ll enjoy a trip down memory lane Bonus points if you sit down with them to tell the stories and history behind each pic Watch their faces light up and bask in the special attention 6 4 HIDE SEEK Yup it s still being played and will never go out of style And you ll be the parent of the year if you play along Kids LOVE to find grownups You might want to point out some off limit areas eg Parent s bedroom Pesach kitchen 5 PHOTO CHALLENGE This one s a winner for your tweens Write up a list of photo ops and take out the camera Kids have to take a shot of each requirement and bring it back once done You ll be amazed at their creativity Some requirement ideas Something green something fuzzy something out of place opposites Make them harder if older kids will be playing Got two cameras Divide the clan in two and host a competition 52 fyimagazineny com ALPHABET TRAVELER Who wants to go on a trip Starting with A work your way through the alphabet giving each child a turn Include a destination and an object that s coming along Can you remember the entire list at the end Example I m going to Aunt Avigayil and taking along an Aardvark I m going to Bermuda and taking along a Blue Banana 7 RHUBARB Not quite sure how the poor vegetable got to be the butt of this joke but kids will be rolling on the floor laughing within a few minutes Kids ask innocent questions from the player that s titled Rhubarb Simple stuff like how are you feeling today and what s your favorite candy With a very straight face all the child can answer in all seriousness is Rhubarb Got the giggles You re out Who can control their laughter longest Better video this one 53 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  1 BUILD-A-STORY Player 1 starts a story with an  interesting sentence. The next pl...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT 1 BUILD A STORY Player 1 starts a story with an interesting sentence The next player adds his sentence to the story and then it s player three s turn Keep on adding sentences spinning a long tale You just never know how the story will turn out 2 FORTUNATELY UNFORTUNATELY Similar to story building this one will have kids roaring with laughter from the sheer hilarity of the story line Start the story with the word Fortunately Continue the next sentence with the word Unfortunately Follow this pattern until the story can t get any crazier Fortunately we went to a park Unfortunately we got a flat tire on the way Fortunately we had a spare in the trunk Unfortunately a dead squirrel was nestled in the center Fortunately Abba was brave and took it out Unfortunately Ma fainted 3 FAMILY ALBUMS Kids love seeing themselves growing up Take out those baby albums your wedding album They ll enjoy a trip down memory lane Bonus points if you sit down with them to tell the stories and history behind each pic Watch their faces light up and bask in the special attention 6 4 HIDE SEEK Yup it s still being played and will never go out of style And you ll be the parent of the year if you play along Kids LOVE to find grownups You might want to point out some off limit areas eg Parent s bedroom Pesach kitchen 5 PHOTO CHALLENGE This one s a winner for your tweens Write up a list of photo ops and take out the camera Kids have to take a shot of each requirement and bring it back once done You ll be amazed at their creativity Some requirement ideas Something green something fuzzy something out of place opposites Make them harder if older kids will be playing Got two cameras Divide the clan in two and host a competition 52 fyimagazineny com ALPHABET TRAVELER Who wants to go on a trip Starting with A work your way through the alphabet giving each child a turn Include a destination and an object that s coming along Can you remember the entire list at the end Example I m going to Aunt Avigayil and taking along an Aardvark I m going to Bermuda and taking along a Blue Banana 7 RHUBARB Not quite sure how the poor vegetable got to be the butt of this joke but kids will be rolling on the floor laughing within a few minutes Kids ask innocent questions from the player that s titled Rhubarb Simple stuff like how are you feeling today and what s your favorite candy With a very straight face all the child can answer in all seriousness is Rhubarb Got the giggles You re out Who can control their laughter longest Better video this one 53 fyimagazineny com
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GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT 8 11 BOREDOM BOX No no This is not meant to ship off whiney kids Pick a pretty box jar container and fill it up with strips of paper Each strip should say a simple activity play a card game make a spaceship with Lego etc Kids with boredom blues can pick a paper for an idea of how to occupy themselves Great if there s one lonely youngster whose siblings aren t up for group games 9 10 OBSERVATION SKILLS Pick a bunch of random objects from all around the house Gather a nice mix like a toothbrush cutlery play figures jewelry candy etc Set them out on a large tray and have kids study the array for a few minutes Kids will then close their eyes while one object will be removed Who can guess which object is missing More than one object can be removed to give younger children a chance to guess quicker SIMON SAYS Voted the best toddler game in the U S Plus it gives them a healthy opportunity to do the opposite of what was instructed Use your imagination with funny names like Pimple Simon and Dimple Simon when issuing instructions that should not be followed Tots will crack up and ask you to keep playing till they go back to school THE WANDERING JEW You gotta be a real sport for this one but it s great for those Chol Hamoed choirs of where are we going All my friends are going somewhere Pack up some food and herd the brood into the car On the count of ten just start driving no destination in mind Children will take turns giving directions Turn left at the next light drive straight for 3 miles get off at the next exit At a predetermined time get out of the car and enjoy the unexpected destination A shopping trip at a local gas station convenience store an impromptu picnic on a deserted field Just make sure to have a GPS handy in case you don t know how to get back home SECRET BUDDIES CONVERSATION STARTERS If there s one thing that kids and adults can do endlessly it s talking Especially those teens who don t like to share much of their personal lives will enjoy having a chance to share in this chilled manner We compiled a list of conversation starters and questions and feel free to add Simply sitting around with some chips and soda while kids all have a chance to talk about themselves will foster many cozy and warm feelings If you can only keep one toy object which one would it be If you have quite a few kids in the house or if you re hosting many guests this will keep kids entertained all Yom Tov long with minimal intervention on your part On the first day off every child will write her name on a slip of paper and place it in a hat Kids will then pick a paper and find out who their secret buddy will be for the rest of the days off Children will do special things for their buddies for the next few days trying to remain undetected Make their bed in the morning hide a candy in their place setting slip an I love you note into their shoe Can children guess who the buddy was at the end What do you want to be when you grow up 14 If you were invisible what would you do What makes a good friend Who is your ideal friend What would you do with 1 000 If you would be a teacher how would you run your classroom If you can meet the president what would you say If you can have a chance to see someone from the past who would it be How would you design your dream house If you can decide the menu for a week what would you cook Where would you go for a dream vacation What would be the most embarrassing thing that can happen to you How do you see yourself in 10 years from now 54 fyimagazineny com 13 12 HAPPY HELPERS Let s not kid ourselves Vacation is not all about playing and games Sometimes we need some help in the kitchen with the youngsters or with some clean up But it s so much more fun to lazy around on the couch and it s so hard to get your nose out of the electronic game Create a fun helping atmosphere with this program Write up a list of chores with the amount of points each one s worth Set the table 10 points wash the dishes 50 points pack up the Legos 20 points watch the baby for a half hour 100 points Feel free to add an impromptu job and it s worth if something unusual comes up Kids will keep on adding to their total all Yom Tov long Decide on a goal amount that children have to reach by vacation s end to receive a special something Different ages should have different goals 55 fyimagazineny com
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  8  11  BOREDOM BOX No, no. This is not meant to ship off whiney kids. Pick a prett...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT 8 11 BOREDOM BOX No no This is not meant to ship off whiney kids Pick a pretty box jar container and fill it up with strips of paper Each strip should say a simple activity play a card game make a spaceship with Lego etc Kids with boredom blues can pick a paper for an idea of how to occupy themselves Great if there s one lonely youngster whose siblings aren t up for group games 9 10 OBSERVATION SKILLS Pick a bunch of random objects from all around the house Gather a nice mix like a toothbrush cutlery play figures jewelry candy etc Set them out on a large tray and have kids study the array for a few minutes Kids will then close their eyes while one object will be removed Who can guess which object is missing More than one object can be removed to give younger children a chance to guess quicker SIMON SAYS Voted the best toddler game in the U S Plus it gives them a healthy opportunity to do the opposite of what was instructed Use your imagination with funny names like Pimple Simon and Dimple Simon when issuing instructions that should not be followed Tots will crack up and ask you to keep playing till they go back to school THE WANDERING JEW You gotta be a real sport for this one but it s great for those Chol Hamoed choirs of where are we going All my friends are going somewhere Pack up some food and herd the brood into the car On the count of ten just start driving no destination in mind Children will take turns giving directions Turn left at the next light drive straight for 3 miles get off at the next exit At a predetermined time get out of the car and enjoy the unexpected destination A shopping trip at a local gas station convenience store an impromptu picnic on a deserted field Just make sure to have a GPS handy in case you don t know how to get back home SECRET BUDDIES CONVERSATION STARTERS If there s one thing that kids and adults can do endlessly it s talking Especially those teens who don t like to share much of their personal lives will enjoy having a chance to share in this chilled manner We compiled a list of conversation starters and questions and feel free to add Simply sitting around with some chips and soda while kids all have a chance to talk about themselves will foster many cozy and warm feelings If you can only keep one toy object which one would it be If you have quite a few kids in the house or if you re hosting many guests this will keep kids entertained all Yom Tov long with minimal intervention on your part On the first day off every child will write her name on a slip of paper and place it in a hat Kids will then pick a paper and find out who their secret buddy will be for the rest of the days off Children will do special things for their buddies for the next few days trying to remain undetected Make their bed in the morning hide a candy in their place setting slip an I love you note into their shoe Can children guess who the buddy was at the end What do you want to be when you grow up 14 If you were invisible what would you do What makes a good friend Who is your ideal friend What would you do with 1 000 If you would be a teacher how would you run your classroom If you can meet the president what would you say If you can have a chance to see someone from the past who would it be How would you design your dream house If you can decide the menu for a week what would you cook Where would you go for a dream vacation What would be the most embarrassing thing that can happen to you How do you see yourself in 10 years from now 54 fyimagazineny com 13 12 HAPPY HELPERS Let s not kid ourselves Vacation is not all about playing and games Sometimes we need some help in the kitchen with the youngsters or with some clean up But it s so much more fun to lazy around on the couch and it s so hard to get your nose out of the electronic game Create a fun helping atmosphere with this program Write up a list of chores with the amount of points each one s worth Set the table 10 points wash the dishes 50 points pack up the Legos 20 points watch the baby for a half hour 100 points Feel free to add an impromptu job and it s worth if something unusual comes up Kids will keep on adding to their total all Yom Tov long Decide on a goal amount that children have to reach by vacation s end to receive a special something Different ages should have different goals 55 fyimagazineny com
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GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT take a break B U S Y W O M E N S H A R E T H E I R TIPS WRITTEN BY MALKA WINNER It s after midnight and I m in the kitchen wrapping different sized pans in foil and eyeing the oven timer wondering whose brilliant iadea it was mine to bake just one more kugel My knees and back are aching my ankles buckling I want to go to bed but I know that tomorrow will look just the same What I really need is a break FYI Magazine spoke with women of various ages and stages to see how they de stress unwind and take a break during one of the busiest times of the year E 56 fyimagazineny com I like doing crafts says Devora Perl a mother of seven who works as a personal assistant I used to put away all my supplies at the end of the summer knowing I d only get a chance to use them again around Chanukah But I missed it too much One day I told myself Devora you deserve a break Take a little time out each week and treat yourself to a project Since then I ve always worked on something around Yom Tov time It s a good creative outlet She made an afikomen bag in the wee hours of the nights leading up to Bedikas Chametz She made wire and crystal napkin rings before Shavuot And now She s finishing up the embroidery on a tablecloth she started some time ago I can t wait to use it for Yom Tov It represents something special to me she says E Psychologists note that busy hands settle the mind with the repetitive motions having a meditation like effect A recent study showed that people who engage in a hobby at least 20 minutes a week are less prone to fatigue Hobby doers also have higher levels of positive psychosocial states and lower levels of depression From the time back to school shopping begins right up until Sukkos Elisheva Rubinoff is super busy This 40 year old mother of four from the Monsey area runs a home based clothing business Although she s super organized and starts her Yom Tov cooking well in advance between work regular life and cooking she doesn t get to sleep before 1 30 or 2 a m during the week or two leading up to Yom Tov I love shopping Elisheva confides I always arrange one retail therapy session for myself during the busiest time It s my chance to decompress and my opportunity to pick up a bargain Elisheva says it feels good to find some fun cheap game or toy for the kids for Yom Tov or to choose some home d cor item for her table or sukkah It doesn t have to be expensive or time consuming Just a well planned trip to the right store or two and I feel re energized E According to researchers at the University of Michigan shopping for stress relief aka retail therapy gives people a sense of control in their lives and takes away sadness It has also been shown to lower blood pressure and temporarily distract people from stressors in their lives A recent survey indicated that 91 percent of Americans occasionally engage in retail therapy as a form of stress relief Just don t overdo it or you ll end up even more stressed Tova Zucker a marketing manager and mother of seven usually enjoys the sound of silence in the kitchen But two years ago a friend sent Tova a song she loved and now Tova loves it too She found herself singing it as she cooked and a new tradition was born I made myself a playlist of happy upbeat fun favorites and I sing my heart out as I cook I ve always loved singing and this is a terrific way to let off some steam while I m working so hard E Listening to music has been shown to lower heart rate blood pressure and anxiety Similar to laughing singing draws more oxygen into the body leading to better circulation endorphin release and less stress 57 fyimagazineny com Working in outreach on several campuses in the tristate area Yehudis Klein and her husband in their early thirties end up with a packed house and table over Yom Tov Sukkos is one of the best times to invite people who are new to traditional Judaism But I feel a lot of pressure to make the food extra special and delicious and all homemade Her husband is really busy too preparing shiurim helping students get what they need for Yom Tov and more It sounds funny Yehudis says but we schedule dates with each other specifically during this busy season We go for bagels or coffee or we pick up sushi to have at home together It s a chance to break routine spend time together and reconnect She laughs And I get to eat something I didn t make E Experts say that scheduling a regular date with your husband is a great way to nourish your relationship Because it s official you ll make it an important priority and reap the stress relieving benefits of spending time with someone you love and getting a change of scene
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  take   a   break  B U S Y W O M E N S H A R E T H E I R  TIPS WRITTEN BY MALKA WIN...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT take a break B U S Y W O M E N S H A R E T H E I R TIPS WRITTEN BY MALKA WINNER It s after midnight and I m in the kitchen wrapping different sized pans in foil and eyeing the oven timer wondering whose brilliant iadea it was mine to bake just one more kugel My knees and back are aching my ankles buckling I want to go to bed but I know that tomorrow will look just the same What I really need is a break FYI Magazine spoke with women of various ages and stages to see how they de stress unwind and take a break during one of the busiest times of the year E 56 fyimagazineny com I like doing crafts says Devora Perl a mother of seven who works as a personal assistant I used to put away all my supplies at the end of the summer knowing I d only get a chance to use them again around Chanukah But I missed it too much One day I told myself Devora you deserve a break Take a little time out each week and treat yourself to a project Since then I ve always worked on something around Yom Tov time It s a good creative outlet She made an afikomen bag in the wee hours of the nights leading up to Bedikas Chametz She made wire and crystal napkin rings before Shavuot And now She s finishing up the embroidery on a tablecloth she started some time ago I can t wait to use it for Yom Tov It represents something special to me she says E Psychologists note that busy hands settle the mind with the repetitive motions having a meditation like effect A recent study showed that people who engage in a hobby at least 20 minutes a week are less prone to fatigue Hobby doers also have higher levels of positive psychosocial states and lower levels of depression From the time back to school shopping begins right up until Sukkos Elisheva Rubinoff is super busy This 40 year old mother of four from the Monsey area runs a home based clothing business Although she s super organized and starts her Yom Tov cooking well in advance between work regular life and cooking she doesn t get to sleep before 1 30 or 2 a m during the week or two leading up to Yom Tov I love shopping Elisheva confides I always arrange one retail therapy session for myself during the busiest time It s my chance to decompress and my opportunity to pick up a bargain Elisheva says it feels good to find some fun cheap game or toy for the kids for Yom Tov or to choose some home d cor item for her table or sukkah It doesn t have to be expensive or time consuming Just a well planned trip to the right store or two and I feel re energized E According to researchers at the University of Michigan shopping for stress relief aka retail therapy gives people a sense of control in their lives and takes away sadness It has also been shown to lower blood pressure and temporarily distract people from stressors in their lives A recent survey indicated that 91 percent of Americans occasionally engage in retail therapy as a form of stress relief Just don t overdo it or you ll end up even more stressed Tova Zucker a marketing manager and mother of seven usually enjoys the sound of silence in the kitchen But two years ago a friend sent Tova a song she loved and now Tova loves it too She found herself singing it as she cooked and a new tradition was born I made myself a playlist of happy upbeat fun favorites and I sing my heart out as I cook I ve always loved singing and this is a terrific way to let off some steam while I m working so hard E Listening to music has been shown to lower heart rate blood pressure and anxiety Similar to laughing singing draws more oxygen into the body leading to better circulation endorphin release and less stress 57 fyimagazineny com Working in outreach on several campuses in the tristate area Yehudis Klein and her husband in their early thirties end up with a packed house and table over Yom Tov Sukkos is one of the best times to invite people who are new to traditional Judaism But I feel a lot of pressure to make the food extra special and delicious and all homemade Her husband is really busy too preparing shiurim helping students get what they need for Yom Tov and more It sounds funny Yehudis says but we schedule dates with each other specifically during this busy season We go for bagels or coffee or we pick up sushi to have at home together It s a chance to break routine spend time together and reconnect She laughs And I get to eat something I didn t make E Experts say that scheduling a regular date with your husband is a great way to nourish your relationship Because it s official you ll make it an important priority and reap the stress relieving benefits of spending time with someone you love and getting a change of scene
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  take   a   break  B U S Y W O M E N S H A R E T H E I R  TIPS WRITTEN BY MALKA WIN...
GET A HANDLE ON IT Spending her days glued to a computer screen and her nights in the kitchen Mali Fried a computer programmer and mother of five finds that the best way to get a break during Yom Tov season is to make an appointment for one I always book a massage or reflexology appointment for Yom Tov season When it s on the calendar and it s booked it s non negotiable I ll go and I won t end up feeling bad about taking time off The massage or reflexology is just what she needs It feels so good I feel invigorated after like my blood is circulating better And it clears my mind too E A Chinese study showed that 75 percent of people who went for reflexology treatments once a day for a week experienced dramatic improvement in their stress symptoms GET A HANDLE ON IT Penina D a bubby is a very busy hostess come Yom Tov time She prepares loads of food for her married children and grandchildren whose varied tastes and numerous dietary restrictions and allergies keep her on her toes And let me tell you she laughs those toes and feet and legs and ankles are not as young as they used to be So how does Penina press pause on life I take opportunities throughout the day to sit down put my feet up and make some calls to family and friends I say I m calling to wish them a good Yom Tov which I am but I m also taking a break It feels great to schmooze and relax a bit E Calling a friend is one of the American Psychological Association s top five picks for stress relief Sharing with a loved one has a tremendous calming effect on the mind and body 58 fyimagazineny com Although Judy Ehrlich a Brooklyn based nurse and mother of several young children buys a lot of Yom Tov food she still finds herself in the kitchen in the wee hours on the days leading up to Yom Tov Then there s laundry shopping and appointments It s a very stressful exhausting time she admits Last year I just felt like I needed to laugh so I watched a bunch of funny clips and videos on my computer It was true comic relief Every night before bed I took a few minutes to laugh over these silly things and I really felt a release I m planning to do it again this year and have even been saving clips for it E Doctors at the Mayo Clinic note that laughter increases one s oxygen intake stimulating the heart lungs and muscles relaxes the body improves circulation and enhances endorphin production A good hearty laugh has been shown to leave a person s muscles more relaxed for up to 45 minutes afterward fyi How Much Should I Spend on Google Ads WRITTEN BY BARUCH LEIFER Google Adwords is a great way to reach your target audience In their moment of need you can target them with ads that solve their problem For most businesses it Name has been changed is hard to find a better form of marketing than Google Adwords 59 fyimagazineny com B ut the question is how much to spend on ads Similar to finding a Facebook budget as we discussed in last issue you first need to determine your goals Are you looking for more traffic to a website or landing page Or are you trying to increase the amount of calls or leads your business gets Maybe you want to drive up direct sales on your website Next you need to decide on a reasonable timeframe in which you expect to hit these goals A 100 increase in revenue overnight is obviously not realistic and your
GET A HANDLE ON IT  Spending her days glued to a computer screen and her nights in the kitchen, Mali Fried, a computer pro...
