Everyone enjoys going out to a restaurant now and then. This game plan teaches your child all the basics of eating out a restaurant. A workbook to engage kids in understanding dress options, how to order, secret signals, eating difficult foods and general manners at a restaurant.

Dress Code Who's Who Ordering 101 Manners Challenge Foods Game Plan #4 - Restaurant Behavior Suzanne M. Wind
Dress Code  Who s Who  Ordering 101  Manners  Challenge Foods  Game Plan  4 - Restaurant Behavior Suzanne M. Wind
CONTENTS • A WORD TO THE COACHES (That means you, parents!) ..............................01 • PLAYER INTRODUCTION ...........................................................................03 • THE SMART CONTRACT ............................................................................04 • LET THE GAMES BEGIN .............................................................................05 • GAME PLAN #4 – RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR............................................07 a) Dress Code Strategy b) Who’s Who? c) Ordering 101 d) Challenge Foods e) Manners @ the Restaurant f) The Winning Play Review g) Let’s Practice h) Answers i) Ticket Tally Score Board • EXTRA BONUS............................................................................................33 • AWARD CEREMONY..................................................................................43 **Copyrighted Material
CONTENTS      A WORD TO THE COACHES  That means you, parents   ..............................01     PLAYER INTRODUCTION .....
A WORD TO THE COACHES (That Means You, Parents!) The SMART Playbook was founded by a mom of three, with a possibly impossible mission: to offer families a simple and effective game plan to teach relevant life skills for a modern world. Teaching social skills and manners in this fast-paced, tech-focused society is easier said than done. How do we get our kids back to basics without overwhelming our time? THE SOLUTION: The SMART Playbook. Written in a relatable style and chock full of games, The SMART Playbook will lead you and your child in a collaborative effort to bring manners to a new generation. Your child is the player, the book is the guide, and you are the coach. Life is the referee. 5 SMART topics to help your child succeed in life! (The topic in this book is in the arrow.) Social Skill Basics –The principles of modern manners � Mealtime Manners – A guide to mealtime etiquette � Art of Conversation – Eloquent face-to-face conversational skills � Restaurant Behavior – The finer points of restaurant conduct � Technology Talk – Internet safety and responsible usage THE BENEFIT: The methods included in The SMART Playbook will help your child gain confidence, character, integrity and empathy in face-to-face situations and technology usage. **Copyrighted Material 01
A WORD TO THE COACHES  That Means You, Parents   The SMART Playbook was founded by a mom of three, with a possibly impossi...
HOW TO USE: Fill out the SMART contract. (This will help motivate your child to complete the lessons.) As your child completes game challenges, he or she earns tickets and you decide the prizes. As the coach, your job is to encourage your child to work on the lessons and take the challenges. When you play the family scrimmage games, reward your child with lots of tickets! THE RESULT: A happy and confident child thriving in a modern world. **Copyrighted Material 02
HOW TO USE  Fill out the SMART contract.  This will help motivate  your child to complete the lessons.  As your child comp...
THE SMART CONTRACT This is an agreement between you and your parents. Here’s your chance to ask for a cool prize in exchange for learning game-changing life skills. It’s a win-win situation. What’s a win-win situation, you might ask? It means you earn something super-cool (and of your own choosing!) by simply learning life rules and plays. Please fill this out before you begin. Date: ______________ I ______________________________agree to carefully read and complete The SMART Playbook. 1) I promise to share one fact every time I learn something new with the rest of the family. 2) I promise to share many games and activities so that my family can practice modern manners together. 3) Each time I finish a game challenge I’ll earn a ticket. My parents promise to reward me with the following (Make sure to determine how many tickets you need to win!): _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ 4) After completing this entire playbook, (besides being a Star Player) my parents agree to reward me with the following: _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ _________________________________________________________________________________ Good Luck Playing! ________________________ Player Signature ________________________ Coach Signature **Copyrighted Material 04
THE SMART CONTRACT  This is an agreement between you and your parents. Here   s your chance to ask for a cool prize in exc...
GAME PLAN #4 - RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR GOAL: Everyone enjoys going out to a restaurant every now and then. There are five main differences between eating at your house and at a restaurant. Bon Appétit! 1. There is a dress code. 2. Your meal is served by a waiter. 3. You make choices and order your meal. 4. Other people and families are there and your behavior affects every one around you. Life Skills Required: � � � � The Uniform Who's Who? Ordering 101 Challenge Foods Basic Manners @ the Restaurant Equipment needed: You Parents, siblings and friends to practice Utensils, tableware and food Game Directions: � � � � Take the challenges Have an adult check the box at the end of the game after you complete the challenge Cash in your tickets for the reward chosen with your coach (your parents) T icket Goal: Game Prize: _________________________ ______________________________________________ **Copyrighted Material 07
GAME PLAN  4 - RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR GOAL   Everyone enjoys going out to a restaurant every now and then. There are five mai...
