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This was a topic so dear to my heart because I've run into many parents, moms in particular, who have been struggling to help their children learn how to function in relationships. What is scary is that most of the problem relationships start within the home, among their siblings! Inside of this e-book, I take parents in-depth, giving them answers to many prayers of how to succeed with helping children to become fruitful in their relationships with their siblings.

To Combat Our
8 Ways
&
Why They Are
Homeschooling2thePromisedLand
Table of Contents
A Message From Lynn
How to not show favoritism toward our children
How to not show partiality in judgement
Using wisdom with when to deal with situations
that need our attention now versus later
When to let our children work problems out in
their relationships by themselves
How to be a living example for our children, giving
them a model of how to deal with relationships
How to get through to our children even when it
may be hard to reach them
How to creatively elevate our children in their
individual talents and gifts
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When to use each boxing glove to help combat our
children’s conflicts with each other
Sparring Gloves
All-Purpose Gloves
Competition Gloves
Conclusion
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A Message From Lynn
Asmentionedinmylastbook,SiblingRivalryandWaysto
CombatThemtheRightWay,IpromisedtogiveyouapartII.I
hadtocutthelastbookabitshortbecauseitissoimportant
thatweasparentsobtainafullunderstandingastowhyour
childrenmaybefightingastheydoandhowtorecognizewhen
andhowtodealwiththemproperly.Thisisnot,byanymeans,
atopicthatyoucandiveintoand“hititandquitit”sotospeak.
But,thisareaneedssomepatientandcarefulattention.
Iwanttotakethistimetogiveyouagainthosesame8waysas
Imentionedbefore,butIwanttoelaborateonthemabit.
Rememberalsofrommylastbook,itistheLord’sspiritthatwill
helptoenableustoknowwhenandhowtocombatour
children’sconflictswitheachother.So,hereitgoes!
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How to not show favoritism toward
our children
ThisisanareaIseemoreoftenthanI’dliketoseewhendealing
withparents.What’snotableaboutthis,isthefactmanyparents
don’trecognizetheydothis,asthiscanbesounderlying,one
mayeasilyoverlookit.Iwanttoprovideawonderfulexampleof
thisfromGenesis37.ThisisastoryabouthowJacob,having12
sons,lovedonebetterthanthemall.
Now,forthosewhohavenotreadthiswonderfulstory,Iwould
encourageyoutodosobecauseithasaverytouchingplot,asit
relatestosomeofthethingswegothroughintoday’stimewhen
attemptingtofunctioninrelationships.
Okay,soJacobhadaspecialloveforJoseph,hiseleventhson,
fortwounderstandablereasons:
1.Thiswasasonhehadwithhismostfavoredwife,Rachel.
2.Thiswasalsothefirstsonhehadinhisoldage.
Sometimes,wetendtoholdthingsdearertousduetosituational
reasons.Let’sbehonest,ifyouknowsomewhereinyourlife,you
werehopingforaparticularthingtohappenandittookyearsto
cometopass.Onceyou’veobtainedwhateveritwasyouwere
hopingfor,youwilldowhateverittakestoholdontothat
blessing,right?Wouldthesameholdtrueforsomethingyou
didn’taskfor?Wouldyourloveforitbethesameastheloveyou
haveforthethingittookyouyearstoget?Inalotofcases,
probablynot!
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ThiswasthetypeofloveJacobhadforhisson,Joseph.Jacob
hadtowork7yearstoobtainhiswife,Rachel,andyetanother7
yearsbecausehewastricked!HelovedRachelsomuch,none
ofthismattered,butwithinhisprocessofwaiting,hewasforced
ortrickedintomarryinghersister,Leah.Thiswasthewomanhe
hadhisfirst10childrenwith,untiltherecame,‘Joseph’,Jacob
andRachel’sfirstchildtogether!Soundsalittlelikethetypical
dramathatgoesontoday,right?
Canyouseewhythismeantsomuchtohimnow?Asparents,
wemustbeextracarefulnottoshowfavoritismtowardour
children,evenifwemayhavevalidreasonstofeelthewaywe
do.Doyouknowwhythisisimportant,eventhoughitmaybeour
littlesecret?Becauseitwillhaveaneffectonyourchildrenand
theirrelationship(s),tosomedegree.