GET A HANDLE ON IT Spending her days glued to a computer screen and her nights in the kitchen Mali Fried a computer programmer and mother of five finds that the best way to get a break during Yom Tov season is to make an appointment for one I always book a massage or reflexology appointment for Yom Tov season When it s on the calendar and it s booked it s non negotiable I ll go and I won t end up feeling bad about taking time off The massage or reflexology is just what she needs It feels so good I feel invigorated after like my blood is circulating better And it clears my mind too E A Chinese study showed that 75 percent of people who went for reflexology treatments once a day for a week experienced dramatic improvement in their stress symptoms GET A HANDLE ON IT Penina D a bubby is a very busy hostess come Yom Tov time She prepares loads of food for her married children and grandchildren whose varied tastes and numerous dietary restrictions and allergies keep her on her toes And let me tell you she laughs those toes and feet and legs and ankles are not as young as they used to be So how does Penina press pause on life I take opportunities throughout the day to sit down put my feet up and make some calls to family and friends I say I m calling to wish them a good Yom Tov which I am but I m also taking a break It feels great to schmooze and relax a bit E Calling a friend is one of the American Psychological Association s top five picks for stress relief Sharing with a loved one has a tremendous calming effect on the mind and body 58 fyimagazineny com Although Judy Ehrlich a Brooklyn based nurse and mother of several young children buys a lot of Yom Tov food she still finds herself in the kitchen in the wee hours on the days leading up to Yom Tov Then there s laundry shopping and appointments It s a very stressful exhausting time she admits Last year I just felt like I needed to laugh so I watched a bunch of funny clips and videos on my computer It was true comic relief Every night before bed I took a few minutes to laugh over these silly things and I really felt a release I m planning to do it again this year and have even been saving clips for it E Doctors at the Mayo Clinic note that laughter increases one s oxygen intake stimulating the heart lungs and muscles relaxes the body improves circulation and enhances endorphin production A good hearty laugh has been shown to leave a person s muscles more relaxed for up to 45 minutes afterward fyi How Much Should I Spend on Google Ads WRITTEN BY BARUCH LEIFER Google Adwords is a great way to reach your target audience In their moment of need you can target them with ads that solve their problem For most businesses it Name has been changed is hard to find a better form of marketing than Google Adwords 59 fyimagazineny com B ut the question is how much to spend on ads Similar to finding a Facebook budget as we discussed in last issue you first need to determine your goals Are you looking for more traffic to a website or landing page Or are you trying to increase the amount of calls or leads your business gets Maybe you want to drive up direct sales on your website Next you need to decide on a reasonable timeframe in which you expect to hit these goals A 100 increase in revenue overnight is obviously not realistic and your
GET A HANDLE ON IT  Spending her days glued to a computer screen and her nights in the kitchen, Mali Fried, a computer pro...
GET A HANDLE ON IT EXAMPLE 1 GET A HANDLE ON IT hair accessories related keywords certified accountant related keywords EXAMPLE 2 EXAMPLE 3 1 1 1 Goal Increase traffic by 10 Goal Increase leads by 10 hair accessories related keywords Goal Increase sales an extra 50 a month 2 2 2 New Clicks Goal 10 of current 10 000 1 000 New Leads Goal 10 of current 5 000 500 Sales Conversion 2 of 2 500 clicks 500 conversions 3 3 CPC 0 73 CPC 10 RESULT 730 per month RESULT 5 000 per month RESULT 1 825 per month goals should be more in line with I want to increase website traffic by 10 over the next 3 months or I want to drive 10 more calls to my business in the next 4 months Now we need to find the CPC cost per click of the keywords to target Using Google Keyword Planner you can find a keyword ideas relevant to your business and b their estimated CPC For example if you sell hair accessories using the keyword planner you find hair clips headbands and hair bows with a suggested CPC of 71 1 06 and 42 respectively It is important to note that Google s suggestions are based on achieving a second position ad placement This means your ad would show in a high spot and would most likely get a decent CTR click through rate You can also bid much lower and have a lower CTR but for now we will work with these numbers Combining simple math with our goal we can find the ideal budget Example 1 You want to increase traffic by 10 for hair accessories related keywords Your current traffic is 10 000 visitors per month so that means you want another 1 000 clicks The average CPC for the 3 keywords is 73 multiply that by 1 000 clicks and you have a budget of 730 per month Example 2 You want to increase leads by 10 Let s say the keyword you target is certified accountant with a fictional CPC of 10 Currently your site gets 5 000 visits and converts at a 10 conversion rate conversion rate is the percentage of visitors that take a desired action in this case becoming a lead by submitting a form giving you 500 leads per month You would like to grow that by another 50 leads At a 10 conversion rate you would need 500 clicks with a CPC of 10 you are looking at spending an additional 5 000 to get those leads Example 3 Back to hair accessories Your website with 10 000 visitors converts at 2 giving you 200 sales per month You want to increase that to 250 sales so you need another 50 At 2 conversion you would need 2 500 clicks to get 500 conversions Multiplied by the average CPC of 73 you would need a budget of 1 825 Just so you know These examples definitely illustrate a proper method you can use to determine a budget but in fact are very basic as well In reality Google Adwords is very complex and there are many factors to take into account In general there won t be only 3 keyword suggestions there will be closer to 100 There is also the average monthly search volume to take into account which affects the inventory of clicks Many of those keywords will be better than others as well HOWEVER this is still a very good way to get a rough idea of how much you will need to spend to get the desired results fyi 60 fyimagazineny com 3 CPC 0 73 Baruch Leifer is a professional digital marketing specialist To see how Baruch can help your business grow email baruch centsibleclicks com for a FREE consultation Or visit centsibleclicks com 5 WAYS TO CUT EREV YOM TOV EXPENSES WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER 1 LISTS LISTS LISTS Look over your recipes and write down all you will need for Yom Tov for all the children and the grandchildren And when you get to the store don t veer away from your list Stick to the budget If you are taking kids with you tell them beforehand that you will not buy expensive candy or toys they find in the aisle only food that is on the list Even better write the list down and send your spouse or child that is old enough to grocery shop That s how you will not end up buying expensive mints candy and extra steak on a whim 2 SERVE SIMPLE FOODS PRIOR TO YOM TOV About two years ago when my daughter was four she came into the kitchen and nonchalantly announced that she wished I would die I could not imagine what was wrong I had not scolded her and we were laughing together two minutes before What s bothering you Chany Why do you want me to die I begged Because I would take care of myself and I would make farina for breakfast and supper every day I didn t know if I should cry that my daughter
GET A HANDLE ON IT  EXAMPLE 1   GET A HANDLE ON IT  hair accessories related keywords  certified accountant related keywor...
GET A HANDLE ON IT EXAMPLE 1 GET A HANDLE ON IT hair accessories related keywords certified accountant related keywords EXAMPLE 2 EXAMPLE 3 1 1 1 Goal Increase traffic by 10 Goal Increase leads by 10 hair accessories related keywords Goal Increase sales an extra 50 a month 2 2 2 New Clicks Goal 10 of current 10 000 1 000 New Leads Goal 10 of current 5 000 500 Sales Conversion 2 of 2 500 clicks 500 conversions 3 3 CPC 0 73 CPC 10 RESULT 730 per month RESULT 5 000 per month RESULT 1 825 per month goals should be more in line with I want to increase website traffic by 10 over the next 3 months or I want to drive 10 more calls to my business in the next 4 months Now we need to find the CPC cost per click of the keywords to target Using Google Keyword Planner you can find a keyword ideas relevant to your business and b their estimated CPC For example if you sell hair accessories using the keyword planner you find hair clips headbands and hair bows with a suggested CPC of 71 1 06 and 42 respectively It is important to note that Google s suggestions are based on achieving a second position ad placement This means your ad would show in a high spot and would most likely get a decent CTR click through rate You can also bid much lower and have a lower CTR but for now we will work with these numbers Combining simple math with our goal we can find the ideal budget Example 1 You want to increase traffic by 10 for hair accessories related keywords Your current traffic is 10 000 visitors per month so that means you want another 1 000 clicks The average CPC for the 3 keywords is 73 multiply that by 1 000 clicks and you have a budget of 730 per month Example 2 You want to increase leads by 10 Let s say the keyword you target is certified accountant with a fictional CPC of 10 Currently your site gets 5 000 visits and converts at a 10 conversion rate conversion rate is the percentage of visitors that take a desired action in this case becoming a lead by submitting a form giving you 500 leads per month You would like to grow that by another 50 leads At a 10 conversion rate you would need 500 clicks with a CPC of 10 you are looking at spending an additional 5 000 to get those leads Example 3 Back to hair accessories Your website with 10 000 visitors converts at 2 giving you 200 sales per month You want to increase that to 250 sales so you need another 50 At 2 conversion you would need 2 500 clicks to get 500 conversions Multiplied by the average CPC of 73 you would need a budget of 1 825 Just so you know These examples definitely illustrate a proper method you can use to determine a budget but in fact are very basic as well In reality Google Adwords is very complex and there are many factors to take into account In general there won t be only 3 keyword suggestions there will be closer to 100 There is also the average monthly search volume to take into account which affects the inventory of clicks Many of those keywords will be better than others as well HOWEVER this is still a very good way to get a rough idea of how much you will need to spend to get the desired results fyi 60 fyimagazineny com 3 CPC 0 73 Baruch Leifer is a professional digital marketing specialist To see how Baruch can help your business grow email baruch centsibleclicks com for a FREE consultation Or visit centsibleclicks com 5 WAYS TO CUT EREV YOM TOV EXPENSES WRITTEN BY NISSI UNGER 1 LISTS LISTS LISTS Look over your recipes and write down all you will need for Yom Tov for all the children and the grandchildren And when you get to the store don t veer away from your list Stick to the budget If you are taking kids with you tell them beforehand that you will not buy expensive candy or toys they find in the aisle only food that is on the list Even better write the list down and send your spouse or child that is old enough to grocery shop That s how you will not end up buying expensive mints candy and extra steak on a whim 2 SERVE SIMPLE FOODS PRIOR TO YOM TOV About two years ago when my daughter was four she came into the kitchen and nonchalantly announced that she wished I would die I could not imagine what was wrong I had not scolded her and we were laughing together two minutes before What s bothering you Chany Why do you want me to die I begged Because I would take care of myself and I would make farina for breakfast and supper every day I didn t know if I should cry that my daughter
GET A HANDLE ON IT  EXAMPLE 1   GET A HANDLE ON IT  hair accessories related keywords  certified accountant related keywor...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT positive parenting wanted to trade me for a bowl of farina or laugh that she was so refreshingly young and uncomplicated Farina for dinner may not be gourmet and sometimes it s tempting to order food Erev Yom Tov because who has time to cook dinner But simple dinners like grilled cheese sandwiches or a tuna melt can delight a kid as much as a slice of pizza You can really slash expensive eating the week before Yom Tov and do easier creative sandwich dinners or a bowl of oatmeal or farina 3 SEEK OUT DISCOUNTS AND FREEBIES Need more beds to accommodate the guests Look for community circulars and specials and compare prices on furniture or other big ticket items You can save big by comparing prices in stores In addition if your budget is maxed out skip the toys and books this Yom Tov They can really put an extra strain on your budget But your kids don t have to lose out Arrange a toy swap with a neighbor or friend and do the same for books or take advantage of your local library 4 WRITTEN BY CHAYA GUTTMAN LCSW AND LEAH DAVIDOWITZ LCSW PAY WITH CASH The thing about cash is that it is real For months my husband and I budgeted by not using our credit cards And it works like a charm I knew exactly how much cash I had and made decisions each week based on the cash that was left after immediate expenses You don t swipe anything or push off paying when you use cash It s also quite clear how much you can actually spend So if you are short on cash you will not buy extra ice cream or a seven layer cake You are likely to focus on the meat fruits and veggies and all you really need to make Yom Tov Psychologically swiping plastic may make you feel like you have an unlimited amount of funds but that is true only until you need to pay the bill 5 BE UNLOYAL Not to family of course but to brands Brand loyalty costs a 62 fyimagazineny com fortune By comparing food items and not sticking to the brand you have known all your life you can save a significant amount of money on your grocery bill every week Shopping in your pharmacy Buy the pharmacy brand of wipes diapers toothpaste and detergent It will save you a lot of money To illustrate according to Bloomberg com a 100 tablet package of store brand aspirin at CVS costs you 1 99 Bayer aspirin is three times that much And generic brands work just as well in most cases Also these stores often have points and rewards for signing up to their stores Go for it I have saved hundreds of dollars buying Walgreens brand items especially before Yom Tov when I buy in bulk According to Bloomberg com if people bought store brands whenever they could they d save as much as 44 billion That means all of us With that kind of money on the line doesn t it pay to be brand unloyal fyi SIBLING RIVALRY How To Create a More Peaceful Family Dynamic in Your Home I hate Shlomo You love her more than me A hhh Sibling Rivalry The one component of family dynamics that can drive even the most relaxed parent to the brink of insanity Although siblings can be the best of friends it is rare to find a child who gets along perfectly with his or her siblings This phenomenon is hardly a new one Sibling conflict is as old as Cain and Hevel and as renowned as Cinderella and her evil step sisters And so in conjunction with the Yomim Tovim when sibling conflict often reaches an all time high we bring you a greater understanding of the root causes of sibling rivalry and some parenting techniques that actually work WHAT CAUSES SIBLING RIVALRY There are many factors involved in the root cause of sibling conflict It is important to remember that children don t have the ability to choose the How come she always gets special privileges and I don t family they are born into This means that children are forced to deal with a variety of genders ages and temperaments in their family makeup This is not in and of itself a negative thing just a fact of life which can effectively prepare a child for the circumstances in their lifetime both negative and positive Some factors that attribute to sibling disputes are J POSITION IN THE FAMILY Oldest children are often given more responsibilities and younger children may spend their entire lives trying to live up to their older siblings Oldest children in particular are faced with the unique challenge of giving up their prized spot as the only child forever Therefore older children often feel resentful towards their younger siblings and feel like they get away with more 63 fyimagazineny com Younger children often idolize and idealize their older siblings and feel like they can never measure up J GENDER AND TEMPERAMENT Children of differing gender and or temperament have a different way of going about most aspects of their lives and this can often cause a clash in the way that they view the world around them This becomes most apparent during play and chore time Children of differing genders may start out as best of friends and drift apart as they get older and less understanding of each other s differences J AGE In the process of growing up together children will experience waves of time in which they either play together or apart depending on developmental stage A four and seven year old may gravitate towards
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  positive   parenting  wanted to trade me for a bowl of farina, or laugh that she w...
GET A HANDLE ON IT GET A HANDLE ON IT positive parenting wanted to trade me for a bowl of farina or laugh that she was so refreshingly young and uncomplicated Farina for dinner may not be gourmet and sometimes it s tempting to order food Erev Yom Tov because who has time to cook dinner But simple dinners like grilled cheese sandwiches or a tuna melt can delight a kid as much as a slice of pizza You can really slash expensive eating the week before Yom Tov and do easier creative sandwich dinners or a bowl of oatmeal or farina 3 SEEK OUT DISCOUNTS AND FREEBIES Need more beds to accommodate the guests Look for community circulars and specials and compare prices on furniture or other big ticket items You can save big by comparing prices in stores In addition if your budget is maxed out skip the toys and books this Yom Tov They can really put an extra strain on your budget But your kids don t have to lose out Arrange a toy swap with a neighbor or friend and do the same for books or take advantage of your local library 4 WRITTEN BY CHAYA GUTTMAN LCSW AND LEAH DAVIDOWITZ LCSW PAY WITH CASH The thing about cash is that it is real For months my husband and I budgeted by not using our credit cards And it works like a charm I knew exactly how much cash I had and made decisions each week based on the cash that was left after immediate expenses You don t swipe anything or push off paying when you use cash It s also quite clear how much you can actually spend So if you are short on cash you will not buy extra ice cream or a seven layer cake You are likely to focus on the meat fruits and veggies and all you really need to make Yom Tov Psychologically swiping plastic may make you feel like you have an unlimited amount of funds but that is true only until you need to pay the bill 5 BE UNLOYAL Not to family of course but to brands Brand loyalty costs a 62 fyimagazineny com fortune By comparing food items and not sticking to the brand you have known all your life you can save a significant amount of money on your grocery bill every week Shopping in your pharmacy Buy the pharmacy brand of wipes diapers toothpaste and detergent It will save you a lot of money To illustrate according to Bloomberg com a 100 tablet package of store brand aspirin at CVS costs you 1 99 Bayer aspirin is three times that much And generic brands work just as well in most cases Also these stores often have points and rewards for signing up to their stores Go for it I have saved hundreds of dollars buying Walgreens brand items especially before Yom Tov when I buy in bulk According to Bloomberg com if people bought store brands whenever they could they d save as much as 44 billion That means all of us With that kind of money on the line doesn t it pay to be brand unloyal fyi SIBLING RIVALRY How To Create a More Peaceful Family Dynamic in Your Home I hate Shlomo You love her more than me A hhh Sibling Rivalry The one component of family dynamics that can drive even the most relaxed parent to the brink of insanity Although siblings can be the best of friends it is rare to find a child who gets along perfectly with his or her siblings This phenomenon is hardly a new one Sibling conflict is as old as Cain and Hevel and as renowned as Cinderella and her evil step sisters And so in conjunction with the Yomim Tovim when sibling conflict often reaches an all time high we bring you a greater understanding of the root causes of sibling rivalry and some parenting techniques that actually work WHAT CAUSES SIBLING RIVALRY There are many factors involved in the root cause of sibling conflict It is important to remember that children don t have the ability to choose the How come she always gets special privileges and I don t family they are born into This means that children are forced to deal with a variety of genders ages and temperaments in their family makeup This is not in and of itself a negative thing just a fact of life which can effectively prepare a child for the circumstances in their lifetime both negative and positive Some factors that attribute to sibling disputes are J POSITION IN THE FAMILY Oldest children are often given more responsibilities and younger children may spend their entire lives trying to live up to their older siblings Oldest children in particular are faced with the unique challenge of giving up their prized spot as the only child forever Therefore older children often feel resentful towards their younger siblings and feel like they get away with more 63 fyimagazineny com Younger children often idolize and idealize their older siblings and feel like they can never measure up J GENDER AND TEMPERAMENT Children of differing gender and or temperament have a different way of going about most aspects of their lives and this can often cause a clash in the way that they view the world around them This becomes most apparent during play and chore time Children of differing genders may start out as best of friends and drift apart as they get older and less understanding of each other s differences J AGE In the process of growing up together children will experience waves of time in which they either play together or apart depending on developmental stage A four and seven year old may gravitate towards
GET A HANDLE ON IT  GET A HANDLE ON IT  positive   parenting  wanted to trade me for a bowl of farina, or laugh that she w...