Tackle the Obstacle What do you do if you order a meal and when you receive it, it isn’t what you expected? Maybe it didn’t come the way you ordered it? You can either choose to say nothing and eat it even though you don’t really like it, be rude about it, or learn how to send it back. The goal is to handle all situations with respect, kindness and understanding. Don’t worry your parents will help you, but it’s time for you to step up and learn how to handle tough situations. HANDLE SITUATIONS WITH RESPECT, KINDNESS AND UNDERSTANDING TO FIND A GOOD SOLUTION. Problem : You received your yummy pasta but realized it wasn’t at all what you thought it would be. You are so hungry but you can’t eat what they just served you-they didn’t put the cheese on the side! Solution : You can try apologizing to the waiter and explain that you must have made a mistake ordering. Usually any restaurant that cares about its customer will try to make things right-especially if you are polite. Problem : Your ice cream came but you dropped it on the floor. Solution : Apologize to the waiter and he might bring you a new dessert. GAME CHALLENGE # 7: Can you find the solution to the problem? Problem : The waiter brings you a cold coke and you are really thirsty. Solution : Suddenly you knock over your drink. **Copyrighted Material 16
Tackle the Obstacle  What do you do if you order a meal and when you receive it, it isn   t what you expected  Maybe it di...
CHALLENGE FOODS Certain foods are more challenging to eat CERTAIN FOODS ARE than others. Some foods are acceptable to eat ACCEPTABLE TO EAT WITH OUR FINGERS. with our fingers. How do we know what to do? Top FINGER FOOD Plays: Sandwiches: A plain sandwich can be picked up and eaten with your hands. If it's a really big open-faced sandwich dripping with sauces and mushy fillings you should use a fork and knife. Chips, French fries, chicken nuggets, hamburgers: Most fast foods are intended to be eaten with your hands. Although if it's a really big burger with lots of toppings, you might want to reach for the fork and knife. BBQ: Ribs, hot dogs, chicken wings, and more. A BBQ is usually pretty informal so it is fine to pick up these foods TIME OUT! with your fingers. But please use a napkin and try to resist Q: How do you fix a broken tomato? licking your yummy fingers! A: With tomato paste! Cookies: No need for a fork and knife. French Fries are Just watch the crumbs! one of the most Bacon: If the bacon is crispy, it’s better to use your popular fast foods hands. If you try to cut the bacon it will probably in the U.S. only crumble. Hors d'oeuvres & crudite: Party foods are intended to be eaten with your fingers. Pizza: How do you like your pie? Pizza can be served and eaten in different ways. Here are the options: 1. Use a knife and fork to cut the pizza. This is the most polite way and works well if you have a lot of toppings. **Copyrighted Material 17
CHALLENGE FOODS Certain foods are more challenging to eat CERTAIN FOODS ARE than others. Some foods are acceptable to eat ...
MANNERS @ THE RESTAURANT � Your behavior at a restaurant affects not only your family but everyone around you. Besides using all the basic mealtime manners, be aware of these restaurant specific manners. Top RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR Plays: � � � � � � � � � � � � WE NEED TO USE OUR BEST MEALTIME MANNERS, AS OUR BEHAVIOR AFFECTS EVERYONE AROUND US. Wait to be seated in more formal restaurants. Stay at the table until the meal ends. Should you need to use the bathroom, please excuse yourself. Why don’t my Keep food on the plate or in your parents bring me mouth, not on the table or floor. to a nice restaurant? Keep your shoes on and your hands and feet to yourself. Use your indoor voice to not disturb others. Use your table manners. Ask your parents for help if you have trouble cutting. Relax and enjoy with your family-participate in dinner conversation. How to say “Bon Appétit” in different languages? “Buon Appetito” – Italian “Buen Provecho” – Spanish “Guten Appetit” – German “Velbekomme” – Danish “Smakelijk” – Dutch “Smaklig Maltid” – Swedish “Afiyet Olsun” – Turkish **Copyrighted Material 20
MANNERS   THE RESTAURANT     Your behavior at a restaurant affects not only your family but everyone around you. Besides u...