DoyouremembertheendresultoftheJacobandJosephstoryI
explainedinmylastbook?Joseph’sbrothersendeduphating
himanditwasn’tevenJoseph’sfault.Hewentthroughalotin
hisyoungerdaysbehindhisbrother’senvyinghim.So,bottom
line,wecancausechaostocomeuponthatchildwearefavoring
aswellasthesiblingrelationships.
Ihaveseenthisscenariooverandoverwithinalotoffamilies,
especiallytheoneswhohaveblendedfamilysituations.Now,
thisisnotthecasewithallblendedfamilies,ofcourse,butitis
morecommontosee.IhaveablendedfamilyaswellandIwill
oftencatchmyselfwhendiscipliningmykids.I’malways
investigatingtobesureIdonothaveanyfavoritisminmyheart
towardsanyofmychildren.
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IfIeverweretofinditthere,IwouldsimplyrepentandaskGod
tohelpmetreatmychildrenastheindividualHehascalledthem
tobe.Notice,Ididnotsay,equally!Wedoourchildrena
disservicewhenwetreatthemeachthesamewithevery
situation.Itismeantforustorealizehowmuchofagiftour
childrenare,aseachchildisuniquewithpersonalityand
character.And,somemayhandleourhardcorecorrection,
whereas,others,maybeabitmoresensitiveandweneedto
correctthemadifferentway.
Lookatitthisway,andthisismoreformyparentswhohave
multiplechildren.Ifyouweregiventwogifts,onegiftwasa
jewelryboxandtheotherwasahammer,wouldyouhandle
thesegiftsboththesame?Mostlikely,not.Ourchildrenaretobe
treatedwiththissameideainmind.Thisistheartofhaving
multiplechildren.Weastheparents,gettoexplorethem!Now,
thisbringsmetomynextwayofcombatingourchildren’sfights
witheachother,notshowingpartialityinjudgment.
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How to not show partiality in
judgment
Thisparticulartopiccanbeabitconfusingtosomebecause
somemaybeleftwonderingwhatImeanwhenIsay,‘partialityin
judgment?’AllIsimplymeaniswhenmakingadecision
regardinghowtocorrectourchildrenwhenthey’reinabrawl,we
needtohearthemout,individually.Ihavemademanymistakes
doingthisbecausesometimesIwillassumesomeonedid
something,justbecausetheyhavedonesomethingsimilarinthe
past.
Letmegiveyouanexample.Ilovegivingexamples,canyoutell?
Oneofmychildrenhadahabitofbeingclumsy,ashehad
becomewellknownforbreakingthings.Oneday,something
reallydeartomehadgotbrokenandIwentoff!Iamfussingall
throughthehouseandthefirstpersonthatcametomymindwas
thesamechildwhowasknownforbeingalittleuncoordinated
withhissteps!
Longstoryshort,afterI’dcalmeddownfrompointingthefingera
bit,Iwastoldthatitwasn’tevenhim.IfeltsobadbecauseI
blamedhim,butalsobecauseheletmedoit!Ididnotlethimget
onewordoutofhismouth!Ofcourse,Iapologizedfordoingthis,
butIfeltsoembarrassedbecauseIoftenteachthemnottodo
this,andhereIgobeingthehypocrite.
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Whenmakingourdecisionsconcerningourchildren’sfights,we
mustbesuretoattentivelylistentothemeach.Afteryouhave
listenedtoeachcase,askyourselfthisonequestion,“hasthe
Lordbeenshowingmeanythinginreferencetothissituation?”I
knowforsomepeople,aswellasmyself,alotoftimes,theLord
willshowusthingsbeforeourkids’argumentevenstarts.For
instance,hewouldplacesomeoneonmyheart,showingmean
areathatneededtobeworkedonwiththem.
ThethingsHewouldplaceonmyheartwouldalwayslineup
withthecurrentsituationthatwasgoingon.IftheLordshowed
methatoneofmychildrenwasdealingwithacaseofpride,for
instance,pridewouldbetheverythingtocausetheargument
withtheotherchild.So,astheargumentarises,Iwouldknowto
haveakeeneyetolookforthatparticularthing,ifitis
present.ThenIwouldproceedtoanyotherissuesfromthat
pointiftheneedarises.