GET A HANDLE ON IT the same type of play but as they get older they may experience times where their age difference seems starker in this regard J PARENTAL ATTITUDE This may be the most important factor in the root cause of sibling rivalry Parents are often advised to behave in a fair manner towards their children however this is almost impossible to do as parents will inevitably feel differently about each of their children and react to their behaviors accordingly This is true for the simple fact that children require a different sort of parenting dependent on their own special brand of uniqueness In short parents who strive to treat each child equally are setting themselves up for failure Children should thus be treated according to their age temperament gender position in family and consequential to their behavior and needs As Mishlei teaches us so well chanoch le naar al pi darko gam ki yazkin lo yasur mimena Educate a child according to his her way and even when older he she will not deviate from it This leads us to examine some practical tips on how to best handle sibling rivalry in order to create a good family balance J TEACH PROBLEM SOLVING AND CONFLICT RESOLUTION Although the bickering may be driving you crazy try not to intervene unless there is physical aggression involved or the fighting becomes excessive This teaches your children how to resolve their own conflicts which may ultimately lead to less fighting Remember that intervening each time your children argue may lead them to believe that you are favoring one over the other which leads to further resentment and conflict Teach your children how to best collaborate and compromise Refrain from yelling and model effective communication by listening and clarifying each child s point of view Then ask your kids to come up with a solution on their own Children are often excellent problem solvers and may surprise you If necessary help them by proposing several solutions and have them choose one that they can best compromise on i e Writing a schedule that will allow each child a set amount of time to play with a new toy your child feel special During this time make sure to remain validating empathic and interested in your child s life J ENFORCE YOUR OWN RULES Certain non negotiable rules should be set and enforced for the entire family Examples of this include no hitting destroying property yelling etc Praise all children for following rules and enforce the rules in a consistent manner with each of your children J ALLIES Often parents complain of their most challenging child who regularly starts up with their siblings Frequently but not always this is the oldest child or the child who feels most misunderstood within the family makeup Create an ally in this child with a simple wink and a nod perhaps alluding to a special joke or memory the two of you share Include this child in the simple process of your life such as shopping and decision making to help them willingly cooperate with their siblings Remember that acting out is often a cry for help Keep in mind that it is completely normal for siblings to fight amongst themselves By implementing the aforementioned techniques you should note a decrease in the rivalry At the very least you should feel less panicked about the situation and take it all in stride however when fighting escalates to the point of emotional and physical aggression it should be dealt with in a more specialized manner If you feel the sibling rivalry in your home has become excessive speak to a therapist in your community to get the help your children deserve fyi J DON T MAKE COMPARISONS OR PLAY FAVORITES This is perhaps one of the most damaging things a parent can do to their children and to their relationships with their siblings Every family has that one member who most often gets into trouble and defies rules On the flip side every family has the one angel who is almost always agreeable and happy Never compare your children Why can t you be more like your brother or give preferential treatment J ALONE TIME Children often act out when they are seeking attention If a child feels that they aren t getting enough of your attention they may feel resentful towards their siblings Although it is difficult to spend alone time with each child especially in large families it is imperative that you do so to foster a healthy parent child connection Alone time does not always necessitate elaborate trips or even time away from the house Ten to fifteen minutes of alone time think grocery shopping or folding laundry together is often enough attention to make 64 fyimagazineny com J KEEP CHILDREN IN THE LOOP If there is a change in family dynamic such as the upcoming birth of a baby include your children in the process of welcoming and caring for the baby Muffins N Moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman LCSW and Leah Davidowitz LCSW Feeling overwhelmed Email muffinsnmoms gmail com for a free phone consultation Individual parenting sessions are also available by request Do you know what chemicals are lurking in your everyday life Cleaning products and snacks have more in them than you d like to think ADOPTION IS A REWARDING WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE but the challenges faced are not just the practical and legal The emotional journey can be fraught as well WE ALL WANT TO BE HER the all capable homemaker with the means to invite and entertain company On the flip side read up on how to be a great guest
GET A HANDLE ON IT  the same type of play, but as they get older they may experience times where their age difference seem...
GET A HANDLE ON IT the same type of play but as they get older they may experience times where their age difference seems starker in this regard J PARENTAL ATTITUDE This may be the most important factor in the root cause of sibling rivalry Parents are often advised to behave in a fair manner towards their children however this is almost impossible to do as parents will inevitably feel differently about each of their children and react to their behaviors accordingly This is true for the simple fact that children require a different sort of parenting dependent on their own special brand of uniqueness In short parents who strive to treat each child equally are setting themselves up for failure Children should thus be treated according to their age temperament gender position in family and consequential to their behavior and needs As Mishlei teaches us so well chanoch le naar al pi darko gam ki yazkin lo yasur mimena Educate a child according to his her way and even when older he she will not deviate from it This leads us to examine some practical tips on how to best handle sibling rivalry in order to create a good family balance J TEACH PROBLEM SOLVING AND CONFLICT RESOLUTION Although the bickering may be driving you crazy try not to intervene unless there is physical aggression involved or the fighting becomes excessive This teaches your children how to resolve their own conflicts which may ultimately lead to less fighting Remember that intervening each time your children argue may lead them to believe that you are favoring one over the other which leads to further resentment and conflict Teach your children how to best collaborate and compromise Refrain from yelling and model effective communication by listening and clarifying each child s point of view Then ask your kids to come up with a solution on their own Children are often excellent problem solvers and may surprise you If necessary help them by proposing several solutions and have them choose one that they can best compromise on i e Writing a schedule that will allow each child a set amount of time to play with a new toy your child feel special During this time make sure to remain validating empathic and interested in your child s life J ENFORCE YOUR OWN RULES Certain non negotiable rules should be set and enforced for the entire family Examples of this include no hitting destroying property yelling etc Praise all children for following rules and enforce the rules in a consistent manner with each of your children J ALLIES Often parents complain of their most challenging child who regularly starts up with their siblings Frequently but not always this is the oldest child or the child who feels most misunderstood within the family makeup Create an ally in this child with a simple wink and a nod perhaps alluding to a special joke or memory the two of you share Include this child in the simple process of your life such as shopping and decision making to help them willingly cooperate with their siblings Remember that acting out is often a cry for help Keep in mind that it is completely normal for siblings to fight amongst themselves By implementing the aforementioned techniques you should note a decrease in the rivalry At the very least you should feel less panicked about the situation and take it all in stride however when fighting escalates to the point of emotional and physical aggression it should be dealt with in a more specialized manner If you feel the sibling rivalry in your home has become excessive speak to a therapist in your community to get the help your children deserve fyi J DON T MAKE COMPARISONS OR PLAY FAVORITES This is perhaps one of the most damaging things a parent can do to their children and to their relationships with their siblings Every family has that one member who most often gets into trouble and defies rules On the flip side every family has the one angel who is almost always agreeable and happy Never compare your children Why can t you be more like your brother or give preferential treatment J ALONE TIME Children often act out when they are seeking attention If a child feels that they aren t getting enough of your attention they may feel resentful towards their siblings Although it is difficult to spend alone time with each child especially in large families it is imperative that you do so to foster a healthy parent child connection Alone time does not always necessitate elaborate trips or even time away from the house Ten to fifteen minutes of alone time think grocery shopping or folding laundry together is often enough attention to make 64 fyimagazineny com J KEEP CHILDREN IN THE LOOP If there is a change in family dynamic such as the upcoming birth of a baby include your children in the process of welcoming and caring for the baby Muffins N Moms is an interactive educational parenting workshop facilitated by Chaya Guttman LCSW and Leah Davidowitz LCSW Feeling overwhelmed Email muffinsnmoms gmail com for a free phone consultation Individual parenting sessions are also available by request Do you know what chemicals are lurking in your everyday life Cleaning products and snacks have more in them than you d like to think ADOPTION IS A REWARDING WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE but the challenges faced are not just the practical and legal The emotional journey can be fraught as well WE ALL WANT TO BE HER the all capable homemaker with the means to invite and entertain company On the flip side read up on how to be a great guest
GET A HANDLE ON IT  the same type of play, but as they get older they may experience times where their age difference seem...
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IT ALL BEGAN WITH A YOGURT My 5 year old daughter was simultaneously eating lunch and reading the ingredients off her yogurt label when she turned to me and asked Mommy what s red 40 To my horror the seemingly innocuous yogurt indeed contained some food coloring Now I do not consider myself a health nut notice I was feeding my children sugar filled yogurts as part of a healthy lunch Nevertheless the presence of chemical coloring in a food where it was totally unnecessary upset me I t s not only yogurts though when you look up ingredients in any processed foods you find words such as azodicarbonamide potassium bromate and benzoate preservatives which do not roll easily off the tongue nor rest easy on our minds While each one has its reason for being in the food they are all banned in the EU because of their alleged connection to various cancers birth defects and organ damage Azodicarbonamide is also known as the yoga mat chemical because it is found in yoga mats and until quite recently it was used by Subway McDonald s and other fast food chains to condition their bread dough Sounds delicious doesn t it Even fruits and veggies are not necessarily innocent they may host a bunch of pesticides that will poison you or they may even be genetically modified Oh and the cleaning agents you use Do you realize you inhale them every time you spritz your mirrors and mop your floors The very products that make your house sparkle and shine often contain ingredients that are labeled as carcinogens asthma inducers and endocrine disrupters Laundry detergents are some of the worst offenders containing chemical fragrances and brighteners that are classified as carcinogens as well That smell of clean laundry that you love That could be the smell of cancer 68 fyimagazineny com We re not done Take a good hard look at your hygiene and beauty routine There are chemicals in every product you use from your deodorant to your shampoo and definitely in your makeup and hair products These chemicals have been associated with maladies from cancer to obesity to cardiovascular diseases The parabens that make your shampoos smell amazing may give you breast cancer That sunscreen you slathered on to avoid skin cancer Big Pharma sure got you in a bind because that could give you cancer too According to the health experts this is all because our government allows all these industries to go virtually unregulated allowing them to choose their ingredients and then basically test us to see if we react adversely to them Nutritionists advise eating organic fruits and vegetables drinking bottled water and avoiding plastics store receipts and chemicals as much as possible But let s face it it s hopeless We are surrounded by chemicals and will always be and we have no hope of avoiding the consequences CHEMOPHOBIA Have I frightened you enough Welcome to the world of chemophobia Yes it s an actual word and it describes people who are simply frightened of chemicals And who can blame us The warnings are everywhere Look up the ingredients of almost any of your favorite products and you will discover that they will make you get sick and die What they don t tell you is how minute the chance is of that actually happening For starters while an ingredient may be 69 fyimagazineny com
IT ALL BEGAN WITH A YOGURT.  My 5-year old daughter was simultaneously eating lunch and reading the ingredients off her yo...
IT ALL BEGAN WITH A YOGURT My 5 year old daughter was simultaneously eating lunch and reading the ingredients off her yogurt label when she turned to me and asked Mommy what s red 40 To my horror the seemingly innocuous yogurt indeed contained some food coloring Now I do not consider myself a health nut notice I was feeding my children sugar filled yogurts as part of a healthy lunch Nevertheless the presence of chemical coloring in a food where it was totally unnecessary upset me I t s not only yogurts though when you look up ingredients in any processed foods you find words such as azodicarbonamide potassium bromate and benzoate preservatives which do not roll easily off the tongue nor rest easy on our minds While each one has its reason for being in the food they are all banned in the EU because of their alleged connection to various cancers birth defects and organ damage Azodicarbonamide is also known as the yoga mat chemical because it is found in yoga mats and until quite recently it was used by Subway McDonald s and other fast food chains to condition their bread dough Sounds delicious doesn t it Even fruits and veggies are not necessarily innocent they may host a bunch of pesticides that will poison you or they may even be genetically modified Oh and the cleaning agents you use Do you realize you inhale them every time you spritz your mirrors and mop your floors The very products that make your house sparkle and shine often contain ingredients that are labeled as carcinogens asthma inducers and endocrine disrupters Laundry detergents are some of the worst offenders containing chemical fragrances and brighteners that are classified as carcinogens as well That smell of clean laundry that you love That could be the smell of cancer 68 fyimagazineny com We re not done Take a good hard look at your hygiene and beauty routine There are chemicals in every product you use from your deodorant to your shampoo and definitely in your makeup and hair products These chemicals have been associated with maladies from cancer to obesity to cardiovascular diseases The parabens that make your shampoos smell amazing may give you breast cancer That sunscreen you slathered on to avoid skin cancer Big Pharma sure got you in a bind because that could give you cancer too According to the health experts this is all because our government allows all these industries to go virtually unregulated allowing them to choose their ingredients and then basically test us to see if we react adversely to them Nutritionists advise eating organic fruits and vegetables drinking bottled water and avoiding plastics store receipts and chemicals as much as possible But let s face it it s hopeless We are surrounded by chemicals and will always be and we have no hope of avoiding the consequences CHEMOPHOBIA Have I frightened you enough Welcome to the world of chemophobia Yes it s an actual word and it describes people who are simply frightened of chemicals And who can blame us The warnings are everywhere Look up the ingredients of almost any of your favorite products and you will discover that they will make you get sick and die What they don t tell you is how minute the chance is of that actually happening For starters while an ingredient may be 69 fyimagazineny com
IT ALL BEGAN WITH A YOGURT.  My 5-year old daughter was simultaneously eating lunch and reading the ingredients off her yo...
classed as toxic and a carcinogen there are no studies on how much of a substance will lead to death or illness in human beings All researchers can tell you is that a huge amount often an amount larger than you will ever ingest in your lifetime will give a rat cancer In many of these tests the rats would ingest the chemicals process them and excrete them however if the rats were directly injected with the chemicals then they would develop tumors which is obviously how you would use your shampoo or face cream right Scientists also fail to mention that even if the rats do get cancer that does not necessarily mean a human being would Rats and people are different you know For example rats do not develop lung cancer from cigarette smoke like humans do The amount used in the studies matters as well As the common chemistry mantra goes the dose makes the poison Any substance including water can be toxic if the amount imbibed is too large for a person to handle Thus when health websites discuss toxins in your moisturizer the chemical may have been proven toxic to a rat when ingested injected at a level larger than you would ever ingest in a day It s also easy for us to get confused into believing that so called natural chemicals with names that are easy to pronounce are less scary than those that are synthesized in a lab with names It s also easy for us to get confused into believing that so called natural chemicals with names that are easy to pronounce are less scary than those that are synthesized in a lab with names that sound foreign to us that sound foreign to us That s exactly the reason bisphenol A or BPA a compound found in many plastics which has been in over 7 000 studies has been pronounced safe In one recent study doses of over 40 400 and 4 000 times the estimated exposure in humans caused no health problems in mice It has however still provoked enough public outcry for companies to stop using it and for the FDA to ban it This is the case even though BPA can protect us from natural toxins such as those causing botulism BPA is a synthetic compound that prevents foods such as canned tomatoes from developing toxins Did you know that animals plants and humans produce a certain amount of the toxins that we wish to ban from all products If you eat a cup of apple seeds even if they are grown organically you will ingest enough cyanide to kill you Formaldehyde dioxin and phytoestrogens are all chemicals classified as carcinogens and endocrine disruptors that are naturally found in humans and plants ORGANICALLY SPEAKING Let s talk organics So expensive but so worth it because we should all aim to keep ourselves and our 70 fyimagazineny com 71 fyimagazineny com families healthy right We should but organics is not necessarily the way to go No studies have ever proven organic produce to taste better or to be more nutritious than regular produce As for pesticides did you know that 99 9 of the pesticides you eat will be the ones the plant itself produces to keep predators at bay I sure didn t Plants develop their own natural pesticides Just as animals will often use poisons or camouflage to protect themselves from predators G d gave plants the means to protect themselves as well That means that when we ingest pesticides only a tiny amount of it will be synthetic pesticides that farmers use Proponents of organics will often show propaganda photos of farmers in hazmat suits spraying their fields with pesticides The message is obvious if it is not safe for them how safe can it be for us The thing is if you will look at organic farmers spraying their fields with pesticides well surprise they wear hazmat suits
classed as toxic and a carcinogen, there are no studies on how much of a substance will lead to death or illness in human ...
classed as toxic and a carcinogen there are no studies on how much of a substance will lead to death or illness in human beings All researchers can tell you is that a huge amount often an amount larger than you will ever ingest in your lifetime will give a rat cancer In many of these tests the rats would ingest the chemicals process them and excrete them however if the rats were directly injected with the chemicals then they would develop tumors which is obviously how you would use your shampoo or face cream right Scientists also fail to mention that even if the rats do get cancer that does not necessarily mean a human being would Rats and people are different you know For example rats do not develop lung cancer from cigarette smoke like humans do The amount used in the studies matters as well As the common chemistry mantra goes the dose makes the poison Any substance including water can be toxic if the amount imbibed is too large for a person to handle Thus when health websites discuss toxins in your moisturizer the chemical may have been proven toxic to a rat when ingested injected at a level larger than you would ever ingest in a day It s also easy for us to get confused into believing that so called natural chemicals with names that are easy to pronounce are less scary than those that are synthesized in a lab with names It s also easy for us to get confused into believing that so called natural chemicals with names that are easy to pronounce are less scary than those that are synthesized in a lab with names that sound foreign to us that sound foreign to us That s exactly the reason bisphenol A or BPA a compound found in many plastics which has been in over 7 000 studies has been pronounced safe In one recent study doses of over 40 400 and 4 000 times the estimated exposure in humans caused no health problems in mice It has however still provoked enough public outcry for companies to stop using it and for the FDA to ban it This is the case even though BPA can protect us from natural toxins such as those causing botulism BPA is a synthetic compound that prevents foods such as canned tomatoes from developing toxins Did you know that animals plants and humans produce a certain amount of the toxins that we wish to ban from all products If you eat a cup of apple seeds even if they are grown organically you will ingest enough cyanide to kill you Formaldehyde dioxin and phytoestrogens are all chemicals classified as carcinogens and endocrine disruptors that are naturally found in humans and plants ORGANICALLY SPEAKING Let s talk organics So expensive but so worth it because we should all aim to keep ourselves and our 70 fyimagazineny com 71 fyimagazineny com families healthy right We should but organics is not necessarily the way to go No studies have ever proven organic produce to taste better or to be more nutritious than regular produce As for pesticides did you know that 99 9 of the pesticides you eat will be the ones the plant itself produces to keep predators at bay I sure didn t Plants develop their own natural pesticides Just as animals will often use poisons or camouflage to protect themselves from predators G d gave plants the means to protect themselves as well That means that when we ingest pesticides only a tiny amount of it will be synthetic pesticides that farmers use Proponents of organics will often show propaganda photos of farmers in hazmat suits spraying their fields with pesticides The message is obvious if it is not safe for them how safe can it be for us The thing is if you will look at organic farmers spraying their fields with pesticides well surprise they wear hazmat suits
classed as toxic and a carcinogen, there are no studies on how much of a substance will lead to death or illness in human ...