LET'S PRACTICE! SECTION 1. You make the call! Fill in DO or DON'T. Complete this section and earn 10 tickets! 1.___________ Wear sweatpants and a dirty shirt to a restaurant that is rated as a casual restaurant. 2.___________ Order three courses when you go out to eat with your friend's family. After all they are paying so you might as well get as much food as you can! 3.___________ Demand that the waiter get you a drink. "I need a drink, now! Very thirsty today!" 4.___________ Your family is early to a dinner reservation. You stand patiently and wait for the restaurant to finish setting up your table. 5.___________ Use your fingers to help eat spaghetti-especially as the pasta hangs down from your fork. 6.___________ Order your steak medium well if you would like it be mostly brown with just a hint of pink. 7.___________ Play your video game at the table while you are eating your dinner. It's boring to just sit and eat. 8.___________ Come up with stories to share at dinner. It's always fun to have a great dinner conversation. 9.___________ Demand a new drink after your sister has just spilled your drink. 10.___________ Hold your hand up high and waive to get your waiter’s attention. Maybe a little whistle will also help catch his attention! 11.___________ Use the small fork on the outside to eat your first course. 12.___________ Begin eating the bread as you wait for your meal to arrive. **Copyrighted Material 24
LET S PRACTICE   SECTION 1. You make the call  Fill in DO or DON T. Complete this section and earn 10 tickets  1._________...
SECTION 4. Restaurant Behavior Crossword Puzzle - Earn 5 tickets! 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 Across 4. Use ________ to communicate with your waiter. 6. When you ________ be decisive, speak clearly and politely. 7. The person whose job is to greet you at the door and seat you at the table. Down 1. The person who serves you throughout your meal. 2. A ________ to organize the food options. 3. Handle situations with respect, kindness and understanding to find a good ________. 5. This type of table setting can often be found at an expensive restaurant. Words to Play: Order, Host, Waiter, Menu, Solution, Formal **Copyrighted Material 27
SECTION 4. Restaurant Behavior Crossword Puzzle  - Earn 5 tickets   1  2  3  4 5 6  7  Across 4. Use ________ to communica...
THANK YOU DRILL Follow the guide and add your creative play! Fill in the name and replace the number with words. Use the list or come up with something original! #1 awesome gift cool present perfect gift thoughtful gift fun gift yummy cake ____________(name of the gift) ____________(be creative!) #2 play with it use it try it test it out eat it ___________(something original) #3 Mention the gift again. Here you can choose something from list #1 again. Name Dear ____________. 1 Thank you so much for the__________. 2 I love it! I can’t wait to__________. That was very kind of you to remember me. 3 Thanks again for__________. Hope to see you soon. Sincerely, ___________ 2-POINT CONVERSION TO TOP IT OFF: Score bonus points and add a little extra your card.... to A photo of you playing with your new toy Bake something to bring with your card A drawing A MORE CREATIVE PLAY: A techy modern thank you! Use the smartphone to create a unique thank you with your own words and personality. � Create a picture with captions � A video that captures your excitement opening the gift and how grateful you are! � Send a picture by email or text of you wearing the new coat holding up a thank you sign � Create a video of yourself playing soccer with the new ball **Copyrighted Material
THANK YOU DRILL Follow the guide and add your creative play  Fill in the name and replace the number with words. Use the l...
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DIY Conversation Cards Perk up your family talk! Just cut out the cards. Create the family talk jar. One person picks a card and everyone can answer the same question or everyone can pick their own. Listen and take turns. SEASONS OF THE YEAR FAVORITE SPORTS PLAN A DREAM VACATION What is your favorite season? Why? Do you know an interesting fact about your favorite season? Name a fun family activity during this season? What is your favorite sport? Who is your favorite player? Who is your favorite team? What’s an interesting fact? Where would you go on a dream vacation? Who would come? What would you do? Why? What’s an interesting fact about your choice? FAVORITE CANDY EXERCISE IMPORTANT SUPERPOWERS What type of candy do you like to eat? What would happen if you ate tons of candy every day? Why should we exercise? What are some forms of exercising? How many times a week should we exercise? What is your favorite type of exercise? What is your least favorite exercise? If you could have any superpower, which would you choose? Why? ANIMAL YOUR FAVORITE THING FAME FOR 10 SECONDS If you could be an animal, what would you be and why? What is one thing you couldn’t live without? Why? If you had the attention of the world for 10 seconds, what would you say? Why? BEST HOLIDAY INTERESTING FACTS ABOUT YOU TEACH A CLASS FOR A DAY What is your favorite holiday to celebrate? Why? Name three interesting things about you? If you had to teach a class for a day, what subject would you choose? What would you do? **Copyrighted Material
DIY Conversation Cards Perk up your family talk  Just cut out the cards. Create the family talk jar. One person picks a ca...