Now,thisisnotasituationthatwouldhappenwithmeallthe
time.Sometimes,theLorddirectlyshowsmyhusbandandthen
hewouldbegintodealwiththesituationassuch.WhentheLord
showsusnothing,weproceedwithhearingeachchild’ssideand
thenwemoveforwardfromthatpoint.But,hereiswhereyou
reallyneedtheLord’shelpinmakingdecisionsastohowto
handlethingswithyourchildren.Thisbringsmetomynextway
ofhandlingourchildren’sconflicts,usingwisdomwithdealing
withsituationsnowvs.later.
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IwanttomakeclearwhattypeofwisdomIamreferringto.This
needsattentionbeforeIproceedwithanythingelseonthistopic
becauseIdonotwantyoutobecomeconfusedreadingabout
everythingelseIwrite,fromthispointinthebook.So,thetypeof
wisdomIamreferringtoisnotthekindthatweallgainfromour
experiences,learningfireishotwhenyoutouchit.Thistypeof
wisdomisthewisdomthatonlycomesfromabove.
ThisisawisdomthatonlyGodcanprovidetoyou.Now,Ialso
wanttopointoutthattherearemanyparentsoutherewhoare
quitegoodparentswithoutthis.ThisisbecauseoftheLord’s
graceuponeachhouseholdwhethertheyarebelieversinHimor
not.Hewillgivegraceaccordingtowhatthatfamilymayhaveto
dealwith,aseachfamilyisunique.
However,therearesomehouseholds,suchasmyown,where
thegraceHeprovidesusistheonethatcausesustohaveto
reallygetsomekneeactiongoingon.Wehavetoseriouslysend
someprayerstheLord’swaytokeepourhouseholdfunctioning
fromdaytoday!Ifnot,wewouldallbeahotmess,trustme!
Using wisdom with when to deal
with situations that need our
attention now versus later
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Sometimesourchildren’sbattleswitheachotherandhowthey
dealwiththemareabitdeeperbecauseyou’renotonlydealing
withpeoplebutthingsthatmaybemoreonthespiritualside.
This,IamnotgoingtogetthatfarintobecauseI’llsavethatfor
anotherbook.SomeoftheissuesIhavetotalkaboutin
referencetothatareveryintenseandsomeofyoureadersmay
notbereadytodealwith.Shucks,I’mjustfindingan
understandingofhowtodealwithit!But,whenIspeakabout
spiritualthingsthatourchildrenmaybedealingwith,Iam
referringtospiritualstrongholdsandfamilyline(generational
curses).Thisisthekindthatwillcauseaddictionsofallsortsto
form,fromoutoftheblue,orourchildrentoreactinunusual
waysthantheynormallywould.
Hereiswheremuchprayerisneededwithaskingforwisdom.
Sometimes,ourchildren’sconflictsreallyliewithinanindividual
child,andnotboth,orallofthem.Thisiswhenyouneedwisdom
showingyouhowtokeepagoodhearttowardthatkidandto
handlethingstherightway.Someofourchildren’sindividual
problemsgoevenbeyondthemselves,astherearespiritual
forcesfightingagainstthemeveryday,thatwecan’tphysically
see.
Godlywisdom,willletusknowtositbackandprayforour
childreninsteadofdealingwithsituationsimmediately.Letme
dealwiththisareaalittlemorebecauseIthinkyouprettymuch
understandhowwisdomwillhaveusdealwiththingsimmediately
fromtheprevioustopic,Howtonotshowpartialityin
judgment.Sometimeswithourchildren,itisnotmeantforusto
besoquicktocorrectthem,youknowwhy?Sometimeswedon’t
understandwhatwearedealingwithrightoffthebackandthe
Lordwantsustogainanunderstanding.
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Ourchildrendon’talwaysknowhowtoexplainthingsclearly,so
weneedsomehelp.WeneedthatGodlywisdom!Thiswouldbe
agoodtimetoprayandasktheLordwhattodobeforewe
proceedtodealwithourchildren’ssituation.But,thentherewill
betimestheLordwouldhavealreadyshownuswhat'sgoingon
andyoucanthendealwithitassuch.