Stop WAITING to LOSE WEIGHT I need to lose weight THEN my life will get better as well Perhaps we should simply abstain from all naturally grown produce Genetically Modified Organisms GMO have also never been proven to be harmful and yet people still call for laws to ban them never mind the fact that GMOs have saved the lives of millions of people in third world countries If we need one example of what would happen if we paid too much attention to the health industry we can surely use California Its Proposition 65 mandating warnings on everything and anything that could possibly ever make anyone ill passed in 1986 giving way to a slew of lawsuits For protection most items businesses and even homes in California will sport a sign or warning label saying that California Law Requires This Warning This product contains a chemical known to the State of California to cause cancer birth defects and other reproductive harm To say that this is ridiculous is an understatement the list of so called dangerous chemicals grows every year Starbucks had to post the sign because coffee naturally grows acrylamide which is classified as a carcinogen people have found warning labels on their matches combustion creates carcinogens lamp cords what could be lurking in them and even on apartment buildings where smoking is banned just in case someone smokes while passing by and it drifts in an actual quote THE LONG AND SHORT OF IT It seems that when it comes to chemicals we rely on our emotions more than on the facts That is probably the very reason the word chemical itself evokes words such as toxic and dangerous And marketers play into our fears in a big way Have you seen how many products are advertised as being chemical free We fall for it even though it is simply impossible for it to be factually correct and not because we are stupid but through ignorance Yoga mat chemical sounds awful but very little of it is used in dough and none of it is in the bread at all because Azodicarbonamide breaks down in heat We are told about how Big Pharma colludes with the government so it does not get regulated enough but did you know the natural industries are almost completely unregulated Powerful drugs with harmless sounding names such as fish oil glucosamine and Echinacea are sold under the heading of natural medicines and we don t realize that they may not have been studied scientifically unlike the over the counter or prescribed cold and sterile looking Western medicine If cancer is caused by so many of the items we use and eat it would be the leading cause of death in developed countries yet the leading causes of death are heart disease and other chronic conditions that are a result of our unhealthy lifestyle So will I be giving my children yogurt with food coloring in it No I will not but because I think it is unhealthy not because I am afraid they will get cancer The chemicals that surround us are not all helpful or all safe but they are not all harmful either We would do well to remember that fyi GET THIS THAT IS TOTALLY FALSE IF YOU ARE READY TO o o o o o End the overeating and dieting cycle NOW Stop distracted eating NOW Make peace with your body and food NOW Trust yourself once again NOW Learn to enjoy food as you connect to the intuitive eater within NOW THEN I CAN HELP YOU FEEL GOOD NOW AND SO MUCH MORE The Perfect Gift Mind OVE munchie Intuitive Eating Coach Rena Reiser Presents A FREE TELECONFERENCE CLASS WEDNESDAY NOV 2ND 1 00 PM EST JOIN US REGISTER FOR THE FREE CLASS 347 871 1848 www mindovermunchies com rena mindovermunchies com Intuitive Eating gives me clarity in all areas of my life not just with food Sarah M SUBSCRIBE NOW SAVE 1O OFF OUR FULL PRICE ONLY 50 A YEAR Visit www fyimagazineny com
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Stop WAITING to LOSE WEIGHT I need to lose weight THEN my life will get better as well Perhaps we should simply abstain from all naturally grown produce Genetically Modified Organisms GMO have also never been proven to be harmful and yet people still call for laws to ban them never mind the fact that GMOs have saved the lives of millions of people in third world countries If we need one example of what would happen if we paid too much attention to the health industry we can surely use California Its Proposition 65 mandating warnings on everything and anything that could possibly ever make anyone ill passed in 1986 giving way to a slew of lawsuits For protection most items businesses and even homes in California will sport a sign or warning label saying that California Law Requires This Warning This product contains a chemical known to the State of California to cause cancer birth defects and other reproductive harm To say that this is ridiculous is an understatement the list of so called dangerous chemicals grows every year Starbucks had to post the sign because coffee naturally grows acrylamide which is classified as a carcinogen people have found warning labels on their matches combustion creates carcinogens lamp cords what could be lurking in them and even on apartment buildings where smoking is banned just in case someone smokes while passing by and it drifts in an actual quote THE LONG AND SHORT OF IT It seems that when it comes to chemicals we rely on our emotions more than on the facts That is probably the very reason the word chemical itself evokes words such as toxic and dangerous And marketers play into our fears in a big way Have you seen how many products are advertised as being chemical free We fall for it even though it is simply impossible for it to be factually correct and not because we are stupid but through ignorance Yoga mat chemical sounds awful but very little of it is used in dough and none of it is in the bread at all because Azodicarbonamide breaks down in heat We are told about how Big Pharma colludes with the government so it does not get regulated enough but did you know the natural industries are almost completely unregulated Powerful drugs with harmless sounding names such as fish oil glucosamine and Echinacea are sold under the heading of natural medicines and we don t realize that they may not have been studied scientifically unlike the over the counter or prescribed cold and sterile looking Western medicine If cancer is caused by so many of the items we use and eat it would be the leading cause of death in developed countries yet the leading causes of death are heart disease and other chronic conditions that are a result of our unhealthy lifestyle So will I be giving my children yogurt with food coloring in it No I will not but because I think it is unhealthy not because I am afraid they will get cancer The chemicals that surround us are not all helpful or all safe but they are not all harmful either We would do well to remember that fyi GET THIS THAT IS TOTALLY FALSE IF YOU ARE READY TO o o o o o End the overeating and dieting cycle NOW Stop distracted eating NOW Make peace with your body and food NOW Trust yourself once again NOW Learn to enjoy food as you connect to the intuitive eater within NOW THEN I CAN HELP YOU FEEL GOOD NOW AND SO MUCH MORE The Perfect Gift Mind OVE munchie Intuitive Eating Coach Rena Reiser Presents A FREE TELECONFERENCE CLASS WEDNESDAY NOV 2ND 1 00 PM EST JOIN US REGISTER FOR THE FREE CLASS 347 871 1848 www mindovermunchies com rena mindovermunchies com Intuitive Eating gives me clarity in all areas of my life not just with food Sarah M SUBSCRIBE NOW SAVE 1O OFF OUR FULL PRICE ONLY 50 A YEAR Visit www fyimagazineny com
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Choosing to LOVE WRITTEN BY MATTIE WISEMAN Like fluttering leaves the stone walls of the kever echoed with the urgent hushed prayers of the women around her Sarah Schiller quietly found a seat in the corner of the Ezrat Nashim She clutched her sefer Tehillim close to her stomach running her fingers down the crumbled leather binding Around her she saw faces scrunched in earnest tears Someone sobbed quietly in a corner But somehow though her soul wished to burst into fervent prayer Sarah felt as though a plastic bubble had been wrapped around her emotions 74 fyimagazineny com 75 fyimagazineny com
Choosing to  LOVE WRITTEN BY MATTIE WISEMAN  Like fluttering leaves, the stone walls of the kever echoed with the urgent, ...
Choosing to LOVE WRITTEN BY MATTIE WISEMAN Like fluttering leaves the stone walls of the kever echoed with the urgent hushed prayers of the women around her Sarah Schiller quietly found a seat in the corner of the Ezrat Nashim She clutched her sefer Tehillim close to her stomach running her fingers down the crumbled leather binding Around her she saw faces scrunched in earnest tears Someone sobbed quietly in a corner But somehow though her soul wished to burst into fervent prayer Sarah felt as though a plastic bubble had been wrapped around her emotions 74 fyimagazineny com 75 fyimagazineny com
Choosing to  LOVE WRITTEN BY MATTIE WISEMAN  Like fluttering leaves, the stone walls of the kever echoed with the urgent, ...
S he and her husband Ezra had flown all the way to Eretz Yisroel to daven at the kivrei tzaddikim It hadn t been easy and it had definitely not been cheap to come here They had come all this way Their yearning was so great so why couldn t she daven with the same kavanah as the women around her Seven years they d been married yet it was still just the two of them The topic of adoption had come up between her husband and herself many times They had so much love to give it seemed the right thing to do All they wanted was to nurture and love a child natural or chosen Hashem Sarah whispered Please let me cry too Let me be connected and daven to you like these other women Finally at the 7th and final kever she and her husband visited the wall lifted Sarah shed a tear and prayed b lev shalom I felt a breakthrough she shares I felt like Hashem had answered me at that point Elana Cohen and her husband had a different start with adoption altogether Both my husband and I grew up in families who also fostered children she relates we both always knew we wanted to adopt Altogether they have 11 children ka h 8 natural and 3 placed The first child they took in was a foster child whom they would later adopt Because they had adopted the first child someone approached them with a second child By the third child Mrs Cohen had become involved in working for an adoption agency The only time we ever said no to adopting a child was when we had our hands full with babies and couldn t take another child in at the time Although these two women have led such different lives their journeys started in the same place a heart full of love To gain more insight we spoke with Brany Rosen the founder director of member services of ATIME an organization that guides couples through fertility options as well as facilitating adoption A big deal nowadays is that there s a shift something I ve seen from being around for many years We have gone from convincing people to even consider adoption to the current issue of Where are the babies Nowadays I could have 40 children needing homes at the beginning of the day and by the end of the day I d have found legal amazing homes for them all Can you imagine Medicine can only do so much and people are so much more open nowadays Where do these children come from Many are the children of single mothers For any number of reasons they may be unable to keep their child Often they went through their pregnancy expecting that the child s father would still be around but upon giving birth they re struggling no longer having the father s support ATIME is put in touch with many of their children through sources in college Hillel homes An expectant mother could be struggling in deciding what to do with an unexpected pregnancy The Rabbi will ask the mother to keep the baby full term to give him her a 76 fyimagazineny com beautiful life and future in a loving home In the past some Poskim were hesitant regarding couples adopting a Jewish child because of all the halachic implications Of course everyone must consult with their Rav throughout their adoption journey Many issues can arise such as siblings mistakenly marrying or issues of negi a and yichud Because of the increase in adoptions nowadays more and more Rabbanim are becoming familiar and learning in depth in order to pasken the complicated and intricate halachic questions that arise For example Rav David Pam recently wrote a comprehensive pamphlet regarding adoption and R Moshe Shternbuch has written teshuvos on the topic According to Elana who now works for an agency that places special children into homes the amount of children available for adoption has steadily decreased with Special Needs children As education improves for Special Needs children she explains parents feel more enabled to keep their children In the past your options were limited when you had a special child and parents could feel overwhelmed some eventually choosing to give their child up Nowadays there are more options for these parents Adoption is a rewarding and wonderful experience But the challenges faced are not just the practical and legal The emotional journey can be fraught as well Sara s journey was a rocky one with plenty of ups and downs When we came back from EY Adoption is a rewarding and wonderful experience But the challenges faced are not just the practical and legal The emotional journey can be fraught as well 77 fyimagazineny com
S  he and her husband Ezra had flown all the way to Eretz Yisroel to daven at the kivrei tzaddikim. It hadn   t been easy,...
S he and her husband Ezra had flown all the way to Eretz Yisroel to daven at the kivrei tzaddikim It hadn t been easy and it had definitely not been cheap to come here They had come all this way Their yearning was so great so why couldn t she daven with the same kavanah as the women around her Seven years they d been married yet it was still just the two of them The topic of adoption had come up between her husband and herself many times They had so much love to give it seemed the right thing to do All they wanted was to nurture and love a child natural or chosen Hashem Sarah whispered Please let me cry too Let me be connected and daven to you like these other women Finally at the 7th and final kever she and her husband visited the wall lifted Sarah shed a tear and prayed b lev shalom I felt a breakthrough she shares I felt like Hashem had answered me at that point Elana Cohen and her husband had a different start with adoption altogether Both my husband and I grew up in families who also fostered children she relates we both always knew we wanted to adopt Altogether they have 11 children ka h 8 natural and 3 placed The first child they took in was a foster child whom they would later adopt Because they had adopted the first child someone approached them with a second child By the third child Mrs Cohen had become involved in working for an adoption agency The only time we ever said no to adopting a child was when we had our hands full with babies and couldn t take another child in at the time Although these two women have led such different lives their journeys started in the same place a heart full of love To gain more insight we spoke with Brany Rosen the founder director of member services of ATIME an organization that guides couples through fertility options as well as facilitating adoption A big deal nowadays is that there s a shift something I ve seen from being around for many years We have gone from convincing people to even consider adoption to the current issue of Where are the babies Nowadays I could have 40 children needing homes at the beginning of the day and by the end of the day I d have found legal amazing homes for them all Can you imagine Medicine can only do so much and people are so much more open nowadays Where do these children come from Many are the children of single mothers For any number of reasons they may be unable to keep their child Often they went through their pregnancy expecting that the child s father would still be around but upon giving birth they re struggling no longer having the father s support ATIME is put in touch with many of their children through sources in college Hillel homes An expectant mother could be struggling in deciding what to do with an unexpected pregnancy The Rabbi will ask the mother to keep the baby full term to give him her a 76 fyimagazineny com beautiful life and future in a loving home In the past some Poskim were hesitant regarding couples adopting a Jewish child because of all the halachic implications Of course everyone must consult with their Rav throughout their adoption journey Many issues can arise such as siblings mistakenly marrying or issues of negi a and yichud Because of the increase in adoptions nowadays more and more Rabbanim are becoming familiar and learning in depth in order to pasken the complicated and intricate halachic questions that arise For example Rav David Pam recently wrote a comprehensive pamphlet regarding adoption and R Moshe Shternbuch has written teshuvos on the topic According to Elana who now works for an agency that places special children into homes the amount of children available for adoption has steadily decreased with Special Needs children As education improves for Special Needs children she explains parents feel more enabled to keep their children In the past your options were limited when you had a special child and parents could feel overwhelmed some eventually choosing to give their child up Nowadays there are more options for these parents Adoption is a rewarding and wonderful experience But the challenges faced are not just the practical and legal The emotional journey can be fraught as well Sara s journey was a rocky one with plenty of ups and downs When we came back from EY Adoption is a rewarding and wonderful experience But the challenges faced are not just the practical and legal The emotional journey can be fraught as well 77 fyimagazineny com
S  he and her husband Ezra had flown all the way to Eretz Yisroel to daven at the kivrei tzaddikim. It hadn   t been easy,...
we didn t do anything right away Time passed but when we were married nine years we filled out all the paperwork and said we would accept anything Hashem gave to us This was in 1991 We first tried to work with a lawyer who ended up being a scam He said he would get us a baby from Romania but almost made off with our money Of course there was no baby Next we signed up with a Jewish Agency and they approved us We began getting phone calls and we said yes to anything they offered us We totally trusted Hashem to give us who we were supposed to get In the end we received two Special Needs children Five years later I gave birth to healthy twins I remember after we had the special children for two years it was getting super hard and I wasn t sure I could handle it anymore It was Sukkos and I had just put the children to sleep I came to the door of the sukkah and began crying I told my husband I don t think I can do this anymore And he started to cry too We were both crying and he said to me Hashem gives us a new day every day The sun shines every day Let s just give this one more day And of course we continued If I could share one thing it is that adoption can be very hard but it can also be very fulfilling So when it gets too hard and you think you can t handle it anymore just try one more day Elana has had her fair share of bumpy roads as well My husband and I always knew we wanted to adopt a child with Down syndrome Our second adopted child does have Downs But before him we had taken in another child with Down syndrome that we decided not to keep We had found out after we had taken him that he had many other things wrong with him There were a lot more medical problems than we had been told It was very hard but we had to send that child back So before we took in our son we had sat all the children down and had a talk with them We told them he needs a home we took them along to meet him and they were all very forthcoming and wanted to take him in very badly We would not have done it without their approval Without a question he has become their sibling 100 They pick on him and love him the same as the others It s important when adopting to make sure your family is with you that everyone is on board with it Not just your children but your own siblings and your parents You want the grandparents to accept the child too When struggling with infertility says Brany Rosen the beauty is that even if all doors are closed medically a woman can still be a mommy by adopting You don t have to live without children A fear people have is that they won t be connected to their baby But not at all We haven t seen that ever fyi Name has been changed 78 fyimagazineny com ATIME MENORAH ADOPTION PROJECT SHAINDEL MARKOWITZ I strive to help others on their journey of adoption and I want to empower them to make the correct decisions along the way At ATIME we are here to help any family that comes our way Throughout a couple s journey they can call anytime to seek advice chizuk or if they just need a listening ear to vent their emotions If when babies come our way that need homes we will do everything in our power to find a good home for that child SHAINDEL MARKOWITZ Adoption Consultant 718 686 8912 x116 adoption atime org
we didn   t do anything right away. Time passed, but when we were married nine years, we filled out all the paperwork and ...
we didn t do anything right away Time passed but when we were married nine years we filled out all the paperwork and said we would accept anything Hashem gave to us This was in 1991 We first tried to work with a lawyer who ended up being a scam He said he would get us a baby from Romania but almost made off with our money Of course there was no baby Next we signed up with a Jewish Agency and they approved us We began getting phone calls and we said yes to anything they offered us We totally trusted Hashem to give us who we were supposed to get In the end we received two Special Needs children Five years later I gave birth to healthy twins I remember after we had the special children for two years it was getting super hard and I wasn t sure I could handle it anymore It was Sukkos and I had just put the children to sleep I came to the door of the sukkah and began crying I told my husband I don t think I can do this anymore And he started to cry too We were both crying and he said to me Hashem gives us a new day every day The sun shines every day Let s just give this one more day And of course we continued If I could share one thing it is that adoption can be very hard but it can also be very fulfilling So when it gets too hard and you think you can t handle it anymore just try one more day Elana has had her fair share of bumpy roads as well My husband and I always knew we wanted to adopt a child with Down syndrome Our second adopted child does have Downs But before him we had taken in another child with Down syndrome that we decided not to keep We had found out after we had taken him that he had many other things wrong with him There were a lot more medical problems than we had been told It was very hard but we had to send that child back So before we took in our son we had sat all the children down and had a talk with them We told them he needs a home we took them along to meet him and they were all very forthcoming and wanted to take him in very badly We would not have done it without their approval Without a question he has become their sibling 100 They pick on him and love him the same as the others It s important when adopting to make sure your family is with you that everyone is on board with it Not just your children but your own siblings and your parents You want the grandparents to accept the child too When struggling with infertility says Brany Rosen the beauty is that even if all doors are closed medically a woman can still be a mommy by adopting You don t have to live without children A fear people have is that they won t be connected to their baby But not at all We haven t seen that ever fyi Name has been changed 78 fyimagazineny com ATIME MENORAH ADOPTION PROJECT SHAINDEL MARKOWITZ I strive to help others on their journey of adoption and I want to empower them to make the correct decisions along the way At ATIME we are here to help any family that comes our way Throughout a couple s journey they can call anytime to seek advice chizuk or if they just need a listening ear to vent their emotions If when babies come our way that need homes we will do everything in our power to find a good home for that child SHAINDEL MARKOWITZ Adoption Consultant 718 686 8912 x116 adoption atime org
we didn   t do anything right away. Time passed, but when we were married nine years, we filled out all the paperwork and ...
The Hostess with the Mostest BEING HER BEING HOSTED BY HER It was Erev Sukkos and when the phone rang I figured it was probably someone calling to wish me a good Yom Tov It wasn t Though her voice was masked by thick tears and intermittent sobs I was soon able to piece the story together B WRITTEN BY MALKA WINNER 80 fyimagazineny com 81 fyimagazineny com
The Hostess with the Mostest  BEING HER,   BEING HOSTED BY HER It was Erev Sukkos, and when the phone rang, I figured it w...
The Hostess with the Mostest BEING HER BEING HOSTED BY HER It was Erev Sukkos and when the phone rang I figured it was probably someone calling to wish me a good Yom Tov It wasn t Though her voice was masked by thick tears and intermittent sobs I was soon able to piece the story together B WRITTEN BY MALKA WINNER 80 fyimagazineny com 81 fyimagazineny com
The Hostess with the Mostest  BEING HER,   BEING HOSTED BY HER It was Erev Sukkos, and when the phone rang, I figured it w...
Chaya my dear friend and an older single had made plans to spend the entire Sukkos with cousins in the area At the last minute literally on Erev Yom Tov they cancelled saying that in the end they had decided to go away to their parents Chaya was in complete shock Why hadn t they warned her that this was a possibility or given any indication that Yom Tov might not happen What was she supposed to do now Rivka sighed as she hung up the phone She was excited to be hosting most of her married kids but somehow when Shloimy came it was always hard He would be asking her to watch the kids mooching leftovers to take home and indulging in some shopping in her pantry as soon as Yom Tov went out Shloimy s wife would be lounging on the couch with a book while she slaved away in the kitchen Rivka shook her head trying not to go down this road of negativity but it was so hard Everything was nearly ready and it was a complete miracle if you asked Devoiry She hummed to herself as she bustled around doing a few last minute things Soon her cousin Hudis would be there with her family and they would be spending a cozy wonderful Yom Tov together Perhaps she mused it was due to all this excitement that she had gotten so much done with the preparations B Tips for the Host INVITE YOUR GUESTS DON T WAIT FOR THEM TO ASK People feel good when they re remembered and wanted Miri an older single living in the Brooklyn area says that she always appreciates when people invite her for some specific meal comes Yom Tov or Shabbos rather than a vague You re always welcome or You should really come sometime Judy a seasoned kiruv hostess adds that when you do the inviting you have a little more control over which meals will be shared with guests and which will be reserved for family only Mali wondered why she always loved the idea of hosting her parents but always found herself so stressed about actually doing it But she knew she really didn t have to wonder Her mother was a very exacting individual with extremely high standards in every area and a very critical nature Her father required lots of kavod They had a low toleration of noise and mess All Mali wanted to do was make them happy but that was a tall order It wasn t going to be an easy Yom Tov SAY IT WITH GRACE Many people invite guests around the chagim but guests often call and invite themselves Whether the guests you re hosting are relatives neighbors singles baalei teshuvah lonely older people or even your own children there s an art to saying yes or no with grace People can hear a smile right through the phone lines Miri notes And if you re hosting them anyway why not make them feel even more welcome by injecting some enthusiasm into your voice and saying how much you re looking forward to it I know that makes a big difference to me Etty Schapira a social worker says that no doesn t have to mean rejection You can thank the person so much for calling and encourage him to call again you can immediately arrange an invitation for a different seudah or you could even offer to help make arrangements for him elsewhere she suggests All these ideas soften the blow There are few topics that can arouse such vastly disparate emotions among women across the Jewish spectrum and spanning generations as that of hosting and being hosted Be they mothers hosting their own children children hosting their parents or people hosting friends neighbors singles and so on there are so many opinions and so many stories How can we make the most of these experiences Here are some tips and tricks to give your story and Yom Tov hosting or guesting a happy ending 82 fyimagazineny com 83 fyimagazineny com
Chaya , my dear friend and an older single, had made plans to spend the entire Sukkos with cousins in the area. At the las...