DECODE THE DRESS CODE Match your look with the place or situation INFORMAL - Come as you are! Jeans, Shorts, Pants, Sweatpants, Skirt, Casual Dress, T-Shirt, Sweatshirt, Long Sleeve Shirt, Collared Shirt, Sweater, Polo Shirt, Athletic Uniform, Casual Shoes CASUAL - Comfortable yet presentable! Jeans, Shorts, Pants, Skirt, Casual Dress, T-Shirt, Sweatshirt, Long Sleeve Shirt, Sweater, Collared Shirt, Polo shirt, Casual Shoes CASUAL ELEGANT - Dress to impress! Dress Pants, Dress Sweater, Party Dress or Skirt, Sweater Vest, Polo Shirt, Blazer, Dress Shirt, More Formal Shoes FORMAL - Dress to impress to the max! Formal Pants & Shirts, Your Nicest Party Skirt or Dress, Blazer, Suit, Formal Shoes (When in doubt ask an adult for help!) **Copyrighted Material
DECODE THE DRESS CODE  Match your look with the place or situation INFORMAL - Come as you are   Jeans, Shorts, Pants, Swea...
TECH CODE OF CONDUCT I promise to use all technology responsibly. This includes cell phone, computer, tablet, Xbox, Wii, iPods and any website that I visit or join. Please check the following statements to show that you have read them and understand them: I will not give away personal information such as my address, phone number, school information without my parent’s consent. I will not befriend people that I have not met in real life without my parent’s consent. I will never say anything unkind toward anyone for any reason on the internet. If I see someone being mean to another person, I will tell them to stop and then tell my parents. If someone is mean to me online I will not respond. I will instead tell my parents. I am not allowed to lie about my age to join any website or to use an app. I will stay courteous, respectful and considerate while using all technology. I will never forward any photos or information written by someone else without their permission. I will never share photos where I am posing in a way that I wouldn’t in front of my parents. I will not download music, games or software without my parent’s consent. I will never use inappropriate language online. I will immediately close any pop-up boxes with the x button. I understand that people are not always who they say they are, not everyone tells the truth and there is no such thing as privacy online. I will not sign up for anything online without my parent’s consent I will always tell my parents if something makes me uncomfortable on the internet - an email, a website etc. I will take care of all my technology gadgets and remember that they are expensive. ________________________ Player Signature ________________________ Coach Signature **Copyrighted Material
TECH CODE OF CONDUCT I promise to use all technology responsibly. This includes cell phone, computer, tablet, Xbox, Wii, i...
The SMART Playbook is available at www.thesmartplaybook.com. Buy as one complete book with all five game plans (Best Value!) or by topic. Tailor your game plan to your family needs! Telephone Smarts Character First Impressions Sportsmanship Commitment Game Plan #1 - Social Skill Basics Suzanne M. Wind Internet Safety Table Setting Rule Breakers Cyberbullying Secret Codes Utensil Usage Staying Balanced Digital Manners Eating Styles Pre-dinner Prep Game Plan #5 - Technology Talk Game Plan #2 - Mealtime Manners Suzanne M. Wind Suzanne M. Wind PLAY IT SMART ! Dress Code Magic Words The Game Plan for a Happy & Confident Child Suzanne M. Wind Who's Who Ordering 101 Eye Contact Introductions Manners Challenge Foods Conversation Guide Body Language Game Plan #4 - Restaurant Behavior Suzanne M. Wind Game Plan #3 - Art of Conversation Suzanne M. Wind **Copyrighted Material
The SMART Playbook is available at www.thesmartplaybook.com. Buy as one complete book with all five game plans  Best Value...
PLAY I T SMART ! The world is changing faster than ever before. Parents and children are busier and technology has presented new challenges we must face. But with all the texting, emailing, and posting, are children developing the social skills that will be required for life-long happiness, confidence and success? The SMART Playbook introduces the basics of social skills for the modern world and is packed with more than 100 games and challenges to keep your child motived, along with how-to guides for some of the finer points of social skill development. The SMART Playbook is your child's guide to five key topics! • SOCIAL SKILL BASICS • MEALTIME MANNERS • ART OF CONVERSATION • RESTAURANT BEHAVIOR • TECHNOLOGY TALK Your child is the player. You are the coach. The book is your guide. Life is the referee. ARE YOU AND YOUR CHILD READY TO GET IN THE GAME? www.thesmartplaybook.com About the author: Suzanne lives in CT with her husband and three kids. Before kids, she was an international marketing executive In New York City. With a multi-cultural background, she was raised in more than six countries with four languages. Her career and living overseas taught her the importance of knowing and using the common language of manners and social skills to being your best. Today she's a mom with a mission, inspired to communicate social skills in a modern world to a new generation.
PLAY I T  SMART   The world is changing faster than ever before. Parents and children are busier and technology has presen...