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When to let our children work
problems out in their relationships
by themselves
Thisareaissoimportantbecauseourchildrenneed
accountabilityandtheindependencetoworkouttheirown
problemswiththeirsiblings.Atsomepointintime,wehavetobe
abletoturnthemloosetothisbecausecanyouimaginehowthey
wouldbecomeasadultsnotknowinghowtodothis?Theywould
probablyhavethathabitdownpackedofcominghometomama,
havinghersolvetheirissuesinsteadofthemselves.Now,don’t
misunderstandmewhenIsaythisbecausetherearetimesour
childrenwillneedourhelpevenwhentheyareadults,butit
shouldn’tbewitheverysituation.
Whenchildrenareyoungertheywillneedthatdependencyof
havingmomanddadstepintorescue.But,oncewebegintosee
ourchildrengainindependencewithlearningconsistentlyhowto
treatotherswithrespect,itistimetoletgo.Weshouldonlybe
thereforsupportandguidancefromthispoint.Butagain,this
takestimetodevelopwhenthey'reyounger.
Attimes,wecansuffocateourchildrenwhenweshouldbeletting
themhandletheirownsituationsandwe’renotdoingso.Whata
lotofusmaymakeamistakeindoing,issmotheringourchildren
andconditioningthemtohandlethingsthesamewaywewould.
But,itisnotalwaysaboutthemhandlingthingsourway,butthey
havetobeabletofindtheirownwayinhandlingrelationships,
thewaythatsuitsthem.Thisiswhatwillmakethemintowho
theyare,bythewaytheyhandlerelationships,andyes,even
whenitisnotgoinginthedirectionthatmaybefavorableto
them.
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How to be a living example for our
children, giving them a model of
how to deal with relationships
Oneofourchildren’sfirstexperienceswhenlearningtodealwith
relationshipsistherelationshipwehavewithourspouses.I
knowright!Ifwedidn’talreadyhaveenoughpressureonuswith
takingcareoftheselittlepeopleandnowwehaveto‘walkthe
talk’sotospeak.Tosomeparents,thismaymeanattemptingto
beperfectinfrontoftheirkidsandnevertalkingaboutthebad
thingsthattheymayhaveexperiencedinlife.But,formewhat
thismeans,isallowingourchildrentoseethatwearehuman,
whichmeanswemakemistakes,butshowingourchildrenhow
tohandleourmistakeswhenwearewrong.
Iknowwhatitmeanstohaveaparentwhoonlytellsyouwhat
theywantyoutoknowandnotwhatyouneedtoknow.I
struggledbehindthisbecauseofit,too!Therewerealotof
thingsIdidnotunderstand,especiallywhenitcameto
relationshipswithpeople.Iwasbroughtuptohandle
relationshipswithan‘I’mtheboss’mentalitybecausethisiswhat
wasshowntomeoverandover.
IbelieveIwasveryyoungwhenIbustmyolderbrotherupside
hisheadwithaporcelainapple!Ireallydidn’tknowanybetter
becausethisiswhatI’dseenasayoungchild.
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Youwould’vethoughtmyfamilywasoftheItalianMafiaor
something.Nooffense,myItalianmamas!Ikindofsaythiswith
asmallsenseofpride,forhowpassionateanItalianfamilycan
be,evenifitmeansgoingupsidesomeone’sdome!But,atthe
endoftheday,thefamilywouldbeeatingdinner,laughing,
huggingandkissingeachother!Thisiswhatmyfamilylooked
likeandstillis‘tilthisday,nojoke!
But,thisishowIwasshowntodealwithrelationshipswithmy
siblings.Weweretaughtvaluesinmidstofthis,butofcourse,
valueswentoutthedoorbecausebeingtheboss,wassomuch
cooler!AsI’dgottenolder,IknewIdidn’twanttobethisway.I
startedsettinggoalsformyselftobedifferent.OnceIbecamea
mom,Iwantedtoprovidesomethingdifferentformychildren
thanwhatIhad,eventhoughIknowmyfamilydidthebestthey
couldwithme.