Chaya my dear friend and an older single had made plans to spend the entire Sukkos with cousins in the area At the last minute literally on Erev Yom Tov they cancelled saying that in the end they had decided to go away to their parents Chaya was in complete shock Why hadn t they warned her that this was a possibility or given any indication that Yom Tov might not happen What was she supposed to do now Rivka sighed as she hung up the phone She was excited to be hosting most of her married kids but somehow when Shloimy came it was always hard He would be asking her to watch the kids mooching leftovers to take home and indulging in some shopping in her pantry as soon as Yom Tov went out Shloimy s wife would be lounging on the couch with a book while she slaved away in the kitchen Rivka shook her head trying not to go down this road of negativity but it was so hard Everything was nearly ready and it was a complete miracle if you asked Devoiry She hummed to herself as she bustled around doing a few last minute things Soon her cousin Hudis would be there with her family and they would be spending a cozy wonderful Yom Tov together Perhaps she mused it was due to all this excitement that she had gotten so much done with the preparations B Tips for the Host INVITE YOUR GUESTS DON T WAIT FOR THEM TO ASK People feel good when they re remembered and wanted Miri an older single living in the Brooklyn area says that she always appreciates when people invite her for some specific meal comes Yom Tov or Shabbos rather than a vague You re always welcome or You should really come sometime Judy a seasoned kiruv hostess adds that when you do the inviting you have a little more control over which meals will be shared with guests and which will be reserved for family only Mali wondered why she always loved the idea of hosting her parents but always found herself so stressed about actually doing it But she knew she really didn t have to wonder Her mother was a very exacting individual with extremely high standards in every area and a very critical nature Her father required lots of kavod They had a low toleration of noise and mess All Mali wanted to do was make them happy but that was a tall order It wasn t going to be an easy Yom Tov SAY IT WITH GRACE Many people invite guests around the chagim but guests often call and invite themselves Whether the guests you re hosting are relatives neighbors singles baalei teshuvah lonely older people or even your own children there s an art to saying yes or no with grace People can hear a smile right through the phone lines Miri notes And if you re hosting them anyway why not make them feel even more welcome by injecting some enthusiasm into your voice and saying how much you re looking forward to it I know that makes a big difference to me Etty Schapira a social worker says that no doesn t have to mean rejection You can thank the person so much for calling and encourage him to call again you can immediately arrange an invitation for a different seudah or you could even offer to help make arrangements for him elsewhere she suggests All these ideas soften the blow There are few topics that can arouse such vastly disparate emotions among women across the Jewish spectrum and spanning generations as that of hosting and being hosted Be they mothers hosting their own children children hosting their parents or people hosting friends neighbors singles and so on there are so many opinions and so many stories How can we make the most of these experiences Here are some tips and tricks to give your story and Yom Tov hosting or guesting a happy ending 82 fyimagazineny com 83 fyimagazineny com
Chaya , my dear friend and an older single, had made plans to spend the entire Sukkos with cousins in the area. At the las...
DON T DO IT IF YOU DON T WANT TO No one wants to be a guest when they re unwanted If you re too busy too wrung out or hosting too many other people don t feel pressured to invite more people out of a sense of obligation or say yes just because they asked People don t want to be a burden Etty Schapira says She s learned a lot about boundaries through her profession Saying no is much better than saying yes under duress It s more comfortable for everyone if you re able to say no when you really can t do it She suggests offering an explanation to smooth over any potential feelings of rejection Things have just been too crazy around here but I hope to start having guests again soon Or We re having boys girls this week so it won t work out this time around Or We really need to focus on our kids right now so we haven t been able to host lately MAKE IT COMFY It s a wonderful feeling to be able to make people feel comfortable in your home and there are so many ways to do it Think a personalized welcome sign the kids draw for the door a basket of toiletries and fresh towels in the guest room a slice of cake or kugel when they walk in a mini tour of the fridge pantry bookshelves and bathroom or even accepting their offer to help by giving them a task to do For guests you B Tips for the Guests OFFER TO BRING SOMETHING Many hostesses can manage beautifully without their guests bringing anything but most of them still truly appreciate it when you do I always love knowing when someone is bringing a salad says Michelle from Staten Island It s one thing off my head Ariella a Passaic hostess enjoys the thought behind hostess gifts It s so nice to receive a bouquet or a box of cookies from the bakery some treat I wouldn t buy myself Whatever it is I really appreciate it She adds an important caveat however If you re bringing something like a kugel cake or salad I d prefer to know about it in advance so I don t waste time making my own Tzippy M a mother of young children always appreciates when guests bring something for her kids It makes them feel like they re an important part of the equation which they certainly are When guests bring my kids a treat a toy or a book it endears them to my kids who in turn ask for that guest to come again know pretty well especially your married children Rivka suggests making their favorite dish buying their favorite drink or pulling out a dessert or treat you know they love It makes them feel so good to be remembered like that she says And the easiest thing you can do Smile CONVERSE It sounds so obvious right But involving guests in conversation doesn t always happen naturally Devory G now married and living in the Monsey area recalls some seminary experiences where her hosts barely spoke to her at the table After a question or two I felt like I wasn t there anymore I always try to remember that and make sure to involve my guests in conversation whether the guest is my own sister my brother and his friends a neighbor singles or whoever Other points that came up include not pressuring male guests and relatives to say a dvar Torah or sing zemiros and not asking baalei teshuvah to share their stories One young man recalls One time I was at a table full of people and the host turned to me and said You re in yeshivah why don t you share a dvar Torah with us It was true I was in yeshivah but that didn t mean I had a dvar Torah prepared to share with a bunch of people But he kept pressuring I know you re just being modest Come on I m sure you must have something to say I really didn t and he just wouldn t take no for an answer 84 fyimagazineny com 85 fyimagazineny com
DON   T DO IT IF YOU DON   T WANT TO. No one wants to be a guest when they   re unwanted. If you   re too busy, too wrung ...
DON T DO IT IF YOU DON T WANT TO No one wants to be a guest when they re unwanted If you re too busy too wrung out or hosting too many other people don t feel pressured to invite more people out of a sense of obligation or say yes just because they asked People don t want to be a burden Etty Schapira says She s learned a lot about boundaries through her profession Saying no is much better than saying yes under duress It s more comfortable for everyone if you re able to say no when you really can t do it She suggests offering an explanation to smooth over any potential feelings of rejection Things have just been too crazy around here but I hope to start having guests again soon Or We re having boys girls this week so it won t work out this time around Or We really need to focus on our kids right now so we haven t been able to host lately MAKE IT COMFY It s a wonderful feeling to be able to make people feel comfortable in your home and there are so many ways to do it Think a personalized welcome sign the kids draw for the door a basket of toiletries and fresh towels in the guest room a slice of cake or kugel when they walk in a mini tour of the fridge pantry bookshelves and bathroom or even accepting their offer to help by giving them a task to do For guests you B Tips for the Guests OFFER TO BRING SOMETHING Many hostesses can manage beautifully without their guests bringing anything but most of them still truly appreciate it when you do I always love knowing when someone is bringing a salad says Michelle from Staten Island It s one thing off my head Ariella a Passaic hostess enjoys the thought behind hostess gifts It s so nice to receive a bouquet or a box of cookies from the bakery some treat I wouldn t buy myself Whatever it is I really appreciate it She adds an important caveat however If you re bringing something like a kugel cake or salad I d prefer to know about it in advance so I don t waste time making my own Tzippy M a mother of young children always appreciates when guests bring something for her kids It makes them feel like they re an important part of the equation which they certainly are When guests bring my kids a treat a toy or a book it endears them to my kids who in turn ask for that guest to come again know pretty well especially your married children Rivka suggests making their favorite dish buying their favorite drink or pulling out a dessert or treat you know they love It makes them feel so good to be remembered like that she says And the easiest thing you can do Smile CONVERSE It sounds so obvious right But involving guests in conversation doesn t always happen naturally Devory G now married and living in the Monsey area recalls some seminary experiences where her hosts barely spoke to her at the table After a question or two I felt like I wasn t there anymore I always try to remember that and make sure to involve my guests in conversation whether the guest is my own sister my brother and his friends a neighbor singles or whoever Other points that came up include not pressuring male guests and relatives to say a dvar Torah or sing zemiros and not asking baalei teshuvah to share their stories One young man recalls One time I was at a table full of people and the host turned to me and said You re in yeshivah why don t you share a dvar Torah with us It was true I was in yeshivah but that didn t mean I had a dvar Torah prepared to share with a bunch of people But he kept pressuring I know you re just being modest Come on I m sure you must have something to say I really didn t and he just wouldn t take no for an answer 84 fyimagazineny com 85 fyimagazineny com
DON   T DO IT IF YOU DON   T WANT TO. No one wants to be a guest when they   re unwanted. If you   re too busy, too wrung ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes All Things Kitchen DON T BE LATE Devory G remembers a meal to where they invited a new family in town We were waiting and waiting and when they finally came 45 minutes late they said Oh we thought you would have started without us I couldn t believe that they thought we would have started without them I wish one of them would have come over to let me know they just weren t going to make it on time CONVERSE Your host has invited you and wants to enjoy your company at the seudah or over an entire Shabbos or Yom Tov Etty Schapira says So make conversation ask questions share stories They want to hear from you After all dialogue connects people and grows your relationships By asking questions and being a good listener and sharing some of your own thoughts you re showing that you care about the people you re with BE GENEROUS WITH PRAISE Judy the seasoned kiruv hostess mentioned above notes that although she is not hosting people for anyone s thanks compliments or praise their kind words give her a lot of fuel to continue When she remembers how much they enjoyed or appreciated a meal she s inspired to do it again B Tips for Both the Hostess and the Guests In Etty Schapira s experience working with families she has seen how much it means to parents even those who have good strong relationships with their kids to hear how wonderful the Yom Tov was how beautiful the seudos were how tasty the food was and so on Praise makes everyone feel good even if they don t need it It s human nature to appreciate kind words and compliments make people glad they stretched themselves and did something She laughs And kids who are hosting their parents certainly feel the same way HELP Sometimes when my married kids visit I feel like they re just coming here to be waited on and served says Rivka a mother of eight married children I m not a babysitter I m not a waitress I m not a hotel I love to see you I love to see your kids But please remember that I m only one woman and I m not as young as I used to be She adds that it makes it so much easier when her kids watch their own children and help with the cooking or cleaning She chuckles And it also helps when everyone clears out after Yom Tov so I can get back to normal BE CLEAR Make a firm plan for which meal which time and so on Judy our kiruv hostess recalls learning this the hard way We had invited guests for a particular Shabbos Somehow we thought they were coming for lunch and they thought they were coming Friday night Oops YOM TOV COOKING DISCUSS DIETARY REQUIREMENTS While etiquette may not require a hostess to accommodate a guest s optional diet or food preferences hosts do want to know if guests are allergic to something People don t want to waste time cooking something their guests won t be able to eat Hindy laughingly remembers a time when a neighbor invited them for a Chol Hamoed meal and asked whether there was anything they didn t eat Hindy knew her husband despised eggplant dishes but she didn t think it was worth mentioning Guess what the main ingredient was in a number of dishes that day Eggplant to the nth degree Some names and details have been changed fyi PHOTOGRAPHER SHEVY GROSS FOOD STYLIST RAIZY FRIED 86 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes   All Things Kitchen  DON   T BE LATE. Devory G. remembers a meal to where they invited a ne...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes All Things Kitchen DON T BE LATE Devory G remembers a meal to where they invited a new family in town We were waiting and waiting and when they finally came 45 minutes late they said Oh we thought you would have started without us I couldn t believe that they thought we would have started without them I wish one of them would have come over to let me know they just weren t going to make it on time CONVERSE Your host has invited you and wants to enjoy your company at the seudah or over an entire Shabbos or Yom Tov Etty Schapira says So make conversation ask questions share stories They want to hear from you After all dialogue connects people and grows your relationships By asking questions and being a good listener and sharing some of your own thoughts you re showing that you care about the people you re with BE GENEROUS WITH PRAISE Judy the seasoned kiruv hostess mentioned above notes that although she is not hosting people for anyone s thanks compliments or praise their kind words give her a lot of fuel to continue When she remembers how much they enjoyed or appreciated a meal she s inspired to do it again B Tips for Both the Hostess and the Guests In Etty Schapira s experience working with families she has seen how much it means to parents even those who have good strong relationships with their kids to hear how wonderful the Yom Tov was how beautiful the seudos were how tasty the food was and so on Praise makes everyone feel good even if they don t need it It s human nature to appreciate kind words and compliments make people glad they stretched themselves and did something She laughs And kids who are hosting their parents certainly feel the same way HELP Sometimes when my married kids visit I feel like they re just coming here to be waited on and served says Rivka a mother of eight married children I m not a babysitter I m not a waitress I m not a hotel I love to see you I love to see your kids But please remember that I m only one woman and I m not as young as I used to be She adds that it makes it so much easier when her kids watch their own children and help with the cooking or cleaning She chuckles And it also helps when everyone clears out after Yom Tov so I can get back to normal BE CLEAR Make a firm plan for which meal which time and so on Judy our kiruv hostess recalls learning this the hard way We had invited guests for a particular Shabbos Somehow we thought they were coming for lunch and they thought they were coming Friday night Oops YOM TOV COOKING DISCUSS DIETARY REQUIREMENTS While etiquette may not require a hostess to accommodate a guest s optional diet or food preferences hosts do want to know if guests are allergic to something People don t want to waste time cooking something their guests won t be able to eat Hindy laughingly remembers a time when a neighbor invited them for a Chol Hamoed meal and asked whether there was anything they didn t eat Hindy knew her husband despised eggplant dishes but she didn t think it was worth mentioning Guess what the main ingredient was in a number of dishes that day Eggplant to the nth degree Some names and details have been changed fyi PHOTOGRAPHER SHEVY GROSS FOOD STYLIST RAIZY FRIED 86 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Recipes   All Things Kitchen  DON   T BE LATE. Devory G. remembers a meal to where they invited a ne...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Pistachio Pesto Salmon NAOMI NACHMAN THE AUSSIE GOURMET I have a similar version of this recipe on my website and people have always told me how much they loved it I came up with a new twist for the base sauce by using pesto sauce it takes the flavor to a whole new level 2 tablespoons pesto sauce your favorite brand 2 tablespoons mayonnaise 1 cup shelled salted pistachios crushed cup brown sugar 2 tablespoons fresh lemon 2 pounds salmon fillet one whole side of a salmon MIX the pesto and mayonnaise together in a small bowl PLACE the salmon on a large baking sheet lined with parchment paper SPREAD the pesto mixture over the fish and set aside IN A FOOD PROCESSOR crush the nuts until they are coarse ground but not too fine then add the lemon and brown sugar the mixture should look like wet sand PAT nut mixture on top of salmon and bake for 25 minutes at 350 degrees Please note Some have the minhag not to eat nuts from Rosh Hashana until Shemini Atzeres 88 fyimagazineny com 89 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Pistachio Pesto Salmon NAOMI NACHMAN   THE AUSSIE GOURMET  I have a similar ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Pistachio Pesto Salmon NAOMI NACHMAN THE AUSSIE GOURMET I have a similar version of this recipe on my website and people have always told me how much they loved it I came up with a new twist for the base sauce by using pesto sauce it takes the flavor to a whole new level 2 tablespoons pesto sauce your favorite brand 2 tablespoons mayonnaise 1 cup shelled salted pistachios crushed cup brown sugar 2 tablespoons fresh lemon 2 pounds salmon fillet one whole side of a salmon MIX the pesto and mayonnaise together in a small bowl PLACE the salmon on a large baking sheet lined with parchment paper SPREAD the pesto mixture over the fish and set aside IN A FOOD PROCESSOR crush the nuts until they are coarse ground but not too fine then add the lemon and brown sugar the mixture should look like wet sand PAT nut mixture on top of salmon and bake for 25 minutes at 350 degrees Please note Some have the minhag not to eat nuts from Rosh Hashana until Shemini Atzeres 88 fyimagazineny com 89 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Pistachio Pesto Salmon NAOMI NACHMAN   THE AUSSIE GOURMET  I have a similar ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Roasted Turkey With Asian Plum Sauce SARA CHANA GRUSKIN SHE COOKS THAT Roasted Turkey and Asian Plum Sauce are a match made on Earth Aside from looking charming together they work in sync The low but subtle flavor of roasted turkey paired with the high fun and flavorful taste of the plum sauce makes a complete match For the Turkey 10 18 lb Whole turkey Kosher salt Freshly cracked pepper Oil with a high smoke point for basting It s Yom Tov season and that means we re cooking in large quantities Whether you re cooking double to kill two birds with one stone to have for both Rosh Hashana and Sukkos or having lots of guests to feed at once here is a quick reference guide For a whole turkey 10 18 pounds Cook 3 3 1 2 hours Feeds 8 people 18 22 lb Cook 3 1 2 4 hours Feeds 10 15 people These times are based on a preheated 350 degree F oven 90 fyimagazineny com For the Asian Plum Sauce 1 1 4 pounds plums pitted 1 2 cup lightly packed brown sugar 1 4 granulated sugar optional 1 4 cup cider vinegar 1 tablespoon balsamic vinegar 1 4 small onion finely chopped about 2 tbsp 1 2 tablespoon finely chopped green pepper such as jalape o or serrano or a milder poblano if you don t like the heat 1 2 tablespoon whole yellow mustard seeds 1 teaspoon kosher salt 1 small garlic clove minced 1 teaspoon finely chopped fresh ginger Roasting The Turkey THE general rule for cooking a turkey is 20 minutes per pound Using a meat thermometer is the best way to know if your turkey is cooked Insert it properly and check often Cooking times will differ depending on whether you re working with a fresh or frozen bird PLAN on 20 minutes per pound in a 350 degree F oven for a defrosted turkey and 10 to 15 minutes per pound for a fresh bird BEFORE ROASTING coat the outside of the turkey with vegetable or olive oil and season with salt and pepper Place turkey in a roasting pan Place the turkey breast skin side up Cook the turkey until the skin is a light golden color and then cover loosely with a foil tent COOK the bird for a total of 3 3 1 2 hours During the last 45 minutes of baking remove the foil tent and set aside allowing the skin to brown BASTE often with rendered juices to promote even browning and prevent the bird from drying out The recommended method for testing your bird to see if it s ready would be to use a meat thermometer it will always give you accurate results if it s calibrated The turkey is done when the thigh meat reaches an internal temperature of 165 degrees F TO GET an accurate reading stick a meat thermometer into the thickest part of the thigh the turkey is cooked when the internal temperature reads 165 be sure that your thermometer is not touching the bone Okay so you don t own a meat thermometer now what PIERCE the thigh with a sharp knife Meat juices will run out of the skin The turkey is cooked when juices run clear RE TENT the bird with the foil and let rest for about 25 minutes before carving This allows the juices to redistribute throughout the meat and makes for easier carving CARVE turkey right before serving Asian Plum Sauce PLACE pitted plums in the bowl of a food processor pulse briefly until coarsely chopped do not pur e You can also chop the plums by hand if you prefer 91 fyimagazineny com a coarser texture You should end up with about 2 1 2 cups of chopped plums IN A LARGE non reactive stainless steel saucepan combine brown sugar balsamic vinegar apple cider vinegar onion pepper mustard seeds salt garlic and ginger BRING to a boil over high heat stirring constantly ADD chopped plums and return to a boil REDUCE heat to medium and boil gently stirring occasionally to prevent scorching until sauce is thick and syrupy for about 3 4 of an hour ADJUST seasoning I personally like the sauce a bit more tangy but if you prefer it a bit sweeter feel free to add more sugar accordingly Don t be afraid to play LADLE hot jam over turkey slices and serve Garnish with a sprinkling of fresh parsley To make jam ahead of time store in a Mason jar reheat just before serving or serve at room temperature Feel free to swap a whole chicken for a whole turkey bird just adjust cooking times accordingly
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Roasted Turkey With Asian Plum Sauce SARA CHANA GRUSKIN   SHE COOKS THAT  Ro...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Roasted Turkey With Asian Plum Sauce SARA CHANA GRUSKIN SHE COOKS THAT Roasted Turkey and Asian Plum Sauce are a match made on Earth Aside from looking charming together they work in sync The low but subtle flavor of roasted turkey paired with the high fun and flavorful taste of the plum sauce makes a complete match For the Turkey 10 18 lb Whole turkey Kosher salt Freshly cracked pepper Oil with a high smoke point for basting It s Yom Tov season and that means we re cooking in large quantities Whether you re cooking double to kill two birds with one stone to have for both Rosh Hashana and Sukkos or having lots of guests to feed at once here is a quick reference guide For a whole turkey 10 18 pounds Cook 3 3 1 2 hours Feeds 8 people 18 22 lb Cook 3 1 2 4 hours Feeds 10 15 people These times are based on a preheated 350 degree F oven 90 fyimagazineny com For the Asian Plum Sauce 1 1 4 pounds plums pitted 1 2 cup lightly packed brown sugar 1 4 granulated sugar optional 1 4 cup cider vinegar 1 tablespoon balsamic vinegar 1 4 small onion finely chopped about 2 tbsp 1 2 tablespoon finely chopped green pepper such as jalape o or serrano or a milder poblano if you don t like the heat 1 2 tablespoon whole yellow mustard seeds 1 teaspoon kosher salt 1 small garlic clove minced 1 teaspoon finely chopped fresh ginger Roasting The Turkey THE general rule for cooking a turkey is 20 minutes per pound Using a meat thermometer is the best way to know if your turkey is cooked Insert it properly and check often Cooking times will differ depending on whether you re working with a fresh or frozen bird PLAN on 20 minutes per pound in a 350 degree F oven for a defrosted turkey and 10 to 15 minutes per pound for a fresh bird BEFORE ROASTING coat the outside of the turkey with vegetable or olive oil and season with salt and pepper Place turkey in a roasting pan Place the turkey breast skin side up Cook the turkey until the skin is a light golden color and then cover loosely with a foil tent COOK the bird for a total of 3 3 1 2 hours During the last 45 minutes of baking remove the foil tent and set aside allowing the skin to brown BASTE often with rendered juices to promote even browning and prevent the bird from drying out The recommended method for testing your bird to see if it s ready would be to use a meat thermometer it will always give you accurate results if it s calibrated The turkey is done when the thigh meat reaches an internal temperature of 165 degrees F TO GET an accurate reading stick a meat thermometer into the thickest part of the thigh the turkey is cooked when the internal temperature reads 165 be sure that your thermometer is not touching the bone Okay so you don t own a meat thermometer now what PIERCE the thigh with a sharp knife Meat juices will run out of the skin The turkey is cooked when juices run clear RE TENT the bird with the foil and let rest for about 25 minutes before carving This allows the juices to redistribute throughout the meat and makes for easier carving CARVE turkey right before serving Asian Plum Sauce PLACE pitted plums in the bowl of a food processor pulse briefly until coarsely chopped do not pur e You can also chop the plums by hand if you prefer 91 fyimagazineny com a coarser texture You should end up with about 2 1 2 cups of chopped plums IN A LARGE non reactive stainless steel saucepan combine brown sugar balsamic vinegar apple cider vinegar onion pepper mustard seeds salt garlic and ginger BRING to a boil over high heat stirring constantly ADD chopped plums and return to a boil REDUCE heat to medium and boil gently stirring occasionally to prevent scorching until sauce is thick and syrupy for about 3 4 of an hour ADJUST seasoning I personally like the sauce a bit more tangy but if you prefer it a bit sweeter feel free to add more sugar accordingly Don t be afraid to play LADLE hot jam over turkey slices and serve Garnish with a sprinkling of fresh parsley To make jam ahead of time store in a Mason jar reheat just before serving or serve at room temperature Feel free to swap a whole chicken for a whole turkey bird just adjust cooking times accordingly
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SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Quinoa Sushi Salad ESTY WOLBE COOKING WITH TANTRUMS The holidays are notorious for being loaded with heavy foods and lots of carbs This dish is a great way to introduce some healthier carbs to the table without sacrificing taste Even those who wouldn t ever touch quinoa gobble this up happily Feel free to add your favorite toppings or skip the ones you don t like All the components can be prepared in advance and tossed together whenever you re ready 2 cups quinoa rinsed 4 cups water 1 tablespoon olive oil salt and pepper 8 10 sticks mock crab 1 large cucumber 1 avocado 1 2 cup crunchy fried onions Store bought spicy mayo 1 tablespoon toasted sesame seeds COOK quinoa in water with olive oil salt and pepper SIMMER covered over a medium flame for about 20 minutes until the water is absorbed REMOVE from heat and set aside to cool Meanwhile slice the mock crab sticks and dice the cucumber and avocado TO ASSEMBLE layer quinoa mock crab cucumber and avocado SPRINKLE with the fried onions and drizzle spicy mayo SPRINKLE toasted sesame seeds over the top and serve 92 fyimagazineny com 93 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Quinoa Sushi Salad ESTY WOLBE   COOKING WITH TANTRUMS  The holidays are noto...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Quinoa Sushi Salad ESTY WOLBE COOKING WITH TANTRUMS The holidays are notorious for being loaded with heavy foods and lots of carbs This dish is a great way to introduce some healthier carbs to the table without sacrificing taste Even those who wouldn t ever touch quinoa gobble this up happily Feel free to add your favorite toppings or skip the ones you don t like All the components can be prepared in advance and tossed together whenever you re ready 2 cups quinoa rinsed 4 cups water 1 tablespoon olive oil salt and pepper 8 10 sticks mock crab 1 large cucumber 1 avocado 1 2 cup crunchy fried onions Store bought spicy mayo 1 tablespoon toasted sesame seeds COOK quinoa in water with olive oil salt and pepper SIMMER covered over a medium flame for about 20 minutes until the water is absorbed REMOVE from heat and set aside to cool Meanwhile slice the mock crab sticks and dice the cucumber and avocado TO ASSEMBLE layer quinoa mock crab cucumber and avocado SPRINKLE with the fried onions and drizzle spicy mayo SPRINKLE toasted sesame seeds over the top and serve 92 fyimagazineny com 93 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Quinoa Sushi Salad ESTY WOLBE   COOKING WITH TANTRUMS  The holidays are noto...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Overnight Pulled Beef DANIELLE RENOV PEAS LOVE CARROTS This meat is the perfect prep ahead meat for a two day Yom Tov I developed this recipe when I was trying to figure out what to do with my cholent pot after the first day of Yom Tov Most people put their crockpot on a timer but somehow and I know some of you out there feel me on this the timer just doesn t work It either shuts off too early doesn t shut off or turns on at all the wrong times And yes it s definitely the timer Not me So I made this deckle The next day we had the most amazing fresh soft and delicious pulled beef Whether you prep this ahead or just make it all in one shot it s the perfect Yom Tov recipe Pull Apart Potato Rings DANIELLE RENOV PEAS LOVE CARROTS This is a really versatile side dish I sometimes serve this as an appetizer with a bowl of mushroom sauce in the center or as a main course filled with pulled beef or sauteed chicken and onions It s easy to make and freezes beautifully This dish can be made in its entirety and then frozen or refrigerated Allow it to cool completely and then leaving it on the parchment it was baked in transfer it to your countertop Cover it with the overhang of the parchment and wrap tightly in Saran Wrap To reheat it thaw it out overnight and then place uncovered on a hot plate or in a warming drawer SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE PULLED BEEF It s quick easy super yummy and feeds a lot of people for a little money You can serve the meat in the center of the breakaway potato ring or change things up and warm soft tacos to stuff them in or just on top of some steamed rice However you do it make it your own and enjoy You can also make this dish in its entirety pull the beef let it cool completely and freeze it It will hold up beautifully For the dry rub 1 3 pound Deckle roast cup packed dark brown sugar 2 tablespoons 1 teaspoon kosher salt 2 tablespoons smoked paprika 1 tablespoon mustard powder 1 teaspoon cayenne pepper optional but recommended 1 tablespoon 1 teaspoon Turkish coffee powder 2 tablespoons olive oil 2 tablespoons canola oil IN A SMALL BOWL combine brown sugar salt paprika mustard cayenne and coffee MIX well to make sure all the spices are well blended Pat roast dry DRIZZLE olive oil on both sides of the meat and liberally sprinkle spice mixture all around The deckle has a few nooks and crannies so make sure to get the spice mixture everywhere Really be generous with the blend and work it into the meat PLACE A PAN over medium 94 fyimagazineny com heat and allow to preheat for 4 5 minutes HEAT a large oven safe pan over medium high heat POUR canola oil into hot pan and immediately place the deckle roast in ADD oil and onions salt and pepper Cook for ten minutes until softened LET IT COOK in the pan without moving it for 4 5 minutes until the spice blend forms a nice crust ADD the rest of the ingredients and stir Bring the mixture to a boil TURN the meat over and allow the second side to sear for another 4 5 minutes REMOVE meat to a large dish and allow to cool for 1 2 hours At this point you can wrap your meat tightly in Saran Wrap then foil and freeze it until you are ready to cook it overnight For the braise 2 tablespoons canola oil 1 onion sliced purple or white 1 teaspoon salt teaspoon black pepper 1 cup beef broth 2 15 oz cans tomato sauce soy sauce cup balsamic vinegar cup honey IN A CROCKPOT add oil and onions salt and pepper COOK for ten minutes until softened ADD the rest of the ingredients and stir Allow mixture to cook for 20 25 minutes then submerge deckle into the sauce and pour any of the juices from the meat that are in the pan into the crockpot COOK overnight Remove meat and sauce from the crockpot Allow meat to cool down in the sauce for 45 minutes Using two forks pull the beef PREHEAT oven to 225 F LOWER heat and submerge deckle into the sauce Pour any of the juices from the meat that are in the pan into the pot COVER pot with a lid and place into the oven If your lid does not cover the pot well place a large sheet of tinfoil over the pot before covering it Once the lid is placed on the pot push down the foil on the sides of the pan to create a tight seal BAKE for 6 8 hours REMOVE pot from the oven and allow meat to cool down in the pot before shredding POTATO RINGS WHILE potatoes are cooking heat a medium sized pan over medium heat Add oil onions salt and pepper COOK for about 25 30 minutes until onions are golden brown When potatoes are fork tender drain well and return to the hot pot ADD the oil from the sauteed onion and mash very well Add onions and stir to form mashed potatoes MIX in egg yolks stirring vigorously so that the egg doesn t cook Set aside ON a well floured surface roll out puff pastry to form a long rectangle Spoon half the potato mixture along one of the long sides of the puff pastry Start from the edge of one of side but leave a 1 inch gap from the potato mixture to the edge of the puff pastry on the second side Roll up dough to create a potato filled log 6 potatoes peeled and cut into 1 inch pieces cup salt 1 large 2 medium onions diced tablespoon canola oil teaspoon salt teaspoon black pepper 2 teaspoons paprika 1 tablespoon salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 2 egg yolks lightly beaten 2 sheets puff pastry 1 egg lightly beaten Sea salt TRANSFER log to a wellgreased parchment lined baking sheet Gently shape the log into a circle Attach the two ends and overlap the extra dough from the second side of the puff pastry over the side that was filled to the edge This will form a seal to the circle WASH potatoes and place in a large pot filled with water Add salt and bring potatoes to a boil Immediately reduce heat and simmer for about 15 minutes BRUSH the top with egg and sprinkle sea salt 95 fyimagazineny com USING a sharp knife cut of the way into the ring to create slices Using your hands gently push the ring outwards from the center to slightly separate the slices BAKE for 45 minutes until pastry is golden brown SERVE hot and enjoy YIELDS 2 RINGS
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Overnight Pulled Beef  DANIELLE RENOV   PEAS LOVE   CARROTS This meat is the perfect prep-ahead mea...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Overnight Pulled Beef DANIELLE RENOV PEAS LOVE CARROTS This meat is the perfect prep ahead meat for a two day Yom Tov I developed this recipe when I was trying to figure out what to do with my cholent pot after the first day of Yom Tov Most people put their crockpot on a timer but somehow and I know some of you out there feel me on this the timer just doesn t work It either shuts off too early doesn t shut off or turns on at all the wrong times And yes it s definitely the timer Not me So I made this deckle The next day we had the most amazing fresh soft and delicious pulled beef Whether you prep this ahead or just make it all in one shot it s the perfect Yom Tov recipe Pull Apart Potato Rings DANIELLE RENOV PEAS LOVE CARROTS This is a really versatile side dish I sometimes serve this as an appetizer with a bowl of mushroom sauce in the center or as a main course filled with pulled beef or sauteed chicken and onions It s easy to make and freezes beautifully This dish can be made in its entirety and then frozen or refrigerated Allow it to cool completely and then leaving it on the parchment it was baked in transfer it to your countertop Cover it with the overhang of the parchment and wrap tightly in Saran Wrap To reheat it thaw it out overnight and then place uncovered on a hot plate or in a warming drawer SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE PULLED BEEF It s quick easy super yummy and feeds a lot of people for a little money You can serve the meat in the center of the breakaway potato ring or change things up and warm soft tacos to stuff them in or just on top of some steamed rice However you do it make it your own and enjoy You can also make this dish in its entirety pull the beef let it cool completely and freeze it It will hold up beautifully For the dry rub 1 3 pound Deckle roast cup packed dark brown sugar 2 tablespoons 1 teaspoon kosher salt 2 tablespoons smoked paprika 1 tablespoon mustard powder 1 teaspoon cayenne pepper optional but recommended 1 tablespoon 1 teaspoon Turkish coffee powder 2 tablespoons olive oil 2 tablespoons canola oil IN A SMALL BOWL combine brown sugar salt paprika mustard cayenne and coffee MIX well to make sure all the spices are well blended Pat roast dry DRIZZLE olive oil on both sides of the meat and liberally sprinkle spice mixture all around The deckle has a few nooks and crannies so make sure to get the spice mixture everywhere Really be generous with the blend and work it into the meat PLACE A PAN over medium 94 fyimagazineny com heat and allow to preheat for 4 5 minutes HEAT a large oven safe pan over medium high heat POUR canola oil into hot pan and immediately place the deckle roast in ADD oil and onions salt and pepper Cook for ten minutes until softened LET IT COOK in the pan without moving it for 4 5 minutes until the spice blend forms a nice crust ADD the rest of the ingredients and stir Bring the mixture to a boil TURN the meat over and allow the second side to sear for another 4 5 minutes REMOVE meat to a large dish and allow to cool for 1 2 hours At this point you can wrap your meat tightly in Saran Wrap then foil and freeze it until you are ready to cook it overnight For the braise 2 tablespoons canola oil 1 onion sliced purple or white 1 teaspoon salt teaspoon black pepper 1 cup beef broth 2 15 oz cans tomato sauce soy sauce cup balsamic vinegar cup honey IN A CROCKPOT add oil and onions salt and pepper COOK for ten minutes until softened ADD the rest of the ingredients and stir Allow mixture to cook for 20 25 minutes then submerge deckle into the sauce and pour any of the juices from the meat that are in the pan into the crockpot COOK overnight Remove meat and sauce from the crockpot Allow meat to cool down in the sauce for 45 minutes Using two forks pull the beef PREHEAT oven to 225 F LOWER heat and submerge deckle into the sauce Pour any of the juices from the meat that are in the pan into the pot COVER pot with a lid and place into the oven If your lid does not cover the pot well place a large sheet of tinfoil over the pot before covering it Once the lid is placed on the pot push down the foil on the sides of the pan to create a tight seal BAKE for 6 8 hours REMOVE pot from the oven and allow meat to cool down in the pot before shredding POTATO RINGS WHILE potatoes are cooking heat a medium sized pan over medium heat Add oil onions salt and pepper COOK for about 25 30 minutes until onions are golden brown When potatoes are fork tender drain well and return to the hot pot ADD the oil from the sauteed onion and mash very well Add onions and stir to form mashed potatoes MIX in egg yolks stirring vigorously so that the egg doesn t cook Set aside ON a well floured surface roll out puff pastry to form a long rectangle Spoon half the potato mixture along one of the long sides of the puff pastry Start from the edge of one of side but leave a 1 inch gap from the potato mixture to the edge of the puff pastry on the second side Roll up dough to create a potato filled log 6 potatoes peeled and cut into 1 inch pieces cup salt 1 large 2 medium onions diced tablespoon canola oil teaspoon salt teaspoon black pepper 2 teaspoons paprika 1 tablespoon salt 1 teaspoon black pepper 2 egg yolks lightly beaten 2 sheets puff pastry 1 egg lightly beaten Sea salt TRANSFER log to a wellgreased parchment lined baking sheet Gently shape the log into a circle Attach the two ends and overlap the extra dough from the second side of the puff pastry over the side that was filled to the edge This will form a seal to the circle WASH potatoes and place in a large pot filled with water Add salt and bring potatoes to a boil Immediately reduce heat and simmer for about 15 minutes BRUSH the top with egg and sprinkle sea salt 95 fyimagazineny com USING a sharp knife cut of the way into the ring to create slices Using your hands gently push the ring outwards from the center to slightly separate the slices BAKE for 45 minutes until pastry is golden brown SERVE hot and enjoy YIELDS 2 RINGS
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Overnight Pulled Beef  DANIELLE RENOV   PEAS LOVE   CARROTS This meat is the perfect prep-ahead mea...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Strawberry Napoleon RAIZY FRIED RAIZYSCOOKIN A delicious flakey sandwich filled with a divine strawberry mousse and lots of fresh strawberries Seriously who wouldn t love it Use simple ingredients and elaborate presentation to present this gourmet dish 1 16 oz whipped topping 1 teaspoon vanilla sugar 2 tablespoons sugar 1 cup frozen strawberries 16 mini puff pastry squares 8 fresh strawberries thinly sliced Confectioners sugar for sprinkling Mint leaves blueberries optional for garnish For the flakey PREHEAT oven to 400 degrees Place the defrosted squares on a lined baking sheet BAKE for 8 10 minutes or until golden and puffed For the mousse BLEND the frozen strawberries in a small bowl with an immersion blender In a mixer whip the topping on high speed for 1 2 minutes till stiff peaks ADD in the sugars and blended strawberries and mix a bit to combine don t over mix For fresh strawberries NOTE All components can be prepared a day or two in advance but don t assemble until right before serving we don t want it all soggy Keep the mousse in an airtight container in the refrigerator and the baked flakey squares in a pan at room temperature The fresh berries can be sliced and ready stored in the fridge of course CLEAN strawberries and slice finely To assemble PLACE a flakey square on a plate and using a piping bag or simply a spoon pipe dollop generous amount of the strawberry mousse top with sliced strawberries and then place the second flakey square SPRINKLE confectioners sugar and you re ready to go 96 fyimagazineny com 97 fyimagazineny com
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  Strawberry Napoleon RAIZY FRIED   RAIZYSCOOKIN  A delicious flakey sandwich ...
SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE Strawberry Napoleon RAIZY FRIED RAIZYSCOOKIN A delicious flakey sandwich filled with a divine strawberry mousse and lots of fresh strawberries Seriously who wouldn t love it Use simple ingredients and elaborate presentation to present this gourmet dish 1 16 oz whipped topping 1 teaspoon vanilla sugar 2 tablespoons sugar 1 cup frozen strawberries 16 mini puff pastry squares 8 fresh strawberries thinly sliced Confectioners sugar for sprinkling Mint leaves blueberries optional for garnish For the flakey PREHEAT oven to 400 degrees Place the defrosted squares on a lined baking sheet BAKE for 8 10 minutes or until golden and puffed For the mousse BLEND the frozen strawberries in a small bowl with an immersion blender In a mixer whip the topping on high speed for 1 2 minutes till stiff peaks ADD in the sugars and blended strawberries and mix a bit to combine don t over mix For fresh strawberries NOTE All components can be prepared a day or two in advance but don t assemble until right before serving we don t want it all soggy Keep the mousse in an airtight container in the refrigerator and the baked flakey squares in a pan at room temperature The fresh berries can be sliced and ready stored in the fridge of course CLEAN strawberries and slice finely To assemble PLACE a flakey square on a plate and using a piping bag or simply a spoon pipe dollop generous amount of the strawberry mousse top with sliced strawberries and then place the second flakey square SPRINKLE confectioners sugar and you re ready to go 96 fyimagazineny com 97 fyimagazineny com
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POTS PANS MUST HAVES SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE A L L SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE T H I N G S KITCHEN WRITTEN BY PERSONAL CHEF SARA CHANA GRUSKIN Last time we discussed the various materials available for pots and pans Following up here is the list of Must Have Pots and Pans I am anti cookware sets I think it s just a way for retailers and manufacturers to make you think you re settling on a good deal when all you re really getting is a bunch of unnecessary pots and pans to clutter up your precious cabinet space Sarah Chana is a personal chef based out of Lakewood New Jersey She runs her personal chef service she_cooks_that to her clients from the Lakewood Brooklyn areas and travels frequently to the many destinations her job takes her too For question regarding this column or to contact Sara Chana email shecooksthat gmail com Be sure to follow her on Instagram she_cooks_that for recipes tips tricks and an overload of good food A good set of pots and pans can make home cooking easy It is not about quantity but quality so buy multi purpose pots and pans With just a few well chosen items you ll be set for a lifetime of cooking It s impossible for me to tell you that the pots and pans that I use the most will be the same as the ones you ll use the most But I can tell you this I cook a lot and I cook a wide variety of things and with these pots and pans in my stash I go a long way Since we run kosher kitchens we need separate pots and pans Investing equally in a good set for both dairy and meat cooking will be worthwhile SKILLET The frying pan is one of the most used pieces of cookware in the kitchen Saute pans and skillets are practically one and the same aside from a subtle but important difference when it comes down to shape A skillet is a pan with slanted sides Confusingly it is also known as a frying pan The flared shallow sides encourage rapid evaporation of moisture so foods sear and brown rather than steam The slanted sides make this pan perfect 98 fyimagazineny com for stir frying and quick cooking techniques where you re moving ingredients around a lot in the pan It s also good for dishes like frittatas omelets or pancakes that are served straight from the pan Sauteing and pan frying are common cooking methods implemented in many recipes using skillets frying pans so chances are you re going to need a good set to get you through the week I recommend investing in 3 or 4 good quality pans rather than a dozen cheap ones Having a range of small to large frying pans gives you flexibility A small skillet works well for cooking in small quantities it cuts the cooking time in half so frying an egg is a simple task A medium skillet sometimes makes 99 fyimagazineny com follow us streiferwigs
POTS   PANS  MUST HAVES  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  A L L  SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE  T H I N G S  KITCHEN WRITTEN BY PERSONAL CHE...
POTS PANS MUST HAVES SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE A L L SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE T H I N G S KITCHEN WRITTEN BY PERSONAL CHEF SARA CHANA GRUSKIN Last time we discussed the various materials available for pots and pans Following up here is the list of Must Have Pots and Pans I am anti cookware sets I think it s just a way for retailers and manufacturers to make you think you re settling on a good deal when all you re really getting is a bunch of unnecessary pots and pans to clutter up your precious cabinet space Sarah Chana is a personal chef based out of Lakewood New Jersey She runs her personal chef service she_cooks_that to her clients from the Lakewood Brooklyn areas and travels frequently to the many destinations her job takes her too For question regarding this column or to contact Sara Chana email shecooksthat gmail com Be sure to follow her on Instagram she_cooks_that for recipes tips tricks and an overload of good food A good set of pots and pans can make home cooking easy It is not about quantity but quality so buy multi purpose pots and pans With just a few well chosen items you ll be set for a lifetime of cooking It s impossible for me to tell you that the pots and pans that I use the most will be the same as the ones you ll use the most But I can tell you this I cook a lot and I cook a wide variety of things and with these pots and pans in my stash I go a long way Since we run kosher kitchens we need separate pots and pans Investing equally in a good set for both dairy and meat cooking will be worthwhile SKILLET The frying pan is one of the most used pieces of cookware in the kitchen Saute pans and skillets are practically one and the same aside from a subtle but important difference when it comes down to shape A skillet is a pan with slanted sides Confusingly it is also known as a frying pan The flared shallow sides encourage rapid evaporation of moisture so foods sear and brown rather than steam The slanted sides make this pan perfect 98 fyimagazineny com for stir frying and quick cooking techniques where you re moving ingredients around a lot in the pan It s also good for dishes like frittatas omelets or pancakes that are served straight from the pan Sauteing and pan frying are common cooking methods implemented in many recipes using skillets frying pans so chances are you re going to need a good set to get you through the week I recommend investing in 3 or 4 good quality pans rather than a dozen cheap ones Having a range of small to large frying pans gives you flexibility A small skillet works well for cooking in small quantities it cuts the cooking time in half so frying an egg is a simple task A medium skillet sometimes makes 99 fyimagazineny com follow us streiferwigs
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YOU GOTTA KNOW SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE For Less Book Review Tried Tested the ideal choice for cooking since a little extra breathing room is always helpful Having a large skillet is handy when you re feeding a crowd A large frying pan works great for big batches of scrambled eggs pancakes and sauteing large amounts of vegetables If you re looking to optimize your cabinet space a set of small medium and large frying pans can be easily stacked and stored 10 14 INCH SAUTE PAN WITH LID Unlike a skillet a saut pan has relatively tall vertical sides set at a right angle to the base which makes for a larger bottom surface for searing larger cuts of meat and protecting against splattering It excels at frying large batches of food like schnitzel or latkes braising enough to feed four to six hungry adults A saut pan also features a tighter fitting lid which makes it great for slow cooked braises or in the oven cooking 8 10 INCH NONSTICK SKILLET In general I am not the biggest fan of non stick pots and pans you lose out on the wonderful color flavor you get from a good non coated pan However there is no denying that crisp browning isn t usually the goal when cooking eggs so for guaranteed results with omelets frittatas and the like things which you don t want getting stuck to the pan halfway through a delicate flipping a non stick skillet is a useful tool to have on hand 2 4 QUART SAUCEPAN WITH LID Saucepans are your kitchen s workhorses just the right size and shape for many common kitchen tasks They are so easy to maneuver we use these multitaskers to boil eggs blanch and steam vegetables cook pasta and grains rice sauces and puddings to name just a few They re also great for reheating soups and small portions of food A 2 quart pot makes it quick and easy to cook small portions A four quart is family friendly it will help you feed about eight persons BAKING SHEETS Rimmed aluminum baking sheets also known as half sheet pans are used for everything from roasting vegetables to cooking meats and chicken toasting nuts making candies like toffee bars and caramels and of course baking cookies Keep it light and thick A thick surface will heat and brown evenly making for perfectly cooked meat vegetables or cookies A pan that isn t thick enough can buckle and transfer heat too intensely burning the food Investing in a couple of good quality baking sheets could save you lots of money in the long run and they can last a lifetime Disposable pans are not only inferior conductors of heat but they eat up your money because you re constantly reinvesting in new ones after all they re disposable Make the switch and you wont switch back ask the organizer Q I love having my family over for Yom Tov it s one of the highlights of my year However I feel overwhelmed with the rush beforehand and the pressure on Yom Tov of constantly serving cleaning and cooking The stress of cooking and company can set me off kilter How can I make it less stressful on myself Sincerely Stressed Dear Stressed Here are some ideas using my acronym for Y O M T O V to reduce stress and create a truly memorable holiday experience with the family 10 12 QUART SAUCE STOCK POT Every kitchen should have at least one really big pot You might think it s not for you but it s certainly helpful for those of us with big families to feed It s super easy to make big batches of pasta soups and sauces And when it comes to stocking our freezer for the Yomim Tovim or the long winter we have found a new friend 100 fyimagazineny com CAST IRON SKILLET I put this one last since you can manage fine without it but I do strongly recommend it for its wonderful and amazing benefits I m warning you though if you do buy one you will definitely fall in love with it A cast iron skillet is a superior conductor of heat contributes well to searing and for dishes that require braising it moves conveniently from stovetop to oven Hey that s one less dish to wash You have me in on that one fyi WRITTEN BY ADINA FOROUZAN 101 fyimagazineny com
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YOU GOTTA KNOW SHARPEN YOUR APPETITE For Less Book Review Tried Tested the ideal choice for cooking since a little extra breathing room is always helpful Having a large skillet is handy when you re feeding a crowd A large frying pan works great for big batches of scrambled eggs pancakes and sauteing large amounts of vegetables If you re looking to optimize your cabinet space a set of small medium and large frying pans can be easily stacked and stored 10 14 INCH SAUTE PAN WITH LID Unlike a skillet a saut pan has relatively tall vertical sides set at a right angle to the base which makes for a larger bottom surface for searing larger cuts of meat and protecting against splattering It excels at frying large batches of food like schnitzel or latkes braising enough to feed four to six hungry adults A saut pan also features a tighter fitting lid which makes it great for slow cooked braises or in the oven cooking 8 10 INCH NONSTICK SKILLET In general I am not the biggest fan of non stick pots and pans you lose out on the wonderful color flavor you get from a good non coated pan However there is no denying that crisp browning isn t usually the goal when cooking eggs so for guaranteed results with omelets frittatas and the like things which you don t want getting stuck to the pan halfway through a delicate flipping a non stick skillet is a useful tool to have on hand 2 4 QUART SAUCEPAN WITH LID Saucepans are your kitchen s workhorses just the right size and shape for many common kitchen tasks They are so easy to maneuver we use these multitaskers to boil eggs blanch and steam vegetables cook pasta and grains rice sauces and puddings to name just a few They re also great for reheating soups and small portions of food A 2 quart pot makes it quick and easy to cook small portions A four quart is family friendly it will help you feed about eight persons BAKING SHEETS Rimmed aluminum baking sheets also known as half sheet pans are used for everything from roasting vegetables to cooking meats and chicken toasting nuts making candies like toffee bars and caramels and of course baking cookies Keep it light and thick A thick surface will heat and brown evenly making for perfectly cooked meat vegetables or cookies A pan that isn t thick enough can buckle and transfer heat too intensely burning the food Investing in a couple of good quality baking sheets could save you lots of money in the long run and they can last a lifetime Disposable pans are not only inferior conductors of heat but they eat up your money because you re constantly reinvesting in new ones after all they re disposable Make the switch and you wont switch back ask the organizer Q I love having my family over for Yom Tov it s one of the highlights of my year However I feel overwhelmed with the rush beforehand and the pressure on Yom Tov of constantly serving cleaning and cooking The stress of cooking and company can set me off kilter How can I make it less stressful on myself Sincerely Stressed Dear Stressed Here are some ideas using my acronym for Y O M T O V to reduce stress and create a truly memorable holiday experience with the family 10 12 QUART SAUCE STOCK POT Every kitchen should have at least one really big pot You might think it s not for you but it s certainly helpful for those of us with big families to feed It s super easy to make big batches of pasta soups and sauces And when it comes to stocking our freezer for the Yomim Tovim or the long winter we have found a new friend 100 fyimagazineny com CAST IRON SKILLET I put this one last since you can manage fine without it but I do strongly recommend it for its wonderful and amazing benefits I m warning you though if you do buy one you will definitely fall in love with it A cast iron skillet is a superior conductor of heat contributes well to searing and for dishes that require braising it moves conveniently from stovetop to oven Hey that s one less dish to wash You have me in on that one fyi WRITTEN BY ADINA FOROUZAN 101 fyimagazineny com
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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW Y EARN to make Yom Tov joyful for yourself and for everyone All throughout the month ask Hashem for Siyata Dishmaya in helping you prepare for the holidays as you yearn to make this time truly happy O RGANIZATION and planning ahead are fundamental in alleviating stress Yom Tov is not a time to wing it Plan ahead as much as possible and make sure most or all of your Yom Tov preparations are taken care of prior to the big day Do not wait until the end to start changing linens or making elaborate meals Map out the details of the month well in advance Make lists of what needs to be done bought cooked and set goals for each day Check tasks off the list as you accomplish them Check our prep ahead list on the next page Assuming you stuck to your pre holiday preparation on Erev Yom Tov itself do not fall prey to the I have time to do one more thing mentality What is done is done Less is more especially if it is going to help you remain calm Try to be ready as early as possible Set the table bathe and prepare the kids outfits in advance Preparing an extra kugel or dish is not worth the extra Erev Yom Tov pressure when you already have a stocked freezer M EAL planning is essential in reducing the stress associated with holidays Prepare as much of your grocery shopping and seudas way in advance This step is crucial and should not be left to the last minute as it is an overwhelming part of preparing for Yom Tov When you cook for Shabbos or the first days make an extra kugel cake chicken etc for Yom Tov and freeze Alternatively you can prep the meats or chickens when you get home from the butcher recipe ready and completely ready to cook when you remove from the freezer A lot of pressure comes from trying to be the hostess with the mostest Having the basics but being calm and happy completely outweighs having a table set with every gourmet delicacy made from scratch Please remember do not aim for perfection good enough IS good enough Cut corners and cut yourself some slack by purchasing ready or semi homemade foods Eliminate the constant preparation of salads on Yom Tov by having make ahead marinated salads Bear in mind that your family needs to eat Erev Yom Tov Think ahead and have a lunch prepared in advance or have them go out for pizza Cranky and hungry children guests are not fun to have around that includes you Make sure you schedule time to eat before Yom Tov Be proactive and make Chol HaMoed meals easier by putting up a crock pot supper to enjoy when you and your clan return home from a family day out T RANSFER all your to do lists meal plans and suggestions for the following year into a Yom Tov binder or notebook This step takes discipline but will save you a headache for the following year Save the notes from year to year I love the time my lists save me and the nostalgic feelings I get when I open my Yom Tov notebook anew come Yom Tov time again O VERWHELMED with the clean up Make it easier for yourself There are stunning disposable dishes available which sometimes look more elegant than real china Cleanup after the meal is a breeze with disposables However if the cost is going to bite on your wallet consider hiring cleaning help for an hour just to do your dishes to give you a break Ironically cleaning help is more cost effective than those stunning disposables I consider 102 fyimagazineny com extra cleaning help as part of our Yom Tov budget V OICE Do not be afraid to communicate your need for help Delegate responsibilities to others Guests love to help and feel great when they contribute You can suggest they bring a salad cake or something from a takeout store to facilitate with the meal If your married kids are coming perhaps assign what they can take care of beforehand like kugels desserts sukkah decorations etc Mrs Bina Drazin a household name in Cleveland Ohio for her chesed and hospitality par excellence shared with me I would tell my children I m only one person with like 25 30 of you We re all in this together I want all of you to have a vacation not that I should be sick afterwards My sons in law call to see what I need from stores my daughters help by making food everyone helps with the serving The younger ones babysit only if they want to can t demand the singles to babysit As a result the married siblings buy them treats to thank them We make it fun for everyone Furthermore I focus on enjoying family more than cleanliness Assigning responsibilities to others will ease your workload and help you maximize your holiday spirits with the family Make this Sukkos one that your Ushpizin can t wait to come back to fyi Have a delightful Yom Tov Until next time Adina Forouzan P S I highly recommend checking out Azriela Jaffe s chatzos com website where she maps out the beauty of chatzos and transforming an Erev Shabbos Yom Tov environment from chaos to calm As a result of chatzos my holiday and Shabbos preparation experience have been extraordinarily improved Chatzos com offers resources and a forum with great suggestions on ways to eliminate the Erev Shabbos Yom Tov pressure HERE S A GENERAL TO DO LIST OF ITEMS YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF WELL IN ADVANCE TO ALLEVIATE THE LAST MINUTE YOM TOV STRESS Sukk os To Do L ist ME A L S Ma p out me a l Su k k plan os t h f rom roug PE R S Erev inclu h S i mc ONA de t h ha s T L e sc r recip Ha i or a h ump es r cuts t ious Gr Sh FYI o c er y eitel Shop Sto P r ep p i n ck up g a re o f r e ez utf its pr e p I a lw er w i a red f rom t ays t h in ad food head Cr r y to husb vanc ock p to to m a a ke s e o n t me d Pu h ure m e a als fo s go Kohe rc ha y od s r Cho n W se t a ock s ould l Ha M ke ou supp p e ek he s n t w l e me t item o ed ing t a a n n t any hrou t wha s to your duch gh w to es t is m hom an in h i i s si n Ma l emad e he s g g f ro r inad e me m e sa l nu Pre ads pa r e Erev SUKK g ue s Yom t s or OS I T Tov l EMS go ou unch Mac t for for h z or pi z z a im Lu lav a nd Es HOU Su r og SEHO k kah LD G D e co La Su UEST undr rat io k k S a ns y bef h ligh Pre Ex or e S ts he pa r e t ra H u k ko ater a o l s l s t h b eds he be wel l anos R ab b etc in ad ds an for H a v a d a s n a r r iv linen Toy ha na ce b e e s S f o e f r er To e t he Pre rah a k id s g ue s pa r e for S nd t r ts w elc i mc h eats k it I ome Be e o as To for nclud g r u i e rah n st b a e an s e t heir c t sket FYI m t raps read for S agaz ing p Inq uk ka ine fo lea s u u i re h r re abou Inq t a n u i re y g u abou e st a need t sp e l ler g M OS s ex c i f ic ie s T IMP high g ue s ORTA Play A t F TE R s c h NTLY etc a i r YOM Pack RIG A r TOV to do HT n rang Trans lists e for fer al ex t r a on Yo m favor e a l your l m To c lea n p ite dis l v inq ing h hes w ans new f halac what elp u i re a h hos r mily a didn t t wor abou eg a rd ked a p r i or work t t he sugge ing m n to Yo d a s n tions d oth elach m To er for th into a a v e follo Yom wing Tov This w year binde ill def r or n initely time o t 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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW Y EARN to make Yom Tov joyful for yourself and for everyone All throughout the month ask Hashem for Siyata Dishmaya in helping you prepare for the holidays as you yearn to make this time truly happy O RGANIZATION and planning ahead are fundamental in alleviating stress Yom Tov is not a time to wing it Plan ahead as much as possible and make sure most or all of your Yom Tov preparations are taken care of prior to the big day Do not wait until the end to start changing linens or making elaborate meals Map out the details of the month well in advance Make lists of what needs to be done bought cooked and set goals for each day Check tasks off the list as you accomplish them Check our prep ahead list on the next page Assuming you stuck to your pre holiday preparation on Erev Yom Tov itself do not fall prey to the I have time to do one more thing mentality What is done is done Less is more especially if it is going to help you remain calm Try to be ready as early as possible Set the table bathe and prepare the kids outfits in advance Preparing an extra kugel or dish is not worth the extra Erev Yom Tov pressure when you already have a stocked freezer M EAL planning is essential in reducing the stress associated with holidays Prepare as much of your grocery shopping and seudas way in advance This step is crucial and should not be left to the last minute as it is an overwhelming part of preparing for Yom Tov When you cook for Shabbos or the first days make an extra kugel cake chicken etc for Yom Tov and freeze Alternatively you can prep the meats or chickens when you get home from the butcher recipe ready and completely ready to cook when you remove from the freezer A lot of pressure comes from trying to be the hostess with the mostest Having the basics but being calm and happy completely outweighs having a table set with every gourmet delicacy made from scratch Please remember do not aim for perfection good enough IS good enough Cut corners and cut yourself some slack by purchasing ready or semi homemade foods Eliminate the constant preparation of salads on Yom Tov by having make ahead marinated salads Bear in mind that your family needs to eat Erev Yom Tov Think ahead and have a lunch prepared in advance or have them go out for pizza Cranky and hungry children guests are not fun to have around that includes you Make sure you schedule time to eat before Yom Tov Be proactive and make Chol HaMoed meals easier by putting up a crock pot supper to enjoy when you and your clan return home from a family day out T RANSFER all your to do lists meal plans and suggestions for the following year into a Yom Tov binder or notebook This step takes discipline but will save you a headache for the following year Save the notes from year to year