ItisimportantthatmychildrenunderstandthatIknowhowtobe
aparenttoapologizewhenIwrongthemormisleadtheminany
way.Itisalsoimportantthattheyknow,Iknow,whatitmeansto
haveahealthyrelationshipwithpeopleevenwhenitmayappear
tothemthatIdon’t.IlaughwhenIthinkofthisbecausethere
havebeentimesmychildrenhaveseenmeangryorupsetwith
oneofmysiblingsormaybeevenmyhusbandanditwasn’tall
toonice!Imayhaveevencriedtomyolderboysafewtimes,but
theyknewsomethinghadtobereallywrongformetobeso
upset.
Whatissoamazingisthatmyboyswereabletoprovidemethe
affectionandmotivationIneededtohelpmemoveon.But,I
wouldn’thaveeverknownthemtobethisway,hadInotbeen
vulnerableenoughtoletmyboysknowthatmommywasn’tokay
andneededsomehelp.
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Now,justtobeclear,Idon’tgocryingtomyboyseverytime
thingsaren’tgoingmyway,Iwasdealingwithsomethingvery
deepduringthesetimes.ThiswassomethingI’dnever
experiencedbefore,dealingwithadeathinthefamilyof
someonesocloseanddeartome.Whileallofthiswasgoing
on,familydramawithmyimmediatefamilyheightenedtothe
thirddegree!
So,Ineverlookatthisareaassomethingtocringeabout
anymore!Ibelievewhenwebecometransparentwithour
children,ofcourseattheappropriatelevelandtimes,webond
withtheminmorewaysweprobablycanseeatthetime.Our
childrenneedtoknowhowtohavehealthyrelationshipseven
whenandifitmeansbecomingassertiveenoughtoletothers
knowwhentheyhaveovercrossedsomeboundaries.
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How to get through to our children
even when it may be hard to reach
them
Childrenatanyageareconsistentlygoingthroughchanges,
changeswithintheirbodies,changeswithintheirpersonalities,
changeswithlearningwhotheyare,etc.Asparents,wemust
alwaysbemindfulofthis.Alotofparentstendtofocusonthe
‘bigchangesduringpuberty.Butno,changesaredeveloping
withinourchildrenfrombirth,inallareas.Theyareprocessing
anddevelopingatsuchhighlevelsit’samazing!Yes,itistrue
thatmostchildrenwillbegintodevelopathigherspeedsonce
pubertybegins,butifyouthinkofit,somechildrenexperience
pubertyearlierthanothers.Now,thisisjustthepsychological
sideofthis.
But,whataboutthechangesourchildrengothroughonthe
outside,dealingwithexternalpressures?Isiteasyforusto
detectwhenourchildrenaregoingthroughpeerpressure,self
imageissues,andalsoanotherchangethatcanbetrickywith
recognizing,isdevelopingintheirrelationshipwiththeLord?
Sometimesitisnotallthateasy,especiallyifwehaven’t
developedinhavingabondingrelationshipwiththem.Thisiswhy
itissoimportanttodevelopabondingrelationshipwithour
childrenwhentheyareyoung.Ithelpsusasparentsto
understandwhotheyare,whattheymaybeexperiencing,and
howtohelpthemthroughit!
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Ourchildrenmaygetstuckinrutsjustaswedoasadults,but
canwerecognizethiswhenweseeit?Sometimeswecan,and
sometimes,itmaynotbeaseasytounderstandwhatisgoingon
withthem.WhatIhavelearnedintimesliketheseisthatwe
cannotbethatpushyparent.Beingpushywouldsimplypush
themaway!But,prayerworksbest!Astheoldfolkswouldsay,
“keepaprayerfuleyeonit”.Thissayingissotruebecausewe
oughttopray,butwhatisalsoimportantisthatwewatchtosee
anychanges.Sometimesthechangeweseeisn’twhatweare
expecting,butareyouwillingtokeepprayinguntilthedesired
changecomestopass?Thisishowwegetthroughtothem
evenwhenit’shardtodoso.Pray,pray,andpraysomemore,
untilourprayergetsthroughtoreachthem!
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Thisisanareathattookmeawhiletofinallyfigureout.My
husbandandIwouldconstantlyseeourchildrenfightingforour
attention.Now,youmaysay,isn’tthatnormal?Well,whatwas
unusualwithourchildrenwasthateverysingletimewewould
giveoneofourkid’sattention,alloftherestwouldwantthe
samething,atthesametime!Canyouimagine6kidsatthe
sametimeneedingyou?Itworemeout!NoticeIsaid,‘me’?My
husbandwasstrongenoughnottocaveintotheirdesiresallthe
time.