I love the time my lists save me and the nostalgic feelings I get when I open my Yom Tov notebook anew come Yom Tov time again O VERWHELMED with the clean up Make it easier for yourself There are stunning disposable dishes available which sometimes look more elegant than real china Cleanup after the meal is a breeze with disposables However if the cost is going to bite on your wallet consider hiring cleaning help for an hour just to do your dishes to give you a break Ironically cleaning help is more cost effective than those stunning disposables I consider 102 fyimagazineny com extra cleaning help as part of our Yom Tov budget V OICE Do not be afraid to communicate your need for help Delegate responsibilities to others Guests love to help and feel great when they contribute You can suggest they bring a salad cake or something from a takeout store to facilitate with the meal If your married kids are coming perhaps assign what they can take care of beforehand like kugels desserts sukkah decorations etc Mrs Bina Drazin a household name in Cleveland Ohio for her chesed and hospitality par excellence shared with me I would tell my children I m only one person with like 25 30 of you We re all in this together I want all of you to have a vacation not that I should be sick afterwards My sons in law call to see what I need from stores my daughters help by making food everyone helps with the serving The younger ones babysit only if they want to can t demand the singles to babysit As a result the married siblings buy them treats to thank them We make it fun for everyone Furthermore I focus on enjoying family more than cleanliness Assigning responsibilities to others will ease your workload and help you maximize your holiday spirits with the family Make this Sukkos one that your Ushpizin can t wait to come back to fyi Have a delightful Yom Tov Until next time Adina Forouzan P S I highly recommend checking out Azriela Jaffe s chatzos com website where she maps out the beauty of chatzos and transforming an Erev Shabbos Yom Tov environment from chaos to calm As a result of chatzos my holiday and Shabbos preparation experience have been extraordinarily improved Chatzos com offers resources and a forum with great suggestions on ways to eliminate the Erev Shabbos Yom Tov pressure HERE S A GENERAL TO DO LIST OF ITEMS YOU SHOULD TAKE CARE OF WELL IN ADVANCE TO ALLEVIATE THE LAST MINUTE YOM TOV STRESS Sukk os To Do L ist ME A L S Ma p out me a l Su k k plan os t h f rom roug PE R S Erev inclu h S i mc ONA de t h ha s T L e sc r recip Ha i or a h ump es r cuts t ious Gr Sh FYI o c er y eitel Shop Sto P r ep p i n ck up g a re o f r e ez utf its pr e p I a lw er w i a red f rom t ays t h in ad food head Cr r y to husb vanc ock p to to m a a ke s e o n t me d Pu h ure m e a als fo s go Kohe rc ha y od s r Cho n W se t a ock s ould l Ha M ke ou supp p e ek he s n t w l e me t item o ed ing t a a n n t any hrou t wha s to your duch gh w to es t is m hom an in h i i s si n Ma l emad e he s g g f ro r inad e me m e sa l nu Pre ads pa r e Erev SUKK g ue s Yom t s or OS I T Tov l EMS go ou unch Mac t for for h z or pi z z a im Lu lav a nd Es HOU Su r og SEHO k kah LD G D e co La Su UEST undr rat io k k S a ns y bef h ligh Pre Ex or e S ts he pa r e t ra H u k ko ater a o l s l s t h b eds he be wel l anos R ab b etc in ad ds an for H a v a d a s n a r r iv linen Toy ha na ce b e e s S f o e f r er To e t he Pre rah a k id s g ue s pa r e for S nd t r ts w elc i mc h eats k it I ome Be e o as To for nclud g r u i e rah n st b a e an s e t heir c t sket FYI m t raps read for S agaz ing p Inq uk ka ine fo lea s u u i re h r re abou Inq t a n u i re y g u abou e st a need t sp e l ler g M OS s ex c i f ic ie s T IMP high g ue s ORTA Play A t F TE R s c h NTLY etc a i r YOM Pack RIG A r TOV to do HT n rang Trans lists e for fer al ex t r a on Yo m favor e a l your l m To c lea n p ite dis l v inq ing h hes w ans new f halac what elp u i re a h hos r mily a didn t t wor abou eg a rd ked a p r i or work t t he sugge ing m n to Yo d a s n tions d oth elach m To er for th into a a v e follo Yom wing Tov This w year binde ill def r or n initely time o t 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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW tried tested TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS KIDS OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN BLOW UP MATTRESSES Whether you re hosting guests or you ll be staying at family chances are at least one person will be left without a bed And those that sleep in the Sukkah also need some sort of sleeping arrangements In comes the infamous blow up mattress to save the day We re familiar with the not so comfortable blow up mattress dilemma You go to sleep on a nice full mattress but upon waking you find yourself sleeping practically on the floor We don t want that to happen and it shouldn t Therefore we reviewed the best air mattresses to help you enjoy Yom Tov 30 Just celebrated your thirtieth birthday Well you may not want to think about it this way but it is precisely at this birthday that your skeleton begins to shrink Of course your skeleton is not the only thing that shrinks A human brain can shrink up to 15 as a person ages 1 5k Summer s over and it s time for birds to fly down south When they migrate Canadian Geese fly in the V formation you often see overhead because it is the most aerodynamic arrangement The birds are highly considerate as they take turns flying at the front of the V dropping back when they get tired In the right wind conditions they can cover 1500 miles in only 24 hours 1 6k 197 Make that 197 feet tall That is how tall certain species of palm trees can grow They would surely make for oversized lulavim The Quindio wax palm Colombia s national tree is the tallest growing species of palm A different species the coco de mer palm tree has the largest seeds of any plant on Earth Its seeds can be up to 20 inches in diameter and weigh around 66 pounds 104 fyimagazineny com 2015 It s an election year and chances are if you are reading this magazine you are likely the female head of the household Lucky for you you can be subscribed to the FYI anywhere and as soon as you finish reading this magazine you can go vote Women in Saudi Arabia were not nearly that lucky since last year No they can t really get the FYI but they did get the right to vote just last year Give respect to bamboo for it doesn t only make great schach After his first practical light bulb 1880 Thomas Edison designed a new version that had all the essential features of a modern light bulb The most critical factor was finding the right material for the filament the part that glows when an electric current passes through it Edison tested more than 1 600 materials including coconut fiber fishing line even hairs from a worker s beard until he settled upon carbonized bamboo filament It lasted more than 1200 hours more than any other material at the time Sound Sleep Dream Air Mattress 120 Very firm inflates in just over four minutes and deflates just as rapidly Soft top double height Intex Raised Downy Bed 48 Built in pump easy to inflate and deflate light to carry and store 105 fyimagazineny com
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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW tried tested TIDBITS OF INFORMATION THAT S GOOD TO KNOW WHEN IN A CONVERSATION WITH YOUR FRIENDS KIDS OR EVEN WITH YOURSELF WRITTEN BY MIRIAM SCHWARTZMAN BLOW UP MATTRESSES Whether you re hosting guests or you ll be staying at family chances are at least one person will be left without a bed And those that sleep in the Sukkah also need some sort of sleeping arrangements In comes the infamous blow up mattress to save the day We re familiar with the not so comfortable blow up mattress dilemma You go to sleep on a nice full mattress but upon waking you find yourself sleeping practically on the floor We don t want that to happen and it shouldn t Therefore we reviewed the best air mattresses to help you enjoy Yom Tov 30 Just celebrated your thirtieth birthday Well you may not want to think about it this way but it is precisely at this birthday that your skeleton begins to shrink Of course your skeleton is not the only thing that shrinks A human brain can shrink up to 15 as a person ages 1 5k Summer s over and it s time for birds to fly down south When they migrate Canadian Geese fly in the V formation you often see overhead because it is the most aerodynamic arrangement The birds are highly considerate as they take turns flying at the front of the V dropping back when they get tired In the right wind conditions they can cover 1500 miles in only 24 hours 1 6k 197 Make that 197 feet tall That is how tall certain species of palm trees can grow They would surely make for oversized lulavim The Quindio wax palm Colombia s national tree is the tallest growing species of palm A different species the coco de mer palm tree has the largest seeds of any plant on Earth Its seeds can be up to 20 inches in diameter and weigh around 66 pounds 104 fyimagazineny com 2015 It s an election year and chances are if you are reading this magazine you are likely the female head of the household Lucky for you you can be subscribed to the FYI anywhere and as soon as you finish reading this magazine you can go vote Women in Saudi Arabia were not nearly that lucky since last year No they can t really get the FYI but they did get the right to vote just last year Give respect to bamboo for it doesn t only make great schach After his first practical light bulb 1880 Thomas Edison designed a new version that had all the essential features of a modern light bulb The most critical factor was finding the right material for the filament the part that glows when an electric current passes through it Edison tested more than 1 600 materials including coconut fiber fishing line even hairs from a worker s beard until he settled upon carbonized bamboo filament It lasted more than 1200 hours more than any other material at the time Sound Sleep Dream Air Mattress 120 Very firm inflates in just over four minutes and deflates just as rapidly Soft top double height Intex Raised Downy Bed 48 Built in pump easy to inflate and deflate light to carry and store 105 fyimagazineny com
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YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW book review ALSO IN MY TRAVELING CLASSROOM TOO PERFECT When Being in Control Gets out of Control WRITTEN BY ALLAN E MALLINGER M D AND JEANNETTE DEWYZE REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN When you think of a perfectionist who do you envision Go ahead space out for a second Think about it Bet you probably didn t think of yourself For me the person that pops into mind is the stereotypical valedictorian S he s got it all together from her outfit all the way up to her 10 year plan She has my grudging respect but her presence in my life is like that of a conscience a little angel popping up on my shoulder saying Gosh Mattie can t you get your act together But a perfectionist may not feel together at all Conversely could you imagine that perfectionism can also manifest itself in the most imperfect of ways Have you ever kicked yourself saying If only I would have done this I could have prevented that Or perhaps you blame yourself for events that are beyond your control Maybe you feel the need to hide your true self in order to create a likeable social persona Let me explain myself Or rather let the authors explain According to Too Perfect the attribute that ties all perfectionists together is the desire to be in control Living in a world full of unpredictability they feel an unconscious need to be in control of themselves other people their environment or their life Often a perfectionist can suffer from chronic procrastination lateness and messiness I would never consider myself a perfectionist I would say leaving the house with matching shoes is a great start for me some days okay that s an exaggeration but you know But let me tell you when it comes to my writing I can spend hours agonizing over the placement of two words It took many years to learn to let myself go and allow myself to write in an uninhibited way Before I finally completed my first novel I had many files on my computer Each one contained a few sentences I was laboring over in an attempt to come up with The Perfect Beginning One day I had a notebook on me and began writing in there No joke my handwriting is so atrocious that even I have to concentrate to decipher it Thankfully since I was unable to constantly edit and critique my chicken scratch I was able to move forwards The authors point is that being a perfectionist can be paralyzing Fear inhibition rigidity these attributes prevent a person from living life to the fullest The book paints a picture of the perfectionist as an obsessive person miserable and uncomfortable in her own skin constantly struggling with a world she cannot possibly control or change I found it all a bit melodramatic and over the top However at the same time there was a lot of value in what was said I suppose like parables the examples of extreme perfectionism help to illustrate points clearly While most of us are not such perfectionists that we are being eaten up inside and destroying our relationships this doesn t mean that these characteristics 110 fyimagazineny com don t exist on some level We as Torah Yidden know logically Who it is that is really in control However transferring the theoretical to practical behavior is not all that simple In that respect I didn t find this book all that helpful It mainly provided insight into the mind of a perfectionist the Who and the Why As a practical sort of person I would have preferred a bit less talk and a lot more do There is one chapter at the end of the book on how to live with and handle the perfectionists in our lives That was helpful As a whole I did find the book a bit heavy handed I also did not appreciate its focus on nurture as opposed to nature The authors seem to believe that all perfectionism stems from a traumatic past or a difficult upbringing But if you are struggling to understand yourself or a loved one Too Perfect has valuable insights fyi J Photos of inside the beehive I want students to see what the queen male drone and female worker bee look like are for the worker bee to guard the hive The cutest is the yellow construction helmets and vests to represent the busy bee workers J Props I have a crown J Observation hive and a little girl from the audience can be queen A sword and a helmet This is an actual traveling hive I take with me People see LIKE MAKING A MODEL AIRPLANE I bought a starter kit it had the boxes and frames for a hive Then I added 3lbs of worker bees and one queen With a mentor I shook them into my hive and said a prayer for their success and survival what s in my TRAVELING CLASSROOM AMALIA HAAS BEEKEEPER NATURE EDUCATOR EDUTAINER WRITTEN BY CHAIA FRISHMAN At the end of the summer when most of us are thinking of buying pencil cases and notebooks Amalia Haas is gearing up for a different type of teaching With degrees in Jewish Education and Music Amalia has developed many programs that are implemented both inside and outside the classroom to connect adults and children with nature Oh And she is an organic beekeeper who markets raw honey especially for Rosh HaShanah An atypical career for a Jewish mom even harder to bee lieve EDUCATING THE NEIGHBORHOOD When my husband and I moved our family to Cleveland s suburbs I was surprised by how little kids knew about fruits and vegetables They were shocked when they saw me growing tomatoes and I wasn t doing anything fancy I didn t realize how disconnected privileged kids could be from the fundamental human knowledge that food doesn t really come from the supermarket even if we buy it there TASTEFULLY DONE The difference in honey flavors is pretty incredible Buckwheat honey is dark and distinctive some say it s too strong Apple blossom is light in color and aromatic and you can smell the apple in the honey itself Commercial honey sold under the big names has been overheated overfiltered and often mixed with cheap additives which take away its healthy qualities Honey can even be medicinal CLASSROOM WITHOUT BORDERS I ended up creating an educational program that can be done in classrooms for non profit groups or for businesses One of these 111 fyimagazineny com into the hive but the bees can t get out J Musical instruments I have a guitar and a mountain dulcimer a folk instrument I use songs to help kids remember what I taught programs The Land of Milk and Honey teaches participants about the interdependence of plants people bees and other pollinators Jewish groups are also exposed to Torah sources and commentaries relating to bees We have to have hakaros hatov to bees OCCUPATIONAL HAZARDS Beekeepers typically describe themselves in 5 year intervals a 10 15 25 year beekeeper There is a large skill set which involves understanding bees and the local environment and more Stings are part of beekeeping but beekeepers live longer and healthier than the average person and many people ascribe that in part to stings They are healthy for almost everyone most people I speak to think they are allergic to bees but they are not Local swelling from bee stings is normal and not dangerous We should teach our children to be still when bees fly nearby or around them and to observe bees on flowers without fear IF YOU WANT SOMETHING DONE GIVE IT TO A BUSY WOMAN One year I gave birth to twins and I was home Their due date was Pesach Seder night So they came early and I was home in the spring when it s prime time to start a hive I was tending to these tiny babies and a beehive I guess I can say I behave like a bee Honeybees never sleep either fyi
YOU GOTTA KNOW  YOU GOTTA KNOW  book   review  ALSO IN MY TRAVELING CLASSROOM   TOO PERFECT  When Being in Control Gets ou...
YOU GOTTA KNOW YOU GOTTA KNOW book review ALSO IN MY TRAVELING CLASSROOM TOO PERFECT When Being in Control Gets out of Control WRITTEN BY ALLAN E MALLINGER M D AND JEANNETTE DEWYZE REVIEW BY MATTIE WISEMAN When you think of a perfectionist who do you envision Go ahead space out for a second Think about it Bet you probably didn t think of yourself For me the person that pops into mind is the stereotypical valedictorian S he s got it all together from her outfit all the way up to her 10 year plan She has my grudging respect but her presence in my life is like that of a conscience a little angel popping up on my shoulder saying Gosh Mattie can t you get your act together But a perfectionist may not feel together at all Conversely could you imagine that perfectionism can also manifest itself in the most imperfect of ways Have you ever kicked yourself saying If only I would have done this I could have prevented that Or perhaps you blame yourself for events that are beyond your control Maybe you feel the need to hide your true self in order to create a likeable social persona Let me explain myself Or rather let the authors explain According to Too Perfect the attribute that ties all perfectionists together is the desire to be in control Living in a world full of unpredictability they feel an unconscious need to be in control of themselves other people their environment or their life Often a perfectionist can suffer from chronic procrastination lateness and messiness I would never consider myself a perfectionist I would say leaving the house with matching shoes is a great start for me some days okay that s an exaggeration but you know But let me tell you when it comes to my writing I can spend hours agonizing over the placement of two words It took many years to learn to let myself go and allow myself to write in an uninhibited way Before I finally completed my first novel I had many files on my computer Each one contained a few sentences I was laboring over in an attempt to come up with The Perfect Beginning One day I had a notebook on me and began writing in there No joke my handwriting is so atrocious that even I have to concentrate to decipher it Thankfully since I was unable to constantly edit and critique my chicken scratch I was able to move forwards The authors point is that being a perfectionist can be paralyzing Fear inhibition rigidity these attributes prevent a person from living life to the fullest The book paints a picture of the perfectionist as an obsessive person miserable and uncomfortable in her own skin constantly struggling with a world she cannot possibly control or change I found it all a bit melodramatic and over the top However at the same time there was a lot of value in what was said I suppose like parables the examples of extreme perfectionism help to illustrate points clearly While most of us are not such perfectionists that we are being eaten up inside and destroying our relationships this doesn t mean that these characteristics 110 fyimagazineny com don t exist on some level We as Torah Yidden know logically Who it is that is really in control However transferring the theoretical to practical behavior is not all that simple In that respect I didn t find this book all that helpful It mainly provided insight into the mind of a perfectionist the Who and the Why As a practical sort of person I would have preferred a bit less talk and a lot more do There is one chapter at the end of the book on how to live with and handle the perfectionists in our lives That was helpful As a whole I did find the book a bit heavy handed I also did not appreciate its focus on nurture as opposed to nature The authors seem to believe that all perfectionism stems from a traumatic past or a difficult upbringing But if you are struggling to understand yourself or a loved one Too Perfect has valuable insights fyi J Photos of inside the beehive I want students to see what the queen male drone and female worker bee look like are for the worker bee to guard the hive The cutest is the yellow construction helmets and vests to represent the busy bee workers J Props I have a crown J Observation hive and a little girl from the audience can be queen A sword and a helmet This is an actual traveling hive I take with me People see LIKE MAKING A MODEL AIRPLANE I bought a starter kit it had the boxes and frames for a hive Then I added 3lbs of worker bees and one queen With a mentor I shook them into my hive and said a prayer for their success and survival what s in my TRAVELING CLASSROOM AMALIA HAAS BEEKEEPER NATURE EDUCATOR EDUTAINER WRITTEN BY CHAIA FRISHMAN At the end of the summer when most of us are thinking of buying pencil cases and notebooks Amalia Haas is gearing up for a different type of teaching With degrees in Jewish Education and Music Amalia has developed many programs that are implemented both inside and outside the classroom to connect adults and children with nature Oh And she is an organic beekeeper who markets raw honey especially for Rosh HaShanah An atypical career for a Jewish mom even harder to bee lieve EDUCATING THE NEIGHBORHOOD When my husband and I moved our family to Cleveland s suburbs I was surprised by how little kids knew about fruits and vegetables They were shocked when they saw me growing tomatoes and I wasn t doing anything fancy I didn t realize how disconnected privileged kids could be from the fundamental human knowledge that food doesn t really come from the supermarket even if we buy it there TASTEFULLY DONE The difference in honey flavors is pretty incredible Buckwheat honey is dark and distinctive some say it s too strong Apple blossom is light in color and aromatic and you can smell the apple in the honey itself Commercial honey sold under the big names has been overheated overfiltered and often mixed with cheap additives which take away its healthy qualities Honey can even be medicinal CLASSROOM WITHOUT BORDERS I ended up creating an educational program that can be done in classrooms for non profit groups or for businesses One of these 111 fyimagazineny com into the hive but the bees can t get out J Musical instruments I have a guitar and a mountain dulcimer a folk instrument I use songs to help kids remember what I taught programs The Land of Milk and Honey teaches participants about the interdependence of plants people bees and other pollinators Jewish groups are also exposed to Torah sources and commentaries relating to bees We have to have hakaros hatov to bees OCCUPATIONAL HAZARDS Beekeepers typically describe themselves in 5 year intervals a 10 15 25 year beekeeper There is a large skill set which involves understanding bees and the local environment and more Stings are part of beekeeping but beekeepers live longer and healthier than the average person and many people ascribe that in part to stings They are healthy for almost everyone most people I speak to think they are allergic to bees but they are not Local swelling from bee stings is normal and not dangerous We should teach our children to be still when bees fly nearby or around them and to observe bees on flowers without fear IF YOU WANT SOMETHING DONE GIVE IT TO A BUSY WOMAN One year I gave birth to twins and I was home Their due date was Pesach Seder night So they came early and I was home in the spring when it s prime time to start a hive I was tending to these tiny babies and a beehive I guess I can say I behave like a bee Honeybees never sleep either fyi
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