IhadgottenasfarasIcoulduntilIrealized,‘heythisisn’t
supposedtobethisway’.I’dbegantofeelthatIwascompeting
fortheirlovebecauseIdidn’twanttolooklikethebadguy
havingtotellthem,no.Well,oneday,itwasasifI’dwokeup
andhadarevelationinmysleepwhileunaware.Ihadbegunto
seemychildrendifferentlythanIwasusedto.Isawthemas
whotheywereforthefirsttime!
Isawtheirdifferentpersonalitiesandthethingstheyweregood
at.TheLordmusthaveknownIwasstruggling,tohavetaken
thoseawfulshieldsoffofmyeyes,thatcausedmetonotsee
thisfromthegetgo.Imean,Ireallybegantoseethemforwho
theyreallywere,itwassoamazingtome!
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How to creatively elevate our
children in their individual talents
and gifts
ThisiswhereI’dbegantounderstandhowtodealwitheachkid
becausebeforethis,Iwastreatingthemallthesame.Iknowthis
hadaneffectonourrelationshipasfarasbondinggoes.Idon’t
thinkbeforethen,wewerebondingatall,Iwasjustaparent
raisingkidsthewayIthoughttobetherightway.
OnceIbegantofeelthatconnectionwiththem,itwas
contagious,theybegantofeelit,too!Hereiswheremymommy
skillstrulybegantokickin.Inolongerlookedatmychildrenand
feltoverwhelmedasifIcouldn’tpleasethem.Iunderstoodthe
problemwaswithme!Ineededtoencouragethemandtohelp
honethemintotheirpurpose.
Thisencouragementwouldstartearlyinthemorning,letting
themknowhowblessedtheywere.Iwouldtrytobemindfulto
thankthemwhentheyhadmadeawonderfulimpactonmyday.
ThemoreIencouragedthemwiththelittlethings,themore
they’dbegantogrow.Imean,theytookoff,too!Myyoungest
son,heisknowntobeacomforter,hewouldcomfortanyone
whowassadanditwouldworktremendously!Ipointedthisout
tohimandthenhetookitastepfurther.Whensomeonewas
sickanddidn’tfeelwell,heimmediatelybegantoprayforthem.
Hestarteddoingthiswhenhewasfouryearsoldandstilldoesit
‘tillthisdayandhe’ssevennow!
Ohmygosh,therearesomanythingsIcouldtellyouin
referencetoeverylastoneofmychildren,butIthinkyouallget
thepoint.Whenweencourageourchildreninthethingswesee
theyaregoodat,itcausesthemtobecomemoreconfident
people.Thishelpsthemwithrelationshipsbecausetheywillbe
confidentenoughnottohavetobeintimidatedbyotherpeople,
eventheirownsiblings!Now,Iamnotsayingtheyarenever
jealous,butthejealousyhasbeencutdowntremendously!
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I’msureinmylastbook,someofyoureaderswerelikeokay,
whatdoesthisevenmean?Sonow,Iamgoingtobreakitdown
foryouabit,asIwillattempttoprovideyouaverybasic
explanationofhowboxerschoosewhichglovestouse.Now,
beforeIgetintothatIwanttoexplainwhyIchosetorefertous
mamasasaboxerorthesportofboxing.Inboxing,itisallabout
strategyinhowtofighttheiropponentwithmeanstowin.Isn’t
thiswhatit’sallaboutintrainingourchildren?Wearetryingto
helpwinthemoverinorderforthemtofightthecorrectwayin
theirrelationships.
Okay,sothereareusually3maintypesofglovesboxersusein
ordertoaccomplishamission.
When to use each boxing glove to
help combat our children’s conflicts
with each other
Sparring Gloves
ThefirsttypeofgloveIwanttotalkaboutarethesparring
gloves.Sparringglovesareusedfortrainingpurposes,asyou
andyouropponentaredevelopinginskillsinarealboxing
environment.Thisglovehasextrapaddinginitsothatyouwill
nothurtyouropponentwhiletraining.Let’slookatthisgloveas
theonetouseinmostcases.Thisgloveisspecialforparentsto
usewhencombatingtheirchildren’sconflictstherightway
becauseitisgentleenoughnottohurt,butitstillmakesagood
impactsothatthey’llgetthepoint!
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Weneedananglesuchasthis,especiallywhentraining
becauseithelpsourchildrentoretainthethingswe’reteaching
them.Theimpactwemakewithourkidsneedstobesomething
thatwillstickfortomorrowandyearstocomewhendealingwith
theirsiblingrelationships.Sparringglovesareagreatwayto
helptonedownthepaceofconflictsothatnobodygets
hurt.Afterall,thisisatrainingprocessnotonlyforourchildren
butusparentsaswell!
All-Purpose Gloves
ThenextsetofglovesIwanttomentionaretheallpurpose
gloves.Anallpurposegloveisanothertrainingglovethatboxers
woulduseforalltrainingpurposes,hittingthebagsandsparring.
Theseglovesaregreatbecausesometimeswhennothavingan
actualopponent,westillneedtokeepthattraininggoing.Thisis
whereourrelationshipwiththeLordcomesinasheisableto
consistentlyshowuscreativewaystoreachourchildrenwhen
handlingtheminconflict.So,whentheactualconflictarises
betweenourchildren,weshouldautomaticallyknowwhattodo
becausetheLordhasgivenusinsightandnowit’stimetotry
thattrainingofwisdomoutonouropponent,theactual‘battle’
betweenourchildren!
Competition Gloves
Thisisanothercommonfightinggloveforboxersforthe‘real’
fight.Thisistheglovetousewhenallthetrainingyouhavedone
iscompleteonyourpart,astheparent,andyourchildrenare,in
mostcases,mucholderandbeginexperiencingthosebigger
problems.Thisiswhentruerebellionisstartingtosetinand
you’rehavingahardtimetryingtoreachthekidyouonceknew
asanangel,justayearago.
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Now,theseglovesarenotaspaddedasthetraininggloves,
eventhoughagoodcompetitionglovewillalsoprovide
protectionfortheboxerusingthem.Atthisstage,whenour
childrenaregettingintotheirrebelliouswaysanddonotwantto
listenandthey’rebecomingdisrespectful,weneedsomegood
glovesasthesetohelpuswiththisopponent.Remember,our
childrenarenevertheopponent,buttheproblemtheyarefacing.
But,ourchildrenneedabitoftoughloveattimes,sothatthey
wouldunderstandwemeanbusiness!Competitionglovesare
goodtouseforfamilieswhoaredealingwithchildrenwhotend
tousemoreextrememeasureswiththeirsiblings.Fighting
shouldneverbetoleratedwhenhandlingtheirrelationshipsand
whenyouseeachildwhoisconsistentlyusingthismeasureto
gethis/herway,thisneedstobedealtwithimmediately!
Sometimeschildrenmayneverputtheirhandsontheirsiblings,
buttheywilloftenleadthemtowardthepathofsomething
dangerous.Theseglovesaregoodtohaveincasessuchas
this,buthopefully,willnotneedtobeusedoftenoratall!
Conclusion
So,youseewhyhandlingourchildren’sconflictswitheachother
therightway,issoimportant?IhopeIwasabletoprovideyou
somethingstothinkabouteventhoughtheremayhavebeen
somethingsshared,inwhichyoumayhavealreadyknown.
Whatneedstoberememberedhereisthateachhouseholdis
differentinitsfunctions.SothethingsIsharedareonlymere
suggestionsastohowyoucanhandlesomeofthethingsyou
mayfacewhileraisingtheuniquechildrentheLordhasblessed
youtohave.
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Iamverypassionatewhenitcomestohelpingpeople.AndI
know,thatmysometimeswackyexperiencesI’vegained
throughtrialanderrorwon’tbeawastebecauseIamableto
helpotherfamilieswhomaybestrugglingtofigureouthowto
handlecertainsituationstheycurrentlyface.Iamsohappyto
help.And,Ilookforwardtosharingmorewithyouallaboutother
topicsaswellastheexperienceswe’vefacedthathashelpedus
alongourrelationaljourney!
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